Transgender: How To Deal With Unsupportive Parents

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 145

  • @mellifluous5987
    @mellifluous5987 3 роки тому +179

    Honestly,people don’t know how amazing the right pronouns can make you feel

  • @recIusified
    @recIusified 2 роки тому +59

    My parents don’t accept me as transgender female to male, trans male and all they said that “we will support you no matter what”
    Came out to them a few months ago and they haven’t accepted me. I’m honestly stressed all the time because I could never be my true self and then, they say “you’ve seen it off UA-cam or some shit..” I’m like in my head: “No, you’re wrong. Please! It’s a feeling that I never realised until ___ age!” I just still can’t believe my parents don’t support me, nor anyone uses my pronouns he/him they/them/it. I seriously don’t know what to do anymore and I need advice..

    • @Psychic_Jaylen
      @Psychic_Jaylen Рік тому

      I am a trans MTF and my parents believe that you have to stay the gender you were born as but I personally just wanna say F*ck the gender I was born as

    • @alex_aen
      @alex_aen Рік тому +8

      i know it's a bit too late but i just saw this comment and it'll be stupid if i ignored it. i have the same situation as you, a trans male, I'm 14 and my parents do the same thing. in my opinion, you should ignore what they say and focus on your own mind. you are in charge of what you do to your OWN body, no one can tell you what to do with it. if you're thinking about changing your mind, don't. think about it, ignore them, it is hard but try your best. try to talk to them about the whole thing to make them understand the situation more. that's all i can tell you for now.

    • @wokery
      @wokery Рік тому +4

      i hope you're doing okay 💓 you are worthy of support and love

    • @recIusified
      @recIusified Рік тому +2

      @@alex_aen aw man, that warms my heart tysm.

    • @recIusified
      @recIusified Рік тому +1

      @@wokery thank you wokery

  • @neomawzz
    @neomawzz 3 роки тому +94

    Thank you dude.. I’m really struggling rn cuz my family doesn’t believe I’m trans and thinks I’m being brainwashed by my friends and groomers online, I really needed this :)

    • @Kayayanami
      @Kayayanami 2 роки тому +15

      Thats literally what my mum thinks word for word that I'm "not a girl" and "I've never acted like a girl" and that "your friends are just brainwashing you" and other horrible things like that.

    • @sapphiremmx4772
      @sapphiremmx4772 2 роки тому +8

      Omg me too, I tried to tell my mother but she says I was convinced by other people, He teased me and made me feel very bad emotionally, I really need help, and I don't even have friends

    • @IsThisJd
      @IsThisJd 2 роки тому +6

      @@sapphiremmx4772 I’m really glad that I’m not the only one who goes through a similar struggle with being trans. It’s like living a double life, where your friends or other family members are supportive, but then you come back home and it’s like going to hell every single day.
      I may not be in a similar position as I have at least 1 friend, but you’ll find the right people who’ll accept you as well as make memories with
      And hey, if you wanna talk somewhere I can be ya new homie

    • @sapphiremmx4772
      @sapphiremmx4772 2 роки тому +3

      @@IsThisJd that’s so sweet, thank you ❤️

    • @Schnort
      @Schnort Рік тому +3

      My mom thinks it's because my father abused me.
      But she won't let me do anything about it???

  • @daniellen4678
    @daniellen4678 3 роки тому +95

    I'm happy and grateful to have one friend who supports me 🥺.

  • @notusingthisaccanymore.
    @notusingthisaccanymore. Рік тому +17

    this made me feel better, i’m a closeted trans male and i try hinting to my parents that i am trans and they just deny me and call me a female and that i’ll always be a female, and seeing comments where people have the same struggles as me makes me feel less alone

  • @JahMoneyyyy
    @JahMoneyyyy 3 роки тому +76

    Omg ty for posting this,I really needed advice,my dad is very unsupportive and I'm kinda stressed 😕

    • @bigpapizai
      @bigpapizai 3 роки тому +7

      i feel what you going through cause thats my dad rn. but i hope you know, i support you to the fullest and if you want to have more support, just let me know cause i have like multiple people you can chat with to help you get through this. ❤️

    • @JahMoneyyyy
      @JahMoneyyyy 3 роки тому +3

      @@bigpapizai ty :)

    • @JahMoneyyyy
      @JahMoneyyyy 3 роки тому +5

      And plus my parents said no i can't join a football team bc im a girl and if I was to play a boy team I would be hurt faster since they said that boys are stronger then girls 😒

    • @noa_is_kool7461
      @noa_is_kool7461 3 роки тому

      SAMEEEE

    • @unnamedreader3593
      @unnamedreader3593 2 роки тому +1

      My parents are both transphobic and say it is “ disgusting “ I hate them really. I hate how they are homophobic and transphobic. I wish that changes and I hope everything changes. I hate them for everything

  • @k.d7278
    @k.d7278 3 роки тому +37

    That dog was looking like are you talking to me uh no? Okay I'ma lay back down lol so cute..... okay let me finish watching 🥰

  • @nayaschannel6067
    @nayaschannel6067 3 роки тому +52

    Hey Rosiah thanks for posting . Im a 15 year old cancer patient and I love watching your video please continue to post

    • @nayaschannel6067
      @nayaschannel6067 3 роки тому +4

      @ZW W thank you God has already done 2 times this 3rd time is going to be the one 💞😇

    • @nayaschannel6067
      @nayaschannel6067 3 роки тому +3

      @ZW W I luv you back and I wish the best for you as well . I'm not trans but I understand what youve been through and what you are going through . So keep your head up love 💞 I love Shawn's positive vibes as well he's so outspoken

    • @nayaschannel6067
      @nayaschannel6067 3 роки тому

      @ZW W 💞

    • @royster_lll9412
      @royster_lll9412 3 роки тому +2

      Naya's Channel I will pray for u and god is there for u and I hope u get better soon

    • @nayaschannel6067
      @nayaschannel6067 3 роки тому +2

      @@royster_lll9412 thank you so much 💞God Bless

  • @dakotachristopher5532
    @dakotachristopher5532 Рік тому +11

    Bro you're such a help to the LGBTQ community and we love you. I'm a trans guy too and man you makin me smile.

  • @jensendavenport1406
    @jensendavenport1406 3 роки тому +14

    My friend has a dad who always telling him you ain't my son because he gay I feel so sorry for him he such a good guy but his dad just wont even acknowledge him at all

  • @ezralovesstarscream
    @ezralovesstarscream 2 роки тому +13

    Im glad I found this video, my parents think that I'm confused and are trying to tell me who I am and this really helps 🙃

  • @bigpapizai
    @bigpapizai 3 роки тому +22

    first off thank you for posting this video because i really needed it becuse today my dad made me cancel my appointment for my first hormone therapy session and made me feel like my feelings and happiness didnt matter. and i also wanted to say thank you for uploading content like this because ive been trying to transition for years but didnt know how until i came across your page 2 years ago and i finally made the decision last month that this is what i want to do. Thank you for also making me feel soooo much better 🥺❤️ (i lowkey look up to you)

    • @bigpapizai
      @bigpapizai 3 роки тому +3

      i also think this is a sign from god because all day ive been crying and these pass few days ive been feeling so low and i feel like im slipping into a depression. and i just got finish praying and i was about to go to sleep but something told me to open youtube.. SOON AS I OPEN UA-cam I SEE THIS CAPTION AND YOUUUU 🥺🥺🥺 i really hope god is saying, i got you baby 🥺❤️

    • @bigpapizai
      @bigpapizai 3 роки тому +1

      thank you for all you do to help others 🥺❤️ real talk you the shit

    • @Rosiah
      @Rosiah  3 роки тому +2

      💖💖

    • @daliadee741
      @daliadee741 3 роки тому

      zaiiden; The Bible says you are fearfully and wonderfully made. That thought wasn’t from God ...God loves you the way you are by rebelling against him and changing your gender you are not trusting him. Seek Jesus and ask him to guide you. Let Jesus transform you not you yourself :) God bless

    • @bigpapizai
      @bigpapizai 3 роки тому +6

      Dalia Dee you read the bible and mind yo damn business 🥰 :) God bless

  • @user-sm9fv4si5w
    @user-sm9fv4si5w 3 роки тому +9

    My dad is very supportive but my mom is the complete opposite. This video was very helpful and I loved it as always. 👍

    • @JacksonApollo
      @JacksonApollo 3 роки тому +2

      Same situation here. But I'll be 18 in 5 months and she doesn't know I have top surgery plans for June. She'll come around, or she won't. Stay strong!

    • @user-sm9fv4si5w
      @user-sm9fv4si5w 3 роки тому +1

      @@JacksonApollo yea but I'm barely gonna be 14 in March 😩 (Awesome for you by the way!! 😃👍)

    • @JacksonApollo
      @JacksonApollo 3 роки тому +2

      @@user-sm9fv4si5w That really sucks. I came out when I was 14. I've lived with my transphobic mother 5 days a week for three years, only getting a break 2 days a week, and I learned a lot of important lessons from it. It was a living hell and will continue to be until April, but I will get through it. And so will you! My advice is to lean on your support systems, talk to a therapist, find a good group of supportive friends, and plan for the future. (That way, when you're ready everything will be in place AND you can be excited for the life you will get soon.) I promise you can make it through and you will be so much stronger than anyone who ever tries to tell you who to be. Make sure you get the support you need and never forget that you are loved. And if you ever need someone to talk to about this kind of thing, here's my insta! Jack_b_nimble108
      I believe in you, dude!

    • @user-sm9fv4si5w
      @user-sm9fv4si5w 3 роки тому +2

      @@JacksonApollo now I wanna download insta! 😂 seriously though, thank you for the advice!!

  • @tj3951
    @tj3951 3 роки тому +11

    Don’t give 2 rotten eggs about liking the video before it even starts either🤷🏽‍♂️ naw all jokes aside...I think the only thing most people are scared of about coming out is their parents either not supporting them or kicking them out and the constant stress they get about just thinking about it, it sucks. But as you said know your worth and eventually you wouldn’t really care what nobody says. Great video man keep up the good work fam.

    • @tj3951
      @tj3951 3 роки тому

      ZW W facts facts but gotta stay strong and as Shawn say it won’t be a quick process it’ll take time and especially when u have to wait to move and stuff Yk. But I hope everything will be just fine, hope you’ll find your happiness maybe not now but soon.

  • @Emma-vq2gl
    @Emma-vq2gl Рік тому +3

    My parents accept me letting my friends calling me he him but they keep saying I’m just going through a phase… it really hurts bc they know nothing… and I just got into a fight with them about how they could be more supportive and they just brung up how I’m going through a phase..

  • @ascalapha_
    @ascalapha_ 3 роки тому +2

    Thank u for this video, I really need these words today dealing with living together with my transphobic mother

  • @KitKar79
    @KitKar79 4 місяці тому

    I'm 44, agender, I can't be out to my family. I still am stealth around them. I show my oddness and I am myself. I just keep the details out. I know exactly what will happen if I do, as I've seen the treatment to other people and family that did come out. and that just waaaay too much for me. Non blood relations, I don't care about their opinions. But I'm not really looking forward to my family finding out.
    Sometimes it's ok to be stealth, just become Hella self reliant so if they don't accept you when you do come out, you can be on your own and remove those who don't accept you, even if they are family.
    I'm glad to have stumbled across your video. Keep up those good messages of wisdom and experiences. Much love
    I've figured out I was agendered as a kid. But my parents where very religious. So I stayed in the closet from 8 on up to them. My mom's separated from my dad, so I told her finally a few years back. She was less religious. And she didn't understand it, but she still accepted me. My dad would definitely not, nor would my aunts n uncles. I'd probably be disowned again.

  • @daniellen4678
    @daniellen4678 3 роки тому +7

    The notification came up in the nick of time I've been thinking about coming out in the next week.

  • @xXnoodlezXx
    @xXnoodlezXx 2 роки тому +2

    I’m grateful that I have some friends who see me how I hope one day my parents will

  • @lismoove4467
    @lismoove4467 3 роки тому +4

    i love your content and i support you to the fullest. i hope everything is well ❤️

  • @im.kiwi.1757
    @im.kiwi.1757 3 роки тому +2

    Your videos always make my day 😊

  • @aalysiabeenpretty
    @aalysiabeenpretty 3 роки тому +8

    SHAWN one day I hope you notice me 🥺💞 I love you so much! 🤪 I love when you upload 🙈

  • @rebeccajohnson7177
    @rebeccajohnson7177 3 роки тому

    As always LOVE THE CONTENT!! Keep up the good work !!

  • @SpongebobsRippedPant
    @SpongebobsRippedPant 3 роки тому

    Good on you for these vids bro 🙏

  • @DamonCahlil
    @DamonCahlil 3 роки тому

    This came at the right time. Have been thinking of coming out to my family recently since this is the month I get my first shot but... I’m still thinking about it..

  • @domwhite2232
    @domwhite2232 3 роки тому +2

    Bro I support you all in all love you keep being yourself it ain’t got nothing to do with being a transgender clearly you’re a great guy I know I’m full of love

  • @itchyglich
    @itchyglich Рік тому +1

    dawg i have a unsupportive parent she wants to kick me out she finds anyway to hand crime me im scared to come out and tell cps bc they will take me out my home im so lost on what i should do

  • @keynotekison5913
    @keynotekison5913 3 роки тому

    Yes!

  • @royster_lll9412
    @royster_lll9412 3 роки тому +1

    Nice video it was actually helpful

  • @user-bb2zt7to2x
    @user-bb2zt7to2x 3 роки тому +3

    my sister is the only person i know tht supports me🥺 have yet come out to my parents bc im afraid if their reaction ... already 2 weeks on t doe aye🤪

  • @tacoberry9798
    @tacoberry9798 3 роки тому +1

    We almost at 60k‼️‼️❤️❤️

  • @sleepyghost4055
    @sleepyghost4055 2 роки тому +1

    No one from my family supports me. Only my friends. Which is why I'm gonna move out once i turn 18 but for now i gotta deal with the misgendering and the dead-naming ;^;

  • @eatveggies8058
    @eatveggies8058 3 роки тому

    dude, you GOTTA do a video where you review the disney channel original movie “the swap”. it’s really good and hits different when you’re trans. i haven’t seen any youtubers do reviews of it, but it’d make my day if you say yes ☺️

  • @aminatio8147
    @aminatio8147 9 місяців тому +1

    my dad seriously beat me in the bathroom cuz i dont have 'male chararistics' like, just cuz i dont like baseball doesnt mean i cant be a guy-?

  • @samdal420
    @samdal420 7 місяців тому

    My mom is mostly supportive, but she gets really wierd when I mention that i wanna change my name or get top surgery or start testosterone

  • @hbkpsycho581
    @hbkpsycho581 3 роки тому +1

    Brudda🖤🖤🖤💯

  • @916nene
    @916nene Рік тому

    Im 35 and all my life felt like a girl but now I’m old and if I do it I won’t look good only my face no my body, I talked to a Dr and she told me that. Also my religious family would flip and my mom would just cry and be disappointed

  • @royalcass
    @royalcass Рік тому +1

    You don't need them. I don't need them. But it doesn't make it sting any less knowing that my mom will never ever call me a daughter because she was birthed a son and that's all I'll ever be to her. I am a better person now that we've gone our seperate ways for the most part, but again, it stings and it hurts

    • @ik1437
      @ik1437 8 місяців тому

      One day you may regret turning your back to your family, only because they refused to join your cult.

  • @PheonixStarsx
    @PheonixStarsx 3 роки тому

    I think my mom will accept me more and my other family members but idk if my dad will, hopefully he doesn’t abandon us if I come out or she finds out . My family members love me and some of them know and I love them back , hopefully they don’t bring some sheikh into the house to try to cure me or something idk

  • @fam0us.maddie416
    @fam0us.maddie416 3 роки тому

    💕

  • @victorialewis8799
    @victorialewis8799 3 роки тому +1

    Who next

  • @kushmycologne
    @kushmycologne 3 роки тому +2

    🤟🏽

  • @serene4EVR
    @serene4EVR Місяць тому

    i haven't come out to my mom but she has old school religious views... n i just wanna be myself😥

  • @South_DustVA
    @South_DustVA 7 місяців тому

    I know this video is 3 years ago but I always come back to it to get some advice, thank you for posting this video. As a person who is going through mental abuse because of me being demiboy (Even though this is advice on trans people) I still take this advice because it helps people like me.
    Whoever is going through a non supportive relationship with their parents just to let you know you are not alone.

  • @cerises7820
    @cerises7820 3 роки тому +1

    Good video 😘

  • @jamiewhite8251
    @jamiewhite8251 3 роки тому +1

    my parents aren’t un supportive they are just clueless on the topic (i’m 12)

  • @CaptainTae
    @CaptainTae Рік тому +3

    Thank you for giving me something to show how much this ideology is like Scientology.
    They call it “disconnection policy”.

    • @clairhonnor6211
      @clairhonnor6211 Рік тому +2

      All cults do this. Drive a wedge between family ties, isolate the subject. Sex offenders use the same methods. Worked with them long enough to know that as fact

  • @lismoove4467
    @lismoove4467 3 роки тому

    first ❤️

  • @shaquilaball6535
    @shaquilaball6535 3 роки тому

    He so 😍 cute

  • @OnTheGrind42086
    @OnTheGrind42086 2 роки тому +1

    So, before I listen to your video, I wanted to comment and say thank you!!! 💛🧚🏾‍♂Thank you SO MUCH for making content like this...It's really needed SO MUCH in the trans or gay youth and /LGBTQIA+ community and especially to the straight community who are uneducated on this topic. My child who I adopted to a family when I was super young, found me and reached out to me. My child was born female, however, feels like he is a boy. And his adopted parents are ULTRA conservative, his adopted parents and his biological brother don't support him in any way either and says he will go to hell, calls him a faggot...plus so much more and he hasn't come out to them, my child said he never will, hopefully, he does so they know the reason why he left...he has to lie to everyone and says "he supports it" and isn't gay or trans... And his adopted family keeps saying over and over they will kick him out if they find out. Or just kick him out Thanksgiving after his 18th bday on Nov 8th of 2024... That's why my child has been searching for me so hard because of no support at home and as the birth mother I am the ONLY supportive person in his life. So, videos like this are so important for the youth who has barely anyone to turn to...Much Love...Carly (edit on wording and punctuation)

  • @LeahAntoinette
    @LeahAntoinette 3 роки тому

    Heyyy💖💖♥️♥️💙💙💜

  • @lala.ukiyoo
    @lala.ukiyoo 3 роки тому

    Came quick

  • @NATHANIELJELKS-PLANEJANE-FAN
    @NATHANIELJELKS-PLANEJANE-FAN 3 роки тому

    🤔

  • @winstonhamster
    @winstonhamster 3 роки тому

    Hi

  • @garycopeland2570
    @garycopeland2570 3 роки тому

    Enjoy your volg it had great content.

  • @Awabdanelthompsos.
    @Awabdanelthompsos. 2 місяці тому +1

    Welp the name would be nell or what ever its called for transgenders bye 😂🎉😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😢🎉 sissy nighty. 😊