Q&A: MOM & TRANSGENDER SON

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  • Опубліковано 30 тра 2024
  • My mom and I decided to answer your questions via Twitter - and we had a blast! Check out the two other parts too! Links below!
    ALSO! My mom does answer her email address, for both parents and kids, which is: skylarksmum@yahoo.com
    Jump Links:
    0:24 - Have you ever had to defend Sky because someone was not accepting of him being transgender?
    0:41 - Do you worry about Sky more because he is transgender?
    0:50 - Has Sky's mom ever been worried about how public he has been with his transition?
    1:40 - Shout out to Kevin!
    1:53 - What was the most difficult part of Skylar's transition for both of you?
    3:24 - What period of your life did you feel closest to your mom, if not now? And what period did you feel most distant?
    5:03 - Was it easy for mama sky once sky started T? How did mama sky take it when sky had to have a hysterectomy?
    7:08 - How did you react when Sky came out to you? And what's it like to have such a fab son? (lol) :P
    8:48 - What would you say to parents who are finding it hard to accept their trans* kids? (we both love you too Alexander!)
    9:57 - Did you always know Skylar was, at heart, a male?
    Part two: not trans related! - • Q&A: MOM & TRANSGENDER...
    Bloopers: • Q&A: MOM & TRANSGENDER...
    My links:
    Twitter: skylarkeleven and #askskylark
    Instagram: / skylarkergil
    Facebook: / 121641174594412
    Soundcloud: / skylar-kergil
    Tumblr: / skylark11
    Music: skylarkergil.bandcamp.com
    Merch & Tanks & Shirts & Cds: skylarkergil.bandcamp.com/merch
    Email (for business, speaking, performing etc inquiries only please!): skylarkeleven@gmail.com
    MAIL!?! :D
    Skylar Kergil
    PO Box 441263
    Somerville, MA 02144

КОМЕНТАРІ • 124

  • @franka91
    @franka91 9 років тому +44

    your tattoo makes it look as if your mum has her arm wrapped around your shoulder the whole time lol. cute.

    • @suemoro
      @suemoro 9 років тому +3

      I thought the same thing!

    • @WantedWolves78
      @WantedWolves78 7 років тому

      Oh wow yeahXD that's awesome

  • @greyhoundstations
    @greyhoundstations 9 років тому +20

    You have such a wonderful mother.

  • @MamaKnoesEverything
    @MamaKnoesEverything 9 років тому +62

    You have such an awesome mom! I really wish everyone was blessed with your mothers kindness, compassion and understanding. Hugs

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +11

      i wish that too, debra. thank you so kindly!

  • @andrewprokopis9430
    @andrewprokopis9430 8 років тому +6

    I am a psychotherapist and I have put you on my website for clients and others to be referred to you about transgender concerns. Your videos and your story is excellent. I am happy to be able to refer to my clients and others to your videos. Much appreciation, Andrew M. Prokopis

  • @WYIN98
    @WYIN98 9 років тому +5

    Skylar, you are so attractive! I am so happy that you have your family's support because some of us don't and ever will.

  • @rmmartin92405
    @rmmartin92405 9 років тому +5

    Love hearing your moms perspective as a fellow parent of a trans kid myself. :)

  • @brentbraniff
    @brentbraniff 9 років тому +6

    Great video! That tattoo on your arm is really effective. I thought your Mom's arm was around you the entire time.

  • @darkop.1734
    @darkop.1734 9 років тому +7

    I love your mom omg! She's great :) And your new icon HOLLY SHIT

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +2

      it was about time for an update.. i'm glad you like it!! :D

  • @idgafiminfinite
    @idgafiminfinite 9 років тому +6

    Wow, you have a great mom! Lucky to have someone so accepting and supportive :)

  • @youtubeuser514
    @youtubeuser514 8 років тому +3

    Wow, the love and understanding shown here is heartwarming - from each of you. Congrats on having an awesome mom

  • @sols1348
    @sols1348 8 років тому +3

    The amount of times she said HE'S MY SON was just.. ugh.. so beautiful that she acknowledges that and emphasis it is so beautiful of her. Probably the worlds greatest mom.

  • @Claudiamigo1016
    @Claudiamigo1016 9 років тому +3

    Skylar and Mom you´re both such inspiring lovely souls! Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful relationship that you have as a family. It really does give people hope, young Trans teenagers, even kids have so many obstacles and difficult challenges to face and being able to see this makes things better. Big hugs from our family to yours!

  • @XxEmoBitexX
    @XxEmoBitexX 8 років тому +8

    Time to take another crack at talking to my mom about it.

  • @tapa4ik
    @tapa4ik 9 років тому +4

    your mom such a sweetheart..

  • @Wreckedteen
    @Wreckedteen 9 років тому +16

    Your face when she said she gave birth to you hahaha

  • @mazzamac21
    @mazzamac21 8 років тому +1

    dude, I'm sure you're already aware of this but you are soooo lucky to have such a strong advocate that is already so close to you in so many ways. I wish I had this open relationship with someone.

  • @patrickgruning6128
    @patrickgruning6128 9 років тому +1

    Just watched the Q&A via Upworthy. I gotta say, while my parents were indeed supportive and especially my Dad had a reaction similar to your Mom's ("Okay, I don't know anything about that, what exactly do we do now?"), they were nowhere nearly as vocal and as open as your Mom. So, I guess I just wanted to give you guys a big thumbs-up for your awesomness.
    Please tell your Mom that her answers really helped me to understand my own mother's feelings better and it brought me closer to her, which is saying something after over ten years on T.
    Keep your work up Sky, you're really making a difference there.

  • @stormageddon101
    @stormageddon101 8 років тому +1

    You seriously have an amazing mum. She seems pretty cool, and she accepts your transition tonnes.

  • @NickPfost
    @NickPfost 9 років тому +1

    Sky, you are such an amazing communicator. When you said "if there is any way I can communicate in a way to help you understand," it took me back to the book "Please Understand Me." Thanks for always being awesome and thoughtful :)

  • @pmak4p
    @pmak4p 8 років тому +1

    This video made me cry. Your mom is so loving and I know my mom will be also, I think that's why it made me cry. Love you guys! keep the positivity up:)

  • @ristin59
    @ristin59 9 років тому

    Congratulations on your transition!
    Your Mom is an angel, I wish all the best for you in your life...

  • @celiapowell1
    @celiapowell1 9 років тому

    This video made me cry. What a wonderful and loving mother you have. I am so glad that you both exist.

  • @Donna_was_here
    @Donna_was_here 9 років тому

    You and your mom are awesome! I'm a grandma and I love all my kids and grandkids just like your mom. Unconditionally

  • @roguefemale2349
    @roguefemale2349 9 років тому +2

    He is very fortunate to have such an understanding parent, I would have reacted the way Beth Stern's mother reacted upon hearing she was marrying Howard. I would accept my childs decision but would need some time to mourn, scream and cry hysterically (and hide the photos because I know that some transgender people do not like seeing those around).

  • @MissKatt56
    @MissKatt56 9 років тому

    Your mom seems so chill, haha I kinda wish my mom was like that. I hope that one day I'll have the courage to come out to her too one day! Awesome vid btw :)

  • @Codytalks11
    @Codytalks11 9 років тому +2

    Your mom is adorable :)

  • @desysanjay
    @desysanjay 9 років тому

    You are such an amazing human being and you have such a divine mother. My salutations to you both!

  • @ThugMuffinification
    @ThugMuffinification 9 років тому

    OMG Mama Sky is amazing 3 She is exactly what a great mother/parent should be. You can see how much she loves you. I find it so beautiful she has taken this journey with you and has supported, accepted, chosen to learn and understand what you need and unconditionally loved you throughout. That is everything.

  • @kellidanzer9908
    @kellidanzer9908 9 років тому +2

    Thanks for your video, I'm also a mother to a transgender son who I love dearly. This video really made me feel that everything is going to be ok.

  • @shambooly
    @shambooly 9 років тому +1

    I really wish my family was that understanding and caring... count your blessings x x x best wishes!

  • @nicoledethrow7946
    @nicoledethrow7946 9 років тому

    This video honestly made my entire day

  • @asheimmortal
    @asheimmortal 9 років тому

    You're so lucky to have so much support!

  • @devent10n
    @devent10n 9 років тому

    I love your mom. She reminds me of my mom a lot. Very enjoyable video!

  • @heliasv2499
    @heliasv2499 9 років тому

    Hi! What you both said about communication helped me doing the first move with my parents. I'm out with them and they're cool with it but we don't talk about me being trans anymore, I think they're at the "Okay so what are we supposed to do" level. We are french, so I translated this video and gave them the script I had written, to "break the ice" (does this expression even exist in english?!) and to start teaching them about transidentities. I hope it doesn't bother you that I did it! Thanks for your videos they're great and you're a cool guy!

  • @fox_beauty
    @fox_beauty 9 років тому

    Your mom is amazing and you're lucky to have her!!

  • @ThePanushka
    @ThePanushka 9 років тому

    You have such a wonderful mother. God bless!

  • @marra4390
    @marra4390 9 років тому

    I like how you two have such a great bond, especially how your mother is proud of you aside from being trans. I envy that.

  • @TheLongjohntim
    @TheLongjohntim 7 років тому

    Skyler; You mom has one handsome son! Thanks for being there for him You are one awesome mom!

  • @joewillis9656
    @joewillis9656 9 років тому

    Sky you look incredible and also your mum is amazing!!

  • @chloely_
    @chloely_ 9 років тому

    oh my god you and your mom are the cutest!

  • @lispyhipster
    @lispyhipster 9 років тому +5

    This video made me cry, I wish my mom would be as accepting as your mom. She said that if I do transition then I can't talk to her or my sister and that I'm kicked out of the house. If I even bring it up I get grounded :'(

    • @skylarkeleven
      @skylarkeleven  9 років тому +5

      i really hope she comes around one day to see that you are you

    • @lispyhipster
      @lispyhipster 9 років тому

      Thanks, Sky:) It really means a lot

  • @suemoro
    @suemoro 9 років тому +2

    Your mom is awesome!

  • @CaptinHoot51
    @CaptinHoot51 8 років тому +2

    I think it's awesome that your mom is nice and accepts you for being you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @jackjackson4621
    @jackjackson4621 9 років тому

    MA DUDE YOUR MOM IS AMAZING! YOUR ONE LUCKY GUY

  • @LatinaKamilla
    @LatinaKamilla 9 років тому +35

    Wow, your mom calls you he and your name! Geez, your lucky. My parents REFUSE to call me she or my new legal name. Even though I'm legally female and all that jazz. It's so embarrassing to go out in public with them to. It's been years like this. Needless to say I don't talk to them anymore. They lost their child. They say they "love" me yet the verbally and physically abuse and it's clear they don't love ME. They just love the "idea" of me. Sigh. I'm envious of you. oh well, good luck hun =)

    • @leesha666
      @leesha666 9 років тому +2

      oh wow that sucks, i hope either they wake up to themselves or you can be just as happy without them, good luck!

    • @MamaKnoesEverything
      @MamaKnoesEverything 9 років тому

      Im so sorry about that. That really sucks. Hugs!

    • @lawsonbeckettellis2320
      @lawsonbeckettellis2320 9 років тому +1

      I'm sorry you are having to go throught that. If you ever just need to talk, you can hit me up :)

    • @reeddior
      @reeddior 9 років тому +1

      Well your beautiful self shouldn't have to go through that. I'm glad you separated yourself from that kinda negativity. You are a very pretty lady by the way!

    • @codyjason5517
      @codyjason5517 9 років тому +3

      That's tough.My name is Charlie. For about 5 months my dad didn't accept the fact that I'm a boy not a girl. A few weeks ago he told me that if I was sure about it he would take me to the doctor and let me talk to him about testosterone shots. I can't wait to actually become a boy. I mean it's so surreal.

  • @TommFire
    @TommFire 9 років тому +1

    your mom is lovely! ♥

  • @SID994
    @SID994 9 років тому

    Beautiful mother and son!

  • @naughtynati
    @naughtynati 9 років тому +2

    best mom ever? she rocks!!!

  • @codyjason5517
    @codyjason5517 9 років тому +3

    My name is Charlie formerly known as Charlotte. I'm 16 years old. I'm going to the doctor on Friday this week. I can't wait to be a boy!!!!!!!!! I'm excited. My dad wasn't excited at first because he didn't want to lose his little girl, but he has been with me every step of the way. My best friend Username Here has been an amazing friend throughout all of this. She has autism however and I don't know if she understands all of this I just know she has been very supportive of me as a person and one of the few people at school who doesn't say I'm a girl. She's been calling me a boy since we were 14. Since before I figured out that I am a boy. My mother died a few years ago to cancer but I think if she were here right now she would be very happy for me.

    • @codyryanradford3937
      @codyryanradford3937 9 років тому +1

      No I was 16 you were 14 silly Charlie. You're a silly boy.

  • @eshqa
    @eshqa 9 років тому

    Good job answering questions Mom!!!!!!

  • @ajtrans9916
    @ajtrans9916 9 років тому

    lol dude ur moms so sweet. .reminds me of my mom..love the vid ur so blessed have her in ur life n as ur support

  • @mazzamac21
    @mazzamac21 8 років тому

    mate, your Mother is freaking awesome!!!

  • @marioristovski4232
    @marioristovski4232 5 років тому

    amazing mum and amazing son

  • @simplyeason
    @simplyeason 8 років тому +1

    You have such an awesome mom! So inspiring! Also, how long did you guys stand for? Didnt your feet hurt? Lol

    • @simplyeason
      @simplyeason 8 років тому

      You are so brave to come out to your mom. Im gay and im still too afraid to come out to my mom. or my whole family actually... i came out to my sister and she was pretty shocked but glad she accepted :)

  • @JulieFernz
    @JulieFernz 8 років тому

    Your mum is amazing. I love that she's wearing your shirt, hope I have a relationship with my mum like this one day.

  • @kian_da_bean3294
    @kian_da_bean3294 9 років тому

    Man i love your videos so much ..

  • @ButSeriouslyEss
    @ButSeriouslyEss 9 років тому

    Amazing, you have a great Mum Sky :)

  • @jamification29
    @jamification29 9 років тому +1

    Hi sky! I can see your feminine side here on this video, your gestures maybe. Hehe. I enjoyed watching this, your mom is so cool. You are very close. Loved it!

  • @seethetruth7427
    @seethetruth7427 8 років тому

    i giggled at the "let's get started" HAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHA my mom would never say that to me.

  • @nerdieone1
    @nerdieone1 8 років тому +1

    Your mom is amazing. ^_^

  • @priscilajunia
    @priscilajunia 9 років тому

    You have an amazing mother! Luck you! And you are a really handsome guy!!!!😃

  • @jzkantor
    @jzkantor 7 років тому +1

    Thank You!

  • @joannarei808
    @joannarei808 9 років тому

    How long was your recovery after hysterectomy? Did you have hormonal imbalance or got any kind of menopausal symptoms? How did you treat those side effects?

    • @roguefemale2349
      @roguefemale2349 9 років тому

      I am curious about that too because I was told it could take up to 3 months to recover.

  • @tylermarcucci2733
    @tylermarcucci2733 9 років тому

    I told my mum that I'm questioning my gender, although my entire life I've been confused and I started researching the trans community when I was twelve. She doesn't need to know that yet I suppose. But she kind of just dismissed it, and it hasn't been brought up since, and it's something I worry about a lot :/

  • @xxstormyshadowxx887
    @xxstormyshadowxx887 8 років тому +1

    I think I might show this too my mom I recently came out and I trying to get things sorted out 😋

  • @uglydorkoboy6588
    @uglydorkoboy6588 8 років тому +1

    Omg I can't wait to pass like you!!!!!!!!! Ahhhh!!!!

  • @arielbron
    @arielbron 9 років тому

    I love your mom.

  • @Katie-pg2ts
    @Katie-pg2ts 9 років тому

    Too cute!

  • @MsMeaswell
    @MsMeaswell 9 років тому

    OMG hes so fucking GORGEOUSSSSSSS!!!

  • @izziej.3833
    @izziej.3833 9 років тому

    Hi Sky, I just stumbled on your channel. I have a question and maybe you have already answered it in previous videos. I'm not sure how you feel about having biological children in the future, but I wonder before the hysterectomy, did you consider the option to save your genetic material? In case you decide to have biological children later on in life? Just curious is all.

  • @zcooper6582
    @zcooper6582 7 років тому +1

    11:20 to 11:25 skys mom thought her son was going to say i loved interacting with my mom or something. her face is so disappointed.

    • @CaptinHoot51
      @CaptinHoot51 5 років тому

      I'm not the only person to notice that.

  • @spydickz
    @spydickz 8 років тому +1

    your mom is cool. does she still reply emails?

  • @mariyagavalova4598
    @mariyagavalova4598 8 років тому +2

    evan piters look alike

  • @stephenbru
    @stephenbru 9 років тому

    awesome mom!!..

  • @hosinw
    @hosinw 8 років тому

    Your mother is sweet :-D

  • @cowboyjayy
    @cowboyjayy 9 років тому

    Thankf for sharing wow so powerful :)

  • @ethanal2736
    @ethanal2736 7 років тому

    personally I don't like trans or gay ideology but if I happen to be friends or my son or daughter is, I would fully support them because I'm friends with them for a reason... good moral qualities.

  • @chivsys4131
    @chivsys4131 9 років тому

    I've never been close to my mother, it's hard to explain my feelings as a transguy with that problem.

    • @dakotarivera3121
      @dakotarivera3121 9 років тому

      irishartemis.deviantart.com/art/Reading-is-Sexy-by-Time-Lords-200002199

    • @dakotarivera3121
      @dakotarivera3121 9 років тому

      Sorry it's kinda random

  • @allicouture9918
    @allicouture9918 8 років тому +2

    Can she be my mom like i wish my mom excepted me like she does

  • @rageglitter3585
    @rageglitter3585 8 років тому

    So, I've been looking for just the right video to post this on, and I think this one is perfect. I came out to my mom a few days ago, and have been dropping hints since freshman year that I am trans. I figured that since she has tons of gay friends and even family she would be supportive. Quite the opposite. She is not supportive or helpful at all. The rest of my family are homophobic/transphobic and super religious, so I have NOBODY to turn to. I've even lost a few friends in the process. Advice, anyone?

    • @thequeenbit1755
      @thequeenbit1755 8 років тому

      +Dark Music I fear to say that in your case, it is really hard to give out advice like this. Just out of curiosity, what direction are you (willing) to go? MtF or FtM? Anyways, that is irrelevant. Unfortunately, you are on your own now. You need to filter out those who call themselves "friends", and find who's really and truly supportive of YOU. Not that other person you've probably been acting like. I mean you, as in "YOU"! If you wish to transform, then it is your full right to do so. But you have got to be ready to make HUGE sacrifices. First, if you're still a minor, WAIT until you're at least 18 years old. Get a job. Save up. Move out. BE YOURSELF. Look for friends who can possibly let you move in, even if temporarily, at least. But always remember, you always will need a therapist's consultation before anything major (obviously). Do not go too quickly with things. Some people REALLY regret their transitions, and you probably do not want that to happen to you. I don't want that to happen to you either. Just be careful. Be safe. Plan ahead. And by planning, I do not mean "get a job, then run away." I mean like for example "by that date, I will have saved this amount of money, and that would require me to work for this more years to reach my goal, which means I'm going to have to move out by that year." Be specific. SAY IT OUT LOUD TO YOURSELF. But if your family insists on being unsupportive, and you're ABSOLUTELY SURE THAT THEY WILL COMPLETELY REMAIN IN THAT POSITION, STOP TALKING THEM ABOUT IT. Get as much as you can from them. They have brought you into this world, you are their responsibility. Wishing you the best! ;)

  • @mikekane1412
    @mikekane1412 8 років тому

    Kristen Stewart should be cast to play you!! if ever!

  • @gurudevice
    @gurudevice 8 місяців тому

    Rare and Great 😊🎉

  • @madid1815
    @madid1815 8 років тому +1

    I'd date him

  • @kook2414
    @kook2414 9 років тому

    😍😍😍😍😍

  • @Charlieswag9000
    @Charlieswag9000 9 років тому

    Not to be mean but did you have the "full" surgery not just breast removal?

    • @OutLoudCommentaries
      @OutLoudCommentaries 9 років тому +1

      There's no such thing as a "full surgery"

    • @2016T
      @2016T 9 років тому +5

      Thats not any of your business :)

    • @OutLoudCommentaries
      @OutLoudCommentaries 9 років тому +1

      I also agree with 2016T

    • @2016T
      @2016T 9 років тому

      OutLoudCommentaries yeah :)

    • @mrmikeyrobin
      @mrmikeyrobin 2 роки тому +1

      @@2016T Get out of here , Mr Donald Trump!

  • @maxime879
    @maxime879 9 років тому

    You are a lucky boy to have your lovely mom! And btw you are really cute and hot :D Love from Belgium ♥

  • @aycarambaish
    @aycarambaish 8 років тому

    I can tell your mum is/was nervous, aha

  • @cchau0092
    @cchau0092 9 років тому

    do you like girls or boys?

  • @ladeliahampton4192
    @ladeliahampton4192 4 роки тому

    My daughter went to prison then right b4 she was released she wrote a letter to my then 11 yr old son telling him about becoming transgender as if it was explaining math, science, or social studies I was appalled so to u and your mother I am glad u had a positive experience but to tell a lil boy who's been bullied and lost his only real brother it was wrong and disgusting to say the lease she handled it wrong

  • @doll334
    @doll334 9 років тому

    I'm mtf and i would date you

  • @aycarambaish
    @aycarambaish 8 років тому

    are you an only child?

  • @pheeuh
    @pheeuh 9 років тому +2

    your mom seems well-mannered, such a lovely mother, you two are so lovely!! x 

  • @mariyagavalova4598
    @mariyagavalova4598 8 років тому

    evan piters look alike