WHY I Transitioned / Detransitioned !!
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- Опубліковано 22 гру 2016
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Since I announced that I was transgender a year ago, i have had many experiences and understandings that i've gone through. This video explains why i did it in the first place, and why i eventually decided to detransition. Thank you so much for watching :)
*When you're attractive in both genders.*
RaysOfAura truuuue
RaysOfAura IKRR
He is beautiful. Those eyes
Right like can he give me his kids 😂jk
That feeling when i'm not attractive in any gender.
He seems like a proper, genuine nice guy, and I think that's all that matters.
you know nothing
jon snow
"Miles has good manners,and that's what matters" your comment reminded me of this,not sure if you know who Miles is but yeah.
King in the north
The Lord The lord has spoken
Those eyes, That skin is flawless. Man love yourself the way you are. You are blessed the way you are.
Handsome man. Those eyes are mesmerizing
Julia Graham-Lemon yes his eyes are beautiful!
He fucking beautiful... looking like a whole snack out here, lol.
Get light blue contacts and you can have those same exact eyes.
He's very good looking. Those eye's..
Lolololol.... waste your time, He's Gay. Camp as a row of pink tents.
You hardly ever hear detransition stories. And when someone talks about it they are shouted down as transphobic. Thanks for this.
Elle Keener I didn't even know detransitioning was a thing!
Chenai David See what I mean!?
+Chenai David yup your supposed to live as a girl for a year before your surgery
There are a few here on UA-cam. Transitioning is a very personal thing and it's not right for everybody who may feel or have some traits of the opposite gender. I think the transphobic shouting is due to the little acceptance that transgenders have gained and the fear that it will encourage mainstream society's belief that transitioning is a whim, or phase and is to be discouraged.
Well it doesn't have anything to do with being gay and certainly doesn't have anything to do with pushing anything off on children.
"I really don't hate my biology" Very powerful statement.
Dr. Simple Beauty 300 and why is that? Because you think that trans people do?
Dr Simple Beauty 300... I agree, I think he really shared a body positive statement. Not that transgenders choose their transition out of hate but because he made it clear that he just simply loves himself as a whole.
mirko precisely.
Dr. Simple Beauty 300 what does that even mean really?
lmao, how is this powerful?
Wow, powerful..."I'm going to be who I was put on this earth to really be...I dont hate my biology." 👏👏
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Benben Ben You don’t know how it works do you
@@rebeldiva611 Yes he does. You're delusional
so someome had to transition and then detransition back for you to realize it, huh
@@turbotrup96 at least he accepted you can never change your gender no matter what.
I love how you’re so respectful toward the people who helped you transition into a woman. You understand that they were only trying to help you, and you take full responsibility for your choices. I wish more people in the world were like you.
The problem is some influencers convince minors to go for irreversible surgery.
@@TedATL1no one can FORCE anyone to do anything they don’t want to do through the internet..
@@muthakenzshut that shit up 😂 the people encouraging transgenderism are sick
Why does no one talk about this? A lot of people get pressured into thinking they’re trans when they’re not. It’s a bigger issue than some people think.
Because the LGBTQ+ community treats de-transitioners appallingly. They're told to shut up, to stop discouraging transitioners, they're told they were "never really trans in the first place", or that their de-transition only gives christian fundamentalists hate fuel. De-transitioners often report losing all of their LGBTQ+ friends and even receive hate or death threats. So beautiful considering it comes from the same community that preaches that all love is love. Which it isn't.
Why would u think people are pressuring others to be trans when being trans is being seen so negatively by many in society.
@@xoxoalex2017 bc people think not fitting into stereotypes means you're trans now.
@@bingbong5776 maybe people who haven't further delve into what being trans is but just because I wear mostly mens clothes hasn't ever made me think that I'm trans I think thats a stereotype in itself
I think our youth is too exposed to all this different ways of life. This kind of things where considered "taboo" Now it has been so normalized that it's confusing some of our youths. Also, we have to consider that families, peers, school, neighborhoods, experiencing any form of abuse, illnesses, war, natural disasters, etc. are environmental examples that can affect [not always] one emotional, social and psychological development. This is why we need to support our children, but also encourage them to wait and see if after puberty they are feeling the same way about themselves. 80 to 95% of kids who think they want to transition come to terms and accept/embrace their biological sex/gender by late adolescence (after puberty). We all got to admit that for most of us puberty was not a fun thing to go through. Puberty and teenage years are a very awkward time in life. This is why doing our best in creating a good and safe environment for our children is so important. By the way great video and thank you for sharing.
you should be a MODEL... Soooo handsome.
And he was pretty as a girl too WTF
Michelle InHemet i think its the eyes, lips and sharp jaw that are all so beautiful - on both genders.
Summer Deaver right? He could just model the whole store, girls and guys side! lol I've never seen anyone pull it off more
Yep
It is difficult when you have a close friend who's transgender when you're...different, or in somewhat of an insecure state yourself.
My best friend is transgender and I had a very difficult time when I was slightly younger because I was so influenced by what she was doing and how she was feeling and began applying it to myself because as an awkward and depressed 14 - 16 year old I hadn't exactly found myself yet, and I wondered if I was actually a transgender man because I had a strong tomboy phase back then. I'm just glad it died quickly before I told anyone about it because I don't know where I would be now otherwise.
But it's definitely true that those around you can influence you even if they're not trying to. Simply watching them can be enough sometimes.
you should become a counselor to those people who also want to go through all this transformation. Your experience is much valuable!
Camila Namie Tatsch Kikuchi - I agree.. to Frank: God Bless you and FYI you are beautiful as a man, no make-up and as a man .. beautiful eyes!
But more, you have a gentle, beautiful and kind spirit! Bless you on your life journey and purpose -😇
@@rebeldiva611 Whoa, lay off the hormones!
He’ll be able to help the ones who are wanting to detransition.
Yes yes yea..we need him
You never see anyone coming out about detransitioning and its great to see someone come out about it. This is why I feel like kids shouldn't just hop right into transitioning until thinking long and hard about it.
You're an inspiration for having the courage to post something like this, since a lot of people would feel like they'd be attacked for detransitioning.
Yeah, thinking long and hard about it until they're adult. Kids shouldn't transition.
actually lots of people have de-transitioned. lots of videos on youtube.
I mean the predominant detransition narratives i've heard have been from disidentified trans men and most of them if not all i've come across have re-identified as lesbians. so it's definitely interesting to hear it from the perspective from a detransitioned trans woman. good on him
Most people transition for themselves though, not just because they saw someone else doing it. And usually they've known for ages, not just a year.
And he clearly doesn't even know what transgender means at all, because you can't just be it for a year, it is a life long thing
YOUR LASHES ARE SO PRETTY
His eyes are.
change it no matter his whole face is.
Lm ao his whole body
fourteen true
I kinda wanna do eyelashes surgery
I am very proud that you figured this out before you went too far!
You are amazing as you are!
*I swear he has the most beautiful eyes I've seen.*
Finally a fucking true detransitioning video instead of those click bait titles every transgender person has on their page
Why are people hating. I'm a trans guy and I don't think of him any less for detransitioning. He was trying to figure himself out. He wasn't saying it was set for life.
Maybe because these types of videos could be misunderstood by transphobes and the likes and followers of Milo whateverthefuckhisnameis and used against the REAL trans community.
Katerina B So he shouldn't express his journey because of the ignorance of others? That's a dangerous way to think
I understand its his journey, but the way he goes about it can be damaging to others; I was stating what could happen. Time for your one track mind to take a rest or something, now that is a dangerous mind to have.
Katerina B I'm sorry I don't remember giving any indication to the track of my mind but since your the type of person to think that suppressing different experiences is somehow going to help a minority community it also doesn't surprise me you just assume shit. I go back to my first statement it's a dangerous way to think but do you
^Couldn't have said it better myself!
People need to take responsibility for their own thoughts and actions... You can't blame this guy for wanting to share his story... Geez he's fucking human lol
You could 1000% be a model. The androgynous look is really in right now. By the look of the full body shots you seem to have the body as well.
God Bless you!
Raw
Unfiltered
Truth
May the right people needing ur perspective...find it!
Bottom line, Makeup and clothing is not what magically makes someone a girl
iivtette Chavez amen! Plenty of women don’t wear makeup or dresses, so are we no longer women anymore? Being a woman is so much more.
tru. makeup especially, since makeup was invented essentially by the ancient egyptians and both women and men openly wore makeup and it wasnt a big deal in that society
Why do you Care? You opinion shows how you are . Does it affect you? Try being less judgemental. Or karma Will come back and kick you in the @&)
Sandra Slane Transgender isn’t a noun.
Stop the feminist sjw shit
Don't know how I ended up here, but... You're one of the prettiest people I've ever seen holy shit.
his eyes! *faints*
I know right 😭
Hikikomori Dokki I know right! I typically do not like blue but his are pretty!
During this video al I could think abot was your face. XD You are so pretty!... You have a beatiful face shape and mesmerizing eyes. I'm retty sure i'm gonna draw you later..
Tinkili me too
Glad you decided to love yourself as you are! You are great just as you are and thank you for sharing your story! too many feel pressured into changes that become a constant medical battle.
you seem like a super self-aware, grounded, kind, and fun person. I admire that.
YOUR EYES ARE GORGEOUS!
Trending Trent thank you boo!! ❤️❤️
YOU'VE GOT A NEW SUBSCRIBER AND LIFE IS ABOUT EXPERIENCES AND WHAT YOU MAKE OF THEM. IDC WHAT YOU ARE/WHAT YOU DECIDE TO BE AS LONG AS YOU'RE HAPPY AND YOU LOVE THE SKIN YOU'RE IN!
Trending Trent ur hot
*G O U R G E O U S* HUNNY
I thought they were contacts?
There is a difference between being transgender and wanting to look/wear women's clothing (by society's standards). People like Jeffree Star wears women clothing/hair/makeup and he's not trans. A lot of the new generation get the two mixed up. You can wear makeup or rock a wig without being trans.
You're completely right, there are huge differences in being a cross dresser, drag and transgender.
I don't think he identifies as a man completely, but he isn't transgender either. I know that sounds weird, but it's possible to be somewhere in the middle and that's ok. :)
What a nice comment. It doesn't sound weird at all. I've always thought about gender as a spectrum and not all people being at one end or the other. Some people are between the two. I agree, it's ok:)
Jeffree has actually called himself trans but I stand by your comment
Yes, there is a difference, but trans people DO want to dress and act like the opposite sex. So, men who want to be women DO care about what they look like and wear.
This is the BEST video EVER!! Thank you for being this subject to light! I don't hate my biology either but feel more female. This literally helped my thought process on the subject!! Ur the best!!!
You just be you, because you are amazing 😊
I'm just blown away by all the pure love and blessings from just most everyone in this feed, just amazing. all kudos to all the comments here and a beautiful video too. Just so heartfelt in this tempestuous world we live in. subbed with much gratitude xo
I love your eyes. They're shaped so beautifully and your eye color is pretty too. I wish I could keep thumbing up this video, thank you for your insight. Much love to you Frank. You're amazing. ✌🏼
T.K Donjuan also those lashes 😍😍
T.K Donjuan no way those eyes are real. Soooooo pretty
you should get into androgynous modeling. it's in VERY high demand!!
oh yes, cuz you would know? You're just soooo hip and in the know....how boring.
Kate Marsh You're dead, bitch.😂
Nuh uh! SHES ALIVE!
Lol no it isn't.
Fred Max lol yeah, it literally is. Fashion houses are doing literal full collections with androgyny in mind. But thanks for your input. Take a seat now ;)
Dude you need to tell this story to kids who think this is cool and a trend cuz that's what its becoming
@S H R E Y A A lot of people think it is - lots of people think that being trans is just a choice because now so many people incorrectly call themselves trans, it makes it look like it's just something cool people do and kids exploit that.
@S H R E Y A If someone's trans, they should go to a doctor or a phyciaratrist that specializes in trans paitents. It's really not a good ideal to just let a child say this stuff and then have a parent start putting them on hormones when they haven't been to a professional. And your age dosent matter, you didn't need to bring it up.
@@unbreakable7029 doctors are not the answer mu buddy's daughter thought she wanted to transation at like age 10 the dr, recommendation, let's start the hormones there working for drug companies still come on, anyway now shes in 10 grade and now is Tyler and you would have no clue she was a girl, in this case the dr, pushed the transition cuz Tyler and the family were very unsure if this was the way she really wanted to go just like the kid in the video was pressured by a friend.
S H R E Y A yes it is lol.
Kids and young people view transgender peoples acceptance and celebration on social media as special attention. There’s a lot of kids and young people out there who haven’t been raised in loving families and don’t have that affirmation and confidence to be comfortable with themselves. They see being trans as gaining those things.
As a transgender male I will definitely tell them that it’s not a cool process to go through.
I’ve never seen a mtftm detransition video and this makes me feel a lot more comfortable in being trans. I don’t know a lot about myself and I’m still worried about transitioning, but hearing that you don’t experience dysphoria is a big thing for me. Thanks. I think this type of video that doesn’t try to delegitimize trans people is really important because it helps people understand what being trans means.
Where did you get that information from? That na you don't experience dysphoria? That's simply not true.
Please I hope 6ou you did not transition 😢
You'll regret it!
Boy, i didn't hear anything that you said.. I was watching your EYES.
Well you're a shallow idiot then. For shame.
@@zimzimzalabim what the heck, i literally said a compliment
people just see insults in everything
@@zimzimzalabim I'm sure she didn't meat that she literally didn't hear anything, looks like she just wanted to emphasise how beautiful his eyes are. Who's an idiot now?
@@zimzimzalabim you are the shallow one and the idiot trust me
god you have the prettiest smile and the prettiest eyes. and your skin is flawless
Jazmine Turner
Handsome i should say
Big G-PAC you lonely?
Big G-PAC hahahahahhaba your funny 😂😂 and no im not ugly average maybe but not ugly. nor am i gay 😂😂 You really are lonely aren't you? or or or your unfilled in life?
Obviously, BGP, the best part of you ran down your mother's leg when she reached for the twenty.
Stupid --'' (BGP) look in the miroir and there is the people have less confiance on him ever and if u need to say at other ppl to go sucide they self ur the worst :'))
You have the cutest nose I've ever seen. I know, random, but just had to say it. Girl, boy, both or neither, you are beautiful ⚘
lala bella I know, he has a little button nose! So cute 😀💋
lala bella Yes! I like this nose shape😃
@Valora Pruett non- binary
You sir are handsome as hell. I'm glad you're living the way you want to. There's nothing wrong with being a feminine man.
I couldn't agree more 😊 His BF is a lucky guy
My mom always told me that the most attractive people can look good as a guy or a girl and I think you are proof of that
Anna Pretzer I agree completely honestly
i agree..Ruby Rose is a huge example
agreeeeeed! he is gorgeous
agreeeeeed! he is gorgeous
What if youre a girl?
Dude you are unbelievably gorgeous
Josephine Nicasio i
He had feminization surgery on the face so....
+Jadin Timothy Aw ok ....That would explain it as he really looks like a girl with facial hair or like a very feminine guy but very good looking at same time but I hope he lets the beard and stash grow fully then he would look like a man with beautiful eyes lol.
you explained yourself so well in this video, i’m so proud of u for finding truth & comfort in yourself
Wow! OMG! You are the person and the video Ive been looking for. Im in the same situation. I transitioned from M to F, a couple years ago. But I later realized I still enjoy being male. I dont always want to be female. Im also a parent. I too chose not to pursue GRS for the exact same reason you stated. Thank you for posting and opening up to your viewers. This video really helped me I want to watch it again and again!
You are stunning either gender tbh😍Your nose, your eyes, your face holy cow🗯You should sign for modeling
Heather Grace , YAS I agree
Big G-PAC ..."It" is a guy. What is your problem? Did you find him too cute that you had to comment something negative to reclaim you masculinity?
And that's why the transition should not be allowed till adulthood. Most are just confused.
Inkk Vibe Exactly
I'm really curious about the way it works as us real girls cum and have orgasm's so my question is how do they cum if they don't have the full anatomy of a girl😕?? yes they might get the chop✂💉but i can't see it working the same. Someone please reply as I'm very confused😞Thank you.
@@fernthegreenfairy agreed 👍👏
Well said 👍👏and same I'm really confused it's just..well😒Weird 😣
From the other video, it was just an illusion and being transgender will not give any satisfaction to them. ..when I talk with gay friend I advice them to dont undergo surgery your body is precious thiers nothing wrong with it. I just consider gayish as a life style were men like woman staff. ..
Everyone should watch this. So glad you listened to your gut and are okay with being the beautiful man that you are. Best wishes to you in your future
I really want to thank you for your point of view! During my trasition I often questioned myself, if I was really transgender. I watch every detransition-video I can find and I feel like it always validates me in being trans. :) Thank you so much for sharing your experience!!!
Sometimes life takes us on a circular journey, leading us back to ourselves. I'm glad you found yourself and took the journey that helps us understand who we are. Congratulations on finding your beautiful self.
Sometimes you must get lost in order to find yourself.
@@EpochUnlocked you’re right, my story is totally different but if I hadn’t went down that certain path (addiction) I wouldn’t have been lead to where I am today, 3 years clean with my husband and kids
I'm so glad that you went through the self discovery journey before you did anything permanent. God bless u!
The amount of people on hormones, in the last 5 years have skyrocketed....its truly scary.
It is pretty scary to see, but it can be seen as a good thing. Actual trans people have easier access to hormones and society is less likely to judge them compared to even 20 years ago. But thanks to the sudden growth in popularity in the past 10 years, (usually) teens who feel the need to be unique and cool or are looking for answers end up turning to it as if it were a hobby or a cure.
It's helping one problem, but starting another, which stinks. I think therapy would be a good answer to this, since a lot of detransitioners that I've seen have other issues (abuse, peer pressure, insecurities, etc) that should be addressed before rushing to a conclusion. It feels pretty harsh, but it might just be what the person needs and might help with cis people transitioning. Just an idea, that I'm commenting here for some reason
@@oliver1616 I think part of the problem is that many of the people who start transitioning do it with the goal of a binary transition while many of them may be somewhere in the middle, like I know some trans people who are MtNBi who went on oestrogen and felt happy about the changes but knew that "the surgery" is not something that they would want, I think that some of the problems are because people think that they have to go the whole way when maybe electing for some surgeries but not all of them etc may be the right path
@@smoothy4045 ..you wont get a reply. That would require thinking...
Why is it scary for you? How does it affect your life in any way? Have you ever even met a Transperson? Ever ? Be worried about real dangers, like drunk drivers.
@Jay P ... Well, it IS Transphobic but since you'll probably never meet a Transperson in your life ( that you know of ) what is YOUR problem? How does someone else's decision to take HRT affect YOUR life when you will probably never meet them. Just mind your own business and let Transpeople live in dignity. Is that so hard ?
You are a brave and beautiful person. I am a trans woman who has been transitioning for three years, and I always gave myself the option to stop physical transition if I felt it didn’t seem authentic or right for me. I am glad you found acceptance for yourself, whatever that looks like, and as others have said, you are an extremely handsome guy and you certainly made an extremely beautiful woman. I wish you all the happiness living your truth!
Look at Jeffree Star, he is fine with being a feminine man as well. As long as you are happy in your skin, be who you are :)
AND jeffree slays it all the time
Bullshit!!!!! A real man is born a man and a real woman is born a woman.
@@memberofthelambily1340 That's a lie!!!! That's why man is going straight to hell...
@@memberofthelambily1340 Wrong again....
@@memberofthelambily1340 That's what wrong with man. They know it's wrong and still do wrong... SMH
"The person that I am, regardless of my gender, I'm ok with."
;~; Ahh, my heart. I wish more people felt this way.
On another note, I think gender roles and stereotypes play a big part in peoples insecurities. We constantly associate gender with the way people are and the things they do. Like saying "boys will be boys" or "girls are so emotional". Saying only girls can wear make up and only guys like sports. So when we constantly hear these things, and realize we don't live up to the standard of that gender, it makes us distressed and feel like we have to change ourselves, whether it's becoming transgender or stopping ourselves from certain behavior, or just saying "f you" to people who judge them. I'm glad you were able to come to the realization that you loved yourself the way you are. I know this isn't the case for most people, but I think if only people realized they could be themselves no matter what they looked like, they can take a step back and pick apart the things they actually want for themselves and what they only wanted in order to live up to society standards.
this is exactly how i feel. i am blessed to be (mostly) comfortable with the sex and gender i was assigned at birth, and i have huge respect for anyone willing to go through the painful process of transitioning. it's something i will never have to do and i cannot begin to imagine the pain one must feel before eventually having no choice but to succumb to it. but on the other hand, i do sort of feel like there are a lot of trans folks who go through with complete gender transitions who..idk...sort of feed into the whole gender binary? you shouldn't have to be a girl to feel valid wearing makeup. you shouldn't have to be a boy to decide you don't like wearing your hair long, or to decide you prefer wearing pants 24/7. gender is so fluid and everyone should just feel comfortable being whoever they want to be. and i know that first requires society to be okay with everyone being who they want to be. it sucks. but i so wish the world operated this way. i feel like a lot more people would be at peace with themselves without having to make such massive overhauls to their lives and lifestyles.
+astr323 I'm a transgender but I do not go beyond what I was born as physically. some might just say no you are bi, but I truly know how I feel inside and to what extent. I'm largely happier now embracing that part of me instead of fighting it. Though there is always a battle within myself to wanting to have been born female instead. Its very hard for me to explain it to others really. I am just happy I have some around me in real life that accept me the way I am. Because truthfully and not being negative here. Most male to female transformations still look too male-ish to me. And I do not wish to undergo all of that surgery to only find I'm a manly type of girl. As to me most end up looking. Nor do I want to dress up as a woman only to find I still end up as a manly looking woman. For me its all or nothing. So I will still stay male in outward appearance, even if looking in the mirror is hard for me. Because I do not find manly looking females sexy, regardless if biologically female or not.
won't just everyone be happy if we lived in a non binary world
Thank you for sharing your story. I can’t imagine what a confusing time that must have been for you. I am so happy that you are content in your own body. I hope to one day teach my kids that you can be masculine if you are a girl and you can be feminine if you are a boy. You can wear what you want, play with whatever toys, and like whatever colors bring you joy. How you express yourself is up to you and it is okay with me if you don’t fit into society’s cookie cutter stereotype of a boy or girl. This video taught me a lot and I think will really change how I talk to my children about gender. You seem like such a sweetheart, we need more people in this world like you. Wishing you the best in your future💕
If “ocean eyes🎶” was a person.
Wtf you are one of the most gorgeous creatures i've ever seen.
hahahaha i wrote the same thing, so true
I just thought the same :D
I was going to say that exact same thing!
i agree 100% how is it even possible to be so damn gorgeous!!
literally like soooo gorgeous :))
I so appreciate you being brave enough to share this. I feel like a lot of times people use examples of detransitioning as a reason to not accept or allow trans people to be as they are, but it's really quite the opposite. Because of society's strict gender roles, trans people feel forced to transition in order to fit in with their gender, when that may not be what they actually want/need. I consider myself a boy, but I have no desire to transition medically right now or in my forseeable future. I still dress and appear extremely femme, but I do not believe this negates who I am in any way. As long as I know who I am, that's all that matters to me. A lot of trans people's dysphoria comes from society's expectation of them, and I think a lot of us could be happy without transitioning if we learned to shed those gender roles.
RandomThoughtsPotato He's not Courage.😡why Someone allow him to take fucking hormones when he's don't sure of his fucking sexuality.someone needs to go to jail and get retire his licence.He's idiot and liar cuz nobody is allowed to take hormones before pass through a psychiatrist to do a mentally check before this important decisions. fuck him cuz he cheat people that he's sure to transitioned when he's not.😡😡that's not a joke and is his fault.
Kimberly Maddox Seuden Umm...was that even English?
It's not like someone else didn't get to transition because he did. He didn't waste somebody else's. He truthfully believed that this is what he had to do to feel like he belonged. Just because he finally realized his true feelings (which he really could have only done by transitioning/ living as a woman) does not negate his initial reasons for transitioning. Maybe the reason that a psychiatrist didn't 'pick anything up' was because he actually wanted to transition for a good reason. He changed his mind, that's it. People are allowed to do that.
I understand why that's a thing to be upset about. some people don't get to transition even if they know that that's a thing they need to do in order to feel good about themselves and not live in anxiety. in my country you really can't transition if you have mental issues or you're not sure. you have to be diagnosed with gender dysphoria before getting to transition, and even then you might not get to transition if you have mental health issues.
but he didn't take hormones for that long either. the thing that he did go through the process and got the hormones might make some trans people upset... that he could do it while they, even when knowing that they're definitely trans, don't get to transition for whatever reason.
I am trans too, and this video actually made me more sure that I am trans. I have always thought too much of what people think about me and that social role that I should fill. but it just doesn't feel right. I don't feel dysphoria about the social expectations though. I feel dysphoria because of my body.
Shanna Ravenna If u don't understad u are very stupid.I'm not the best writing in English but the point is clear.
I’ve been struggling a lot with my gender identity in the last couple months and I feel like this is the video that I really needed... I really relate to the trying to make yourself hate your body, I feel as though I have convinced myself to hate the male parts of my body that I have always been okay with before this became a possibility. So thank you, a lot of the internet has this air of “if you’re questioning it you’re not cis” and it’s been a personal struggle to realize that that isn’t always the case so thank you for bringing your situation to the surface
I know it's a late comment buuut;
You're extremely strong and beautiful for talking about this, more people should be like you. Keep doing you.
This is so well said and I feel like there are a lot of confused people out there that need to see this. I’ve witnessed many people that seem to feel pressured by seeing so many others (particularly on social media) coming out as trans or transitioning, that they think that because they don’t conform to the stereotypes of their sex that they must do or be the same. And I’m not saying that trans doesn’t exist, lmao just preaching that it’s okay to be feminine while being a guy and it’s okay to be a masculine girl! Just because you don’t match the stereotypes of your sex doesn’t mean you can’t still embrace it and just live your life however the f you want
This is my favorite coment
well said!
Totally true! Just be who you are! This world is so confusing!
There's a big difference between being feminine, masculine, and feeling like you were born in the wrong body. His issue was he didn't know how to differentiate between them and had no guidance to determine what it was he felt.
Good lord you're one beautiful guy
Kovu is a unicorn
omg I love your videos.
So you're just going to use this video to hit on him??
+edgarae1 dude hes not hitting on him theres a difference between calling someone beautiful and flirting
omg lol kovu just came across you today wanted to make my own binder
SERIOUSLY WHY ARE YOU IN THE COMMENTS OF EVERY VIDEO I WATCH GOD DAMNIT
I just wanted to let you know how impressed I was with you. You spoke so kindly about your feelings on this topic. I was so impressed that you took the time to research the pro's and con's. To think through the long term effects and possibly consequences. I LOOOOVED the fact that you where able to stand back and ask the hard questions. I LOVED that you looked at yourself, and realized you liked yourself. That changing your appearance wasn't going to change that. I am so very impressed with you. Thank you so very much for being brave enough to speak your truth. I apologize for not being very eloquent. I have actually never written a comment on a blog before tonight. Your wisdom and sincerity touched my heart. You are a beautiful soul. Thank you. Please be safe and may God bless your great spiri. 🤗❤
You are the only transgender person who said the changes were unnatural... that's very interesting
Tiffany Jordan that's not true at all.
Blair White, over ten trans people I've communicated with, and thousands of others have most likely said the same thing.
That’s not true and most men who say they’re trans women don’t have the operation because it ruins their life and they know it.
Unnatural...?
I mean he’s not actually trans so of course it felt unnatural to him
Respect!
....for your critical thinking skills, and the strength to be yourself
okey i dont get why ppl don't just accept the term crossdressing, like if u want to stay a guy but enjoy woman's clothing then ur crossdressing and there's nothing wrong with that.
Bae that likes kpop I agree, fellow kpop fan :")
crossdressing is not the same thing as believing you are a gender that doesnt match your body. crossdressers are usually straight men and they like dressing up as women, but they dont want to *BE* a woman. See the difference?
Hikikomori Dokki um yee... thats exactly what i said ... "if u want to be a guy but enjoy womans clothing" .... im not talking about transgender ppl here .........
I'm a cross dresser :)
But this one time a trans women like saw that I was a girl in full on mens clothes and beard (it was a fake beard) and she began screaming at me for transtrending -_-
You’re gorgeous, and your heart is guiding you so nicely through life. You know you’ve been really lucky for all the support you’ve had in your process, and not everybody can say that, so I’m really glad for you! I have pretty much the same trouble as you but as a woman. Sometimes I’ve hated my masculin parts for not fitting in what society expects from a feminin body. So thanks for sharing your story, really made me think!!! 💜
I truly appreciate your honesty and courage in speaking out. That inner beauty makes you radiant.
Now go on and educate people that you don't need to transition to be masculine or feminine
im pretty sure being transgender is more than just being masculine and feminine. Genitals and being a role or type are two different things.
Lilly C it's about the individual doing what is needed for them to feel comfortable and at peace.
Being perceived as a masculine female is totally different than being perceived as a man.
Being perceived as a femme man is totally different than being perceived as a woman.
If being treated as the opposite gender is what makes you feel better than live that way. (That doesn't mean you have to be masculine to be a man or feminine to be a woman. You can transition and be a feminine man)
Gabriel Mancha WTF
+colemcgrath 1718 I'm aware, but there are people who equate being less feminine with being transgender. That's why
Couldn't stop staring at his eyes, in loveee
Baka noir me too
Elis Tablehockey he's a boy......
+Elis Tablehockey Really? You're part of the special kind of stupid. Guess you didn't see the video 😂😂😂
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At least you found your Peace....an being true to yourself
I want to tell you, no matter what skin you are in , you are a beautiful soul. I watched your video and I found myself wishing I had someone like you in my life. You seem very genuine and that’s so hard to find these days. Keep being you and you can’t go wrong
"The person that I am, regardless of my gender, I am okay with."
This. 1000x, this. 💗💜💗
Don't feel the need to put yourself in a box. From what I can tell, your just a boy that loves to be beautiful. Just because you likje to feel and look pretty doesn't mean you must want to be a girl. You are absolutely beautiful as a boy by the way. I think my son is also a boy that loves pretty things and being pretty. Thanks for making this video. I think that there needs to be more awareness to this. Boys have the right to be beautiful and wear pretty things just as girls do. XOXO
You seem so biased thinking pretty/beautiful only pertains to the female sex. Males can be beautiful too, just in a different way. I'm a woman but your post made me feel uncomfortable about the love for "pretty things" and "being pretty". All those things are really superficial and do NOT define a person, it is simply not good to put too much emphasis on what is really VANITY. There's no such thing for a boy, or girl for that matter, having "the right" to be beautiful, I think even for females to obsess about "pretty things" is rather wrong, how about cultivating deeper values, qualities and spirituality that would help to make the journey through this life more significant not just for the individual but for the whole of humanity thanks to their contribution to it?
As for your first sentence, that is exactly what I was saying. As for the rest of your comment, this video was focused on the topic in which I was commenting on. If this were a video about spirituality, or cultivating deeper values, I would have commented about those things. I most definitely make those things a huge priority in both mine and my children's day to day lives.
It just didn't come across as such, but ok, I get you!
Kristen N . Waow best comment
It's a social thing. Men used to be the ones that wore make up, wigs and heels 'back in the day'. Society goes through trends. Currently we have the women dressing up. In 100 years it could swing back the other way again.
i feel like it might be weird to mention this but i remember you in high school but we weren't in the same grade. it's kinda funny how life works and how i ended up finding your video in my recommendations actually i was kinda shook but i'm glad i watched it bc it gave me some insight on a lot of things. i feel like the cause if it all was the gender roles in society. people like jeffree star wear wigs all the time and other times he dresses up masculine and he labels himself androgynous. without enough education, i feel like some people might pressure themselves into transitioning due to the gender roles in society like for example i know there are a lot of gay men that LOVE wearing wigs and being feminine but in no shape or form do they want to transition and alter their bodies permanently. i'm glad you put the word out there and i'm happy you're doing well!
Kat Sophie hard to believe you
As in "a functioning member"? Enlighten us as to this statement.
Kat Sophie omg I totally agreed ...
Very i sightful...love it
So Much for Privacy Just to Play a Game
Where do they say that in their comment?
I admire you insightful video. It's always sort of a struggle to figure out who and what we are! You are someone who has strength. I'm 67 and trying to understand my grandson's struggles (I support and love him no matter what). Keep on keeping on.
This was so helpful. I am struggling with my decision to start hrt - not being happy with my results. You’re so genuine and captured how I felt. Thank you! ❤️
You are very intelligent for your age. It's interesting to see how you have an awareness of what's right for you. I hope you don’t endure hardships due to your natural effemininaty. I wish you a nice life.
struggles internal and external promote growth in different ways, but most are positive
So essentially you had gender dysphoria, transitioned M to F, but then realized you didn’t want to transition any further. As a result you detransitioned, and have reached the point where you have finally accepted yourself for who you are. Great video. :3
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He didn’t have dysphoria, he talked about that, he said he never felt uncomfortable in his body or like it wasn’t his, he’s just feminine
No he's just a guy that likes girly shit and rather than be told by the society around him that's fine, he was told that means you feel like a girl inside and feel he had to transition. Your SJW bullshit is as destructive as the knuckleheadness of the pre 1980s or the conservative right wing. People are individuals not tags, labels, boxes or groups. Stop trying to define people with idiotic and needless games of identity politics and pointless and arbitrary labels and just realise one simple truth, everyone is different. Everyone is an individual.
He didn't have dysphoria, dysphoria is a feeling of uncomfort, and/or disconnect from ones body, usually genitals although plenty of other body parts can cause dysphoria. He stated that he never felt that uncomfort or disconnect from his body, meaning he didn't have dysphoria, and regardless of what your neighborhood Tumblr would say, you cannot be transgender without having dysphoria. I'm not bashing him, he made an uneducated mistake, it happens to all of us, but that doesn't mean that just because he made that mistake everyone else did the same
Dakota Iris Try and say this to someone who says they're trans, have a "female penis" they are proud of while quoting genetics, dysphoria and articles from SRS trans women, denying biology exists, making womens biology terms "offensive" and deny stereotypes are the issues for most and you get TERF BURN THE WITCH
I am so happy you didnt take the transition further. You are BEAUTIFUL just the way you are. You were a gorgeous girl. But you are a boy....and a pretty one at that! Just be you.
You are such an aesthetically pleasing person as a boy and a girl omg
He looks like a model
lol no
Sushi Chan he really does tho
Not a HF model for sure x
He has the cheekbones and eyelashes.
But not HF enough. Not even commercial. Gosh wtf are you guys smoking on
It's much more acceptable for a girl to be boyish then for a guy to be girly. I can think I can understand why you felt the need to transition in order to do stuff like that.
Miriam Wei well only for a while can a girl act boyish before other women start to question
Nick Jonas Women question all they want but in the end no one cares, girls can do pretty much whatever they want. Boys can literally get beaten in certain neighborhoods if someone just thinks they're gay or feminine.
Nick Jonas nah. I wear a girl's uniform at school and have a super feminine name but look like a 12 y/o boy and act kinda masculine but the worst things I experience are weird looks and confusion
comeback kid i was with the initial comment but have u ever actually met a tomboy / gnc / butch woman ? no one cares and there r no consequences is a pretty big statement to make, especially when its literally... not true....
comeback kid bitch I'm gay and and proud I'm not scared to show it and if someone has a problem with it they can get over it simple
Im happy you love the body that God gave you. Thank u for the video and your honesty.
Thank you for being real and telling your truth....there are a lot of people that feel the way you do but are afraid to come forward for fear of retaliation. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.....your are a beautiful soul
Man, woman...doesn't matter you are fucking gorgeous! Seriously your eyes are mesmerizing. And I absolutely love this video. You do you and 🖕🏽 the haters. Glad you have such an amazing support system 💚
Kayla Burbage ever one do them not to be hard but be cool that's it
This is so important. Thank you for making this video. The number of children that are being referred to gender clinics is skyrocketing and it worries me because these children do not understand what it truly going to happen to them. If someone does not have gender dysphoria, they are NOT transgender. Being transgender in general is the state of having gender dysphoria. Cross-sex hormones are not candy and shouldn't be being given out as easily as they are to minors currently.
Jasmine Vasquez it's as if some people would rather have a trans daughter than a ""feminine"" son, a shame
YES. and when ever you say this people will regard you as transphopic and attacking children, but all we want is to protect children
lol you act like its so easy
Jasmine Vasquez When children are referred to clinics this is accompanied with therapy and family counseling. Medication (mostly hormone blockers for prepubescent children) are not given as candy. Young adults over the age of 18 must also complete a certain number of therapy sessions before being referred to a physician for hormones, this is not an overnight process for a reason. Trans and gender non conforming folks come in all shapes and sizes, some may not ever want to get medication and this is absolutely taken in consideration. I am a therapist who works with LGBTQ teens/young adults who are often exploring their gender identity, and I see many youth who experiment with their identity and may change their mind only slightly. Gender is fluid and ever changing but in my experience if someone is unsure about the transitioning process the professionals working with the individual/family are aware of this and provide even more support. Like I said, it's not easy and overnight for a reason.
thats one person's experience, it doesn't cancel out what a therapist who constantly deals with this knows
I love this! Youre amazing! its so important for people to hear that its ok not to have to choose being one or the other. You can be and feel whoever you want and thats ok! 💕
I can appreciate your honesty and it's encouraging that you can introspect causing u to b true to yourself. It's refreshing to hear u
OMG your eyes are phenomenal!!!! Angel eyes!!!
They are absolutely INCREDIBLE, aren't they? 😍😍😍
Tam Vondayne beautiful eyes 😊
I think you should see "I want my sex back" Documentary on UA-cam. It really reminds me of it, and I think you'd relate to it in certain ways!
Much love from Canada.
I watched that yesterday.
Saw that yesterday
Liane Arandia I’ve watched that documentary
JUST WATCHED THAT YESTERDAY TOO OMYYY
I watched it too!!☺
I am so glad to have discovered you. I am glad you had that experience that brought you to totally acceptance and limpid happiness.
you are amazing it can take years to understand self love and have the courage to follow what feels right for you. respect and admiration.
Humans should not be allowed to be this beautiful.
Yes they should, what are you stupid?
Its a compliment dont you get it
Gracie Reigns 💕 they're a little slow 😛
Leah ikr lmao
he looks like amale
I think this is a big reason why we need to allow young boys to embrace more traditionally feminine things if they'd like to. If they grow up feeling unsure about their gender because they like traditionally feminine things, then they might go further into transition than what this person did, and really regret their choices. People just need to feel accepted no matter what. That requires other people to be accepting though, and unfortunately I believe the world still has a long way to go.
PunkyV you're sick
Erica Shepard Why? 😐
I agree with you
PunkyV k
You think this happens because of toys or TV??Oh no wait it was his friends that made him do it.Nonsesne.Then explain why is this happens in every place on the planet.
I'm happy for you that you truly understand your own truth. That is very important. We are not here for others to understand us. We are here to understand ourselves. This is the hardest thing for us to deal with. We are constantly looking for acceptance for ourselves through other people. This is such a roller coaster. In order to stop the roller coaster ride is to just get off and stand on our own ground. Love ya. Thank you for being who you are and sharing this journey.
You’re such a good ,sweet and smart kid. You really just accepted yourself- or more like embraced yourself with truth. Not too many people actually do that- transgender or otherwise. Please continue being your authentic self.
I think far too many people confuse being uncomfortable in your own skin as being trans. Not being comfortable with who you are does not automatically mean you will be happier if you change yourself. How did the message of "don't change yourself, love yourself" change to, "if you don't love yourself, change yourself" ?
That's why it's dangerous to transition adolescent children due to these feelings of confusion or discomfort. People are becoming less and less okay with a little discomfort every now and then and it creates huge problems in society. I feel so bad for kids these days...
if only society encouraged this more, when your younger, so many people getting plastic surgery and everything about looks and stuff to have. to love yourself as you are is amazing
to love yourself does not always mean that you have to love every aspect of yourself.
I used to really really really hate myself. I hid and was a coward, socially awkward and silent. I felt horrible anxiety when someone called me a woman because it didn't feel right, do I didn't want to talk.
I didn't start to love myself before I came out as transgender. I have not changed anything about myself, except that I have accepted the way I feel. I have not transitioned (yet). But the thing is I was trying to change the way that I feel, tried to convince myself that I was a woman. Until I finally stopped trying to change the way that I feel and accept myself as the trans guy I am and FUCK I LOVE MYSELF
Totally agreee I think that many people who have transitioned aren't even transgenders
He was NOT uncomfortable in his own skin though. That was the point
You have the most mesmerizing eyes I think I’ve ever seen!!!
Kevstter Man ...does it count that I thought I might really die today from taking a painful shit? (lol - true story!) Seriously though, I sat there for an entire hour, almost passed out 3 times from the pain, and could barely walk back to bed since my legs were like jello! So, are you happy enough with that (me painfully shitting shit), or do you still want me to actually die too?
I do have a genuine question for you though while I’m at it, cause I also noticed you made hateful comments to a lot of the other commenters... They likely won’t waste their time bothering with all the trolls they encounter like I am right now, and since I’m relatively new to commenting, I’m genuinely curious as to what makes people like you tick? Like, why must I be verbally abused simply for paying a stranger a compliment? I’ve never met the guy in this video, never even seen him before or watched his videos prior to this one, I don’t know his name and I’m not a subscriber to his channel either... I got to this video because it was suggested after the last suggested video I watched. Me complementing his eyes certainly doesn’t mean that I agree or disagree with him or condone or condemn his lifestyle, as I’m in absolutely no place to judge anyone, especially the life of someone I’ve never even met before! The only thing I could deduce from watching it is that it sounds like this guy has really been through hell & back at such a young age (and in my honest opinion he has some of the bluest & most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen). If you’re that much of a snowflake though that you can’t even stand for someone to be complemented, then I’d suggest you leave UA-cam ASAP to work on your mental health... and maybe also get a job... and while you’re at it, also formulate a plan to get moved out of your mom’s basement... Here’s something else for you to ponder while you embark on your daily trolling: It is possible to be a kind and decent human being, if for no other reason than attempting to care for someone more than yourself-even when that someone is a stranger. Having a shred of empathy works too, which is as simple as imagining yourself in someone else’s shoes and reminding yourself that “there but for the grace of God, go I”. Though not in the Bible itself, it is one of the oldest & best lessons to be learned from a belief in God & in His sovereignty (though now you’ll probably tell me to eat shit & die for bringing my beliefs into things too). The moral to this story? I urge you to try showing love & spreading kindness for once instead of wasting your life away by trolling people you don’t even know... and as for hatred? It really will rot you from the inside out and you’ll die all alone & unloved, without a single miserable person who can stand to be in your presence... except for maybe all the other lonely trolls out there... 😜
Thanks they're transplants, I got them out of an American Girl doll :)
Guitarguy someone’s jealous / salty because he will NEVER have anybody tell him he’s handsome 😩🤷🏻♀️I love it when haters cry and start bitchin , it’s music to my ears
I'm so glad you didn't mutilate yourself and then it be too late
Yup...it happens
transitioning isn't mutilation.
@@toomanynumbers3182 you mean because it makes trans people happy?
toomanynumbers yes it is , sexual mutilation is defined as cutting or removal of sexual organs
bishes be mad That’s a dumbass statement for multiple reasons. First of all, it’s transphobic, which is already dumb enough, it’s 2019, we exist, get over it. Also, have you seen every single trans woman on this planet? Exactly, not every trans woman looks like that one sad old trans woman that you saw that one time at the grocery store. There are a fuckton of of drop dead gorgeous trans women out there. Do your research before you decide to be a dumbass, please come prepared next time
It is wonderful to hear from a young man who has really done some soul searching and evaluating who he is. Thank you for your honesty. Am hopeful that you will have a positive influence on others. Thank you.
aaaand that's why doctors need to diagnose the actual gender dysphoria before having any right to prescribe hormones for someone. It's a solution for people with actual mental state of gender dysphoria, not just "aahhhh I love/am interested in things that are stereotypically not of my gender soooo I guess imma girl now"
and this is also why trans activists should stop pushing their agenda on kids and teens, their bodies are not developed yet and hormones can harm them, and besides, almost every teen kinds hates their body at some point.
Congrats to you boyee for figuring things out for urself, you can do whatever the heck you want in the way of expressing urself, it doesn't make you less of a boy (which is just a biological fact and actually doesn't mean anything)
Chase Kyō There is a reason...read Alice Bailey's 10 points list.
Hermy Frances I completely agree with you on that.
Generally speaking, doctors are supposed to diagnose a patient with gender dysphoria first and then have them go through months of therapy before being allowed to transition. This is generally the ethical way of going about things. I wonder what the doctor was thinking. All of that said, most of the effects of hormones are reversible once you stop taking them, depending on how long you've been on them before. (P.S. I'm a med student planning on going into psychiatry or endocrinology)
NO hormones are given to teenagers or kids. Those "hormones" are called hormone blockers which actually slow down the arrival of puberty, thus it means NOT changing the body.
Hermy Frances - I just wonder how many more people are going through this, the transitioning and de-transitioning... Kids are inherently impressionable and growing up on the Internet, they're surrounded by the "trans movement" I guess you could say. When I was a kid, I was a tomboy. I grew up with 2 brothers and I liked playing with mud instead of barbies. Having cuts, bruises & stitches from being rough (but also clumsy lol). I didn't like wearing dresses or getting dressed up. Nowadays, would I think of myself as Transgender ? I don't know. All I know is: I don't want kids, teenagers, or anyone in general to have to go through what the dude in the video went through...
This guy made me feel like 101928% better about this ENTIRE TRANSGENDER SITUATION!
THANK YOU for helping me understand just a little bit better at least. Very logical smart beautiful person. Wish you the best!
You are a smart man. I'm happy that you actually thought about your feelings and understood that you can be you while still being you. I'm also happy to hear that you thought about the higher power. People don't think about that anymore and do things that we probably shouldn't (so many things in life not related to this video). But I'm happy for you
Wow, I really appreciate your sincerity. Personally, I have struggled with loving and accepting myself and feeling that I have no community and it is good to hear from other genuine people.