Nice to see other parents supporting their child. Your son's experience sounds alot like my son, he's a UA-camr, Sam Collins. Came out to me as FTM at age 15 (5 years ago). I felt the same emotions you explained..shocked, thought it may be a phase. Hard saying"she" now, and like you said. IT DOES GET EASIER and BETTER. Sam is so happy now, and before was depressed, an introvert, etc. Keep up your great attitude & support for your child!
I'm a trans man and I guess I "found out" about me being transgender at the age of 15, and I'm about to turn 17. The past year has been the most stressful to me and I think it's because my parents don't know. I'm afraid that if I tell them I'll just be even more heart broken because of their reaction. You're a wonderful mother and I wish all parents were as accepting as you are!
I wish all parents were accepting too. The world is getting more accepting as a whole. There are groups on Facebook you can join to at least have some support right now. Don't give up! You can make it through. Just be kind to yourself and take care if yourself until you can support yourself and transition.
+Mystic Faery thank you, coming from an accepting adult that means a lot, I have a few other trans friends that are older that really help me out as well. but I'll definitely be reaching out to more groups. thanks!
+Leo Huffman I'm so glad to hear you have some support at least. My heart aches when I think that teams kids are alone and dealing with all these feelings. You are a beautiful perfect soul stuck in the wrong body. I believe that your brave soul chose this life to change the perception of the planet. Transgender people and allies are here to change the world. Love is love. People are people. We are changing beliefs and stigmas everyday. You'll see, in 10 years it'll be a much better environment. 💜 I hope that you take to heart that you are a valuable and beautiful person. You are worth taking care of. You are worthy of love and you will be happy when you can be your true self. Just hang in there.
Hugs! If you need community, there are trans groups on Facebook. I have found there are a lot of loving and good people who will support and be there for you! You're not alone!!
I would really like to join some of thought groups can you tell me the links to them? also do you have any advice for my parents they are very religious and think that transgenderism is an "abomination" :( they also can't separate gender from sex they think that this is the same as being gay....
+Amanda Taylor facebook.com/groups/1499586606970903/ You can try this one but I don't know what the requirements for getting in are since it is a secret group.
I wish my mom would support me in my FtM transition... You did a very good explanation and I will show this to my mother, maybe she'll understand better. :) Thank you for making this video.
The wisest thing I've heard today. I'm not even transgender, I'm just a Finnish gay guy, but I definitely support trans people. It's sad to see how even in the LGBT+ community, I've heard a lot of gay people be against trans people. If every other parent was like this, our world would be so much better. This was a great video.
my mom kicked me out for being transgender. she said she was sorry and took me back in but refuses to accept me. i came out to her when i was 12 and now i’m 17. you’re truly the kind of person i wish my mom was and i wish you and your son the best in the future 💜
I am so sorry. I didn't see this sooner. I hope that you're okay and you're doing well as an adult now. You're not alone. I hope you found your tribe!! Hugs.
@@mistifaery my life is now better than i could've ever asked for or expected. i really appreciate your kind words, i'll never forget how much your video impacted me as a teenager :)
I'm so sorry I missed one of the "troll" posts. I thought I deleted them all. I am sending love and acceptance to all of you. Don't listen to ignorant people. You are beautiful and deserve love and acceptance. Be true to you!!! 💜😘
I'm a transgender male (pre-T) this made me so happy to see u support ur son I wish my family would support me but thank u for this video I'm going to show my mom tomorrow
Malaki's Vid's I hope it has been a good few months. Sorry it took so long to respond. Life gets in the way sometimes. 😁I hope she is supportive and you are doing well.
Misti, you are such a wonderful mother, I wish more mothers were like you (people too). Your son is so fortunate to have you as his mother. It is so wonderful to see/hear moms like you speak up and be supportive of their trans children. I hope all is well with you and your children. I hope they understand how amazing and strong their mother is for being supportive. Like you said no one would ever chose to be trans, this life is so hard and painful. I wish my mother was more like you, my greatest wish in this world is for my mom to accept me as her daughter and not look at me with disgust and hatred. What, I think makes being trans so difficult is not society not accepting you but its your parents rejecting you. For your own mother to call you an abomination that is going to hell and to say you can never be a woman and look at you as is you are the most disgusting thing on the planet is so incredibly difficult and painful. Hopefully society will change for the better soon so no child has to feel rejected by ignorance.
Katherine Andrews, I cried when I read this. I want to hug you and tell you how beautiful you are. You are exactly who you're meant to be. You are so brave and strong. You are living your truth. I am so sorry your mother is so lost in fear and judgement. Send her love from a distance and try to soften her heart. Don't let her karma be yours. She has to learn to love unconditionally. You are not an abomination. Don't let that haunt you. You are a bearer of change and of light. The transgender people of this planet are here to change the world. Make it less patriarchal and more loving. You are here for a purpose. I know it's so hard to be different. I am "weird" and freak people out with my love and light metaphysical stuff, but I'm also happier than they have ever been because I am true to myself. The power of living your truth scares people. Scares people who just follow and a are sheeple. It takes an insane amount of courage to be authentic. You are amazing. I'm so proud of you for living your truth! I'm sending so much love to you. I'll send love to your mother and hopefully her heart will soften. Until then, guard your own heart from that and keep living your life and being true to you. In the end, it's all about what you did do, for yourself, for others and how much you loved. Don't let her steal your love! Hugs. Stay strong.
Thank you replying Misti. I also cried when I wrote my comment, during your video and when I read your reply. To know that there are mothers out there like you is so wonderful. A sad thing about my situation with my parents is that I am both trans and lesbian so I get hit with both transphobia and homophobia. Along with questions like if you like girls why don't you just stay living as a guy. I tried so hard to be a boy and live by their standards but the longer I played the role the more suicidal I became. I will always love my mother but she puts her religious and conservative views ahead of me which broke my heart. She always told me that I could do/be whatever I wanted in life but little did I know that meant only if I approve. Occasionally she will make comments like she wishes she had had a daughter and I am like, I am right here but she refuses to see me. I have been thinking I might have to leave the area or state for a while so we can be apart and let her heart come around to loving me again. I'll always keep the door open to her but I don't know if she will ever put me ahead of her beliefs.
Katherine Andrews I think that you need to do what you are comfortable with and follow your heart. You know what's best for you. The crazy thing is, people claim to follow Jesus's teachings, but they conveniently forget he preached love and acceptance for every one. I will never understand that. I am sending love and acceptance and joy. 💜💜💜
Awe thank you so much. You are such an amazing woman and mother. I have been really struggling and your replies along with your video have really helped me from being so down.
As someone who's transgender and has a lot of friends who are trans, you are being an amazing parent! Me and even some of my friends know from experience how much it hurts to be misgendered, and your son is lucky to have such an amazing and supportive mother!
I’m super lucky to have such an amazing kid. All my boys are amazing. I now have two trans sons and a cis son. I’m super blessed. Also the LGBTQA+ community is beautiful and supportive. I’m great full I get to be a part of it in my own way as well. 🥰
If this is an ongoing thing or was in your son's transition, was it easy to get him the medical assets he may want or need? (testosterone or something of that sort for example)
Do you have any advice for a trans male who’s family is very christian and anti lgbt? I came out and they stopped talking to me though I still live at home :(
Thank you for being a supportive parent. I knew that I was 'different at the age of about 5 or 6 (this is way back in 1950), but very little was known (or spoken) about it way back then. At the age of 7 Christine Jorgensen made headlines across the world when she transitioned and suddenly I realised that it was possible to be 'born in the wrong body'. I struggled throughout my childhood but tried to live to other's expectations of me - resulting in depression and two suicide attempts. I did finally come out at the age of 27 and my mother was incredibly supportive. Since then I have lived a very happy life (I am now 78) - so now in my twilight years I can look back with absolutely no regrets in peace and harmony with myself and my decision all those years ago. I wish your son exactly the same in his life too.
I'm trans and so is my sibling. They just came out and my Dad is struggling but he's getting there and he loves them. It was scary at first but now I feel a bit safer, and it's nice to see loving parents. :)
Miss, you cannot believe how much this video as helped me. I am a Transmale. I'm planning on using this video to help my parents when I finally come out. Thank you, thank you so much! Your son is so lucky to have a great parent such as you! ^•^
I'm so sorry I didn't respond sooner. I just realized I had more comments. I hope it's going well for you! Hugs. If your parents need to talk or you want any support, I'm here!!
4 weeks ago I came across this viedo and sent it to my parents I came out to them. SCARIEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE. But they took it well. I came back to this video to say thanks I have told 5 people they all exept me. I habe kinda a binder my mother thinks that "binders break ribs and are damgerous" but I mean a makeshift sports bra binder works. But uh thanks so much and hood luck to anyone who is coming out or transitioning.
NotSoOP TaterTot this makes me so happy. So much love to you on your journey. It gets easier. Hugs. This is fabulous. Thank you for sharing. You made my day!!! 😁💜
So I dont know if you have heard of GC2B.. but if you need to get a safe binder, I would go this route. I am a 19 year old ftm transgender, and this company helped me so much! Their packages are very discreet. Noone will even know that it is a binder. Please do not use ace bandages or tape, that is not safe to bind with. You could even use KT tape or they even make trans tape to bind with.. the KT tape is a cheaper option and is better than using an ace bandage and the good thing about it is your mom probably will not even know that is what you want it for. Stay strong!
Thank you. This was soo comforting. Your story is similar to mine, 12 year old daughter, my oldest came out a week ago. We talked again tonight and it’s becoming apparent this is not a phase. I found your video at the most needed time. Again thank you
skylala9 This makes my heart so happy. I am so excited for you and your son. It is a crazy journey, but your support is so life changing for him. You will see it’s not losing a daughter, but the evolution of your child into who he truly is. If you need support there are Support groups for parents of transgender kids on Facebook. You will see you’re not alone and seasoned parents will help you too. We are three years into this journey and it’s calm and normal. As normal as a teenager can be. Lol. It will get easier and you will both be happier.
Thank you for putting your experience with having a kid that’s trans out there, I’m trans and I’m going through a few of the things that your son has went through before coming out so I can see how he felt. He’s not alone! And you are a great mother for being there for him and helping him on his journey
I'm 19 and recently came out. My moms trying and even the occasional slip up tears me apart. You honestly explained what I go through better than I can and I hope hearing this changes her perceptive. Thanks for posting this
Thank you for this. My mother says she is accepting, however... she doesn’t acknowledge it. She completely ignores the fact that I came out to her, and it really hurts because I trusted her and now I don’t. It’s so hard to come to the one you’re supposed to love and trust and go to for everything but then... nothing. You get nothing. No love, no trust, you get nothing back. She ignores everything. TL;DR: Thank you for making this. I’m going to show this to my mom in the hopes it’ll change something.
Thank you. Unfortunately, my grandparents wont let me transition even socially. They wont let me bind and i was crying all night worried i may never be able to transition. They have said i can get some boys clothes but they "wont put a sock in my pants". They said theyre not going to change me, but this IS who I am. This IS me. I just hope that, within time, they can understand that and that i am depressed because I cant be myself. Im depressed, god im about to cry just writing this, but im still hopeful. My name is Devin, i am 13 years old, i am ftm transgender, and im just hopeful i can be myself. Thank you so much for this video. Ill send this to my family. Thank you so much
Thank you so much for the message. I´m from Peru, where the support of any kind towards the LGBT is seen as something wrong. Even tho i´m not transgender i do like to know theres people like you that fight for a better world. Thank you again.
Thank you!! That is so kind! I would too!! I'd love to see more accepting and loving people all over the world! This presidential election has me worried for the future of my country!
I'm came across this video while searching. I'm a transgender male and i haven't told my parents yet. I want to send this to them to help me tell them I wish everyone was as accepting as you you are a great parent. ❤💛💚💙💜
(Oh wait i dont think i made the first two words right I was assigned a female but I am a male wow how can i even do that. Btw I really relate to your son because I am 13 and he reminds me so much of me and thus video has given me strength but I had to correct the first part)
NotSoOP TaterTot I knew what you meant. 😊I’m so glad it’s helping you! Stay strong. You’re exactly who you are supposed to be. Hugs! The world is changing for the better!
My daughter also came out as trans when she was 12. And now I have a handsome 13(his bday was soon after coming out) year old son. Your story very much mirrors my own. We're about 6 months in. Unfortunately we are in a smaller town a have almost zero support. Could you possibly link some resources you think would help. I want to help him the best I can. Thanks in advance.
I just shared this with my mom, and I'm hoping that she watches it!!! I love how you go into better detail than I could. I know right now she's super scared, and doesn't quite understand what being trans is.
I wish I could have a parent like you. It has been five years since you made this video but it's still so actual and can help. You really helped me with some feelings inside of me. Every your word is so important . Thank you so much-
Thank you for putting something like this on UA-cam. This has helped me to have more hope in myself, and has given me more strength to be able to tell my own mother. People like yourself just always make life that much brighter, even in a time when everything is dark. I wish both you and your son only the best, and do keep on doing the good deeds you do. Again, thank you so much for helping me even indirectly.
I personally think this is a wonderful video. I wish there were more videos like this, from accepting parents to parents who are just finding out. I think this will be one of the resources I show my parents when I'm ready to tell them. Thank you for making this. :)
Ur son is literally me I went from depression and anxiety and anger to loving myself and being a happy and goofy child, totally going to send this to my dad since he has a hard time dealing with me being trans, I came out a little over four months ago
You're doing an excellent job. Video's from parents are deeply valuable not only to other parents, but society as a whole. Please continue your series.
Kudos to you for being such a supportive mother. Back in my day transgender was maybe used once during my childhood, on an episode of Donahue, and even then the trans-masculine people were unheard of, my therapist had to explain to me what the term even meant. I'm glad that there is so much more representation of both trans men and trans women bringing awareness to our youth so they aren't as confused as I once was growing up. People have told me that it is a lonely road. It is lonely, although I have been able to become my best company, which many people don't get that opportunity. Many following the herd without a second thought. As you probably know the first ever trans march is March 31st. 2019 in Washington D.C. Spread the word!!! There's power in numbers.
One thing that bothers me so much is that my mom supports my boyfriend (ftm transgender). But she refuses to accept me. Calls me mental. Claims she knows me better, and that I'm just doing this for attention. My dad, for a while, supported me to my face. But talked against me behind my back. Recently, he keeps talking against it and bringing it up a lot and it makes me feel so awful. At least I can seek support from school peers. I wish I had parents like you. I really do.
Trevor Dillon, hugs. I hope they cone around, but in the mean time, take care of you! Be kind to yourself. Parents make mistakes out of fear. Fear of what others will think. Fear of the unknown. Fear your life will be harder. Maybe therapy? Therapists can help you communicate with them in a constructive way. I'm sending lots of love and good juju.
as a transgender woman myself, thank you for posting this video, i just found this as i was browsing youtube, too often i hear or read of parents that push their kids into therapy to "correct" the childs thoughts and such regarding being transgender. I can assure you that it was never a choice for me, i knew when i was a young child just as your son did but when i first came out, it was received with so much negativity that i retreated back to the closet where i stayed for the next 30+ years. Thank you for supporting your son in his journey and for being a real ally to the transgender community.
I run into more and more trans, a gender and gender fluid people all the time. I'm hoping that by being truly accepting, kind and loving it makes a small difference in their lives.
@Melissa Carmon. I thought I replied. Maybe it didn't post. Sorry about that. You are so very welcome. I am so blessed to know so many beautiful souls who are LGBTQAP, I feel very blessed to know so many brave and honest people, who bare their souls and stay true to who they are. It's a blessing to me as well. 💜
transnerdboy we can change the world. We can show them by being good people and with love. We have to be the example and the change. The world is getting better. After the election things will settle down. Stay strong and be kind to the people who don't understand (yet).
It's amazing to see parents who support, want to understand, and stick with their LBGT+ kids. It's really inspirational to see you and to know that not everyone loses their family or is forced to chose between personal happiness and their family or friends.
Yes! My son is thriving. He’s upset about all of the anti trans regulations lately in different states (so am I), but for himself as an individual, he’s living life. In college, living on his own and working. Now it’s more about what career he wants after college, where he wants to move to where he’ll feel the safest. I think normal 20 something concerns. Trying to find his place in the world as an adult human. I hope your daughter is doing well!
Thank you for being kind to your boy. It is important for parents to know they are not alone. Questions that they may have, it helps to talk about it. Support from family is key to their confidence as adults. Thank you for being an Allie. Thank you.
People are afraid of the unknown. But these are our kids and deserve our love and support. When my grandson came out we all gave him our love and support even though we didn't fully understand but with time and understanding comes acceptance. Hope everything is working out for you and your son.
David Harris that makes my heart so happy!! And, yes, they absolutely do!! My son is doing well. We are starting to look at colleges. He is happy and loved. 💜
I keep rewatching this and it just makes me so happy how supportive you were and are for your son. It makes me happy to see at least some trans people are in great, loving, and caring hands. I'm also ftm and have absolutely no support. I came out two years ago and my parents pushed it away and said it was a phase and to make matters worse they decided it was in everyone's best interest to excessively call me 'beautiful' 'pretty' and feminine words and call me by my full birth name (like for example Alexandria instead of Alex). They're super religious and against anything LGBT and anything I stand for because I was always the 'rebellious' child... but I'm just happy your son is able to thrive and be himself. I know what it's like when you aren't and that's a very dark path my parents love to ignore.
Abraxas Z my heart hurts for you. I also feel sorry for your parents. They have no idea what they're doing to you, or that they're pushing you away. I hope you know that there are a lot of people who will love and accept you for who you really are, not who they want you to be. Hold on and remember, people do care and accept you!!! 💜
We need more people in the world like you. How you responded to your sons transition is exactly what is needed. You are human and it’s ok to go through motions but now you guys are an inspiration and dream for most people in this situation with their families. Thank you for this video
thank you so much for making this video. I'm trans ftm and I want to come out to my mom soon but she is very ignorant to the whole topic so I think this video will really help her understand. :)
That makes my heart so unbelievably happy!!! I hope it helps. Thank you for telling me. It's why I did it. It's why I advocate. I am sending you so much love and good juju!!! I hope it goes well. You are exactly who you are meant to be and live your truth. The right people will support you!!! I support youn 💜💜💜😉😊
Thanks for making this video, I'm going to show it to my mum because she's having a bit of a hard time understanding that I'm trans. It will be good for her to see something from the perspective of another parent :)
As someone who's a trans male at the age 16, this makes me so happy to know that there are parents who accept their child for who they are, even if they are confused about it all, they still give love and support to their child. Thank you for making this, I'll probably end up sending this to my parents.
It’s been 8 years. I now have two trans sons now and They’re both healthy, happy and living their best life. You will find your people. My son has made a community (he’s 20 now) around him as well as his family. You have a whole life of love ahead of you.
She will or she won't, but her understanding has no bearing on how happy you can be. I hope she can see how much happier you are or will be living your truth. If her beliefs blind her to it, there's not a lot you can do. Be kind, but don't hide yourself to make anyone else happy. Life your truth. Find your tribe and be proud of you!!! :)
I wish more parents were like you, my mom thinks that by not kicking me out she is somehow supportive but cant admit she has a son after my SEVEN YEARS of being out to her. Thats one long phase if you ask me lol. Being around her is really hard but knowing people do have such great support systems is heart warming
Hugs. You will find your people and she may never come around, but you have to live your truth. I'm not saying disown her, just find people who accept you and love you exactly how you are. They are out there. You will have that!!
Wow this is.... amazing. You explain everything in detail and Its just soooo good! Im questioning my gender a LOT right Now and Im trying to find a video to help me coming out and this is just perfect! Thank you ❤️
THANK YOU MOM, your AMAZING. Came out to my Mom two years ago, and I was scared to death when she shut down for three days, then called me up said I love you your my daughter and i'm proud your my daughter, and she gave me my name that I now love. And as I've wrote in past comments, that, if i had a choice, if could back to the womb or have wish, it would have been to be a girl, but thats not how it worked out, but, I love whom i am and now i feel %100 percent better as a person and woman. My friends my family say we loved you, but not girl, you so much more amazing and wonderful to be around. I've got enough strength not to need to have validation, though it is amazing, and would just suggest as she says or reiterates, just show respect and love and let others know that it is not okay not to show respect and harm one another. This is not a choice, this is not a phase or a fad, I felt this way my whole life but never had someone whom said its okay or told me it was okay for me to feel different then everyone else. Honestly, I don't, Nor have i ever understood sports, but i get that others do, and so much else that isn't me, but i respect it cause its what you like and makes you, you, so just do the same in reverse. For instance , I love art and i love the natural, so i'd rather go spend my time going to a botanical garden or up in the mountains looking at flowers, then sitting in a stadium watching some guy nock their balls around, but thats just me and i have friends whom do enjoy that and we respect one another. We are all individuals and we all deserve love and respect, as a transgender adult, but also as my mother would say your my child no matter how old, having your parents love and respect is one of the grates gifts and feeling of confidence as a parent you can give your child. So thanks again mom for being so amazing and to all mothers out there whom love your child regardless whom they are and choose to be.
My son just came out to me last summer . It has been so difficult for all I do is cry, Its slowly getting better however its just difficult for me to understand. In high school he had girlfriends went to dances always had b day parties with friends In high school .I was always worried because he was always depressed. So he says he has always known and felt this way was just afraid to say anything.I hope that I will be able to talk to other parents and know that I am not alone.
You aren't alone. First, start with pronouns. Use the ones your child prefers. That's the first step. Listen to your chid's heart. Listen not to fix, not to respond, to hear. That's where you will find healing. You are the one person in the entire world that your child needs the most, to understand. Be that person. Be that mother. Otherwise you will lose your child. It's not a death, it's a rebirth. My son is now 20 and he's so happy and healthy and in college living his best life. He would be dead, he's told me so, if I hadn't supported and loved him in the way he needed. It doesn't matter what you need in this situation, it matters what your child needs. If you are struggling, please reach out to the many Parents of Transgender parenting groups on Facebook. They are there for you as well. You are not alone. Don't let your child be alone with this either. You want your child in your life, I am sure. Love unconditionally and with your whole heart. No matter what your spiritual views, people are born the way they are for a purpose. It may not be clear today, but it will be. Help your child live their purpose. Hugs. Huge hugs.
My twelve-year-old came out to me a couple weeks ago. I wasn't super surprised because a couple years ago they had freaked out pretty bad when discussing puberty and menstruation. I told him that I loved and supported him and asked what I could do to support him through this. It went really well until last night when he decided to come out to his mom. It didn't go well at all. She laughed at him and refused to listen and ended up telling him that she would always call him her baby girl. He is staying with me now and I feel a bit overwhelmed. I am relieved to hear it will get better because right now it seems so bad.
My child came out to me at 12 years old as well. He is now 17 and I only really started hearing him recently. It has been a rough few years for me because I had my second child when my son was 12 and the delivery doctor destroyed my body and then the first surgeon who was supposed to fix it completely botched my surgery. I've had 3 major surgeries since and also a hysterectomy, and post partum depression and must walk with a cane all as a result of the Obgyn who was in a hurry to clock out. Also in the years since, I have lost all of my teeth and then my Dad to a heart attack a year ago. So to the point, I did not hear my son when he told me he was a boy because I was too wrapped up in a major depression. As a result my son has not gotten the attention he needed and also suffered depression. I didn't not support him but I also didn't support him. At first I thought it was a phase and I also feared it being true because I was afraid of him being hurt by people. Instead I'm the one that's hurt him. But now I'm trying to quickly learn the things I need to do and say to give my full support. I don't care that my child is transgender, I love love love him and I just want him to have happiness. My sons sister just turned 5. She is very sweet and accepting of anything but I don't know how to explain to her that her sister is a boy and how to tell her that she needs to call her sibling bubby now instead of sissy. I wish I had listened before because my son has had to suffer being called sissy everyday and I didn't know how damaging that was. I myself had avoided using any pronouns at all, which wasnt any better either. So I need to tell my 5 year old, I'm just not sure how to explain it. She has asked why her sibling changed her name. I am hoping I might get some good advice on here where people know more about it than I do. I don't know how I didn't see this all, especially having been bisexual my whole life and having a few transgender friends. My Bff's dad has a sex change to a female and I was a part of it all. I thought I was woke but I see now I was still napping.
Krystal Shepherd sorry I didn’t respond sooner. I just saw this. All you can do is your best. You can do it. You can be the mother he needs. Your younger child will totally follow your lead. Hugs. Check out Facebook groups for parents of transgender kids.
Hi, thanks for this. My 16yr old came out to me 5 months ago. Like you, having previously being supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, I had a moment of thinking is this to test my principles of acceptance? She knew that she was safe coming out to me thankfully. Likewise, I had always worried about her - she never seemed completely at ease with her peer group, seemed withdrawn & unable to be herself or ‘himself’ as we thought then. Under lockdown her hair started falling out & within a year had lost every hair on her head & body. That was at 14 / 15 so she withdrew even more from the outside world. It set her back, probably just at the time she was starting to explore her identity - she was trying to grow her hair long which was, now that I look back, probably the first indications of ‘her’ emerging. She asked for a wig, a lovely wavy auburn mid length one. When it arrived & she put it on, it was like…there’s my kid smiling & showing her personality again. This is her first Xmas as her authentic self & though I still go up & down the rollercoaster of emotions, we are much closer & happier now. She can even see the silver lining with the Alopecia U as she doesn’t have facial hair to deal with or body hair. Thanks for being inspiring & I agree, it does get easier. Early on I didn’t know what to do with my memories. Kept thinking ‘he’ & feeling guilty for midge during her but that was keeping in a cycle of guilt. Now I think I have accommodated that part enough to stop beating myself up for my thoughts. I call her my little hatchling - my daughter who was simply hatching for 16 yrs. she chose her new name but has kept her birth name as her second name as she loves it & it is not gender specific. So far everyone family, friends, school, neighbours have all been supportive - we’re in Ireland, but the healthcare here is a joke. There’s a 3 to 4yr waiting list with the National Identity Service which she can only be referred to when she turns 17 in January. That news has been devastating to her. We have her though, we will support her all along the way & are so proud of our unique child who has already withstood more than most adults.
I love this. Thank you for sharing. You supporting her and accepting her, saved her life. Plain and simple. You are a wonderful and loving parent. I’m so grateful you shared your story with me. Not every family is as supportive and accepting. I celebrate you and your daughter for working together and being a loving family. I hope you know that putting the happiness of your child above all else is the most precious gift you could give her. Happy Christmas and I hope 2023 is full of love and new experiences that help you both find even more love and joy!
You are an amazing mother :-) I love how caring and open you are :-D A parent who is accepting means the world to a transgender person. I am so appreciative to have had my father, he was accepting from the moment I came out and I truly believe he saved my life, I wouldn't be here if it weren't for his love and acceptance. My mom on the other hand spews hate and 11 years later she's still tells me I'm an abomination, I'm going to hell and tries to perform exorcism's an pray "it" out of me (in her defence she is schizophrenic, but it still hurts). Thank you for showing how much you care :-)
Ashleigh Labadie Thank you! I am sorry to hear about your mom. Mine was crazy, so I understand what you mean. It still hurts. You want your mother to be a loving and, well, motherly. It's hard when they aren't. It took me years to come to terms with it, but I did. Now, it's just part of a story that is my past, not my present. I'm so so so happy to hear your dad is accepting and loving. I can't imagine not loving my son, he is such a fabulous human being. He is so much happier now too. It's a pleasure to see how far he's come. He's just like any other goofy teenager and that is a blessing for sure. I am sure your dad feels the same way about you. 💜😊
As a trans man myself, my parents are still coming to terms with it. I came out this weekend after hiding and slowly discovering it for a year. Luckily I go to a liberal arts high school that is super super lgbtq+ friendly. All my teachers are so supportive and all my friends (only a couple of people don't really support me but youre always gonna have that, right?) but unfortunately my mom doesn't want to use my pronouns. It hurts. But seeing moms like you make my day brighter. I'm ready for my journey and I hope your son is ready for his because ours isnt easy. Even though times have progressed a lot, like you said there are people who purposefully misgender and bully us. Anyhoo you are an amazing mom!
+Jackson Schneider I am sending good vibes. If you come out, ask them to watch the video, hopefully that will help all of you. Hugs. You are a brave and beautiful soul.
This is amazing, I'm going to show this to my dad and ask him to show my mom, cause I'm 12, and I just came out today, and it didn't go good, my mom DOSENT accept but my dad dose, but he won't call me male pronouns and Jack. My parents don't really support lgbtq, but they still love the gay family and stuff, so hopefully this will change how my parents think
@Mr. Jack, I'm sorry it took me so long. I was getting ready for a faire. I hope things are better this week. Tell them to check out the Parents of Transgender Children on Facebook.
Nice to see other parents supporting their child. Your son's experience sounds alot like my son, he's a UA-camr, Sam Collins. Came out to me as FTM at age 15 (5 years ago). I felt the same emotions you explained..shocked, thought it may be a phase. Hard saying"she" now, and like you said. IT DOES GET EASIER and BETTER. Sam is so happy now, and before was depressed, an introvert, etc. Keep up your great attitude & support for your child!
Sheila J. Thank you. Happy to hear another positive family story!👏🏻💜💜💜
Sheila J. I love Sam's videos, they help so much. My parents watched some of his videos recently before I started transition :)
Sheila J. Gosh I hope my mom is like you! ^-^
OMG he is such a good youtuber
I didnt expect to see you here, just came from that video! You did an amazing job ma'am!
Sent love to all of you who have commented. Thinking of you.
I'm a trans man and I guess I "found out" about me being transgender at the age of 15, and I'm about to turn 17. The past year has been the most stressful to me and I think it's because my parents don't know. I'm afraid that if I tell them I'll just be even more heart broken because of their reaction. You're a wonderful mother and I wish all parents were as accepting as you are!
I wish all parents were accepting too. The world is getting more accepting as a whole. There are groups on Facebook you can join to at least have some support right now. Don't give up! You can make it through. Just be kind to yourself and take care if yourself until you can support yourself and transition.
I wish I could do more to help you. You're not alone, reach out to a group. Hugs.
+Mystic Faery thank you, coming from an accepting adult that means a lot, I have a few other trans friends that are older that really help me out as well. but I'll definitely be reaching out to more groups. thanks!
+Leo Huffman I'm so glad to hear you have some support at least. My heart aches when I think that teams kids are alone and dealing with all these feelings. You are a beautiful perfect soul stuck in the wrong body. I believe that your brave soul chose this life to change the perception of the planet. Transgender people and allies are here to change the world. Love is love. People are people. We are changing beliefs and stigmas everyday. You'll see, in 10 years it'll be a much better environment. 💜 I hope that you take to heart that you are a valuable and beautiful person. You are worth taking care of. You are worthy of love and you will be happy when you can be your true self. Just hang in there.
Transgender not teams kids. I should read before I hit post lol.
Adopt me
💜 I would if I could. Hugs.
Misti Faery 😄
It's called Parents of Transgender Children. Thank you for commenting! 💜👍
Do you think that I should come out to my parents at age 12? Please tell me I'm worried about telling them to early or to late
Jackson Schneider don't come out until it's safe and you feel ready. Don't feel pressured to do it.
The Transmato I’m 12 and literally gonna come out to my parents within the next hour!
wish my parents were like you. they do not understand they are extremely religious and just dont get it.
Hugs! If you need community, there are trans groups on Facebook. I have found there are a lot of loving and good people who will support and be there for you! You're not alone!!
I would really like to join some of thought groups can you tell me the links to them? also do you have any advice for my parents they are very religious and think that transgenderism is an "abomination" :( they also can't separate gender from sex they think that this is the same as being gay....
+Amanda Taylor facebook.com/groups/1499586606970903/ You can try this one but I don't know what the requirements for getting in are since it is a secret group.
+Amanda Taylor Asher knows his stuff. I'm sorry, I just saw your comment. I hope you're doing well! If you need a sympathetic ear, I am here!
Alexis Taylor same 😔
I wish my mom would support me in my FtM transition...
You did a very good explanation and I will show this to my mother, maybe she'll understand better. :) Thank you for making this video.
I really hope it helps!! Hugs, you're so strong. Try to find a local lgbt group. It helps so much! ❤️💛💚💙💜
Hey bro, hope you’ve been able to transition in at least some way, if not just try to keep positive, you’ll get there someday
This. This will be the video I show to my parents.
I hope it helps!!! Hugs and so much support!! 💜💜💜
Btw, I LOOOOOOVE Doctor Who and Sherlock!
whoop whoop!
just thought the same thing lol
The wisest thing I've heard today. I'm not even transgender, I'm just a Finnish gay guy, but I definitely support trans people. It's sad to see how even in the LGBT+ community, I've heard a lot of gay people be against trans people. If every other parent was like this, our world would be so much better. This was a great video.
Thank you! It means a lot to me!
This video itself means a lot to the LGBT+ community. Thank you for sharing this with us
I cry each time I watch this. Your son is so lucky to have you as a mother.
Sol Gonzalez thank you. I feel really lucky to have him as a son. 💜
You and your son should make a video together ❤️
Emily's Madrigal we are thinking about it.
Emily's Madrigal it's in the works as I type this!!
You should!!
my mom kicked me out for being transgender. she said she was sorry and took me back in but refuses to accept me. i came out to her when i was 12 and now i’m 17. you’re truly the kind of person i wish my mom was and i wish you and your son the best in the future 💜
I am so sorry. I didn't see this sooner. I hope that you're okay and you're doing well as an adult now. You're not alone. I hope you found your tribe!! Hugs.
@@mistifaery my life is now better than i could've ever asked for or expected. i really appreciate your kind words, i'll never forget how much your video impacted me as a teenager :)
@@littlesquid8364 That makes my heart so happy!! You deserve to be happy and have a great life! I am sending so much love to you.
I'm so sorry I missed one of the "troll" posts. I thought I deleted them all. I am sending love and acceptance to all of you. Don't listen to ignorant people. You are beautiful and deserve love and acceptance. Be true to you!!! 💜😘
parents should really avoid using their birthname as much as possible too. try to use their chosen name they will feel so good
I know this video is almost 3 years old but i'm so happy your child has a parent like you.
Jakob Rose thank you. I’m happy to have a kid like him.
“I’m a Gemini so I talk a lot” 😂😂😂
I'm a transgender male (pre-T) this made me so happy to see u support ur son I wish my family would support me but thank u for this video I'm going to show my mom tomorrow
Malaki's Vid's I hope it has been a good few months. Sorry it took so long to respond. Life gets in the way sometimes. 😁I hope she is supportive and you are doing well.
We need more parents like you in the world :)
Thank you!! I hope there are more too!!
Misti, you are such a wonderful mother, I wish more mothers were like you (people too). Your son is so fortunate to have you as his mother. It is so wonderful to see/hear moms like you speak up and be supportive of their trans children. I hope all is well with you and your children. I hope they understand how amazing and strong their mother is for being supportive. Like you said no one would ever chose to be trans, this life is so hard and painful. I wish my mother was more like you, my greatest wish in this world is for my mom to accept me as her daughter and not look at me with disgust and hatred. What, I think makes being trans so difficult is not society not accepting you but its your parents rejecting you. For your own mother to call you an abomination that is going to hell and to say you can never be a woman and look at you as is you are the most disgusting thing on the planet is so incredibly difficult and painful. Hopefully society will change for the better soon so no child has to feel rejected by ignorance.
Katherine Andrews, I cried when I read this. I want to hug you and tell you how beautiful you are. You are exactly who you're meant to be. You are so brave and strong. You are living your truth. I am so sorry your mother is so lost in fear and judgement. Send her love from a distance and try to soften her heart. Don't let her karma be yours. She has to learn to love unconditionally. You are not an abomination. Don't let that haunt you. You are a bearer of change and of light. The transgender people of this planet are here to change the world. Make it less patriarchal and more loving. You are here for a purpose. I know it's so hard to be different. I am "weird" and freak people out with my love and light metaphysical stuff, but I'm also happier than they have ever been because I am true to myself. The power of living your truth scares people. Scares people who just follow and a are sheeple. It takes an insane amount of courage to be authentic. You are amazing. I'm so proud of you for living your truth! I'm sending so much love to you. I'll send love to your mother and hopefully her heart will soften. Until then, guard your own heart from that and keep living your life and being true to you. In the end, it's all about what you did do, for yourself, for others and how much you loved. Don't let her steal your love! Hugs. Stay strong.
Thank you replying Misti. I also cried when I wrote my comment, during your video and when I read your reply. To know that there are mothers out there like you is so wonderful. A sad thing about my situation with my parents is that I am both trans and lesbian so I get hit with both transphobia and homophobia. Along with questions like if you like girls why don't you just stay living as a guy. I tried so hard to be a boy and live by their standards but the longer I played the role the more suicidal I became. I will always love my mother but she puts her religious and conservative views ahead of me which broke my heart. She always told me that I could do/be whatever I wanted in life but little did I know that meant only if I approve. Occasionally she will make comments like she wishes she had had a daughter and I am like, I am right here but she refuses to see me. I have been thinking I might have to leave the area or state for a while so we can be apart and let her heart come around to loving me again. I'll always keep the door open to her but I don't know if she will ever put me ahead of her beliefs.
Katherine Andrews I think that you need to do what you are comfortable with and follow your heart. You know what's best for you. The crazy thing is, people claim to follow Jesus's teachings, but they conveniently forget he preached love and acceptance for every one. I will never understand that. I am sending love and acceptance and joy. 💜💜💜
Awe thank you so much. You are such an amazing woman and mother. I have been really struggling and your replies along with your video have really helped me from being so down.
Katherine Andrews I hope you're having a better week. 💜
As someone who's transgender and has a lot of friends who are trans, you are being an amazing parent! Me and even some of my friends know from experience how much it hurts to be misgendered, and your son is lucky to have such an amazing and supportive mother!
I’m super lucky to have such an amazing kid. All my boys are amazing. I now have two trans sons and a cis son. I’m super blessed. Also the LGBTQA+ community is beautiful and supportive. I’m great full I get to be a part of it in my own way as well. 🥰
Hey peeps. My son and I are planning a question and answer and want to know what you want to know!! Comment below. I'd love to hear from you!
Misti Faery how did he figure out and come to terms with the fact that he is trans?
If this is an ongoing thing or was in your son's transition, was it easy to get him the medical assets he may want or need? (testosterone or something of that sort for example)
Do you have any advice for a trans male who’s family is very christian and anti lgbt? I came out and they stopped talking to me though I still live at home :(
everyone deserves a mother like you
Thank you for being a supportive parent. I knew that I was 'different at the age of about 5 or 6 (this is way back in 1950), but very little was known (or spoken) about it way back then. At the age of 7 Christine Jorgensen made headlines across the world when she transitioned and suddenly I realised that it was possible to be 'born in the wrong body'.
I struggled throughout my childhood but tried to live to other's expectations of me - resulting in depression and two suicide attempts. I did finally come out at the age of 27 and my mother was incredibly supportive.
Since then I have lived a very happy life (I am now 78) - so now in my twilight years I can look back with absolutely no regrets in peace and harmony with myself and my decision all those years ago.
I wish your son exactly the same in his life too.
I'm trans and so is my sibling. They just came out and my Dad is struggling but he's getting there and he loves them. It was scary at first but now I feel a bit safer, and it's nice to see loving parents. :)
He will get there. Huge hugs. I’m so glad you feel safer. That’s important!!
Miss, you cannot believe how much this video as helped me. I am a Transmale. I'm planning on using this video to help my parents when I finally come out. Thank you, thank you so much! Your son is so lucky to have a great parent such as you! ^•^
I'm so sorry I didn't respond sooner. I just realized I had more comments. I hope it's going well for you! Hugs. If your parents need to talk or you want any support, I'm here!!
+kingoftheweaboos how did it go for you? I am sorry it took so long to get back. I didn't realize I had notifications. Lol.
4 weeks ago I came across this viedo and sent it to my parents I came out to them. SCARIEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE. But they took it well. I came back to this video to say thanks I have told 5 people they all exept me. I habe kinda a binder my mother thinks that "binders break ribs and are damgerous" but I mean a makeshift sports bra binder works. But uh thanks so much and hood luck to anyone who is coming out or transitioning.
NotSoOP TaterTot this makes me so happy. So much love to you on your journey. It gets easier. Hugs. This is fabulous. Thank you for sharing. You made my day!!! 😁💜
So I dont know if you have heard of GC2B.. but if you need to get a safe binder, I would go this route. I am a 19 year old ftm transgender, and this company helped me so much! Their packages are very discreet. Noone will even know that it is a binder. Please do not use ace bandages or tape, that is not safe to bind with. You could even use KT tape or they even make trans tape to bind with.. the KT tape is a cheaper option and is better than using an ace bandage and the good thing about it is your mom probably will not even know that is what you want it for. Stay strong!
thank you so much for making this video and being such a great ally. i'm a trans guy and seeing videos like this really brightens my day
Jr T Thank you for being you. Thank you for living your truth and being the change! We are making the world better everyday by being authentic!
Thank you. This was soo comforting. Your story is similar to mine, 12 year old daughter, my oldest came out a week ago. We talked again tonight and it’s becoming apparent this is not a phase. I found your video at the most needed time. Again thank you
skylala9 This makes my heart so happy. I am so excited for you and your son. It is a crazy journey, but your support is so life changing for him. You will see it’s not losing a daughter, but the evolution of your child into who he truly is. If you need support there are Support groups for parents of transgender kids on Facebook. You will see you’re not alone and seasoned parents will help you too. We are three years into this journey and it’s calm and normal. As normal as a teenager can be. Lol. It will get easier and you will both be happier.
Hugs to you. You can do this!!
Thank you for putting your experience with having a kid that’s trans out there, I’m trans and I’m going through a few of the things that your son has went through before coming out so I can see how he felt. He’s not alone! And you are a great mother for being there for him and helping him on his journey
I am just seeing this. I hope you're doing well. Hugs to you!!
I'm 19 and recently came out. My moms trying and even the occasional slip up tears me apart. You honestly explained what I go through better than I can and I hope hearing this changes her perceptive. Thanks for posting this
Ryder Young You are so very welcome. Hugs. It gets better. She'll get it. 💜😊
Thank you for this. My mother says she is accepting, however... she doesn’t acknowledge it. She completely ignores the fact that I came out to her, and it really hurts because I trusted her and now I don’t. It’s so hard to come to the one you’re supposed to love and trust and go to for everything but then... nothing. You get nothing. No love, no trust, you get nothing back. She ignores everything.
TL;DR: Thank you for making this. I’m going to show this to my mom in the hopes it’ll change something.
Hugs. I hope it’s gotten better.
Thank you for being such an amazing mom 🎉 I'm a trans girl myself and I love hearing about people like you being supportive
Thank you. Unfortunately, my grandparents wont let me transition even socially. They wont let me bind and i was crying all night worried i may never be able to transition. They have said i can get some boys clothes but they "wont put a sock in my pants". They said theyre not going to change me, but this IS who I am. This IS me. I just hope that, within time, they can understand that and that i am depressed because I cant be myself. Im depressed, god im about to cry just writing this, but im still hopeful. My name is Devin, i am 13 years old, i am ftm transgender, and im just hopeful i can be myself. Thank you so much for this video. Ill send this to my family. Thank you so much
DevinCriesSometimes Give them time. Have hope. You WILL get to live your truth at some point. Stay strong and don't give up. Hugs. So many hugs!!!
Thank you so much for the message. I´m from Peru, where the support of any kind towards the LGBT is seen as something wrong. Even tho i´m not transgender i do like to know theres people like you that fight for a better world. Thank you again.
Thank you! I want more than anything to help make the world better for all LGBTQAP people.
What an honorable mother you are! Would love to see more people like you in my country!
Thank you!! That is so kind! I would too!! I'd love to see more accepting and loving people all over the world! This presidential election has me worried for the future of my country!
I'm came across this video while searching. I'm a transgender male and i haven't told my parents yet. I want to send this to them to help me tell them I wish everyone was as accepting as you you are a great parent. ❤💛💚💙💜
NotSoOP TaterTot I am sending lots of good vibes. I hope they are accepting and open. Hugs.
Misti Faery Thanks alot we can only hope
(Oh wait i dont think i made the first two words right I was assigned a female but I am a male wow how can i even do that. Btw I really relate to your son because I am 13 and he reminds me so much of me and thus video has given me strength but I had to correct the first part)
NotSoOP TaterTot I knew what you meant. 😊I’m so glad it’s helping you! Stay strong. You’re exactly who you are supposed to be. Hugs! The world is changing for the better!
My daughter also came out as trans when she was 12. And now I have a handsome 13(his bday was soon after coming out) year old son. Your story very much mirrors my own. We're about 6 months in. Unfortunately we are in a smaller town a have almost zero support. Could you possibly link some resources you think would help. I want to help him the best I can. Thanks in advance.
Parents of Transgender Children on Facebook.
I'm so glad. You're supportive!! 😊👏🏻💜
+Nathan James x3 you're so sweet. Thank you!
+Mystic Faery you're welcome x3 i feel like if you would be someone i could be friends with lol. x3
I just shared this with my mom, and I'm hoping that she watches it!!! I love how you go into better detail than I could. I know right now she's super scared, and doesn't quite understand what being trans is.
Dallas Brookes sending lots of good vibes and love!
I wish I could have a parent like you. It has been five years since you made this video but it's still so actual and can help. You really helped me with some feelings inside of me. Every your word is so important . Thank you so much-
You'll find your family. The one you choose. Hugs and so much love!! I hope they come around.
Thank you for putting something like this on UA-cam. This has helped me to have more hope in myself, and has given me more strength to be able to tell my own mother. People like yourself just always make life that much brighter, even in a time when everything is dark. I wish both you and your son only the best, and do keep on doing the good deeds you do. Again, thank you so much for helping me even indirectly.
DJ Shadowfire I just saw this. I am sending you tons of love and good juju!!! Thank you so much. It helps to hear that I've helped, even a little.
wow this made me cry, I'm going to show this to my parents.
Hugs!!! I hope it helps. My son and are going to do an updated video.
There need to be more parents like you in the world. I'm sure your son is very grateful.
Thank you. He is. We are close.
You have touched my heart in the most amazing way. I loved every single thing that you had to say
I needed to read this today. Thank you!! That's what my hope is, to help others. It's all about unconditional love.
I needed to read this today. Thank you!! That's what my hope is, to help others. It's all about unconditional love.
I think its wonderful how you support your child!! many people dont!! Your support is highly appreciated!!
I personally think this is a wonderful video. I wish there were more videos like this, from accepting parents to parents who are just finding out. I think this will be one of the resources I show my parents when I'm ready to tell them. Thank you for making this. :)
Kiyoshi Tanaka I'm so glad I could help you. Even in a small way. Sending lots of love.
Ur son is literally me I went from depression and anxiety and anger to loving myself and being a happy and goofy child, totally going to send this to my dad since he has a hard time dealing with me being trans, I came out a little over four months ago
You're doing an excellent job. Video's from parents are deeply valuable not only to other parents, but society as a whole. Please continue your series.
MsMsmak thank you. I am planning on it! Thank you for the support.
Kudos to you for being such a supportive mother. Back in my day transgender was maybe used once during my childhood, on an episode of Donahue, and even then the trans-masculine people were unheard of, my therapist had to explain to me what the term even meant. I'm glad that there is so much more representation of both trans men and trans women bringing awareness to our youth so they aren't as confused as I once was growing up. People have told me that it is a lonely road. It is lonely, although I have been able to become my best company, which many people don't get that opportunity. Many following the herd without a second thought.
As you probably know the first ever trans march is March 31st. 2019 in Washington D.C. Spread the word!!! There's power in numbers.
One thing that bothers me so much is that my mom supports my boyfriend (ftm transgender). But she refuses to accept me. Calls me mental. Claims she knows me better, and that I'm just doing this for attention. My dad, for a while, supported me to my face. But talked against me behind my back. Recently, he keeps talking against it and bringing it up a lot and it makes me feel so awful. At least I can seek support from school peers. I wish I had parents like you. I really do.
Trevor Dillon, hugs. I hope they cone around, but in the mean time, take care of you! Be kind to yourself. Parents make mistakes out of fear. Fear of what others will think. Fear of the unknown. Fear your life will be harder. Maybe therapy? Therapists can help you communicate with them in a constructive way. I'm sending lots of love and good juju.
Misti Faery Thank you very much! I hope they eventually come around. Until then, I'll definitely focus on myself. Thanks for the good vibes!
Rhea, that makes my heart so happy!!! We all deserve to live our authentic selves. Hugs and love to you!!!!!
Thank you so much for posting this. I think I'll send this to my mom and see if she can finally understand.
I so hope it helps!! 💜💜💜
Big props to you. You sound like a great mother. Wishing you and yours nothing but the best
Same to you. Thank you 🥰
i’m using this and a few other videos to come out to my parents as ftm. thank you for this video. thank you.
high on infinity yay! I am sending lots of love and good juju!
as a transgender woman myself, thank you for posting this video, i just found this as i was browsing youtube, too often i hear or read of parents that push their kids into therapy to "correct" the childs thoughts and such regarding being transgender. I can assure you that it was never a choice for me, i knew when i was a young child just as your son did but when i first came out, it was received with so much negativity that i retreated back to the closet where i stayed for the next 30+ years. Thank you for supporting your son in his journey and for being a real ally to the transgender community.
I run into more and more trans, a gender and gender fluid people all the time. I'm hoping that by being truly accepting, kind and loving it makes a small difference in their lives.
@Melissa Carmon. I thought I replied. Maybe it didn't post. Sorry about that. You are so very welcome. I am so blessed to know so many beautiful souls who are LGBTQAP, I feel very blessed to know so many brave and honest people, who bare their souls and stay true to who they are. It's a blessing to me as well. 💜
+Mystic Faery haha. I used blessed a lot, but it's true. My life is better because of this community.
Thank you ♥️♥️ Just what we needed to hear as we are beginning this journey with our child. ❤️❤️
Stephanie Barclay I hope it’s gotten easier. We are doing a follow video up this week.
you are so wonderful, as a parent and a person overall. as a transman, i wish there were more people and parents like you.
transnerdboy we can change the world. We can show them by being good people and with love. We have to be the example and the change. The world is getting better. After the election things will settle down. Stay strong and be kind to the people who don't understand (yet).
I'm sending this video to my mom. It's so powerful that she might understand.
I honestly wish my mom cared about me like you care about you son, you're a great mom, keep being awesome and never change!
Levi Is A God hugs. I hope your mom comes around, but if she doesn’t, find your tribe. They’re out there!
This is great. I really need to send this to my parents, you’re so calm and reasonable in this video, 👏
Antigone hugs. I hope it goes well. Sending lots of love.
thank you for making this I'm just starting to come out and this is what I really needed today
Jack Anderson, thank you. I needed to hear that too. I am grateful I can help, even in a small way. Sending support and love.
It's amazing to see parents who support, want to understand, and stick with their LBGT+ kids. It's really inspirational to see you and to know that not everyone loses their family or is forced to chose between personal happiness and their family or friends.
Ranma Rojira I hope that this video helps parents, so the kids/adults don't ever have to deal rite that.
I'm a parent of a trans woman. You took the words right out of my mouth. Any updates in the past 8 years?
Yes! My son is thriving. He’s upset about all of the anti trans regulations lately in different states (so am I), but for himself as an individual, he’s living life. In college, living on his own and working. Now it’s more about what career he wants after college, where he wants to move to where he’ll feel the safest. I think normal 20 something concerns. Trying to find his place in the world as an adult human. I hope your daughter is doing well!
This is so good! Thank you. Gonna show this to my parents
Kole The Man Hugs! I’m sending lots of good vibes. 💜
Misti Faery, thank you so much!
Thank you for being kind to your boy. It is important for parents to know they are not alone. Questions that they may have, it helps to talk about it. Support from family is key to their confidence as adults. Thank you for being an Allie. Thank you.
Misty, can I link your video to one of mine that deals with Parents and their transgender "kids"?
Jossie Chavez yes, absolutely.
Jossie Chavez it’s my pleasure
People are afraid of the unknown. But these are our kids and deserve our love and support. When my grandson came out we all gave him our love and support even though we didn't fully understand but with time and understanding comes acceptance. Hope everything is working out for you and your son.
David Harris that makes my heart so happy!! And, yes, they absolutely do!! My son is doing well. We are starting to look at colleges. He is happy and loved. 💜
I keep rewatching this and it just makes me so happy how supportive you were and are for your son. It makes me happy to see at least some trans people are in great, loving, and caring hands. I'm also ftm and have absolutely no support. I came out two years ago and my parents pushed it away and said it was a phase and to make matters worse they decided it was in everyone's best interest to excessively call me 'beautiful' 'pretty' and feminine words and call me by my full birth name (like for example Alexandria instead of Alex). They're super religious and against anything LGBT and anything I stand for because I was always the 'rebellious' child... but I'm just happy your son is able to thrive and be himself. I know what it's like when you aren't and that's a very dark path my parents love to ignore.
Abraxas Z my heart hurts for you. I also feel sorry for your parents. They have no idea what they're doing to you, or that they're pushing you away. I hope you know that there are a lot of people who will love and accept you for who you really are, not who they want you to be. Hold on and remember, people do care and accept you!!! 💜
I hope one day my parents are like this, thank you for being like this
Asher can make a pun I hope they can too. You are perfect just the way you are and I’m sending a ton of love to you.
This woman is such a great mother. You can tell how much she adores her baby. She just loves her child.
Deyana Clark thank you. I really do. I wish everyone loved their kids unconditionally.
We need more people in the world like you. How you responded to your sons transition is exactly what is needed. You are human and it’s ok to go through motions but now you guys are an inspiration and dream for most people in this situation with their families. Thank you for this video
thank you so much for making this video. I'm trans ftm and I want to come out to my mom soon but she is very ignorant to the whole topic so I think this video will really help her understand. :)
That makes my heart so unbelievably happy!!! I hope it helps. Thank you for telling me. It's why I did it. It's why I advocate. I am sending you so much love and good juju!!! I hope it goes well. You are exactly who you are meant to be and live your truth. The right people will support you!!! I support youn 💜💜💜😉😊
Thanks for making this video, I'm going to show it to my mum because she's having a bit of a hard time understanding that I'm trans. It will be good for her to see something from the perspective of another parent :)
I hope it's gone well, hugs!!!
God Bless You! If only more parents and people were as accepting as you! Love God! Love Others! The 2 Greatest Commandments!
You did a great job on explaining this I haven’t came out yet and I’m nervous about it
Dog Might, hugs. I am sending tons of good juju to you.
Your such a good mom.❤️
Julia Iudice thank you. I wish all parents were.
Thank you so much for this. I'm going to show it to my parents when I come out
Thank you so much for sharing your experience!
As someone who's a trans male at the age 16, this makes me so happy to know that there are parents who accept their child for who they are, even if they are confused about it all, they still give love and support to their child. Thank you for making this, I'll probably end up sending this to my parents.
It’s been 8 years. I now have two trans sons now and They’re both healthy, happy and living their best life. You will find your people. My son has made a community (he’s 20 now) around him as well as his family. You have a whole life of love ahead of you.
thank you :)
i hope that one day my mother will understand as you do
She will or she won't, but her understanding has no bearing on how happy you can be. I hope she can see how much happier you are or will be living your truth. If her beliefs blind her to it, there's not a lot you can do. Be kind, but don't hide yourself to make anyone else happy. Life your truth. Find your tribe and be proud of you!!! :)
I wish more parents were like you, my mom thinks that by not kicking me out she is somehow supportive but cant admit she has a son after my SEVEN YEARS of being out to her. Thats one long phase if you ask me lol. Being around her is really hard but knowing people do have such great support systems is heart warming
Hugs. You will find your people and she may never come around, but you have to live your truth. I'm not saying disown her, just find people who accept you and love you exactly how you are. They are out there. You will have that!!
Wow this is.... amazing. You explain everything in detail and Its just soooo good! Im questioning my gender a LOT right Now and Im trying to find a video to help me coming out and this is just perfect! Thank you ❤️
I should have my mom watch this.. You are so awesome I hope you and your family are happy
Thank you!! We are! I hope your mom is supportive!!! 💜
THANK YOU MOM, your AMAZING.
Came out to my Mom two years ago, and I was scared to death when she shut down for three days, then called me up said I love you your my daughter and i'm proud your my daughter, and she gave me my name that I now love. And as I've wrote in past comments, that, if i had a choice, if could back to the womb or have wish, it would have been to be a girl, but thats not how it worked out, but, I love whom i am and now i feel %100 percent better as a person and woman. My friends my family say we loved you, but not girl, you so much more amazing and wonderful to be around. I've got enough strength not to need to have validation, though it is amazing, and would just suggest as she says or reiterates, just show respect and love and let others know that it is not okay not to show respect and harm one another. This is not a choice, this is not a phase or a fad, I felt this way my whole life but never had someone whom said its okay or told me it was okay for me to feel different then everyone else. Honestly, I don't, Nor have i ever understood sports, but i get that others do, and so much else that isn't me, but i respect it cause its what you like and makes you, you, so just do the same in reverse. For instance , I love art and i love the natural, so i'd rather go spend my time going to a botanical garden or up in the mountains looking at flowers, then sitting in a stadium watching some guy nock their balls around, but thats just me and i have friends whom do enjoy that and we respect one another. We are all individuals and we all deserve love and respect, as a transgender adult, but also as my mother would say your my child no matter how old, having your parents love and respect is one of the grates gifts and feeling of confidence as a parent you can give your child. So thanks again mom for being so amazing and to all mothers out there whom love your child regardless whom they are and choose to be.
thank you, just got my surgery date, dreams do come true for sure and there is magic to be found in this reality, have a wonderful evening.
Your mother sounds like a wonderful woman. Hugs and so happy for you!!
Holy crap she's EXACTLY like my older cousin. If she becomes a parent, she will be just like her! Also great video!
Thank you. 🥰
My son just came out to me last summer . It has been so difficult for all I do is cry, Its slowly getting better however its just difficult for me to understand. In high school he had girlfriends went to dances always had b day parties with friends In high school .I was always worried because he was always depressed. So he says he has always known and felt this way was just afraid to say anything.I hope that I will be able to talk to other parents and know that I am not alone.
You aren't alone. First, start with pronouns. Use the ones your child prefers. That's the first step. Listen to your chid's heart. Listen not to fix, not to respond, to hear. That's where you will find healing. You are the one person in the entire world that your child needs the most, to understand. Be that person. Be that mother. Otherwise you will lose your child. It's not a death, it's a rebirth. My son is now 20 and he's so happy and healthy and in college living his best life. He would be dead, he's told me so, if I hadn't supported and loved him in the way he needed. It doesn't matter what you need in this situation, it matters what your child needs. If you are struggling, please reach out to the many Parents of Transgender parenting groups on Facebook. They are there for you as well. You are not alone. Don't let your child be alone with this either. You want your child in your life, I am sure. Love unconditionally and with your whole heart. No matter what your spiritual views, people are born the way they are for a purpose. It may not be clear today, but it will be. Help your child live their purpose. Hugs. Huge hugs.
Wish this person was my mother. So supportive and accepting. ❤️
xSarcasticSavagex hugs. I wish she was too. Stay strong and find people who do support you to help you through.
this helped me out a lot thank you
silence5674321 yay. Hugs!!
im totally gonna show my mom this cus i think it will help her with everything going on with me
If she needs support I'm here, also there are great support groups online.
My twelve-year-old came out to me a couple weeks ago. I wasn't super surprised because a couple years ago they had freaked out pretty bad when discussing puberty and menstruation. I told him that I loved and supported him and asked what I could do to support him through this. It went really well until last night when he decided to come out to his mom. It didn't go well at all. She laughed at him and refused to listen and ended up telling him that she would always call him her baby girl. He is staying with me now and I feel a bit overwhelmed. I am relieved to hear it will get better because right now it seems so bad.
I’m so sorry I missed this. I started a new career about the time you posted and I was exhausted. How is it now? You are a fabulous dad. Keep it up.
you should post more this is amazing.
Thank you. We are planning on it!
My mom isn't supportive at all
Ur child is lucky to have you ❤
So tempted to send this to my mum, but I don’t know. Thanks for this.
My child came out to me at 12 years old as well. He is now 17 and I only really started hearing him recently. It has been a rough few years for me because I had my second child when my son was 12 and the delivery doctor destroyed my body and then the first surgeon who was supposed to fix it completely botched my surgery. I've had 3 major surgeries since and also a hysterectomy, and post partum depression and must walk with a cane all as a result of the Obgyn who was in a hurry to clock out. Also in the years since, I have lost all of my teeth and then my Dad to a heart attack a year ago. So to the point, I did not hear my son when he told me he was a boy because I was too wrapped up in a major depression. As a result my son has not gotten the attention he needed and also suffered depression. I didn't not support him but I also didn't support him. At first I thought it was a phase and I also feared it being true because I was afraid of him being hurt by people. Instead I'm the one that's hurt him. But now I'm trying to quickly learn the things I need to do and say to give my full support. I don't care that my child is transgender, I love love love him and I just want him to have happiness. My sons sister just turned 5. She is very sweet and accepting of anything but I don't know how to explain to her that her sister is a boy and how to tell her that she needs to call her sibling bubby now instead of sissy. I wish I had listened before because my son has had to suffer being called sissy everyday and I didn't know how damaging that was. I myself had avoided using any pronouns at all, which wasnt any better either. So I need to tell my 5 year old, I'm just not sure how to explain it. She has asked why her sibling changed her name. I am hoping I might get some good advice on here where people know more about it than I do. I don't know how I didn't see this all, especially having been bisexual my whole life and having a few transgender friends. My Bff's dad has a sex change to a female and I was a part of it all. I thought I was woke but I see now I was still napping.
Krystal Shepherd sorry I didn’t respond sooner. I just saw this. All you can do is your best. You can do it. You can be the mother he needs. Your younger child will totally follow your lead. Hugs. Check out Facebook groups for parents of transgender kids.
Hi, thanks for this. My 16yr old came out to me 5 months ago. Like you, having previously being supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, I had a moment of thinking is this to test my principles of acceptance? She knew that she was safe coming out to me thankfully. Likewise, I had always worried about her - she never seemed completely at ease with her peer group, seemed withdrawn & unable to be herself or ‘himself’ as we thought then.
Under lockdown her hair started falling out & within a year had lost every hair on her head & body. That was at 14 / 15 so she withdrew even more from the outside world. It set her back, probably just at the time she was starting to explore her identity - she was trying to grow her hair long which was, now that I look back, probably the first indications of ‘her’ emerging. She asked for a wig, a lovely wavy auburn mid length one. When it arrived & she put it on, it was like…there’s my kid smiling & showing her personality again. This is her first Xmas as her authentic self & though I still go up & down the rollercoaster of emotions, we are much closer & happier now. She can even see the silver lining with the Alopecia U as she doesn’t have facial hair to deal with or body hair.
Thanks for being inspiring & I agree, it does get easier. Early on I didn’t know what to do with my memories. Kept thinking ‘he’ & feeling guilty for midge during her but that was keeping in a cycle of guilt. Now I think I have accommodated that part enough to stop beating myself up for my thoughts. I call her my little hatchling - my daughter who was simply hatching for 16 yrs. she chose her new name but has kept her birth name as her second name as she loves it & it is not gender specific. So far everyone family, friends, school, neighbours have all been supportive - we’re in Ireland, but the healthcare here is a joke. There’s a 3 to 4yr waiting list with the National Identity Service which she can only be referred to when she turns 17 in January. That news has been devastating to her. We have her though, we will support her all along the way & are so proud of our unique child who has already withstood more than most adults.
I love this. Thank you for sharing. You supporting her and accepting her, saved her life. Plain and simple. You are a wonderful and loving parent. I’m so grateful you shared your story with me. Not every family is as supportive and accepting. I celebrate you and your daughter for working together and being a loving family. I hope you know that putting the happiness of your child above all else is the most precious gift you could give her. Happy Christmas and I hope 2023 is full of love and new experiences that help you both find even more love and joy!
@@mistifaery thank you, it’s a hard road but so rewarding in terms of the closeness & trust gained.
You are an amazing mother :-) I love how caring and open you are :-D A parent who is accepting means the world to a transgender person. I am so appreciative to have had my father, he was accepting from the moment I came out and I truly believe he saved my life, I wouldn't be here if it weren't for his love and acceptance. My mom on the other hand spews hate and 11 years later she's still tells me I'm an abomination, I'm going to hell and tries to perform exorcism's an pray "it" out of me (in her defence she is schizophrenic, but it still hurts). Thank you for showing how much you care :-)
Ashleigh Labadie Thank you! I am sorry to hear about your mom. Mine was crazy, so I understand what you mean. It still hurts. You want your mother to be a loving and, well, motherly. It's hard when they aren't. It took me years to come to terms with it, but I did. Now, it's just part of a story that is my past, not my present. I'm so so so happy to hear your dad is accepting and loving. I can't imagine not loving my son, he is such a fabulous human being. He is so much happier now too. It's a pleasure to see how far he's come. He's just like any other goofy teenager and that is a blessing for sure. I am sure your dad feels the same way about you. 💜😊
As a trans man myself, my parents are still coming to terms with it. I came out this weekend after hiding and slowly discovering it for a year. Luckily I go to a liberal arts high school that is super super lgbtq+ friendly. All my teachers are so supportive and all my friends (only a couple of people don't really support me but youre always gonna have that, right?) but unfortunately my mom doesn't want to use my pronouns. It hurts. But seeing moms like you make my day brighter.
I'm ready for my journey and I hope your son is ready for his because ours isnt easy. Even though times have progressed a lot, like you said there are people who purposefully misgender and bully us.
Anyhoo you are an amazing mom!
Thank you
I feel such a connection to you.
Thank you this video helped me to be brave of coming out (have not done it yet but hope I will soon)
+ 1 sub :)
+Jackson Schneider I am sending good vibes. If you come out, ask them to watch the video, hopefully that will help all of you. Hugs. You are a brave and beautiful soul.
+Mystic Faery thank you
+Mystic Faery but do you know what age I should come out? (I'm 12 btw)
+Jackson Schneider it's not something I can tell you. It's when you are ready. If you think your parents will be receptive... I hope they are!!! 💜💜💜
Thank you💗
This is amazing, I'm going to show this to my dad and ask him to show my mom, cause I'm 12, and I just came out today, and it didn't go good, my mom DOSENT accept but my dad dose, but he won't call me male pronouns and Jack. My parents don't really support lgbtq, but they still love the gay family and stuff, so hopefully this will change how my parents think
@Mr. Jack, I'm sorry it took me so long. I was getting ready for a faire. I hope things are better this week. Tell them to check out the Parents of Transgender Children on Facebook.
Back in my day they were called 'Emos' and they grew out of it
I hope my parents are like you when I come out as Ftm. I'm thinking of doing it soon.
blockkids I hope they are too. Maybe this video will help.
Omg you sound like Hannah Hart!
Great video!
thomase13 thank you. Who’s Hannah Hart? Lol.