Unsupportive Parents | FTM

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  • Опубліковано 7 бер 2017
  • need advice?? email: sjcadvice@gmail.com
    (response isn't promised but i try my hardest)
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  • @Ash-uw4jc
    @Ash-uw4jc 7 років тому +627

    Dude, with the color of his walls, his bed and his shirt he made the trans flag lol, love you sam

  • @mszoeexx
    @mszoeexx 7 років тому +894

    Not sure if this was on purpose, but the blue walls, the white bedsheets, and Sam's pink shirt make this video look like a transgender flag and I love it. Anyway, love you Sam, and this is an awesome, powerful video.

  • @SupraMan38
    @SupraMan38  7 років тому +616

    i tried my hardest to give you guys the best advice so let me know if there's anymore questions u have! ilu

  • @wrenfinnelan5928
    @wrenfinnelan5928 7 років тому +665

    My family claims to be supportive, especially my Mom, but they aren't. They are those types of "supporters". I still get called by female pronouns and by my birth-name. I still get called "girl". A slip now and then would be fine, but they have not made a single effort to acknowledge it. When I came out to my Dad, (very nice man, pretty much the only parent that really matters to me for very personal reasons) he just said, "You shouldn't rush into this." I told him I knew ever since I was 6, I've thought through it ever since I was 12. I finally recently accepted this when I was 16. I'm now 17, going to be 18 at the end of September of this year. My Grandma said she didn't care what my Sexual Orientation is, which has nothing to do with my gender identity. When I came out to my Mom (sobbing and having a breakdown) she was going on and on about how she supports me and everything. But I can't get a binder, because I could hurt myself, and surgery isn't really on a good note with her. At first, she kind of cared. She talked with an LGBT group counselor at a school nearby and said, "My daughter is Transgender." I wish she said Son. Mom later kept rambling to me about how she wanted me to get into a support group, and I really wanted that because 1. I am severely depressed, and have been for many many years now (my Mom being a huge reason) and 2. I don't have many friends and 3. I am in an anti-LGBT small town. My Mom hasn't done anything, and it's been 4 months.

  • @jrrobinhood9791
    @jrrobinhood9791 7 років тому +305

    I'm trans ftm but I haven't gone through any hormones for surgeries so I'm still living as a girl Im absolutely terrified to come out to my mum so this kinda helped but idk how to deal with anger and lectures

  • @elliotaltman3108
    @elliotaltman3108 7 років тому +75

    My mom says that she's supportive of me (I'm ftm) but she keeps putting off getting me a binder even though I've offered to pay and such. She says that she won't call me He/Him until I come out to my whole family who for the majority are very homophobic and transphobic.

  • @OddBoyy
    @OddBoyy 7 років тому +306

    it's been 6 years since I first came out to my mom. I don't think my mom will ever accept me. (she's a Christian lady) 😢 I'm on T and have my name changed. I'm working on getting top surgery before my 20th birthday

  • @angeloeyes9210
    @angeloeyes9210 5 років тому +53

    My mom says she's supportive when she really isn't. "Don't get surgery it could be dangerous." "Don't take hormones it could be dangerous." "Don't get a binder it could be dangerous." I understand that mom. I understand that you don't want me to get hurt. I can't be happy in my own fucking body though. I can't even be called my preferred pronouns and name at home because my family doesn't know. I only have relief with my friends and even then I don't pass well. You know why? Because I don't have anything that could possibly help me! I have a sports bra but even then it's not that good. I wish I could pass.

  • @kainoahthefrog
    @kainoahthefrog 4 роки тому +64

    I'm crying while watching this, my mom is "ok with trans people" but she keeps making me feel like shit for it.

  • @glorijozna
    @glorijozna 7 років тому +111

    I really needed this video because my parents are really unsupportive and I mean they are not bad people, they are just really catholic and they consider it wrong. thank you ❤

  • @user-lb2ui3op8v
    @user-lb2ui3op8v 7 років тому +187

    My brother has stopped talking to me since I came out as trans he's says I'll always be a boy cause he believes a person can't "erase" their past. I haven't seen him since 5 years now 😔

  • @leogigax8481
    @leogigax8481 7 років тому +126

    Thank you so much Sam I've been struggling to come out to my dad for the past week and I'm going to try my hardest to tell him tomorrow

  • @aren690
    @aren690 7 років тому +29

    I remember I gathered enough courage to tell my mom to call me "he" a year or two ago for the first time, but she just laughed and made fun of me, so I haven't opened up about it after that. I feel very sad and anxious because I can't get help because of that, but I just hope things will get better in the future and I can live a happier life as myself. Thank you for making this video :)

  • @bozo154
    @bozo154 7 років тому +41

    This is weird because the day this was posted when my unsupportive father texted my mom because he started noticing I was wearing a binder and my mom used they/them pronouns. He told her that he would love me no matter what, and it made me so happy to see the dad who yelled at me when I came out as pan accepts me now

  • @dakki.dreamer1539
    @dakki.dreamer1539 4 роки тому +14

    My mother claims to be supportive, but she also says I'm too young to know, that its a phase (bc I used to like wearing dresses, and I still do sometimes), and that I'm disrespecting real trans people by taking this so seriously. She doesn't believe that I have dysphoria. What do I do please I'm dying

  • @JustinClouse
    @JustinClouse 7 років тому +154

    Wow... was not expecting UA-cam to be so deep this morning.

  • @adrianoines521
    @adrianoines521 7 років тому +60

    thank you for caring. i jjst came out as nonbianary and on of my best friends said that she is never gonna talk to me again. ive been crying at my house for an hour

  • @klaussteamboat2898
    @klaussteamboat2898 5 років тому +14

    When I came out as transgender I got screamed at. They said I was to young and they call me more female pronouns than they did before..

  • @doodle-jade
    @doodle-jade 3 роки тому +10

    An online counselor literally sent me this omg-