My narc is terrorizing the house with loud African music coming from her phone. When you ask politely to pauze a moment during dinner time, she refuses. At times it’s extremely difficult to stay calm that way but I manage. It means I have to swallow a lot.
There’s no way to find an affordable house at this moment so we’re stuck with each other. I don’t provoke in any way but she wants to behave like a demonic toddler.
I've been no contact since 10/19/24... I was not taking that baggage into 2025. Thrive in 2025 ya'll. Much Love and Peace to is all. Be strong and courageous! No easy, but so worth it! Don't look back, you're not going that way!
I didnt understand why me working on my self, healing, and being an autonomous person would make them rage and upset. Makes sense now. It never benefited THEM for ME to be whole.
I also love that she said you inspired her to leave, because most narcissists are telling us that people like you are making us leave. It's kind of a downplay to our intellect, insinuating that we don't have the capacity to make our own decisions.
Just agree with them wether they insult or scream at you 😂😂. If they insult you just agree with them and play along don't try to defend any abuse hurled at u😂.
Mine Told Me She would Kick over all of my Christmas Decorations Because I would not give her an argument and the Decorations were mine I paid for all of it!
This was really insightful, Lee. I recently had to deal with a situation where two highly narcissistic relatives of a friend of mine who died recently. We literally only met twice briefly. Twice. That's all and this pair are determined to keep me in their lives forever. Well, I'm definitely not up for that and never was. I only tolerated them for the sake of my friend. They went full blown bunny-boiler when I blocked them on WhatsApp and normal text. To me, they were just those nuisance relatives that I was glad to see the back of but the fact that they want to get their claws into me is creepy as and chilling quite frankly. All I can say is my late friend had some seriously toxic people in his orbit and now I'm having to deal with the fall-out. Scary, man. Scary. If only they had a bit of self-awareness like you sadly not. The smear campaign is in full swing but they will be blocked forever. Hoping me freezing them out will get them off my case for good.
Everything you're saying is the exact same things my ex-narc would say and do with me.💯 He didn't like me telling him no. "No" IS a complete sentence! But, he wanted me to explain WHY I said no. 😐 Like what the??🤨🤦🏾♀️ Going no contact with him was THE best thing I could have ever done.
100% Lee. Every argument I’ve ever had with a narc were from these SAME things! Lord help us!!! No contact, as hard as it, is the best option if you can.
The ex narc told me that he was planning on meeting a "beautiful woman" at his cabin. He was married at the time and his wife found the emails planning his rendezvous-vous. He told me that he waited a few days and then told his wife that if she didnt clap cheeks with him, "things were going to get ugly around here." These people are shameless and terrible. I never understood why he told me these stories as they made him look like the jerk he is. Grooming me, perhaps. I left him, so he needs to find another sucker!
You cannot go through life and let people think They could do you any kind of way and not be held?Accountable They mama's should have made Then be accountable as children and they wouldn't have this issue✌️ NO Contact
When I started working a part time job in the mornings and couldn't take him to do his errands anymore the ex narc friend at the time he called me a sucker and stopped speaking to me. He now smears my name around the church I just ignore him.
i'll never forget the first time i told him NO..... i had said everything else but that NO was like acid to him , he hung up immediately. this was even post break up and he has never talked to me the same
Happy New Year Lee keep up the good work. Change is never easy yet life changes are necessary for the better meant to move forward.. Like Lee says be safe....
Omg im so glad I found you. Everything you said sounds just like my life. I got clean and sober 9 months ago he decided to do it with me however I did IOP as well as continued therapy im on a healing journey actually doing the work for me amd living like this is a full time job im healing and working on me while also trying to handle a NARC my focus now is to keep the peace and stay safe while I get my things situated. I want to pick your brain 🧠 😆 🤣
Hello Lee what day and time are you Live? Happy New Years. I absolutely have learned so much a week after I put him out your videos showed up out of nowhere in August 2024. Thank you God Bless.
Just saying no to anything a narc asks you to do will trigger them. Up until about 2 years ago I did not know who or what a narcissist was and then realized it clearly defined my brother in law. In the 20+ years he has been in our lives, I've always said NO if he asked me to do anything. I've had zero contact with this fool for 6 years.
I think it does. Mine seeks constant acceptance of his parents and he's damn near 50! It's not normal to need to pretend to be a whole other person who can do no wrong to his parents and he's a whole real person behind closed doors when we were married. He cares about what his parents believe about him and how he lives his life more then he cares about anything. They treated him horrible as a child but have now turned to God and act like they are so sorry and they are perfect now. Why is it so important to him when he is the way he is today because of the way he was treated by them?
It’s true …. I had two kids the second one would be better and it was worse 😭😭 and it’s so hard doing it alone he uses babies to come and go not because he actually cares
I reacted to him discarding me for a female escort and his toxic ex girlfriend. I did let him have it . We argued back to back ; called him a narcissist and hung up on him mid conversation and blocked him . I deactivated my facebook account and messenger accounts . It’s been a few days . I’m hurt that I let him get the upper hand and got me to react. I’m also hurt that I was cheated for 304s and toxic exes . My flabber is gasted lmao 😂ugh
What don't they like you to keep yourself looking good why don't they give you feed back about yourself and they don't call on your birthdays or holidays but expect you to call them
I am confused as if I ignored, laughed at and rejected people I know they would get super pissed off so how can I tell the difference between them and a narcissist As ignoring, rejecting and laughing at people is abuse anyway. Rejection can hurt as it can threaten our sense of belonging and self esteem and can trigger the same pain signals in our brain as physical injury so most people hate it. So I am confused 🫤 or is it how they react to rejection with revenge that sets them apart from other people Because ignoring people will send most people pissed off and upset. Just test it on someone without narcissism and they will get upset
But they can go hours without responding. I also got the " I notice you o silent when your with another man" hours after him saying, have a good night. 🤯
I’m telling ya’ll I changed my number and bro got an attitude or some shit and disabled all the socials or something probably crashing out in a corner somewhere 😂, I honestly thought I was doing both of us a favor. No contact feels good ya’ll I promise I would not make this sh*t up I’m a year in 🎉
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, this is all facts. From my experience simply telling them "no" is a way to bring about a trigger. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, this is an interesting time to see if they can simply accept "no" for an answer.
Staying calm when u KNOW they want u to react
🎯 good one
@ I’m a master at staying calm I can actually feel their blood boiling 🤣
My narc is terrorizing the house with loud African music coming from her phone. When you ask politely to pauze a moment during dinner time, she refuses. At times it’s extremely difficult to stay calm that way but I manage. It means I have to swallow a lot.
There’s no way to find an affordable house at this moment so we’re stuck with each other. I don’t provoke in any way but she wants to behave like a demonic toddler.
@@justjen1682Same here.
Rejection is Gods protection
Oh my
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I've been no contact since 10/19/24... I was not taking that baggage into 2025. Thrive in 2025 ya'll. Much Love and Peace to is all. Be strong and courageous! No easy, but so worth it! Don't look back, you're not going that way!
God bless and keep you and yours!
Right 2025 is All and will always be just About me,We Rock
I didnt understand why me working on my self, healing, and being an autonomous person would make them rage and upset. Makes sense now. It never benefited THEM for ME to be whole.
I also love that she said you inspired her to leave, because most narcissists are telling us that people like you are making us leave. It's kind of a downplay to our intellect, insinuating that we don't have the capacity to make our own decisions.
Tell the truth. Call them out. Refuse to engage in an argument.
Or put their asses on UA-cam 😂
Just agree with them wether they insult or scream at you 😂😂. If they insult you just agree with them and play along don't try to defend any abuse hurled at u😂.
Well said
Say “no” to them
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If I said no to the narcissist he would destroy my belongings when I was not looking and then deny it.
Mine Told Me She would Kick over all of my Christmas Decorations Because I would not give her an argument and the Decorations were mine I paid for all of it!
My wife is the youngest of 10 children she's 55 I'm 48 and I feel like I'm constantly trying to make her happy to no avail...going on 20yrs.
This was really insightful, Lee. I recently had to deal with a situation where two highly narcissistic relatives of a friend of mine who died recently. We literally only met twice briefly. Twice. That's all and this pair are determined to keep me in their lives forever. Well, I'm definitely not up for that and never was. I only tolerated them for the sake of my friend. They went full blown bunny-boiler when I blocked them on WhatsApp and normal text. To me, they were just those nuisance relatives that I was glad to see the back of but the fact that they want to get their claws into me is creepy as and chilling quite frankly. All I can say is my late friend had some seriously toxic people in his orbit and now I'm having to deal with the fall-out. Scary, man. Scary. If only they had a bit of self-awareness like you sadly not. The smear campaign is in full swing but they will be blocked forever. Hoping me freezing them out will get them off my case for good.
Everything you're saying is the exact same things my ex-narc would say and do with me.💯 He didn't like me telling him no. "No" IS a complete sentence! But, he wanted me to explain WHY I said no. 😐 Like what the??🤨🤦🏾♀️ Going no contact with him was THE best thing I could have ever done.
I know that's right!
100% Lee. Every argument I’ve ever had with a narc were from these SAME things! Lord help us!!! No contact, as hard as it, is the best option if you can.
Happy New Year Lee and family!
Happy new year!
Just laugh at them they hate it 🤣
The ex narc told me that he was planning on meeting a "beautiful woman" at his cabin. He was married at the time and his wife found the emails planning his rendezvous-vous. He told me that he waited a few days and then told his wife that if she didnt clap cheeks with him, "things were going to get ugly around here." These people are shameless and terrible. I never understood why he told me these stories as they made him look like the jerk he is. Grooming me, perhaps. I left him, so he needs to find another sucker!
You make me laugh Lee so much with your expressions 😂
The cheek clapping ones crack me up each time 🤭
Being happy and successful.
And as far away from them as possible‼️
This is 100,000% FACTS‼️
SAY NO✌️
Absolutely
Happy New Year 🎆🎉
I always say no to the hoover attempts. Yes unpredictable mentality
ignore them
🎯
You cannot go through life and let people think They could do you any kind of way and not be held?Accountable They mama's should have made Then be accountable as children and they wouldn't have this issue✌️ NO Contact
When I started working a part time job in the mornings and couldn't take him to do his errands anymore the ex narc friend at the time he called me a sucker and stopped speaking to me. He now smears my name around the church I just ignore him.
i'll never forget the first time i told him NO..... i had said everything else but that NO was like acid to him , he hung up immediately. this was even post break up and he has never talked to me the same
Yes. I have seen that rage when holding them accountable - even when it's not directed at them personally. Wow! Yep.
Literally just got my maximum closure last year and definitely defeated the narcissist.
Tell them no or you're not going to do what they want sets them off really quick
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Happy New Year's to you and your lovely wife! Thanks Lee for being a blessing to me
Happy New Year Lee keep up the good work. Change is never easy yet life changes are necessary for the better meant to move forward.. Like Lee says be safe....
Omg im so glad I found you. Everything you said sounds just like my life. I got clean and sober 9 months ago he decided to do it with me however I did IOP as well as continued therapy im on a healing journey actually doing the work for me amd living like this is a full time job im healing and working on me while also trying to handle a NARC my focus now is to keep the peace and stay safe while I get my things situated. I want to pick your brain 🧠 😆 🤣
Happy New Year to you and your family, Lee. God bless!
Hello Lee what day and time are you Live? Happy New Years. I absolutely have learned so much a week after I put him out your videos showed up out of nowhere in August 2024. Thank you God Bless.
Tell them the truth especially about themselves
My ex covert narc never had facial expressions. His face was always like stone.
Just saying no to anything a narc asks you to do will trigger them. Up until about 2 years ago I did not know who or what a narcissist was and then realized it clearly defined my brother in law. In the 20+ years he has been in our lives, I've always said NO if he asked me to do anything. I've had zero contact with this fool for 6 years.
you know what Narcissist Going to get From me on There birthday 🎉🎊🎈🥳😂NO contact 😂
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RIGHT ❤
Great video 🎉
Narcs make that exact same face too!!! 😂😂
Them Faces you make I am on the floor
Happy New Year God bless everyone 🎊🤣🤣🤣
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Amen to this video
Having a baby by him was the worst ,i was love bomb ,i hate myself for believing him 💔
I often wonder if narcissism has to do with how they were raised or treated in childhood.
To my understanding, a narcs behavior is a result of not having their needs met by a trusted caregiver.
I think it does. Mine seeks constant acceptance of his parents and he's damn near 50! It's not normal to need to pretend to be a whole other person who can do no wrong to his parents and he's a whole real person behind closed doors when we were married. He cares about what his parents believe about him and how he lives his life more then he cares about anything.
They treated him horrible as a child but have now turned to God and act like they are so sorry and they are perfect now.
Why is it so important to him when he is the way he is today because of the way he was treated by them?
Say no to them!😊
Omg, i started my No Contact at 1:30am, NYD 🎉 & not intentionally-he flipped out cos I said NO for the 1st time, cos he crossed another boundary. 🎊
Stay empowered
It’s true …. I had two kids the second one would be better and it was worse 😭😭 and it’s so hard doing it alone he uses babies to come and go not because he actually cares
Ticking timebombs
Don't answer their phone call, and don't return the call in a timely manor.
I reacted to him discarding me for a female escort and his toxic ex girlfriend. I did let him have it . We argued back to back ; called him a narcissist and hung up on him mid conversation and blocked him . I deactivated my facebook account and messenger accounts . It’s been a few days . I’m hurt that I let him get the upper hand and got me to react. I’m also hurt that I was cheated for 304s and toxic exes . My flabber is gasted lmao 😂ugh
What don't they like you to keep yourself looking good why don't they give you feed back about yourself and they don't call on your birthdays or holidays but expect you to call them
Oh they definitely expect something on their birthday but they will ruin yours
Call them fake 😂😂😂
say no.
I jsed to tell him np and he was okay....he got set off woth me exposung him
I am confused as if I ignored, laughed at and rejected
people I know they would get super pissed off so how can I tell the difference between them and a narcissist
As ignoring, rejecting and laughing at people is abuse anyway.
Rejection can hurt as it can threaten our sense of belonging and self esteem and can trigger the same pain signals in our brain as physical injury so most people hate it.
So I am confused 🫤 or is it how they react to rejection with revenge that sets them apart from other people
Because ignoring people will send most people pissed off and upset.
Just test it on someone without narcissism and they will get upset
But they can go hours without responding.
I also got the " I notice you o silent when your with another man" hours after him saying, have a good night. 🤯
New me, no narcissist! Happy New Year's everyone!!
Say No!? How do you say no to them when you have kids and he uses the kids to get my attention.....
I got in the gym, lost 30 lbs, started meditating. He got silent, withdrew, then left. He has been gone 3 years from me and the kids. Good riddance.
I’m telling ya’ll I changed my number and bro got an attitude or some shit and disabled all the socials or something probably crashing out in a corner somewhere 😂, I honestly thought I was doing both of us a favor. No contact feels good ya’ll I promise I would not make this sh*t up I’m a year in 🎉
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, this is all facts. From my experience simply telling them "no" is a way to bring about a trigger. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, this is an interesting time to see if they can simply accept "no" for an answer.
Say ok.
💯
@MentalHealness love your show...thx u
Criticism.✌️
So my ex's 50th is coming up in May well he won't be getn anything from me not a word. 🤐🤣🤣🤣
Bring on 2025 with a new chapter of my life. 🎉