What if the Narcissist goes NO CONTACT with YOU
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- What if the Narcissist goes NO CONTACT with YOU and finally stops reaching out. Contrary to popular belief, some narcissists will absolutely leave you alone and stop reaching out to you. Those narcissistic people might be completely done with you or could stop reaching out for a few other reasons.
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Thank you so much
If they go no contact with you, consider yourself a got doggone victorious being. You'll thank them later.
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Amen!
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It’s a never ending cycle with narcissists. I just “broke up” with my boyfriend in February and we were supposed to be no contact until he or I reach out to resolve two specific ties that we have together. I kept up my end of the bargain, I did not call him AT ALL, but he didn’t keep his word. He called me everyday to “discuss” the decision of the break up and what our future plans would be without each other. Needless to say, we only broke up for a few days because this dude just won’t let me have my peace and happiness without him. We’re even back having sex with each other, sex that I don’t want because I wanted to be celibate and draw closer to the Lord, but this dude doesn’t care about none of that. It’s like we never broke up. He’s possessive and manipulative. I don’t know what to do
So true! Best gift they could ever give you. 😁
What if you still love the narcissists and they have gone no contact a year and I have our daughter raising her alone?
They are done with you because you are very very hard now to manipulate and get narc supply. And you are an educated empath now.
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Sometimes it’s because they ve drained everything from you and now you’re useless. It’s a win ! Delete and rebuild
Yeeees!
@@MentalHealnessyes I did the reverse hoover he ignored me yes he's done with me yes I told him about himself he new I'd sussed him out......
Amen
She went silent to hurt me I went silent because I learnt my lesson
Since he went silent I've been living my best life
Same here
SAME. 😂
@@lafawnbelle4059As you should 🙌💕
So freaking true!!
Why do people care if a narcissist goes no contact? It's a peaceful win. Move on
I think the majority of people who watch these videos didn't deal with actual narcissists or personality disordered people. They just need to make themselves feel better, so they call their ex a narcissist.
@@robpz448 i think you may be right
@robpz448 Yes. I cried tears of happiness when the narcissist in my life finally stopped contact. And the smear campaign. And wrangling the flying monkeys, etc... I was just so happy they were gone!!
I can't even comprehend the thinking behind someone who cares what a narcissist is doing once they leave or you leave. If they were with a true narcissist, they would be too happy celebrating this new found peace to even care.
Because if they go no contact that could be more dangerous. They can be insidious and pretend to not have contact but actually be smearing your name to flying monkeys so they do their dirty work whilst they pretend to be the victim.
The more you take someone back, the more it tells them they’re allowed to keep treating you the same way.
Precisely!
Facts
Yes! And every time we’d fight after and I’d try to leave I’d get the “go ahead and run away like you always do and like everyone else has!” I’d feel sorry for him and convince myself I would be the one to fix him… I would be the one who finally showed him true love and we would live happily ever after. Shew… it’s a nightmare. I’m so glad I got out of it. It’s hard for me to date now though because of how in the beginning he was so perfect but thru the course of 2 years he turned out to be so toxic!? I see a red flag now and run immediately so fast in the other direction
@@a10ecgirl72 Same here, thought I could help his sorry soul with love, but he just wanted to be fake and manipulate. Ignored all the red flags, was in denial.
@@a10ecgirl72 run to the woods don't look back.
Don't fall for the reverse hoover. Fall to your knees and thank God they have gone no contact and you keep no contact for yourself! Don't play their sick and twisted games. You aren't missing anything but more wicked abuse.
Going back is a self punishment of a lifetime
I wouldn't know whst a reverse hoover is. I fell for their mind games
Ugh... Woulda, coulda, shoulda. I thought it would be too hard to raise my kids without him. I wish I had been stronger & wiser when he left...I shoulda changed the lock & key. Don't doubt yourself, you will get through it! Just let him/her leave. Let their decision STICK.
I wish my BD would do this
That is 💯
They went no contact to punish you for not doing their bidding.
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In my case I didn't organise his birthday or buy him a holiday LOL
Yes, they wanted to hurt and punish you. Got a feeling he wants me to chase or contact him again but, I am just not sure, since he already went silent and left me on 'read'. Don't know if he would do it again, but he did not block me though.
@@janebraun4482 exact same here and it's what they want for their ego! Don't do it !
@@janebraun4482 what are you waiting for? Just block the narc and move on
If they go "no contract" consider yourself blessed.
Contact*
@@nc8414 revealing slip of the pen?
They will purposely leave and ignore just to draw you in. Leave them where they belong.
Agreed!
YEP!!! ALONE!
I love when they get mad as fuck when you don't go back. They love to feel wanted. Of course, sometimes they rage even more when they realize you're not coming crawling back to their sorry asses.
That’s the actual truth they just do it to lure you it’s not gonna work because I can’t stand him so block or no block I could care less about him anymore that’s like me saying lucifer I miss you ! NOPE
This means you will be ignored, then they expect you to keep trying until they respond?
It’s because they know they behaved badly and seeing you will induce their shame.
This is the best explanation I have ever heard for this. You are right on! Sincerely, thanks.
So true and that why I close the door permanently because no human being on earth wants to be abuse not even a dog or a cat for that matter for christ sake amen...
This is exactly what my ex’s adult daughter told me! His shame wouldn’t allow him to call me. Fine by me! Been free and at peace almost 2 years now. He cheated on the woman he cheated on me with and now he’s making his way through his adult children’s mothers. They’re crazy to think he’ll be better with them since they both left him for other men over 20 years ago. 😮
They also know you have the ability to expose them. For who they really are.
Most Narcissists don't have any sense of shame
Mine went "no-contact" after assaulting me. They focused all their energy on the smear campaign. I focused on pressing charges. A year later, guess who was found guilty and has a mugshot?
Same thing happened to me
🙏🏻Healing Blessings!💛🕊🍃
Same but added online and irl monitoring WHILE smearing and no contact after assaulting me…
Great job for holding the narcissist accountable by pressing charges against him. Sorry this happened to you
@@empressb444How bold of you to assume it was a he. Women can be just as abusive but society just doesn’t care.
What an awful way to do someone … up and leave , block you in every single way , and them move on with someone new ….ive never been done so dirty in my life
But look at it as a blessing! You set are set free from the abuse! ❤
@@kaoshi_kutie Things are getting a lil better each day , I appreciate your words , it means a lot
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Count your blessing my friend. You are free
@@dicerevo I been trying to , it’s just a mind fuck when you love someone and they do everything possible to make you hate them … that’s one spectrum all the way to the other side of the spectrum and no in between or any kind of half way
Simply means they KNOW you will not tolerate their nonsense. You're effective at not being their victim.
Thank you for clearing that out telling the truth is not a sm campaign
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They're done until they have no supply!
Right 👏👏👏👏👏🚨🚨💯💯
That's right
Yep. Then they suddenly remember, you're the best thing that ever happened to them, they always loved you, blah, blah, blah
@@idid138 exactly what I went through twice
Hoovered again... accidental WhatsApp message ... could understand an accidental text, but WhatsApp... Can it be anymore obvious?!
Mine will wait forever. I will NEVER try to reach out for headaches.
Period
Love this
Exactly. And it is literal,what you said. I realy had everyday headackes with narc
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Facts😂
That’s why you forgive, and move on in silence so you can heal
This is what I’m learning to do all over again🤦🏾♀️
My ex husband popped BACK up again 😂, and tbh I didn’t really trust him anyway? But, just listened to his drivel, and maybe I listened too much.
I learned however, that he has not changed after he suckered me in. But my head knew, he hadn’t changed. My heart however, wanted to believe him, but knew this wouldn’t be as straightforward as it seemed.
Love is not meant to hurt, but these people WILL hurt you over n over n over again if you let them.
I have learned that the hard way, but it’s fine😊!
He can no contact me again for me now🤣🤣, allows me breathing space and to reconnect back with my damn self again! And learn to love me more than him.💪🏾💪🏾
Don't forgive. They have no remorse.
You can stop caring, though, that's probably the only sane thing to do.
@@mantislazuli you don’t have to tell them you forgive them. Just say it to yourself and give yourself some closure.
The only forgiveness that needs to happen is between you and the Lord . Forgiving a narcissist only gives them permission to hurt you again. Period
Forgive yourself not them, for not trusting your original instincts.
If they go no contact consider🎉it a blessing in disguise
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@@MentalHealnessmy God I needed this it explains a lot about my behavior with the narcissist and the narcissist behavior I thought you was full of BS but this has truly open my eye's 👀 to both side's
When they go no contact your prayers started working! Hallelujah and glory be to the ever lasting God!😍
Yay!!!😊😂
So true!!!! Amen 💕
He is even lazy when it comes to forgiveness. No effort and no accountability. 😒
Yep!!! Mine too
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Forgiveness does not exist in ANY world, mostly THEIR OWN!
Yup even though he discarded me after I was on to his games , I still wished him the best and he couldn't wish me the best. Says it all...
Yes!! He thought I was weak!!! HE KNEW IT WAS OVER BECAUSE I WASN'T HAVING THAT CHID BEHAVIOR!! I HIM YOU NEED GOD TO YOU WITH YOUR DEMONS!!! THAT GOD I was strong!! 52 just realized what a narcissist is about your ago!! I KEPT SOMETHING IS NOT WITH HIM😁!! I KNEW WASN'T ME!!!!
When my narcissist is not hoovering it’s simply because he has found new supply. When/if his new supply doesn’t work out- then he comes back and begins the hoovering again.
Yeah sometimes they go no contact when you tear the mask off them and tell the truth which causes narcissistic injury
Oh wow. My psychologist just told me to look up “Narcissistic Injury” today! I hadn’t heard the term before.
Thats exactly what I did , He changed His Number and I didn't reach out on Him again
I did it on purpose so hopefully he won’t come back 🤞🏼
Oh they coming back haha
My ex final discarded me because I exposed him..... To himself. I NEVER called him by what he is, but I stopped playing his game. I told him it's ALWAYS been about him and NO ONE else.... And now he hates me.
I am experiencing the exact same thing and he blocked all contact
@@UrModeDefinesMyChoice2Flip yup. Mine did too. I haven't tried to reach out anyway.
main also left me hates me and stay no contact with me cus he knows what I think of him I told him he is narc manipulator not trust worthy fake so he dumbed me but .. I have feeling for this loser so 13 months am still crying and isolated myself I feel unworthy..
Yup went through the same... they kept me blocked on whatsapp through the whole time we were last back together ( so I probably wouldn't see the strange times he was online picking up new supply) , but now after he discarded me he has unblocked me. I'm keeping his ass blocked 🚫
Yess
I called him an emotionally abusive narcissist
He couldn’t survive it…
Smear campaign is in place, he sues me in court for alleged stalking …
Calls me crazy …
If you get blocked they have done the heavy lifting for you. Leave it alone at this point and 9 times out of 10 they will be back...don't think they forgot about you...far from it. If they are allowed back in they will be MORE evil that before.
He went no contact because I refuse to forget what really happened 😊
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Same, he knows I 'know', what really happened. He got shamed by accident, in regards to an SM post I made that he deleted, and I sort of caught him, (again) he was shocked two fold, how I know things, he was just lost power and control in one swoop. I left a nice message left on read, he was so messed up, cannot respond, been over 2 months.
Same! They can repaint it, rationalize, explain, blah blah blah. Nope. I can be ignorant, but once I know, I know, can’t forget.
It means you’ve been blessed, literally.
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It's not fun to hurt you anymore. They have emptied your tank. When they see you healing, they will come out from under the rock😢
Yep
Really? They they would have to explain, which is doubtful
When that happens, best believe they are tearing your name apart. They will lie or do anything to destroy your name because you won't do what they want you to do.
This is what I’ve learned about the new supply, they can’t make it work with them either. Mine’s had two already. Lol 😆 don’t worry about them. Move on.
Exactly!!!
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They can't stand the fact of being alone 😂
@@BashayG7175 nope, they’ll take anyone that pays them attention!
@princhipessa1969 I've been dealing with a narcissist for 10 years (we share a daughter together) and I'm 2 weeks into my healing process and I've gone completely no contact unless it's about my daughter and even with certain situations I will not respond at all. I feel so foolish ignoring all the red flags and thinking I could help this person or believing she loved me. She's currently seeking new supply from her nieces father. Yes, her sisters bd and it just blows my mind I could literally go on for days about the terrible things she's said and done, but I've released all that stress and pain.
I was cracking up when he mailed a pair of new shoes for himself to my house . I was perplexed. I didn’t know that it was called a reversed hoover . All I knew was that I wasn’t going to reach out to him EVER AGAIN… I wrote on the package… RTS, NO LONGER LIVES HERE!! & stop putting his packages on my property… thank you!!!
I was so proud of myself for not falling into his trap which I now found out later , it’s called a reversed hoover.
you should be proud. good job!
It’s because they’ve either “disengaged” for the time being or shelved you. Whether it’s exposure, shame, you being hard to control, or quality and frequency of your supply/fuel. Narcissists always return. In their mind, you belong to them and are their property. A household appliance.
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Hard to control in my case and he throw tantrum with tears delivering this info that he can’t control me and it makes him mad
Yes I exposed mine and the went no contact, so true
Whatever he’s doing ain’t none of my business! I’m free! Good riddance to bad rubbish!!!!
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Amen sista
The reverse hoover ... it's a shame. I'm through trying to reach out to someone who just wants to hurt me. I LOVE myself❤
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Hey, if they go no contact, that is the best thing that could happen. Its not about winning or losing, or any hope for a turn around. Your life with a narcissist may have had its good times, I'm sure it did, that is how they hook you. But in the end, you know it was not a good thing, the things they said and did to you, were not ok. You are better off with out them, but you have to be strong enough to accept that, and take this opportunity to move on. You know damn well they moved on, and the worst part is they moved on while you were still suposedly a couple. So dont look backwards unless you plan on going that way.
Great comment, spot on
So true, going thru this now
@@anniealmendarez9160 me too.. mine posted his new supply a week after we broke up.. they were talking for months 😢
I use to get upset when she hangs up on me…Now i enjoy the space instead of being a slave on the phone
Felt that in my soul
Good!! That means they have enough supply elsewhere and have no need for you. That's a great thing!! Enjoy your peace!!
Do abusers just not know about trauma bonds? “Why r u reaching out to me?”…. The answer would be TRAUMA BOND
Frrr but I would i def say they have no clue what the hell it is. I mean I do! But these ppl don’t. I spoke to my Nex about some thing simaior being karmics which is two ppl who enter eachothers life to learn something. They didn’t know what it was so
The narc blocked me first, before I knew about the block/unblock game. I don't know when she unblocked me.. it was about a year later she liked a photo of my dog, which I tagged the foster from whom we rescued the dogs. I ignored the like... still not realizing how this blocking thing works. Then she asked about the second dog. I replied shortly, "she's fine." Then she tried to call me at 2am on a Monday morning. I was asleep, I bet her new supply was fast asleep in the other room. When I didn't answer, she messaged asking for photos of the dogs. I did not respond. That afternoon, she messaged again asking for photos. I replied, "You already have photos of the dogs... look at those." Then I blocked her. She's been blocked for nearly a year now. Homey don't play the unblock game. 🤡
My ex-narc broke up with me via text and dropped my stuff off on my porch, not caring it could have been stolen. I blocked him on everything but my watch still accepted his messages. He texted me a week later acting as if nothing happened. No apologies, no “Hey, how are you doing?” Told me what he was doing like I gave af. 😂😂😂 He’s been blocked for over a year. Outta sight, outta mind.
I feel sorry for his victim if there is one.
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@@brittanynicole493 Good for you! So, I took about a year to heal from the narc I referred to above. When I dipped my toes into the online dating pool, it was narc after narc. I found someone I kinda clicked with initially, but the red flags were present. When this person finally revealed herself in a Fatal Attraction kinda way I knew I had to end it, but I was afraid of how she would take it. I put all the blame on myself, and told her "I'm not sure I'm the right person for you." She agreed. I blocked her. But she got a text through asking if she could pick up her Uno cards. I said I mail them. She texted again for a puzzle. I ignored her. Then she texted if we were still going to a theater event that I had purchased tickets for. I blocked her without replying on that last avenue. It's just amazing how these people try to pull you into their toxic BS and when they go to far, they try to pretend nothing happened.
The games!! Such mindfuck beyond comprehension! I have ZERO tolerance for any of this crap anymore- like ever!
They pull a Houdini to the 10th power. It’s the EGO & PRIDE why they become Casper the ghost
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Yup huge ego that got told it wasn't all that!!!
Think of your narc as flavorless gum you dropped & the new supply, as the unfortunate soul who stepped in it.
😂😂😂😂 I appreciate this
I like you😂😂😂😂😂
Best analogy 👌
Yes once you see through them , they hate you for it.
What happens if a narcissist goes no contact? Thank your lucky stars , hope and pray to God that it stays that way for the rest of your life. Do not accept any hoovers, do not even acknowledge if they tell you hello. Ignore any attempts that they make. Never contact them again and never acknowledge any attempt of them contacting you.
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15 years with my covert narcissistic husband. In separation for almost 4. He's the king of silence. Good. Thank God.
Literally same situation with me.
In the same situation so ready to be done
I went no contact with evil narc and now i dont know what i ever saw in the useless entity!! Who wants to associate with narc, theyve got nothing about them! Leave them to their tortuous hellish lives. It will get worse as time goes by!! And the attraction you fall for in the love bomb spell will turn into the ugliness of evil! Get out and stay out! Love to all here♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
It's only a good thing. You have to be strong enough to move on. I've NEVER been offended when a narcissist found a new supply over me. They usually tell me how I didn't meet their needs and I'm like "yay!"
It's like winning a jackpot.. Celebrate you are free from ongoing torment...😂😂
When I first started dating my ex, I saw he followed an IG account about narc abuse, and I now think he was using that to avoid exposure. We went no contact and he blocked me on everything, and I think he’s just trying to not do what the “typical” narcissist does because he doesn’t want to be exposed as one. All about appearances. I’m also thankful he hasn’t, for whatever reason.
Similar. We married before social media, but at the end of the marriage I noticed he was following abuse channels and wondered what that was about. I think I found the cheating because he wanted me to. When I confronted him, he claimed he did it all because of me. He made me out to be a narcissist without saying the word. I was so confused but I had enough sense to tell my closest friends. One had divorced under similar circumstances and helped me start my education on narcissists.
I’m so glad he blocked me and my family members. He hates that no one reaches out to him. He showed us who he is and we moved on.
I recently had the hard realization that someone I had been close with for over twenty years is either narcissistic or has some tendencies towards it. Broke my heart to realize I made excuses for the red flags I see now looking back over the years. I recently called him out for what he'd done to me most recently, and his first response was to block me on SM. I just accepted it and he can sit in it by himself now.
There is no reaching out this too person ever again it permanently close and over..
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I’m glad I watched this before I decided to break no contact
Moral of the story is you have to be tired of being tired. There is so much energy loss when dealing with these people. They help you understand why you have to love you first before anyone else. When you love you there are standards that you juts will not allow yourself or anyone else to breach under any conditions. It's easier to not pretend as well. There is a lot of pretending when with a narc.
I had a psycho Narc contact me after seven years! They don't want you to forget them... unfortunately looking over your shoulder is real for some time.
Telling the truth is not a smear campaign.
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Amen!!❤
For sure!!! But the Truth hurts I guess! That's why we get the silent treatment tantrums. 😊
I just told the truth in a post about him, this invoked rage and discard. I was going to delete it, but he did it for me. I did not mean any harm, bizarre
@@janebraun4482 I guess the truth hurts huh? Hugs to you. I hope you get your devices checked for spyware/ parental monitoring software. If he had any access to them, because that's what mine is doing to me. Stalking me with my phone and spying on me.
It’s a blessing that he’s going “no contact” with me (for now), because I know it’s an opportunity for me to get back my power. But that doesn’t mean it isn’t painful as Fxck
Wait 3 weeks, 3 months, 3 years... eventually they will try to hoover you back in, regardless of how lonh it's been. Regardless of how much they know you despise them, they always come back, always.
Mine went no contact when he finally left my home, and he stole my things as he left (petty theft, took my cups literally left me with two mugs, stole all my laundry detergent, razors, etc) Right before he left, he made a BIG deal about him still being there for me after he's gone, and can i count on you to be there for me.... A fake the entire time. Now that he's finally gone, i feel like i can breathe again. Im so so happy i made it out.
Mine stole my clean laundry, they're pitiful
It's the final discaaaard 🎶🎶🎉
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Yay🎉🎉🎉
The snake has retreated to it's hole... Ease away.
😂 yes haha
He told me I was too strong
Mine told me "You know me too well", meaning "you don't buy my shit anymore". So true, his mask fell
that happens too
I was told tha same thing...
Mine told me “I feel defeated I can’t win with you”
It’s always too something!!
Thank you Lee. Everything you are saying is helping me understand the narcissists in my family. Explains why they are afraid of me. 😂😂
Love your rants Lee!
My ex just sent me a message out of the blue after several months saying he's so sorry, he's hurting so bad, and he's learning how bad his communication is and he hopes I'm doing well.
Mind you, it was WAY more than poor communication. He was downright abusive.
Then he blocked me 😅
Oh yeah clearly he's figuring out communication 🙄
I've got an ex from over 10 years ago that will reach out through unknown numbers just to make me respond at all and then break up with me again as if we were together and I had just begged them even though we haven't spoken in forever. There is nothing to support that reality at all yet she needs to repeat the fact she can break up with me again and again. Last time I was like oh hey how are you guess we need to break up again, ok.
@@johnnycorn7225 lmao now that's funny. You've got that pattern down pat 😆
Funny cause my ex was the one always breaking up with me. I just didn't take him back when he came back like nothing happened last time, oh he pulled out all the narc tricks and I wasn't having it 😂
@@spicyphilly yup, and they never see it coming when you are done done done they can't believe it because it vaporizes their false self and they would rather live in a jail cell then deny their false self. Run run run lol
It’s to punish you and their shame
It took me a while to truly understand why I was discarded, and it was right after I finally brought him around my family. I have a big family and we’re all close. I brought him to the thanksgiving get together and none of the fellas were impressed. Actually, as he and I were leaving 3 of my male cousins followed us outside like, “hey cuz, you good? Are you sure? He don’t know yo family but you do. Where y’all going?”
They all saw something I didn’t and it was embarrassing! But, I’m grateful it didn’t go further because I was already in a tail spin.
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Yep blocked me after I told him I saw thru him.. .I moved on and healed. He's done. I exposed him
Open the Champagne when He goes no Contact , You won !!! Let Him talk to Himself and never go back !!!
Next week will be a year without my narci. He finally stopped calling me from other numbers. Thank god. I'm steal healing from all the things I ended. He was an energy robber, liar, needy, oversized and charming at the same time. It's hard for me to look at your videos because you look similar but I did and I learned a lot from you. To just keep walking forward. Single and happy you better believe it. Thanks Lee. Keep educating people. Lol
Just what you said Lee is what happened to me he claimed she was a "friend" I found out 2 weeks bf the incident that they dated for 4 yrs n he wanted to marry her. He said he never would hurt me like that Had me on the phone with that female and within a week found out they cheated together. Play n my face then blamed me for it happening. Ghosted me bc I would let it be bc hid behavior didn't change actually got worse. Needless to say he ghosted me while I was at work and cheated a 2nd time with another ex. Atp I could care less about any of them.. he's not a prize and I'll be damned if I reach out 💯
💯‼️ stay strong on your healing journey
Exactly what mine did. Talked for two hours one day, then he went zero contact. Over a year and I still wait for them to pop up. I'm sure it's permanent but it's always lurking there.
I called him out on his lies… he told me “I’m not lying it’s not a lie that’s just your opinion” lol😂😂😂
My life eventually became like "Weekend at Bernie's". Totally passive-aggressive so I finally divorced him. Tired of playing mom. I knew he was done with me, but he left all the work of getting out to me since his lifestyle was good as long as I allowed it.
Here’s the last text I got from him “I hate everyone don’t want anyone around me it’s not your fault.” You did nothing wrong … I have nothing to offer you.” He’s 46 struggling to make a living .. I think he had 8 months worth of fun, future faked me then decided to throw me away b4 it got too serious 🧐
He accidentally recorded himself and sent it to me and when he showed up at my door I asked him about what he did and he denied it. I said, You recorded yourself and sent it to me. He denied it and I quoted every word he said etc… he turned red and said I have to go. Haven’t seen him since, a month later and I’m soooooo much happier. He is a pathological liar and I’m sooooo happy he is gone. Was tired of being his servant anyway LOL ❤
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Recorded what though,please don't tell me it's what I think.
@@Exquisitepunani yes it was……. Life is so much easier when you don’t waste your time with pathological cheating narcissists…. 🩷
@@Exquisitepunani he was trying to pick up another woman and lying to her about things. And he sent it to me. 🤣a gift from above….
That one friend who been lingering around. They both hot mess. They made for each other. I dodged a bullet
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Then be proud, because you proven you got strong boundaries and value freedom
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5:55 so true. My brother and my aunt! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 in my James Brown voice🗣️ “I feel good!!” As I shimmy dance 🕺🕺🕺 across the kitchen floor.
Lee that's exactly what happened with me that's why he went no contact my mental was too much for him it was too strong and too powerful and too intelligent I exposed him from the door the first time we text in the way he moved my next text was are you a narcissist he said are you one I said no but you are!!!!!
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I left him first and thought i was done..after 6months of him hoovering i went back to him..
2weeks later he got mad at me, said He was done with me and i haven't heard from him in 8months
I still miss him but i haven't reached out..im good!!😊
If he gets off my phone .
My email,my credit information, stops controlling everything I watch …
I’m all in …..
I don’t go in reverse!!!!!!
Bc I will never condone what you’ve done ….
I knew enough about narcissisticim when he discarded me that I went no contact! He been lerking around, using fake numbers to try and text me, try to post fake profiles on FB to get me to accept his friend request. He even found out where I lived because he had people following me and showed up one night in someone else's truck in front of the boarding house I lived in. I moved soon after that.
The cowards love social media where they can use fake profiles. I wasn't the one hiding but they were.
They literally found out where I lived everywhere I go. They are evil
They recruit flying monkeys for the same reason cult leaders need followers. They want them to be just as guilty so it's harder for them to admit they were wrong and therefore never side with you
Same here even sending people to follow me
This is the thing that killed me. After YEARS of lies, manipulation and abuse this person cut me out after signing an agreement we would share custody of our dog. Literally the next day. Poor. Gone. With my dog. And my freaking sanity. But this was enlightening. His cup runneth over. I knew who he was and he was just done risking further exposure. I swear I was thinking I was the narc because of this. Thank you!!!
you’re welcome
I'm so glad I live across the country and can't see what he's doing. He threatened to file for divorce soon while he discarded me. He hurt me alright, but from what I hear this is a true blessing. He was exposed and I see him for what he is. He's a manchild
Don't wait on him to file for the divorce you go do it. It's what's best for you since you are away from him. Get those papers so you can be totally free from him.
Mine argued over who ended it. She claimed I just walked away from her, but that was after years and years of her abusing me.
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If someone is abusing you, it has got to stop, it doesn't matter who ends it. Glad you are safe and doing better!!!
I have a narcissistic ex cousin who went no contact after I caught her manipulating our grandfather to steal money from me, my siblings, and other cousins. After getting busted, she tried to gaslight me. Honestly, I couldn't care less if we never speak again.
narcissists never reached out. They keep trespassing my privacy. I believe bad karma happens to all evil doers sooner or later. They will reap what they sow.
I know, I saw and I expose his lying, manipulative self
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Both of mine went no contact. I feel blessed and grateful 😂😂😂 then one tried to contact me again and I blocked him. ❤
Happened to me I called him out after a long time, he disappeared off the radar then blocked me 🤣🤣🤣 Game over, who won 😂
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Lee is 100% correct I Rember when my ex narc would say to me “if this relationship is so bad for you, why do you keep coming back”… ?? Also, when I questioned him about his ex relationships and the abuse I was told about from them… He would say the same thing “it must have not been that bad because my girlfriends kept coming back, sooo why did they come back”?
im not reaching back no time soon 😂
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They stop reaching out? This gives me hope. Still using my address to sign up for stuff so I get their mail randomly.
Oddly, he ghosts me constantly here in the house, as he's talking to the kids, they all start ghosting me
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I’d be like, no contact? Yippee yo, yippee yay!! 😂
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Swear this easy..... Celebrate an dont break no contact
Have a party becuz it’s a blessing !!
I hope that, you, as well, are healing and taking your own great advice ❤
I know for a facttttt, It’s very easy to give advice when you know & have the tools, but absorbing it and living by it every single day is tough. Praying for your own mental healness! 🙏
I can't wait. He won't stop. Even after he threatened to expose me. I feel so sorry for his next victims.
stay safe
Hey Lee, I really love your channel. It’s helped me more than other so-called experts. I enjoy how you avoid stereotype. I grew up with a narcissist, divorced one and recently was ghosted by someone I suspect to be a covert narcissist, and they are all different people and you really know what you’re talking about. Also, I am in western North Carolina so if you see this please let me know more about any local events, because I heard you mentioned N carolina in reference to your podcast.
Im doing a workshop in Durham soon
Love this video! Makes me feel good about walking away and being happy he stopped trying to reach out!
Ty so much for being so passionate about my healing. It helps build courage in me when I see someone else is so passionate. I appreciate the words - even the curse words 😅❤
You're right about that sole friendship. People will try to guilt you into complying because they say it's mature or healthy and let's them have autonomy or boundaries. For me, if I can't do anything in front of my people I KNOW it's not right on some level. We can disagree but I'm not going to hide whatever it is. I'm even bothered by nagging if I see nothing wrong with something I'm doing but I'm not interested in deceiving people. If I'm struggling to do right and failing, the nagging would bother me and make me want to sneak. To me each relationship can coexist but none can threaten the sanctity and health of the other and family is more important than friends. This includes family that are loving and close only. You're going to love me good and be able to live comfortably with my shortcomings, and visa versa, if we are going to make it.
Mine said" he was done with me and he doesn't even know me". Yet a couple days ago he left a voice message that he's not going to curse me, he just wants to hear my voice
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😂 gosh