Deadass. They’re the kind of people to point to the door and scream “if you’re so unhappy after all I’ve done for you then just get the f out of my life” and then when you’re like “okay, we’re done and I’m leaving” they get all shocked or even aggressive because “how dare you” smfh
Mental abuse hurts way more than any punch. The toll it takes on that person, male or female, can be catastrophic. My wife’s ex husband certainly abused her for 18 years with all of his games. Reversing all the damage was a challenge, but she was finally able to get out of that fog and be her true self again.
Mine did both. First, he was happy because he had his side check on the back burner. But when that ended, and he tried to come back and found out, I wasn’t taking him back, that’s when he went insane. He truly thought that he could keep the wife and kids at home waiting for him every time he got a new crush and wanted to play with her for a couple months, then come back home playing husband and father. I’m not sure why he thought I was desperate enough to take his ass back, but he was wrong.
I personally wouldn't suggest telling the Toxic person you are leaving! Leave in silence!! I would have never been able to get out of my Toxic relationship by saying it's over. My ex thought I belonged to him!! He would always tell me he isn't going anywhere! That's why I knew I couldn't just tell my ex it was over. I planned once I went into hiding to do everything I needed to end my relationship.
At this point I realize you have to know what works in your situation. I tried to silently quit and inherited a stalker at all times of the day and night. Stalked my mom and other siblings looking for me, as well as places I used to frequent. All I can say is do what you can safely get away with.
Left 4 days ago.. living on pins and needles. He tried to break in my home but couldn’t fit through my window. Constantly looking over my shoulder. It’s so scary. I was only with this person for 6 weeks 😢
I feel so stupid for wasting 31 years of my life with this man. There was never anyone else for me. I love, loved him with all my heart. He cheated on me numerous times. His last affair, he went to a regular bar hangout. Came home told me he was 70 years old and I wasn’t going to tell him what he could or couldn’t do. He then beat me up that night. He had his hands around my throat, he had punched me like he would in a barroom fight . He kept poking the incision of where my port for chemo was. Then he put his hands on my throat and at that time, I knew it was me or him! Once I could kick him in the stomach he ran, but not before doing the demonic rage. I literally saw the devil in his eyes. I knew at that moment, he had to go. He already had the “new supply” lined up and they were having an affair while I was literally fighting for my life from stage 4 cancer. I hate him! I now have PTSD. I have so much vengeance in my heart and can’t seem to let go of it. Time will tell.😊
Wow I am so sorry you had to go through so much abuse. I hope time will help you heal! Once my ex punched me in my stomach after five years of being with him I knew I had to end the relationship!! It's been almost two years since I've been out of that Toxic relationship. I have listened to Lee's videos, Dr. Ramani's and others. All of these videos along with getting a PTO, filing assault charges, family , friends, and some coworkers who helped me, and staying No Contact has helped me become a stronger person!!
Girl 🎯 Didn’t waste 31 years but 2 out of 3 of my ex’s were full blown narcs 🤦🏽♀️ 6 years with one and 2.5 with another. Now I’m 37 and can’t stand men, people, or dating. I guess it’s narcissistic flees
Not all narcissists cheat. Mine was so into me, he gave me access to his phone, come home on time, can’t wait to spend time with me. He was actually perfect, everything a woman could ever need in a man. The kind who gives attention, time, loyal, provide whatever he can, cook, help you clean…But the unpredictable rage, the constant terrible verbal and emotional beat down, you’re feeling scared for your life. That made me so confused for a long time if I was being abused or not. Then it clicked He gave me a lot of highs then gave the lows in and between to the point I started to feel like his behaviors were normal. I started to drink every night just to fall asleep and he would still shake me up in the middle of the night to tell me he had a dream of something I did just to start a fight. Now I’m scared of all humans.
I got chills from reading this, you just described my boyfriend😳 He would be perfect if he wasn’t a narc. I know exactly how you feel because Im dealing with the same type of person, this situation is so complicated, volatile and mentally exhausting for me. I hope we find the strength to leave soon!
@@sophhilaire225 I appreciate you sharing your story. My Toxic ex was very similar. He always was at home when I came home. On the days he worked he was always home by 7pm. We did alot of things together. We played board games, went on trips, he cooked, he loved to wash clothes; he took care of the yard, he loved going to the grocery store etc. I just couldn't except his verbal abuse , his escalating physical abuse. He started out pinching, pushing, throwing my purse , phone if I tried to leave. He broke bracelets. But the final straw was when he punched me in my stomach. I always said to myself I will never stay with someone if they put their hands on me! I ended up going to the emergency room a day later, I went into hiding, during that time I filed a police report, PTO, an eviction notice. I stayed away until he was served which took 8 to 9 days. Then when I came home I had my locks changed. But I had never cheated on him even though he would accuse me , I never caught him cheating. But I sometimes wonder if he did because he raged more towards the end of the relationship. We were together for five years.
Yup. Mine thought the same, after I stuck with it for 20 years. And I didn't leave. I just told him to start packing. He seemed genuinely shocked and upset. But then our daughter spotted him with another woman two days later... Smh.
You go🎉. Wish you old love and safety.. Please do just like lee as telling you and make a plan🎉 The best plan is kept. To yourself and executed on the date that you chosen
I remember telling my narcissist I was done. I was yelling and crying at the same time. His reaction “yeah yeah whatever” and walked off like you’ll be back. After the blow up I left briefly and came back slowly and different from before. Then I began to send back one word text messages and missed calls on purpose. I went no contact and blocked him. It’s been over 2 years. 😊😊
I'm one year out but I'm going through the same thing I went back to and it was terrible he was drinking behind my back after I've been sober I'm ignoring his calls and sending one word texts as well and not excited about anything he says
He never hit me or cheated. That's what my ex-husband used to minimize his abuse. The absence of physical wounds and infidelity helped him justify his behavior.
Yap. And say sht like ..."I could be doing a bunch of other things...but I'm not, I'm here with you" whenever confronted about anything.... The narc I was entertaining for like a month...said stuff like... "I been on my best behavior. I could be really on some other sht but I'm on my best behavior" ..smh...sad. seems like there's a delay in their development or something. They seem almost slow but think they're smart.
respectfully, listen to...something else during that time when ur supposed to be de-stressing, decompressing... get the most you can get out of your workout. u'll have plenty of time to watch these vids later ... PEACE!!!!
Then you're the same as them.... There are people that are mentally challenged by whatever anger or misfortune happened to them at a young age. And while you don't have to care and it's not your responsibility to fix. They are human beings. Walk away from them and be happy. But the main thing a narcissist does is lack empathy. Which is exactly what do you guys are saying is okay.... Hurt. People hurt people... Don't become a narcissist just because you're with one
@@najibahlassiter7573 I don't think that she meant that she doesn't care about people! I think what she is saying is that she doesn't care about the narcissist feelings concerning the evil that they want to do, which she shouldn't! God would not have us to cater to other people's bad behavior!
2:11 He raged before but the final one was the worst - in the car almost getting us into multiple accidents. Screaming, pounding the dashboard, calling me a horrible, abusive woman, telling me to get the fuck out on and on crazy nonsense that I had no clue where it was coming from! That's the day I finally left. I truly believe he thought I was going to try to fix it and forgive again - but I didn't. I briefly saw him the next day (I didn't go back alone) and he said "I'm done". I said "Me too" and told him I recorded him this time (which I did) and he said "I figured you did" and I said "That's not love." And he said "Ok..." 2 days later I was there with family and friends and completely moved out. I honestly don't think he was expecting that at all. He was there and appeared shocked. He just kept his head down and didn't look at anyone. I'm sure he knew everyone there heard his rage that I recorded... which they did. It was crazy and creepy the way he just lerked around the whole time, but I'm glad I finally got out! That was 2 months ago and I haven't really heard from him since other than a couple texts with final things to pu, him to get some things out of my storage shed and him texting "I hope you're ok" but I never responded.
Growing up my mom was narcissistic ab*sive... My friends would tell me they didn't like coming into my house bc they could FEEL the negative cloud and vibe in the house. It was heavy. And it's crazy that "outsiders" could feel it without truly Knowing what happens behind the curtain.
Thank you so very much for helping us understand all there is to know about these toxic people. It’s such a blessing to have you and your channel. Good on you for owning your own shit and working on improving yourself by becoming self aware.
Many women have been murdered by a toxic narcissistic partner when they are ready to leave and making plans, the partner knows they are leaving. Just before the day the partner is to move out, the women are found missing, body found later.
I’m a little worried about that. My husband is violent. I’m secretly saving so that I can one day leaving with my kids. I’m the only one that knows his secret and he’s afraid his family will find out.
Literally told me I belong to him...but "ain't nobody trying to be with nobody" in the same convo. At this point I could care less how that weirdo feels. Also, they see THEMSELVES as Gods. "God(I) told me (myself) to take you out."
In my situation I had to tell him cause I wanted him to leave our joint space. He didn't let me have any peace and quiet. I had no other man. I just wanted my peace. It was worth it.
My soon to be ex husband used the "discard " as a power play. He thought I would beg and bleeding him back, when I didn't and I said I was done he somehow left cause his "aunt" I never heard of died and blah blah blah! I was the bad person for not understanding? Wtf? Then the fucker tries to trap me using his back taxes he owed the IRS with thinking I owed him my ss number so he could have his debt on me, that would have trapped me for years cause his irresponsibility. He stalked me for 2+ years, went off grid literally and bought a cabin. He can't find me at all. Oh well, I'm free!
He also did the "you need to move on" I told him he needed to move on cause I don't want him back, he is an abuser and a drunk. Time for consequences of his actions I guess?😅😅😅😅
@@ClaraBrown-o2oYes they are. Blame being drunk they don’t recall doing x,y, or z to you. He did remember that bat I took to his knees and back trying to attack me while intoxicated.
We were together for 10yrs….i found out one day he was cheating . Cheated a day before I called the cops on him. Finding out who he really is has been helpful in standing firm in my boundaries. He still a whole year later blames me for calling the cops . He says there’s other women who wouldn’t call the cops. He can go ahead and find them 🤷🏾♀️
Dang I missed the live chat again :(. You are so on point with this stuff. It is like they all belong to an evil cult. I'm currently doing the cold shine on two narcissists that were in my life. I tell ya, they hate it like hek. My sister is one. A true product of my mother. I don't take please in it, but I have to protect myself. I am just sick & tired of being sick & tired.
I've dealt with both extremes, the reverse discard and the violent narcissist, so this information hits hard. Love this channel and thank you for your knowledge
❤ Lee! Pam from Detroit and not a peep after I kicked him out, remember this time last year, I found your channel and I am narcissist free, great job & bless you 😊😊😊
So true… My ex- narc said GOD told him not to lose me because I’m supposed to be his wife. He physically blocked the door 🚪 to keep me from leaving.🤦🏽♀️Lee, you are answering all my questions I have about my ex- narc. Thank you so much.😊 ❤️🩹
Every word you have said is true. My ex treated me worse than a dog and would ask, "Why do I stay if he's that bad."When I finally decided to leave, he laughed in my face and told me I wasn't going anywhere and told me no one else would want me. Then, when the divorce was final, he responded, saying it hit him like a bomb, which I knew wasn't true.I know that is what he wanted but he wasn't prepared to spend the money to file.And secondly he could tell the world I was the one who left. All that, while trying to introduce the new supply to his grown children.SMH I don't, which is worse, him being a textbook narcissist , me for not realising what the hell I was dealing with or the deep trauma that is so brutal !😢😭😭 To the outside world this man is a Knight in shining armour.Talk about an Inside oppressor and an outside impressor
My narc said - You're lucky I won't hit a woman ? - I said - remember this - if you dare lay a hand on me - when I'm done with you - you will have one less body part - while looking him straight in the eye - game over!
My ex Narc showed up un announced at my house twice..the second time I told him to get his stuff out my house..this fool said I didn’t come here for that 🤣
I lost it when he went on his rant about "it couldnt be..." 😂😂😂 "It couldn't be that i only take one bath a week... It couldn't be I haven't worked in 6 years" 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you Lee for your videos and wisdom your helping so many people aand giving them opportunities, m6 eldest son is dealing with one sorry to say, he had no clue before he started watching these
My narc wouldn't let me leave he's even locked me inside house in a room. Then one day he said if I want to go go but I had to allow his friend to drop me off at my next location so I agreed and when I got away from that house i made his friend let me out that damn car and I called me an uber and he's currently searching for me high and low. Calling from multiple numbers its scary I pray I'm never found.
My son is 12yrs old, so I have 12yr NO WORK GAP smh! Mimd you I have a Master, BA and AA. Told me I didn’t need to work but work for his business cutting grass and cleaning house. Then throw me out and my kids left with nothing, he said he tried to stifle me and mind you he is a Christian! I have never know people like this existed! I wasted 12 yrs but God is good he will never leave me or forsake me!
MY EX BORNED MY APARTMENT !!! TALK. ABOUT SICKNESS !!! 😡🫥 I HAD A PLANE ✈️ OUT FOR 31/2 MONTHS VACATION CAME BACK , HE BECAME SOBER AFTER . And That’s Making The Story Short . God Bless U ppl ! 🙏🏼✝️💥Fm Brooklyn NY .
I love that you pulled out that book! That's very beautiful and necessary. I applaud your efforts. Your helping lots of people by putting this information out! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 May you be blessed 🙏🏽
I told him I was done after I found drugs and paraphernalia. He agreed to check into rehab that day. I suspect only to run away from his lies secrets deceit and cheating. I found his encrypted messages on his apple watch after I got back home. I packed his stuff in trash bags and boxes and it's ready for him to pick up whenever he gets out.
I never realized slacking on self cleanliness could be a sign of narcissism! My spouse used to shower multiple times a day prior to us moving together, then suddenly only twice a week (even though he’s a heavy sweater)
You are absolutely 💯 correct because I am so going through this shit now I am packing up all my shit and I am supposed to work this weekend and he doesn't want to watch his kid and I had to quit my part time job today.
Lee H. You are so humorous 😂😅 you always know how to make me laugh or make put a smile 😃 on face 😄 😆 ☺️ ✌🏼👌🏼. I like it when you say ( be blah blah boo boo boo BBB) 😂😊😅. Best 👌🏼😝✌🏼vibes.
I said go to hell once in an argument as a passing comment out of frustration and anger and his response was so you want me to burn to death in the depths of hell for all eternity … slightly intense. I definitely left in silence. To a new location and new details 💁♀️ NC 4 months
Lee. With me, he would speak to me everyday for up to three hours, he spoke to me for three hours the night before and then ignored me for 9 weeks. I had enough and took all his stuff to him and he went mental. I ended it there and then. We had been together 8 years, he barely mentioned his ex and then talked non stop about her for a few months before l ended it and how they were very good friends. I believe she was turning him against me. When l ended it, he said you are amazing, l love you , can't wait to see you. ,???? He knows l was the best thing that ever happened to him but she will always be there. The lies, deceit, l was the secrets, manipulation,control. When l ended it he also said he used to be respected and would never be respected again. He made me pay for everything, had every excuse not to pay, empty promises and treated me like a piece of rubbish. Scary what they can do.
He was glad I finally let go. I wasn't good supply. He only tried to contact me a couple times afterwards. I ignored him and blocked him. I don't even know why he contacted me honestly.
Lee, he says those things to my children. "I tried my hardest. I just couldn't ever meet her expectations" to MY KIDS. It's been 2 1/2 years & he's still boo-hooing & he's the one that left.
Makes me wonder what my narc/bpd ex is thinking after they said “I don’t wanna get back with you” but I respond “that’s ok! Move on! Live life. Be happy. Get married. Have kids” probably relief for them.
My narc ex has went through text now numbers, friends family, and also has stalked me for years after 3 years of abuse and traumatic experiences i couldn’t do it anymore. I literally had to pray to let him go. I even moved out of the state and started a new life and he still wouldn’t leave me alone. Like how selfish.
Exactly what she did. I even told her she was trying hard to make me leave. She played the victim. Told all her friends she tried so hard. Bullshit! What a waste of my time and energy. Hope she gets her karma
Yes, he did everything bad he could do to make me leave and told his family and friends that I was the bad guy. All the delicious food I cooked for him he never showed his friends, but when he came home at 2am and I warmed up take out food this one time for him he showed his friends in their group chat that I was a horrible woman and embarrassed me.
He was in another state when I told him I wanted a divorce, he talked to like nothing was said. It was all I love you can't wait to see you. Then when he did get back in my car it was silent treatment two months later I left him high and dry.
They will accuse of wanting someone else. They don't realize the person we choose is us. We choose our peace of mind over their chaos!!!
Deadass. They’re the kind of people to point to the door and scream “if you’re so unhappy after all I’ve done for you then just get the f out of my life” and then when you’re like “okay, we’re done and I’m leaving” they get all shocked or even aggressive because “how dare you” smfh
"LET THE CHURCH SAY AMEN!"
after only 2 weeks, MONTHS AGO, I'm STILL "smfh" over that boy!!!!
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Mental abuse hurts way more than any punch. The toll it takes on that person, male or female, can be catastrophic. My wife’s ex husband certainly abused her for 18 years with all of his games. Reversing all the damage was a challenge, but she was finally able to get out of that fog and be her true self again.
I think this is a myth. Physical abuse especially 🍇 are very traumatic. Both kinds are bad emotional and physical
Mine did both. First, he was happy because he had his side check on the back burner. But when that ended, and he tried to come back and found out, I wasn’t taking him back, that’s when he went insane. He truly thought that he could keep the wife and kids at home waiting for him every time he got a new crush and wanted to play with her for a couple months, then come back home playing husband and father. I’m not sure why he thought I was desperate enough to take his ass back, but he was wrong.
Same 💯 💯
They are so sick!
Stay strong and stay away. Just keep remembering all the disrespectful things he did towards you.
Narcissist never stop, everytime I thought he couldn’t do more than he had already done, he surpasses that, it’s unbelievable!
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This right here 💯💯
I personally wouldn't suggest telling the Toxic person you are leaving! Leave in silence!! I would have never been able to get out of my Toxic relationship by saying it's over. My ex thought I belonged to him!! He would always tell me he isn't going anywhere! That's why I knew I couldn't just tell my ex it was over. I planned once I went into hiding to do everything I needed to end my relationship.
Same and heavily agree! They will make it harder for you to leave and it gets worse everytime you go back smh
I did the same.
Definitely don't tell them they will not accept it and u most likely will get physically hurt or even killed.
Always leave in silence. These relationships are the only exception where ghosting is acceptable.
At this point I realize you have to know what works in your situation. I tried to silently quit and inherited a stalker at all times of the day and night. Stalked my mom and other siblings looking for me, as well as places I used to frequent. All I can say is do what you can safely get away with.
Left 4 days ago.. living on pins and needles. He tried to break in my home but couldn’t fit through my window. Constantly looking over my shoulder. It’s so scary. I was only with this person for 6 weeks 😢
@@Emalbertx God bless you and keep you God is close to the broken at heart 💔🙏🏽
I feel so stupid for wasting 31 years of my life with this man. There was never anyone else for me. I love, loved him with all my heart. He cheated on me numerous times. His last affair, he went to a regular bar hangout. Came home told me he was 70 years old and I wasn’t going to tell him what he could or couldn’t do. He then beat me up that night. He had his hands around my throat, he had punched me like he would in a barroom fight . He kept poking the incision of where my port for chemo was. Then he put his hands on my throat and at that time, I knew it was me or him! Once I could kick him in the stomach he ran, but not before doing the demonic rage. I literally saw the devil in his eyes. I knew at that moment, he had to go. He already had the “new supply” lined up and they were having an affair while I was literally fighting for my life from stage 4 cancer. I hate him! I now have PTSD. I have so much vengeance in my heart and can’t seem to let go of it. Time will tell.😊
Prayers for your health and healing. They are real live zombie monsters with no soul whatsoever. God bless you in your healing!!
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Wow I am so sorry you had to go through so much abuse. I hope time will help you heal! Once my ex punched me in my stomach after five years of being with him I knew I had to end the relationship!! It's been almost two years since I've been out of that Toxic relationship. I have listened to Lee's videos, Dr. Ramani's and others. All of these videos along with getting a PTO, filing assault charges, family , friends, and some coworkers who helped me, and staying No Contact has helped me become a stronger person!!
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Didn’t waste 31 years but 2 out of 3 of my ex’s were full blown narcs 🤦🏽♀️ 6 years with one and 2.5 with another. Now I’m 37 and can’t stand men, people, or dating. I guess it’s narcissistic flees
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Not all narcissists cheat. Mine was so into me, he gave me access to his phone, come home on time, can’t wait to spend time with me. He was actually perfect, everything a woman could ever need in a man. The kind who gives attention, time, loyal, provide whatever he can, cook, help you clean…But the unpredictable rage, the constant terrible verbal and emotional beat down, you’re feeling scared for your life. That made me so confused for a long time if I was being abused or not. Then it clicked He gave me a lot of highs then gave the lows in and between to the point I started to feel like his behaviors were normal. I started to drink every night just to fall asleep and he would still shake me up in the middle of the night to tell me he had a dream of something I did just to start a fight. Now I’m scared of all humans.
I got chills from reading this, you just described my boyfriend😳 He would be perfect if he wasn’t a narc. I know exactly how you feel because Im dealing with the same type of person, this situation is so complicated, volatile and mentally exhausting for me. I hope we find the strength to leave soon!
I get that
@@sophhilaire225 I appreciate you sharing your story. My Toxic ex was very similar. He always was at home when I came home. On the days he worked he was always home by 7pm. We did alot of things together. We played board games, went on trips, he cooked, he loved to wash clothes; he took care of the yard, he loved going to the grocery store etc. I just couldn't except his verbal abuse , his escalating physical abuse. He started out pinching, pushing, throwing my purse , phone if I tried to leave. He broke bracelets. But the final straw was when he punched me in my stomach. I always said to myself I will never stay with someone if they put their hands on me! I ended up going to the emergency room a day later, I went into hiding, during that time I filed a police report, PTO, an eviction notice. I stayed away until he was served which took 8 to 9 days. Then when I came home I had my locks changed. But I had never cheated on him even though he would accuse me , I never caught him cheating. But I sometimes wonder if he did because he raged more towards the end of the relationship. We were together for five years.
I experienced a man like this too. Those good moments are to just cover up the bad.
No contact for life ignore ignore and ignore never go back keep moving ahead!!!!
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UM-HUH!!! POINT BLANK. PERIOD. END OF STORY!!!!!!!
He thinks no matter how terrible he treats me i just will never leave. I am leaving
The Domestic hotline is very helpful!!
Yup. Mine thought the same, after I stuck with it for 20 years.
And I didn't leave. I just told him to start packing.
He seemed genuinely shocked and upset. But then our daughter spotted him with another woman two days later... Smh.
You go🎉. Wish you old love and safety.. Please do just like lee as telling you and make a plan🎉 The best plan is kept.
To yourself and executed on the date that you chosen
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Seek counseling first
I remember telling my narcissist I was done. I was yelling and crying at the same time. His reaction “yeah yeah whatever” and walked off like you’ll be back. After the blow up I left briefly and came back slowly and different from before. Then I began to send back one word text messages and missed calls on purpose. I went no contact and blocked him. It’s been over 2 years. 😊😊
I'm one year out but I'm going through the same thing I went back to and it was terrible he was drinking behind my back after I've been sober I'm ignoring his calls and sending one word texts as well and not excited about anything he says
Don’t think that was healthy but hey whatever floats your boat.
@@MantimeHustle yes indeed and you be blessed
Pride in toxic behavior. You think you are better than them? Get your external validation elsewhere.
He never hit me or cheated. That's what my ex-husband used to minimize his abuse. The absence of physical wounds and infidelity helped him justify his behavior.
That you know of..?
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My internal lie detector is going off. He would never admit it if he cheated.
Mine too
Yap. And say sht like ..."I could be doing a bunch of other things...but I'm not, I'm here with you" whenever confronted about anything.... The narc I was entertaining for like a month...said stuff like... "I been on my best behavior. I could be really on some other sht but I'm on my best behavior" ..smh...sad. seems like there's a delay in their development or something. They seem almost slow but think they're smart.
They always have someone else! He knew not to touch me, I’m a fighter!
These are the videos I watch when I'm at the gym and need someone else's voice in my head 😂 thanks Lee!
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respectfully, listen to...something else during that time when ur supposed to be de-stressing, decompressing... get the most you can get out of your workout. u'll have plenty of time to watch these vids later ... PEACE!!!!
I don’t care how a narc feels about anything 🤷🏾♀️
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😂😂😂😂 I don't either! 👍🤜🤛
Then you're the same as them.... There are people that are mentally challenged by whatever anger or misfortune happened to them at a young age. And while you don't have to care and it's not your responsibility to fix. They are human beings. Walk away from them and be happy. But the main thing a narcissist does is lack empathy. Which is exactly what do you guys are saying is okay.... Hurt.
People hurt people... Don't become a narcissist just because you're with one
@@najibahlassiter7573 I don't think that she meant that she doesn't care about people! I think what she is saying is that she doesn't care about the narcissist feelings concerning the evil that they want to do, which she shouldn't! God would not have us to cater to other people's bad behavior!
2:11 He raged before but the final one was the worst - in the car almost getting us into multiple accidents. Screaming, pounding the dashboard, calling me a horrible, abusive woman, telling me to get the fuck out on and on crazy nonsense that I had no clue where it was coming from! That's the day I finally left. I truly believe he thought I was going to try to fix it and forgive again - but I didn't. I briefly saw him the next day (I didn't go back alone) and he said "I'm done". I said "Me too" and told him I recorded him this time (which I did) and he said "I figured you did" and I said "That's not love." And he said "Ok..." 2 days later I was there with family and friends and completely moved out. I honestly don't think he was expecting that at all. He was there and appeared shocked. He just kept his head down and didn't look at anyone. I'm sure he knew everyone there heard his rage that I recorded... which they did. It was crazy and creepy the way he just lerked around the whole time, but I'm glad I finally got out! That was 2 months ago and I haven't really heard from him since other than a couple texts with final things to pu, him to get some things out of my storage shed and him texting "I hope you're ok" but I never responded.
Growing up my mom was narcissistic ab*sive... My friends would tell me they didn't like coming into my house bc they could FEEL the negative cloud and vibe in the house. It was heavy. And it's crazy that "outsiders" could feel it without truly Knowing what happens behind the curtain.
Thank you so very much for helping us understand all there is to know about these toxic people. It’s such a blessing to have you and your channel. Good on you for owning your own shit and working on improving yourself by becoming self aware.
you’re welcome
Many women have been murdered by a toxic narcissistic partner when they are ready to leave and making plans, the partner knows they are leaving. Just before the day the partner is to move out, the women are found missing, body found later.
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I’m a little worried about that. My husband is violent. I’m secretly saving so that I can one day leaving with my kids. I’m the only one that knows his secret and he’s afraid his family will find out.
@@oceanrose6328 stay safe
@@oceanrose6328then please please make sure he has no way of finding that comment you just posted.
@@oceanrose6328tell no one your plans to save your kids and yourself, right now you shouldn't trust anyone but yourself. YOU GOT THIS.
Lee you are humorous 😂😂😂. But I appreciate your humor in getting your message across.😂😂
Thank you
My first one went crazy when I left, my current couldn’t care less. I’m staying single for the rest of my life! 😂
I feel you. It's like everyone is a Narc after you've been true more than one. Stay strong and keep your peace❤
Literally told me I belong to him...but "ain't nobody trying to be with nobody" in the same convo. At this point I could care less how that weirdo feels. Also, they see THEMSELVES as Gods. "God(I) told me (myself) to take you out."
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Your antics and re-enactments crack me up! Narcs are good actors and performers 🎭
In my situation I had to tell him cause I wanted him to leave our joint space. He didn't let me have any peace and quiet. I had no other man. I just wanted my peace. It was worth it.
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My soon to be ex husband used the "discard " as a power play. He thought I would beg and bleeding him back, when I didn't and I said I was done he somehow left cause his "aunt" I never heard of died and blah blah blah! I was the bad person for not understanding? Wtf? Then the fucker tries to trap me using his back taxes he owed the IRS with thinking I owed him my ss number so he could have his debt on me, that would have trapped me for years cause his irresponsibility. He stalked me for 2+ years, went off grid literally and bought a cabin. He can't find me at all. Oh well, I'm free!
He also did the "you need to move on" I told him he needed to move on cause I don't want him back, he is an abuser and a drunk. Time for consequences of his actions I guess?😅😅😅😅
This what i want get cabin and be to far he knows nothing from me and I don’t know nothing of him
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@@psmith990acholic Narcissist are the worst ❤
@@ClaraBrown-o2oYes they are. Blame being drunk they don’t recall doing x,y, or z to you. He did remember that bat I took to his knees and back trying to attack me while intoxicated.
I’m so glad I found your channel. A real life saver😢❤
Happy to help!
Omg the fact you said he ain’t beat me, cheat on me, and did you wrong! Is all true!!
We were together for 10yrs….i found out one day he was cheating . Cheated a day before I called the cops on him. Finding out who he really is has been helpful in standing firm in my boundaries. He still a whole year later blames me for calling the cops . He says there’s other women who wouldn’t call the cops. He can go ahead and find them 🤷🏾♀️
Dang I missed the live chat again :(. You are so on point with this stuff. It is like they all belong to an evil cult. I'm currently doing the cold shine on two narcissists that were in my life. I tell ya, they hate it like hek. My sister is one. A true product of my mother. I don't take please in it, but I have to protect myself. I am just sick & tired of being sick & tired.
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I'm there with most of my DNA relatives. I don't waste my time on time wasters, especially those who hate!!!
Lee… you are sooo honest and we need truth. Thank you!
Mine gaslighted me and I actually forgot I broke up with him so this way 2 days later he could tell me he was done..man was I confused 😂
I've dealt with both extremes, the reverse discard and the violent narcissist, so this information hits hard. Love this channel and thank you for your knowledge
you’re welcome 🙏🏽
❤ Lee! Pam from Detroit and not a peep after I kicked him out, remember this time last year, I found your channel and I am narcissist free, great job & bless you 😊😊😊
Oh wow!
So true… My ex- narc said GOD told him not to lose me because I’m supposed to be his wife. He physically blocked the door 🚪 to keep me from leaving.🤦🏽♀️Lee, you are answering all my questions I have about my ex- narc. Thank you so much.😊 ❤️🩹
Every word you have said is true. My ex treated me worse than a dog and would ask, "Why do I stay if he's that bad."When I finally decided to leave, he laughed in my face and told me I wasn't going anywhere and told me no one else would want me. Then, when the divorce was final, he responded, saying it hit him like a bomb, which I knew wasn't true.I know that is what he wanted but he wasn't prepared to spend the money to file.And secondly he could tell the world I was the one who left. All that, while trying to introduce the new supply to his grown children.SMH
I don't, which is worse, him being a textbook narcissist , me for not realising what the hell I was dealing with or the deep trauma that is so brutal !😢😭😭
To the outside world this man is a Knight in shining armour.Talk about an Inside oppressor and an outside impressor
Took away his favorite toy. He can yank you out and play with you until he wants to play with you again. How dare you want better
The BEST feeling in the world is not caring! It took me eight months bur you. Will get there
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My narc said - You're lucky I won't hit a woman ? - I said - remember this - if you dare lay a hand on me - when I'm done with you - you will have one less body part - while looking him straight in the eye - game over!
My ex Narc showed up un announced at my house twice..the second time I told him to get his stuff out my house..this fool said I didn’t come here for that 🤣
Omg 😂 the nerve
@@Sherr-t4z they are cray cray 😜
@@shaykay2389 unfortunately yes 😂
Delulu 😂
I love how we can all laugh 😂 yet we’ve been abused. Shows our resilience ❤
Wow this is on point 🎯🎯🎯
Thank you for making this content. Your channel and others are really helping me thru hard times. I appreciate you 🙏
You are so welcome
I lost it when he went on his rant about "it couldnt be..." 😂😂😂 "It couldn't be that i only take one bath a week... It couldn't be I haven't worked in 6 years" 😂😂😂😂😂
Lawd I rolled out on the floor crying laughing 😂😂😂😂😂😊this was way too funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Your explaination of the thought processes here had me ROLLING! 😂 SO on the money.
God is not happy with them and BS! 🔐 Keep it 100 💯💯
The “I take one bath a week”😂😂😂😂😂😂 I really hope you have never heard that as a reason out of someone’s mouth.🤣😂🤣😂🤣
How dare you too!! I wished i had somebody else, i could've used a happy reason.
I just want to say thank you for all this information I figured him out sometime ago you're the confirmation.
Thank you Lee for your videos and wisdom your helping so many people aand giving them opportunities, m6 eldest son is dealing with one sorry to say, he had no clue before he started watching these
The End of this video was hilarious. Thank you for for your teachings ❤❤
My narc wouldn't let me leave he's even locked me inside house in a room. Then one day he said if I want to go go but I had to allow his friend to drop me off at my next location so I agreed and when I got away from that house i made his friend let me out that damn car and I called me an uber and he's currently searching for me high and low. Calling from multiple numbers its scary I pray I'm never found.
My son is 12yrs old, so I have 12yr NO WORK GAP smh! Mimd you I have a Master, BA and AA. Told me I didn’t need to work but work for his business cutting grass and cleaning house. Then throw me out and my kids left with nothing, he said he tried to stifle me and mind you he is a Christian! I have never know people like this existed! I wasted 12 yrs but God is good he will never leave me or forsake me!
MY EX BORNED MY APARTMENT !!! TALK. ABOUT SICKNESS !!! 😡🫥 I HAD A PLANE ✈️ OUT FOR 31/2 MONTHS VACATION CAME BACK , HE BECAME SOBER AFTER . And That’s Making The Story Short . God Bless U ppl !
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I planned me living for over a year.. and when it finally happened I see why I planned for so long
Advice please?
I love that you pulled out that book! That's very beautiful and necessary. I applaud your efforts. Your helping lots of people by putting this information out! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 May you be blessed 🙏🏽
Thank you so much!
This is so funny but true. They will saw the craziest things good job Lee
I told him I was done after I found drugs and paraphernalia. He agreed to check into rehab that day. I suspect only to run away from his lies secrets deceit and cheating. I found his encrypted messages on his apple watch after I got back home. I packed his stuff in trash bags and boxes and it's ready for him to pick up whenever he gets out.
Oh the Narc… coming to Macys near you 😂😂😂😂 you are hilarious Lee!
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Your videos are always great. Appreciate you!!
Definitely gonna buy your book. Ty
I never realized slacking on self cleanliness could be a sign of narcissism! My spouse used to shower multiple times a day prior to us moving together, then suddenly only twice a week (even though he’s a heavy sweater)
You are absolutely 💯 correct because I am so going through this shit now I am packing up all my shit and I am supposed to work this weekend and he doesn't want to watch his kid and I had to quit my part time job today.
Lee H. You are so humorous 😂😅 you always know how to make me laugh or make put a smile 😃 on face 😄 😆 ☺️ ✌🏼👌🏼. I like it when you say ( be blah blah boo boo boo BBB) 😂😊😅. Best 👌🏼😝✌🏼vibes.
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@@MentalHealness Lee Hammock 🤣😁⚡ ENERGY ✌🏼😌 🧘🏼♀️. Good night 🙏🏼💤😴💯💯💯💯%
That last “How dare you”😂 made me laugh. I love your videos.
I said go to hell once in an argument as a passing comment out of frustration and anger and his response was so you want me to burn to death in the depths of hell for all eternity … slightly intense. I definitely left in silence. To a new location and new details 💁♀️ NC 4 months
Lee. With me, he would speak to me everyday for up to three hours, he spoke to me for three hours the night before and then ignored me for 9 weeks. I had enough and took all his stuff to him and he went mental. I ended it there and then. We had been together 8 years, he barely mentioned his ex and then talked non stop about her for a few months before l ended it and how they were very good friends. I believe she was turning him against me. When l ended it, he said you are amazing, l love you , can't wait to see you. ,???? He knows l was the best thing that ever happened to him but she will always be there. The lies, deceit, l was the secrets, manipulation,control. When l ended it he also said he used to be respected and would never be respected again. He made me pay for everything, had every excuse not to pay, empty promises and treated me like a piece of rubbish. Scary what they can do.
“Who cares if I open hand 🤚 hit you, I could have closed my fist 👊🏽 “🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can’t stop laughing
First i thought he pulled back and leave me alone until I knowted he follow me and stalked me in creepy ways
Wow. Some cold ass truth in this video. Just stumbled upon your channel today and thank you!! A lot of very interesting & informative content.
He was glad I finally let go. I wasn't good supply. He only tried to contact me a couple times afterwards. I ignored him and blocked him. I don't even know why he contacted me honestly.
You are a goofball!!🤣. I love it. Thank you!
I told the one i was with, cry me a river and let the demons play with you😮😮😮😮 he was super mad mad, but i didn't care anymore. God got me!!!
Lee, he says those things to my children. "I tried my hardest. I just couldn't ever meet her expectations" to MY KIDS. It's been 2 1/2 years & he's still boo-hooing & he's the one that left.
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Makes me wonder what my narc/bpd ex is thinking after they said “I don’t wanna get back with you” but I respond “that’s ok! Move on! Live life. Be happy. Get married. Have kids” probably relief for them.
My narc ex has went through text now numbers, friends family, and also has stalked me for years after 3 years of abuse and traumatic experiences i couldn’t do it anymore. I literally had to pray to let him go. I even moved out of the state and started a new life and he still wouldn’t leave me alone. Like how selfish.
Exactly what she did. I even told her she was trying hard to make me leave. She played the victim. Told all her friends she tried so hard. Bullshit! What a waste of my time and energy. Hope she gets her karma
Thank you Lee, I am going NO contact and moving on. 🙏☺
Yes, he did everything bad he could do to make me leave and told his family and friends that I was the bad guy. All the delicious food I cooked for him he never showed his friends, but when he came home at 2am and I warmed up take out food this one time for him he showed his friends in their group chat that I was a horrible woman and embarrassed me.
I have to admit, this had some funny parts... Good stuff! Great info!
Your skin is popping Lee from a fellow ♋.
He was in another state when I told him I wanted a divorce, he talked to like nothing was said. It was all I love you can't wait to see you. Then when he did get back in my car it was silent treatment two months later I left him high and dry.
The How Dare You’s got me on the floor
that was like a sermon. good one. 💓
I told my wife I was done and now all of a sudden she's acting like nothing ever happened....weird ass....avoiding all accountability smh
Same here smh...
7:40 😂😂😂 the narcissistic funk
That's what mine thinks he just does what he wants because he thinks imma put up with it all I need to know how to go ... Why can't I just go??
I need to hear this
Oh yes - exactly!
You are great. I am listening to you from Tehran Iran.❤
My god youre right on this topic.
I'm tired of him being with new supply but still messing with me. Not physically but emotionally
Awwww man…. I just got to the part about the wife who showers once a month! Boy I spoke tooo soon!😱😷
Lee this is all facts❤
Question? WHY THEY DONT WANT TO SEE YOU HAPPY IF ITS NOT WITH THEM BUT THEY KNOW DAMN WELL YOU NOT HAPPY WITH THEM & my last NARC had a LUST problem
Physical abuser and a cheater in my two marriages from 21-27 & 33-pending divorce.
And YES REVERSE DISREGARD 💯💯💯💯
Yes, it's very scary
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It's the you can't tell me what to do narc funk!.😂😂
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How do you get thru the anger, confusion, betrayal and grief?
My experience is they shower 5 time per day and after almost every time when going out... Wondered how the skin still sticks to their body..
He’s a real narcissist. His eyes lack emotional tenseness.