Characteristics of Narcissism: Resistance to Criticism
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- Опубліковано 30 лип 2023
- At the core of narcissism lies a fragile self-esteem. Criticism, whether perceived or genuine, can threaten to expose their vulnerability. As a defence mechanism, they tend to reject, deny, or dismiss any form of criticism to preserve their self-image as infallible.
Being highly resistant to criticism is often associated with grandiose narcissism, whereas being highly sensitive to criticism if often associated with covert narcissism.
This video looks at some of the situations where narcissistic people can be, or feel criticised, such as in the workplace, in families, in personal relationships and on social media, and gives examples of common reactions and the reasons behind those reactions.
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They can dish it out, but can never take any Criticism 😏🚩🏃♀️
I don't like being criticised but I am listening, I don't lash out or shout like Narcs do.
They will also interpret something you said as criticism even when you're not actually criticizing them at all. It's their paranoia that gets them. They are avoiding toxic shame. They often cause the very thing that they are avoiding.
Such an important topic... Looking forward to this one. Criticism is usually received as a personal attack and vindictive by the narcissist if it challenges anything that most balanced or thoughtful people would take into consideration and make corrections if warranted.
My mother breaks down in fake crying whenever the slightest resistance to her narrative is presented. Then my security guard father steps in the protect her. I don’t visit them very often.
Narcissistic collapse. I experienced this 2 yrs ago with my husband of 13 yrs. He then went into a seething rage that lasted 1.5yr while i endured his narcissistic abuse. It’s like his mask came off once and for all. I am so perplexed by this despite having done so much research on the topic-how could he so drastically change so quickly? And then never return to the masked person who at least could be nice and agreeable? Now I’m left with an unapologetic, antagonistic ahole.
In hindsight and after consuming thousands of hours of education on the topic, i believe what preceded the narcissistic collapse was a direct and pointed harsh criticism from me to him of something that had been building for quite some time for me and i didn’t hold back.
Well i have sure as hell paid the price now!
We have young kids which makes it very hard to leave.
I have also learned through all of my educating that my mother is a malignant narcissist or narcissistic sociopath, and my father is a narcissist. My father in law is also a narcissist and my MIL is a huge enabler of him. To say i am enmeshed is an understatement.
I feel like all of my structures as I’ve known them are crumbling around me. Although i feel strong and my kids keep me going, i feel like i have a lot of people around me trying to bend me until i break and sometimes i dont know how much more i can take, as i already feel like a shell of myself. I am learning to set boundaries and often calling out behavior (which i think i have to stop bc it just makes it harder for me to deal with their wrath); my family is not liking me setting boundaries.
I don’t know how i will get out of this and keep my kids as best protected as i can
Is he still nice outside of the home? Does he still wear the mask for others? They often don't even try to mask up at home.
Narcissist has two self-images, one fake, in which they feel entitled, superior, and flawless, and the other, real, in which narcissist is just another imperfect, insecure, faulty, struggling human like other people.
When criticized, narcissist defends the fake self-image that does not exist.
How does such behavior even make sense?
When criticised they deflect and blame others it’s incredibly frustrating.
I really enjoy these videos; I feel like all the things I’ve not been able to express, were confused by, got blamed & attacked for have actually been heard & validated!! 🙏🏻❤️ Bless!!
I also enjoy playing them when my narc “husband” - who is now on Day 3 of the Silent Treatment 🙄 - is in the room. I used to turn the volume down so he didn’t get offended, but now I don’t care. My existence offends him. There’s freedom in knowing that baseline because it makes everything else I feel the need to do for myself permissible. 😅
I just discovered this channel recently. I love your voice. It's very soothing. Sort of ironic given the grave nature of the subject matter is in contrast to the tranquil way the information is being delivered.
Thankyou Darren great videos. Your channel popped up today and I have returned to binge watching. I've been away for 2+ years trying to heal, and I'm doing Ok. I joined a social group and found some great friends, something the narc didn't allow me to have friends. I'm free now 3 years others in the group have varied personally traits. Some others in group I get a blue light flashing off in my brain. I met my narc when I was 14 years old, I've just celebrated my 70th. I try not to think of the lost years. I'm a survivor 😊
I just started watching again as well.
I believe that when other people say certain things to me it's like a trigger, and I jump back in to watch for awhile as a kind of therapy.
I have been divorced for a few years myself.
Once you see it, it can be a bit too easy to see those tendencies in others. And Happy Birthday! Glad you are free! 🎉
I'm the scapegoat in my family. I finally stood up to my dad and now no one is talking to me in my family.
Stick with your friends ,you can choose them unfortunately you can't choose your family.
That’s so hard. I am in a similar position.
🌱🌏💚 KiaOra Darren & community. Looking forward to this topic. Sometimes I can be so defensive I make a cactus look cuddly! 🌵 Cptsd knee jerk reaction. Default to fight rather than flight or fawn.
@Darren F. Magee. Thank you for your kindness in these videos..
Organizing my space, I took a few (unsolicited) good ideas from my narcissist. When I said one idea didn’t make sense and I was going to do something else, she took it personally, threw her hands out in a martyr pose and said, “fine, if you want to keep struggling go ahead” and turned it into my character flaw because I didn’t want to do her thing. She talks a lot about me dealing with the log in my eye, which is ironic because she has a ton of issues to deal with that she blames me for.
Since you are not interacting with a narcissist, or thinking about or acknowledging her existence, you don't need to worry about criticism, what she thinks or anything else. With narcissists, noninteraction is the best and only solution. If interaction is legally necessary, only in writing and in dry ice cold, stripped, bare necessity clinical words as few as possible.
These videos have helped me recognize the narcissistic behavior that I am responsible for, in my own life.
I love your channel. ❤ I love how your presentation is simple and straight forward and calm and reassuring. Thank you. 🙏
Thank you for a great video. Spot on.
It's so sad they can't accept criticism. I know I struggled to learn how for a long time, because I grew up modeling the behavior of my narcissistic parents. So now I am wondering, in theory, who corrects their enemy? No one. Criticism is advice on how to become a better person. When they can't accept criticism, they are in effect doubling down on their poor behavior. Of course they end up alone, because they've rejected a lifetime self improvement opportunities. It also makes sense their self-esteem would be so fragile, because it's built upon such a dilapidated foundation. It's an odd feeling to be more mature than one's parents.
Does anybody else get the feeling that these deep dives on narcissism are a lot of thinly veiled shade thrown at some of the more notable abberations of the American political system? (Totally deserved, carry on, sir.)
Hi Darren, thank again for all of you efforts and generosity in sharing. I wanted to ask youu= a question that keeps eating away at me. Can a narcissist have muliple targets that they are controlling, and if they can, is it common or uncommon? I know you are busy, I have not heard anyone ever mention it, so I assumed it was no, but I don't know for sure, and I try not to assume.
Thanks again for the very good information about this topic it is extremely helpful
Really enjoying your videos and learning a lot. Thank you. Have finally subscribed.
Thank you.
didn't see notification as was being terrorized on the fone by the ex....he demanded an answer to his call and left a drunken angry voice message.....I have a hospital appointment in the morning......I AGAIN need to wait til the looper sobers up b4 I block him and dump him all over again.......he will call to my door 'worried I am dead from an accident' unless I send him a voice message lying telling him I am busy and will get back to him tomoro......if I don't do it this way my hospital appointment will b destroyed by him
A lot of people are learning about CondorDM right now.
I didn´t know - really I didn´t. And never meant it mean. (Yes I overreacted but it was simple because I was angry). But unbelievable things I got back... That are not normal thinking people - sorry they are not. For me: Never again!
I call it their God/Victim complex. They smite you say really awful things but if you simply have a different desire out comes the Victim
Jeez, my ex-wife down to a tee.
I find your video going very fast and hard to catch each points. I had to stop multiple times to grasp each points. As request, you talk bit slow? I think that would be helpful for non-native English speakers. Thanks Darren! ☺️
You can slow it down yourself in the settings. :)
@@user-tb5lw9fb7kyeah that’s what I did ☺️
You can't please everyone, anything slower I need to put on 1.5 speed.
I feel their fear of criticism stems from the all or nothing mindset. If you stand in the all section, you can’t say enough. If you are suddenly back in the nothing section, wether you speak or remain silent, it’s criticism 😅
@jinakurd2010 you must be quite a gem, hopefully nothing narcissistic too. We are not given this information so that we can misuse the label "narcissist".
Someone made a polite request. You don't have to project your disdain onto them, just because you dont like that they asked.