1 start meditation 2 begin journal your nagative emotions and thought 3 witness your inner child be a observer what you observe 4 acknowledge your inner child about the feel 5 validate your inner child i see you i hear you i love you, you are loved 6 have empathy, feeling for yourself for what your inner child went through 7 get a photo of your self and keep it near you, and talk kindly to your child
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for sharing these videos. They are incredibly helpful on this healing journey I am on. The way you speak is so comforting and gentle it is much appreciated.
Finding your videos has been so helpful to me! My Father was an angry, mean, and physically and sexually abusive man. I was so scared of him. He sexually abused me from age 3 to 11. He emotionally abused me until he died at 92. I ended up marrying a narcissist just like my Father. Only he never raised his voice. On our wedding night he just stopped talking to me. He wouldn’t look at me. He wouldn’t communicate with me about anything. I finally divorced him 25 years later. Because of my upbringing, I have always thought it was ok for people to treat me this way. They treat me this way because I did something wrong. I am now 65. I have always let people talk to me crazy. I let people do crazy things to me. Thinking, it must be me! Why can’t I learn to do things right? I finally got the courage to tell my Doctor about my childhood. That was 3 visits ago. I thought he was different. I told him how afraid of men I was. On my visit with him last week, he interrupted me and said. Your needs are too much! You are too much. He shamed me and made me feel, not good enough. Just like my Father and husband always did. I was so confused. I left that appointment asking myself what did I do wrong? Why was he so mean to me? He made me question the whole visit with him. I have been in tears and angry with myself for being so stupid. I watched several of your videos and I am being to see that it is not my fault. I didn’t do anything wrong. I have just been programmed to believe this about myself. I have another appointment with my Doctor in 2 weeks. I think I will cancel it. It is not acceptable for him to talk to me that way. Especially since he knows my background. I opened myself up to him, showed him my wounds. And he turned on me and made me feel small. He made me feel ashamed. This will be the first time I have ever stood up for myself. I hope I will have the courage to go through with it. GOD BLESS YOU for all that you do for others that have endured this abuse for so many years!
I recently started therapy I thought I was fine and Normal like we all do😢,one minute iam doing ok the next a simple comment triggers me. I was raised by an emotionally immatured mother,it damaged me and sometimes iam crying because I know iam not suppose to be feeling this empty and unwanted because I know iam a good person but it just hurts having memories of everything that was said to me all the time I ridiculed for showing emotion and expressing my feelings, All I wanted was her love,attention and protection😢
Dear God... Marcia! (And Teekay) - I do hope you cancelled then Marcia! Bcuz you're right! And I cancelled my "therapist " after just 4 sessions when I realised Im feeling anxious before / during and after the sessions! 😂 Then I got someone better :) ALWAYS do what's right for you girls! 😘😀❤❤❤💪💪💪
I hope you're doing good now , this world is full of people with narcissistic tendencies or the whole thing, and also narcissistic enablers. You are probably a good sensitive hearted person who knows how to love. I wish you find the beautiful people that can help you feel safe and share life with. And I hope you already give all the love and security to your self.❤
I was a happy, optimistic child raised by an angry, sour narcissistic mother; I would look for other ‘mothers’ and avoid my own mother as much as possible. I had a narc boyfriend at uni and due to no help from my family lost him so that was positive irony lol. I didn’t end up with a narc partner until I was 56 and that was when I learnt about narcissism; and then realised my mother was a narc and that most of my ‘friends’ were narcs. It’s weird; I spend a lot of time ‘replaying’ the past, it makes sense now.
You must feel amazing!!! I look forward to my post when i can say a month or even a week!!! I had a day couple weeks ago, he came with one dog we have, took the one I have too, they were gone for a couple of hours, but I felt this freedom, sense of relief that I didn't have to worry about his behaviour while the dogs are with him. Why does he have compassion for the dogs, but not all people. Sorry! Congrats on no contact! You give us hope to hang on!
When I first watched one of Lisa’s videos, I thought it was woo woo psycho-babble. But some things she said resonated with me, and opened my mind up to receive her wisdom. Now I’m finally healing, which is super slow. Thought it would be fast but it takes a while to rewire your subconscious programming. I can finally see some progress! Going no contact has really helped.
Love Light healing and blessing to anyone reading this, know you are an amazing bad ass for taking any part in healing yourself and loving yourself...Thank you, you are so worth it...so much love....muah!!!
thank you, Lisa! I am now doing the journaling and meditation you offer. I have a similar story to you except my mom admits she was traumatized as a child, but she has done no recovery work. I am the one breaking that cycle.
I AM SO VERY GREATFUL FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL AMAZING WOMAN AND ALL THE WORK SHE DOES TO HELP US TO HELP, HEAL,& EMPOWER OURSELVES... THANK YOU LISA DOESNT FEEL LIKE ENOUGH, and if I had any $ I'd be sending you flowers and gifts all the time to express my gratitude...You're the strongest most amazing woman on youtube and I hope someday to meet you...also your children are very lucky to have you as their mother...NAMASTE 🙏
My Gratitude for the sharing of your insights is always right on the spot. Almost unbelievable that I actually have a second chance. Still OVERWHELMED.
HI Lisa. I just did your 21 day inner child healing and I love it. It took me really deep and at the end I felt renewed and loved. I did the work every day, with intension, a candle, meditation and journaling. I had the most beautiful insights as well a lot of crying ( releasing and realizing the truth is not always easy, but its worth it ) Thank you thank you thank you :)
Fantastic video. This is the way. We can do it. My biggest issue is this raging feeling I need to work something of immense importance out, that I cannot rest (literally, at night) until I'v done so. I want to give my inner child the feeling of completion on this. I have no choice if I want to have health and be well, than to sort this out. I am realizing my adult and higher self can give my inner child this sense of resolving and reassurance. Groundbreaking💝
Loved this video… you are so articulate! I have experienced so much of what you talk about, but you are so great at communicating these things. Some people might think, oh that’s not true those things won’t go away… But I too do not suffer from anxiety or depression anymore and I did for a large part of my younger years. I didn’t set out with a plan, but since I was the black sheep, I always had a lot of time to spend thinking about the world in my place in it 😁 I spent time in therapy as well as many ACOA meetings and other 12 step groups. However I didn’t really find the really deep healing until I did the work in adult children meetings. For me the therapy I sought out was the beginning and my search just continued in different group settings. No one else in my family has joined me on this journey… I would venture to say that they do not even understand that there is a problem in their life. That is a sad thing but I do not have control over what they do with their life. ❤️
I have very much appreciated your videos and all the informative, life changing content. I was very recently discarded. It is in my nature to see things to a peaceful and amicable resolution as our marriage of nearly 5 years will be dissolving. I have survived one discard in our recent past, not knowing it was narc abuse. During the second, I began to question and a treasure trove of information about this manifested before me. Even though I knew, I still wanted to find ways to reconcile. I do enjoy meditating but haven't practiced in quite some time. I focused on my inner child- the pain this relationship has caused. I was always one who would give everything when I was chosen by someone or provided any attention. But my gift of giving was never enough for the narc. I will protect my inner child from the abuse it has suffered. I no longer seek reconciling; I have made the decision, emotionally, psychically and mentally to separate from my marriage and break the trauma bond. Your channel and the support of others has been so instrumental in my processing and accepting my circumstance. I wish you all well in your healing and never be afraid to go inwardly. You may just find the answer and strength you're looking for.
Thank you Lisa. You are Very Articulate and I So Much Appreciate the Wisdom you are able to share. 💝 This is so On Point. All my life I heard it said "hey - kids are resilient."
temperment exists without environment, but temperment plus environment = character and character plus cognitive tools and functions and anything within = personality
14:26 I, instead of me talking to kid-me, I hear my narc parent's voice berating kid-myself, so my adult-me first attacks the parent's voice to shut up, and then explains to kid-myself about the lies of the parent's voice. Then I assure kid-myself that no one ever will be allowed talk to him like the parent's voice including him.
This is a great video as I'm listening I'm thinking about how I grew up as a young man and I had a mom that discarded me at the age of eight and chose a man and drugs over me because I stabbed him, my dad was in prison until I was 12 I have one heck of a child and it wasn't until I see this video and listen to you that I realized I am in therapy but I need to let my therapy know about this or my therapist I'm sorry so I can fix my inner child or I'm going to keep attracting narcissist
@@The_Mim Yes I stabbed my mom's boyfriend he was beating on my brother who was special needs I didn't know what I was doing it was reaction, I grew up in a really bad neighborhood I watched people get stabbed I watch people get shot and I grew up thinking that was okay. I was defending my brother and I know that's no excuse but I've defended my brother his whole life and that's why I have such a soft spot for people that abuse especially children like my ex narcissist
Another excellent presentation it all makes sense. My personal journey I have embraced a lot of these things you mention today. It took a few years and help to acknowledge the abuse from my late mother and to acknowledge the terrible memories. Life is good now wishing you and all here well.
Thank you. This is such a great explanation of what happened to those of us who suffered through these kinds of experiences. And the 7 step how tv over come, or at least start to address these issues, are the most succent I have read so far. Brilliant and compasionate
I just listen to this again because it is so brilliant, or at least touches on topics that are personal to me. I am going through therapy and through therapy I’m told I need to set boundaries but I haven’t really understood what that really meant until Lisa explained it. I went through emotional and psychological abuse for decades from my parents and then spouse and only did I start to wake up six years ago after I divorced and realize I was in an abusive situation. My mind had conditioned itself not to recognize my feelings because they were painful. Now I know I have to face them and look at them and embrace my younger inner self. Thank you Lisa!
And if the caregivers did not tell you how terrible you were verbally, they did so with actions, which were compounded by messages received from the world (too fat, skinny, slow, stupid, lazy, etc.). This was your most helpful video for me, to date.
I've been listening to many of your videos and with this one today, I'm convinced that if anyone can help me fix my mess, it's you. I've purchased your 21 day guide and your meditation. Plan to start this weekend. Healing is on the way.......
Oooh, I was amazed by how many books you wrote. It's a great guidance to help you heal the inner child. Especially the last tip with a photo sounds very powerful
I've been following your work and guided meditations for the past 16 months and i believe it did the job, i'm completelly transformed inside, what a journey this was, lots of tears, sometimes i was crying so hard my belly hurt, that was the crap coming out, i'm so blessed and honnored that i found your work via youtube. Thank you Lisa, i love you!
Thank you for sharing this! I thought there was something wrong with me when i cried during meditation But your words made me feel otherwise Thank you 🙏
@@Clairewithvertigo Thank you, the purpose of crying during those méditations is to actually released dark energy stored inside our brain. Keep listening to them until no more tears comes out. I felt my well being increasing gradually.
@@Clairewithvertigo Go for it, i strongly recommand you pick a few of Lisa's meditations, and listen one or 2 everyday, and watch also some of her videos where you'll ger valuable informations, and also the Facebook group in wich is very helpfull.
Hey Lisa, I’ve been in two decades worth of different toxic narcissistic relationships. Tonight I just had an epiphany as I’ve been really trying to heal my inner child. And here’s what how I came to understand this: There are three people in the schoolyard- A, X and Y. ‘A’ is a narcissist/bully. X and Y are best friends. Slowly but surely A begins manipulating and turning X against Y. Eventually X becomes closer and closer to A and no longer has a friendship with Y and actually begins being mean to Y. Y desperately wants this friendship with X back but X is too busy ignoring Y and invalidating Y and essentially abandoning Y. So here’s the catch, X and Y are you. Y is your inner child. And I have actually been in a narcissistic and toxic relationship with myself, and my relationship patterns in the 3D world have all been reflections of this internal and sad relationship dynamic with myself. This type of explanation is helping me to heal my inner child. I need to stop giving my inner child the silent treatment, abandoning her, belittling her, I need to instead validate her and stop being a bully to her!
Thank you. I have been a narcissist most of my life. Now that I’m attempting to change to a kinder more empathetic person, I see that I need to develop a more realistic approach toward myself. I need to start with the neglect, indifference and contempt I suffered as a child from a mother who always saw me as her biggest lifetime failure.
I’m a vulnerable narcissist and keep dating sociopaths or psychopaths. I’m in shock as I learn I’m like regular people. I was so isolated in the covert narcissist world I had no idea that other kids had love or kindness or respect. Only one cousin and I are waking up. I’m still terrified to breathe, I came home due to losing my memory from the last two covert malignant narcissists. I freeze, which is NOT HELPFUL. I’ve just watched my Mom die, my pets die and almost died twice before I could get healthy enough to get away from my Dad. I never had children, I didn’t want my Mom anywhere near a child. I forgot my Dad is a pedophile and had me in a trauma bond I was not aware of.
I had no idea codependency was wrong, although I wouldn’t participate in my parents games once I understood what was going on. I either shut down or tried desperately to stop my Dad’s pedophilia. They even became part of the court system for abused children.
I realized I wasn’t evil after trying to save my Mom , again, and my Dad NOT caring when she died. He even tried to put a picture of me in her funeral scrapbook. I’m still in terror. Before I just gave in, as I never learned how to get free of them. I had no idea other people weren’t narcissists or sociopaths, that people don’t hurt you for setting boundaries.
I just got my Dad’s animals and myself to a house that is half mine and half his. I have a generation skipping trust, I was never allowed to leave the house and when I did I had no idea how to live life.
GREAT VIDEO LISA!!!! I DEFINITELY NEED TO HEAL MY INNER CHILD. I HAVE MADE GREAT PROGRESS ON MY HEALING JOURNEY SO FAR. THAT AREA OF MY LIFE IS THE NEXT STEP. I WILL HAVE TO DO MY BEST RIGHT NOW. UNTIL I CAN DEVOTE 100% TO HEALING MY INNER CHILD. THANKS FOR SHARING & I LEARNED SO MUCH.
Thank you for saying this! I felt this way for so many years, but no one around me could relate. Every time I would try to clear my mind I would somehow trigger flashbacks or intrusive thoughts, my mind just doesn’t work that way I guess. Now when I say I’m meditating I’m actually listening to a positive podcast in my jammies on the couch.
transformation happens by the acknowledgement and acceptance in loving - kindness and hospitality of your unreconciled , unforgiven , wounded inner child thoughts , feelings , issues ,beliefs , etc. be the father or mother to your wounded inner child and if you do your life will change for the better as, if you love and accept yourself you will love and accept others!
Subconscious mind is programed and if you sow a thought reap an action , sow an action reap a habit sow a habit reap a character so a character reap a destiny , sow a destiny reap eternity.! it all comes back to your original thought fpr thought is the basis for your past, present and future!
Wow. I thought the EXACT same thing. J. Depp married this woman that energetically, emotionally etc matched his mother and what she did to him as a child...and unconsciously got with his ex wife...Ms. Heard....who basically played out what was familiar to his subconscious patterning.....of course he would actively choose this....but he as most ppl are..were unaware. Until the time bomb finally exploded. So many of us subconsciously are attracted to people that represent what we knew in our childhoods....that is...when we are asleep.
The abusers and their enablers take away your “right” to expose the truth and in turn perpetuate your inner guilt and suffering alone. The more you speak out to try fix your wounds, the more alone they make you feel. Almost like they have a knee jerk reaction to the truth. Same as when you expose flaws in a religion to a religious person I guess
1 start meditation
2 begin journal your nagative emotions and thought
3 witness your inner child be a observer what you observe
4 acknowledge your inner child about the feel
5 validate your inner child i see you i hear you i love you, you are loved
6 have empathy, feeling for yourself for what your inner child went through
7 get a photo of your self and keep it near you, and talk kindly to your child
Thank you 🙏
Thank you!
You can't do better until you know better
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for sharing these videos. They are incredibly helpful on this healing journey I am on. The way you speak is so comforting and gentle it is much appreciated.
Finding your videos has been so helpful to me! My Father was an angry, mean, and physically and sexually abusive man. I was so scared of him. He sexually abused me from age 3 to 11. He emotionally abused me until he died at 92. I ended up marrying a narcissist just like my Father. Only he never raised his voice. On our wedding night he just stopped talking to me. He wouldn’t look at me. He wouldn’t communicate with me about anything. I finally divorced him 25 years later. Because of my upbringing, I have always thought it was ok for people to treat me this way. They treat me this way because I did something wrong. I am now 65. I have always let people talk to me crazy. I let people do crazy things to me. Thinking, it must be me! Why can’t I learn to do things right? I finally got the courage to tell my Doctor about my childhood. That was 3 visits ago. I thought he was different. I told him how afraid of men I was. On my visit with him last week, he interrupted me and said. Your needs are too much! You are too much. He shamed me and made me feel, not good enough. Just like my Father and husband always did. I was so confused. I left that appointment asking myself what did I do wrong? Why was he so mean to me? He made me question the whole visit with him. I have been in tears and angry with myself for being so stupid. I watched several of your videos and I am being to see that it is not my fault. I didn’t do anything wrong. I have just been programmed to believe this about myself. I have another appointment with my Doctor in 2 weeks. I think I will cancel it. It is not acceptable for him to talk to me that way. Especially since he knows my background. I opened myself up to him, showed him my wounds. And he turned on me and made me feel small. He made me feel ashamed. This will be the first time I have ever stood up for myself. I hope I will have the courage to go through with it. GOD BLESS YOU for all that you do for others that have endured this abuse for so many years!
That is not a healthy therapist. cancel & know you deserve a practitioner that listens & guides
Like Lisa! BigHugz 💞
@@kimgordon3695 Thank you so much for your comments. It helps me reinforce the belief that I do deserve better. Thanks for believing in me!
I recently started therapy I thought I was fine and Normal like we all do😢,one minute iam doing ok the next a simple comment triggers me.
I was raised by an emotionally immatured mother,it damaged me and sometimes iam crying because I know iam not suppose to be feeling this empty and unwanted because I know iam a good person but it just hurts having memories of everything that was said to me all the time I ridiculed for showing emotion and expressing my feelings,
All I wanted was her love,attention and protection😢
Dear God... Marcia! (And Teekay) - I do hope you cancelled then Marcia! Bcuz you're right! And I cancelled my "therapist " after just 4 sessions when I realised Im feeling anxious before / during and after the sessions! 😂 Then I got someone better :) ALWAYS do what's right for you girls! 😘😀❤❤❤💪💪💪
I hope you're doing good now , this world is full of people with narcissistic tendencies or the whole thing, and also narcissistic enablers. You are probably a good sensitive hearted person who knows how to love. I wish you find the beautiful people that can help you feel safe and share life with. And I hope you already give all the love and security to your self.❤
i live in a narcassitic house and i cant wait to get out and heal myself
I was a happy, optimistic child raised by an angry, sour narcissistic mother; I would look for other ‘mothers’ and avoid my own mother as much as possible. I had a narc boyfriend at uni and due to no help from my family lost him so that was positive irony lol. I didn’t end up with a narc partner until I was 56 and that was when I learnt about narcissism; and then realised my mother was a narc and that most of my ‘friends’ were narcs. It’s weird; I spend a lot of time ‘replaying’ the past, it makes sense now.
This is very important to me. Talk about easier said than done. I have a codependent inner child.
Me too. I'm trying to stop being codependent now after a lifetime of trauma.
@@ilovejesuschrist992 really??? I have embraced the fact that I am codependent. Each onto his own.
Well goodie for you !!!
Agree! Thank you for all your encouragement, help, and awareness.
Taking care of me now.
21 months no contact 🌺
You must feel amazing!!! I look forward to my post when i can say a month or even a week!!! I had a day couple weeks ago, he came with one dog we have, took the one I have too, they were gone for a couple of hours, but I felt this freedom, sense of relief that I didn't have to worry about his behaviour while the dogs are with him. Why does he have compassion for the dogs, but not all people. Sorry! Congrats on no contact! You give us hope to hang on!
You hit a home run on this video! Thank you for talking about the inner child, I am healing also :D
Amazing content.
When I first watched one of Lisa’s videos, I thought it was woo woo psycho-babble.
But some things she said resonated with me, and opened my mind up to receive her wisdom. Now I’m finally healing, which is super slow. Thought it would be fast but it takes a while to rewire your subconscious programming. I can finally see some progress! Going no contact has really helped.
Thank you for this 🙏
my inner child is a warrior some people mistake simple mercy and compassion for weakness
Love Light healing and blessing to anyone reading this, know you are an amazing bad ass for taking any part in healing yourself and loving yourself...Thank you, you are so worth it...so much love....muah!!!
Muah have me a smile and a giggle
I am an adult child of an alcoholic and narc. You helped me heal my inner child.
thank you, Lisa! I am now doing the journaling and meditation you offer. I have a similar story to you except my mom admits she was traumatized as a child, but she has done no recovery work. I am the one breaking that cycle.
I AM SO VERY GREATFUL FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL AMAZING WOMAN AND ALL THE WORK SHE DOES TO HELP US TO HELP, HEAL,& EMPOWER OURSELVES... THANK YOU LISA DOESNT FEEL LIKE ENOUGH, and if I had any $ I'd be sending you flowers and gifts all the time to express my gratitude...You're the strongest most amazing woman on youtube and I hope someday to meet you...also your children are very lucky to have you as their mother...NAMASTE 🙏
The Big Sean song ( Assembly) My inner child's sentiment-healthy Lisa.
💜Thank you Lisa 💛for creating 💕this wonderful ❤️🔥video and 💖giving me 💜some tools to 💛change my 💕life ❤️🔥.
Namaste 🙏
My Gratitude for the sharing of your insights is always right on the spot. Almost unbelievable that I actually have a second chance. Still OVERWHELMED.
Very good video. thank you very much
HI Lisa. I just did your 21 day inner child healing and I love it. It took me really deep and at the end I felt renewed and loved. I did the work every day, with intension, a candle, meditation and journaling. I had the most beautiful insights as well a lot of crying ( releasing and realizing the truth is not always easy, but its worth it ) Thank you thank you thank you :)
Thank you Lisa because you have helped me so much and I love your hair!
Fantastic video. This is the way. We can do it. My biggest issue is this raging feeling I need to work something of immense importance out, that I cannot rest (literally, at night) until I'v done so. I want to give my inner child the feeling of completion on this. I have no choice if I want to have health and be well, than to sort this out. I am realizing my adult and higher self can give my inner child this sense of resolving and reassurance. Groundbreaking💝
Incredible, thank you lisa!!
Loved this video… you are so articulate! I have experienced so much of what you talk about, but you are so great at communicating these things.
Some people might think, oh that’s not true those things won’t go away… But I too do not suffer from anxiety or depression anymore and I did for a large part of my younger years.
I didn’t set out with a plan, but since I was the black sheep, I always had a lot of time to spend thinking about the world in my place in it 😁
I spent time in therapy as well as many ACOA meetings and other 12 step groups.
However I didn’t really find the really deep healing until I did the work in adult children meetings. For me the therapy I sought out was the beginning and my search just continued in different group settings. No one else in my family has joined me on this journey… I would venture to say that they do not even understand that there is a problem in their life. That is a sad thing but I do not have control over what they do with their life. ❤️
Thank you this was so helpful & truthful. Appreciate this and all your other videos.
Oh wow...even I have overcome asthma ...few years back..
It means I have healed a bit
Thank you so much for allowing God to use your videos are a blessing you are setting people free
This is truly the greatest obstacle in my recovery. It's a VERY slow process
Thank you ! This is phenomenal .. I feel like a door has opened - to life! To live 🙏
I have very much appreciated your videos and all the informative, life changing content. I was very recently discarded. It is in my nature to see things to a peaceful and amicable resolution as our marriage of nearly 5 years will be dissolving. I have survived one discard in our recent past, not knowing it was narc abuse. During the second, I began to question and a treasure trove of information about this manifested before me. Even though I knew, I still wanted to find ways to reconcile. I do enjoy meditating but haven't practiced in quite some time. I focused on my inner child- the pain this relationship has caused. I was always one who would give everything when I was chosen by someone or provided any attention. But my gift of giving was never enough for the narc. I will protect my inner child from the abuse it has suffered. I no longer seek reconciling; I have made the decision, emotionally, psychically and mentally to separate from my marriage and break the trauma bond. Your channel and the support of others has been so instrumental in my processing and accepting my circumstance. I wish you all well in your healing and never be afraid to go inwardly. You may just find the answer and strength you're looking for.
Thank you Lisa. You are Very Articulate and I So Much Appreciate the Wisdom you are able to share. 💝
This is so On Point.
All my life I heard it said "hey - kids are resilient."
I love you. I’m just like you. You are saving me❤
I do the same thing I have picks of me through out my young years and that's actually how I started to see myself I could see myself at first😮❤❤❤❤❤🎉
Yes it is. Today I only rely on myself and my therapist. Emdr therapy was helpful the past year I dove deep. Love your work and Rosenberg as well.
Thank you Lisa , you are an excellent healer .I sincerely thank you for this video.Thank you so much
Thank you for your message. I've finally come to terms/realization, that my inner child was indeed wounded.
Thank you
temperment exists without environment, but temperment plus environment = character and character plus cognitive tools and functions and anything within = personality
Thanks so much Lisa 💜 from germany
14:26 I, instead of me talking to kid-me, I hear my narc parent's voice berating kid-myself, so my adult-me first attacks the parent's voice to shut up, and then explains to kid-myself about the lies of the parent's voice. Then I assure kid-myself that no one ever will be allowed talk to him like the parent's voice including him.
Thank you for your genuine and helpful sharing.
This is a great video as I'm listening I'm thinking about how I grew up as a young man and I had a mom that discarded me at the age of eight and chose a man and drugs over me because I stabbed him, my dad was in prison until I was 12 I have one heck of a child and it wasn't until I see this video and listen to you that I realized I am in therapy but I need to let my therapy know about this or my therapist I'm sorry so I can fix my inner child or I'm going to keep attracting narcissist
Im confused.... You stabbed someone ?
@@The_Mim Yes I stabbed my mom's boyfriend he was beating on my brother who was special needs I didn't know what I was doing it was reaction, I grew up in a really bad neighborhood I watched people get stabbed I watch people get shot and I grew up thinking that was okay. I was defending my brother and I know that's no excuse but I've defended my brother his whole life and that's why I have such a soft spot for people that abuse especially children like my ex narcissist
Stay stronger brother.. your upbringing doesn’t define you but the resilience will
Thank you so much Lisa for speaking on behalf of wounded inner children.
Blessings from Egypt.
Thank you 🙏
Another excellent presentation it all makes sense.
My personal journey I have embraced a lot of these things you mention today.
It took a few years and help to acknowledge the abuse from my late mother and to acknowledge the terrible memories.
Life is good now wishing you and all here well.
Thank you, Lisa, this was one of the best videos I’ve ever heard. I have a lot to work on 💙
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Lisa you are like the mother I never had.
Thank you Lisa for extremely helpful tips on how to heal our inner child which is Absolutely vital to progress on our healing journey.
Thank you. This is such a great explanation of what happened to those of us who suffered through these kinds of experiences. And the 7 step how tv over come, or at least start to address these issues, are the most succent I have read so far. Brilliant and compasionate
I like that it was to-the-point, pauses were edited out. It was all good, earnest advice, without a lot of unnecessary examples. Thank you.
Thank you God for this messages amen also
I Love your Content Lisa !
Amazing video. The benefits section, I found the exact same ones!
I just listen to this again because it is so brilliant, or at least touches on topics that are personal to me. I am going through therapy and through therapy I’m told I need to set boundaries but I haven’t really understood what that really meant until Lisa explained it.
I went through emotional and psychological abuse for decades from my parents and then spouse and only did I start to wake up six years ago after I divorced and realize I was in an abusive situation. My mind had conditioned itself not to recognize my feelings because they were painful. Now I know I have to face them and look at them and embrace my younger inner self. Thank you Lisa!
Thank you for all you do I love you.
And if the caregivers did not tell you how terrible you were verbally, they did so with actions, which were compounded by messages received from the world (too fat, skinny, slow, stupid, lazy, etc.). This was your most helpful video for me, to date.
I've been listening to many of your videos and with this one today, I'm convinced that if anyone can help me fix my mess, it's you. I've purchased your 21 day guide and your meditation. Plan to start this weekend. Healing is on the way.......
Loving kindness and compassion on a universal level is something we all should practice in the world. Xxxoooooo
YOU ARE RIGHT. THAT HEALING WILL DRAW OUT PAINFUL MEMORIES. SO GETTING THE RIGHT SUPPORT IS NECESSARY. FOR A COMPLETE AND SUCCESFUL RECOVERY.
I have been through it.
It is worth it
Gonna show this to my girlfriend. When I feel her feelings I want to cry.
Thank you so much. Very clear and helpful tools. ❤
I love your channel. We’re healing all 2022
Thank you for this messages amen
THANK YOU SOOO MUCH AGAIN AND AGAIN, LISA!!! MUCH LOVE AND RESPECT TO YOU!!!
Thank you Lisa romano.
Thank you so much Lisa! ❤
Blessings to you for all eternity for making your knowledge available to all of us. This video is loaded with information
Oooh, I was amazed by how many books you wrote. It's a great guidance to help you heal the inner child. Especially the last tip with a photo sounds very powerful
Thank you 🤍
You’re welcome 😊
Love your channel. Please can you make an affirmation video to help heal inner child???
Very helpful.
Lisa is so beautiful from inside out
Wow! What a precise description of all of it!!! Amazing! Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this video.
Greatly Helpful
I've been following your work and guided meditations for the past 16 months and i believe it did the job, i'm completelly transformed inside, what a journey this was, lots of tears, sometimes i was crying so hard my belly hurt, that was the crap coming out, i'm so blessed and honnored that i found your work via youtube. Thank you Lisa, i love you!
Thank you for sharing this! I thought there was something wrong with me when i cried during meditation
But your words made me feel otherwise
Thank you 🙏
@@Clairewithvertigo Thank you, the purpose of crying during those méditations is to actually released dark energy stored inside our brain.
Keep listening to them until no more tears comes out. I felt my well being increasing gradually.
@@denistoupin6976 thank you for reassuring! I will definitely be more eager and ready to try it 🙌❤️
@@Clairewithvertigo Go for it, i strongly recommand you pick a few of Lisa's meditations, and listen one or 2 everyday, and watch also some of her videos where you'll ger valuable informations, and also the Facebook group in wich is very helpfull.
be the parent to your inner child!
Hey Lisa, I’ve been in two decades worth of different toxic narcissistic relationships. Tonight I just had an epiphany as I’ve been really trying to heal my inner child. And here’s what how I came to understand this: There are three people in the schoolyard-
A, X and Y. ‘A’ is a narcissist/bully. X and Y are best friends. Slowly but surely A begins manipulating and turning X against Y. Eventually X becomes closer and closer to A and no longer has a friendship with Y and actually begins being mean to Y. Y desperately wants this friendship with X back but X is too busy ignoring Y and invalidating Y and essentially abandoning Y. So here’s the catch, X and Y are you. Y is your inner child. And I have actually been in a narcissistic and toxic relationship with myself, and my relationship patterns in the 3D world have all been reflections of this internal and sad relationship dynamic with myself. This type of explanation is helping me to heal my inner child. I need to stop giving my inner child the silent treatment, abandoning her, belittling her, I need to instead validate her and stop being a bully to her!
Thank you. I have been a narcissist most of my life. Now that I’m attempting to change to a kinder more empathetic person, I see that I need to develop a more realistic approach toward myself. I need to start with the neglect, indifference and contempt I suffered as a child from a mother who always saw me as her biggest lifetime failure.
You got this!!! It’s time to let go of defense mechanisms
I’m a vulnerable narcissist and keep dating sociopaths or psychopaths. I’m in shock as I learn I’m like regular people. I was so isolated in the covert narcissist world I had no idea that other kids had love or kindness or respect. Only one cousin and I are waking up. I’m still terrified to breathe, I came home due to losing my memory from the last two covert malignant narcissists. I freeze, which is NOT HELPFUL. I’ve just watched my Mom die, my pets die and almost died twice before I could get healthy enough to get away from my Dad. I never had children, I didn’t want my Mom anywhere near a child. I forgot my Dad is a pedophile and had me in a trauma bond I was not aware of.
I had no idea codependency was wrong, although I wouldn’t participate in my parents games once I understood what was going on. I either shut down or tried desperately to stop my Dad’s pedophilia. They even became part of the court system for abused children.
I realized I wasn’t evil after trying to save my Mom , again, and my Dad NOT caring when she died. He even tried to put a picture of me in her funeral scrapbook. I’m still in terror. Before I just gave in, as I never learned how to get free of them. I had no idea other people weren’t narcissists or sociopaths, that people don’t hurt you for setting boundaries.
I just got my Dad’s animals and myself to a house that is half mine and half his. I have a generation skipping trust, I was never allowed to leave the house and when I did I had no idea how to live life.
GREAT VIDEO LISA!!!! I DEFINITELY NEED TO HEAL MY INNER CHILD. I HAVE MADE GREAT PROGRESS ON MY HEALING JOURNEY SO FAR. THAT AREA OF MY LIFE IS THE NEXT STEP. I WILL HAVE TO DO MY BEST RIGHT NOW. UNTIL I CAN DEVOTE 100% TO HEALING MY INNER CHILD. THANKS FOR SHARING & I LEARNED SO MUCH.
I absolutely LOVE this!! 😢 Thank you so much!
I've never heard of the photo tip at the end, that sounds like an awesome idea 👍👍 Thank you 🙏
You are a Blessing in my journey of seeking the information I need to finally heal🌹🌻🌷❣️ I am so grateful and empowered to hear your words💯
I feel that meditation makes me feel worse and more tense, which my therapist says isn’t uncommon in PTSD. But it sounds nice in theory.
Thank you for saying this! I felt this way for so many years, but no one around me could relate. Every time I would try to clear my mind I would somehow trigger flashbacks or intrusive thoughts, my mind just doesn’t work that way I guess. Now when I say I’m meditating I’m actually listening to a positive podcast in my jammies on the couch.
You know I felt the same way but I found a meditation that works for me and it's been a pretty big difference.
Your right on.
I have did your work. It was not easy 🙂😄
Ciao Lisa, thank you for this amazing video. Big hugs from Italy
Wow amazing video thank you ma’am ❤️ I’m excited to begin this journey
Thank u for this video
It's my pleasure
Thank you for every word in your message, lisa. I love it!
Thanks!
Thank you lisa ♥️
thax lisa
Thank you -:)
transformation happens by the acknowledgement and acceptance in loving - kindness and hospitality of your unreconciled , unforgiven , wounded inner child thoughts , feelings , issues ,beliefs , etc. be the father or mother to your wounded inner child and if you do your life will change for the better as, if you love and accept yourself you will love and accept others!
Radical
Subconscious mind is programed and if you sow a thought reap an action , sow an action reap a habit sow a habit reap a character so a character reap a destiny , sow a destiny reap eternity.! it all comes back to your original thought fpr thought is the basis for your past, present and future!
Wow. I thought the EXACT same thing. J. Depp married this woman that energetically, emotionally etc matched his mother and what she did to him as a child...and unconsciously got with his ex wife...Ms. Heard....who basically played out what was familiar to his subconscious patterning.....of course he would actively choose this....but he as most ppl are..were unaware. Until the time bomb finally exploded. So many of us subconsciously are attracted to people that represent what we knew in our childhoods....that is...when we are asleep.
Which meditation better to do?
The abusers and their enablers take away your “right” to expose the truth and in turn perpetuate your inner guilt and suffering alone. The more you speak out to try fix your wounds, the more alone they make you feel. Almost like they have a knee jerk reaction to the truth. Same as when you expose flaws in a religion to a religious person I guess