Activities to Heal Your Inner Child (That You Can Start Now)
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- Опубліковано 30 тра 2024
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I just want to be loved, listened to and understood.
I love you no matter what
Sending you lots of hugs
And seen. I pray we both get these.
Give those things to yourself first
I know it is hard but we all go trough this. I want you to know that there will be a time where you feel loved. Sending you a lot of lobe
You are lovely
- Write letter(s) to your parents/ past you/ inner child.
- Have a dialogue with yourself. Don't judge your thoughts/emotions.
- Engage in art and play.
- Rest and recuperate.
Thanks ❤
Thaaaaanks ❤
I always wanted a dog when i was a girl...now, as an adult, i have 3 dogs and i enjoy them soooo much
Awww 🥺💕
Ways to heal inner child begins at 3:33. 1. Write letters that are not for others to read about how you feel; 2. Positive inner child discussions with yourself; 3. Engage in Art and Play. 4. Rest because it tells us that our needs are important and should be met.
I’m just tired of feelin like something wrong with me or like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders… this video helped more than you’ll ever know. thank you.
Same, you’re not alone🙏🏼
Same babe .❤
And what hurts the most is deep down you know this is not how you should be feeling,deep down something knows you are enough and worthy❤
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I'm a 73 Latina who has been doing internal work for the last 2 years. Thank u for this vid it will be my guide post to start to heal my wounded child. 4 years ago I had a panic attack and had no idea what that was. Subsequently I experienced a lot of anxiety. I also had a lot of phobias too. I had talk therapy for 6 months and I read about varied treatments etc. So given this pandemic I spend a lot of time by myself and have been using this time to embark on this healing journey. Great timing.
Have your phobias gotten better? I'm experiencing a lot of fear, anxiety, anger and phobias right now and I linked the fear , anxiety and anger to my childhood but I wasnt sure if the phobia is something related to all of that.
@@stephaniedaigle3517 a therapist/friend agreed that phobias which are not dealt with can create the anxiety, panic attacks. Sort of your body forces u to deal with these. For me by age 10 I had a lot of stuff that no 10 y/o should deal with. So I was interpreting English for my mono-lingual parents, setting up Dad's business, invoicing clients, contract negotiations etc. Yet they were old school traditional up ringing. I was terrified, kept in all in
I used to be called 'warrior women ' until age. 69. Then one morning I could not walk across the 4 lane Blvd and my legs felt like rags. 4 years ago. Noise drove me crazy, being with people, etc. Upside I.did talk therapy, saw alot of UA-cam vids on anxiety, researched clinical papers, started meditation and slowly took control of my.mental health. You can heal but have to do the internal work Sending u healing, hope and joy.😻
I have heard that phobias and anxiety can be integrated with EMDR therapy. Check that out if you can.
I have found videos on UA-cam for diaphragmatic breathing and meditation guided very helpful. Most do some body scam.
Breathing is very useful to calm down anxiety and fear.
Mis mejores deseos ❤
That's cool and sweet that you are healing ❤
@@Lyrielonwind thank you for your lead I am reading about that therapy now. Our brain is so fragile and so complicated too. Funny I never looked at how important our mental health is. Mil gracias 🧚
As a clinically licensed psychotherapist, I absolutely love your delivery ♥️
thank you so much!
I just want to live instead of struggling to survive 😔
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Yeah me too im 19 and already feel a lot of responsibilitys on my shoulders that was souposed to be my fathers and mothers responsibility and painful feeling of lonliness that he feels when my inner child is craving love and accpeptence from others i am trying to make it happen for him so that he would be happy and not feel sad anymore
I wrote a letter to my mom who I had deep resentment for. She teared up and I cried. She admitted she never healed from her childhood trauma. Confronting the people who directly hurt you from a place of security will free a part of you. I swear!
Not if your mother is a malignant narcissist. That will get you in more troubles.
Thank you for this video! I'm 38 and have experienced a lot of abuse as a child; mental, emotional, physical and sexual. I was also bullied a lot in elementary and middle school.
I'm not sure if other people notice this about me, but I tend to put on a facade most of the time according to people's expectations. Like I'm afraid of being the real me and I tailor make my interactions according to the expectations of the person I'm interacting with. Like they would be horrified if they saw my authentic self. I also try to feign enthusiasm where there is none for things that people would consider exciting. Overall, I feel broken sometimes. I want to heal my inner child and see myself as a whole and unique person who is enough. It's tough sometimes. But again, thank you for this video. I will try out these tips.
Volunteering at a dog shelter may be a good idea. Dogs need love and will return the love ten fold. And you can be your real self without being judged. Don't take criticism from people who you would never ask for advice.
Your comment is very helpful for me dear
And your understanding and awareness of yourself is very nice and important, you know what I'm sure that I've done the same but I can't recognise when and how I hide my authentic self and what my authentic child self really is?!
Can you please describe how you've done that ? And example situations that you can recognise your authentic child? What activities your child love to do ?
I appreciate your connection 🤍💚
Please believe and trust in yourself. There is no right or wrong. Listen and Be. Be okay with yourself, be okay with others and be okay with your environment. Be okay with the situations in your life. Allow the situations to be as if you had chosen them.
Your inner child already knows what he/she needs to do and wants to do to feel completed and fulfilled. Writing and reflection on childhood and adolescence will also pull up more and more things your inner child needs to do to feel whole. Do everything you never got to do.
My father was narcissistic. He hurt me so deeply that I can't explain.
Same
sing, dance, engage in arts, do not judge anyone or yourself, eat healthy, read the holy bible
I have just started inner child work with my therapist ,it's tough but I know it's going to be worth it.....to all the people in the comments I just want to say that you are not alone and you have a purpose in life, even though it doesn't feel like that sometimes,believe me I know.....if your inner child wants to play, go and play....I was in my garden with a bubble machine the other day and I thoroughly enjoyed it....I'm sending you all love and wish you well ...we got this❤
I think if the person was bullied they should write a letter to the bully.
This so painful when l think about when l was litttle l didn't have parents to protect me when l would have to try to pull my father off my mother punching her like a man, l was petrified l could go on and on when l picture that little girl how scared and hysterical. It is so painful to go back to feel like l did when l was little l drank and took drugs to numb myself from facing and feeling the pain when l picture that little girl it breaks my heart I'm trying to have faith that God is healing me l might have to put the letters on hold for a while. Thank you so much
Remember fellow spirits,we were born innocent,and then programmed by beings who were not balanced,so,its hard work,and compassion to create a new beingness!good luck
Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏻 I actually wrote a text to my partner about how I felt about his behaviour regarding another woman, as everytime I tried to speak to them about it, he would shut me down. I was going to write a letter as you suggested, but I wrote a text....and sent it. I feel so empowered. But now the people pleaser in me is really wanting to message and change the subject. I'm being very strong and just letting the message sit. It is so hard but I am so proud of myself. Thank you for the inspiration xx
Yes speak up and don’t accept anything but respect 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Teach people how to treat you.
So true what you said about us PoC having slightly different set of issues!!! Happy to seem more representation ❤
Yes! and I hope you found it helpful! It's important for us to acknowledge our experiences as POC especially in our mental health.
Yes very important!
@@esca.1530 I appreciate your desire to go upstream and identify the source of abuse, neglect, and social trauma, however, taking a look at the central division through Androcratic socialisation might indicate that while Any culture is androcratic trauma is inevitable. The body does not know degrees of abuse, words, for example, have a physical impact on our bodies and brains. Social norms limiting a group of people is as strongly felt as someone standing in front of a door and blocking you out. Our body's stress signals know only On and Off, or actually HI and LO.
(Gilligan and Davies; The Deepening Darkness and newer Deepening Darkness Now Revealed; J.Tronto's Who Cares? blooklet; Riane Eisler's material; I Suttie's The Origins of Love and Hate; Porges and wife's material on Polyvagal system etc)
@@kikiperry8176 yeah I agree, trauma is going to happen, but knowing the source helps a lot with healing for many since the question many ask is”why?” And internalize the situations as being their fault. Also, why did you mention the social norms and blocking?
Abraham Lincoln did this same thing. He wrote letters to people who angered or upset him in some way, but he kept them; he never gave it to them. It was his way of diffusing his feelings so that he could later deal with the issues in a more positive way.
I'm 51 and still slowly peeling off the layers of confusion and unhealthy patterns behavior because I don't apply all the great advice and information. They say it takes 21 days to set a new habit. I must live in 3 week intervals. I want my grandson and all future generations to have a healthy, happy life full of peace.
It’s been tough trying to be the adult for myself now, when I had to be the adult all through childhood and have finally become like a child, even somewhat immature, right when I need to be the grown-up I was always forced to be.
It’s as though I’m sabotaging myself or just resisting somehow. Like, why do I have to be the mature one again? Can’t I just relax? But the more I do that, the more I let myself down now and retraumatise myself. I’m exhausted.
Just an assumption, but what if your restlessness goes from not acknowledging your inner child actually? We all need to let the child go outside sometimes, to be silly, to just have fun. If those needs aren't met, the child gets traumatized again...
That's your inner critic which is the voice of your parents, mainly.
Inner child work is like being the parent you needed to your own self to heal the childhood traumas you experience. It helps to remember not to treat you or talk to you in the way your parents did. It's called shrinking your inner child. In a way, you become the advocate of your inner child and stop the constant self criticism because is not your real self. It's somehow a recording from your childhood.
Be loving and patient with yourself.
I recently started a new intetnship and I was so scared because I absolutly suffered during my internship last year, all because of myself, I noticed that I would come back home each day hating life and feeling horrible because during the whole day I was chastising myself about not doing things correctly or not speaking fluently or not being able to forsee things, I was doing this every day for 4 months and I almost lost my mind. The problem is I didn't know that I was the cause of my mesury, I would interpret every interaction I had and make myself believe that people didn't like me or weren't satisfied with me even though nobody said or did anything to me believe that.
Now during my internship, I write myself letters every time I feel like I am going down the rabbit hole of blaming myself and even if I did something that in my eyes is inacceptable I would tap myself lovingly and say it's okay you can do that mistake and everything would be alright. Times when I feel intimidated by authority figures at work I would instantly get out my pen and write to myself how I'm an adult and I can and would always protect myself and how I come first.
It's been sooo helpful, I always try to talk to myself while imagining myself talking to my little me and that help me stop the self criticism.
this video means a lot to me.. i was socially isolated a lot as a child and i didnt have the adult i needed to protect me or speak up for me because like u said about being a girl and speaking up.. its seen as what its not.. and what it is and using ur voice because we are not bots we are humans with feelings with meaning and we all matter so its important to allow everyone the space to speak. i projected a lot of the hate i received onto myself and grew up in middle and high school hating myself, now that i am 20 i am so os sososososososos happy for my soul because she is literally saving me from all the pain i suffered through.. im so happy for the path i am entering and going on and im excited for whats to come because!!!!!! im so so so so so so happy that my awareness is growing i am so grateful to be 20 and wiser now!!! this video means a lot and is so important these steps are real and really do help ive been doing this for about 2-3 years and ive improved so much in my self esteem
I did the letter thing a few days ago! I chose to write to one of those "life advice" columnists, because I needed to detail my situation and where I'm stumped at the moment. I didn't send it of course, nor I plan to - and even if I did, it's over 5 pages long, no way it would be published lol. But it helped me organize my thoughts and feelings and it serves as a base to return to if I start ruminating again, and I feel more peaceful after doing that.
The inner child dialogue advice hit me hard because I realized I have an actual, living reflection of who my inner child was - she's calm, quiet, clean, respectful, well behaved, submissive like I was, and has had to bear the brunt of my worst times and my mood swings as life happens and my healing progresses. She can't speak as she's not human, but she could bark or rebel or otherwise display her discomfort, instead she just obeys and puts up with it stoically and quietly (and sometimes seemingly dissociating) just as I did when I was younger and had to bear with my emotionally volatile mother. But I'd like to believe I'm learning. I read her emotions in a way that my mother never cared to read mine and I'm learning to react in a better, more composed way, both to her actions and emotions and in other situations with other people. She is my lifeline and I will never be able to repay her for all she has done for me.
It is, however, a bit of a hard pill to swallow to realize I make a bigger effort with a dog than my mother ever did (does) with me... 💔
My heart goes out to you and all the inner child selves that had to stay quiet to survive. I add to her list of activities, voice building, making sounds, reading aloud, humming (also a great meditation practice). When a client or colleague talks negatively to me about ruminating, I ask them if they know where that word originally describes. I ask them to look it up or we chat about it in session. I substitute that androcratic hijacking of such a peaceful constructive word and use the word CHURNING, which also has to do with food, and in a way that feels more like what that churning and turning a thought around feels like. Like a tread mill or hamster wheel, lots of work going nowhere. Rumination is actually such a positive word and concept , something we need to do more of. I wish you the best on your journey finding yourself in friendship with your younger selves.
Much like with my mother, the way your mother treated you has to do with her shortcomings and not yours. It’s good you know and feel you exist now. Takes a lot to be able to say that about oneself
Just the thought of writing a letter to my younger self makes me tear up. Lots of trauma there.
Writing my feelings down helps me. When I talk to other people they don't understand. They just tell me to forgive without understanding that I need healing. It pisses me off when people push their religion onto me pretending like they care. All they are doing is trying to witness for a religion that they really don't know the history of. It pisses me off when people say to just forgive. It discounts my feelings and makes things worse.
This came up very randomly in my feed. I have been very depressed for quite a long time. I don't talk about it with anyone. I sometimes write down my thoughts, which helps me temporarily.
Thank you, i will take note of all the things you mentioned in this video. 💖
This is hard for me since I was programmed to be a helpless child my entire life, to NEVER BE an adult. I still 'think' I'm 5 years old😭
Being raised as Catholic, I can relate to the seen and not heard. We are expected to be good, small town Christians
Based in my own experience:::: DO REST!! Its really important
I watch ALOT of videos. This one is very clear, concise, and useful.
Watch until the very end because that’s where she says how you can use it. That personally is important to me. I need a reason. I need to know the point.
I am in a childhood flash-back right now.
Because of not being seen, heard nor considered during a super difficult event in my childhood. I am living a situation lately that brings me back in that pain. The title of your video really appealed to me.
It started very well. Then you talked about how the way of raising kids in "different cultures " did not allow them to have a voice. That really made me super sad to hear this, and more triggered.
I am caucasian and lived in such a toxic family. I've been working hard all my adult life to understand what was broken in me. Not being seen, recognized, acknowledged. It's sad. That's exactly how i feel, again, hearing you say this. I am sure this wasn't intentional.
As a "psycho-cheerleader", talking to so many different people on the internet, i wanted to let you know that this way of categorizing people's pain can be painful to some people.
Thank you for reading me.
All these suggestions are beautiful and I implement them to endure. However, I'm ready to live😢
I just had a reiki session and Inner Child Work was mentioned. I didn't know much about this topic until now, after watching your video. Your delivery is amazing, and I have so much clarity now and know what I need to do to heal my Inner Child. Thank you🙏❤
I was a daddy’s girl that just wanted to make her dad proud. I had adult responsibilities put on me at a young age. I’m the first daughter.I experienced abuse verbally, mentally and physically. My most important events were missed when all I wanted was him to be there. He taught me not to depend on nobody , not even him. I was a caregiver to everyone and still is struggling with my identity because I got in a relationship with a man that had the same similarities in my dad for 7 years. Finding myself has been so hard for me. I’m being someone I’m not, I can’t tell if I’m isolating for myself or if it’s depression. I do seek approval and I will do anything to make sure no one is mad at me😞. It’s currently affecting my relationship and I’m scared. So I really hope these tips help me❤️. Thank you
This was so good. Im 64 and often feel its too late to start this. Im often not sure howw i feel about things let alone express it.
I understand just what you are saying about those public letters,
Show extreme mercy on your abusers... unlike the way they've treated you.
Sending you all light and lots of LOVE ❤❤❤
My inner child is 13 years old. I’m over 40 years old. God bless t child.
My inner child was a critical thinker.
Great ideas!!! 😘
I’m grateful for this ❤
Basically ma'am, I've given up on the hopes for external things to get better. It is what it is. I'm thankful and grateful for my necessities ,but this world, this world's people, and the way they treat me has been the same almost 50 years. They are not going to change, especially not for me. I'm just trying to find ways to get through it all in one piece, safe and hopefully as sane as I can be.
Thank you! Love this!
I love this ❤. Thank you.
Thanks for this.
Learnt to do all this by experimentation. These activities are helpful in healing . Colouring, Drawing, even playing nursery rhymes and toys. This is better with company. If done with children. Can visit an orphanage then it’s a win for all.
Wonderful video! Thank you for sharing this information! You just earned a new subscriber 😊
THANK YOU SO MUCH!
This was extremely helpful for me (My therapist and I haven’t touched on this yet)
Thank you! 💚
Great content 👌
Helpful needed to heal my inner child for a long time
Amazingly soo helpful. A million thanks is not enough.
Thankyou ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤!!!
Thank you this is so helpful 🙏🏽
I love your voice and work you are doing to help us all heal 😢
You seem so in tune with your work..your integrity shines through and very well explained. Thankyou 🙏😊
Thank you so much. This was wonderful.
thank you
Thank you for sharing this information for free, the work you're doing is awesome. You are saving life's
Hey guys just wanted to say i send all the love to all of you here ❤
Thank you
I love you
Thank you...I resonate with your reading here. Thanks for your support therapy 😊
Thank you
Thank you, ready to experience this core, this being, this consciousness.
This is great advice :)
My inner child likes activities❤
What a beautiful video. Thank you so much.
I'm glad I found you. Thnks for your guidance. I'm in that journey!!!
They don't realize how much their words hurt 💔
Thanks you Universe 🌸🌺🌈🙏🙏
You made an awesome video! This will help anyone who will listen.
thank you so much❤
Thank you for posting this. This was some awesome stuff to listen to 👍
You're really amazing, I love how you explained everything. I love your sleeveless turtleneck, btw. Very stylish and classy!
This was dope. Very much appreciated!
Thank you so much for watching! I'm happy to hear that!
Thank you for the video! You look really pretty!
I did the letter thing for a while and time over and over again. It was really nice and releasing for me
Thankyou so much It really helped me❤
This is an absolutely amazing video!
Thank you so much! I'm glad you enjoyed it!
I can absolutely vouch for writing the letter. It was so freeing for me.
Great video thank you ♥️♥️
thank you for watching! I hope you found it helpful!
hello fellow youtuber
thank you!
TY for acknowledging cultural specific tendencies and follow up activities! ❤ 🙏
simple, actual, tangible things that i can do to help myself with this... glad to have found your channel!
What a wonderful and much needed video! I am actively working on my Inner Child healing, and boy is it painful and also exhausting. Just the concept of rest is new to me, and I am getting better but it’s all something I feel I experience for the first time. It is just not known to my system. I will give myself some much needed rest today, and much more often from now on than I previously believed I had to. Thank u ❤
Yesterday night I wrote the first letter to myself, about a scary situation. It was emotional and liberating, and I feel that I have so much more to say to that child. Thank you!
Thank you for this! I love how this is from the lens of a POC. I just moved out this year and my biggest challenge I've been finding is letting myself rest and play, being consistent with my self-care, and also the way that I talk to myself because my inner critic is so harsh. :(
Before I moved out I was working on the getting in touch with my body and creative side to play, but the increased adult responsibilities since living on my own of having to juggle work/productivity/working towards my goals and my own personal time has proven to be challenging. Cause now I find myself always needing to be productive bc of there being so much to do, and fears arising of how if I don't do them then I won't achieve or get to where I want to be. I burned out badly a few years ago and was unemployed for a year so I would like to take measures to prevent that from happening again
Excellent and so well explained. Thank you. I'm going to do a puzzle and do some colouring in .
Thanks 👍 I'm also doing inner wounded child meditations, that's helps too
You’re awesome and a divine healer!!! You inspire me!!! And my inner little girl!!!
New Subscriber!!!!
... and what's worse is how people judge so harshly for how someone else feels. I'm guilty too in a way.
Great video, thank you. I subbed!❤
Sis you and your voice are comfortably beautiful, and this vid definitely helps me. 🥺💖
Thank you for this! It truly helped me get a better understanding for working on my past relationship with my father. He wasn't emotionally available, he made me feel unworthy and neglected my needs, I was just a baby when this was happening, so I don't remember many things that he did.
Thank you for your video, i was left at age of 2.5 years old by my parents, and i was always wondering where to start, plz make more videos and if you can suggest any great books will be wonderfull
Thank you for your thought provoking healing methods you suggested. I am going to try some of them. I truly appreciate it. New subscriber here.
You are so welcome! and thank you for your kind comment. I hope they help!
When I was a child my parents always overemphasized to others how "smart" I am. They always bragged about me which put so much pressure and made me feel terrible. So I found a hobby I liked to do - puzzles- but I only had one or two. They told my aunt to get me a puzzle but because I'm "so smart" it was way too advanced. It was a 3d puzzle I could not do. This always made me angry because it made me feel stupid even though looking back, it was them who tried to make me sound better than I am and caused my aunt to buy this (also because people keep accusing me of thinking I'm better than them even though it's my parents doing this). Every once in a while the memory of this puzzle would come back. So last year I decided to heal this grudge I had by finding out how to do these 3d puzzles and complete one. Doing this has made me feel so good! Anyway, the point of the story is to help people identify what actions they can take. If there is something like this that keeps coming back you can try and have a "do over" and see if it helps.