I’m 45 and my whole life has been a shit fest. I just recently started trauma therapy for something completely unrelated, but I’ve since realized that my inner child is wounded as heck and that’s why I have failed and self-sabotaged EVERYTHING in my life.
Dr. Sage, thank you, I love all your videos, they're helping me tremendously. Both my parents and older sister were malignant, super toxic, unsafe, violent, abusive and cruel. I think my mom has BPD and malignant narcissism. She was so scary and mean. I ran away at 14, had so much trauma, abusive men, rough life. I am sensitive, caring wounded woman and was attracting predators into my life. I will never go back to living that way!!! I have so much better understanding of what was wrong with them now, but there was no info, no one talking about this when I was younger. I felt so alone, like the only one in this world that was going through this. I've been on this healing journey for a while, my life is very good now, I am so blessed but I am not fully healed and living a lonely life. This is so healing for me to hear all this and know I'm not the only one. This is helpful to have deeper understanding and to have actions I can take. Thank you for your heart and wisdom you are sharing. You are so beautiful inside and out. Your voice is so calming and soothing to hear. I love to listen to you before I go to bed. Your blouse is gorgeous too. You are an angel to me.
I also lived your life I really appreciate Kim’s videos I have no one who really cares about me. It’s been very tough I have had a few nervous and physical breakdowns but I have surround myself with narc, as I haven’t known anything else your videos a a blessing to me to learn some self worth. I have been so battered down by these people all my life. It was nice to hear that yourself and others have suffered and are supporting each other something we have never ever had thanks again.I am now trying to love and care for myself and the inner neglected child.
Dr Kim your work is Phenominal. It's right up ther with the other great Psychologist and Psychothetapists like: *Dr Susan Forward, PhD *Dr Alice Miller, PhD *Dr Brene Brown, PsyD *Dr Karol Darsa, PsyD Please keep doing what you're doing. Millions of us appreciate your research. Best Wishes to you and your family.
Wow! I find your research more than amazingly healing. I wish we could talk for 10 mins. I would tell you how grateful I am to you for providing this clinical content. One Love.
I am extremely grateful for your help with this. There's so much to learn. I'm a Gen X member and there was no help for me. No one. Including my bio mom. No one on either side of my family wanted me around so I was left to be abused every way possible. Once I broke free I stayed out. No one taught me about self care. I'm learning about all of this through UA-cam and an amazing therapist. I'm 42 years old now and I feel like I'm finally getting parts of it 🎉❤🎉 Dr Sage You are AMAZING and extremely soothing and knowledgeable about how badly people are abused and how to heal i love your work and I appreciate your time and help 🎉❤❤
Crazy how I always thought Law of Attraction snd positive thinking would always equal fantastic outcome in life. It did kick me out of depression, made me fit and ended up in a well-known company, yet, when my girlfriend pointed out my weaknesses and started counselling, I realized, I had a massive inner child that was wounded and ignored for 26 years!
same. I had no idea that I had abandoned myself and self loathed. Toxic shame. It's all well and good to identify the problem, usually at this point, people are exhausted from seeking external love and validation to no avail. I'm 51. I have never loved myself, I have always actively abused and killed off parts of myself. So, now I know, and I really hope I can get some sense of self back.
You are such a good speaker! Confident yet gentle. I like your style. Thanks for your wealth of information. I sense (you have been there) in your videos. An individual who has experienced the trauma they speak about, is always going to be a more helpful and understanding therapist.
Not only did i have to deal with. Mom, other family, death father, school, friendly babby siters...ya know what i mad it i am verry strong God was my rock.💝
My inner child is working overtime and causing me to lose everything I hold dear and I know it's hurting me. My inner child likes being alone but that's not what I want. My inner child wants to pack up and run and forget all my goals. I hate my parents for making me even have an inner child. But I had no f choice in order to stay alive. Nobody understands that so they just throw more painful crap at you. And they don't care how you feel. But if you get rid of your inner child you are forced to face everything alone.
Omg I am horrible mother,from 5 to 9 that's when I was struggling most in my live but also improved myself this must have had effect to my child I feel bad for my child😢
Same here. I was a great and horrible mom. Single widow, alcoholic. Got sober but have bipolar. I am fun and Amazing, short tempered and quick to anger. Be patient w yourself and give yourself space between child and you. They will forgive u as long as u keep moving forward.
This is a great and empowering video as always from you. It’s great to see a preview of your paid offerings presented in a way that respects your community and you. Lead by example, right? I’ll get on tik tok eventually, but I really appreciate you splitting your efforts between platforms.
Good morning Kim, In 1965, my mother and her mother put me, in,a children's home. It was an, all boys orphanage. I was not an orphan?. I was five years old. I was bed wetting. The two women that we, were under Terrorised me. My bed wetting did'nt help my cause. I was too young to remember the length of time, I was at the home. The whole experience made me very angry. I revisited, the home as, an, adult. Trying to put some closure on this experience. I Felt very abandoned. My mother did'nt give a shit. What she did was illegal. The experience at this home, It still affects me, to this s day...😡
I'm so sorry Clifford. You are a valuable loving and lovable human being. I hope you can heal to become your full potential and understand that none of the trauma was your fault. I 'm happy you're here because it shows you are connecting the dots. Be well and know you are important ❤
For me It is kind of funny when you said "caring yourself like a loving mother would do" I have no idea what it could mean... I didn't have one healthy mother figure ever.... Just the ones on tv
The covid period... It was the period where I needed very much professional health care, both physically and mentally, but either it was not provided or it was connected to conditions as keeping distance, wear masks, stay at home as much as possible, having to get tested or jabbed without actual appropriate informed consent and deprivation of your freedom and freedom to choose. As also health professionals were forced to follow these rules my confidence in almost all of them got damaged so much that I'm still currently so traumatized by it that I feel I can't trust them at all anymore. My overall health before covid period I would rate a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. But because of the covid period, without ever having had real covid symptoms myself it went down to no more than 4 and sometimes I experience it as below 0. My trust isn't back, I don't reach out for much help any longer because the "help" provided and most of all NOT provided or at a very low quality level just left me with so many untreated health troubles on all levels and being in such constant state of fear, anger and stress traumatized me to such an extent that my life became completely disfunctional, and I now need so much help to recover my health on all levels I just have no idea what to start with and I'm so traumatized I need amfetamines to even get out of bed and get anything done. Meanwhile I still distrust most of all regular mental health care that I completely reject, neglect and abandon it just like I feel they did when I needed it most. It's irreparable! I know I need mental health care, but as soon as I'm in contact with them I instantly dissociate and want them to leave me alone, cause they let me down that much, I can never trust them anymore (at least at the place where I live)... I'm so scared of professional (mental) health, I can't even be myself around them anymore, I even get stressed by the thought of it. 🥶
I wonder if I could help you. "having to get tested or jabbed without actual appropriate informed consent and deprivation of your freedom and freedom to choose." Jesus, that's really traumatic. I avoided it completely. Never jabbed, tested, sick, nada. Have you sought out plant medicine? Reishi is a good start for recovery. Look for herbalists and shamans. Naturopath?
I'm sure you would agree, if one's mind is sick. Then your body becomes sick. If parents do not, express a loving caring nature. Then the child inherits, these traits. " I did"...I have". Cliff..
Many 🕙 philosophy fails & psychology to teaching us. Law of Attraction Connections & chemistry. Your topic is important today kids need more real relationship with parents. Neighborhood school mates class mates. We have second childhood. Beautiful manners have best friends & bad behavior have like flats tires. Thanks
I’m 45 and my whole life has been a shit fest. I just recently started trauma therapy for something completely unrelated, but I’ve since realized that my inner child is wounded as heck and that’s why I have failed and self-sabotaged EVERYTHING in my life.
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Dr. Sage, thank you, I love all your videos, they're helping me tremendously. Both my parents and older sister were malignant, super toxic, unsafe, violent, abusive and cruel. I think my mom has BPD and malignant narcissism. She was so scary and mean. I ran away at 14, had so much trauma, abusive men, rough life. I am sensitive, caring wounded woman and was attracting predators into my life. I will never go back to living that way!!! I have so much better understanding of what was wrong with them now, but there was no info, no one talking about this when I was younger. I felt so alone, like the only one in this world that was going through this. I've been on this healing journey for a while, my life is very good now, I am so blessed but I am not fully healed and living a lonely life. This is so healing for me to hear all this and know I'm not the only one. This is helpful to have deeper understanding and to have actions I can take. Thank you for your heart and wisdom you are sharing. You are so beautiful inside and out. Your voice is so calming and soothing to hear. I love to listen to you before I go to bed. Your blouse is gorgeous too. You are an angel to me.
We have such a similar background -
it seemed I could barely get any ground beneath my feet.
I also lived your life I really appreciate Kim’s videos I have no one who really cares about me. It’s been very tough I have had a few nervous and physical breakdowns but I have surround myself with narc, as I haven’t known anything else your videos a a blessing to me to learn some self worth. I have been so battered down by these people all my life. It was nice to hear that yourself and others have suffered and are supporting each other something we have never ever had thanks again.I am now trying to love and care for myself and the inner neglected child.
Dr Kim your work is Phenominal. It's right up ther with the other great Psychologist and Psychothetapists like:
*Dr Susan Forward, PhD
*Dr Alice Miller, PhD
*Dr Brene Brown, PsyD
*Dr Karol Darsa, PsyD
Please keep doing what you're doing. Millions of us appreciate your research.
Best Wishes to you and your family.
Wow! I find your research more than amazingly healing. I wish we could talk for 10 mins. I would tell you how grateful I am to you for providing this clinical content. One Love.
I am extremely grateful for your help with this. There's so much to learn. I'm a Gen X member and there was no help for me. No one. Including my bio mom. No one on either side of my family wanted me around so I was left to be abused every way possible. Once I broke free I stayed out. No one taught me about self care.
I'm learning about all of this through UA-cam and an amazing therapist. I'm 42 years old now and I feel like I'm finally getting parts of it 🎉❤🎉
Dr Sage You are AMAZING and extremely soothing and knowledgeable about how badly people are abused and how to heal i love your work and I appreciate your time and help 🎉❤❤
I love your aesthetic
Crazy how I always thought Law of Attraction snd positive thinking would always equal fantastic outcome in life.
It did kick me out of depression, made me fit and ended up in a well-known company, yet, when my girlfriend pointed out my weaknesses and started counselling, I realized, I had a massive inner child that was wounded and ignored for 26 years!
same. I had no idea that I had abandoned myself and self loathed. Toxic shame. It's all well and good to identify the problem, usually at this point, people are exhausted from seeking external love and validation to no avail. I'm 51. I have never loved myself, I have always actively abused and killed off parts of myself. So, now I know, and I really hope I can get some sense of self back.
You are such a good speaker! Confident yet gentle. I like your style. Thanks for your wealth of information. I sense (you have been there) in your videos. An individual who has experienced the trauma they speak about, is always going to be a more helpful and understanding therapist.
Yikes, I have almost all problems from that checklist. I am glad I am here and am pointed towards healing now, no more pain.
Not only did i have to deal with. Mom, other family, death father, school, friendly babby siters...ya know what i mad it i am verry strong God was my rock.💝
You videos DO change the course of my life. Please keep helping us learn to help ourselves.❤
Hi Dr. Sage! I’m grateful for hearing this. Thank you! I’m so scared to touch my inner child. I’ve just started Trauma Therapy. I’ve got CPTSD.
Thank you for your gifts to humanity. God bless you. 🙏🏾❤
This is gold. Thank you
Yes! She hits the nail right on the head!
I love this content 💚✨ you help me on this healing journey soooooo much !!!
I am so happy that you find it helpful! Thank you so much for being here💜🙏
Thank You!!
My inner child is working overtime and causing me to lose everything I hold dear and I know it's hurting me. My inner child likes being alone but that's not what I want. My inner child wants to pack up and run and forget all my goals. I hate my parents for making me even have an inner child. But I had no f choice in order to stay alive. Nobody understands that so they just throw more painful crap at you. And they don't care how you feel. But if you get rid of your inner child you are forced to face everything alone.
Omg I am horrible mother,from 5 to 9 that's when I was struggling most in my live but also improved myself this must have had effect to my child I feel bad for my child😢
Same here. I was a great and horrible mom. Single widow, alcoholic. Got sober but have bipolar. I am fun and Amazing, short tempered and quick to anger. Be patient w yourself and give yourself space between child and you. They will forgive u as long as u keep moving forward.
This is a great and empowering video as always from you. It’s great to see a preview of your paid offerings presented in a way that respects your community and you. Lead by example, right? I’ll get on tik tok eventually, but I really appreciate you splitting your efforts between platforms.
Thank you so much for saying this and for being here. It means a lot to me and I am sending you support and healing strength today 💜🙏
It is so reassuring that this t r a n s 4 knowledge is getting out
As a traumatized person how am I supposed to find the cognitive skills and functioning to be able to do this? I don't understand....
one step at a time.
look up heidi priebe. She breaks it down.
@@jenniferg6818 I've watched her her. I don't understand her terminology way too wordy. Thanks though
Thank you!
Guided imagery also helps.
Good morning Kim,
In 1965, my mother and her mother put me, in,a children's home.
It was an, all boys orphanage. I was not an orphan?. I was five years old. I was bed wetting. The two women that we, were under
Terrorised me. My bed wetting did'nt help my cause. I was too young to remember the length of time, I was at the home. The whole experience made me very angry. I revisited, the home as, an, adult. Trying to put some closure on this experience. I Felt very abandoned. My mother did'nt give a shit. What she did was illegal. The experience at this home, It still affects me, to this s day...😡
This saddened me deeply to hear your story. I'm so sorry. I will pray for your healing.
I'm so sorry Clifford. You are a valuable loving and lovable human being. I hope you can heal to become your full potential and understand that none of the trauma was your fault. I 'm happy you're here because it shows you are connecting the dots. Be well and know you are important ❤
You deserved none of that. It was not your fault. Wishing you only the best for the rest of your life.
YOU are NOT annoying. That thing you did that ONE TIME was ANNOYING. (repeat repeat repeat)
Why I never felt the need for children..
this is not serious, it’s more childish than not. difficult to see how a brilliant psychologist like a dr kim sage would make this. God Bless ye All.
Oh shit yes my autoimmune illness is out of control
probably lyme.
Excellent!!
Basically, these experiences. Makes you de-value yourself...
No self worth..
Yes!!
For me It is kind of funny when you said "caring yourself like a loving mother would do" I have no idea what it could mean... I didn't have one healthy mother figure ever.... Just the ones on tv
But how to do it?? I have so much anxiety and don't want to dive into the rabbit hole.
All this stuff is so fuzzy
Only thing I want is healing.
The covid period... It was the period where I needed very much professional health care, both physically and mentally, but either it was not provided or it was connected to conditions as keeping distance, wear masks, stay at home as much as possible, having to get tested or jabbed without actual appropriate informed consent and deprivation of your freedom and freedom to choose. As also health professionals were forced to follow these rules my confidence in almost all of them got damaged so much that I'm still currently so traumatized by it that I feel I can't trust them at all anymore. My overall health before covid period I would rate a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. But because of the covid period, without ever having had real covid symptoms myself it went down to no more than 4 and sometimes I experience it as below 0. My trust isn't back, I don't reach out for much help any longer because the "help" provided and most of all NOT provided or at a very low quality level just left me with so many untreated health troubles on all levels and being in such constant state of fear, anger and stress traumatized me to such an extent that my life became completely disfunctional, and I now need so much help to recover my health on all levels I just have no idea what to start with and I'm so traumatized I need amfetamines to even get out of bed and get anything done. Meanwhile I still distrust most of all regular mental health care that I completely reject, neglect and abandon it just like I feel they did when I needed it most. It's irreparable! I know I need mental health care, but as soon as I'm in contact with them I instantly dissociate and want them to leave me alone, cause they let me down that much, I can never trust them anymore (at least at the place where I live)... I'm so scared of professional (mental) health, I can't even be myself around them anymore, I even get stressed by the thought of it. 🥶
I wonder if I could help you. "having to get tested or jabbed without actual appropriate informed consent and deprivation of your freedom and freedom to choose." Jesus, that's really traumatic. I avoided it completely. Never jabbed, tested, sick, nada. Have you sought out plant medicine? Reishi is a good start for recovery. Look for herbalists and shamans. Naturopath?
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10 from 10 100% all. Mmm?
U look so good mama 😘🍵🍦
Could a narcissist ever comprehend this?
I'm sure you would agree, if one's mind is sick. Then your body becomes sick. If parents do not, express a loving caring nature.
Then the child inherits, these traits. " I did"...I have".
Cliff..
generational trauma.
Same
Many 🕙 philosophy fails & psychology to teaching us. Law of Attraction Connections & chemistry. Your topic is important today kids need more real relationship with parents. Neighborhood school mates class mates. We have second childhood. Beautiful manners have best friends & bad behavior have like flats tires. Thanks
state took over education. Making kids sick and feeding them drugs. State controls, not parents.