The difference in insight between my ocd and my bpd is astounding. I've known I had ocd for many years and could easily identify my symptoms. But with my bpd, I experienced years and years of extreme dysfunction without recognizing there was something *seriously* wrong or that it was bpd. It's only recently I've accepted my diagnosis and begun to recognize my maladaptive behaviors and thoughts as maladaptive.
I am convinced I have COPD and BPD even though I am high functioning. It controls my life as my anxiety goes through the roof and having other mental disorders is like living in a world that cannot keep up with me and my thoughts as everything needs to be done NOW or I cannot function properly and that turns my days into confusion because my mind's lists of things that need to be done are scrambled. That is when I get angry, emotional, suicidal and all I want is to be left alone or il have a complete meltdown. I haven't been diagnosed but I know I have ocpd and other mental disorders as I'm not normal like other people and I've been this way since childhood. It takes its toll on mentally and physically. I wish I could take everything that is wrong with me and live a happy normal life. 44 years if suffering is destroying me
@@DrDanielFox thankyou. The only thing I know I've been diagnosed with and I found out by reading my medical notes on the way to hospital is agrophobia, sorry if it is not the correct spelling but other than that they say I have anxiety and depression. I know it's more than that because of my behaviour and how my brain and body functions. I also suffered childhood trauma from a very young age and it has had a profound affect on me since around 4 years old. The solution is to always give me antidepressants and recently antipsychotic medication without a diagnosis. It's a hell of a daily struggle as the medication is not and has never worked otherwise I would not be in this state of mind. Thankyou I will look into the workbook you mentioned. Have a great Sunday.
@@smilingu2741 I wish you healing! And I hope that you will be able to somehow help yourself thru this and other channels. Look up also Dr Kim Sage, Dr Ramani. I do feel for you esp knowing that the meds haven't worked like it was the case with my daughter. All the best for you!
I'm sorry I couldn't help it but my first reaction was "THERE'S ANOTHER ONE NOW?" I've been diagnosed with bipolar, borderline, GAD, PTSD and CPTSD (separate events), ADHD, ROCD, and eating disorder. I'm genuinely looking forward to learning about the distinction and how it may illuminate some things, but sometimes all these diagnoses feel like I'm being slowly buried alive. I've chosen for myself to only pick the ones that make sense to me (C/PTSD, borderline, ADHD) to make it less overwhelming, especially since there's so much overlap - hypomania feels like hyperfocus and hyperactivity in adhd, anxiety overlaps with deppresive episodes of bipolar or perceived abandonment of borderline or hyperarousal and anticipation of C/PTSD, ROCD traits are shared with borderline experience, executive function is impacted by ADHD and also early childhood trauma and also borderline, etc. And I'm far enough in recovery that I see my mental conditions as a part of my brain rather than as a part of who I am as a being, so it doesn't seem so dark anymore. But occasionally those feelings do come back I guess. Edit: Just realized OCPD was just the personality disorder variant🤦🏻♀️ Goes to show how knee-jerk reaction that was for me, how overly on-edge I can be sometimes to this stuff
OCPD really is the worst named personality disorder. It should be changed. It used to be called Anankastic personality disorder in the ICD system, which at least distinguishes it from OCD.
My father had a masters degree & my mother was just very intelligent... I showed signs of both OCD & OCPD at a really young age, like young elementary... My father also seems to be a sociopath... Not sure about my mother... I was the middle child, scapegoat, truth teller, black sheet, ect... Also my "OCD" is practically non existent now, but it tries to show up/flare up during extreme control put on my life or abuse or neglect... but I have really got it almost completely snuffed out! I definitely think I struggled placement of items as a young adult, but now I don't just like thing put back nice and neat... I'm pretty flexible... I believe in loose schedule & tight routine! Especially for kids! Then they learn to move forward if something goes off from the schedule... I think part of my problem was because my oldest sibling was 5 years older and I thought I was able to do everything that they could do & got frustrated when I could achieve what I was seeing in my mind. Art wise, writing, ect...
Excuse me to share one OPCD Example: Writing a simple short informative email to a co-worker takes almost an hour in format, font, “maybe another color than black? Lemme try this Black but 1% lighter… “my signature doesn’t look good🤔 Maybe needs one click larger”.. “How about a shade to the logo pic in my signature... Wait lemme make all the signature letters Titled same degree as the logo’s shade...
I've always called this broke OCD as this is how it was explained to me initially. With all the diagnosis given it sounds like simply put it is OCD of thoughts.
I suffered OCD at the age of 8- 10. I had checking, counting & contamination. All started when I was abused. My coping mechanism. I had to hide it from my parents. I felt like I was in a kind of jail the moment I awoke to the time I fell asleep. It was exhausting. One day, I had had enough and yelled out, "I can't do this anymore," and I stopped.
I just remembered, I read a book that changed my life & that is another big thing that helped me. I was a book called Bitterness & it made me lookat myself & acknowledge my hurt & then take responsibility for how I handled it... I had a friend tell me I was going to want to stop reading it & think the person who wrote it was evil & lying, but to push past it AND WOW! I did make it to the end anthe power and responsibility it helped me to take was life changing! They also have other books called Unloving, I think Rejection & a few more...
@@wendyleeconnelly2939 Henry W. Right It is a "Christian" book if that's not your thing, no matter what it's good! BUT make sure if you start it that you finish it, otherwise it's like starting a surgery and not finishing and closing up! It opens you up to your deepest self & if you don't get to the end of it with the healing it can leave you almost worse than before... VERY deep books! I am thinking of reading the ones I have again!
This was interesting because I show a lot of these overlapping traits but not in a way that interferes with my external life. I am trying to go to therapy and find out what I’m struggling with so I can get help, but it’s confusing when it has to “interfere with your life” to be diagnosed. My internal life is near-constantly distressing and my very close interpersonal relationships are where a lot of these patterns show up, but since I appear fine at work, in academic settings, and with friends, I am not “having enough problems” to get a diagnosis. It’s really perplexing
I have BPD and OCPD, but not OCD. both of these disorders have given me anxiety, panic disorder and depression. With the help of A LOT of journaling and meditation and DR. FOX (Thank YOU, SERIOUSLY!) and medication, I have been able to manage my BPD and have it under control and also get rid of the anxiety, panic disorder and depression. it has been amazing being able to do that! However, I fell utterly stuck in my OCPD and I am as RIGID with my rules and order and my idea of perfection as I ever have been and I really have no idea how to even begin to improve on it! *sad face* and I know that if I don't do something about it, I am very much at risk of getting depression or anxiety again. I'm playing a risky game with my own mental health and don't know how to stop... My OCPD also gave me an eating disorder in the past, but I managed to free myself of it but now after two years of having no eating disorder, I yet again find myself walking on the fine line between eating normally and full blown eating disorder. Not a safe place to hang out for a long time.. Anyway, rambles aside, the poor insight things with OCPD is very real!!!!
I have OSDD and I have OCD and BPD where one of my alters has been diagnosed with OCPD. Thank you for putting out this info. It really helps to regulate my system if I can understand all of us.
Yes I do this, if I don't put matching pegs on my washing line, don't leave anything on its own so it has a friend (inanimate objects) put everything in its place, check and do my make up 3 times etc, I can't leave the house and get on with my day......it takes me 3 to 4hrs to leave my house.......yes because no one else does it right 😡.......yes it's my way or no way!!!!! Ooooooooo self shaming that's me!!!!
Another great video. It'd really interesting to hear your thoughts at some point about the new direction the ICD has taken, essentially scrapping the old personality disorders and instead focussing on traits. I believe this is because they believe that many of the different personality disorders can be different manifestations of the same underlying problem(s) and so it's artificial to split them into separate personality disorders as the DSM does. (Reflecting perhaps the thoughts of people like Otto Kernberg who believed that narcissism was a defence mechanism against an underlying borderline personality type).
Psychiatrist said I have mild OCPD as well as BPD. The OCPD symptoms led me to think I might be autistic, as I hadn't previously known abut OCPD, so that was informative to learn, and I can see it going all the way back to my childhood, how things have always had to be perfect, and logical, and how I collect things, how my parents said that I was a packrat and a perfectionist. I've always had trouble with sarcasm and take everything literally. I can't understand it when people say one thing then do another, or lie. And I obsess about one thing at a time usually for a few months each. It's generally about choosing the best one, be it a lipstick or a winter coat or a dog breed. Also houses for sale, and comparing towns to live in, trying to find my El Dorado. I just finished spending thousands of dollars on collecting Barbie dolls. I love them, but that was a lot of money I couldn't stop the compulsion to choose and then buy. Trying to recover from that expense now. Mom said I was too picky about men when I was 21, so I purposely overlooked a few things when I met my future husband (now divorced!). I am a great worker, a valued employee, and I enjoy the meaning I put into my work. Most people don't see it's importance, but I do. And I DO have trouble throwing things out or selling things. I've had to be very disciplined about this as an adult. Psychiatrist questioned me very logically about why I still own a depreciating motorhome I don't use, when I now have a house to live in instead. I hate to let go of things because my parents threw out so much of my childhood, and so much of the things I loved, our house, our dog, my clothes, my town, our 70's carpet I adored, each other... I had a hard time letting my child do things for himself and watching him do everything poorly and wrong growing up! It's so much easier to prevent kitchen messes and to tie his shoes for him, and things like that. I prevented as many messes as I could. I now have a dog, and I find that stressful too. Messes, messes, messes!!! And she's always smearing her nose on my clean hands!! I go around with my hands in the air to keep them clean! School friend used to call me Sniffy, 'cause I was always sniffing my hands in high school to make sure they smelled fresh and not of food or anything else. My GP says I'm quirky. I think that's a nice way to view it. But my temper sometimes! I am using my DBT techniques to control it, and abstaining from liquor. Regarding money, my handling of it has benefited me in that I've never been in debt, EVER. I never buy anything I don't have the cash to pay for. I think I learned that value from my Dad. Never borrow, and never lend. Whereas my 22 y.o. kid has it all wrong so far, at least in my eyes. My way has probably hindered me in ways as well though. It's dictated major things about my life, like where I've lived. I haven't lived life the "normal" way, with loans and mortgages. I live in an old fashioned, old money kind of way I guess. Dad going through WWII was a major influence. I think you are probably the therapist, of all those I've watched on UA-cam, who I'd most like to see, and who'd be best suited to help me, if teleport transport was possible, and if I could pick! I learn something from each of the many good people who share their knowledge with the pubic here though. UA-cam is a modern day gift of enormous magnitude.
It sounds like you've had quite the journey in discovering and understanding your OCPD and BPD. It's great that you're able to recognize these traits and work towards recovery. Keep pushing forward!
@@sweetd960 i did,i was just saying that there are natural medications you can take to feel better and if you need recommendations then send a dm to my handle
you actuly hit a big trama of my older sister i have ... even though she in my opinion only hits one its been devastating to my and my fans life lol her need for cleaning has been intence i mean i even got locked out of the house while she cleaned as a kid cuz she coudlen handle me not helping clean but like you said i woudlent cuz it was neve rdone right in her opinion and we would end up getting int a fight over how I'm doing it lol one big one i remember and still can understand is her telling me i wasn't pouring water on the wall correctly we sat there for 35 min as she repeditively showed dme how she poored the water on the bathtub wall and no matter how i did it (as it seemed to do the job no matter what ) she would get mad and make me do it agen lol really that whole part hits soo home fo rher and shes low cognitive lol why she did better as a janitor who worked alone .... its her thing to the point my mom really helped her make it the way she stays busy and not having an outburst lol she need something she has to have it cuz its the order its supoused to go like if there's a trip even if we don't have the money for it she has to by a new outfit for the trip really ocd big to the pinot for me till i left the home would perpously not clean my room just cuz i hated having things to be her way littlery its her way or the high way lol but she deff completes any cleaning task she dose but the her way or the high why of our family dynamic has been sooo hard
My bpd wife is making my life miserable.. is there any hope?! Meds are not helping except for Lamictal’ sometimes and i somehow arrogantly do not trust the DBT approach.
I wish they still used the term "anakanastic personality disorder" to minimize the confusion... oh wait... that would be just one more personality disorder that started with an A.
The difference in insight between my ocd and my bpd is astounding. I've known I had ocd for many years and could easily identify my symptoms. But with my bpd, I experienced years and years of extreme dysfunction without recognizing there was something *seriously* wrong or that it was bpd. It's only recently I've accepted my diagnosis and begun to recognize my maladaptive behaviors and thoughts as maladaptive.
Are you on any medications to feel better?
There are natural remedies I can recommend to you that will help
Send a dm to my handle
I am absolutely amazed by the amount of your knowledge and understanding of personality disorders.
I am convinced I have COPD and BPD even though I am high functioning. It controls my life as my anxiety goes through the roof and having other mental disorders is like living in a world that cannot keep up with me and my thoughts as everything needs to be done NOW or I cannot function properly and that turns my days into confusion because my mind's lists of things that need to be done are scrambled. That is when I get angry, emotional, suicidal and all I want is to be left alone or il have a complete meltdown. I haven't been diagnosed but I know I have ocpd and other mental disorders as I'm not normal like other people and I've been this way since childhood. It takes its toll on mentally and physically. I wish I could take everything that is wrong with me and live a happy normal life. 44 years if suffering is destroying me
You can learn to do it differently. Learn about your core content. I discuss this in my workbook, which you might find helpful.
@@DrDanielFox thankyou. The only thing I know I've been diagnosed with and I found out by reading my medical notes on the way to hospital is agrophobia, sorry if it is not the correct spelling but other than that they say I have anxiety and depression. I know it's more than that because of my behaviour and how my brain and body functions. I also suffered childhood trauma from a very young age and it has had a profound affect on me since around 4 years old. The solution is to always give me antidepressants and recently antipsychotic medication without a diagnosis. It's a hell of a daily struggle as the medication is not and has never worked otherwise I would not be in this state of mind. Thankyou I will look into the workbook you mentioned. Have a great Sunday.
@@smilingu2741 there are natural remedies that can help you feel better
Send a dm to my handle and I can give you some recommendations
@@smilingu2741 I wish you healing! And I hope that you will be able to somehow help yourself thru this and other channels. Look up also Dr Kim Sage, Dr Ramani. I do feel for you esp knowing that the meds haven't worked like it was the case with my daughter. All the best for you!
I'm sorry I couldn't help it but my first reaction was "THERE'S ANOTHER ONE NOW?" I've been diagnosed with bipolar, borderline, GAD, PTSD and CPTSD (separate events), ADHD, ROCD, and eating disorder. I'm genuinely looking forward to learning about the distinction and how it may illuminate some things, but sometimes all these diagnoses feel like I'm being slowly buried alive. I've chosen for myself to only pick the ones that make sense to me (C/PTSD, borderline, ADHD) to make it less overwhelming, especially since there's so much overlap - hypomania feels like hyperfocus and hyperactivity in adhd, anxiety overlaps with deppresive episodes of bipolar or perceived abandonment of borderline or hyperarousal and anticipation of C/PTSD, ROCD traits are shared with borderline experience, executive function is impacted by ADHD and also early childhood trauma and also borderline, etc.
And I'm far enough in recovery that I see my mental conditions as a part of my brain rather than as a part of who I am as a being, so it doesn't seem so dark anymore. But occasionally those feelings do come back I guess.
Edit: Just realized OCPD was just the personality disorder variant🤦🏻♀️ Goes to show how knee-jerk reaction that was for me, how overly on-edge I can be sometimes to this stuff
I appreciate the comment and insight.
Lol omg I said the same thing like damn there’s more. how many do I have😩
You literally typed out my thoughts. Another label to give myself
OCPD really is the worst named personality disorder. It should be changed. It used to be called Anankastic personality disorder in the ICD system, which at least distinguishes it from OCD.
Looking forward to this. In library school they suggested that Melvil Dewey likely had OCPD.
Interesting.
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He’s right when it literally takes over your mind. There’s been times where I was just beginning for freedom. There’s hope y’all. Don’t give up
My father had a masters degree & my mother was just very intelligent... I showed signs of both OCD & OCPD at a really young age, like young elementary... My father also seems to be a sociopath... Not sure about my mother... I was the middle child, scapegoat, truth teller, black sheet, ect...
Also my "OCD" is practically non existent now, but it tries to show up/flare up during extreme control put on my life or abuse or neglect... but I have really got it almost completely snuffed out!
I definitely think I struggled placement of items as a young adult, but now I don't just like thing put back nice and neat... I'm pretty flexible... I believe in loose schedule & tight routine! Especially for kids! Then they learn to move forward if something goes off from the schedule...
I think part of my problem was because my oldest sibling was 5 years older and I thought I was able to do everything that they could do & got frustrated when I could achieve what I was seeing in my mind. Art wise, writing, ect...
There are natural medications you can take to feel bettee
If you need recommendations then send a dm to my handle
Excuse me to share one OPCD Example:
Writing a simple short informative email to a co-worker takes almost an hour in format, font, “maybe another color than black? Lemme try this Black but 1% lighter… “my signature doesn’t look good🤔 Maybe needs one click larger”.. “How about a shade to the logo pic in my signature... Wait lemme make all the signature letters Titled same degree as the logo’s shade...
Thanks for sharing. Be well.
I've always called this broke OCD as this is how it was explained to me initially. With all the diagnosis given it sounds like simply put it is OCD of thoughts.
Helpful video. Thanks Doc.
Glad it was helpful!
I suffered OCD at the age of 8- 10. I had checking, counting & contamination. All started when I was abused. My coping mechanism. I had to hide it from my parents.
I felt like I was in a kind of jail the moment I awoke to the time I fell asleep. It was exhausting.
One day, I had had enough and yelled out,
"I can't do this anymore," and I stopped.
I just remembered, I read a book that changed my life & that is another big thing that helped me. I was a book called Bitterness & it made me lookat myself & acknowledge my hurt & then take responsibility for how I handled it... I had a friend tell me I was going to want to stop reading it & think the person who wrote it was evil & lying, but to push past it AND WOW! I did make it to the end anthe power and responsibility it helped me to take was life changing!
They also have other books called Unloving, I think Rejection & a few more...
Who was the author?
@@wendyleeconnelly2939
Henry W. Right
It is a "Christian" book if that's not your thing, no matter what it's good! BUT make sure if you start it that you finish it, otherwise it's like starting a surgery and not finishing and closing up! It opens you up to your deepest self & if you don't get to the end of it with the healing it can leave you almost worse than before... VERY deep books! I am thinking of reading the ones I have again!
This was interesting because I show a lot of these overlapping traits but not in a way that interferes with my external life. I am trying to go to therapy and find out what I’m struggling with so I can get help, but it’s confusing when it has to “interfere with your life” to be diagnosed. My internal life is near-constantly distressing and my very close interpersonal relationships are where a lot of these patterns show up, but since I appear fine at work, in academic settings, and with friends, I am not “having enough problems” to get a diagnosis. It’s really perplexing
I wish I had a problem with hoarding money lol
same, life would be a bit easier lol. spend spend spend
Hey doc. Your workbook is excellent. Thank you. I do wish I got a paper copy, though.
I think you can when you go to details & then tap transcript...
Working on it!
Love the content....makes me think even more I have both BPD and OCPD ...any info to help me tame my inner beasts I'm grateful for, thank you ❤️
I have BPD and OCPD, but not OCD. both of these disorders have given me anxiety, panic disorder and depression. With the help of A LOT of journaling and meditation and DR. FOX (Thank YOU, SERIOUSLY!) and medication, I have been able to manage my BPD and have it under control and also get rid of the anxiety, panic disorder and depression. it has been amazing being able to do that! However, I fell utterly stuck in my OCPD and I am as RIGID with my rules and order and my idea of perfection as I ever have been and I really have no idea how to even begin to improve on it! *sad face* and I know that if I don't do something about it, I am very much at risk of getting depression or anxiety again. I'm playing a risky game with my own mental health and don't know how to stop...
My OCPD also gave me an eating disorder in the past, but I managed to free myself of it but now after two years of having no eating disorder, I yet again find myself walking on the fine line between eating normally and full blown eating disorder. Not a safe place to hang out for a long time..
Anyway, rambles aside, the poor insight things with OCPD is very real!!!!
I have OSDD and I have OCD and BPD where one of my alters has been diagnosed with OCPD. Thank you for putting out this info. It really helps to regulate my system if I can understand all of us.
There are natural medications that can help your ocd,send a dm to my handle to get recommendations
Yes I do this, if I don't put matching pegs on my washing line, don't leave anything on its own so it has a friend (inanimate objects) put everything in its place, check and do my make up 3 times etc, I can't leave the house and get on with my day......it takes me 3 to 4hrs to leave my house.......yes because no one else does it right 😡.......yes it's my way or no way!!!!!
Ooooooooo self shaming that's me!!!!
Another great video. It'd really interesting to hear your thoughts at some point about the new direction the ICD has taken, essentially scrapping the old personality disorders and instead focussing on traits. I believe this is because they believe that many of the different personality disorders can be different manifestations of the same underlying problem(s) and so it's artificial to split them into separate personality disorders as the DSM does. (Reflecting perhaps the thoughts of people like Otto Kernberg who believed that narcissism was a defence mechanism against an underlying borderline personality type).
Psychiatrist said I have mild OCPD as well as BPD. The OCPD symptoms led me to think I might be autistic, as I hadn't previously known abut OCPD, so that was informative to learn, and I can see it going all the way back to my childhood, how things have always had to be perfect, and logical, and how I collect things, how my parents said that I was a packrat and a perfectionist. I've always had trouble with sarcasm and take everything literally. I can't understand it when people say one thing then do another, or lie. And I obsess about one thing at a time usually for a few months each. It's generally about choosing the best one, be it a lipstick or a winter coat or a dog breed. Also houses for sale, and comparing towns to live in, trying to find my El Dorado. I just finished spending thousands of dollars on collecting Barbie dolls. I love them, but that was a lot of money I couldn't stop the compulsion to choose and then buy. Trying to recover from that expense now.
Mom said I was too picky about men when I was 21, so I purposely overlooked a few things when I met my future husband (now divorced!). I am a great worker, a valued employee, and I enjoy the meaning I put into my work. Most people don't see it's importance, but I do. And I DO have trouble throwing things out or selling things. I've had to be very disciplined about this as an adult. Psychiatrist questioned me very logically about why I still own a depreciating motorhome I don't use, when I now have a house to live in instead. I hate to let go of things because my parents threw out so much of my childhood, and so much of the things I loved, our house, our dog, my clothes, my town, our 70's carpet I adored, each other...
I had a hard time letting my child do things for himself and watching him do everything poorly and wrong growing up! It's so much easier to prevent kitchen messes and to tie his shoes for him, and things like that. I prevented as many messes as I could. I now have a dog, and I find that stressful too. Messes, messes, messes!!! And she's always smearing her nose on my clean hands!! I go around with my hands in the air to keep them clean! School friend used to call me Sniffy, 'cause I was always sniffing my hands in high school to make sure they smelled fresh and not of food or anything else. My GP says I'm quirky. I think that's a nice way to view it. But my temper sometimes! I am using my DBT techniques to control it, and abstaining from liquor.
Regarding money, my handling of it has benefited me in that I've never been in debt, EVER. I never buy anything I don't have the cash to pay for. I think I learned that value from my Dad. Never borrow, and never lend. Whereas my 22 y.o. kid has it all wrong so far, at least in my eyes. My way has probably hindered me in ways as well though. It's dictated major things about my life, like where I've lived. I haven't lived life the "normal" way, with loans and mortgages. I live in an old fashioned, old money kind of way I guess. Dad going through WWII was a major influence.
I think you are probably the therapist, of all those I've watched on UA-cam, who I'd most like to see, and who'd be best suited to help me, if teleport transport was possible, and if I could pick! I learn something from each of the many good people who share their knowledge with the pubic here though. UA-cam is a modern day gift of enormous magnitude.
It sounds like you've had quite the journey in discovering and understanding your OCPD and BPD. It's great that you're able to recognize these traits and work towards recovery. Keep pushing forward!
Thankyou Dr Fox
I have OCD and never told a Dr
Ur a real God-send Sir
Guilty! Convicted! Willing to learn and grow.🤣🙏😇
Iv'e still got some washing machine products that date back as far as 2004🙂🤔
If you need recommendation of natural medications that can help you feel better
Send a dm to my handle
Whoever replyed to me, Sorry unable to see your reply
@@sweetd960 i did,i was just saying that there are natural medications you can take to feel better and if you need recommendations then send a dm to my handle
um,, just got diagnosed w ocpd??
you actuly hit a big trama of my older sister i have ... even though she in my opinion only hits one its been devastating to my and my fans life lol her need for cleaning has been intence i mean i even got locked out of the house while she cleaned as a kid cuz she coudlen handle me not helping clean but like you said i woudlent cuz it was neve rdone right in her opinion and we would end up getting int a fight over how I'm doing it lol one big one i remember and still can understand is her telling me i wasn't pouring water on the wall correctly we sat there for 35 min as she repeditively showed dme how she poored the water on the bathtub wall and no matter how i did it (as it seemed to do the job no matter what ) she would get mad and make me do it agen lol really that whole part hits soo home fo rher and shes low cognitive lol why she did better as a janitor who worked alone .... its her thing to the point my mom really helped her make it the way she stays busy and not having an outburst lol she need something she has to have it cuz its the order its supoused to go like if there's a trip even if we don't have the money for it she has to by a new outfit for the trip really ocd big to the pinot for me till i left the home would perpously not clean my room just cuz i hated having things to be her way littlery its her way or the high way lol but she deff completes any cleaning task she dose but the her way or the high why of our family dynamic has been sooo hard
Love you.
My bpd wife is making my life miserable.. is there any hope?!
Meds are not helping except for Lamictal’ sometimes and i somehow arrogantly do not trust the DBT approach.
DBT is the leading treatment. No meds are approved to treat bpd. If you do not trust the leading medical treatment sounds like a you problem
I wish they still used the term "anakanastic personality disorder" to minimize the confusion... oh wait... that would be just one more personality disorder that started with an A.
True.
If you're attempting to use NLP, the hand gestures are very distracting. If not, ignore me because I'm a whacko.
ocpd: miserliness, rigid, inflexible, can't delegate, hoarding useless objects
This was very insightful! Thank you very much for sharing on OCD and BPD, I certainly find your videos on these to be helpful. 🫶🏻