17 Unexpected and Unique Behaviours of OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder)
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- Today's video goes through some of the more unique and unexpected behaviours that a person with OCPD may display.
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1) Excessive need for knowledge
2) Procrastination
3) Avoid emails that require a reply unless one can do what needs to be done
4) Particular list of values, idea of people
5) Obsess over the small things
6) Obsess over the diagnosis of OCPD
7) Unable to answer a question concisely; need to clarify everything
8) Need to fix something straight away
9) Rigidity, especially rules
10) Excessive devotion to work at the expense of family or social relationship that leads to depressive burnout
11) Everything has to be fair & equal (unique symptom)
12) The need to master a craft
13) Obsessive research when making a purchase
14) A purchase has to be new, not used
15) Assuming others run on the same schedule
16) Skin picking
17) Constant self-analyzing, self-doubt, questioning
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18) Strong preference for shapes formed only by straight lines (polygons) in stuff you own, fonts, etc
19) Need to have a checklist for practically everything
Can't thank you enough for sharing. It all makes sense now.
I really don't want to self diganoise but I have all of the things from above but I'm not sure if I'm just overthinking it. I am thinking about going to a doctor appointment to see if there is actually something with me but I don't know how to bring up the topic to my mum. :(
HELP I HAVE THIS ALL
@@sparklejumprope_queen i have all of them too but I dont want t self diagnose aswell..-
@@sparklejumprope_queen I was just thinking the same thing! I have been called a perfectionist for as long as I could remember, and everyone treats me like I am just being extra and overdramatic, and have said that to my face, but I have watched several videos on OCPD and done extensive research. I honestly think I may have it.
Did you ever bring it up to your mom?
If so, how did it go?
Also, if you did, do you have any tips on the best way to present the topic?
Thanks so much for listing it like that, was in the process of doing so myself, but getting tired and then saw you already did it for me, lol. Thanks a lot! I feel just like you! ALL finally makes sense, really EVERYTHING!
"It's very easy to prioritise UA-cam videos over an assignment"
... that was a callout. 😂
#6 is really interesting to me. I struggle with the fact that it's impossible to know how others perceive and understand things. This results in me over explaining every single thing and repeating myself constantly to insure everyone fully understands something the way I do
Oh I can completely relate. I spent so much of my time talking in circles because I worry that my points of conversation aren't being conveyed the "right way". Really glad to hear I'm not the only one!
Me same. But if u say to me something I will completely understand it because I can understand how u r feeling. I’m not f..king rude. I care people a lot.
I do this so badly, I don’t know if I have this but quite a few things match:/
Its is possible to know how others perceive something but for that u have to know how people experience themselfs and world around them u must know a person energy and possibilities, i was obsessed with that but a price u pay for knowing that is in a way a curse.. When u know everything a lot of things lose its charm in a way
@@phantomskim698I swear I just had the same thought just the other day during a late night deep dive into… whatever !
I have OCPD as well as BPD. thank you for reminding me I'm not alone ❤️
Ive never felt so seen and called out at the same time. I feel like you are me. It's like, yes. 100% Thank you for this video.
As a student of Psychology, this video is extremely helpful in understanding some of the unique traits of OCPD. Thank you for your openness and energy!
I would reaaaaally like to see something about the "depressive burnouts" you get after putting yourself under so much pressure. This topic is very dear to me because I've always known I have depressive tendencies but now I feel like I see myself a lot in ocpd and I told my therapist but even if he agreed, he can not diagnose me and he also told me that my depressive side is bigger than my obsessive side. Now I'm starting to feel like it all ultimately comes back to ocpd and not to depression (everything is sooooo accurate, even considering my bias!) So if you let me know your opinion on this I would be grateful forever ❤️ great content, ty!
Sure thing! Will add the topic to my video list :)
I have ADHD, and now after watching this I'm starting to wonder if me trying to "fix myself" is causing OCPD symptoms.
I resonate with pretty much all of these, especially the mastering a craft, intense hyper focus with beauty and skin picking.
I've literally wasted hours of my life doing my own eyelash extensions for example, only to redo them again a few days later because I want to redo them even better, rinse, repeat. I promise myself not to touch them, and to make them last at least a week.. and I end up picking all of them off. I also get extremely anxious if my hair isn't perfect or if there are any blemishes on my skin. It ruins my mood and I can't stop thinking about it. Retaking selfies for hours and then not posting any because none of them came out perfect. I also over analyze social situations and it just is exhausting..
I just want to truly relax.
Hi. Can we friend ?
Wow, this made me feel less alone. You just described me
I used to work 9-10 hours a day at work Monday to Saturday. So I used to have one day off and I rarely took leaves because I wanted to save them to occassionally visit my parents.
Despite this, I had a constant voice in my head telling me I'm not doing enough so I enrolled myself in language classes to learn Japanese. It didn't end well, I couldn't cope up, Spent a shit Ton of money , didn't pass the language exam. All because I felt I wanted to do something for myself ( since my job was not exactly the dream job I wanted ), wanted to be the cool person who knew 4 languages and be productive every single minute.
That was so dumb when I look back. But this need for productivity is so constant that you don't know how to take a break.
Plz make more OCPD related videos. There is so little about it on youtube. Btw great video 😊
I'm self-diagnosed with OCPD. I'm a classic example. I am certainly a research fiend. I always wondered why, when I spoke to someone in detail about a seemingly non-essential thing, they looked at me like "who really cares?!" Meanwhile it fascinated me! I need to know about the details of whatever gets my attention. I also need familiarity. It makes me feel calm. I do procrastinate about doing something different because I'm comfortable with the status-quo. I feel "if it works, don't try to fix it". I don't take anything to an extreme, but it has made me miss out on so much of life. I'm okay with it, but deep down there's a sadness. Having said that, if the truth be told, won't most people say the same thing? Life's a tough ride no matter which road we take.
I don’t have this diagnosis but want to know how things worked, how people acted at a get together or event, why things are way that they are and reading details about medication before trying it which my doctor hates, ugh
The wanted to understand everything is me
I’ve recently been diagnosed with OCPD, and it made me really scared. You made me lose that fear, so thank you❤️
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thank you so much for this vid on ocpd, and what a relief finding it after watching all these neurotypcical doctors basically explain it as the 'bad type of ocd' while centering the experiences of people around the person with ocpd instead of that person themselves! this was very helpful 💖
Exactly what I do and feel I wasn't even diagnosed yet. When I have something I like to do I became very obsessed and good of it. I thought I'm just creative but it's my obsession on wanting to do something that I want to do is obsession. I can be dedicated to something I love to do but neglect things I hate to do. I also have thoughts that I can't control not to think. My husband is annoyed that when I tell a story I keep repeating it because I thought that I haven't explained properly.
seriously,
thank you.
thank.
you.
I have an urge to classify & stratify things, write them down using the best handwriting possible, make meticulous detailed plans and lists.
I listen to the tiniest of details of my songs - multiple times over and over again, until my mind is convinced that it’s good enough to upload !!
Thank you so much for making this video. I have recently discovered that I have suffered with this disorder for most of my life, and this video highlights the more unusual aspects of the condition far more thoroughly and relatably than anything else I have seen on UA-cam. I like to know as much as possible of course! Recently had a very similar downfall to that you mentioned at number 5. This video is helping me understand myself and forgive myself - really appreciate it and big respect.
I am trying my best to live with a man who will not accept there is a problem with him and the behaviors I unfortunately have to watch him go thru - this describes him with utter clarity and I have searched for more information on this so thanks for this video. It is honestly a heavy challenge and he also has severe narcissistic behaviors - today I started looking for apartments for myself as the daily inconsistency and the battles over every single thing has made me feel like I am derailing and loosing myself it is truly the hardest thing to deal with and I wish all who have this disorder the best possible outcomes in their relationships - I should have been smarter about my choice with him as he has been thru three marriages now
12:48 I got teary eyed on this part but more of because of rage. My trauma is religion, I know it contributed a lot with how I am now. But what a revelation… the highly impossible expectations really impacted me in a big way and it brought me back to the intense hate for the said religion. I have ADHD, and always thought I had OCD (I probably did as a child) but hearing all these… it seems OCPD is where it’s at. I’ll be bringing this up to my psychiatrist. Thanks and subbed!!
You got me at number 5 🤣 but not because of misdiagnosis but because I want to draw a clear line between OCD & OCPD. Oh dear! 😂
An excessive need for neatness and order -- I am happy to report I have been cured of that horrible problem, ever since I have lived on my own!
I’m self diagnosed and there are only a few that I don’t relate to. I buy used stuff a lot because I’m very frugal. Also it’s rare that I master a craft. I bounce around from hobby to hobby. In the beginning I obsess over the hobby and hyper focus on it for a bit until I’m suddenly over it. I’ll often come back to obsessing over it again down the road but I bounce around so much that I never get to the point of mastering anything. The one about preferring shapes with straight lines is interesting because I love plaid. I hate to admit it but when people do things in a way that I find stupid it can actually infuriate me. For example someone in my family keeps putting the outer shower curtain inside the tub. I’ve told them a bunch of times that the outer one STAYS outside the tub. So now when I see it in the tub again I get instant rage coursing through my body. Stupidity and not having common sense really bothers me big time. I believe I also have adhd and I feel the two disorders are constantly at odds with each other, yet amplifying each other. Like people think I’m organized and responsible because I make lists but I have to make lists because my mind is so chaotic and easily distracted.
Thank you for being so vulnerable!!
Me; diagnosed with BPD,
finding out about OCPD,
Watching a million videos - including this video, to procastinate putting my laundry away, while googeling "how to organise your closet perfecrly"...
Well, i have to talk with my doctor... but jezz, this is only 6 mins in..
Hi. I been also suffering from this.
@@0OO369BfF-_0O suffering is a strong word. I wouldn't say i suffer, but are challenged. Luckily, i found out that I have trades of a couple PD's, including OCPD, but are not the "main diagnosis".
Hi! I dont have OCPD but my partner does. Thank you for putting up this video....and the group as im learning so much! How to be more understanding of my partners struggles, we watched this together and I think she felt more understood....that she's not alone 😊
I'm really glad this video was helpful for both you and your partner! The struggle of OCPD is real and sometimes terrifying, knowing that we're not alone when we go through it brings me so much comfort. It's also nice to have like-minded people to bounce ideas off of. Thanks so much for watching
I'd really appreciate your perspective on something, as a partner of someone with officially diagnosed OCPD. My roommate (who is getting a masters in counseling) thinks I show some of the signs of OCPD. Most of it fits except my perfectionism is much more directed inward than outward. I have really high standards for cleaning and beat myself up for not meeting them, but I always reassure other people that I don't mind their clutter. I tell other people that every kind of show is a little problematic and nobody should feel guilty for liking what they like, but I am hypercritical of what I watch, so my partner has a list of shows that he watches without me. When I was a kid I was more openly judgmental but I started working on it because I saw it was hurting people's feelings, and honestly my favorite people to spend time with were the ones who were the people who were the opposite of me. Since reading about OCPD I've recognized a lot of myself in it, but so many articles make it sound like everyone with OCPD is outwardly judgmental, controlling and overbearing... basically, does the fact that my perfectionism is internal mean that I'm misunderstanding the disorder, or do you think the articles are only representing one version?
@@LaneMaxfield Omg.. I literally can't believe what you just wrote, I'm in utter astonishment right now...
I'm just learning about OCPD today, but I found videos on MedCircle while trying to figure out why I couldn't put my finger on my roommate... and it drove me absolutely insane being faced with something I could not understand.
I'm certain that both me and my roommate have OCPD, but the opposite expression of it.
I am very orderly and am rigid with being in alignment with my morals and values. She is a hoarder, and does not show concern towards others in any way.
But yet, we managed to get along somehow. She would infuriate me, but I always hid that out of guilt and always stayed on good terms with her until the end.
This is so wild, I will never view myself the same way again.
@@LaneMaxfield You only have to meet 4 out of 8 defined symptoms for a diagnosis for it’s definitely possible. I’m not much forgiving if others too, but very hard on myself.
I love your sense of self acceptance, which ironically also has something to do with the problem of this disorder. I feel like so many people I know with OCPD are so desperate to be delivered from their suffering and will seem to compulsively do so many different things trying to decrease the suffering.
OMG Eden! You have just described me!!! During this lockdown during this pandemic in the UK I have become obsessed with YOU TUBE and thank GOD I stumbled upon this video of yours! This has just made me understand why my life is such a mess!
Thanks for this video, its the first I've seen from you. At the end you disclaimer yourself pretty heavily (only 40 subs at the time) but this is very honest and relatable content that isnt reliant on a massive following to relate. Thank you for being candid about the topic.
I had initially wrote out quite a long comment where I reflected on having watched this both before and after being diagnosed with OCPD, decided against positing it, but still want to leave a comment in support of your video, so here it is hahaha. Very interesting viewing this again with the power of hindsight.
I appreciate the content! Thank you for helping educate others about the disorder, and by extension helping people with the same behaviours understand where the roots of it may be located. At the very least they can relate to it and not feel alone.
Hi Eden and everybody else! I hope you are still here. I'm 62 and I think I found my way home with you. I have always had an idea that I'm "different" but I wasn't sure what it is. Thank you!
My husband was diagnosed a few years ago. My teenagers and I have taken so much understanding from your videos and you've helped us communicate with my husband and have peace in the household. We watch your videos and giggle about how accurate some of the specific behaviours are but the more we learn about it, the more we can work with him instead of falling back on the awful "why can't you just-" Anyway, thank you for your channel, you have no idea how much you've helped us.
OMG, did the part about not being able to answer a question precisely ever resonate with me. Almost every part of this video did; I'm so happy I found this.
Great video, I really enjoyed it, even took some notes.
Cruising through some of your older videos now.
Awesome to hear that you found the video useful! Thanks for watching 😁
Thank you so much for this video! I am ticking so many of those boxes. I will send that video to my wife who struggles with my symptoms.
Wow, so much of this resonated with me. Thank you for sharing.
Its good to know that others share the same symptoms. Thank you Eden :)
Nice descriptions. The crossover with disorders like these and learning disabilities is interesting. Cool music too!
Excellent video! Waiting for more
HELL YEAH, EDEN! Coming in strong with this vid ❤
It's a long-ass video, but it was well worth it!
Thanks Lady
This video was such good help in understanding why I got diagnosed with OCPD.
Was laughing and crying at the same time trough this video.
This is SO me, and it sums up all my struggles and quirks.
I'm really glad that this was a helpful video for you :) The group that helped me contribute to it (linked in the description) has been a fantastic resource for OCPD! Thanks for your comment and support, it means a lot to me!
Watching your video was the first time that I laughed in a long time. It was so good to hear someone who honestly get OCPD. You said so many things that are true to me. The part that made me giggle is being asked to stand in the square. Covid is awful, but some of the rules make my heart happy. ❤️
Not me trying to self diagnose either having OCD or OCPD... Well I felt definitely called out by your video!
I had to stop being vegetarian - I realised after many years that it aggravates my control monster - thinking that my way or eating is ideal, avoiding all meat and animal products obsessively, knowing every possible animal product that could be hiding in food - I had to be the PERFECT vegetarian. I went Anorexic with the stress of trying to fit into the IDEAL version of myself - the perfect clothes, the perfect figure, the perfect diet, even the perfect Anorexic. Work has always been an absolute nightmare for me. This need to be the best employee, working extra hours, taking on more tasks than anyone else, becoming resentful of others I see as inferior and lazy. And oh if someone tries to muscle in on one of my tasks that I’ve put my heart and soul into perfecting with spreadsheets and processes and minute examination! Such a horrible disorder.
I deeply feel your pain. Stay strong, may god set you free from suffering.
I have been struggling with these symptoms since I was about 11 years old and never understood what was wrong with me, every single thing you explained is exactly the same things I have been experiencing for the past 7 years, it’s caused so many issues in my life and I am so happy that Ive came one more step closer to fully understanding who I am and why I act the way I do , it is a relief but also makes me sad that there is a possibility that I will have these traits😢 forever
I am about 20 minutes into your video and am enjoying to know that I am not alone, but also know that OCPD has been a problem for relationships I have been in (but I do enjoy aspects of OCPD too).
One thing to note that has helped me SO MUCH is minimalism. I am very intentional with what I buy and keep which I know I become rigid with, but, it does help because I don’t spend so much time and energy having to organize many things (because I don’t have many things) and it is also better for the planet, etc…. lol I could go on.
Excellent real description and analysis of ocpd traits
Great video. I related to most, and was relieving to me to see their was a diagnosis for what ive acted like, gor as long as i can remember. Thank you for video.
I was diagnosed with this recently (ish-I was in denial and procrastinated researching it for awhile lol) and relate so so much to the self doubt and self gaslighting about actually being neurodivergent and feeling like you’re lying when you’re not
what a great video to find today. Diagnosed with ADHD less than a year ago, and added OCPD to my diagnosis today. Between these and ADHD symptoms, everything makes so much more sense. We'll see if it's more one disorder than the other, or if it's truly both as time goes on. Thanks for sharing!!
I was diagnosed with ADHD 6 months ago and recently found my “OCD” habits coming back which lead me to a term “Symmetry OCD” which then lead me to OPCD. And it just clicked. Everything just did. I’ll bring this up with my psychiatrist to see if I truly have OPCD.
So relatable!! Not diagnosed but I struggle with it.
I’ve been diagnosed with BPD but I feel so aligned with OCPD. Every single thing you mentioned I identify with!! I wish I could bring it up in therapy without the fear of them dismissing my opinion.
If they dismiss your opinion, ask them why they dismissed your opinion , as a therapist, they are suppose to explain why if you ask a knowledgeable question. Bpd is usually never alone. Most people have more than one mental disorder. Many people with bpd have add or ocd or bipolar , ptsd, etc etc etc. so don’t give up if you know something that needs to be discussed. All the help we receive from each other, our self and intuition is also a major part of all our unified aid to each other’s needs collectively.
Thank you for putting this together. I just learned about OCPD and feel like I have it (or had it) since so many of boxes tick for me. A few years ago, I did recognize some of the things on the list were holding me back in life, so I independently started working on things (not knowing about OCPD) and it's helped a lot. I still have lot of these traits, though, so I think will now obsessively go watch more videos on OCPD as one does.
It's not a thing you can get rid of
If your over researching, then…everyone says you can’t self diagnose. But if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, swims like a duck, then it’s probably a ?? I have all right traits, can’t say I have it but I can say I have the traits. I use to think I had a very nice skill set that was unique and allowed me to be so focused and dedicated to work. Now I can’t help but feel we are all walking disorders. Who makes a list of things to do, put something that had already been completed for the day so you can scratch if off the list?
@@msaijay1153 but there are ways to improve your reactions, and help those around you live more healthier happier lives.
Literally went into a spiral of watching videos about OCPD because all these symptoms seem to match how I function and I never felt so understood until I have watched these videos because they gave me an AHA moment!!! I am literally struggling in my second year of university because I can't submit assignments that I don't find "perfect" so I either never end up submitting them or I submit them super late and get a grade penalty. And then, I feel that I can't even ask for help because I feel that I deserve the grade penalties because I didn't do what I was supposed to do so I "should" be punished. Literally had this conversation with one of my professors and it took their intervention for me to start reaching out for help and hopefully, when I go for my diagnosis I get some answers on whether I have adhd/ocpd or a co-morbid of both....
I have ocpd! The conciseness has been an issue. Becoming a teacher helped me with this. And yes, I feel the need to clarify why 😂
Just watched this video today and I loved it. The way you speak, it’s so easy to follow along, very informative! I think I may have ocpd after realizing I have a lot of these traits. It started after the birth of my twins last year. Would you have any insight on the occurrence of ocpd or other disorders after childbirth?
Thanks for the video, keep them coming!
OMG this is mee, thank you so much
This helps me understand my mom. Thank you! I hate that most people put OCPD as such a negative disorder. There are aspects that are tough and just very frustrating for family member interaction.
My mom has to have so much order and need to “look good” on the outside to people or she literally falls apart, but she cannot help this. It’s to the point she is barely able to live with anyone for longer than a day or two at the most. She is also hyper focused on a certain thing and cannot rest until that’s done, which makes wedding planning so hard right now lol. She thinks anyone else’s house is gross and not clean enough a spends hours upon hours cleaning a week her home when no one comes over. It’s hard, but I have to try to understand.
I think some of that sounds like autism too.
@@desertboot9755 yeah I see the correlation of they can’t connect fully like other people do. But I think for OCPD they value things and external things like status rather than people just from my understanding.
@@sarah29880 i sadly can't see what reply you replied to (it's gone), but as someone with diagnosed, severe OCPD i fully disagree with your small comment:
i (can't speak about others) don't care about status whatsoever, to the point i used to get into fights with my grandfather who thought he's owed respect simply for being a doctor or being older.
The thing i have is that everything must be just and purely logical. I hate even the smallest degrees of injustice and imbalance. I hate that a lot of people don't think about the effects their behavior has on others down the line.
One example: a city-train wants to leave, full with 200+ people, but there's someone who's clearly too late (which is their own fault), but now someone inside the train thinks "i will do a good deed today and hold the door open for that person!". Good deed? The next train would have come in 5 minutes. Instead you now took 1-2 minutes each away from 200 people who actually were on time, and now might be late to something or miss the bus they have to get on after the train ride. With that" good deed" that person just wasted between 200 and upwards of 600 minutes collectively of the people on the train, just to save the one person 5 minutes, who was actually late and deserved missing the train.
Why is it that 200 people have to suffer for the pseudo-good-will of that idiot holding the door open.
sorry, i kind of got lost in something there, but yeah, i guess this comment easily also serves as a perfect display of what life with OCPD is like.
@@XpVersusVista oh so sorry didn’t mean to offend. Yeah it has to be hard to live with that kind of thing everyday, with the particular injustice because life isn’t fair or equal to say the least. I agree with the doctor thing as WAY too many doctors have ego that just because they got the education and a job it doesn’t make them better than anyone else.
My mom is different than you. She doesn’t care about anyone but herself. She recently bought a 600,000 dollar home and I am sitting here pregnant, unable to work, have to deal with severe chronic pain and fatigue daily due to neglect my whole life (trying to pick up the pieces) while she thinks she is better than everyone because she can “buy” nice fancy things. All she cares about are things not people. That’s her problem. She can’t form any relationship without extreme distance (her and my dad live separate)
This is nothing to be proud of. You are a total pain to others all your life, i dont find it amusing but rather sad
Thank you for your video, covering unique behaviors that a person with OCPD may display. A family member has been professionally diagnosed with OCPD. This video has helped me to be more understanding and compassionate with behaviors which I have found frustrating or hurtful. In addition, this video has helped me to not take her negative reactions and demands so personally. Similarly, I now better understand some of the bizarre behavior and anger displayed by a member of a 12 Step group when things aren't rigidly controlled during a meeting. Thanks again.
I'm really happy to hear that this was a useful video for you. Thank you so much for your support, I really appreciate it! :)
Really really great video. Informative and good production.
You have made my day!! Thank you :)
I’ve never felt something so relatable 😂 it’s like funny, not funny. Thank you so much for this ♥️
You are more than welcome, I'm very happy to hear you enjoyed the video :D Thank you for your support
OMG, i love your video. Like all the 17 things you pointed out are true to me. Like somehow I am doing it and notice that I am doing and experiencing all of it. I am still quite unsure if I have OCPD😭 I mean, I just notice my actions but I am not still diagnosed by it. Because I am still confuse about what extent that the 'perfectionsim', 'rigidity', 'order' and 'neatness' must need to be diagnosed. From what I have observed, I feel like I don't have OCPD because I feel like it's not 'too severe' to be called as OCPD because sometimes they don't happen all the time and that somehow, sometimes, I can control my thoughts and feelings. So I am finding answer the POINT that would assure me that I have OCPD.🥺 and I would like also to ask if 'being forgetful' because you tend to have focus so much on a certain thing can be a symptom or at least occurs to someone who has OCPD. Thank you so much.^^
Hi Eden!
I cannot give a bigger compliment to this video than saying that since watching literally 20 other OCPD videos from doctors, the points you’ve made are completely new and (unfortunately to me) much more relatable.
However!
I wonder how much of the points mentioned are due to ADHD/Autism, and I know you probably won’t reply to this comment on this 3 year old video, but I still wanted to ask. I read in your channel bio you also talk about ADHD and Autism but I was wondering if you possessed these disorders as well.
So much of what you talked about I attributed to ADHD, though I didn’t even know OCPD existed back then.
They made me do a bunch of tests for ADHD, and they diagnosed or at least suggested BPD/OCPD and no ADHD.
(Nevermind, whilst writing this long-ass comment, I got to 60% of the video where you mention you have ADHD too 😂)
This is me. Yes I also have the diagnosis, but omg how I feel seen. then university, work > several burnouts and then a full on breakdown. Now doing much better after years in therapy, but oh how much more it is than "just being perfectionist".)
We struggle but we are amazing. I can’t imagine being any other way. I’m so blessed to be in therapy to help manage my OCPD ways🙏🏽
This is the most relatable video ever!
I'm 18 minutes in and I had to stop because it's hitting home like "wow, wow, wow",and skyrocketing my anxiety! Lol, but I WILL finish it later. Insanely accurate, it's like you're I'm my head. NEVER had anyone understand this daily numerous problems before. I'm not alone! Thank you so much!!
Yes, definitely take a break!! It's a huge list filled with so many relatable points and it's overwhelming to take them all in at once. Thanks for your support and take as long as you need with researching this kind of topic. It's an emotional rabbit hole!
This was quite healing, thank you. Been on a research binge with Dr. Grande vids and figured out today after about 5 days of expertizing (hey, just invented a term for it, I think) that I'm definitely OCPD, but *relatively low on the neurotic scale. I can identify with 90+% of this, the rest I don't have so much due to frugality.
Thank you for this very informative video! 👏
#5 and #14 are items that plague me.
Omg. I identified with literally everything you said HAHA fuck ! ADHD as well. Please keep posting, it feels so good to know I’m not fuckin psychotic for this stuff! And even if I am. Idk.... I want to see your thoughts, progress, etc. because it’s destroying my relationship and it breaks my heart.
Wow- such an interesting video. I have just OCD, but i can really relate to the need to know and research anything. it’s not anxiety for me, i might just be way too curious for my own good. I ended up being a teacher because i do it so much. I think i’ve chalked it up to hyperfixation. brains are so cool
I’ve never been diagnosed with this, but i’ve hit the mark on all these behaviors but 2-3. Didn’t really realize all my weird behaviors could possibly mean something. Thanks for sharing!!
Excellent video. To do lists are, actually, very common symptoms
Anyone else also correlate with:
1) Compulsive shopping??
2) Obsession with honesty and truth??
3) Overly thoughtful and empathetic (quick to help others much more than the average person would be.)
4) Hyper-sexuality??
5) Also, any stimulants (Adderall, Coke, etc...) STRONGLY worsens obsessive, worrying, negative thoughts??
Oh my goodness, I can't stop laughing! You guys know me so much better than I appeared to know myself! Now it all makes perfect sense... the email procrastination, the oil sticker... Yeah, you guys literally name it all! Thanks for that video, an eye-opener, showing, I'm not the only one like that, lol. I like the funny way in which you preset it! God bless you all!
Awesome video💪💪💪💪💪
Your videos about ocpd are extremely helpful.
I really appreciate your comment, thank you so much for your support! :)
Researching the best quality product: 5hours..
Researching the cheapest products: 2 days...
Deciding which one has the best qualty/price ratio: 1 week.
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And quite often that leads me to such a bad exhaustion from analysis and information overload, that I buy on the spot whichever product I feel best about at the moment.
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Edited to add: I wrote this comment before I pressed play and heard that you bought the first ones off the list😂
Ohhhh I feel this! I spent a week agonising over the price of a camera on Amazon versus the quality, hours of my time looking for coupons for free shipping. Then when I realised that it was the only camera that came with 2 lenses I was all "OK, sold!" I feel like too much of my time is invested into finding coupons these days haha XD
Nice see you and your content😊
I have ADHD with OCPD too. *Along with some other stuff* my ADHD at times is at war with my OCPD 😂
SAme lmfao
Always. It's a crazy loop
@@ericad528 OCPD: (stares at a very crooked frame all of class but is to afraid to fix it because social anxiety.)
ADHD: (Goes to next class, wishes I could have fixed the frame n thinks bout jus that All day)
OCPD: (wants to do a project on my own because I prefer to do it my way n work horribly in groups)
ADHD: (but I actually need help)
@@ericad528 ADHD: (wants to go to friends party)
OCPD: (no you need to finish writing this book)
@@mylife-23 ocpd: wants to be organized all the time
ADHD : wants to but can't...
But the ocpd helps the adhd ... But the adhd does not help the ocpd
Some of them hit me hard, because I didn’t know they were common for the personality disorder. It helped me a lot
Thanks, this helps. I live with somebody who presents OCPD about some specific tasks or events like your #6 or procrastination, or sorting the wash, but works overtime to rationalize the behaviors when they are pointed out. It's not that I don't present, certainly for different tasks or events, but when somebody says that's what it is, I'm not going to deny it and will work to change if it impacts somebody else negatively. I do these things because I derive enough pleasure from them, myself and hope they don't rain on anyone else's parade. The #6 item is a killer, because it makes ill use of someone else's time. Staying busy is important to anyone who might experience existential dread; perfectionism, though, is an underachievement, ironically enough. It's the enemy of the good, because it blocks us from doing well or achieving quality.
Almost all is true about me. For example, I have 1 week left to make 2 articles, but my pupils asked me for a list of words, so I spend 2 days now making it, made 14 pages already, and it has to be perfect, so it has present and passive forms, prepositions that go with it, and transcription, and they are divided in topics (and I'm just wondering if they are divided correctly), and inside that, they are listed in alpabetical order. I was still making that list while listening to you. And when I make a lesson, I think I have an obligation to explain every tiny detain, otherwise a rule I present won't be true. And if I make a mistake, it's a tragedy, so I keep checking everything, lest I do. Etc. I could simply send them a list from a book, but it's not in a form I think would be best for it. So instead of wasting 10 minutes for it, I'm wasting 14th hour or so.
I’m 40 just learned about ocpd and my life makes so much sense now
I know more than most people on many topics, but can't articulate what I know. So much info is crammed in my brain that it expresses more as a familiar feeling to me, or a scene in my mind ,..that would take too long for me to organize into understandable responses in conversations.
Oh I feel this! Nothing like botching the opportunity to showcase the amount of knowledge we have in a particular topic because we're too busy trying to organise it all before presentation. I can't fetch information on command with my brain, unfortunately :(
I just got diagnosed with OCPD a month ago and it explains a lot
My idea of a perfect world is that we should strive for complete self-dependence and only ask for help if there's something we absolutely can not do. In my mind, we should do that because if someone leaves, then we'll be okay. If we don't do that, then we'll be left helpless when they go. It's been my point of focus for the last three years.
Anyone who had problems in composition lessons at school? I mean, the teacher comes in and says "Today we'll write a composition on the topic , and you are expected to turn your composition in till the end of the class. What about turning in papers?
It's great to actually see the perspective of someone who has OCPD, a lot of the resources out there are derived from third-person accounts.
I highly suspect that my ex-girlfriend has OCPD, but I only found out about this long after the breakup. She was incredibly productive, but also extremely rigid, stressed and worried.
I can name almost any instance where she showed one of the traits mentioned above. I don't want to get into details here though. The thing was that I have an anxiety disorder and that was kind of "similar", but also very different, so we were good for each other and also very bad.
In the beginning she was almost a perfect girlfriend, just as she wanted me to believe of her. She was attractive, driven, nice, intelligent, everything, and she had chosen me. It was perfect in my view and I didn't deserve her. She put so much pressure on herself to be the best version of herself, and I tried to alleviate that pressure by telling her how good she does and that she doesn't need to do this, but it didn't really help. She was so concerned about how good she could perform that she could only accept spending time with me every few weeks and only for very little time. I accepted that for a long time, but it also felt limiting and it led to an erosion of trust and happiness over time. It could also feel like a slight, like she didn't like me, as I didn't really understand OCPD and how to behave, even though I think I understood where she was coming from in some way.
I put pressure on myself as well, but I couldn't perform nearly as well as she did, as I am piss-poor and socially anxious and very dependent on others, different to her. I tried to compensate all of that by helping her at her work and at her home, by listening to her work-related frustrations, by being supportive, but over time that wasn't enough.
She got more distant each month, she stopped kissing me, didn't tell me she loved me anymore, then she didn't want to have sex anymore, but didn't explain it at all. During that time she had an extreme amount of work-related stress, got sick and then stopped talking to me because she felt so weak about it. I tried to help her, but I just couldn't really do so, as our communication got less and less. I felt like she was slipping away from me. And in that particular moment, when I felt like our relationship was at a dead-end and that it was about to die, she told me that she wanted to move in with me, even though it was the wrongest time and place to do so and just showed how much she overburdened herself. I wasn't against that idea, but the timing was awful and our relationship felt so brittle and overburdened that it scared me. I had felt so guilty about burdening her with my presence and my little interests that it got worse and worse. I needed to talk about soooo many things that I had pushed away until she would feel better, so these things weren't resolved, but I was also too worried that I would hit her with conflict during such a challenging time for her, so things built up and they exploded into the fore later. I had bottled up so many issues that were wrong with the relationship, the guilt, her lack of compromise, her anger issues, some weird things that had just never been properly explained or discussed. And when she was so mired in her work-related troubles (and they were HUGE), my anxieties rose, as our relationship went so badly and made me feel bad and unhappy too.
And when she took me to a place where she had wanted us to move in together and we had a small conflict later, I had a panic attack and had to leave the room and go for a walk.
It wasn't that she had behaved so badly. It was just a result of the extreme lack of proper communication that was going on and my own issues of feeling backed into a corner and having to ignore my own issues to not burden her, which just triggers panic attacks in me. I also have fears of intimacy and commitment, especially if I feel weak, isolated and dependent.
It was a point of no return. Our relationship was killed that day and a few more months later, after which her work-related troubles and her health problems had been reduced, but our communication problems and my anxiety levels were still bad, she broke up with me, citing things that we never really properly discussed.
I blame myself for not having discussed those issues, I blame myself for having been too anxious to have this conflict and to say what I wanted. I blame her and her OCPD for increasing my anxiety levels needlessly and for not allowing us time and energy to talk things out properly. But who knows, maybe if I had been more direct, she might have felt criticized and attacked and her OCPD could have gotten worse... I don't know. I only know that it's a huge problem if you fail to set boundaries and try to be nice too much to not trigger her own insecurities, because I think she loved me specifically because I did everything I could to prevent any inconvenience or psychological trigger for her, setting her needs above my own (even if she probably did the same in some way). In the end, it was kind of a weird, problematic mix.
I still think that she could be an awesome person, but both our psychological issues killed this relationship. Communication is key and if I had known about OCPD back then and behaved a bit differently, I might have been able to save our relationship, who knows.
I regret how all this went, but the harsh judgmental way she treated me after the breakup also forced me to realize that it ended up being a very unhealthy relationship where I'm not sure if I could have sustained it for long even before that, as I had amassed major anxiety problems and other things like that during the last stages of the relationship.
In the end I learned a lot about the importance of communication and I only erased her number from my phone a few days ago, after I had already accepted 6 months ago that she would never take me back.
Still all of this is a lesson to be learned for the future, regardless of OCPD.
Thanks for reading this, dear reader.
So I accidentally came across a video yesterday that spoke about OCD and OCPD and I had never heard of OCPD before that video.. as I watched I began to cry as I realized that my whole view on my life/self was basically a lie... watching this video made me realize something else.. I'm not alone in this. And people out there know what I go through. I have every single problem that was stated in this video except for number 14. I love buying things secondhand because it is a cheaper, more frugal way of doing things.. although, as you said, I do NOT like getting electronics secondhand and will avoid it if I have the money to get it new instead. I don't know if the fairness bit is an uncommon trait or not, but I definitely felt that one and the need to clarify things. People get so frustrated when I'm talking to them.. telling me they already understand what I'm saying but I tell them NO you DON'T. You couldn't possibly because I haven't explained it properly yet. I died laughing about the researching thing.. it just took me 12 days to order my daughter a doll. 🤣 and the skin picking. Oh my. I wish I could just stop that. Everything else was spot on as well. I'm glad people can relate!
Eeeee this is amazing… I got diagnosed with general and social anxiety 5 years ago but I was never happy with the diagnoses cuz there were so many things that didn’t fit and then I got a new psychologist last month and they mentioned ocpd which I was so hesitant to accept because I’m not an obviously ‘controlling’ person and that’s what everything said the disorder was but then I watched this and I’m like “omg I relate to so many of these” !
Really glad you liked the video! It's very interesting to hear about your experience with being diagnosed conditions that you felt didn't quite fit with your personality. I can relate to this a lot, too! In my experience with OCPD, control and perfectionism are at the core of OCPD, but they can be expressed in many different ways. The more we learn, the more we grow. I hope that I was able to help you learn something new about OCPD :)
When depression hits it's beyond painful..my poor son is tortured..😢
When I was diagnosed with OCPD and started to research I found a lot of people with ocpd suffered from skin picking and it makes me feel so understood because I have picked my entire life and have tried so hard to stop but I can’t!
Oh my Lord, this is me. I have no doubt now. I saw a therapist for a while, and she mentioned OCPD when we talked. I looked up symptoms, and was like "Yeah, maybe." and forgot about it. Fast forward a year, and I'm wondering what the hell is wrong with me. I see my coworkers doing things, and I'm thinking "That's not the right way." If I can, I do these things myself. Everything you're talking about is everything I'm dealing with. Being a father, I need to get this stuff under control before my daughters become damaged and grow up hating me.
"Its very easy to prioritize youtube or Facebook over an assignment" me watching this at my desk at home instead of actually doing the work I'm getting paid to do x)
Haha, yep! I feel this. I should be editing a video to upload to UA-cam as we speak, but here I am, watching videos that others have uploaded instead. 😅
You are amazing . I learned alot of things through ur videos and i think it will be an edge if u uae more calm music in the background
Thanks for posting. I usually regard Perfectionism as my Super Power. Until my diagnosis and realized how annoying my behavior can be. Left of Center !
This sounds me without the scheduling and the organization but everything else is just a bout spot on
I always have to plug my phone in around 85-83 % n won't sleep or unplug it unless it's 100-97% .
I research prices for everything, including food!! I have a list of food prices on my phone so I know which shop to buy or not buy from!!