Foster Care Update: Understanding the court system. PATH CLASS 1
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2019
- We're back with another foster care update and today we're taking you through the first PATH class and giving you insight into what we may be going through in the upcoming months. Give this video a thumbs up if you like it and check out my adoption/foster care playlist below if you want to see our entire journey over the last year! (PS: We will be back this week with the 2nd PATH class video)
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Best of luck with the process.
I am here for all of these videos. It is so interesting to learn about, and also seems very inspirational for pretty much everyone, not even just people interested in foster care- parents, or soon to be parents can take from these videos- even if you don't have children. It's awesome that you guys are still so serious about this opportunity, and none of these classes have scared you off! God is doing a great work through both of you!
I love children but do not want any of my own. All my life people question my decision and tell me how I'm wrong and I will be missing out. I find it so interesting to watch the other side of the journey, and how so many people have questioned what is right for you. I love how open and honest you both are about your journey.
I just adore you guys! I did want to make one note tho- I’m a foster parent and I’m so excited you guys are about to join the journey. Yes you are there to love the kiddos but so many times, their “issues” fall through the cracks and so we are also there to be their advocate. So we don’t do it in front of the kid, but we do try to make notes of certain behaviors that could attribute to underlying issues that we are seeing. For example if a kid is bipolar, so many times it will be undiagnosed because the kid isn’t paid attention to with bio family, and the caseworker has so much on her plate, so I believe it is our job as foster parents to fight for these kids and get them well, physically emotionally and spiritually :) I am so excited for you guys and this incredible journey!
Now that you have been in Nashville for a while, can you do an updated video of what you miss most and least from living in California? What were the biggest changes that you and Dan faced. I am packing up my life and moving to Texas in 6 weeks so I would love to hear more about your experience.
What I want you to know is that we adopted (fostering to adopt) 3 kids thru the counties that we lived in. We got a newborn and later, sibs that were older than the fist child we adopted. 20+ years later, we are still so happy with our decision - and you will be too! We all have some sort of trauma - love, guidance, and support are what we al (as humans)l need. Enjoy the road as the kids will be here before you know it!!!
I'm a social worker in the uk and it's so interesting to see the process in America. Its really different! Wishing you lots of luck x
love that you are taking charge of the environment on your channel. thank you for sharing your journey. i check in with you guys periodically.. but now i am gonna subscribe! happy easter!
Haha I love that you blocked those people! Life is too short, why tolerate it?
I feel like you and Dan seemed a lot closer and more affectionate than usually with his hand on your leg and you guys holding hands a couple of times. It was really cute
Okay so I’m gonna tell on myself and say that I’m only half way through the video when commenting but I just had to say this....
YOU GUYS MELT MY HEART!!!! And no I’m not saying that to be as one might say “a kiss up” but I truly just love the way you north interact with each other and the way you’ll both just be casually holding hands. From one married Christian woman to another, this truly just makes me so happy to see!
Okay lol now I’m gonna finish watching cause I just love your videos!
Also I LOVE that you described Dan flipping through a binder as "scrolling through". I sometimes will say I need to "google" something when I don't intend to actually google it.. I just need to look it up somewhere or ask someone. Tis the age we live in!
Hello I’m a child welfare social worker. I admire and appreciate that both of you are going through the process of adopting a child and wanting to make a difference in their lives. It takes strength and commitment from a human. Yes these classes are necessary but not until you have that child with you will you know what it truly takes...So please be ready for everything that comes with adopting a child. Many of these children have been through hardships and will need so much support. Of course every case is different. Every department will provide additional support. So all I ask for you to have the knowledge and patience. I wish both of you the best and looking forward to seeing you make a difference in a child’s life.
OMG! your gonna love it. I was a foster parent for a baby girl when I was only 26 years old. It was for a friend and it was the best experience ever! I wish you all the best of luck! the many highs do outweigh the lows. #sendingpositivevibes 🙏🏽🙏🏽
We are in CA going through the process for adoption as well. We've been approved and now are just waiting for some kiddos.
You two will make a child very blessed and happy you are such great people for doing this and i love watching these videos and all your videos
Love to be part of a positive community on this channel 😁 thank you Nikki 💕 and congratulations on taking your classes!
I've always wanted to adopt and being able to watch so many UA-cam families go through the process is awesome! Thank you for sharing your journey and keep staying positive! ❤️
I havent watched all your adoption and foster related videos but i love that you are taking us through the process. People are always quick to yell "just adopt!" when some doesn't want a baby or has fertility issues. Lots of people dont know how much work it is
i’m young and i’ve never looked up to a youtuber like i look up to you ❤️ i love that you express your religion without shame. i wish more people would do that. love y’all
I love that you are blocking all those negative Nancy’s. They simply don’t have to give their negative comments, and if they don’t like how you do things they don’t have to watch! I’m excited that you have uploaded another foster care video! ❤️❤️❤️
Yes I’m so happy you’re blocking the negative energy peeps ! Yay ! They don’t belong here. Love you Nikki ! 😚
Hello there! I just found this channel. Im about to adopt a child in 2 to 3 months hppefully. We live in NY. Im also sharing about our experience but we are workimg with an agency specifically for adopting and not fostering. But there was a time we were considerimg fostering. The agency we were going to foster was going to take a short cut. Where we had to come to 6-8 weeks for only 2 hr class. They also judged us on our age. Also when you foster it can be hard for some people who may not have the emotional strength to go through the possiblity of losing the child they care for when reunifying. But thank gou for sharing and i hope the best for your journey. Also in NY there are more chances for the parents to get reunified with their child. Im happy we can learn from each other from different states and experiences.
I'm so excited for your journey my husband and I are in class 9 of 10 in New York our classes are called MAPPS. I'm excited to have someone to walk the process with! We are nervous and excited to get some kiddos in our home. Definitely a decision we felt lead to by God.
Keep em coming, I'm so fascinated by this subject!!
I was adopted when I was a baby. I know you both will be great parents. :)
Yay for positivity comments and community 🙌🏼❤️🥰 I love how you had Dan read aloud path together! So cute! 😂😍👏🏻
I never miss an episode of this series!
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Love your positivity 💗
Me too!
Shannon Estelle 💖💖
Shannon Estelle Ikr! More people should b like nikki
I love her positivity to so much
I have been blocking people since I started my channel. Thanks for sharing your knowledge on foster care. My husband and I want to do this in the future. We already have 2 biological kids and we re looking to expand our family through this path. Love from my mommy channel 💕
I'm new to your channel and I love how happy your channel is, so happy I found you!!
I know this wasn't the path (no pun intended) that you planned for from the start, but knowing that there are foster kids out there that are going to get the two of you as parents brings me enormous joy. Their lives have been hard, they deserve this. Thank you.
Good for y’all for deleting and blocking the haters ❤️ I never noticed them but I usually don’t scroll because I’m here to tell y’all how much I appreciate y’all and how much I enjoy your vibe - and to give plant tips because I’m a fellow plant lady as well 🌿 who has time for anything other than positive stuff?
Thank you both for taking the time to share this journey with all of us. Foster care seems to be something most people know very little about. We appreciate your time and effort to share this process with us!
I love that you're kicking negative energy out of your life. Nikki...that's that mother lion protective instinct kicking in! Heck yes girl. You do you. Wish more you tubers would embrace this.
Hi nikki💜 love you so so much! I love how positive you are, I love that you keep us updated on this journey, and I know that you and dan will be amazing parents!! I hope you are having a great weekend!!❤❤💕❤💕💕
You two are lovely!!!! Plain and simple. Two wonderful human people of God.
I remember going through these classes and the endless amount of paper work wondering if any of these preparations would apply to our placement situation. When we got the call for our first placement the plan was developed very quickly. The main goal for our situation was reunification but that changed and TPR became a goal maybe six months after placement. Our son was officially adopted on December 10, 2017 two days after the birth of our rainbow baby boy. We experienced so many emotions and unknowns during our placement time but are eternally greatfull for the experience and journey.
Love it! Keep it up, guys. It can be so hard, but so worth it! Excited for you!
You will learn so much as you go throughout the process. So true about the potential of trauma and further negatively impacting the child. There are so many professionals and agencies who are meant to support you in the system. Best of luck to you 👍🏻😊
I think it's amazing that you are doing this! 🥰 We fostered for 7 years and ended up adopting 3 to add to our 3 bios. I wish that we could do it again, but we are capped at 6 here in Texas.
This is so so valuable! Thank you!
I’m soooo glad!!!
I love that you post about your journey. I’m planning on adopting so it’s great information!
I love how honest you both are about this process. My in laws went with foster most likely to be able to adopt. The kids had to see the parent before they could officially adopt the kids. Please know that sometimes the kid might have setbacks after seeing the bioligical parent.
Love you guys, keep up the positive atmosphere!
Wow you guys are awesome! This is such a selfless decision. Praying that God blesses you like crazy through this process!!
I love your passion for adoption and fostering💕 you and dan are going to make great parents
I have a special needs kiddo and there are so many flipping acronyms it’s practically it’s own language. It’s nice that they gave you a class to teach you the lingo of this world. You got this.
Also love these updates!!! I'm adopted and so it's always fun to see people's journey through an awesome/complicated process!!!
Seriously I just adore you guys!!! So amazing and you are so inspiring 💛
Hi-I’m back haha 😂 We do use so many acronyms haha but you’ll actually catch on faster than you think and will use them, too! They might do things different in TN, but usually the court orders a plan within three to four days of the kid being placed. For example, the amount of visits are decided by the court and then Dcfs, the parent, and you have to figure out what that’s will look like. If the parent wants all their visits then you have to comply-if you can’t accommodate-they will have to replace the child into another home. Visits are super super important. Also, with adoption/reunification after 15 months or so is very few and far between, at least in LA county. Ive had kids in homes for 3 years or more-literally placed as babies-with no visits from birth family and still hadn’t been placed in an adoption track. It’s really sad and not healthy for anyone involved but it happens more often than not. Usually this comes down to the county worker you have, judge, or lawyers because they are the ones making all the decisions. I actually still talk to a family that I used to work with who want to adopt and the kid that I placed three years ago is still in their home as a foster case. So just be prepared for cases to drag on even when they shouldn’t! 😩
You guys are going to make such great parents! So excited for this new journey in your lives! :)
One day my husband and I will become foster parents. I am loving these videos
You guys are the sweetest, most positive people I’ve ever come across on UA-cam!!! I’m so happy you’ve decided to foster, I work in a therapeutic foster care program in Connecticut and the system definitely needs more families like you! If you haven’t yet, I recommend watching “Instant Family” with Mark Wahlberg. It’s an amazing movie and honestly shows the fostering to adopt process well. I can’t wait to watch the rest of your journey!
Thank you!!! And yes that movie was 😭🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
I think it is so amazing you are choosing to foster first! I am a CPS case worker and you are going to go through so many emotional up and downs but we appreciate you!
Thank you😘😘😘
I love this video it’s very informative
*Love your heart for adoption & you two will be such wonderful parents! Praying for you on this journey! 💛*
thank you for letting us get more insight into adoption. I think it's wonderful that you are going down this path. May God bless you with children who need loving parents- that you can and will be.
I enjoyed watching the PATH class video! Please do more! Good luck on your classes, Nikki and Dan! :)
Love your vlogs❤️
Block the haters! Don’t need em, not now not ever.
What an amazing journey!
this is so interesting! I wonder how much the system differs here in New Zealand. I would love to follow in your footsteps one day.
I think Wayne Dyer was a foster child. You know parents are the entire world to a young child. Having an open heart and being kind to these children and letting them know they are safe is exactly what they need. Good for you guys going this direction. You said you want to adopt out of the foster system, and I take that to mean “from within “ , right? ❤️
Sometimes I just play your video to hear your voice.... you are amazing and I love ya!!
I fostered and then adopted here in Oklahoma. Now I have the greatest daughter in the world.
So cute god bless y’all 💓
I have been trying to incorporate more PEACE in my life. Last night, took a bath, candle lit, bath salts, face mask, and the change I made was adding CALMING MUSIC... it really made the difference helping to drown out all the background noise and distractions. I am looking into starting diffusers to help calm my kids down and keep my anxiety under control. Thank you for your videos. I love seeing how you combat your depression and anxiety. Side note- I currently live in MN and my seasonal depression is at its worst this year. I am looking to move and Williamson Cty, TN caught my eye due to the amazing school system. Can you do a video of what it's like living in TN?
New subscriber but already love u guys
Lol. The ending made me laugh because throughout this video I was thinking that you guys kind of remind me of the Ingalls because they were foster parents as well. Fun fact, I have Little House on right now. Love that show!
Omg I didn’t know they go on to be foster parents! I just started season 2!😊
NikkiPhillippi Ahhhh gotcha. Well, then I won’t say anymore. Don’t want to spoil to much. Lol.
You guys are so inspirational! Thank you for sharing your journey. ❤️
Love u nikki from GCC countrys ♥️
Hey Nikki! Is there a link to where we can download and print the contents of the binder? I’d just like to learn a bit more! Even though I’m a case worker, I don’t work on the foster side, but I’m so interested in learning more!
I was adopted in the early 90’s, I wish they had the same rules, my adoptive parents were abusive to no end. My adoptive father forced me to tell me social worker I wanted to stay or else he would beat me. I wish they had the same rules back then as they do now, you’re going to be great parents. As an adoptee, please be patient and understanding towards the child. I went through my biological mother trying to kill me before I was adopted and till this day I suffer from depression and acceptance. ❤️ much love!
Steph Rz I’m so sorry that happened to you that is just horrible.
Sorry Steph friend. Sending you a hug!! Let’s be friends
This should never happen and I’m so sorry it did! Said a prayer for healing! *hugs*
I‘m so sorry this happened to you. These people never deserved you in the first place not your biological mom nor your adopted parents! Sending you big hugs from Germany!!!
And I was here wondering why the process was such a hassle. I get it now
Clicked so dang fast!!!🙏🏻don't block me..you guys are awesome 💝
As someone that has a lot of friends who are in the military and friends who work in government contracts, anything that has to do with the government has a lot of acronyms and it gets very confusing! Lol
*scrolls through a binder of actual physical paper*
*screenshots an actual physical piece of paper*
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I'm laughing so hard but also I love you guys so much and these are my favorite videos to watch right now 💛💛💛
Omg I totally forgot to add the screen shot!🤦🏻♀️ I feel so dumb! Hahaa
Also thanks dude 😘
My mother didn't have to know all that when she fostered kids here in cali 20 years ago lol. Good luck, maybe make flash cards 🤷♀️
Yes! Block out any negativity! You and Dan do not need that and neither does poor little Zoe. She’s so precious and deserves to go where ever she wants! ❤️ (I have a little yorkie too)
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Hey, thanks for sharing this info! Have your classes covered sharing your religious beliefs with a foster child? This may not matter for a baby or very young child, but even toddlers might have the opportunity to attend Sunday school while living with you. Do the birth parents express a preference? What if their religion differs from yours? Do you have to refrain from exposing the child to your beliefs?
We won’t be dealing with that most likely because they will be a baby... but i don’t remember the policy..? I think they just come to church with us, but they can choose after a certain age not to...& obviously we will not be forcing our views on any child in our home. I’ll clarify and give more details in the future:)
Hi! I’m a foster parent. In my state, church/faith is seen as a really positive influence in the family’s life for the most part. Many kids who have been through trauma thrive on routine, which may include weekly church, daily family readings, and things like that. Absolutely no baptisms or confirmations or anything while in foster care, of course! And in the situation where a child may come from a strong faith background of their own, foster parents are expected to help maintain those traditions as much as possible. 😘
@@emilynicoletti4930 this is how it is in my state, too. It was actually really tough for me to find an agency that wasn't faith-based. I'm a neopagan and I list myself as non-religious to avoid the backlash, even within a secular agency. My practice is personal; I don't include my son in my prayer or rituals.
I swear I don't want to come off sassy with a capital S... but how do you keep your counters clean with zoey always going up there? I've been trying to train my cat to not jump up but she won't listen so if you have any tips it would be much appreciated haha 😭
Haha I guess I’m not thattt concerned! I wipe my counters down and I also use cutting boards when I cook🤷🏻♀️😊
Also lol at the first line of your comment;)
I have cats too, they rarely go on the counters anymore because I used to mist them with water in a spray bottle. Yes cat paws and dog paws can be covered in harmful bacteria but the way I see it so can raw meat. Whatever gets contaminated with animal paws just treat it like you would a surface that had meat on it. So basically clean the area before putting your food directly on it. lol
Plus, Zoey is a non-shedding breed. 🐶
I have one cat that refuses to stay off the counter, too. I just wipe my counters down daily and use a cutting board whenever I prepare food.
Not that it’s important but I found it interesting that they gave you the acronym for the GAF. The DSM-5 (I know we love our acronyms) came out a few years ago and we no longer utilize a GAF score when diagnosing. Also, a person has to be able to interpret the score to know what that means for the individual’s functioning. I went to grad school for this stuff and it’s very subjective material. Like I said, not really relevant just found it interesting. Best of luck!
I'm here to Love you which means Flourish the Soul then we Ascend Together. 😘🤗
Curious to know if they talked about what to do if a child discloses abuse by the parent?
They did talk about that... we will cover it in the next video probably
Do you have to retake the PATH classes after a certain amount of time? Or once you take it once you are good to go? Sorry if you mentioned this before!
Yes if you’re not certified anymore.... but no if you stay active. That being said, we will have to take a certain amount of hours each year (I can’t remember how many..?) to continue our education in child welfare/trauma...
@@NikkiPhillippi that makes sense! Im excited for you two. I think you will be great foster parents. Im learning so much through your videos.
How does it work when you have a foster child and you and Dan want a date night or something like that that you'll need a babysitter? Does that person have to be approved or how do you go about that?
It works differently in each county/state.... but here, Anyone that’s a friend of ours they trust for I believe 48 hours... but any longer than that they have to be background checked :)
Ok. That makes sense! I was really wondering how that worked! Love your videos! You have a very relaxing voice! Especially watching your cleaning or cooking ones. My brain tells me I should be doing the same but watching you do it is much more fun! Lol
So if you guys want to adopt does that mean the agency will intentionally pair you with kids who have repeatedly been through the system and are less likely to go back home? Or is it the luck of the draw whether you get a kid that is more likely to be able to go back home?
Not sure.. my assumption is that they will intentionally pair us with kids who seem like their bio parents won’t be able to bring them home... some people in the system have no desire to adopt and we’ve made it clear that we want to... soooo ya
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Your dogs feet are so cute and floppy
I agree with blocking the Debby Downers.If one has nothing nice to say then don't say it.
Me and my fiancé always talk about wanting to adopt teenagers! We know it will be tough but we feel we would be able to make such a difference in their lives!
Jordyn Rae you should definitely do it if you feel it is right for you! You’d be making such a huge impact in someone’s life!!
I wish I could do that, too! We are sticking with birth order and my son is 3. I'm hoping to adopt a child that is 1-3 years old, then maybe when the other kids are older we could adopt a waiting child.
Hey just wondering if you're still doing tea talks and your podcast. I really loved those videos and found them super inspiring!!
Also really love that you're sharing your process and helping other prospective parents!!
Yes I will! I just haven’t gotten to it in a while! Thank you for that 😊😘
Where is your shirt from?
The more people you block the more tailored you make this community. You are really filtering out all of that hateful people and making this community more peaceful and making this community full of people who really want to be here. Instead of people who are just here to cause problems💕
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i love these videos they are so interesting! have you had a chance to check out crazy middles on youtube ?? their life is crazy so many kids but they adopted so many from foster care
Lol! I love that you are blocking the sassy cranks! I don't let my little Havanese on the counter because there is not enough Stress Away I'm the world to calm my fear of her falling :)
PS where did you get that couch? It looks so comfortable!
I believe she said they have the cloud sofa from restoration hardware :)
Yes it is from restoration hardware!:)
Kaitlyn Kirker I have a havanese mix! It’s so rare that people mention them!
@@animallover5626 , I love meeting people who actually know the breed. They are the best dogs ever! (fact of life no debate needed) Sending you and your pup love and best wishes!
Ashley Terrano Yes they are! And thank you! Right back at you! 💕
When you had zoe on the counter in your last video I instantly thought I bet someone comments on her being on the counter 😂 some people I guess feel better to say things that are not a big deal. Cleaning spray exist for a reason, and zoe is prob cleaner than the person commenting ☺😆 Congrats to u and Dan on your committment to helping kids in need ❤
I work for CPS- please let me know if you have questions!!! 💕💕