Nikki and Dan, regardless of how hard this process is (i can only imagine...) just know that you have inspired me, as well as, I’m sure, countless others, to consider adoption as an option! I am only 20 years old and have begun reading and researching this stuff already! I volunteered as a preschool teacher this past year surrounded by foster children- and words can not explain how passionate I have become about both domestic and international adoption. Thank you FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART- for prioritizing adoption in your life, regardless of the struggles it may bring, and sharing your story with the world!! I’ve been watching you since your first video and I can not emphasize enough that you guys are going to be amazing parents! I love you BOTH from the bottom of my heart, and your soon to be child is going to be so happy to be a part of your adorable family ! This topic is SO IMPORTANT and I applaud you for making it such a focus on your channel.
i just have to say, hearing Nikki say how she was raised with a "coach" and "safety in many advisors" is SO AWESOME. imagine if all kids were raised that way, having someone to open to and help them and it would feel so natural, talking about your issues is soo important.
I'm from South Korea so I know that people can be super strict (or judgy) about mental issues and drugs.. regardless of the reasons :( I hope you guys are accepted!!!!!!!!!
Your hubby is so precious and so understanding! He loves you so very much and it’s awesome to watch! I pray that you guys can find a sweet baby to adopt, because the two of you would be wonderful parents!
Best of luck on your continued journey! This has been so interesting. I have to say, everything you were saying about chronic pain(while there are varying differences) was so true. As a healthcare worker in the US that see’s this we need better therapies. Such as counseling, pain management and a loss of stigma to such diagnoses. I commend you for taking care of “you” the best way “you” see fit. It’s very individual. Thanks for sharing your journey.❤️
Gods timing is perfect, everything you're going through right now is just going to make you stronger and better prepared for when your wonderful child is with you. You guys are such wonderful people and deserve to have a happy family. Praying for the best
Im so touched about how Dan supports you. ❤️ its beautiful! You go guys! Some stuff are worth to wait. Both will be amazing parents. We all will be praying for you guys 🙌🏻
I love what Dan said about how mental health can be affected when you’re in chronic pain. I have severe Crohn’s disease and I’ve always had depression and anxiety related to my pain and the hardships that come with that, especially when you’re young! I relate to you so much girl! Thank you for sharing so much of your life
You two will be wonderful parents and the right country and child is out there waiting for you. God will show you that in time. Remember when one door closes, it's one step closer to the right child for you. Wishing you two only the best through this process. Lots of love❤
Ironically, even without any diagnosed mental illnesses, I feel like being in therapy regularly could only make someone a better parent. Having a third party trained professional to process things with, even if it's just "normal" stress from your home life, is SO helpful and so healthy.
Good luck with all of your adoption journey! Me and all 4 of my siblings are adopted and my family is currently fostering a 1 year old! Praying for y’all to have a smooth process❤️
I love watching these consistent videos, I was adopted from South Korea in 1998. And it is a true fact but it’s definitely a doable situation. My adoptive mom has severe anxiety and depression and adopted 3 children from South Korea. I hope that everything works out for the best and they find it in their hearts. ❤️
From another adoptive mama, I promise all the hurdles you have to jump through now will be SO WORTH IT once you have your little one in your arms. Praying for you guys ❤️
Nikki please consider the Philippines. Being half filipino I know how loving, grateful and intelligent filipino children are! Plus singing is a big part of the culture in the Philippines so that is a potential bonding activity for your child and yourself!
Thank you for the update! It’s crazy how different our cultures can be, but God knows them all and He’s leading you down this path. Praying for you guys!!! 💕💙
Good luck I know God is watching over you both. Children so worth it though. My oldest will be off to college in less than two months and it seems as if she was just an infant yesterday. Enjoy the process!
I’ve always known adoption was an insane process, but it is really amazing how you’re taking us on your journey. One of my favorite sayings is “Until God opens the next door, praise Him in the hallway.” His timing is perfect, and you guys have a child out there. I’m praying and rooting for you guys! ❤️❤️❤️
I met this young woman once who went to do mission work in East Timor when she was 21. She saw 2 orphans and decided then and there to adopt both of them. She wasn't able to bring them both home at the same time, so she brought one and waited 3-4 years and then went back for the other girl. Her parents later adopted 4 kids. Hang in there, it'll happen.
So proud of both of your strength and patience in this journey! You are going to be such amazing parents, and the timing is going to bring you the child who is meant to become a part of your beautiful family. My family waited for years to adopt my younger sister from China, and it was the greatest journey. She fits perfectly with us and we know she was meant to be with us from the start. Your little one will be brought to you in time, and you are going to be blessing them with so much love and wisdom. This journey is going to be so worth it. Sending love and strength your way! ❤️
I am sorry to hear this. As Korean, yes in here soooooo many people know that they have some mental problems but they don’t see doctor or counsellor because it usually makes them to not able to get a job. Even a light depression would be the same. So, some people see their doctor without medical insurance eventhough they actually have it not to make a record. And pay much more money to take pills. And as you say, meeting a counsellor isn’t all about mental problems.. but Korean society think that is something to hide. So sad :(
I can’t imagine what a whirlwind of emotions that had to have been for you guys. It’s just so crazy to me how different countries have such drastically different viewpoints on caring for mental health. I will be praying immensely for you guys next week during your final home study and the appointment with Korea. Everything happens for a reason and all within God’s timing! Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us! I love you guys! 💕
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I can’t imagine how hard this journey must be but I’m sure that God has a clear future made for you and your growing family❤️ Will continue to pray for you guys!
Valerie Guerrero I have bipolar disorder and I’m on medication, getting good sleep and taking cafe of myself. I’m extremely stable because I am diagnosed and medicated. I’m also struggling to get and stay pregnant. Does that mean I can’t have children if I can’t carry a baby? Ya know?
I am so excited for your adoption and thankful you are sharing your journey. There is a saying “ To us Waiting is Wasting, but to God, Waiting is Working.” I really believe gods hand is in your journey and his timing will be perfect. ❤️
Have you looked into fostering kids in the US. Most of them are available to adopt. My friend who couldn’t have kids of her own just adopted 3 siblings and two sisters :)
Jessika Graley I don’t think that’s suitable for her UA-cam career as she wouldn’t be allowed to film the child or maybe even parts of her home for privacy reasons. I can’t recall any yt’ers that foster kids and film. I thinks that’s why Myka Stauffer adopter from overseas vs fostering /home adoption
I wonder what it would be like to live with mental health issues there. Try to deal with it without help. Struggle through it. Not being able to share your health issues with anyone? That’s gotta be tough
It reflects on how many suicides per year there are in countries where mental health is still stigmatized. Getting help and counseling is so important.
Have you thought about fostering? I work for DCS, you wouldn’t believe how long some children wait for an adoptive home. It’s so so sad. There are plenty of children here in the states that are in need as well! However, if international adoption is calling you, go with it! You are helping a child either way!
You all could just adopt here in the United States. There are lots of children here already that would love to have you all as parents. You all are amazing by the way!
Nikki, my heart goes out to you. We literally went through the exact. same. thing three years ago. I know exactly how you feel. You could be describing our story. Here we are now three years home with our girl, and I can’t imagine our lives without her. We jumped through lots of hurdles that didn’t seem to make sense. I remember saying, “There are millions of orphans in the world and we can’t adopt one of them!” Now that we are on this side of it, we can see God’s hand in it the whole way. Praying for peace and perseverance for you both! I can’t wait to see y’all on the other side. I have been battling with God lately about starting a UA-cam channel. We have experienced so many miracles through our kids and I know He wants us to share, no matter how uncomfortable I am putting myself out there. Our Adoption story is one of them and I’m excited to share hopefully soon!
Absolutely! Great description of how pain affects the body & mind! Not to mention stress can cause significant amounts of pain in the body! I'm an RN and I work in both Emergency & Behavioral Health. I also live with chronic joint pain d/t Lyme disease, and suffer from depression & anxiety from chronic pain!
Thank you for the update! Sending good vibes to you guys. Everything will work out in the end. Also, did anyone else notice the fly on Dan’s shoulder at 10:50? 😂
It’s just so crazy to me...mental health still has such a stigma. I know a LOT of very good people with good hearts who are on medication. And they deserve to be a parent if they want! Anyone else can get pregnant and have kids no problem, but adoption is so much different :( sending my love your way!!
There is always some heartbreak when there is a hiccup in the adoption process. We had MANY! But it all worked itself out in the end and we have a beautiful daughter to show for it ♥️
I posted this on your last video but I really wanted you to see it so I am posting it here, too: Not having expectations is hard for any new mom or dad whether they adopt or have a bio child. My daughter is 2 years and 8 months. I expected her to sleep a lot as an infant and I would get a lot during her naps. She ended up screaming her face off ANY time I put her down and would not sleep unless I nursed her. It was challenging in ways that I did not expect and that can be a mind screw when you wanted this baby so badly.... but for every challenging moment, there are a billion more cool and beautiful moments where being a parent will EXCEED your expectations. I have been a subscriber for years. You and Dan will be incredible parents from teaching your child to love God and that God CHOSE you for each other to teaching them to love others to teaching them how to maximize their creativity just like you do. Sending much love and so many prayers on your journey to your child. Our child was the result of nine invitro fertilization cycles. The journey to parenthood, no matter how you get there, is beyond worth it. xoxo
I'm so sorry to hear about the Korean adoption program. As a Korean-American, it's so frustrating to hear about this because I struggle from depression/anxiety and so many of my family members think I'm just being dramatic and need to "stop being sad/stop worrying." Also, I've volunteered in Korean orphanages and those kids NEED attentive and loving parents like you two. Those kids just want someone to care and the fact that you two want a child to adore just makes me so mad that they think you're "unfit." I hope you know you have other Koreans on your side and I'm sending you SO MUCH love & support your way! ❤️
You guys will make such awesome parents. Its terrible that you have to go through so much but that will be one blessed child when he/she comes into your life.
Yeaaaaah, Gods timing its so perfect and His will is beautiful. We are praying for your beautiful family guys. And I'm just si excited to see what God has in store for you 💛💛💛 Thank you for the update !! 💛
Praying for both of you... this process is so hard and long. We've been through it. Unfortunately, our adoption failed. Just keep your faith in God and He will take care of you.
Thank you for speaking so openly and casually about mental health “Regularly scheduled maintenance” is a good idea for your car, it’s also a good idea for your mental health. Just like getting your teeth cleaned! Prevention and maintenance is the best idea (The #SickNotWeak hashtag is very helpful to follow on Twitter 😃)
God has always the control just let it in his hands! I love to see your videos but I really want to tell you that you don’t have to give us that much information all time ! We all now that you’re doing the best for your family! Praying for you all time ! Remember your never alone ❤️ Sending love from Mexico 🇲🇽
I have fibromyalgia and chronic pain, my back also goes in an s lol, but I’m so glad you talked about this because I’m interested in adoption but never thought medication could hinder that
I wish you could show them your videos so they can understand the type of people you are.. you guys will be incredible parents! I will be praying everything goes smoothly! ❤️❤️
How many people on EVERY video are going to ask about US adoption? The Phillippis are obviously avid researchers of all their interests and have specifically and thoroughly covered that topic so many times! Sorry for the set back. Best wishes.
Veronnica Watson so you should watch all of the adoption updates so you/others avoid asking a question that comes across condescending when they have already answered it!
katttjordan I think you need to calm down and stop worrying about other people and be nice to others. It's not that hard to be kind and take up the opportunity to shut your mouth.
What sucks is even if you or anyone was taking an anti depressant that shouldn't hinder them from adopting. Why can someone have a child naturally no classes no home study no nothing to qualify but if you want to adopt you have to go thru ringer to make sure you're fit to be a parent :( I know ya'll will be great parents and I can't wait to see the rest of this process!
you may consider kazakhstan. still an asian country. a small asian country. my niece is from there. very very bright, outgoing, full of love, and just so stinking smart.
Why don’t you do more research on domestic adoption. There are so many children in the U.S. that need a home. The worries you have about having the child being taken away and returned to its birth parents are more concerns with foster care and open adoptions. Why don’t you look into closed adoptions. Also, there are a lot of orphans who don’t even have living relatives.
Dark Owl Stories I think this is just the path that called to them. And their parents adopted overseas so they kind of following in their footsteps and that's sweet. And even in closed adoption you could run into the parent later or have the child really want to find the parent or vice versa
Obviously you guys need to do what is right for you but... if you feel led to explore us adoptions again, it really does depend heavily on the state your child is born in. Some states they are yours legally immediately and some have a 2 week waiting period, etc. I have multiple adopted from the us family members, and none of the birth parents changed their minds. They also have open adoptions so the families can correspond with each other if they want to. I think that open adoptions help with some of that second guessing that can happen at birth. It may be easier to feel more at peace with your decision as a birth parent if you’ve hand picked your child’s parents and know you can write them letters, etc. just my two cents 😘
babydol1892 so I’m adopted domestically and my brother is adopted international ( s Korea) and he hates that he’s adopted and here and is 100% unable to ever know or meet his biological parents and I am ... I get that, he doesn’t . I had a closed adoption as well. Zero issues just like e v e r y single adopted person I know ... I’m so sick of everyone be a hero trying to adopt overseas when there are SO MANY kids here that are in need ... trust me foster homes are not great here ..... ( I was a foster care worker for years)
If your dr said it was fine and you trust them that’s cool. But I’m on the lowest dose of lexpro (5mg) and it still fucks me up if I miss a couple days or anything, so just take care of yourself if you decide to take it again 😊 no harm weaning anyway even if it won’t have an effect on you
I know you mentioned why Asian countries are your choice with your brother connection, but have you considered African adoptions? I don't know their process at all but it seems like those children could use adopting too. Good luck. Your commitment to these difficult delays show how great you'd be as parents ☺️
Best wishes to you two! I'm sure God has the perfect kid in ready for both of you :) You guys will be great parents! I've been watching your channels on youtube for 3+ years, I hope and will pray that you get accepted to a program :) Best of luck!
Honestly, that mentality from the Korean government is incredibly offensive and frustrating to me. I can't imagine how many completely competent and amazing parents are denied being able to adopt because of this. And I wonder how many kids are not getting adopted because of that stigma. There are millions and millions of people in the US alone on SSRIs, depression and anxiety are extremely common. But it's not an indicator of how stable someone is or their ability to parent. I could understand if there were other more significant signs of instability, but taking medication or being in counseling alone is a lousy reason to prevent people who are dying to love and care for a child the ability to do that. I'm so bummed this happened to you guys, but I know it's going to work out in the end, one way or the other. You guys were made for this.
Malaise is no fun :( I am a massage therapist and i have clients that deal with malaise after injury or those who deal with chronic pain. You two are such beautiful people, best wishes!!!
Dang. So many moving parts. I have been thinking about you both and can't wait to get the update that you have been matched with your child. Also now I know that should definitely never pursue adoption. Not with all the meds I take!
Ya man... it’s a lot! That being said, just keep in mind that every country has a different policy! So just because you’re on meds doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t adopt!
A psychiatrist said to my husband and me, that it was good we had no children ( although we have tried in 17 years), because of my chronic pain from variation of deseases. My husband got really mad at her, he forget time to time how disabled I am. Although I live in Greenland, we are under Denmark, they are really strict even if you only have RA. Hope for the best for you
Nigeria Simone that depends heavily on the state. I know NC used to be 9 days (if I’m remembering correctly- it was less than two weeks), scary for sure, but not that long of a time frame.
I love South Korea, it would be so neat see your journey if you could adopt there. From the name, to culture, and when you go pick up the child. If not I know as you said it will work out. I think Korean Culture is so interesting though.
I think some people aren’t too educated in U.S. adoption. In the foster care system it is the goal to reunite the child to their biological families. Even if it’s an aunt or uncle. That is the ultimate goal, not to get the child adopted. There’s also a want for babies that’s more than the babies that are available so then the wait for a baby is longer than international. Adoption for children in the U.S. is almost like a last resort. So for all the people saying it’s a shame they didn’t go for a U.S. adoption I think some of you need to really take a good look into it before just spewing off at the mouth.
Chronic pain is literally the worst. I have a connective tissue disorder and was always told I needed rest which will help the pain (even though I never really thought it helped) I have recently found out that I actually need to move and keep moving so my tendons don't seize because the pain comes when everything seizes and fluid fills my joints. If I keep moving the fluid doesn't build as badly and I have less pain. I still have the pain but its more muscle aches from weakness than just un-stoppable agony.
Wow I’m so sorry you go through that!! It really can be hard man:( that being said, I’ve realized that as well! I have to stay moving! I’m still in pain moving and sometimes new pain comes... but not moving completely causes worse pain!
my brother is adopted from korea, when you adopt internationally you have to think of the kid and what they went through. like yeah its sad but you have to realize you are gonna be taking a child away from their countty
Seems like y’all need to take a little break and pray! Obviously adoption is usually not “easy” but it seems like all these doors are being closed and are leading you away from the paths not meant for you and to YOUR child! Just a thought, hopefully you find peace in whatever comes next!
I just hope that whatever child you adopt, that their culture will be kept regardless of being in the U.S. It's so crazy to think that I've watched your videos for years and seeing you go through this is just another addition to being a part of your journey!
God is leading you to YOUR child. It may not seem like it but when you find the right country you will know. Have you looked into any African countries?
Currently I don’t believe the US is doing adoptions with Africa because of the child trafficking that was taking place... I think they’re currently sorting through how to deal with that... alsoooo thank you! I know and believe that!☺️
its a processs i am one of four adoptees in my family. its a process dont thank god tho for ur child , cause god wouldnt have wanted that birth mother to give up their kid. its a huge process i am from china just they want to make sure the child is going to a stable home
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Nikki and Dan, regardless of how hard this process is (i can only imagine...) just know that you have inspired me, as well as, I’m sure, countless others, to consider adoption as an option! I am only 20 years old and have begun reading and researching this stuff already! I volunteered as a preschool teacher this past year surrounded by foster children- and words can not explain how passionate I have become about both domestic and international adoption. Thank you FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART- for prioritizing adoption in your life, regardless of the struggles it may bring, and sharing your story with the world!! I’ve been watching you since your first video and I can not emphasize enough that you guys are going to be amazing parents! I love you BOTH from the bottom of my heart, and your soon to be child is going to be so happy to be a part of your adorable family ! This topic is SO IMPORTANT and I applaud you for making it such a focus on your channel.
I know it's super personal, but I appreciate you guys always updating us. 💚
Thank you! I’m so glad you enjoy the updates! That means a lot 💜
Gods perfect timing. Sorry for the hardship of the journey! Proud of you guys for trusting god with it all.
i just have to say, hearing Nikki say how she was raised with a "coach" and "safety in many advisors" is SO AWESOME. imagine if all kids were raised that way, having someone to open to and help them and it would feel so natural, talking about your issues is soo important.
I'm from South Korea so I know that people can be super strict (or judgy) about mental issues and drugs.. regardless of the reasons :( I hope you guys are accepted!!!!!!!!!
Your hubby is so precious and so understanding! He loves you so very much and it’s awesome to watch! I pray that you guys can find a sweet baby to adopt, because the two of you would be wonderful parents!
Best of luck on your continued journey! This has been so interesting. I have to say, everything you were saying about chronic pain(while there are varying differences) was so true. As a healthcare worker in the US that see’s this we need better therapies. Such as counseling, pain management and a loss of stigma to such diagnoses. I commend you for taking care of “you” the best way “you” see fit. It’s very individual. Thanks for sharing your journey.❤️
Gods timing is perfect, everything you're going through right now is just going to make you stronger and better prepared for when your wonderful child is with you. You guys are such wonderful people and deserve to have a happy family. Praying for the best
Wow thank you so much for all that 😘
Im so touched about how Dan supports you. ❤️ its beautiful! You go guys! Some stuff are worth to wait. Both will be amazing parents. We all will be praying for you guys 🙌🏻
I love what Dan said about how mental health can be affected when you’re in chronic pain. I have severe Crohn’s disease and I’ve always had depression and anxiety related to my pain and the hardships that come with that, especially when you’re young! I relate to you so much girl! Thank you for sharing so much of your life
You two will be wonderful parents and the right country and child is out there waiting for you. God will show you that in time. Remember when one door closes, it's one step closer to the right child for you. Wishing you two only the best through this process. Lots of love❤
I completely agree with that! Thank you for your encouragement!
Ironically, even without any diagnosed mental illnesses, I feel like being in therapy regularly could only make someone a better parent. Having a third party trained professional to process things with, even if it's just "normal" stress from your home life, is SO helpful and so healthy.
Good luck with all of your adoption journey! Me and all 4 of my siblings are adopted and my family is currently fostering a 1 year old! Praying for y’all to have a smooth process❤️
I love watching these consistent videos, I was adopted from South Korea in 1998. And it is a true fact but it’s definitely a doable situation. My adoptive mom has severe anxiety and depression and adopted 3 children from South Korea. I hope that everything works out for the best and they find it in their hearts. ❤️
From another adoptive mama, I promise all the hurdles you have to jump through now will be SO WORTH IT once you have your little one in your arms. Praying for you guys ❤️
Nikki please consider the Philippines. Being half filipino I know how loving, grateful and intelligent filipino children are! Plus singing is a big part of the culture in the Philippines so that is a potential bonding activity for your child and yourself!
goodness, what a rollercoaster! thank you for sharing everything about the adoption process and I wish you guys the best of luck! 💕
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Thank you for the update! It’s crazy how different our cultures can be, but God knows them all and He’s leading you down this path. Praying for you guys!!! 💕💙
Good luck I know God is watching over you both. Children so worth it though. My oldest will be off to college in less than two months and it seems as if she was just an infant yesterday. Enjoy the process!
I’ve always known adoption was an insane process, but it is really amazing how you’re taking us on your journey. One of my favorite sayings is “Until God opens the next door, praise Him in the hallway.” His timing is perfect, and you guys have a child out there. I’m praying and rooting for you guys! ❤️❤️❤️
I met this young woman once who went to do mission work in East Timor when she was 21. She saw 2 orphans and decided then and there to adopt both of them. She wasn't able to bring them both home at the same time, so she brought one and waited 3-4 years and then went back for the other girl. Her parents later adopted 4 kids. Hang in there, it'll happen.
So proud of both of your strength and patience in this journey! You are going to be such amazing parents, and the timing is going to bring you the child who is meant to become a part of your beautiful family. My family waited for years to adopt my younger sister from China, and it was the greatest journey. She fits perfectly with us and we know she was meant to be with us from the start. Your little one will be brought to you in time, and you are going to be blessing them with so much love and wisdom. This journey is going to be so worth it. Sending love and strength your way! ❤️
Y'all are so adorable! I always include you in my prayers and hope you are able to hold your little one soon.
Maybe you should call it a life coach rather than counselor. That sounds more of what she is to you
That’s kind of how they described her🤷🏻♀️
I am sorry to hear this. As Korean, yes in here soooooo many people know that they have some mental problems but they don’t see doctor or counsellor because it usually makes them to not able to get a job. Even a light depression would be the same. So, some people see their doctor without medical insurance eventhough they actually have it not to make a record. And pay much more money to take pills. And as you say, meeting a counsellor isn’t all about mental problems.. but Korean society think that is something to hide. So sad :(
I can’t imagine what a whirlwind of emotions that had to have been for you guys. It’s just so crazy to me how different countries have such drastically different viewpoints on caring for mental health. I will be praying immensely for you guys next week during your final home study and the appointment with Korea. Everything happens for a reason and all within God’s timing! Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us! I love you guys! 💕
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
I can’t imagine how hard this journey must be but I’m sure that God has a clear future made for you and your growing family❤️ Will continue to pray for you guys!
Thank you Sharon! 💜💜💜
NikkiPhillippi Truly wishing you all the luck❤️
I’m in immense chronic pain and it sucks!!! I feel u Nikki
Lexapro saved me. But I had it for depression/anxiety. I didnt know it was also used for pain. Thats cool to know.
Valerie Guerrero same! I was about to comment that because I have been prescribed it for anxiety... I didn't know it could be used for pain.
Valerie Guerrero I have bipolar disorder and I’m on medication, getting good sleep and taking cafe of myself. I’m extremely stable because I am diagnosed and medicated. I’m also struggling to get and stay pregnant. Does that mean I can’t have children if I can’t carry a baby? Ya know?
I am so excited for your adoption and thankful you are sharing your journey. There is a saying “ To us Waiting is Wasting, but to God, Waiting is Working.” I really believe gods hand is in your journey and his timing will be perfect. ❤️
Have you looked into fostering kids in the US. Most of them are available to adopt. My friend who couldn’t have kids of her own just adopted 3 siblings and two sisters :)
Jessika Graley I don’t think that’s suitable for her UA-cam career as she wouldn’t be allowed to film the child or maybe even parts of her home for privacy reasons.
I can’t recall any yt’ers that foster kids and film. I thinks that’s why Myka Stauffer adopter from overseas vs fostering /home adoption
I think they talked about this topic in the original announcement video 💕
But after you foster most can be adopted then you can take pictures of them.
I was on lexapro for bipolar disorder I know that isn't what you take it for but I love that you were so honest and open about your medication :)
I wonder what it would be like to live with mental health issues there. Try to deal with it without help. Struggle through it. Not being able to share your health issues with anyone?
That’s gotta be tough
That’s all I could think of as well
It reflects on how many suicides per year there are in countries where mental health is still stigmatized. Getting help and counseling is so important.
I don’t know why, I always feel bad you both are standing in these updates 😂 I always want to invite you to sit and relax 😂😂
Hahahaha we filmed one sitting and felt sooo uncomfortable! Lol we redid the whole thing 🙈😭🤷🏻♀️
NikkiPhillippi awe! 😂 whatever is best for you guys! 😋💗
Have you thought about fostering? I work for DCS, you wouldn’t believe how long some children wait for an adoptive home. It’s so so sad. There are plenty of children here in the states that are in need as well! However, if international adoption is calling you, go with it! You are helping a child either way!
The sad thing is some of the worst biological parents would have been better parents if they had gone to counselling
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and joined AA. but I think many don’t want people to know that they seek help and support from AA
That is SO true.
Seriously !
Thank you for being so open with the internet!:) that must be hard and scary but we truly care about you guys :-)
Thank you! I truly appreciate that/you🙏🏻💜
You all could just adopt here in the United States. There are lots of children here already that would love to have you all as parents. You all are amazing by the way!
Watch their announcement video.
Praying for you guys and good luck on the rest of the journey! Love that you keep us updated on the process, very considerate ❣️
Nikki, my heart goes out to you. We literally went through the exact. same. thing three years ago. I know exactly how you feel. You could be describing our story. Here we are now three years home with our girl, and I can’t imagine our lives without her. We jumped through lots of hurdles that didn’t seem to make sense. I remember saying, “There are millions of orphans in the world and we can’t adopt one of them!” Now that we are on this side of it, we can see God’s hand in it the whole way. Praying for peace and perseverance for you both! I can’t wait to see y’all on the other side.
I have been battling with God lately about starting a UA-cam channel. We have experienced so many miracles through our kids and I know He wants us to share, no matter how uncomfortable I am putting myself out there. Our Adoption story is one of them and I’m excited to share hopefully soon!
Absolutely! Great description of how pain affects the body & mind! Not to mention stress can cause significant amounts of pain in the body! I'm an RN and I work in both Emergency & Behavioral Health. I also live with chronic joint pain d/t Lyme disease, and suffer from depression & anxiety from chronic pain!
Thank you for the update! Sending good vibes to you guys. Everything will work out in the end.
Also, did anyone else notice the fly on Dan’s shoulder at 10:50? 😂
It’s just so crazy to me...mental health still has such a stigma. I know a LOT of very good people with good hearts who are on medication. And they deserve to be a parent if they want! Anyone else can get pregnant and have kids no problem, but adoption is so much different :( sending my love your way!!
Praying for you guys!!! I know this is hard. I will be praying specifically for the Korean program to be a perfect fit for you.
There is always some heartbreak when there is a hiccup in the adoption process. We had MANY! But it all worked itself out in the end and we have a beautiful daughter to show for it ♥️
praying for you guys!!!❤ can't wait to watch the journey!!
I posted this on your last video but I really wanted you to see it so I am posting it here, too:
Not having expectations is hard for any new mom or dad whether they adopt or have a bio child. My daughter is 2 years and 8 months. I expected her to sleep a lot as an infant and I would get a lot during her naps. She ended up screaming her face off ANY time I put her down and would not sleep unless I nursed her. It was challenging in ways that I did not expect and that can be a mind screw when you wanted this baby so badly.... but for every challenging moment, there are a billion more cool and beautiful moments where being a parent will EXCEED your expectations. I have been a subscriber for years. You and Dan will be incredible parents from teaching your child to love God and that God CHOSE you for each other to teaching them to love others to teaching them how to maximize their creativity just like you do. Sending much love and so many prayers on your journey to your child. Our child was the result of nine invitro fertilization cycles. The journey to parenthood, no matter how you get there, is beyond worth it. xoxo
Your real fans are going to support your all time no matter what !
I'm so sorry to hear about the Korean adoption program. As a Korean-American, it's so frustrating to hear about this because I struggle from depression/anxiety and so many of my family members think I'm just being dramatic and need to "stop being sad/stop worrying." Also, I've volunteered in Korean orphanages and those kids NEED attentive and loving parents like you two. Those kids just want someone to care and the fact that you two want a child to adore just makes me so mad that they think you're "unfit." I hope you know you have other Koreans on your side and I'm sending you SO MUCH love & support your way! ❤️
You guys will make such awesome parents. Its terrible that you have to go through so much but that will be one blessed child when he/she comes into your life.
My husband takes Cymbalta for chronic pain. It works really well for him.
Yeaaaaah, Gods timing its so perfect and His will is beautiful. We are praying for your beautiful family guys. And I'm just si excited to see what God has in store for you 💛💛💛 Thank you for the update !! 💛
Bless your hearts. Praying for your family to be blessed with a little one soon.
Thank you☺️💜😘
You are one of the most real and genuine you tubers I have seen.
Praying for both of you... this process is so hard and long. We've been through it. Unfortunately, our adoption failed. Just keep your faith in God and He will take care of you.
Thank you for speaking so openly and casually about mental health
“Regularly scheduled maintenance” is a good idea for your car, it’s also a good idea for your mental health.
Just like getting your teeth cleaned! Prevention and maintenance is the best idea
(The #SickNotWeak hashtag is very helpful to follow on Twitter 😃)
Thank YOU👏🏻☺️😘
Thanks again for sharing. It's an eye opener and such a learning experience to hear the details and process of adoption.
Have you guys considered Central America due to the migrant crisis that’s going on?
Yes! We will see what pans out!
I'm a mental health professional and the messages from the Korea program are disturbing... ugh. So sorry you went through that!
God has always the control just let it in his hands!
I love to see your videos but I really want to tell you that you don’t have to give us that much information all time ! We all now that you’re doing the best for your family! Praying for you all time !
Remember your never alone ❤️
Sending love from Mexico 🇲🇽
I have fibromyalgia and chronic pain, my back also goes in an s lol, but I’m so glad you talked about this because I’m interested in adoption but never thought medication could hinder that
I wish you could show them your videos so they can understand the type of people you are.. you guys will be incredible parents! I will be praying everything goes smoothly! ❤️❤️
You’re so sweet this made me “awwww” out loud! Lol thank you!☺️🙏🏻💜😘
I’m sorry there have been some hard times this past week. God’s timing is so worth it! Praying for you and Dan. 💕💕
Thank you 💜💜💜
I love yall so much! I pray and hope everything works out for your family! 💕
How many people on EVERY video are going to ask about US adoption? The Phillippis are obviously avid researchers of all their interests and have specifically and thoroughly covered that topic so many times!
Sorry for the set back. Best wishes.
Lol 💜😘
I personally haven't seen the answer. Not everyone follows every step, I being one of them.
Veronnica Watson so you should watch all of the adoption updates so you/others avoid asking a question that comes across condescending when they have already answered it!
katttjordan I think you need to calm down and stop worrying about other people and be nice to others. It's not that hard to be kind and take up the opportunity to shut your mouth.
I agree with Katttjordan. If you're going to comment you should watch the whole series so you know what you're talking about.
I have to say... y’all are the cutest couple! Praying for you!!
Also- I’m on Lexapro too! Started it for my IBS!
Have you looked into the Dominican Republic??? I believe you may have a much easier time with them
What sucks is even if you or anyone was taking an anti depressant that shouldn't hinder them from adopting. Why can someone have a child naturally no classes no home study no nothing to qualify but if you want to adopt you have to go thru ringer to make sure you're fit to be a parent :( I know ya'll will be great parents and I can't wait to see the rest of this process!
It will happen! Best of luck Nikki and Dan. Can’t wait to see you two become parents. Thank you for choosing adoption xx
you may consider kazakhstan. still an asian country. a small asian country. my niece is from there. very very bright, outgoing, full of love, and just so stinking smart.
Why don’t you do more research on domestic adoption. There are so many children in the U.S. that need a home. The worries you have about having the child being taken away and returned to its birth parents are more concerns with foster care and open adoptions. Why don’t you look into closed adoptions. Also, there are a lot of orphans who don’t even have living relatives.
Dark Owl Stories I think this is just the path that called to them. And their parents adopted overseas so they kind of following in their footsteps and that's sweet. And even in closed adoption you could run into the parent later or have the child really want to find the parent or vice versa
Obviously you guys need to do what is right for you but... if you feel led to explore us adoptions again, it really does depend heavily on the state your child is born in. Some states they are yours legally immediately and some have a 2 week waiting period, etc. I have multiple adopted from the us family members, and none of the birth parents changed their minds. They also have open adoptions so the families can correspond with each other if they want to. I think that open adoptions help with some of that second guessing that can happen at birth. It may be easier to feel more at peace with your decision as a birth parent if you’ve hand picked your child’s parents and know you can write them letters, etc. just my two cents 😘
Dark Owl Stories you can still have children taken from you in a closed adoption in the US
Sean & Kayla I’m an adoption worker ... it is very, very rare ...... the benefits of domestic adoptions outweigh concerns
babydol1892 so I’m adopted domestically and my brother is adopted international ( s Korea) and he hates that he’s adopted and here and is 100% unable to ever know or meet his biological parents and I am ... I get that, he doesn’t . I had a closed adoption as well. Zero issues just like e v e r y single adopted person I know ... I’m so sick of everyone be a hero trying to adopt overseas when there are SO MANY kids here that are in need ... trust me foster homes are not great here ..... ( I was a foster care worker for years)
Praying for you guys.
Sorry to hear the bad news hope that you will be blessed with a little one soon ❤️
Lots of prayers heading your way!
If your dr said it was fine and you trust them that’s cool. But I’m on the lowest dose of lexpro (5mg) and it still fucks me up if I miss a couple days or anything, so just take care of yourself if you decide to take it again 😊 no harm weaning anyway even if it won’t have an effect on you
I know you mentioned why Asian countries are your choice with your brother connection, but have you considered African adoptions? I don't know their process at all but it seems like those children could use adopting too. Good luck. Your commitment to these difficult delays show how great you'd be as parents ☺️
Best wishes to you two! I'm sure God has the perfect kid in ready for both of you :) You guys will be great parents! I've been watching your channels on youtube for 3+ years, I hope and will pray that you get accepted to a program :) Best of luck!
Honestly, that mentality from the Korean government is incredibly offensive and frustrating to me. I can't imagine how many completely competent and amazing parents are denied being able to adopt because of this. And I wonder how many kids are not getting adopted because of that stigma. There are millions and millions of people in the US alone on SSRIs, depression and anxiety are extremely common. But it's not an indicator of how stable someone is or their ability to parent. I could understand if there were other more significant signs of instability, but taking medication or being in counseling alone is a lousy reason to prevent people who are dying to love and care for a child the ability to do that. I'm so bummed this happened to you guys, but I know it's going to work out in the end, one way or the other. You guys were made for this.
Malaise is no fun :( I am a massage therapist and i have clients that deal with malaise after injury or those who deal with chronic pain.
You two are such beautiful people, best wishes!!!
Awww best wishes you two. I hope it works out and can move forward with Korea program.
Dang. So many moving parts. I have been thinking about you both and can't wait to get the update that you have been matched with your child. Also now I know that should definitely never pursue adoption. Not with all the meds I take!
Ya man... it’s a lot! That being said, just keep in mind that every country has a different policy! So just because you’re on meds doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t adopt!
Nikki... there is a doctor in my area that treats patients with chronic pain. RPT therapy. He is in Maryland. People come from all-around to see him.
nicole kraft I would love the name of the doctor! I’m about to move to md!
I would love the name of the doctor as well! I'm in the DMV area.
Andrew Bloch.... i have not been to him but have read about him and know a few people who have gone and loved it
Wherever your kid is, I’m beyond excited for you 🌟
imo knowing that you could be benefited by a counsellor and talking about life is way healthier than thinking you are 10000% stable and perfect
It's awful how hard they make it, even though I know these checks are important! Good things come to those who wait!
A psychiatrist said to my husband and me, that it was good we had no children ( although we have tried in 17 years), because of my chronic pain from variation of deseases. My husband got really mad at her, he forget time to time how disabled I am. Although I live in Greenland, we are under Denmark, they are really strict even if you only have RA.
Hope for the best for you
If you're not accepted to Korea (praying that you do) but just in case what other country would you like to adopt from?
Possibly: Columbia, the Philippines, China is actually back on the table now or Haiti 💜
NikkiPhillippi curious to why not working on a baby here in the US? God bless y’all ♥️
I personally would love to adopt from Colombia 🇨🇴
Nigeria Simone that depends heavily on the state. I know NC used to be 9 days (if I’m remembering correctly- it was less than two weeks), scary for sure, but not that long of a time frame.
Might want to spell colombia right when you approach them. Hahaha
I love South Korea, it would be so neat see your journey if you could adopt there. From the name, to culture, and when you go pick up the child. If not I know as you said it will work out. I think Korean Culture is so interesting though.
I want to adopt kids one day and it’s super cool to see people actually talking about it.
I think some people aren’t too educated in U.S. adoption. In the foster care system it is the goal to reunite the child to their biological families. Even if it’s an aunt or uncle. That is the ultimate goal, not to get the child adopted. There’s also a want for babies that’s more than the babies that are available so then the wait for a baby is longer than international. Adoption for children in the U.S. is almost like a last resort. So for all the people saying it’s a shame they didn’t go for a U.S. adoption I think some of you need to really take a good look into it before just spewing off at the mouth.
Seriously love y'all!!! Praying for yall.
Chronic pain is literally the worst. I have a connective tissue disorder and was always told I needed rest which will help the pain (even though I never really thought it helped) I have recently found out that I actually need to move and keep moving so my tendons don't seize because the pain comes when everything seizes and fluid fills my joints. If I keep moving the fluid doesn't build as badly and I have less pain. I still have the pain but its more muscle aches from weakness than just un-stoppable agony.
Wow I’m so sorry you go through that!! It really can be hard man:( that being said, I’ve realized that as well! I have to stay moving! I’m still in pain moving and sometimes new pain comes... but not moving completely causes worse pain!
my brother is adopted from korea, when you adopt internationally you have to think of the kid and what they went through. like yeah its sad but you have to realize you are gonna be taking a child away from their countty
If korea doesn’t work, maybe you can try in china? I know a lot of people who adopted or were adopted from china. Their process might be easier
Seems like y’all need to take a little break and pray! Obviously adoption is usually not “easy” but it seems like all these doors are being closed and are leading you away from the paths not meant for you and to YOUR child! Just a thought, hopefully you find peace in whatever comes next!
I’m praying for you!
I really hope you get approved for Korea and adopt a beautiful kid from there! Praying for you two!
Thanks for sharing with us....good luck and will continue to pray for you guys!!!
Thank you so much Jocelyn!
I just hope that whatever child you adopt, that their culture will be kept regardless of being in the U.S. It's so crazy to think that I've watched your videos for years and seeing you go through this is just another addition to being a part of your journey!
We will educate them on their culture:) also it is crazy huh?! I can’t believe I’ve been on youtube for so long! Haha
God is leading you to YOUR child. It may not seem like it but when you find the right country you will know. Have you looked into any African countries?
Currently I don’t believe the US is doing adoptions with Africa because of the child trafficking that was taking place... I think they’re currently sorting through how to deal with that... alsoooo thank you! I know and believe that!☺️
You're welcome! I'll pray for you guys.
its a processs i am one of four adoptees in my family. its a process dont thank god tho for ur child , cause god wouldnt have wanted that birth mother to give up their kid. its a huge process i am from china just they want to make sure the child is going to a stable home