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Thank you SO SO MUCH for this!! I’m sooo grateful ☺️ ❤

The classes are great!!!! Watching in 2025 ❤

Hi there. Thank you for your amazing videos. Is there a way to obtain the slides?

Thank you Dr May. Such a useful and informative video. My therapist and I are exploring attachments styles and after a quiz he said that I mainly fell into this category, hence my interest, I am 57 and have a mother with narcissistic tendencies and I really struggle dealing with her and detaching so that I can be me. My therapist suggested I learn about attachment before i can then work on detachment and your video has been the perfect find for my understanding of this. Thank you.

This is so helpful. Thank you

Not good. Say the last time I went to the library there was a group of kids who heckled me. So my avoidance stops me from going to the library ever again. Yeah. Problem solved? No. All I did was avoid the problem, which is not the library but the kids. And other similar situations, maybe more complex but No, avoidance is generally not considered a great way to handle conflict as it can lead to unresolved issues, damaged relationships, and increased stress in the long run; while sometimes taking a temporary step back to cool down emotions might be appropriate, consistently avoiding conflict is usually not a productive strategy

This is been so helpful in trying to get my head around this!!! Please make more videos!!!

I needed this today

Just a few days ago I found your channel and it's a gem! Thank you for your precious work ❤

Thank you so much! It's a big help 🙏🏻

Dr May, your videos are helping so much in my RO DBT class. I just wanted to thank you personally, and say, I wish I would have found you're videos sooner. Take care.

Thank you so much for your videos, Dr May! You are doing such a great favour for those who are working on their mental health around the globe (I actually live in Russia). I am finishing round 1 of the DBT modules and I am so happy I found your channel that helps me recap and learn more. The way you present the information is so on-point and friendly - it is very motivating and reassuring. Many many thanks for creating all this content and sharing it with us 🙏

Thank you soooo much that is really sooo goood❤❤❤❤

I love your videos, thank you so much for this series. This video in particular really resonated with me. Because of my trauma background my usual response is to assume rejection as confirmation of my core belief ("I am bad") I'm slowly realising though that some people just aren't healthy to be around. I love that RO-DBT addresses this because it's been such a problem area for me. I assume too much responsibility whenever there's any disconnect or conflict in friendships and relationships and think I can be over empathetic and leave myself open to being taken advantage of. It's so refreshing to actually have actionable tools to help with this beyond "have boundaries" and "toughen up". I'm so grateful. ❤️

Very helpful. I just started a year long Dbt program. Thanks!

Useful....❤

I appreciate these videos that you have made so very much. I am in a DBT skills course and it is certainly helping me, and watching your videos has been a big part of my progress. The way you explain the different skills and your visual slides and examples are great! Many thanks to you.

This needs to be talked about more. Thanks for the awesome video.

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Thank you for putting thy effort into making these lessons. They are very well structured and helping me learn and prescribe RODBT.

Very helpful ❤.... Needed this!

Lovely! Thank you....

So would you say an enneagram type 8 is fearful avoidant or secure? I do think self is strong and secure and most people are not (not sure if this is narcissism or just a strong track record though) but if I find someone that is strong and secure I want to get close to them...Problem is not a lot of people are and either they get repelled by strength or try and drag you in into their chaos. Used to try and make people stronger but now I see why they respond like they do. Same with being inflexible if someone is right they're right because holding on to bad data is bad/weak. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

Guess enneagram 1, 3, 4, 5 and 6 are more prone to this.

It’s not the most common for bod. Thats actually fearful avoidant

Good Stuff!

This will help me tremendously from trying and helping people with different attachment styles, it's out of my power since this is so deep. Also explains why it's so hard to find people that are mature and grown up...

Excellent, it really turns things around. I felt an instant shift when I radically accepted that the severe trauma I had as an infant and child happened. My usual daily hourly thought thought has been in damaged and I've got to keep working on fixing this pain, shame, and hundreds of other issues. This changes the focus to what's happening right now and what do I do next. Then you!

I can't believe this doesnt have more views, such valuable information, thank you :)

Amazing video! Thank you!

Thank you so much. Very grounded. Calming. Balancing and reassuring 😊

Doing Heart Math lead me on the journey to come across even more great content & information. Thanks Dr. May!!!!!!!

I’m so happy to be on this healing journey. I started with heart math and my inner me is healing & growing everyday. I also signed up to checking view classes. This information is soothing

Dr. May, so generous of you to put in so much into the video, every word was precious, as i made my notes - extremely well worded, organised and very very useful. Thanks a TOnne!!

Your video & explanation is superb - I was aware of the model but this is a level of detail that has been missing from everything I've read / heard about elsewhere. I have subscribed! 🤩🙌🤓

I have a problem with the scenario where the boyfriend doesn’t text back And maybe you can help If I were to first, assume that my girlfriend wanted to break up, that could cause an episode. The problem is in checking the facts, the possibility of she needs a break, there’s an issue, but we could work through it,. Those are almost just as distressing. I wouldn’t buy the cell Phone. I would probably cheat on her with anyone to get back at her and it would all be over. How could I find a better check the facts?

This is so incredibly helpful! Thank you Dr. May .

thank you so much for this wonderful presentation It helps a lot for my speech class❤❤🎉

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Very well described and beautifully presented. Thank you Virginia.

I’m suicidal after hurting my kids emotionally. Such deep regret and remorse. How can I get past that 😢😢😢

Thank you for posting this. I can’t afford therapy for my disorganized attachment, so watching videos like these are the closest I can get to healing.

Hello thank you for making this course for us. I've definitely got overcontrolled traits and It's really upsetting seeing how closed off my life has become. I'm hoping this will help and am eager to try this out. Thank you for providing this content without charge that is incredibly generous of you. I hope you understand it is appreciated.

UNDER BOUNDED - it has happened to me especially at work. I am given more work beyond my scope, taken for granted....

Thank you❤

me to a T

Thank you.....These DBT skills are helpful....

Thank you...

Wowww...Will try those inner allies in my life..

Dr may, than you for this explanation, but what about help for people with more hypoarousal /freeze response/avoidance? DBT doesn’t help this ..any ideas ? Somatic work ? I’m near giving up looking for help