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Jennifer May, Ph.D.
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Jennifer May, Ph.D., is a NY state licensed clinical psychologist who has been practicing Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) since 2001. She is currently the DBT Coordinator at Pilgrim Psychiatric Center in West Brentwood, NY where she provides DBT treatment to inpatient adults and trains and supervises psychology students and outpatient therapists. She has past experience providing DBT to adults and adolescents in outpatient and private practice settings.
Dr. May is an integrative therapist, using techniques from DBT, CBT, Radically Open DBT, attachment theory, internal family systems, sensorimotor psychotherapy, polyvagal theory, and spirituality. She is a Certified Complex Trauma & Dissociation Specialist, Level III. She is passionate about offering quality information on UA-cam to people who are working on their recovery and to therapists looking to expand their skill set. Contact to book Zoom presentations, podcasts, or UA-cam interviews/collaborations.
Dr. May is an integrative therapist, using techniques from DBT, CBT, Radically Open DBT, attachment theory, internal family systems, sensorimotor psychotherapy, polyvagal theory, and spirituality. She is a Certified Complex Trauma & Dissociation Specialist, Level III. She is passionate about offering quality information on UA-cam to people who are working on their recovery and to therapists looking to expand their skill set. Contact to book Zoom presentations, podcasts, or UA-cam interviews/collaborations.
Creating a Coping Plan Using CARESS to Reduce Target Behaviors
When big stressors and emotions happen, we can feel overwhelmed and struggle to cope. The outcome can be engaging in self-harm target behaviors.
But if we know something difficult is coming up for us, we can think ahead and create a coping plan. One way to do this is by using a technique called CARESS, as developed by Lisa Ferentz, LSCW-C DAPA.
In this video, Dr. May will thoroughly review how to create a cope ahead plan in a general way and using the CARESS skill.
*This channel contains videos of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills, Radically Open DBT skills, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Attachment Styles, Developmental Trauma Styles, and much more! Please check out the other videos and feel free to SUBSCRIBE.
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www.theferentzinstitute.com/
But if we know something difficult is coming up for us, we can think ahead and create a coping plan. One way to do this is by using a technique called CARESS, as developed by Lisa Ferentz, LSCW-C DAPA.
In this video, Dr. May will thoroughly review how to create a cope ahead plan in a general way and using the CARESS skill.
*This channel contains videos of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills, Radically Open DBT skills, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Attachment Styles, Developmental Trauma Styles, and much more! Please check out the other videos and feel free to SUBSCRIBE.
Reference:
www.theferentzinstitute.com/
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Identifying Triggers with REACTS
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Developing a thorough understanding of the triggers that lead you to engage in target behaviors (e.g., self-harm) is an important first step toward overcoming them. In this video, Dr. May explains the REACTS model of understand triggers from Lisa Ferentz, LCSW (Relationships, Emotions, Awareness of 5 senses, Context, Thoughts, Sensations) and takes you through a detailed example. Trigger warnin...
Using The “Cycle of Self-Harm” to Understand Target Behaviors
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In addition to behavior chain analyses, another option we can use to better understand and work with target behaviors (e.g., self-injury, eating disorders, addictions) is identifying how they fit into Lisa Ferentz's "Cycle of Self-Harm." In this video, Dr. May gives a brief overview of the cycle of self-harm, compares it to behavior chain analyses, and offers an example of how it can be used. T...
Behavior Chain Analysis: A Step-by-Step Guide and Example
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If you are working on understanding and treating target behaviors (e.g., self-injury, aggression, eating disorders, addictions), a behavior chain analysis is a key technique that you can help you in this process. In this video, Dr. May goes over how to use behavior chain analysis in a clear, simple, step-by-step way so that you will feel equipped to try this technique with your clients or on yo...
Managing Emotions Using Container Imagery
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If we had early experiences of trauma, chances are we are either flooded by inner experiences (e.g., thoughts, emotions, trauma, flashbacks) or unable to retrieve or remember them (e.g., due to dissociation). However, it is still possible for us to learn ways to safely contain our inner experiences so that we have choice over when it is put aside and when it is processed. This helps us to stay ...
Using "Inner Allies" as a Coping Resource
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Sometimes, the hardest part about navigating a painful emotion or stressful situation is going through it alone. Bringing to mind "inner allies," or internalized people, in our imagination can help us gain access to protection, nurturance, wisdom and comfort that was otherwise out of our reach. In this video, Dr. May provides a thorough overview of how we can use inner allies as a coping resour...
Using Safe Space Imagery
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If you have a history of trauma, invalidation, and adverse circumstances, you may not have internalized a deep sense of safety. This might be impacting your ability to feel calm, safe, connected, and at ease in your life now. However, it's not too late! In this video, Dr. May thoroughly describes one technique you can practice to retune your nervous system for safety: Safe Space Imagery. You wi...
The SCARF Model of Social Threat & Reward
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Ever wonder why you feel so triggered or threatened in social situations? In this video, Dr. May reviews David Rock's SCARF (Status Certainty Autonomy Relatedness Fairness) model of social threat and reward to help explain why. Toward the end, she offers coping suggestions. Reference: Rock, D. (2008). 'SCARF: A Brain-Based Model for Collaborating With and Influencing Others,' Neuroleadership Jo...
Finding Meaning in Loss
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In this video, Dr. May discusses David Kessler's sixth stage of grief, "Finding Meaning." She provides information about what finding meaning entails and provides several examples of ways that we can find meaning after the death of a loved one. Reference: Kessler, David (2020). Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief. New York: Scribner. *This channel contains videos of Dialectical Behavior T...
Part 3 - Treatment Strategies for Psychogenic Non-Epileptic Seizures (PNES)
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In this video, Dr. May will discuss: The importance of coordinating treatment with a neurologist/epileptologist, psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. Ways to conceptualize and understand PNES and how it occurs. Key elements that can be beneficial in psychotherapy for PNES. Ways to develop a PNES response plan. Treatment outcomes and what influences them. Some excellent websites with more info: ww...
Part 2 - Psychogenic Non-Epileptic Seizures: Making and Presenting the Diagnosis
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Psychogenic non-epileptic seizures (PNES) can be a challenge to diagnose. Many people are mistakenly thought to have epilepsy and therefore given unnecessary (and ineffective) medications and treatments. In this video, Dr. May discusses key diagnostic tools and criteria for differentiating PNES from epilepsy. She reviews some of the main differences between the two conditions. And for professio...
Part 1: Understanding Psychogenic Non-Epileptic Seizures (PNES)
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PNES is a disorder where people experience seizure-like events in the absence of EEG changes in the brain. People with PNES are often misunderstood, misdiagnosed, and mistreated by family, friends, and professionals, so it is important to learn more about the condition and how it can be treated. In this video, Dr. May provides a thorough explanation of seizures, “seizure imitators” (including P...
DBT Expanded Edition - Setting a BOUNDARY
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In this video, Dr. May discusses the BOUNDARY skill, which is designed to increase our awareness of self and other and create boundaries that are comfortable and effective. This channel contains videos of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills, Radically Open DBT skills, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, Attachment Styles, Developmental Trauma Styles, and much more! Please check out the other vide...
DBT Expanded Edition - Use REASON to Update Your Beliefs
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Our beliefs about self, others, and the world developed while we were growing up. They helped us make sense of our world and were adaptive for us at that time. However, we may still be holding onto these beliefs even though they no longer fit our current situation. The REASON skill offers us techniques for mindfully examining our beliefs and updating them where necessary so that we can move for...
DBT Expanded Edition - Bridge Burning: A Skill for Preventing Urges from Becoming Actions
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If you experience a strong urge to do a target behavior, it can only become an action if there is a “bridge” to the people, places, and things you need to make it happen. If you want to decrease the likelihood of acting on a strong urge to do a target behavior, you can “burn bridges” to the people, places, and things you would need to put the urge into action. In this video, Dr. May talks about...
DBT Expanded Edition - How to VALIDATE People
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DBT Expanded Edition - How to VALIDATE People
DBT Expanded Edition - Create a ROUTINE for Calmness & Stability
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DBT Expanded Edition - Create a ROUTINE for Calmness & Stability
DBT Expanded Edition - Get Your Problems SOLVED
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DBT Expanded Edition - Get Your Problems SOLVED
DBT Expanded Edition - Be Flexible & Dialectical with MIDDLE Cs
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DBT Expanded Edition - Be Flexible & Dialectical with MIDDLE Cs
Our Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #5 Pulling
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Our Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #5 Pulling
Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance - #4 Grasping
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Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance - #4 Grasping
Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #3 Reaching
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Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #3 Reaching
02 - Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #2 Pushing
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02 - Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #2 Pushing
Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #1 Yielding
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Our 5 Developmental Movements & Their Psychological Significance: #1 Yielding
05 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Love and Sexuality Style
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05 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Love and Sexuality Style
04 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Autonomy Survival Style
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04 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Autonomy Survival Style
03 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Trust Survival Style
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03 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Trust Survival Style
02 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Attunement Survival Style
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02 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Attunement Survival Style
01 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Connection Survival Style
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01 - Understanding Developmental Trauma - The Connection Survival Style
00 - INTRO to the "Understanding Developmental Trauma: Adaptive Survival Styles" Video Series
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00 - INTRO to the "Understanding Developmental Trauma: Adaptive Survival Styles" Video Series
Thank you! Thank you!
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Good subject but you say the words "right" and "OK" hundreds of times, which spoils your narrative. No need.
I know… I’ve since worked on that but it’s still there in my earlier videos.
Great stuff. Thanks ❤.
Thank you! 🙏
@16:00 finally after 8 loooong videos she gets to an example.
Okay, no need to be rude
Dr. May, you’re changing my life for the better. Thank you. ❤
Awh, glad to hear! Thank you! 🙏
This is all making sense….
I LOVE this. I am a therapist in Florida and your presentations are excellent. Thank you.
Awh, thanks so much! 🙏
great video
Thanks!🙏
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I feel that I had an amazing caregiver with my parents but my dad was bipolar and so he was inconsistent in his reactions to me. He could be very happy and complimentary or more upset and disappointed with me. I feel that I might have kind of anxious ambivalent attachment though...
So happy to have discovered this concept...I did years of regular DBT and it helped, but I've always felt like something had gone a little awry in the whole process...hypercompetence and overcontrol come very easily to me...glad to know there's people talking about this!
Glad to hear! Hope this concept helps!
please do vido for behavior chain on binge eating and drinking too much caffiene, and using alcohol (two separate but can also be related and connected to each other)
There are many different subjects for behavior chain analyses, including the complex issue you describe. The main thing is to learn how to do a behavior chain in general so that you can do one for yourself or your clients about any issue. The specific “chains” that lead up to a behavior are very personal and the alternative skillful behaviors need to feel “right” and be doable. I would suggest that you wait until an actual incident arises and do a detailed behavior chain the next day while the situation is fresh. Write it down step by step and see what you can discover.
This is such an informative video! Thank you so much. I have been the favorite person a few times in my life, and each of those friends had BPD. Now that I understand so much more about people who have this I can steer clear of the signs and symptoms if I ever see it in a new friend. TBH it was extremely disturbing and creepy to be the FP. Ultimately when it got to be too suffocating, I had to leave! Each and every time I ran away from the person they thought I was abandoning them. However, it was really more self preservation for me and an act of self love... the final time it happened, at least I learned to keep my exit strategy as brief and civil with as little emotional drama as possible.
Thank you for sharing your experience as the favorite person. It is an important perspective that others should know about.
Thank you
This is such an informative video! Can you share a link to the BCA template you walked through? I have found several but none that offers space for not only links as well as a place to list alternative options and urge rating. Many of my DBT clients find having a printed resource helpful rather than journaling and tracking that information on their own in "free form." Thank you!
I don’t have a link but if you email me, I can send a file: jenjabmay77@gmail.com
What if some of those needs are not met for a long time??
I bet that creates a lot of suffering… maybe once you identify what those needs are you can start to figure out reasonable and healthy ways to try to meet them now.
Great video!
Thank you 🙏
Exercise definitely decreases my binge eating or potential binge eating
Glad to hear! 👍🏻
Outstanding
Thanks! 🙏
Are don't hurt me responses tied to bpd exclusively?
Actually, no. Believe it or not, RO DBT is not designed for people with BPD. It’s designed for people who are “overcontrolled” rather than “under controlled.” (This is illustrated in many of the other videos I posted.). In general a “don’t hurt me” response is similar to a “fawn” or “submit” survival response which can be seen in humans as well as other species.
@@jennifermayph.d.2761 thanks for replying. I rhjnk as an ocd sufferer who has observed emotional regulation issues, I have a keen interest in dbt and I understand it's helpful fro many, not jusy those with a full bpd diagnosis as it's all a continuum?
@@Franciehatescoffeeicecream absolutely! DBT offers some great skills and concepts which can help a lot of people! 🙂
So people on heart pacers have no heart rate variability _ this explains the personality changes in my loved one adter heart pacer inplant. Puts a person from ventral vagal into survival trauma brain. May u doctors today xperience personally what I have experienced _ I hope u live
I wasn’t aware of that, and I appreciate the info. I’m sorry to hear what your loved one is experiencing. But wishing me and other professionals harm because of your negative experience is not acceptable.
Thank you, this has been very helpful for me
Thank you 🙏
How is 'acceptance' not giving up? And I can't feel self compassion, or anything else, while in pain. You are saying to do two things at once, which are diametrically opposed. This does not make sense.
Can a favourite person be a child?
I suppose so, although it is probably rare. (At least I haven’t had people describe that experience here.)
im an OT so this is all quite interesting to me, on top of my trauma background and anxious ambivalent attachment. i lean hard into ambivalence and hyper independence, whereas I felt that video highlighted more of the anxious root of things that is so difficult for me to relate to for some reason. its so easy for me to disconnect once i shut down. for whatever reason im still able to have healthy friendships, mentorships, great client rapport... its interesting to me that after my 10 years of on and off psychotherapy, i'm only just realizing some of these things. maybe someone else suspected an issue but never asked about it. anyway looking forward to checking more of these videos, potentially buying the book, and trying to incorporate some of the lessons when relevant in my OT practice.
jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez. how many things i didn't realize were related to this attachment issue i'm only just realizing i have. the only things that weren't relevant were the BPD specific things that sort of stuck out.
This is so insightful and put together in a way that can be applied to one's own relationships. It's an abstract concept at first but this was explained and broken down in a logical way that made it so much easier to understand. Thank you 🙏
Thanks so much! 👍🏻
Thank you so much for sharing the actual techniques, Jennifer 🙏🏼 I have found a lot of videos explaining the concepts and principles behind the HeartMath research, but not much about the actual practical application. They typically mention one can use their techniques, but they don’t actually describe them. Your video was super helpful in that regard. One thing I’m still not sure about is how do those monitoring apps and devices they sell help with actually getting into the state of coherence? I get that they indicate whether you’re in it or not (or to what degree), but do they actually help with reaching coherence?
Thanks for your kind note. I guess that the phone apps and equipment are a form of biofeedback. So when you see that you are in coherence, you can see what that feels like and try to do it more.
I see. So the benefit is knowing what coherence experientially feels like. The app doesn’t “do” anything per se to help us reach that state.
@@patmat3608 yes!
These videos are wonderfully generous, Dr May. I deeply thank you, both as a therapist and as a human being.
Thanks so much! Glad to share! 🙏
Thank you so much
You’re welcome! 🙏
Having a mother tell you she loves you and as a child trusting that after the mother just tried to stab you to death is confusing. Living in constant fear and craving to be hugged and loved by the mother at the same time is the worst experience ever. After 45 years of life I am finally understanding this attachment style.
Sorry to hear about your very difficult and traumatic experience. All those mixed messages must be painful and confusing. 😢
My wife had an aneurysm in her frontal lobe as a child had her first seizure at 22 been dealing with them since the last 10 years her EEG have been normal we live in the Memphis area. Is there doctors here to help us please help
If you go to the following link, they have options for virtual therapy for PNES that can be available in states including Tennessee: nonepilepticseizures.com/epilepsy-psychogenic-NES-information-referral-sites.php#vir
This was pure gold. It also seemed to me to be a lot similar to covert/vulnerable narcissists’ behaviour.
Yes, there is some overlap for sure. 👍🏻
Yes, for sure!
I was born with autism, with a reduced affect display and a poor grasp of body language in general. I feel like I'd have to take acting classes to use this correctly/not creep people out, and just keep up a character all the time. That sounds lonelier than being alone.
I understand your concern… any new behavior can feel strange and unnatural at first, as if you’re acting or faking. But if you practice it regularly, it will become a new habit and will feel more natural. Think of a person with an injury learning to walk again or a stroke victim learning to talk again… same idea.
Thank you. We'll explained.
You're welcome 🙏
ok that’s my life so what now
i’m not even in a relationship so i work but the symptoms are still active and it ain’t good for me
Excellent! Thank you!
Thanks 🙏
Excellent. Thank you!
Thank you 🙏
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I feel like my favourite person relationships are almost entirely in my imagination. This includes constant commentary to them throughout the day, imaginary conversations and scenarios where they 'rescue me'. I am very aware of what the person means to me which is why I avoid in person interactions as much as possible. Anyone else experience it like this? I have already tried to reduce intensity as much as possible so it seems I'll be focusing on letting go of the fantasy and getting a life lol. But thank you very much for the moving forward tips- this is the most helpful video I have seen on FP so far!
I can relate to this experience. Whether I had a FP in real life or focused on a celebrity, I let the FP take up a lot of space in my imagination for sure!
Awsome! Thanks!
Thanks! 🙏
Do you know where an LICSW could get proper training to treat people with PNES?
Sorry for the delayed response. If you Google “PNES training course” a few online options come up but I don’t know how good they are. But there are also a few books that offer guidance on treatment protocols, which I cited in my video. And the general treatment skills required aren’t that complicated. So if you have a reasonable degree of clinical experience, you should be able to apply them.
Thank you! @@jennifermayph.d.2761
I don’t know how to work with Shame. Do you know much about avpd (avoidant pd) Apparently all pd’s are mostly development trauma based but there is not much help for avoidance and anxiety to the point of maladaptive .its quite different than just Social anxiety . DBT apparently works with shame , but my emotions are mostly surpressed. I also feel a severe freeze response so maybe somatic work? Thank you for being compassionate in your presentations.
she started all this shit and i wish i had never met her , its a horrible story of 2 broken people trying to get something from the other they dont have, its all just horrible she a BPD and all sorts of other stuff me CPTSD i begged her to block me and she wouldnt so i called her something thats true but she sure didnt like it to get her to block me 107 days NC and i am a mess i been crying for 18 months around this stuff. still crying.
I’m so sorry to hear. I know how painful that can be. ❤️
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thank you! I was looking for something like this but couldn't find the right vocabulary for it.
Glad I could help! 🙏
I’ve been having these for nearly 5 years and no one will help me because I’m not suffering from anxiety and depression, I’ve been called a lier by 2 drs and now I’m just passed around like a toy, I only seem to have them when laid down, the last few months I’ve been having them non stopped through the night that’s lasting 5-6 hours I’m absolutely exhausted and fatigued, I also have 2 heat conditions which it’s affecting giving me chest pains, terrifies me I just don’t know what else I can do to get help
I’m so sorry to hear this. Maybe try looking up a provider on this link. Many offer virtual therapy, so distance won’t be a problem: nonepilepticseizures.com/epilepsy-psychogenic-NES-information-referral-sites.php#vir
Your example feels low-key projection (i.e., slut shaming).
I think you're a great lecturer and I like the straightforward and informative approach. I felt so seen and it almost made me uncomfortable despite being continents and screens away haha. Thank you for the resources and ideas at the end. Most of the time people don't give such guidance. I researched and made my own list, but this allowed me to see what I was missing and gave me some new resources and what to ask to focus on in therapy when I can try therapy again. Very helpful.
Thanks so much! I appreciate your kind words and feedback. 🙏❤️
Dr May are you accepting new patients for sensorimotor?
Thanks for asking. Unfortunately,I just work at a psychiatric hospital at this time and don’t take private patients.
Your patients are lucky to have you. Your knowledge of this information is amazing. I asked because I’ve recently started working with. Sensorimotor therapist and it’s been about 4-5 sessions of talk therapy. They have not been productive. Albeit it’s virtual. I’m not sure if she’s a good fit or sensorimotor is best in person. Not sure how a typical sensorimotor session goes. Any insight?