The Consequence of Hookup Culture
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- Опубліковано 19 бер 2024
- Today, we're discussing the detrimental results that hookup culture has had on our society, and it seems that some women are waking up to this fact.
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Once in high school I went to a friend's house with others. Everyone paired off and went into other rooms. I was left with a boy I knew. He looked at me and said did I want to "do what they were doing"? I said no, he was relieved as he didn't want to have sex until he married. We left, went to his house and watched tv with his family. Afterwards he walked me home. We lost touch after high school but I still remember how he respected me and himself.
What a 😺 dude.
I thought you were going to say you’re married now lol 😭
No, we lost touch after high school.
@@inrisalvatore9520it's called self control, accountability and responsibility. Don't worry some people struggle with the concepts.
@@mancyank564 Call up the FBI and report him as a missing person 😂 , you have to find him
‘It’s just sex’ the biggest lie ever 🤦🏽♀️
YES! EXACTLY!
They gotta find a way to convince themselves it’s okay to do something they KNOW is bad.
Denial isn't just a river in Egypt
Very true!
I've been virgin my whole life before my twenties and just after several occasions with woman i not kinda fully fell in love with, i developed strong emotional ties and after 3 to 6 months of having sex i was like welded shut in terms of love or relationships. And after it was over i was so broken... It is definitely not just sex.
I'm a man an when I was 19 and was starting college I was sharing an apartment with a woman ex-friend of mine (she was just a friend, really) and one day her girl friends went to our apartment to dine and drink and have some fun. I was at my room, I wasn't socializing because I didn't feel like it and they were not my friends, anyway, but I could hear almost everything they were talking, even with my door closed.
Turns out one of these girls was still a virgin, and they were pressuring her to lose her virginity. They even said stuff like "He is in his room, go there and do it with him", offering me like a piece of meat.
Then I went out of my room to get some water and when I passed by them I told her "You don't listen to them, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, I'm a virgin myself. So you lose your virginity with a man you believe is worthy of you if that's what you want, but don't fall for their pressure".
Man, those girls went silent real quick
Those people (both men and women) who treat sex as just another "casual" or "fun" process should become PStars. I only feel comfortable sleeping with a girl if she's going to be my future wife. Why would I want to sleep with a girl if she's not going to be my wife?
Man of honor and self respect. I'm not religious and even I only believe in sex after marriage.
Respect, bro. You're a noble one
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That’s statement would’ve gotten me to get to know u better lol
When you sleep with someone you create a bond and the more bonds you create, the less meaning these bonds have.
Not only that, it's not only about the bonds which are _formed_ by that. It's also about the ability to pair-bond and emotional connection, which gets destroyed by going on.
Also, it's a spiritual tie of souls, which is formed every time it happens - and the *demons* who are incorporated by doing so. _You literally overtake a part of your soul's lover._
@@Smartcom5 Yes, thank you. I wanted to say that. Also, you cannot simply split that connection again. So imagine yourself with several invisible strings attached moving through life.
@@Smartcom5 Those bonds are like horcruxes. They contain a small part of your soul. You won't realise it initially but you will after some time
the impact goes deeper, both on psychological and spiritual level
@@Smartcom5 ahh similar to what i came here for saying
Here's a bizarre idea. But hear me out.
Only sleep with people who you'd be fine with them being the mother or father to your child.
It's super weird, I know, but it's worth a try.
Oh my gosh! That's the strangest idea I've ever heard of! *sarcasm*
aka be married first
That has been my sex advice to the younger generation. They don't listen to the "wait until marriage" advice, so instead I advise them to be deliberate with who they sleep with.
A few other rules I advise adding is that you make sure you like them for the pleasure of their company because that makes the time after the deed less awkward. And make sure that drugs and alcohol are not factoring into the first few encounters you both have. Sex should be a deliberate choice that both sides choose to do without any inebriated factors. And befriending them first mitigates the intensity of the breakup, sometimes it may even allow for a clean break without any drama.
What if I were to say my boomer father did it to one woman, left, did it again, and is about to leave again, & is now offering me advice to which *he* thinks what worked for him could work for me?
@@SeemsLogical No to that last sentence. Getting closer to someone before you sleep with them does NOT make a breakup easier. It's still vitally necessary to know the person you bang, but it WILL hurt more the more you know them.
If you are compulsively engaging in hookup culture you have NOT taken control of your sexuality, Your sexuality has taken control of you. That is for both men and women.
If you are pursuing marriage it means you are a possessive tool.
Well-said, Timothy! 👏
Majority of men never experienced hookup culture.
this
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The “Y’all have pre-nut clarity” got me 😂
And they STILL engage in it 😂😂😂
Never, ever nut.
@@sdm_zapre nut delusion
@@namespaced4437 Ah, another based DuPont enjoyer, I see
i love the word and mind games...
"take control of your sexuality" has become synonymous with "sleep around with bunch of random strangers"?
what is the control there exactly?
if someone says "take control of the car" i'm sure they don't mean "crash it into as many things along the way as possible"...
also, i'm still trying to figure out the "empowering" part... is that like "you'll hate yourself so much it will empower you to seek improvement"? is that some gotcha thing like "get up after falling down"? whaaaa...?
LMFAO nailed it
“I control my alcoholism by drinking every night”
Haha 😂very true
No matter how you look at it, casual sex reflects LOW standards.
No, it actually reflects a standard other than slavery, which is a good thing.
Marriage is just sexual slavery.
Only the most lowlife possessive people want that.
And low self-respect
For both parties.
Exactly!
"But he's so cute"
The thought of sleeping with someone I don't love makes my skin crawl. 🤢
This
same
You look like a typical hookup girl.
when on a date with a girl from a dating app she was genually angry that i didnt want to go back to her place.
That is because it truly is the best with someone you love where you are valued, cherished and respected. I only have a good view of sex because I waited for my hubby and he made sure to learn my body and we express love and intimacy which is all I know in my life and I am so grateful for that because I have a healthy sex life and view of intimacy.
I recently broke up with my boyfriend.. I started down this path of hookup culture. I almost felt an anxiety attack coming up. I dont like this doing but to me, it feels my only way to NOT be lonely. Im so sad, and lack connection.. hooking up feels like the only way for someone to love me since moving in with my toxic house.
I think im going to stop hooking up.. its making me feel worse. Ill just go to therapy. Thank you Brett. I needed this.
I'm sure you can find a good man who would be willing to love you. It might take you putting yourself out there more, and putting in effort into guys that may not reflect the same feelings back to you. Not sure what your life is like, where you live, what you do, but sounds like you need therapy if hooking up is what brings you that connection. You seem mature enough to realize this which is good, try asking guys out rather than trying to get asked out. Look for men who might be more introverted too
Ew
Jesus is the only answer to that emptiness within you. I say this as a former pagan idolator, then an atheist, then a satanist, and finally a Christian. Nothing in this whole world satisfies like Jesus. He has given me an overflowing joy that is impossible to contain.
They don't love you though. You're lying to yourself if you think that. You're the same as a dirty old gym sock he can shoot into. Just go on actual dates and don't put out. Idk why you girls act like men are the gatekeepers of this stuff. Do you actually believe it or is it a lie you tell to keep sleeping around without accepting blame?
I think a lot of people feel lonely and do this because of loneliness, but it's definitely better to not get involved in this hook up culture because it destroys your ability to truly fall in love and feel connected to someone because you have to become numb to your own hormones that your body releases when you have sex, which are actually there to make you feel connected to that person. You become numb because you would eventually realize that no one truly is connected with you and they just come and go. That's not what you want when you're lonely, you would become more lonely. Therapy is definitely a good idea, look for hobbies that don't involve the hook up culture, maybe you will find true friends and maybe even true love. Wait till you know that person for sure, before you sleep with them. I wish you the best of luck.
Hookup culture literally kills your soul slowly, and trying to find a real relationship in a cesspool of “friends with benefits” and dating app hookups is honestly so disheartening. I’m so glad I made it through the dating scene and found someone great. I feel like I got the last chopper out of ‘nam.
My soul was already corrupted from porn before I had sex.
this, i literally cant find a guy on dating apps who want something serious
It's also a health risk. I mean you can literally catch STDs, I don't know how people don't realize that
Hmm you can use condoms.. sleeping around doesnt give you stds if you use protection. I just don't get the whole uncomfrable thing sleeping with stranger is more apealing then having a serious relationship
Wow it’s almost like being naked in front of someone and performing what is the most intimate thing you can do with someone else, *needs* a foundation of trust, attraction and genuine feelings
This!!!! Wish I could like this comment multiple times.
its not the most intimate because you can sex with anybody but showing your love and affection cannot be faked. Sex is not dependent upon who your with or who you are and it can happen between anybody however actually loving a person and trusting them and showing your affections cannot be replicated. Sex is a pleasure but its not the main event of all relationships its more like a nice bonus
@@ashtonbeckett5596 That's true, but sex is still the most intimate single act. As in, the way to give the most intimacy within a set amount of time is sex. It's really important to not give sex away because then your future partner and more importantly you own mind won't value sexual intimacy
Only missing the camera
Next our society will (re)discover the idea of relationships.
That feeling of disgust is called a conscience. It's telling you that something is immoral and wrong
Exactly, commented similar before seeing this. This country is not discovering any “new” problems. We’re just societally rejecting the Biblical truths, then having the hubris to think we’re “good,” and wondering “Hmm, how is this going wrong? Surely it’s not this thing my conscience is warning me about.”
Gods moral law written on our hearts.
lost lambs
Deeper than that…
Most people feel zero of it, its pure moralism.
Hookup culture has destroyed my generation (gen z) here in Spain. Im the ONLY person in my friend group that has never had any sexual relationship or hookup, im the oldest of the group with 17yrs. The friends that im talking abt are around 15-16 yrs old and it's just fucking sad. Not to mention they change partner so often im amazed. And the worst thing is, is that when one of them found out i was virgin they kind of made fun of me bcs i wasn't the same. Since when was it normal to be just a teenager without having sex or hookup? We are cooked 😕
Don't you worry about it. You are NOT missing out on anything. Your friends are getting infected with countless asymptomatic STDs without realizing it and they're going through poor relationships. There's a reason their relationships don't last in hookup culture. Nobody takes responsibility and it shows.
Please do not fall prey to hookup culture! Don't feel pressured to do anything like that! You aren't missing out on anything. Building a relationship with someone is much more satisfying than temporary pleasure with a stranger. Once your friends find out that most people look down on what they do, they will realise what a joke their opinions are
@@ji-wonseong1623 yeah im conscious about it, heck I rlly don't care about losing my virginity at such a young age, I recently found out that the same friend that made fun of me for being a virgin, she had filmed a "sex tape" with a one night stand, she found it funny, on the other hand I didn't, the only thing I that was in my mind was how dumb do u have to be to let someone fucking film u in moment like that. Seriously we are DOOMED and I'm not kidding:(
@@judas6726 exactly, our teenage years are not to spend them hooking up with a dozen of ppl, the opposite, it's to make deep connections and form long term bonds.
There are 2 types of couple relationships:
-You have a healthy relationship in which it's defined by pure romantic love and not defined sexual pleasure
- And then u have what I call junk food relationship, in which u just want to feel quick pleasure via hooking up, it's like junk food bcs when u eat a burger you have a quick hit of cheap dopamine, the same goes with hooking up.
And once they stop (if they ever) then they will never ever feel neither how to form a good relationship bcs they are so used to hooking up that it just all feels the same.
I hope you understood it, I'm not really good with English :D
Try to get anew circle of friends. There are more people like you that you think
I work in a place where people pass themselves around, it's so normalized that I get approached constantly.
They don't bother to ask if I'm single, they just jump into attempting to flirt and hook-up!
I'm married.
My husband hates when he can't look out for me.
He is working so hard to get me out of there. We have dreams of my being a housewife and mother.
Millennial here. Married young, waited until marriage, now stay home and raise our 4 babies. Cannot believe how much I love this life.
Wish you and your loved ones the best 😊
Same millennial married 22 only been with husband 2 kids don’t regret a thing
God bless you and your family. I wish I had a life like yours. Actually, I think that's my biggest dream 🥲
Statistically couples with only 1:1 sexual partners in life have the absolute highest amounts of marital satisfaction & stability, joy & appreciation, gratefulness, thankfulness, and contentedness for their partners. In the long term 50+ years of marital fulfillment is > wasting time & energy for temporary meaningless dopamine that leads you to feeling emptiness, being used by men who only love your flesh instead of loving your spirit & soul.
The Father of Lies targets the youngest minds to deceive the most, 13 - 19 year old's just getting to know the world & who should probably wait until adulthood at 20 before deciding if they want to engage in pre-marital sexual intimacy or wait to share it all with their future spouse.
Also millennial. Married at 20 and have 3 kids 17 years later.
We’ve only been with each other. I can’t fathom being intimate with anyone else.
Am I the only one who is actually afraid of STDs?? That was always my first concern that kept me away from hookup culture. Nobody mentions that, like if it was nothing.
Because it is nothing,the risk is really low.
@@inrisalvatore9520it’s not as low as you think. Whenever you have sex with a person who has slept with other people, it’s like you’ve also had sex with everyone else they’ve hooked up with. Whatever was introduced to their body by those other people is now introduced to yours, particularly STDs.
@@kait2625 this is weird, because I know many people with huge body counts that never got any STD. I guess the risk can be higher or lower depending on the type of people you are sleeping with.
Right?? I don’t want to even remotely risk that
@@littledrummergirl_19 if you get married, the risk woul still be there.
Saying that casual sex teaches you what you want in a relationship is like saying that riding a bike teaches you how to fly an airplane
I just had this conversation yesterday, me and some friends went snowboarding and on the way back home, we were all talking about what we were looking for in a relationship (we’re all single). But we had so many issues with potential partners because values are non existent now. At the end of the conversation, we just asked ourselves if it was truly hard for women to stay loyal to one person.
As for me? I’m not sleeping around with anyone because I know that whoever I marry will have a character that wouldn’t appreciate me sleeping around. I’m staying loyal while I’m single for my future wife.
Same just want to wait til marriage and be with my future wife 21m
Yeah.. It’s hard for anyone to stay loyal, Especially these days. It’s a commitment that character makes.
God Bless you brother. Hebrews 11:6
Being intimate with someone should never be something you dread or regret
Being intimate should never be a casual thing
You should look forward to being close to someone ❤
Her: If I tell him no, he won't like me.
Me: He doesn't like you already. He just wants to use your body. Please set aside your pride and your desperation. Newsflash, your knight in shining armor is some guy you think is unworthy, because you compare him to the hot guy who doesn't like you enough to ever marry you. Would you put up with a fake friend who only acts like your friend because you give them something? Maybe it's free alcohol, or free food, or you let them borrow your car, or get them invited to the best parties? No. You wouldn't. So why do you put up with fake men who just want sex from you?
If you are in a situationship, the man is just using you for sex. Your pride, and ego won't let you accept that truth, and you worry you can't get another guy that hot. True, you won't get a guy that hot because you are never going to get a guy that hot. That's why you are in a situationship. You think because a man has sex with you or takes you on dates, he might eventually marry you. That makes you no different than the male orbiters who hang around doing favors for a girl, hoping she will realize what a great guy he is, and give him a chance.
Now, to the few women who think, "But I'm hot, and know I'm hot, so why am I in a situationship." Easy. Hookup culture makes it such that the men you should be marrying, have zero interest in marriage. They are winning at hookup culture. Not you. They either have a rotation of women, or they just go from one woman to the next, always exiting the relationship when it gets real.
The answer is still the same. You gave away your power. It wasn't taken from you. You gave it up. Your power was in the word NO. Saying no to every man until he put a gold band on your left ring finger.
If he’s not willing to wait for marriage, then he’s not a man
Intimacy isn't just sexual.... Intimacy is relationship.... no one seems to get that fact anymore.
The filmmakers who grew up having casual sex in the 60’s are trying to convince everyone else that it is a good thing via their movies and shows.
Same with the politicians, like trump. Stormy Daniels anyone?
@@wekurtz72 I mean she doesn't regret that one. He does.
You are so wrong. Think harder, don’t hurt yourself. It’s the internet.
80s-90s*
Money also talks, sex sells
dude even as a man i feel similar, hooking up with a kinda stranger feels disgusting. but the demand in society for hookup culture is crazy and I am feeling forced to do it. ppl act like no1 wants relationships anymore.
I feel this heavy. I’ve put myself in extremely anxious situations just because I wanted to check that box.
Who's telling you to have sex? Lol
Same, dude. I never felt it even interesting to start a sexual relationship grounded on nothing. Why commit like that for something fleeting.
This... I see this alot on dating apps hookup culture just seem Plain boring af... You are like robots.
I fell prey to hookup culture while I was in college, and absolutely came to regret it. Yes, it resulted in me having my son who I would not trade for the whole world, but he's a single ray of sunshine amidst a sea of regrets.
God bless him, and teach your son not to partake in the culture that is so damaging, yet so popular. I probably don't need to remind you. You've probably already taught him or are planning on teaching him when he comes of age.
Never heard it put like this. May God Bless you sister. Hebrews 11:6. Yknow, the love you have for your son isn’t even comparable to the Love God The Father has for you. Ask Jesus to come into your life and He will :) just like he did me :))))))
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It’s insane that adults are telling CHILDREN that they should have casual sex.
Teens just like all other children have no business around anything sexual, and yet here are these adults instructing kids to do this.
That’s grooming, plain and simple.
Remember when teen magazines were about fashion, friendships, how to cram for tests, talk to boys, get along better with peers in school, coping with bullying, etc...
Pepperidge Farm remembers..😭😭😭
And yet here we are, marrying of 16 year old.
@@Justkelseyagain who does that?
We’re not in the Middle East.
Damn Peppridge Farm sounds so good right now D: some confetti vanilla cake@@enigmaticallis3110
@tell-me-a-story- sadly child marriage is legal in many states in the US😢
I’m an old man (51) and father to two adult daughters and two adolescent daughters. The “hookup” culture bothers me to my core. I have tried my best to teach all the girls to have self-respect above all else. Thank you, Brett, for doing a Comments Section on the topic. I am going to share this with my girls 👍🏼😎
condolences on the ♀
Pray for this man
Good father
Tell your daughters that you love them and show your love often. Because a shit guy will lie to them that he loves her and she will believe him otherwise.
@@genshinsage Thank you. We are definitely an, “I love you” family.
I don't understand how people can have sex without first being in love with each other. I just feel that online dating and hookup culture has turned the whole thing into a transaction. Its awful. My young adult sons feel the same way and refuse to participate in it but many of the women they know (educated women often from wealthy backgrounds) just seem to treat dating like a game of picking through a rack of clothes trying things on and disposing of them in rapid succession.
west is paying for its sins, it will fall permanently
I’m a male/24yo virgin (europe) and I really don’t like the idea of casual sex.
The red pill space keeps telling me to get a high body count »cuz that’s want woman are looking for in a man«, but I‘m in a very healthy mental space and don’t need to ruin that by sleeping around with girl’s I will never see again.
I‘d rather be on my grind and search for a true, meaningful relationship.
I‘m not bad looking and quite fit, I’m not afraid to stay single forever.
I’ve have a rule of not having sex the first 3 months and holy crap, it saved me from so much trouble - cuz girls will lie to you to get you in bed with them, but they can’t keep lying for more then a few weeks and eventually you’ll get the truth out of them.
I just wonder if there are any good woman left…
The "redpill" space got hijacked by pick up artists. Don't listen to them. True "redpill" tells you to work on yourself and the right woman will notice and follow along. Check out BetterBachelor for one of the few uncorrupted redpill guys.
It's not every woman that is looking for a man who has a high body count, I don't see the appeal in a man who has no sexual discipline and my friends agree.
You raise a very good point about the Red Pill...They don't understand that the reason why Feminism gained so much power was because a lot of men wanted easy sex, 'pump and dump'...So when Women got tired of that, they made feminism, then came up with "Hey, if we choose when to do the bouncy bouncy, we have power!"...Then did it for everyone, and now the Red Pill is doing the same idea by being like "Polygamy for me, monogamy for you!" to women. It's INSANE.
@@Commanderhurtz1 Feminism clearly wasn't started because of horny men who wanted a pump and dump lifestyle, especially in the early 20th century when sexual morality was taken very seriously. It was founded by women who clearly wanted more voting power and other miniscule things (whether it was good or not is debatable). Of course, feminism became more insane with its 'second wave', where it coincided with the Sexual revolution. Women of those movements wanted loose moral standards ("sexual liberation") and now it has come back to bite their backsides decades down the line.
@@Commanderhurtz1 Also only a subset of the red pill movement encourages promiscuous sex.
Thanks for the mention Brett! We gotta get ya on the show! :)
Whatever......whatever 😂
I would watch the whole podcast for once.
100
YES please
Brett on the whatever podcast, that would be amazing!!!!!
Yes, casual sex is harmful, it's the same thing with an open relationship, in fact I don't even know if this can be called a relationship, in reality it's all an illusion.
That’s what they resort to. They can’t pair bond, that must work for them
I know people in an open relationship, and I agree. It’s just their way of avoiding divorce by letting each other sleep with other people rather than just admitting the reality that they should never have gotten married in the first place and it isn’t and never will work out.
I’m not an advocate for divorce, but it is sometimes necessary. And don’t stay together ‘for the sake of the child’. Sometimes that’s actually doing more harm than good to the child.
The only harmful thing is caused by bigots who judge.
That's the source of the 'shame,' is other people judging.
Stop judging people and it all becomes fine.
There's more freedom.
@@rievaulxlucienne1176no because I do things everyday that I know is right and people disagree with it. Doesn’t bother me at all. People who need validation and for people to “not judge” know what they are doing isn’t right and hate being reminded.
I'm 50 (yeah, an old geezer) but when I was younger, I refrained from that culture because I didn't want to create a memory or association with someone who I might not want to create a memory or remember with sour feelings in the future.
I remember reading about $ex, corn, and self-pleasure in teen vogue in the early 2000's as a middle-schooler and was wondering what was wrong with me. Why, when all of my friends were "active" and the magazines were saying it was so "healthy" for us, why wasn't I partaking in it too? Now I am so glad I didn't and I saved myself for my husband, but I genuinely thought there was something wrong with me, or that I was "missing out". Its soooo backwards and repugnant how grown adults working in TV and media are pushing teens and preteens to be $exually active. Absolutely disgusting how they make kids feel alienated if they aren't falling in line with that ideology. Abhorrent.
It is abhorrent and crazy, just insane. Though at the end of the day, everyone has a choice ... A conscious choice to make, about partaking or leaving it alone.
_“... but everybody does it?!”_ is the single-most moronic argument. Just because hundreds of millions of people are stupid enough to take drugs, I don't have too.
_»My body, my choice«_ .. am I right? Yet somehow that only applies when it comes to killing another life.
It's called grooming, few days ago I realized we were groomed by evil adults, and even now they are still OBSSESED with genz "sexual life" and why we're not as "active" as them our why we choose celibacy (most unintentionally) idk if they don't have a hobby or are just coping but is bizarre and creepy.
So the media lied to you. Who knew?
Im a 18 yo guy... i still think smt is wrong wt me... idc ab sex just want to be loved ffs😢
Shows you what this is world really about doesn't it? It's not the illusion most have been fed
I'm 15 and in high school, people already have a body count. I find that very sad and feel like in a world of hookup culture, I haven't even kissed a guy. I am a Christian teenager, which, like I said, is very hard in a hookup culture and casual sex. I am waiting until marriage and have decided ever since this problem has came up on my fyp.
Don’t make life decisions based on what you see on your “fyp”. Make them because you think for yourself. Otherwise, I agree
Waiting until marriage is a huge mistake.
You don't have to go all the way to the other extreme.
You're going to marry some guy who you think is just super amazing because he is waiting too, and then you'll find out on your honeymoon that there is a reason he didn't have sex with you, because he's homosexual.
Regret is hard to live with.
@@rievaulxlucienne1176nah what?!?! your saying the only reason people don't have sex before marriage is because their homosexual???????
Are you okay? 😔
That dog food transition was smooth AF.
When i was 16, someone who I talked with in Instagram for like 2 weeks suddenly said he'll be coming over to my school in 30 minutes. That day I was SA, and since then I haven't been able to get into a proper relationship as I feared being pressured or forced to do things I don't want to do. I'm 22 years old now, and this video is so relatable. I felt dread and had a panic attack when I got his text, I was really young and wasn't sure what to do and convinced myself that it will be okay, but it wasn't.
Jesus, that's horrible. I don't even know how you can recover from that. I hope you're doing okay now.
Every girl I know that hooks up with strangers regret it. I rarely meet women that are genuinely okay with their no string attached past.
Same with men
men are absolutely okay with sleeping around, they do not need to invest marriage they can have access to any woman, not ideal but farrr less damaging than it is to women@@amayaberstein
Most prefer to have a 304 phase.
I met a girl that hooks up, she was very emotionally immature, dense, and lacked accountability, everything was the man’s fault and then she’d end up crying. I’m in college so she was my roommate’s friend but I disliked her from the very first time we met. I tried getting her on track, went to the gym, heathy food tips but you can’t take a girl off the streets it that’s her home. I’m glad my roommate and her are no longer friends. Couldn’t have one conversation without talking about sex.
@@amayaberstein Meet Chad.
I just had a shower thought... maybe the reason people are increasingly more hesitant to get married these days is because they're looking for good people, and people are not as good anymore.
Most women have insane standards (Most guys are 5'9 and under) and most men are porn addicted and overweight.
They're hard to find, but there are good people still.
Personally, I don't think its any single factor. As societies become more modern and industrialized, marriage rates decline. As they become wealthier marriage goes down. I'm sure a decline in religion is a factor (since marriage holds special significance in some religions).
Agreed
It's closer to women are *not* looking for good men to marry. They think 6'6 Chaddeus Vladimir Thunderschlong III is the ideal man and all they have to do is beat the other thousand women chasing him and he will be loyal to her ageing poonyeeti once she tames the bad boy.
Good men are everywhere and they're checking out everywhere. The rest are looking the game and realising they need to dispense with the good man bit otherwise they're staring at isolation from women until they're 35 and ready to settle.
I love when people who engage in hookup culture try to tell me porn is bad.
Meaningless sex is worse for a multitude of reasons more than porn ever is or will be.
One of the biggest being the fact that you keep yourself away from STDs.
And UTIs as well.
Both are bad, but yes, I agree.
@@roul4842 oh most certainly, but I think it would be kind of like the lesser of two evils
Oh yeah, how could videos were rotunely girls get abused and raped, when not outright trafficked be bad? How could men orgasming (the most powerful brain rewiring activity) to sexual violence be bad?
I read a paper in a social and cognitive psychology journal that women find it difficult to pair bond and fall in love later on in life because they are used to receiving validation from multiple men. Moreover, they become emotionally dead and having low esteem, akin to a narcissist, which leads them to become serial cheaters to seek out validation and attention because validation from their partner is not enough. As countless psychologists say, Always listen to your gut; it is the body's warning system, and it is always right.
You just described all decent looking women. Good job, now let society burn.
It's not gut or whatever. It's God who has written His law on people's hearts. It is a moral sensor.
@@monkaZETTA La dee da
I agree and dating apps and social media allows this. Women, regardless of what they offer, think the grass is always greener and are looking for something better. Men, who only want to hook up tell them they are princesses and they believe it. Yet they can have children with multiple men, terrible mothers and this makes them think they deserve someone in the one percentile.
Thank you Holy Spirit. John 16:8
I don’t understand casual sex. Why? Why not just say no? If there’s dread why do it? And a guy trying to convince you it’ll be fun, is only thinking of himself. Sex is not casual. Ever!
Yeah, if your feeling dread or anything like that before its like Brett said, that's a sign of your body trying to tell you that its wrong.
Some people do it because they feel alone or feel like it's no big deal because they haven't been taught otherwise
I have felt that before with an ex who I almost gave it up to he was trying to get me to just do it right then and there a sense of dread and disgust went over me and I said I’m not ready and he was insisting I subconsciously panicked because what if he tried to assault me? God was there even before I knew Him because after that night I went home and never wanted to see him again. A couple years later I met my husband and the vibe was so different he was safe and dependable he respected me from day one and never asked for the deed I was able to trust him and was willing on my own accord. Although as a Christian I should have waited til my wedding night (he said he would have waited too) I knew I won the lottery, we will be married 8 years next month ❤
Because people are horny and lonely and it sucks living years on end, decades even, untouched wondering if you'll ever meet a suitable companion.
@@thestorybehindthat5236 maybe it’s immaturity. There’s a lot more to sex than “being horny.” Let me guess. You’re Gen Z? The highest casual sex in history is with Gen a. You don’t respect yourself enough. Also maybe you need to show some restraint. You could learn from that!
As a woman in my 20's I'll be dead honest I've never understood hookup culture. I never understood what the appeal is and why people even want to do it at all and that Tweet's responses as well as this video just proves it. Even as a teenager when I learned about it, I never understood why do people want to even do it in the first place? To me sex is sacred and beautiful and should be done with someone you love.
Fully agree
They have let lust take over them, instead of love.
Smart woman
Weak minds are easy to mold
200 IQ
Its absolutely disgusting to me that so many people are relating to this. I've tried to enter this hookup culture, but this feeling stopped me immediately. I went away to the right path, marriage. And I've never been happier.
Hookup culture will follow you and haunt you until the day you die. You can not just delete someone being inside you, or you being inside someone else. We are not animals, we must control our most intimate act at the very least.
Your videos are the ONLY ones where I actually watch the ad, phenomenal as usual! Love it
Hookup Culture is very damaging for women, and they often don’t realize it until it’s too late.
I don’t recommend it for men either.
STIs and broken pair bonding is real. Alot of the red pill guys try to pretend pair bonding is only a female problem with hookups but it effects men too. Both sexes just look at each other like a piece of meat when pair bonding is gone
They do realize. That's exactly what the video is about.
Peer Review shows regret doesn't affect women's future actions. In other words, they will just keep making the same mistake -- what they know was a mistake -- for [reasons].
The Function of Casual Sex Action and Inaction Regret: A Longitudinal Investigation
Leif Edward Ottesen Kennair
It’s degrading for males especially.
My buddy who is known to be a street community dick provider has yet and probably won’t ever find a real women who loves and cares for him… because of how easy he is and how many women can rate his dick lmao it’s kinda sad to watch as he is one of my best friends.. the whole friend group have their husband and wife’s some with kids, I have my fine asss hobby who I love w a passion and it’s just sad seeing how hard it is for my buddy to find a girl and a good stable future with a high body count and bad rep that he has…..
But it’s even odder for me to say when you don’t really hear people say how hard is it for males to find love. And how badly they end up when giving out their body, dick to anything and anyone.
If they feel dread before hooking up why do they do it then?
Probably because so many people are just miserable all the time in general and accept it as normal.
Social pressure and the belief that it’s ok for women to do. All women are hurt by it but worst can’t admit it because society and feminists are always trying to tell women to act like men and behave like them.
It's attention, even if it's fake. Some people are super lonely (even if they are with people) and need that validation that they are wanted. I've known people like this, it's all about their parents.
It’s an addiction. They know it’s bad for them, but they feel trapped. It’s extremely hard to get out of that mindset
why do people keep smoking cigs or do coke or whatnot even though they feel dread or doesn't taste good and etc... exactly.
Brett's a pro at the ad transitions
Need more people like you speaking out in our society
My husband and I waited until we were married to have sex. Yeah, we were pretty awkward on our honeymoon but it’s the learning together that made it so magical. The longer we’ve been married, the better it gets. I wish more people could experience this! They’d leave hook-up culture in the dust!
YES! People are ashamed of the early stages of awkwardness and learning as if it was something to quickly get over and leave behind, as if sex was a mechanical skillset it's embarrassing not to have. And it's so much more!! It's about learning the other person in the most intimate and wonderful way, and growing together, and building something beautiful together, and having something absolutely unique with the person you love and trust fully. It's amazing having your first times together and having that be a building block within the whole relationship - rather than a traumatising, shameful, sad stepping stone to getting effective at using people.
Yes, it's awkward at first because you have learned to resist it for so long and you scared you wnt satisfy your partner or your awkward about your body but l dnt think it should be pressured on the wedding night, like kiss and hold each other and do something fun like watching a movie or board game or massage or whatever(if you still have energy,or have nervous energy) and when you start laughing and having fun and the feelings start coming up then give in to them and that will be a good start ,if it's not great at first ,just keep doing it and try different positions, different places let yourself go and give into it completely ect it does get better, and as you start to learn what you partner likes and you can say l like it when you do x y z instead of this or the other and it's awesome knowing they all yours and and being inintimate with them after waiting is just awesome they will know your body and you will know theirs ,it's the best, just thinking about ever being single one day( hopefully never, hope me and my husband lve long good lives together ) and being intimate with someone else is panic material for sure.
@traceynelson2170 that's great advice actually, thanks. I'm getting married on August 10th this year and my fiance and I are waiting till marriage.
Amen!
@@annymartens5786 that’s amazing you’re waiting! It truly is a wonderful experience to wait together since it builds trust and confidence in your future spouse’s self control. That trust has carried into our marriage making it easier for one of us to wait even if we’re “in the mood” but the other one isn’t. My one piece of advice about waiting: don’t force s*x on your wedding night. Just go with the flow. We didn’t end up “doing it” until our second night together because we were both so tired, lol. And when you DO do it, take it slow. Hop in the shower together, snuggle, touch, kiss, just do whatever makes you feel relaxed and enjoy each sensation. It’s a wonderful, wonderful experience. I’m so excited for you! ❤️
It's like women are slowly rediscovering the reasons that rules around sexually used to be a thing. 😂
There is a reason for those rules, that's what they are rediscovering
It's just out of the _blue_ here, but .. _As if this crimson capsule incorporated something noteworthy to life after, like some bits worth of standing for, taking notes and all that ..._
Keep your rules to yourself damn
@@chuusenberg519 Triggered, sweetheart?! 😅
@@Smartcom5 no mami
Brett that is one of the best transitions from content to commercial I have seen on your podcast. 💯
One of the best podcast subjects I have seen on the internet period. I am not surprised that you Brett Cooper is the influencer that created and posted this. Keep up the great work.💯
A huge key to strength is listening. Listening to your body. Listening to good advice. Listening to support.
You gotta listen to yourself if you wanna get better.
Married a virgin as a virgin!! Couldn’t be happier!!
Same! Though we aren’t married yet. So glad w both waited to have each other
♥♥♥ Both of you are unicorns in 2024
Same. It's possible, people.
@@TheKnellBellepossible is meaningless, probably is all that matters.
@The_Ace.Huh
My refusal to have sex outside of marriage is the reason I have not had sex yet, because I have yet to get married. It is also the reason many men lose interest in me and I am unlucky in dating.
Probably has more to do with your weight.
Two things:
1) Do not be discouraged, stick to your principles. The right one will come along.
2) There's a cost to living by your principles and the cost is there might not even be a right one. You need to make peace with that fact or reevaluate your principles.
But at the and of the day…you can still look into your own eyes in the mirror, knowing you‘ve stayed true to yourself! 💛
Hang in there! It is worth it! And ignore our rude friend here, @rievaulxluciene1176 has been commenting garbage under just about every post saying the same thing you are, they think it's impossible for a man to respect that decision or make that decision for themselves unless they're gay😂.
Honest question. If you withhold sexually, are you still sensual with the guys you are trying to date?
It's a fair (and wise) point to be cautious with sex, but you still need to evoke some sort of attraction or intimate feelings in a guy.
Sexuality and Sensuality can be different things, and provide intimacy in different ways. Men typically get into romantic relationships for that intimate aspect of it. It's not only just the physical parts men are after. There's alone time to help scratch that itch. 😅
The relationship needs attraction at least. Without it, it's likely a waste of time and guys leave.
Psych hacks has a good video on why sensuality is important if you're not prepared to move things sexually.
Incredibly well said, thank you so much for speaking so clearly about this
Every time you deny those deep inner personal feelings, you destroy your soul piece by piece!!
The maker and designer of the universe told us not to do this.... I think many are starting to understand why.
For real. As a teenager I thought sins were just rules to control me. When I became an adult I realized those sins are sins because they are detrimental to our life, causing death. Repenting of sins makes your life better, frees you, and leads to life.
Not really. Some are waking up, but most are still in denial
Yes, when a parent tells a small child not to touch the hot stove it's not because they are stopping that child from having fun or eating or ever cooking it's to protect. Same thing for all God given laws they are there to guide and protect all of us in living our best lives.
@@Miluielle
And our best eternity.
Depends on the part of globe you live - at least half the other "maker of the universe" didn't say that.
I'll never ever forget once when I was in college a friend of mine called me and another friend like "hey, come to this bar, a friend of mine is loaded in cash and she's buying us drinks" and there we go instantly to that bar.
Well, turns out, it was the girl's birthday and she was intentionally getting drunker and drunker... and I remember at some moment she started "empoweredly" talking about a guy who was her friend-with-benefits (well, she was his booty call), and complaining about how he didn't realize her value, break up with his girlfriend and have a relationship with her instead. At the end of the night, she was so drunk her girlfriends called it a night and took her out of the bar, I tried to help, the girl was a mess, and started puking on the street, stumbling and falling on the sidewalk... I even ended up carrying her inside the cab. A mess... The "confident" and "empowered" girl showed her low self-esteem, fragility and the fcked up mess she was in. It was so sad I stopped asking for drinks to her expense at the middle of the evening
This was an excellent episode, Brett! I just love you!
So glad this content exists, thank you🙏
She's lying.
I did woke up and it’s very painful …. I was acting from a place of non love to my self…. I was looking for cheap empty validation and I regret it.. I am ashamed of it, I feel almost sorry for my past self and poor choices….
I'm right there with you. I don't have the greatest past and was involved with hook up in my 20's. I've been completely celibate for 4 years now.
I don't date cos I don't think any right man would accept me with my past. That's me taking accountability and knowing that I f*_ked up.
Don't do it ladies, please have strong morals and boundaries.
I agree. This was me for 4 years as a minor.. I deeply regret it and wish I could take it back and never have done any of it. A 17 year old when I was 13 r*ped me in his garage while playing “hide & seek” with his siblings. He manipulated me into thinking it was okay & we began dating & it just got worse from there on. After this relationship was over is when I began being promiscuous at only 15.. it was my way of “reclaiming” myself & trying to do it on my own accordance not another guys. I kept it up trying to feel something & never did. It was my way to cope & the worst thing I could’ve done.
@@aprilm287You're living like you're on the right path but I don't think your thinking is correct.
The past doesn't exist, it's an illusion. In the present you are virtuous, or at least virtuous in this one aspect of your life.
Just because others are shameless, doesn't mean you are supposed to live in shame forever.
@@aprilm287 You shouldn't feel bad over hypothetical guys who would disregard you for a distant past if you are virtuous now. Not to mention, you are not obligated to disclose such information! But, a great pick would be a man who knows of your story and only admires you more for having the discipline & conscious to turn yourself around. This is a greater & more noble feat than one who has always been "pure". A reformed bad is greater than a virgin good. :)
@@ashleyturner1121it’s not your fault. We can always start over. Just make sure to really heal from it and don’t go back to it. Forgive yourself and move on.
Me and my friends (including the few *teenage male friends* I have) are sick and tired of all the sex scenes in media. *We TEENAGERS hate this.* Can the adults making the sex scenes PLEASE take a minute and *stop* for a few series? We're all sick of it!
Gen Z in general is tired of it. Old ppl think it’s bc sex scenes make us feel “lonely” or whatever when the real reason is that we are swarmed with so much sexual content on a daily basis that we’re tired of it. I just wanna watch the movie man lol
This is the only valid point I have seen in the comments.
You aren't the target audience for sex scenes. Stop watching media that isn't rated for your age group. Hope that helps.
This is me but for Instagram and Facebook I don’t watch that many shows or movies. But for real it’s annoying. It makes you desensitized.
@@moonsigillol you ever heard of Euphoria?
This is so relatable. Thank you for sharing your view.
Brett, thank you so much for having ruff greens as a sponsor. Finally took the plunge and got it for my Cass with the free trial. He LOVES it and I am so happy that I can improve his health in a way that makes him think he’s just being spoiled with good food. He always ate like he was starving but now he licks the entire bowl clean!
It actually wasn't that long ago that sex outside of marriage was seen as shameful, and for good reason. But everyone decided that was keeping them from being happy and free in their lives. And now we have this........ This society gives me the ick.....as the youths say. And people are even less happy and free in their lives. We tried to tell them, but they wouldn't listen.
This is also in the Bible. As a gen Z waiting, it’s sad to watch my peers fall into the trap after I warn them.
The next 10-20 years are going to be HILARIOUS.
Crack a beer and watch society burn to the ground.
Yep.
When the current crop of 50 somethings start to retire and the current crop of 30 and 40 somethings inevitably fail to pick up the slack, women will have to start seriously asking "how do we convince men to do stressful and/or dirty jobs?"
Even though they know darn well what the answer is...
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Yes, watching misery, loneliness, substance abuse, broken families, disease, fatherless children, and a general uptick in disenfranchisement and disenchantment is absolutely comical.
I’m so sick and tired of the ivory tower, nihilistic, faux conservatives who thrill in the pain and failure of others. Go join ANTIFA or the Extinction Rebellion if that’s how you feel.
It’s a pathetic, hopeless, cowardly and juvenile attitude to have.
_Don't forget to get your passports._ ✈
*Enjoy the Decline* 🤣💊
Along with their genitals 😂
I personally loose all interest in a woman, when I find out that she has a bodycount of 3 or higher. Doesn´t matter what she looks like, how she acts, if we have same interests... whatever.
I am at a bodycount of 1, because I hold myself to the same standard. I literally feel disgusted about people who don´t respect the act of sex.
Good luck😂 women always lie about bodycount so you will have a hard time. Remember that the most innocent looking ones are the freaks.
Why didn’t you marry that woman?
@@MedusssssaChristo Because I was 17 and she cheated on me with her ex boyfriend.
Me 2
@@stu2729 sorry to hear that but I hope you find someone that loves and respects you
Thank you for covering this topic!!
She does it about once a month
To be honest its as easily as saying no. Casual sex isn't needed, adding the risk of the following:
*Accidental pregnancy
*STDs & STIs
Birth control & Condoms are a thing but still why risk it.
Those risks also all apply in relationships.
BC and condoms need to be *banned*
Revocations are the only way anyone is going to salvage society
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm uh yeah, and that’s where the relationship part comes in lmao. You have 2 options when it comes to sex; You can either commit to someone worthy of your time and be monogamous *OR* you can randomly hook up with someone you don’t know who has randomly hooked up with a bunch of people they don’t know and run the risk of being abandoned if you contract a disease or become pregnant… so the point still stands, saying no to casual sex with a non-committed partner is the easiest and quickest way to keep yourself from being miserable.
Hey I know at least three people conceived on birth control, you are absolutely right, the risk ain't worth it!
@@katiehard8122 It likely wasn't being used correctly & regularly.
For us guys, that disgust/sadness comes AFTER the act. But it's still there.
Oh so that's what guys call "post nut clarity"?
Definitely.
Men basically turn off their brain prior to the act and during it, but after that, the guilt ensues.
speak for yourself lmao
If you can smash, embrace the degeneracy, because there's no "saving" society.
The post nut clarity 😂
@@TheoHawk316 Why do you guys feel guilt? The girls who sleep around are basically not even humans so don't feel bad.
omg when are you going on whatever podcast?? it would be so fun to see you on there!!
Brett, thank you. My hubby and I love you from Poland.
Here's an even more bazaar and controversial idea...don't sleep with anyone until you're actually married to them. I know it's a concept that many Gen Z and most Millennials don't understand. This fixes all the problems with the hook-up culture.
It’s harder for men to find partners in that dynamic. Especially considering single women are largely liberal and promiscuous from young ages often.
Teenage hormones are intense. And marriage is expensive and equally expensive to annul. I think the younger generations like how noncommittal free sex is. They can change their mind later rather than being locked in.
But I still agree with the sentiment. Sex should be done more deliberately than its been these past few decades. Sex that early in a relationship cheapens the meaning of sex and opens them up to extreme and lifelong risks. It really should be taken seriously.
Here's an even MORE bizarre idea, from an actual counsellor. Don't wait until AFTER marriage to find out you're sexually incompatible with your partner.
@@wekurtz72 that’s a pathetic outlook. The chances that you are highly attracted to someone enough to marry yet you are sexually incompatible is so slim. Not to mention the longer you have an intimate relationship you normally get more proficient and understanding of your partners needs. So marrying before sex would be the best option. like I said though it can be very difficult and impractical for men to remain virgins you’re essentially only limiting yourself to religious women.
That would work if marriage wasn't a scam. Remove marriage from the debate and just think of it as doing it with someone you see yourself starting a family with.
America needs to fix some laws first. Women have too much power over men in the marriage and kids department. Which is also making men less inclined to be in relationships.
I feel this. Truly. I felt this all the time. Everytime i was on my way to another girls house i promised her everything will be exactly what she wants. She questioned me constantly, calling me irritated that i was taking too long. And finally after i arrived, i always got her doordash order wrong.
😂😂😂😂😂
My guy, not to sound like a female incel but why???? Why Put up with that? Insane
I just love your transitions to ads! :D
Thank you for touching on this topic, I wish more people stopped and really thought about what hooking up does to them. Then I won't be made to feel bad for not having any interest in sleeping with strangers (as a 36yo female), like I'm a weirdo for having some self respect.
Yass Preach!!! Maintaining chastity over giving into sexual temptations feels WAY more empowering!
" we often make a mistake when we say that a lustful man " wants " a woman...in a sense that is exactly what he does NOT want. What he wants is like wanting a pack of cigarettes, the sensation for which a woman is the necessary apparatus. His feelings for the woman can be gauged 5 minutes after completion.. one doesn't keep the pack after one has smoked the cigarettes" ...C. S. Lewis .. the four loves..
Great book that EVERYONE should read.
@@hatchhermit77 that's our problem as a society...we don't read enough Lewis...or Chesterton for that matter...🤷♂️
Glad to see someone is spreading common sense knowledge for the younger generations. Great content Brett!
Nah. Women at large wanted to be free from “the shame of sex” and act just like player men and hustlers. Where were all women fighting for this the last 10-15 years?
You made your bed, now you get to lay in it.
Right and I tried to be a good guy for those last 10-15 years and it's done nothing but screw me over financially and emotionally so why the f... should I care for anything more when all we're going to get is occasional hook up and that's all they'll ever gonna be because all these 304's are just 304's
@@hodgindaylon Women have always set the standard for men. Everything in your life used to revolve around becoming your best in order to achieve peace, family, and support. Now, the vail has lifted and men everywhere are smart of the games women play. With 3rd wave feminism, and the push for “boss girl alpha”, there is no doubt that most modern women are just as bad if not worse than the players and hustlers that men used to be.
Sorry not sorry, I won’t be the port of last resort for you. I’ll stay on my grind and do what’s best for me, because chances are you’re not a beautiful and unique snowflake who wants to raise a family.
Yep accountability
@@hodgindaylon exactly 😂 make them b****s hurt 🤘 carry on my brother
So by that comment. Casual hookups are ok as long its alright by both parties?
23 year-old man here. I'm so out of the loop that I didn't even know what hookup culture was until recently, and now I've learnt about it, it just sounds awful.
It also reminds me of a Van Halen song named Jamie's Cryin', because that song is about a woman wanting a real relationship with a man than she met for a one-night-stand, but the man doesn't feel the same way.
That’s a good song.
Same I'm 21 and didn't know what is was until last year and it sounds gross. I can't imagine having sex with someone I just met
I think what started this was Hollywood, sex sells and sex in movies was popular especially among men, and eventually women became okay with it as well. Over time the pressure to conform to what we see on TV rose and men grow up thinking the dream is being able to have sex with tons of beautiful women, and again, women eventually became comfortable with this, especially with certain movements like the fememist movement saying that it's empowering to have sex with many people.
But now that people are actually living this lifestyle they've seen on TV, they are learning that the spiritual, physical, and emotional damage that results from casual sex doesn't match at all with how it's portrayed in the movies. That's because God didn't make us like that, he made us to have one spouse forever and not hook up with random people.
Who owns hollywood? Nothing will change if you little conservatives keep denying reality. Just say their name and we can start healing.
Don’t forget po*n.
People are running from this, but Christian monogamy is the answer to these problems.
PURE FACTS
I can only speak for myself, however I will tell you I haven't dated since I was in my twenties. When I was in my thirties all I did was sleep with other guys girlfriends behind their back. Once I hit 40 though I started to realize how depressing it is just going from hook up to hook up. And now I live like a monk. And I'm happier than ever!
Per the CDC, 1 in 5 adults in the US has an STD. We've all heard the negative consequences of casual sex, but that 20% of adults have a sexually transmitted disease is not a fact we hear often enough. The media has buried that fact really well. When's the last time you heard the words "safe (safer, actually ) sex"? Imagine meeting the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, then have to explain you have an STD and your future partner will get it, too
I would be worried about my race if i was you, not about an STD. You guys clearly have no idea whats going on right now in your country.
That’s great they are “waking up”. Doesn’t change what they’ve already done. Don’t get mad when a man doesn’t marry you after you admit you’ve been with 50+ guys.
She probably feels the same way when she finds out the guy has been with 50-100 girls. It's the same for both sides.
I think a woman with a past who really, truly learned from it & turned it around deserves a chance. It takes a lot of strength and self-awareness to admit you're wrong. Kind of like how ex-addicts are some of the most honest people.
My best friend was with 20 guys, but it was never what she wanted. She had a lot of trauma in her early life. She really wanted love but had no idea how to go about finding it or if it was really even a possibility (Young women are MASSIVELY discouraged by this narrativel) so she just followed the crowd, doing what she was told would make her happy, not really expecting she'd actually find a real relationship.
She woke up, lucked out with a great guy, and is now the most devoted wife and mother I know.
True. They act like they can erase their past and act like nothing happened
@@Joreel that’s not true women will will say they want a guy who is low body count. but watch their actions don’t listen to what they say the dudes they sleep with and chase after are bad boy Chad/Tyrone players who other women want
People can always change. We want both men and women to turn away from harmful choices. We shouldn’t shame anyone for walking away from that.
"She don't want to be saved."
Good luck, ladies. You win lol
Excellent video!
The illustration I remember the best is done with duct tape. If you stick duct tape on your arm and rip it off again and again.
Eventually, it won’t stick. Sex is used to bind men and women in a relationship. After many failures (one night stands or meaningless sex) the binding function fails.
Female sexuality is like a chocolate frog in Harry Potter. It only gets one good jump.
Does this apply to MEN--or ONLY WOMEN?
Interesting analogy
@@user-cz5lj2vx1f both
@@user-cz5lj2vx1f Studies shown that men don't really bond with s3x, its only for women but this boomer will do everything to save women and sht on men.
All I know is that my friends who were more promiscuous in college weren’t very happy behind closed doors and often had some underlying psychological issues. This may not be as much the case now but I have always thought there is something fundamentally lacking in the character/self esteem of people who think their body is all they have to offer.
You are getting smoother and smoother when it comes to transitions to ads
wow, thats THE most significant sumary i heard about that topic, didnt know poeple with this mindset exist besides me, even women
I was 19 and during summer it hooked up with 4 girls.
I am in the train, I left the 4th girl and I look through the window.
And the train enter a tunnel and I see my face. Then it hit me : I was not happy.
So that day I decided to not touch a girl for a year.
And after that I had some girlfriends but the night stands was deffinitly over for me.
I had one night stands at that age as well. As teen you party its part of that age. But there comes a time you seek for something more meaningfull. Like shaggy sings in the song angel. Life is one party when your still young but whoes going to have you back when its all done
@@marcelsgroot You're both lucky - most guys can't ever get hookups.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dmThey're really not. They get to blow out from their love spuds in to some meat sack with breasticles. It twists your view of women until you don't like them enough to even do that. Hook-ups sound good in theory.
Chad problems...
Yes ordinary guys can succeed ...you've just got to work harder on your game & put yourself into as many different social circles as possible. It doesn't hurt to be friends with a Chad either LOL.
As a short guy I scored in High School & University by being "cute", making girls laugh & getting my friends leftovers who came & cried on my shoulder LOL.
I maximised my opportunities by being involved in Drama, Theatre-Sports/Improv, Debate Club, various Sports, Classics Quiz Team, Writers Club, Anime Club, Church Youth Group (LOL), Leftwing Christian group on Campus, other Leftist/environmentalist Political action groups (radical Left Groups, Greenpeace, Green Party), Marijuana Law Reform, Prostitution Law reform etc, Action For East Timor, Free Tibet. Everyone of those areas scored me a root :)
Later I did seasonal work & got to "meet & greet" lots of backpacker babes. Nothing beats United Colours of Benetton LOL
I hope they’re not shocked when nobody wants to consider them as a long term partner. It’s the sad reality of the truth. You can learn from your actions, but you can’t erase them.
When I hit 30 the thought of just casually hooking up with someone made me sick to stomach. I can’t enjoy it unless there’s an emotional connection, bond.
Women under 35 are also generally incapable of learning from their mistakes since they refuse to take accountability for anything.
Lol, it took 30 years. That's exactly the journey of the typical hookup girl. You tried justifying it when you are younger, but realised you just can't outrun your own shadow
Translation: chad doesn't want her anymore and her biological clock is ticking so she wants a loser now to save her.
@@tuinov6286 many such cases
@@tuinov6286 exactly
That feeling when you realize the guys who just had his four inch punisher in you for 30 seconds doesn’t even know your name.
Well when the only thing y'all do is starfish, you got no room to judge 😂
That guy that said that he messages a woman multiple times during his journey should be a red flag on his end. Men that use women like that are part of the problem too.
Thankyou. I HATE political commentary channels because it's not about the topic, it's who's side it's on. I love you say your thoughts based on morals not party or person leading it.
Agreed
agreed
I'm 19, a guy, never had it and i feel terrified of losing ot to the wrong person. That's truth. How can woman not be thinking of it??? It's also hard because the feeling is like a hot burning furnace capable of melting iron into steel.
don't worry. I'm sure you'll find yourself a nice young, virgin gal who feels similar to you, and y'all can take things slow, fall in love.. and it can go the way things should go. it's lovely to hear that men and waiting... these women who are sleeping aroun and aren't doing so exclusively with other women... so the more men who are either scared, or simply respect women enough not to put them in that situation, the better...
the thing is, women have been lied to for sooooo long. they believe that the way to get a man to love you is through sex.. and then you take a young woman, who is likely insecure and agreeable, so when a guy asks, she doesn't want to say no because she's afraid he won't like her if she says no .. and it's just a whole big mess..
but there are plenty of people who feel the same as you... and I think more and more people are waking up to the truth every day.
good luck out there.
Quite a lot of guys feel this way brother. It's a weird situation where on the one hand you don't wanna engage in casual sex, but on the other hand you can hear the clock ticking as fewer and fewer of your peers haven't. But don't worry. Doing what you know is right is always the best choice and even if the woman you end up loving did make mistakes, as long as she owns up to them and promises to be loyal to you, it will be alright
You’ve waited this long, just a little longer for the right woman will be worth it. ❤ Pray about it.
There's two options, brother, work endlessly to become a top 1% man for a sniff of promiscuous women and 35 year olds wanting to "settle" or find a way to get meaning somewhere outside of women. The dating scene is dire but the good news is, by the time you've become custom made Chad and the women suddenly find themselves attracted to your wallet, ahem, I mean you, your sex drive will have diminished and you'll have learned to live without sex and women. At that point you can find peace.
@@loganblackwood2922 Dude don't spread disheartening messages. Promiscuity is big but perhaps not quite so much in OP's country/city. Maybe he is attractive already. The personal factors make a big difference and he might just get lucky straight up
Teen Vogue staff needs to face child abuse charges for that article.
Lol that was so smooth Brett
As someone who has participated in hookup culture I agree with everything you said in the beginning. I am so thankful that God pulled me out and wanted better for me. Going to celebrating my three year wedding anniversary with my husband in a week. Have no desire to go back.