A much requested autism meme review! If you missed the last memes, you can choose your weird autistic seating position here: ua-cam.com/video/okCnoFC5WS4/v-deo.html I’m glad you seem to enjoy watching them as much as I enjoy making them. It’s a nice break from the heavier content. Aaand still no response from my landlord 😭 Still hanging around in uncertainty like that poor lion 😅
Can you highlight fanfiction, research, and comics about the harms of ABA behavioral "therapy"? I'm sick of seeing so many people praise ABA and ignore ABA trauma and ABA-induced mental health crises. 😢 🕊
I have to find a new place by October too and it is stressing me out - like crying every time i search for anything and get no response from any i have contacted. It literally makes me miserable. This is to say - i feel for you.
Please check that the Landlord has the right to evict you on so short notice as you are not to blame for anything. I recommend contacting citizen advice, they know best about the legalities in your area. Hope everything goes well, I know how stress full this can be especially under the current conditions here in the UK.
Absolute fear of having an obligation to be their friend as a form of mandatory solidarity. Stop here if you don't want to bother with the info dump...... (Yes, I PDA just a bit.) Just because I'm auADHD doesn't mean I like being around ppl that are also on the spectrum. I mean, yes, I've met some ppl on the spectrum and have enjoyed their company, sometimes because of their spectrum qualities. I don't want long-term friendship obligations. That being said, I have a coworker on the spectrum (they are the reason I got my official late in life ADHD diagnosis) who I feel very uncomfortable around to the point I have trouble getting to work on time because I don't like the stress of being near them even though we don't talk or interact. Actually, it is because we don't talk or interact that I am stressed. I feel an undercurrent of hostility around them. I'm not the only one who feels this. I try to own my feelings, but I also feel they make a point of not interacting with me. When I do interact with them, I find their tone to be dismissive, defensive and/or hostile. Yes, IK one person on the spectrum is one person on the spectrum. Actually, I find them to be a reflection of my own personality at times, and I become even more self-conscious. I never understood where the notion that if a person on the spectrum has trouble with NT ppl, we're suddenly supposed to be OK with all the ND ppl? They both take my spoons. They just do different things with them. Anywho, sorry for the rant. Really, I am. This just really struck a chord in me. I mean no personal disrespect to you. I am sure you are a very nice person with many good qualities. I hope the best for all your daily activities and success through your struggles. Sorry if I offended you in any way. It's just that I really don't understand where this myth started or why? I don't expect you to have the answer and don't feel like you need to respond if you don't want to. Or if you need to chew me out for being a complete troll, go ahead. I probably deserve it. Waves 'hi' from a respectful distance, debating on if I should freeze in place or run away. ✌️
@@kenmc1601 hi!! i’m not diagnosed audhd yet, and growing up nobody around me knew that i was nd so people just treated me as weird or stuck up, which might mean our experiences are v different. however!! for me, the ‘myth’ of spontaneous autistic friendship isn’t because i expect to be friends with all autistic people, or that they should all be friends with me - but instead because it feels safer. even if i still get tired or overwhelmed, i feel more like i can trust smb with autism to understand and take what i’m saying as is - instead of reading into my words too much and concluding that i hate them or think i’m better than them, if i say i’m tired or if i’m not using the right tone of voice or facial expressions with them. it’s a feeling of relief. i’m not a very extroverted person and the idea of having to interact with someone, or meeting someone new when i wasn’t prepared can cause a short circuit lol. less so if they are ““““the same”””” as me, because i can just be completely honest about my feelings. I can say ‘sorry, my head gets busy really easily - i *am* interested in what you’re talking about’, and someone ‘like me’ is less likely to assume it’s just a polite excuse or something, esp if they also know I am nd. I don’t feel the need to ‘act’ as much. I am also biased by past experiences, because sometimes I’d meet someone new and want to talk to them all the time. I’d think they were so cool and amazing, and I wanted to be their friend - even though the idea of even leaving my house sometimes causes spirals for me. Then I’d learn they were on the spectrum, had ADHD, or both. So I think I’ve learnt to associate that fluttery sparkly experience with meeting other audhd people! Like an extra reassurance that I’ll be ok talking to people this time, since that’s how it worked the other times. I also feel relief at being able to say I feel overstimulated, or that I need certain accommodations, without being dismissed as quickly or being treated as if I’m just being overdramatic, because others ‘like me’ are more likely to understand. I feel a lot of other people probably share these sentiments, which might explain why so many people online seem more excited to meet other autistic people! You don’t have to share the same opinions though. Don’t feel like you have to like other people just because they are also autistic! I don’t feel that way either, and if anyone tries to make you feel that way, they don’t have your best interests at heart!! Ignore them.
My reaction to the beginning of this video: Meg: "I was feeling in a great mood, I had a lot of energy. Then I got a phone call-" Me: "Valid. Phone calls are demon spawn..." 😐 Meg: "-to tell me my landlord has decided that we have two months to leave." Me: "How did it just turn even worse?! The phone call in itself was bad enough!" 😧
So am I not alone in keeping my phone on permanent silence and only ever accepting expected calls by known numbers? Even to the point of requesting doctors to email me with notice should they use a phone with an "UNKNOWN"/"Private" listing?
At work, i saw a boy with headphones on and he had flapped his hands so excitedly!! I was think “aw, i wonder what he saw that made him do that, good for him!!” It made me so happy, i dont even know this teen boy but just seeing him just stim openly in the grocery store made me so excited he felt safe enough to❤
One day I was wearing my cutest and pinkest outfit while dropping my son off at his school and an autistic girl (we usually see in the morning being dropped off also) completely lit up with a huge smile and happy noises and hand flaps when she saw my outfit. It made me happy to see her so happy. I hope she gets to wear cute pink things when she is out of school and has happy moments when she wears them.
I've had the great honor of earning immediate trust from more than one autistic child. I think it's just my very own childlike nature, I'm almost 50 and my room is like a toy store. But to find out I was one of only 2 people to actually get a hug from this girl and I wasn't her mom, who sadly never got hugs, I just felt an instant adoration towards them. Such sweethearts.
Our landlord of TEN years was selling to move closer to family and retirement, and everything felt chaos. My partner handled looking for new places online, while I handled boxing and organization of possessions, and things went far smoother than they could have, as we each handled our strong suits. We did it in three weeks because of this, though we were given six months. I'm so sorry yours just dropped the bomb and gave you only two measly months, but you can do this. Your new place will become your home, and you'll both make it work. It's painful, but the dust does settle, though it doesn't seem like it while we're in the middle of undoing everything we perfected and loved. Good luck to your family, but it'll be alright. You'll make it work, and like us, no matter where you go, you'll get there together and make something new out of this.
@@OrafuDa My Mom had a duplex for a while. One tennant paid to have his own barkdust and plants one year and ti made her super happy cause it meant he cared. Its a term they use for a tenant like that.
When you're autistic, you either neglect breakfast until you starve or can't leave your house unless you're 100% convinced that what you ate has sufficient nutrirional value and won't send you into a downward spiral of eating disorder and premature death from heart disease (that's me) There is absolutely no in-between.
I never was able to eat breakfast, UNLESS I'm like at a training camp for something that's a special interest of mine and i absolutely have to eat at least something to get through the day. i just usually eat two times a day and snack something hours after I woke up.
Nope; I have ADHD too, so some days I eat 4 Pop-Tarts with water; some days peanut butter toast, a banana, and milk; some days my pills I can take without food chugged down with water. Yay for consistent inconsistency! 🤪
@@misspat7555 for me it's the worst, that certain extreme textures and flavours are one of many forms of stimming for me. So I've days where I can't eat anything besides specific types of candy and maybe some high proteine milkshake stuff, while my body just rejects everything else violently. At least when eating healthy overall I can take those days for what they are and just eat mostly empty calories to not break down due to a lack of energy and not feel bad for it.
I never heard of that before but I googled it and it makes so much sense to me, thanks for leading me onto that path! I can recommend looking it up if you related to the 'I never expected to live past 18' meme, if you're in an emotionally stable space where you can explore new perspectives on your mental health.
I didn't realize that was related to ASD. When I was little, 2020 seemed like a year that I would never reach, in fact age fifty didn't seem like I would reach, but I have passed both now.
maybe got a bit to do with the influence of y2k. i remember i once heard it‘s only 1000 days till it‘s 2000. i started counting the days from that moment on. and i was absolutely thinking i wouldn‘t get there. i‘m now 42 and somehow still feel the same.
congrats to you it was sad unfortunate throughout the video relating memes to her and the landlord situation ha crazy times with that so BE CAREFUL PEOPLE hahaa :D
@@kisnpisn4919 As Y2K approached there was a point where I got less and less worried. I live in a GMT-7 timezone. I figured worst-case: I would be able to see power go out around the world, and have time for last-minute preparations.
@@tbella5186I had trauma and thought that I wouldn't reach the Y2K. And I didn't think that there would be a problem with Y2K, it just seemed like I would die before then.
The blue guy at 8:00 is Mr Meeseeks from Rick and Morty 😅 Those are only supposed to exist until a task given has been completed, but in the episode of the show they were given a nearly impossible task, so they had to stick around for much longer than they were supposed to do 😅
PSA: Do not, repeat *do not under any circumstances* deep-fry ice, water or any other sufficiently-watery liquid. No, not even if you have somehow managed to batter it. Because of the way that cooking oils float on water, all you'll achieve is a layer of water directly in contact with a heating element that's over the boiling point of water. This will convert the water into steam, which will rise through the oil, creating bubbles which can and will explode, showering hot oil all over your kitchen. That's possible irrespective of whether or not the bubbles also cause the oil to overflow the container. If the oil *does* overflow the container, you may, in addition to spraying yourself and everything in the vicinity with extremely hot oil, have just caused a grease fire, *also* all over yourself and everything in the vicinity.
I’ve never understood style, like how do people know what’s in and out of style? Do people go out of their way to find other people to tell them what to wear? Why do things go out of style? Why does anyone care if things are out of style? *existential screaming* Also, good luck on the landlord situation. Landlords suck.
I just look at outfits or art styles and think “oh I’m attracted to that, I love that, I want to put my face in that” and then try to do that (as in make that outfit) I don’t care about what’s popular
What I did as little kid I'd look at the Sears Roebuck catalog and pick out some clothes. If they weren't too crazy my mother would get them for me sometimes and then would go to school and get made fun of , for dressing like a weirdo.
I did not know that THINKING YOU WOULDNT LIVE TO 18 was a common experience… I was nearly hospitalized the day after my 18th birthday. It was genuinely painful not knowing what would come of me now. Three years of therapy, and a few months of medication and I'm just starting to feel like I've got a purpose. I'm just getting to the stage everyone else seemed to get to at eighteen. Not that they had it figured out, but they were ready to take on the world in a way I was not.
@@misspat7555 I had graduated high school at sixteen and had to watch my siblings so my mom could get a job. I developed severe agoraphobia and it stopped me from doing anything I wanted to. I’m in school now (online but still proud) and working toward getting my first job. Covid and personal circumstances kinda stunted my personal growth🫠 Good luck to you my friend, I'm sure you'll do great things😊❤️
I didn't ex0ect to make it to 30, so I'm trying to look at the last 7 years as bonus time. I spent a few years headed towards a bad end, so it's pretty surprising I managed not to. Also, a lot of people have trouble feeling like they're ready to take on life or find a purpose, so I hope you don't feel alone or like you're behind others on that account. One of the things I've learned is that so many people look like they have it together, while inside, they're also confused or hoping for the best and searching for their purpose.
I'm a refugee from Ukraine and about a week ago I had the same situation with our landlord saying that he wants to sell the home we lived in for 2 years because the support program that paid our rent ended and he does not want to accept our money. I really understand you and the feelings and shock you have! I hope you will find a home that will be even better than your current one and I wish you all the energy, luck, and positive energy to resolve your situation and live through the whole transition! After all the home is where our loved ones are, and they are staying with us no matter what happens 😊
I recommend looking up your rights as a tenant and making sure that the landlord even has the right to evict you if you're still paying rent just fine. Good luck!
So sorry you have had this experience! Take comfort that this is happening to lots of people right now! I wish you good luck in finding acceptable accommodations! ❤
To landlords, it's the tenants that are awful. If the tenants are planning to stay, they should get the lease renewed even in advance. Sometimes, the landlords have another use for the property, in which case it would be nice for them to let the tenant know a few months in advance. But then, when has a tenant given a landlord a few months' notice that they are planning to stay or move?
@@JoeJoeTater It's hard work keeping the property repaired an in working order, including repairing all the damage that some tenants do. She probably takes pretty good care of where she lives, but not all tenants do.
@@psychohistshut up. Shelter and housing is a basic human right but we’re stuck having to pay for something every human should be entitled to. No one forced landlords to own multiple properties, so the risk is theirs alone to bear. Most landlords are slum lords, if you pick the cheapest way to run your business then you get what you invest in.
@@psychohist Yes, it's such hard work paying employees. I feel it in my bank account every time! Seriously though, kick rocks. Nobody is going to feel sorry for someone who scalps housing.
i think the bullying thing is a body language thing because kids are typically really sensitive to body language and as an autistic person trying to mask the body language can be strange/out of place. when i got my assessment, i was reading the diagnostic summary and she said that my body language/eye contact seems typical but was sometimes oddly placed or too frequent. i was just regarded as the weird nerdy/quirky kid who was really sensitive and i was a strict rule follower so i got made fun of for that
@@imautisticnowwhat I'm not sure for you of course, but I'm a slow processor emotionally. I cry a day/week late lol, after I've handled things. Sometimes I'll be surprised I handled things in the moment and feel silly for crying when it's over, but that's just how my brain works. The panic gets me through and then I crash lol. You got this though!
As a confident autistic I would like to affirm that we do exist! It's probably because I was homeschooled; I'm not officially diagnosed (yet!) so my parents weren't as supportive as they could have been but at least I never got bullied.
this is so interesting to me because i was also homeschooled and i haven’t been officially diagnosed, but i’m very confident and i’ve always wondered where that came from. i wonder if you’re right and it’s literally just the fact that i didn’t get bullied because i didn’t have the opportunity to, so i never really got “punished” for being different.
@duikmans good idea. I am pretty sure I’m trapped in the timeline from the end of series 2 season 5, where the Tardis keeps exploding the sun over and over, but I’d love some confirmation. I think. :)
The creature at 8:01 is a Mr. Meeseeks, from Rick and Morty. Its sole function is to help the person with a task, at which point they pop out of existence. In the episode where they are introduced, the first one is summoned to help Jerry (Morty's dad) take a few strokes off his golf game. The task proves very difficult, so the whole episode is just the Meeseeks having an existential crisis because their average lifespan is considerably shorter than the one summoned to help Jerry has.
Had something like this happen to us a couple of years ago. We ended up buying a home instead of renting, and our monthly payments went down instead of up. We got lucky with the timing. Hopefully you find something that works out well for you. Stay strong. Good luck!
@@draalttom844 That's not true. Renting and buying are two different solutions for different situations. For years I rented because I was doing contract work, and I needed to be able to move without being tied down and selling and buying a house every six months to a year depending on my contract work. And anyone can buy a home if they're willing to make the sacrifices required.
I had the same thing (my mortgage payments are STILL lower than my rent was a decade ago, and it was about to go up again at the time and likely went up several more times). The difficulty is that you need to have enough savings to pay a deposit, and a bank willing to give you a mortgage (they might not want to do so as Meg's income probably isn't as regular as a 9-5 job's would be).
ive actually come to really dislike my brithday. other than the fact i have no friends to celebrate with or stuff like that, what makes me most sad is that every year i feel like my body and what my position in society is suppoed to be according to the norm becomes more and more distant from how i feel inside every year
Hey man/woman/they/unidentifiable eldritch creature, I don't know you, but I do feel you. Assuming today's not your birthday, and in all sincerity, (belated) happy birthday from this internet stranger.
I needed this video. I just calmed down from an autistic meltdown because my brothers were being turds. I was just scrolling on youtube and I see this. Thank you
We were given three months to move when our landlord sold the house we were renting. We'd been there five years, and actually felt like part of the community. It was shocking how much the rental market had changed. Used to look at ads, pick out a few that looked nice, checked them out and chose the one that was most suitable. I had no idea how difficult it had become. It turned into a constant job, and I only got the flat we're in now because we called as soon as the ad was put up, and the ad was taken down within 10 minutes because the landlord had given info for the wrong place and had to change it. We're paying way more than we used to, and we live a lot farther from the city, but we still live indoors and that's what counts. There are a startling number of people around here who aren't 😢
On a personal note, in 2020 (remember?) our mum died. We were living in her flat. My sister said “no rush, stay for 12 months before you start looking for somewhere else” . Cool, I thought. 3 months later it was “please can you move out asap, I need my share of the inheritance?” At first I was like WTF??? Then I chose to roll with it…….prices were awful where I was looking. After many failures we got lucky……I’m the best tenant I can be and I love this home, while being aware that nothing is for ever…. …..I turned “moving house “ into my special interest and we did it ourselves for £180, which I found in an envelope from money I’d forgotten I’d earned before my mum died…….so, I became super strong and capable due to the challenges, when I’d previously been utterly wiped out by mums death from Alzheimer’s……….
For me, thirties and forties were probably my best decades, so there’s that. The years in which my executive functioning was at its peak. At 50, I felt like I was finally the age I was always supposed to be. About a year or two later, I felt like I was now older than I wanted to be. Then my head started falling apart. So based on a sample size of one, I’d conclude that you might not want to dread 30, but 50+ is an open question. However, your mileage may vary. :)
The Spongebob bit about Crabby Patties!! My son wouldn't eat meat for probably two years and then he decided that he would eat anything between buns if we called it a "crabby patty" - fish in buns - yes! chicken in buns - yes! beef in buns - yes!
a couple years ago my Nana passed. my mom and I shared a rented house with her. my dog had to be put down, my mom had to put down her cat, and Nana was somewhat of a hoarder (house was clean, but had a lot of boxes bk she never threw away mail), so my mom and I had a lot to try and work through. It was one of the roughest periods in our lives, and just when we were starting to recover, my mom had gotten two new kittens, and I'd gotten a c-ptsd diagnosis and was just learning about autism, we get notified that the landlord wants to sell the house and we have to leave. It was really hard, we were working constantly, and the house we ended up moving into had a ton of problems and had been heavily neglected.. I melted down several times. We've worked hard to fix the place up, but it still sucks being here. I hope we can move again when the lease is up. It's scary that this seems to be happening to people more and more. The same thing recently happened to YT'r Toxic Tears too. (being told the house she's in is going to be sold and she has to leave)
I truly wish you the best regards! My kudos to you to you and your mother for trying your best to make the best of a really difficult situation. I hope you can find a better place ❤️
our landlord opened our apartment door WITH A MASTERKEY HE HAD WHILE I WAS BREASTFEEDING OUR BABY to inspect the apartment once.....we lived on the FOURTH FLOOR of a downtown apt that was hot, noisy and leaked everytime it rained......
Trespassing is a crime, even for landlords. At least that is the case in the Netherlands. I don’t know if other countries have even worse protection then we have here.
@@Impossibleshadow In the USA the landlord has to give 24 hour notice before coming in or having repairs done unless it is an emergency. At least in my city.
We got a letter shoved in the door from the sheriff saying that the house was being repossessed and we had some small amount of time before being evicted. The letter was addressed to the landlord, and normally I wouldn't read it, but .... Incidentally, the owner had skipped the country a few months before. IDEK. Now, 20 years later, for the very first time, I'm wondering if it was a fake letter from someone who didn't like us and wanted us to move out. Your landlord probably wants you out so he can repaint the place and charge twice what you're paying. If you've been great tenants you might make an offer of higher rent. Regardless, the laws for leases and eviction might help you. Depending on your situation, it might even be cheaper to buy. Good luck!
The landlord thing sucks. I have been given a month to move out and struggled to find somewhere to go (moved in with parents). There is a housing crisis currently so I would be asking your landlord for a supporting letter ASAP as it may help!! Good luck with house hunting xx
I had this happen to me last year. My landlord hadn’t been paying their mortgage and the bank was taking over the property. I had 4 weeks to find somewhere, go to viewings and move in that amount of time. Luckily I was able to move just in time but it was extremely stressful. It really rocked me and I’m still struggling with the damage it done to my mental health. All the best to you.
I had a flat in a beutiful historic building in Washington when I first moved over here. It was my home for almost 8 years until the owners sold the building to developers. I had a strong emotional attachment to my home, something extremely important as an autisic adult living on my own several thousand miles from family. It was the one refuge I had from the extreme changes of moving to a new city, starting a new job there, and going through all the hastles to remain in there. A second problem was that any similar space in the city was roughly twice the cost. Despite this, the outcome was very beneficial. Loss of my home led me to leave Washington and move to a rural area of western Massachusetts. My career shifted from working in hospitality to working in higher education, I finished university and pursued two higher degrees, met my life partner and own a home. The unexpected stress of having to find a new home will be undeniably difficult for you as an autistic person as it was for me, but over time this change has the potential to be highly beneficial. I do feel the two-months notice is far too short though.....
I'm going through a very similar thing right now. I learned this Monday that I have to get out at the end of the month. I can stay in a friend's room for a few weeks luckily, but it was still very devasting. Feels like I'm speed running the five stages of grief in the last few days. Now I made a plan and started packing my stuff and it helped me a lot to get some stuff done. All of this to say I can really emphasize with your situation. I can't offer any advice sadly. But we will get through it and find something. Sending you hugs if you want those :)
3:15 I was the one who posted that! I'm so happy Megan loves it. And best of luck trying to find a new place. I know the housing situation in London is a complete trash fire rn.
Absolutely. And when I reported it, it was their multiple word against my single word. Plus their dads were bigwigs in our small town. The upside: though I was never able to stand up for myself, if a bully was picking on someone else, I usually flew into a rage and protected them. I would catch the bully off guard, knock them to the ground, beat on the bully (probably ineffectively) and get pulled off by an adult. Our town was really little. Everyone either walked, rode their bikes, or got a ride from their parents. The school rules were anything that happened between School and Home was considered school business. Consequently I always end up in the principal’s office when this happened, BUT never once got suspended . It took me 50-60 years to realize the principal was probably cheering inside while he told me “this is not how we handle things” I can remember looking at him and going, “so what am I supposed to do when I see them picking on someone smaller than them or an animal?” because of course the cowardly bullies never picked on anybody bigger than them. That was a rant. I’m done now.
You do have to know how to make fried rice correctly to get the full joke. "Make rice, and then fry it, how hard could it be?" Fried rice is fried in a pan after coating it with a small amount of oil. The water in the rice will boil, but the method means that the pan walls should be able to contain most of the spatter. Deep frying something that has that much water in it incredibly dangerous. All of the water boils and the vapor has to escape as bubbles which foams the oil and, well, you saw what happened. I hope no one was burned.
Last week I ate at a Japanese hibachi restaurant. The grill was in the middle of a u shaped table arrangement. The entertainment was watching our food orders get prepared. Plus some showmanship, like the chef juggling his spatula. Half my platter-size plate was fried rice. First, eggs stirred and fried, diced. Then a large onion half divided into rings, stacked to form a cone with hole at top. Some sort of Japanese alcoholic beverage poured into onion cone. Light the whole thing on fire, thankfully under a large hood vent so ceiling didn't catch fire. After that burned down, vegetables were fried in same area of grill. Finally rice and fried eggs were mixed, and served with veggies. Then the chef went on to prepare what meat each of our party had ordered. Point being, that grill was flat. If any oil was used I didn't see it. We never got spattered.
Meg I'm sorry I know this was posted 3 months ago but a landlord CANNOT evict you because they want to sell! They simply have to sell the property with its tenants and then the buyer is taking you on as tenants. They just rely on the fact people don't know their renting rights. (I'm also UK based)
In March of 2020, when the pandemic was beginning, along with lockdowns, our landlord told us they were selling the house and we had a month to leave. They, first, tried to sell it to us. No... We went from a house to a four-plex split into apartments. And, while my partner hates living in apartments, the high rent prices elsewhere pretty much guarantees we'll be here for a while.
So sorry to hear about the situation with your landlord. It happened to us in 2018 and again in 2021. Wishing you all the best of luck. It took lots of applications, and searching. Best advice is to be willing to look at longer commutes.
Forgot to mention. My family had rented a place for over 15 years or more and the landlord during that time gave a 90 day notice. Wasn't enough time. We went to court and the judge and lawyer extended our time. It took us about 5 to 6 months. We had decided to buy a mobilehome. 46 was tough for me. 40 was exciting.
I tell you what, landlords are pulling some dirty moves on people these days, I'd get legal advice if I were you. I'm currently dealing with threatening letters from the council saying I owe them thousands for council tax that I have already paid and have proof of. They're a bunch of crooks.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like I will die before a certain age. 30 is that threshold for me for years, and I just turned 29. It's making me really excited to turn 30 actually, I'm going to have to do something very fun for it. Best of luck with the apartment situation! Something will work out. Hope there is something in your contract that will buy you more time. ❤❤
the “I wasn’t supposed to exist this long” dude Is mr.meseeks from rick and morty and the reason he’s being existential Is because he’s supposed to be given a task and poof out of existence when he’s done and he was given a task that cannot be completed
the same thing happened to me almost 10 yrs ago. well they weren't selling i don't think, they just wanted us gone or something. they were just like "you have 30 days to get out." we didn't even get a phone call, we got an eviction notice on the door & let me tell you, seeing that was terrifying. i'm glad we got out bc the area was already sketchy, but apparently it's one of the highest crime cities in california now 👍🏻 landlords are the worst, & they can legally get away with everything idfk why (i mean... i do. it's money. everything is money.)
Im no lawyer and I don’t know how it is in the UK but im pretty sure in sweden it’s much harder to evict a tenant and that if you sell a building you sell it with the tenants already living there so the tenants just get a new landlord
Me and my partner just went through the same thing. We found out on her birthday that we had a few months to move. My partner is autistic and i am undiagnosed (but we're both pretty confident i am also) so we were both overwhelmed by the rug pull in a place that felt so safe and secure 😓. To make it worse, the rental market is overloaded and there is soo much competition that we were getting nowhere. It didn't help that we have furbabies, and landlords were knocking us back because NO PETS!!.. In the end we were lucky enough to be able to buy a place and avoid the rental market nightmare.. it's been an ordeal, but we just got the keys and move in this week! So all in all we have been lucky and things have ended well for us, but OMFG was that more stress than either of us ever wanted...
Oh boy, I have MANY times landlords kicked us out on short notice, and honestly 2 months sounds amazing to me (but I still think even that is ridiculous). They only ever gave us a month at most. The first time I vividly remember was when I spent my 13th birthday having a meltdown as my stuff was swept into garbage bags because we didn't have time to properly pack. Was homeless for 2 months and moved far away from everything I knew. The second was when I spent my 16th birthday doing the same thing. We had a full month to get out that time, but still ended up homeless for a month anyway. Then it happened again on my 18th birthday. (sometimes having a summer birthday really sucks lmao) Although that time we managed to not be homeless, because I took up the responsibility to find us a place and do all of the 'adulting' since my mother wasn't. Every other move we've done since then has been my responsibility to figure out. Which, being autistic, is really damn hard. It was, probably incredibly unsurprising, very traumatic for me, and I'm not sure how old your child is but please explain it to them regardless of their age, and reinforce that its nothing any of you did wrong. I'm 31 this July and I've spent basically my entire life struggling to make myself believe that none of it was actually my fault. Having someone explain what was happening to us and why might have made it easier to cope with. ♥🫂 I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. It's hard, its a lot, and its not fair. Even 2 months is a stupidly short amount of time to pack up your entire life and move it somewhere else. I really hope your landlord is reasonable and gives you some more time. Best of luck, and please don't feel pressured to post regularly (or at all) through all of this. We'll still be here once things are less stressful. It's okay to take a break!
If you’re looking to keep consistency with the background, you could try taking a picture of the current background and using a green screen at the new place. I’ve seen a lot of UA-camrs do that sort of thing for branding and consistency. I know elgato does a pop up one that makes storage easier.
I hope the living situation works out for the best. That is truly an unreasonably short time period to find a place and move. Housing prices are ridiculous lately.
So sorry about the house situation, these places are our safe spaces and changing that is so hard, i believe in you tho, once you find a place and settle in you'll be able to build it up to be that space again You got this! ❤
I moved in with my ex as my roommate (I know…! But I’m vegan, and I’m also VERY particular about home keeping) and two weeks in, my bedroom flooded from rain… in South Florida… during normal rains. And they broke the wall 5 times throughout the lease and never found the cause. So every time it rained, I had to put towels on my floor, and hide my cats when the maintenance crew decided to show up. And this is a big rental company.
You moved in with your ex but you’re vegan? Why does it matter if you’re vegan? Do vegans need to move in with their exes? I have a vegan friend but she didn’t move in with her ex! Should I tell her to do that??
@@ToothpasteIsGettingExpensive We were still living together when we broke up. She is vegan too. It was still at the height of the pandemic, and we renewed a lease together... I have OCD tendencies with utensils, cookware, and handwashing, among many other things, living with someone that isn't as much of a neat freak like me was more than I could handle at the time, so it seemed easier to stay living with my ex. Hope that clarifies it. The idea of someone eating animal products or cooking them in my stuff makes me wanna videogame myself.
I find the microwave fat easier than a conventional oven, for most things. I remember a day my mom was using a pressure cooker on stove top and the steam vent clogged. We shortly had a geyser of boiling hot tart apple juice hit the ceiling. She had planned on making jelly. She was fortunate to not be left with scald scars as she ran cold water over her arm several minutes after reaching to turn off heat.
@@joycebrewer4150 I was trying to make some popcorn chicken and the microwave sparked, and now I can't be in the same room as a running microwave because anxiety. I am still learning how to cook by the way, so I only know how to use the microwave.
@@kitten1602 Sorry to hear that. I can't use the few pieces of my grandmother's wedding china I have left, in the microwave. They all have a ring of gold paint at the edge, and the first time I tried with the saucer that was most worn, it sparked. I ended that heat cycle quickly, transferring food to a different dish before trying again. I am much more careful now what dishes I use in the microwave.
Once I was given 2 WEEKS to move out. Luckily I wasn't alone in that situation and the others handled it well that we got more time. All that while having to study for university exams. I moved out as fast as I could but it still took 6 weeks. But the place was horrible anyways and I was scared of any doorbell, e-mail or letter for years after living there for about 9 months (additionally to phone calls which I hated for all my life and still do). This happened 14 years ago... I wish you all the best and good luck.
7:53 This meme and your thoughts reminded me of a feeling I had when I was younger. It probably came out of reading way too many books, but I seriously thought that I would stop being part of my life at some point. Not like dying, but just "they lived happily ever after" sort of parting, knowing my life would continue, but I just wouldn't be part of it anymore. I'm really sorry, what's going on with your home. Hope it'll turn out alright 😊
God I'm so sorry! Housing sucks everywhere. It's the only thing keeping me where I am b/c my house is LITERALLY falling apart. ~air hugs~ (b/c I probably wouldn't LOL)
I'm so sorry that your landlord is doing that to you, it is absolutely disgusting that someone can do things like that and I wish you the best of luck. Of course it is also pretty horrible that landlords exist to begin with.
I dreaded turning 30, but my 30s were infinitely better than my 20s ... and overall my 40s are better than my 30s so far? I hope the moving drama has a positive outcome at least!
That was my experience too. I was bummed in my mid 20s that I felt I was not moved past adolescence. Things started to look up close to 30, and I’ve since learned that the prefrontal cortex does not finIsh developing until about 25, and maybe a few years later for those of us who have executive functioning issues.
God, I know the feeling of the landlord just dumping the whole you’re being evicted thing on you. Happened to me last year too, but thankfully between my partner, my parents, and my self, we were able to get enough money to put down a deposit for a mortgage on a cheapish place. I know that put me in a very privileged position, but only getting 3 months notice to do that was genuinely the most stressful thing I’ve ever experienced. I hope you manage to sort out some sort of accommodation before your 2 months is done!
I didn’t think I would reach the age of 15 But now I’m 17 and my brain is slowly giving up on life ,I don’t care about a lot of things anymore Honestly surprised I survived this long on this planet 😂
I'm sorry you're going through a hard time right now. I'm almost 27 and I will say that I have found being an autistic adult much easier than being an autistic child. Even though it comes with it's own stressors I have so much more freedom and autonomy and don't feel so trapped all the time. I don't know your situation but I hope things get easier for you. It's worth holding on through the shitty times to get to better days.
Sorry about your housing situation. :( You could maybe get like a hanger for your earrings to show them off in the backround? If you have enough. I had a friend who had a hanger on their wall with a bunch of cool novelty earrings.
There's actually been research into why autistic people get bullied so consistently, and apparently neurotypicals get a weird/creepy "uncanny valley" type feeling (that's when something looks kinda human, but not enough, so it's slightly off. Like a creepy doll) from our body language and expressions, and it's something that can't be masked either (masking sometimes even adds to it). It's so much so that people can very consistently pick out an autistic person from a random group of people, not even given information on what to look for, just based on "that person is weird/different".
In Germany, after renting for 5-8 years both landlord/-lady and tennant have a madatory 6 month notice period (except if there's a reason akin to not paying rent for 2+ months, continuously annoying your neighbours etc.)
I always subconsciously felt I wasn't going to live past grad school because I could only conceive of myself existing as a student, nothing past that. Living into adulthood, getting a full-time job, and joining society seemed absurd. It was literally inconceivable for someone like me, since to my knowledge, no one like me (autistic half Thai-American lesbian) existed in the world. When I did live past 23, it was such a shock that it nearly did kill me. I'm 26 now and my body is still recovering. I thought this was because I grew up with no Asian or queer representation -- I had no idea it could also be because I'm autistic until recently. Good to know I'm not the only autistic person with this experience, though I wish none of us had to feel this way...
About a year ago I was evicted and given 4 weeks to leave the apartment I’d lived at for five years, and my car was broken down at the time, and I simply couldn’t get my belongings to the storage unit in time on foot. I had to get a public defender to help me but my wealthy landlord fought them tooth and nail. I begged them to leave my belongings on the driveway so I could make trips to the storage unit and they refused. On the last day I stood outside sobbing as they loaded 3/4 of my things into a moving van that I couldn’t afford and took them all to the dump. And my landlord was there, smiling. _Smiling._
I found out two days ago that my property manager altered the terms of my lease during the last renewal six months ago (during the eighth annual renewal) and removed the yard-care portion of the lease without telling me about it (they also raised the rent by $350 a month, but I knew about that). I only noticed because the yard-care company stopped mowing the lawn a few weeks ago (note that this means they didn't know they weren't contracted for yard-care any more either and probably only stopped because they weren't getting paid) and the property manager let me know about the "new" situation when I contacted them to complain. Consequently, I had to make an $800 purchase of a lawn mower and line trimmer with one day of notice because I was not meeting the terms of my lease by my delinquent yard care. I'm not exactly getting evicted on short notice but it's still not pleasant. This experience only reinforces my belief that renting out residential properties for profit is only done by the worst kinds of human beings and for the worst reasons.
@@Snipe4261 I am autistic but I don't buy into black and white thinking. I grew up in a town where the poor people who lived in the area for hundreds of years lived in trailers and rented out their ancestral homes to rich people. Not all landlords are evil. Most of them but not all.
your exact situation has happened to me twice! Yes twice! The first time we had lived in our home for six years and the landlords absolutely loved us, but they wanted to move their daughter and son-in-law in. Very sad but we found somewhere new to live. six months later, we get an eviction notice that the landlord wants to move her mother into the unit. Many tears and stressful nights later we found another place to live in. It was quite stressful and I think it may have affected my five-year-old son somewhat as well. it was very traumatizing to have your well-being ripped out from under you twice in the span of a year. I 100% empathize with your situation. The only thing I could keep telling myself was that it will all work out. Even though it felt like everything was falling apart. Lots of crying and staring blank into the abyss 😵💫 What really helped me was having my family and friends put their feelers out into the world and ultimately help us find a very random listing. Unfortunately, it did cost a bit more and I receive $200 of rental help from my parents. Not exactly where I thought I would be at 31 but I am thankful for my village.
In my country the landlord has to physically hand you the eviction notice for it to be valid. And they need to give you reasoning behind it. And depending upon the reasoning they have more or less time to give you to move out, legally. But that aside, how rude! You've been there 6 years! 6 YEARS I TELL YOU!! I have a friend going through a very similar thing. You will make it through this. You will.
To my understanding, the feeling of time moving faster when youre younger is not a nd- specific experience. The theory is that its because each consecutive year of your life makes up a smaller percentage of your overall lifetime up to that point. So its kind of an “approaches zero” effect. Not that there couldnt also be something nd or related to being nd that impacts your experience with that though. For me i understand my adhd time blindness as basically just the inability to intuitively apply my past experience of time to the present/future, which is why finding ways to externalize anything day-to-day time related helps so much.
You mentioning people thinking you're stuck up or snobby is exactly what other people have told me! I've had instances at school where I didn't make friends until a bit into the year because my now current friends thought i would bully them lol
Depending where you live, sometimes there are laws to help extend moving. This happened to my family many years ago. Second purple is my favorite color. Great color on you.
If they have already proceeded with paperwork, you have no room to stop it from happening. You might be able to get an extension. The cost of going through the courts is like $3-5k. So they are trying to refurbish/renovate it and double the rent. They don't want to negotiate because the more time they give you, the less money they can make. It's a time game. Not even offering to double your rent will work. The plans to renovate are a vital part of getting more rent from the unit. Your concerns do not factor into their equation.
I'm not in the exact same situation, but a similar one. I'm moving on my own accord, but moving is probably my biggest trigger all around. I often get into extremely upsetting spirals about how I'll ever get it done. Packing and unpacking is horrifying for me because I'm so scared of losing things like I did last time I moved and the time before that. Plus this is the first time I'm moving while being on my own. My parents are going to be helping me with the initial move, but I'm so scared still 😭 I can't imagine how terrible it would be if I was FORCED to move though
your outfit reminds me of clawdeen’s outfits from the monster high movie “scares city of frights”! :D also, i found this funny(this is about the confident autistic person thing), that i relate to most of that aside from loud talking, and it made me think of how i danced very subtly to a song i liked today, then saw people staring, and a similar thing happened at the movie theatre when an exciting scene happened lol. anyway, have an amazing day! :)
We need to abolish landlording. You should get a free consultation with a tenant attorney to make sure you aren't getting f---ed over any more than is legally permissible.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry about your eviction notice! I’m over here stressing out for you! I really don’t care what’s in your next background, I just want it to be a place you and your family can be happy and safe in. ❤
0:20 omg im so sorry that that is happening to you :( This literally happened to me 3 months ago aswell, and my family and i were on vacation and the landlord sent the paper while we were away, so by the time that we came back we got another notice and it was almost due date so we had to move out everything in our apartment in like 1 and a half days, thankfully now we have finally found a new place (but that is also just temporary :/) and started moving in yesterday. I wish you and your family all the best 🙏, landlords can suck :/
Ladies, Gents, Non-Binary Friends and all my fellow autistics. DO NOT I repeat DO NOT try to make fried ice at home. Make it at your Landlord's home 😐😈
I have this theory that one of the reasons we seem off to people could be emotional incongruence, which is when what we feel doesn't match up to what we're portraying to the world. It makes sense to me that some people are able to clock the pretence in masking, so they've got subconscious alarm bells going off (because being deceived is bad news) but can't find a clear reason for it and therefore settle for "weird vibes". The few times I've been outright accused of pretending is when I haven't been masking - specifically for smiling too much and seeming too happy - so clearly their radar isn't that accurate, but Heidi Priebe has a video on "leaky feelings" if you want to know more about the incongruence thing.
A much requested autism meme review!
If you missed the last memes, you can choose your weird autistic seating position here: ua-cam.com/video/okCnoFC5WS4/v-deo.html
I’m glad you seem to enjoy watching them as much as I enjoy making them. It’s a nice break from the heavier content.
Aaand still no response from my landlord 😭 Still hanging around in uncertainty like that poor lion 😅
Can you highlight fanfiction, research, and comics about the harms of ABA behavioral "therapy"? I'm sick of seeing so many people praise ABA and ignore ABA trauma and ABA-induced mental health crises. 😢 🕊
You can live with me in my home. 😉
I'm autistic too.
I have to find a new place by October too and it is stressing me out - like crying every time i search for anything and get no response from any i have contacted. It literally makes me miserable.
This is to say - i feel for you.
I've got 2 empty rooms in my house, and I'll charge half what you're paying now. I just need the extra income for bills.
The creature at 7:59 is a Mr Meseeks from Rick and Morty.
Please check that the Landlord has the right to evict you on so short notice as you are not to blame for anything. I recommend contacting citizen advice, they know best about the legalities in your area. Hope everything goes well, I know how stress full this can be especially under the current conditions here in the UK.
Thank you! 💛
You're lucky, in Texas, you only get 3 days.
most places only require 30 days, unfortunately.
@@BiggestBigBoythats ridiculous
Is the landlord trying to evict her, or just not renewing a lease? Or maybe the UK doesn't work on an annual lease basis like most of the US does.
How most people react when they find out someone in their class/work is autistic: negative / neutral
How I react: Yay new friend!!
Exactly. A lot of my friends and I are autistic.
Yay medic tf2 pfp
Radar indicating friendlies in area
Absolute fear of having an obligation to be their friend as a form of mandatory solidarity. Stop here if you don't want to bother with the info dump...... (Yes, I PDA just a bit.) Just because I'm auADHD doesn't mean I like being around ppl that are also on the spectrum. I mean, yes, I've met some ppl on the spectrum and have enjoyed their company, sometimes because of their spectrum qualities. I don't want long-term friendship obligations. That being said, I have a coworker on the spectrum (they are the reason I got my official late in life ADHD diagnosis) who I feel very uncomfortable around to the point I have trouble getting to work on time because I don't like the stress of being near them even though we don't talk or interact. Actually, it is because we don't talk or interact that I am stressed. I feel an undercurrent of hostility around them. I'm not the only one who feels this. I try to own my feelings, but I also feel they make a point of not interacting with me. When I do interact with them, I find their tone to be dismissive, defensive and/or hostile. Yes, IK one person on the spectrum is one person on the spectrum. Actually, I find them to be a reflection of my own personality at times, and I become even more self-conscious. I never understood where the notion that if a person on the spectrum has trouble with NT ppl, we're suddenly supposed to be OK with all the ND ppl? They both take my spoons. They just do different things with them. Anywho, sorry for the rant. Really, I am. This just really struck a chord in me. I mean no personal disrespect to you. I am sure you are a very nice person with many good qualities. I hope the best for all your daily activities and success through your struggles. Sorry if I offended you in any way. It's just that I really don't understand where this myth started or why? I don't expect you to have the answer and don't feel like you need to respond if you don't want to. Or if you need to chew me out for being a complete troll, go ahead. I probably deserve it. Waves 'hi' from a respectful distance, debating on if I should freeze in place or run away. ✌️
@@kenmc1601 hi!! i’m not diagnosed audhd yet, and growing up nobody around me knew that i was nd so people just treated me as weird or stuck up, which might mean our experiences are v different. however!! for me, the ‘myth’ of spontaneous autistic friendship isn’t because i expect to be friends with all autistic people, or that they should all be friends with me - but instead because it feels safer. even if i still get tired or overwhelmed, i feel more like i can trust smb with autism to understand and take what i’m saying as is - instead of reading into my words too much and concluding that i hate them or think i’m better than them, if i say i’m tired or if i’m not using the right tone of voice or facial expressions with them. it’s a feeling of relief.
i’m not a very extroverted person and the idea of having to interact with someone, or meeting someone new when i wasn’t prepared can cause a short circuit lol. less so if they are ““““the same”””” as me, because i can just be completely honest about my feelings. I can say ‘sorry, my head gets busy really easily - i *am* interested in what you’re talking about’, and someone ‘like me’ is less likely to assume it’s just a polite excuse or something, esp if they also know I am nd. I don’t feel the need to ‘act’ as much.
I am also biased by past experiences, because sometimes I’d meet someone new and want to talk to them all the time. I’d think they were so cool and amazing, and I wanted to be their friend - even though the idea of even leaving my house sometimes causes spirals for me. Then I’d learn they were on the spectrum, had ADHD, or both. So I think I’ve learnt to associate that fluttery sparkly experience with meeting other audhd people! Like an extra reassurance that I’ll be ok talking to people this time, since that’s how it worked the other times. I also feel relief at being able to say I feel overstimulated, or that I need certain accommodations, without being dismissed as quickly or being treated as if I’m just being overdramatic, because others ‘like me’ are more likely to understand.
I feel a lot of other people probably share these sentiments, which might explain why so many people online seem more excited to meet other autistic people! You don’t have to share the same opinions though. Don’t feel like you have to like other people just because they are also autistic! I don’t feel that way either, and if anyone tries to make you feel that way, they don’t have your best interests at heart!! Ignore them.
The "people lacking autism" ribbon is amazing
The taupe ribbon has to become a regular meme in the community.
I love this!❤
@@cassettetape7643 The googly eyes SENT me, haha
I am crafting myself one! 😂
My reaction to the beginning of this video:
Meg: "I was feeling in a great mood, I had a lot of energy. Then I got a phone call-"
Me: "Valid. Phone calls are demon spawn..." 😐
Meg: "-to tell me my landlord has decided that we have two months to leave."
Me: "How did it just turn even worse?! The phone call in itself was bad enough!" 😧
rofl that is some crazy insanity going on and VERY NOT GOOD with the landlord situation be careful people and be well!
My heart dropped when she said phone call too
So am I not alone in keeping my phone on permanent silence and only ever accepting expected calls by known numbers? Even to the point of requesting doctors to email me with notice should they use a phone with an "UNKNOWN"/"Private" listing?
If only people wouldn't try to contact me until I was prepared for them to contact me
Omg I had the same reaction 😅
At work, i saw a boy with headphones on and he had flapped his hands so excitedly!! I was think “aw, i wonder what he saw that made him do that, good for him!!” It made me so happy, i dont even know this teen boy but just seeing him just stim openly in the grocery store made me so excited he felt safe enough to❤
@@vivi-ws9yl aw thats so sweet!
One day I was wearing my cutest and pinkest outfit while dropping my son off at his school and an autistic girl (we usually see in the morning being dropped off also) completely lit up with a huge smile and happy noises and hand flaps when she saw my outfit. It made me happy to see her so happy. I hope she gets to wear cute pink things when she is out of school and has happy moments when she wears them.
@@TheVioletMaze yes!! So cute!!
I've had the great honor of earning immediate trust from more than one autistic child. I think it's just my very own childlike nature, I'm almost 50 and my room is like a toy store. But to find out I was one of only 2 people to actually get a hug from this girl and I wasn't her mom, who sadly never got hugs, I just felt an instant adoration towards them. Such sweethearts.
That’s actually incredible! Grocery stores give me so much anxiety; I can’t imagine being able to stim in one.
Our landlord of TEN years was selling to move closer to family and retirement, and everything felt chaos. My partner handled looking for new places online, while I handled boxing and organization of possessions, and things went far smoother than they could have, as we each handled our strong suits. We did it in three weeks because of this, though we were given six months.
I'm so sorry yours just dropped the bomb and gave you only two measly months, but you can do this. Your new place will become your home, and you'll both make it work. It's painful, but the dust does settle, though it doesn't seem like it while we're in the middle of undoing everything we perfected and loved.
Good luck to your family, but it'll be alright. You'll make it work, and like us, no matter where you go, you'll get there together and make something new out of this.
Thank you so much for this 😭💛
Sane landlords love people that are 'nested' and keep them.
Thank you, very well written. ❤
@@OrafuDa My Mom had a duplex for a while. One tennant paid to have his own barkdust and plants one year and ti made her super happy cause it meant he cared. Its a term they use for a tenant like that.
When you're autistic, you either neglect breakfast until you starve or can't leave your house unless you're 100% convinced that what you ate has sufficient nutrirional value and won't send you into a downward spiral of eating disorder and premature death from heart disease (that's me)
There is absolutely no in-between.
So real
Usually I hyperfixate on something for so long I just don’t eat for the whole day (please take away my sketchbook)
I never was able to eat breakfast, UNLESS I'm like at a training camp for something that's a special interest of mine and i absolutely have to eat at least something to get through the day. i just usually eat two times a day and snack something hours after I woke up.
Nope; I have ADHD too, so some days I eat 4 Pop-Tarts with water; some days peanut butter toast, a banana, and milk; some days my pills I can take without food chugged down with water. Yay for consistent inconsistency! 🤪
@@misspat7555 for me it's the worst, that certain extreme textures and flavours are one of many forms of stimming for me. So I've days where I can't eat anything besides specific types of candy and maybe some high proteine milkshake stuff, while my body just rejects everything else violently.
At least when eating healthy overall I can take those days for what they are and just eat mostly empty calories to not break down due to a lack of energy and not feel bad for it.
I heard somewhere that the "not gonna live long" feeling is called a Sense of Foreshortened Future and it's associated with PTSD.
I never heard of that before but I googled it and it makes so much sense to me, thanks for leading me onto that path!
I can recommend looking it up if you related to the 'I never expected to live past 18' meme, if you're in an emotionally stable space where you can explore new perspectives on your mental health.
I would say that is so. A family member has been in that frame of mind, and as I expected, she now has a MDD and PTSD diagnosis.
I didn't realize that was related to ASD. When I was little, 2020 seemed like a year that I would never reach, in fact age fifty didn't seem like I would reach, but I have passed both now.
I have no joke had that feeling since I was a child in the single digit ages and didn't know it wasnt normal until I was in my mid 20s
@@Vanity0666well you’re not alone friend, I am in much the same boat now, workin through it slowly but surely
I felt that "didn't think I'd reach 18..." one. Neither did anyone around me.
I just turned 40, and accepted that I'm AuDHD.
maybe got a bit to do with the influence of y2k.
i remember i once heard it‘s only 1000 days till it‘s 2000. i started counting the days from that moment on. and i was absolutely thinking i wouldn‘t get there. i‘m now 42 and somehow still feel the same.
congrats to you it was sad unfortunate throughout the video relating memes to her and the landlord situation ha crazy times with that so BE CAREFUL PEOPLE hahaa :D
@@kisnpisn4919 As Y2K approached there was a point where I got less and less worried.
I live in a GMT-7 timezone. I figured worst-case: I would be able to see power go out around the world, and have time for last-minute preparations.
My disbelief at reaching adulthood wasn't so much Y2K, as it was trauma and dangerous life choices as a teen.
@@tbella5186I had trauma and thought that I wouldn't reach the Y2K. And I didn't think that there would be a problem with Y2K, it just seemed like I would die before then.
The blue guy at 8:00 is Mr Meeseeks from Rick and Morty 😅 Those are only supposed to exist until a task given has been completed, but in the episode of the show they were given a nearly impossible task, so they had to stick around for much longer than they were supposed to do 😅
I'm Mr Meeseeks, look at me!
All because of Jerry... He just HAD to fix his golf swing!
Can do!
Also they want to complete their task as quickly as possible because just their existence in itself is painful.
It's all just too dang accurate 😅
PSA: Do not, repeat *do not under any circumstances* deep-fry ice, water or any other sufficiently-watery liquid. No, not even if you have somehow managed to batter it.
Because of the way that cooking oils float on water, all you'll achieve is a layer of water directly in contact with a heating element that's over the boiling point of water. This will convert the water into steam, which will rise through the oil, creating bubbles which can and will explode, showering hot oil all over your kitchen. That's possible irrespective of whether or not the bubbles also cause the oil to overflow the container. If the oil *does* overflow the container, you may, in addition to spraying yourself and everything in the vicinity with extremely hot oil, have just caused a grease fire, *also* all over yourself and everything in the vicinity.
That makes a lot of sense! Thanks for the explanation
It made me laugh because of how ridiculous of an idea it was. But it does look very dangerous. I appreciate the thorough explanation.
Thank you for the science!!! I was going to remember that when I was already in bed and have to postpone sleep to google 😴
I’ve never understood style, like how do people know what’s in and out of style? Do people go out of their way to find other people to tell them what to wear? Why do things go out of style? Why does anyone care if things are out of style? *existential screaming*
Also, good luck on the landlord situation. Landlords suck.
style is dictated by fashion shows and what the companies are selling. just wear whatever you want, it most likely just looks good.
I just look at outfits or art styles and think “oh I’m attracted to that, I love that, I want to put my face in that” and then try to do that (as in make that outfit) I don’t care about what’s popular
What I did as little kid I'd look at the Sears Roebuck catalog and pick out some clothes. If they weren't too crazy my mother would get them for me sometimes and then would go to school and get made fun of , for dressing like a weirdo.
@@stanzacosmi No, stuff at fashion shows is ridiculous.
They read fashion magazines, I guess 🤷♀️
The stuff you were saying about how time blindness and hyperfocusing can make you get all existentialist was so relatable.
I did not know that THINKING YOU WOULDNT LIVE TO 18 was a common experience… I was nearly hospitalized the day after my 18th birthday. It was genuinely painful not knowing what would come of me now. Three years of therapy, and a few months of medication and I'm just starting to feel like I've got a purpose. I'm just getting to the stage everyone else seemed to get to at eighteen. Not that they had it figured out, but they were ready to take on the world in a way I was not.
I put off being 18 by going to college for 4 years and got to have my crisis at 22 instead! Woo! 🫠
For real that's a genuine eye opener
@@misspat7555 I had graduated high school at sixteen and had to watch my siblings so my mom could get a job. I developed severe agoraphobia and it stopped me from doing anything I wanted to. I’m in school now (online but still proud) and working toward getting my first job. Covid and personal circumstances kinda stunted my personal growth🫠
Good luck to you my friend, I'm sure you'll do great things😊❤️
I didn't ex0ect to make it to 30, so I'm trying to look at the last 7 years as bonus time. I spent a few years headed towards a bad end, so it's pretty surprising I managed not to. Also, a lot of people have trouble feeling like they're ready to take on life or find a purpose, so I hope you don't feel alone or like you're behind others on that account. One of the things I've learned is that so many people look like they have it together, while inside, they're also confused or hoping for the best and searching for their purpose.
I literally remember writing at age 12 "I didn't think you'd make it this far" to my 16-year old self. I'm 25 now 🙃
I'm a refugee from Ukraine and about a week ago I had the same situation with our landlord saying that he wants to sell the home we lived in for 2 years because the support program that paid our rent ended and he does not want to accept our money. I really understand you and the feelings and shock you have! I hope you will find a home that will be even better than your current one and I wish you all the energy, luck, and positive energy to resolve your situation and live through the whole transition! After all the home is where our loved ones are, and they are staying with us no matter what happens 😊
Wishing the both of you the best in finding a new place soon.
@@TricksterModeEngaged Thank you!
I recommend looking up your rights as a tenant and making sure that the landlord even has the right to evict you if you're still paying rent just fine. Good luck!
So sorry you have had this experience! Take comfort that this is happening to lots of people right now! I wish you good luck in finding acceptable accommodations! ❤
So sorry for you guys
Just hoping for all the peace and bliss to come your way
Landlords are awful. Sorry you’re going through that. I would check your contract to see if he can legally do that. You might have some recourse.
To landlords, it's the tenants that are awful. If the tenants are planning to stay, they should get the lease renewed even in advance.
Sometimes, the landlords have another use for the property, in which case it would be nice for them to let the tenant know a few months in advance. But then, when has a tenant given a landlord a few months' notice that they are planning to stay or move?
@@psychohistYeah, those damn poors are so inconvenient! Don't they know we have rent to collect? It's hard work cashing all those checks! /s
@@JoeJoeTater It's hard work keeping the property repaired an in working order, including repairing all the damage that some tenants do. She probably takes pretty good care of where she lives, but not all tenants do.
@@psychohistshut up. Shelter and housing is a basic human right but we’re stuck having to pay for something every human should be entitled to. No one forced landlords to own multiple properties, so the risk is theirs alone to bear. Most landlords are slum lords, if you pick the cheapest way to run your business then you get what you invest in.
@@psychohist Yes, it's such hard work paying employees. I feel it in my bank account every time!
Seriously though, kick rocks. Nobody is going to feel sorry for someone who scalps housing.
i think the bullying thing is a body language thing because kids are typically really sensitive to body language and as an autistic person trying to mask the body language can be strange/out of place. when i got my assessment, i was reading the diagnostic summary and she said that my body language/eye contact seems typical but was sometimes oddly placed or too frequent. i was just regarded as the weird nerdy/quirky kid who was really sensitive and i was a strict rule follower so i got made fun of for that
You're much stronger than me because I wouldn't even be filming I'd be sobbing all day
I'm a bit confused by my own response so far, to be honest 😅 We haven't received the official notice yet so maybe when that comes through 😬
@@imautisticnowwhat I'm not sure for you of course, but I'm a slow processor emotionally. I cry a day/week late lol, after I've handled things. Sometimes I'll be surprised I handled things in the moment and feel silly for crying when it's over, but that's just how my brain works. The panic gets me through and then I crash lol. You got this though!
As a confident autistic I would like to affirm that we do exist! It's probably because I was homeschooled; I'm not officially diagnosed (yet!) so my parents weren't as supportive as they could have been but at least I never got bullied.
this is so interesting to me because i was also homeschooled and i haven’t been officially diagnosed, but i’m very confident and i’ve always wondered where that came from. i wonder if you’re right and it’s literally just the fact that i didn’t get bullied because i didn’t have the opportunity to, so i never really got “punished” for being different.
Wait a minute! You can't build a timemachine!? I sure hope you do know the secret autistic handshake?
😭 The truth is out! I'm a fake!
/J
That’s the one where no hands actually touch, right? I like that one!
Of all possible timelines it ill behooves me to wonder why anyone with a time machine should voluntarily reside in this one.
@@travisnobleart We should ask The Doctor!
@duikmans good idea. I am pretty sure I’m trapped in the timeline from the end of series 2 season 5, where the Tardis keeps exploding the sun over and over, but I’d love some confirmation. I think. :)
The creature at 8:01 is a Mr. Meeseeks, from Rick and Morty. Its sole function is to help the person with a task, at which point they pop out of existence. In the episode where they are introduced, the first one is summoned to help Jerry (Morty's dad) take a few strokes off his golf game. The task proves very difficult, so the whole episode is just the Meeseeks having an existential crisis because their average lifespan is considerably shorter than the one summoned to help Jerry has.
Had something like this happen to us a couple of years ago. We ended up buying a home instead of renting, and our monthly payments went down instead of up. We got lucky with the timing. Hopefully you find something that works out well for you. Stay strong. Good luck!
I'm so glad everything worked out!
Omg if anyone around here could just buy a home, no one would rent for sure
@@draalttom844 That's not true. Renting and buying are two different solutions for different situations. For years I rented because I was doing contract work, and I needed to be able to move without being tied down and selling and buying a house every six months to a year depending on my contract work. And anyone can buy a home if they're willing to make the sacrifices required.
I had the same thing (my mortgage payments are STILL lower than my rent was a decade ago, and it was about to go up again at the time and likely went up several more times). The difficulty is that you need to have enough savings to pay a deposit, and a bank willing to give you a mortgage (they might not want to do so as Meg's income probably isn't as regular as a 9-5 job's would be).
The weird sitting thing probably stems from EDS more than autism.
OMG the "oops I'm shaking time to eat" meme is me right now! Like I'm eating a Pop Tart because I noticed I was shaking and in desperate need of food.
ive actually come to really dislike my brithday. other than the fact i have no friends to celebrate with or stuff like that, what makes me most sad is that every year i feel like my body and what my position in society is suppoed to be according to the norm becomes more and more distant from how i feel inside every year
Hey man/woman/they/unidentifiable eldritch creature,
I don't know you, but I do feel you.
Assuming today's not your birthday, and in all sincerity, (belated) happy birthday from this internet stranger.
I needed this video. I just calmed down from an autistic meltdown because my brothers were being turds. I was just scrolling on youtube and I see this. Thank you
Meg is our emotional support youtuber.
We were given three months to move when our landlord sold the house we were renting. We'd been there five years, and actually felt like part of the community. It was shocking how much the rental market had changed. Used to look at ads, pick out a few that looked nice, checked them out and chose the one that was most suitable. I had no idea how difficult it had become. It turned into a constant job, and I only got the flat we're in now because we called as soon as the ad was put up, and the ad was taken down within 10 minutes because the landlord had given info for the wrong place and had to change it. We're paying way more than we used to, and we live a lot farther from the city, but we still live indoors and that's what counts. There are a startling number of people around here who aren't 😢
On a personal note, in 2020 (remember?) our mum died. We were living in her flat. My sister said “no rush, stay for 12 months before you start looking for somewhere else” . Cool, I thought.
3 months later it was “please can you move out asap, I need my share of the inheritance?”
At first I was like WTF???
Then I chose to roll with it…….prices were awful where I was looking. After many failures we got lucky……I’m the best tenant I can be and I love this home, while being aware that nothing is for ever….
…..I turned “moving house “ into my special interest and we did it ourselves for £180, which I found in an envelope from money I’d forgotten I’d earned before my mum died…….so, I became super strong and capable due to the challenges, when I’d previously been utterly wiped out by mums death from Alzheimer’s……….
For me, thirties and forties were probably my best decades, so there’s that. The years in which my executive functioning was at its peak. At 50, I felt like I was finally the age I was always supposed to be. About a year or two later, I felt like I was now older than I wanted to be. Then my head started falling apart.
So based on a sample size of one, I’d conclude that you might not want to dread 30, but 50+ is an open question. However, your mileage may vary. :)
Life falling apart, you got me at that.
You can tell when you're done when all meaning falls right of the bone.
My landlord keeps threatening to evict me for tiny little reasons. And they are terrible about repairing things in a timely way.
The Spongebob bit about Crabby Patties!! My son wouldn't eat meat for probably two years and then he decided that he would eat anything between buns if we called it a "crabby patty" - fish in buns - yes! chicken in buns - yes! beef in buns - yes!
a couple years ago my Nana passed. my mom and I shared a rented house with her. my dog had to be put down, my mom had to put down her cat, and Nana was somewhat of a hoarder (house was clean, but had a lot of boxes bk she never threw away mail), so my mom and I had a lot to try and work through. It was one of the roughest periods in our lives, and just when we were starting to recover, my mom had gotten two new kittens, and I'd gotten a c-ptsd diagnosis and was just learning about autism, we get notified that the landlord wants to sell the house and we have to leave. It was really hard, we were working constantly, and the house we ended up moving into had a ton of problems and had been heavily neglected.. I melted down several times. We've worked hard to fix the place up, but it still sucks being here. I hope we can move again when the lease is up. It's scary that this seems to be happening to people more and more. The same thing recently happened to YT'r Toxic Tears too. (being told the house she's in is going to be sold and she has to leave)
I truly wish you the best regards! My kudos to you to you and your mother for trying your best to make the best of a really difficult situation. I hope you can find a better place ❤️
our landlord opened our apartment door WITH A MASTERKEY HE HAD WHILE I WAS BREASTFEEDING OUR BABY to inspect the apartment once.....we lived on the FOURTH FLOOR of a downtown apt that was hot, noisy and leaked everytime it rained......
My landlord came in one day with a repair man with no warning and I was asleep in bed and not dressed and I was very upset.
@@gelfling HOLY MOLY!
Trespassing is a crime, even for landlords. At least that is the case in the Netherlands. I don’t know if other countries have even worse protection then we have here.
@@Impossibleshadow In the USA the landlord has to give 24 hour notice before coming in or having repairs done unless it is an emergency. At least in my city.
We got a letter shoved in the door from the sheriff saying that the house was being repossessed and we had some small amount of time before being evicted.
The letter was addressed to the landlord, and normally I wouldn't read it, but ....
Incidentally, the owner had skipped the country a few months before. IDEK. Now, 20 years later, for the very first time, I'm wondering if it was a fake letter from someone who didn't like us and wanted us to move out.
Your landlord probably wants you out so he can repaint the place and charge twice what you're paying. If you've been great tenants you might make an offer of higher rent. Regardless, the laws for leases and eviction might help you. Depending on your situation, it might even be cheaper to buy. Good luck!
The landlord thing sucks. I have been given a month to move out and struggled to find somewhere to go (moved in with parents). There is a housing crisis currently so I would be asking your landlord for a supporting letter ASAP as it may help!! Good luck with house hunting xx
I had this happen to me last year. My landlord hadn’t been paying their mortgage and the bank was taking over the property. I had 4 weeks to find somewhere, go to viewings and move in that amount of time.
Luckily I was able to move just in time but it was extremely stressful. It really rocked me and I’m still struggling with the damage it done to my mental health.
All the best to you.
I had a flat in a beutiful historic building in Washington when I first moved over here. It was my home for almost 8 years until the owners sold the building to developers. I had a strong emotional attachment to my home, something extremely important as an autisic adult living on my own several thousand miles from family. It was the one refuge I had from the extreme changes of moving to a new city, starting a new job there, and going through all the hastles to remain in there. A second problem was that any similar space in the city was roughly twice the cost. Despite this, the outcome was very beneficial. Loss of my home led me to leave Washington and move to a rural area of western Massachusetts. My career shifted from working in hospitality to working in higher education, I finished university and pursued two higher degrees, met my life partner and own a home. The unexpected stress of having to find a new home will be undeniably difficult for you as an autistic person as it was for me, but over time this change has the potential to be highly beneficial. I do feel the two-months notice is far too short though.....
I'm going through a very similar thing right now. I learned this Monday that I have to get out at the end of the month. I can stay in a friend's room for a few weeks luckily, but it was still very devasting. Feels like I'm speed running the five stages of grief in the last few days. Now I made a plan and started packing my stuff and it helped me a lot to get some stuff done.
All of this to say I can really emphasize with your situation. I can't offer any advice sadly. But we will get through it and find something. Sending you hugs if you want those :)
3:15 I was the one who posted that! I'm so happy Megan loves it.
And best of luck trying to find a new place. I know the housing situation in London is a complete trash fire rn.
I don't think she lives in London.(she said she'd gone to be Eras Tour, and Taylor Swift playing the Scottish dates now.)
The diagnosis by bullying hits so close to home!
Absolutely. And when I reported it, it was their multiple word against my single word. Plus their dads were bigwigs in our small town.
The upside: though I was never able to stand up for myself, if a bully was picking on someone else, I usually flew into a rage and protected them. I would catch the bully off guard, knock them to the ground, beat on the bully (probably ineffectively) and get pulled off by an adult.
Our town was really little. Everyone either walked, rode their bikes, or got a ride from their parents. The school rules were anything that happened between School and Home was considered school business. Consequently I always end up in the principal’s office when this happened, BUT never once got suspended . It took me 50-60 years to realize the principal was probably cheering inside while he told me “this is not how we handle things” I can remember looking at him and going, “so what am I supposed to do when I see them picking on someone smaller than them or an animal?”
because of course the cowardly bullies never picked on anybody bigger than them.
That was a rant. I’m done now.
You do have to know how to make fried rice correctly to get the full joke. "Make rice, and then fry it, how hard could it be?" Fried rice is fried in a pan after coating it with a small amount of oil. The water in the rice will boil, but the method means that the pan walls should be able to contain most of the spatter. Deep frying something that has that much water in it incredibly dangerous. All of the water boils and the vapor has to escape as bubbles which foams the oil and, well, you saw what happened. I hope no one was burned.
Last week I ate at a Japanese hibachi restaurant. The grill was in the middle of a u shaped table arrangement. The entertainment was watching our food orders get prepared. Plus some showmanship, like the chef juggling his spatula. Half my platter-size plate was fried rice. First, eggs stirred and fried, diced. Then a large onion half divided into rings, stacked to form a cone with hole at top. Some sort of Japanese alcoholic beverage poured into onion cone. Light the whole thing on fire, thankfully under a large hood vent so ceiling didn't catch fire. After that burned down, vegetables were fried in same area of grill. Finally rice and fried eggs were mixed, and served with veggies. Then the chef went on to prepare what meat each of our party had ordered. Point being, that grill was flat. If any oil was used I didn't see it. We never got spattered.
@@joycebrewer4150 Now I'm hungry.
@@DarkVeghetta 🤣
Meg I'm sorry I know this was posted 3 months ago but a landlord CANNOT evict you because they want to sell! They simply have to sell the property with its tenants and then the buyer is taking you on as tenants. They just rely on the fact people don't know their renting rights. (I'm also UK based)
In March of 2020, when the pandemic was beginning, along with lockdowns, our landlord told us they were selling the house and we had a month to leave.
They, first, tried to sell it to us.
No...
We went from a house to a four-plex split into apartments. And, while my partner hates living in apartments, the high rent prices elsewhere pretty much guarantees we'll be here for a while.
So sorry to hear about the situation with your landlord. It happened to us in 2018 and again in 2021. Wishing you all the best of luck. It took lots of applications, and searching. Best advice is to be willing to look at longer commutes.
Forgot to mention. My family had rented a place for over 15 years or more and the landlord during that time gave a 90 day notice. Wasn't enough time. We went to court and the judge and lawyer extended our time. It took us about 5 to 6 months. We had decided to buy a mobilehome. 46 was tough for me. 40 was exciting.
my family is also having problems with the landlord, very stressful :(
I'm so sorry 😞
I tell you what, landlords are pulling some dirty moves on people these days, I'd get legal advice if I were you. I'm currently dealing with threatening letters from the council saying I owe them thousands for council tax that I have already paid and have proof of. They're a bunch of crooks.
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels like I will die before a certain age. 30 is that threshold for me for years, and I just turned 29. It's making me really excited to turn 30 actually, I'm going to have to do something very fun for it.
Best of luck with the apartment situation! Something will work out. Hope there is something in your contract that will buy you more time. ❤❤
the “I wasn’t supposed to exist this long” dude Is mr.meseeks from rick and morty and the reason he’s being existential Is because he’s supposed to be given a task and poof out of existence when he’s done and he was given a task that cannot be completed
The confident autistic starter pack lmao i feel like i fit that. Maybe. Idk but im not confident a lot of the time
the same thing happened to me almost 10 yrs ago. well they weren't selling i don't think, they just wanted us gone or something. they were just like "you have 30 days to get out." we didn't even get a phone call, we got an eviction notice on the door & let me tell you, seeing that was terrifying.
i'm glad we got out bc the area was already sketchy, but apparently it's one of the highest crime cities in california now 👍🏻
landlords are the worst, & they can legally get away with everything idfk why (i mean... i do. it's money. everything is money.)
something about the way you called mr. meeseeks "mr... blob." made me laugh aloud 😄
Im no lawyer and I don’t know how it is in the UK but im pretty sure in sweden it’s much harder to evict a tenant and that if you sell a building you sell it with the tenants already living there so the tenants just get a new landlord
Svennejävel!
@@ToothpasteIsGettingExpensive first of all rude second of all go eat some vinerbröd and try talking more clearly
Me and my partner just went through the same thing. We found out on her birthday that we had a few months to move. My partner is autistic and i am undiagnosed (but we're both pretty confident i am also) so we were both overwhelmed by the rug pull in a place that felt so safe and secure 😓. To make it worse, the rental market is overloaded and there is soo much competition that we were getting nowhere. It didn't help that we have furbabies, and landlords were knocking us back because NO PETS!!.. In the end we were lucky enough to be able to buy a place and avoid the rental market nightmare.. it's been an ordeal, but we just got the keys and move in this week! So all in all we have been lucky and things have ended well for us, but OMFG was that more stress than either of us ever wanted...
Oh boy, I have MANY times landlords kicked us out on short notice, and honestly 2 months sounds amazing to me (but I still think even that is ridiculous). They only ever gave us a month at most. The first time I vividly remember was when I spent my 13th birthday having a meltdown as my stuff was swept into garbage bags because we didn't have time to properly pack. Was homeless for 2 months and moved far away from everything I knew. The second was when I spent my 16th birthday doing the same thing. We had a full month to get out that time, but still ended up homeless for a month anyway. Then it happened again on my 18th birthday. (sometimes having a summer birthday really sucks lmao) Although that time we managed to not be homeless, because I took up the responsibility to find us a place and do all of the 'adulting' since my mother wasn't. Every other move we've done since then has been my responsibility to figure out. Which, being autistic, is really damn hard.
It was, probably incredibly unsurprising, very traumatic for me, and I'm not sure how old your child is but please explain it to them regardless of their age, and reinforce that its nothing any of you did wrong. I'm 31 this July and I've spent basically my entire life struggling to make myself believe that none of it was actually my fault. Having someone explain what was happening to us and why might have made it easier to cope with. ♥🫂
I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. It's hard, its a lot, and its not fair. Even 2 months is a stupidly short amount of time to pack up your entire life and move it somewhere else. I really hope your landlord is reasonable and gives you some more time. Best of luck, and please don't feel pressured to post regularly (or at all) through all of this. We'll still be here once things are less stressful. It's okay to take a break!
If you’re looking to keep consistency with the background, you could try taking a picture of the current background and using a green screen at the new place. I’ve seen a lot of UA-camrs do that sort of thing for branding and consistency. I know elgato does a pop up one that makes storage easier.
that "creature" is a Meeseeks from Rick & Morty (8:00)
I'm Mr Meeseeks, look at meeee
@@WesleyLeeYang Mr. Meeseeks, I would like to take two strokes off my golf game 😄
@@knut5328 CAAAAN DO!
I hope the living situation works out for the best. That is truly an unreasonably short time period to find a place and move. Housing prices are ridiculous lately.
So sorry about the house situation, these places are our safe spaces and changing that is so hard, i believe in you tho, once you find a place and settle in you'll be able to build it up to be that space again
You got this!
❤
My life is falling apart right now, I think I'm gonna like this video
I moved in with my ex as my roommate (I know…! But I’m vegan, and I’m also VERY particular about home keeping) and two weeks in, my bedroom flooded from rain… in South Florida… during normal rains. And they broke the wall 5 times throughout the lease and never found the cause. So every time it rained, I had to put towels on my floor, and hide my cats when the maintenance crew decided to show up. And this is a big rental company.
You moved in with your ex but you’re vegan? Why does it matter if you’re vegan? Do vegans need to move in with their exes? I have a vegan friend but she didn’t move in with her ex! Should I tell her to do that??
@@ToothpasteIsGettingExpensive We were still living together when we broke up. She is vegan too. It was still at the height of the pandemic, and we renewed a lease together... I have OCD tendencies with utensils, cookware, and handwashing, among many other things, living with someone that isn't as much of a neat freak like me was more than I could handle at the time, so it seemed easier to stay living with my ex. Hope that clarifies it. The idea of someone eating animal products or cooking them in my stuff makes me wanna videogame myself.
@@nicks9321 aaa ok
5:53 is a good representation of my cooking anxiety, especially with the microwave.
10:26 THE BOOTS! YES!
I find the microwave fat easier than a conventional oven, for most things. I remember a day my mom was using a pressure cooker on stove top and the steam vent clogged. We shortly had a geyser of boiling hot tart apple juice hit the ceiling. She had planned on making jelly. She was fortunate to not be left with scald scars as she ran cold water over her arm several minutes after reaching to turn off heat.
@@joycebrewer4150 I was trying to make some popcorn chicken and the microwave sparked, and now I can't be in the same room as a running microwave because anxiety. I am still learning how to cook by the way, so I only know how to use the microwave.
@@kitten1602 Sorry to hear that. I can't use the few pieces of my grandmother's wedding china I have left, in the microwave. They all have a ring of gold paint at the edge, and the first time I tried with the saucer that was most worn, it sparked. I ended that heat cycle quickly, transferring food to a different dish before trying again. I am much more careful now what dishes I use in the microwave.
@@joycebrewer4150 Our pressure cooker exploded beans all over the kitchen and gave my brother and dad mild burns.
My landlord sold up. It was a horrible time. I was lucky enough to qualify for a council flat.
But maybe your landlord has a friend or acquaintance who is also a property owner and who is looking for reliable tenants? There is no harm in asking.
Once I was given 2 WEEKS to move out. Luckily I wasn't alone in that situation and the others handled it well that we got more time. All that while having to study for university exams. I moved out as fast as I could but it still took 6 weeks. But the place was horrible anyways and I was scared of any doorbell, e-mail or letter for years after living there for about 9 months (additionally to phone calls which I hated for all my life and still do). This happened 14 years ago... I wish you all the best and good luck.
Two weeks is illegal where I live. They have to give a month's notice. Both landlord and tenant if there is no lease.
7:53 This meme and your thoughts reminded me of a feeling I had when I was younger. It probably came out of reading way too many books, but I seriously thought that I would stop being part of my life at some point. Not like dying, but just "they lived happily ever after" sort of parting, knowing my life would continue, but I just wouldn't be part of it anymore.
I'm really sorry, what's going on with your home. Hope it'll turn out alright 😊
God I'm so sorry! Housing sucks everywhere. It's the only thing keeping me where I am b/c my house is LITERALLY falling apart. ~air hugs~ (b/c I probably wouldn't LOL)
I'm so sorry that your landlord is doing that to you, it is absolutely disgusting that someone can do things like that and I wish you the best of luck. Of course it is also pretty horrible that landlords exist to begin with.
I dreaded turning 30, but my 30s were infinitely better than my 20s ... and overall my 40s are better than my 30s so far? I hope the moving drama has a positive outcome at least!
That was my experience too. I was bummed in my mid 20s that I felt I was not moved past adolescence. Things started to look up close to 30, and I’ve since learned that the prefrontal cortex does not finIsh developing until about 25, and maybe a few years later for those of us who have executive functioning issues.
Mentally things often improve for people over time.
God, I know the feeling of the landlord just dumping the whole you’re being evicted thing on you. Happened to me last year too, but thankfully between my partner, my parents, and my self, we were able to get enough money to put down a deposit for a mortgage on a cheapish place. I know that put me in a very privileged position, but only getting 3 months notice to do that was genuinely the most stressful thing I’ve ever experienced.
I hope you manage to sort out some sort of accommodation before your 2 months is done!
I didn’t think I would reach the age of 15
But now I’m 17 and my brain is slowly giving up on life ,I don’t care about a lot of things anymore
Honestly surprised I survived this long on this planet 😂
Things will even themselves out once you get out of your teens and things that mattered before will matter less, balance is coming your way.
I'm sorry you're going through a hard time right now. I'm almost 27 and I will say that I have found being an autistic adult much easier than being an autistic child. Even though it comes with it's own stressors I have so much more freedom and autonomy and don't feel so trapped all the time. I don't know your situation but I hope things get easier for you. It's worth holding on through the shitty times to get to better days.
Sorry about your housing situation. :(
You could maybe get like a hanger for your earrings to show them off in the backround? If you have enough. I had a friend who had a hanger on their wall with a bunch of cool novelty earrings.
Oh god i had an everyday meltdown week and i love your voice sm so hearing it instantly brought some joy for today :"D
There's actually been research into why autistic people get bullied so consistently, and apparently neurotypicals get a weird/creepy "uncanny valley" type feeling (that's when something looks kinda human, but not enough, so it's slightly off. Like a creepy doll) from our body language and expressions, and it's something that can't be masked either (masking sometimes even adds to it).
It's so much so that people can very consistently pick out an autistic person from a random group of people, not even given information on what to look for, just based on "that person is weird/different".
"when life gets hard we turn to memes" yeah, as a Brazilian, I can confirm
I hope everything goes well with finding a new place and moving ✨
In Germany, after renting for 5-8 years both landlord/-lady and tennant have a madatory 6 month notice period (except if there's a reason akin to not paying rent for 2+ months, continuously annoying your neighbours etc.)
I always subconsciously felt I wasn't going to live past grad school because I could only conceive of myself existing as a student, nothing past that. Living into adulthood, getting a full-time job, and joining society seemed absurd. It was literally inconceivable for someone like me, since to my knowledge, no one like me (autistic half Thai-American lesbian) existed in the world. When I did live past 23, it was such a shock that it nearly did kill me. I'm 26 now and my body is still recovering.
I thought this was because I grew up with no Asian or queer representation -- I had no idea it could also be because I'm autistic until recently. Good to know I'm not the only autistic person with this experience, though I wish none of us had to feel this way...
About a year ago I was evicted and given 4 weeks to leave the apartment I’d lived at for five years, and my car was broken down at the time, and I simply couldn’t get my belongings to the storage unit in time on foot. I had to get a public defender to help me but my wealthy landlord fought them tooth and nail. I begged them to leave my belongings on the driveway so I could make trips to the storage unit and they refused. On the last day I stood outside sobbing as they loaded 3/4 of my things into a moving van that I couldn’t afford and took them all to the dump. And my landlord was there, smiling. _Smiling._
I found out two days ago that my property manager altered the terms of my lease during the last renewal six months ago (during the eighth annual renewal) and removed the yard-care portion of the lease without telling me about it (they also raised the rent by $350 a month, but I knew about that). I only noticed because the yard-care company stopped mowing the lawn a few weeks ago (note that this means they didn't know they weren't contracted for yard-care any more either and probably only stopped because they weren't getting paid) and the property manager let me know about the "new" situation when I contacted them to complain. Consequently, I had to make an $800 purchase of a lawn mower and line trimmer with one day of notice because I was not meeting the terms of my lease by my delinquent yard care. I'm not exactly getting evicted on short notice but it's still not pleasant.
This experience only reinforces my belief that renting out residential properties for profit is only done by the worst kinds of human beings and for the worst reasons.
A lot of landlords are a"*holes. But I have had a few nice ones.
@@Catlily5 There's a difference between nice and good.
@@Snipe4261 I am autistic but I don't buy into black and white thinking. I grew up in a town where the poor people who lived in the area for hundreds of years lived in trailers and rented out their ancestral homes to rich people. Not all landlords are evil. Most of them but not all.
your exact situation has happened to me twice! Yes twice! The first time we had lived in our home for six years and the landlords absolutely loved us, but they wanted to move their daughter and son-in-law in. Very sad but we found somewhere new to live. six months later, we get an eviction notice that the landlord wants to move her mother into the unit. Many tears and stressful nights later we found another place to live in. It was quite stressful and I think it may have affected my five-year-old son somewhat as well. it was very traumatizing to have your well-being ripped out from under you twice in the span of a year. I 100% empathize with your situation. The only thing I could keep telling myself was that it will all work out. Even though it felt like everything was falling apart. Lots of crying and staring blank into the abyss 😵💫 What really helped me was having my family and friends put their feelers out into the world and ultimately help us find a very random listing. Unfortunately, it did cost a bit more and I receive $200 of rental help from my parents. Not exactly where I thought I would be at 31 but I am thankful for my village.
i did build a functioning time machine but it only goes forward in real time.
In my country the landlord has to physically hand you the eviction notice for it to be valid. And they need to give you reasoning behind it. And depending upon the reasoning they have more or less time to give you to move out, legally.
But that aside, how rude! You've been there 6 years! 6 YEARS I TELL YOU!!
I have a friend going through a very similar thing. You will make it through this. You will.
To my understanding, the feeling of time moving faster when youre younger is not a nd- specific experience. The theory is that its because each consecutive year of your life makes up a smaller percentage of your overall lifetime up to that point. So its kind of an “approaches zero” effect. Not that there couldnt also be something nd or related to being nd that impacts your experience with that though.
For me i understand my adhd time blindness as basically just the inability to intuitively apply my past experience of time to the present/future, which is why finding ways to externalize anything day-to-day time related helps so much.
Omg you're reaction to the "i have autism" and "im autistic" meme was actually adorable!
i'm so sorry about your landlord situation! :(
I've had it happen twice actually! I'm sorry your landlord acted this way. I hope you'll find a nice cheap place soon, I'll have my fingers crossed!
A big big hug about your problems 😢
But memes help spmetimes 😘😘
You mentioning people thinking you're stuck up or snobby is exactly what other people have told me! I've had instances at school where I didn't make friends until a bit into the year because my now current friends thought i would bully them lol
i love your videos and i’m wishing you and your family the best with your living situation ❤
Depending where you live, sometimes there are laws to help extend moving. This happened to my family many years ago. Second purple is my favorite color. Great color on you.
If they have already proceeded with paperwork, you have no room to stop it from happening. You might be able to get an extension. The cost of going through the courts is like $3-5k. So they are trying to refurbish/renovate it and double the rent. They don't want to negotiate because the more time they give you, the less money they can make. It's a time game. Not even offering to double your rent will work. The plans to renovate are a vital part of getting more rent from the unit. Your concerns do not factor into their equation.
doesn't matter where someone lives, landlords only care about money and they are evil
I'm not in the exact same situation, but a similar one. I'm moving on my own accord, but moving is probably my biggest trigger all around. I often get into extremely upsetting spirals about how I'll ever get it done. Packing and unpacking is horrifying for me because I'm so scared of losing things like I did last time I moved and the time before that. Plus this is the first time I'm moving while being on my own. My parents are going to be helping me with the initial move, but I'm so scared still 😭 I can't imagine how terrible it would be if I was FORCED to move though
Best of luck Megan! ❤
your outfit reminds me of clawdeen’s outfits from the monster high movie “scares city of frights”! :D also, i found this funny(this is about the confident autistic person thing), that i relate to most of that aside from loud talking, and it made me think of how i danced very subtly to a song i liked today, then saw people staring, and a similar thing happened at the movie theatre when an exciting scene happened lol. anyway, have an amazing day! :)
We need to abolish landlording. You should get a free consultation with a tenant attorney to make sure you aren't getting f---ed over any more than is legally permissible.
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry about your eviction notice! I’m over here stressing out for you! I really don’t care what’s in your next background, I just want it to be a place you and your family can be happy and safe in. ❤
Landlords… 👎
0:20 omg im so sorry that that is happening to you :(
This literally happened to me 3 months ago aswell, and my family and i were on vacation and the landlord sent the paper while we were away, so by the time that we came back we got another notice and it was almost due date so we had to move out everything in our apartment in like 1 and a half days, thankfully now we have finally found a new place (but that is also just temporary :/) and started moving in yesterday.
I wish you and your family all the best 🙏, landlords can suck :/
Ladies, Gents, Non-Binary Friends and all my fellow autistics.
DO NOT I repeat DO NOT try to make fried ice at home.
Make it at your Landlord's home 😐😈
I have this theory that one of the reasons we seem off to people could be emotional incongruence, which is when what we feel doesn't match up to what we're portraying to the world. It makes sense to me that some people are able to clock the pretence in masking, so they've got subconscious alarm bells going off (because being deceived is bad news) but can't find a clear reason for it and therefore settle for "weird vibes". The few times I've been outright accused of pretending is when I haven't been masking - specifically for smiling too much and seeming too happy - so clearly their radar isn't that accurate, but Heidi Priebe has a video on "leaky feelings" if you want to know more about the incongruence thing.