Yay! We’re memeing again! These make me happy - I hope you still enjoy them too 🥰🐌 If you do want something a little more serious, here’s 41 minutes about the worst autism charity: ua-cam.com/video/qTQYubdlR24/v-deo.html And if you want more fun, here’s the full memes playlist! (we have 14 of them now?): ua-cam.com/play/PLEHi2YmjD7gEssdqTn0247t_niQMt2b22.html See you next week! 💛💛💛
If you still have kneck problems only thing at this point is a specific stretch or workingout. Specifically cardio. I dance but I have autistic clenching so the only way to relax the muscles strain I cause myself through stress is to work it out.
Watching the video now. hope your goal came true and the editing issue is handled! You are a treasured part of my day whenever I have the chance to watch it. Thank you for everything.
EIGHTH Edit: 3:36 "Autism Peak" is a photoshopped picture of the Autumn's Peak pavilion in the Kenneth Hahn Recreation Area in California in the USA! So it *almost* exists. Hope this helps! Love your work!
That whole, "If it was bad you'd have been diagnosed as a child," thing falls apart if you look at families. My dad just got diagnosed at 65 and his dad was the same but they just called it being an Engineer.
i recently came across a lighthearted joke about amish ppl possibly beeing a community of autistic, because they do make a lot of weirdly beautiful, perfect crafts like furniture. Someone answered with "its just called beeing an experienced carpenter" ... well my dad is a good carpenter... his dad was and his grandad aswell... only his dad (my grandad i never met) was diagnosed with some mental illness (you know the times back then, he was just given weird meds) but i am pretty sure where i got my "carpentry" skills from :P
My nearly 93 year old grandfather is an undiagnosed autistic. He was an accountant. As best as I can figure, 30% of his descendants are non-neurotypical as autistic and/or ADHD. I'm autistic and my brother is ADHD.
Yes, carpentry, engineering, and also computer programming, it’s all there on my father’s side of the family. There was a certain amount of art, drafting and design, which is where I ended up. I just had a nice exchange on another channel with people in this general area, and I made me feel much better about myself. As I noted there, I’ve always been rubbish in my interpersonal skills, and the area in the which I feel I’ve offered something to the world is my work. I think this is true for a lot of us Aspies, and it’s part of the basis for the “extreme male behavior” characterization of autism. In recent years, there’s been a lot of pushback on these views, and not without reason. Yes, Asperger was a monster, and followed the Third Reich model of deciding some people were “useful” and that those who weren’t completely expendable. And “extreme male behavior” is probably the main reason that another commenter reported being told by (a professor I think?) that “autism in girls is extremely rsre” as recently as the early 2000s. These ideas are, respectively, horribly anti human and deeply flawed, but I’m realizing that it’s important to understand that the problem lies with institutional attitudes, not that a particular version of autism is wrong or does not exist. Autistic engineering types are out there, and just as valid as the other autistic types which have been ignored. Meg has far better emotional intelligence than I, one reason she may have been missed under the old paradigm, but her videography skills demonstrate a technical aptitude that has a lot in common with the engineering skill set. In the end it is likely monotopism that leads to increased technical skill, because we embrace small technical details that make other people’s eyes glaze over.
Autism barely existed in females when I was a child, and I'm in my 30s so it's not like it was *that* long ago, relatively speaking. And if you go even further back to my parents' generation, well... "mental health" back then was just that you weren't hitting your children hard enough.
I feel this so badd!!! My friends? (im not to good at figuring out my relationships with others) (pretty sure they are friends) always say that I’m so funny, but I barely make jokes around them?? I always feel like Im being left out of the joke, even if I technically made it??
@@AschenDog I always pause before being asked "How are you," because the whole, 'I'm good...how are you?" recitation feels so weird to me. Don't know how they would react to my answer, "Suddenly suffering from an existential crisis because somebody suddenly questioned my existence."
I've never had to do group projects other than one mandatory one (which I was in a group with friends for do it was fine) but I can relate to the being chosen last because I'm not a sporty person at all and I didn't have any close friends
Relating so hard. Group projects were nightmarish because I can't stand working slowly, I don't settle for less than perfect, and I low-key hate everyone. Eventually, I just started telling everyone to go away and I'd do the whole thing by myself and we'd all get As.
sooo true. Also being 'picked last' for any group projects even if you do most of the task. It was never about how good someone is but about how liked someone is.
Here’s another example that the “autistic people couldn’t be funny” bit is a bunch of BS: Mozart is highly speculated to be autistic. He hated this one opera singer so much that he made an entire opera designed specifically for her to bob her head up and down like a chicken since she was known to raise and lower her head for high and low notes. The joke might have had to be explained to people at the time though
I mean, memes aren't funny. I can be funny. But these never contain anything worth laughing at. Tyre only simple thoughts or concepts that could be better conveyed in words while providing much more detail. The time it takes to make one and the amount of information conveyed are not equivalent. Just because you have to explain the joke doesn't mean it's not funny. It just means the audience is ignorant of some easily learned fact. For example: "What do you call 30 landlords frozen, dismembered, and charred heads on pikes?" Answer; "A good start" Takes knowing the economic and political realities of the world as well as share a particularly Maoist approach to finding solutions to laugh at that. But laugh I do.
@radaro.9682 I’m… Not sure where you’re going with this. I only mentioned that it might have needed to be explained to people back then with my reasoning being that it was a pretty refined atmosphere back then and nobody really would understand the punchline. From what I know of him, Mozart probably didn’t even care if others got it or not because if he was entertainment from it, he didn’t care. Making people almost have a heart attack listening to the quietest song possible explode? They probably didn’t like that, but he thought it was hilarious
I've been sleeping on a regular sleep schedule for the past year, for the first time in my life, because I got a night shift job and I'm now allowed to be nocturnal. I can't sleep properly when I'm forced to do it at nighttime, and for my whole life I thought it was just impossible for me to get good sleep. Turns out I can, if I sleep from about 4 a.m. to noon. We seriously need to normalize atypical sleep schedules instead of trying to shove everybody's body into the same box.
that is so true! since i had been in kindergarden, i struggled with sleeping and would always hide away to sleep. since the early teens i have chronic health issues that are mostly related to stress and poor sleep. i got from a podcast about sleep science and circadian rhythms a couple years ago interested and stopt enforcing afterwards the typical rhythm to just figure out how that would be. i´m 30 now and finally know how good, restfull and refreshing sleep does feel like.
That's crazy, cause I notice that I get the best sleep between 4 am to noon as well. I wish I could get a night shift job, but I sadly don't have access to public transportation at night.
@@A-PineconeI did night shifts from 10pm-6am, those worked well with my sleep schedules and public transportation too. Maybe that would be an option if your line of work offers that, it might be easier to adapt to than morning or evening shifts. These days I'm my own boss though and rarely start working before 10am or even 11am, which is also fine, and works better with the rest of the society than night shifts do. Organising my life around my sleep rhythm has been the best thing I've ever done, and the only thing I've found to consistently work.
To the smell or hear things that nobody else registers: My parents always told me, it is impossible that i caan hear the electricity from the fax for about 20 years - until they got their hearing-aids, 2 days later the fax had been put into the trash because "it is so enoying and makes headaches".
Oh the "if it was bad you'd have been diagnosed as a child" thing. If I was a child now my school would have referred me; I dug out some old school reports a couple of years ago when my parents moved house which had all the classics, "he only engages with subjects he in interested in", "he frequently changes the subject of conversations to Dinosaurs". That was the late 80's / early 90's so thats why i wasnt diagnosed until 41. Edit: have to point out Dimetrodon was not a Dinosaur.
I really felt this part of the video too! I'm only a few years older than you, and when I grew up autistic people were deemed mentally (r-word here), not to be seen in public, kept strictly segregated if they went to school, often wore diapers and smeared poo on things and themselves. Hence, anyone who could be scared or beaten into sitting still and being quiet simply need discipline, not a diagnosis.... At 50 years old now, I don't have many fond memories of my childhood at all.
Similarly, I was a girl in the 90s, and now have an adhd diagnosis. With more typically "girl adhd" symptoms. Things that weren't even acknowledged as adhd until I was nearly grown and had (somewhat) learned to mask. Childhood diagnosis wasn't an option for all of us.
I told my parents that my bestfriend was recently diagnosed as autistic (i was planning to tell them i also want to get diagnosed after that) but they looked me dead in the eye, chuckled and told me 'that diagnosis might be fake, autism is something you notice very early!' and i decided to not tell them i want to get diagnosed and decided to do my own research, im half sure im autistic but like not enough to self diagnose (not because i dont fit most of the symptoms but because where i live autism and other things are seen as bad and i feel like just asking for a diagnosis may ruin my life)
16:17 Sensory sensitivity! We were in a row home and the attached home was unoccupied when I smelled smoke only along the join line. Spouse didn’t smell it, and when I called the fire department, they couldn’t smell it. They did get inside, and when they opened the door to the 3rd floor they finally smelled it and were met with smoke. It was an electric blanket that had been left turned on (for god knows how long) near a can of solvent. I felt so vindicated that day.
I'm currently on holiday in a place near the sea and I swear I can smell salt even though we're not close enough to the sea for that and we haven't been to the beach today
yeah, i notice that my hearing is super sensitive, rather than my nose. my ears are very sensitive and apparently i can pick up noises at a higher register??? my mom takes care of the elderly and i was at one's house and there was a loud, incessant high pitched droning noise that was CONSTANT somewhere near the dining room, but no one could hear it. it drove me insane and it hurt my ears to listen to. after a while, we realized that a pest device (dont know how THAT works but okay) plugged into an outlet was what was making that racket. it felt really nice to know what was going on and to not hurt or have to cover my ears. i also hear loud droning from the tv sometimes and it hurts, but when i ask my family if they heard that, they always say no. strange.
omg... this is my life in a nutshell. I can hear the phone charger, i can hear bad adjusted headphones, i can hear the turned off TV, i can hear the fricking e-car loading station they built outside 200m from my home and it drives me nuts. I know exactly when its recharching or when a car is charging on it... I can hear a LED if its getting old, just suddenly one day i look at the light and think "you btch couldnt stay quiet any longer?" I have to remove so many things in every place i live and if i am in a hotel the first thing is to run around like a police drg dog looking/listening for electric devices so i can shut them off before its time to sleep XD
One time in one of my first college classes, the teacher rolled in a big old CRT on a cart (yes, I am old) to show us a video, and when she plugged it in and turned it on (but hadn't started the video yet) me and one other classmate both covered our ears in pain because the volume was turned up SO LOUD... but nobody else could hear it, because the only sound playing was the high-pitched whine of the electricity in the speakers, since nothing was actually playing yet.
I was in the backseat of my parents' car today and there was a high pitch buzzing noise for some reason. I considered asking if I was the only one hearing it, but I already knew because my parents are in their 60s I was the only one who could hear it, so I stayed quiet.😆
About the hairdressing thing and not knowing how to speak up and get out of the situation, I've learned over the years that if I can't speak up to call a break (to anything, not just specifically salon stuff) that holding up you hand and doing a tight little wave like a physical "hey! over here!" will make pretty much anyone stop, turn off loud sounds so they can hear you, and listen. THEN you can explain what's wrong or how you're in pain/uncomfortable and need a break or an adjustment or even just to completely stop.
About the being nocturnal thing; I saw there was a recent study or something or recent data to suggest that many people with insomnia are actually just “night owls” being forced by society to conform to a circadian rhythm that is unnatural for them. Iirc the data suggested 3 main different types of circadian rhythms, and one of them was those who naturally felt sleepy/wanted to go to bed between 2-5 am.
Delayed sleep phase has been my default for as LONG as I can remember. I used to share a bedroom with my two older sisters (+2 and 9 years respectively.) getting me to turn the lamp off at my bedside every night was a major struggle. When I was 10, I would go out into the living room after they went to sleep and my parents weren’t off. Just to read. I didn’t want to do much. In the bedroom, I learned how to curtain some blankets so I could have my light on without bothering them enough to wake them up. Since puberty, it’s been 1-3/4 am. Pre-puberty, it was closer to 12-2am. I spent MUCH of my childhood being sleep deprived. I also couldn’t take naps thanks to undiagnosed and untreated ADHD. Last I read up on it, they are starting to find genes that may be contributing to the delayed sleep phase. One thing people forget, for as long as time as a concept existed, there are people that had to be awake at night too. Either for safety, different types of hunting, or to work on particular chores like hand sewing or things that might be miserable in the heat. They have also found that historically many people would normally wake up sometime around 2/4 for a couple hours and they would do something quietly productive before going back to bed. Research suggests that biologically we weren’t designed to sleep a full 8-9 hours at one. If someone couldn’t make the transition to other full 8 hours, and couldn’t find ways to be productive around THEIR sleep scheduled, the genetics may have been slowly weaned from the gene pool but not eliminated, or drank or took meds (back in the day probably from poppies.) but long story short, we’ve basically created a society that doesn’t fit our biology well and countless have been forced to use sleep aides.
The shower exhaustion is so relatable, at one point in life I decided I wouldn't wash my hair and my body at the same time anymore. And I found out that I'm autistic just about two weeks ago (after 25 years of not having heard of/thinking about ASD and then one year of neglecting the thought I could have it).
Why is this so relatable?! People always look at me funny when I check if the shower where I’m staying at has a removable head because when I shower I don’t want to get my hair wet and have to plan with the long drying time and when its time to wash my hair I don’t want to get my clothes wet.
I finally relented and got a shower chair and it's lovely! It feels so luxurious to be able to sit during a shower and I finally feel like I have energy to wash my hair and body in the same shower
@@monotropa_uniflora So relatable... i will put my hair in a bun 4 out of 5 times i shower and i will fricking hate that 5th time... takes me ages to convince myself to step in and start the process... As kid i would only do baths, but when i got into university i realized as adult thats kind of not viable, especially without a tub... :P
I'm AuDHD and, I've stopped asking others if they can hear/smell/see/feel something because I've learned that others can't usually and, not only do I not want to be seen as crazy, but I've also gotten fed up with people's responses over the years. Thankfully, my sister can relate to a LOT of what I experience because she has ADHD and experiences a lot of sensory needs as well. It's nice to be able to relate to others about this stuff. It makes me feel more "normal" or, at least not "crazy" or "too much". I love this community. Gorgeous behavior!
Isn't it so telling how they can accept that infrared and ultraviolet light exist despite that they can't see it, because everyone can use a detector to see it just the same. But for something that a human can detect directly, they tell us "You are incorrect, because if you can detect it then I would definitely be able to detect it." And when you point that out that they're literally just claiming to be better without any proof, then they get violent until you take it back. No one can be better than them at anything. It's just large-scale narcissistic abuse.
@@SeeingBackward They can accept that bacteria exists, and yet absolutely refuse to accept that something sitting on the ground has any bacteria, because they just vacuumed. ;>_> Sometimes I don't think most people actually mean any of the things they say.
I have been "used" (positive) with scent, to put other autists at peace. The normies did not smell anything, the paranoid autist thought it was gas. Turns out it was the smell of (a LOT of) limescale that came out of the tubes. But normies don't smell limescale that strong.
When I was little, and we’d be walking down the street I could smell cigarette smoke from decently far away, even with city smells covering it. The first few times my family didn’t believe me, until we’d get close enough to see the smoker lol 😂
The Autism Nature Trail is in Letchworth State Park in NY State, USA. I went a few weeks ago. It's very well done and lovely for Autistic people and neurotypical people alike. There are musical exhibits, swings, climbing structures, places to build with rocks and logs and sand, and a whole bunch of other fiddly stuff, all on a beautiful wooded trail. And the staff is TRAINED to be kind - we went late in the day and they were mowing, but any time the groundskeeper saw us coming, even in the distance, he shut the mower off and waited until we were past and out of sight before starting it up again. It must have made his job much longer as the trail winds and bends around itself so we saw him multiple times, but he just smiled and shut it down again. SO KIND. If you are ever in Western New York, GO there!
I would love to, but I live in the UK and we don't have the money to go overseas much. Also my dad lived in one of the states in America for a while and hated it so we probably wouldn't go there anyway if we had the chance
@RavenWolf13 I’m in the US, and am not going to argue with anyone who doesn’t and is disinclined to visit - it’s an acquired taste that I never completely acquired. But I was born here, and actually still live in the county I was born in, which is about 2.5 hours from Letchworth, so I may check it out. They have a video tour online if you want to see what it looks like.
I’d been disintegrating over the course of my fifties, and I hit the hardest bottom during the pandemic. I’ve gradually figured out most of the reasons why (including an AuDHD and GAD disgnosis), but I still can’t figure out what role the pandemic played. I know lots of people crashed, though most not as hard - but I just can’t sense how I responded and why. It’s like my alexithymia is at max in that area.
@@jimwilliams3816 i mean probably wearing an actual mask helped you mask your face even more than usual with less effort on your part and not going out often and having a valid reason with covid being around. Also just being isolated i feel can help you get to know yourself better. I also figured out that im non binary during that time as well. Just gives us time to think when the world is paused.
Nothing has ever been as unbelievably relaxing to me as being told to stay at home and not interact with people 🤣 and if you had to go to the shops, you had a personal bubble that people respected? And I could just cover my face with a literal mask and not have to think about what my face was doing? Covid was bliss 100/10
5:20 When I was in college in the early 2000s studying psychology we were taught that autism occurs predominantly in boys and that it's very rare in girls and I distinctly remember my professor saying somwhtibg along the lines of: "we don't know why only boys have autism." How far we have come since then!
I was born in 85, I didn’t have a chance in heck of being diagnosed. My brother was little more noticeable, noticeable enough for the school to suggested it. But my parents declined and the school dropped it because he was doing well enough. It didn’t catch up to him until high school when assignments and learning was far more conceptual and nuanced. At this point, I’m pretty sure my mom and her sister were autistic as well. My father likely was too, or was similar enough (he can also fit in schizotypal and schizoid personality disorder except I know for a fact he was that since 5 years old according to his older sister, and typically personality disorders don’t developed until later due to real or perceived traumas or lack of needs being met.)
@@StarkRG"I have no idea why it seems to be very rare in girls even though most all the studies that dictated the diagnostic criteria were only done on young boys and very very few girls"
OOF the memory of standing there while everyone else is picked for teams, and the expression of "UGH" on the face of the team that was stuck with me in the end... It's been decades but it still kinda hurts.
@@imautisticnowwhat This particular teacher was terrible to everyone. I also started with my endometriosis problems but she would not allow me to skip EP even if I was rolling with pain. She was like "do you think Olympic athletes skip one because they got their periods?" I'm good at being resentful haha
I had a "sort of" solution for this when I was in Jr. High. I would purposefully attempt to be injured as soon as possible so I could sit out the rest of the class, and my peers didn't have to be burdened by my ineptitude.
I feel like an autistic world would be more accommodating and compassionate tbh. Even with the stereotypes of us being "non empathetic and not compassionate" in reality the world now isn't particularly kind to us. I think our world would be more kind and understanding.
I completely agree. Since we tend towards direct communication instead of trying to read people's minds because that is exhausting for us relationships in general would be much healthier. Being securely attached means asking each other openly to fullfill our attachment needs and responding honestly as to wether and in which way we think we can show up for each other. With allistic people that is most of the time such a struggle.
@@isismeow111 I don't think so? In my personal experience, I find that I end up trying to understand my neurotypical friends by being direct and trying to communicate in a way they prefer. I think in an autistic world, since we all want to communicate clearly and effectively, we wouldn't discriminate against neurotypicals, we just might ask for more clarifications since we know what it feels like to be constantly discriminated against.
The same thing has been said about other marginalized groups in history. "We can't let them take over, because what if they treat us the same way we've been treating them all along?" Maybe that should be a moment of self-reflection on how one treats others.
I'm formally diagnosed and I LOVE asmr videos as long as they are a specific kind. The ones I love I *really* love, but the ones I don't like I *really* cannot stand listening to.
for some reason asmr has always made me want to rip my skin off. hearing someone chew a pickle or just high def. audio just makes me feel so uncomfortable. i never understood why i couldn't stand the sound of soda being poured into a cup on commercial because they emphasis the noise so heavily.
My husband and I cook and eat the same meal for dinner for weeks because we’re so fascinated with a cooking technique or just a comfort flavor and routine and avoiding decision fatigue trying to figure out something new to eat (but making sure they are healthy meals). I’m so glad we’re the same that way. It took a while because we kept thinking the other person might get bored of eating the same thing all the time until we discovered we both loved the same foods and didn’t get bored of making and eating them, lol. We’re also both night owls and eat at 10pm regularly. It works for us and nobody else in our families understand. 💀
Hot takes about autistic dis-coordination: I think it’s due to us overthinking how we are being perceived bc my coordination improves if I’m alone and can work on it without fear of looking stupid and/or with substances - which tells me, at least for me, it’s more of a social self inflicted expectation rather than “bad motor skills”. The old “too many cooks in the kitchen” of my brain 🤣😂
Also, the straw thing. Monotrpoism. If we have additional thoughts in our head they decrease other brain functions. For example, even when not self conscious, I cannot use a walking stick, because I'm spending so much brain to put the stick in a good spot, that my feet end up in the worst spots. Like creeks and poop.
People are genetically predisposed to different sleep cycles, some people are more alert during later hours (like myself), others are more alert earlier in the day. This is known as your 'chronotype' (Why We Sleep, Matthew Walker, 2017), and it's why we see the phenomenon of 'Night Owls' and 'Early Birds'. The evolutionary explanation for this is that, when we were small hunter-gatherer communities, it was useful to have some members of the tribe able stay awake and alert during night time while others slept. Sadly, modern society is built primarily to cater to early birds, which often makes life very difficult for night owls, who are often stigmatized as lazy and lacking discipline, when it's not actually something we can choose. The fact I happen to actually be lazy and lack discipline is just a coincidence, lol.
I ave no idea why but there's something with autism and ADHD where a lot of us prefer nighttime! Personally I will always feel much more myself, more energy, and I won't be masking as much naturally.
Many neurodivergent people have delayed circadian rhythms, so the natural "I'm awake!" and "I'm sleepy..." times are off by a couple hours compared to the neurotypicals.
My auhdhd bf definitely likes nighttimes but I'm an early bird and won't function if I get up after 8am. Honestly 6:30 is the latest time I should be getting up if I want to do anything productive at all.
When i was getting my IUD inserted, the gyno asked if her student could do it in her stead. Thinking about women's empowerment, and the fact that I couldn't say no out of awkwardness...i said ok. The female assistant proceeded to place it, and soon the doc says, oh that's a lot of blood. (This was my first IUD, i had no idea if it was normal). I'll never say yes to a less experienced medical professional touching my parts EVER AGAIN.
i’m so sorry. i think mine went without complications and i still think about how horrible it was a lot. i’m nervous to get it out. but that’s just complete bullshit, i’m really sorry
Experience with IUDs can go so many different directions. They can be fine, or horrific. I mean, everything has a chance of side effects. But as with most "female matters" you have a very high chance of having your severe pain or other side effects be totally disregarded. My IUD was complication-free but it was still a pretty miserable experience. I also underestimated how much it affected my body. I don't have much trust in doctors but gynecologists are the worst for some reason. It's like they don't take their job seriously and they certainly don't take you seriously.
My doctor recommended against it, because so far with her (she is quick and skillfull though) everyone that went for a first time has fainted. And sometimes more often. I have had a dentist that gave me a trainee and she slammed the apparatus against my teeth and started crying out of nervousness. Another time I asked not to have a male assistant and she chose a male assistant anyway and he leaned oved me to get an item, totally unaware of the fact that his jeans with package nearly hit my face, while I laid there. I have ptsd so I made sure to tell them this would not happen again. I came back once be was there, I left. She now knows not to f with my requests.
I have the opposite problem. Some people are nocturnal; I'm crepuscular. Asleep early, up by 4:00. I spend my mornings totally isolated from other human beans. Paradise! I love the rain cloud earrings.
I love crepuscule time it's even better than the night but I barely get to see that time because I just can't fall asleep early. Which there was an option of both where you start at the crepuscule skip all of the annoying noon-ish hours straight to night then sleep and wake up again.
I'm usually awake by 5:14 these days. And then I proceed to do zero productive things besides making coffee until I have to get ready for work at 6:30 🙈
Autism does go a long way to explain how hard I've leaned on memes just to communicate in the past, and still do a bit. Also, the most on-point wit in my highschool came from an autist. We had to read children's books to the younger grades at some point and he would inject all these incredibly funny remarks between the pages. And you know, he had all the very "stereotypical" visible traits so it's not like anyone had any doubt, even all those years back.
Our school let people do make-up classes over the summer. One of them was gym. We only had to do two semesters of gym to graduate and there were two time slots in the day... My entire friends group experienced this as an incredible life hack, to survive only one summer of gym and be done. Especially because the teacher made half of each class doing aerobics to a video. It still feels like the best scam ever! One day, aerobics tape got switched for Little Mermaid and the teacher didn't even care. Presumably to teach us when to breathe, he made us say "sah" on every exercise. Somehow that is a core memory, this tall old bald dude with bad knees pushing a huge group of disinterested high school students through aerobics while saying "Sah. Sah. Sah."
My hack to get out of PE was to take marching band. We had to take 1.5 years of PE or 2 years of band. Only problem for me was that my freshman year, I didn't expect to be able to take marching band for personal reasons. So I was forced to take the first half year of PE by the school. By my sophomore year, my circumstances changed and I was able to switch to band. I still had to take 2 years of band, but that was so much better than a year of PE!!! I would have loved to have been in band all 4 years, but unfortunately that didn't happen. It was really fun!
My school let us do PE online from schools that would let us work out whenever and however we wanted and self-report. I graduated a year early between that, one online English class, and two math classes I took early in middle school. It was great
A world run by autistic people would be super organized, with quiet spaces for those who need them and clear, direct communication (finally, no more guessing games thank goodness, because I’m terrible at charades!). Punctuality would be a big deal, so no more waiting forever for the bus unless I’m the one in charge, in which case I might still show up late because I got lost in my own thoughts. Balancing everyone’s sensory needs could get tricky, and politics might turn into a game of “who can say the least awkward thing.” Overall, it’d be a world where honesty reigns and everyone’s quirks are celebrated just don’t expect any surprise parties, because I’d probably ruin the surprise by asking way too many questions!
I just imagined autistic politics, and it was so funny! “If you elect me, I’ll put in more garbage cans and stern warning signs so the NT’s will stop their infernal littering already!” “If you vote for me, everyone gets a free pair of old person sunglasses AND ear defenders!” 🤣
Autistic politics would have solved climate change in the 80s and be well on the way to eliminating hunger and homelessness, because we would look at the facts and all agree on the most practical way to fix things instead of making decisions based on superficial things like fear of other people
@@martalaatsch8358 I don't know. We are definitely not immune to cognitive biases and mis/disinformation so I don't think it would be quite as ideal as you imagine.
There is an episode of Monk when he and his rival "friend" which both adore their therapist, are interrupting an appointment. The villain point with a gun on the therapist. Then monk sees the figures in the shelf and starts putting then in the "right" place. His rival disagrees with his rule of rowing them up and the start arguing. The villain is very confuse and look at the therapist which just give that "yeah i know" look. I loved it so much cause it was the first time i realised that there is not just one right way to sort things 😂
This video was soso validating! I dont have a paper diagnosis (EXPENSIVE) but my therapist looked me dead in my face and said "No girl, you've got it you dont need a paper proof of it". The imposer syndrome can be so real. That tweet about planets made me emotional as well. Thank you for your channel and work
It takes me three reschedulings to go to a doctor's appointment; I just wake up (or stay up all night the night before) and know that today is not the day. Repeatedly.
Three generations of women in my family have been prolific skin pickers. Hilariously, neither my mom nor I can stand the sound of the other one doing it.
I used to work the graveyard shift in the late 80s. On my nights off it was so peaceful at home and while driving around. Later, I threw a paper route and got used to it all over again. Since then I've had other jobs where I work in the middle of the night. These days it is very difficult for me to be awake for normal hours. I managed to get up at 9 today but I know it won't last.
I worked graveyard in Chicago in the mid-'90s. On my days off, I would wander the streets of various neighborhoods although nothing was ever open. The only time I found an open business was when I stumbled across a 24-hr adult "bookstore." But those walks were delightfully peaceful.
So remember at 20:05 when You said You felt like you were in prison when you were in school? Weelll... I remember reading somewhere That the school system is based off of the prison system for example the super strict schedules, limited breaks, the one size fits all teaching, multitude of rules, supplied uniforms (depends on the school) and of course the dreaded p.e time or exercise time Im probably just spouting crap but this was my first possible "well.." moment so I had to take it😂
It's actually closer to Victorian factory condition. Take a group of peasants and teach them to work on repeative tasks in isolation while being still. The prison system simply uses prisoners for labour and labour looks like school when school is training for factory work. School only teaches what's profitable for business. Otherwise it's a frivolous thing and pointless to learn.
@@radaro.9682 ahh truue.. I just thought it may be that way because of what I thought I heard Feel a little sad that I didn't make the connection myself simply because I adore Victorian history haha
Mental hospitals in the US are very like prisons. My psychiatric nurse practitioner worked in the prison system at the beginning of her career. When she was finally able to secure employment at a private institution, she told me it seemed just like prison except for the framed pictures on the walls.
your stimming vids as a baby are so sweet ! i love that your parents liked home videos so you have these memories ❤❤ i found your channel looking for help for myself, shortly after i had my baby. now that shes hit her prime at 2.5 , she is stimming up a storm. i recognize it as playing and self soothing but these home videos of yours are so validating for me as a parent as well as my inner child ❤❤
My brother sent me a screenshot of his results from an online test. It was very validating having him independently share that. All I could think is that our whole family is, at least on my Dad's side. It was fun sharing your channel with him.
Hi Meg! I just wanted to say that your content is so positive and educational. I don’t know whether or not I’m autistic, but I do think that your channel has helped me understand and accept myself more. I really enjoy watching your videos, they bring good awareness, and they make me so happy! 💕🫶
Same :) found her videos last october and got my diagnosis in april. But also, now im kind of struggling with figuring out "what now...?" :P its nice to hear that one's not alone in the struggle, although its also sad obviously to see how many of us are struggling...
My autism symptoms peaked at 2-3. At least that's when I lost the ability to speak for a year and started hitting my head into walls. Until then I acted "normally" and in a very social fearless manner. My father's coworkers literally thought I was a different child. (My hair color naturally changed which didn't help.) lol
9:22 I know Jordan Rasko! She is an Australian comedian and musician and twitch streamer. Before transitioning she was in Axis of Awesome that became meme famous with their Four Chord Song. Her mascot/son on her twitch channel is a green and yellow animated lizard boy called Slunt.
I've seen some late diagnosed autistics be so angry at their parents and teachers for not catching it earlier, saying it was so obvious. But it wasn't as well known then, so it wasn't obvious. Back then you were labeled as a difficult, sensitive, angry, quiet, and/or weird kid. I don't blame anyone, but like you I do recognize that I didn't speak up about myself and express my needs. No one around me realized what was going on and I thought it was normal for me to not express myself. Everyone was at fault and not all at the same time.
Nice to see a fun break from the drama posts. I came here for the in-depth informative autism videos, but stayed for the memes. The recent videos have just stressed me out without informing me. So this was a nice return to form 😀
I read something recently about AuDHD that said when the autistic traits are being satisfied the ADHD traits are more dominant and vice versa and it really explained some things. When I was working in retail I used to be very punctual and would get anxious if I felt like I was likely to be late but now that my autistic traits are more satisfied I have much more trouble doing things on a set time frame.
Re: neck injury from haircuts, one advantage of having a “regular dude” gender role is there are very permissive hair standards that allow me to totally avoid people touching me. I let my hair grow super long from age 14-21 and then I had to get a job so I buzz cut it off myself and I’ve been doing that myself ever since. As an adult , I paid for one haircut one time and it was awful. My way is much better. No touching! Edit: ok if I’m honest there are a lot of advantages of the “regular dude” role. I always feel awkward cause I’m the weirdest dude in the room, but at least I’m allowed in the room.
I hadn’t thought about that, but I grew my hair long between age 10 and 30, and it’s true that I hated haircuts as a kid. Since I cut it, I’ve had one hairdresser for the last 30 years, so that’s helped a lot. Being a guy does have its advantages. I don’t worry about fashionable clothes at all, and no way could I survive wearing earrings.* I don’t know how Meg manages it. *Yes I know some guys pierce their ears, but again...frumpy guy with no fashion sense! 😁
@@jimwilliams3816 I never wear any accessories, no jewelry, no watch, no hat. I wore a wedding ring for a couple years but gradually stopped (still married). I never put this together until I learned about autism, but now I see it’s obviously a mild sensory aversion. So yeah, earrings would be awful.
I've literally learned to cut my own hair so I didn't have to ever get a haircut again. My haircut changed over the years too, I'm trying more complex stuff and I fail often, manages to salvage it in the end but it's not like I'm really good or anything. Still better than the alternative.
It's funny cause as a woman I experience get complimented on my hair every time I meet someone again after a week or so. Which can be nice but oh god that also means I'm constantly being appraised/judged for my current hairstyle. My brother gets told once in about 6 months: welp, are ya gonna cut your hair or keep it long? I try to give him regular compliments but he definitely doesn't have to feel analyzed about his hair every day 😅
@@soyevquirsefron990I collect clip style earrings. No piercings. But I have to be careful of the fit. Too tight or too loose are both miserable for different reasons.
At 3 years old I couldn't walk or talk ... and I lost my balance and busted my chin open on the coffee table ... blood squirted everywhere. I still have the scar. I might have dyspraxia ... I was slow to learn to walk ... I still wobble and randomly fall over at age 41 ... I can't ride a bike ... I can't jump rope (but I can if others turn the rope for me)
@AutomaticDuck300 reptiles* evolved into birds. lizards evolved from a clade of quadrapedal reptiles, birds evolved from a clade of bipedal (yes, all dinosaurs evolved from a bipedal ancestor, the main identifier of what a dinosaur is is related to their hip-bone shape). actually lizards, as a clade, are younger than dinosaurs by some time
@user-co6wc8di5l the closest living relative to birds are crocodilians, not lizards. lizards sister clade is the one that contains all snakes, or the one that contains the tuatara.
I am very sensitive to sounds in general, but for some reason the jingling sounds like earrings, the keys in my pocket, chains or wind chimes all calm me down for some reason. Did you hear about rainstick? It's so calming and satisfying to listen to!!!
Re: gym class in high school, my autistic kid goes to regular high school in America but there’s options to take online classes over the summer, and he’s taking gym online independently. He goes to the local gym and walks in the park. It’s so awesome that he doesn’t have to do group gym class in high school! Check if it’s a possibility in your area
"I've never been in prison. I'm sure prison is worse." I've been in prison and my experience of high school was much worse than my experience of prison.
For the hairdressers: you can find some who won't wash your hair first, but just use a misting spray bottle when they need it. It's worth asking! You shouldn't need to be in pain to get your hair cut!
16:10 just reminded me of a story: I had an old stereo in my room that made a little fuzzy-clicky sound when I turnt it on. One day the electricity went out for a bit and I was the first one to notice when it came back because my stereo made the fuzzy-clicky sound by itself and I FREAKED out and ran to tell my mom. She was convinced I was tripping but she was happy that the electricity was back. 😅
OMG the "do you hear/smell/feel that?" meme though!!! Both my roommates are neurotypical and I deal with this all the time. They act like I have a super power or something, meanwhile I keep getting surprised and confused that something impossible for me to ignore would go unnoticed by them 😭 my loss is their gain, though: their house has never been so clean before, and the hinges no longer squeak 🤣
6:14 In an autistic world people not interested in planes, trains or boats wouldn't be involved in operating them, and those who need assistance with scheduling would have assistants who specialise in that, so either you wouldn't be driving a train because you don't have that interest and subsequent fixation on the signals, etc, or you will have someone else there to point to when you should set off etc.
The hairdresser situation is very similar to a dentist situation I had as a kid. We went to a new dentist and they kept getting frustrated and saying my mouth was too small and I wasn't keeping it open. So he brought out the metal jaw crank things that ratchet your jaw open and don't let you close it, and he cranked it 1 or 2 clicks too far for my jaw. It was the worst pain ever, and I couldn't speak to tell them I was hurting, so I just cried thru it and was ignored.... I had another dentist drill out a cavity and didn't hear me scream when I could start feeling it and kept going
Yikes, that’s terrible! Dentists can be awful sometimes. Worst I ever had was an orthodontists assistant who, when taking an imprint of my upper plate, made passive aggressive jokes about my inability to keep from gagging, because I wasn’t being very cooperative and making her job hard. Some people... (Not so fun fact: it took several decades after anesthesia was invented for it to become widely adopted, apparently because doctors didn’t see the need; they’d become skilled at operating on people thrashing around in pain.)
I don't have any video of me as a child, but I sure remember the "sit still and put your hands in your LAP!" And "OMG that sound is awful!" "what sound?" "Only the dogs and me can hear it. :( "
"CRISS-CROSS! APPLESAUCE! HANDS! IN! THE! FISHBOWL!!" The librarian angrily screaming that has never not been funny to me. Also I can hear the "mosquitos" that our malls inexplicably installed in the food court... to deter loitering... in the place meant for loitering. Oh, and electrical interference. Anything with a step-up transformer inside, it's loud and grating; I can tell when we lose power at my house because my "tinnitus" goes away.
Going to school as someone who functions best at night sucks because you are staying up late, then waking up early, then spending a full day having to socialize and mask, so you are tired, but you want to get your few moments of nighttime peace, only to repeat it again and again.
For the record, nothing whatsoever wrong with dinner at 11 (as long as your work and child don't suffer) I freelance so I can sleep properly, since my natural sleep pattern is about 1-10am. I eat breakfast (lunch) around 11, dinner around 5, and then dinner 2 electric boogaloo at 10 or 11 again
I love your earrings! And your blouse is beautiful 💜 Edit: Not a doctor, but here is what I do. For the neck injury- sounds like you may need to stretch your suboccipitals. Physical therapy is definitely the way to go, not the GP. I have a similar injury and do daily neck stretches where I sit up comfortably and tilt my chin down and then slowly push my head back in a horizontal motion. It’s a stretch, so don’t bounce your head or strain too much. If the muscles at the base of your skull feel tight, it can cause headaches like mad.
I totally understand on the imposter syndrome. I was recently diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder level 2 at the age of 33. It still doesn't feel real to me although i was in like the top 90th percentile of people with this according to the phycologist that evaluated me. No one really caught on to the autism because I'm high functioning and my IQ is 121 which fairly high. I feel like I'm a normal person, i guess? I mean how am I suppose to know what it would feel like to be anything other than how I am. I have nothing to compare it to. I don't know, I just feel like when I say I'm autistic out loud I feel like I'm exaggerating or just lying to myself.
oh good, i'm glad it's not just me. i'm always hearing/smelling and feeling random things that nobody can ever seem to notice as well. when my friend changed up a recipe she cooked, i was able to smell that something had changed and she couldn't believe that I actually smelled a difference. i can always seem to hear my neighbors (during apartment life) when my lady couldn't. I could feel the actual vibrations through the carpet when my neighbors were playing music and it drove me mad
From 17-27 I lived my life and structured it how I wanted, now each of my parents have decided to insert themselves into my life and it has completely defeating me. I can't express to them how much I need my own schedules and space. I am an adult, I do not want someone up my ass 24/7. I had tons of money saved up, and one parent thought they deserved it all, and the other thought I could start over from nothing for a fourth time and was afraid, or too lazy, to act in a timely manner when I asked for help... I have had everything from my garden, my home, my job, my vehicle, stolen from me, and I can't see a way forward. I have nothing to look forward to. I have asked for help to talk to a professional if I am to move forward... And nothing.
I really want to thank you for your content. It's been really eye opening for me, I am a from the UK and a little older than you, and in the last 6 months I have been really looking at why I have been feeling the way I have for so long. Others thought I may have OCD and OCPD and I went down a look of it and never felt those covered everything I felt. I then came across a short of Morgan Foley's and I was like "huh thats really similar but I can't have autism" mainly because I didn't know what autism is and thought what I was told when I was younger about it being a learning disability. Then I came across one of your 9 signs you're not autistic videos and I was like "that's now making me think" and have been down the rabbit hole of research watching tons of videos of yours and The Aspie World and reading comments of those already diagnosed and having tons of shared experiences and behaviours and well I am still not sure if I am autistic, it has given me a little insight and now planning on talking more to family about behaviours when I was younger and possibly taking the online tests you have recommended and seeing where I go there. And thank you to all the people who comment their experiences too, its really lovely to see the differences in people to know that when some say one behaviour or experience of theirs that I dont relate too, there are many others with a different experience that I relate with so much it's almost like I was talking to myself. P.S. Sorry for a longish comment. I spent at least 5hrs last night thinking about how on the next video I will post thanking you and the community and how best to do so without sharing too much but not underselling how big of thing it has been for me to at least gain a bit more of understanding, and in the end my comment is quite far of what I thought yes I will post that 😂😂
I don't think the long comment is a bad thing. I'm not in the same situation as you but watching this video has made me think and I'm planning to do more research. I think if I do have autism, it's not very bad, but there were a lot of things in this video that I could relate to.
@@RavenWolf13 Thanks. I am so used to being told I talk/type too much when I do finally say something. (Mum tells me I could talk for Britain on topics I am interested in)🤣 Always think it's worth doing full and proper research if you truly think there is a chance. After I have done the quizzes Meg recommends and more research, if I still feel the same I am planning on trying to get a diagnosis but I don't know yet, although everything I have seen seems to point to possibly being the case, I still feel like I can't be because surely it would have caught by now. Only time will tell.
@@Taybean I personally think its a good thing that you can talk for Britain. Ir means you have a lot of interesting things to say, and I can also rant on about a subject u enjoy, I just most often do it in my head
The last meme and your rambling about it 😭 I FEEL HEARD AND SEEN T~T I'm a teenager rn n constantly getting scolded n berated for my sleep schedule, especially coming from a country n even religion? where waking up early is highly praised and staying up all night is frowned upon Also the part where u mentioned about exhaustion from little outing and activities, how night feels more relaxing n just easier, like sometimes even when it's not night, but the rare chance when I'm home alone, I'm automatically more productive, idk where exactly that leads to- smtg about perception from others stops me a lot so it's just better at night n also less overestimating. And just angy rambling: I hate the left side big light on my room, the right one was good but stopped working so now m stuck with that stupid one n I hate it, it gives me a headache n ruins my mood to do my work >:( so even if the night is peaceful, I can't get as much things done cus of it n top of already feeling bad for going against my parents wishes which made me always iffy on staying up all night- so I got nothing done in past week, thank you so much left big light
i feel you about the lights thing! whenever you'll have energy and motivation to, definitely fix your preferred light or ask your parents for a fix. with the other light, in case it's a table lamp and the one that you can move around to make it shine in a specific direction onto the table, you can instead point it at a wall or at the ceiling - that way the light is soft and well spread over the room, not pointy and bright and sharp and not leaving most of the room in darkness. it really helped me at some point! i think at that time i kind of also just looked around the appartment and found a table lamp that i liked more than the ones i had in my room and that wasn't in use, and it turned out it was perfect for me and i still use it to this day..
@@lisadikaprio thank you soo much for the advie but unfortunately, money is tight here, and there are bigger concerns n bills for my parents to pay, so I don't bug them about it (n I can't work to get some extra cash- part time work ain't a thing), I did inform them but I don't wanna repeatedly say it so up until then I gotta suck it up :/
My favourite dinosaur is Archaeopteryx (therizinosaurus is a close second), but my favourite prehistoric animal overall is Hatzegopteryx (big-ass pterosaur with a 30-foot wingspan that could somehow still fly and also gallop on land and swallow its prey whole 🤗)
Me at the PE meme: I'm literally the opposite. Hated sitting in chairs for most of the school day, but as soon as Gym hit I was running all around taking on the challenges. Movement/exercise is my favourite way to stim :))
I actually have a "this could have been very dangerous" story about what being gaslit over the years about smells/sounds/etc. could result in... This spring I was in a meeting room with my colleagues at my new job. At one point, I start hearing this faint ringing sound, but my colleagues don't react to it, so I think it must either be a normal sound in the office, or at least I shouldn't point it out because pointing things out that others don't notice hasn't generally turned out well for me (and I'm new, I can't afford to become That Person). I also notice people outside kind of moving and disappearing. Do I say anything? No. A few minutes later another colleague comes in wearing a yellow vest and lets in the blaring sound of fire alarm as he opens the door. It's just an emergency rehearsal, but if that was a real fire, we might have got stuck in the building just because I've been trained not to speak up when I notice things that others don't. My colleagues kept exclaiming how wild it was that "nothing could be heard" in the room, and I still haven't told them I could. I feel like I wouldn't be able to explain to them why I didn't say anything. Anyway I read some social media theory once about how autism may have partly survived in humanity because people like us have been able to caution others of danger back in the caveman days, and it was appreciated. It's just pretty depressing that now people seem to get intimidated and insecure if someone senses something that they don't. Someone like us could save their life one day.
I've been getting super frustrated the past week or so. I'm pretty sure that I'm autistic and want to finally get diagnosed (I grew up in the 80's and 90's in the middle of the bible belt, so I had no chance as a kid). I can find a lot of places in the area that test children, but I haven't been able to find anything on adult autism testing. What makes it even more frustrating is I've used some forms on a couple of the autism places web pages and been ignored, even got desperate and at-ed a couple places on twitter and asked if they knew anything, and those tweets disappeared. Just been wanting to curl up in the corner and just freak out for awhile.
I had similar issues and got my diagnosis from a university. It was a long process but well worth it and I loved my evaluator. Look into nearby university psychology programs. A lot of them have programs to get diagnosed based on your income in order to train grad students into the field.
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m going through the search process too as per my psychologist’s recommendation. If you haven’t tried that yet: are there any places (charities, therapy places etc.) in your wider area that deal with autistic adults? My psychologist and I contacted autism therapy centers around us and each of them had a different list with places to go to. If you can find an autism forum or subreddit for your country, there are probably other people struggling to find a place or get an appointment and users might be sharing lesser-known places/doctors where they were accepted.
@@monotropa_uniflora I'll give some of those a look. I tried asking my doctor, but, all I got from him was 'I don't really see the autism', then he loaded up a psychology magazine website, searched for our town, filtered by autism, then printed out the first name on the list and handed it to me.
Re: picking teams My mom sent me to afternoon sports for a while, and while I was bad in P.E. class I was actually doing pretty good in the smaller afternoon group. There was this one girl who would always be picked last because she was "weird" and a lot of the kids didn't like her, but she was a good teammate. I also had my fair share of being "last pickings" because I was chubby and not fast, so whenever I got to pick my team I always made a point to pick her first or second. I hope I could make her feel like somebody DID want her there and enjoyed her company because I often missed that feeling myself.
I heard an autism speaks ad yesterday on the radio, and it felt so weird. It had the same vibes as their old I am autism video. Maybe it was the same voice actor.
oh man, the pe and nocturnal ones are so relatable. i hated pe in school and anything that involved picking teams or anything adjacent. i figured i was a weird kid and upon learning later i am neurodivergent made it all make sense. not that i'd be "normal" anyways. as for being nocturnal, finding a night shift job changed everything. it really annoys me looking back that non-academic or "intellectual" jobs were encouraged, which forced me to be more outgoing and social and i'd rather not. and the usual jobs force everyone into the same wake/sleep schedule, which is completely stupid and ignores individual differences. once i got out of that mindset and got a job working night crew at a grocery store has made it way easier to be functional.
Never played Slender. Watched my brother play it once, he'd turned off all the lights in the house for it. I went to the bathroom, then silently crept back into the room and jumpscared him from behind. I think games are responsible for improving my dyspraxia a fair bit (I was never formally medically diagnosed with dyspraxia, but I spent three years in OT in elementary school to improve my motor skills, and my teachers gave my parents a booklet on "sensory integration disorder").
Yay! We’re memeing again! These make me happy - I hope you still enjoy them too 🥰🐌
If you do want something a little more serious, here’s 41 minutes about the worst autism charity: ua-cam.com/video/qTQYubdlR24/v-deo.html
And if you want more fun, here’s the full memes playlist! (we have 14 of them now?): ua-cam.com/play/PLEHi2YmjD7gEssdqTn0247t_niQMt2b22.html
See you next week! 💛💛💛
If you still have kneck problems only thing at this point is a specific stretch or workingout.
Specifically cardio.
I dance but I have autistic clenching so the only way to relax the muscles strain I cause myself through stress is to work it out.
I'm always tired 😫
Watching the video now. hope your goal came true and the editing issue is handled! You are a treasured part of my day whenever I have the chance to watch it. Thank you for everything.
Have you tried seeing a good acupuncturist about your neck? Mine has greatly helped me fix my messed up body.
I hope you get some resolution on it.
if everyone was autistic casinos would be less common because casinos can cause sensory overload.
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Edit: 3:36 "Autism Peak" is a photoshopped picture of the Autumn's Peak pavilion in the Kenneth Hahn Recreation Area in California in the USA! So it *almost* exists. Hope this helps! Love your work!
Thank you!!!! 💛
There is an actual autism nature trail at a national park so I thought it was there lol
But whats the point? I don’t catch the joke here
Thanks, you saved me a lot of googling
@@EnigmaticGentlemanYes the autism nature trail is in Letchworth Park 🙂
That whole, "If it was bad you'd have been diagnosed as a child," thing falls apart if you look at families. My dad just got diagnosed at 65 and his dad was the same but they just called it being an Engineer.
i recently came across a lighthearted joke about amish ppl possibly beeing a community of autistic, because they do make a lot of weirdly beautiful, perfect crafts like furniture. Someone answered with "its just called beeing an experienced carpenter" ... well my dad is a good carpenter... his dad was and his grandad aswell... only his dad (my grandad i never met) was diagnosed with some mental illness (you know the times back then, he was just given weird meds) but i am pretty sure where i got my "carpentry" skills from :P
My nearly 93 year old grandfather is an undiagnosed autistic. He was an accountant. As best as I can figure, 30% of his descendants are non-neurotypical as autistic and/or ADHD. I'm autistic and my brother is ADHD.
That Engineer's a spy!
Yes, carpentry, engineering, and also computer programming, it’s all there on my father’s side of the family. There was a certain amount of art, drafting and design, which is where I ended up.
I just had a nice exchange on another channel with people in this general area, and I made me feel much better about myself. As I noted there, I’ve always been rubbish in my interpersonal skills, and the area in the which I feel I’ve offered something to the world is my work. I think this is true for a lot of us Aspies, and it’s part of the basis for the “extreme male behavior” characterization of autism.
In recent years, there’s been a lot of pushback on these views, and not without reason. Yes, Asperger was a monster, and followed the Third Reich model of deciding some people were “useful” and that those who weren’t completely expendable. And “extreme male behavior” is probably the main reason that another commenter reported being told by (a professor I think?) that “autism in girls is extremely rsre” as recently as the early 2000s.
These ideas are, respectively, horribly anti human and deeply flawed, but I’m realizing that it’s important to understand that the problem lies with institutional attitudes, not that a particular version of autism is wrong or does not exist. Autistic engineering types are out there, and just as valid as the other autistic types which have been ignored. Meg has far better emotional intelligence than I, one reason she may have been missed under the old paradigm, but her videography skills demonstrate a technical aptitude that has a lot in common with the engineering skill set. In the end it is likely monotopism that leads to increased technical skill, because we embrace small technical details that make other people’s eyes glaze over.
Autism barely existed in females when I was a child, and I'm in my 30s so it's not like it was *that* long ago, relatively speaking. And if you go even further back to my parents' generation, well... "mental health" back then was just that you weren't hitting your children hard enough.
The best thing about autism is that half the time I don't even realize I am telling a joke, until everybody in the room bursts out laughing.
@@dihydrogenmonoxide7056 Just remember, if you laugh as well then they’re technically laughing WITH you. ;)
I feel this so badd!!! My friends? (im not to good at figuring out my relationships with others) (pretty sure they are friends) always say that I’m so funny, but I barely make jokes around them?? I always feel like Im being left out of the joke, even if I technically made it??
Oh my goshy samezies.
When someone asks you how you're doing, you tell them the truth, and they think you're making a joke.
@@AschenDog I always pause before being asked "How are you," because the whole, 'I'm good...how are you?" recitation feels so weird to me. Don't know how they would react to my answer, "Suddenly suffering from an existential crisis because somebody suddenly questioned my existence."
Being picked last for every team for 12+ years while simultaneously completing every group project by yourself is an underrated trauma.
I've never had to do group projects other than one mandatory one (which I was in a group with friends for do it was fine) but I can relate to the being chosen last because I'm not a sporty person at all and I didn't have any close friends
Relating so hard. Group projects were nightmarish because I can't stand working slowly, I don't settle for less than perfect, and I low-key hate everyone. Eventually, I just started telling everyone to go away and I'd do the whole thing by myself and we'd all get As.
I read this as "pickled" and suddenly don't feel so bad. :^3
Getting picked last and nobody explaining why and insisting nothing is wrong nooooo is actually trauma and in this essay I will
sooo true. Also being 'picked last' for any group projects even if you do most of the task. It was never about how good someone is but about how liked someone is.
Maybe the real Autism Peak is the friends we made along the way
Here’s another example that the “autistic people couldn’t be funny” bit is a bunch of BS:
Mozart is highly speculated to be autistic. He hated this one opera singer so much that he made an entire opera designed specifically for her to bob her head up and down like a chicken since she was known to raise and lower her head for high and low notes. The joke might have had to be explained to people at the time though
And he wrote a piece for the piano which translates to "Lick my a**", so yes, even at lifetime, he was known for his humor (and often seen as rude) XD
I mean, memes aren't funny. I can be funny. But these never contain anything worth laughing at. Tyre only simple thoughts or concepts that could be better conveyed in words while providing much more detail. The time it takes to make one and the amount of information conveyed are not equivalent.
Just because you have to explain the joke doesn't mean it's not funny. It just means the audience is ignorant of some easily learned fact.
For example: "What do you call 30 landlords frozen, dismembered, and charred heads on pikes?"
Answer; "A good start"
Takes knowing the economic and political realities of the world as well as share a particularly Maoist approach to finding solutions to laugh at that. But laugh I do.
I get told I'm funny and have a good sense of humour, even have a dirty mind
Oh yea I heard that Isaac Newton could've been autistic
@radaro.9682 I’m… Not sure where you’re going with this. I only mentioned that it might have needed to be explained to people back then with my reasoning being that it was a pretty refined atmosphere back then and nobody really would understand the punchline. From what I know of him, Mozart probably didn’t even care if others got it or not because if he was entertainment from it, he didn’t care. Making people almost have a heart attack listening to the quietest song possible explode? They probably didn’t like that, but he thought it was hilarious
I've been sleeping on a regular sleep schedule for the past year, for the first time in my life, because I got a night shift job and I'm now allowed to be nocturnal. I can't sleep properly when I'm forced to do it at nighttime, and for my whole life I thought it was just impossible for me to get good sleep. Turns out I can, if I sleep from about 4 a.m. to noon. We seriously need to normalize atypical sleep schedules instead of trying to shove everybody's body into the same box.
that is so true! since i had been in kindergarden, i struggled with sleeping and would always hide away to sleep. since the early teens i have chronic health issues that are mostly related to stress and poor sleep. i got from a podcast about sleep science and circadian rhythms a couple years ago interested and stopt enforcing afterwards the typical rhythm to just figure out how that would be. i´m 30 now and finally know how good, restfull and refreshing sleep does feel like.
That's crazy, cause I notice that I get the best sleep between 4 am to noon as well. I wish I could get a night shift job, but I sadly don't have access to public transportation at night.
@@A-PineconeI did night shifts from 10pm-6am, those worked well with my sleep schedules and public transportation too. Maybe that would be an option if your line of work offers that, it might be easier to adapt to than morning or evening shifts. These days I'm my own boss though and rarely start working before 10am or even 11am, which is also fine, and works better with the rest of the society than night shifts do. Organising my life around my sleep rhythm has been the best thing I've ever done, and the only thing I've found to consistently work.
Word, I've burst into tears after being given a day shift I knew I wouldn't be able to sustain it. I think I might have a trauma response to mornings.
FUCKING YES I HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS MY ENTIRE LIFE JUST LET ME STAY UP LATE HOLY FUCK
To the smell or hear things that nobody else registers: My parents always told me, it is impossible that i caan hear the electricity from the fax for about 20 years - until they got their hearing-aids, 2 days later the fax had been put into the trash because "it is so enoying and makes headaches".
Oh the "if it was bad you'd have been diagnosed as a child" thing.
If I was a child now my school would have referred me; I dug out some old school reports a couple of years ago when my parents moved house which had all the classics, "he only engages with subjects he in interested in", "he frequently changes the subject of conversations to Dinosaurs".
That was the late 80's / early 90's so thats why i wasnt diagnosed until 41.
Edit: have to point out Dimetrodon was not a Dinosaur.
I really felt this part of the video too! I'm only a few years older than you, and when I grew up autistic people were deemed mentally (r-word here), not to be seen in public, kept strictly segregated if they went to school, often wore diapers and smeared poo on things and themselves. Hence, anyone who could be scared or beaten into sitting still and being quiet simply need discipline, not a diagnosis.... At 50 years old now, I don't have many fond memories of my childhood at all.
Similarly, I was a girl in the 90s, and now have an adhd diagnosis. With more typically "girl adhd" symptoms. Things that weren't even acknowledged as adhd until I was nearly grown and had (somewhat) learned to mask. Childhood diagnosis wasn't an option for all of us.
I told my parents that my bestfriend was recently diagnosed as autistic (i was planning to tell them i also want to get diagnosed after that) but they looked me dead in the eye, chuckled and told me 'that diagnosis might be fake, autism is something you notice very early!' and i decided to not tell them i want to get diagnosed and decided to do my own research, im half sure im autistic but like not enough to self diagnose (not because i dont fit most of the symptoms but because where i live autism and other things are seen as bad and i feel like just asking for a diagnosis may ruin my life)
My favourite dinosaurs are velociraptors and triceratops😅
16:17 Sensory sensitivity! We were in a row home and the attached home was unoccupied when I smelled smoke only along the join line. Spouse didn’t smell it, and when I called the fire department, they couldn’t smell it. They did get inside, and when they opened the door to the 3rd floor they finally smelled it and were met with smoke. It was an electric blanket that had been left turned on (for god knows how long) near a can of solvent. I felt so vindicated that day.
I'm currently on holiday in a place near the sea and I swear I can smell salt even though we're not close enough to the sea for that and we haven't been to the beach today
yeah, i notice that my hearing is super sensitive, rather than my nose. my ears are very sensitive and apparently i can pick up noises at a higher register??? my mom takes care of the elderly and i was at one's house and there was a loud, incessant high pitched droning noise that was CONSTANT somewhere near the dining room, but no one could hear it. it drove me insane and it hurt my ears to listen to. after a while, we realized that a pest device (dont know how THAT works but okay) plugged into an outlet was what was making that racket. it felt really nice to know what was going on and to not hurt or have to cover my ears. i also hear loud droning from the tv sometimes and it hurts, but when i ask my family if they heard that, they always say no. strange.
@@purrfurr4803 I think those are just "Hey lets make this annoying noise because insects are less likely to be near it" for the pest device.
Wow, you literally had Spidey senses like a superhero! 😮 That's so cool!
One of my favourite conversation starters is "can you hear electricity" you get wild answers
omg... this is my life in a nutshell. I can hear the phone charger, i can hear bad adjusted headphones, i can hear the turned off TV, i can hear the fricking e-car loading station they built outside 200m from my home and it drives me nuts. I know exactly when its recharching or when a car is charging on it... I can hear a LED if its getting old, just suddenly one day i look at the light and think "you btch couldnt stay quiet any longer?" I have to remove so many things in every place i live and if i am in a hotel the first thing is to run around like a police drg dog looking/listening for electric devices so i can shut them off before its time to sleep XD
I can hear my phone charger and my nightlight. I can also hear my Nintendo Switch when it's idle on my nightstand, like its like a heartbeat.
One time in one of my first college classes, the teacher rolled in a big old CRT on a cart (yes, I am old) to show us a video, and when she plugged it in and turned it on (but hadn't started the video yet) me and one other classmate both covered our ears in pain because the volume was turned up SO LOUD... but nobody else could hear it, because the only sound playing was the high-pitched whine of the electricity in the speakers, since nothing was actually playing yet.
I can hear my fridge but that's about it, I'd say I can't hear electricity so it's really interesting hearing other people talk about it
I was in the backseat of my parents' car today and there was a high pitch buzzing noise for some reason. I considered asking if I was the only one hearing it, but I already knew because my parents are in their 60s I was the only one who could hear it, so I stayed quiet.😆
About the hairdressing thing and not knowing how to speak up and get out of the situation, I've learned over the years that if I can't speak up to call a break (to anything, not just specifically salon stuff) that holding up you hand and doing a tight little wave like a physical "hey! over here!" will make pretty much anyone stop, turn off loud sounds so they can hear you, and listen. THEN you can explain what's wrong or how you're in pain/uncomfortable and need a break or an adjustment or even just to completely stop.
Yessss that's such a good tip.
@@ArturGlass.C I'm glad it helps! It really sucks to feel trapped in a situation and not know how to make it stop. ❤
I agree, that is when "speak to my hand" does make sense 😆
About the being nocturnal thing; I saw there was a recent study or something or recent data to suggest that many people with insomnia are actually just “night owls” being forced by society to conform to a circadian rhythm that is unnatural for them. Iirc the data suggested 3 main different types of circadian rhythms, and one of them was those who naturally felt sleepy/wanted to go to bed between 2-5 am.
Delayed sleep phase has been my default for as LONG as I can remember. I used to share a bedroom with my two older sisters (+2 and 9 years respectively.) getting me to turn the lamp off at my bedside every night was a major struggle. When I was 10, I would go out into the living room after they went to sleep and my parents weren’t off. Just to read. I didn’t want to do much. In the bedroom, I learned how to curtain some blankets so I could have my light on without bothering them enough to wake them up. Since puberty, it’s been 1-3/4 am. Pre-puberty, it was closer to 12-2am. I spent MUCH of my childhood being sleep deprived. I also couldn’t take naps thanks to undiagnosed and untreated ADHD.
Last I read up on it, they are starting to find genes that may be contributing to the delayed sleep phase. One thing people forget, for as long as time as a concept existed, there are people that had to be awake at night too. Either for safety, different types of hunting, or to work on particular chores like hand sewing or things that might be miserable in the heat. They have also found that historically many people would normally wake up sometime around 2/4 for a couple hours and they would do something quietly productive before going back to bed.
Research suggests that biologically we weren’t designed to sleep a full 8-9 hours at one. If someone couldn’t make the transition to other full 8 hours, and couldn’t find ways to be productive around THEIR sleep scheduled, the genetics may have been slowly weaned from the gene pool but not eliminated, or drank or took meds (back in the day probably from poppies.) but long story short, we’ve basically created a society that doesn’t fit our biology well and countless have been forced to use sleep aides.
The shower exhaustion is so relatable, at one point in life I decided I wouldn't wash my hair and my body at the same time anymore.
And I found out that I'm autistic just about two weeks ago (after 25 years of not having heard of/thinking about ASD and then one year of neglecting the thought I could have it).
Why is this so relatable?! People always look at me funny when I check if the shower where I’m staying at has a removable head because when I shower I don’t want to get my hair wet and have to plan with the long drying time and when its time to wash my hair I don’t want to get my clothes wet.
I finally relented and got a shower chair and it's lovely! It feels so luxurious to be able to sit during a shower and I finally feel like I have energy to wash my hair and body in the same shower
@@GruntyHerder That's how the Japanese do it (albeit outside the bathtub) before going into the bath.
@@monotropa_uniflora So relatable... i will put my hair in a bun 4 out of 5 times i shower and i will fricking hate that 5th time... takes me ages to convince myself to step in and start the process... As kid i would only do baths, but when i got into university i realized as adult thats kind of not viable, especially without a tub... :P
Wait this is an autism thing??? I thought it was just my iron deficiency
I'm AuDHD and, I've stopped asking others if they can hear/smell/see/feel something because I've learned that others can't usually and, not only do I not want to be seen as crazy, but I've also gotten fed up with people's responses over the years. Thankfully, my sister can relate to a LOT of what I experience because she has ADHD and experiences a lot of sensory needs as well. It's nice to be able to relate to others about this stuff. It makes me feel more "normal" or, at least not "crazy" or "too much". I love this community. Gorgeous behavior!
Isn't it so telling how they can accept that infrared and ultraviolet light exist despite that they can't see it, because everyone can use a detector to see it just the same.
But for something that a human can detect directly, they tell us "You are incorrect, because if you can detect it then I would definitely be able to detect it."
And when you point that out that they're literally just claiming to be better without any proof, then they get violent until you take it back.
No one can be better than them at anything.
It's just large-scale narcissistic abuse.
@@SeeingBackward They can accept that bacteria exists, and yet absolutely refuse to accept that something sitting on the ground has any bacteria, because they just vacuumed. ;>_> Sometimes I don't think most people actually mean any of the things they say.
I have been "used" (positive) with scent, to put other autists at peace.
The normies did not smell anything, the paranoid autist thought it was gas. Turns out it was the smell of (a LOT of) limescale that came out of the tubes. But normies don't smell limescale that strong.
When I was little, and we’d be walking down the street I could smell cigarette smoke from decently far away, even with city smells covering it. The first few times my family didn’t believe me, until we’d get close enough to see the smoker lol 😂
The Autism Nature Trail is in Letchworth State Park in NY State, USA. I went a few weeks ago. It's very well done and lovely for Autistic people and neurotypical people alike. There are musical exhibits, swings, climbing structures, places to build with rocks and logs and sand, and a whole bunch of other fiddly stuff, all on a beautiful wooded trail. And the staff is TRAINED to be kind - we went late in the day and they were mowing, but any time the groundskeeper saw us coming, even in the distance, he shut the mower off and waited until we were past and out of sight before starting it up again. It must have made his job much longer as the trail winds and bends around itself so we saw him multiple times, but he just smiled and shut it down again. SO KIND. If you are ever in Western New York, GO there!
This sounds so cool!! I’ll be sure to remember this for later!!!
I would love to, but I live in the UK and we don't have the money to go overseas much. Also my dad lived in one of the states in America for a while and hated it so we probably wouldn't go there anyway if we had the chance
@RavenWolf13 I’m in the US, and am not going to argue with anyone who doesn’t and is disinclined to visit - it’s an acquired taste that I never completely acquired. But I was born here, and actually still live in the county I was born in, which is about 2.5 hours from Letchworth, so I may check it out.
They have a video tour online if you want to see what it looks like.
@@jimwilliams3816 That would be lovely, thank you. I'm sure there are also other people that would like it too.
It sounds lovely! 😊 Unfortunately, I am unlikely to be able to visit.
My autism diagnosis wasn't picked up because DSM 4 said I couldn't have ADHD and ASD.
My autism peaked during the pandemic cause i didnt have to mask around others as much and i questioned myself
i didn't know I was autistic, but I nearly completely lost the ability to mask during the pandemic because I didn't have to go out.
I’d been disintegrating over the course of my fifties, and I hit the hardest bottom during the pandemic. I’ve gradually figured out most of the reasons why (including an AuDHD and GAD disgnosis), but I still can’t figure out what role the pandemic played. I know lots of people crashed, though most not as hard - but I just can’t sense how I responded and why. It’s like my alexithymia is at max in that area.
@@jimwilliams3816 i mean probably wearing an actual mask helped you mask your face even more than usual with less effort on your part and not going out often and having a valid reason with covid being around. Also just being isolated i feel can help you get to know yourself better. I also figured out that im non binary during that time as well. Just gives us time to think when the world is paused.
Nothing has ever been as unbelievably relaxing to me as being told to stay at home and not interact with people 🤣 and if you had to go to the shops, you had a personal bubble that people respected? And I could just cover my face with a literal mask and not have to think about what my face was doing? Covid was bliss 100/10
@@littlemongoose ikr hell yea to that being the only benefit
5:20 When I was in college in the early 2000s studying psychology we were taught that autism occurs predominantly in boys and that it's very rare in girls and I distinctly remember my professor saying somwhtibg along the lines of: "we don't know why only boys have autism."
How far we have come since then!
"I have no idea why the half of the population we routinely ignore and downplay symptoms are rarely diagnosed with autism. I guess we'll never know."
@@StarkRGcame here to say this with this same energy thank you
I was born in 85, I didn’t have a chance in heck of being diagnosed. My brother was little more noticeable, noticeable enough for the school to suggested it. But my parents declined and the school dropped it because he was doing well enough. It didn’t catch up to him until high school when assignments and learning was far more conceptual and nuanced.
At this point, I’m pretty sure my mom and her sister were autistic as well. My father likely was too, or was similar enough (he can also fit in schizotypal and schizoid personality disorder except I know for a fact he was that since 5 years old according to his older sister, and typically personality disorders don’t developed until later due to real or perceived traumas or lack of needs being met.)
@@StarkRG"I have no idea why it seems to be very rare in girls even though most all the studies that dictated the diagnostic criteria were only done on young boys and very very few girls"
OOF the memory of standing there while everyone else is picked for teams, and the expression of "UGH" on the face of the team that was stuck with me in the end... It's been decades but it still kinda hurts.
Yess - I felt like I needed to apologise to them. I don't understand why teachers don't see how humiliating it is!! I'm sorry you went through it too.
@@imautisticnowwhat This particular teacher was terrible to everyone. I also started with my endometriosis problems but she would not allow me to skip EP even if I was rolling with pain. She was like "do you think Olympic athletes skip one because they got their periods?"
I'm good at being resentful haha
I had a "sort of" solution for this when I was in Jr. High. I would purposefully attempt to be injured as soon as possible so I could sit out the rest of the class, and my peers didn't have to be burdened by my ineptitude.
petition to get her a Pridosaurs sponsorship because I have never seen a more perfect brand in all my life
I feel like an autistic world would be more accommodating and compassionate tbh. Even with the stereotypes of us being "non empathetic and not compassionate" in reality the world now isn't particularly kind to us. I think our world would be more kind and understanding.
I completely agree. Since we tend towards direct communication instead of trying to read people's minds because that is exhausting for us relationships in general would be much healthier. Being securely attached means asking each other openly to fullfill our attachment needs and responding honestly as to wether and in which way we think we can show up for each other. With allistic people that is most of the time such a struggle.
Do you think we would be as discriminatory to non autistics as they are to us? Since being autistic would be the normal here🤔 i would hope not
@@alllscination yes exactly! Also we'd understand each other more and sensory differences would be better taken care of.
@@isismeow111 I don't think so? In my personal experience, I find that I end up trying to understand my neurotypical friends by being direct and trying to communicate in a way they prefer. I think in an autistic world, since we all want to communicate clearly and effectively, we wouldn't discriminate against neurotypicals, we just might ask for more clarifications since we know what it feels like to be constantly discriminated against.
The same thing has been said about other marginalized groups in history. "We can't let them take over, because what if they treat us the same way we've been treating them all along?" Maybe that should be a moment of self-reflection on how one treats others.
I'm formally diagnosed and I LOVE asmr videos as long as they are a specific kind. The ones I love I *really* love, but the ones I don't like I *really* cannot stand listening to.
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Same I love asmr but I'm super picky about it
for some reason asmr has always made me want to rip my skin off. hearing someone chew a pickle or just high def. audio just makes me feel so uncomfortable. i never understood why i couldn't stand the sound of soda being poured into a cup on commercial because they emphasis the noise so heavily.
I do the asmr with the cow hoof trimming videos and the sheep farmers...my friends hate me for it!😂😅🎉
@@streitrat go to jail, straight to jail.
My husband and I cook and eat the same meal for dinner for weeks because we’re so fascinated with a cooking technique or just a comfort flavor and routine and avoiding decision fatigue trying to figure out something new to eat (but making sure they are healthy meals). I’m so glad we’re the same that way.
It took a while because we kept thinking the other person might get bored of eating the same thing all the time until we discovered we both loved the same foods and didn’t get bored of making and eating them, lol.
We’re also both night owls and eat at 10pm regularly. It works for us and nobody else in our families understand. 💀
Hot takes about autistic dis-coordination: I think it’s due to us overthinking how we are being perceived bc my coordination improves if I’m alone and can work on it without fear of looking stupid and/or with substances - which tells me, at least for me, it’s more of a social self inflicted expectation rather than “bad motor skills”. The old “too many cooks in the kitchen” of my brain 🤣😂
Also, the straw thing. Monotrpoism. If we have additional thoughts in our head they decrease other brain functions.
For example, even when not self conscious, I cannot use a walking stick, because I'm spending so much brain to put the stick in a good spot, that my feet end up in the worst spots. Like creeks and poop.
Tears with the exoplanet reference! I was always there. I wasn't seen. 😢
People are genetically predisposed to different sleep cycles, some people are more alert during later hours (like myself), others are more alert earlier in the day. This is known as your 'chronotype' (Why We Sleep, Matthew Walker, 2017), and it's why we see the phenomenon of 'Night Owls' and 'Early Birds'. The evolutionary explanation for this is that, when we were small hunter-gatherer communities, it was useful to have some members of the tribe able stay awake and alert during night time while others slept. Sadly, modern society is built primarily to cater to early birds, which often makes life very difficult for night owls, who are often stigmatized as lazy and lacking discipline, when it's not actually something we can choose. The fact I happen to actually be lazy and lack discipline is just a coincidence, lol.
I always feel like I'm being lazy when I can't get up in a morning, but I'm a 'night owl' and seeing this has made me feel a lot better
Great last sentence... XD
I do tend to get overwhelmed by clothes shoppi.
LOL. I tried it with an NG once and it was even more overwhelming!
I have a burning hatred of JCPenney
yea - especially when a lot of those shops also use music and sents to "set the mood".
Hate it.
same 😭😢😆
I ave no idea why but there's something with autism and ADHD where a lot of us prefer nighttime! Personally I will always feel much more myself, more energy, and I won't be masking as much naturally.
Many neurodivergent people have delayed circadian rhythms, so the natural "I'm awake!" and "I'm sleepy..." times are off by a couple hours compared to the neurotypicals.
@@Samthehandwitch Makes so much sense
I agree with this statement so much. I have been in bed all day and right now is the most awake I've felt. It's currently 5 past 11 at night.
@@RavenWolf13 It's so interesting how that works. I have meds that make me sleep at night but otherwise I would be exactly the same.
My auhdhd bf definitely likes nighttimes but I'm an early bird and won't function if I get up after 8am. Honestly 6:30 is the latest time I should be getting up if I want to do anything productive at all.
When i was getting my IUD inserted, the gyno asked if her student could do it in her stead. Thinking about women's empowerment, and the fact that I couldn't say no out of awkwardness...i said ok. The female assistant proceeded to place it, and soon the doc says, oh that's a lot of blood. (This was my first IUD, i had no idea if it was normal).
I'll never say yes to a less experienced medical professional touching my parts EVER AGAIN.
i’m so sorry. i think mine went without complications and i still think about how horrible it was a lot. i’m nervous to get it out. but that’s just complete bullshit, i’m really sorry
Experience with IUDs can go so many different directions. They can be fine, or horrific. I mean, everything has a chance of side effects. But as with most "female matters" you have a very high chance of having your severe pain or other side effects be totally disregarded. My IUD was complication-free but it was still a pretty miserable experience. I also underestimated how much it affected my body. I don't have much trust in doctors but gynecologists are the worst for some reason. It's like they don't take their job seriously and they certainly don't take you seriously.
My doctor recommended against it, because so far with her (she is quick and skillfull though) everyone that went for a first time has fainted. And sometimes more often.
I have had a dentist that gave me a trainee and she slammed the apparatus against my teeth and started crying out of nervousness. Another time I asked not to have a male assistant and she chose a male assistant anyway and he leaned oved me to get an item, totally unaware of the fact that his jeans with package nearly hit my face, while I laid there.
I have ptsd so I made sure to tell them this would not happen again. I came back once be was there, I left. She now knows not to f with my requests.
The nocturnal tweet is SO accurate!! My husband calls me a vampire.
I have the opposite problem. Some people are nocturnal; I'm crepuscular. Asleep early, up by 4:00.
I spend my mornings totally isolated from other human beans. Paradise!
I love the rain cloud earrings.
I love crepuscule time it's even better than the night but I barely get to see that time because I just can't fall asleep early. Which there was an option of both where you start at the crepuscule skip all of the annoying noon-ish hours straight to night then sleep and wake up again.
I'm usually awake by 5:14 these days. And then I proceed to do zero productive things besides making coffee until I have to get ready for work at 6:30 🙈
Autism does go a long way to explain how hard I've leaned on memes just to communicate in the past, and still do a bit.
Also, the most on-point wit in my highschool came from an autist. We had to read children's books to the younger grades at some point and he would inject all these incredibly funny remarks between the pages. And you know, he had all the very "stereotypical" visible traits so it's not like anyone had any doubt, even all those years back.
Our school let people do make-up classes over the summer. One of them was gym. We only had to do two semesters of gym to graduate and there were two time slots in the day...
My entire friends group experienced this as an incredible life hack, to survive only one summer of gym and be done. Especially because the teacher made half of each class doing aerobics to a video. It still feels like the best scam ever!
One day, aerobics tape got switched for Little Mermaid and the teacher didn't even care.
Presumably to teach us when to breathe, he made us say "sah" on every exercise. Somehow that is a core memory, this tall old bald dude with bad knees pushing a huge group of disinterested high school students through aerobics while saying "Sah. Sah. Sah."
My hack to get out of PE was to take marching band. We had to take 1.5 years of PE or 2 years of band. Only problem for me was that my freshman year, I didn't expect to be able to take marching band for personal reasons. So I was forced to take the first half year of PE by the school. By my sophomore year, my circumstances changed and I was able to switch to band. I still had to take 2 years of band, but that was so much better than a year of PE!!! I would have loved to have been in band all 4 years, but unfortunately that didn't happen. It was really fun!
😂 I love this story so much! Thank you for sharing.
My school let us do PE online from schools that would let us work out whenever and however we wanted and self-report. I graduated a year early between that, one online English class, and two math classes I took early in middle school. It was great
A world run by autistic people would be super organized, with quiet spaces for those who need them and clear, direct communication (finally, no more guessing games thank goodness, because I’m terrible at charades!). Punctuality would be a big deal, so no more waiting forever for the bus unless I’m the one in charge, in which case I might still show up late because I got lost in my own thoughts. Balancing everyone’s sensory needs could get tricky, and politics might turn into a game of “who can say the least awkward thing.” Overall, it’d be a world where honesty reigns and everyone’s quirks are celebrated just don’t expect any surprise parties, because I’d probably ruin the surprise by asking way too many questions!
I just imagined autistic politics, and it was so funny! “If you elect me, I’ll put in more garbage cans and stern warning signs so the NT’s will stop their infernal littering already!” “If you vote for me, everyone gets a free pair of old person sunglasses AND ear defenders!” 🤣
@@misspat7555 Maybe then they would say what they actually mean too rather than relying off euphemisms and half truths.
Autistic politics would have solved climate change in the 80s and be well on the way to eliminating hunger and homelessness, because we would look at the facts and all agree on the most practical way to fix things instead of making decisions based on superficial things like fear of other people
@@martalaatsch8358 I don't know. We are definitely not immune to cognitive biases and mis/disinformation so I don't think it would be quite as ideal as you imagine.
There is an episode of Monk when he and his rival "friend" which both adore their therapist, are interrupting an appointment. The villain point with a gun on the therapist. Then monk sees the figures in the shelf and starts putting then in the "right" place. His rival disagrees with his rule of rowing them up and the start arguing. The villain is very confuse and look at the therapist which just give that "yeah i know" look.
I loved it so much cause it was the first time i realised that there is not just one right way to sort things 😂
i dont have autisim, i have ADHD, and this channel helps me feel included in different things lol keep doing what youre doing! :D
This video was soso validating! I dont have a paper diagnosis (EXPENSIVE) but my therapist looked me dead in my face and said "No girl, you've got it you dont need a paper proof of it". The imposer syndrome can be so real. That tweet about planets made me emotional as well. Thank you for your channel and work
It takes me three reschedulings to go to a doctor's appointment; I just wake up (or stay up all night the night before) and know that today is not the day. Repeatedly.
Three generations of women in my family have been prolific skin pickers. Hilariously, neither my mom nor I can stand the sound of the other one doing it.
I used to work the graveyard shift in the late 80s. On my nights off it was so peaceful at home and while driving around. Later, I threw a paper route and got used to it all over again. Since then I've had other jobs where I work in the middle of the night. These days it is very difficult for me to be awake for normal hours. I managed to get up at 9 today but I know it won't last.
I worked graveyard in Chicago in the mid-'90s. On my days off, I would wander the streets of various neighborhoods although nothing was ever open. The only time I found an open business was when I stumbled across a 24-hr adult "bookstore." But those walks were delightfully peaceful.
10:24 is literally just my video game habits, why play the shiny new game when I can play Mario Galaxy for the 25th time
oh god same, even if i manage to start a new game, i always end up playing the same ones again-
Over 1000 hours on Stellaris, over 900 hours on Book of Hours...
@@malcolmdarke5299 1049 hours of factorio and 500 Total war Warhammer.
Everytime I try something new which I might like - I fall back on those.
So remember at 20:05 when You said You felt like you were in prison when you were in school?
Weelll... I remember reading somewhere That the school system is based off of the prison system for example the super strict schedules, limited breaks, the one size fits all teaching, multitude of rules, supplied uniforms (depends on the school) and of course the dreaded p.e time or exercise time
Im probably just spouting crap but this was my first possible "well.." moment so I had to take it😂
It's actually closer to Victorian factory condition. Take a group of peasants and teach them to work on repeative tasks in isolation while being still.
The prison system simply uses prisoners for labour and labour looks like school when school is training for factory work.
School only teaches what's profitable for business. Otherwise it's a frivolous thing and pointless to learn.
@@radaro.9682 ahh truue.. I just thought it may be that way because of what I thought I heard
Feel a little sad that I didn't make the connection myself simply because I adore Victorian history haha
Mental hospitals in the US are very like prisons. My psychiatric nurse practitioner worked in the prison system at the beginning of her career. When she was finally able to secure employment at a private institution, she told me it seemed just like prison except for the framed pictures on the walls.
My train would always be early, to react to any thing that could happen to delay it.
your stimming vids as a baby are so sweet ! i love that your parents liked home videos so you have these memories ❤❤
i found your channel looking for help for myself, shortly after i had my baby. now that shes hit her prime at 2.5 , she is stimming up a storm. i recognize it as playing and self soothing but these home videos of yours are so validating for me as a parent as well as my inner child ❤❤
My brother sent me a screenshot of his results from an online test. It was very validating having him independently share that. All I could think is that our whole family is, at least on my Dad's side. It was fun sharing your channel with him.
I read 'my brother' as 'my dog' and I was so confused 😅
Hi Meg! I just wanted to say that your content is so positive and educational. I don’t know whether or not I’m autistic, but I do think that your channel has helped me understand and accept myself more. I really enjoy watching your videos, they bring good awareness, and they make me so happy! 💕🫶
Thank you so much for your content! You've been a contributing factor in me realizing I'm autistic, and getting officially diagnosed. 💚
Same :) found her videos last october and got my diagnosis in april. But also, now im kind of struggling with figuring out "what now...?" :P its nice to hear that one's not alone in the struggle, although its also sad obviously to see how many of us are struggling...
My autism symptoms peaked at 2-3. At least that's when I lost the ability to speak for a year and started hitting my head into walls. Until then I acted "normally" and in a very social fearless manner. My father's coworkers literally thought I was a different child. (My hair color naturally changed which didn't help.) lol
9:22 I know Jordan Rasko! She is an Australian comedian and musician and twitch streamer. Before transitioning she was in Axis of Awesome that became meme famous with their Four Chord Song. Her mascot/son on her twitch channel is a green and yellow animated lizard boy called Slunt.
Earring asmr sounds like my personal hell. 😂
😂 Don't worry - it's not coming!
@@imautisticnowwhatwe still need the earring tour, though, meg (unless its a pateon exclusive)
I've seen some late diagnosed autistics be so angry at their parents and teachers for not catching it earlier, saying it was so obvious. But it wasn't as well known then, so it wasn't obvious. Back then you were labeled as a difficult, sensitive, angry, quiet, and/or weird kid. I don't blame anyone, but like you I do recognize that I didn't speak up about myself and express my needs. No one around me realized what was going on and I thought it was normal for me to not express myself. Everyone was at fault and not all at the same time.
Nice to see a fun break from the drama posts. I came here for the in-depth informative autism videos, but stayed for the memes. The recent videos have just stressed me out without informing me. So this was a nice return to form 😀
I read something recently about AuDHD that said when the autistic traits are being satisfied the ADHD traits are more dominant and vice versa and it really explained some things. When I was working in retail I used to be very punctual and would get anxious if I felt like I was likely to be late but now that my autistic traits are more satisfied I have much more trouble doing things on a set time frame.
Re: neck injury from haircuts, one advantage of having a “regular dude” gender role is there are very permissive hair standards that allow me to totally avoid people touching me. I let my hair grow super long from age 14-21 and then I had to get a job so I buzz cut it off myself and I’ve been doing that myself ever since. As an adult , I paid for one haircut one time and it was awful. My way is much better. No touching!
Edit: ok if I’m honest there are a lot of advantages of the “regular dude” role. I always feel awkward cause I’m the weirdest dude in the room, but at least I’m allowed in the room.
I hadn’t thought about that, but I grew my hair long between age 10 and 30, and it’s true that I hated haircuts as a kid. Since I cut it, I’ve had one hairdresser for the last 30 years, so that’s helped a lot.
Being a guy does have its advantages. I don’t worry about fashionable clothes at all, and no way could I survive wearing earrings.* I don’t know how Meg manages it.
*Yes I know some guys pierce their ears, but again...frumpy guy with no fashion sense! 😁
@@jimwilliams3816 I never wear any accessories, no jewelry, no watch, no hat. I wore a wedding ring for a couple years but gradually stopped (still married). I never put this together until I learned about autism, but now I see it’s obviously a mild sensory aversion. So yeah, earrings would be awful.
I've literally learned to cut my own hair so I didn't have to ever get a haircut again. My haircut changed over the years too, I'm trying more complex stuff and I fail often, manages to salvage it in the end but it's not like I'm really good or anything. Still better than the alternative.
It's funny cause as a woman I experience get complimented on my hair every time I meet someone again after a week or so. Which can be nice but oh god that also means I'm constantly being appraised/judged for my current hairstyle. My brother gets told once in about 6 months: welp, are ya gonna cut your hair or keep it long? I try to give him regular compliments but he definitely doesn't have to feel analyzed about his hair every day 😅
@@soyevquirsefron990I collect clip style earrings. No piercings. But I have to be careful of the fit. Too tight or too loose are both miserable for different reasons.
4:50 this is also a tweet about trans people, and a lot of other queer people too, whether they knew it when they made the allegory or not
At 3 years old I couldn't walk or talk ... and I lost my balance and busted my chin open on the coffee table ... blood squirted everywhere. I still have the scar.
I might have dyspraxia ... I was slow to learn to walk ... I still wobble and randomly fall over at age 41 ... I can't ride a bike ... I can't jump rope (but I can if others turn the rope for me)
I'm sad that more of the pride Dinos didn't have feathers because a lot of recent research suggests many did.
Lizards evolved into birds so that makes sense.
@@AutomaticDuck300 lizards and birds had a common ancestor yes. They're sister clades.
@AutomaticDuck300 reptiles* evolved into birds. lizards evolved from a clade of quadrapedal reptiles, birds evolved from a clade of bipedal (yes, all dinosaurs evolved from a bipedal ancestor, the main identifier of what a dinosaur is is related to their hip-bone shape). actually lizards, as a clade, are younger than dinosaurs by some time
@user-co6wc8di5l the closest living relative to birds are crocodilians, not lizards. lizards sister clade is the one that contains all snakes, or the one that contains the tuatara.
@@citrus_sweet this is the most autistic reply on the internet. I appreciate the knowledge buddy.
I am very sensitive to sounds in general, but for some reason the jingling sounds like earrings, the keys in my pocket, chains or wind chimes all calm me down for some reason. Did you hear about rainstick? It's so calming and satisfying to listen to!!!
9:47
"You order the same meal every time?"
"I order THE BEST meal every time"
I read the title as "happy tism" and I love it😂
Re: gym class in high school, my autistic kid goes to regular high school in America but there’s options to take online classes over the summer, and he’s taking gym online independently. He goes to the local gym and walks in the park. It’s so awesome that he doesn’t have to do group gym class in high school! Check if it’s a possibility in your area
that’s so cool
The photoshop of two Megs controlling the train is super amusing ❤
"I've never been in prison. I'm sure prison is worse." I've been in prison and my experience of high school was much worse than my experience of prison.
For the hairdressers: you can find some who won't wash your hair first, but just use a misting spray bottle when they need it. It's worth asking! You shouldn't need to be in pain to get your hair cut!
16:10 just reminded me of a story: I had an old stereo in my room that made a little fuzzy-clicky sound when I turnt it on. One day the electricity went out for a bit and I was the first one to notice when it came back because my stereo made the fuzzy-clicky sound by itself and I FREAKED out and ran to tell my mom. She was convinced I was tripping but she was happy that the electricity was back. 😅
OMG the "do you hear/smell/feel that?" meme though!!! Both my roommates are neurotypical and I deal with this all the time. They act like I have a super power or something, meanwhile I keep getting surprised and confused that something impossible for me to ignore would go unnoticed by them 😭 my loss is their gain, though: their house has never been so clean before, and the hinges no longer squeak 🤣
6:14 In an autistic world people not interested in planes, trains or boats wouldn't be involved in operating them, and those who need assistance with scheduling would have assistants who specialise in that, so either you wouldn't be driving a train because you don't have that interest and subsequent fixation on the signals, etc, or you will have someone else there to point to when you should set off etc.
The hairdresser situation is very similar to a dentist situation I had as a kid. We went to a new dentist and they kept getting frustrated and saying my mouth was too small and I wasn't keeping it open. So he brought out the metal jaw crank things that ratchet your jaw open and don't let you close it, and he cranked it 1 or 2 clicks too far for my jaw. It was the worst pain ever, and I couldn't speak to tell them I was hurting, so I just cried thru it and was ignored.... I had another dentist drill out a cavity and didn't hear me scream when I could start feeling it and kept going
Yikes, that’s terrible! Dentists can be awful sometimes. Worst I ever had was an orthodontists assistant who, when taking an imprint of my upper plate, made passive aggressive jokes about my inability to keep from gagging, because I wasn’t being very cooperative and making her job hard. Some people...
(Not so fun fact: it took several decades after anesthesia was invented for it to become widely adopted, apparently because doctors didn’t see the need; they’d become skilled at operating on people thrashing around in pain.)
I don't have any video of me as a child, but I sure remember the "sit still and put your hands in your LAP!"
And "OMG that sound is awful!" "what sound?" "Only the dogs and me can hear it. :( "
I went spelunking with my parents at age 6, age discovered I could hear the high pitched calls of bats in the cave.
"CRISS-CROSS! APPLESAUCE! HANDS! IN! THE! FISHBOWL!!"
The librarian angrily screaming that has never not been funny to me.
Also I can hear the "mosquitos" that our malls inexplicably installed in the food court... to deter loitering... in the place meant for loitering.
Oh, and electrical interference. Anything with a step-up transformer inside, it's loud and grating; I can tell when we lose power at my house because my "tinnitus" goes away.
Going to school as someone who functions best at night sucks because you are staying up late, then waking up early, then spending a full day having to socialize and mask, so you are tired, but you want to get your few moments of nighttime peace, only to repeat it again and again.
For the record, nothing whatsoever wrong with dinner at 11 (as long as your work and child don't suffer) I freelance so I can sleep properly, since my natural sleep pattern is about 1-10am. I eat breakfast (lunch) around 11, dinner around 5, and then dinner 2 electric boogaloo at 10 or 11 again
This!!! I decided to work in an industry that that makes sense for
I love your earrings! And your blouse is beautiful 💜
Edit: Not a doctor, but here is what I do. For the neck injury- sounds like you may need to stretch your suboccipitals. Physical therapy is definitely the way to go, not the GP. I have a similar injury and do daily neck stretches where I sit up comfortably and tilt my chin down and then slowly push my head back in a horizontal motion. It’s a stretch, so don’t bounce your head or strain too much. If the muscles at the base of your skull feel tight, it can cause headaches like mad.
"Just walk out; Cops (if your quick)" 😆💀
I'm growing more and more fond of "Meg's earrings of the week" addition of your vids, they are lovely!🌧😍 🤍💙🤍
I read thumbnail as “So violating” and was thrown off by the happy mood
😂
I definitely can relate to your thoughts about feeling less pressure and anxiety late at night😅
I totally understand on the imposter syndrome. I was recently diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder level 2 at the age of 33. It still doesn't feel real to me although i was in like the top 90th percentile of people with this according to the phycologist that evaluated me. No one really caught on to the autism because I'm high functioning and my IQ is 121 which fairly high. I feel like I'm a normal person, i guess? I mean how am I suppose to know what it would feel like to be anything other than how I am. I have nothing to compare it to. I don't know, I just feel like when I say I'm autistic out loud I feel like I'm exaggerating or just lying to myself.
oh good, i'm glad it's not just me. i'm always hearing/smelling and feeling random things that nobody can ever seem to notice as well. when my friend changed up a recipe she cooked, i was able to smell that something had changed and she couldn't believe that I actually smelled a difference. i can always seem to hear my neighbors (during apartment life) when my lady couldn't. I could feel the actual vibrations through the carpet when my neighbors were playing music and it drove me mad
The getting worn out from getting ready is so real
thank youuuuuuuuu for this. I need to shake out the masking omg.
From 17-27 I lived my life and structured it how I wanted, now each of my parents have decided to insert themselves into my life and it has completely defeating me. I can't express to them how much I need my own schedules and space. I am an adult, I do not want someone up my ass 24/7. I had tons of money saved up, and one parent thought they deserved it all, and the other thought I could start over from nothing for a fourth time and was afraid, or too lazy, to act in a timely manner when I asked for help... I have had everything from my garden, my home, my job, my vehicle, stolen from me, and I can't see a way forward. I have nothing to look forward to. I have asked for help to talk to a professional if I am to move forward... And nothing.
I can’t believe you just called our favorite flying reptile a dinosaur
I really want to thank you for your content. It's been really eye opening for me, I am a from the UK and a little older than you, and in the last 6 months I have been really looking at why I have been feeling the way I have for so long. Others thought I may have OCD and OCPD and I went down a look of it and never felt those covered everything I felt. I then came across a short of Morgan Foley's and I was like "huh thats really similar but I can't have autism" mainly because I didn't know what autism is and thought what I was told when I was younger about it being a learning disability. Then I came across one of your 9 signs you're not autistic videos and I was like "that's now making me think" and have been down the rabbit hole of research watching tons of videos of yours and The Aspie World and reading comments of those already diagnosed and having tons of shared experiences and behaviours and well I am still not sure if I am autistic, it has given me a little insight and now planning on talking more to family about behaviours when I was younger and possibly taking the online tests you have recommended and seeing where I go there.
And thank you to all the people who comment their experiences too, its really lovely to see the differences in people to know that when some say one behaviour or experience of theirs that I dont relate too, there are many others with a different experience that I relate with so much it's almost like I was talking to myself.
P.S. Sorry for a longish comment. I spent at least 5hrs last night thinking about how on the next video I will post thanking you and the community and how best to do so without sharing too much but not underselling how big of thing it has been for me to at least gain a bit more of understanding, and in the end my comment is quite far of what I thought yes I will post that 😂😂
I don't think the long comment is a bad thing.
I'm not in the same situation as you but watching this video has made me think and I'm planning to do more research. I think if I do have autism, it's not very bad, but there were a lot of things in this video that I could relate to.
@@RavenWolf13 Thanks. I am so used to being told I talk/type too much when I do finally say something. (Mum tells me I could talk for Britain on topics I am interested in)🤣
Always think it's worth doing full and proper research if you truly think there is a chance. After I have done the quizzes Meg recommends and more research, if I still feel the same I am planning on trying to get a diagnosis but I don't know yet, although everything I have seen seems to point to possibly being the case, I still feel like I can't be because surely it would have caught by now. Only time will tell.
@@Taybean I personally think its a good thing that you can talk for Britain. Ir means you have a lot of interesting things to say, and I can also rant on about a subject u enjoy, I just most often do it in my head
that meme about not having to do PE is so real. I just finished my required gym class to graduate and Im so happy about it
Memes with Meg! One thing on UA-cam that is guaranteed to make me happy. I postponed going to get groceries to watch
The last meme and your rambling about it 😭
I FEEL HEARD AND SEEN T~T
I'm a teenager rn n constantly getting scolded n berated for my sleep schedule, especially coming from a country n even religion? where waking up early is highly praised and staying up all night is frowned upon
Also the part where u mentioned about exhaustion from little outing and activities, how night feels more relaxing n just easier, like sometimes even when it's not night, but the rare chance when I'm home alone, I'm automatically more productive, idk where exactly that leads to- smtg about perception from others stops me a lot so it's just better at night n also less overestimating.
And just angy rambling: I hate the left side big light on my room, the right one was good but stopped working so now m stuck with that stupid one n I hate it, it gives me a headache n ruins my mood to do my work >:( so even if the night is peaceful, I can't get as much things done cus of it n top of already feeling bad for going against my parents wishes which made me always iffy on staying up all night- so I got nothing done in past week, thank you so much left big light
i feel you about the lights thing! whenever you'll have energy and motivation to, definitely fix your preferred light or ask your parents for a fix. with the other light, in case it's a table lamp and the one that you can move around to make it shine in a specific direction onto the table, you can instead point it at a wall or at the ceiling - that way the light is soft and well spread over the room, not pointy and bright and sharp and not leaving most of the room in darkness. it really helped me at some point!
i think at that time i kind of also just looked around the appartment and found a table lamp that i liked more than the ones i had in my room and that wasn't in use, and it turned out it was perfect for me and i still use it to this day..
@@lisadikaprio thank you soo much for the advie but unfortunately, money is tight here, and there are bigger concerns n bills for my parents to pay, so I don't bug them about it (n I can't work to get some extra cash- part time work ain't a thing), I did inform them but I don't wanna repeatedly say it so up until then I gotta suck it up :/
My favourite dinosaur is Archaeopteryx (therizinosaurus is a close second), but my favourite prehistoric animal overall is Hatzegopteryx (big-ass pterosaur with a 30-foot wingspan that could somehow still fly and also gallop on land and swallow its prey whole 🤗)
both gorgeous, excellent tastes even if the hatzegopteryx scares me a bit thinking about its size but I understand why it's beautiful for you :>
Therizinosaurus gang! I’m also a fan of parasaurolophus and deinonychus
Me at the PE meme: I'm literally the opposite. Hated sitting in chairs for most of the school day, but as soon as Gym hit I was running all around taking on the challenges. Movement/exercise is my favourite way to stim :))
I actually have a "this could have been very dangerous" story about what being gaslit over the years about smells/sounds/etc. could result in... This spring I was in a meeting room with my colleagues at my new job. At one point, I start hearing this faint ringing sound, but my colleagues don't react to it, so I think it must either be a normal sound in the office, or at least I shouldn't point it out because pointing things out that others don't notice hasn't generally turned out well for me (and I'm new, I can't afford to become That Person). I also notice people outside kind of moving and disappearing. Do I say anything? No. A few minutes later another colleague comes in wearing a yellow vest and lets in the blaring sound of fire alarm as he opens the door. It's just an emergency rehearsal, but if that was a real fire, we might have got stuck in the building just because I've been trained not to speak up when I notice things that others don't. My colleagues kept exclaiming how wild it was that "nothing could be heard" in the room, and I still haven't told them I could. I feel like I wouldn't be able to explain to them why I didn't say anything.
Anyway I read some social media theory once about how autism may have partly survived in humanity because people like us have been able to caution others of danger back in the caveman days, and it was appreciated. It's just pretty depressing that now people seem to get intimidated and insecure if someone senses something that they don't. Someone like us could save their life one day.
I've been getting super frustrated the past week or so. I'm pretty sure that I'm autistic and want to finally get diagnosed (I grew up in the 80's and 90's in the middle of the bible belt, so I had no chance as a kid). I can find a lot of places in the area that test children, but I haven't been able to find anything on adult autism testing. What makes it even more frustrating is I've used some forms on a couple of the autism places web pages and been ignored, even got desperate and at-ed a couple places on twitter and asked if they knew anything, and those tweets disappeared. Just been wanting to curl up in the corner and just freak out for awhile.
I had similar issues and got my diagnosis from a university. It was a long process but well worth it and I loved my evaluator. Look into nearby university psychology programs. A lot of them have programs to get diagnosed based on your income in order to train grad students into the field.
I’m sorry to hear that. I’m going through the search process too as per my psychologist’s recommendation. If you haven’t tried that yet: are there any places (charities, therapy places etc.) in your wider area that deal with autistic adults? My psychologist and I contacted autism therapy centers around us and each of them had a different list with places to go to. If you can find an autism forum or subreddit for your country, there are probably other people struggling to find a place or get an appointment and users might be sharing lesser-known places/doctors where they were accepted.
@@monotropa_uniflora I'll give some of those a look. I tried asking my doctor, but, all I got from him was 'I don't really see the autism', then he loaded up a psychology magazine website, searched for our town, filtered by autism, then printed out the first name on the list and handed it to me.
@@fanime1 I hadn't thought of trying that. I'll have to look into it.
im autistic and i love mornings , they could just be ruined for a lot of people from trauma in their childhood ❤
Thanks for Brightening my Day Again Megan!
Re: picking teams
My mom sent me to afternoon sports for a while, and while I was bad in P.E. class I was actually doing pretty good in the smaller afternoon group. There was this one girl who would always be picked last because she was "weird" and a lot of the kids didn't like her, but she was a good teammate. I also had my fair share of being "last pickings" because I was chubby and not fast, so whenever I got to pick my team I always made a point to pick her first or second. I hope I could make her feel like somebody DID want her there and enjoyed her company because I often missed that feeling myself.
I heard an autism speaks ad yesterday on the radio, and it felt so weird. It had the same vibes as their old I am autism video. Maybe it was the same voice actor.
oh man, the pe and nocturnal ones are so relatable. i hated pe in school and anything that involved picking teams or anything adjacent. i figured i was a weird kid and upon learning later i am neurodivergent made it all make sense. not that i'd be "normal" anyways.
as for being nocturnal, finding a night shift job changed everything. it really annoys me looking back that non-academic or "intellectual" jobs were encouraged, which forced me to be more outgoing and social and i'd rather not. and the usual jobs force everyone into the same wake/sleep schedule, which is completely stupid and ignores individual differences. once i got out of that mindset and got a job working night crew at a grocery store has made it way easier to be functional.
Never played Slender. Watched my brother play it once, he'd turned off all the lights in the house for it. I went to the bathroom, then silently crept back into the room and jumpscared him from behind.
I think games are responsible for improving my dyspraxia a fair bit (I was never formally medically diagnosed with dyspraxia, but I spent three years in OT in elementary school to improve my motor skills, and my teachers gave my parents a booklet on "sensory integration disorder").
I've been in such a slump, starting my day with this is so happy :))
AHHHH I never comment because I always watch on my TV but I had to pause and find you on my phone because YOUR EARRINGS I LOVE THEM SO MUCH AHHHH
7:35 omg that's my favorite dinosaur too !! and yeah it's because it just looks so goofy 😭😭