Autism Memes are SO WEIRD NOW
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I was so freaking distracted and obsessed with the pasta earrings for the entire video. I cannot express how infatuated I was by them.
Happy Weird Pride !!!
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The pasta earrings are a 10/10 :)
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Autism/ADHD isn't my "whole personality". It's the palette from which my personality was painted.
Poetic
THIS!❤
I love this picture
fr, its like being different colours (I'll use autumn and blue colours as an example), you can paint two completely the same paintings with the different palettes, neither will ever actually look like the same picture, and will have different vibes, but they'll still both be beautiful
@@riv3rw4terI read autumn as autism.
"low on spoons but good on knives" = "I am 100% out of fucks to give so fuck it we ball".
I got the part of being mentally exhausted, but didn't get the rest. Can you explain again, please?
@@danielh.9010 Not sure if the confusion is the phrase "fuck it we ball", which is Zoomer slang foreign to myself as an Elder Millennial, but my understanding is that it expresses an intention to engage in something in an enraged and especially unfettered manner, throwing all caution and care to the wind as though there is nothing left to lose.
I experience something that I think the "good on knives" meme is trying to capture (and so probably a common neurodivergent experience) where I'll normally be a very considerate and polite person even in the face of adversity for so long as I have the emotional capacity to do so but then once I run out of that capacity all consideration for the inconsiderate bullshit I've thus far been tolerating goes out the window and I become extremely hostile.
@@Pfhorrest Thanks for the helpful explanation!
@@danielh.9010 "I have no more spoons left to give. Unfortunately for you, as part of the knife addendum to the Spoon Theory, I am prepared to inflict some trauma if you fluff with me"
This is often accompanied by the phrases "Run it, fool" and "I got your smoke". May vary by region and demographics.
14:12 the bird shouting at the other bird is a Male Chaffinch, and the bird being shouted at is a Blue Tit, for anyone wondering. 💪😤
Thanks! I wasn't wondering but I'm glad to know it anyway.
Merlin is a great app for identifying birds, especially from their singing, and it also allows you to mark where you've spotted each bird. I've learned to recognize quite a bunch of bird songs with it (including chaffinch and blue tit).
I remember the person that took that photo posted it on a Facebook page and then got really angry when people started using it for memes
Like, you posted that in a public forum, people are obviously gonna take it
Thank you for the semi-random fact!
I love semi-random facts!
@fintux I love that app, and birds too. It's fu because you can see what the bird is chirping about 😊
I love that the possum has become the symbol of ND/mentally unwell people and no one person established it we just universally agreed
i love opossums
My folks kept a possum for a short time when I was a kid. They are not really suited to be pets, so we gave it its autonomy. I can see a lot of autistic character in those little guys.
Possums are pests here in New Zealand.
@@PurpleAmharicCoffee
I think OP means opossums! They’re oftentimes confused but they’re different animals. Plus the animal in the meme is an opossum.
@@PurpleAmharicCoffee Here in North America they're an important part of the ecology. They eat lots of ticks that would otherwise spread disease, and they are apparently immune to rabies IIRC.
Letting bridges decay is totally me. I might think of a person quite often, but do I reach out to them, no. They might respond and want a conversation when I’m not ready for one.
Exactly this 💯💯
So feel that one. Have to keep up with Facebook and birthdays and stuff so I don't seem like I don't care about people. But Facebook is exhausting. And then to have to text or call people to maintain relationships feels like even harder. But relationships go two ways so it's on them too to make effort
I did read that often we don’t like using names. It feels wrong. I don’t even like to hear my own name. Pet names from people I’m close to are fine, but my own name? Nooo. My last job wanted me to use a name like three times in a call. Torture.
I thought I was alone! I hate hearing people use my name, but I have no idea what else to be called because my name doesn’t work to make nicknames.
I don't like using other people's names. It makes me so unfomfortable. I've been living with my boyfriend and his parents for about 3 years now and I've called his mum by her name about twice lol
That is so interesting, I had no idea the name thing was common?? 😂 And 100% "what if it's wrong" in the moment!? Just yelling at my phone this whole video, so freakin relatable 😂😂😂
"everyone's favorite word is their own name", gotta disagree there 🤷🏻♀️
Fun fact: when I was a child I hated pet names, my mom called us "my little tigers/crocodiles" for some reason, but I took that literally and made sure to point out her mistake. We would fight all the time because of this "but mom, I'm a human, I'm not tiger!", "I understand you're a human, it's just a cute little nickname for you" "I DON'T LIKE THIS NICKNAME IT'S WRONG, I AM A HUMAN"
Yes the owl! "Awareness" definitely has that scare tactic Speaks vibes. Like no thanks, unless you are prepared to accept me and my authentic autistic self then I do not wish to be perceived.
That comic is “Actually Owlistic”
😊
@VTPPGLVR Oh thank god. I was trying to find it and all I was getting was Owl House comics.
a lot of people look at me sideways when i say we should be advocating for acceptance over awareness, but i fail to see how its wrong. people are AWARE of autism, but a lot certainly don't accept it! the number of times i was called the r word cuz i was autistic...
Yeah, same!
So many times, people will say they accept me, but the moment I stop masking they start treating me badly, and if I keep masking, they'll tell me I can't be autistic, so no matter what I do, I just get screwed and would much rather just be left alone.
being aware of autism has 👁👁♾ vibes
"Let's buy the notebook that's gunna fix your whole life."
Of course I have to buy them all, I don't know which one has the magic!!!!!
😂 this must be my brain's reasoning lol *thinking of all my empty, lonely notebooks*
I used to just write in a normal college ruled notebook. It never really helped me follow a strict path for doing my work and stuff, but I often looked at it and would do stuff out of it in a random order. I will say having it written helped me actually do something, but I wasn't rigid with it.
I did that and just ended up scribbling in them and now I'm an art guy.
Still don't take notes though.
@@aka.roryyy I have a plastic storage tote that is just notebooks. Such is the notebook loving life.
And that is why I use free apps off the Google Play Store. It's so much easier to try them out, and ditch (uninstall) them if they don't work out.
I have ADHD so you know, not autism, but this channel has been really helpful for helping me look at a part of my identity that I always kind of avoided. Like, I was never scared of admitting I had ADHD, and I always had a good support network at my school but I never really looked at how it affected my social life and life in general. So thanks! You're doing great!
Hey - I just wanted to say that I do the same thing the opposite way around (get helpful stuff from ADHD channels even though I'm not). I think if it helps you then that's great, regardless of the label.
There is some significant overlap with adhd and autism, so it makes sense! And it still technically does make you neuro atypical
ADHD AKA naughtism
I'm willing to bet that ADHD gets reclassified onto the autism spectrum within my lifetime.
@@swissarmyknight4306 I prefer NT/ND, Neurodiverse can be a superpower, but like Superman we have our Kyptonite, like time management. I am pretty sure a ND invented the clock but NT's use it to bully us.
When someone introduces themself, their name just goes straight through my head without ever stopping to be remembered
At this point, I've just gotten comfortable saying "I know you told me literally 2 minutes ago, but what was your name?"
yea, this
The "I don't burn bridges" one made me feel *so targeted.*
I don't burn bridges.
I don't trust they were structurally sound in the first place, and then don't dare step onto them to maintain them.
Names always strike me as randomized labels that don't reflect them as a person. I kind of wish we had adopted the older Chinese custom of choosing an "Adult Name" when we come of age. At least the name might reflect who we are vs a label stuck to us as an infant or even before we were born.
i legally changed my name about 2 years ago 👍🏻 idk what it's like in other places, but in california it's super easy. you get like a waiver or something if you're low-income & iirc you only have to pay the court fee, which is pretty affordable. oh, & a notary & possibly your birth certificate if you don't have one available.
Unless you have a weird name like "Apple", it really doesn't matter; people seem overly obsessed on "labels" nowadays
We could take personality tests to assign syllables that represent how much or how little of a key trait we have at the time of testing.
Like an RGB color code, except that instead of red, green, and blue, it’s extroversion, introversion, flexibility, and executive functioning, idk.
@@cassandrabelyeu2419 That's dumb...accept your name...it's like life, you can't control it you can only control your own behaviour
@@ChristoffRevanyou can definitely control your name. There are many reasons why people may want to distance themselves from the name they grew up with. That is why name change processes exist. So that Phelony, Abcde, I'munique, Merica, Orgasm, Gotham, Sssst, Hashtag, Sadman, Rage, Colon, and C'KRET can change their name to something they love and connect with. Probably right after becoming an emmancipated minor and going no contact with their terrible parents.
2:00 I've heard an extension of spoon theory for other cutlery too.
Forks are things that stick into you and cause discomfort, and can be different sizes. Eg you might have a small fork that's needing to go pee, while you might have a big fork which is the big project at work that's stressing you out. You can't always remove a big fork, but removing a bunch of smaller forks can help you deal with the big fork sticking into ya!
And then there's knives. When you're out of spoons, some people can keep on going by using knives instead. However, unlike spoons, knives aren't as efficient and can cut you on accident, making it take longer to recover. It can be ok to do on occasion and then take the time to recover afterwards. But if you do it consistently, that's going to lead to burnout as you keep hurting yourself more without time to recover
Love this!
Thanks for expanding spoon theory for me. Definitely helped to have a way to express these issues. Now I'll need to google a simple visual explanation, formy Support Workers! 😁👍🧡
Oh, I thought he would fight the next person to bother him, bc he was out of spoons 😅
@@Donnah1979 same!
Sporks or sporks with knives would be deep conversations and needed socialising or practical conversations that are very useful and have unique charms, can feel cozy and nurture but they can also be draining and difficult.
Yep. I feel those bridges decaying.
For me personally, i worry about taking up too much space in someone else's life or interrupting their day with my presence because i have terrible self-worth thanks to my parents and "female socialization" being "you have to put everyone else's need ahead of your own because you're supposed to be a nurturing mother".
For me I think it is an over correction. I started life with an open heart assuming my love was welcome and I was loved. But as I began to perceive that people had unexpected boundaries, because of their own lives, their own experiences or number of spoons, I couldn't tell when they wanted what, and how much. Those boundaries scared me because I couldn't tell how much I was even being offered. Add to that the realization that my happiness and excitement were received by others like that bird "talking to" the other bird about plants and I became someone who figured the best place to be is well on the safe side of a boundary.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm just mentally ill and not ND but I don't think I've never identified more with a meme.
@@eliannafreely5725I started with an open heart, got used up & jaded for a long time. I've noticed this seems to be a common theme in the undiagnosed or late diagnosed neurodivergent people I'm related to. It's heartbreaking to see what started out as beautiful kimdsouls, broken by trauma, low self esteem & substance abuse. Good luck comrade!
For the more TTRPG minded friends. Spell Slots (D&D) is also a good metaphor I've seen around.
Maybe a "Full Clean the Kitchen" is a high level spell, but you don't have a matching spell slot available - but you could just have one that'll let you "Tidy the kitchen a bit" for today.
I think the spell slots metaphor fits better for me: because I am generally able-bodied.
Unfortunately my "Tidy the kitchen a bit" spell slot hasn't restored in some time because in order to restore it I am required to have a long rest, which includes 6 hours of sleep and 2 hours of light activity uninterrupted.
@@travisnobleart When someone tells me they are going to need a 20 min nap before tackling a massive pile of tasks I just... what?! You can fall asleep when you have all these things surrounding you needing to be done? Like, fully unconscious? And then you wake up 20 mins later and not 18 hours later? And you feEL BETTER?!?! What is this witchcraft? Do you offer classes?
I use this metaphor so often. It's the best way to explain to the folks I know.
I love it, ive definitely been learning little is better than not doing for forever. And just like my warlock i would end up going all out with my spell slot lol.
I have a vast, plethora of mostly useless, both figurative, and literal esoteric knowledge.
And if the words "Did you know..." leave my mouth, it's already too late to avoid the anecdote/lecture.
Dude, I'd love to info dump with you.
And the similar though a little bit different, "Ya know, that brings to mind ..."
Which part, the Emerald Tablet of Hermes Trismegistus, or solar cell charging circuit design for humid environments?
Oh, hi me!
Oh hey that's me!! Actually Owltistic. haha Thank you SOOO much for sharing! This made my whole week! Hoot hoot! 🦉💚
Ahh! Amazing!! I'll add your Instagram link in the description! 😁💛
@imautisticnowwhat Aww thank you! 💕
Owls are also one of my special interests so thank you for the cute comics!
Fantastic comic, I’m going to have to seek out more. ❤
I love the idea of weird pride! I'm autistic and I got recently diagnosed and your videos really me to piece everything together and truly understand that I am actually autistic!
Best of luck!
@@PersonstuckinMichigan thanks :)
The cat with the squisher downer is an illustration by children’s book author Richard Scarry. I loved his work as a child as it was heavy on environment and objects, which I related to more than people. Also the people were animals, which I related to more than...you get the idea.
I remember the worm but not his name. I remember loving that show. It’s been a couple of years since the last time I watched it. There was a channel that showed it in the mornings but that channel went dark back in January 2021 so I haven’t seen it since.
His books were incredibly sexist when I was a child in the 80s, so luckily my parents didn't approve of them. They wanted me to believe I could be anything I wanted, but in the books, only boys were doctors and lawyers and girls were housewives, nurses, secretaries, etc.
My mom grew up being taught she could only be a teacher or a nurse and she was so excited to give me a world where I didn't have those limits.
I know they rewrote them, and that's good. But it's still hard for me to adjust to Richard Scarry being a positive for younger generations.
@@astoriarego8304 And exactly what’s wrong with traditional roles? 🙄
I also have a fear of saying people's names out loud, even if I've known them my whole life!
(Undiagnosed, waiting on assessment). I actually put in the letter to my GP requesting a referral, about my issues with names! I spent most of my life finding it uncomfortable to say someone's name to them. I wouldn't even say their name to get their attention, I'd just start talking at their back! It was really only after knowing someone, when I was around 40, who used my name so often that I started to make an attempt to do the same! I'm late 40s now and although I do find myself saying people's names when talking to them more often, it's still doesn't feel entirely natural. Also, I have always, and still do, feel uncomfortable when someone uses my name. No idea why! It just feels weird! 🤷♀️
ME TOO WTF ive never seen someone else say the same thing !!!!!!!! was this a meme in the video? i cant find it please link the timestamp if possible cause i wanna see it, or just maybe tell me what made u think to say this? :0
I think the good on knives is like, we can snap big when pushed when run down. No spoons left but we can still be aggressive.
Yep, when I’m out of spoons, anyone near me is going to get hurt (but not literally stabbed just hurt feelings) because I can’t keep hold of my tone or use the nicer words or tamp down my emotional intensity.
Funny thing happened one day.
I was told I should stop "making autism my whole personality". I was also told i should "stop letting my narcolepsy define my whole personality"
I received those comments on the same day.
That day, I truly realized "making X your personality/letting it define you" just means "stop talking about your disability, you self-advocating annoys me"
It's much easier to tell those people to bugger off now.
"Wouldn't it be awful to be an adult in a child's body, with the lack of freedom that children have?"
Yes! It's bad enough to be a child in a child's body with the lack of freedom that children have.
The gifted kid/disappointment numberline is me to a tee.
College was a bit of a transitional period, bit it's only been downhill since then.
“You show so much promise” becomes “you showed so much promise, what happened?”
I combatted this by going back to college repeatedly for 20 years lol
Edit: Same outcome, though, plus $100000 student debt 😅
@@muppetbrows I've done the "back to college" thing once - didn't go well. I'm tempted to try again - for some reason. All of my remaining loans are from the last attempt. I'd be free and clear otherwise.
@martinmckee5333 honestly, I don't regret it! The only thing is now that I have a degree, people expect me to actually do the associated career, lol. I'm in Canada, so student loan is a bit less awful than the USA, so I hear. But if I could do it differently, I would get disability status earlier, especially because you can get a lot more grants etc which would have left me with 1/3 of the loan I have now! I might go back lol
@@muppetbrows That's good. I'm not sure I regret going back, but it doesn't sound as positive as your experience. If I ever find myself in the shape (and position) to do so though, I'll definitely go back for a master's or doctorate. I always enjoyed school.
Squish Cat is from a children’s book/TV show called The Busy World of Richard Scarry. It’s pretty good.
I would just like to point out that John Greens books are actually a criticism of people's tendency to not picture other people complexly. The male protagonist is the one imagining the girl as a pixie dream girl and in the end he is flabbergasted that the girl actually is a complex human being.
Green gets to much criticism from people who has not understood what his books actually is all about, they come from his own fear of not being precieved as a whole person.
Love your videos✨️
500 Days of Summer is very similarly misunderstood.
11:02 florida is:
fall
fall but with hurricanes
summer
summer but warmer
more summer
summer
summer
summer but slightly cooler
summer but even cooler
fall
fall
fall
Sounds like Georgia all over again. Except with snow sprinkled every 20 years
My company’s office is down there, and that seems right. The part of the Northeast I’m in is similar to the meme. I call April “the month of broken promises” because you are expecting spring to kick in but it keeps snowing. We’ll see about this year though, it’s really warm now.
Ohio is spring, winter, spring again, summer, tornado, can summer stop please?, almost fall, fall, back to summer, warm winter, 1-10 days of Antarctica, and finally winter.
I did a to-do list and completed it once then my PDA clicked on and ever doing it again became a demand too strong to surmount :/ lol
I'm not really looked into PDA stuff too much but I do have a "to do / things to buy" list that occasionally I tick something off of but I intellectually know that it is extremely bizarre to procrastinate online shopping 😂
5:53 big "meet the spy" vibes.
"He could be you! He could be me! He could be any one of us!"
That comic is “Actually Owlistic”
😊
The hardest part of school was doing repetitive tasks and writing down anything. If i had to go back to school as a redo knowing everything i know now i think id do worse and it would be harder because the demands would still be the same and my interest would be even less and id get "defiance" charges ten times more
that was me going back to get my engineering degree in my mid 30's after having worked in engineering all my life. got the degree somehow. just kept showing up to fail tests and then you win.
I never knew that Weird Pride was a thing, I'm very happy to learn this!!
The "low on spoons, good on knives" might be a threat meaning "I am not in the mood"
It's exactly that
I just forget to interact with my friends if I'm not around them often, so the unmaintained bridges meme hits me too.
Yup. An ADHD vlogger did a short on how object permanence issues can apply to friends as well. It was one of those “now my life makes sense” moments for me.
I once had a male coworker named Tracy. The day after I met him, I didn’t remember his name, but I did remember it ended with an “ee” sound and was a unisex name. When I reintroduced myself, I said “Leslie, right?” And he gave me one of the most confused looks I’ve ever seen
"Don't let autism define you, let my opinion define you."
"I am going to define your nose as broken if you keep talking like that."
05:37
That comic is “Actually Owlistic”
😊
no. way. i freaking love owls i'm gonna go find it. tysm!
I love the comic. 😊
My favourite character is Cupcake the owl. 😀
I'm actually adhd but I enjoy your channel a lot because it's sometimes actually hard to find good adhd channels!❤
Aww, I'm glad you enjoy it! I have an ADHD diagnosis too and tend to get on really well with ADHDers 😁💛
Weird pride being the day before my birthday is amazing 😂
I seriously can't hear "Jason" without my brain going into the "heavy rain" video game voice where you are constantly calling "jasssoooonn" "jason" "jasssooon" ❤
I remember that glitch too! It makes me laugh every time I remember it
Kudos for the pasta earrings
They’re not real. They’re an impasta.
The ADHDinos one really got me. I was just thinking about this last night, how it's useless for me to try to plan anything too far ahead of time because it will be lost in the chaos. The trick is to try to start when it's urgent enough it keeps my interest, but hopefully before it becomes a full blown crisis.
My thought on the low spoon cat with a knife.. he's low on spoons and will stab with the knife if people try to make him do anything... I see a knife, I think stabby, stabby. Though, I'm bad with memes.
I relate the the procrastinating dino...
What I say is always irrelevant... things move on and I never get to say things and it bothers me for hours...
I don’t have a planner because if I write down what I plan to do but don’t do it, I feel like a failure and even when making the plans my thinking shifts to “what if I can’t do it? What if I fail myself again?”
AYO I FELT REALLY PERSONALLY ATTACKED BY THIS 😂😂😂
5:28 I'd often hear/use "Go big or go home" at SCA* events. Do we pull an Agincort and rush the archery line? Why not? I didn't drive 4 hours and put on all of this armour to sit safely behind a wall!!!
Do we play out this big pomp and circumstance? Do I put on the metre-tall feathered Landsknechte hat for court? Do we ride in on actual horses?
"Go big or go home." We've literally created a four-day-long medieval encampment. We might as well "camp" it up!
*SCA: Society for Creative Anachronism. A non-profit educational organization dedicated to recreating the Middle Ages as they were, or may have been.
Ooohhh I've been there for the reenactment event. Unfortunately only once because it's so far but it was so much fun!
wow im the first one is me fr. "good on knives" im interpreting to mean i will fight u, i am ready. i cant do my laundry but i can yell!!! lmao and then the feral nb one fits me too. i love these videos so much.
march forth is absolutely genious, that is how you set a date, everyone, love it!
It’s a bit like Star Wars Day on May 4th
8:15 I also have a fear of saying people's names!! I've never heard anyone else say that they have this fear and you explained it in the exact way that I would !!
"feral nonbinary autistic" is actually, legitimately, the best way to describe me.
Reliving childhood, school, etc... _knowing_ I'm Autistic would be amazing!
The amount of 60+ year old women in my therapy group that have autistic kids/grandkids and describe their symptoms and experiences that are just... so obviously undiagnosed autism. It takes so much restraint to not cross boundaries and tell them they're autistic 💀
talkin about waking up with half formed thoughts around 10 min mark reminded me of waking up 2 nights ago thinking "If you were robbing a building, would you park in the handicapped spots bc you're already doing something illegal and they're the closest to the door for getaway, or would you use a regular space bc that's an asshole thing to do and also if you get caught, you'll have the penalties of misusing a handicapped spot on top of the robbery?"
In Utah it feels like we get the false Spring seasons like that. Usually we get out to April and people are saying the rote script "the weather is so crazy this year."
Yeah, the weather is just weird every year, mostly staying sunny outside except when it snows randomly once per month from October to April
I forgot the name of a friend I've known for TWENTY YEARS. Moment of stress, name vanished from my memory. It took me several minutes to remember it.
"Go big" means that you should have huge ambitions, or else it won't be worth the trouble.
Like, "Don't steal - unless you can get away with an elaborate bank heist"
I know that more friends is not better, so I tend to be myself in front of everyone and drive away everyone who doesn’t like it on purpose. In structured activities, I tend to mostly be friends with one person and filter my other social interactions through them. If not, I just go home.
Heck yeah. I'm gonna be my quirky, goofy, nerdy self, and if they don't like it, well, they can just go roll themselves up into a rather large ball and roll away.
you just described what i never realized i was doing when i used to have friends
I've been using a bullet journal since 2017 and it really did change my AuDHD life
So people like you do exist! Impressive!
I worked at a place for 2 years. Constantly forgot my colleagues' names. I felt awful. There was a period where I was okay, but when I started to feel really uncomfortable at work it got really bad.
"go big or go home?" No, go big AT home. Proved
Yes to the sounds made when something cringey strays into my brain. That’s one I’ve done for decades, and it never occurred to me that anyone else might do until I saw it on another autism channel. I do it awake, though. I do get the thing where I wake up in the middle of the night and what I think about is the End Of The World; it was exacerbated by a couple of years in which I was dealing with someone scamming my elderly father, lying awake trying to figure out what to do. It’s the rare thing that has largely been resolved..by a non-stimulant ADHD med that apparently gets prescribed occasionally as an off-label treatment for “night terrors.”
7:25 I had a lab partner for a full year in undergrad, and for like the first month I didn't know how to pronounce his name despite hearing it several times. The only reason I even knew what it was, was because it was written down in a list of the lab groups, and I would have to remind myself what it was every time... Have I texted him a completely unsolicited photo of a Priapus statue when I was at a museum with my mom? Why yes, yes I have.
I was once told when I asked my friend of eight years if he thought that I was autistic he said “you’re not autistic,you don’t get angry!” I told him that that is just a human emotion that everyone experiences anger then I ask my friend of three years who has ADHD and has an autistic brother and she just said “yep,that seems about right.” And continued with her drawing, this is why I love her
Many autistic people are not comfortable calling someone by their name. Not only is there a possibility of getting their name wrong, but also we don't like our name called because it rips our attention tunnels so we don't want to do that to someone else. Personally I don't feel entitled to do it
13:45 honestly people would be kind of weird for saying you let autism be your whole personality on this channel, at least. Like, what would you expect from an autism awareness channel?
But the thing I really hate about people who talk about letting something affect you in some way is that it denies your agency in the way you react to that thing. I haven't really come out to many people about my autism because I am not confident enough to feel comfortable talking about it before a mental health professional confirms it, so I have not heard people tell me about my autism being my whole personality yet, but it feels similar to how in some instances I have isolated myself from my mother for a while for things she had said or done and my enabling father made comments on how I "let the past control me", when I had done that of my own free will not because of the past, but because I had no reason to believe her behaviour would not repeat in the future.
I am not sure if "letting autism be your whole personality" means talking about it a lot, or just not masking in places where allistics would expect you to mask, but in any case, doing that is something you do, and more often than not you do it for a good reason, you are not letting some weird entity named "the autism" take over your body.
I loathe when people say you're making something your whole personality because it sounds like they're having a go at people with special interests.
I have A.D.D., Dyslexia, & "high functioning" Autism, & some of these memes are really spot-on, for me.
I use to be like that ADHD dino that procrastinates till it becomes last minute, but I hated not having enough time to get it done, so I changed to getting it done as early as possible, so I could relax for the rest of the day/week...buuut, there's still some things that I procrastinate like hell with, such as doing the dishes, cuz it has no due date, & I REALLY hate doing the dishes...
I also have Misophonia, which means I have a strong reaction to certain sounds, such as the plastic bag noise. It annoys me, especially when I'm trying to sleep, as does snoring. I have to have it quiet, aside from a low fan noise, or else I can't sleep. I also can't stand a lot of bass in music, but I have to tolerate a bit of it whenever I'm in the car with my brother, cuz bass comforts him, & he gets pissed whenever he has to turn it down.
Certain voices & voice quirks annoy me too, like if the voice is hella high-pitched (especially in a guy), & it's not smooth & consistent, then it grates my ears. Also, when a voice is TOO low-pitched to sound like their natural voice (especially in a girl), so it makes their words sound choppy, or like a low rumbling car engine, after it had just been turned on, but is sitting idly.
I've never heard of this Weird Pride thing, & I don't like that it's called "Weird" cuz then it's like "Well, what if someone is merely Weird, but Not ND?" I'd rather it be called Neuro-Divergent Pride, cuz then everyone would know it's just for ND ppl, not all encompassing for NT Weird ppl, as well as ND. Plus, it's kind of insulting to call all ND ppl "Weird" especially because that was one of the main words used by bullies to make fun of ppl like me, when I was a kid, like, "She's so weird! Let's get away from her." Ugh...
I mean, sure, I don't consider myself "Normal," but I don't want to be called "Weird," either.
It's definitely Fools Spring here in Minnssota and everyone keeps telling me "it's perfect except for the wind." Argh, the wind is cold front bringing in Second Winter!
Your earrings are the *best*.
Bow-tie pasta with pesto was one of my absolute favourites as a kid, and it's a major comfy food as an adult.
I'm in Ontario in Canada and we're having many Fool's Springs and Springs of Deception. It keeps going from from -15C for a couple days, up to 15C for a couple days, and back down to -15C. I hate it - I just want a consistent winter
I feel so exposed by the Degrading Bridge Possum. And by a bunch of other memes.
Thank you for the video!
Bow-tie pasta is so good. It has such a pleasant mouthfeel.
"Go big or go home" Well that just sounds like a threat since i dont really want to go home. Guess im becoming godzilla then
Last weekend I got this vampire bat plushie. I love him and I can't put him down. His mane is Squeak but its pronounced Thqueak because that's how he'd say it because he has pointy teeth
That's adorable 😻🦇
Thqueak is cute, but I'm not sure a being with pointy teeth would turn a sibilant into a dental fricative.
Totally relate to knowing and remembering and using People's names! I used to really punish myself for it but now I warn people as soon as I am introduced, and it's taken away a lot of the anxiety. (I am 68 and recently self-identified as autistic.)
to 4:38, some doctors will prescribe "sea air" to anyone with chronic illness and have their reason be "it'll go away once your anxiety does" so technically those doctors can be found 😂
6:38 Keep in mind that factitious disorder [imposed on self] (previous name: Munchausen syndrome) is a mental disorder, a healthy mind wouldn't fake disorders or psychiatric conditions like these.
Malingering is different from this disorder.
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8:02 I always remember faces and voices perfectly but I always forget names in particular, there's a chance I'm a super-recognizer.
I wonder if the "Jason" meme has an extra layer of having to do with the mythological Jason: notably of "Jason and the Argonauts" (the Greek mythological equivalent of the Avengers where they all search for the Golden Fleece).
I don't think so, I'm pretty sure the Jason is from the original meme whereas the mythology is an edit
I found this lovely description "March Forth is an annual unofficial holiday celebrated on March 4 to encourage everyone to work towards achieving their dreams." Good luck adventurer!
18:32 The Hindenburg disaster was in the USA, New Jersey. When the Hindenburg was about to land (after an overseas trip from Europe, I believe). 😅
I wrote a 15 page research paper the day it was due in college. Got an A. Happened a few times lol
fun fact: Aboriginal Australians have a whole bunch of different seasons, ranging anywhere from 2 to 7 seasons where i live there a 6 and there is in fact a little summer season.
Unfortunately there isn't enough consistency in winters in Alberta for us to give them names
The season thing is truuuuue. As someone who has been trying to grow plants, I am very aware we're due for another bout of cold soon and I'll have to shelter them again.
You're delightful and you frequently make me smile. I'm sure loads of others here feel the same. The sharing of your experience with us has, in many places, brought light back and helped us come to terms with portions of ourselves we've spent years ignoring and/or covering. You're helping loads of people with your work, just being yourself.
I didn’t know about weird pride this is so fun!!
That’s the first time I ever found out about that as well.
8:28 THANK YOU
I struggle to say anyone's name, even when calling them from across the room or something. it just feels so intimate! like I'll say my partner's name to them sometimes, but even that takes a lot of effort 😅
13:45 ugh my ex friend said i made autism my whole personality not long after i got diagnosed. Worst of all it was right after i called her out for making fun of my mental health issues and self harm.
Making fun of those things is not a sign of optimal mental health, IMO. I have the idea that people are often threatened by ideas that raise uncomfortable questions about themselves. Your ex-friend might have been antagonist toward you talking about your own mental health situation because, if you have identified and are willing to talk about what’s going on with you, maybe she should too, and she is worried about what she’d find.
Or maybe she’s just being a jerk. But it’s a possibility. I’m not saying it excuses her behavior, mind you.
I adore your videos sm, and they’ve been super helpful for me to analyze myself more. Not sure if I have adhd/autism but this channel has helped me actually look at the way I feel in a lot of situations.. idk it’s how I’ve always been living so I guess I got used to it.
For the first semester, I had missed too many days of school (due to sick days, surgeries, travel, and just not feeling up to it), so the school has had me come in to school everyday only excused with a doctor’s note. It’s been maybe two months now and I just feel so exhausted. I don’t think I’ve gone to this many consecutive days of school for over 3yrs, since my mom would let me stay home on days I felt awful.
I realize there’s absolutely no transitions between my thoughts but whatever.
Whatever the sound was at 14:01 freaked me out since I looked away before the home video footage was shared. I ripped my headphones off and was like "something happening around me that I am not aware of?" lol
NGL that scared the hell out of me too I had to replay it twice to make sure I wasn't hearing ghost phone.
*I've been summoned* ....so relatable ..*insert crying laughing face*
My doctor won't give me a referral for a diagnosis because he says my self diagnosis and research is invalid and he doesn't think I'm autistic, but your videos keep me going and stop me from doubting myself.
You need a new doctor 😢
I love the supportive feeling I get watching you review these memes. Thanks.
I'm so tired of the self diagnoses debate! I was self diagnosed for 30 years, and *shocker* I was right! I am now officially dx'd 😮 turns out, we know what it feels like to be autistic whether a doctor agrees or not 😮
It's a very distinct feeling. It's clear that we are very different from normies. It feels like our alien parents dropped us here as a joke and didn't tell us. We don't need a dx to feel that.
I love your bowtie pasta earrings, I just spent a cooking day with a friend making raviolis (well, two days) and when we ran out of ravioli filling, we spent the last like two hours making the rest of the dough into bowtie pasta.
I'm watching your videos while mentally recovering from those long days
When i was a kid i would get a huge worry around one thing that i have to do or i can't sleep - like something was still in the car and it was life threatening. I'm glad I can calm myself down better now, cause that got SO annoying
Ok, but am I the only one who thought that the spoon theory is about literal spoons? I learned not so long ago that it is like a spoon as a measuring thing not just silverware. But I still like the idea of people hoarding their spoons like a cool collection. It fits so well especially with autistics because we value the good spoons so much...
Say no to big spoons 🙅🏻♀️😂
IT’S NOT JUST THE LITERAL SILVERWARE SPOON?!?!?!
What somewhat works for me is writing a "milestones" list with each "milestone" consisting of 2 low-energy tasks and 1 high-energy task.
my sister asked me “what’s up?” and i gave her a brief rundown of each of the 15 films i have watched in the past week.
I was a having the weirdest morning…like a giant ball of un-namable emotion was inside me and might explode…but then I looked at my watch and saw it was March Fouth…March Forth!! It’s a day that I somehow decided to quit my great job at age 35…in 1996…and it was a Monday and I didn’t know why it had to be THAT day but then someone laughed and said “oh, I get it, you’re Marching forth!” It took me a minute to even get the joke! But today I’m having a repeat of that. I was fretting because I somehow randomly decided that today was the day to hand our tenants a notice to leave. I’m telling them they must March Forth…so that we can move on, so that we can March Forth into the scary financial landscape of having no rental income but having a space for, um, other things (under discussion but undecided)😂
I used to find to do lists from years back and realize I could check a few more boxes off the list as complete and a few more as lost interest.
#1 is a retake on my fav meem: No spoons left - only knives.
later: gifted kid - burned out fkg disappointment - some weirdo in a costume.
On the planner situation I constantly forgot to do my homework because I'd just forget it existed by the time I got home, and when I wrote down what homework I had that day so I'd remember? I'd forget to look at what I'd written.
The go big or go home thing makes me think of The Cat from Red Dwarf, where he sees a scary thing (I can't remember what the scary thing is now) then says, "Imma gonna make myself look big!" So, he curls his fingers into claws, hisses at it, then runs away.
I love the cute owl meme. That owl has the same expression in his eyes that I have.
2:10 it's by a guy called Richard Scarry, set in a place called Busytown. You may remember the TV adaptation of his books called "The Busy World Of Richard Scarry", or the books that he wrote from the 60s until his death in 1994. The illustrations are a core memory for me because I used to have a book of his that had those buttons down the side that make noises.
As a late dx AuDHDer transgender female, I could go on about names, and having trouble with them, for awhile.
These days, it is almost unsettlingly nice hearing my name, though I still have to work at using other people’s names.
Re : going back to childhood with the knowledge I have now… ya, I dunno if I’d to put my adult mind in that autonomous-less place. What I would love to do again, would be do it again knowing I am not alone and alien, that I could accept myself, do what I want to do, and be who I am/who I want to be. That there are others with similar experiences, there is help, and I belong here in this world. If I could give that to a little Mona, I would. Speaking of which, thank you so much for your channel ❤