I totally agree with Andrew when it comes to being completely honest with someone you're just starting to date about some of the things you see as a red flag!
Literally was talking about red flags the other day! And like how to decide what is one and what is not!! I think it’s different for every person and situation
It's important to be understanding of people and not jump to conclusions/judgments. With the complicated family stuff, I think calling that a red flag comes from a place of privilege that you grew up with a healthy and intact family, which isn't the case for many. And many are doing their best to heal from difficult pasts and shouldn't be judged for what they are bringing to the table.
What if his parents are divorced and I don't know if it's affecting him? I really wanna ask but don't wanna offend or hurt him with something so personal
Loved this episode and I love your deep convos they always get me thinking and I often feel like I’m in the room with you both debating on the topics! I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for ten years and we have lived with each other for 9 of those years. I know some of our friends call us “common law married” lol. At the end you mentioned first impressions and I think they are very important but I think my boyfriend and I have grown up so much since when we first met. Our first impressions of each other are comical but I did feel a initial connection or a spark. I will however say that before I met Joe I had met some people who I did have bad gut feelings about/first impressions. I do agree self reflection is so important but if I had to give my younger self advice I would say trust your gut and you don’t have to explain yourself if you are truly not interested based off a bad first impression. People will get that same bad gut feeling with you sometimes and don’t feel the need to give everyone your time. You can find a way to be kind but at the same time set boundaries and be honest. I think if you have a really bad gut feeling, can see you have different values, or are genuinely just not interested that’s okay and I would give my younger self that advice. I really loved this episode and I agreed with most of your opinions on red, yellow, and green flags.
I love Couple Things But, hold up!!! I met my husband through the Jewish News… back in the day there was no dating apps.. he is 3 months older than me. Anyway, we lived in different towns and I was late due to traffic. I walk in and see this guy sitting at the bar and I said to myself he is too cute to meet me. This is when my lack of respect for myself comes out. So, I turn to leave and he stops me and introduces himself to me. We had a 5 hour date. He asked his friends how long do I wait to ask her out again they told him 3-4 days not him he called next day. He also had No headboard (HA). That kind of stuff does not phase me.
Thank you shawn for saying your piece on the complicated family thing....I have a very messy and complicated family, and I'm so glad my husband of 13 years didn't turn and run become that
hey!!! I’m from Iowa, and even went to chows and have always followed you Shawn! I’m in love with your little family. I just recently got married and my husband and I are living in Dallas Texas! We love your channel & would love to win the giveaway for $500!!!
Validation should be something you learn to give yourself. Yes it's nice from your significant other but you need to know your value on your own. You're better when you live yourself while in a relationship.
Thank you for giving "has a complicated relationship with your family" a yellow flag. I totally agree that it warrants considerable communication while a couple is dating. Definitely. But as a teacher who has seen many students try so hard to "break the cycle" of their home situation and have succeeded, I would urge a person to learn the person you are dating and not judge them by their parents. People can want and achieve something better than what they had growing up or maybe just want something very different from their childhood. Maybe they have become a Christian while their family is not, for example. It doesn't mean you should write their family off in all circumstances either just definitely don't judge an individual by who their family is and where they came from.
I think the list thing is a yes and no. You can make a list with non-negotiables (religion, the way they treat people, etc.) but everything else (eye color, hair color, height, etc.) needs to be flexible.
My husband and I are both introverted and we spend all out time together. We are each other's best friends. We don't really associate with people. We have a few core people in our small group we do things with. It makes you rely, understand and communicate with each other. We literally feel lost when we are part. We occasionally get on each others nerves but we laugh about everything.
Most people have a “problematic” family member. My in laws and all my husband’s friends didn’t like any of his previous girls and they all love me. There’s a difference from being friendly and being friends. My husband and I are not friends with his daughters mother but we are all friendly towards each other.
So many people are fixated by standards of society and what the world tells us the “perfect” person needs or is supposed to be like. More people need to listen to this because y’all talked about what so many people struggle with. THANK YOU!!
Hey y’all! I absolutely love you two. I started gymnastics at 18 mo and loved the sport ever since. I remember watching Beijing in a camper when I was 10! I’ve rooted for you for many years. I am now 22, happily engaged, and planning a wedding!! Winning the giveaway would be an amazing help to our honeymoon. Please consider me and my fiancé (Charlie)! Love you guys. Good luck with your pregnancy!
Hey East Fam. So excited for little man to arrive. The adjustment period isn't as crazy going from 1 to 2 babies. You will find your new routine quicker. Love your podcast. Thank you for promoting marriage as a positive thing..wich I don't think people do any more. My husband and I have been married 11 years. You will keep falling in love with your spouse more after each year. Will be praying for a safe and easy birth of your baby boy. Xoxox
I'm single now ( unfortunately ) but I enjoy listening to You and Andrew Shawn. The information You Both share with Your subscribers is very informative. My hope is to rekindle with My Ex and I will take the advice from You and Andrew with Me. Thanks so much ( fingers crossed ) Hopeful at 66 !
Singer Jamie Grace (who you guys collaborated with once :)) did a video on creating a “future spouse list” and that thing is a miracle, and I regularly look back on it in my notes. Inspired by the video, I created 4 categories. First one being Convictions (non negotiables) such as faith, principals, being attracted to him, children, etc. The second category was what I called Heart Twinklers, things and characteristics my heart really desires but that are more so in the grey area. The third one is interests, like traveling, music, and tv but this one is much less of a deal breaker than the first two. The final character is what Jamie Grace called the infatuation category, such as eye and hair color, height, etc. This list has definitely helped me sort my priorities :))
Loved this! But I will only disagree with 1 thing. Sometimes when a parent has a problem with a person your dating or married to, it may not be a red flag. When me and my husband met, on our first date, he told me his mom was not easy to get along with. He told me how controlling she was. Me and my husband developed a friendship first and then fell in love. We have been married for 21 years and we are still best friends. Has it been easy... No, not at all. Do I wish that I had a mother in law that I was close to... YES!!! I wanted to be able to go shopping with my mother in law. And I wanted her to call me daughter in love instead of daughter in law. But life is not that easy sometimes. I pray for our relationship to one day mend and I tried SO hard for YEARS and YEARS, but I was never good enough in her eyes to marry her son. My husband told me she used to sabotage all his dating relationships. My husband told me that she never wanted him to get married because she was afraid of loosing him. She could have gained a daughter and kept her son if she would have given me half a chance. YES it's been hard and I would NEVER want this for anyone, but I can't imagine my life without this man by my side. We have gone through so much together ( 2 years dating, then 21 years and counting being married... 2 kids( 1 biological and 1 adopted), and he is STILL my best friend and always will be!!! He is the best husband, dad and friend I could ever ask for. He works HARD for his family and when he comes home, he is always helping me do something. He is a strong Christian man who loves God first and loves his family second. I don't know what I would do without Brad LaFoy!! His mom is missing out on something great!!! Not our choice,but hers only. So in my opinion, it's not a red flag, but maybe a yellow. It's not green because I would never want this for anyone. But this is our testimony.... God can make something beautiful if we let him 🥰
I absolutely adore you guys and I LOVE listening to couple things! I look forward to each new episode and it has become my number one podcast! Thank you guys for all you do, you two are amazing and have such a beautiful family! P.a. Can’t wait to “meet” little man! ❤️
This is actually the ONLY podcast I listen to(cause I’m not a huge fan of podcasts) but when you guys first started, I was just getting into a serious relationship. So THANK YOU!! It’s helped quite a bit!
I loved that you touched on family/in-laws. My husband does not have a relationship with much of his family, and at first I thought it was a red flag because I am so close with my family. BUT, as Shawn said, "that's not the person". We had a long conversation and I realized just how toxic of a family he had & why he chose to not have a relationship with his family. He gets along SO well with my family and I couldn't ask for a better man. He's a great husband and an even more wonderful father. I'm so glad I took the time to get to know why & to truly listen.
Absolutely love this!!! My fiancé and I are getting married in October and I could not agree with this more. Dating can be hard, especially now a days with covid and technology. We all have certain things that throw those little flags into our head and it could make or break the relationship. I try to have an open mind when meeting new people and building a new relationship, even in new friendships because I know we all aren’t to same. They even say sometimes they say the whole opposite attracts but theirs still some big red flags that it’s just like a “nope, go back to go and do not collect $100, bye bye!!!👋👋👋” but I do agree we all have certain criteria’s already wired into us that we may not even notice that we are like yeah that’s good or nope that’s a no go. Love listening to y’all’s podcasts and advice and cannot wait to see y’all when you come to Charlotte!!!😍😍😍
First time listener/watcher. I truly love this podcast! I agree with most of what you said although I don't believe your family will always side with you. I've witnessed numerous times where the person's in laws sided with them. Especially if kids are involved. I love the banter, the "rants/tangents" and the communication between you two!!
I wish I’d had this episode when I was dating, it just validated my inner voice that I should have let be louder! Now mid thirties I think my hubby wishes I’d never found it 🤣🤣 just kidding , he feed my 🔥 side!!! Thanks for always being you & authentic
Getting me through my divorce... Newly single mama of a 10m old in Medical School and your podcast is helping me process and heal from a husband that began cheating when our daughter was born. Ex gymnast also and really relate to so many things you guys talk about. Thank you!!
Subscribed but not sure if I’m commenting in the right place. I’ve never once won anything in my life so it probably doesn’t matter. Lol! Looking forward to all of y’all’s new and exciting things! ESP can’t wait to see your sweet baby boy! Xo
I am 79 yes old and these two kids amaze me with their grace and wisdom.....far beyond their years! God Bless you both for sharing your thoughts on your experiences within your own married life. Wise counsel on the chosen subjects.
This was an insightful podcast! I have encountered some red/yellow flags and I don’t understand why I and others look past them, ugh. I do think that most families have a family member or some difficulties, I don’t know if I think that’s a red flag.
I believe people should not be close minded when it comes to a relationship because you truly miss out the true intentions and potential love that a person has. From experience I judged my current boyfriend before I gave him the opportunity. It was an automatic red flag do to the fact I didn’t know him well and I was just jumping into something really quick but we talked I got to see a side of him. He asked me to be his gf and I’m so glad I said yes. My man is the sweetest human being ever, I always get emotional talking about him because my man will always go up and beyond for anyone. If he sees someone in need he springs out in action just to help. Also, he stops every to help out animals in need yesterday he found a few strays. Literally left to a nearby McDonald’s but the dogs burgers came back and fed them, bought them bowls and water. He might not have much money but just the fact he gave up his last few dollars on poor innocent animals… gosh I can go on and on… but you know when you find the perfect person never let them go. Give the person a chance, you won’t regret it.
Yes! We are all God's children or part of the cosmos. It doesn't matter where you came from, what struggles you have, what possessions you have, we all deserve love and I believe if we want it, there's people that will be a right fit for us. I think we each have areas where we can grow in life and I think it's nice to find someone who will grow with you at the right timing. This can look like shared values or something that just seems to align with your self in the now. It's all about timing in the universe. Evil as an energy is perspective and timing I think and some people might not do so well together for a plethora of reasons, but will get along with someone else swimmingly. And then maybe later in existence those people who didn't get along will get along then. I know it's complex and we all have different values and paths in life and you have to protect yourselves and follow your own intuitions, but we all have unique gifts which can illuminate our world. The kaleidoscope. I believe in the concept that everything is working out just as it should. 🌊🌬
Love you guys! Thank you so much for doing these podcast. Even though y’all have been very successful in your athletic and business endeavors, I feel like y’all very relatable, down to earth and role models.
It only took me your very first lead in statement that you cannot go into dating with a specific list of requirements, that just grabbed my attention. I think that its very difficult to ever have a solid foundation if you don't match with "core values" I love the tenderness you show each other. Thank you for sharing your insight. Love to the East Family❤️
I think you two give our generation hope that true love isn't perfect, but it still exists. Thanks for giving us yourselves. I will be 39 on July 10th, so I'm still waiting on that forever love.
I'm trying to get my bf to listen to y'all more. We have a deal, we listen to y'all and then a Joe Rogan podcast. Ngl you're giveaway coming up would pay for my next semester in school :) hehe
These are great tips!!! Keep them coming. I’ve been married for 14 years and communicating clearly has been a struggle for me. It’s a work in progress but we both have to try and be more clear.
I didn't know this channel existed until recently. I watch your main channel and somehow came across one of these episodes and I'm addicted now. Thank you for sharing these things and being honest. It's not like you two agree on literally everything just for the sake of appearances. It's so refreshing how you challenge each other in a respectful way, and I love seeing that aha moment
I totally agree with Shawn about blowing someone off that could potentially be a great relationship. Sometimes small things that are actually just being too guarded, are disguised as red flags. I think an open mind is important. Don’t count someone out too soon:)
I love watching all your videos and series. But I think these podcasts are my favorite. I love how raw you 2 get. I pray God continues to blesses you immensely!!
I absolutely love watching you both! I’ve been watching you since y’all have been married! Love love love what y’all are doing for not only the older married generation but the younger generation as well! Keep doing what your doing! Love y’all and your little family!
Love love love you guys you guys keep it so real. You have really opened my understanding of my relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years. Helping us communicate with one another better
Holy heck this is hitting me in the feels. Definitely screwed myself by looking for “my type” but ended up focusing too much on finding someone who did cool things, not someone who ticked my most important boxes. Augh
Great show, guys. Relationships are tough, but one thing I learned (hardest lesson learned) was to listen to the red flags about someone, especially from friends and family. We often are blind or dismiss too much in a relationship.
While I agree about being open minded when dating, I also think it’s so important to remind ourselves that it’s okay to have high standards and not to settle. I’m 33 and single and honestly I’m not upset about it because I haven’t met anyone who want and deserved my time. Love you guys 😘
This great to talk about I love it ❤️. Tons of people need to hear this good advice. Love how open you guys are. It is great hearing a godly couple giving advice.
I can not wait to listen to these! I really enjoyed your love language podcast and how you two interact together. So raw and fun! Just gotta get my BF to listen to it with me 😆 btw you were my favorite gymnast back in the day when I was a gymnast too!
I wanna win the money I could really use it for college to put towards my bachelors degree! But I love this channel and how you guys are so open and honest to help everyone watching! I’m single and I already have learned so much from you guys!
When you were saying how you have a specific list on who you want to date, i had a list and i always found the wrong guys then one day i just stopped looking and i found the love of my life at a coffee shop and he may not of been everything i used to look for but hes amazing and I wouldn’t change a thing. We have a little 2 year old :) and the headboard thing my husband didnt have one and i dont know why it would be a red flag lol
It's so important the have red flags you aren't willing to deal with. Family issues can be red or yellow. Yellow if they're willing to deal with them red if they aren't.
Love watching you two not only on here but social media in general ❤️ my husband and I got married in august and listening to your advice and love for each other is so fun for us now that we relate! Keep it up, can’t wait to see little man when he arrives 😍
I will say this about the yellow flag for divorced. I never wanted to divorce my first husband but he got into trouble and I had no clue so only option was to divorce his sorry ass. I do not want to say what happened but it wasnt my fault and I think the yellow flag shouldnt be yellow for everyone.
this is so helpful! my fiancé and i have ran through the motions for the past three years in our relationship - need to sit down and reevaluate my fiancé!!!
What kind of flag would it be if your husband wants to stay all night with friends all the time and leaves the wife home by herself or stays late at work every night and comes home long enough to talk for a few minutes and then go to bed?
I thought this was so interesting! I loved hearing the red flags. You two are so interesting to listen to and watch on social media! Thank you for this great podcast!
I totally agree with Andrew when it comes to being completely honest with someone you're just starting to date about some of the things you see as a red flag!
Literally was talking about red flags the other day! And like how to decide what is one and what is not!! I think it’s different for every person and situation
Totally subscribing. I love getting to see your relationship and experience while also bringing in experts on occasion.
It's important to be understanding of people and not jump to conclusions/judgments. With the complicated family stuff, I think calling that a red flag comes from a place of privilege that you grew up with a healthy and intact family, which isn't the case for many. And many are doing their best to heal from difficult pasts and shouldn't be judged for what they are bringing to the table.
Yes. We are not our families, and many are trying to break the cycle.
I agree 100%
What if his parents are divorced and I don't know if it's affecting him? I really wanna ask but don't wanna offend or hurt him with something so personal
I am in the dating world and have found that people are so set on one person they want and don’t allow any wiggle room. Dating right now sucks!
Love that y'all went into greenand yellow flags! This is my doing chores podcast for sure.
Love listening to you guys! Great advice!
Love you guys 🤩🥰
Loved this episode and I love your deep convos they always get me thinking and I often feel like I’m in the room with you both debating on the topics!
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for ten years and we have lived with each other for 9 of those years. I know some of our friends call us “common law married” lol.
At the end you mentioned first impressions and I think they are very important but I think my boyfriend and I have grown up so much since when we first met. Our first impressions of each other are comical but I did feel a initial connection or a spark. I will however say that before I met Joe I had met some people who I did have bad gut feelings about/first impressions. I do agree self reflection is so important but if I had to give my younger self advice I would say trust your gut and you don’t have to explain yourself if you are truly not interested based off a bad first impression. People will get that same bad gut feeling with you sometimes and don’t feel the need to give everyone your time. You can find a way to be kind but at the same time set boundaries and be honest. I think if you have a really bad gut feeling, can see you have different values, or are genuinely just not interested that’s okay and I would give my younger self that advice. I really loved this episode and I agreed with most of your opinions on red, yellow, and green flags.
I love Couple Things
But, hold up!!! I met my husband through the Jewish News… back in the day there was no dating apps.. he is 3 months older than me.
Anyway, we lived in different towns and I was late due to traffic.
I walk in and see this guy sitting at the bar and I said to myself he is too cute to meet me. This is when my lack of respect for myself comes out. So, I turn to leave and he stops me and introduces himself to me.
We had a 5 hour date. He asked his friends how long do I wait to ask her out again they told him 3-4 days not him he called next day. He also had
No headboard (HA). That kind of stuff does not phase me.
You guys should interview Arie and Lauren when they get settled with their twins! Feel like that would be a great podcast!
love that idea ❤️
They interviewed Arie and Lauren last year.
@@ATouchofBlush I know but after the twins now, because they both were on 2nd pregnancies. Just comparing that’s all. Love them both!!
Thank you shawn for saying your piece on the complicated family thing....I have a very messy and complicated family, and I'm so glad my husband of 13 years didn't turn and run become that
I love ya'lls chemistry together. You compliment each others personality.
I'm so confused about the issue with having or not having a headboard matters at all.????
hey!!! I’m from Iowa, and even went to chows and have always followed you Shawn! I’m in love with your little family. I just recently got married and my husband and I are living in Dallas Texas! We love your channel & would love to win the giveaway for $500!!!
Validation should be something you learn to give yourself. Yes it's nice from your significant other but you need to know your value on your own. You're better when you live yourself while in a relationship.
Thank you for giving "has a complicated relationship with your family" a yellow flag. I totally agree that it warrants considerable communication while a couple is dating. Definitely. But as a teacher who has seen many students try so hard to "break the cycle" of their home situation and have succeeded, I would urge a person to learn the person you are dating and not judge them by their parents. People can want and achieve something better than what they had growing up or maybe just want something very different from their childhood. Maybe they have become a Christian while their family is not, for example. It doesn't mean you should write their family off in all circumstances either just definitely don't judge an individual by who their family is and where they came from.
I think the list thing is a yes and no. You can make a list with non-negotiables (religion, the way they treat people, etc.) but everything else (eye color, hair color, height, etc.) needs to be flexible.
Agree 100%, physicality should be flexible but agreeing on principles is v important
My husband and I are both introverted and we spend all out time together. We are each other's best friends. We don't really associate with people. We have a few core people in our small group we do things with. It makes you rely, understand and communicate with each other. We literally feel lost when we are part. We occasionally get on each others nerves but we laugh about everything.
ooo yes I'd love to see a Green Flag episode!!
Most people have a “problematic” family member. My in laws and all my husband’s friends didn’t like any of his previous girls and they all love me. There’s a difference from being friendly and being friends. My husband and I are not friends with his daughters mother but we are all friendly towards each other.
Andrew, you did great on ninja warriors!! And Shawn was so cute cheering you on!! 👍🙌
So many people are fixated by standards of society and what the world tells us the “perfect” person needs or is supposed to be like. More people need to listen to this because y’all talked about what so many people struggle with. THANK YOU!!
Hey y’all! I absolutely love you two. I started gymnastics at 18 mo and loved the sport ever since. I remember watching Beijing in a camper when I was 10! I’ve rooted for you for many years. I am now 22, happily engaged, and planning a wedding!! Winning the giveaway would be an amazing help to our honeymoon. Please consider me and my fiancé (Charlie)! Love you guys. Good luck with your pregnancy!
Hey East Fam. So excited for little man to arrive. The adjustment period isn't as crazy going from 1 to 2 babies. You will find your new routine quicker. Love your podcast. Thank you for promoting marriage as a positive thing..wich I don't think people do any more. My husband and I have been married 11 years. You will keep falling in love with your spouse more after each year. Will be praying for a safe and easy birth of your baby boy. Xoxox
I'm single now ( unfortunately ) but I enjoy listening to You and Andrew Shawn. The information You Both share with Your subscribers is very informative. My hope is to rekindle with My Ex and I will take the advice from You and Andrew with Me. Thanks so much ( fingers crossed ) Hopeful at 66 !
Singer Jamie Grace (who you guys collaborated with once :)) did a video on creating a “future spouse list” and that thing is a miracle, and I regularly look back on it in my notes. Inspired by the video, I created 4 categories. First one being Convictions (non negotiables) such as faith, principals, being attracted to him, children, etc. The second category was what I called Heart Twinklers, things and characteristics my heart really desires but that are more so in the grey area. The third one is interests, like traveling, music, and tv but this one is much less of a deal breaker than the first two. The final character is what Jamie Grace called the infatuation category, such as eye and hair color, height, etc. This list has definitely helped me sort my priorities :))
Loved this! But I will only disagree with 1 thing. Sometimes when a parent has a problem with a person your dating or married to, it may not be a red flag. When me and my husband met, on our first date, he told me his mom was not easy to get along with. He told me how controlling she was. Me and my husband developed a friendship first and then fell in love. We have been married for 21 years and we are still best friends. Has it been easy... No, not at all. Do I wish that I had a mother in law that I was close to... YES!!! I wanted to be able to go shopping with my mother in law. And I wanted her to call me daughter in love instead of daughter in law. But life is not that easy sometimes. I pray for our relationship to one day mend and I tried SO hard for YEARS and YEARS, but I was never good enough in her eyes to marry her son. My husband told me she used to sabotage all his dating relationships. My husband told me that she never wanted him to get married because she was afraid of loosing him. She could have gained a daughter and kept her son if she would have given me half a chance. YES it's been hard and I would NEVER want this for anyone, but I can't imagine my life without this man by my side. We have gone through so much together ( 2 years dating, then 21 years and counting being married... 2 kids( 1 biological and 1 adopted), and he is STILL my best friend and always will be!!! He is the best husband, dad and friend I could ever ask for. He works HARD for his family and when he comes home, he is always helping me do something. He is a strong Christian man who loves God first and loves his family second. I don't know what I would do without Brad LaFoy!! His mom is missing out on something great!!! Not our choice,but hers only. So in my opinion, it's not a red flag, but maybe a yellow. It's not green because I would never want this for anyone. But this is our testimony.... God can make something beautiful if we let him 🥰
I absolutely adore you guys and I LOVE listening to couple things! I look forward to each new episode and it has become my number one podcast! Thank you guys for all you do, you two are amazing and have such a beautiful family! P.a. Can’t wait to “meet” little man! ❤️
This is actually the ONLY podcast I listen to(cause I’m not a huge fan of podcasts) but when you guys first started, I was just getting into a serious relationship. So THANK YOU!! It’s helped quite a bit!
Would love to hear more
I loved that you touched on family/in-laws. My husband does not have a relationship with much of his family, and at first I thought it was a red flag because I am so close with my family. BUT, as Shawn said, "that's not the person". We had a long conversation and I realized just how toxic of a family he had & why he chose to not have a relationship with his family. He gets along SO well with my family and I couldn't ask for a better man. He's a great husband and an even more wonderful father. I'm so glad I took the time to get to know why & to truly listen.
Absolutely love this!!! My fiancé and I are getting married in October and I could not agree with this more. Dating can be hard, especially now a days with covid and technology. We all have certain things that throw those little flags into our head and it could make or break the relationship. I try to have an open mind when meeting new people and building a new relationship, even in new friendships because I know we all aren’t to same. They even say sometimes they say the whole opposite attracts but theirs still some big red flags that it’s just like a “nope, go back to go and do not collect $100, bye bye!!!👋👋👋” but I do agree we all have certain criteria’s already wired into us that we may not even notice that we are like yeah that’s good or nope that’s a no go. Love listening to y’all’s podcasts and advice and cannot wait to see y’all when you come to Charlotte!!!😍😍😍
First time listener/watcher. I truly love this podcast! I agree with most of what you said although I don't believe your family will always side with you. I've witnessed numerous times where the person's in laws sided with them. Especially if kids are involved. I love the banter, the "rants/tangents" and the communication between you two!!
I wish I’d had this episode when I was dating, it just validated my inner voice that I should have let be louder! Now mid thirties I think my hubby wishes I’d never found it 🤣🤣 just kidding , he feed my 🔥 side!!!
Thanks for always being you & authentic
Getting me through my divorce... Newly single mama of a 10m old in Medical School and your podcast is helping me process and heal from a husband that began cheating when our daughter was born. Ex gymnast also and really relate to so many things you guys talk about. Thank you!!
Subscribed but not sure if I’m commenting in the right place. I’ve never once won anything in my life so it probably doesn’t matter. Lol!
Looking forward to all of y’all’s new and exciting things! ESP can’t wait to see your sweet baby boy! Xo
I am 79 yes old and these two kids amaze me with their grace and wisdom.....far beyond their years! God Bless you both for sharing your thoughts on your experiences within your own married life. Wise counsel on the chosen subjects.
Love y'all. You are so relatable. Also we have a daughter Drew's age, so that's a major plus! Oh, and teddy and bear is PRECIOUS!
This was an insightful podcast! I have encountered some red/yellow flags and I don’t understand why I and others look past them, ugh. I do think that most families have a family member or some difficulties, I don’t know if I think that’s a red flag.
I believe people should not be close minded when it comes to a relationship because you truly miss out the true intentions and potential love that a person has. From experience I judged my current boyfriend before I gave him the opportunity. It was an automatic red flag do to the fact I didn’t know him well and I was just jumping into something really quick but we talked I got to see a side of him. He asked me to be his gf and I’m so glad I said yes. My man is the sweetest human being ever, I always get emotional talking about him because my man will always go up and beyond for anyone. If he sees someone in need he springs out in action just to help. Also, he stops every to help out animals in need yesterday he found a few strays. Literally left to a nearby McDonald’s but the dogs burgers came back and fed them, bought them bowls and water. He might not have much money but just the fact he gave up his last few dollars on poor innocent animals… gosh I can go on and on… but you know when you find the perfect person never let them go. Give the person a chance, you won’t regret it.
Yes! We are all God's children or part of the cosmos. It doesn't matter where you came from, what struggles you have, what possessions you have, we all deserve love and I believe if we want it, there's people that will be a right fit for us. I think we each have areas where we can grow in life and I think it's nice to find someone who will grow with you at the right timing. This can look like shared values or something that just seems to align with your self in the now. It's all about timing in the universe. Evil as an energy is perspective and timing I think and some people might not do so well together for a plethora of reasons, but will get along with someone else swimmingly. And then maybe later in existence those people who didn't get along will get along then. I know it's complex and we all have different values and paths in life and you have to protect yourselves and follow your own intuitions, but we all have unique gifts which can illuminate our world. The kaleidoscope. I believe in the concept that everything is working out just as it should. 🌊🌬
Love you guys! Thank you so much for doing these podcast. Even though y’all have been very successful in your athletic and business endeavors, I feel like y’all very relatable, down to earth and role models.
It only took me your very first lead in statement that you cannot go into dating with a specific list of requirements, that just grabbed my attention. I think that its very difficult to ever have a solid foundation if you don't match with "core values" I love the tenderness you show each other. Thank you for sharing your insight. Love to the East Family❤️
I think you two give our generation hope that true love isn't perfect, but it still exists. Thanks for giving us yourselves. I will be 39 on July 10th, so I'm still waiting on that forever love.
I'm trying to get my bf to listen to y'all more. We have a deal, we listen to y'all and then a Joe Rogan podcast. Ngl you're giveaway coming up would pay for my next semester in school :) hehe
These are great tips!!! Keep them coming. I’ve been married for 14 years and communicating clearly has been a struggle for me. It’s a work in progress but we both have to try and be more clear.
I didn't know this channel existed until recently. I watch your main channel and somehow came across one of these episodes and I'm addicted now. Thank you for sharing these things and being honest. It's not like you two agree on literally everything just for the sake of appearances. It's so refreshing how you challenge each other in a respectful way, and I love seeing that aha moment
Y’all are my absolute fav couple!! Such great conversations on these podcasts!
Also.. entry for giveaway ((:
I totally agree with Shawn about blowing someone off that could potentially be a great relationship. Sometimes small things that are actually just being too guarded, are disguised as red flags. I think an open mind is important. Don’t count someone out too soon:)
I think smoking is a red flag...specifically cigarettes. First hand smoke is bad for their health, second hand is bad for yours...
I love watching all your videos and series. But I think these podcasts are my favorite. I love how raw you 2 get. I pray God continues to blesses you immensely!!
You both always make me smile, excited to meet your new little! Thanks for doing a give away, very generous and LOVE your toy line!
Looking forward to watching this one! I enjoy listening to couple things on my podcast app, but having them here on UA-cam is fun as well.
I absolutely love watching you both! I’ve been watching you since y’all have been married! Love love love what y’all are doing for not only the older married generation but the younger generation as well! Keep doing what your doing! Love y’all and your little family!
Love love love you guys you guys keep it so real. You have really opened my understanding of my relationship with my boyfriend of 6 years. Helping us communicate with one another better
Holy heck this is hitting me in the feels. Definitely screwed myself by looking for “my type” but ended up focusing too much on finding someone who did cool things, not someone who ticked my most important boxes. Augh
Great show, guys. Relationships are tough, but one thing I learned (hardest lesson learned) was to listen to the red flags about someone, especially from friends and family. We often are blind or dismiss too much in a relationship.
While I agree about being open minded when dating, I also think it’s so important to remind ourselves that it’s okay to have high standards and not to settle. I’m 33 and single and honestly I’m not upset about it because I haven’t met anyone who want and deserved my time. Love you guys 😘
New subscriber but I’ve watch been following along since the beginning! I’m loving it! Most definitely my favorite!
So thankful to not be in the dating world…(married since 1993) I think I’d be too picky now and end up alone forever 😂
My absolute favorite family/podcast ❤️ You guys give the best marriage advice and I love your dynamic ☺️
This great to talk about I love it ❤️.
Tons of people need to hear this good advice.
Love how open you guys are.
It is great hearing a godly couple giving advice.
Because I don’t think anyone could be interested in me, I don’t say things I want to say in my relationship. I wish I could believe in myself more.
I can not wait to listen to these! I really enjoyed your love language podcast and how you two interact together. So raw and fun! Just gotta get my BF to listen to it with me 😆 btw you were my favorite gymnast back in the day when I was a gymnast too!
I wanna win the money I could really use it for college to put towards my bachelors degree! But I love this channel and how you guys are so open and honest to help everyone watching! I’m single and I already have learned so much from you guys!
I love you guys! You are such a inspiration as parents and working on yourself in a relationship!!! Keep it up!! ❤️❤️❤️
When you were saying how you have a specific list on who you want to date, i had a list and i always found the wrong guys then one day i just stopped looking and i found the love of my life at a coffee shop and he may not of been everything i used to look for but hes amazing and I wouldn’t change a thing. We have a little 2 year old :) and the headboard thing my husband didnt have one and i dont know why it would be a red flag lol
Just noticed Shawn is pregnant! This was two years ago, so now I'm going to track-down an update!
It's so important the have red flags you aren't willing to deal with. Family issues can be red or yellow. Yellow if they're willing to deal with them red if they aren't.
Love watching you two not only on here but social media in general ❤️ my husband and I got married in august and listening to your advice and love for each other is so fun for us now that we relate! Keep it up, can’t wait to see little man when he arrives 😍
This is such important information, I appreciate you guys and all that you do! Such an inspiring family 🙏🏼💗
I love love love the advice you both give. I as a divorced mom, I will carry all this advice when and if I start to date again...Lisa Dupuis
Yellow but maybe Red. Especially if you vent to them about your relationships… you can’t.
I will say this about the yellow flag for divorced. I never wanted to divorce my first husband but he got into trouble and I had no clue so only option was to divorce his sorry ass. I do not want to say what happened but it wasnt my fault and I think the yellow flag shouldnt be yellow for everyone.
I love how real guys are, and the topics you dive deeper into are extremely relevant to life. And I just wanted to say Thank you for that!
My favorite flipping couple, fam, and podcast!! God bless the East fam ❤️
Thank you guys so much for being so open to sharing with us all your experiences. It makes people think deeper into our own lives.
This is SO good. Totally relate. Communication styles can differ so much! This is a good check in.
You guys are absolutely amazing. These episodes always bring such joy and calmness to my life!
Its crazy the amount of things we let society dictate in our lives, but thanks always for the great perspective!!
Maybe people do try to be just like their parents, but I think I've tried hard not to replicate many aspects to allow my children a better atmosphere.
There should be a version of this for married couples to see if you're both on the same page or what you might learn about your SO. For fun!
I LOVE how relatable and down to earth the two of you are... the authenticity is incredible and so is the connection and the realism
No head board could mean that he/she isn't planning to stay long term and just looking for a fling. Sit on that a moment 🤔🤔🤔
Loved this topic, thank you guys so much for sharing perspective! Lol you guys are so funny.
Protect your spouse from your family… wow! I think it’s true! You need to be loyal to your spouse once you marry them.
this is so helpful! my fiancé and i have ran through the motions for the past three years in our relationship - need to sit down and reevaluate my fiancé!!!
I think the list is a good idea, but you do have to be flexible. Know yourself and know that there may be non- negotiable items.
What kind of flag would it be if your husband wants to stay all night with friends all the time and leaves the wife home by herself or stays late at work every night and comes home long enough to talk for a few minutes and then go to bed?
I’m old school but I don’t think I would be ok at all if my husband had a close relationship with a woman. It’s about intimacy.
I thought this was so interesting! I loved hearing the red flags. You two are so interesting to listen to and watch on social media! Thank you for this great podcast!
Having a vision of what you want in a person is good but don’t let that get in the way of being open minded. You both compliment each other.
You guys are awesome! Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing your everyday life with us!
The dynamic between you guys is really great. I think you compliment each other & mesh so well.
I love the talks you guys have. It is so important to discuss these points, especially before you get married.
When parents don't like the partner, when you get married and start having children, the now grandparents may treat the children poorly.
Never go to bed upset and angry. Always work things out communication is the best
Love watching all of y’all’s content!!!! Would love to win the cash giveaway ;)
What a sweet couple and loving parents you all are...thanks for sharing your life with all of us!