Q&A with Vanessa Van Edwards: How to Communicate with Charisma

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  • You gain or lose influence with every interaction. So even when you say all the right words, your non-verbal cues can undermine your leadership. Today, Vanessa Van Edwards shares the keys to communicating with influence and charisma in every interaction.
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    0:00 - Intro to Vanessa Van Edwards
    1:50 - Why your charisma is contagious
    7:20 - How to combat feeling insecure or awkward
    11:00 - How to be less intimidating
    15:32 - How can you ask better questions as a leader?
    20:35 - Vanessa’s tipping point in her career
    23:56 - The difference between vitamins and painkillers
    31:20 - The importance of wordsmithing as a leader
    35:11 - Keys to charisma from body language
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 317

  • @craiggroeschel
    @craiggroeschel  Рік тому +60

    Where would you rate yourself on the charisma scale? What could you do today to become more charismatic?

    • @jamilacharles5485
      @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому +3

      Don't werried Gód helping hands on the Head and blessed you Amen

    • @altongiese4157
      @altongiese4157 Рік тому +2

      Come down from intense consistency and let others whom we do life with feel and tell us how they are doing good.. asking good questions and if they are not good and make it safe to speak there heart, both to be present and also ready to cultivation

    • @altongiese4157
      @altongiese4157 Рік тому

      And 8 out of 10

    • @Godisfaithful365
      @Godisfaithful365 Рік тому

      the. i va. the v. x. ct

    • @Godisfaithful365
      @Godisfaithful365 Рік тому +1

      @@altongiese4157 yi y v a.

  • @oluwatoyinfadeyibi1496
    @oluwatoyinfadeyibi1496 Рік тому +33

    My favorite interviews are the ones where I feel like the interviewer genuinely locked in and was taking notes for themselves too, and we were all learning together! So much value packed into this interview and well done to both Craig and Melissa!

  • @Tsegaye23
    @Tsegaye23 Рік тому +2

    Even i am not good listining at engilsh but i understand what u said
    Thanks for ur sharing
    I love ur vedios thanks million

  • @isaacphillips5199
    @isaacphillips5199 Рік тому +1

    AMAZING! Thank you Craig and Vanessa.

  • @johnejreynolds
    @johnejreynolds Рік тому +3

    Brilliant wisdom and so so helpful! Thank you Craig and Vanessa!

  • @aero_singh
    @aero_singh Рік тому +2

    I cannot get my eyes off her!! She's so charismatic! :)

  • @narjun1990
    @narjun1990 Рік тому

    Really loved listening to Vanessa... Helps me balance out how I converse with others.

  • @Timberbeartrail
    @Timberbeartrail Рік тому +5

    This is been nothing less than amazing!!!!

  • @zainabdamda983
    @zainabdamda983 Рік тому +3

    After years of failing social interactions and years of research, finally after reading Cues I feel like I found the key to charisma, Totally recommend it

  • @keniarodriguez5049
    @keniarodriguez5049 Рік тому +1

    Great conversation. Thank you.

  • @christopherwells4768
    @christopherwells4768 Рік тому +8

    This is such a confluence of wisdom! Heart and tactics to better lead my team, and my home! Thank you, Craig and Vanessa!

  • @pattyshannon6475
    @pattyshannon6475 Рік тому +1

    Great enlightening podcast. THANK YOU.

  • @jessdior8177
    @jessdior8177 Рік тому +1

    insightful & practical

  • @bickycelia
    @bickycelia Рік тому +2

    Very helpful in many ways👍

  • @dawnreed7583
    @dawnreed7583 Рік тому +38

    WOW! What a powerful interview! I first found out about Vanessa at the 2022 Global Leadership Summit. I am now reading her book Cues. It is incredibly eye-opening! the information talked about in this interview is inspiring. I will have to watch this video multiple times in order to get all of the wisdom nuggets. Love it! Thank you!

  • @inaiatheodoro655
    @inaiatheodoro655 10 місяців тому +2

    It was wonderful! Thanks a lot for all the teachings!! 😃😃

  • @EugeneinOZ
    @EugeneinOZ Рік тому +1

    Excellent, good stuff there - thank you

  • @Jayawardana521
    @Jayawardana521 10 місяців тому +1

    It is a great discussion.learned a lot .Thanks in advance !

  • @RenaudAndrea
    @RenaudAndrea Рік тому +1

    Loved it!!

  • @proverbs31lifecoaching
    @proverbs31lifecoaching Рік тому +42

    You’re a great interviewer, love your honesty! And her insight and practical tips are so helpful.

  • @spicymama5548
    @spicymama5548 Рік тому +4

    This was really good. "The space between your shoulders and your ears shows your confidence level." Wow

  • @hagarhaitham1260
    @hagarhaitham1260 Рік тому +2

    thanks for this great episode which is full of practical tips. it was really my painkiller😅😅

  • @annadziekiewicz8600
    @annadziekiewicz8600 Рік тому +1

    This is great ❤!

  • @vg1979
    @vg1979 Рік тому +2

    Excellent questions and advice!!!! Very inspiring and encouraging tips applying to leadership!!!

  • @devinatan5681
    @devinatan5681 Рік тому +5

    The content is so powerful and hearten. So grateful to watch this episode. Thankyou Craig for your commitment all these years. I started as a person who knows nothing about leadership and i’ve grown a lot ever since i learn from your podcast. God bless you!!

  • @mohammedabakar6200
    @mohammedabakar6200 Рік тому

    This is great conversition.

  • @simonmakokha4374
    @simonmakokha4374 Рік тому

    THANK YOU MY DAD GRAIG FOR SHEPHERDING MY HEART.HAPPY NEW YEAR 2023?

  • @HandmadeHomegrownArtist
    @HandmadeHomegrownArtist 7 місяців тому

    Congratulations with your family, my friend

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому

    One time wach for you your Best leadership and wonderful briefing confident in all ultouer

  • @RealMarcosMiranda
    @RealMarcosMiranda Рік тому +3

    This was outstanding, and I’m buying Vanessa’s book. I must say however, that the hand gestures were a bit distracting. In contrast, pastor Craig’s no hand gestures were limiting. I am impressed with Vanessa’s ability to use her hands to complement her points. The happy medium between Vanessa and pastor Craig is where I want to be at. Awesome stuff!

  • @ameerameer5910
    @ameerameer5910 9 місяців тому

    Good lessons from you and Good luck for us.

  • @Mani6560Xv
    @Mani6560Xv Рік тому

    Thanks Mr Craig

  • @lasource3996
    @lasource3996 Рік тому +2

    I am very happy with your conversation, I have just subscribed to speak English better, I am French-speaking, it will be my pleasure to have English-speaking friends. Thank you for your work.

  • @hatemorina4049
    @hatemorina4049 Рік тому

    Ju falemderit shum nga Ju jeni te mrekullushem iclutem Zotit tjo shof prap 🌍🌍🌞🌟☺️😇👍

  • @jesssoriano7977
    @jesssoriano7977 Рік тому +1

    .there are people with natural talents on positivity... that is natural to them

  • @vladislavvolkov4537
    @vladislavvolkov4537 Рік тому

    So helpful!!

  • @CathySharp
    @CathySharp Рік тому +8

    The pressure of being positive and happy all the time will burn us out quicker than anything else .

  • @alfredohernandez7469
    @alfredohernandez7469 Рік тому +2

    Remember you are force for good in every interaction you have!

  • @arielmojena9250
    @arielmojena9250 Рік тому +8

    Packed with a Bunch of Punches on how one can communicate better/more effectively. And closed with a knock-out: “And Remember: You are a Force for Good in every interaction you have!”
    Thank you God for blessing Pastor Craig with ability to bring Your People content that matters…and always points back to You. 🙏

  • @enriquedelacruzjr4523
    @enriquedelacruzjr4523 Рік тому

    Thank you 😊

  • @craiggustafson4112
    @craiggustafson4112 Рік тому +4

    As a new member of your church, I am was SO excited to see you interview one of my very favorite people. I am one of her certified body language trainers, on a mission to help others to escape their social awkwardness.

  • @englishwithmuzammal3596
    @englishwithmuzammal3596 Рік тому +3

    No one can know you better than yourself; this is (Vanessa with a happy face and oily words) all good to make you feel better. However, eventually, you are the only person who can change yourself no matter what others say or call you. Our own parents have no clue about us where we are heading off, let alone others. I hope you have a great day.

  • @hatemorina4049
    @hatemorina4049 Рік тому

    Falemderit shum NUK dotu harroji asnihere dotju kujtoji perhere shum njerz me simpati e te sjellsheme falemderit per te gjitha

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому +1

    You said community and you give Answer around you live people everywhere

  • @ae6148
    @ae6148 Рік тому +1

    I love to be around positive people. Negative people drained me.

  • @TalksWithYeisie
    @TalksWithYeisie Рік тому

    I needed this. Thank you!

  • @markclark9239
    @markclark9239 Рік тому

    Hello you both doing great so excellent bless you all 🎉

  • @annadziekiewicz8600
    @annadziekiewicz8600 Рік тому +1

    You are talking about soul pain but it is a rather sensitive speach. I acept it with thankfully.

  • @user-iu4kn4en8p
    @user-iu4kn4en8p 6 місяців тому

    Interesting concept, relief emotion.

  • @Ed_Jones2
    @Ed_Jones2 Рік тому +1

    Great episode

  • @adrianzurita218
    @adrianzurita218 10 місяців тому +1

    Wow!!! Loved it….. I wish all managers would hear this and put into practice.

  • @droy589
    @droy589 Рік тому +2

    Want to learn more about Vanessa. This was an insightful session.

  • @GraphicsFree26
    @GraphicsFree26 10 місяців тому +1

    Oo yeah that's literally helpful 😊😊❤thanks Vanessa

  • @ShanwukanathanKesunathan-ro8gi

    Sounds good miss I happy to your speech .

  • @bulusuniversity6815
    @bulusuniversity6815 9 місяців тому

    GRACE of the master ❤🎉

  • @andersonmohammed6850
    @andersonmohammed6850 Рік тому +2

    Great content. Practical points. Thank you. Watching from Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹

  • @musclelegancemusclelegance5642
    @musclelegancemusclelegance5642 8 місяців тому +1

    This is phenomenal ❤

  • @umeshprasadsingh9648
    @umeshprasadsingh9648 10 місяців тому

    Unique representation of ideation

  • @helloUnited609
    @helloUnited609 Рік тому +2

    3 levels of relationships
    1. general traits
    2. personal concerns
    3. self narratives

  • @BackToStars
    @BackToStars Рік тому +1

    Very insightfull! Bravo Champion👍

  • @sansernyanapan9955
    @sansernyanapan9955 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much for giving a good lesson

  • @allenculbertson8170
    @allenculbertson8170 Рік тому

    Thank you, Craig and Vanessa, and congratulations on the baby. Have a blessed day 🙏

  • @arvilsbaumanis1911
    @arvilsbaumanis1911 Рік тому

    Very good! 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

  • @slcald2
    @slcald2 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for your transparency Pas Craig demonstrations of the process of continued growth in leadership by learning listening and following cues from Vanessa.. This helps me push past my fears and do the work to become a more effective communicator.

  • @heathery7953
    @heathery7953 Рік тому +1

    Great content

  • @markclark9239
    @markclark9239 Рік тому +1

    Hello you both doing so great bless you both ❤❤

  • @lucymartinez991
    @lucymartinez991 11 місяців тому +1

    Gosh, this has been super helpful. I recently was a part of my school reunion planning and ended up as the leader. I was so nervous. This would of given me great focus.

  • @InitiateChangeSparkPeace
    @InitiateChangeSparkPeace Рік тому

    Great Video!!!

  • @saidfarid6382
    @saidfarid6382 Рік тому +2

    Hello professor
    Thank you so much for your help and advice,
    I really appreciate your job. I wish you happiness and peace under the sky of prosperity. All the best.
    Take care and have a good time.
    Your Student from Algeria.

  • @hatemorina4049
    @hatemorina4049 Рік тому +1

    Ju falemderit Ju jeni te mrekullushem gjeni qofshit bekue 😊👋

    • @lasource3996
      @lasource3996 Рік тому

      How are you doing Morina ? Where are you living ?

  • @HandmadeHomegrownArtist
    @HandmadeHomegrownArtist 7 місяців тому +1

    This is great 😃 Keep it coming

  • @simonmakokha4374
    @simonmakokha4374 Рік тому +1

    VANNESE GOD IS USING IN A MIGTY WAY. I LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому

    This is your observations learning

  • @user-cj2cx9ur9z
    @user-cj2cx9ur9z Місяць тому

    Please GOD let your light shine through my soul and let me speak light intentionally for the glory of jesus christ i have everything already. Through Lord JESUS CHRIST i have the victory IN HIS NAME AMEN

  • @hatemorina4049
    @hatemorina4049 Рік тому

    A Juve Ju falemderohem shum jeni te mrekullushem shum por edhe une ashtu apo

  • @daahircabdiguleed4270
    @daahircabdiguleed4270 Рік тому

    Tank's alote my teacher I like to tank your self many many times you've build my pronunciation as well as you can't image but if you think as I field That is easy I 'll pass by high marks
    You honest student

  • @ukukukuk4679
    @ukukukuk4679 Рік тому +1

    So sweet

  • @Timberbeartrail
    @Timberbeartrail Рік тому

    I would like for you to have an interview with her and a lot of the focus would be on like the word game. You know how that study was done and the community game in the washer game I would love to go in deep on that because it’s absolutely true changing one word will get you very different answers because of how you frame the overview

  • @sinhamohit
    @sinhamohit Рік тому +1

    Thanks a lot Craig & Vanessa, truly very insightful. One of the issues I face when dealing with these discussions is that these questions for e.g., "What's your best day at work?" feel unnatural to bring up in a conversation, or maybe come out as "bookish". Is there any way to smoothen that out?

  • @annadziekiewicz8600
    @annadziekiewicz8600 Рік тому

    These Words fill me a personal courage. 😅

  • @gopalakrishnajoneboina666
    @gopalakrishnajoneboina666 Рік тому +1

    Good motivation

  • @marietjievanderwesthuizen3244
    @marietjievanderwesthuizen3244 Рік тому +1

    I love Venessa Van Edwards

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому

    You remember you come church my pastor sahib give Serman full confidence in the name of Jesus Christ King of King 👑

  • @danielmoore9214
    @danielmoore9214 Рік тому

    Go girl !

  • @susanshaver912
    @susanshaver912 Рік тому +6

    Absolutely fascinating conversation. I am hesitant to say this but Vanessa, I had a really hard time with watching you this time, because of your super low cut blouse. May sound silly, but just some feedback. I might have to go back and put a piece of paper over the lower half of the screen so I can pay more attention to what you say. Love the suggestion toward the end of entering to give a presentation with hands out and big smile in greeting, and then touching your heart. "Remember you are a force for good in every interaction you have." Beautiful

    • @marciavox8105
      @marciavox8105 Рік тому

      That is interesting that you say that. My mom also has trouble focusing on the words of someone who is revealing more skin. On the other hand, I may get distracted at first by skin, but once the person starts talking, I stop thinking about their appearance and start thinking about what they are saying. I am four minutes into this video, and I find that her appearance isn’t distracting me as much, anymore.

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому

    I think Craig groishil give you present tion good echevement beacuse I like it your leadership strong

  • @markclark9239
    @markclark9239 10 місяців тому +1

    Hello you both doing so excellent 🌹 doing great always bless you both ❤️ ❤🎉🎉

  • @targioshow
    @targioshow 8 місяців тому +1

    Very very fantastic and fascinating with new techniques and how to apply them, specially when been out of dilemma and been nervous in term of presenting something. How to build your confidentiality

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому +1

    Best of luck

  • @Mir_Sap
    @Mir_Sap Рік тому +1

    Amazing

  • @vladislavvolkov4537
    @vladislavvolkov4537 Рік тому

    I like pastor Craig waved his hands in the end 😅

  • @pinkpastelstudio
    @pinkpastelstudio 5 місяців тому +2

    Summary:
    [00:00] 🤖 We don't have to be positive all the time to have influence.
    [01:57] 💡 We can infect others with our moods, good or bad.
    [02:25] 💡 We can choose to infect others with good moods.
    [03:22] 💡 Charismatic people are more contagious.
    [04:21] 💡 We don't have to be extroverted to be charismatic.
    [04:50] 💡 We should focus on bringing relief emotions as leaders.
    [05:18] 💡 Togetherness is a relief emotion.
    [06:16] 💡 Resetting energy is a relief emotion.
    [06:45] 💡 People need to feel settled.
    [07:13] 💡 Awkwardness is a myth and it can be overcome.
    [07:43] 💡 Humility is an important quality for leaders.
    [08:13] 💡 Social fear or awkwardness can manifest in different ways.
    [08:42] 💡 Some people shut down when they feel awkward.
    [09:10] 💡 Some people rise up in a negative way when they feel awkward.
    [10:07] 💡 Understanding your tendency is important to overcome awkwardness.
    [10:36] 💡 Awkwardness can come from a deeper place.
    [11:05] 💡 Boss Craig can sometimes make people nervous around him.
    [11:35] 💡 People may feel intimidated by those who are highly charismatic.
    [12:01] 💡 Sharing first can help to ease awkwardness.
    [12:30] 💡 Asking questions that take people out of their everyday routine can help to spark conversation.
    [12:57] 💡 Respecting and honoring introverts is important.
    [13:26] 💡 Sending introverts what you're going to talk about in writing first can help them to prepare.
    [13:54] 💡 Having a regular icebreaker can help to set a positive tone for meetings.
    [21:10] 💡 Vanessa Van Edwards found her purpose by creating content that helps others.
    [21:39] 💡 She overcame imposter syndrome by focusing on the positive impact her work has on others.
    [22:09] 💡 She is driven by a desire to make a difference in the lives of others.
    [22:38] 💡 She always considers the needs of others before her own.
    [24:03] 💡 She advises leaders to speak in a way that makes people feel like they need something.
    [24:30] 💡 She uses the metaphor of a vitamin and a painkiller to illustrate the difference between content that is good for you and content that is essential.
    [25:00] 💡 She encourages leaders to identify the "painkiller" that their people are searching for and provide solutions to their problems.
    [25:29] 💡 She suggests structuring agendas with a mix of "vitamins" and "painkillers" to keep people engaged.
    [25:57] 💡 She emphasizes the importance of coming into meetings and presentations with a heart to understand and help others.
    [26:26] 💡 She suggests asking questions to identify the "painkillers" that people need.
    [26:54] 💡 She encourages leaders to go into "heads down" mode of asking questions to find out what their people need.
    [27:22] 💡 She asserts that people are willing to share their pain points with leaders who ask.
    [28:21] 💡 Ask your team members about their best and worst days at work to understand the spectrum of their work life.
    [28:50] 💡 Ask your team members about their worries and dreads to diagnose deeper issues.
    [29:48] 💡 Use open-ended questions to encourage your team members to express their emotions freely.
    [30:17] 💡 Pay attention to the words your team members use to identify patterns and root causes of their problems.
    [31:16] 💡 Be genuinely caring and compassionate when asking questions to build trust and rapport with your team members.
    [31:46] 💡 Express your intention to understand your team members better and to use the questions to improve their work experience.
    [32:13] 💡 Frame your questions in a positive and solution-oriented way to avoid leading with negativity and encourage constructive conversations.
    [33:43] 💡 The words you use when asking questions can significantly impact how your team members respond and collaborate.
    [34:11] 💡 Framing your questions with a focus on community, openness, resilience, and relief can activate positive emotions and encourage more helpful responses.
    [34:41] 💡 The principles of effective questioning apply to various aspects of life beyond the workplace, including marriage relationships and parenting.

  • @bahsaddigu9726
    @bahsaddigu9726 Рік тому

    thanks........

  • @roshanfernando9060
    @roshanfernando9060 Рік тому +1

    Very nice talking to improve knowledge

  • @syruppulse8246
    @syruppulse8246 Рік тому +2

    Says who leaders have to be positive all the time?

  • @maklorm5381
    @maklorm5381 Рік тому +1

    Best video

  • @hhhhha442
    @hhhhha442 10 місяців тому +2

    Omg i want to learn English to understand what they say , i am at b1 level😅. Someone can help me learn English ❤

  • @vietnguyentrong3389
    @vietnguyentrong3389 10 місяців тому +1

    Great

  • @anjelopantheragok1555
    @anjelopantheragok1555 Рік тому

    I was following in details since the file started and I can briefe the world on the presidention about these two people!!
    People are asking them Together why the don't show on the Social media? If they are hiding something or shine of the public let them release what is recording in side to pubish by the management!! You will see the reaction of the all community in different places!! Like cananda; American; Africa abd the whole Australia where the live in

  • @jamilacharles5485
    @jamilacharles5485 Рік тому

    You relax mind and body only for fouços you topic and bringing