I will allocate the time to listen to this but please keep in mind that young love that blossoms into mature love over a lifetime is a world of difference away from unrequited or lost loves. Heart break has misunderstood and underrated effects on the human experience. You are both truly blessed.
Are you planning to offer a match up service based on compatibility of people who don't know each other? Seems a better idea than any of the current dating apps.
The best way to learn or to get advice about the relationships and marriages is from people who can actually hold the relationship for a long time! Thank you for this insight, guys!
Me and my girlfriend been together 25 years. We’re as dumb as a box of rocks and happy as I dunno lol. let’s just say we love music and JP. He loves music deeply. I just love all you music loving higher morality guys . Thank you
@@andrewwabik5125 Thanks. I remember it wasn't easy when I was watching them growing up, lot of fights. But somehow they made this far. They're in their mid 70s now. It's amazing.
Growing up, I had no idea that this kind of open communication amongst family members was even possible. It's crazy to think of how different my childhood might have been if my family had been practiced in this sort of thing.
Many years ago I took the Enneagram personality test. It confirmed what I already knew about myself. When I discovered what my husband’s personality was it was so enlightening. I finally realized why he did what he did. One of the most important discoveries in our relationship. By the way we were married in the summer of 1959 and this coming July it will be our 63rd anniversary! We were just a couple of naive kids when we were married and we had the good example of both of parents’ long marriages. Now we’re 82 and 84 and are living our golden years.
Im from a broken household. So seeing Jordan's face to presumably look back at his wife has a very etheral gentleness to it. You guys seem happy. Genuinely happy, I give best wishes to you guys. Happy Valentines day
@@mayanmist Boy what episode were you watching? He could hardly have gone more out of his way to recognize and state the benefits in the ways she differed from him
@@mayanmist you should definitely work on your listening skills or get your ears checked. Or perhaps you are too busy daydreaming? Either way, you definitely don’t pay attention.
As a male with high agreeableness, this was extremely helpful. I can't begin to explain how much this helps me navigate life with my personality orientation.
@@Aditya-gx1xv it is free I just did it, 100 questions but note when you see your scores at the screenshot it all because I don’t know where the results are stored if at all. Good luck x
I am 60 and have never witnessed such capable family interactions and dynamics. It's a whole different world. Ty for sharing so much emotional intelligence.
@@MsJamilaaa🤣🤣🤣🤣 him being one of the best psychologist of this generation is irrelevant to how he handles his family life, we get it you're neither a psychologist or handle your family well so it's obvious that you and your low IQ thinking will equate the two
@@selfgain9458 only because someone has a high position in career isn't necessarily related to private wellbeing and intelligence in social world. So many famous people witness about broken personalities.
The prayers of millions were answered for Tammy Peterson’s health. And the prayers of millions were answered again for Jordan Peterson. May God be with you and your family now and forever
I truly believe God has big plans for you that you were thrust into the limelight and then you both have gone through suffering …Praying for you both ! Thanks for the Valentines gift of honesty
@@zinasherif7791 could be, but she works pretty well against it, don’t you think? And going against your own evil, means being able to truly love. That should be appreciated! ❤
@@cooler.teacher thanks for commenting on my comment ❤️ I can’t confirm your statement as I don’t know her enough to say she’s working against her own evil . We all aspire to become better human beings, but narcissists are somehow much slower and more stubborn. She is a good “narcissist” and a very codependent wife 😅
Yeah these single motherhood issue has become absolutely tragic, not just for the mothers themselves but because kids don't get to see how interpersonal romantic relationships should be modeled.
@@equatorialjourney4478 It's a very challenging and complicated journey, especially today. It's not about being the perfect family or perfect couple (or more intelligent person), but striving to be more unified with better communication and loving patience. They *are* modelling that very difficult challenge, in very effective and interesting ways and with mutual respect. It's inspiring and fascinating.
@@stephtimms1776 Ayyiyi .....did u watch right to the end to see Jordan salivate over his lab rat style of parenting . No effing wonder Mikaela is & was such a basket case of obsessive compulsions and that Tammy looks zoned out, care worn and resigned to the life she accepted . The man is certifiable ..... Napoleonic complex , enabled by others , his whole life .
The opening dialogue resonated with me strongly. When I got married as a young man 12 years ago, there were several immature things I screwed up. But one thing I believe I did right is insist upon being open about the things that caused conflict between my wife and I. Never put off talking about things that bother you. What bothers you affects your behavior and you aren't "doing your spouse a favor", but instead a disservice. We'd have a weekly marital meeting where we hashed out the good, the bad, and the ugly and took notes (actual notes with dates) figuring out who we were as a couple and what we could do better, because we both earnestly wanted to be a good partner. We still do this now, over a decade later. I have a master's degree on understanding the soul of the woman I professed was the love of my life, but the PhD is something I haven't reached yet. She was all I was interested in during my late college years, and she is still the person I am most interested in today.
@@GodofDisco Is that where it's from? All I remember is that I heard it a long time ago. So long ago that I think I only had my "bachelor's" degree. (Dad joke)
This conversation made me miss a deep conversation and a close relationship both with my parents and a partner. I am so grateful that Jordan Peterson is somewhat part of my life, and although it feels odd to write it, I feel genuinely connected to a complete stranger. Thank you for yet another little gem of content.
I think I know how you feel. Kinda makes me sad to realise how interesting a relationship I probably could have with that whole family but obviously it's never going to happen because if they had that with everyone who felt this connection, they'd do nothing else. Doesn't change the fact that it leaves a feeling of loss in me. That being said, I am happy and grateful that these people exist. Especially in today's world they're like guiding lights for lost souls. I think people like that is what the catholic church has in mind when they talk about saints. Not perfect people but people who just will not stop trying to leave this world a better place.
I feel the same way - might sound weird, but ... when they all barked together, i felt that 😄 I do that too and my family and husband just look at me like i'm crazy. That was extremely representive of how misunderstood i feel in my relationships, because we seem to have such different outlooks on life.
Dear Dr. Peterson. I am sure you have heard this from more than a million people, and most definitely more than a million times over. You are the single most important reason why I have built, and I am still trying to build a good, healthy relationship with my parents. I have watched your lectures, and your interviews, I have smiled when you have smiled, and I have cried when something bothered or pained you. I thank you for being a positive influence on me to become a better person, to be good, to be sincere, speak the truth in the face of overwhelming odds, and for having a conscience to speak out when something is wrong. And most importantly, thank you for making me realise how precious my parents are to me. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, and I know I speak for more than a million voices who feel the same.
You can see in his bearing and the way he looks at his wife that she is everything to him. Her very existence fills him with such joy it's a pleasure to witness it.
My wife and I just took this assessment and wow. It’s insanely accurate and hilarious in a sense of how well it summarizes us. We have such a strong marriage and we like to use our differences to our advantage, and we couldn’t be more different. She scored 98th percentile for Conscientiousness while I’m in the 1st percentile, I thank God for my wife because she literally keeps me from being a bump on a log haha.
@@Thatotter223 soft speaking individuals with those kind of personality test results are not very easy or kind people. Since men have a natural desire to conquer, these women tend to win them cause men never feel like they actually have it all. So It's a constant chase. It's frustrating but it keeps them going. Meanwhile some of us...it's a damn shame.
I took the test and I’m in shock. I never realized how wrong about myself I was. I always thought I was a very agreeable person, but I scored low in agreeableness, low in politeness, and exceptionally high in neuroticism. I followed the test instructions perfectly. This is by far the most insightful and accurate personality test I’ve ever taken before. Thank you, Dr. Peterson for creating such a helpful tool
Interesting, what behaviors led you to think you were high in agreeableness, and why do you think you scored low on it? Same with politeness and neuroticism? It's interesting when one's self perception deviates from an "objective" measure. Do you think this is more telling of the accuracy of the measure itself or the difficulty in one's ability to self-perceive? Or a bit of both? I personally haven't taken it, but definitely will. I'm a big fan of Dr. JP and the incredible work he has been doing in revitalizing order in world full of chaos! :)
@@bryant475 perhaps I thought I was somewhat extroverted and agreeable because I can be talkative at times, especially for work. But outside of that, I get anxious and exhausted by socialization. I also find that I don’t mind conflict so that’s why my scores make sense. I think I wanted to believe I was agreeable and extroverted because I admire those traits in others, like Jordan Peterson for instance. But the test made me realize it’s just not true for me
@@simplygina7703 Regarding your desire to be agreeable, or seem agreeable. After taking the test, and listening to Jordan's 2017 personality lectures, I found all kinds of manipulative behavior in my life, where I was trying to convince myself that I was something different than I really am. It was such a relief to realize that the things I believed were false. It meant that much of my inner anguish was optional. I just had to stop lying to myself, and suddenly I could redeem all of this wasted energy I used to spend dogging myself, to start doing things I enjoy, instead.
@@zeynand4039 "...creative hobbies... made me feel more alive than ever." 👍🏻 Yep! That's exactly what the test was attempting to measure. Interest, not ability. Obviously, interest can develop ability, so don't dismiss your skill out of hand, either. I have the same sensation with intellectual hobbies, and somewhat with creative ones. My OCEAN scores express that, too!
After hearing this talk and seeing their happiness after everything they went through, they've got this 18 year old kid thinking having a family is worth it after all. Thanks, and cheers!
Jacob. Yes! Very good to see someone here who is 18, and learning. Always keep learning new things, no matter what happens. It is too bad so many young people are not being taught basic life wisdom, and good values. Have no idea where you come from (emotionally, psychologically). "Know thyself" is key to a good life, and finding the right person. Just remember, you have this one life, what are going to do with it? As the poet Mary Oliver wrote..."Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" 🌿
Imagine the joy the must feel seeing their child grow into a capable and accomplished respectable human being. I wonder if I can ever get to that point.
Well... did she actually? The whole drama about her weird "Lion Diet" website? The temporary seperation from her husband? The constant half-naked posing on social media? I am sorry but what I don't see here is this young woman forming a life outside her father's shadow. I know his fame is making enough money for all of them - but the way she behaves at times just doesn't appear healthy. Also it must upset him to a certain degree, that his intellect isn't met by his family. I'm sure they're lovely people, but he constantly interrupts both of them and finishes their sentences... Seems like low regard and boredom to me.
@@stephenmacdonald9063 Your preoccupation with “child diddling” makes me think you're a past victim and current perpetrator yourself. Get some help, or not.
This man , this woman , and the daughter have a very very strong mind . Almost sly , sharp as a knife all of them but at the same time so laid back … And the way they talk towards each other shows such a depth .. I am really some kind of an admirerer of this family. Saw many videos about this man and he is very articulate , could listen to this kind of intervieuws for hours since the pureness is so clear.
Through this conversation , I'm being reminded of what a picture of the core values off a family is , in a world that is constantly trying to make us forget that, this is truly a gem. Thank you.
Jordan Peterson has visible qualities of what some of the stories in the BIBLE explain about learning from life trials. I am so grateful for finding his content. As a single black man, whom is searching for that type of peace in a partnership, it brings me temporary joy to hear these conversations. Videos such as this gives me hope for a future with someone else. I do agree that working on self reflection or accountability is necessary to becoming an understanding teammate in a relationship. Thank You for this video! Love from Raymond
I completely agree with you. They say that if you wait for it, the special person will come to you but, I beg to differ. Like the Bible states, "seek and you shall find"...it never said sit in a corner and you shall find. Jordan Peterson has wisdom and knowledge that has helped me through the years on improving my own thought patterns on several different subjects. Thank you for posting your comment.
Heavenly Father, I lift up Raymond and pray for his hearts desires. I pray that You would help him on his journey in life to be the man you desire him to be. Use him for such a time. I pray provision of all his needs and blessings from heaven above. Speak to his heart and give him ears to hear Your voice. May Your peace rest deep in his soul as he seeks Your face and reads Your Word. In Jesus name, amen and amen. 🙏🏼🕊✝️🙏🏼
Raymond, I can recommend you to work on creating the peace you want within you. (Find peace within - don’t seek it without.) Changing that will change you and you will attract someone different from what you used to - and fits the person you’d became. Wish you all the best on your journey. You’ll hopefully look back and see that’s the greatest that ever happened in your life - deciding to make this change. Life will take you there if you commit to the process.
I hope you're doing well, Raymond. Thank you for sharing that insight. It gives me hope to see others express these thoughts because I think they're true. Good luck on your journey. I hope to see you on the road :)
My husband and I have been together for 16 years, we met when we were 18! We have been through many struggles and are stronger than ever! Great advice! 👍
Aoa, hi this is Omer from Pakistan🇵🇰 and a Muslim, I lisn to Mr. Peterson everyday as he inspires me like no other motivational speaker. His vocabulary and delivery is *Chiefs kiss*. Keep doing the great work you have no idea how many lives you touch for the better in even the minute parts of the globe. But What I wanted to say, The true inspiration and motivation is Mrs. Peterson (Tammy) and Mr. Peterson (Jordon) battle with a horrible disease like kindney cancer and over coming it, thriving over it!!!! and as a recovering addict myself I can imagine (some what) Mr. Peterson state of mind through his anti-depressant phase. Anyone can just talk but you guys showed the world. Mad Respect Mad Love. Regards Omer Aamir Islamabad, Pakistan🇵🇰 😊😊😊😊
You know, every time Tammy speaks I get so drawn into her and eager to hear what she's going to say, and because she says the least it makes me even more eager to listen and learn from her. She takes her time when she speaks and is deliberate in what she wants to say. A very good adult figure for kids growing up or even young adults. I could honestly listen to her and learn from her for hours! She should really make her own podcast for women, I've learned a lot from her as a young woman and hope to utilise these skills when I'm a mother myself one day. To think I was/still is an avid fan of Jordan to then one day admire and listen to his wife even more! I can see how influential she must have been. Great advice from both of you :)
Hi, dropping by to tell you about a podcast you might be interested in. Look up Wife of the Party episode 57, titled Married to Comics. It's here on UA-cam. As a man I found it to be a really interesting podcast that was full of feminine energy, and seeing you talk about a podcast for women made me think of it. Hopefully you enjoy it if you check it out!
It's so lovely to see jordan so relaxed & at ease & genuinely smiling, he's always so on & needing to be so defensive in most of his interviews that to see him like this is rlly touching :')
Jordan relaxed? He has squeezed himself into the furthest corner of the sofa and sits bunched up into himself with his hands crossed. Something is not being expressed in their words.
@@tamaliaalisjahbana6849 What an insensitive and naive comment, you do realize this a podcast and there are fixed mics set up in the room so that they have to be sitting in those spots. I hope you can gain a better sense on how to read a room properly, because you certainly misjudged what is going on here by large margin.
Your love has always seemed so pure and beautiful. Hearing the two of you talk about each other puts a smile on my face every time. Can't wait to listen to this, happy Valentine's Day everyone!
Jordan really enjoyed reminiscing about his family life. He obviously loves his wife and children deeply. I love that he and Tammy disciplined their children who have become responsible adults.
Admittedly they've been brave about putting it all out there. However, they have not created a responsible parent in their daughter. She's out clubbing, while someone else babysits her children.
Yes. That was funny. Although I'm pretty sure all kids do that. It is human nature to try to get what you want. You would not want to lessen your chance of getting what you want by going to the person you thought would be more likely to say no.
I chuckled at that but didn't quite like myself for chuckling. I think Jordan learnt that kind of comment from his wife, becasue its not a very agreeable thing to say. But you three people are close enough tot ake that in stride.
Tammy Peterson seems like a great example of a mother. She reminds me of how my Granny dealt with things -- no-nonsense. She could seem harsh at times, but she was going to make sure the right thing was done. Loved your speech in Nashville, Jordan! You guys are a great inspiration.
@@miamitten1123 There's a time for everything. Disciplining disagreeable kids usually implies that you have to be a bit cold to them so that they see you're in charge and won't walk all over you but it also, requires you to be enthusiastic and to reward them when they do good things. Being lovely all the time and affecionate even when someone disrespects you, simply tells them they can walk over you and you won't do anything. Being cold is not always bad, it can be a great tool to deal with complicated people and children. But of course, you also have to showcase love and affection when needed, you could see how Tammy reinforced Mikaila's happiness when she said she was happy now. That love and affection was genuine.
@@trannongoble7722 if someone loves you. Theyll call you out on negative behavior. They want you to be a better you. If they don’t call you out. They don’t love you.
Good to see this side of Jordan with wife Tammy. Husband and Wife's personalities balance each other to make the optimal force required for children upbringing. Well done you guys, Mikaela is a prime example and stunner - so is Tammy! Have two girls myself and brought them up alone, youngest one came to me at 15 and I see the negative effects not having discipline and strong boundaries has. But not giving up on her! Thanks for the reminder that I am doing the right thing!
Since teenagehood my daughter and i have met once a week to discuss anything tough, anything that needs doing, anything we need from one another. This has been invaluable to avoiding conflict but actually getting things done.
I love how humble and candid JP and his wife are. This interview is packed with lived advice that will be so helpful to married couples. I know I'll be checking out the Couple's Report!
This is so fascinating, and I am so thankful for modern medicine so we can see both Dr Peterson and his wife in good health again sharing all these stories going back years ago. Salute to the entire Peterson family.
I love Mikhaila's suggestion of requesting time to reflect on a decision before answering. As an agreeable polite person who tends to say yes immediately out of fear of hurting feelings, I hold a lot of anger towards people who ask too much of me. This simple request allows you time to genuinely reflect on if you agree to something and will hopefully alleviate unnecessary resentment towards others.
My husband and I have been married for almost 43 years and we have never argued a lot but have had times where he wouldn’t speak to me for a few days. Our communication has improved so much since we are partially retired and not as stressed with life, but understanding each other is key. I had to learn to let him talk without interrupting. That was a big thing for me.
“When questions pop up in my mind, I need to ask them” That is me totally. People see it as ego, it’s enthusiasm. I love conversation and I can’t help but say what I feel. So so true.
@@Noemieorokia That really depends on the nature of the question, and how it's asked. Someone who values politeness might think you had a big ego if you interrupted them or asked in a blunt way.
Yeah, I am bit like that too. One friend gets mad, and would feel interrupted, another friend is so aggressive in loudness, and wanting to dominate conversations, I can barely get a word in edgewise if I disagree. Has been very frustrating.
Far more important is that they are wise people. It sounds as though the mother in the story who said her child doesn't need to eat may have been an intellectual person as well.
@@Jadlerify She let the child control her though. Being intelligent is not a catch-all for proper behavior. We all can learn to be better in all our relationships because it doesn't come with a manual.
I love Mikhaila's subtle smile after her dad said "subtle temptation toward narcissism🤓. What a cool family. Truth about short comings, facing them, and finding how they can be helped, coped with, or overcome.
Had the husband do his test for my valentines gift. Linked them up and now we are reading through it bit by bit to learn more about ourselves and us as a couple. Thank you all for this great tool
Thank you, Tammy, for validating that sleeping on a situation is ok and a good way of pondering without ruminating continuously. Thank you, Jordan, for validating my SOs tendency of ruminating on an issue and getting progressively more annoyed at it. We have so much similarity to your story and I'm grateful to know that it's ok, as long as we're willing to work together to resolve it. Thank you, Mikhaila, for being willing to be so open and honest with your parents. It's refreshing to see a child guide a conversation and be willing to listen to the truth of the answers
My son is so open & extraverted that I can't count how many times when he was growing up I had to remind him that he didn't have to say everything that came into his head. He is trusted & very well liked in our community today.
I wish someone had told me that, when I was young, but it was my 18 year old son who finally did! Thank goodness that although I was mostly a single mom, his dad was also a big part of his life, and not like me!
This convinced me to purchase it for my wife and myself. I'd been wanting to do it for ages. Married (mostly) happily for 10.5 years. You've helped me help myself become a better person for her and my family. Thank you!
I would buy that gift for a total stranger if they asked me! I believe that test makes the world a better place. Do you feel like sharing anything surprising you learned from it?
@@jpaugh64 hey i am not able to afford that test, if you can gift me this test i'll be higly appreciate you and can't thank you enough. Only if you can i am not demanding it from you. Thank you nonetheless.
I'm blown away how well all of you can discuss anything so honestly, even as a family, that all have their own opinions. This is quite amaaaaazing of all of you, not only as a family, but as a business running and on top of it all being a whole psychology session. Wooooow !!! Great backup system to each other ! Love it !!!
The more i learn about Sir Peterson, and his family the more respect and love i have towards them.❤ FYI: i watch him a lot😂 The story with the little boy was deeply touching. I strive to build a family like yours, also hard to express the proper amount of gratitude for this channel and content!!! I feel like a THANK YOU just not enough! I wish ALL THE BEST IN LIFE FOR YOU❤🙏
So many people have said to me & my husband over the years, "we've never gone to bed on an argument, you must always resolve it before the sun goes down!". It's nice to see a lasting couple that have done what we've done, gone to sleep and figured it out tomorrow! I wonder if people are lying about resolving things immediately! 🤣
I always thought that expression was more about being angry - the door-slamming "Good-night!", than the necessity to bash something out, before going to bed. Going to bed, acknowledging that you can try for resolution the next day, is not angry.
In my book of almost 10 years of marriage thoughts (LOL, should really write a pamphlet and such for fun and ... anyways....) I count the agreement that we'll be better able to work on a problem the next day as a form of resolution. You resolve that you both want it to go well and are willing to do whatever that means. I have done all 4: (I have learned many things from the example and advice of others... some areas I have the painful road of trying all approaches for myself) Going to bed angry without knowing whether they are packing things up in their mind really sux, pardon my language. Going on fighting late into the night sux too. Going to bed with only one of you thinking we'll work on it later and then you start a fight about the fight's resolution before resuming something like the first fight sux as well. Both going to bed agreeing to work on making things better is not totally comfy but is the best if it needs the time or subconscious work to happen before a solution. Obviously you want mostly to have GRACE (5 letter word for the non-quadratic table response) given to you by which I mean; the ability to smoothly handle a problem when it comes up quickly, with both parties sufficiently satisfied with the outcome. I say it's grace b/c we're all so blody different it's amazing we manage to agree to much at all with satisfaction.
That "you must always resolve it before the sun goes down" sounds like superstition, magical thinking. Like if the sun goes down before you kiss the prince, your fate is sealed, you're doomed. There's no logic behind this. Although... maybe it's like the old prayer goes, there's is a small chance you could die in your sleep and in that case you don't want to leave behind an unsolved conflict with someone you care about. So it's better to go to sleep with clean conscience.
@@JOHNVS7 when I have gone to bed angry I start fantasizing about life after divorce... or murdering my spouse... perhaps that is what *solomon*?'s thinking was as he wrote it... I get the inspiration of God is involved and he gives some rules for some but different ones for others (Paul shall not call unclean what God says is clean)
Tammy's response to Mikayla saying "I'm happy" at 40:40 was incredibly powerful and nearly brought me to tears. Her voice felt like it had so much depth in it, and knowing that Mikayla went through so much suffering due to health issues in her life... Tammy sounded relieved and proud I guess
There is nothing more fulfilling and quite a relief for a parent to know their child is happy. It’s kind of like a sigh of relief , a confirmation that you did good .
I've been married 34 years this year. Just listening to the teaser. this is what REAL marriage is. Problems, you bet. REsolved? often only part way. WORK? Yep. Joy? sometimes. Pain? Yep, that too. Meaning? Sometimes more than you want. Worth it? Yes. Probably for most people. Maybe not for everyone because EVERYONE is a lot of people.
Thanks for the vulnerability and for being open with the listeners. You are literally teaching a multitude here and helping us be better people at that.
I love Tammy Peterson. Every good man has a great woman. And Jordan is beyond great. So i can't imagine how amazingly great this woman must be. We love you Tammy.
I can’t watch more than a few minutes without breaking into tears or bursting out laughing. You are the true definition of a reality show. I live vicariously through every moment from my single room on this quiet farm, next to the frozen stream among the Amish.
@@merk13371 it might not be a phone, also different sects have different rules. Some are less strict than others. Edit: Additionally, he could just be an outsider living near an Amish community.
I watched this last night with my partner. We've always considered our relationship a 'good' one with a solid understanding of each other. The discussions we had watching this lead to a much deeper understanding of how we work both as individuals and as a couple. It was the most genuinely intimate valentine's Day ever. Thank you
Jordan is the expressive artist who explains a lot and makes sure people understand what he says, Tammy just says something directly and simply, doesn't go into much detail., she is like a soldier or a warrior.
She is blunt and concise with her words. My wife is the same way actually. I tend to be like Jordan in some regards and my wife like her, so I kind of understand. I am going to try to take the test tomorrow, but I predict on some level I will score more towards what is on average more likely a female trait and my wife will score more or less the one’s that are a bit more likely that is a male trait. Like agreeableness is more likely going to be me for conflict avoidance, and in my case she probably will not score very high on Neuroticism We will see when we take it. I would love for her and I to guess who will score what and compare it to the final result. Then see how much our personality traits match up with the average available data. It would be interesting to see not only the data, but also to finally understand better and analyze my behavior traits and communication skills, but also for her to understand mine too. This looks very interesting.
Taking the personality test helped me understand myself and even though my husband didn’t take it, I was able to essentially figure out were we differ and be less upset about our differences and begin to take stock on how our differences are good for our life.
My wife and I are celebrating 41 years of marriage today- 15 of those living with growing children on other continents. We appreciate and agree with so much of what you shared. Christ has been central to your relationship and is foundation of our adult childrens' lives also. We praise God that they both have strong, healthy marriages also.
@@fahimahmed-lg9sh I understand the Quran says that, but I cannot deny my faith in Jesus Christ through the Bible, I’ve had many personal experiences to deny, but I respect you for believing full heartedly in the Quran
@@IFoundAUsername2 You Don't have to lose faith in Jesus (peace be upon him) You should follow What bible says rather than what church says about Jesus (peace be upon him)
Love to see this, my husband and me are celebrating our 30 wedding anniversary and we have been through some stuff in all these years and we worked hard to get through it ! Marriage is not easy just like life is not easy! But my faith in God got me through all of it and also my husband got to believe in God because of my example of living my life , I love Life and everything Godly and good about life and I deal with bad and evil as I learned from my mom who is a very good Christian!
god bless your mother for instilling god's grace in you early and god bless you and your husband for not taking the easy way out and actually working out your differences
What an excellent example of a family who is authentic “warts & all”. So exhausted by “masked” people faking it. We need solutions to normal humanness and not how to perpetrate phoniness and images. So much more work! Thank you all for the uniqueness you each brought to this discussion!🙏🏻
They worked hard to keep their family together. Jordan put them through a lot. It is easy to just walk away from your problems. More people must learn to communicate with each other, The Petersons seem to have a deep love and respect for each other. A sense of humor plays a good part in this too. Thank you for posting this.
Jordan's been a really good role model for me because I'm aware that by instinct he's more conflict avoidant like myself, but the way he lays out and rationalises the reasons and methods why it's necessary to integrate that in an "aware" and mature reasonable way has helped me to consciously blend it into my own life and I have to say that it's improved my life. I notice that many situations in the longer term work out for the better with a lot less unnecessary stress or overthinking because of it. As long as you're getting the balance right and putting thought in continuously about how you implement it so that you remain within reason- the negative consequences you might be afraid of never come, and you get a lot more of what you want to come to fruition, and actually people around you also prefer it as long as you stay on the side of correctly implementing it because they respect you more.
Precisely. Which is why safe spaces and this modern obsession with making everything and everyone behave like a barney character, particularly in internet culture, is so dangerous. Learning to navigate conflict is a necessary skill and it isn't the same thing as being an ist.
@@sethchandler4170 I agree. Adopting an -ist label means you've adopted the problem as part of your identity. Better to remove the obstacle than worship it.
I am 7 years into my marriage. We have our similarities and differences. But if I can sit and reflect on my marriage and family when I'm older and my children are grown up and come close to 50% of the magic the Peterson family are showing in this video I'll die a happy lady.
I've read every piece of Dr. Peterson's work, seen all the lectures as well... this is my first time actually "meeting" Tammy, and she's incredible! I think JP carries her spirit with him in his lectures and writing, my wife and I minimize each others weaknesses, and embrace and share our strengths. These 2 have obviously mastered that! Thank you for the insight!
I hear Tammy's thoughts through Jordan's voice as well. It seems that their relationship influenced him a lot. This should be the case with all good marriages. It's possible to find my wife's opinions through what I say as well.
You guysssss! It’s was so touching when all 3 of you were crying because of the neglected little boy. 🥺😭 I love you all and find so much encouragement in having access to talks like these between you. I have 4 adult kids who were very healthy, well-behaved children and have all grown up to sit and talk like this every time we all get together. ❤️ (About 8-10 times per year) We even have a voluntary “hot seat” where we chose to sit on a counter stool and open up about something we’re struggling with or some secret, good news we want to share with everyone at once. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I will be taking the personality test first and then ask them to do the same so that we can all process together. Thank you, Jordan, for your generosity in providing this exceptional tool. I’m so looking forward to learning more about me and my family. Many blessings to you all. ❤️
We have been married for 45 years and yes, work through all things until you resolve them together. Be honest and quick to forgive. Then make changes the other person can see. God bless all married couples.❤
Wow, So pleasant to see him soo relaxed sitting and talking with his wife… What a difference compared to all the interviews where the interviewers are so hostile. Makes me realise how rarely we see him smile. This video is a breath of fresh air. 😁
So interesting how people see things differently. I was watching this video and thinking he can't possibly be comfortable sitting like that with his legs so tightly crossed, and closing off himself with that hand over wrist grip. They're not smiling or making eye contact, and they're sitting so far apart from each other. If I didn't know them better I might think they didn't really like each other very much. But I agree...good video.
@@janaenae1338 tammy is a deeply religious introspective person. As one myself, people often misstake my contemplation for "sadness" but it's not, she's a deep thinker, she LOVES how he gets her thinking but she wanders into her thoughts. Very relatable. It is likely that you associate positive thinking with proper internal thoughts but that's not always the case, reality is suffering and there's a deeper joy in finding meaning in suffering than there is in positivity for positivity's sake. People like us enjoy the fact we're deeply in tune with such things, even if it doesn't relate to you as "happiness".
Thank You to the entire Peterson family. Despite your personal struggles, you have persevered and brought meaning to your lives and by extension, encouraging others to do the same. God speed!
“When I knew you, when you were a little kid, 8, 9, 10….” Wow they have known each other since childhood. What a blessing to have know each other so long.
Tammy, I bet you love him so much… he is a breath of fresh air… please encourage him to continue to talk to us…he is our life line!…he is everything I wish I could express in words like he does!! I’m praying for him every day!
This whole thing is brilliant I love the poky little jokes “low in politeness” just all three bantering and having a great family dynamic it’s great to see, so much affection for each other on show here
I love this! Family dialogue from you guys is definitely incredible to watch. It shows how Jordan isn’t just Jordan Peterson because of his efforts, but the efforts of his whole family. It’s incredible
Test at www.understandmyself.com
I will allocate the time to listen to this but please keep in mind that young love that blossoms into mature love over a lifetime is a world of difference away from unrequited or lost loves. Heart break has misunderstood and underrated effects on the human experience. You are both truly blessed.
Both words were correct and meant the same thing in context.
Are you planning to offer a match up service based on compatibility of people who don't know each other? Seems a better idea than any of the current dating apps.
31:00 hashtag metoo
I'd really be interested in a podcast or segment on parenting styles according to this personality test. Hope you read this Jordan!
It's so wholesome to watch a family being able to communicate so openly with reflection.
and affection.
This must be the standard
Exactly
Rules rules rules
When there's cameras...
The best way to learn or to get advice about the relationships and marriages is from people who can actually hold the relationship for a long time! Thank you for this insight, guys!
Yep, I only listen to my parents, 50 years of marriage this June.
@@komrad4life wow, that’s great!
Me and my girlfriend been together 25 years. We’re as dumb as a box of rocks and happy as I dunno lol. let’s just say we love music and JP. He loves music deeply. I just love all you music loving higher morality guys . Thank you
@@siriusBhive that's an .... interesting self description 😂 but I am truly happy for you guys! 25 years, that's awesome! Happy Valentine's day!
@@andrewwabik5125 Thanks. I remember it wasn't easy when I was watching them growing up, lot of fights. But somehow they made this far. They're in their mid 70s now. It's amazing.
"Conflict avoided is conflict delayed" . I love that quote! This quote can be added to any situation.
And magnified..
@@tkrs5461 ^I think that's important to include.
Amen .i often need time to settle down then i can hash it out.
Although, it is still good to walk away and revisit things if it gets too heated. Can’t resolve things if emotions are too high at the time.
14:11
Growing up, I had no idea that this kind of open communication amongst family members was even possible. It's crazy to think of how different my childhood might have been if my family had been practiced in this sort of thing.
Same. My family talked behind everyone’s backs.
My family didn't even talk. Well elderly had monologues, mostly. and ofcorse undermining everyone who wasn't up their standard.
Really good to see this family smiling and laughing together. Talking seriously one moment, being goofy the next.
They’ve been through so much
Many years ago I took the Enneagram personality test. It confirmed what I already knew about myself. When I discovered what my husband’s personality was it was so enlightening. I finally realized why he did what he did. One of the most important discoveries in our relationship. By the way we were married in the summer of 1959 and this coming July it will be our 63rd anniversary! We were just a couple of naive kids when we were married and we had the good example of both of parents’ long marriages. Now we’re 82 and 84 and are living our golden years.
Congratulations!! ❤️
Oh wow 🎉🎊🎉🎊🎉
That's amazing
Thank you, Sheila!
Sheila amazing congratulations on 63 years, wishing you many more together. Lots of love
Thanks for all your replies!
Im from a broken household. So seeing Jordan's face to presumably look back at his wife has a very etheral gentleness to it. You guys seem happy. Genuinely happy, I give best wishes to you guys. Happy Valentines day
He gave her quite a bit of shite though.
@@mayanmist Boy what episode were you watching? He could hardly have gone more out of his way to recognize and state the benefits in the ways she differed from him
@@SepticFuddy lmao once i hopped in the video i was like damn, i got clickbaited
@@mayanmist lpl
@@mayanmist you should definitely work on your listening skills or get your ears checked. Or perhaps you are too busy daydreaming? Either way, you definitely don’t pay attention.
As a young woman under 30 without both parents at adolescent, Dr. Peterson seriously guided me through life.
How long have you been listening to him?
@@Jeremy5000iwhy are you asking that question . Im curious
@@spitbukket6862 honestly I couldn’t tell you, idek why I’d ask that lol. Probably just curious 9 months ago😂
@@Jeremy5000i haha all good bro. have a good night tonight my man 😂👍
@@spitbukket6862 you as well dawg🫡
As a male with high agreeableness, this was extremely helpful. I can't begin to explain how much this helps me navigate life with my personality orientation.
Ill trade you some of my disagreeableness for some of your agreeableness lol
@@noahsd Meet in a Chinese restaurant and Freaky Friday this shit?
I scored 71 for agreeableness, what does that mean?
@@seanmartin4062 Is it free ? It's showing it's paid on the website in the description.
@@Aditya-gx1xv it is free I just did it, 100 questions but note when you see your scores at the screenshot it all because I don’t know where the results are stored if at all. Good luck x
I am 60 and have never witnessed such capable family interactions and dynamics. It's a whole different world. Ty for sharing so much emotional intelligence.
To be Fair you can't really compare Jordan and his family to the family next door
😂 he is one of the best psychologist of this generation, obviously he can handle his own
@@MsJamilaaa🤣🤣🤣🤣 him being one of the best psychologist of this generation is irrelevant to how he handles his family life, we get it you're neither a psychologist or handle your family well so it's obvious that you and your low IQ thinking will equate the two
@@selfgain9458 only because someone has a high position in career isn't necessarily related to private wellbeing and intelligence in social world. So many famous people witness about broken personalities.
The prayers of millions were answered for Tammy Peterson’s health. And the prayers of millions were answered again for Jordan Peterson. May God be with you and your family now and forever
Literally millions!!! I know of friends praying in a mosque in Richardson, Texas for Tammy and Jordan. God bless 🙏
Mrs is the proper identification of a sheep
🙏🏽 Thank God Almighty that he kept Peterson’s guardian angel earth bound
I truly believe God has big plans for you that you were thrust into the limelight and then you both have gone through suffering …Praying for you both ! Thanks for the Valentines gift of honesty
@@sandyhardy3419 We all have a Cross that we must bare
I aspire to have a family like yours one day that is emotionally mature and functional. Thank you for showing us what a good family could be like.
I agree. Especially with a family that each suffer from severe depression. What an inspiration and hope for those that suffer from depression.
Dude , the wife is a typical narcissist 😂😂😂😂
@@zinasherif7791 could be, but she works pretty well against it, don’t you think? And going against your own evil, means being able to truly love. That should be appreciated! ❤
@@cooler.teacher thanks for commenting on my comment ❤️
I can’t confirm your statement as I don’t know her enough to say she’s working against her own evil .
We all aspire to become better human beings, but narcissists are somehow much slower and more stubborn.
She is a good “narcissist” and a very codependent wife 😅
I became secretive because whatever I said I was scolded.
Our broken home generation need hundreds of conversations like this from the Peterson couple and more because we need hope and inspirations!
True! Thank you, Peterson family! ❤️ I'd call it brave rather than impolite at 51:25 when Tammy questioned Jordan's language 😳 😅
Yes. Agree!
Yeah these single motherhood issue has become absolutely tragic, not just for the mothers themselves but because kids don't get to see how interpersonal romantic relationships should be modeled.
@@equatorialjourney4478 It's a very challenging and complicated journey, especially today. It's not about being the perfect family or perfect couple (or more intelligent person), but striving to be more unified with better communication and loving patience. They *are* modelling that very difficult challenge, in very effective and interesting ways and with mutual respect. It's inspiring and fascinating.
@@stephtimms1776 Ayyiyi .....did u watch right to the end to see Jordan salivate over his lab rat style of parenting . No effing wonder Mikaela is & was such a basket case of obsessive compulsions and that Tammy looks zoned out, care worn and resigned to the life she accepted . The man is certifiable ..... Napoleonic complex , enabled by others , his whole life .
The opening dialogue resonated with me strongly. When I got married as a young man 12 years ago, there were several immature things I screwed up. But one thing I believe I did right is insist upon being open about the things that caused conflict between my wife and I. Never put off talking about things that bother you. What bothers you affects your behavior and you aren't "doing your spouse a favor", but instead a disservice. We'd have a weekly marital meeting where we hashed out the good, the bad, and the ugly and took notes (actual notes with dates) figuring out who we were as a couple and what we could do better, because we both earnestly wanted to be a good partner. We still do this now, over a decade later. I have a master's degree on understanding the soul of the woman I professed was the love of my life, but the PhD is something I haven't reached yet. She was all I was interested in during my late college years, and she is still the person I am most interested in today.
🥺🥺😭😭😭♥️♥️👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 Well done sir, well done!
A beautiful comment
master degree/phd statement is a good quote from an old book men are from mars women are from venus
@@GodofDisco Is that where it's from? All I remember is that I heard it a long time ago. So long ago that I think I only had my "bachelor's" degree. (Dad joke)
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This conversation made me miss a deep conversation and a close relationship both with my parents and a partner. I am so grateful that Jordan Peterson is somewhat part of my life, and although it feels odd to write it, I feel genuinely connected to a complete stranger. Thank you for yet another little gem of content.
I think I know how you feel. Kinda makes me sad to realise how interesting a relationship I probably could have with that whole family but obviously it's never going to happen because if they had that with everyone who felt this connection, they'd do nothing else.
Doesn't change the fact that it leaves a feeling of loss in me.
That being said, I am happy and grateful that these people exist. Especially in today's world they're like guiding lights for lost souls. I think people like that is what the catholic church has in mind when they talk about saints. Not perfect people but people who just will not stop trying to leave this world a better place.
Not weird or parasocial at all
I feel the same way - might sound weird, but ... when they all barked together, i felt that 😄 I do that too and my family and husband just look at me like i'm crazy.
That was extremely representive of how misunderstood i feel in my relationships, because we seem to have such different outlooks on life.
@@ElnaKristin I'm very excited too have learnt how to bark properly 🤣
I'm with you about it too
Dear Dr. Peterson. I am sure you have heard this from more than a million people, and most definitely more than a million times over. You are the single most important reason why I have built, and I am still trying to build a good, healthy relationship with my parents. I have watched your lectures, and your interviews, I have smiled when you have smiled, and I have cried when something bothered or pained you. I thank you for being a positive influence on me to become a better person, to be good, to be sincere, speak the truth in the face of overwhelming odds, and for having a conscience to speak out when something is wrong. And most importantly, thank you for making me realise how precious my parents are to me. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, and I know I speak for more than a million voices who feel the same.
You can see in his bearing and the way he looks at his wife that she is everything to him. Her very existence fills him with such joy it's a pleasure to witness it.
Agree, it’s fantastic. Must’ve been a pleasure for their children to grow up with it
Unfortunately women are turned off by this traits
I have a hunch that Tammy is only with him cuz she settled
Even though I could be wrong
@@nezarl8374 woah there, not all women lol.
@@nezarl8374 (as a woman) lmao no absolutely not. You're wrong
@@nezarl8374 too may redpills swallowed
My wife and I just took this assessment and wow. It’s insanely accurate and hilarious in a sense of how well it summarizes us. We have such a strong marriage and we like to use our differences to our advantage, and we couldn’t be more different. She scored 98th percentile for Conscientiousness while I’m in the 1st percentile, I thank God for my wife because she literally keeps me from being a bump on a log haha.
Where you are from
What are some ways you use your differences to your advantage?
That "bump on a log" really made me laugh whatever it means
Good Lord, I thought i was low in it, but you won me pretty good.
shoutout to a fellow Conscientiousness 1st-percentiler!
I love women like Jordan's wife, soft spoken and very capable of expressing herself intelligently.
She's actually a little mean
She’s the type of person that can be scary behind closed doors. Probably a good person but my wife is the same way
@@Thatotter223 soft speaking individuals with those kind of personality test results are not very easy or kind people. Since men have a natural desire to conquer, these women tend to win them cause men never feel like they actually have it all. So It's a constant chase. It's frustrating but it keeps them going. Meanwhile some of us...it's a damn shame.
It's hard to imagine that soft-spoken, sweet voice can be so mean. I had a teacher like that once
@@esthernyamwisi2492 Astute observation & analysis you just made there.
Mrs Petersons voice is just so beautiful.
I took the test and I’m in shock. I never realized how wrong about myself I was. I always thought I was a very agreeable person, but I scored low in agreeableness, low in politeness, and exceptionally high in neuroticism. I followed the test instructions perfectly. This is by far the most insightful and accurate personality test I’ve ever taken before. Thank you, Dr. Peterson for creating such a helpful tool
Interesting, what behaviors led you to think you were high in agreeableness, and why do you think you scored low on it? Same with politeness and neuroticism? It's interesting when one's self perception deviates from an "objective" measure. Do you think this is more telling of the accuracy of the measure itself or the difficulty in one's ability to self-perceive? Or a bit of both? I personally haven't taken it, but definitely will. I'm a big fan of Dr. JP and the incredible work he has been doing in revitalizing order in world full of chaos! :)
@@bryant475 perhaps I thought I was somewhat extroverted and agreeable because I can be talkative at times, especially for work. But outside of that, I get anxious and exhausted by socialization. I also find that I don’t mind conflict so that’s why my scores make sense. I think I wanted to believe I was agreeable and extroverted because I admire those traits in others, like Jordan Peterson for instance. But the test made me realize it’s just not true for me
I had a very similar reaction to the test! I really understand myself better now, having taken it. Would recommend it to anyone.
@@simplygina7703 Regarding your desire to be agreeable, or seem agreeable. After taking the test, and listening to Jordan's 2017 personality lectures, I found all kinds of manipulative behavior in my life, where I was trying to convince myself that I was something different than I really am.
It was such a relief to realize that the things I believed were false. It meant that much of my inner anguish was optional. I just had to stop lying to myself, and suddenly I could redeem all of this wasted energy I used to spend dogging myself, to start doing things I enjoy, instead.
@@zeynand4039 "...creative hobbies... made me feel more alive than ever." 👍🏻 Yep! That's exactly what the test was attempting to measure. Interest, not ability. Obviously, interest can develop ability, so don't dismiss your skill out of hand, either.
I have the same sensation with intellectual hobbies, and somewhat with creative ones. My OCEAN scores express that, too!
After hearing this talk and seeing their happiness after everything they went through, they've got this 18 year old kid thinking having a family is worth it after all. Thanks, and cheers!
Jacob. Yes! Very good to see someone here who is 18, and learning. Always keep learning new things, no matter what happens.
It is too bad so many young people are not being taught basic life wisdom, and good values.
Have no idea where you come from (emotionally, psychologically).
"Know thyself" is key to a good life, and finding the right person.
Just remember, you have this one life, what are going to do with it?
As the poet Mary Oliver wrote..."Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" 🌿
Imagine the joy the must feel seeing their child grow into a capable and accomplished respectable human being. I wonder if I can ever get to that point.
You know they have 2 kids right? Lol Julian doesn't like the spotlight
When they're teenagers, it's really hard to vision this, lol. Are yours teenagers?
Well... did she actually? The whole drama about her weird "Lion Diet" website? The temporary seperation from her husband? The constant half-naked posing on social media? I am sorry but what I don't see here is this young woman forming a life outside her father's shadow. I know his fame is making enough money for all of them - but the way she behaves at times just doesn't appear healthy. Also it must upset him to a certain degree, that his intellect isn't met by his family. I'm sure they're lovely people, but he constantly interrupts both of them and finishes their sentences... Seems like low regard and boredom to me.
Mikhaila is a complete car crash. She has a rich Daddy though so she'll be ok.
Meow
You must not know anything about Mikhaila lol
Plus she got a ton of plastic surgery
I would've loved to have had a family bond like this growing up. God bless this family 💕
Me too ...
Me too!
Me too
Me too😞
I think that the couple met when they were very young.
Best part: Dad’s worry about impacting daughter’s happiness. Daughter’s declaration that she’s happy. Mom’s response that that’s good. So sweet ♥️
I know right? It was such a small tender moment that I definitely was touched by as well 🥰🥲💙
What minute was that?
@@apa208 It ends at 40:41 (you can search through the transcript to find specific words).
Yes I loved that part too
@@MarcinaRiley Where do you find the transcript?
Jordan saying to Mikayla, “That was very sneaky and treacherous of you” with a completely straight face cracks me up 😂
That maybe a symptom of your own personality too XD
@@goingcrazy1019 wtf?
they are " open " not like us always defense our stupidity
timestamp?
It was a bit dramatic/angry.
It's hard to express how enjoyable, insightful, and meaningful this episode was. The dynamic of you three together is a gift :)
@@stephenmacdonald9063 not necessary
The family that grifts together, stays together 🤔
@@stephenmacdonald9063 prolly u don't have a family. I am the Jesus Christ, who notices a miserable man when i see one 😅
@@stephenmacdonald9063 Your preoccupation with “child diddling” makes me think you're a past victim and current perpetrator yourself.
Get some help, or not.
@@stephenmacdonald9063 Maybe an exorcist.
This man , this woman , and the daughter have a very very strong mind .
Almost sly , sharp as a knife all of them but at the same time so laid back …
And the way they talk towards each other shows such a depth ..
I am really some kind of an admirerer of this family.
Saw many videos about this man and he is very articulate , could listen to this kind of intervieuws for hours since the pureness is so clear.
Through this conversation , I'm being reminded of what a picture of the core values off a family is , in a world that is constantly trying to make us forget that, this is truly a gem. Thank you.
Agreed.
Jordan Peterson has visible qualities of what some of the stories in the BIBLE explain about learning from life trials. I am so grateful for finding his content. As a single black man, whom is searching for that type of peace in a partnership, it brings me temporary joy to hear these conversations. Videos such as this gives me hope for a future with someone else. I do agree that working on self reflection or accountability is necessary to becoming an understanding teammate in a relationship.
Thank You for this video!
Love from Raymond
I completely agree with you. They say that if you wait for it, the special person will come to you but, I beg to differ. Like the Bible states, "seek and you shall find"...it never said sit in a corner and you shall find. Jordan Peterson has wisdom and knowledge that has helped me through the years on improving my own thought patterns on several different subjects. Thank you for posting your comment.
Heavenly Father, I lift up Raymond and pray for his hearts desires. I pray that You would help him on his journey in life to be the man you desire him to be. Use him for such a time. I pray provision of all his needs and blessings from heaven above. Speak to his heart and give him ears to hear Your voice. May Your peace rest deep in his soul as he seeks Your face and reads Your Word. In Jesus name, amen and amen. 🙏🏼🕊✝️🙏🏼
Amen!
Raymond, I can recommend you to work on creating the peace you want within you. (Find peace within - don’t seek it without.) Changing that will change you and you will attract someone different from what you used to - and fits the person you’d became.
Wish you all the best on your journey. You’ll hopefully look back and see that’s the greatest that ever happened in your life - deciding to make this change. Life will take you there if you commit to the process.
I hope you're doing well, Raymond. Thank you for sharing that insight. It gives me hope to see others express these thoughts because I think they're true. Good luck on your journey. I hope to see you on the road :)
My husband and I have been together for 16 years, we met when we were 18! We have been through many struggles and are stronger than ever! Great advice! 👍
Aoa, hi this is Omer from Pakistan🇵🇰 and a Muslim, I lisn to Mr. Peterson everyday as he inspires me like no other motivational speaker. His vocabulary and delivery is *Chiefs kiss*.
Keep doing the great work you have no idea how many lives you touch for the better in even the minute parts of the globe.
But
What I wanted to say,
The true inspiration and motivation is Mrs. Peterson (Tammy) and Mr. Peterson (Jordon) battle with a horrible disease like kindney cancer and over coming it, thriving over it!!!!
and as a recovering addict myself I can imagine (some what) Mr. Peterson state of mind through his anti-depressant phase.
Anyone can just talk but you guys showed the world.
Mad Respect
Mad Love.
Regards
Omer Aamir
Islamabad, Pakistan🇵🇰
😊😊😊😊
I like your post. 🥰
@@patriciakeats1621 thank you, RESPECT
Also from me in New Zealand. Thank you for your respectful comments.
From California, USA, I loved reading your post and seeing how Peterson's message circles the globe and reminds us of our shared humanity.
You know, every time Tammy speaks I get so drawn into her and eager to hear what she's going to say, and because she says the least it makes me even more eager to listen and learn from her. She takes her time when she speaks and is deliberate in what she wants to say. A very good adult figure for kids growing up or even young adults. I could honestly listen to her and learn from her for hours! She should really make her own podcast for women, I've learned a lot from her as a young woman and hope to utilise these skills when I'm a mother myself one day. To think I was/still is an avid fan of Jordan to then one day admire and listen to his wife even more! I can see how influential she must have been. Great advice from both of you :)
Hi, dropping by to tell you about a podcast you might be interested in.
Look up Wife of the Party episode 57, titled Married to Comics. It's here on UA-cam.
As a man I found it to be a really interesting podcast that was full of feminine energy, and seeing you talk about a podcast for women made me think of it. Hopefully you enjoy it if you check it out!
@@ZacharyDial hey, thanks for that! I will deffo check it out :D
It's so lovely to see jordan so relaxed & at ease & genuinely smiling, he's always so on & needing to be so defensive in most of his interviews that to see him like this is rlly touching :')
agreed. I had a smile on my face almost during the entire interview. I love watching their family interact.
In my perspective; when Jordan expresses his frustration and anger, its extremely entertaining and I usually agree with his point of view 😊 👍🏽
Agreed. Lovely smile, unconditional..
I disagree with you completely. He is quite relaxed, even in high conflicting conversations.
Jordan relaxed? He has squeezed himself into the furthest corner of the sofa and sits bunched up into himself with his hands crossed. Something is not being expressed in their words.
The perfect Valentine's Day episode! Thank you both so much!
Just about to say the same! Thank you Peterson couple indeed!
Perfect comment and episode for a day like today. What a wonderful family.
Ok
Tammy is so soft spoken. She is so soothing to listen to 🥺
But not soothing to look at. She is sitting with her arms and legs crossed, as is Jordan.
@@tamaliaalisjahbana6849 What an insensitive and naive comment, you do realize this a podcast and there are fixed mics set up in the room so that they have to be sitting in those spots. I hope you can gain a better sense on how to read a room properly, because you certainly misjudged what is going on here by large margin.
@@Nomad1ca calm your tits. It was a valid point. The microphones do NOT account for closed body language
Right! "Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee."
@@Nomad1ca Perhaps, but they do not both need to be crossing their arms and legs. there is nothing insensitive about commenting on a fact.
Your love has always seemed so pure and beautiful. Hearing the two of you talk about each other puts a smile on my face every time. Can't wait to listen to this, happy Valentine's Day everyone!
Jordan really enjoyed reminiscing about his family life. He obviously loves his wife and children deeply. I love that he and Tammy disciplined their children who have become responsible adults.
Admittedly they've been brave about putting it all out there. However, they have not created a responsible parent in their daughter.
She's out clubbing, while someone else babysits her children.
@@sirvivor7835 Just wondering if the daughter is out clubbing all the time or sometimes only?
I love the Petersons!
Much gratitude for openly sharing your lives. The world needs to see true commitment and again conversation with each other.❤
There needs to be more podcasts with interesting families like this. These represent real human experiences.
"That was very sneaky and treacherous of you," had me dying with laughter! Great conversation with the Peterson's, it was lovely to listen in.
haha it got me as well
Lol me too. How sweet
Yes. That was funny. Although I'm pretty sure all kids do that. It is human nature to try to get what you want. You would not want to lessen your chance of getting what you want by going to the person you thought would be more likely to say no.
I chuckled at that but didn't quite like myself for chuckling. I think Jordan learnt that kind of comment from his wife, becasue its not a very agreeable thing to say. But you three people are close enough tot ake that in stride.
Was saying his daughter was treacherous funny? What his daughter did was what every kid does.
Tammy Peterson seems like a great example of a mother. She reminds me of how my Granny dealt with things -- no-nonsense. She could seem harsh at times, but she was going to make sure the right thing was done. Loved your speech in Nashville, Jordan! You guys are a great inspiration.
Sounds very cold with no affection
@@miamitten1123 There's a time for everything. Disciplining disagreeable kids usually implies that you have to be a bit cold to them so that they see you're in charge and won't walk all over you but it also, requires you to be enthusiastic and to reward them when they do good things. Being lovely all the time and affecionate even when someone disrespects you, simply tells them they can walk over you and you won't do anything.
Being cold is not always bad, it can be a great tool to deal with complicated people and children. But of course, you also have to showcase love and affection when needed, you could see how Tammy reinforced Mikaila's happiness when she said she was happy now. That love and affection was genuine.
@@miamitten1123 Love is not enabling bad behaviour. Sometimes it is doing what seems to be harsh, but is for the best.
@@trannongoble7722 if someone loves you. Theyll call you out on negative behavior. They want you to be a better you. If they don’t call you out. They don’t love you.
Good to see this side of Jordan with wife Tammy. Husband and Wife's personalities balance each other to make the optimal force required for children upbringing. Well done you guys, Mikaela is a prime example and stunner - so is Tammy! Have two girls myself and brought them up alone, youngest one came to me at 15 and I see the negative effects not having discipline and strong boundaries has. But not giving up on her! Thanks for the reminder that I am doing the right thing!
Since teenagehood my daughter and i have met once a week to discuss anything tough, anything that needs doing, anything we need from one another. This has been invaluable to avoiding conflict but actually getting things done.
I love how humble and candid JP and his wife are. This interview is packed with lived advice that will be so helpful to married couples. I know I'll be checking out the Couple's Report!
This is so fascinating, and I am so thankful for modern medicine so we can see both Dr Peterson and his wife in good health again sharing all these stories going back years ago. Salute to the entire Peterson family.
I feel the same. So thankful they are on the road to health. Just don’t do too much too soon.
True that! I'd also like to add that I'm thankful for alternative health so that Mikhaila could be here, too
I am elated that Dr Peterson and family are doing well!!
I love Mikhaila's suggestion of requesting time to reflect on a decision before answering. As an agreeable polite person who tends to say yes immediately out of fear of hurting feelings, I hold a lot of anger towards people who ask too much of me. This simple request allows you time to genuinely reflect on if you agree to something and will hopefully alleviate unnecessary resentment towards others.
My husband and I have been married for almost 43 years and we have never argued a lot but have had times where he wouldn’t speak to me for a few days. Our communication has improved so much since we are partially retired and not as stressed with life, but understanding each other is key. I had to learn to let him talk without interrupting. That was a big thing for me.
I once went two weeks without talking to my wife.........I didn't want to interupt her🤪
@@lazybuzzard1204 Good one LOL
Food, respect and SEX. That's all we, men, need from our woman to be happy. -Shapiro
@@Greyimm that too. Don't take everything at face value. That quote from Shapiro is a funny generalization, nothing more.
@@Greyimm I would argue that falls into the 'respect' part.
Seeing Jordan allow himself to be in a vulnerable position so that we may all benefit is such a beautiful gift.
Yes, absolutely.
“When questions pop up in my mind, I need to ask them” That is me totally. People see it as ego, it’s enthusiasm. I love conversation and I can’t help but say what I feel. So so true.
Hi. Why do they see it as ego ? I believe it’s quite humble
@@Noemieorokia That really depends on the nature of the question, and how it's asked. Someone who values politeness might think you had a big ego if you interrupted them or asked in a blunt way.
Yeeeah. Me TOO !?!? I have been lied to and decieved for so many years by him that it has given me .... ' TRUTH DIAORRIAH ' ;)))))
Yeah, I am bit like that too.
One friend gets mad, and would feel interrupted, another friend is so aggressive in loudness, and wanting to dominate conversations, I can barely get a word in edgewise if I disagree. Has been very frustrating.
I love hearing how intellectual people deal with obstinate children. Bless you all.
Far more important is that they are wise people.
It sounds as though the mother in the story who said her child doesn't need to eat may have been an intellectual person as well.
@@Jadlerify She let the child control her though. Being intelligent is not a catch-all for proper behavior. We all can learn to be better in all our relationships because it doesn't come with a manual.
I love Mikhaila's subtle smile after her dad said "subtle temptation toward narcissism🤓. What a cool family. Truth about short comings, facing them, and finding how they can be helped, coped with, or overcome.
Samee lmao
Had the husband do his test for my valentines gift. Linked them up and now we are reading through it bit by bit to learn more about ourselves and us as a couple. Thank you all for this great tool
Way to go on picking a good thing for your gift! I hope the results help you both clarify things. I know it helped me understand myself *immensely!*
That's an excellent gift damn
I’m in my 20s watching this feels like visiting my cousin’s lovely house for a family day, great conversation, love you guys
Thank you, Tammy, for validating that sleeping on a situation is ok and a good way of pondering without ruminating continuously. Thank you, Jordan, for validating my SOs tendency of ruminating on an issue and getting progressively more annoyed at it.
We have so much similarity to your story and I'm grateful to know that it's ok, as long as we're willing to work together to resolve it.
Thank you, Mikhaila, for being willing to be so open and honest with your parents. It's refreshing to see a child guide a conversation and be willing to listen to the truth of the answers
Will you stop thanking so much. Jesus!
This young lady is so fortunate to have such good parents. ❤❤
My son is so open & extraverted that I can't count how many times when he was growing up I had to remind him that he didn't have to say everything that came into his head. He is trusted & very well liked in our community today.
I wish someone had told me that, when I was young, but it was my 18 year old son who finally did! Thank goodness that although I was mostly a single mom, his dad was also a big part of his life, and not like me!
This convinced me to purchase it for my wife and myself. I'd been wanting to do it for ages. Married (mostly) happily for 10.5 years. You've helped me help myself become a better person for her and my family. Thank you!
I would buy that gift for a total stranger if they asked me! I believe that test makes the world a better place.
Do you feel like sharing anything surprising you learned from it?
@@jpaugh64 hey i am not able to afford that test, if you can gift me this test i'll be higly appreciate you and can't thank you enough. Only if you can i am not demanding it from you. Thank you nonetheless.
I'm blown away how well all of you can discuss anything so honestly, even as a family, that all have their own opinions. This is quite amaaaaazing of all of you, not only as a family, but as a business running and on top of it all being a whole psychology session. Wooooow !!! Great backup system to each other ! Love it !!!
The more i learn about Sir Peterson, and his family the more respect and love i have towards them.❤ FYI: i watch him a lot😂
The story with the little boy was deeply touching. I strive to build a family like yours, also hard to express the proper amount of gratitude for this channel and content!!! I feel like a THANK YOU just not enough! I wish ALL THE BEST IN LIFE FOR YOU❤🙏
So many people have said to me & my husband over the years, "we've never gone to bed on an argument, you must always resolve it before the sun goes down!". It's nice to see a lasting couple that have done what we've done, gone to sleep and figured it out tomorrow! I wonder if people are lying about resolving things immediately! 🤣
I always thought that expression was more about being angry - the door-slamming "Good-night!", than the necessity to bash something out, before going to bed.
Going to bed, acknowledging that you can try for resolution the next day, is not angry.
In my book of almost 10 years of marriage thoughts (LOL, should really write a pamphlet and such for fun and ... anyways....) I count the agreement that we'll be better able to work on a problem the next day as a form of resolution. You resolve that you both want it to go well and are willing to do whatever that means. I have done all 4:
(I have learned many things from the example and advice of others... some areas I have the painful road of trying all approaches for myself)
Going to bed angry without knowing whether they are packing things up in their mind really sux, pardon my language.
Going on fighting late into the night sux too.
Going to bed with only one of you thinking we'll work on it later and then you start a fight about the fight's resolution before resuming something like the first fight sux as well.
Both going to bed agreeing to work on making things better is not totally comfy but is the best if it needs the time or subconscious work to happen before a solution.
Obviously you want mostly to have GRACE (5 letter word for the non-quadratic table response) given to you by which I mean; the ability to smoothly handle a problem when it comes up quickly, with both parties sufficiently satisfied with the outcome. I say it's grace b/c we're all so blody different it's amazing we manage to agree to much at all with satisfaction.
Bible says the same...wisdom available for 1000s of yrs
That "you must always resolve it before the sun goes down" sounds like superstition, magical thinking. Like if the sun goes down before you kiss the prince, your fate is sealed, you're doomed. There's no logic behind this. Although... maybe it's like the old prayer goes, there's is a small chance you could die in your sleep and in that case you don't want to leave behind an unsolved conflict with someone you care about. So it's better to go to sleep with clean conscience.
@@JOHNVS7 when I have gone to bed angry I start fantasizing about life after divorce... or murdering my spouse... perhaps that is what *solomon*?'s thinking was as he wrote it... I get the inspiration of God is involved and he gives some rules for some but different ones for others (Paul shall not call unclean what God says is clean)
This is a conversation I have been waiting the most. I even wrote a letter to Mr Peterson that I never sent out. Thank you for your wisdom .
sent it now
i wrote and never sent one too. we are alp immensely grateful but at least he knows, we’ve sent so so many!
I love how sweet & calm Tammy’s voice sounds. These two together- plus daughter Mikhaila as the interviewer:-) wow. Just wow. 💜💜💜
I did like her voice too
47.30 mins is the most precious moment of this interview. Absolutely hilarious and so beautiful. Much love to you all. ❤
Tammy's response to Mikayla saying "I'm happy" at 40:40 was incredibly powerful and nearly brought me to tears. Her voice felt like it had so much depth in it, and knowing that Mikayla went through so much suffering due to health issues in her life... Tammy sounded relieved and proud I guess
Any sorrow for her husband?
Meow
There is nothing more fulfilling and quite a relief for a parent to know their child is happy. It’s kind of like a sigh of relief , a confirmation that you did good .
its beautifull.. it was a quick response.. straight from the heart.. she verbalized it... im sure jordan thought it
I think you’re over analyzing the situation.
@@JourneyDestination why do you feel that way?
I've been married 34 years this year. Just listening to the teaser. this is what REAL marriage is. Problems, you bet. REsolved? often only part way. WORK? Yep. Joy? sometimes. Pain? Yep, that too. Meaning? Sometimes more than you want. Worth it? Yes. Probably for most people. Maybe not for everyone because EVERYONE is a lot of people.
EVERYONE is a lot of people is a serious understatement. XD
God bless you Paul, ya legend
Thanks for the vulnerability and for being open with the listeners. You are literally teaching a multitude here and helping us be better people at that.
I love Tammy Peterson. Every good man has a great woman. And Jordan is beyond great. So i can't imagine how amazingly great this woman must be. We love you Tammy.
I can’t watch more than a few minutes without breaking into tears or bursting out laughing. You are the true definition of a reality show. I live vicariously through every moment from my single room on this quiet farm, next to the frozen stream among the Amish.
Sounds like an Idealic location lucky you from crazy London
@@Smartychase also from crazy london.
Seems like everyone here does drugs to be happy sometimes lmao.
Howd you get the phone if Amish?
@@merk13371 it might not be a phone, also different sects have different rules. Some are less strict than others.
Edit: Additionally, he could just be an outsider living near an Amish community.
You guys barking and laughing at each other after all you went through really made my day, Thank you Petersons
I watched this last night with my partner. We've always considered our relationship a 'good' one with a solid understanding of each other. The discussions we had watching this lead to a much deeper understanding of how we work both as individuals and as a couple. It was the most genuinely intimate valentine's Day ever. Thank you
Woah that's amazing. It must have felt weird at first to rediscover your other half. That seems like an amazing as well as productive Valentine's day
I started out ambivalent, and then I grew to genuinely like and enjoy these people. Their honesty is engaging and relatable.
Tammy! We've been waiting to see you and Jordan explain the dynamics to your relationship.
I'm so glad your wife is doing better Jordan. I wish you both the best.
Jordan is the expressive artist who explains a lot and makes sure people understand what he says, Tammy just says something directly and simply, doesn't go into much detail., she is like a soldier or a warrior.
She is blunt and concise with her words. My wife is the same way actually. I tend to be like Jordan in some regards and my wife like her, so I kind of understand. I am going to try to take the test tomorrow, but I predict on some level I will score more towards what is on average more likely a female trait and my wife will score more or less the one’s that are a bit more likely that is a male trait. Like agreeableness is more likely going to be me for conflict avoidance, and in my case she probably will not score very high on Neuroticism
We will see when we take it. I would love for her and I to guess who will score what and compare it to the final result. Then see how much our personality traits match up with the average available data. It would be interesting to see not only the data, but also to finally understand better and analyze my behavior traits and communication skills, but also for her to understand mine too. This looks very interesting.
Thank you for being wonderful models for living life as a family and sharing yourselves with the world. Pure love.
Taking the personality test helped me understand myself and even though my husband didn’t take it, I was able to essentially figure out were we differ and be less upset about our differences and begin to take stock on how our differences are good for our life.
My wife and I are celebrating 41 years of marriage today- 15 of those living with growing children on other continents. We appreciate and agree with so much of what you shared. Christ has been central to your relationship and is foundation of our adult childrens' lives also. We praise God that they both have strong, healthy marriages also.
Amen brother. Isaiah 55:8 God bless you!
Sadly Jesus is a prophet of God not God himself
@@fahimahmed-lg9sh I understand the Quran says that, but I cannot deny my faith in Jesus Christ through the Bible, I’ve had many personal experiences to deny, but I respect you for believing full heartedly in the Quran
@@IFoundAUsername2 You Don't have to lose faith in Jesus (peace be upon him) You should follow What bible says rather than what church says about Jesus (peace be upon him)
@@fahimahmed-lg9sh, Ah this is the key difference in Islam verses Christian theology.
Love to see this, my husband and me are celebrating our 30 wedding anniversary and we have been through some stuff in all these years and we worked hard to get through it ! Marriage is not easy just like life is not easy! But my faith in God got me through all of it and also my husband got to believe in God because of my example of living my life , I love Life and everything Godly and good about life and I deal with bad and evil as I learned from my mom who is a very good Christian!
god bless your mother for instilling god's grace in you early and god bless you and your husband for not taking the easy way out and actually working out your differences
great testimony
I love Jesus
I love this! We need more happy long term couples talking about how their relationships work.
What an excellent example of a family who is authentic “warts & all”. So exhausted by “masked” people faking it. We need solutions to normal humanness and not how to perpetrate phoniness and images. So much more work! Thank you all for the uniqueness you each brought to this discussion!🙏🏻
THISSS
I love how they interact with and treat each other. They are really admirable
So nice of Tammy to have Jordan on her podcast.
They worked hard to keep their family together. Jordan put them through a lot. It is easy to just walk away from your problems. More people must learn to communicate with each other, The Petersons seem to have a deep love and respect for each other. A sense of humor plays a good part in this too. Thank you for posting this.
This has been my favorite Jordan Peterson interview to date! I love seeing what makes successful couples/families tick.
Tammy's voice is calming. Glad to see her. Heard so much about her from JP.
Jordan's been a really good role model for me because I'm aware that by instinct he's more conflict avoidant like myself, but the way he lays out and rationalises the reasons and methods why it's necessary to integrate that in an "aware" and mature reasonable way has helped me to consciously blend it into my own life and I have to say that it's improved my life. I notice that many situations in the longer term work out for the better with a lot less unnecessary stress or overthinking because of it. As long as you're getting the balance right and putting thought in continuously about how you implement it so that you remain within reason- the negative consequences you might be afraid of never come, and you get a lot more of what you want to come to fruition, and actually people around you also prefer it as long as you stay on the side of correctly implementing it because they respect you more.
Precisely. Which is why safe spaces and this modern obsession with making everything and everyone behave like a barney character, particularly in internet culture, is so dangerous. Learning to navigate conflict is a necessary skill and it isn't the same thing as being an ist.
@@sethchandler4170 I agree. Adopting an -ist label means you've adopted the problem as part of your identity. Better to remove the obstacle than worship it.
I am 7 years into my marriage. We have our similarities and differences. But if I can sit and reflect on my marriage and family when I'm older and my children are grown up and come close to 50% of the magic the Peterson family are showing in this video I'll die a happy lady.
I've read every piece of Dr. Peterson's work, seen all the lectures as well... this is my first time actually "meeting" Tammy, and she's incredible! I think JP carries her spirit with him in his lectures and writing, my wife and I minimize each others weaknesses, and embrace and share our strengths. These 2 have obviously mastered that! Thank you for the insight!
I hear Tammy's thoughts through Jordan's voice as well.
It seems that their relationship influenced him a lot.
This should be the case with all good marriages.
It's possible to find my wife's opinions through what I say as well.
Never thought someone who's always into so much conflict and handle it with such assertion would be as high in agreeableness as Dr. Peterson
You guysssss! It’s was so touching when all 3 of you were crying because of the neglected little boy. 🥺😭 I love you all and find so much encouragement in having access to talks like these between you.
I have 4 adult kids who were very healthy, well-behaved children and have all grown up to sit and talk like this every time we all get together. ❤️
(About 8-10 times per year) We even have a voluntary “hot seat” where we chose to sit on a counter stool and open up about something we’re struggling with or some secret, good news we want to share with everyone at once. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I will be taking the personality test first and then ask them to do the same so that we can all process together.
Thank you, Jordan, for your generosity in providing this exceptional tool. I’m so looking forward to learning more about me and my family.
Many blessings to you all. ❤️
@@lejlanuhanovic5700 1:10:02
We have been married for 45 years and yes, work through all things until you resolve them together. Be honest and quick to forgive. Then make changes the other person can see.
God bless all married couples.❤
Wow, So pleasant to see him soo relaxed sitting and talking with his wife… What a difference compared to all the interviews where the interviewers are so hostile. Makes me realise how rarely we see him smile. This video is a breath of fresh air. 😁
So interesting how people see things differently. I was watching this video and thinking he can't possibly be comfortable sitting like that with his legs so tightly crossed, and closing off himself with that hand over wrist grip. They're not smiling or making eye contact, and they're sitting so far apart from each other. If I didn't know them better I might think they didn't really like each other very much. But I agree...good video.
@@FallacyAsPraxis can’t sit too close or else their mics will clash audio heavily. And different voices need to be mixed differently
@@janaenae1338 tammy is a deeply religious introspective person. As one myself, people often misstake my contemplation for "sadness" but it's not, she's a deep thinker, she LOVES how he gets her thinking but she wanders into her thoughts. Very relatable. It is likely that you associate positive thinking with proper internal thoughts but that's not always the case, reality is suffering and there's a deeper joy in finding meaning in suffering than there is in positivity for positivity's sake. People like us enjoy the fact we're deeply in tune with such things, even if it doesn't relate to you as "happiness".
@Anya Wale Are you on drugs?
Thank You to the entire Peterson family. Despite your personal struggles, you have persevered and brought meaning to your lives and by extension, encouraging others to do the same. God speed!
“When I knew you, when you were a little kid, 8, 9, 10….” Wow they have known each other since childhood. What a blessing to have know each other so long.
Tammy, I bet you love him so much… he is a breath of fresh air… please encourage him to continue to talk to us…he is our life line!…he is everything I wish I could express in words like he does!! I’m praying for him every day!
This whole thing is brilliant I love the poky little jokes “low in politeness” just all three bantering and having a great family dynamic it’s great to see, so much affection for each other on show here
I could go on listening to these people on relationship/marriage/kids issues for ever!
Good job on the interview part girl!!
I love this! Family dialogue from you guys is definitely incredible to watch. It shows how Jordan isn’t just Jordan Peterson because of his efforts, but the efforts of his whole family. It’s incredible