10 Lessons In Communication | Couple Things
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- Опубліковано 4 чер 2024
- This week on Couple Things, we talk about some of the things that we have learned over the past 5 years of marriage as it pertains to communication. We aren't professionals, but we want to pass along some things that have worked for us and really upgraded how we communicate with each other.
Here are some of the topics that we cover:
0:00 introduction
- saying thank you instead of I’m sorry 3:56
- monthly check-ups/ having a system 6:27
- expectations when your partner is away 12:07
- the importance of accurate ETA’s 16:49
- meeting your partner halfway in conversation 20:37
- the harm of blanket statements 23:29
- owning your mistakes 27:48
- being aware of your mood 30:58
- always try to have a conversation 33:52
- using your words wisely 37:16
- being involved in your partner's excitement 40:36
- your tone 45:14
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After 50years of marriage ,I've learned a few things. #1, certain things are off limits. Some topics are triggers no matter how angry you are its too hurtful to throw at the other person. #2. The little quirks you thought were cute early on, now drive you nuts.#3. On the other hand, your partners annoying habits ( procrastination, underwear on floor.etc,), don't phase you anymore. Learn to pick your fights. Thats a few of the things you learn, its an on going adventure.
Y’all are the shit, it’s nice to listen and watch people who can just point out real truths and also point out that no body is perfect
I am sorry attracts attention to self, thank you lifts the other person's spirits!
Communication in a marriage is so important whether a newlywed or married for 24 years. Most problems occur when talking isn’t happening. Thank you for your insight. I love your videos and FB.
Absolutely!! Own your mistake and then learn from it. No need to deny it.
Will be married 42 years this month. Communication is by far the most important part of marriage, really any relationship. That’s what we have always told our two adult children. Over time you guys, as a young couple, young parents have figured that part out, always keep that line of communication open and y’all will have a long, loving, lasting marriage🤗
This is AWESOME. You made me realize that all of these bullet points can be used in any relationship ie work, friends, family or significant other. Thanks 🙏
I love this. I wish I would’ve had this much time with my husband to be able to figure out how to have helped our communication get better. With two jobs going on and him being gone to his place of employment and being on the road, it didn’t give us time to do that. I envy your daily lives of being together.
I love listen to couple things. I usually listen on apple podcast. It helps me in my current relationship now. I love you all!
I do love the natural look it's so much more like life which is a little messy. Still married for 20 years learning lots, never too old.
I love y'all's podcast. I appreciate how easily and transparently y'all talk about things, and at the same time, y'all are also very considerate of the audience and possible listeners.
This is literally a sermon my pastor JUST preached about marriage!
we forget to tell our spouse how thankful we are for them and we don’t take them for granted. So My husband and I always remind each other how thankful we are for each other. For example since being pregnant my husband will not let me cook so he’s been doing all of the cooking and the cleaning of the cat box and I’ll clean anything else around the house and I remind him that I’m very thankful for him.
Communication in any relationship is incredibly important and can make or break a relationship. I love this.
You two are very inspirational and real..... thanks for putting yourselves out there as an example to other young couples and Parents!! Blessings to being the parents of two.... SOON!💜💙
Wow I relate to these points sooo much in my relationship. I actually had to laugh out loud because it sounds exactly like me and my partner. I love how real you both are in talking about conflict and how to deal with it and strive to be better for each other!
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My husband and I are expecting our first child in October and this web/podcast is such a blessing! Communication has been huge in our relationship over the last 5 years and these tips are wonderful as we are all trying to figure out this new season in our lives!
Thank you for being so down to earth and real on topics that are so important!
Garfield poster I had on our fridge when I was a working wife/mother “ don’t talk to me until I’ve finished my first coffee”
I love this! Communication is just one of the major key factors in any type of relationship--significant other, friends, children, and your co-workers. Thank you for sharing your journey with us 😊
These are such great points! It really makes you think and realize how you can use this info in all relationships in your life, not just with your significant other. You both are so inspiring and have such an incredible relationship!
Love you guys! Best of luck to your beautiful family in this new chapter which is just around the corner!!!!
Your success in your marriage is something I can take away from this and hopefully apply it to my marriage. Also the monthly check ups. Seems such a good idea for relationship.
I appreciate the fact that ya'll admit that you have disagreements & that your marriage ain't perfect. Love the podcast.
Such great advice! Love this podcasts, feels like I'm just hanging out with my friends and learning!
I LOVED THIS! I felt for sure my husband and I were on our way to court for a divorce because of our communication skills! I appreciated this so much because I can apply them and feel our marriage is worth fighting for. Thank you so very much!!
You guys are the cutest family!! Definitely my favorite UA-cam family. Maybe I’ve been single way too long, but this seems like way too much work. Like, if I want to go play 18 holes, I don’t think I need to say a time when I’ll be home. I’ll be home when I’m done! LOL. Maybe I should stay single too with that mind set haha!! 💖
I always love hearing from you guys. You break things down so well and never try to push your choices on anyone else.
Yes please do a podcast on counselling would love that! Something I’m so interested in doing but just haven’t felt confident to actually go!
Love this! I always say it’s not what you say, it’s joe you say it! It’s also the TONE. If your tone of voice is condescending or shitty, the apology doesn’t matter.
You guys are such an inspiration! Love watching you!
I LOOOOVE THIS EPISODE!! Wow! You talked so much about things that my boyfriend and I am constantly working on being in a long distance relationship!
I love your show! I started from the beginning and binged all episodes within a month while at work. Now I’m combing all my friends (and significant other) to listen and watch your podcast to better their own relationships. I have learned so much from you guys!
Love the podcast! Thanks for sharing your lives with us!♥️
I am so lucky to have come across a podcast like this one. And I am so grateful that you guys have created such a wonderful platform for advice and valuable information that young adults like me can learn and take away from. Being in my early twenty’s in a relationship this podcast has been eye opening and so worth listening too. In the Matthew Hussey episode I am that twenty year old listening and doing my very best to take way the positive qualities and advice given. SO THANK YOU! ❤️
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Super helpful thank you! I am about to get married to my fiancé in April and although we have pretty good communication your tips are a great insight on other ways to make our communication even better.
Several great ideas 👏🙌👏!! Thank you much for sharing these!
I love you guys! I love listening for advice in my marriage! ❤️ Keep it up!
30 years of marriage & this is still so helpful!
Super helpful information!!! Thank you for all the advice, honesty and vulnerability that you both share
Great podcast! I was also a person who apologizes for everything!! So, I’ve recently made the change of thanking people rather than apologizing as you guys suggested and the difference they feel and I feel is huge, thank you east fam!
I LOVE your guys podcast!!! Real life lessons and situations that are so relatable! We learned about love languages through you guys! Helped us love each other more with knowing each other’s language! 💕 Thank you for all you do!
Love you guys!! I listen all of the time. We can relate on so many levels..especially with you faith, marriage issues and parenting. You have some good humble and down to earth views! ♥️💕🙏🏻
Love watching these! So many insightful things!
This episode was amazing!! Communication is the key 🔑 in any relationship and this episode touched on great points. Thank you for being so transparent!
I loved this podcast and you guys! It really opened my eyes to want I need to do with myself to make my relationship better! You both are truly inspiring❤️
Thank you guys for putting this out there! I could not agree more with these. Love listening to all your podcast.
Good point to avoid using permanent terms. They deff are based on non permanent feelings but tend to leave a permanent marks.
I loved this episode. I recently got married and listened to this on my run before I wrote my vows. So much great input that my now husband and I discussed! I look forward to my podcast notification from you guys! 🥰
It was neat to know you can go to counseling to grow and not just to go when your marriage is failing.
Great episode. Nice to see it in real time with real examples and how to better navigate. Thank you!!
Just found this! Been following on IG for a while. Can’t wait to discover the podcast!
Yes! Gratitude vs. guilt ❤️
Thank you so much for this video!!
I loved this one! I have always known that communication is key in any relationship, but always struggled to know how to actually do it. Btw I love watching you guys, and have loved it since you started UA-cam!
Loved this…communication is key!
Thank you so much for this program. All if this info can be used for interactions with coworkers and friends too.
Love this. This has honestly helped my relationship so much
Power couple! Love your little family. Thank you for the great content! ❤️❤️
Love you guys! Thanks for these videos and great advice
Yes do an episode on counseling please!
Solid advice for couples! Love you guys!
Thank you for this detailed communication program. It's very thorough and good.
I love this! Great tips. I hope Drew gets to feeling better 💕
This gives me hope for the future. I’m not in a relations ship. I’ve never had one. But when I find one I feel better prepared.
Ps sick kids definitely add stress to all relationships and situations!
This was amazing thanks yall!!
This is amazing!! Thank you.
This is so accurate and so helpful!
Love this !! Such good advice !
Wow I took away so much good advice from this episode! Thank you guys!!
Love watching your videos!
This is super helpful! Thank you
This is best way of learning!
Love this! Great advice!
Great info, thank you!
Definitely a lesson to apply!
Love what you share!!😀
Love this one 💕
I used to tell my husband “ I’ll be home at 20 past” ! Just not the hour😂
This is one of my favorite episodes! I listened multiple times! It is so relevant to my relationship and life. Love you guys! (If I’m already subscribed can i still enter by commenting?!) thank you!!! Love you guys!! Love the advice videos, you guys are amazing! ♥️
LOve this!
Everyone being very tender today! 👍🏻😊😁😊👍🏻😁
My (now) ex bf just ghosted me after 4.5 months last weekend. I ended up going to his house since he didn't respond to calls or texts and I had some stuff there (and to get some kind of idea of wth was going on). It turns out he was keeping a laundry list of things he was mad about and never discussed in any way with me. Going forward, I'll be implementing checkups with future relationships. I was so blind sided. Oh... And then the reasonable ETAs, it really hurts. We had a celebration of life on memorial day weekend for my grandpa and I had told him 2pm...he didn't leave at a reasonable time, then when he said he was, he didn't for another few hours, so my extended family all left. So by the time he got there (like 4 hours late) , it was only immediate family that already knew him. I guess I should've known something was up then because he didn't care enough for an important day to put in any effort. Life lessons fam.
Listen to Jimmy Evans; Marriage Today sermons! So good and a lot of what you’ve already said. He’s been changed and taught how to love by the Holy Spirit.
Great channel
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When it comes to golf I just don't expect my husband to be home at a specific time, since it all depends on how fast other people are on the course it can take so long sometimes lol
Hoa at at ae at at rest of are year is going home
Have you got iPhones? One thing that works for my spouse and I is to share locations with each other. If my husband is out somewhere, I can set the app to alert me when he leaves. It helps me to have an idea of when he’ll be home.
Love this conversation. Also, loved the baby haul. I’m due in Sept with our first, so it was super helpful! ❤️
Shawn what shampoo do you use ?
You are very cute, greetings from Ecuador. I listen to them to practice my english 💕💕💕
Just curious why didn't Andrew stay up with Drew the second night?
My husband and I never did weekend getaways with "friends" w/o each other. We always either planned with other couples or with each other. This type of stuff wouldn't bode well with me. The only thing we may do is maybe go out for lunch or dinner with a friend or two (and that is maybe once a month). I may be considered old skool. My children are you guys ages. They just have no interest in marriage...So I don't know what they would do.
I am Shawn and Andrew’s age and I am on the same mindset with you!
What is it with men who don’t shut cupboard doors
That was a loaded podcast. I do not agree with some of the things you were talking about. i must have a different relationship with my husband. We do not have kids keeping us up all night Thank God. When hubby eats I play my computer or wear headphones because the way he chews makes me ill. I am surprised your marriage has lasted. I would never survive the monthly check ins with out being negative. Hubby and i do not do that. They would not last.
When baby is sick mother decides ...
Love you guys. Thanks for these videos and great advice