Showing my husband that I honored, respected and loved him (he know that without a doubt) gave me comfort, I did not have to think "if only he knew how much I loved him, respected him," when he passed away, do not wait till it's too late, I am honoring my husband now by passing this important information on. RIP Tim💗🙏
Your a good woman and he no doubt knew this in you and how you felt. Without respect love cannot sustain and grow and I pity the youth that are being taught that it is empowered womanhood to disrespect men and themselves and it will lead so many to misery. Sorry for your loss and again: You are a good woman.
Soo true. It is a matter of disagreement often with my girlfriend. Sometimes she cannot understand that I need may be 2 hrs per day to do my own thing, all alone, in my corner without interacting with her...
Agree! I have never had to nag my husband. I ask and he does not because he feels he has to but because he loves me and knows I will do the same for him. I pray every morning and evening thanking God that I am blessed with a wonderful husband.
My wife and I have been married 20. My wife has done these 3 things consistently for the last 18 years. We have an amazing marriage and we are falling in love all over again. The 5 love languages book was a huge turning point in our lives. Kudos to this woman.
I take issue with the 5 love languages book. People had no issue in the beginning of the relationship bc they were just happy to be together. “Love languages change based upon what individuals are delinquent at the time of assessing their language. It makes the goalposts endlessly move based on what someone “needs” (wants) at the time. Instead of getting mad at someone for not doing what you want them to do, be the driver in your own life. For men we need to become the most respectable as we can be. For women you need to become as lovable as you can be. Both need to hit the gym, lost fat, gain muscle and stop eating garbage. When we each become what the other desires, love languages won’t matter (because they don’t)
This was a great video. Another suggestion I would make along with the lines of physical affection, is to avoid the “frump” syndrome which is basically after women get in a serious relationship, married, or even have kids. They tend to become frumpy so like they don’t comb or brush their hair, stay in their pjs all day, don’t wear anything cute to bed, and gain weight. Like I think we have all heard and read but men are visual people, and how you present yourself to your man is a reflection of that. Just another tip :)
Mad Jack (my uncle) used to say to me : 'The soul of man is divided into three parts: intelligence, reason and passion. Intelligence and passion are possessed by other animals, but reason by man alone.' - Pythagoras (c.570 - c.495 BC) women = Lacking in reason & logic
It's not mutally exclusive. If she's not attracted to me im completely turned off and ill be gone before she can blink. If she doesn't respect me, that's the same thing as love. Now if you're talking love as in sex, sex is necessary obviously because why would a guy date you if he isnt getting any? But with that said sex does comfortably take a back seat if other needs are met. If other needs like valuing him arent met then thats when sex becomes the forfront because it's like "youre not giving me what I want emotionally" so Imma get what I can from you physically and dip.
I'm glad that I found your channel in my early 20's ( I'm 23) bcuz modern feminism would have killed me. I am a very caring person and I always feel like being a housewife, or at least working part time would be a better option for me instead of hustling and they always told that I was wrong. Thank God I found you🙏
and because women mature emotionaly 11 years sooner than males but age physically 11 years sooner there need be 11 years younger than male to minimize conflicts and age gracefully together rathar than disputes and divorces
@@chris532008 That's a modern-day problem I think. People in my village would mature really young. Like 10 years the old child had the mindset of 30 year old. Obviously, things were tight back then.
She is correct. I knew that respect was the most important thing that I wanted from my wife even before I read the literature saying that it was a man's number one need. Also, yes, physical touch is my primary love language. Sex is an important part of it, but it is much more than just that. Quality time was my close second love language. I lost my wife to cancer, but her primary love language was acts of service.
@Sarah Belkerson Oh, is it your genetic memory that keeps reminding you of the "thousands of years" of serving you DIDN'T do? You stated your problem perfectly. You're selfish. No one is asking you to "serve" us. We're asking for a mutually giving relationship. You want respect, but offer none, and you will probably never learn because what all feminists lack is accountability. You'll just keep blaming the patriarchy or some other bullshit, then wonder why no guy wants anything to do with you. Enjoy your lonely life!
I am in shock, a woman being honest, and truthful about a man’s needs, did the world just stop spinning, is this a dream, a woman that speaks about a common sense approach to a successful relationship,or did l just fall off the planet. Whoever you are , thank you for sharing your brilliant words of wisdom, it takes true courage to speak the truth.
Yep. Never, *ever* take advice from someone that's not capable of doing in practice what they're attempting to teach you. You don't go to a white belt to learn self defense, you don't learn to shoot from someone that's never held a pistol, you shouldn't take relationship advice from someone that's never had a relationship last longer than 3 months.
@@yveje9720 He's mostly just telling them how a guy sees it and uses logic to explain results of choices. Many of the women approach him thinking men pick based on what motivates her. "I want someone to comfort me in my old age." Okay. But men want to play with grandchildren in their old age, or go fishing( or his personal equivalent thereof). A honeydo works against that goal.
This lady hits the nail right on the head. If women could realize and understand this, human life will definitely go back to basic principles of nature. Thank you Rebecca for bringing this absolute facts to light. You're a light to women. You deserve much more love 💘 and respect. If you were my woman, I would do anything for you that you would want me to. I would wash your feet, spoil you in anyway that you would want me to, I would worship you. Keep well 🙏
I absolutely love this channel! I grew up in a traditional house hold then in high school and college became exposed to a very feminist world I didnt realize how in trouble I was until I was engaged and how I needed to fix myself to be a better wife. Being newly married I definitely see how being submissive to my husband and letting him be the man makes him and myself happier! I do definitely need the reminders though especially with how much our society blurs the lines between women's and men's roles.
I like the coach metaphor. My wife explained it once as we went shopping before I started a new job. She was picking out my clothing and described it as my armor. She gives me the weapons I need to represent our family. My wife isn't my squire, she's my princess and I am her champion.
@@damonhart1268 Well, she is the mother of our children and does play a motherly role but I think the analogy falls short after that. I prefer to view it rather as seeing to each other's well being.
Thanks for the great reminders, Lady! Sometimes it feels like I am swimming upstream in a world that hates men, wants to turn them all into women, or just wants men and women to hate each other. Keep up the good work. This was encouraging! Gonna go love on my man🥰
I like your advice. I have some requests to you. Question is, 1. Do women like wathing porn & which type prefer maximum women? 2. Who enjoys more sex, men or women? 3. Who is feeling better on top position, men or women? 4. Do women like younger guys than themselves & why? 5. Thick or slim, which type girls maximum men prefer? 6. Rough or slow passionate sex, which type maximum women prefer? 7. Do women like body hair & which part? Please do some people’s survey and explain these. Thanks
I was thinking about this recently and it seems to me that what has happened is that, as men, we're brought up to be tough and are slowly starved of physical affection as we get older because only the weak need affection. The only time it's acceptable for us to have physical affection is when it is a part of sex. Then we don't know there is a difference between the two. Then we get ourselves in all sorts of trouble with promiscuity and infidelity because we don't know how to read our needs. For example, I know if I'm craving chocolate milk, I'm thirsty and I just need to chug some water and the craving will go away.
The 3 points you make: spot on. Just one thing: men who have their stuff together don't "desperately need" anything. If we did, MGTOW would not be a thing. These are things a quality woman must provide if she wants to get and keep a quality man. If she doesn't, he eventually "gets" that she doesn't really want him (as her lack of actions in these areas communicate this), so he packs up and moves on. Ladies, don't ask where have all the good men gone if you refuse to do any of these things for any man. I don't stay where I'm not wanted. Neither do most other men in my experience, quality or otherwise. The few that are weak and clingy, no one wants. 29 years together, 23 married, wife and I still very much into each other. Yes I get these from her even now.
All three of these are so 100% spot on and should be a given. It's such a sad fact that in today's western culture you feel guarded when you say it and worry that it's going to be too controversial.
My wife stopped giving me these things around the time she became a Vice President at work.She became the one who decides everything and criticizes everything I and our sons do. It disgusts me. My sons constantly complain how their mother now is.
@@WhyteHorse2023 He has also UA-cam channel (same name). His videos have usually up to 3 hours long, but are full of mind-blowing info. Diving through it will change your life (no exaggeration). Take the red pill.
I am so sorry. You deserve to be treated with respect. Just a suggested - next time she starts barking orders at you, tell her to “go back to the office, Mr. Vice President.” 🤨
you just got an involuntary change of roles in your relationship. Pray for your wife and for your marriage, pray together if you can, read how the Bible talks about "women honor your husbands, husbands cherish and love your wide like Jesus loves the church that died for us"
Men needing physical affection as their love language is so true. I only realised just how badly I needed it when my now ex girlfriend stopped all forms of physical affection and touch with me. It literally broke me and shattered my exsistance. I think a lot of women and society think men generally don't need this sort of thing or are not bothered about it but that is completely false.
I completely agree, especially since women have less problems with finding a man they can have intimacy with, but at the same time be either cruel or coldly practical with men while denying men real substance. They care little how much this hurts men unless it effects them directly.
This is my first time watching your video. My life was wasted trying to please a cold, sexless woman. Divorced after 25 years. I'm 56 now. I don't recognize the dating landscape nor do I understand the "modern" woman. I have no idea where to turn or what to do. I guess I chose poorly. I'm glad there are people like you to help younger men, and women understand what relationships can be.
Same. I'm 42, but honestly happier without the harpie in my life. Find things you enjoy, and work on yourself. When these modern women get to my age, they're looking for any simp they can get to provide for them. Just don't commit to any other woman...ever. they want your money, not your love.
Yep, going through a divorce after 22 years. She changed, went hard left on me. Had to have everything her way and could care less what it cost me physically, emotionally, financially. When I finally pushed back and asked where we could compromise, she got a divorce attorney. Fortunately I guessed she would do that and already had one. I could have had full custody of my 7 kids, I had enough dirt on her that it was a possibility. I settled for joint custody which is a win for men in this world. Now I'm rekindling the friendships with my guy friends that died during my "marriage". Would I like a woman in my life? Sure, but it's not worth the hassle right now. Working on myself to become who I always wanted to be first. Then we'll see about relationships when I no longer "need" someone.
@@ponderrous2659 I understand you 100%. I am currently doing the same thing: DJing, playing basketball, visiting family and friends. It is disappointing that it couldn't work, we couldn't have grown, honest, accountable conversations, and live a more balanced life. However the upside is we know better now how to create boundaries and balance.
Rebecca, Every Man who sees this video is thinking " Where are these Women?!!" You have spoken The Lords truth. The coach metaphor, outstanding ! Resect and trust is absolutely key! You can't Love someone unless you have that. You will raise some amazing girls someday. Best short vid. I have seen in a long---------time. thank you. Tom
These are gold, respect is a killer to relationships, if I'm disrespected I can't stay. To stay is to accept devaluation. I can leave someone I care about if I feel disrespected and unappreciated
This young lady is spot on. Everyone deserves respect but men need it like they need air. Men desperately want respect and women desperately want to be cherished.
Just like comedian Ron White always says, “I’m a pretty good dog, but if you don’t pet me every now and then I’m leaving the porch.” I told my Bride of 29 years about a year ago I needed it every other day to keep my head clear. God bless her, she stepped up to the plate. It's so nice not to ask or beg. I know that evey other morning she is there for me.
@Jessica Tanaka You are the one who broached the topic. Do you expect people not to share person experiences at all? I think the key is that I'm an, and I quote, "old guy". If a young bride said more or less the same thing do you really think your reaction would be the same? One of disgust and revulsion? My post, as of this writing, has 24 upvotes, and you are the only one that responded negatively, or at all. You are the first one to respond negatively when I've shared this story, as a matter of fact. Which tells me the problem is not with what I've said, rather, misandry and ageism is the problem.
@Jessica Tanaka Yes. By all means, let's keep repressing the conversation in public. Let's keep the 1950s in full swing. Let's perpetuate puritan stigmas. Healthy relationships require open communication - not only between partners, but between humans as well. Rather than continuing to leave "the norm" up to the imagination, it's *far* better to put it out into the open so "the norm" is understood. That doesn't mean "the norm" must be obliged by everyone - what works for one person may or won't work for another. What it *does* do is removes societal shame based on incorrect assumptions from a person's imagination. If you think that's "too much information", you and reality are going to butt heads - often.
WoW ! Absolutely brilliant exposé. I totally agree with you, these are exactly what was missing in most not to say all my previous relationships. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
WOW. Not once have I ever heard these things be pointed out, and it's absolutely blown my mind. I've never been able to put it into words, but you've done it for me. Love it
I've said this across multiple red pill and psych channels. Women confuse the word servitude and submissive and the definition of it with something opprrssive and controlling. Love. Real love. Agape love not romantical whimsical love is submitting yourself with trust and vulnerability before someone worthy of it. Even Jesus Christ knew better. He washed the feet of his own aoostles despite being their master.
Submission is not the same as subservience. Submission is given willingly out of love or at least respect. Subservience is given out of fear or danger. A lot of women mix these 2 words up. Men submit to their women and women submit to their men. Women submit a lot of their autonomy to his leadership outside of the home, and men submit a lot of their autonomy inside the home. Both sides need to be honored because both are equally important if they're doing their job correctly.
Rebecca...you nailed it. Yes, these are the primarily 3 major causes that destroy relationship and replace feelings with agony. I am on the verge of parting away from my 23+ year old marriage. And you have got almost all summerised in just 5 mins. video.
Men want a wife and NOT another mother. Frankly it pisses men off. I also know several men who do all the cooking because the wife can't boil water. In one case she is a trained doctor.
I hear you.. I know a guy who wants to be a stay-at-home dad while his wife will be the breadwinner (doctor as well). He has a marketing degree though so he'll probably work and then eventually at home.. Not super common but definitely an interesting dynamic!
Not "can't," WON'T! Most women have learned that if you act like you can't do something, then no one will expect you to do it, and someone with come to the rescue. Me learn to suck it up, and get it done because no one is coming to save you.
@@knownothing3999 Women who act like children or victims are not attractive to most men. It is a big turn off. Men want women tghat are feminine and supportive. I am glad my wife is just that and more.
This is an excellent video. I broke up with my X and asked for all these things and she treated me like something was wrong of me for wanting such. I just wanted to be loved and was punished with break up and not being a "man" about it. Thank you for treating us like men, we love you for it.❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad you found value in my video. I’m hoping more women will be encouraged by videos so they can make their men happy and feel loved.
@@RebeccaBarrett absolutely, and I showed this to a friend and she agreed that she's made these mistakes in the past and got rather melancholy about it. Looks like you made a difference with two people.😉
You're not the only one, sir. I married an incredibly beautiful woman I met at Church - I often refer to her as an Asian version of Jessica Rabbit. She was sweet. She was submissive. She was supportive. She liked classic rock AND the three stooges (she was 11 years my junior)! She was a lot of fun. And then she got pregnant. And she became someone I didn't know. I gave her grace while she was pregnant. While she was nursing. While she was starting her business. While we moved. While we bought and moved into a house. Then one day as we were preparing to move out of the house (we lost) she was going on one of her rampages and it occurred to me: "OMG, this is who she really is! She's never going to be that person I met, fell in love with and made a child with"! She had pulled a total 180 on me! All the while I was working a full AND part time job to try and keep us afloat financially. I also did most of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, household budgeting, driving and when she wanted a dog we got one and I had to take care of her too ( that dog's sleeping at my feet right now - lol!). Marriage counseling - I did it. Church attendence, Bible study groups? "Praise the Lord!" I'm in! I Gave her validation constantly (which, watching these pro-man UA-cam channels they tell me is the worst thing in the world you can do for a woman!). Finally, when our Son went off to college, she went with him to keep an eye on him. While we were in the process of figuring out how we would move forward in the relationship she came down with a really bad case of CoVid and passed away two weeks later (January 2021). My whole life for 20 years was centered around trying to make her happy, so now I have this big hole in me. I miss her greatly, but honestly my life is so much simpler and easier now. Working on fixing me. I put on 140lbs during the 22 year marriage, during the last three months I've lost 40lbs of it! It's an exciting journey of recovery - and the dog she made us get keeps me feeling needed, respected and loved! Still a lot to work through, though. Best of luck to both of us. Thanks for listening.
@@oldtymer9106 I appreciate that you honored your vows and kept your covenant with God. I've unfortunately seen many men, even strong Christian men, break and run in such situations.
@@riverdrop777 I've seen that too Stephanie, and I came very close to breaking and running in 2010, but God sent me a very clear message that he wanted me to stay in the relationship. Around 2014 there was a straw that broke my meek and humble nature and I threatened to walk. After that she calmed down and dialed back the rampages from a level 10 to a 5 which I could tolerate. It was an uneasy, unspoken mutual level of acceptance that we kept in place until she and the kid rode off to College in late 2019. There were weekly or biweekly conversations about our son or her mother's verbal abuse of her (she moved in with her Mom, and it was her Mom who brought CoVid into the home they shared. Her Mom passed away 9 days before my wife, also from CoVid ). It's been quite a journey/adventure. For those who trust in God and keep their end of the bargain he blesses them, one way or another. He certainly did with me. Take care.
Only if the man is being submissive, if anything men are shamed for NOT being that, even when it's absolutely beyond their will to be that. Happened to me in a narcissistic abusive family as the youngest, my twin sister being enabled to be very abusive and manipulative to me and me being forced to be 'submissive' in general, even though that wasn't my personality at all. I'm a lot like a sigma male, I have no problem assuming a fairly submissive role with leaders, depending on WHO it is, that's what they didn't get. I could be a leader, but ONLY if I truly believed I was the best leader, I'd say if I think another person would be better for the role. But I can't stand people that want to lead because of their ego, or because they're just a narcissistic abusive person. I'm naturally a strong, intelligent, 'independent' type with a strong will, patience, and discipline(more so than most adults when I was only 12 TBH), basically everything narcissists can't stand partly because they wish THEY were true intellectuals and things like that instead of having to fool others into thinking they're 'smart'. I ended being the scapegoat/invisible child/truth teller because of it. I seldom spoke truth because of how abusive everyone could be, often punishing me for months on end for calmly speaking truth in the most respectful way possible. I would only do it when it was really necessary and important to me, partly because I knew it most likely would have no positive outcome and just cause problems, but if there was even a small chance I could successfully hold my dad for example accountable. The total lack of self-awareness and accountability was unreal. Like he asks me if I want to go fishing with an uncle, and I jokingly make a play on word choices or whatever and make it VERY clear with a smile, tone, ect I'm joking, and he acts like it's serious. Then 4 months later he asks me and is clearly still so mad about before not understanding even after saying SEVEN times I was joking, but he's so stubborn once he sees something a certain way, treating his assumptions like 'fact' because God forbid he ever realizes and admits he was wrong to see something a certain way. He's almost shaking, asks if I want to go fishing, doesn't even give me a chance to answer, and says if I don't want to go I can just go anyway. Then 7 months later after I totally stop joking with him, he asks me why I never joke with him and takes is so personally, omfg. I tell him EXACTLY why and he still doesn't get it. Meanwhile he tries to play his 'jokes' seriously, and I have a great sense for when someone is joking, but he knows I know he's joking, and keeps acting 'serious'. Then the instant I start to actually wonder is he actually serious, THEN he plays it off like I'm being ridiculous to think he wasn't joking. That or jokes at my expense and I don't necessarily take it personally, I just don't think it's funny, then my brother in particular LOVES making 'jokes' at other's expense, then gets upset when people don't think it's funny, even though he's the worst at taking jokes at his own expense and everyone knows it, and that's partly why it bugs people. He's so narcissistic he expects people to ignore that and let him make jokes at other's expense, AND act like he's soooo funny to top it off, and not ever give him shit back. I don't react at all and he tries to act like I'm 'being ridiculous', I can be the most nonreactive person and people will act as if that means I'm 'upset' or whatever when they're trying to bait me or get under my skin. That or it's ONLY because I know how extremely patient I can be with the bullshit, but they absolutely can't take the slightest negative criticism, I literally don't even have to actually say or do anything, just LOOK like I'm bothered by anything they say or do in life or like I'm losing my patience and it'll offend them. Or here's a good one, my dad will say about someone else "He thinks his shit don't stink!". He can be so pathetic when it comes to being a people pleaser and almost act like he's a 'victim' because of it, like when I knock on the bathroom door when he's mid-shit but I don't know it at the time. He instantly flushes, doesn't even wipe or wash his hands, just pulls his pants up but hasn't zipped yet, when I could just use the upstairs bathroom as his way of trying to be 'considerate', even though I'd rather he not do that partly because I'm left with a shit-smelling bathroom, and it makes it hard for me to respect him. I REALLY wanted a dad I could respect but he didn't realize how hard he made that, even with me saying exactly what he could do that would help, like not be so passive-aggressive and childish and act like I'm the problem when I refuse to respect that, and convinced everyone else I'm the problem and not him. I try to downplay my reaction to the smell of his shit, but not necessarily try to repress it totally and don't think too much about that. He sees me react just slightly, and gets OFFENDED by that. So I'm either supposed to totally repress the reaction altogether or pretend his shit smells good I guess, I can't even believe the irony when he says FIGURATIVELY that someone doesn't think their shit stinks, and then LITERALLY thinks his doesn't. Sorry I wasn't going to go on a rant quite that long, but sometimes I get carried away once I get started lol. Recently watching videos on narcissism by Dr. Ramani made me realize how rare of a person I actually am, a lot of adults even can't spot red flags and bullshit, it takes a gifted kid to see that, even when I was only 8 but 12 is when I was really starting to realize it could be a lifelong problem if I don't try my best to call people out and hopefully get people to see the problems I did, and things that needed to change, but I didn't realize how hopeless it was to hold on to false hope and optimism as long as I have.
@@brians1793 It's funny that so many feminists push for that but then when they find a submissive man they're completely unattracted to him because deep down that's not the type of man that women actually want.
@@elmateo77 Yeah, I'm realizing one of the hidden intentions of feminism is to disrupt human biology. That and body positivity is basically brain-washing women into committing self-harm, like 's*xual liberation' ruining pair-bonding for good, and self-improvement is basically 'self-hate' when it comes to being overweight. It's like telling a hard drug addict they should love themselves for being an addict and not do anything about it, or a smoker, it's ridiculous. Then even top 10% attractive men are shamed for refusing to date morbidly fat women, even when the women themselves openly admit they're not attracted to men their size and won't date them. When you're an older guy that still has a strong love of women, like a fatherly tough love of younger women in particular, it honestly hurts to see how much it's actually hurting women. I've been realizing smart phones and social media is like a Trojan horse families take in that is ruining them within. Especially since the pandemic, it's like the whole country has become a massive digital 'tribe', but humans have a hard time comprehending past 120-150 people as being humans. I'm realizing I was really born a high-value male when it comes to things like intelligence, traits, ect. I can't help but feel like I'm an older member of a tribe and our women are under attack and being turned against us. IDK if I mentioned this in my past comment, but feminism incentivizing women to phase out fathers besides also ruining men and making men less attractive in the first place, is like a less blatant way of enslaving men than killing their wife and kids. It's almost more evil, because when enslaving the masses it's more ideal to keep them alive and convince them it's to their benefit. Much like people were convinced their smart phones are benefiting them, when it's actually part of what's enslaving us.
The basic sentiment is correct. But I would say that the coach is usually a older man that is more experienced, has knowledge to transfer and has already achieved success. A womans role is more like focused on managing equipment, logistics and making it possible for the man to focus.
There is a beautiful dance to the vision you put forward in this video and the one for women’s need. When a woman feels safe and secure she will want to honor and respect the man who provides that. If a man feels like you are on his team, he will want to listen to you and here your thoughts and needs. The affection needed by women is a great conduit to lead to the sex a man needs. The hard part is conversely, these can be very hard to connect when one or both are failing to serve the other in that way. If a woman doesn’t feel safe she will not respect her husband. If a mans affection is never reciprocated with sex he may be tempted to with hold affection. Humility and a decision to seek to care for your spouse in the way they need it can lead to an amazing complimentary relationship.
It's so true... my friends always tell me how lucky I am to share my life with such a generous and masculine man. I have always done the things you mentioned intuitively. Now I am realizing it :P.
Short and simple. Outstanding video. Rebecca, you understand us men very well. We're really not that complicated. Men, don't stay in a relationship with a woman who doesn't respect you. Women, don't get into a relationship with a man you don't respect.
This is the second video I've seen of yours today. You nailed it. For Me ( and Men like Me) these three things covers a lot of ground in Our world. I'd definitely provide for a woman offering and capable of these things.
Thank you so much for confirmation this is what I always advise younger couples, because so many don't understand this, then they wonder why their marriages fail!
I wouldn't emphasize so much "desperately". If there's no respect, then man knows there's no love, so it giant red flag, or rather say deal breaker. That's a huge NO GO for me.
This has my vote for the best UA-cam video of 2021. Can't believe the truth finally made it out there. Many thanks, Rebecca, for publishing this. Now we only need every woman on the face of the planet to see it.
I didn't even realise just how important physical affection was to me until I entered my first long-term relationship. I knew I enjoyed physical affection (not just sex, everything from sex all the way down to simply holding each other), but when I stopped receiving it, my relationship felt hollow, and it reached the point where I felt catatonically miserable. I since left the relationship, but it was a huge learning experience for me. Now I know what I actually *need* in a relationship, not just want.
In all honesty, you have way more logic/IQ and understanding than most western women and because of that, they probably wont understand what the hell you're talking about. ( or wont care since they have all the attention they need ) It's refreshing to listen someone not using " I feel like " in every sentence. Keep up the great work, and keep educating these modern 304's
Yeah, she might as well ride the wave for the next 4-5 years and it will be some completely new issue men and women in western culture will be facing. Then her and the rest of them can hopefully ride that if there is anything left to save.
One of your videos popped up in my UA-cam feed.and I'm so glad I watched it. I'm so glad you have an understanding and sense of compassion of what we as men feel. Thank you for not being biased and for telling what we as men and women need to hear
The hugging, kissing or playing with your hair and beard part of affection is more important than just sex, though. Men want to feel wanted. To me at least, its a way to show that my woman wants me and enjoys my company. If she's not showing that then I'll start doubting whether she wants a relationship with me or not, regardless of what she says. Men put much more value in actions than we do in words. The whole misconception that men are animalistic brutes that just want to hump at every opportunity is so tiresome. We need to be touched more than we need sex. We need to feel wanted by the one we want. Especially when we're in our prime and have grown out of the hormonal libido of our late teens and twenties. You realize that there are plenty of men so starved of this that they pay prostitutes just to cuddle, right?
@Roza Huber No they don't... I have no idea what gave you that impression, otherwise the marriage rate would be way lower. Maybe guys spend so much time with porn because they can't find a woman who'll give them that feeling? I mean, it's way harder for a guy to sleep with a girl than the other way around, especially nowadays.
@Roza Huber don't know about anyone else, but I'm a man, and I agree that porn is evil and makes a man less and less able to respect a woman, just the same way that promiscuity makes it harder and harder for a woman to love a man
more importantly, when a woman is submissive, the man and all he is and all he has, in turn, becomes totally hers. In other words, it's about investment and return.
What so many women don't understand is that "submitting" to a husband does not preclude them being a strong woman. In it's most basic form, the term just means that he's got a majority vote. Unless the man doesn't respect his woman, then she has the ability to influence things without turning into a bitch, and still be able to buck up and accept when he decides that "this is the way it needs to be". But if he doesn't respect her opinion at all, then it's just going to be a nightmare for her.
@Sarah Belkerson Grown adults such as the WW2 gen and before, call it "investment and return". Submission is the investment. Love, children, eternal life, protection, and good quality of life are the return. Societies that understand this live on...those that don't understand, have inadequate reproduction rates and die off. Darwinism is alive and well.
I wish this video was longer. I damn near cried at work listening to this video. I had to replay it 3 times. As a Man waiting for marriage, preparing for marriage life & desiring to be a father one day which is HARD in the era of the Modern Western Woman...smh. Thank you my sista for this video and many of your reaction videos. I subbed and shared some of your videos today. Very very Refreshing! I wish most women understood these simple yet powerful things. Have a Blessed Day Shalom. ✊🏽🏋🏽♂️✊🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
this woman restored my faith in women! I thought there were no more normal women out there. All so narcissistic, angry, entitled and often even nearing misandric. I have seen a few of her videos by now, always liked them. But for this one, I just had to say. THIS WOMAN UNDERSTANDS MEN. at least for me, she has described exactly how I feel as a Man! It's so refreshing to finally see a woman who isn't afraid to go against modern feminism (aka misandry) and just explain to the women who don't get it, why they are wrong. Much respect to you, Rebecca Barrett! keep up your good efforts!
This exact thing is what made me fall in love with my ex girlfriend and we were both extremely happy but than that frist one stopped and it all fell apart
It is a point that needs to be repeated, and contrary to the beliefs of many women: Good men are not afraid or shy regarding commitment, effort or personal sacrifice to a relationship. It is the lack of acknowledgement or support that kills us inside. A woman doesn't need to make herself a doormat or a full-time sex goddess (no reasonable guy ever asked for that).
Totally agree with you...most women just want to constantly argue and demand to be on a pedestal while you provide money/food/shelter...I should have been more careful with whom I married...
Yep, though as guys that's not something we are normally taught or are told to consider. Like you say that other places and you'll be shamed as a woman hater. So boys don't get the right message.
My wife did all those things when she was my girlfriend. Decided she didn’t need to after we got married, so I decided we didn’t need to be married anymore. You can’t expect your man to make you his number 1 priority for long after you make him priority number 27. Guys can put up with a lot of abuse, but at some point enough is enough.
As a newlywed (dated for 7 years though) I can say I've observed this to be true! My husband asks me the most for more respect, I've noticed our definition of what that means varies. So we've both had to have an open mind, he explains what he means and we learn about each other this way too. I support him by helping him find solutions, preparing meals and keeping home tidy so he can focus on work outside of the home, and any other tasks he may ask me. And physical affection is a big deal for me too, ladies try it with your husband! Hugs, kisses, loving touches like hair/head or arm/shoulders go such a long way! It's like saying a physical "hello I'm here and available for you" from both sides 💕🥰
It's like bill engvall was joking about "Boobs can make a long day short, and a bad day good. You could be having a really bad day. Boss been chewing your ass all day long. That girl next to you shows you her boobs and you're going to be like; this day was GREAT". Nothing wrong with being a freak, as long as its consensual and you're his freak.
I just got out of a very long relationship because Basically of all 3 of these things . I'm starting over @ 35. I have no kids and I'm hoping to be able to find that.
@@jasonswoger410 Yes same for me brother. I got divorced in 2011. Only fakebook was around. Been on an upward trajectory ever since. Traveling & cooking & saving & investing & reading & more traveling
Dude. If you want kids you're way better off becoming a foster parent. The moment you have kids with a woman you're done. She can take your kids, your car, your home and all of your money. Watch some vids of men who have gone to prison for not making child support payments.
Showing my husband that I honored, respected and loved him (he know that without a doubt) gave me comfort, I did not have to think "if only he knew how much I loved him, respected him," when he passed away, do not wait till it's too late, I am honoring my husband now by passing this important information on. RIP Tim💗🙏
Sorry for your loss
Requiescat in Pace
This actually made cry of just imagining that tim left this world with, at least, some peace and happiness
Your a good woman and he no doubt knew this in you and how you felt.
Without respect love cannot sustain and grow and I pity the youth that are being taught that it is empowered womanhood to disrespect men and themselves and it will lead so many to misery.
Sorry for your loss and again: You are a good woman.
Rip, I am sure he is.
1. Honour and Respect
2. Support
3. Physical Affection
@@jacqueandrew1033 - Do yo mean physical affection ?
Men needs to respect women, degrading, MONEY, sex
Also the very very same, needs to be shown to women as well
Also the very very same, needs to be shown to women as well
return to patrichial system abolish communism
Work with your hubby..dont nag him to death.Make him believe in himself. IF you do that us men will move mountains for you.
100% correct!
@@RebeccaBarrett also some peace and space
Soo true. It is a matter of disagreement often with my girlfriend. Sometimes she cannot understand that I need may be 2 hrs per day to do my own thing, all alone, in my corner without interacting with her...
@@fabricembida4526 exactly..we need peace.Send your emotional needs to the garbage bin for awhile.
Agree! I have never had to nag my husband. I ask and he does not because he feels he has to but because he loves me and knows I will do the same for him. I pray every morning and evening thanking God that I am blessed with a wonderful husband.
My wife and I have been married 20. My wife has done these 3 things consistently for the last 18 years. We have an amazing marriage and we are falling in love all over again. The 5 love languages book was a huge turning point in our lives. Kudos to this woman.
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I envy you.😢
You are very lucky sir! rare indeed
I take issue with the 5 love languages book. People had no issue in the beginning of the relationship bc they were just happy to be together. “Love languages change based upon what individuals are delinquent at the time of assessing their language. It makes the goalposts endlessly move based on what someone “needs” (wants) at the time. Instead of getting mad at someone for not doing what you want them to do, be the driver in your own life. For men we need to become the most respectable as we can be. For women you need to become as lovable as you can be. Both need to hit the gym, lost fat, gain muscle and stop eating garbage. When we each become what the other desires, love languages won’t matter (because they don’t)
This was a great video. Another suggestion I would make along with the lines of physical affection, is to avoid the “frump” syndrome which is basically after women get in a serious relationship, married, or even have kids. They tend to become frumpy so like they don’t comb or brush their hair, stay in their pjs all day, don’t wear anything cute to bed, and gain weight. Like I think we have all heard and read but men are visual people, and how you present yourself to your man is a reflection of that. Just another tip :)
Duh that's not housewives do that's the professional women I've noticed never in history was a housewife frumpy ! Go look for yourself
My mother taught me exactly this
The same goes for men and not just women.
@@n.d.m.515Of course. Not really relevant though. This is a conversation about women.
@@Fitmom312 True. But, both parties need to make effort to be healthy fit attractive loving etc.
I am a 63 man and I tell you this woman hit the nail on the head.
Thank you 🙏
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Mad Jack (my uncle) used to say to me :
'The soul of man is divided into three parts: intelligence, reason and passion.
Intelligence and passion are possessed by other animals, but reason by man alone.'
- Pythagoras (c.570 - c.495 BC)
women = Lacking in reason & logic
@@benlotus2703 ,
A word derived from Latin calls them:
*Those without (ratiocination)* .
I totally agree, well said, let's hope women are watching this channel
This woman needs to be protected at all costs. She gets it.
She will lie and cheat too to better her situation dude. It's called hypergamy.
the list is food, s, and silence.
see chris rock.
@@last7509 the 3 Fs
I think most women gets it. They just disregard the real world
The Force is strong in this one...but she's not a Jedi yet.
Men who can choose between love or respect; choose respect every time
Facts
Facts. Its our currency. Respect is love for us
@@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse I don't care about a woman's respect , I want my brothers respect and woman's desire that's it.
Truth
It's not mutally exclusive. If she's not attracted to me im completely turned off and ill be gone before she can blink. If she doesn't respect me, that's the same thing as love. Now if you're talking love as in sex, sex is necessary obviously because why would a guy date you if he isnt getting any? But with that said sex does comfortably take a back seat if other needs are met. If other needs like valuing him arent met then thats when sex becomes the forfront because it's like "youre not giving me what I want emotionally" so Imma get what I can from you physically and dip.
I'm glad that I found your channel in my early 20's ( I'm 23) bcuz modern feminism would have killed me.
I am a very caring person and I always feel like being a housewife, or at least working part time would be a better option for me instead of hustling and they always told that I was wrong. Thank God I found you🙏
Just make sure don't coincide the feminism and gender equality both are different in nature.
Good Luck 🍀 I’m 63 ugh 😑
and because women mature emotionaly 11 years sooner than males but age physically 11 years sooner there need be 11 years younger than male to minimize conflicts and age gracefully together rathar than disputes and divorces
Absolutely correct and if every woman follows it the relationship will be joyous and peaceful forwarded forever 💙
@@chris532008 That's a modern-day problem I think. People in my village would mature really young. Like 10 years the old child had the mindset of 30 year old. Obviously, things were tight back then.
She is correct. I knew that respect was the most important thing that I wanted from my wife even before I read the literature saying that it was a man's number one need. Also, yes, physical touch is my primary love language. Sex is an important part of it, but it is much more than just that. Quality time was my close second love language. I lost my wife to cancer, but her primary love language was acts of service.
Same bro!!! And every married friend of mine is the same too
My God. This lady totally gets us. We're very simple creatures, but 99% of women have no regard for even our basics.
And feminists wonder why men want to marry a woman like her. Attractive , feminine and respects and supports her husband.
@Jessica Tanaka says the banana gobbler.
@Jessica Tanaka Jezebel ? Did they just defrost you ?
@Jessica Tanaka I think you would have some tears of your own - reading the comment section on a clip like this..
@Sarah Belkerson Oh, is it your genetic memory that keeps reminding you of the "thousands of years" of serving you DIDN'T do? You stated your problem perfectly. You're selfish. No one is asking you to "serve" us. We're asking for a mutually giving relationship. You want respect, but offer none, and you will probably never learn because what all feminists lack is accountability. You'll just keep blaming the patriarchy or some other bullshit, then wonder why no guy wants anything to do with you. Enjoy your lonely life!
I am in shock, a woman being honest, and truthful about a man’s needs, did the world just stop spinning, is this a dream, a woman that speaks about a common sense approach to a successful relationship,or did l just fall off the planet. Whoever you are , thank you for sharing your brilliant words of wisdom, it takes true courage to speak the truth.
Like women out in radioland give a damn about what she said
Stop with the foolishness. The earth is flat lol.
Chameleon?!
I agree! Now we only have 3.5 billion females to educate.
Lol, don't worry guys it's only 1 woman who thinks like this, the rest are just as terrible as we already know
At least you are married and giving advice. Wrecks my head when single women are making content about something they don't practice.
Valid point
That's facts bro
Yep. Never, *ever* take advice from someone that's not capable of doing in practice what they're attempting to teach you. You don't go to a white belt to learn self defense, you don't learn to shoot from someone that's never held a pistol, you shouldn't take relationship advice from someone that's never had a relationship last longer than 3 months.
@@kuuryotwo5153like kevin samuels? Lol
@@yveje9720
He's mostly just telling them how a guy sees it and uses logic to explain results of choices.
Many of the women approach him thinking men pick based on what motivates her. "I want someone to comfort me in my old age."
Okay. But men want to play with grandchildren in their old age, or go fishing( or his personal equivalent thereof). A honeydo works against that goal.
This lady hits the nail right on the head. If women could realize and understand this, human life will definitely go back to basic principles of nature. Thank you Rebecca for bringing this absolute facts to light. You're a light to women. You deserve much more love 💘 and respect. If you were my woman, I would do anything for you that you would want me to. I would wash your feet, spoil you in anyway that you would want me to, I would worship you. Keep well 🙏
I absolutely love this channel!
I grew up in a traditional house hold then in high school and college became exposed to a very feminist world
I didnt realize how in trouble I was until I was engaged and how I needed to fix myself to be a better wife. Being newly married I definitely see how being submissive to my husband and letting him be the man makes him and myself happier!
I do definitely need the reminders though especially with how much our society blurs the lines between women's and men's roles.
God bless you, and give you a fruitful marriage, and prolong your days.
I like the coach metaphor. My wife explained it once as we went shopping before I started a new job. She was picking out my clothing and described it as my armor. She gives me the weapons I need to represent our family. My wife isn't my squire, she's my princess and I am her champion.
Aww... so heartwarming. You have a wonderful,loving, marriage!
Sorry but I'll pick put my own clothes thank you very much. I'm not incapable. I know a shyt ton of men are in that regard.
if she was picking out YOUR clothes , then she is being your Mommy.
I dig the name. Most people won't get it.
@@damonhart1268 Well, she is the mother of our children and does play a motherly role but I think the analogy falls short after that. I prefer to view it rather as seeing to each other's well being.
Thanks for the great reminders, Lady! Sometimes it feels like I am swimming upstream in a world that hates men, wants to turn them all into women, or just wants men and women to hate each other. Keep up the good work. This was encouraging! Gonna go love on my man🥰
I like your advice. I have some requests to you. Question is, 1. Do women like wathing porn & which type prefer maximum women? 2. Who enjoys more sex, men or women? 3. Who is feeling better on top position, men or women? 4. Do women like younger guys than themselves & why? 5. Thick or slim, which type girls maximum men prefer? 6. Rough or slow passionate sex, which type maximum women prefer? 7. Do women like body hair & which part? Please do some people’s survey and explain these. Thanks
God bless this lady she is the best
hell yeah!
@@abdulmazed9163 what da?.... thats a lot your asking for answers... but hey... ill do my research and will come tell... wait for it.
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We just not just want "sex", but physical tenderness, this is more appropriate to say.
Sex is part of it, but not the whole thing.
I liked her words better.
At least slap me on the back of the head call me an asshole as you float by.
@@brianjacobsen5762 Yeah, that silent treatment really sucks.
@@rickt1154 Not exactly That would be a perfect world.
I was thinking about this recently and it seems to me that what has happened is that, as men, we're brought up to be tough and are slowly starved of physical affection as we get older because only the weak need affection. The only time it's acceptable for us to have physical affection is when it is a part of sex. Then we don't know there is a difference between the two. Then we get ourselves in all sorts of trouble with promiscuity and infidelity because we don't know how to read our needs. For example, I know if I'm craving chocolate milk, I'm thirsty and I just need to chug some water and the craving will go away.
God bless this woman. She should be protected at all costs. Shes too imoortant to all the men out there.
The 3 points you make: spot on.
Just one thing: men who have their stuff together don't "desperately need" anything. If we did, MGTOW would not be a thing. These are things a quality woman must provide if she wants to get and keep a quality man. If she doesn't, he eventually "gets" that she doesn't really want him (as her lack of actions in these areas communicate this), so he packs up and moves on.
Ladies, don't ask where have all the good men gone if you refuse to do any of these things for any man.
I don't stay where I'm not wanted. Neither do most other men in my experience, quality or otherwise. The few that are weak and clingy, no one wants.
29 years together, 23 married, wife and I still very much into each other. Yes I get these from her even now.
I was going to say this, but at the very beginning she said "for relationships". Obviously if we're not seeking a relationship, doesn't apply.
Maybe stop treating women as if they're needy in the first place? Women want ADULT men, not children looking to be spoiled.
This is so true. No one has put it in words so simply and eloquently. Respect, Support and physical affection. Thanks lady.
All three of these are so 100% spot on and should be a given. It's such a sad fact that in today's western culture you feel guarded when you say it and worry that it's going to be too controversial.
My wife stopped giving me these things around the time she became a Vice President at work.She became the one who decides everything and criticizes everything I and our sons do. It disgusts me. My sons constantly complain how their mother now is.
@@WhyteHorse2023 He has also UA-cam channel (same name). His videos have usually up to 3 hours long, but are full of mind-blowing info. Diving through it will change your life (no exaggeration). Take the red pill.
I am so sorry. You deserve to be treated with respect. Just a suggested - next time she starts barking orders at you, tell her to “go back to the office, Mr. Vice President.” 🤨
you just got an involuntary change of roles in your relationship. Pray for your wife and for your marriage, pray together if you can, read how the Bible talks about "women honor your husbands, husbands cherish and love your wide like Jesus loves the church that died for us"
Kk
Well Mr. Gray... serious upside to your situation is, she'll be paying alimony to you while you enjoy your new girlfriend
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Nowadays, the 3 things are: 1. Go away. 2. Far away. 3. Stay away.
Well said!!! Honor/Respect, Support and Physical warmth,/affection/ love making!!!
Men needing physical affection as their love language is so true. I only realised just how badly I needed it when my now ex girlfriend stopped all forms of physical affection and touch with me. It literally broke me and shattered my exsistance. I think a lot of women and society think men generally don't need this sort of thing or are not bothered about it but that is completely false.
I completely agree, especially since women have less problems with finding a man they can have intimacy with, but at the same time be either cruel or coldly practical with men while denying men real substance. They care little how much this hurts men unless it effects them directly.
Lucky for you she did this before you married her. So much easier to resolve!
The fact that this even needs to be said is the reason men have gone their own way.
Exactly 💯
It didn't need to be said. This lady makes a living pandering to you idiots and y'all keep falling for it
@@bitchmood7658 wwll she's not saying anything wrong and just as long as her intentions are right it's OK.
@@Valconize this lady isn't wrong, but she's acting as if most women don't know this already. It's common sense.
@@bitchmood7658 and your name is?
This is my first time watching your video. My life was wasted trying to please a cold, sexless woman. Divorced after 25 years. I'm 56 now. I don't recognize the dating landscape nor do I understand the "modern" woman. I have no idea where to turn or what to do. I guess I chose poorly. I'm glad there are people like you to help younger men, and women understand what relationships can be.
Same. I'm 42, but honestly happier without the harpie in my life. Find things you enjoy, and work on yourself. When these modern women get to my age, they're looking for any simp they can get to provide for them. Just don't commit to any other woman...ever. they want your money, not your love.
Welcome to the club. Newly divorced after 23 years. Never again.
Yep, going through a divorce after 22 years. She changed, went hard left on me. Had to have everything her way and could care less what it cost me physically, emotionally, financially. When I finally pushed back and asked where we could compromise, she got a divorce attorney. Fortunately I guessed she would do that and already had one. I could have had full custody of my 7 kids, I had enough dirt on her that it was a possibility. I settled for joint custody which is a win for men in this world.
Now I'm rekindling the friendships with my guy friends that died during my "marriage". Would I like a woman in my life? Sure, but it's not worth the hassle right now. Working on myself to become who I always wanted to be first. Then we'll see about relationships when I no longer "need" someone.
@@cd-dw2ml I am about to go through a divorce and our 25th anniversary would have been in October
@@ponderrous2659 I understand you 100%. I am currently doing the same thing: DJing, playing basketball, visiting family and friends. It is disappointing that it couldn't work, we couldn't have grown, honest, accountable conversations, and live a more balanced life. However the upside is we know better now how to create boundaries and balance.
She has the wisdom of women in generations long forgotten. SHE GETS IT! YIPPEE!
Spot on. You read the minds of billions of men on this planet 👍
Rebecca, Every Man who sees this video is thinking " Where are these Women?!!" You have spoken The Lords truth. The coach metaphor, outstanding ! Resect and trust is absolutely key! You can't Love someone unless you have that. You will raise some amazing girls someday. Best short vid. I have seen in a long---------time. thank you. Tom
Exactly
Whoa! Well said
These are gold, respect is a killer to relationships, if I'm disrespected I can't stay. To stay is to accept devaluation. I can leave someone I care about if I feel disrespected and unappreciated
This young lady is spot on. Everyone deserves respect but men need it like they need air. Men desperately want respect and women desperately want to be cherished.
You're right
Just like comedian Ron White always says, “I’m a pretty good dog, but if you don’t pet me every now and then I’m leaving the porch.” I told my Bride of 29 years about a year ago I needed it every other day to keep my head clear. God bless her, she stepped up to the plate. It's so nice not to ask or beg. I know that evey other morning she is there for me.
@Jessica Tanaka All I mentioned was frequency. If you can't handle that, join a nunnery.
@Jessica Tanaka You are the one who broached the topic. Do you expect people not to share person experiences at all? I think the key is that I'm an, and I quote, "old guy". If a young bride said more or less the same thing do you really think your reaction would be the same? One of disgust and revulsion? My post, as of this writing, has 24 upvotes, and you are the only one that responded negatively, or at all. You are the first one to respond negatively when I've shared this story, as a matter of fact.
Which tells me the problem is not with what I've said, rather, misandry and ageism is the problem.
@Jessica Tanaka
Yes. By all means, let's keep repressing the conversation in public. Let's keep the 1950s in full swing. Let's perpetuate puritan stigmas.
Healthy relationships require open communication - not only between partners, but between humans as well. Rather than continuing to leave "the norm" up to the imagination, it's *far* better to put it out into the open so "the norm" is understood. That doesn't mean "the norm" must be obliged by everyone - what works for one person may or won't work for another. What it *does* do is removes societal shame based on incorrect assumptions from a person's imagination.
If you think that's "too much information", you and reality are going to butt heads - often.
Grow up
Jessica
WoW ! Absolutely brilliant exposé. I totally agree with you, these are exactly what was missing in most not to say all my previous relationships. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
It's in the wedding vows... Love, honor and cherish...
Need more women like you. God bless
Haha thank you. That’s the goal of my channel, to help more women in relationships. It’s a win win for everyone 🙌
Don't be fooled by a trojan horse.
@@mrbas5150 Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
@@mrbas5150 I am confused! Who or what is the trojan horse here?
Seriously. I don't get it. When you explain it to me be straight and clear.
@@carlsutherland3730 Rebecca. The idea being that she is faking it to get something off men (revenue from youtube's monetization).
WOW. Not once have I ever heard these things be pointed out, and it's absolutely blown my mind. I've never been able to put it into words, but you've done it for me. Love it
Just got divorced from a woman who believed that if she gave me any of these, it would be tantamount to subservient.
Feminism can ruins marriages.
Congrats!
Feminist
I've said this across multiple red pill and psych channels. Women confuse the word servitude and submissive and the definition of it with something opprrssive and controlling. Love. Real love. Agape love not romantical whimsical love is submitting yourself with trust and vulnerability before someone worthy of it. Even Jesus Christ knew better. He washed the feet of his own aoostles despite being their master.
Submission is not the same as subservience. Submission is given willingly out of love or at least respect. Subservience is given out of fear or danger. A lot of women mix these 2 words up. Men submit to their women and women submit to their men. Women submit a lot of their autonomy to his leadership outside of the home, and men submit a lot of their autonomy inside the home. Both sides need to be honored because both are equally important if they're doing their job correctly.
Rebecca...you nailed it. Yes, these are the primarily 3 major causes that destroy relationship and replace feelings with agony.
I am on the verge of parting away from my 23+ year old marriage. And you have got almost all summerised in just 5 mins. video.
Wow! Thank you Rebecca. You spoke to the heart of my frustration in the first 20 years of marriage.
Men want a wife and NOT another mother. Frankly it pisses men off.
I also know several men who do all the cooking because the wife can't boil water. In one case she is a trained doctor.
Yea they definitely don’t want another mother. Oh dang, that sucks
I hear you.. I know a guy who wants to be a stay-at-home dad while his wife will be the breadwinner (doctor as well). He has a marketing degree though so he'll probably work and then eventually at home.. Not super common but definitely an interesting dynamic!
Not "can't," WON'T!
Most women have learned that if you act like you can't do something, then no one will expect you to do it, and someone with come to the rescue.
Me learn to suck it up, and get it done because no one is coming to save you.
@@knownothing3999 Women who act like children or victims are not attractive to most men. It is a big turn off.
Men want women tghat are feminine and supportive. I am glad my wife is just that and more.
@@stevec3526 agreed. I, too, have what most would consider a good woman, but she's tried the "I don't how" routine around the house once.
This is an excellent video. I broke up with my X and asked for all these things and she treated me like something was wrong of me for wanting such.
I just wanted to be loved and was punished with break up and not being a "man" about it. Thank you for treating us like men, we love you for it.❤️
Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad you found value in my video. I’m hoping more women will be encouraged by videos so they can make their men happy and feel loved.
@@RebeccaBarrett absolutely, and I showed this to a friend and she agreed that she's made these mistakes in the past and got rather melancholy about it.
Looks like you made a difference with two people.😉
You're not the only one, sir. I married an incredibly beautiful woman I met at Church - I often refer to her as an Asian version of Jessica Rabbit. She was sweet.
She was submissive. She was supportive. She liked classic rock AND the three stooges (she was 11 years my junior)! She was a lot of fun.
And then she got pregnant.
And she became someone I didn't know. I gave her grace while she was pregnant. While she was nursing. While she was starting her business. While we moved. While we bought and moved into a house. Then one day as we were preparing to move out of the house (we lost) she was going on one of her rampages and it occurred to me: "OMG, this is who she really is! She's never going to be that person I met, fell in love with and made a child with"! She had pulled a total 180 on me! All the while I was working a full AND part time job to try and keep us afloat financially. I also did most of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, household budgeting, driving and when she wanted a dog we got one and I had to take care of her too ( that dog's sleeping at my feet right now - lol!). Marriage counseling - I did it. Church attendence, Bible study groups? "Praise the Lord!" I'm in! I Gave her validation constantly (which, watching these pro-man UA-cam channels they tell me is the worst thing in the world you can do for a woman!). Finally, when our Son went off to college, she went with him to keep an eye on him. While we were in the process of figuring out how we would move forward in the relationship she came down with a really bad case of CoVid and passed away two weeks later (January 2021). My whole life for 20 years was centered around trying to make her happy, so now I have this big hole in me. I miss her greatly, but honestly my life is so much simpler and easier now. Working on fixing me. I put on 140lbs during the 22 year marriage, during the last three months I've lost 40lbs of it! It's an exciting journey of recovery - and the dog she made us get keeps me feeling needed, respected and loved!
Still a lot to work through, though. Best of luck to both of us. Thanks for listening.
@@oldtymer9106 I appreciate that you honored your vows and kept your covenant with God. I've unfortunately seen many men, even strong Christian men, break and run in such situations.
@@riverdrop777 I've seen that too Stephanie, and I came very close to breaking and running in 2010, but God sent me a very clear message that he wanted me to stay in the relationship. Around 2014 there was a straw that broke my meek and humble nature and I threatened to walk. After that she calmed down and dialed back the rampages from a level 10 to a 5 which I could tolerate. It was an uneasy, unspoken mutual level of acceptance that we kept in place until she and the kid rode off to College in late 2019. There were weekly or biweekly conversations about our son or her mother's verbal abuse of her (she moved in with her Mom, and it was her Mom who brought CoVid into the home they shared. Her Mom passed away 9 days before my wife, also from CoVid ). It's been quite a journey/adventure. For those who trust in God and keep their end of the bargain he blesses them, one way or another. He certainly did with me.
Take care.
Respect, loyalty and a willingness to admit when there wrong.
accountability is their kryptonite
I had to teach my ex wife how and when to say sorry. She had no idea.
Respect should be enough for now, accountability is kryptonite. You'd be lucky to get a whiff of it.
This I can work with plus the affection. The submission part is ridiculous.
Thanks for the tips lady.
This woman is truly a crown to her husband.
God bless you, Rebecca
And God bless everyone reading this!
Jesus loves ya!
Amen
What u said was absolutely correct but l will add that men's foremost love is through his stomach
spot on. And that means, I should watch the "what women need from men" now.
This is one of if not the most accurate and mature top 3 things us men need from our women. Great job sis.
Thank you 🙏
Oh God I just released why most of the time I was so unhappy I just thought it was me
Is the word "submissive' even legal nowadays?
Only if the man is being submissive, if anything men are shamed for NOT being that, even when it's absolutely beyond their will to be that. Happened to me in a narcissistic abusive family as the youngest, my twin sister being enabled to be very abusive and manipulative to me and me being forced to be 'submissive' in general, even though that wasn't my personality at all.
I'm a lot like a sigma male, I have no problem assuming a fairly submissive role with leaders, depending on WHO it is, that's what they didn't get. I could be a leader, but ONLY if I truly believed I was the best leader, I'd say if I think another person would be better for the role. But I can't stand people that want to lead because of their ego, or because they're just a narcissistic abusive person.
I'm naturally a strong, intelligent, 'independent' type with a strong will, patience, and discipline(more so than most adults when I was only 12 TBH), basically everything narcissists can't stand partly because they wish THEY were true intellectuals and things like that instead of having to fool others into thinking they're 'smart'. I ended being the scapegoat/invisible child/truth teller because of it. I seldom spoke truth because of how abusive everyone could be, often punishing me for months on end for calmly speaking truth in the most respectful way possible. I would only do it when it was really necessary and important to me, partly because I knew it most likely would have no positive outcome and just cause problems, but if there was even a small chance I could successfully hold my dad for example accountable.
The total lack of self-awareness and accountability was unreal. Like he asks me if I want to go fishing with an uncle, and I jokingly make a play on word choices or whatever and make it VERY clear with a smile, tone, ect I'm joking, and he acts like it's serious. Then 4 months later he asks me and is clearly still so mad about before not understanding even after saying SEVEN times I was joking, but he's so stubborn once he sees something a certain way, treating his assumptions like 'fact' because God forbid he ever realizes and admits he was wrong to see something a certain way. He's almost shaking, asks if I want to go fishing, doesn't even give me a chance to answer, and says if I don't want to go I can just go anyway.
Then 7 months later after I totally stop joking with him, he asks me why I never joke with him and takes is so personally, omfg. I tell him EXACTLY why and he still doesn't get it. Meanwhile he tries to play his 'jokes' seriously, and I have a great sense for when someone is joking, but he knows I know he's joking, and keeps acting 'serious'. Then the instant I start to actually wonder is he actually serious, THEN he plays it off like I'm being ridiculous to think he wasn't joking. That or jokes at my expense and I don't necessarily take it personally, I just don't think it's funny, then my brother in particular LOVES making 'jokes' at other's expense, then gets upset when people don't think it's funny, even though he's the worst at taking jokes at his own expense and everyone knows it, and that's partly why it bugs people.
He's so narcissistic he expects people to ignore that and let him make jokes at other's expense, AND act like he's soooo funny to top it off, and not ever give him shit back. I don't react at all and he tries to act like I'm 'being ridiculous', I can be the most nonreactive person and people will act as if that means I'm 'upset' or whatever when they're trying to bait me or get under my skin. That or it's ONLY because I know how extremely patient I can be with the bullshit, but they absolutely can't take the slightest negative criticism, I literally don't even have to actually say or do anything, just LOOK like I'm bothered by anything they say or do in life or like I'm losing my patience and it'll offend them.
Or here's a good one, my dad will say about someone else "He thinks his shit don't stink!". He can be so pathetic when it comes to being a people pleaser and almost act like he's a 'victim' because of it, like when I knock on the bathroom door when he's mid-shit but I don't know it at the time. He instantly flushes, doesn't even wipe or wash his hands, just pulls his pants up but hasn't zipped yet, when I could just use the upstairs bathroom as his way of trying to be 'considerate', even though I'd rather he not do that partly because I'm left with a shit-smelling bathroom, and it makes it hard for me to respect him. I REALLY wanted a dad I could respect but he didn't realize how hard he made that, even with me saying exactly what he could do that would help, like not be so passive-aggressive and childish and act like I'm the problem when I refuse to respect that, and convinced everyone else I'm the problem and not him. I try to downplay my reaction to the smell of his shit, but not necessarily try to repress it totally and don't think too much about that. He sees me react just slightly, and gets OFFENDED by that. So I'm either supposed to totally repress the reaction altogether or pretend his shit smells good I guess, I can't even believe the irony when he says FIGURATIVELY that someone doesn't think their shit stinks, and then LITERALLY thinks his doesn't.
Sorry I wasn't going to go on a rant quite that long, but sometimes I get carried away once I get started lol. Recently watching videos on narcissism by Dr. Ramani made me realize how rare of a person I actually am, a lot of adults even can't spot red flags and bullshit, it takes a gifted kid to see that, even when I was only 8 but 12 is when I was really starting to realize it could be a lifelong problem if I don't try my best to call people out and hopefully get people to see the problems I did, and things that needed to change, but I didn't realize how hopeless it was to hold on to false hope and optimism as long as I have.
Lol.
I think so, maybe.
@@brians1793 It's funny that so many feminists push for that but then when they find a submissive man they're completely unattracted to him because deep down that's not the type of man that women actually want.
@@elmateo77 Yeah, I'm realizing one of the hidden intentions of feminism is to disrupt human biology. That and body positivity is basically brain-washing women into committing self-harm, like 's*xual liberation' ruining pair-bonding for good, and self-improvement is basically 'self-hate' when it comes to being overweight. It's like telling a hard drug addict they should love themselves for being an addict and not do anything about it, or a smoker, it's ridiculous. Then even top 10% attractive men are shamed for refusing to date morbidly fat women, even when the women themselves openly admit they're not attracted to men their size and won't date them. When you're an older guy that still has a strong love of women, like a fatherly tough love of younger women in particular, it honestly hurts to see how much it's actually hurting women.
I've been realizing smart phones and social media is like a Trojan horse families take in that is ruining them within. Especially since the pandemic, it's like the whole country has become a massive digital 'tribe', but humans have a hard time comprehending past 120-150 people as being humans. I'm realizing I was really born a high-value male when it comes to things like intelligence, traits, ect. I can't help but feel like I'm an older member of a tribe and our women are under attack and being turned against us. IDK if I mentioned this in my past comment, but feminism incentivizing women to phase out fathers besides also ruining men and making men less attractive in the first place, is like a less blatant way of enslaving men than killing their wife and kids. It's almost more evil, because when enslaving the masses it's more ideal to keep them alive and convince them it's to their benefit. Much like people were convinced their smart phones are benefiting them, when it's actually part of what's enslaving us.
Women turn to feminism because they think they've been slighted, that they need power. Women have always had the power.
This lady just made it..you greatly dig down to our hearts...👍
I totally agree with you. Thank you very much, Rebecca !❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
The basic sentiment is correct. But I would say that the coach is usually a older man that is more experienced, has knowledge to transfer and has already achieved success. A womans role is more like focused on managing equipment, logistics and making it possible for the man to focus.
Bingo ! 😉
Encouraging
But....a really good woman is more like a Majordomo who Counsels the King. Much respected by the King.
A woman aware of what, when, and how to communicate is able to encourage, inspire, and offer her perspective in an influential manner.
@@davidharrison1502 You mean a Lady? Well put. Certainly qualities worth aspiring to if a modern woman would be so inclined.
There is a beautiful dance to the vision you put forward in this video and the one for women’s need. When a woman feels safe and secure she will want to honor and respect the man who provides that. If a man feels like you are on his team, he will want to listen to you and here your thoughts and needs. The affection needed by women is a great conduit to lead to the sex a man needs.
The hard part is conversely, these can be very hard to connect when one or both are failing to serve the other in that way. If a woman doesn’t feel safe she will not respect her husband. If a mans affection is never reciprocated with sex he may be tempted to with hold affection.
Humility and a decision to seek to care for your spouse in the way they need it can lead to an amazing complimentary relationship.
It's so true... my friends always tell me how lucky I am to share my life with such a generous and masculine man. I have always done the things you mentioned intuitively. Now I am realizing it :P.
Much respect to you an he is a very lucky man GODblessyou guys
Your friends should recognise how a stunning supportive you are
just to say he seems to be really lucky too
Yes, she gets it!
So appreciate that you got right to the point and skipped all the mind games. Bless you.
You should add "Loyalty", Consistency" and "Femininity"
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That's a tall order in 2021. You'd be lucky to find on that had two of those.
@@kuuryotwo5153 Sad truth, moder women can be so pointless. 😒
@@alltheworldsastage4785 how to you feel about modern men? Do u think they have it all figured out?
Amen amen say it again
Short and simple. Outstanding video. Rebecca, you understand us men very well. We're really not that complicated.
Men, don't stay in a relationship with a woman who doesn't respect you. Women, don't get into a relationship with a man you don't respect.
This is the second video I've seen of yours today. You nailed it. For Me ( and Men like Me) these three things covers a lot of ground in Our world. I'd definitely provide for a woman offering and capable of these things.
That’s so great to hear. I tell women, men are not that complicated they just need respect, support and a little suga lol. My husband agrees lol
Thank you so much for confirmation this is what I always advise younger couples, because so many don't understand this, then they wonder why their marriages fail!
I wouldn't emphasize so much "desperately". If there's no respect, then man knows there's no love, so it giant red flag, or rather say deal breaker. That's a huge NO GO for me.
yeah dumbass keeps saying "desperately" and i see most women screaming back "thats needy!!". Ofc spoiled women think everything is needy.
This has my vote for the best UA-cam video of 2021. Can't believe the truth finally made it out there. Many thanks, Rebecca, for publishing this. Now we only need every woman on the face of the planet to see it.
AAAAMEN DAWG!!!!
I didn't even realise just how important physical affection was to me until I entered my first long-term relationship. I knew I enjoyed physical affection (not just sex, everything from sex all the way down to simply holding each other), but when I stopped receiving it, my relationship felt hollow, and it reached the point where I felt catatonically miserable. I since left the relationship, but it was a huge learning experience for me. Now I know what I actually *need* in a relationship, not just want.
Thank you, Rebecca! So many relationships and marriages could be revived or saved by understanding these facts. Lack of these things really erodes us.
Ugh was looking for videos on women’s needs for physical intimacy because my partner will not. And you are telling me he needs it. Breaks my heart.
In all honesty, you have way more logic/IQ and understanding than most western women and because of that, they probably wont understand what the hell you're talking about. ( or wont care since they have all the attention they need )
It's refreshing to listen someone not using " I feel like " in every sentence. Keep up the great work, and keep educating these modern 304's
Thank you, I really appreciate it. Trying to help these women out here see the truth.
Yeah, she might as well ride the wave for the next 4-5 years and it will be some completely new issue men and women in western culture will be facing. Then her and the rest of them can hopefully ride that if there is anything left to save.
Sorry to ask this...what on earth is a modern 304? Sounds more like a Droid model number or some form of robot.
@@llcooldrockindahouse4631
Type it on a calculator and turn it upside down. Rude word that is flagged by UA-cam.
@@llcooldrockindahouse4631
But a droid number is an apt description. Robotic sex, completely impersonal.
This is actually 100% accurate. None of us are looking for an other mom.
Man this is so refreshing and important to share. A sincere thank you.
You’re welcome, I’m glad you liked the video
You get it Sis ! That makes for a great dynamic in a relationship.
It’s so wonderful to know that there is a woman in this world that truly understands and gets this message. Hallelujah
Your channel blowing up every day. Hope is a great thing and is sorely needed my dear. Keep it up.
Thank you, yea it’s been a trip to watch
Spot on about the physical side, even down to the incidental touching.
Wow this was pretty spot on!
Thank you!
One of your videos popped up in my UA-cam feed.and I'm so glad I watched it. I'm so glad you have an understanding and sense of compassion of what we as men feel. Thank you for not being biased and for telling what we as men and women need to hear
You should really watch the queer kiwi's video. She i think gets it better.
@@RiyaSharma-fx5sl I'll definitely check it out, thank you for the suggestion
You are so brave to say these basic things. It takes courage to be truthful.
Keep it up!
The hugging, kissing or playing with your hair and beard part of affection is more important than just sex, though. Men want to feel wanted.
To me at least, its a way to show that my woman wants me and enjoys my company.
If she's not showing that then I'll start doubting whether she wants a relationship with me or not, regardless of what she says. Men put much more value in actions than we do in words.
The whole misconception that men are animalistic brutes that just want to hump at every opportunity is so tiresome.
We need to be touched more than we need sex. We need to feel wanted by the one we want.
Especially when we're in our prime and have grown out of the hormonal libido of our late teens and twenties.
You realize that there are plenty of men so starved of this that they pay prostitutes just to cuddle, right?
@Roza Huber No they don't... I have no idea what gave you that impression, otherwise the marriage rate would be way lower. Maybe guys spend so much time with porn because they can't find a woman who'll give them that feeling?
I mean, it's way harder for a guy to sleep with a girl than the other way around, especially nowadays.
@Roza Huber don't know about anyone else, but I'm a man, and I agree that porn is evil and makes a man less and less able to respect a woman, just the same way that promiscuity makes it harder and harder for a woman to love a man
Yes sir
You are dead right,Malcom !!!!!!!!!!!!
Rebecca, that was one of the best I've heard.
The concept of women being submissive is only offensive to women who are in competition with their s/o. Unfortunately that's most women nowadays.
more importantly, when a woman is submissive, the man and all he is and all he has, in turn, becomes totally hers. In other words, it's about investment and return.
What so many women don't understand is that "submitting" to a husband does not preclude them being a strong woman. In it's most basic form, the term just means that he's got a majority vote. Unless the man doesn't respect his woman, then she has the ability to influence things without turning into a bitch, and still be able to buck up and accept when he decides that "this is the way it needs to be". But if he doesn't respect her opinion at all, then it's just going to be a nightmare for her.
Yes but I wouldn't call them women. Just little girls in grown women's bodies.
@Sarah Belkerson If you can't accept your role, it's not gonna work out for you. Power sounds comtrolling to me and is not what Random Guy meant.
@Sarah Belkerson Grown adults such as the WW2 gen and before, call it "investment and return".
Submission is the investment. Love, children, eternal life, protection, and good quality of life are the return.
Societies that understand this live on...those that don't understand, have inadequate reproduction rates and die off.
Darwinism is alive and well.
Yes this is a great women coach, telling women we have to respect and honoured...
You are spot on, on all three points, very wise from a woman that is not very old.
#3 physical affection, is number 1, god i miss that.
In my case, my spouse, it's inexistent, she knows or does nothing.
I wish this video was longer. I damn near cried at work listening to this video. I had to replay it 3 times. As a Man waiting for marriage, preparing for marriage life & desiring to be a father one day which is HARD in the era of the Modern Western Woman...smh. Thank you my sista for this video and many of your reaction videos. I subbed and shared some of your videos today. Very very Refreshing! I wish most women understood these simple yet powerful things. Have a Blessed Day Shalom. ✊🏽🏋🏽♂️✊🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Thank you that means a lot. It’s great to see you all liking, sharing and getting the gems from the video. I appreciate ya
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@@paulav7961 haha I'm more of a big brother fan. What u think of love island I heard its the newest edition to better bachelor 😀
@@llcooldrockindahouse4631 - love island is hypergamy in action. There's lots of hot bods and empty heads. :(
Your content in this series was priceless and much NEEDED! # KEEP DOING WHAT YOU DO!
Wow! This is so rare! Liked and Subscribed right away! She gets it! Thank You Rebecca.
Thank you for the video. I agree with everything you're are saying with this caveat. A man needs to earn her respect.
this woman restored my faith in women! I thought there were no more normal women out there. All so narcissistic, angry, entitled and often even nearing misandric. I have seen a few of her videos by now, always liked them. But for this one, I just had to say. THIS WOMAN UNDERSTANDS MEN. at least for me, she has described exactly how I feel as a Man!
It's so refreshing to finally see a woman who isn't afraid to go against modern feminism (aka misandry) and just explain to the women who don't get it, why they are wrong.
Much respect to you, Rebecca Barrett!
keep up your good efforts!
Thanks Rebecca. I was definitely missing all of those from my wife. They were a factor in me leaving.
This exact thing is what made me fall in love with my ex girlfriend and we were both extremely happy but than that frist one stopped and it all fell apart
When I saw the title I was a little skeptical at first, but you indeed NAILED IT perfectly. Great job!
Giving equal love support and listening to each other what ever problems comes .
It is a point that needs to be repeated, and contrary to the beliefs of many women: Good men are not afraid or shy regarding commitment, effort or personal sacrifice to a relationship. It is the lack of acknowledgement or support that kills us inside. A woman doesn't need to make herself a doormat or a full-time sex goddess (no reasonable guy ever asked for that).
You are 100% right about that.
a women?
@@LisePlansandJournals You're such fun to be around, ay?
@@LisePlansandJournals Amended for your benefit. Maybe you can capitalise the start of a sentence for mine.
Feed a man . Romance him. Be faithful to him and no one else then you will have him for life.
Totally agree with you...most women just want to constantly argue and demand to be on a pedestal while you provide money/food/shelter...I should have been more careful with whom I married...
Yea the vetting process is so necessary. Can’t skimp on that or else you might get stuck with a nightmare
Yep, though as guys that's not something we are normally taught or are told to consider. Like you say that other places and you'll be shamed as a woman hater. So boys don't get the right message.
Nailed it, all of the points are spot on
My wife did all those things when she was my girlfriend. Decided she didn’t need to after we got married, so I decided we didn’t need to be married anymore. You can’t expect your man to make you his number 1 priority for long after you make him priority number 27. Guys can put up with a lot of abuse, but at some point enough is enough.
As a newlywed (dated for 7 years though) I can say I've observed this to be true! My husband asks me the most for more respect, I've noticed our definition of what that means varies. So we've both had to have an open mind, he explains what he means and we learn about each other this way too. I support him by helping him find solutions, preparing meals and keeping home tidy so he can focus on work outside of the home, and any other tasks he may ask me. And physical affection is a big deal for me too, ladies try it with your husband! Hugs, kisses, loving touches like hair/head or arm/shoulders go such a long way! It's like saying a physical "hello I'm here and available for you" from both sides 💕🥰
Lol, that slap on the butt ^-^ it's something I do all the time and he acts shocked and calls me a freak 😂😂😂
Bet he gets a big smile and a great day out of it :)
It's like bill engvall was joking about "Boobs can make a long day short, and a bad day good. You could be having a really bad day. Boss been chewing your ass all day long. That girl next to you shows you her boobs and you're going to be like; this day was GREAT". Nothing wrong with being a freak, as long as its consensual and you're his freak.
Not just a slap but a nice squeeze 😋
You picked up most weak part from video, actually men Don't want slap on back but want nice feminine touch anywhere.
I just got out of a very long relationship because Basically of all 3 of these things . I'm starting over @ 35. I have no kids and I'm hoping to be able to find that.
Your not starting Over....as a 35 yr old man(I'm 39) your just starting. Hit the gym stay debt free read books. Life is grand
@@o.c.g.m9426 na I totally agree I'm just getting started. But last time I was single there was no Twitter, no tinder, no nothing like that.
@@jasonswoger410 Yes same for me brother. I got divorced in 2011. Only fakebook was around. Been on an upward trajectory ever since. Traveling & cooking & saving & investing & reading & more traveling
*I hope you find that too. You're still young. For a man, the 30's are a great age to meet someone and have kids 😁
Dude. If you want kids you're way better off becoming a foster parent. The moment you have kids with a woman you're done. She can take your kids, your car, your home and all of your money. Watch some vids of men who have gone to prison for not making child support payments.
You are exactly right Rebecca. Thank you.
Absolutely on all 3 counts. I would add a fourth. A must for me is 4.) peace. A woman has the power to bring peace or war. She chooses every day.
My goodness I've found a channel full of common sense...very refreshing thanks.