I used to listen to this type of thing all the time, I now realize these are the signs of someone who is hyperaware and is focused on others a lot to see if they're judging them, lying etc. it's a lot of work that i no longer do. Instead i focus on my energy. Thanks for the video. Wouldn't have realized I've actually grown from that past Baban if I didn't click on this video
Stress and discomfort isn't always deception. It can also be conflicted feelings like: anxiety to being pressured, guilt over "tattling", fear of not being believed, anxiety in high pressure situations improperly created by interrogator.
Yeah. I feel like in interrogation situations, it's a lose-lose. If someone is nervous, then it's like, "well what do they have to be nervous about if they're not hiding anything? They're clearly guilty." But if they are completely cool and calm, then it becomes, "Oh this person is obviously a psychopath because they have no emotions. Look at how calm and collected they are despite the situation that they're in! Something isn't right about that!"
Its easier to tell if someone is telling the truth. especially if you know their baseline. THIS. what a great reminder to listen and actually get to know your loved ones before assuming the worst
You can never know what someone is truly thinking or feeling. If the Secret Service is so great at mind reading then why have they missed threats before.
@@jvanek8512 This is in regards to interpersonal communication & her experience interrogating people - not spy ops, secret intelligence, social media, & everything else the government does to investigate domestic & terroristic threats.
Cute for the internet, so was Donald Trump lying? Was O.J.lying? Use it when it counts for something. She does not need to convince the public. Convince the courts during criminal cases. Lawyer caping
Lol it's probably because she started off with the whole little warning about how people should talk less and listen more 😅 which was perfect. They were just immediately like 🤐🤐🤐
I used to play poker a lot. The best players are aware of these indicators during key hands, as well as other more 'poker related indicators' that something is amiss.
@@tomtom8786 if you’re commenting then you did or perhaps you should pay attention. Tsk tsk……can’t be hypocrites on msm, what happened to sitting apart, 6 feet. My goodness they do look foolish
It has irked me ever since pandemic that they have the anchors sitting that close just to film a show. They should just sit on each other’s lap at this point …
The fact that she asks them to expand there answer is what I do. When renting apartments my wife and I ask some open ended questions and wait for them to answer, and I always tell myself and my wife, we have 2 ears and 1 mouth we have to listen 2 times as much as we speak. Because the more time you give them, the more info you get on their personality.
Exactly, I also say the same thing, but also add, we have 2 eyes so we have to stare more and two hands which you need to rub on them while they talk to get a better feel.
Part of my job is business generation and I am better able to connect with, understand potential clients and steer that conversation by using what she’s talking about. Getting the person to talk, I call it active listening. The person I conversing with will provide words and phrases that stand out, avenues to take the conversation. It works everytime.
I’m the biggest evy fan she saved my life with my toxic neighbours buy her book you will never regret the knowledge you get from this book it made me wiser . I’m so thankful to her .
@@JJ-kf4kc always watch your surroundings the people around you always know who’s around you especially when it involves security guards bullying you just because they have a friend who s a security guard never abuse authority position s . Evy was a security enforcement officer for a reason and her knowledge has helped me so did smile and wave . I use this often
People either have intuition or perception or they don’t. Studying a person may work fine if you are hiring someone but it’s basically common sense, which so many people don’t have.
Everyone has the ability of intuition or perception. Some people either have a naturally higher level or they are more naturally inclined to rely on it. Learning and practicing how to effectively read people is simply the whetstone that sharpens the sword.
If you are anxious and trying to make eye contact here are some variables but not limited to: 1. You have a higher complexity that the person you are talking to (meaning you are probably smarter than the simple minded person in front of you, your mind doesn't want to connect with them because the lack of complexity on their side, thus your mind forces you to look away or become anxious to go get away from them) 2. People's behaviors are not synchronize with their voice (they maybe lying to you or have an attraction towards you (specially if the male is secretly attracted to you but doesn't tell you hence you become anxious). 3. (Females to males) Your instincts makes sure that you don't connect eye contact with any male because this can cause attraction, your instincts doesn't want to surrender to any chimp, hence you instinctively avoid contact without YOU knowing, ay? The only way you will surrender your eye contact to a male is if they have captivated your instincts. These are a few keys 4. You are observing rather than having tension with the person, mainly the reason here is because you are an observer and point number 1 (1.) applies with this point as well, meaning, because of the lack of complexity the person you are talking to doesn't challenge you hence you lose tension and become observing rather than being a part of the conversation. For you, the only way to maintain eye contact is if you are in autopilot (non observing) and the way to be in autopilot for most of the conversion (tension) is if you are speaking to someone who captures your complexity. When you find someone with the same complexity as you, autopilot (tension) will become automatic and you wont realize you are making eye contact because the conversation is captivating you to speak and connect rather than observe. I'm a human behaviorist, what she is saying is barely touching the water, she probably has a higher IQ than your average person, for me, I was born with the ability to predict complex patterns by nature (also high IQ). ;)
I totally agree with this....they know everything...and they will keep our secrets to keep us safe! It's usually up to the other mate to read between the lines and figure out what's going on...
@NM-mc4rjcorrect! That’s one of the key principles of the Columbo technique, named after everyone’s favorite detective. When you appear naive and unthreatening, people put their guards down. They think they’re in control while you’re actually in the driver seat.
Very interesting! Years ago, I worked as a main caregiver in a daycare. We were told that we were never allowed to cross our arms. The reasoning was because it made a person appear closed off, upset, rude, or incommunitive. Honestly, it was none of the above for us. It was/is simply comfortable.
Right, I actual cross my arms becuase it hides my chest and belly and it is comfortable. I also break eye contact constantly do to I am visualizing my story, doesn't mean I am lying LOL
I was in a meeting with my arms folded and the manager happily shouts out that was being closed. Nothing could have been further from the truth. Unfortunately labels get put on people by so called “experts”. Great comedy material and someone should make a spoof of this whole body language nonsense.
@@Jonathan2x6 everyone has their own experiences so when I see someone arms closed like that I perceive it as standoffish based on past experience even if it's not correct for that current situation. You're right body language experts are frauds.
This has happened to me 2 times now my experience if someone is not telling you the truth sometimes they will look down at the floor and will not be able to look you in your eyes. It is sad when someone you love cannot just be up front and honest with you.
However, you need to know their baseline before coming to that conclusion. People with ADD often get distracted when looking at the person. It's easier to look off into space and only glance at the person they're conversing with. If the speaker's ADD is under control, this won't be nearly as pronounced as in someone who is struggling with it at the time.
I had the ability to read people since age 10. The older I've gotten, the more sharpened my senses to ditched BS have gotten. It helped me not to do so many mistakes that majority people do. At the same time, made me also see saw many dishonest people are out there which can be sometimes demotivating especially when you notice it after few exchanged sentences.
I highly recommend reading Malcolm Gladwell’s “Talking to Strangers”. This book provides excellent insights body language interpretation misconceptions and myths.
@@jvanek8512she never dressed that way when she was an agent, see her photos from during that time, she was such a plain Jane. Since she left all of a sudden she’s started dressing very ‘glamorous’ and got some surgery because she looked very ordinary before.
I get really nervous easily though. I have ADHD so I’m always fidgeting and I have social anxiety so sometimes it’s hard for me to make eye contact and keep it. Videos like these are interesting but at the same time they make me paranoid bc I probably give off most of these signs when I don’t even mean to. I’m just an anxious person in general, it sucks.
It is VERY important not to let a person’s initial “resistance” throw you off and cause you to quit or judge them. Often, someone just wants to talk to you a little more and get to know you a little better before they give you out any kind of REAL info. The more you interact with the person, the better you’ll get at creating a “comfortable” mood with that person that will lead to them to trust you and share vulnerable info with you. As far as the tips to identify telling the truth, agree, except the part about "he said, she said quotes", being a sign of truth....these can be totally made up, there's plenty of proof, just look at office politics....regarding being more “subtle” while observing… agreed.
Sometimes I can tell when people are lying if they can’t provide me enough details or when you try & ask probing questions to get more detailed information they either say something that doesn’t make sense or they get flustered and ask me “Why are you asking me so many questions?” When you’re making up a quick lie, your story sometimes gets lost because you’re trying to hard to make it make sense.
Details are the death of any lie! If a person cannot provide you enough details, odds are they are making something up and because it’s hard to keep track of a bunch of made up details, the story will be vague. Or they’ll give you enough details that they can’t keep track of it all and it makes it all the easier to catch them in a lie. So getting details will always be the best weapon against a liar.
Bad liars tell transparent falsehoods and then bully you into believing them. That’s easy to spot. A skilled liar tells you something that you’re already inclined to believe, tells you the truth knowing, and intending, that you won’t believe them, or tells you what you want to hear while telling somebody else something completely different. It’s not easy to detect a good liar. Some liars are compulsive liars. They lie all the time, even when it serves no purpose, almost as if they don’t want you to take them seriously. It’s a good way to hide the truth from you.
@@perseypoppins I think that there's a compulsive component to it. I also think too, that if they establish themselves as untrustworthy, nobody will expect them to tell the truth, and that relieves them of some responsibility.
Very Interresting Indeed ... especially during Electoral Debates & with People in general. I would add the eyes movements also ... if the speaker avoids to look ... it is obvious that he or she is lying.
Communication styles vary greatly among individuals. While some of the points she makes hold true to some extent for certain people, it’s essential to recognize that this isn’t universally applicable. Our interactions involve people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and languages. Moreover, it’s a reality that some individuals possess a remarkable talent for fabricating stories in a manner that conceals their deception. Detecting their falsehoods can be quite challenging
I am wondering why this is being discussed today? When researching a purchase it shows the publication in late 2020 or early 2021. Where has it all been since then?
You can give general indicators of lying like this lady gave, but it's certainly a skill that not everyone has because there are plenty of exceptions. Like she said, they have to establish a baseline so you know them well enough. What is a sign of lying for one person isn't for another.
When someone is lying the blink constantly. You know who blinks like crazy when they talk.....that pastor guy Joel Olsteen.....have never seen anybody blink like thatcguy does when he speaks.
I was about to mention this. It means someone is nervous, but not necessarily lying. I recorded myself making a particular meal. I never make videos of myself. When I went back and watched it, I was blinking like crazy! I didn't realize as I was recording how much I blinked. I wasn't lying about the food, lol. I was just nervous being on video.
Some solid advice, especially regarding the verbal cues. However, it has been proven that evaluating truth from lies using physical affectations and tics is often not reliable and easily misread. Though the physical cues are exhibited by many people who are lying or being evasive, there are many people who display them as a matter of mood or having a naturally expressive or idiosyncratic personality. But, more significantly, is the phenomenon where innocent interviewees, with no reason to feel guilt or fear incrimination, just by virtue of being in a interrogative situation, become anxious, nervous and stressed. Those who have under or maladapted socio-communication skills especially exhibit this reaction. They see the dynamic as a confrontation or test. So, they often showcase many of the cues that can be perceived as evasive or lying but really it is their way of coping.
That’s why it’s so important to first understand a person’s behavioral baseline. It helps you better understand the unique characteristics of the person you’re talking to. Not only that, a lot of experts are training people not to focus on deceptive vs nondeceptive. But on comfort vs discomfort. Because that’s all what body language and even a polygraph can really tell you. So if someone is displaying a cluster of discomfort indicators that followed a specific stimuli such as a specific question, that doesn’t always mean a person is being deceptive, it simply means the questioner needs to verify that specific area of concern a little more to determine what caused the stress signals to appear.
I’d like to know what they do if they catch someone lying. Do they call them out right away or just let them keep lying? I have caught ppl in lies before and it’s golden info as far as how I communicate with them going forward. But I don’t usually call them out.
Can she teach us to read ourselves - i.e., not go into situations assuming it’s everyone else that’s a threat. And empathy and active listening is not reading people. This is clap-trap, man.
Meditation will help you bring this awareness if you’re ready for the dedication to practice daily. Observation of your own emotions will help you identify other people’s. If you take energy healing workshops, it’ll help you to identify the red flags too. There are books to read that will help, but mostly it’s awareness and observation of patterns.
Interest take on this. It will be force self-awareness and you know for sure to be careful, I mean you'll be saying it differently I'm sure but I love that you point this out.
I've learn that in the Army, sad to say that I could till read people just like this fore Secret Service and what I can say that some I see what there all about in seconds and the other are hard to read because they have something to hide...this from my family and some of my friends and former co-workers. Presently I still read people this just like how I learn in the Army.
*The standard is ultimately if someone has something severe to hid, they either talk an unusual amount or they barely talk at all.* Ironically, the debating and casual conversation I've practiced online for well over 20 years *has taught me more about the psychology of the human mind than 10 years in college can teach a doctor of psychiatry.* The last 2 generations grew up partially or completely on the internet and are walking billboards of their thoughts, lies, insecurities, weaknesses and well beyond. *They're also more that accustom to being dishonest and getting away with it because of the anonymity of the internet.*
Love her, been watching her for years and listening to her podcasts. She is definitely a kickass chic. Go watch the podcast with her and ""women of impact'." With Tom Bailyu's wife.... Thank me later.
It’s important to note that they are NOT psychologists or psychiatrists. Just a bunch of tips and ‘things to look out for’ rule book passed down to them. Plus, it makes for a great video.
People who are neurodivergent fidget better known as 'stimming' and routinely break eye contact or don't make eye contact. ND people are a significant portion of the population, so make sure yoou are not judging someone with blanket ideals.
@@freddycalipari4242 The disprovability misses the mark on replicability in peer review. Looking for validation is confirmation bias, not science - a discernment that's pretty critical when it comes to the validity of expert witness testimony.
Yeah I’m not sure I fully believe these bc many people exhibit these signs (myself included) for various reasons that are not related to lying. I think when people follow these rules, if they don’t already have some discernment then they are constantly going to misread people 😂
@@kaleyjoplinRAWRR Completely agree - in Statistics it's called confirmation bias. You see it quite often in folks who 'go with their gut,' which usually turns out to be flagrantly & dangerously wrong.
She has seen a lot - so she just knows what she’s looking at . The most valuable thing she taught me is - ppl fall into trust. That’s going to save a lot of lives .
This is actually quite an insightful way to read people. However, there are some situations in her cues that doesn't necessarily apply because sometimes people may really need to think longer for their rationale or it's because their timing of their rationale is attributed to their individual condition.
How can a guy who owes 100s millions of dollars and literally grifts every chance he gets get a basic security clearance - because these things are automatic disqualifiers. Thats what I dont understand
“I’m gonna go home and judge my family” hahahaha she’s the realest
She wasnt lying
She protected people lol.
And?
TIMESTAMP
and the follow up "How is that different from usual?" haha
I used to listen to this type of thing all the time, I now realize these are the signs of someone who is hyperaware and is focused on others a lot to see if they're judging them, lying etc. it's a lot of work that i no longer do. Instead i focus on my energy. Thanks for the video. Wouldn't have realized I've actually grown from that past Baban if I didn't click on this video
Sho right! I aint got time for this. Wayy to many other important things to tend to. Im not an investigator nor a detective 😂
Great job! Looks like you've evolved over the years into baban"deeper"rathore
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Exactly, agreed.
Insightful. ❤
Stress and discomfort isn't always deception. It can also be conflicted feelings like: anxiety to being pressured, guilt over "tattling", fear of not being believed, anxiety in high pressure situations improperly created by interrogator.
Yeah. I feel like in interrogation situations, it's a lose-lose. If someone is nervous, then it's like, "well what do they have to be nervous about if they're not hiding anything? They're clearly guilty." But if they are completely cool and calm, then it becomes, "Oh this person is obviously a psychopath because they have no emotions. Look at how calm and collected they are despite the situation that they're in! Something isn't right about that!"
Baseline!!!
Yup
Or the person had ptsd, anxiety, overload, they can’t concentrate etc
She explained that
Its easier to tell if someone is telling the truth. especially if you know their baseline. THIS. what a great reminder to listen and actually get to know your loved ones before assuming the worst
You can never know what someone is truly thinking or feeling. If the Secret Service is so great at mind reading then why have they missed threats before.
@@jvanek8512 This is in regards to interpersonal communication & her experience interrogating people - not spy ops, secret intelligence, social media, & everything else the government does to investigate domestic & terroristic threats.
Cute for the internet, so was Donald Trump lying? Was O.J.lying? Use it when it counts for something. She does not need to convince the public. Convince the courts during criminal cases. Lawyer caping
Right. It all comes down to listening well. ❤
Yeah, and unless I missed it, she didn't really explain how to get an accurate baseline if the person is lying to you from the get go.
Beautiful segment! One of the main things I liked about it was that it was comprehensive and that they gave her time to explain the points.
They usually interrupt people. But they weren't going to interrupt this one!
Lol it's probably because she started off with the whole little warning about how people should talk less and listen more 😅 which was perfect. They were just immediately like 🤐🤐🤐
@@LindaC616That's because she is literally them, she is explaining what a reporter does.
@andhewonders "literally". Found the millennial ☝️
@@LindaC616 In the sense of I've been a fan of David Bowie since 1975 you are correct.
I used to play poker a lot. The best players are aware of these indicators during key hands, as well as other more 'poker related indicators' that something is amiss.
Random: The anchors are sitting too close together.
Agreed! I thought they were suppose to be further apart Good observation
100% they look like they’re on an economy row on a flight lol
Why does it bother u so much how close they sit next to each other? I haven't even noticed
@@tomtom8786 if you’re commenting then you did or perhaps you should pay attention. Tsk tsk……can’t be hypocrites on msm, what happened to sitting apart, 6 feet. My goodness they do look foolish
It has irked me ever since pandemic that they have the anchors sitting that close just to film a show. They should just sit on each other’s lap at this point …
The fact that she asks them to expand there answer is what I do. When renting apartments my wife and I ask some open ended questions and wait for them to answer, and I always tell myself and my wife, we have 2 ears and 1 mouth we have to listen 2 times as much as we speak. Because the more time you give them, the more info you get on their personality.
Not only that but the more information they provide, the easier it is to catch them in a lie. Details are the death of any lie.
Exactly, I also say the same thing, but also add, we have 2 eyes so we have to stare more and two hands which you need to rub on them while they talk to get a better feel.
Part of my job is business generation and I am better able to connect with, understand potential clients and steer that conversation by using what she’s talking about. Getting the person to talk, I call it active listening. The person I conversing with will provide words and phrases that stand out, avenues to take the conversation. It works everytime.
*every time
Any tips on how someone could get better at practicing these habits of understanding?
Some people just have a discerning spirit.
THIS!
☑️ Correct. But some of us ignore our gut and end up giving people the benefit of the doubt, only to have MASSIVE regret later.
Correct
yep, that's me
🎉 me
I’m the biggest evy fan she saved my life with my toxic neighbours buy her book you will never regret the knowledge you get from this book it made me wiser . I’m so thankful to her .
What happened with your neighbor?
Do tell. What happened with you and your neighbors that she saved you?
@@JJ-kf4kc always watch your surroundings the people around you always know who’s around you especially when it involves security guards bullying you just because they have a friend who s a security guard never abuse authority position s . Evy was a security enforcement officer for a reason and her knowledge has helped me so did smile and wave . I use this often
*Evy
*fan. She (to fix your run-on sentence)
*neighbours. Buy (another run-on)
*book. You (another run-on)
*book. It (another run-on)
*wiser. I'm
*her.
@@alvallac2171I'm thinking that English isn't this person's first language.
She’s so smart it took 3 Today geniuses to interview her
😂😂😂
lol
It’s a tv show with 3 hosts
@@5995Jiol IKR!? Theyre so stupid
Very interesting but some of us with ADHD fidget no matter what😂
Exactly. Which is why this advice is not that helpful
That's why she said she has to know your baseline first.
❤😂😂😂
That's where baseline questioning comes in.
@@LiuGondorthis right here. If a person always figets, then figetting isn't a sign they are lying
People either have intuition or perception or they don’t. Studying a person may work fine if you are hiring someone but it’s basically common sense, which so many people don’t have.
Perhaps. But a lot of this is taught as well.
Everyone has the ability of intuition or perception. Some people either have a naturally higher level or they are more naturally inclined to rely on it. Learning and practicing how to effectively read people is simply the whetstone that sharpens the sword.
That's what it comes down to at the end
Well, actually the ability to really listen to the person. That is most important.
@@MovedByBeautyNo. most important is body languages. Words are hollow
What if you just get anxious making eye contact with any conversation 😅 social anxiety
That's where the baseline questioning applies.
If you are anxious and trying to make eye contact here are some variables but not limited to:
1. You have a higher complexity that the person you are talking to
(meaning you are probably smarter than the simple minded person in front of you, your mind doesn't want to connect with them because the lack of complexity on their side, thus your mind forces you to look away or become anxious to go get away from them)
2. People's behaviors are not synchronize with their voice (they maybe lying to you or have an attraction towards you (specially if the male is secretly attracted to you but doesn't tell you hence you become anxious).
3. (Females to males) Your instincts makes sure that you don't connect eye contact with any male because this can cause attraction, your instincts doesn't want to surrender to any chimp, hence you instinctively avoid contact without YOU knowing, ay? The only way you will surrender your eye contact to a male is if they have captivated your instincts.
These are a few keys
4. You are observing rather than having tension with the person, mainly the reason here is because you are an observer and point number 1 (1.) applies with this point as well, meaning, because of the lack of complexity the person you are talking to doesn't challenge you hence you lose tension and become observing rather than being a part of the conversation.
For you, the only way to maintain eye contact is if you are in autopilot (non observing) and the way to be in autopilot for most of the conversion (tension) is if you are speaking to someone who captures your complexity.
When you find someone with the same complexity as you, autopilot (tension) will become automatic and you wont realize you are making eye contact because the conversation is captivating you to speak and connect rather than observe.
I'm a human behaviorist, what she is saying is barely touching the water, she probably has a higher IQ than your average person, for me, I was born with the ability to predict complex patterns by nature (also high IQ). ;)
The Secret Service would make great premarital counselors they would discover your mate is liar before you do too late!
Omggg I just thought the same thing 😂
*counselors. They (to fix your run-on sentence)
@@alvallac2171 I'm sure ppl could've figured it out without your help.
I totally agree with this....they know everything...and they will keep our secrets to keep us safe! It's usually up to the other mate to read between the lines and figure out what's going on...
Show me someone that doesn’t lie. Also this is all worldly wisdom
I learned profiling in military. Every person should learn the basics.
@NM-mc4
HA!!!!! Good one! 😂😂😂😂
@NM-mc4rjcorrect! That’s one of the key principles of the Columbo technique, named after everyone’s favorite detective. When you appear naive and unthreatening, people put their guards down. They think they’re in control while you’re actually in the driver seat.
"Just one more thing"...as Columbo would say...
I can see right through people
@NM-mc4rj
Absolutely agree 💯
Very interesting!
Years ago, I worked as a main caregiver in a daycare.
We were told that we were never allowed to cross our arms.
The reasoning was because it made a person appear closed off, upset, rude, or incommunitive.
Honestly, it was none of the above for us.
It was/is simply comfortable.
Right, I actual cross my arms becuase it hides my chest and belly and it is comfortable. I also break eye contact constantly do to I am visualizing my story, doesn't mean I am lying LOL
Crossing your arms is acknowledged as a self-comforting/soothing posture - it has been misrepresented as standoffish.
I was in a meeting with my arms folded and the manager happily shouts out that was being closed. Nothing could have been further from the truth. Unfortunately labels get put on people by so called “experts”. Great comedy material and someone should make a spoof of this whole body language nonsense.
I view it as standoffish.
@@Jonathan2x6 everyone has their own experiences so when I see someone arms closed like that I perceive it as standoffish based on past experience even if it's not correct for that current situation. You're right body language experts are frauds.
This has happened to me 2 times now my experience if someone is not telling you the truth sometimes they will look down at the floor and will not be able to look you in your eyes. It is sad when someone you love cannot just be up front and honest with you.
*now. My (to fix your run-on sentence)
*experience: if
*truth, sometimes
*upfront
However, you need to know their baseline before coming to that conclusion. People with ADD often get distracted when looking at the person. It's easier to look off into space and only glance at the person they're conversing with. If the speaker's ADD is under control, this won't be nearly as pronounced as in someone who is struggling with it at the time.
I had the ability to read people since age 10. The older I've gotten, the more sharpened my senses to ditched BS have gotten. It helped me not to do so many mistakes that majority people do. At the same time, made me also see saw many dishonest people are out there which can be sometimes demotivating especially when you notice it after few exchanged sentences.
First principle thinking shows that same thing as words come out of the humans mouth. Very demotivating although that is subjective.
The hosts are so fun…love their laughter 😄
I highly recommend reading Malcolm Gladwell’s “Talking to Strangers”. This book provides excellent insights body language interpretation misconceptions and myths.
This woman is so brilliant. Her book is one I can listen to on loop.❤
Agreed! I've listened to the audiobook version of it, 2x.....and I'm planning on listening to it again! I was able to find it at the public library.
You will be amazed how smart people are, and can pick up on secrets unsaid
Her make up is gorgeous
She is a very attractive lady. 😍
The ones I met are ugly 😭😂
@@greavsiethespur But she would look even better if she took off her shoes! Would you agree?
@@trentpettit6336open toe heels at least
Attractive and smart.
I love Evy. Her book is amazing. I’ve learned so much from her.
DEI hire. A serious federal agent tasked to protect a president wouldn't dress that way.
You are a liar. You switched up your verb tenses😮.
@@jvanek8512she never dressed that way when she was an agent, see her photos from during that time, she was such a plain Jane. Since she left all of a sudden she’s started dressing very ‘glamorous’ and got some surgery because she looked very ordinary before.
Do you think they could fit in more announcers and scooch em in on the sides, scooch right up tight, explain to me how that looks interestin?
Evy is amazing!
Stunning woman! Very interesting btw.
Yay Evy's back!!
She’s so amazing! “She really is.” 🤣
I get really nervous easily though. I have ADHD so I’m always fidgeting and I have social anxiety so sometimes it’s hard for me to make eye contact and keep it. Videos like these are interesting but at the same time they make me paranoid bc I probably give off most of these signs when I don’t even mean to. I’m just an anxious person in general, it sucks.
She is right.We need to listen more..We have two ears and one mouth for a reason😀
Evy always kills it.. Great job, Evy!
Her book helped me after a breakup with a narcissistic con artist
OMG yes, they are the worst!!!
Lol too late he already did what he gadtodo😅
It is VERY important not to let a person’s initial “resistance” throw you off and cause you to quit or judge them. Often, someone just wants to talk to you a little more and get to know you a little better before they give you out any kind of REAL info. The more you interact with the person, the better you’ll get at creating a “comfortable” mood with that person that will lead to them to trust you and share vulnerable info with you. As far as the tips to identify telling the truth, agree, except the part about "he said, she said quotes", being a sign of truth....these can be totally made up, there's plenty of proof, just look at office politics....regarding being more “subtle” while observing… agreed.
What is the obnoxious beeping in the background
I think they were taking pics lol, it was distracting I agree
Omg, literally ran through my house thinking my smoke/carbon detector was going off.
@@jessicaatkins3173 Same here!! Couldn't even finish the rest of the video :/
Evy poumpouras great explanation! Appreciate it.
There so much factor involved. I know someone who’s insecure and have anxiety but not bc they’re lying: so it’s not always black and white
Very true! I'm socially awkward and have social anxiety and show some nervous symptoms when talking to people. Not always, but I notice it sometimes.
*There are so many factors
*has anxiety, but (because "someone" is singular)
*because
*lying. So (to fix incorrect use of a colon)
*white.
This was actually really good,. Well worth the listen.
Sometimes I can tell when people are lying if they can’t provide me enough details or when you try & ask probing questions to get more detailed information they either say something that doesn’t make sense or they get flustered and ask me “Why are you asking me so many questions?” When you’re making up a quick lie, your story sometimes gets lost because you’re trying to hard to make it make sense.
I say that all the time because most of the time I don’t like providing details because I don’t know if I trust who I’m giving the info to
*too hard
Details are the death of any lie! If a person cannot provide you enough details, odds are they are making something up and because it’s hard to keep track of a bunch of made up details, the story will be vague. Or they’ll give you enough details that they can’t keep track of it all and it makes it all the easier to catch them in a lie. So getting details will always be the best weapon against a liar.
But some people can ask that if they feel like you're being intrusive or it's none of your business. Doesn't mean that person is necessarily lying.
@@kelsiluluSame here
Beeping at :45 and :49 had me thinking something was going off in my house 🤨
Same lol
Bad liars tell transparent falsehoods and then bully you into believing them. That’s easy to spot. A skilled liar tells you something that you’re already inclined to believe, tells you the truth knowing, and intending, that you won’t believe them, or tells you what you want to hear while telling somebody else something completely different. It’s not easy to detect a good liar. Some liars are compulsive liars. They lie all the time, even when it serves no purpose, almost as if they don’t want you to take them seriously. It’s a good way to hide the truth from you.
@@perseypoppins I think that there's a compulsive component to it. I also think too, that if they establish themselves as untrustworthy, nobody will expect them to tell the truth, and that relieves them of some responsibility.
Very Interresting Indeed ... especially during Electoral Debates & with People in general. I would add the eyes movements also ... if the speaker avoids to look ... it is obvious that he or she is lying.
Communication styles vary greatly among individuals. While some of the points she makes hold true to some extent for certain people, it’s essential to recognize that this isn’t universally applicable. Our interactions involve people from diverse backgrounds, cultures, and languages. Moreover, it’s a reality that some individuals possess a remarkable talent for fabricating stories in a manner that conceals their deception. Detecting their falsehoods can be quite challenging
Yes true, however, over time their REAL personality will come out. There's always a "tell."
She listens well. That is the key.
I love Evy 😊
Same
That was cool and so was she. As well as beautiful...
Also if someone says "tremendous"
I am wondering why this is being discussed today? When researching a purchase it shows the publication in late 2020 or early 2021. Where has it all been since then?
Waiting for the next presidential debate. Should see and hear multiple hours of lying from the two candidates.
What a fantastically stunning woman!!
I learned a lot of these from watching Judge Judy...
Reading people can't be taught in my opinion. If you know, you know.
Exactly.
You can give general indicators of lying like this lady gave, but it's certainly a skill that not everyone has because there are plenty of exceptions. Like she said, they have to establish a baseline so you know them well enough. What is a sign of lying for one person isn't for another.
Her book is amazing! Evy is such a cool chick 🙌🏾
People also fidget when they are not interested in the conversation
💯
I am such a fan of her!
When someone is lying the blink constantly. You know who blinks like crazy when they talk.....that pastor guy Joel Olsteen.....have never seen anybody blink like thatcguy does when he speaks.
I was about to mention this. It means someone is nervous, but not necessarily lying. I recorded myself making a particular meal. I never make videos of myself. When I went back and watched it, I was blinking like crazy! I didn't realize as I was recording how much I blinked. I wasn't lying about the food, lol. I was just nervous being on video.
Omg 😂😂😂
😂😂wasnt lying about the food😂😂😂@zsuzsuspetals
Could also be dry eyes.
Then there's Russell Brand, who NEVER blinks. It's really off-putting. He's like a staring owl.
Some solid advice, especially regarding the verbal cues. However, it has been proven that evaluating truth from lies using physical affectations and tics is often not reliable and easily misread. Though the physical cues are exhibited by many people who are lying or being evasive, there are many people who display them as a matter of mood or having a naturally expressive or idiosyncratic personality. But, more significantly, is the phenomenon where innocent interviewees, with no reason to feel guilt or fear incrimination, just by virtue of being in a interrogative situation, become anxious, nervous and stressed. Those who have under or maladapted socio-communication skills especially exhibit this reaction. They see the dynamic as a confrontation or test. So, they often showcase many of the cues that can be perceived as evasive or lying but really it is their way of coping.
this is why she said you have to know the base line first. This is the most important fact.
That’s why it’s so important to first understand a person’s behavioral baseline. It helps you better understand the unique characteristics of the person you’re talking to. Not only that, a lot of experts are training people not to focus on deceptive vs nondeceptive. But on comfort vs discomfort. Because that’s all what body language and even a polygraph can really tell you. So if someone is displaying a cluster of discomfort indicators that followed a specific stimuli such as a specific question, that doesn’t always mean a person is being deceptive, it simply means the questioner needs to verify that specific area of concern a little more to determine what caused the stress signals to appear.
I don't know how to read lies, but she has stolen my hear! Just look at those eyes!!! ❤
Bruh, get a life. That wasn't the point of this...... SMH
Bruh, get a life. That wasnt the point of this...... SMH
I’d like to know what they do if they catch someone lying. Do they call them out right away or just let them keep lying? I have caught ppl in lies before and it’s golden info as far as how I communicate with them going forward. But I don’t usually call them out.
Wow ,and she's gorgeous .communication skills must be amazing to .
Thank you for this video.🎉
Can she teach us to read ourselves - i.e., not go into situations assuming it’s everyone else that’s a threat. And empathy and active listening is not reading people. This is clap-trap, man.
Meditation will help you bring this awareness if you’re ready for the dedication to practice daily. Observation of your own emotions will help you identify other people’s. If you take energy healing workshops, it’ll help you to identify the red flags too. There are books to read that will help, but mostly it’s awareness and observation of patterns.
Interest take on this. It will be force self-awareness and you know for sure to be careful, I mean you'll be saying it differently I'm sure but I love that you point this out.
Definitely downloading this👏👏
In some cultures it is rude to look a person in the eyes. It might also be considered aggressive.
ok, well this is obviously about a different culture...
💯go work at Toyota head office people respect each other and move their eyes down
I've learn that in the Army, sad to say that I could till read people just like this fore Secret Service and what I can say that some I see what there all about in seconds and the other are hard to read because they have something to hide...this from my family and some of my friends and former co-workers. Presently I still read people this just like how I learn in the Army.
She’s an ex FBI agent, she’s beautiful and a lie detector. As a Guy I’m already intimidated.
*The standard is ultimately if someone has something severe to hid, they either talk an unusual amount or they barely talk at all.*
Ironically, the debating and casual conversation I've practiced online for well over 20 years *has taught me more about the psychology of the human mind than 10 years in college can teach a doctor of psychiatry.*
The last 2 generations grew up partially or completely on the internet and are walking billboards of their thoughts, lies, insecurities, weaknesses and well beyond. *They're also more that accustom to being dishonest and getting away with it because of the anonymity of the internet.*
Love her, been watching her for years and listening to her podcasts. She is definitely a kickass chic. Go watch the podcast with her and ""women of impact'." With Tom Bailyu's wife.... Thank me later.
I use these techniques with those i work with. 🙏🦋
Her giving these kinds of tips is her equivelant of Steven Seagal teaching real officers hand-to-hand combat lessons down at the police station
It’s important to note that they are NOT psychologists or psychiatrists. Just a bunch of tips and ‘things to look out for’ rule book passed down to them. Plus, it makes for a great video.
Wow so cool
I love EVY❤
eyes don't always mean something i have adhd and i zone out a lot even when people are talking to me
you all seem to forget her mentioning several times about knowing someone's baseline🙃
Good educators do this well too! We're magical...
People who are neurodivergent fidget better known as 'stimming' and routinely break eye contact or don't make eye contact. ND people are a significant portion of the population, so make sure yoou are not judging someone with blanket ideals.
In many cultures it is offensive to make eye contact
Great Advice! Beautiful and Smart!
She’s pretty 😍
She's brilliant ❤
I get nervous a lot that don’t mean I’m lying I just have social anxiety
Very Cool. Tells and verbal cues etc. Just be honest and nice.
Yes, if you're always honest, you won't have trouble remembering your lies.
There's multiple studies that debunk these kinds of behavioral analyses.
And studies that support it lol
@@freddycalipari4242 The disprovability misses the mark on replicability in peer review. Looking for validation is confirmation bias, not science - a discernment that's pretty critical when it comes to the validity of expert witness testimony.
Yeah I’m not sure I fully believe these bc many people exhibit these signs (myself included) for various reasons that are not related to lying. I think when people follow these rules, if they don’t already have some discernment then they are constantly going to misread people 😂
@@kaleyjoplinRAWRR Completely agree - in Statistics it's called confirmation bias. You see it quite often in folks who 'go with their gut,' which usually turns out to be flagrantly & dangerously wrong.
She has seen a lot - so she just knows what she’s looking at . The most valuable thing she taught me is - ppl fall into trust. That’s going to save a lot of lives .
Most gorgeous SS agent *ever* ,
thrilled how she's wearing her hair😍
Extensions!
There would be more viewers if they had her permanently on the show. That's no lie.
I break eye contact because people intimidate me sometimes. Not because I'm a liar. So....
Exactly
*"I can read you like a magazine." BPD Taylor Swift's "Blank Space" Song and Video*
When did Lady Gaga become a secret service agent?!?! crazy world
Really intersting, thanks for sharing 🥰
It's better to speak few words than talking non stop
This is actually quite an insightful way to read people. However, there are some situations in her cues that doesn't necessarily apply because sometimes people may really need to think longer for their rationale or it's because their timing of their rationale is attributed to their individual condition.
How can a guy who owes 100s millions of dollars and literally grifts every chance he gets get a basic security clearance - because these things are automatic disqualifiers. Thats what I dont understand
Thank you 😊
The hosts are really paying attention because they interview people.
I so agree with insulting your intelligence. People do this when they are getting defensive. I have observed this many times.
Who, that was a former president talks about himself in third person? ~
There is a lot of those helpful tips that he fulfills ~ 🧐
She's unbelievable. Interesting.
She described Trump perfectly. He lies non-stop
And Biden is the oracle of truth
@@mikem3789haha! Biden is 100 times more thruthful than Trump!
@@mareezy Tries to convince too much about his accomplishments.The more he talks about them the less he has done to convince people .
2:58 she needed Devine help here
Sounds very simplistic.
Sounds simplistic but you’ll be surprised how many people who aren’t aware in their perceptions. Not everyone has common sense abilities.
If she had much more time, I'm sure she could've elaborated more on each point. She seemed hurried.
It's only a 5-minute segment.....