Thought of another ADHD problem - cleaning something twice because you can’t remember whether you’ve just done it and you’re a perfectionist at heart so adds to the frustration and resistance to doing it in the first place. 😢🤣😬
Perfectionism + ADHD is a freaking curse. Sometimes I hate it. If I don’t do the exact same thing in the same order, I will forget things. Reasons why I now carry toothbrush and toothpaste with me. If I don’t brush my teeth in the same order when getting ready in the morning, I’ll forget. Some ask why I can’t just taste my own bad breath - well, because I self medicate with loads of caffeine and start each day with coffee. Or when I’ve zoned out while brushing my teeth and spent the entire 2 minutes on one area of my mouth or need to brush again because I don’t remember the process or if I hit every tooth. I have an electric toothbrush that makes noise when I’ve hit 2 minutes, otherwise I brush for 5+ minutes. Yesterday I drove home and had zero recollection of a big chunk of the drive and how I got there. It was a complete blank. ADHD can be scary sometimes.
5:15 ah yes, the old 'I went to put some bread in the toaster and now I'm in the middle of my bedroom rearranging all the furniture listening to a lecture about tree frogs and I have no idea how I got here'. Yes.
Or grabbing a drink from the refrigerator, putting it slightly out of sight, then after hours of gaming or TV you realize you're thirsty or get up for something else and see your now warm drink sitting there all lonely like.
Can you send me a link to the tree frog lecture, it sounds interesting and just the thing for when I’m supposed to be doing something really important…😂
I definitely do the obsessively listening to the same song over and over and then also singing it. And sometimes I'll only know one line that I just keep singing over and over. I realize people find it annoying but it's very difficult to contain myself
@@thekarret2066 yeah u don't need the whole song just particular parts, I'll even memorize only certain parts and then mash them together when singing it
It is only recently that I have thought I have ADHD (I am 76) my middle son who is 44 is awaiting an assessment for it, so he and I have been talking in depth. He has always been shy and such, but I had no idea it went so deep, he told me he has not ever told anyone what was going on in his head. Then while studying the symptoms I realised I have had the same problems ALL my life. It is really only the last few years that I have tried to sort out the problems. I seem to manage them a little more easily but still find them occurring every day in one form or another. Your video was very helpful, I identified with so much, not just in later life but from when I was small.
I'm so glad to find these videos. I'm latina BTW (From Venezuela), so my english is regular, but I want to tell you that I'm very, very grateful with you. Please keep doing it! I appreciate it so much. The first video about how you got your diagnosis at 26 made me cry because I'm 25 and I just received mine on 2021 and it was blowing mind because my entire life start to have sense, but I'm still looking for some help, there is not much information in Spanish, and I did not find any support group here in Santiago de Chile where I live. So this videos are very refreshing. I send you a big big hug. María de los ángeles
Hola! 💛 wow that's so lovely of you. Thank you so much! I really needed to read that today 🥺 I hope you can find the help and support you need soon. I know how hard and overwhelming it can be, but you're not alone. More videos to come soon! 💛 Grandes abrazos 💛🥰
I’ve known about ADHD for years but not taken much heed of until stumbling upon YT videos. So I’ve spent all my spare time for the past 5 weeks fixated on it to the exclusion of ALL else and I’m still not ready to draw a line under it’s like trying to pull myself away from a major emergency. When it’s ‘over’ I’ll find something else like an art project one thing I can be sure of - it won’t be housework. I do housework I have to rearrange the furniture to make it rewarding. I did create a complex spreadsheet for doing chores with time limits - that took a few weeks and learning of unfamiliar time functions and setting up, it worked for a bit but that’s old news now. My latest thing is letting myself work randomly and get side tracked to other chores, it’s the motivating way I’ve found yet. Oh and the singing - drives me mental, I have a small stock of songs and can’t remember the words so I sing utter drivel, can’t stop to save my life. I could go on forever, I really thought everyone else was like this in their minds and I was lazy and undisciplined. Thank you, I enjoyed your video - it was ‘natural’ compared to others and heartfelt if that makes sense ❤
Just reminded me that I have clothes sitting in the dryer since yesterday … I’m also an anxiety 30min early person. But if I’m TOO early I panic about being TOO early. Great video, it’s me a thousand percent.
I'm crying. You have so validated me & my experiences with ADHD. I'm going to show this to those who constantly say to me 'you're just going to have to...', 'you just need to...', 'suck it up, buttercup '
I know! So many people I have met say "People with ADHD are always late to everything" which made me second guess myself before getting diagnoses, since I would often think "I can't have ADHD. I am always early by 15~30 minutes"
38 here I been looking into ADHD and the more I hear the more I realize I've had it all my life now I don't know what to do about it. I've been self medicating with substances that I shouldn't.
Thank you for this great video. Yes, I am definitely ADHD. I have absolutely all the symptoms you spoke about. I was laughing with my wife about all this. I went to the dr and was prescribed a stimulant adhd medication, but it did not work at all. Its like I'm eating smarties. Anyway, life went on and she up the dosage to the max but still absolutely no improvement whatsoever. All I get is shivers from this useless stuff. I did some research on the internet and I think I must try a non stimulant ADHD medication, but now I feel to bad to go back to the dr, because in my mind she's going to think I'm faking it. Great video. To see that I am not alone with this hell is some type of comfort. I am still deciding if I must go back to the dr, but in the mean time I will try to survive all this horrible stuff adhd throws at us.
You don’t _have_ to go back- but I’m sure, if your doctor is any good, they know -that not any medication works the same for everybody -what to try next -and if you’re really lucky, they have a basic understanding of RSD(Rejection sensitivity thingy) and imposter syndrome and all the other things that make it so hard to come back and have “failed” at getting better. Good luck!🍀
Some people experience what’s known as a paradoxical reaction to medical drugs and other substances, myself included. Morphine caffeine and alcohol don’t work for me like they do for other people. Your doctor should understand this and be able to adjust things for you. there are several different ADHD medications just because one didn’t work. It doesn’t mean any of the others won’t. It would be worse going back and seeing your doctor.
Some people experience what’s known as a paradoxical reaction to medical drugs and other substances, myself included. Morphine caffeine and alcohol don’t work for me like they do for other people. Your doctor should understand this and be able to adjust things for you. There are several different ADHD medications just because one didn’t work for you it doesn’t mean any of the others won’t. It would be worth going back and seeing your doctor.
Great video, very informative. Thank you for making it. 51 years old and in the process of getting diagnosed as adhd. Had z very traumatic life, abuse, drugs, domestic violence, rape to name a few. 51 years too late but hey ho. I was always hit and shouted at by my single mum who always told me I was stupid and not wanted. Literally heart broken. Always thought I deserved to never have anything nice, kind, compassionate, loving or precious because I was dumb. School was torture so was homelike. Tried suicide and finally I'm not alone 😢❤🎉🙏🏴
I totally admire your courage and I’m so glad that last you found a direction that will help. I’ve had a similar life path and I’m 70 next birthday and I’m just in the middle of getting assessed. I’ve had a similar life path to yours. At last I’m finding peace and direction for my life. Stay strong
Such a shame you stopped making videos. You explain things with exceptional clarity. It will be really great if you could find a way to make some more. I’m a bloke but I have the inattentive type of ADHD and so much of what you said in this video really resonates with me. Probably why it’s taken nearly 70 years for me to get diagnosed. Better late than never.🙄
Great job explaining what it's like living with ADHD. My wife lives/suffers with ADHD, as did her late father her daughter and grandchildren. I'm the glue/helper mate.
Ed Hallowell says that we have Ferrari engines with bicycle brakes. You completely covered it, by the way,... I have so many of the ADHD symptoms that I can't figure out how I was not diagnosed until I was 58 years old! Every day is a struggle. I wish I would have known sooner and more. I am still working to absorb all the information on ADHD on UA-cam, from books, etc. I also realized that I taught myself so many tools and things to stay ahead of life out of self-defense. I've had a calendar since high school. I try to keep my work area at home and school clean (I teach)...though both areas are a mess at the moment. I could write a book on it but I will stop there.
You explain it so well,.getting this across to the therapist is hard going,.you get stuck in 1 or 2 areas,.I literally wrote a rough copy on my appointment day,to stressful to do a week or 2 before lol
Have you researched autism as well bc everything you spoke of sounds like on spectrum and females present differently and they are like 60% co-occurring so worth a deep dive..
I feel like there should be more discussion about how our symptoms interact and entangle themselves. Executive dysfunction and imposter syndrome in particular feel like the salt and pepper that really bring out the flavor in all my other symptoms. For example, even if I know I’ve been working harder than anyone else, it’s hard to ask for a raise when I’m regularly late. And it’s hard enough to struggle with tasks, but my executive dysfunction can cause me to put off something like processing my emotions about an argument, and then the imposter syndrome sets in and suddenly I’ve given up my oldest friends because I upset them once and it’s probably over now anyway. Also, I can’t overstate how getting therapy is a perfect intersection of things that are really, really hard for me to do. BetterHelp was the first hope I ever had for a model that would work for me and we all know how that turned out 💔
I am not officially diagnosed. I’m 47 and have had symptoms throughout my life. I was diagnosed with a learning disability when I was super young but not a specific type. I have had high emotional problems a lot throughout life. I’m actually going to go see a psychiatrist sometime soon. I also believe I may be OCD pure o type with intrusive thoughts and maybe slightly autistic but not really sure about the ASD.
Medication at the right dosage helped alleviate most of my symptoms. I still have some time management issues but not as bad as before and stimming is almost completely calm down ( I used to pick on my skin until it bleeds ) being diagnosed as an adult is tough because I struggled through out my childhood and university without understanding why I can not keep up with my peers. Relationships was super tough because of rejection sensitivity but now I feel more balanced.
Where does ADHD end and Autism begin? Some of the things you say typically sound like autism. Difficulty making eye contact especially. But everything you said I am totally familiar with. The poor memory, zoom calls being difficult, etc. It's good to know other people are experiencing these symptoms as well. On a side note, have you or anyone else looked into Anthony Williams information on ADHD and autism? He goes on to state that the source of these disorders is heavy metals in the brain creating problems for signals to get to where they are supposed to go. Very interesting and I recommend you look into the information in his books or website.
This was 80% a description of female autism. I know people are diagnosed with both, I know there are co-occurring traits but it sounds like a re-evaluation might be in order.
i had a fuckton of people take what i've done / accomplished and pass it off as their own. this has got so bad, even when i got my autism diagnosis 10 years ago.... the surrounding family went 'oh but everyone's a little bit autistic'. my mum begged my doctor for me to get adhd testing.......it went well as a chocolate teapot with boiling water inside. i absolutely loth with a fanatic passion speaking on phones. cannot look people in the eye when speaking.....but i'm slowly getting there. i've almost killed three people for causing me to have a meltdown. 50 days later when i was minding my own business. a person who took absolute delight to publicly bully 'wanted to know how i was doing' now this was 2 in the afternoon in peckam [you know what you done justice sorrapongo] i told him to leave me alone. my mum saw what effect seeing this narcissistic person had on me. confronted him and warned him to stay away. at that time i just saw red, i eventually chased him down from mcdonalds to boots where i lost that lying sack of sh!t. it turns out he ran off to lawence florence to help him lie to the police. the police said that i chased him down with a large knife threating to kill him
"Executive Dysfunction is needing external structure but hating being told what to do"
Perfectly said, literally perfect.
We can be pretty stubborn on accident 😅
I was going to say exactly that. (But you beat me to it.) Sums me up perfectly.
Thought of another ADHD problem - cleaning something twice because you can’t remember whether you’ve just done it and you’re a perfectionist at heart so adds to the frustration and resistance to doing it in the first place. 😢🤣😬
And then remembering halfway through that you just cleaned it but now you have to finish anyway.
Perfectionism + ADHD is a freaking curse. Sometimes I hate it. If I don’t do the exact same thing in the same order, I will forget things. Reasons why I now carry toothbrush and toothpaste with me. If I don’t brush my teeth in the same order when getting ready in the morning, I’ll forget. Some ask why I can’t just taste my own bad breath - well, because I self medicate with loads of caffeine and start each day with coffee. Or when I’ve zoned out while brushing my teeth and spent the entire 2 minutes on one area of my mouth or need to brush again because I don’t remember the process or if I hit every tooth. I have an electric toothbrush that makes noise when I’ve hit 2 minutes, otherwise I brush for 5+ minutes.
Yesterday I drove home and had zero recollection of a big chunk of the drive and how I got there. It was a complete blank. ADHD can be scary sometimes.
Oh man. When I’m vacuuming a lot of places get three passes or more give or take, bc of that.
5:15 ah yes, the old 'I went to put some bread in the toaster and now I'm in the middle of my bedroom rearranging all the furniture listening to a lecture about tree frogs and I have no idea how I got here'. Yes.
We've all been there 😂💛
Or grabbing a drink from the refrigerator, putting it slightly out of sight, then after hours of gaming or TV you realize you're thirsty or get up for something else and see your now warm drink sitting there all lonely like.
OMG. I have never laughed so hard at this. Totally know what you're saying. Too funny and yet sad somehow.
Can you send me a link to the tree frog lecture, it sounds interesting and just the thing for when I’m supposed to be doing something really important…😂
The anxiety of being late...glad I'm not the only one with that.
I definitely do the obsessively listening to the same song over and over and then also singing it. And sometimes I'll only know one line that I just keep singing over and over. I realize people find it annoying but it's very difficult to contain myself
I do the same shit. I often sing just like a 40 second - 1 minute part of the song and perfect that and leave the rest of it. XD
@@thekarret2066 yeah u don't need the whole song just particular parts, I'll even memorize only certain parts and then mash them together when singing it
@@heedmydemands Oh nice, that sounds awesome. XD
It is only recently that I have thought I have ADHD (I am 76) my middle son who is 44 is awaiting an assessment for it, so he and I have been talking in depth. He has always been shy and such, but I had no idea it went so deep, he told me he has not ever told anyone what was going on in his head. Then while studying the symptoms I realised I have had the same problems ALL my life. It is really only the last few years that I have tried to sort out the problems. I seem to manage them a little more easily but still find them occurring every day in one form or another. Your video was very helpful, I identified with so much, not just in later life but from when I was small.
Wow! I'm so happy you and your son are finding things out about yourselves and talking it through. Talking really helps! I'm glad my video helped 💛
I'm so glad to find these videos. I'm latina BTW (From Venezuela), so my english is regular, but I want to tell you that I'm very, very grateful with you. Please keep doing it! I appreciate it so much.
The first video about how you got your diagnosis at 26 made me cry because I'm 25 and I just received mine on 2021 and it was blowing mind because my entire life start to have sense, but I'm still looking for some help, there is not much information in Spanish, and I did not find any support group here in Santiago de Chile where I live. So this videos are very refreshing.
I send you a big big hug.
María de los ángeles
Hola! 💛 wow that's so lovely of you. Thank you so much! I really needed to read that today 🥺 I hope you can find the help and support you need soon. I know how hard and overwhelming it can be, but you're not alone. More videos to come soon! 💛
Grandes abrazos 💛🥰
This was a great video. I now have a guidebook for the people who love me. I could just ask them to sit down and watch this with me. Thanks
I’ve known about ADHD for years but not taken much heed of until stumbling upon YT videos. So I’ve spent all my spare time for the past 5 weeks fixated on it to the exclusion of ALL else and I’m still not ready to draw a line under it’s like trying to pull myself away from a major emergency. When it’s ‘over’ I’ll find something else like an art project one thing I can be sure of - it won’t be housework.
I do housework I have to rearrange the furniture to make it rewarding. I did create a complex spreadsheet for doing chores with time limits - that took a few weeks and learning of unfamiliar time functions and setting up, it worked for a bit but that’s old news now. My latest thing is letting myself work randomly and get side tracked to other chores, it’s the motivating way I’ve found yet.
Oh and the singing - drives me mental, I have a small stock of songs and can’t remember the words so I sing utter drivel, can’t stop to save my life. I could go on forever, I really thought everyone else was like this in their minds and I was lazy and undisciplined.
Thank you, I enjoyed your video - it was ‘natural’ compared to others and heartfelt if that makes sense ❤
Just reminded me that I have clothes sitting in the dryer since yesterday …
I’m also an anxiety 30min early person. But if I’m TOO early I panic about being TOO early.
Great video, it’s me a thousand percent.
I have laundry in a basket since last weekend, and it's now the weekend.
I'm crying. You have so validated me & my experiences with ADHD. I'm going to show this to those who constantly say to me 'you're just going to have to...', 'you just need to...', 'suck it up, buttercup '
Thanks for a very clear description of what it’s like to have this problem. I’m discovering very late in life and just reaching out to others.
I relate so hard to the being 30 minutes early to everything! Not talked about as much but that is totally my experience!
I know! So many people I have met say "People with ADHD are always late to everything" which made me second guess myself before getting diagnoses, since I would often think "I can't have ADHD. I am always early by 15~30 minutes"
38 here I been looking into ADHD and the more I hear the more I realize I've had it all my life now I don't know what to do about it. I've been self medicating with substances that I shouldn't.
Get assessed. If it takes too long through NHS use your Right to Choose and get private assessment funded by NHS. Or if u can afford go private.
Thank you for this great video. Yes, I am definitely ADHD. I have absolutely all the symptoms you spoke about. I was laughing with my wife about all this. I went to the dr and was prescribed a stimulant adhd medication, but it did not work at all. Its like I'm eating smarties. Anyway, life went on and she up the dosage to the max but still absolutely no improvement whatsoever. All I get is shivers from this useless stuff. I did some research on the internet and I think I must try a non stimulant ADHD medication, but now I feel to bad to go back to the dr, because in my mind she's going to think I'm faking it. Great video. To see that I am not alone with this hell is some type of comfort. I am still deciding if I must go back to the dr, but in the mean time I will try to survive all this horrible stuff adhd throws at us.
You don’t _have_ to go back- but I’m sure, if your doctor is any good, they know
-that not any medication works the same for everybody
-what to try next
-and if you’re really lucky, they have a basic understanding of RSD(Rejection sensitivity thingy) and imposter syndrome and all the other things that make it so hard to come back and have “failed” at getting better.
Good luck!🍀
Some people experience what’s known as a paradoxical reaction to medical drugs and other substances, myself included. Morphine caffeine and alcohol don’t work for me like they do for other people. Your doctor should understand this and be able to adjust things for you. there are several different ADHD medications just because one didn’t work. It doesn’t mean any of the others won’t. It would be worse going back and seeing your doctor.
Some people experience what’s known as a paradoxical reaction to medical drugs and other substances, myself included. Morphine caffeine and alcohol don’t work for me like they do for other people. Your doctor should understand this and be able to adjust things for you. There are several different ADHD medications just because one didn’t work for you it doesn’t mean any of the others won’t. It would be worth going back and seeing your doctor.
Great video, very informative. Thank you for making it.
51 years old and in the process of getting diagnosed as adhd.
Had z very traumatic life, abuse, drugs, domestic violence, rape to name a few.
51 years too late but hey ho. I was always hit and shouted at by my single mum who always told me I was stupid and not wanted.
Literally heart broken. Always thought I deserved to never have anything nice, kind, compassionate, loving or precious because I was dumb. School was torture so was homelike. Tried suicide and finally I'm not alone 😢❤🎉🙏🏴
I totally admire your courage and I’m so glad that last you found a direction that will help. I’ve had a similar life path and I’m 70 next birthday and I’m just in the middle of getting assessed. I’ve had a similar life path to yours. At last I’m finding peace and direction for my life. Stay strong
Such a shame you stopped making videos. You explain things with exceptional clarity. It will be really great if you could find a way to make some more. I’m a bloke but I have the inattentive type of ADHD and so much of what you said in this video really resonates with me. Probably why it’s taken nearly 70 years for me to get diagnosed. Better late than never.🙄
Jo you're an absolute legend covering this stuff! :)
Oh thank you so much! 😭💛
Great job explaining what it's like living with ADHD. My wife lives/suffers with ADHD, as did her late father her daughter and grandchildren. I'm the glue/helper mate.
Ed Hallowell says that we have Ferrari engines with bicycle brakes. You completely covered it, by the way,...
I have so many of the ADHD symptoms that I can't figure out how I was not diagnosed until I was 58 years old! Every day is a struggle. I wish I would have known sooner and more. I am still working to absorb all the information on ADHD on UA-cam, from books, etc.
I also realized that I taught myself so many tools and things to stay ahead of life out of self-defense. I've had a calendar since high school. I try to keep my work area at home and school clean (I teach)...though both areas are a mess at the moment. I could write a book on it but I will stop there.
Meds have definitely helped me with eye contact, really interesting, I feel like I’m getting to know people on a deeper level
You explain it so well,.getting this across to the therapist is hard going,.you get stuck in 1 or 2 areas,.I literally wrote a rough copy on my appointment day,to stressful to do a week or 2 before lol
Thank you for talking about all this, it's so important.
Have you researched autism as well bc everything you spoke of sounds like on spectrum and females present differently and they are like 60% co-occurring so worth a deep dive..
I have both and some days it’s like a total tug of war late diagnosed at 42
This really resonates! Thanks for sharing.
A great video. Very good explanations. I’m sharing it with friends that get it and will share with others later that need to get it. 😂
I so relate to everyone's comments
I feel like there should be more discussion about how our symptoms interact and entangle themselves. Executive dysfunction and imposter syndrome in particular feel like the salt and pepper that really bring out the flavor in all my other symptoms. For example, even if I know I’ve been working harder than anyone else, it’s hard to ask for a raise when I’m regularly late. And it’s hard enough to struggle with tasks, but my executive dysfunction can cause me to put off something like processing my emotions about an argument, and then the imposter syndrome sets in and suddenly I’ve given up my oldest friends because I upset them once and it’s probably over now anyway.
Also, I can’t overstate how getting therapy is a perfect intersection of things that are really, really hard for me to do. BetterHelp was the first hope I ever had for a model that would work for me and we all know how that turned out 💔
I am not officially diagnosed. I’m 47 and have had symptoms throughout my life. I was diagnosed with a learning disability when I was super young but not a specific type. I have had high emotional problems a lot throughout life. I’m actually going to go see a psychiatrist sometime soon. I also believe I may be OCD pure o type with intrusive thoughts and maybe slightly autistic but not really sure about the ASD.
Thanks for this beauts👏🏾
Whilst watching this video I was also thinking about a thousand different things (crazy me) ,I shall probably have to watch this a few more times 😊.
Medication at the right dosage helped alleviate most of my symptoms. I still have some time management issues but not as bad as before and stimming is almost completely calm down ( I used to pick on my skin until it bleeds ) being diagnosed as an adult is tough because I struggled through out my childhood and university without understanding why I can not keep up with my peers. Relationships was super tough because of rejection sensitivity but now I feel more balanced.
Alleviate?
Thank you 😊
Where does ADHD end and Autism begin? Some of the things you say typically sound like autism. Difficulty making eye contact especially. But everything you said I am totally familiar with. The poor memory, zoom calls being difficult, etc. It's good to know other people are experiencing these symptoms as well.
On a side note, have you or anyone else looked into Anthony Williams information on ADHD and autism? He goes on to state that the source of these disorders is heavy metals in the brain creating problems for signals to get to where they are supposed to go. Very interesting and I recommend you look into the information in his books or website.
Is it bad that during my diagnosis appointment last week that I had major imposter syndrome!
Another Great video!
Thank you! 💛
This is a great video and I think this could be very true for AuDHDers as well. I'm self identified AuDHD.
I’ve just realised that I didn’t empty the bin! Also bin day tomorrow! lol
Sees a non-symmetrical picture/chapter marker of stimming. Gets triggered! Goes to find stimming toy.
This was 80% a description of female autism. I know people are diagnosed with both, I know there are co-occurring traits but it sounds like a re-evaluation might be in order.
i had a fuckton of people take what i've done / accomplished and pass it off as their own. this has got so bad, even when i got my autism diagnosis 10 years ago.... the surrounding family went 'oh but everyone's a little bit autistic'. my mum begged my doctor for me to get adhd testing.......it went well as a chocolate teapot with boiling water inside. i absolutely loth with a fanatic passion speaking on phones. cannot look people in the eye when speaking.....but i'm slowly getting there. i've almost killed three people for causing me to have a meltdown. 50 days later when i was minding my own business. a person who took absolute delight to publicly bully 'wanted to know how i was doing' now this was 2 in the afternoon in peckam [you know what you done justice sorrapongo] i told him to leave me alone. my mum saw what effect seeing this narcissistic person had on me. confronted him and warned him to stay away. at that time i just saw red, i eventually chased him down from mcdonalds to boots where i lost that lying sack of sh!t. it turns out he ran off to lawence florence to help him lie to the police. the police said that i chased him down with a large knife threating to kill him
Oh the bills
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Audio! Extremely low!!!!