The “you look at the sticky notes on the wall, they’re a good reminder of what you failed to do” actually made me cry, because I have this exact issue, and it burns me every time
So Accurate! I felt this deeply. I stopped trying to use sticky notes because they do become reminders. Reminders of what you DIDN'T do...or Failed at.
I, having ADHD, that funcions like bipolar, I just don't do notes, and live with whaterver comes to mind, I just don't set expectations for myself, It kinda works
"Why didn't you tell me about this sooner?" Hits hard for me. especially when the truth is always labeled as a "lame excuse, try something better next time" from boss figures and teachers
‘Trying to read but your thoughts wash it out. Now you’re reading a sentence, now you’re reading a sentence now you’re reading a sentence.’ That is THE most accurate description of reading with adhd I’ve ever heard like EVER
@@faerimusicx for me it depends, If I read a book I chose and am interested in, it's a breeze, even with slight afantasia (is that related to ADHD?) But oh my, if I need to read an assignment or something else for university, a scientific paper...I think it took me a week to read a single paper ( I needed to get at least throu 10)
Is it in anything else? Because I use to have many difficulties with reading like that. Often it's like every few sentences I have to look around to set in up in my head and very often I catch myself reading one sentence many times because my mind is seeing words with no picture behind. I have fabulous imagination but sometimes it's hard to focus, my thoughts are flowing away... Have I ADHD??? :O
@@noctilucera7585 idk. its like i have it with other things. i'm getting ready and then i wanna put on a certain eyeshadow or smth, and i get carried away and suddenly its been an hour. do you get that?
i watch this and think "how do people without adhd view this film?" because all of us with adhd watching it feels like we're just watching a clip of our life. it feels so normal and accurate. it's so bizarre when i remember some people don't live like this, that this isn't the norm.
I've been diagnosed since I was 7, am currently 25, explaining to others how adhd feels is really difficult that I agree, forgetting things(not to this extreme), or needing several alarms, but also I can't relate with the video, because the video is representing an extreme case, and not everyone has the same symptoms, here is like she has everyone's symptoms combined and cranked to 11. It's a really good video for getting the point across tho.
this is what’s stopped me when i’ve gone to share this video with family. everything in here fits my situation 100%, to the point where i cried watching it, but to them i don’t know if it’ll just look like more excuses, like more stuff that doesn’t make sense
When I watch this I relate, especially to broken promises and getting distracted. My mom says I don't have adhd, so i might just be more distracted. Where sometimes I zone out or get distracted fro what feels like 5 minutes turns out to be 2 hours and you've lost time. Where zoning out in class for 5 seconds means missing out even more stuff.
I'm crying. I haven't been diagnosed with adhd because i'm too scared to ask my parents to let me go to a therapist. But i can relate to this video so much. Expecially that self-blame, telling yourself "why can't you just focus?" "why can't you listen?" "why do you find it so hard? everyone else can do it." It made me cry.
I'm so much like you :'( I don't want to ask my parents bcs I'm so scared that I might add problems or that it's just me who search excuses for being lazy or even that they might pity me. But everytime I see something about ADHD I can always relate. I have friends who go to a therapist (for other problems) and when they talk about that i can't help but feel jealous they receive the help they need when I don't. I feel horrible for that. When I was in basic school I was one of the best of my class but teachers tell to my parents "she's a good student but she's sometimes lost in her toughts and doesn't seems to listen but in the end she has good grade so it's ok ! " and I realize now that it was probably that it was probably symptoms that were ignored. Anyways it was'nt suppose to be about me ^^' I just wanted to say that you're not alone in this case and I hope that things will work out well for you. Let's do our best !!
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
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This film should be shown in classrooms so people can understand just how hard it is for people with ADD or ADHD. As someone who has ADD, this is all so true.
@@yam4222 no they're not. ADD is attention deficit disorder and adhd is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. People with add tend to be calm on the outside and have the overwhelming chaos in their head turn them depressed, adhd is more external, theyre usually very active, like to talk alot and turn to aggression instead of depression. You can look at it like introverted and extroverted type
@@davidb8192 ADD is now referred to as inattentive ADHD, a subset of ADHD. There is the hyperactive type of ADHD that is more external as you said and the inattentive type of ADHD that is more internal. So ADD is an outdated term, it's just been updated to a subset of ADHD
@@davidb8192 in my case this is not true. I have adhd and I have outer and inner chaos. What the commentor before you said is not a lie. Adhd and add have officially become the same thing and fall now under the umbrella term “adhd”. Altough in non-profesional settings adhd is most comenly seem as the active type and add as the silent type. Edit: the commentor above me seems to explain it better.
The “you’re running out of time” bit really hit me deep. I can’t even begin to think how many times this has happened. The way it spirals, “I only have (time units) left before ___ due”. Then being so stressed about the time limit that you waist hours thinking about the time limit, that you hardly get anything done, then feel like you spent hours working, only to accomplish 10 minutes of actual work. (Like I’m doing right now)
@@abcxyz-dp4rl idk i am struggling with this concept since childhood. Every teacher call my 'gifted child' ass, have the potential to do more but since I was doing just fine. No one look at more detail but things start to become even more ugly for my sanity when i choose high school subjects to study. I hate it. I fail at something for first time so badly i end up given up. No matter what I try to motivate myself my brain refuse to study the subject. Didn't help I live in a third world country where people don't know any idea about mental health. I am once again avoiding important stuff i should instead i am browsing through internet
I actually cried a little watching this because it's so familiar. And people who don't have these struggles often don't understand and are critical and judge us.
I (yet) haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but I completely understand. I experience so many of these symptoms, even if not at the full scale y'all do, it is so frustrating. I can't remember anything said to me a god damn minute ago. I try to read something but I just don't get it. I read but every time I just go away with my thoughts. If it's not a fun lesson in school, no matter how hard I try, I will always find a way to day dream without realising. Edit: I am exaggerating but i still experience the symptoms often
If you're anxious about it just ask a doctor to test you, knowing wether or not you do or don't have ADHD can give lots of peace of mind. It did for me at least... Also if needed there's medication when you've been diagnosed, thery're not perfecgt all the time but do help a lot.
I am also struggling with this but unfortunately I can't just go to a doctor and get tested because I'm 14 and I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents and I feel like if I tell them.they just wont understand
I think one of the most painful things about ADHD for me is ... feeling like I'm trapped in a loop. Every time I try to do something right, I left something else behind. Also the video is very accurate about hte self-hate spirals and internal frustration. My internal negative self-talk is very unrelenting at times; sometimes all I can think about is how I let other people down. The video hurts with how accurate it is, but at the same time, thank you for making it.
Wow the loop is a perfect example and I relate to that perfectly. O matter how hard I try to get things right I’m always missing something in the process, always. And the worst is when your in a loop that you can’t figure seemingly how to do anything productive. Not even things you enjoy
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
You're going to do incredible, i thank you so much for taking the time to understand us. I'm undiagnosed because my mom won't let me get diagnosed. She believes ADHD to be a "label" and doesn't believe it exists She believes i am lazy and disobedient. It is a common misconception, and she hasn't been educated about ADHD, so i understand. Thank you for taking the time to educate your students better, they will be better off because of it.
ADHD is absolutely debilitating. I remember when I was a kid I thought being ADHD was just being silly and disruptive so I never thought to get it checked. I had good grades and was quiet and spaced out a lot so nobody cared about my mind. I was eventually diagnosed as a teenager. Before then I became suicidal and I still struggle with thoughts of taking my life. I tried so hard to build coping strategies but I always fail. I'm also autistic and have trauma which just makes everything so overwhelming and impossible.
I absolutely feel you. The suicidal ideation is scarily real, but I want to promise you that you’re not alone in feeling this way, and although it feels physically impossible sometimes to navigate it and the emotions that come with being ‘neuro-spicy’, there’s always a way to push forward.💗💗
I’m not diagnosed but I’ve been looking in to it for 2 years now and, let me tell you going through your day to day life is absolutely draining. I know exactly how you feel because every task or situation feels impossible and extremely overwhelming. Coping is especially hard, too. Mainly because navigating emotions is so damn hard and at the end of the day you just have so much more stress built up.
I just wanted to tell you that Jesus loves you so much...no matter what. He died for you and gave you new life. You can tap into that by simply believing in His sacrifice! He'll always be with you no matter what. You can carry all your burdens to Him because He will bear them and help you through the toughest situations
My daughter has just been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD and I really appreciate these videos because I want to understand how she experiences the world as much as I can ❤️
Ill be reading anything right The. ill be like “wait what did I just read?” ill read it again and do that a million times and wont remember it ever And I take forever to answer a few questions when theres like 60 of em And by the time times up ill only have less or sloghtly above half of it done Im always last to finish * cant focus for shit Everything distracts me Im so fucking chaotic and such a mess I cant comprehend wtaf people try to explain to me I feel deaf 99% of the time Cuz I have no idea what anyone just said i try to put what i did hear together to figure out what the hell they were talking about but it rarely works Its fuckin hell I stopped joining in group assignments cuz all my ideas are always “dumb shit” If i try to help with somwthing i slow down the process get in the way or make thibfs worse If I tey to help noone wants me to 💀 And then they’re complaining how i didnt do anything and wtf am I suppossed to- and i cant do 99.9% of my assignments without sounding insane so i just take the 0 Sometimes i look at an assignment reread the whole thing over and over and have no clue where to start so i take a 0 and this happens so fucking often My gpa is crying C’s get degrees right? My sisters like “Theres no way she has adhd” Cuz she has it But ive been asked if ive had it on multiple occasions and at this fucking point im just like “Fucking hell.” Maybe I just need therapy Maybe its just trauma BUT I Havent been through ShIt Idfk But its messing with my academics and daily life and interactions so Wtf Can I do? “cope” as my sister says I’ll ramble about random shit talk to myself all the fuckin time Ymoac Im always scribbling or ripping paper and it stresses my teacher out but calms me down and keeps me sane Cuz IM so fucking Chaotic and manic my history teacher literaly is always like “Youre losing your mind” I KNOw iDk WhY I Have nO excuse IM fucking Sorry Ill be listening to teachers and forget their directions 2 seconds later after they finish talking then Ill ask and they think i wasnt listening and they refuse to answer sometimes they repeat it a million times and i still forget it every fucking time somehow What is wrong with me? IDFK
“Which one did we not have to do again?” “The one that requires you to listen” THAts NOt A fucking Answer- I Did LIsten OMG I forgot Ik u repeated it 10 Times IM Sorry OKAy?! IDFK Why IM LIKe this All I Know Is My future is looking very questionable at this rate
When I’m in a classroom, I’m staring at the teacher with no distractions and i can see what they’re writing, hear what they are saying, but i cant actually process it. watching this clip surprised me so much to see how accurately describe ADHD. When i do something, i feel like i need to do it again until i feel like its been done enough, like reading a sentence or staring at a spot out the window.
(A bit of a venting spree lol, I just wanted to get it out of my system) Absolutely. I always thought, even after I got diagnosed, due to how the visual representation for ADHD is, it is that people black out/ daydream in the middle of class without hearing anything, and suddenly it’s lunch and you heard nothing. I also have those instances yes, but most (if not all) of the time, it’s me just trying to process what the teacher is saying. I know what they’re saying, and when they say it, I think to myself “oh, yeah, makes sense. I understand that!” But I move in to the second sentence, understand that sentence, and suddenly the first sentence doesn’t make sense anymore. But if they talk too slow, the pace would make me think “it’s a very slow sentence” over and over again, and I end up not absorbing anything. If I somehow got through the whole class, and understood it, I look at the questions, it doesn’t make sense anymore even though it’s the same question, just a different wording. I go back to ask, explain why I got it wrong, then I tell them what I thought they said yesterday, and they reply “that’ll not at all what I said! Did you even listen?” And I’m like ???????? EVERY DAY 😭
@@crackers3978 hey I hope your doing alright. ADHD sucks. But I just wanted to reply so you know you are not alone. We will get better. We GOTTA get better. ❤❤ If ya wanna talk just vent here again. ❤
@@harriet2956 thank you so much, you are so nice 😭 I really do hope it gets better. I've been trying my best, but this encouraged me to try just a little bit more ❤️ This isn't a vent, moreso a curious question... Does medicine really help? I have been thinking about it. And though I don't think I'll get it yet, but I'd like so know more about medicine. Do you have any input on that? 🤔 (You don't have to answer if you don't have any input by the way, it's just a curious question :) )
@@crackers3978 well honey haven’t tried. But I guess you should give it a try. Because maybe it works for you and then you get better. Lol I’m literally preparing for my chem test and omg I was in my thoughts when I saw your message. Idk but I guess this is my sign to seek help or get meds. ( idk if it makes any sense ). Take care❤️
@@harriet2956 true. It's (unfortunately) expensive though, so I'll think about it another time 😅 Oml XDD I'm glad this snapped you out of your thoughts then! And also, good luck with your chem test!! And ALSO also, maybe 🤔 it's been universally recognised to be helpful, so you can think about it? :D But remember to do some research beforehand! So that you know what you're getting yourself into XD Anyways, you take care too ❤ and I'm sure you'll do fine :D
The “you’re reading a sentence” part was SO freaking accurate. I thought I was stupid all these years. I barely got diagnosed at 25 years old. That’s 20+ years of struggle, shame, and embarrassment that I had because I thought I was stupid.
I remember crying in college because I was trying so hard, I couldn't focus, I couldn't keep my schedule organized, it took me longer to study or do things my peers could do. I dropped out thinking I was a failure, turns out I had untreated adhd diagnosed at 26. It hurts thinking of how things could have turned out differently if I had known sooner.
Got diagnosed at 48. I still remember reading the same sentence again n again … since I was about 16!! Started medication at 48. Life is still not easy but better…
Wow, this short film is riveting. As an educator, it has opened my eyes to the internal challenges an adolescent with ADHD could go through. There is still so much to understand about their struggles, but my empathy grows because of this depiction. Thank you!
I was just recently fired after being diagnosed with ADHD. I was always being told I was making excuses for my behavior. When in my eyes, I was explaining what was causing me to act in a certain way. Forgetting deadlines, being late on occasion, or even dealing with a family member who had a substance abuse disorder. I resonate with this message.
I find myself wishing for the opportunity to be physically violent toward the people who fired you. I'm thinking something sharp, AND something blunt. Perhaps some sort of cordage could be used. So many uses for cordage.
it feels like every day I have to come up with an excuse and it just makes me feel like I'm a shitty person because I just can't explain why I forgot everything I was meant to do
I live under the constant stress at work that I will be talked to or let go someday due to how many things I am constantly unable to keep up with. Bridges burned. Items falling out of my arms. Always excuses and constant embarrassment.
Have you ever found yourself throwing socks in the air and catching them in the morning for no reason... then once you snap out of it you find out you've been doing that for 20 minutes.... Used to scare my mom to death when I used to do that cause I wouldn't stop and wouldn't respond until I suddenly snapped out of it. I don't do that anymore.... it makes the others uncomfortable.... Now I just blankly stare into space for I don't know how long, thinking about thinking about thinking about thinking about... I forgot what I was thinking about...
I had a psychiatrist so focus on me not having ADD just because I was not hyper active at her eyes... I am 27 and I have never been able to focus to do things, failed countless times to things I could do if I could sit and actually do them interrupted mentally
@@RanVargas Tbh my mind is hyperactive but my body isn't, many psychiatrists dont know the very details of illnesses themselves and how they vary, as an example many dont know that neurodivergent people are likely to have sensory issues even. It's hard to find a good doc. It's just better you tell them exactly what you think of the situation and what they might be misunderstanding, it can feel like you annoy them but anyways after doing that changing for a better one is a good option
I burst into tears there too. With ADHD, I recognize only two times, now and not now. I don't have the internal alerts, alarms, or cues I imagine other people have. Anyway, you're not alone.
I like how at the end a few stickynotes fall off the wall instead of all of them. It really symbolizes that medication wont solve all of your problems, but it can help you focus on some of them.
"You're running out of time" hits me everytime. I am almost 20, I haven't been diagnosed because I can't even call the reception to take an appointment... I feel so behind in everyway possible. 20 years old and I can't even remember basic things, it feels really pathetic to me. I tried to explain to ppl around me but they see that as excuses because "You had no problems at school" For most of my life, I think I tried to supress it by doing things that I don't even want to do. So I am lost because there is something wrong with me and I know it but I don't know if I even have the right to make this call and have a diagnosis. My life feels pointless to be honest. Feels like walking the same path over and over again without having a water break or something to hold on to. I don't have my license, I don't get out with friends, I don't know what I am doing most of the time. Feels like someone keeps me alive just for fun and I hate it so much. I sound crazy when I try to tell ppl that this is what my brain wants to do or say and I can't do anything else. Anyway, I hope someday I will find courage to call this number and have a test. But I know that having a diagnosis will not change the way my family or friends treats me and it makes me sick to the core knowing that it will not change anything
Hey, ADHD is not something to be ashamed of. Sure, it’s difficult dealing with it in a fast paced society, but it really depends on who you surround yourself with. I know a married couple with ADHD and they fit perfectly together! If you’re experiencing family members or friends putting you down, make sure to cross boundaries and never blame yourself. People are born with conditions, some are born with deadly diseases, it happens. some are born completely fine, but life is full of trials and tribulations for EVERYONE. no matter how perfect a persons life may seem. please don’t beat yourself up for it, just try your best and at the end of the day if you know you’re trying your best that’s all that matters. heck, it’s 3 am and i’m supposed to be finishing up some homework but i’m here writing this haha. you aren’t alone, stay strong and NEVER blame yourself EVER. be gentle with who you are
Heyy. I’m 27f been feeling the same way ever since I remember. For a long time I didn’t even know what was ‘wrong’ with me until adhd gained more attention. I remember the first few times reading other people experiences made me literally cry. That was the first time a kind of understood my self. Anyhow took me over a year to book an appointment with a professional, waiting time was another 6months, however it’s been over 2months I’m getting medicated. The first day I had the pill I was in literal tears. Now I’m not saying it sorts all my problems out but guarantee you the difference is day and night. I wish I was diagnosed earlier. I have sure missed out on a lot over the years. You got this 🙌🙌
Wasn’t diagnosed until I was 30something. Call the reception. It will mean the world to get that diagnosis and start getting more help than what you’ve been able to cobble together by yourself. Step 1: get the phone number. Step 2: pick up the phone Step 3: dial Just start by picking up your phone and dialing. Just that. Don’t think about anything else. All the other steps. Just dial. You can do it.
Hey, exactly same here, almost 20 and the exact same story... I just never talked about it, Idk, I think I'm scared too, because if I end up not having ADHD then it's just a problem with laziness and procrastination, but sometimes I can't just put myself to work. I hope you called for an appointment and had your answers, and that you're feeling better. Personally I hope to take an appointment this year as it's really difficult at university to work on my own
This is painfully accurate. Trying to explain ADHD to my best friend was an interesting challenge. He was trying his best to understand what I was saying but I knew that it sounded like I was making excuses for my actions. He knows that’s not what I was doing, and I do too. It’s insane how difficult it can be to live with ADHD, especially as a high school student. It gets to the point where even just thinking about an assignment is mind boggling and even though I’m doing nothing, I push it till the next day. “I’ll get it done during my free period” turns into “I’ll do it at lunch” turns into “I’ll do it when I get home” turns into accidentally falling asleep for 3 hours and now the sun is down and I feel like shit so I’ll just scroll through my phone endlessly until I fall asleep again has become a cycle that I want so badly to end.
Something that might help with that (for a short period of time) is to annoy yourself with cell phone alarms. Don't just set one alarm for something you have to do: set a bunch. that way everytime you'll snooze the alarm, a new one will pop up. And you'll end up getting so annoyed that you finally start to do the thing you need to do. Now I have adhd, and the thought of setting a bunch of alarms on my phone even though im on it all the time just sounds like a horrendous task. So try getting a friend to do it for you! ...if you remember to ask them. All I can say is Good. Luck. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I'm 4 years out of college. I'm taking medication and it helps way more than I thought it would. But before that, having an accountability partner was the best thing that worked for me when I needed to get something done. Especially since I'm a people please. Good luck with the rest of your school year.
Okay,i dont know if this will be helpful or not since i dont have ADHD but maybe you could try telling yourself that you would just prepare youself for doing a task, so lets say u wanted to revise, you would just get out you textbook or notes or whatever and then just say to urself, ok, i'll just do 5 minutes and see how you get on. Im not sure if it will help but i hope your situation gets better soon because i know it feels horrible to get nothing done.
No having adhd doesnt mean you can’t focus on anything, it means focusing too much on the wrong things at the wrong time too, it's a dysregulation. If you actually have adhd, this video should be relatable and emotional so you watch it properly
I'm crying "Live a life of constant noise and distraction and disappointment" It's the noise that really gets me. The noise and the exhaustion. It feels like years since I've had proper rest.
It's also all the background noise. & when u have to be in a public space, like train, bus, grocery store the overwhelm caused by all the background noise hits u like a hammer. I tend to get really frustrated when this happens, headphones help, but sometimes the music doesn't really knock out the noise overload... do u feel like this too?
@@marie-charlottekottek9524 like 80% of the time I'm hearing stuff in my head. Hearing and seeing stuff. Like there are 2-3 voices all the time, music/noise and random images. As a child I thought everyone had it, but as I grow older, I meet more people, and they deny having it. And what's worse is that it's just getting louder and more overwhelming. Shit basically hit the fan around 5 years ago for me when it finally became too much. Can't even sleep for the most part. I also have this thing where like I'm just about to sleep, I would hear a giant explosion or scream or see a flash. Like nothing all haunted and ghostlike, just annoying.
@@marie-charlottekottek9524 what I do is also use headphones. Saved up money and got myself airpod pros and the sony wh1000xm4. The noise cancelling along with some nice music helps for the most part in crowded places. But when it gets really overwhelming, I do this exercise my therapist taught me. Basically when you get a lot of thoughts, label the thoughts as "thoughts" and the feelings as "feelings". Like visualize the words. Helps a lot actually when it gets bad.
This is my life described like to the part my teachers needed to put me in the corner of the class with noise canceling airpods (my own) just doing my work. Helped but i got so exhausted day after day and it is still not sure wether i have ADHD or not but i think so.
I would like to make a point: medication doesn't work for everyone. ADHD is a neurological anomaly and as such we don't have a 100% way to fix it. When I was on medicine, it was like putting on glasses, but having the wrong prescription. I was more focused, yes, but I was also irritable, depressed, anxious, I wasn't growing, constantly hungry with no appetite. So I stopped. After two more years of struggling through it alone, I started therapy, which has been absolutely helping me. There are other options. Medicine can work for some, but if it doesn't work for you, there are other ways. Some might find a way by striking a balance between the two, some might do only one or the other, some might have something completely different. ADHD is a complex issue, but it's common enough that there are a lot of potential solutions.
Thank you for this! ADHD runs in my family. My brother was diagnosed as a child, but I had only just gotten diagnosed because mine wasn't so prominent as his. It's definitely getting worse though as I am older and as I entered highschool, focus is taking a huge toll on my life as well as doing small tasks. My brother had medication and it ruined his appetite, gave him tics, and made him almost robot-like. He had no personality when he was on the meds. He hardly spoke or ate, and slept a lot. He wasnt himself. And so, he stopped taking them. He's doing better without the meds than he probably ever would've with them. So thank you for your comment, because medication isn't a 100% fix! It might fix one thing while also ruining another part of you.
Absolutely agree! Im currently taking medication for my adhd and its been the best thing thats happened for me since i was diagnosed last year, but i understand everyone is different and experiences adhd differently, it's a spectrum, a wide one at that, and i don't think enough people know to what extent
Medication also worked for me too do homework, I finally could focus, but I had soooo many anxiety attacks! And I was a plant, I wasn’t as enthousiastic anymore.. Conversations didn’t go smooth anymore, and I lost a lot of weight
the type of meds you take is also a big role. When i started using adhd meds, I used Concerta 18mg (methylphenid). It was alright, and the wall that prevented me from doing the things i love became a small fence. Sometimes it was still hard, but most of the time i could just step over it. I had also become a bit more snappy and paranoid as it worsened my anxiety a bit, which my parents took quick notice of. So my doctor decided to have me try vyvance, 18mg. The month or so i was using it was probably one of the worst months ive ever had mentally. I was irritable, emotional and paranoid. My anxiety was through the roof, and the fall off in the afternoon was terrible. Obviously, i was switched off of that. I am now again taking Concerta, this time 36mg, alongside 10mg of citalopram, a depression/anxiety med. Its been working well for me for the past few months. just like the initial 18mg of Concerta, the wall has now halved in size. But this time, i make it over a bit more consistently.
I feel like this film is reflecting my life. My parents yell at me. People bully me. They dont listen to what I have to say. I dont remember anything. And it just repeats everyday.
It’s like you’re constantly anxious you’ll forget something so you focus on not forgetting but that just makes you forget more and then when you finally remember, it doesn’t matter anymore and now I need to remember something new.
When you live in a world where perfect productivity is expected of you, that fuels ableism. There's a ton of ableism when it comes to ADHD, other forms of neurodivergence, and anything that inhibits your producivity, you get treated like a burden. There's shaming by teachers, parents. Everyone treats you like you're choosing to fail instead of suffering from a disorder.
but it gets a little confusing when everyone says having a hard time reading is a key factor of adhd. i was diagnosed at age 3 with severe adhd and yet i was already reading short chapter books at that age. i don't think it's always the case. reading was never a problem... ig it's just me?
@@faerimusicxme too until I got to middle school and started playing music, then that part of my brain was rewired to understand the notes. Tested college age reading comprehension from kindergarten, savant level math skills (not EXTRAORDINARY, but really mfn good. Most people can handle 2-3 digits at a time of mental math, moving valued around. I am closer to 5.) I just wish I could mfn be around friends or anywhere in public without all the the damn noise
@faerimusicx I was a "hyperlexic" kid, too. I've never struggled with reading itself - but I often struggle with staying FOCUSED on what I'm reading. Reading the same sentence over and over, or reading pages without actually processing anything I read... So it's a different type of "hard time" than, say, dyslexia (though dyslexia is highly comorbid with ADHD). It's not the reading itself that's difficult, but the sustained attention.
how they works actually? I never really cared about my adhd (tho i was diagnosed as a kid) and believed that i don't have it it's just "i'm a bit lazy" bc i thought adhd are only hyper loud and naughty kids. I looked at my cousin which also has adhd but he's much more hyper and thought "nah i can't have that i'm not naughty loud kid like him". I'm adult now and struggle a lot, I literally can't do anything "right", I looked back at my whole life and noticed i always been "this way" just now it worsen up too much and thats when i realized I really have adhd. So i've been thinking to get meds but i'm scared bc i heard so many mixed opinions like they help to live like normal people but have so many downsides and that one medicine is killing creativity (it may be so stupid but for me it's really important bc it was my dream to become artist and during my hypers i always do something creative so losing it would make my life empty)
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 If you find that unmedicated, you're more creative (which I personally haven't found to be the case, I found that taking Vyvanse boosts my creativity) -- then you can just not take it on days you want to be creative. All the symptoms of ADHD return after you cut off the meds, so it's not at all a permanent cure. If you don't liike how you are medicated, you don't have to take the medication
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 Don't overthink. Don't overanalyze. I have had the same feelings, and everyone has different experiences with meds. You have to experiment and find what works for you. I was also never hyper or disruptive, although I couldn't make myself do super well in school, despite having the resources and ability to. Later on in adulthood is when the disorder really began to disrupt my life. Meds make me feel like who I really am, and who I want to be. That may be your experience, it may not. Don't obsess over others opinions or experiences. At the end of the day, it's what works for you, and what allows you to live a happy and fulfilling life.
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 ADHD is one of few mental illnesses so effectively treated by medication. That is why it is prescribed so often. ADHD is typically a deficiency of dopamine or issue with dopamine processing in your frontal lobe - the part of the brain that is necessary for 'executive functions' like impulse control, organization, decision making, etcetera. This issue essentially makes that part of the brain not work as it would in a neurotypical person. ADHD medication are normally stimulants, they increase the activity of your brain and can be only focused in that frontal lobe of your brain. This increases 'loose dopamine' between your neurons, basically making the way your frontal lobe processes dopamine work, because either the medicine is making you 1. make more dopamine or 2. process it better. Some side effects include sweating, fast heart rate or higher blood pressure but are usually safe. You should consult your doctor though.
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 Medication helps focusing and not drifting attention. It helps untangle thoughts and make them clear. It doesn’t kill creativity. Although, meds don’t fix every part of ADHD. It doesn’t fix the emotional part of it, this is something everyone has to work on unfortunately. Masking ADHD is an everyday struggle, even with medication.
For anyone suffering with ADHD(just like myself), just remember that when you finally get that assignment done, or get whatever piece of work done, its more valuable and impressive than if a neurotypical person did it because you did it suffering with hardships built in your brain. Just remember that what you do, and when you finally get it done, its so much more impressive even if it takes a little more time than others.
As a person that also has adhd, this is nice and all but there's no need to put down or try to one up other people just cause they are neurotypical. Theres nothing wrong with acknowledging that we go through more hardships when completing tasks, but our completed work isn't inherently more "valuable". Working past and completing work through the difficulties of adhd is impressive, but our work isn't automatically more worth than neurotypical peoples. That's just belittling them.
I mean we've all got our issues, whether or not it's adhd. Idk if I have it and I don't think I have signs of it but I can definitely relate to seeing a deadline and feeling overwhelmed by the mere thought of how much there is to do-
I’ve never been diagnosed but every time i come back to this video i feel like i relate to it even more. It makes me emotional because even as im watching this im thinking of all the things I’m procrastinating on but not doing anything to finish
I cried while watching this. I’m not sure if I have ADHD, I’ve been thinking that I had it since I was 14.I’m almost 16 now- still not diagnosed, and not sure if I’ll ever be diagnosed. I’ve tried everything to get myself to focus: A separate study room, Notion, tons of studying techniques and I end up taking days to finish a 40 minute video. During my chemistry exam prep, I spent two entire days, ‘reading the textbook’, but really I was only skimming through blurry sentences. I spend all day, trying to get myself motivated and excited to learn, but I end wasting time, and I’m running out of time. College applications are in a year and I have nothing valuable about myself, final exams are in February and I haven’t even learnt the first few chapters. I get so exhausted during school but I’m only paying attention to when it’s recess time. But still, there’s tons of people who procrastinate, and tons of people who don’t pay attention in class, and there’s lots of ADHD’ers who get straight As and do well in school.I don’t understand how people can display similar symptoms to me and still behave like a normal human being. I’m not sure if I’ve got ADHD.. or if I’m normal and just lazy and stupid. That reminds me, I was supposed to completing my physics notebook . I’ve been working on it since effing June..
Tengo el mismo problema. Tengo la misma edad y siento que me ha ocurrido lo mismo que tú desde los 14 años. Tengo muchos problemas de concentración y a veces de memoria, que me complican en diversas cosas, y más cuando sé o quiero concentrarme en una actividad que me propuse desde antes. He estado remarcándome horarios, anotando deberes, tanto de ocio como escolares o de hogar diariamente para que no me sienta perdida, ahogada en mis quehaceres. Me repito muchas veces al día, intentando recordar si hice algo, si debo hacer otra cosa, y me pregunto muchas veces si lo que hago es necesario o solo estoy perdiendo el tiempo; a pesar de todo, por todos los sucesos del día a día, la desconcentración se maximiza: alguien me dice algo que me parece interesante, me quedo pensando en ello y divago; leo algo que me parece interesante, me quedo pensando en ello y divago; pienso en algo interesante; pienso más y divago; algo me estreza; me quedo pensando en ello y divago; y así, y así, hasta que me doy cuenta de que estoy procrastinando y veo, que perdí el día completo. Ni siquiera logré hacer una actividad de ocio que me propuse. Nada. Distraigo a mi mente para que no se sienta mal. Procrastino más. Al otro día comienzo pensando, ¿por qué mierda no hice lo que debía? me lo replanteo, lo pienso, divago, me compadezco y me comprendo; no es mi culpa. Tardo 2 horas haciendo eso. Tampoco sé si realmente tengo ADHD/ADD, pero este problema me afecta mucho, demasiado. Admito, que en sí no me afecta en la escuela, no en demasía, sé cómo lidiar con esto allí. Sé a veces cómo lidiar con las personas. Pero sí me afecta con mis relaciones, con mis deberes, con mis metas. Últimamente he estado intentando mejorar mi condición, que no sé qué será, pero he estado comenzando a normalizar mi actuar, a aceptar que lo que estoy haciendo no es mi culpa, y he estado intentando organizarme más, y pensar menos. Cuesta, pero realmente noto cambios. Si tienes los mismos problemas que yo, o al menos parecidos, intenta averiguar qué te afecta, cómo te sientes, tus pensamientos. Vacíate del exceso. Date un día, da igual si lo atrasas por alguna otra cosa, pero dátelo, uno completo. Hazte un ambiente lo más cómodo posible, y haz nada. Haz lo que tengas ganas en ese momento, y entre tanto, piensa en lo que te ocurre, en qué momentos te sientes más exhausta; qué podrías hacer si te sientes así para motivarte. Organízate de la forma que quieras. Intenta entenderte. Desahógate mentalmente; puedes hablarte, puedes escribirte, puedes dibujarte, puedes tejerte. Lo que sea, incluso puedes pedirle a alguien que te dé su tiempo para contarle todo lo que sientes, solo si quieres. Luego de todo, cuando ya sientas que todo está listo, deja de pensar, deja de hacer todo, deja de hacer. Nada por minutos, o incluso horas, y finalmente, comienza a hacer lo que te propusiste, lo que te organizaste. Si haces esto, no sientas que hayas perdido el tiempo, míralo como un momento de reconocerte. Y al momento de actuar, felicítate por lograr las cosas, da igual si lo haces más tarde, si te tardas más, hazlo, siéntete bien por ello, es un avance. Perdón si escribí mucho, la verdad es que necesitaba de desahogarme. Espero que te sirva mi consejo,, y quizás me puse a escribir todo esto porque acá donde vivo, ahora, es de noche. Espero que te traduzca bien el Traductor de Google porque me dio una flojera traducirlo.
@@miau69 ¡Muchas gracias por tu consejo! El traductor de Google ayudó, estoy escribiendo con él, lo siento si suena raro. Espero que las cosas mejoren para nosotros :)
I'm almost on the exact same boat as you. I'm 16 now and I've been suspecting of adhd for the past two years now and it's been a real struggle. I've tried multiple techniques as well but they seem to only work for the first 2 days until they just don't do me any good. I've done so much research about it and found that I really resonate with the inattentive type of adhd, the thing is, I am afraid that by reading into it I've somehow managed to manifest the symptoms somehow. It doesn't help that authority figures have tried to invalidate the struggles. I hope we can get the help we need adhd or not as it is a real struggle that we have noticed in ourselves. It saddens me but the best I can do is wish you luck with everything and keep hope that you'll get through those hard times. Taking the first step of trying to help yourself is something you should be proud of!
@@miau69 No sé de donde seas pero como alguién con padres latinos me da gusto ver que el tdah también es algo que pase en nuestra comunidad. Con mis padres ha sido muy difícil de intentar hacer lo mínimo y explicarles sobre que es el tdah y es mucho menos posible que me creyeran que yo lo tengo. Te agradezco mucho por los consejos que le dejaste a la persona anterior y espero que todo te vaya bien :)
As a teenager with severe ADD, this video perfectly described the struggles in a person’s daily life. This video portrays ADHD in a way that isn’t just the dumb “I’m so quirky because I can’t pay attention” stereotype. It shows what really happens when it goes unmediated, such as not being able to finish things you’ve started, not being able to find things that are in plain sight no matter how observant you are, and not being able to keep track of time, thinking that 2 hours were just a couple of minutes.
@@starryv3n it is. It’s now called ADHD because it’s a spectrum. Though I think it should be called something else because ADHD has the H in it which means “hyperactivity”. But then again someone with ADD just has hyperactivity in their brain so it still works
"Sticky notes are a great way of telling you what you failed to do" hit me hard... I used to write sticky notes but they'd just pile up or get lost on my desk amidst all the other clutter. Using google assistant for reminders has helped me so much. Just being able to voice a reminder so it's out of the way until I need it frees up my thoughts a lot more, as opposed to a bright pink square sitting in my peripheral vision at all times.
That "and your reading a sentence" that single line and how is delivered, is how my mind would act everyday. I describe it like an echo chamber or a room where theres no furnature with a few people all chanting the same thing but its so loud it becomes like a single noise that no one can make out till one of them breaks the mold and yells something different, and the voices/echos follow suit. I got on meds a week ago for the first time, I'm alone in the room, no echo, only relief. This is an amazing video and needs way more views! I had been managing for so long but I didn't realize how hard I had been truely struggling. I need to learn new methods for remembering because dispite the loudness of the chamber it helped me trace back the converstation now its just me, my "friends" can no longer help me remember. I'll be ok though I'll write down and finally remember my sticky notes or note book.
THAT “all the promises you’ve made to friends and family that’ve broken over time” HURTS, because I promise to do something for someone or get something for someone but it never ends up happening. I promise to do my homework but something else consumes my time and it repeats. I promise to get my friend a gift but I never end up doing it. It’s hard.
I understand how painful it is to feel like you're constantly letting down the people you care about because promises seem to slip through your fingers. It's a heavy burden to carry, and the cycle of unfulfilled commitments can weigh heavily on your heart. But please know that you are not defined by your struggles. Your intentions are pure, and your desire to fulfill your promises is genuine. It's okay to stumble along the way, but what matters most is your determination to keep trying. Each day is a new opportunity to take small steps forward, to learn from past experiences, and to find strategies that work for you. You are not alone in this journey, and with patience, understanding, and self-compassion, you can navigate through the challenges of ADHD and build stronger connections with those around you.
Anytime I watch a video like this it always focuses on the more common/well-known side of ADHD, the "I can't do my work because I get distracted easily" which yes is true but they never dive deeper into the unknown part that's hard to explain to others. I've used the exact words of "I'm not sure why I can't do it, I just can't" and everyone just takes it as an excuse, this video PERFECTLY describes how I feel on when I say that phrase. Legit made me cry
I had several talks with my mum who just says i am making things up and my dad who makes fun of me saying that he also has adhd because he had one lazy day or forgot one thing. My mom said to me: if you‘ll change your mindeset and say to yourself, ‚it‘ll work out, i‘ll do it‘, it will work out and things will change. And i was sitting in front of her, crying and saying ‚but i CANT, i want to but i Caant, i just CANT. Its not as simple as just ‚doing it‘.‘ I had many many days, sitting in m room and crying about myself that i want to do things so much and live a healthy lifestyle with things i do, but i just cant even tho i want it so bad. Its so frustrating. Frustrating that NOBODY without this condition does not understand the ‚i CANT‘.
@@schnatalia LITERALLY, ITS SO ANNOYING, I wish there was a better way to say it so people don’t think it’s just “being lazy” but there isn’t 😭✋🏻 It’s so refreshing when someone else can understand what you mean by “I can’t”, like I I want to do things BUT MY BRAIN WONT LET ME 💀
When I try to explain it I say: try to put your hand onto the hot oven. You‘re physically able to do that but your mind is stopping you. It’s not perfect but it kinda helps me to describe it
As a person with good grades and mild ADHD, it never even passed my mind that I had ADHD for a very long time. Since my grades were always good and I wasn’t a bad student, it didn’t pass anyone else’s mind either. Not even my mother, a psychologist. I felt like this for a good amount of my life. Zoning out,fidgeting,not sitting still,getting distracted,feeling paralyzed when having to complete a task,procrastinating,being extremely sensitive,feeling like a disappointment,waiting till the last minute to do soemthing,doing things too fast.it’s a lot to take in. You don’t know how to cope. Your reading a sentence,maybe even a math problem,but you know it,your brain is just not processing. You read the sentence and reread and over and over again until your mind eventually gives in. It’s the same thing from people “it’s not that hard”,”what do you mean you don’t understand?”,”you should be able to do this”. And they are right. But it’s really not that easy. Alarms:don’t work,sticky notes:don’t even catch your attention,aderall:works but at the risk of many things. What can you do at this point? You’re a procrastinator who can simply just not sit still or think slow enough to process. You feel like a disappointment. Even if you are diagnosed and have accommodations they aren’t much help. Nothings ever a good enough excuse. No matter what you do it’s not right. Wether your grades or good and your social life and friendships are going downhill,or visa versa, it’s still you having to live with this “thing” that you just can’t walk away from,no matter where you go it follows. The only place you feel even merely safe is ,is your own head,and even then….
I wanted to cry reading this because I re read multiple times the same thing. Knew what the words were but could not process it. Do I have ADHD? I'm almost 30 and I never got diagnosed. I don't even understand how to get checked or if I have the time for it. Thinking about it, makes me feel sick and anxious
It's the same for me, i actually reallly have to read something many times before i get to distinguish the informations, and even then sometimes it's like torture, Even vidéos i watch, i find myself going back multiple times People with adhd better choose something they really love to do it's one of the only ways not to feel the torture of Work and forcing urself to focus (without even being able to understand sometimes)
I always was top of my class and I graduated with a first class degree. I got a really high paid job (stressful). But I am always in debt because I can't manage money and I spend stupid amounts when I'm in a new hyperfocus. My house is a mess, I struggle to even shower or hang up my clothes. All I get from my family is mocked and I feel so ashamed. I had a psychotherapist for years and she recently told me there was no way I have ADHD and so I take that to mean I must be choosing to be like this 😢
@@BanjoPixelSnack but u still deserve to see another therapists, someone who can give u a real test, don't stop there, one of the biggest indicators is the feeling of struggle, because ordinary people do have all of these symptômes but just onces in a while so they don't really feel they are struggling... Some therapists really have their préjudice about ADHD especially when it's not their spéciality, i might guess it's because of ur position that urs though u couldn't get there with ADHD but perhaps u are genuily interested by what u'r doing (in which case u actually have an advantage), also with a therapist u just sit and speak, she can't see when u forget things, how ur house is always a mess, how u can't manage ur time... Etc and perhaps u didn't complain about these things that often because u had other problems... (we kinda tend to try to hide as much as we can the mess that is around us, hoping people won't notice) Now don't get me wrong, if 2 or 3 other therapist say the same thing u gotta accept their diagnostic, but try to choose one who is specialised... I hope whatever ur problem is, u'll get better 🙏🙏 Ps: for me it seems to me that u r both smart and hard working so without adhd (it can also be dépression or something else)it would be prety easy for u to be organised... So don't stop here
@@BanjoPixelSnack imo you should go to a different therapist. I've started medication about a week ago and my perception of life has changed drastically- I don't feel like I'm constantly falling apart or like an imposter. My point is the benefits far outweigh the consequences.
I'm a 55 year old man and this film chilled me to the bone. But if I began explaining why, I'd begin unraveling the details of a life in which I'm thankful for allt he good things I've ever had or experienced...but there is so much that is pure shit. I frequently share one moment in my life that proved to be a kind of premonition related to my ADHD. When I was 5 years old I went one day witih my mother to pick up my sister from school. She was in first grade and would come out soon after the bell. But I wasn't sitting quietly. I was sobbing and begging my mother not to make me go to school "because I won't know what to do, mom!" What 5 year old says such a thing? My memory of it is crystal clear, too. But as years passed "I won't know what to do" came to define one of the core problems that would plague me the rest of my life. And it's what you see in this film. Now, for me, I'm like the girl in the film much/most of the time, but I have bursts where my intelligence and focus bursts on, and I am (seriously) the smartest one in the room. My mother was a member of MENSA. I'd watch her destroy the players on the show "Jeaopardy!" and she agreed we would play along with the show, with calculators in hand, on the honor system. I'm in high school at this time. And I actually beat her on a few occasions. My sister, my father, even my friend I considered "the genius" couldn't touch my mom. It was loads of fun. I've taken two IQ tests in my life and scored a 147 and 141. As I was struggling trying to turn two F's into D's my senior year in order to graduate, I got a 31 on my ACT. Moral of the story? I could have had a much, much happier life. It's right there, everything I need, sitting here right now. And yet, I sat down this morning around 9 AM with a stack of papers and had five tasks to complete. I got up from my seat 20-30x today, each time returning, saying "let's get this shit done." Only to wind up on eBay, reading news, and eventually perusing UA-cam, which lead me here. I've been up since 6:30 AM and accomplished one thing.
This changed my perspective of ADHD so much. I have a friend with ADHD, I don’t have it so I’ve never really understood it, whenever the teacher calls on him and he doesn’t know the answer, my teacher gives him a lecture on listening and I see him shed a tear. I thought he was lazy, never listened in class, chatty, then cries when he gets an answer wrong, I thought he was dramatic, but this really helped me learn more about ADHD, thank you for this.
Make sure to give extra love to your ADHD friend. Offer him smiles and understanding and be the outlet for him to unload his fun adhd hobbies and interests to. We internalize the negative talk we receive from our parents, teachers and peers, so, so much and it wrecks the way we see ourselves. Having someone who loves us for who we are and doesn’t make us feel stupid for something out of our control means more than words will ever describe ❤❤❤
That is very good to hear. The most important thing to a young person is the support from their peers. It literally changes everything. Maybe you can also help others to understand your friends situation better. It takes a village....be the village.
The amount of appreciation I have for you is immense. Not enough people without adhd care to even try and understand. You are a true friend for even clicking on this video.
I wish I had a friend that would go out of their way to attempt to understand like you have. I hope you know just how much that would mean to your friend, and I hope you are just as supported in your life.
I have never seen something demonstrate my experience as exactly as this. This is literally my life. Every day. It’s why I hate school. Every. Single. Day. I’m exhausted and I don’t know why because I didn’t get anything done, and being tired is not good enough of a reason if I’m always tired. Whenever I bring up adhd the adults in my life say it’s just my anxiety and that “im searching for an excuse” but the innate notion comes first…not the anxiety. I’m so tired. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
@@Finalizor it’s a neurodevelopmental condition, a neurotype, caused by different brain structure and chemistry. It’s invariably genetic - you’re born with it. While ADHD affects cognitive function and can absolutely affect your mental health, it isn’t a mental health condition in itself, just like how autism isn’t one. A mental illness is a dysfunction in how your existing mind functions, but with ADHD (and other genetic neurodivergence) your existing mind is functioning normally within the context of your innate brain structure and neurotype. I’m also autistic with ADHD.
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 27. The diagnosis came about during therapy while trying to set my life back on track -- I was suicidal, hated my job (staring at a wall for 11hrs/day), and generally felt impossibly behind my peers. Between my medication and my therapist, it has been profoundly life-changing. I'm going back to school for aerospace engineering and business management (both fields I'm exceptionally talented in, but never had the focus for), and for the first time in a decade I'm actually optimistic and excited about my future. While I feel as though the last 20 years of life were wasted, I know the next 20 are going to be absolutely exceptional. This video really hit home for me, especially as it's 30 minutes past my bedtime and I'm still watching videos about procrastination. Excellent work!
"Both fields I'm exceptionally talented in, but never had the focus for" This kinda stuff keeps me up at night... knowing you're good at something, even better than most at it, but you're missing one piece that separates you from someone successful in the field. It's like being a superhero with a broken leg. Then the retroactive thinking that comes with it and feeling like you're just behind everyone else and there's not enough time to make any sort of headway into doing what you're good at doing. Story of my life... It sounds like you're doing the right things and paving your path. You can do it and it's okay if things don't work the way you want them to during your journey. Time isn't against you and take it at your own pace! Good luck, you got this!
@@livewire42 and here I am trying to finish my PhD with an actually broken ankle, like it wasn't already hard enough.. I was only diagnosed last August at the age of 30 and still trying to find how to manage everything
The part where the teacher goes “nice of you to join us. This is the ##%^*%#\\ time this month” felt so real since- sometimes the sound of someone saying something in that send actually sounds like that in my mind.
I had a teacher who happened to math and computers, so at least twice a day. I wasn’t late. But always unprepared. He would wait, every class, for the room the quiet. Then he would greet just me, by name. Every day. Every class. So every student would be looking at me. Usually would give me some compliment on my clothing or hair. I think it pissed him off bc I sat in his class, did the homework that was due in seconds, right in front of him, never took a note, never opened my book. Doodled bc that’s how my brain processes best. Got great grades, was not a nerd.
I love this, and I hope we got similar short-films about ADHD as an adult, with your job and your house and your bills to play and your place to clean and the never ending cooking and cleaning and buying groceries
3:49 the sudden change to the black background is a really good detail. perfectly portrays the feeling of being confronted about something you forgot and suddenly everything surrounding you fades away
“The sticky notes on your wall. They’re good at keeping track of what you’ve failed to do” absolutely broke me. My to do lists keep getting longer and longer and becoming a constant reminder of how little I am actually getting done. So then I drop them and try just living in the moment, but then I descend into chaos and things get forgotten. So then I start the to do lists again and the cycle repeats.
I've kept lists my entire life since I was like eight or ten. And you're right. It's like maybe the perfect list will help me get more done. So I would research lists. Try to figure out better ways to organize my lists. I even told therapists over the years that I had an unhealthy relationship with lists. No one guessed that I had ADHD. I KNEW there was something seriously wrong with my list problem but I didn't know what. Two years ago at age 56 I got diagnosed. Once I started researching it, my entire life made sense. And I went through a grieving process because of everything I could have done but lost because I had this issue and I didn't know what was wrong.
My therapist taught me this, and it helped: Pick 3 things you "have to" do today, and 3 things you "want to" do today. They dont have to be big things, but do the "have to's"... and if you can't, then write down why and work to fix the problem or ask for help. ... personally i struggle with filling up my day with 20 tasks instead of the 3 tasks i should be prioritizing. Lists are deceiving in that way. I cant even make them anymore, its endless. as a mother of 3 daughters with adhd i have to just do things based on urgency.
Was definitely shocked to see that this vid has so few views, the production quality is amazing! The editing, acting, and sound design really give it an immersive effect.
ik this will sound stupid, but this simple video made me cry. I've never been able to explain what and how i felt, i always felt like I was lazy, because that was what was told to me by the people arround me, jokingly or not. I felt like I had no caracter, because I could never follow the promisses I made myself. I let other people down, because they wait for me to do something about it, and they wait, and they wait. And it never ends, and it will just never end. And than, a diagnosis, people tried to understand a little, 20 types of medication, trying to understand what ADHD is, that it is not only atention, that it is procrestination, lack of knowing what time it is. KNOWING you HAVE to get that stupid, short task done, that is is so easy, but it doesn't interest you, so you don't do it. Knowing that that is ADHD and that so many other things come with that. Understanding that thinking negative about yourself, and taking criticisme way too seriously is also ADHD, being so incredibly scared of what others will think of you. The sentence 'you look at the sticky notes on the wall, they're a good reminder of what you failed to do' is so real, you know those tasks are there, but there is this one little annoying man in the controle center of you head smacking the nope button every time you try to do something. However, you do still start but never finish it, leaving 20 unfinnished tasks, that you will never look again at if nobody reminds you to do it. You know your room is filty and messy and it bothers you, it makes you even less productive, but cleaning it? no way! And after reading my comment again, i finally realised I found a way to (kind of) discribe my ADHD, and I've not been so happy in a LONG time.
As a girl with severe ADHD, one of my biggest pet peeves is people expecting my ADHD to be only minor, and not much of a problem because it's oftenly worse in guys. It just doesn't make sense. And it also bugs me how people think my ADHD will be magically "fixed" with my medication.
I don't think ADHD is necessarily "worse" in guys, it's more like it presents differently in guys and girls. For guys it does tend to present more as the can't-sit-still type of ADHD, and everyone can easily physically see that. For girls, it tends to be more of an internal struggle, disorganized/racing thoughts and stuff like that. It's just as severe, but it's more of an invisible disease, and unfortunately, for most people, seeing is believing. Trust is hard to come by these days, so if people have to just trust you when you say you're struggling but they can't actually see it for themselves, it's easier to brush it off as excuses than extend that blind trust. At least, that's what I've found, both in my experience as a girl with moderate-to-severe ADHD, and in the info I've found while researching more about my ADHD. (But I understand what you're getting at, just wanted to share the info I've found. I didn't know until recently that ADHD presents differently in girls than boys, or that it presents differently in kids than adults.)
@@mak_inthebox4817 I definitely have an unorganized, anxious and stressed mind, but I also seem to have the can't-sit-still thing. It's really hard because whenever I'm off medication I'm very squeamish, stressed and uncomfortable while sitting, r even laying down. It's like I don't know what to do with my body while trying to focus. People also get on my nerves WAY easier when I'm not taking my medication. I get angry SO easily, but people just get mad when I say it's because of my ADHD.
I completely agree, I wasn’t diagnosed until I had turned 18. After I told my family they didn’t believe me, they questioned me if I thought the diagnosis was correct, they said it didn’t sound correct and that maybe, at most, I was just on the border of ADHD. I told them it was absolutely correct, I told them I had been diagnosed with moderate-to-severe ADHD and that I was really happy to finally have an answer to what I’ve been feeling. I had to tell them I wasn’t asking for their opinion I was just sharing some good news and if they genuinely want to get to know their daughter they’d ask questions, judgment free.
ADHD is the disability that will always be treated as “laziness and excuses” no matter what and its awful. even with a diagnosis its ruining my life and i get almost no support. everyone treats me like i “choose” to be this way. im tired of hearing that i just need to be more organized or more disciplined. my brain quite literally just cant remember things, and cant organize itself. theres been so many times i have been spending 10+ hours on homework in tears because its physically painful trying to force myself to get through things. and all everyone hears with that explanation is just how “dramatic” it sounds without realizing thats at least my genuine reality of living with ADHD. i would do anything to get cured.
I can relate to a lot of this. I've been in many similar situations as you. What really helped me was taking Adderall. It really does help with giving your brain the kickstart it needs. Everything else follows, memory, energy, organizing, focus. I noticed you say that you get almost no support, not zero. Whoever it is that does support you, try to appreciate that one person. Sometimes, that's all you need to keep you going. Talk to a psychologist about getting some medication that can help you with the daily goings. There's nothing wrong with seeking help and finding medication that truly helps your daily functions.
I'm not sure if I have adhd or not, I have felt a few similar things in this video, and I've looked up the symptoms, and I do have a few but I haven't been medically diagnosed. I've tried to talk to my parents about but they both shut me down saying "ive worked with people who have adhd, you're not like them because you can sit still." Everyone's adhd is different and I don't think they know that. I'm planning on making a slideshow telling them about the different adhd's and other things. I'm definitely going to use this video on there. Thank you for making this.
You may not read this but tell your mom there’s 3 diffrent adhd’s, hyperactive/impulsive type, inattentive and distractible type, and combined type. (Which is the 2 mentioned beforehand combined together.)
I have both the hyperactive and inattentive type of ADHD and i know this is in the replies but you dont have to be fidgety to have ADHD.. my dad has ADHD but only the inattentive type and he doesnt ever fidget, i know it not the same for everybody but it helps to know how real life people act with this disorder rather than reading it from somewhere. ive found it really helps to talk to other people that are diagnosed, i learned about things that i didnt even know were symptoms of ADHD from talking to other who have it
I have ADHd and just started my own channel talking about my own experiences/etc. when I saw this film I was in tears because I have never felt so heard. This is exactly what it feels like every day, thank you for making such a good example video. This is something I will show to family and friends that don’t get it from now on. ❤❤❤
Even as a senior in high school and being diagnosed with ADHD for 10 years, I’ve never been able to accurately describe it. Thank you so much for this video
Jesus loves you and he died for you. The Love of God Love is sooo big. He can listen to your sorrow, to your doubt, to your depression, to your joy, to your anxiety... Literally everything ! He cares about you, start to care more about him. Read the Bible if you want to learn more ❤
Oh. This made me cry. I’m 15, and when I was in 5th grade I was diagnosed with ADHD. It sucks. I was put on the medicine immediately, and while it did make everything a lot better, it had so many terrible side effects. I was losing a lot of weight, had lots of mood swings (literally I burst into tears once when my mom told me we had to go to the mall) I was always shaking, etc. I really wish I could send this video to my teachers, because my math and avid teacher always make me feel like everything is my fault. Both of them are like “why don’t you understand? Why don’t you ask for help?” And I just... blank. I don’t know why. They really blame everything on me, and they just don’t realize I can’t control it. God I hate it so so much, should I show this to my mom? I don’t think half my teachers even know about my 504. At least I’m the only one alone
bro outside of most things in this comment just wanna say that the shaking is so relatable. if i try to sit still my body literally shakes. though it's become easier to deal with (bc i had a really young diagnosis, like 3 or 4 years old, maybe earlier. i kinda learned to just go with it), it's so annoying i swear-
I think you should! The traditional education system doesn't cater to students with mental health issues, but by discussing it with your mom maybe you can get accommodations from your teachers or they'll go easier on you. I hope things get better for you!
I relate so much! I was also diagnosed in 5th grade, immideately put on meds, had rapid weight loss, shaking, mood swings, I know exactly what your going through. The medicine works great but it also ruined me at the same time. (I also had no appetite)
@@faerimusicx no because my head will like twitch or kinda move to the side and its so embarrassing i think its probably my medication but i have to like play it off like i was looking at somethingg
This made me cry because it is so accurate to what I feel in a single day with my ADHD. I have troubles with explaining it all the time and my class, teachers, and even some schools I have been to all have said I’m just stupid and lazy. I’m lucky tho my family understands and helps me find ways to cope without using meds but some days I just wonder if I did take meds if it would fix me. More people need to see this video.
Technically there is nothing the "fix". The problem is how we live in today's society. It's incredibly structured. This isn't how people lived before agriculture. Humans created a system that only works for a certain kind of person and then blame us when we don't fit the mold.
Depends entirely on how a person reacts to amphetamines, for me the side effects far outweighed the benefits, but the benefit of added concentration was definitely there but here’s the thing…. Side effects get so bad that you go off the pills which lead to withdrawals but the worst thing is that now you’ve taken the slight benefit for granted because you don’t realise untill it’s gone which will keep you going back on the medication. The best thing is to find ways to cope without medication because all it’s going to do is trap you. ADHD is just some bullshit label put on people that functioning outside of what’s socially accepted as being "Normal" we shouldn’t have a label for being different and unfortunately taking medication will make us become slaves to the label. We need to learn to cope otherwise the knowingness of having a diagnosis will control us because we say we can’t before we even try.
Taking medicine wouldn't fix you. It's not the goal. You don't need to be fixed, you just need to take a look at your life from a different perspective.
after this video I figured I don't really have adhd just focus issues sometimes but the best thing I took away from this is the casual sticky notes thing for every small task. I am gonna start with that, amazing idea
4:40 - 5:00 was powerful for me. "its not like you want to let people down". I catch myself thinking this on a daily basis, especially with my parents. i forget simple chores and each time i try to convince them i dont do it on purpose or because im lazy. gosh, what a great short film you guys have made.
I get shouted at all day every day and get called “annoying” for it. I sometimes feel bullied because I know I cannot help it. I’m just a “mess” according to them which doesn’t feel fair.
im so grateful for the parents i have. they arent perfect of course but they try and that is somethimg a lot of parents dont do. my mum has adhd as well and my dad has autism. my mum was also a mental health advocate so she understands everything. my dad struggles to understand this stuff becasue of his auticm but he lets mum take care of it and does whatever he can to help, even if its just hugs
@@simonamarsano841yeah🙃 and once time I decide to tell them “I’m tired. Mentally tired. I don’t know i why but just laying on bed it also can make me tired. I run out of passion(to live I want to kms🤡) now.” and “I want to do it but I don’t want to do it(i can’t think now pls shut up and lemme think alone!) so I can’t do it and wait till I can do it.” 👆🗿
As someone with a bad glasses perscription, the analogy at the end really spoke to me. Theres nothing quite like that profound feeling of joy mixed with despair as you realize... is this what it is like for everyone else all the time? They can read that? I was supposed to be able to read that? How much have I been missing out on? I don't have ADHD but I can only imagine it is a similar feeling, and i'm very glad that there are medications that can help oeople
I could relate to it more too because I wear glasses. It's weird when you realize you've been seeing things so differently than everyone else has, when you were made to believe the opposite.
Me too. Once I put on some glasses I was amazing about all the detail I was missing in life. I was seriously crying on my way back home. Just staring out the window looking at everything. It felt new.
I was having so much suicidal thoughts 10 years ago as a teenage, also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. I got diagnosed with ADHD, spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
@@OliviaLivy I recently learned that my father struggles with ADHD and my parents think that I have it too. Even as I'm typing this right now I don't really know what I should say aside from that. For the longest time I assumed that I was just...being lazy. And true, maybe some of it is laziness, but...if it isn't me, then what is it, yknow? I want to ask my mom if I should get tested, but I don't want to put her in another bad financial situation. I wanna talk to someone but I just don't feel up to it. I wanna get shit done, but I can't help but fire up Roblox, play a couple songs only to fire up roblox again. It's like focus, but not being focused, or being focused on the wrong thing. I just...I don't know. I don't know.
Right at the end, the "It helps." bit is perfectly correct. It doesn't fix everything, and some days it doesn't fix anything. Regardless, it blows a few of those sticky notes away, and sometimes that's more than I dare to ask for.
I *hate* how accurate this is. I wish this was only a made up movie and not actually and exactly my real life. I can't even decide what hits hardest: The entire morning scene, the walking in to class late and everyone staring, "the sun has set, you've wasted the day", you're exhausted but you don't know why cuz you didn't even get anything done today, the promises you've made to friends and family that you've broken, the times when the internal voice repeats the same phrase over and over and that's all you hear bounding and rebound through your head: yourerunningoutoftimeyourerunningoutoftimeyourerunningoutoftime, "ADHD is living a life knowing what the full picture is *supposed* to be, but every time it matters, you find yourself missing a piece," --- It literally *all* hit home so hard. You nailed it on the head. This video is so good, and it needs to be shown everywhere for educational purposes.
I feel so comforted and uncomfortable watching this because of how accurate it is I've been stuck in a burnout for so long and i feel so pathetic for not being as resilient as i used to be Or maybe everything was just easier back then and i was never resilient in the first place I keep finding myself making excuses and being all over the place and wanting to change but nothing is just clicking I'm letting everyone including myself down Everytime i try to make a little change i just lose myself along the way and before i know it im back to square one, a month has passed, and i havent even finished half of what i was supposed to do Im stuck between wanting help and comfort from other people and wanting to isolate myself in fear of disrupting everyone else's peace I try to be more forgiving towards myself but it makes me feel like im being too soft on myself But if i try to be more disciplined i just end up making "unrealistic" expectations of myself I feel like a broken record A phone charger that always needs the right angle just to work and stops working after just the slightest shift I constantly get paralyzed thinking about what i should do instead of doing Obviously it's not like this everyday Sometimes im very capable and productive and feel amazing Then when i hit a slump again i compare myself to that competent version of me Telling myself that i was capable of doing almost anything, so why not now? Why cant i bring her out when i want to When i NEED to The funny thing is i have never been diagnosed. I do not want to self-diagnose. But a part of me just resonates with the possibility that I maybe probably might actually have ADHD But my guidance councelor told me that our generation tends to self diagnose and that i should try journaling and breathing exercises and try naming 5 things i can touch, 4 things i can hear, 3, 2, 1 Wait, did i spell exercise right? Whatever Maybe she is right What if im just thinking about it too much?
🥹🥹😭😭🫂. ❤ I feel the Same. Each word of your Comment is Just like me. The feeling of this long Burnout, The feeling of Missing my Old Competent self. Or maybe everything was easy? No it wasn't, It was hard... I was Hardworking. But Something is wrong in Brain. Idk. 😭 I can't focus, I can listen for a straight 45min lec. I can't keep track of Anything, work, test assignment. Im overwhelmed. 😭 this is Awful. (Laying in the Chaos of My Books and Stationary, wasting my life. I... don't know..I was never like this...)
You’re not, don’t worry, that’s a very good description and it puts my feelings into words when I never could. Great job, keep going, you can make it, I know you can.
i love this sm, i hate always having the “adhd is so fun and creative” stereotype, or people saying “oh i cant focus that well either! do i have adhd?”. its just a cycle of hoping to be productive, failing, feeling guilty, and repeating. i never thought it could be described any better. thank you for this EDIT: i feel like i didn’t describe what i felt well enough so im here to clarify. i meant people who diagnose themselves over tiktok videos spreading stereotypes or false information about adhd. i usually see the “oh im hyper lol i have adhd” kinda people all over the place and it sucks because its more than that. everyone has a different experience but that was mine. sorry i came off as hateful.
Unless you think people are born knowing what ADHD even is I don't think it's fair to shame someone asking if they might have that problem too. People should be allowed to ask questions if I never watched Joyner Lucas's "ADHD with Revenge Intro (official video)" I would have never known I had ADHD because I was still unsure what it even was after watching that video till I looked into it more via Google, UA-cam, and even asking people who have been diagnosed with it, and eventually getting tested my self.
I was almost about to go to the doctor to see if I could finally get tested for ADHD, but your comment sent me back into my spiral of "I'm just doing it for attention, I don't have it that bad"
@@Sina-dv1eg i thought i was too. i just mean people who diagnose themselves over stereotypical tiktok videos spreading falls things. im sorry i came off that way. i think you should still go to the doctor if you really think you have adhd because its definitely not fun to have.
As someone who literally doesn't remember a time when i didn't know i had ADHD I'm genuinely shocked at how i relate to this video, it's simultaneously spot on and completely off the marl from my experience. The medication part especially, i was very heavily overmedicated as a kid and have actually been off medication for 12 years now but i have thought about trying it again now that it's my own decision and not "well this kid needs to be zombified to function". Fortunately i had my mom (who was also ADHD) and she basically taught me how to break myself out of the apathy loop and i am eternally grateful for that. It's not always doable and especially as an adult now I've noticed I've gotten much worse at it. Great video even if it confused the hell out of me!
strangely I can cope with my ADHD during school years because the schedule from the school helped me a lot to keep track of everything, was a struggle to stayed focused during class but the adrenaline to get a high score made it exciting so I got high score sometimes. But, now, as an adult. It’s getting hard to keep on with my project. Just like her, drinking water and eating, one day passed just like that. There were times where I made peace with ADHD but there were also times where I feel disappointed at myself. Living with ADHD is hard. It’s not as easy as ‘just do it’, I want to ‘just do it’ but my brain freezes then I get nauseous. Cheer up my fellow ADHRers
You are me School was somehow fine but since then I am constantly struggling. Every word and sentence I thought: that's me somehow But also: I am not alone
@@rachael5611 ah, nice. Thanks for that, I already know that, maybe good reminder (?) By the way, I am interested, are you a bot or a person? And if you are a person, what's your favourite bible verse? And why did you post it underneath this particular comment? Sending love (to anyone who may read it, I think anyone could need a little bit more kindness) :)
I’m not diagnosed with ADHD, but this whole video feels so unbelievably relatable, it feels like someone finally understands how I feel constantly. It’s a constant fight with your own mind. I don’t want to self diagnose at all but sometimes I feel like no one understands. My parents don’t really believe that ADHD is completely real. They think it’s from electronics or bad diets. Which for some diagnoses, sure you could say that’s true. I actually think I have ADHD, but I don’t want to self diagnose, nor try to make an active appointment to see if I have it. I just feel like I really relate to a lot of people with it. Maybe I’m weird, or maybe I have it. Idk, but I just realized that right now I’m supposed to be doing two weeks worth of homework but I got distracted from this lol. It’s due tomorrow.
Try just going to talk to a therapist. If you do have ADHD, you could get a ton of help not just with meds but you could better understand how your brain works and learn a ton of strategies to work with your ADHD instead of against it, and generally make life more liveable . And if you don't have ADHD? Well, therapy is still helpful for anyone. You could learn better habits and work ethic.
@@Quantumstar65 no fuck you, you don't get it do you? I CAN'T do my homework done, it's hard to actually do it because i procrastinate, not because im lazy asshole. I CAN'T suck it up because i feel like i can't do anything right, like always and will be always. what'd you do if some dickhead said the same thing to you? but a lot more targeted and worst?
This is such a amazing short film, I can’t count how many times I come back to watch it because it genuinely comforts me to know I’m not alone in dealing with ADHD
This actually made me cry. Because it’s so accurate. The made up excuses,Loosing track of time, A Teacher or Professor teaching a new lesson or topic or review and it’s like speaking in a different language. Homework,Where you’re brain is fried because you didn’t do anything. You kept getting asked on saying “What did you learn about today at school?” Where you forgot everything because you’re so exhausted. And then,the next few minutes a sudden burst of energy comes in and you told them about the subjects you love but they said “Why didn’t you tell me sooner?” You really don’t know the answer so you said “I don’t know.” They said “That’s not an excuse.” You felt horrible.
i was diagnosed earlier this year. today i mentioned it to my dad, as i thought he knew since it'd been a while. he didn't and he said a lot of surprisingly hurtful things, but mainly that he was certain i don't have adhd despite my diagnosis, and that i'm just "lazy" and "without discipline". it was a very upsetting experience that's been weighing on me all day, and opening youtube and seeing this on my recommended was strangely comforting
@@MSN539 i respect my dad. but he is not a medical professional, and definitely not any of the multiple professionals that evaluated me. and neither are you.
Your dad is wrong, maybe he did not intend to hurt you but tried to convince you thatyou are fine, maybe it's hard for a Parent to accept some things and it takes time, from my Personal experience that was sometimes how it was with my Parents. Try to get Meds if you don't take them yet, i had my Teacher pushing my Parents to take me to places to get checked till i got them. PS: Even if you are "Lazy" and/or "undisciplined" sometimes, everyone is every now and then with no exceptions, but if it bothers you you can probably work out some ways to trick yourself to Focus more or better on some things or to get things done, that might just take some time and there is no right or wrong way to do it as long as you can figure out a way that works for you.
#1 ignore this guy telling you that your dad is right, you're not just lazy. #2 your dad is wrong, so very wrong. You are not lazy, you are struggling as a person with ADHD in a world for people who are "normal."
5:41 it helps until it doesn’t, then you feel dead inside all emotions numb but you still can’t focus, you ask yourself if the pills stopped working or if you stopped trying and then suddenly a year has passed which you only remember barely
That happens to me like a month ago I was at a dentist appointment and my dentist said the last time they saw me a little bit over a year ago and I was confused because it only felt like 3 or 4 months I remember going there but to me it couldn’t be that long ago. It scares me I only remember almost none of it as if it didn’t even happen. it felt like I wasn’t really there in moment for most of last year.
So true I'm up to 50 milligrams a day of Ritalin and sure they work but do they really? is the absolute depressive hole I fall into really worth the half-assed work I get done
thank you for sharing this. i felt so alone about the fact that a year has gone by with me not noticing the time passing, had to take this last spring and fall off from college because of it, it put me a whole year behind from completing and graduating and IM SO CLOSE. ugh so isolating and frustrating. i’m glad we know how each other feels at least, and for me it did get better/im finally able to get things done. sending love ❤
@@artemis6369How long have you been on meds for? I’ve been on 50 mg of Vyvanse for 4 years? Maybe 5? And I’ve been on some sort of stimulant medication since I was 8.
So relatable to lots of things in the short film😭, this makes me wanna cry. And it’s even harder for me to have college education in my second language. Most people don’t understand and adhd people have to face so much criticisms growing up
I'm in school right now. Although I don't have any proof from doctors, I believe I have ADHD. When I watched this video, I understood everything so well. I am forgetful, I don't ask questions soon enough, I promise things and I don't live up to it. You and me know ADHD is real but some people don't realize how exhausting it is. How exhausting it is to wake up every morning and think "Another day, another million things I'll forget"
oof. btw this doesn't have to be adhd or anything. there are tons of things that cause this. as a person with diagnosed adhd since i was 4, i can proudly say another symptom i get is zoning out. do you ever zone out without having any control? i do. also, you dont HAVE TO have trouble reading. i've never had any problem with it. it could be something else, something as normal as taking a shower that you have trouble with. maybe a third one? do you talk to yourself? can you not handle holding things without just starting to attack them and like break them really quickly? and number 4: are you sorta a broken record? like, do you repeat anything and everything you hear? do you obsess over things? that's adhd. (and yes, people count. obsessing over people isnt always psycho or romantic or any of that.) NONE OF THESE HAVE TO MEAN YOU HAVE ADHD. THIS IS JUST MY EXPERIENCE, AND EVERYONE'S IS DIFFERENT!!! tip for getting a diagnosis: DO NOT ASK A THERAPIST TO DIAGNOSE YOU!!!! this is a common mistake made, and a therapist is the wrong person to give your diagnosis. instead, ask a specialized PSYCHOLIGIST, not a therapist (yes they are very different, the movies lie!) and make an appointment and schedule your diagnosis. (its wayy more complicated irl, but okay ig) byeee (this is my copy and pasted but also with edits response, just so u know)
Just got diagnosed last Friday after 8 years of being told ADHD does not exist and that I'm just lazy by my own father whom I live alone with. This video almost made me have a panic attack and for that I'm thankful, because there are people who actually truly understand how it feels and how it is to have ADHD.
@@eykan_ow I have depression with almost 20 years suicide thought and full ADHD and add. I got to doctor for my depression and my ADHD got recognized by doctor too. He gave me medicine and now I'm at least 40 percent better.
@@eykan_owSame with CPTSD as it affects the same part of the brain which I’ve had for decades so ADHD was not picked up. At 65 yrs old and a female I’ve just been diagnosed last week.
like many with ADHD in the comments, this also made me cry. Particularly the repeated voice "you're running out of time" and the dark tunnel when she realizes she's 2 weeks behind on the assignment. I only recently realized I have ADHD because until recent years I've been an excellent student despite struggling with time management and focus and lists etc. This meant that I simply beat myself up for being disorganized, forgetful, and distractible. Im starting to learn how to give myself grace but I often feel that despair, "will it always be like this?" Thank you for this video
I experience the exact same thing. Got a master's degree but behind the scenes I had to pull all the stops to do it. But when I got older and life didn't provide as much structure as school and my parents did, things began to give trouble. In work but also at home, but still manageable with my tricks and enough time to myself to wind down. When the kids came in the picture my symptoms worsened very much. Then covid came, and after the pandemics everything is put into gear again. Everyone picks up where they left off and I just can't reach that level anymore. Got my diagnosis finally last friday, at age 36. I'm so relieved and can feel my inner critic to be gentler already. Finally an answer why I can't 'just' do the thing.
This video also made me cry. I constantly feel overwhelmed and feel like no one understands what I’m goin thru and how adhd is and this video literally explained it perfectly
I feel like I might have that, because in school I was just talented I think because I aced most classes without much effort just kinda paying attention. Now at Uni it's exactly like in the video, I am not getting anything done and time flies by and I don't have structure and when I read something I have to read it again and again and again because I forgot what I read.
This is the most accurate interpretation of ADHD that I've ever seen. I feel guilty every.single.day. for not being able to function like a normal person. Reading the same sentences over and over again trying to get the info to stick. Countless pieces of paper with the same things written on them thinking if I change the layout, the color, or if I just write a little neater, somehow I'll remember what I've written down.
i feel so bad for people with adhd. my brother is always trying to convince my mom to take him for a test. my mom even called him a spoiled brat, even when hes trying his best. my brothers currently failing, and hes trying to focus, but its so hard for him. and he wants to do something else, but my mom gets so frustrated and just doesnt understand him, and i feel so bad. he doesnt deserve all the hate my mom gives him. edit- thank you guys SO MUCH for the recommendations! my brother is now getting therapy and my mom was thinking about getting him an ADHD test. :) 2nd edit- now it’s my problem. i have problems with focusing and i fidget all the time and i have huge symptoms! (according to my brother and friend)
I been recently diagnosed with ADHD have both inattention and hyperactivity. My therapist told me the hallmark of ADHD, if you respond to a question to quick without thinking through your answer. Loads of times I knew correct answers to questions asked to me but i accidentally answered incorrect answers because I acted on impulse.
Man, I’m fairly high functioning but it feels good not to feel alone. ADHD has made me one of the most interesting people in my friend group because I pursue so many interesting hobbies, but on the flip I never finish much or keep with anything for long term. Plus being late, struggling to get my assignments done, pissing off friends with my unorganized-ness, ect. It’s a blessing and a curse.
I’ve struggled with ADHD all my life: I’ve heard it all, “you’re lazy,” “you’re immature,” “you have so much potential, why don’t you use it?” Last year and starting this year I’ve returned to college after I dropped out the first time. It’s still hard, but everyday is a chance to be better. You’re not alone, you’re not stupid, you’re not lazy, you’re you.
i graduate actually in my 30s. it is possible, but the only reason is, that there have been so many different classes, like everything has been new on almost a weekly schedule. but often, VERY often i did my assignments or even studying for an exam happened the day before. but i´ve been also without a job a full year after i graduated because i´ve been lost and not motivated to truly do the research where i want to end up
"They're good at keeping track of what you failed to do." made me tear up. Dang it. So accurate. I like how the clock is quieter at the end. Still there, but quiet. The one thing I would change for my personal experience is while focusing on something I shouldn't be doing, the clock would change speed. EDIT: on the rewatch, I heard you did that and I didn't notice because I was too busy focusing on the characters. Felt normal haha.
As someone who has ADHD, this perfectly summarises everything. This is my life for 18 years (since i was born) I tried explaining my situation to others but i just fail to do so and most of the time, they think I am making excuses or making things up. So many times people have told me "Oh just concentrate" or "Or just remember" but I just cant. I will be sending this video to everyone single person I know so thay they would stop asking or at least they would know that I am not making things up. Thank you so much for making this video.
i don't have adhd but my brother does. i'm here watching this and i've never knew what he was struggling with til this video. thank you for sharing awareness to people that don't know about the struggles that they go through. i now know to be more patient with my brother because i've always been hard on him without knowing any of this. thank you again!!
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
"You're exhausted. You don't know why. You didn't even get anything done today." Is my life almost every day.
I've been feeling this for almost a year now
same omg
Saaaaaame :'(
And everyone says: stop being lazy
same
The “you look at the sticky notes on the wall, they’re a good reminder of what you failed to do” actually made me cry, because I have this exact issue, and it burns me every time
same here
So Accurate! I felt this deeply. I stopped trying to use sticky notes because they do become reminders. Reminders of what you DIDN'T do...or Failed at.
I, having ADHD, that funcions like bipolar, I just don't do notes, and live with whaterver comes to mind, I just don't set expectations for myself, It kinda works
Your just lazy
@@lucanøhr spam account to hate it fucking WILD lmao
"Why didn't you tell me about this sooner?" Hits hard for me. especially when the truth is always labeled as a "lame excuse, try something better next time" from boss figures and teachers
I started getting war flashbacks when he said that I remember hearing that so often at school and then I would just cry lol
That’s why I never ask for help at school even though I should, I would rather just avoid the situation and deal with it later
Shit like this is the reason teachers don't like me, I just tell em to answer the question
And from parents
and especially things like "try harder" or "start trying next time" or even "do you even care?" those kinds of things are so annoying.
“Of all the times you’ve been here before, if only you could just learn your lesson” that one.
Fr and I'm always late... They ask why and idk I just can't...
That line was a gut punch for me.
That line sums up the condition for me.
‘Trying to read but your thoughts wash it out. Now you’re reading a sentence, now you’re reading a sentence now you’re reading a sentence.’ That is THE most accurate description of reading with adhd I’ve ever heard like EVER
i dont think its mandatory for adhd though. i have a SEVERE case of adhd and i have a bsolutely no trouble reading. or maybe im a nerd 🤓
@@faerimusicx for me it depends, If I read a book I chose and am interested in, it's a breeze, even with slight afantasia (is that related to ADHD?)
But oh my, if I need to read an assignment or something else for university, a scientific paper...I think it took me a week to read a single paper ( I needed to get at least throu 10)
Is it in anything else? Because I use to have many difficulties with reading like that. Often it's like every few sentences I have to look around to set in up in my head and very often I catch myself reading one sentence many times because my mind is seeing words with no picture behind. I have fabulous imagination but sometimes it's hard to focus, my thoughts are flowing away... Have I ADHD??? :O
@@noctilucera7585 idk. its like i have it with other things. i'm getting ready and then i wanna put on a certain eyeshadow or smth, and i get carried away and suddenly its been an hour. do you get that?
I agree. I manage to read it but the meaning doesn’t sink in, it’s only the words.
i watch this and think "how do people without adhd view this film?" because all of us with adhd watching it feels like we're just watching a clip of our life. it feels so normal and accurate. it's so bizarre when i remember some people don't live like this, that this isn't the norm.
I've been diagnosed since I was 7, am currently 25, explaining to others how adhd feels is really difficult that I agree, forgetting things(not to this extreme), or needing several alarms, but also I can't relate with the video, because the video is representing an extreme case, and not everyone has the same symptoms, here is like she has everyone's symptoms combined and cranked to 11.
It's a really good video for getting the point across tho.
this is what’s stopped me when i’ve gone to share this video with family. everything in here fits my situation 100%, to the point where i cried watching it, but to them i don’t know if it’ll just look like more excuses, like more stuff that doesn’t make sense
When I watch this I relate, especially to broken promises and getting distracted. My mom says I don't have adhd, so i might just be more distracted. Where sometimes I zone out or get distracted fro what feels like 5 minutes turns out to be 2 hours and you've lost time. Where zoning out in class for 5 seconds means missing out even more stuff.
same. all i could think was. 'wait. this isn't normal? this isn't just how everyone thinks and acts and feels??' it really is painfully accurate.
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I'm crying. I haven't been diagnosed with adhd because i'm too scared to ask my parents to let me go to a therapist. But i can relate to this video so much. Expecially that self-blame, telling yourself "why can't you just focus?" "why can't you listen?" "why do you find it so hard? everyone else can do it." It made me cry.
I'm so much like you :'( I don't want to ask my parents bcs I'm so scared that I might add problems or that it's just me who search excuses for being lazy or even that they might pity me. But everytime I see something about ADHD I can always relate. I have friends who go to a therapist (for other problems) and when they talk about that i can't help but feel jealous they receive the help they need when I don't. I feel horrible for that.
When I was in basic school I was one of the best of my class but teachers tell to my parents "she's a good student but she's sometimes lost in her toughts and doesn't seems to listen but in the end she has good grade so it's ok ! " and I realize now that it was probably that it was probably symptoms that were ignored.
Anyways it was'nt suppose to be about me ^^' I just wanted to say that you're not alone in this case and I hope that things will work out well for you. Let's do our best !!
@@ana-lee4958 omg we are so much alike 😭
@@srryiforgotsame actually I might have it
I feel you, buddy 😢
@@sitiaqilah6621 Thanks for understanding
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
Is he on the internet?
This film should be shown in classrooms so people can understand just how hard it is for people with ADD or ADHD. As someone who has ADD, this is all so true.
What is the difference between ADHD and ADD?
@@Ghost224 nothing, ADD is an outdated term they're the same thing
@@yam4222 no they're not. ADD is attention deficit disorder and adhd is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. People with add tend to be calm on the outside and have the overwhelming chaos in their head turn them depressed, adhd is more external, theyre usually very active, like to talk alot and turn to aggression instead of depression. You can look at it like introverted and extroverted type
@@davidb8192 ADD is now referred to as inattentive ADHD, a subset of ADHD. There is the hyperactive type of ADHD that is more external as you said and the inattentive type of ADHD that is more internal. So ADD is an outdated term, it's just been updated to a subset of ADHD
@@davidb8192 in my case this is not true. I have adhd and I have outer and inner chaos. What the commentor before you said is not a lie. Adhd and add have officially become the same thing and fall now under the umbrella term “adhd”. Altough in non-profesional settings adhd is most comenly seem as the active type and add as the silent type.
Edit: the commentor above me seems to explain it better.
The “you’re running out of time” bit really hit me deep. I can’t even begin to think how many times this has happened. The way it spirals, “I only have (time units) left before ___ due”. Then being so stressed about the time limit that you waist hours thinking about the time limit, that you hardly get anything done, then feel like you spent hours working, only to accomplish 10 minutes of actual work. (Like I’m doing right now)
I always get it done last minute.
You realise you can do better. The final product is not what you are satisfied with. But you forget and the cycle repeat
@@ahagotcha Why is it so hard to do better. To be better. Idk
@@abcxyz-dp4rl idk i am struggling with this concept since childhood. Every teacher call my 'gifted child' ass, have the potential to do more but since I was doing just fine. No one look at more detail but things start to become even more ugly for my sanity when i choose high school subjects to study. I hate it. I fail at something for first time so badly i end up given up. No matter what I try to motivate myself my brain refuse to study the subject. Didn't help I live in a third world country where people don't know any idea about mental health. I am once again avoiding important stuff i should instead i am browsing through internet
Y E S
adhd is like your vision switching from blurry to sharp every second without a break
Pff so accurate
Exactly
THIS. EXACTLY THIS.
Crazy description
@Jasonhere-z8j you sound like a whimsical wizard who is cursed to only be able to talk through rhymes😭
"Why didn't you tell me sooner?" Is a harrowing sentence that has haunted me my entire life
And the "It's been 2 weeks" is terrifyingly relatable
"It helps"
I like how I didn't say "it solved all of your problems" like other people claim.
It really helps, but nothing is perfect.
What is that pill??
@@janascrafts1144 adderall
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO GET SOME GOOD FRIENDS THAT'S IT
@@sharanlearnsshit bruh what
@@sharanlearnsshit bro i was just asking
I actually cried a little watching this because it's so familiar. And people who don't have these struggles often don't understand and are critical and judge us.
Me too.
so, ADHD is autism ?
I cried a lot
Ryan is so quick to judge me lately
I (yet) haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, but I completely understand. I experience so many of these symptoms, even if not at the full scale y'all do, it is so frustrating. I can't remember anything said to me a god damn minute ago. I try to read something but I just don't get it. I read but every time I just go away with my thoughts. If it's not a fun lesson in school, no matter how hard I try, I will always find a way to day dream without realising.
Edit: I am exaggerating but i still experience the symptoms often
I wanna cry, I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD and don't wanna self diagnose but everything is so accurate with what's happening with me.
i agree. :(
If you're anxious about it just ask a doctor to test you, knowing wether or not you do or don't have ADHD can give lots of peace of mind. It did for me at least...
Also if needed there's medication when you've been diagnosed, thery're not perfecgt all the time but do help a lot.
I am also struggling with this but unfortunately I can't just go to a doctor and get tested because I'm 14 and I don't have an amazing relationship with my parents and I feel like if I tell them.they just wont understand
@@Isabella-mb2bc gosh you're relatable...the thought of "they'll think that I'm just a bothersome."
same.
„Youre Running out of time, youre running out of time,youre Running out of time“ Heart that a lot of times in my Head, and still hear it.
I think one of the most painful things about ADHD for me is ... feeling like I'm trapped in a loop. Every time I try to do something right, I left something else behind. Also the video is very accurate about hte self-hate spirals and internal frustration. My internal negative self-talk is very unrelenting at times; sometimes all I can think about is how I let other people down. The video hurts with how accurate it is, but at the same time, thank you for making it.
Exactly, progress and consistency appear to be unreachable goals
Wow the loop is a perfect example and I relate to that perfectly. O matter how hard I try to get things right I’m always missing something in the process, always.
And the worst is when your in a loop that you can’t figure seemingly how to do anything productive. Not even things you enjoy
SAME i feel like i’m supposed to walk to something but my feet are trapped in glue, but with the glue being my brain
Yes, i think same like you. You know what, i have make my daily list and it already been 3 week ago..
This video hit so deep I'm bleeding 😭
I’m a teacher and this has helped me to understand my students with adhd so much better. Thank you
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
I like teachers like you who try to understand their students with mental health problems.
Thank you for caring
Thank you to understand us, we need more teachers like you 💞💞💞
You're going to do incredible, i thank you so much for taking the time to understand us. I'm undiagnosed because my mom won't let me get diagnosed. She believes ADHD to be a "label" and doesn't believe it exists
She believes i am lazy and disobedient. It is a common misconception, and she hasn't been educated about ADHD, so i understand. Thank you for taking the time to educate your students better, they will be better off because of it.
ADHD is absolutely debilitating.
I remember when I was a kid I thought being ADHD was just being silly and disruptive so I never thought to get it checked. I had good grades and was quiet and spaced out a lot so nobody cared about my mind. I was eventually diagnosed as a teenager.
Before then I became suicidal and I still struggle with thoughts of taking my life. I tried so hard to build coping strategies but I always fail. I'm also autistic and have trauma which just makes everything so overwhelming and impossible.
I absolutely feel you.
The suicidal ideation is scarily real, but I want to promise you that you’re not alone in feeling this way, and although it feels physically impossible sometimes to navigate it and the emotions that come with being ‘neuro-spicy’, there’s always a way to push forward.💗💗
My teacher always said I just made “silly mistakes”
@@beccam7294🥺"Neuro-spicy"❤️
I’m not diagnosed but I’ve been looking in to it for 2 years now and, let me tell you going through your day to day life is absolutely draining. I know exactly how you feel because every task or situation feels impossible and extremely overwhelming. Coping is especially hard, too. Mainly because navigating emotions is so damn hard and at the end of the day you just have so much more stress built up.
I just wanted to tell you that Jesus loves you so much...no matter what. He died for you and gave you new life. You can tap into that by simply believing in His sacrifice!
He'll always be with you no matter what. You can carry all your burdens to Him because He will bear them and help you through the toughest situations
My daughter has just been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD and I really appreciate these videos because I want to understand how she experiences the world as much as I can ❤️
AuDHD.
Good name I feel.
"and youre reading a sentence" is how I feel each time I try to read and I'm not even diagnosed with ADHD. Everything in this video is so relatable
Same
Same
Ill be reading anything right
The. ill be like “wait what did I just read?”
ill read it again and do that a million times and wont remember it ever
And I take forever to answer a few questions when theres like 60 of em
And by the time times up ill only have less or sloghtly above half of it done
Im always last to finish
* cant focus for shit
Everything distracts me
Im so fucking chaotic and such a mess
I cant comprehend wtaf people try to explain to me
I feel deaf 99% of the time
Cuz I have no idea what anyone just said
i try to put what i did hear together to figure out what the hell they were talking about but it rarely works
Its fuckin hell
I stopped joining in group assignments cuz all my ideas are always “dumb shit”
If i try to help with somwthing i slow down the process get in the way or make thibfs worse
If I tey to help noone wants me to
💀
And then they’re complaining how i didnt do anything
and wtf am I suppossed to-
and i cant do 99.9% of my assignments without sounding insane so i just take the 0
Sometimes i look at an assignment reread the whole thing over and over and have no clue where to start so i take a 0 and this happens so fucking often
My gpa is crying
C’s get degrees right?
My sisters like “Theres no way she has adhd” Cuz she has it
But ive been asked if ive had it on multiple occasions and at this fucking point im just like
“Fucking hell.”
Maybe I just need therapy
Maybe its just trauma
BUT I Havent been through ShIt
Idfk
But its messing with my academics
and daily life and interactions
so Wtf Can I do?
“cope” as my sister says
I’ll ramble about random shit
talk to myself all the fuckin time
Ymoac
Im always scribbling or ripping paper and it stresses my teacher out but calms me down and keeps me sane
Cuz IM so fucking Chaotic and manic my history teacher literaly is always like “Youre losing your mind”
I KNOw
iDk WhY
I Have nO excuse
IM fucking Sorry
Ill be listening to teachers and forget their directions 2 seconds later after they finish talking
then Ill ask and they think i wasnt listening and they refuse to answer
sometimes they repeat it a million times and i still forget it every fucking time somehow
What is wrong with me?
IDFK
“Which one did we not have to do again?”
“The one that requires you to listen”
THAts NOt A fucking Answer-
I Did LIsten
OMG
I forgot
Ik u repeated it 10 Times
IM Sorry OKAy?!
IDFK Why IM LIKe this
All I Know Is My future is looking very questionable at this rate
could be dyslexia i have dyslexia and this happens to me all the time its a common sign
When I’m in a classroom, I’m staring at the teacher with no distractions and i can see what they’re writing, hear what they are saying, but i cant actually process it. watching this clip surprised me so much to see how accurately describe ADHD. When i do something, i feel like i need to do it again until i feel like its been done enough, like reading a sentence or staring at a spot out the window.
(A bit of a venting spree lol, I just wanted to get it out of my system)
Absolutely. I always thought, even after I got diagnosed, due to how the visual representation for ADHD is, it is that people black out/ daydream in the middle of class without hearing anything, and suddenly it’s lunch and you heard nothing.
I also have those instances yes, but most (if not all) of the time, it’s me just trying to process what the teacher is saying. I know what they’re saying, and when they say it, I think to myself “oh, yeah, makes sense. I understand that!”
But I move in to the second sentence, understand that sentence, and suddenly the first sentence doesn’t make sense anymore.
But if they talk too slow, the pace would make me think “it’s a very slow sentence” over and over again, and I end up not absorbing anything.
If I somehow got through the whole class, and understood it, I look at the questions, it doesn’t make sense anymore even though it’s the same question, just a different wording. I go back to ask, explain why I got it wrong, then I tell them what I thought they said yesterday, and they reply “that’ll not at all what I said! Did you even listen?” And I’m like ???????? EVERY DAY 😭
@@crackers3978 hey I hope your doing alright. ADHD sucks.
But I just wanted to reply so you know you are not alone. We will get better. We GOTTA get better. ❤❤
If ya wanna talk just vent here again. ❤
@@harriet2956 thank you so much, you are so nice 😭 I really do hope it gets better. I've been trying my best, but this encouraged me to try just a little bit more ❤️
This isn't a vent, moreso a curious question... Does medicine really help? I have been thinking about it. And though I don't think I'll get it yet, but I'd like so know more about medicine. Do you have any input on that? 🤔 (You don't have to answer if you don't have any input by the way, it's just a curious question :) )
@@crackers3978 well honey haven’t tried. But I guess you should give it a try. Because maybe it works for you and then you get better.
Lol I’m literally preparing for my chem test and omg I was in my thoughts when I saw your message. Idk but I guess this is my sign to seek help or get meds. ( idk if it makes any sense ).
Take care❤️
@@harriet2956 true. It's (unfortunately) expensive though, so I'll think about it another time 😅
Oml XDD I'm glad this snapped you out of your thoughts then! And also, good luck with your chem test!! And ALSO also, maybe 🤔 it's been universally recognised to be helpful, so you can think about it? :D But remember to do some research beforehand! So that you know what you're getting yourself into XD
Anyways, you take care too ❤ and I'm sure you'll do fine :D
The “you’re reading a sentence” part was SO freaking accurate. I thought I was stupid all these years. I barely got diagnosed at 25 years old. That’s 20+ years of struggle, shame, and embarrassment that I had because I thought I was stupid.
In life, those who appear to not be stupefied are merely faking certainty, or fooling themselves.
I got diagnosed at 56, two years ago. It explained so much of my life. Years I'll never get back.
I remember crying in college because I was trying so hard, I couldn't focus, I couldn't keep my schedule organized, it took me longer to study or do things my peers could do. I dropped out thinking I was a failure, turns out I had untreated adhd diagnosed at 26. It hurts thinking of how things could have turned out differently if I had known sooner.
Got diagnosed at 48. I still remember reading the same sentence again n again … since I was about 16!!
Started medication at 48. Life is still not easy but better…
Try 54 years 😕
Wow, this short film is riveting. As an educator, it has opened my eyes to the internal challenges an adolescent with ADHD could go through. There is still so much to understand about their struggles, but my empathy grows because of this depiction. Thank you!
Adult life is no better. You might have more tools but the expectations are 100x heavier.
I was just recently fired after being diagnosed with ADHD. I was always being told I was making excuses for my behavior. When in my eyes, I was explaining what was causing me to act in a certain way. Forgetting deadlines, being late on occasion, or even dealing with a family member who had a substance abuse disorder. I resonate with this message.
isn't that illegal to be fired on behalf of a disability? (in America at least, americans with disabilities act), maybe you can take legal action
I find myself wishing for the opportunity to be physically violent toward the people who fired you. I'm thinking something sharp, AND something blunt. Perhaps some sort of cordage could be used. So many uses for cordage.
it feels like every day I have to come up with an excuse and it just makes me feel like I'm a shitty person because I just can't explain why I forgot everything I was meant to do
If you’ve been diagnosed, then depending on where you live, you should be able to sue them.
I live under the constant stress at work that I will be talked to or let go someday due to how many things I am constantly unable to keep up with. Bridges burned. Items falling out of my arms. Always excuses and constant embarrassment.
so many people think of ADHD as just being hyper but there's so much more to it that they'll never understand.
Have you ever found yourself throwing socks in the air and catching them in the morning for no reason... then once you snap out of it you find out you've been doing that for 20 minutes....
Used to scare my mom to death when I used to do that cause I wouldn't stop and wouldn't respond until I suddenly snapped out of it.
I don't do that anymore.... it makes the others uncomfortable.... Now I just blankly stare into space for I don't know how long, thinking about thinking about thinking about thinking about... I forgot what I was thinking about...
I had a psychiatrist so focus on me not having ADD just because I was not hyper active at her eyes... I am 27 and I have never been able to focus to do things, failed countless times to things I could do if I could sit and actually do them interrupted mentally
@@RanVargas Tbh my mind is hyperactive but my body isn't, many psychiatrists dont know the very details of illnesses themselves and how they vary, as an example many dont know that neurodivergent people are likely to have sensory issues even. It's hard to find a good doc. It's just better you tell them exactly what you think of the situation and what they might be misunderstanding, it can feel like you annoy them but anyways after doing that changing for a better one is a good option
Exactly not being able to be organised
@SpartansKraken He must be in the opposite part of the spectrum
“You’re running out of time.” I wasn’t expecting to immediately ugly cry. It’s crazy how isolated you can make yourself feel.
Same
I burst into tears there too. With ADHD, I recognize only two times, now and not now. I don't have the internal alerts, alarms, or cues I imagine other people have. Anyway, you're not alone.
Man, I read this comment first and then I saw the scene when he said that, and I immediately started crying too
I like how at the end a few stickynotes fall off the wall instead of all of them. It really symbolizes that medication wont solve all of your problems, but it can help you focus on some of them.
"You're running out of time" hits me everytime.
I am almost 20, I haven't been diagnosed because I can't even call the reception to take an appointment... I feel so behind in everyway possible. 20 years old and I can't even remember basic things, it feels really pathetic to me.
I tried to explain to ppl around me but they see that as excuses because "You had no problems at school"
For most of my life, I think I tried to supress it by doing things that I don't even want to do. So I am lost because there is something wrong with me and I know it but I don't know if I even have the right to make this call and have a diagnosis.
My life feels pointless to be honest. Feels like walking the same path over and over again without having a water break or something to hold on to.
I don't have my license, I don't get out with friends, I don't know what I am doing most of the time. Feels like someone keeps me alive just for fun and I hate it so much.
I sound crazy when I try to tell ppl that this is what my brain wants to do or say and I can't do anything else.
Anyway, I hope someday I will find courage to call this number and have a test. But I know that having a diagnosis will not change the way my family or friends treats me and it makes me sick to the core knowing that it will not change anything
Hey, ADHD is not something to be ashamed of. Sure, it’s difficult dealing with it in a fast paced society, but it really depends on who you surround yourself with. I know a married couple with ADHD and they fit perfectly together! If you’re experiencing family members or friends putting you down, make sure to cross boundaries and never blame yourself. People are born with conditions, some are born with deadly diseases, it happens. some are born completely fine, but life is full of trials and tribulations for EVERYONE. no matter how perfect a persons life may seem. please don’t beat yourself up for it, just try your best and at the end of the day if you know you’re trying your best that’s all that matters. heck, it’s 3 am and i’m supposed to be finishing up some homework but i’m here writing this haha. you aren’t alone, stay strong and NEVER blame yourself EVER. be gentle with who you are
Heyy. I’m 27f been feeling the same way ever since I remember. For a long time I didn’t even know what was ‘wrong’ with me until adhd gained more attention. I remember the first few times reading other people experiences made me literally cry. That was the first time a kind of understood my self. Anyhow took me over a year to book an appointment with a professional, waiting time was another 6months, however it’s been over 2months I’m getting medicated. The first day I had the pill I was in literal tears. Now I’m not saying it sorts all my problems out but guarantee you the difference is day and night. I wish I was diagnosed earlier. I have sure missed out on a lot over the years. You got this 🙌🙌
It can’t change the way others treat you but it can make ur life easier. U will feel much different once u get treated.
Wasn’t diagnosed until I was 30something.
Call the reception. It will mean the world to get that diagnosis and start getting more help than what you’ve been able to cobble together by yourself.
Step 1: get the phone number.
Step 2: pick up the phone
Step 3: dial
Just start by picking up your phone and dialing. Just that. Don’t think about anything else. All the other steps. Just dial. You can do it.
Hey, exactly same here, almost 20 and the exact same story... I just never talked about it, Idk, I think I'm scared too, because if I end up not having ADHD then it's just a problem with laziness and procrastination, but sometimes I can't just put myself to work. I hope you called for an appointment and had your answers, and that you're feeling better. Personally I hope to take an appointment this year as it's really difficult at university to work on my own
This is painfully accurate. Trying to explain ADHD to my best friend was an interesting challenge. He was trying his best to understand what I was saying but I knew that it sounded like I was making excuses for my actions. He knows that’s not what I was doing, and I do too. It’s insane how difficult it can be to live with ADHD, especially as a high school student. It gets to the point where even just thinking about an assignment is mind boggling and even though I’m doing nothing, I push it till the next day. “I’ll get it done during my free period” turns into “I’ll do it at lunch” turns into “I’ll do it when I get home” turns into accidentally falling asleep for 3 hours and now the sun is down and I feel like shit so I’ll just scroll through my phone endlessly until I fall asleep again has become a cycle that I want so badly to end.
That's exactly what I'm go tru every day, and I'm a college student, i feel so useless and helpless watching my grades going down and down
Dude this is me rn 😭
I keep making promises and put it all on a date, its rlly crap ;-;
Something that might help with that (for a short period of time) is to annoy yourself with cell phone alarms. Don't just set one alarm for something you have to do: set a bunch. that way everytime you'll snooze the alarm, a new one will pop up. And you'll end up getting so annoyed that you finally start to do the thing you need to do. Now I have adhd, and the thought of setting a bunch of alarms on my phone even though im on it all the time just sounds like a horrendous task. So try getting a friend to do it for you! ...if you remember to ask them. All I can say is Good. Luck. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I'm 4 years out of college. I'm taking medication and it helps way more than I thought it would. But before that, having an accountability partner was the best thing that worked for me when I needed to get something done. Especially since I'm a people please. Good luck with the rest of your school year.
Okay,i dont know if this will be helpful or not since i dont have ADHD but maybe you could try telling yourself that you would just prepare youself for doing a task, so lets say u wanted to revise, you would just get out you textbook or notes or whatever and then just say to urself, ok, i'll just do 5 minutes and see how you get on. Im not sure if it will help but i hope your situation gets better soon because i know it feels horrible to get nothing done.
bc ur lazy bro
the fact that I wasn't paying attention for half the video really shows how real this is
No having adhd doesnt mean you can’t focus on anything, it means focusing too much on the wrong things at the wrong time too, it's a dysregulation. If you actually have adhd, this video should be relatable and emotional so you watch it properly
@@ALEXOUKAKOU i know that, i said one thing about it, its not that serious
I was casually scrolling the comments section
then found this comment
you do not have adhd
@@islixxn how do you know if they do or not?
5:15 made me tear up... It's very true, it helps. Unfortunately, sometimes, it just doesn't work.
I'm crying
"Live a life of constant noise and distraction and disappointment"
It's the noise that really gets me. The noise and the exhaustion. It feels like years since I've had proper rest.
It's also all the background noise. & when u have to be in a public space, like train, bus, grocery store the overwhelm caused by all the background noise hits u like a hammer. I tend to get really frustrated when this happens, headphones help, but sometimes the music doesn't really knock out the noise overload... do u feel like this too?
@@marie-charlottekottek9524 like 80% of the time I'm hearing stuff in my head. Hearing and seeing stuff. Like there are 2-3 voices all the time, music/noise and random images. As a child I thought everyone had it, but as I grow older, I meet more people, and they deny having it. And what's worse is that it's just getting louder and more overwhelming. Shit basically hit the fan around 5 years ago for me when it finally became too much. Can't even sleep for the most part. I also have this thing where like I'm just about to sleep, I would hear a giant explosion or scream or see a flash. Like nothing all haunted and ghostlike, just annoying.
@@marie-charlottekottek9524 what I do is also use headphones. Saved up money and got myself airpod pros and the sony wh1000xm4. The noise cancelling along with some nice music helps for the most part in crowded places. But when it gets really overwhelming, I do this exercise my therapist taught me. Basically when you get a lot of thoughts, label the thoughts as "thoughts" and the feelings as "feelings". Like visualize the words. Helps a lot actually when it gets bad.
literally!!
This is my life described like to the part my teachers needed to put me in the corner of the class with noise canceling airpods (my own) just doing my work. Helped but i got so exhausted day after day and it is still not sure wether i have ADHD or not but i think so.
I would like to make a point: medication doesn't work for everyone. ADHD is a neurological anomaly and as such we don't have a 100% way to fix it. When I was on medicine, it was like putting on glasses, but having the wrong prescription. I was more focused, yes, but I was also irritable, depressed, anxious, I wasn't growing, constantly hungry with no appetite. So I stopped. After two more years of struggling through it alone, I started therapy, which has been absolutely helping me. There are other options. Medicine can work for some, but if it doesn't work for you, there are other ways. Some might find a way by striking a balance between the two, some might do only one or the other, some might have something completely different. ADHD is a complex issue, but it's common enough that there are a lot of potential solutions.
Thank you for this! ADHD runs in my family. My brother was diagnosed as a child, but I had only just gotten diagnosed because mine wasn't so prominent as his. It's definitely getting worse though as I am older and as I entered highschool, focus is taking a huge toll on my life as well as doing small tasks. My brother had medication and it ruined his appetite, gave him tics, and made him almost robot-like. He had no personality when he was on the meds. He hardly spoke or ate, and slept a lot. He wasnt himself. And so, he stopped taking them. He's doing better without the meds than he probably ever would've with them. So thank you for your comment, because medication isn't a 100% fix! It might fix one thing while also ruining another part of you.
This!!!! Medication was hard for me and gave me heart palpitations
Absolutely agree!
Im currently taking medication for my adhd and its been the best thing thats happened for me since i was diagnosed last year, but i understand everyone is different and experiences adhd differently, it's a spectrum, a wide one at that, and i don't think enough people know to what extent
Medication also worked for me too do homework, I finally could focus, but I had soooo many anxiety attacks! And I was a plant, I wasn’t as enthousiastic anymore.. Conversations didn’t go smooth anymore, and I lost a lot of weight
the type of meds you take is also a big role. When i started using adhd meds, I used Concerta 18mg (methylphenid). It was alright, and the wall that prevented me from doing the things i love became a small fence. Sometimes it was still hard, but most of the time i could just step over it. I had also become a bit more snappy and paranoid as it worsened my anxiety a bit, which my parents took quick notice of.
So my doctor decided to have me try vyvance, 18mg. The month or so i was using it was probably one of the worst months ive ever had mentally. I was irritable, emotional and paranoid. My anxiety was through the roof, and the fall off in the afternoon was terrible.
Obviously, i was switched off of that. I am now again taking Concerta, this time 36mg, alongside 10mg of citalopram, a depression/anxiety med. Its been working well for me for the past few months. just like the initial 18mg of Concerta, the wall has now halved in size. But this time, i make it over a bit more consistently.
I feel like this film is reflecting my life. My parents yell at me. People bully me. They dont listen to what I have to say. I dont remember anything. And it just repeats everyday.
me too
you deserve better, and I know how you feel because my parents always blame me for my adhd
@@yangl2912 thanks
You can keep it up bro!!
i believe a lot of the negative symtpoms of ADHD is PTSD bc u have different brain structure and u get devalued for it otherwise which makes it worse
It’s like you’re constantly anxious you’ll forget something so you focus on not forgetting but that just makes you forget more and then when you finally remember, it doesn’t matter anymore and now I need to remember something new.
When you live in a world where perfect productivity is expected of you, that fuels ableism. There's a ton of ableism when it comes to ADHD, other forms of neurodivergence, and anything that inhibits your producivity, you get treated like a burden. There's shaming by teachers, parents. Everyone treats you like you're choosing to fail instead of suffering from a disorder.
Yup :(
exactly how I feel :( you explained it perfectly
but it gets a little confusing when everyone says having a hard time reading is a key factor of adhd. i was diagnosed at age 3 with severe adhd and yet i was already reading short chapter books at that age. i don't think it's always the case. reading was never a problem... ig it's just me?
@@faerimusicxme too until I got to middle school and started playing music, then that part of my brain was rewired to understand the notes. Tested college age reading comprehension from kindergarten, savant level math skills (not EXTRAORDINARY, but really mfn good. Most people can handle 2-3 digits at a time of mental math, moving valued around.
I am closer to 5.)
I just wish I could mfn be around friends or anywhere in public without all the the damn noise
@faerimusicx I was a "hyperlexic" kid, too. I've never struggled with reading itself - but I often struggle with staying FOCUSED on what I'm reading. Reading the same sentence over and over, or reading pages without actually processing anything I read...
So it's a different type of "hard time" than, say, dyslexia (though dyslexia is highly comorbid with ADHD). It's not the reading itself that's difficult, but the sustained attention.
Best way to describe ADHD meds. "It helps."
Nothing more, nothing less.
how they works actually? I never really cared about my adhd (tho i was diagnosed as a kid) and believed that i don't have it it's just "i'm a bit lazy" bc i thought adhd are only hyper loud and naughty kids. I looked at my cousin which also has adhd but he's much more hyper and thought "nah i can't have that i'm not naughty loud kid like him". I'm adult now and struggle a lot, I literally can't do anything "right", I looked back at my whole life and noticed i always been "this way" just now it worsen up too much and thats when i realized I really have adhd. So i've been thinking to get meds but i'm scared bc i heard so many mixed opinions like they help to live like normal people but have so many downsides and that one medicine is killing creativity (it may be so stupid but for me it's really important bc it was my dream to become artist and during my hypers i always do something creative so losing it would make my life empty)
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 If you find that unmedicated, you're more creative (which I personally haven't found to be the case, I found that taking Vyvanse boosts my creativity) -- then you can just not take it on days you want to be creative. All the symptoms of ADHD return after you cut off the meds, so it's not at all a permanent cure. If you don't liike how you are medicated, you don't have to take the medication
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 Don't overthink. Don't overanalyze. I have had the same feelings, and everyone has different experiences with meds. You have to experiment and find what works for you. I was also never hyper or disruptive, although I couldn't make myself do super well in school, despite having the resources and ability to. Later on in adulthood is when the disorder really began to disrupt my life. Meds make me feel like who I really am, and who I want to be. That may be your experience, it may not. Don't obsess over others opinions or experiences. At the end of the day, it's what works for you, and what allows you to live a happy and fulfilling life.
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380
ADHD is one of few mental illnesses so effectively treated by medication. That is why it is prescribed so often.
ADHD is typically a deficiency of dopamine or issue with dopamine processing in your frontal lobe - the part of the brain that is necessary for 'executive functions' like impulse control, organization, decision making, etcetera. This issue essentially makes that part of the brain not work as it would in a neurotypical person. ADHD medication are normally stimulants, they increase the activity of your brain and can be only focused in that frontal lobe of your brain. This increases 'loose dopamine' between your neurons, basically making the way your frontal lobe processes dopamine work, because either the medicine is making you 1. make more dopamine or 2. process it better.
Some side effects include sweating, fast heart rate or higher blood pressure but are usually safe. You should consult your doctor though.
@@tovarichtartartartaglia4380 Medication helps focusing and not drifting attention. It helps untangle thoughts and make them clear. It doesn’t kill creativity. Although, meds don’t fix every part of ADHD. It doesn’t fix the emotional part of it, this is something everyone has to work on unfortunately. Masking ADHD is an everyday struggle, even with medication.
For anyone suffering with ADHD(just like myself), just remember that when you finally get that assignment done, or get whatever piece of work done, its more valuable and impressive than if a neurotypical person did it because you did it suffering with hardships built in your brain. Just remember that what you do, and when you finally get it done, its so much more impressive even if it takes a little more time than others.
Thanks, I needed this reminder today 🥲
(stupid lil' sniffle) Thank you...💚💜
As a person that also has adhd, this is nice and all but there's no need to put down or try to one up other people just cause they are neurotypical. Theres nothing wrong with acknowledging that we go through more hardships when completing tasks, but our completed work isn't inherently more "valuable". Working past and completing work through the difficulties of adhd is impressive, but our work isn't automatically more worth than neurotypical peoples. That's just belittling them.
@@Jon-dav - I was too emotionally moved to notice that detail the first time. You're absolutely right. Thanks for pointing this out. 🙂👍✨
I mean we've all got our issues, whether or not it's adhd. Idk if I have it and I don't think I have signs of it but I can definitely relate to seeing a deadline and feeling overwhelmed by the mere thought of how much there is to do-
I’ve never been diagnosed but every time i come back to this video i feel like i relate to it even more. It makes me emotional because even as im watching this im thinking of all the things I’m procrastinating on but not doing anything to finish
I cried while watching this. I’m not sure if I have ADHD, I’ve been thinking that I had it since I was 14.I’m almost 16 now- still not diagnosed, and not sure if I’ll ever be diagnosed. I’ve tried everything to get myself to focus: A separate study room, Notion, tons of studying techniques and I end up taking days to finish a 40 minute video. During my chemistry exam prep, I spent two entire days, ‘reading the textbook’, but really I was only skimming through blurry sentences.
I spend all day, trying to get myself motivated and excited to learn, but I end wasting time, and I’m running out of time. College applications are in a year and I have nothing valuable about myself, final exams are in February and I haven’t even learnt the first few chapters.
I get so exhausted during school but I’m only paying attention to when it’s recess time.
But still, there’s tons of people who procrastinate, and tons of people who don’t pay attention in class, and there’s lots of ADHD’ers who get straight As and do well in school.I don’t understand how people can display similar symptoms to me and still behave like a normal human being.
I’m not sure if I’ve got ADHD.. or if I’m normal and just lazy and stupid.
That reminds me, I was supposed to completing my physics notebook . I’ve been working on it since effing June..
Tengo el mismo problema. Tengo la misma edad y siento que me ha ocurrido lo mismo que tú desde los 14 años. Tengo muchos problemas de concentración y a veces de memoria, que me complican en diversas cosas, y más cuando sé o quiero concentrarme en una actividad que me propuse desde antes. He estado remarcándome horarios, anotando deberes, tanto de ocio como escolares o de hogar diariamente para que no me sienta perdida, ahogada en mis quehaceres. Me repito muchas veces al día, intentando recordar si hice algo, si debo hacer otra cosa, y me pregunto muchas veces si lo que hago es necesario o solo estoy perdiendo el tiempo; a pesar de todo, por todos los sucesos del día a día, la desconcentración se maximiza: alguien me dice algo que me parece interesante, me quedo pensando en ello y divago; leo algo que me parece interesante, me quedo pensando en ello y divago; pienso en algo interesante; pienso más y divago; algo me estreza; me quedo pensando en ello y divago; y así, y así, hasta que me doy cuenta de que estoy procrastinando y veo, que perdí el día completo. Ni siquiera logré hacer una actividad de ocio que me propuse. Nada. Distraigo a mi mente para que no se sienta mal. Procrastino más. Al otro día comienzo pensando, ¿por qué mierda no hice lo que debía? me lo replanteo, lo pienso, divago, me compadezco y me comprendo; no es mi culpa. Tardo 2 horas haciendo eso.
Tampoco sé si realmente tengo ADHD/ADD, pero este problema me afecta mucho, demasiado.
Admito, que en sí no me afecta en la escuela, no en demasía, sé cómo lidiar con esto allí. Sé a veces cómo lidiar con las personas. Pero sí me afecta con mis relaciones, con mis deberes, con mis metas. Últimamente he estado intentando mejorar mi condición, que no sé qué será, pero he estado comenzando a normalizar mi actuar, a aceptar que lo que estoy haciendo no es mi culpa, y he estado intentando organizarme más, y pensar menos. Cuesta, pero realmente noto cambios.
Si tienes los mismos problemas que yo, o al menos parecidos, intenta averiguar qué te afecta, cómo te sientes, tus pensamientos. Vacíate del exceso. Date un día, da igual si lo atrasas por alguna otra cosa, pero dátelo, uno completo. Hazte un ambiente lo más cómodo posible, y haz nada. Haz lo que tengas ganas en ese momento, y entre tanto, piensa en lo que te ocurre, en qué momentos te sientes más exhausta; qué podrías hacer si te sientes así para motivarte. Organízate de la forma que quieras. Intenta entenderte. Desahógate mentalmente; puedes hablarte, puedes escribirte, puedes dibujarte, puedes tejerte. Lo que sea, incluso puedes pedirle a alguien que te dé su tiempo para contarle todo lo que sientes, solo si quieres. Luego de todo, cuando ya sientas que todo está listo, deja de pensar, deja de hacer todo, deja de hacer. Nada por minutos, o incluso horas, y finalmente, comienza a hacer lo que te propusiste, lo que te organizaste. Si haces esto, no sientas que hayas perdido el tiempo, míralo como un momento de reconocerte. Y al momento de actuar, felicítate por lograr las cosas, da igual si lo haces más tarde, si te tardas más, hazlo, siéntete bien por ello, es un avance.
Perdón si escribí mucho, la verdad es que necesitaba de desahogarme. Espero que te sirva mi consejo,, y quizás me puse a escribir todo esto porque acá donde vivo, ahora, es de noche. Espero que te traduzca bien el Traductor de Google porque me dio una flojera traducirlo.
@@miau69 ¡Muchas gracias por tu consejo! El traductor de Google ayudó, estoy escribiendo con él, lo siento si suena raro. Espero que las cosas mejoren para nosotros :)
@@bushral.tasneem5464 You write great in spanish even though you're using translator
I'm almost on the exact same boat as you.
I'm 16 now and I've been suspecting of adhd for the past two years now and it's been a real struggle. I've tried multiple techniques as well but they seem to only work for the first 2 days until they just don't do me any good. I've done so much research about it and found that I really resonate with the inattentive type of adhd, the thing is, I am afraid that by reading into it I've somehow managed to manifest the symptoms somehow. It doesn't help that authority figures have tried to invalidate the struggles. I hope we can get the help we need adhd or not as it is a real struggle that we have noticed in ourselves. It saddens me but the best I can do is wish you luck with everything and keep hope that you'll get through those hard times. Taking the first step of trying to help yourself is something you should be proud of!
@@miau69 No sé de donde seas pero como alguién con padres latinos me da gusto ver que el tdah también es algo que pase en nuestra comunidad. Con mis padres ha sido muy difícil de intentar hacer lo mínimo y explicarles sobre que es el tdah y es mucho menos posible que me creyeran que yo lo tengo. Te agradezco mucho por los consejos que le dejaste a la persona anterior y espero que todo te vaya bien :)
As a teenager with severe ADD, this video perfectly described the struggles in a person’s daily life. This video portrays ADHD in a way that isn’t just the dumb “I’m so quirky because I can’t pay attention” stereotype. It shows what really happens when it goes unmediated, such as not being able to finish things you’ve started, not being able to find things that are in plain sight no matter how observant you are, and not being able to keep track of time, thinking that 2 hours were just a couple of minutes.
The real problem is when its still this bad even with medication.
@@birdyghostly I feel better when in ketosis you could try that.
quick question - i thought ADD was an utdated term?
SAIT A SEC OMORI FAN
@@starryv3n it is. It’s now called ADHD because it’s a spectrum. Though I think it should be called something else because ADHD has the H in it which means “hyperactivity”.
But then again someone with ADD just has hyperactivity in their brain so it still works
"Sticky notes are a great way of telling you what you failed to do" hit me hard... I used to write sticky notes but they'd just pile up or get lost on my desk amidst all the other clutter. Using google assistant for reminders has helped me so much. Just being able to voice a reminder so it's out of the way until I need it frees up my thoughts a lot more, as opposed to a bright pink square sitting in my peripheral vision at all times.
I have not taken my ADHD meds in weeks
How did you make that sound as realistically intimidating as it is 💀? From a typical brain's perspective it sounds so dumb, but it's true...
Same, sticky notes never work, they just become part of the object and my mind blurs it out
the way i felt CALLED OUT
That "and your reading a sentence" that single line and how is delivered, is how my mind would act everyday. I describe it like an echo chamber or a room where theres no furnature with a few people all chanting the same thing but its so loud it becomes like a single noise that no one can make out till one of them breaks the mold and yells something different, and the voices/echos follow suit. I got on meds a week ago for the first time, I'm alone in the room, no echo, only relief. This is an amazing video and needs way more views! I had been managing for so long but I didn't realize how hard I had been truely struggling. I need to learn new methods for remembering because dispite the loudness of the chamber it helped me trace back the converstation now its just me, my "friends" can no longer help me remember. I'll be ok though I'll write down and finally remember my sticky notes or note book.
THAT “all the promises you’ve made to friends and family that’ve broken over time” HURTS, because I promise to do something for someone or get something for someone but it never ends up happening. I promise to do my homework but something else consumes my time and it repeats. I promise to get my friend a gift but I never end up doing it. It’s hard.
Felt🥺
Real. I've never been able to keep a promise :(
I got OCD ADHD and Anxiety
I’m not sure if i have adhd but I somehow relate to EVERY. SINGLE. THING.
I understand how painful it is to feel like you're constantly letting down the people you care about because promises seem to slip through your fingers. It's a heavy burden to carry, and the cycle of unfulfilled commitments can weigh heavily on your heart. But please know that you are not defined by your struggles. Your intentions are pure, and your desire to fulfill your promises is genuine. It's okay to stumble along the way, but what matters most is your determination to keep trying. Each day is a new opportunity to take small steps forward, to learn from past experiences, and to find strategies that work for you. You are not alone in this journey, and with patience, understanding, and self-compassion, you can navigate through the challenges of ADHD and build stronger connections with those around you.
Anytime I watch a video like this it always focuses on the more common/well-known side of ADHD, the "I can't do my work because I get distracted easily" which yes is true but they never dive deeper into the unknown part that's hard to explain to others. I've used the exact words of "I'm not sure why I can't do it, I just can't" and everyone just takes it as an excuse, this video PERFECTLY describes how I feel on when I say that phrase. Legit made me cry
I had several talks with my mum who just says i am making things up and my dad who makes fun of me saying that he also has adhd because he had one lazy day or forgot one thing. My mom said to me: if you‘ll change your mindeset and say to yourself, ‚it‘ll work out, i‘ll do it‘, it will work out and things will change. And i was sitting in front of her, crying and saying ‚but i CANT, i want to but i Caant, i just CANT. Its not as simple as just ‚doing it‘.‘
I had many many days, sitting in m room and crying about myself that i want to do things so much and live a healthy lifestyle with things i do, but i just cant even tho i want it so bad.
Its so frustrating. Frustrating that NOBODY without this condition does not understand the ‚i CANT‘.
@@schnatalia LITERALLY, ITS SO ANNOYING, I wish there was a better way to say it so people don’t think it’s just “being lazy” but there isn’t 😭✋🏻
It’s so refreshing when someone else can understand what you mean by “I can’t”, like I I want to do things BUT MY BRAIN WONT LET ME 💀
people are under the illusion that we have unrestricted free will
When I try to explain it I say: try to put your hand onto the hot oven. You‘re physically able to do that but your mind is stopping you. It’s not perfect but it kinda helps me to describe it
As a person with good grades and mild ADHD, it never even passed my mind that I had ADHD for a very long time. Since my grades were always good and I wasn’t a bad student, it didn’t pass anyone else’s mind either. Not even my mother, a psychologist. I felt like this for a good amount of my life. Zoning out,fidgeting,not sitting still,getting distracted,feeling paralyzed when having to complete a task,procrastinating,being extremely sensitive,feeling like a disappointment,waiting till the last minute to do soemthing,doing things too fast.it’s a lot to take in. You don’t know how to cope. Your reading a sentence,maybe even a math problem,but you know it,your brain is just not processing. You read the sentence and reread and over and over again until your mind eventually gives in. It’s the same thing from people “it’s not that hard”,”what do you mean you don’t understand?”,”you should be able to do this”. And they are right. But it’s really not that easy. Alarms:don’t work,sticky notes:don’t even catch your attention,aderall:works but at the risk of many things. What can you do at this point? You’re a procrastinator who can simply just not sit still or think slow enough to process. You feel like a disappointment. Even if you are diagnosed and have accommodations they aren’t much help. Nothings ever a good enough excuse. No matter what you do it’s not right. Wether your grades or good and your social life and friendships are going downhill,or visa versa, it’s still you having to live with this “thing” that you just can’t walk away from,no matter where you go it follows. The only place you feel even merely safe is ,is your own head,and even then….
I wanted to cry reading this because I re read multiple times the same thing. Knew what the words were but could not process it. Do I have ADHD? I'm almost 30 and I never got diagnosed. I don't even understand how to get checked or if I have the time for it. Thinking about it, makes me feel sick and anxious
It's the same for me, i actually reallly have to read something many times before i get to distinguish the informations, and even then sometimes it's like torture,
Even vidéos i watch, i find myself going back multiple times
People with adhd better choose something they really love to do it's one of the only ways not to feel the torture of Work and forcing urself to focus (without even being able to understand sometimes)
I always was top of my class and I graduated with a first class degree. I got a really high paid job (stressful). But I am always in debt because I can't manage money and I spend stupid amounts when I'm in a new hyperfocus. My house is a mess, I struggle to even shower or hang up my clothes. All I get from my family is mocked and I feel so ashamed. I had a psychotherapist for years and she recently told me there was no way I have ADHD and so I take that to mean I must be choosing to be like this 😢
@@BanjoPixelSnack but u still deserve to see another therapists, someone who can give u a real test, don't stop there, one of the biggest indicators is the feeling of struggle, because ordinary people do have all of these symptômes but just onces in a while so they don't really feel they are struggling...
Some therapists really have their préjudice about ADHD especially when it's not their spéciality, i might guess it's because of ur position that urs though u couldn't get there with ADHD but perhaps u are genuily interested by what u'r doing (in which case u actually have an advantage), also with a therapist u just sit and speak, she can't see when u forget things, how ur house is always a mess, how u can't manage ur time... Etc and perhaps u didn't complain about these things that often because u had other problems... (we kinda tend to try to hide as much as we can the mess that is around us, hoping people won't notice)
Now don't get me wrong, if 2 or 3 other therapist say the same thing u gotta accept their diagnostic, but try to choose one who is specialised...
I hope whatever ur problem is, u'll get better 🙏🙏
Ps: for me it seems to me that u r both smart and hard working so without adhd (it can also be dépression or something else)it would be prety easy for u to be organised... So don't stop here
@@BanjoPixelSnack imo you should go to a different therapist. I've started medication about a week ago and my perception of life has changed drastically- I don't feel like I'm constantly falling apart or like an imposter. My point is the benefits far outweigh the consequences.
I'm a 55 year old man and this film chilled me to the bone. But if I began explaining why, I'd begin unraveling the details of a life in which I'm thankful for allt he good things I've ever had or experienced...but there is so much that is pure shit.
I frequently share one moment in my life that proved to be a kind of premonition related to my ADHD. When I was 5 years old I went one day witih my mother to pick up my sister from school. She was in first grade and would come out soon after the bell. But I wasn't sitting quietly. I was sobbing and begging my mother not to make me go to school "because I won't know what to do, mom!" What 5 year old says such a thing? My memory of it is crystal clear, too.
But as years passed "I won't know what to do" came to define one of the core problems that would plague me the rest of my life. And it's what you see in this film. Now, for me, I'm like the girl in the film much/most of the time, but I have bursts where my intelligence and focus bursts on, and I am (seriously) the smartest one in the room. My mother was a member of MENSA. I'd watch her destroy the players on the show "Jeaopardy!" and she agreed we would play along with the show, with calculators in hand, on the honor system. I'm in high school at this time. And I actually beat her on a few occasions. My sister, my father, even my friend I considered "the genius" couldn't touch my mom. It was loads of fun. I've taken two IQ tests in my life and scored a 147 and 141. As I was struggling trying to turn two F's into D's my senior year in order to graduate, I got a 31 on my ACT.
Moral of the story? I could have had a much, much happier life. It's right there, everything I need, sitting here right now. And yet, I sat down this morning around 9 AM with a stack of papers and had five tasks to complete. I got up from my seat 20-30x today, each time returning, saying "let's get this shit done." Only to wind up on eBay, reading news, and eventually perusing UA-cam, which lead me here. I've been up since 6:30 AM and accomplished one thing.
This changed my perspective of ADHD so much. I have a friend with ADHD, I don’t have it so I’ve never really understood it, whenever the teacher calls on him and he doesn’t know the answer, my teacher gives him a lecture on listening and I see him shed a tear. I thought he was lazy, never listened in class, chatty, then cries when he gets an answer wrong, I thought he was dramatic, but this really helped me learn more about ADHD, thank you for this.
Make sure to give extra love to your ADHD friend. Offer him smiles and understanding and be the outlet for him to unload his fun adhd hobbies and interests to. We internalize the negative talk we receive from our parents, teachers and peers, so, so much and it wrecks the way we see ourselves. Having someone who loves us for who we are and doesn’t make us feel stupid for something out of our control means more than words will ever describe ❤❤❤
That's good you see it. Maybe you can help defend him now. People really don't understand
That is very good to hear. The most important thing to a young person is the support from their peers. It literally changes everything. Maybe you can also help others to understand your friends situation better. It takes a village....be the village.
The amount of appreciation I have for you is immense. Not enough people without adhd care to even try and understand. You are a true friend for even clicking on this video.
I wish I had a friend that would go out of their way to attempt to understand like you have. I hope you know just how much that would mean to your friend, and I hope you are just as supported in your life.
"Two valuable weeks, gone,wasted" is exactly what I am feeling right now, and is exactly what I have been feeling for the past years of my life.
I hate that it seems to have turned into "ten valuable years"...the regret is so agonizing, and no one can understand why didn't just *do* the things.
Wow, I'm passing for that right now 😢, is so mentally tired feel tired for no Fkg reason
@@luvinsingin07exactly, agonizing is the right word !!!😓😞😣😭😢
„A world of constant noise and distraction and disappointment“
That hit me like a truck, I’ve never heard such a good summary
Yeah fr
I have never seen something demonstrate my experience as exactly as this. This is literally my life. Every day. It’s why I hate school. Every. Single. Day. I’m exhausted and I don’t know why because I didn’t get anything done, and being tired is not good enough of a reason if I’m always tired. Whenever I bring up adhd the adults in my life say it’s just my anxiety and that “im searching for an excuse” but the innate notion comes first…not the anxiety. I’m so tired. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
"Mental illnesses are not excuses, they are explanations" These are the words that have inspired me most ❤❤
As I was looking at this comment my brain "read a sentence". I had to read it again.
This is absolutely true but it is important to note that ADHD is not a mental illness, it’s a neurodevelopmental condition.
@@redbirddeerjazz came here to say that exact thing lol.
I have adhd and autism
How is adhd not considered a mental illness to you
@@Finalizor it’s a neurodevelopmental condition, a neurotype, caused by different brain structure and chemistry. It’s invariably genetic - you’re born with it. While ADHD affects cognitive function and can absolutely affect your mental health, it isn’t a mental health condition in itself, just like how autism isn’t one. A mental illness is a dysfunction in how your existing mind functions, but with ADHD (and other genetic neurodivergence) your existing mind is functioning normally within the context of your innate brain structure and neurotype. I’m also autistic with ADHD.
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 27. The diagnosis came about during therapy while trying to set my life back on track -- I was suicidal, hated my job (staring at a wall for 11hrs/day), and generally felt impossibly behind my peers. Between my medication and my therapist, it has been profoundly life-changing.
I'm going back to school for aerospace engineering and business management (both fields I'm exceptionally talented in, but never had the focus for), and for the first time in a decade I'm actually optimistic and excited about my future. While I feel as though the last 20 years of life were wasted, I know the next 20 are going to be absolutely exceptional.
This video really hit home for me, especially as it's 30 minutes past my bedtime and I'm still watching videos about procrastination. Excellent work!
wishing you the best! :)
"Both fields I'm exceptionally talented in, but never had the focus for"
This kinda stuff keeps me up at night... knowing you're good at something, even better than most at it, but you're missing one piece that separates you from someone successful in the field. It's like being a superhero with a broken leg.
Then the retroactive thinking that comes with it and feeling like you're just behind everyone else and there's not enough time to make any sort of headway into doing what you're good at doing. Story of my life...
It sounds like you're doing the right things and paving your path. You can do it and it's okay if things don't work the way you want them to during your journey. Time isn't against you and take it at your own pace! Good luck, you got this!
@@gras0068 I was professionally diagnosed, even got a second opinion from another healthcare provider before starting stimulants
@@livewire42 and here I am trying to finish my PhD with an actually broken ankle, like it wasn't already hard enough.. I was only diagnosed last August at the age of 30 and still trying to find how to manage everything
Proud of you! Keep going
The part where the teacher goes “nice of you to join us. This is the ##%^*%#\\ time this month” felt so real since- sometimes the sound of someone saying something in that send actually sounds like that in my mind.
I had a teacher who happened to math and computers, so at least twice a day. I wasn’t late. But always unprepared. He would wait, every class, for the room the quiet. Then he would greet just me, by name. Every day. Every class. So every student would be looking at me. Usually would give me some compliment on my clothing or hair.
I think it pissed him off bc I sat in his class, did the homework that was due in seconds, right in front of him, never took a note, never opened my book. Doodled bc that’s how my brain processes best. Got great grades, was not a nerd.
I love this, and I hope we got similar short-films about ADHD as an adult, with your job and your house and your bills to play and your place to clean and the never ending cooking and cleaning and buying groceries
that would be a drama, a horror movie and a documentation at the same time 😅
3:49 the sudden change to the black background is a really good detail. perfectly portrays the feeling of being confronted about something you forgot and suddenly everything surrounding you fades away
“The sticky notes on your wall. They’re good at keeping track of what you’ve failed to do” absolutely broke me. My to do lists keep getting longer and longer and becoming a constant reminder of how little I am actually getting done. So then I drop them and try just living in the moment, but then I descend into chaos and things get forgotten. So then I start the to do lists again and the cycle repeats.
I've kept lists my entire life since I was like eight or ten. And you're right. It's like maybe the perfect list will help me get more done. So I would research lists. Try to figure out better ways to organize my lists. I even told therapists over the years that I had an unhealthy relationship with lists. No one guessed that I had ADHD. I KNEW there was something seriously wrong with my list problem but I didn't know what. Two years ago at age 56 I got diagnosed. Once I started researching it, my entire life made sense. And I went through a grieving process because of everything I could have done but lost because I had this issue and I didn't know what was wrong.
My therapist taught me this, and it helped: Pick 3 things you "have to" do today, and 3 things you "want to" do today. They dont have to be big things, but do the "have to's"... and if you can't, then write down why and work to fix the problem or ask for help. ... personally i struggle with filling up my day with 20 tasks instead of the 3 tasks i should be prioritizing. Lists are deceiving in that way. I cant even make them anymore, its endless. as a mother of 3 daughters with adhd i have to just do things based on urgency.
@@amandapalu4802 This is really cool advice!
Was definitely shocked to see that this vid has so few views, the production quality is amazing! The editing, acting, and sound design really give it an immersive effect.
Totally felt it in my skin, the sounds is amazing
fr it should be a 3 million views video that is on everyone recomandations
ik this will sound stupid, but this simple video made me cry. I've never been able to explain what and how i felt, i always felt like I was lazy, because that was what was told to me by the people arround me, jokingly or not. I felt like I had no caracter, because I could never follow the promisses I made myself. I let other people down, because they wait for me to do something about it, and they wait, and they wait. And it never ends, and it will just never end. And than, a diagnosis, people tried to understand a little, 20 types of medication, trying to understand what ADHD is, that it is not only atention, that it is procrestination, lack of knowing what time it is. KNOWING you HAVE to get that stupid, short task done, that is is so easy, but it doesn't interest you, so you don't do it. Knowing that that is ADHD and that so many other things come with that. Understanding that thinking negative about yourself, and taking criticisme way too seriously is also ADHD, being so incredibly scared of what others will think of you. The sentence 'you look at the sticky notes on the wall, they're a good reminder of what you failed to do' is so real, you know those tasks are there, but there is this one little annoying man in the controle center of you head smacking the nope button every time you try to do something. However, you do still start but never finish it, leaving 20 unfinnished tasks, that you will never look again at if nobody reminds you to do it. You know your room is filty and messy and it bothers you, it makes you even less productive, but cleaning it? no way!
And after reading my comment again, i finally realised I found a way to (kind of) discribe my ADHD, and I've not been so happy in a LONG time.
As a girl with severe ADHD, one of my biggest pet peeves is people expecting my ADHD to be only minor, and not much of a problem because it's oftenly worse in guys. It just doesn't make sense. And it also bugs me how people think my ADHD will be magically "fixed" with my medication.
I don't think ADHD is necessarily "worse" in guys, it's more like it presents differently in guys and girls. For guys it does tend to present more as the can't-sit-still type of ADHD, and everyone can easily physically see that. For girls, it tends to be more of an internal struggle, disorganized/racing thoughts and stuff like that. It's just as severe, but it's more of an invisible disease, and unfortunately, for most people, seeing is believing. Trust is hard to come by these days, so if people have to just trust you when you say you're struggling but they can't actually see it for themselves, it's easier to brush it off as excuses than extend that blind trust.
At least, that's what I've found, both in my experience as a girl with moderate-to-severe ADHD, and in the info I've found while researching more about my ADHD. (But I understand what you're getting at, just wanted to share the info I've found. I didn't know until recently that ADHD presents differently in girls than boys, or that it presents differently in kids than adults.)
Geez, that turned out so much longer than I thought it was, sorry the long response 😝
@@mak_inthebox4817 I definitely have an unorganized, anxious and stressed mind, but I also seem to have the can't-sit-still thing. It's really hard because whenever I'm off medication I'm very squeamish, stressed and uncomfortable while sitting, r even laying down. It's like I don't know what to do with my body while trying to focus. People also get on my nerves WAY easier when I'm not taking my medication. I get angry SO easily, but people just get mad when I say it's because of my ADHD.
@@DieselDog1982 Huh?
I completely agree, I wasn’t diagnosed until I had turned 18. After I told my family they didn’t believe me, they questioned me if I thought the diagnosis was correct, they said it didn’t sound correct and that maybe, at most, I was just on the border of ADHD. I told them it was absolutely correct, I told them I had been diagnosed with moderate-to-severe ADHD and that I was really happy to finally have an answer to what I’ve been feeling. I had to tell them I wasn’t asking for their opinion I was just sharing some good news and if they genuinely want to get to know their daughter they’d ask questions, judgment free.
ADHD is the disability that will always be treated as “laziness and excuses” no matter what and its awful. even with a diagnosis its ruining my life and i get almost no support. everyone treats me like i “choose” to be this way. im tired of hearing that i just need to be more organized or more disciplined. my brain quite literally just cant remember things, and cant organize itself. theres been so many times i have been spending 10+ hours on homework in tears because its physically painful trying to force myself to get through things. and all everyone hears with that explanation is just how “dramatic” it sounds without realizing thats at least my genuine reality of living with ADHD. i would do anything to get cured.
I can relate to a lot of this. I've been in many similar situations as you. What really helped me was taking Adderall. It really does help with giving your brain the kickstart it needs. Everything else follows, memory, energy, organizing, focus.
I noticed you say that you get almost no support, not zero. Whoever it is that does support you, try to appreciate that one person. Sometimes, that's all you need to keep you going. Talk to a psychologist about getting some medication that can help you with the daily goings. There's nothing wrong with seeking help and finding medication that truly helps your daily functions.
Remember if you don't OBEY the system you will SUFFER
Isn't that what we deserve for not being NORMAL🫠
Me too. I hear your pain so loudly. I too wish more than anything to not have it. People hate me. 😢
I'm not sure if I have adhd or not, I have felt a few similar things in this video, and I've looked up the symptoms, and I do have a few but I haven't been medically diagnosed. I've tried to talk to my parents about but they both shut me down saying "ive worked with people who have adhd, you're not like them because you can sit still." Everyone's adhd is different and I don't think they know that. I'm planning on making a slideshow telling them about the different adhd's and other things. I'm definitely going to use this video on there. Thank you for making this.
I have this a lot, I feel like ADHD gets thrown around a lot these days and I don’t want to be thought like that
You may not read this but tell your mom there’s 3 diffrent adhd’s, hyperactive/impulsive type, inattentive and distractible type, and combined type. (Which is the 2 mentioned beforehand combined together.)
It's also possible that you have ADD (this is without the hyperactivity).
I have both the hyperactive and inattentive type of ADHD and i know this is in the replies but you dont have to be fidgety to have ADHD.. my dad has ADHD but only the inattentive type and he doesnt ever fidget, i know it not the same for everybody but it helps to know how real life people act with this disorder rather than reading it from somewhere. ive found it really helps to talk to other people that are diagnosed, i learned about things that i didnt even know were symptoms of ADHD from talking to other who have it
@Sleety D: did they give in?
I have ADHd and just started my own channel talking about my own experiences/etc. when I saw this film I was in tears because I have never felt so heard. This is exactly what it feels like every day, thank you for making such a good example video. This is something I will show to family and friends that don’t get it from now on. ❤❤❤
Even as a senior in high school and being diagnosed with ADHD for 10 years, I’ve never been able to accurately describe it. Thank you so much for this video
Jesus loves you and he died for you. The Love of God Love is sooo big. He can listen to your sorrow, to your doubt, to your depression, to your joy, to your anxiety... Literally everything ! He cares about you, start to care more about him. Read the Bible if you want to learn more ❤
Same. Sometimes people will ask me how it feels to have ADHD, but I can never put it into words
I keep hearing that we can't organize but prioritizing seems to be the bigger problem. When I'm actually focused I'm capable of organizing just fine.
@@Melissa-818 Lol where did that come from?
@@Melissa-818This is so Much. Thank you Melissa. ☺️🧡🧡🧡🧡
Oh. This made me cry. I’m 15, and when I was in 5th grade I was diagnosed with ADHD. It sucks. I was put on the medicine immediately, and while it did make everything a lot better, it had so many terrible side effects. I was losing a lot of weight, had lots of mood swings (literally I burst into tears once when my mom told me we had to go to the mall) I was always shaking, etc. I really wish I could send this video to my teachers, because my math and avid teacher always make me feel like everything is my fault. Both of them are like “why don’t you understand? Why don’t you ask for help?” And I just... blank. I don’t know why. They really blame everything on me, and they just don’t realize I can’t control it. God I hate it so so much, should I show this to my mom? I don’t think half my teachers even know about my 504. At least I’m the only one alone
Late reply, but yea you should show everyone that doesn’t immediately understand so they can understand your situation better.
bro outside of most things in this comment just wanna say that the shaking is so relatable. if i try to sit still my body literally shakes. though it's become easier to deal with (bc i had a really young diagnosis, like 3 or 4 years old, maybe earlier. i kinda learned to just go with it), it's so annoying i swear-
I think you should! The traditional education system doesn't cater to students with mental health issues, but by discussing it with your mom maybe you can get accommodations from your teachers or they'll go easier on you. I hope things get better for you!
I relate so much! I was also diagnosed in 5th grade, immideately put on meds, had rapid weight loss, shaking, mood swings, I know exactly what your going through. The medicine works great but it also ruined me at the same time. (I also had no appetite)
@@faerimusicx no because my head will like twitch or kinda move to the side and its so embarrassing i think its probably my medication but i have to like play it off like i was looking at somethingg
This made me cry because it is so accurate to what I feel in a single day with my ADHD. I have troubles with explaining it all the time and my class, teachers, and even some schools I have been to all have said I’m just stupid and lazy. I’m lucky tho my family understands and helps me find ways to cope without using meds but some days I just wonder if I did take meds if it would fix me. More people need to see this video.
Technically there is nothing the "fix". The problem is how we live in today's society. It's incredibly structured. This isn't how people lived before agriculture.
Humans created a system that only works for a certain kind of person and then blame us when we don't fit the mold.
Depends entirely on how a person reacts to amphetamines, for me the side effects far outweighed the benefits, but the benefit of added concentration was definitely there but here’s the thing…. Side effects get so bad that you go off the pills which lead to withdrawals but the worst thing is that now you’ve taken the slight benefit for granted because you don’t realise untill it’s gone which will keep you going back on the medication.
The best thing is to find ways to cope without medication because all it’s going to do is trap you. ADHD is just some bullshit label put on people that functioning outside of what’s socially accepted as being "Normal" we shouldn’t have a label for being different and unfortunately taking medication will make us become slaves to the label. We need to learn to cope otherwise the knowingness of having a diagnosis will control us because we say we can’t before we even try.
@@mixer1014 for example, when hunting, gathering, water, and shelter were our main and only concerns ADHD would be an advantage over others
@@mixer1014 that's what it was like for you, medication didn't only help me with concentration but also just overall mental health
Taking medicine wouldn't fix you. It's not the goal. You don't need to be fixed, you just need to take a look at your life from a different perspective.
after this video I figured I don't really have adhd just focus issues sometimes but the best thing I took away from this is the casual sticky notes thing for every small task. I am gonna start with that, amazing idea
4:40 - 5:00 was powerful for me. "its not like you want to let people down". I catch myself thinking this on a daily basis, especially with my parents. i forget simple chores and each time i try to convince them i dont do it on purpose or because im lazy. gosh, what a great short film you guys have made.
Convincing them you’re not lazy is the hardest part
I get shouted at all day every day and get called “annoying” for it. I sometimes feel bullied because I know I cannot help it. I’m just a “mess” according to them which doesn’t feel fair.
im so grateful for the parents i have. they arent perfect of course but they try and that is somethimg a lot of parents dont do. my mum has adhd as well and my dad has autism. my mum was also a mental health advocate so she understands everything. my dad struggles to understand this stuff becasue of his auticm but he lets mum take care of it and does whatever he can to help, even if its just hugs
@@simonamarsano841yeah🙃 and once time I decide to tell them “I’m tired. Mentally tired. I don’t know i why but just laying on bed it also can make me tired. I run out of passion(to live I want to kms🤡) now.” and “I want to do it but I don’t want to do it(i can’t think now pls shut up and lemme think alone!) so I can’t do it and wait till I can do it.”
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@@gamerxarmymultistan😭😭😭😭👍 good for you
As someone with a bad glasses perscription, the analogy at the end really spoke to me. Theres nothing quite like that profound feeling of joy mixed with despair as you realize... is this what it is like for everyone else all the time? They can read that? I was supposed to be able to read that? How much have I been missing out on?
I don't have ADHD but I can only imagine it is a similar feeling, and i'm very glad that there are medications that can help oeople
I have both ADHD and short sight so u can imagine
I could relate to it more too because I wear glasses. It's weird when you realize you've been seeing things so differently than everyone else has, when you were made to believe the opposite.
hahahah I remember when I first got glasses I was like "WAIT YOU CAN SEE THE TREE LEAVES!??"
Me too. Once I put on some glasses I was amazing about all the detail I was missing in life. I was seriously crying on my way back home. Just staring out the window looking at everything. It felt new.
@@izterp Glad to know I'm not the only one who cried when I put on glasses for the first time 😅
This is quite possibly on of the best explanations of ADHD. This needs to win some sort of award.
I was having so much suicidal thoughts 10 years ago as a teenage, also suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. I got diagnosed with ADHD, spent my whole life fighting ADHD. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
I love hearing great life changing stories like this. I want to become a mycologist because honestly mushrooms are the best form of medicine (most especially the psychedelic ones) There are so many people today used magic mushrooms to ween off of SSRI medication- its amazing! Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death buddy, lets be honest here.
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms
I'm so very happy for you mate, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Can I reach this dude through Google?
As someone without ADHD, I feel really bad for anyone who has to deal with this ❤ you guys are so strong!
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
@@OliviaLivy I recently learned that my father struggles with ADHD and my parents think that I have it too. Even as I'm typing this right now I don't really know what I should say aside from that. For the longest time I assumed that I was just...being lazy. And true, maybe some of it is laziness, but...if it isn't me, then what is it, yknow? I want to ask my mom if I should get tested, but I don't want to put her in another bad financial situation. I wanna talk to someone but I just don't feel up to it. I wanna get shit done, but I can't help but fire up Roblox, play a couple songs only to fire up roblox again. It's like focus, but not being focused, or being focused on the wrong thing. I just...I don't know. I don't know.
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Right at the end, the "It helps." bit is perfectly correct. It doesn't fix everything, and some days it doesn't fix anything. Regardless, it blows a few of those sticky notes away, and sometimes that's more than I dare to ask for.
I looked for someone to say this one!🙏🏽🙏🏽
I *hate* how accurate this is. I wish this was only a made up movie and not actually and exactly my real life.
I can't even decide what hits hardest: The entire morning scene, the walking in to class late and everyone staring, "the sun has set, you've wasted the day", you're exhausted but you don't know why cuz you didn't even get anything done today, the promises you've made to friends and family that you've broken, the times when the internal voice repeats the same phrase over and over and that's all you hear bounding and rebound through your head: yourerunningoutoftimeyourerunningoutoftimeyourerunningoutoftime, "ADHD is living a life knowing what the full picture is *supposed* to be, but every time it matters, you find yourself missing a piece," --- It literally *all* hit home so hard.
You nailed it on the head. This video is so good, and it needs to be shown everywhere for educational purposes.
I can’t stop watching this, It makes me feel less alone on what I go through everyday.
I feel so comforted and uncomfortable watching this because of how accurate it is
I've been stuck in a burnout for so long and i feel so pathetic for not being as resilient as i used to be
Or maybe everything was just easier back then and i was never resilient in the first place
I keep finding myself making excuses and being all over the place and wanting to change but nothing is just clicking
I'm letting everyone including myself down
Everytime i try to make a little change i just lose myself along the way and before i know it im back to square one, a month has passed, and i havent even finished half of what i was supposed to do
Im stuck between wanting help and comfort from other people and wanting to isolate myself in fear of disrupting everyone else's peace
I try to be more forgiving towards myself but it makes me feel like im being too soft on myself
But if i try to be more disciplined i just end up making "unrealistic" expectations of myself
I feel like a broken record
A phone charger that always needs the right angle just to work and stops working after just the slightest shift
I constantly get paralyzed thinking about what i should do instead of doing
Obviously it's not like this everyday
Sometimes im very capable and productive and feel amazing
Then when i hit a slump again i compare myself to that competent version of me
Telling myself that i was capable of doing almost anything, so why not now?
Why cant i bring her out when i want to
When i NEED to
The funny thing is i have never been diagnosed. I do not want to self-diagnose.
But a part of me just resonates with the possibility that I maybe probably might actually
have ADHD
But my guidance councelor told me that our generation tends to self diagnose and that i should try journaling and breathing exercises and try naming 5 things i can touch, 4 things i can hear, 3, 2, 1
Wait, did i spell exercise right? Whatever
Maybe she is right
What if im just thinking about it too much?
🥹🥹😭😭🫂. ❤
I feel the Same. Each word of your Comment is Just like me. The feeling of this long Burnout, The feeling of Missing my Old Competent self. Or maybe everything was easy? No it wasn't, It was hard... I was Hardworking. But Something is wrong in Brain. Idk. 😭 I can't focus, I can listen for a straight 45min lec. I can't keep track of Anything, work, test assignment. Im overwhelmed. 😭 this is Awful.
(Laying in the Chaos of My Books and Stationary, wasting my life. I... don't know..I was never like this...)
Comparing the present self with the old one. Ahhhh. Same here
I'm diagnosed with severe ADHD. This hit so close to home and is so perfectly worded💜 thank you.
you summoned it really beautifully that right now i am actually cryning..ig we both lives the same life in different body and time zones...sending ❤
You’re not, don’t worry, that’s a very good description and it puts my feelings into words when I never could. Great job, keep going, you can make it, I know you can.
i love this sm, i hate always having the “adhd is so fun and creative” stereotype, or people saying “oh i cant focus that well either! do i have adhd?”. its just a cycle of hoping to be productive, failing, feeling guilty, and repeating. i never thought it could be described any better. thank you for this
EDIT: i feel like i didn’t describe what i felt well enough so im here to clarify. i meant people who diagnose themselves over tiktok videos spreading stereotypes or false information about adhd. i usually see the “oh im hyper lol i have adhd” kinda people all over the place and it sucks because its more than that. everyone has a different experience but that was mine. sorry i came off as hateful.
That’s so true to what It is. I realized that when I read it. Siiiiigh:(
Unless you think people are born knowing what ADHD even is I don't think it's fair to shame someone asking if they might have that problem too. People should be allowed to ask questions if I never watched Joyner Lucas's "ADHD with Revenge Intro (official video)" I would have never known I had ADHD because I was still unsure what it even was after watching that video till I looked into it more via Google, UA-cam, and even asking people who have been diagnosed with it, and eventually getting tested my self.
I was almost about to go to the doctor to see if I could finally get tested for ADHD, but your comment sent me back into my spiral of "I'm just doing it for attention, I don't have it that bad"
@@Sina-dv1eggo do the tests. 👍🙂
@@Sina-dv1eg i thought i was too. i just mean people who diagnose themselves over stereotypical tiktok videos spreading falls things. im sorry i came off that way. i think you should still go to the doctor if you really think you have adhd because its definitely not fun to have.
Wow. That is accurate af. I struggle with severe ADHD and it is hard :(
Honestly same bro it’s a struggle
Same man, same, it is hard. The amount of time we have been told that we are not good enough, that we aren't listening and stop making excuses.
As someone who literally doesn't remember a time when i didn't know i had ADHD I'm genuinely shocked at how i relate to this video, it's simultaneously spot on and completely off the marl from my experience. The medication part especially, i was very heavily overmedicated as a kid and have actually been off medication for 12 years now but i have thought about trying it again now that it's my own decision and not "well this kid needs to be zombified to function". Fortunately i had my mom (who was also ADHD) and she basically taught me how to break myself out of the apathy loop and i am eternally grateful for that. It's not always doable and especially as an adult now I've noticed I've gotten much worse at it. Great video even if it confused the hell out of me!
strangely I can cope with my ADHD during school years because the schedule from the school helped me a lot to keep track of everything, was a struggle to stayed focused during class but the adrenaline to get a high score made it exciting so I got high score sometimes. But, now, as an adult. It’s getting hard to keep on with my project. Just like her, drinking water and eating, one day passed just like that. There were times where I made peace with ADHD but there were also times where I feel disappointed at myself. Living with ADHD is hard. It’s not as easy as ‘just do it’, I want to ‘just do it’ but my brain freezes then I get nauseous. Cheer up my fellow ADHRers
You are me
School was somehow fine but since then I am constantly struggling.
Every word and sentence I thought: that's me somehow
But also: I am not alone
adhd people are stupid schizos, yall r over reacting abt everything
God loves you! Repent and believe that Jesus paid the price for our sins! go to Jesus and he can give you mercy joy and peace and so much love!
@@rachael5611 ah, nice.
Thanks for that, I already know that, maybe good reminder (?)
By the way, I am interested, are you a bot or a person?
And if you are a person, what's your favourite bible verse?
And why did you post it underneath this particular comment?
Sending love
(to anyone who may read it, I think anyone could need a little bit more kindness) :)
@@rachael5611how does this relate to the conversation at all?
Are you suggesting having ADHD is a sin you must repent for?
The way the "just listen" drowns out the thing we're supposed to be listening to is so realistic
I’m not diagnosed with ADHD, but this whole video feels so unbelievably relatable, it feels like someone finally understands how I feel constantly. It’s a constant fight with your own mind. I don’t want to self diagnose at all but sometimes I feel like no one understands. My parents don’t really believe that ADHD is completely real. They think it’s from electronics or bad diets. Which for some diagnoses, sure you could say that’s true. I actually think I have ADHD, but I don’t want to self diagnose, nor try to make an active appointment to see if I have it. I just feel like I really relate to a lot of people with it. Maybe I’m weird, or maybe I have it. Idk, but I just realized that right now I’m supposed to be doing two weeks worth of homework but I got distracted from this lol. It’s due tomorrow.
Try just going to talk to a therapist. If you do have ADHD, you could get a ton of help not just with meds but you could better understand how your brain works and learn a ton of strategies to work with your ADHD instead of against it, and generally make life more liveable .
And if you don't have ADHD? Well, therapy is still helpful for anyone. You could learn better habits and work ethic.
Get an assessment done to find out for sure. :)
bro just suck it up and do your homework. its not adhd, just bad discipline, and everyone goes through it.
@@Quantumstar65 no fuck you, you don't get it do you? I CAN'T do my homework done, it's hard to actually do it because i procrastinate, not because im lazy asshole. I CAN'T suck it up because i feel like i can't do anything right, like always and will be always. what'd you do if some dickhead said the same thing to you? but a lot more targeted and worst?
@@jbonkerzdo you know of any assessments, I’m in the same situation as the person as well
This is such a amazing short film, I can’t count how many times I come back to watch it because it genuinely comforts me to know I’m not alone in dealing with ADHD
This actually made me cry. Because it’s so accurate. The made up excuses,Loosing track of time, A Teacher or Professor teaching a new lesson or topic or review and it’s like speaking in a different language. Homework,Where you’re brain is fried because you didn’t do anything. You kept getting asked on saying “What did you learn about today at school?” Where you forgot everything because you’re so exhausted. And then,the next few minutes a sudden burst of energy comes in and you told them about the subjects you love but they said “Why didn’t you tell me sooner?” You really don’t know the answer so you said “I don’t know.” They said “That’s not an excuse.” You felt horrible.
😢💔
i was diagnosed earlier this year. today i mentioned it to my dad, as i thought he knew since it'd been a while. he didn't and he said a lot of surprisingly hurtful things, but mainly that he was certain i don't have adhd despite my diagnosis, and that i'm just "lazy" and "without discipline". it was a very upsetting experience that's been weighing on me all day, and opening youtube and seeing this on my recommended was strangely comforting
@@MSN539 i respect my dad. but he is not a medical professional, and definitely not any of the multiple professionals that evaluated me. and neither are you.
@@MSN539it’s people like you that make the world a worst place
@@MSN539no… no he is not- your the type of person to think depression is a made up thing to get attention☠️😂
Your dad is wrong, maybe he did not intend to hurt you but tried to convince you thatyou are fine, maybe it's hard for a Parent to accept some things and it takes time, from my Personal experience that was sometimes how it was with my Parents.
Try to get Meds if you don't take them yet, i had my Teacher pushing my Parents to take me to places to get checked till i got them.
PS: Even if you are "Lazy" and/or "undisciplined" sometimes, everyone is every now and then with no exceptions, but if it bothers you you can probably work out some ways to trick yourself to Focus more or better on some things or to get things done, that might just take some time and there is no right or wrong way to do it as long as you can figure out a way that works for you.
#1 ignore this guy telling you that your dad is right, you're not just lazy. #2 your dad is wrong, so very wrong. You are not lazy, you are struggling as a person with ADHD in a world for people who are "normal."
5:41 it helps until it doesn’t, then you feel dead inside all emotions numb but you still can’t focus, you ask yourself if the pills stopped working or if you stopped trying and then suddenly a year has passed which you only remember barely
That happens to me like a month ago I was at a dentist appointment and my dentist said the last time they saw me a little bit over a year ago and I was confused because it only felt like 3 or 4 months I remember going there but to me it couldn’t be that long ago. It scares me I only remember almost none of it as if it didn’t even happen. it felt like I wasn’t really there in moment for most of last year.
omg thats a thing? i feel like meds are my only hope idk what will happen if they dont help...
So true I'm up to 50 milligrams a day of Ritalin and sure they work but do they really? is the absolute depressive hole I fall into really worth the half-assed work I get done
thank you for sharing this. i felt so alone about the fact that a year has gone by with me not noticing the time passing, had to take this last spring and fall off from college because of it, it put me a whole year behind from completing and graduating and IM SO CLOSE. ugh so isolating and frustrating. i’m glad we know how each other feels at least, and for me it did get better/im finally able to get things done. sending love ❤
@@artemis6369How long have you been on meds for? I’ve been on 50 mg of Vyvanse for 4 years? Maybe 5? And I’ve been on some sort of stimulant medication since I was 8.
So relatable to lots of things in the short film😭, this makes me wanna cry. And it’s even harder for me to have college education in my second language. Most people don’t understand and adhd people have to face so much criticisms growing up
I'm in school right now. Although I don't have any proof from doctors, I believe I have ADHD. When I watched this video, I understood everything so well. I am forgetful, I don't ask questions soon enough, I promise things and I don't live up to it. You and me know ADHD is real but some people don't realize how exhausting it is. How exhausting it is to wake up every morning and think "Another day, another million things I'll forget"
oof. btw this doesn't have to be adhd or anything. there are tons of things that cause this. as a person with diagnosed adhd since i was 4, i can proudly say another symptom i get is zoning out. do you ever zone out without having any control? i do.
also, you dont HAVE TO have trouble reading. i've never had any problem with it. it could be something else, something as normal as taking a shower that you have trouble with.
maybe a third one? do you talk to yourself? can you not handle holding things without just starting to attack them and like break them really quickly?
and number 4: are you sorta a broken record? like, do you repeat anything and everything you hear? do you obsess over things? that's adhd. (and yes, people count. obsessing over people isnt always psycho or romantic or any of that.)
NONE OF THESE HAVE TO MEAN YOU HAVE ADHD. THIS IS JUST MY EXPERIENCE, AND EVERYONE'S IS DIFFERENT!!!
tip for getting a diagnosis: DO NOT ASK A THERAPIST TO DIAGNOSE YOU!!!! this is a common mistake made, and a therapist is the wrong person to give your diagnosis. instead, ask a specialized PSYCHOLIGIST, not a therapist (yes they are very different, the movies lie!) and make an appointment and schedule your diagnosis. (its wayy more complicated irl, but okay ig)
byeee (this is my copy and pasted but also with edits response, just so u know)
Just got diagnosed last Friday after 8 years of being told ADHD does not exist and that I'm just lazy by my own father whom I live alone with. This video almost made me have a panic attack and for that I'm thankful, because there are people who actually truly understand how it feels and how it is to have ADHD.
get medicines
@@rockfitclub its not that simple :( i also have autism so a lot of the overlapping symptoms remain
@@eykan_ow I have depression with almost 20 years suicide thought and full ADHD and add. I got to doctor for my depression and my ADHD got recognized by doctor too. He gave me medicine and now I'm at least 40 percent better.
We see you, we hear you and we believe you ❤
@@eykan_owSame with CPTSD as it affects the same part of the brain which I’ve had for decades so ADHD was not picked up. At 65 yrs old and a female I’ve just been diagnosed last week.
like many with ADHD in the comments, this also made me cry. Particularly the repeated voice "you're running out of time" and the dark tunnel when she realizes she's 2 weeks behind on the assignment. I only recently realized I have ADHD because until recent years I've been an excellent student despite struggling with time management and focus and lists etc. This meant that I simply beat myself up for being disorganized, forgetful, and distractible. Im starting to learn how to give myself grace but I often feel that despair, "will it always be like this?" Thank you for this video
I experience the exact same thing. Got a master's degree but behind the scenes I had to pull all the stops to do it. But when I got older and life didn't provide as much structure as school and my parents did, things began to give trouble. In work but also at home, but still manageable with my tricks and enough time to myself to wind down. When the kids came in the picture my symptoms worsened very much. Then covid came, and after the pandemics everything is put into gear again. Everyone picks up where they left off and I just can't reach that level anymore.
Got my diagnosis finally last friday, at age 36. I'm so relieved and can feel my inner critic to be gentler already. Finally an answer why I can't 'just' do the thing.
This video also made me cry. I constantly feel overwhelmed and feel like no one understands what I’m goin thru and how adhd is and this video literally explained it perfectly
I feel like I might have that, because in school I was just talented I think because I aced most classes without much effort just kinda paying attention. Now at Uni it's exactly like in the video, I am not getting anything done and time flies by and I don't have structure and when I read something I have to read it again and again and again because I forgot what I read.
I also cried when he repeated "you're running out of time" this sentence hit me so hard
This is the most accurate interpretation of ADHD that I've ever seen. I feel guilty every.single.day. for not being able to function like a normal person. Reading the same sentences over and over again trying to get the info to stick. Countless pieces of paper with the same things written on them thinking if I change the layout, the color, or if I just write a little neater, somehow I'll remember what I've written down.
i feel so bad for people with adhd. my brother is always trying to convince my mom to take him for a test. my mom even called him a spoiled brat, even when hes trying his best. my brothers currently failing, and hes trying to focus, but its so hard for him. and he wants to do something else, but my mom gets so frustrated and just doesnt understand him, and i feel so bad. he doesnt deserve all the hate my mom gives him.
edit- thank you guys SO MUCH for the recommendations! my brother is now getting therapy and my mom was thinking about getting him an ADHD test. :)
2nd edit- now it’s my problem. i have problems with focusing and i fidget all the time and i have huge symptoms! (according to my brother and friend)
I have adhd
I hate your mom
What a bad mom
Maybe your Mum could be masking the fact nothing is different from the norm with your brother?
just ask him to meet a therapist secretly from ur mom, like he can give excuses of going to study with his friends or for some school practise
There is a self test you can print of: the AQ10 & the AQ50. Would rec. the 50. You can give to your Dr - request a diagnosis.
I been recently diagnosed with ADHD have both inattention and hyperactivity. My therapist told me the hallmark of ADHD, if you respond to a question to quick without thinking through your answer. Loads of times I knew correct answers to questions asked to me but i accidentally answered incorrect answers because I acted on impulse.
I really like 2:55, how they "zapped(?)" out the number, showing how this isn't something we can keep track of either
appreciate you making this, ADHD is so powerful and so many people don't realize it
Man, I’m fairly high functioning but it feels good not to feel alone. ADHD has made me one of the most interesting people in my friend group because I pursue so many interesting hobbies, but on the flip I never finish much or keep with anything for long term. Plus being late, struggling to get my assignments done, pissing off friends with my unorganized-ness, ect. It’s a blessing and a curse.
I 100% relate.
I’ve struggled with ADHD all my life: I’ve heard it all, “you’re lazy,” “you’re immature,” “you have so much potential, why don’t you use it?” Last year and starting this year I’ve returned to college after I dropped out the first time. It’s still hard, but everyday is a chance to be better.
You’re not alone, you’re not stupid, you’re not lazy, you’re you.
from past 17 years it feels like i am still standing on a same place while everyone is gone ahead
i graduate actually in my 30s. it is possible, but the only reason is, that there have been so many different classes, like everything has been new on almost a weekly schedule. but often, VERY often i did my assignments or even studying for an exam happened the day before. but i´ve been also without a job a full year after i graduated because i´ve been lost and not motivated to truly do the research where i want to end up
Those quotes are the very things my dad say often😭
"They're good at keeping track of what you failed to do." made me tear up. Dang it. So accurate.
I like how the clock is quieter at the end. Still there, but quiet. The one thing I would change for my personal experience is while focusing on something I shouldn't be doing, the clock would change speed. EDIT: on the rewatch, I heard you did that and I didn't notice because I was too busy focusing on the characters. Felt normal haha.
As someone who has ADHD, this perfectly summarises everything. This is my life for 18 years (since i was born)
I tried explaining my situation to others but i just fail to do so and most of the time, they think I am making excuses or making things up. So many times people have told me "Oh just concentrate" or "Or just remember" but I just cant. I will be sending this video to everyone single person I know so thay they would stop asking or at least they would know that I am not making things up.
Thank you so much for making this video.
i don't have adhd but my brother does. i'm here watching this and i've never knew what he was struggling with til this video. thank you for sharing awareness to people that don't know about the struggles that they go through. i now know to be more patient with my brother because i've always been hard on him without knowing any of this. thank you again!!
thank you. adhd is not just crackhead energy. which everyone assumes. its really frustrating when a teacher or student yells at you, like "are you even paying attention". And I wish I could just say, "No, I wasn't because I can't. The way my brain in wired makes it so that, I have a very HARD time interpreting information, without completely forgetting it, or getting distracted. don't just put us in a white room, that's borderline degrading, and makes us feel like we are some animal. Then everyone misdiagnoses it, and its known as some common "easy" disorder, and everyone assumes that, "its not that hard" or "your're not the only one", which i understand I'm not the only one, but just borderline explaining to me, how I'm not suffering with it, or its not rare. But its a hard and frustrating mental, and learning disabillity. I am so glad for you to support me and many others.
I’m here for exactly the same reason!