Stages Of Grieving A Breakup
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- Опубліковано 16 кві 2023
- There are stages of grieving after a breakup. While we continue to say that every relationship is different, and every breakup is different, human beings all go through grief and grieving. A breakup is a loss, and a painful one at that. In this video, Coach Craig and Victoria discuss the stages you could go through after a breakup.
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I had to stop by to say that I’m LOVING the animated short movies in the Creative Healing Course! I can totally see how this was your favorite activity to put together, Craig. I’m laughing so hard with the voices you guys made 😂
This is what I love to hear 🙌
How can someone that loved me so deeply cut our relationship off with a 10 minute conversation. Seems completely insane to me. She knows my dad has cancer, my job stress is intense, my sister had a suicide attempt, among other things. My lover just cut me off on a whim. Seems completely ridiculous.
The end of my last relationship was the first time I fully recognized the grieving process that accompanies a breakup. Initially I was in denial a few days, then I bargained, I cried, I was mad. Even now, when I think about my former partner, I sometimes oscillate between these emotions, but I'm much closer to reaching a state of acceptance. I've completed all ten workbooks and am now I am doing the creative healing course that has been tremendously helpful in facilitating my emotional processing.
I’m in the denial stage right now. I’m convinced in my own mind that she will come back, but with all the no contact videos, how can I not be?
5 months later & I feel like a new person thanks to Coach Craig, Coach Victoria and of course the sweet angel Coach Margeret. Your lessons really kept me centered and helped me to focus on improving myself physically, emotionally and mentally. I struggled for the first month, but after that I decided to prioritize myself, my life and what I wanted for my future. I'm not bothered about what my ex might be doing. She watches all of my stories even though she unfollowed me some time ago, but even that doesn't matter to me anymore. My life has turned out great and I'm very excited about the person I'm becoming. So thank you coaches! We may never meet in this life, but I feel you've been such good friends to me, especially during a time when I needed friends like you the most. My gratitude knows no bounds!
So good I had to watch it twice. These stages definitely are not linear. I thought I had reached acceptance, but today I'm back to sadness and feeling unlovable. Time to binge some of these videos! And they're helping already.
I’m the same, my 5 year relationship just ended at 22, I lived with her at university and am in the apartment alone. I’ve been telling everyone I’m okay and doing really good and just glad it’s over(I am glad it’s over) but today I haven’t been feeling good or motivated again. I just realize it’s a lot of ups and downs
Denial, Anger, bargaining, sadness/depression, acceptance... i been through 3 out of the 5 in the 3 weeks since my break up. Still havent got to anger and acceptance. Im still at bargaining... miss her soooo much. But im trying going to therapy, have a stress coach, watching coach Craig videos, and working on workbooks... im trying my absolute best. Wish I could be in a place where im not feeling like this. But to get there i know i have to go through this
How are you now?
What I love most about you, coach Craig, is how authentic both you and Victoria are. I also loved Margaret very much for the same reason. How awesome for all of you to have found this platform to share your incredible knowledge, while sharing great chemistry with people who are clearly Kindred Spirits. Thank you for all you do!❤
The Creative Healing Course is meant to be particularly therapeutic and healing! There are so many activities (like art therapy) that can help you process and heal 🙌
It’s been since the early days of January that she left me. I was finally doing better after 4 months of suffering, but tonight I have woken up at 3am with an intense sense of grief. What triggered it was going out last night with a couple for dinner (I had a female friend as a double date) and going out for dinner was one of the things that my ex and I enjoyed doing most together. So, seeing the other couple who are engaged and very much in love really reopened the deep wound because it could have been us. I froze up with my date who is beautiful and nice, but has been a friend for years and I felt terrible towards her as well, bc I felt cold and distant towards her and maybe she might be interested in me as more than a friend, but I am not ready and have mixed feelings for her, don’t want to risk losing her as a friend. As discussed in this video, the phases aren’t linear and parts of them can drag on - I feel stuck in an infinite loop of feeling better about myself and then relapsing very suddenly, which leads me to feel hopeless about ever finding “the one” and I can’t take this roller coaster anymore. I long to speak to the ex but she was cruel to me and wanted no more contact so I am struggling but nonetheless have been maintaining no contact since early March.
Yes, I had them all. What did wonders for me was when I could see that my pain and grief had several parts. Missing what we had, grieving my dream of what could have been ( that we were not compatible in), my hurt ego that she left me for someone else and my own trauma about feeling not good enough.
It made it easier for me to start working on the different areas.
I'm glad that I am not angry with her anymore, just a bit disappointed how she handled things, now almost two years later after the breakup.
Can I ask you what did you do to heal and working on yourself? Did you meet other girls in this two years? How much time did it take to you in order to heal? My ex gf left me after 7 yrs for someone else. Any advice is appreciated.
@@dariodeluca8094 countless videos on this channel for a start but for me it was first when I started doing the workbooks and the creative healing course that I managed to really look at the situation. I had some issues that needed to be handled, that had nothing to do with my ex but made the grieving more difficult. Yes I dated several, some more serious and some more casual. I suffered a burnout about a year ago so I can't say that I am fully healed, and it's a daily struggle. But I am doing better, the anger and sadness is now mostly just disappointment. Keep working on yourself and remember to let yourself rest and relax! You will get there!
I think I’m still in denial because I keep having these fantasy conversations where I’m saying all this meaningful stuff. I’m seeing her tomorrow, so stressed and nervous.
How did it go?
@@dontreply8346 she’s with somebody new and I’m in therapy
@@dontreply8346 she came crying back all clingy and needy for like a week, then cut things off and jumped into bed with another guy the same day
@@dannycolwell8028 I’m so sorry. That’s awful. How are you doing now?
@@musicandart9711 thanks for your kind comment. I’m doing great! Lots of guitar, surfing, therapy, and I’ve recently met a really sweet lady who actually seems interested in getting to know me! I hope you’re doing well also!
Coach make a video about What power an ex parents have to bring couple back together. Thanks!
Y’all have helped me through my 4months I’ve been dumped from ex after 13yrs. I feel I’ve changed I a good way and able to see my flaws in me and also in my former partner. Do the work guys and trust the process. Sometimes the break up can be the blessing to become the man or woman you’re suppose to be. Thank you coaches for your encouraging words and knowledge 💎
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On spot as always
Great video!!
Thanks for breaking down the stages!
Very helpful! Thank you so much.💕
I would love to talk with you Craig
Your energy is amazing!!!
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Good morning coaches!
Thank you. The Healthy anger is helping
Still angry, but finally moving into acceptance. Thanks for all you guys do. ❤
What happens when you feel like you can't talk to your counselor about the break up?? I feel like she shames me for loving him..
Perhaps it's time to find a new therapist?
No one should make you feel like that least of all a therapist.
Not all therapists are good at what they do.
I wish you the best on your journey 🙂
Accept results not okay is the real man
Not linear but I'm feeling almost all of them at the same time.... except for anger
Share your experience with grief and let us know!
I grieve because I don’t want to let it go and I fight by develop myself to be better even one year I still sad. I fight for it but I feel sad for it at same time.
Hi coach Craig I know this is video is a couple months old. I switch back and forth between anger and sadness. My anxiety has been so high the last 3 weeks. Him and I tried again for 10 months I thought for the first time we started off right. But he had an ex that he works with and I feel like she was always in the background. That feeling was confirmed when he got back with about a week later. We share kids together so I still have to see him at least twice a week. I found a really good therapist and I’ll continue my growth. I know I’ll be ok eventually again.
Meaning a video if you’re friend with ex parents what are the changes to get him back.
I was angry that she dumped me via Text message. If she wants to break up with me. it’s her right . but at lease be adult with the delivery. / last few things I said to her is she wasted 4 years of my time. thanks for nothing. I was angry.I am good now 😊
I'm mad at the break up over text for sure. Not the reason for breakup though.
I had a question. Is it alright ti remain in contact with their friends? We have hobbies in common and still follow each other on social media (strictly only the friends)
I'm actually not a fan of Kubler Ross's stages, as for 1, they were anecdotal & the result of observations on people who were themselves dying, vs mourners. I've since seen other alternatives depicting grief as a ball of yarn, which I think fits better. Grief is too complex to try to explain in 5 linear timelines. That being said, I respect the Coaches & their take on this.
Still waiting on the grief stages🙄