No Contact: They Feel Your Absence Deeply
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
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I've been doing the creative healing course and it is amazing. It has given me something to focus on instead of my break up. I hope that if i have to lose the person i love most of all, then if i can at least learn, then it won't all be in vain.
So glad you’re loving it! And thanks for sharing your experience! It means a lot when people doing it say it! It really will change your life! 💪
@CoachCraigKenneth it came with the Knowledge Workbooks as well. Can't wait to start them too. I don't want to run out of course material :)
The Creative Healing Course alone you could work on for 6 months. Workbooks 1-10 cover 97 videos and it’s almost 600 pages. So you will have plenty of material to keep u busy for a looooong time 🙂
No contact is about YOU not them- focusing on your life goals and purpose
I just adored Margaret........she was always digging and finding research and sharpening her blade. And she had that sweet, comforting grandma vibe about her......I'm glad you all call those videos the "legacy" videos because they truly are just that and is a wonderful way to honor her.
She was even more incredible in person! Her knowledge on so many subjects was incredibly inspiring. I tried to soak up everything like a sponge
@@CoachCraigKenneth the beautiful part is you have so much on tape that will always be there to reference and to look back fondly on
Over 500 videos with her 🙂
We miss Margaret
She will always be part of us.
I lost my mom from cancer that was devastating to me.
And the lose of margaret.
I had to deal with lots of grief
The last 2 years
Surely it had an effect on my relationship.
Victoria has such a soothing voice. I really like hearing her speak.
I'm doing my best to not think of her. She has made it clear she doesn't want me in her life, so I use this as fuel to get the hell out of her life, so I can Focus on my life and nothing more 💪🏻
Day 31 ugh....he said same but um a believer in Jesus so.....and its still so hard 😢
He did text 1 x but u never replied because it was all about his feelings and not about wanting to change
@@bellahoney8596 Bella honey, it takes time. And it sucks. And you have to sit with it. I always said I would never give up on her... I finally did. Consistent rejection made me realize it was time.
Sitting in scripture 😢
"Most people are like YES IT IS" cracked me up 😂😂😂
The people who never come back are the ones that never had love for you in the first place. In my experience, my kids father has grown and put in work and try to show me he care but I will never want to be in a relationship with him again. We were together 6 years. We are great friends.
I’m so sorry for your pain.
The emotional crisis life puts you through is horrendous.
As an avoidant myself, I can share this:
you learn to rely on yourself so much
that you just feel frustrated at yourself
for not being able to let go and just ask for help.
You just lie to yourself and everyone around you
about being okay,
but inside is this storm of negative-painful-harmful emotions
and self-hate.
Avoidants are people-pleasers,
their words mean nothing,
and that's why their words don't match their actions;
hours of conversation and then the next day they are a completely different person.
They only think about themselves.
Healthy relationship
becomes impossible.
Please, journal your emotions and thoughts, take long walks, watch these videos,
and remember it was never about you.
Choose Peace.
Forgive and release.
Maybe even be grateful.
He helped activate emotions that your soul no longer wants to carry.
He activated them. That's the gift.
It's your opportunity to release them. That's the magic.
Sometimes,
the poison IS the medicine (homeopathy).
He helped you to purify you.
Life is just a play out of our emotions, and really, a gift...
For purification,
for release,
for ascension.
Well, yes he did. I still love him, and I desperately want to help him! He has no idea what's wrong with him. He saved me from my pain once, now all I want is to do the same for him. I broke up with him out of unawareness, he jumped into a rebound. Now I'm the one who left alone with the pain of love and awareness. Please help me @CoachCraigkenneth
its been 3 years. i don't think they feel my absence lol smh
Same but my ex still hasn’t solved all her issues that caused the break up. Whatever happens is on her. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us and cant be helped, unfortunately.
@@BananaPhone502 agreed.
😢
@@bellahoney8596 men have come to accept thats just how women are. it is what it is.
@@BananaPhone502that’s true, my ex had unhealed trauma, and for a long time I thought it was me and how I wasn’t good enough. After therapy I realized that regardless how caring I was it wouldn’t have worked out unless she sought help.
I found this channel recently and the videos have been helping me stay in no contact with my avoidant ex. It's been two months since the break up and I did make the mistake of asking him to reconsider at the day of the breakup. I wish I reacted better on that day- but all I can do is learn from it and move forward. It's been hard and I still miss him, but it is what it is.
they feel your absence, just as many of us viewers of the channel felt the absence of videos being posted for a few days, or maybe it was about 6 days 😁 I hope all is well 🙏
I live in a country in which there is nothing like "relationship coach". We can not even connect to you "guides and gardians" perfectly or book a personal session easily. But still, your UA-cam channel has been the only saviour I ever have!!! Thank you.
My name is Forest 24, and the love of my life, Makayla 21, dumped me about a month ago and we were together for almost 3 years. We’re from the same hometown, high school, lived on the same road, etc. She moved to Florida during our relationship because of her parents and it become long distance for most of it but we would fly to each other every few months to see each other, etc. It was great for the most of the entire time. In person, it was perfect. But she had a traumatic childhood with some issues and at the end of the relationship, she had too much on her plate and it didn’t help with her home life being toxic because her mother. She got rid of me thinking it was best for her. She asked me not to contact her and give her space. I was praying we’d get a chance again someday and about two weeks later she called me telling me she was moving back home, nothing has changed, and not to make it weird if we run into each other on accident. She kept breaking no contact herself every now and then messaging me about irrelevant small things. I reminded her no contact was her choice, she dumped me and that she asked me not to message her and I asked her not to message me unless it about getting back together. Was that the right choice?
I was blocked on every platform, all because i wanted him to be held accountable for how he treated me...very sad and disappointed. 3 year relationship totally over. Its been 2 months since he blocked me. I wont hear from him again...he is too proud.
Great energy and sincerity from both of you. Thank you!
2 months no contact, i AM so hurt, he is very avoidant.... He needs "space". I think he is never coming back, i never forgive him, love and hate him.. he doesnt wants kids and Marry me, he says he loves me but he lefts, WTF i dont belive him....
I think the reason people get back together is because both people chose to settle, both people decided each other to be just good enough. Such a mediocre relationship.
Hes lucky. Hes with an emotionally mature and emotionally generous person.
Some of us arent that lucky.
Juat have to move on and find a better person like her 😊
Needed a video like this today.
I did a lot of work a few years ago which was all undone by a rollercoaster of breakups, not because she didn’t love me, but her family abused her for falling in love with someone of a different nationality.
No contact for 3 months, it’s hard. We both love each other
I understand how you feel. Same thing happened to me. no contact for a month. its been 6wks and shit is fucking hard.
@@k8mauriim so sorry man. It gets easier, you just need to find something to focus on, it will help relief the emotion and help you think logically. Eventually you will know that you will be okay regardless of what happens in the future, as much as you may have wanted a future with that person
My situation became toxic because of her family, so it has stained the bond and connection we shared. Its tough when you still love someone that has really really hurt you
Thank You Victoria and Craig
Its true about Our mental health
Right now the thought of my ex making contact makes Me feel anxious
He left Me 3 times
I very much doubt He will make contact after our last chat
I don’t know if I’d cope
It would trigger Me too much
His actions have caused a huge amount of stress for Me
We loved Margaret
She found somebody else and now she is on her second relationship after our break up, little to no contact for three years from either one of us
Wow
Everyone is always down on the avoidant. Why the hell should we open up to you? All you do is invalidate us just as we were taught as a child that nothing we say is important that our feelings are invalid. Why? When we know we can give ourselves love would we turn to you? Why? When we know we can accept ourselves, wouldn't we look for your acceptance? Forget it. We're better off where we are safe - with ourselves.
What about if your 6 months post break up and he's still saying firmly he doesn't love you, he doesn't have feelings or attraction and doesn't want you back? and wants you to heal..
Is it too late? espec if there's been continual fighting during this stage too and on and off no contact of days - a week and me smothering and begging :/
But on the same seems to want to know and seems bothered by if you're surrouning yourself with other men - is this more of an ego thing?
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago and I tried to fix things for all this time. So I think it’s getting better. We sleep together, hang out, talk but nothing more. She wanted me as a friend and kept contacting me everyday about everything. So I told her that I can’t be just a friend and don’t want to continue communicating and if she’ll change her mind about me she can write me… she got very upset by this.. so I’m in no contact for 6 days. Did I do the right thing? Is it a mistake that I told her I don`t want to continue communicating? Because she stoped texting me after that at all..
LIVING with my family of origin is what's draining.
Should you even consider Taking your Ex back or rebuilding a Friendship if it was mostly 1 sided and They've just been Breadcrumbing to continue Yielding Benefits. Or what are the odds that They even Reach out If they truly didn't invest in the Relationship as much as you? Will they eventually Miss me and attempt to reach out?
It would be nice if the Coaches would address the slant that in these times, women have so much attention and opportunity with social media. “No contact” doesn’t work on them much. They can replace men easily, and many more more women are open to being bi-sexual.
What happens when your ex goes back to their previous ex with whom they had an 18 year relationship? He and I only had a 5 year relationship. So I guess I don't count. He did go back to his ex, but to his partner before me. Not to this ex. So sad 😢
I got stonewalled and blocked after our ruined anniversary (just refused to see me). I was blocked for 5 months then unblocked for a few and now im blocked again on everything. I'm very frustrated and i have no idea what this behavior means. 8 months it still hurts, not a single peep. Any advice, inputs ? I want to fix things so badly
Stop trying to figure it out and start doing things for you
It means they are emotionally unhealthy. They got triggered and responded immaturely. Unfortunately, I have been through something similar. Best is to move on, despite the hurt and confusion.
*My only advice to you is go to the gym and tone up your muscles or make them a little bigger. She'll sneak back to you quietly like a cat. Change your body and your clothing style. Put on clothes that fit you. Throw away the baggie clothes. Drink lots of water, eat fruit and try to get enough sleep. Bottom line, take care of yourself and the difference in your appearance and happiness will bring her/him back.*
avoidants
11:00 a dismissive avoidant discarded me while i was grieving the death of my father. she was the only friend i felt comfortable enough to talk to about it. aside from bearing the financial burden of my late dad's health issues, i had my own health problems which i put aside to deal with his, i was depressed & suicidal. i even had a conversation with her like "hey, i need somebody to talk to during this time to get me through this" & she said "i got you" for some reason, she thought this was a PERFECT time to cause drama & discard me. with a friend like her... who needs enemies? lol smh
so wish i would of listened to this years ago she doesn't care anymore i did all the begging and pleading years ago. but she threw 10 years down the drain we tried in 2021 to 2023 but she told me there is two much damage to never fully got back together i was hidden. pretty sure i was a rebound for her. i let her know about her dog who is 8 now he lost his eye sight. her response was we need to put him down. i deleted her number and am working on moving on but i still feel like its 10 years down the drain because I'm not the person she thinks i am anymore she still holds this horrible grudge. Pretty sure dismissive avoidant and i have anxious attachment style wish we would of took it slow last time but also with she would of agreed to cupules counseling but i should of seen the red flag when she gave me engagement ring back when we were on vacation but it was her way of walking away. i just feel like its 10 years waisted
Margaret ❤
You said it is up to the person who broke up to repair it. That is not always the case. I broke up with my bf due to his lack of actions compared to his words. He did not treat me right and I made it clear numerous times what I needed and he didn’t make any changes. Why would it be up to me to repair it? I broke up w him and am heartbroken but I felt I had to for my own self respect and worth.
You guys made me laugh with the red pill comments!!😂
It's been 4 months. 6 weeks ago she reached out for my bday. We had some general chit chat and it fizzled out. I haven't replied in around a month, because life has been very busy .Was thinking of asking them for coffee - thoughts?
Take the coffee date
@@ForestWW For clarification, I would be asking them.
@@c.t.martin3915 if she reached out initially, that’s a starter and a good sign. You could wait until she reaches out again and do it.
@@ForestWW no wtf, dumbest idea ever. dont ask it, u ruin every chance
@@michaelmich00 every situation is different. My girl asked me for space and no contact and she herself kept breaking it so I had to ask her not to contact me unless she wanted to get back together again and reminded her that she dumped me and it was her choice for no contact
I deactivated social media for about 2 months rhen when i came back on and posted a story i got 1 public view 10 seconds later ..... uh yeah it fot to be her right? 😂😂😂😂😂
Craig 😂 he's been changing his profile pictures frequently and guess what..all of them are the pictures which I took😅no contact day 41...what does this means actually
What about if it look like thy are monkey branch???!!!!
I wish this were true but it clearly isn't. She's happy I'm gone. No intention whatsoever to try and reconcile. I was the only one that valued our life together. Love is just poison in the modern age
Are you struggling to mend a broken relationship or facing interference from third parties?
@DrJensen-g2f fiance left me November last year. Her mom and new "friends" all encouraged the decision. There's many many more details to it all. She and I both hurt each other. But ultimately I was the only one under the illusion we were tryinh
BUT…what if she is bipolar, and ran back to her abusive husband?
I’m no expert but I don’t think it’s a great idea to be involved with someone who is married. Pretty risky decision & if that person is cheating on their significant other what makes you think it wouldn’t possibly happen to you if you were to be with them?
@@keydabeastgamingg She left him to be with me. She insisted on getting a dissolution, but then after 5 weeks, she ran back to him. 3 weeks later, she left him again. This time she actually kept her appointment with a lawyer. Three weeks later she ran back to him again. I think she fears him taking custody of the kids due to her being unstable. Still though, we had a connection, and it is very hard to deal with. I went from her best supporter in life, to BLOCKED.
doesnt work for avoidants
I can tell you it does. She’s reached out to me twice. Once after 4 months, the other after 47 days. I’m on day 21 and I expect something around 45 days like she normally does
If not, I’m not losing sleep over it, the train will continue moving with or without her.
a 'clean slate' letter. so corny. so simpish. so unattractive. ugh.