Indeed! No grow, is not very appealing. People, who do not want to learn and grow and are not curious about much are not the ones, i stay attracted too. Intelligence Curiosity Friendlyness Trustworthyness Having your back Care Empathy Good strong character Healthy loyalty Deep bonding This are a few important things to stay in love...
Give each other space to create desire.....excellent advice...and it's very effective. Married over 50 years and we went on separate one month trips with family or friends. When we got back home, we were like newlyweds with the added benefit of nobody else around to disturb spontaneous passion events. Highly recommend your advice. 💕
It is what it is. Sometimes we take family vacations, sometimes we don't. I was blessed to have a spouse who both our families were close and we came from family oriented situations. And the passion never left either. So all situations are different and people are different. And cultures are different too.
@@maryjohnson1890 Yes that's what I'm saying. Bordem is a lack of resources, and we don't have that. We are a couple that sees through new lenses naturally, although I know that time apart would naturally make us miss each other. I believe in this advice for 70% of people but then you have that 30% that are always working on seeing through new lenses every single day. My spouse says I'm naturally mysterious anyway
@@LuptonianPrince well done I’m with 27+ meet up groups that lead into Salsa Classes,Burlesque Classes, also swimming 3/4 times weekly different venues,Events,Late nights at every Museum & Art Gallery & 30+ people,Strangers bring different energies,safely,Such diversity’s,all races,creeds+ Warner Breaks, 80% none communication couples? Has brought 2!Ex’s curios,circling Thanks so much future good health HERES to 2022 ✅
Love his three truths: (1) be kind, (2) always continue learning even when you think you have learned enough, and (3) enjoy the path you're already on and stop thinking about all the other paths you could have taken. And...His smile and charisma are so sexy like Mr. Mcdreamy!
I have been married 50 years. My husband and I have the same values. Our Personalities are completely opposite. I am extroverted, he is introverted. He loves music I love books. He is into details when he is interested in something. I am into details about everything. Our priorities have been our children. We give each other space. We both respect money. We have been able to weather the storms, and support each other. Responsibility to Family was our priority.
You have learned the value..acceptance non judgemental, supportive, encouraging, supportive and open an honest with each other...I am woohoo jealous. Best love to you both...blessings.
@@Goodfellas900 Remember... a gentleman AND _______. (If you listened to the whole thing!). His problem was not being a gentleman. It was being a gentleman without the “and-something-else” to go with it. Even today, Matthew Hussey is an absolute gentleman - but not JUST a gentleman.
@@jayney6176 hey thanks for the comment. It's been a few months since I watched this interview and I don't recall what AND _______ stands for. I don't have a hour now to rewatch it. Can you give me more tips?
1. Create a natural, practical opportunity to get close to one another, like, ask for help when you need it and thank for it. Politely open a discussion, like, how is your day. 2. See what is to honestly appreciate in discussion and share. 3. Give space. 4. Look at how he is investing into your connection to create a relationship and if that adds to your standards. 5. Look at how can you invest to create value while keeping your standards, and how he receives them. 6. Be bold and communicate your needs in a nice, polite way. Those values adds at any level of a relationship, not just at the beginning, to create a strong lasting bond. Relationships are an opportunity to grow as a person and share true value, not a reason to feel a void within the self.
you are confusing lust with attraction. When you consider long term relationships 99,99% of the men that initialy found a woman attractive would never stay with her because it is rare to find a woman that isn't annoying
I love MH because he’s not trying to teach women how to manipulate men. Lots of male to male influencers do this instead of teaching men how to relate to women. Mathew is authentic, smart, and kind. And very wise!
The three important things at the end are very good points (which of course he makes elsewhere.) Be kind. Realize you don't know everything (be humble). Realize you have limited time so enjoy being here now rather than regretting missed choices or opportunities.
45:00 My husband and i married 10 years ago. I was only a HS senior and him just a few years older. We have 3 children now. We have been through just about everything. We talk about so many plans for us as a couple once our kids are grown. We are constantly growing as individuals and supporting eachother on this journey. Do things get boring? Absolutely. Do we drive eachother mad sometimes. Of course. But at the end of the day he is the most important thing in my life. I cant imagine going off and celebrating ourselves independently once our kids are out. Its about growing together, creating beautiful memories. Im not claiming to be up eachothers butt everyday where you cant do anything without them, thats not healthy either. But when you are given the opportunity to "live your own life" just to have something to talk about when you get back. Thats a recipe for disaster. You put yourself into a state of temptation and disconnection. Especially after so many years of the same old. At that point someone else can walk into your life and make you feel 20 years younger and desired. Its innocent at first but that person can spiral fast into that realm. Bet you won't go home to talk about that part. lol. Best advice i can give is stop with social media. Gives you the illusion that there is always something more out there., and so many more reasons we can all see how social media affects a relationship.
How refreshing that two handsome men with nice voices are discussing women in a respectful manner. No narcissistic jerks here. Videos with males or females who just criticize the other gender while acting so superior are so lame. I actually learned a few good tips here today.
Don't forget Matt use to train guys and I thank him for helping me find my wife. I use to watch his videos everyday and practice his teachings for 3 years. One of the best coaches for dating!
Are you still happily married? Just wondering how his advice works out and I do hope you are with kids because nothing drains your banking account like kids jk I love my kid worth more than money..... but are you married still?
I got the "how to talk to men" ebook and I kid you not, in less than a month I was dating the man I am living with right now. I totally believe you, Matt's advice really works.
you have to get close , have comfort , have too much comfort , get bored , then get more distant , then miss eachother , raise the desire level , get closer , and the cycle goes on like this.
OMG Matt is so wise beyond his years! I can't believe he is only 27! That unique pairings is the most brilliant idea I've ever heard! Every time I hear him talk I am completely blown away by the wisdom that comes out of his mouth! Every effing time!!!!
I think relationships boil down to good chemistry. some people have a spark to them that is magnetic. I think that spark comes from someone that is genuinely happy on their own. It’s something that can’t be taken from them. I think relationships work if two people who are genuinely okay on their own come together and having the other person in their life just adds more to their own happiness. To keep chemistry going 10, 20, 30 or 40 years down the road I think a couple should never stop dating. Go to the movies, plan a romantic date weekly, write to each other etc...
So refreshing and attractive to hear an authentic man speak about his flaws. And so awesome to hear about that “unique pairing”! That is so true. And for me that feeling of entitlement is my default/flaw.
I'm a women's dating coach and I LOVE Mathew's message! My audience are single, soul-searching women over 40. I encourage my younger audience to listen in. :) SO GOOD.
It's weird because I'm married and we spend a lot of time together. We would never intentionally take a trip without each other, and I know for a fact that we still find mystery and desire. Life on a day to day brings that for us.....I'm not sure this is the best advice for outliers but would tell the average or general person to create space for sure. I believe it takes a certain level of emotional intelligence to be able to see the mystery or the new in the day to day.
I watched this on the treadmill at the gym today & I felt so enlightened. Lewis, you do an awesome job asking the questions the viewers are wondering, not just pulling from the basic interview question bank. It really makes for an intriguing video; terrific work!! For Matthew only being 27 in the video... That's amazing. I'm 26 & I still find it hard to find guys in my age range who "get it" or are ready to be serious. He had a very unique perspective & outlook. Im definitely going to watch more of his videos! Thanks for a great interview Lewis!!!
He doesn’t understand anything. He only repeats the contend of books he read. His long record of failed relationships is the prove. He is only 27yo. You are all a naive gullible sheep.
Martin Sophroniisccus just because he is a relationship guru doesn’t mean he has to find the love of his life first try to prove he knows what he is talking about. He could go about things manipulative and still get the desired affect but he is trying to help both sides understand eachother more which I myself can appreciate.
@@martinsophroniisccus9006 You are right. Moreover, his answers are what people want to hear not what actually works/doesn't work in a real life situation. He is well aware of what he is doing because he makes a living and a lot of money with his videos, channels, etc. It's all about being popular and likeable.
I was already 14 minutes into this infomercial that was boring me to tears and then had to to close it out and start over on two different devices to figure out why the title did not match the video. So then I read comments for 15 minutes to see if anyone else is looking for the video that pertains to this title. And I guess you're the only one that realized there would be hundreds of other comments removed because they were asking for the content relating to the title. Thank you for enabling us to get past this very long infomercial.
I just turned 30 and left a seven year relationship, and although I loved him with all my heart, I am so glad we never married. I have a different view about marriage and my parents are still married.
This is the second time l've listened to this interview. I'm a big fan of Matthew and always wonder how a young man can have so much wisdom! But also, he is genuine and has style. Thank you Matthew Hussey and thank you Lewis for interviewing him 😉🙏💖
#MatthewHussey is so good at articulating the intimacy issues of our generation. Since I've started reading his books and listening to his advise its opened my mind and my heart. I can see thru his suggestions the mistakes I have made thru the years in past relationships. He's helping me get thru my divorce by communicating and reaching out, his consciousness and passion is gonna bring my love life to the next level. Thank you God! (AND Matthew)
It is possible to appreciate Matthews great advice on relationships and also believe in the mystery of life. One doesn’t have to exclude the other. Just because we might believe in The Law of Attraction doesn’t mean we are not capable of having a down to earth approach to life and our surroundings.
i'm fairly new to watching video podcasts but i am able to spend at least 3 hours a day discovering and developing my varied interests. Lewis, i discovered you early on, you've been in my top 5 favorites, but now I'm CERTAIN you have stolen the #1 spot in my heart for podcasts. You are the best in the business, in my opinion. Thank you !! You have brought me so much joy AND knowledge during the past few months. I am committed to not only keep current on your podcasts, but i'm a little obsessed with eventually watching THEM ALL (how ever many that is). Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
OMG!! This is one of the most enlightening pieces of relationship advice I've ever heard!!! Thank you Guys.. Mathew explains things in such a simple way... I love it!!!
As a guy you know he is attractive to the opposite sex and intelligent and you probably should be jealous but he is so down to earth can’t help but like him. I also like his approach to relationships I have only just gotten into relationship advice on UA-cam and the other relationship advisers for men I am really disheartened by what they are preaching. With this guy he says you can be a good person but you can understand how the opposite sex thinks in regard to attraction and gives you practical tips on how to improve yourself to be more attractive.
Oh Lewis, you are SO beautiful. The way you compliment Matthew at the end and also articulate what you've chosen to learn from him during the conversation. It is humble. It is self aware. So gorgeous. Xx
I am blown away at how many of the answers to "What is true Greatness" last question - boils down to humility and Service to humankind. I LOVE your channel! Thank you for your Authenticity!
I really enjoyed this interview. It was nice learning what makes women more attractive to men and how men think about a connective working relationship. Women like men who communicate with them and men like women that are less insecure about themselves. They like to feel comfortable and at home with the woman they are attracted to. Fantastic interview guys!!!
I told my son by being the nice guy you may be considered to be just their friend or their big brother but when you get to be older they will all come after you. When girls come to their senses in the end they want the nice guy.
@james cooper you have a very warped sense of reality. I married a tall dark and handsome man who is also the nice guy and treats me very well. I married after my 30’s and as you can see by my profile, no sagging here buddy... all natural I might add. I’m guessing by your comments you are a narcissist or maybe a sociopath... go target someone else. 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽 Your cruel and insensitive behavior is why you are single. Nice guys laugh at guys like you...as they walk by with their hot wives.
@@margaretchristian7215 don’t listen to that noise...he subscribes to a Strong Successful Male Channel and a Forever Bachelor channel. He’s clueless to what real women want. I was chased my whole life by guys like him. They don’t win. Ever. 😅
I was in the states as a child and I am from the UK. I found the statement from people "Have a nice day!" Quite contrived and odd. It is totally different in the UK but now I am older, I find myself saying to people "Enjoy your day!". A little more sincere but I find people respond more positively to it.
Lewis is so real! How he simplifies things and gives expression to my thoughts through his questions to his guests.... there aren't no other occupying this space but you. God bless you for doing this.
This interview touches on so many valuable elements! Lewis, you are a great interviewer too! You chime in at the right time with clarifying questions and thoughts. This reminds me of one of my favourite quotes about love. It is from the book The Prophet by Khalil Gibran. "Give your hearts, but not into eachother's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and cypress grow not in each other's shadow." This quote speaks to the interview in keeping that spark of desire by maintaining space, creating that mystery. You two are a great team up!
I did that, I came up to a guy who was quit introverted and afraid to approach me first when his body language was screaming that he wanted me, 4 years and a marriage later, I was heartbroken and seperated! why? because it was then me who did the first everything for the rst of our term together. including convincing him to marry me, move in together, have a home together etc. every little decision of our lives together was on my shoulder and his excuse was always " but you know I am not very forward" I mean, they always say how you get them is how you lose them.
Sorry to hear that. You probably have done all you can and felt exhausted. Of course they said you can’t change people but sometimes I found people use “introvert” as an excuse for their laziness or indifference. EQ is so important for anyone. Now you can start a new chapter, only for the better, cheers 🙏
The more I listen to your stories and experiences, the more I feel connected to the experiences you have, simply because I have lived and had the same experiences, I feel like I relate and not the only crazy one here like my friends call me. I love your videos. I have learned a lot from you. Keep up the great work.
I'm a dude and I listen to Matt almost religiously...really has a way of articulating elements of this relationship game in a way that's very easy to understand and the advice tends to apply to all genders.
0326hkim 100%. I think the pickup industry is transforming so I don't think it's necessarily unethical but I understand the spirit you're asking that question with and yes he absolutely is.
Don't have any expectations just go to have fun and be civil to kind of get to know the person you're interested in and don't divulge too much remember they're strangers
Thats what I am always saying. There are no guys that are fun and at the same time mature enough and serious. Either serious and depressed or fun in a way that doesn't make you take them seriously... They always call me picky but I don't want a depressed life, neither a guy that is like a clown. There has to be balance... You are the only guy who spotted this.
Genuinely enjoyed this interview. I especially loved Matthew's '3 truths'. Wise beyond his years and highly likeable. I'll look out for more from him. Great interview, Lewis.
@ 14min - “Be yourself”- i think this IS a valid thing to be- for me, to be “myself” means to be able to speak /act in a way that accurately displays my values- this is not something that means there is no room to grow or change, but it means to be the me that i am, and not to try appear greater or lesser than what I am.
Marriage for me is when two ppl want exclusivility to each other. Through thick and thin they will be together. If not mutual i think ppl dont get married.
I'm speaking this into existence, someday we will have some great conversations! This was amazing and I really want to meet you guys! Its difficult finding people who understand psychology and relationships in the way you guys comprehend these topics. Your advice and understanding could change the world. We need to all be working to better all of our relationships with everyone around us! The potential in what you guys are bringing to the world and humans relationships is unfathomable. I love seeing you both engage together. There is a balanced chemistry in knowledge, intellect, and life experience that comes out when the both of you are collaborating. Even if I don't get to speak with you guys, you both have provided insight that has been life altering in many positive ways, and for that, thank you!
I enjoy listening to Dr Gray too. He explains the reasons men and women behave the way they do and it's dealing with biology and hormones. It's very informative.
Hi, As much as I like what he says, I heard some red flags as to the limit of his knowledge. Did you really hear everything the guest said? The reason I ask is because I notice you seem to be a very spiritual person who thinks she knows how to manifest. Well, did you hear him say “The Secret” is rubbish! Therefore, the guest is not at all “up your ally”, right? Ok, I’ll await your reply, if you care to respond?
Wow, listening to this today, 6yrs later and still so relevant. This is timeless. You asked the best questions and get the best responses because you make everyone feel relaxed. You have had some greats! Thanks. I appreciate you both. 🙏🏽❤️
'You're not owed anything with regards to finding the love of your life' is a REALLY good point. But...I have SO many friends that did NO work at all when it came to finding love. They just WERE...and fell in love.
Chilling and enthralling conversation! Matthew gets better and better each time I hear him. Thanks Lewis for shutting out pre-conceptive notions and hosting this. Great work!
My S.O. is driven to succeed. That's all he thinks about. On the phone constantly, making things happen. But he is also a man with a golden heart, loyal, steadfast, strong and patient, respectful and super handsome. I'll take all those qualities over fun or spontaneity.
damn he's so right about relying too much on one part of yourself, I would over rely on my looks for validation and confidence. slowly building up my character and other qualities I have
Men would probably rather have a wife who wasn't as good looking that put up with a lot of their b.s. than a beautiful woman who didn't put up with their b.s. and disrespect.
As always, I’m pleasantly surprised at how great your guests are on the show! Your easy interview style is a perfect play to the “experts” you have on. I love being introduced to new gurus of thought.
He does have some great points for women. Ones that I definitely used while I was in the dating season of life. I'm almost 9 years married to the love of my life now :) I do think it is interesting that all the "relationship experts" have never been married and are always single. This definitely doesn't take away from his knowledge and ability to communicate these useful tips to women. I mean, I teach the bible but have never been to seminary. ha! I'd be a bit of a hypocrite to say that you have to have a certain set of credentials to be good at something. I just find this particular fact about relationship experts interesting.
I've been watching Matthew's videos for about 4 months. But this is the most powerful I've ever seen. And the questions were so different from all the others you might hear in an interview. Amazing.
I am blessed to know you and those who you interview for it gives me hope that there are those who think out of the box with a difference....not to be perfect but sincere and respectful..
I honestly have never heard of this man, and started listening as a joke. So glad to have discovered him... this will be useful for my daughters one day. Thanks for sharing this Mr. Howes. -A new subscriber.
Matt just described the guy I have been looking for forever someone who is nice but with a bit of an edge. I have only found guys who were too nice or too cocky.
BubbleGum the title is completely not what they're talking about they're talking about opportunities that they never took advantage of and all the rich people that they knew in Hollywood. Don't have time for garbage like that.
@@serenityoasissparetreat9357 I agree… title completely misleading and basically summed up as be a badass version of your best self. But I watched til the end. Respect. Lol
The handkerchief analogy was brilliant! And so true. Men will walk through the door, but we women have to first show them that the door is open for them to feel confident and safe doing so.
Excellent advice! I have been coming into realization about the' AND' or pairing. This video brought it together and made me see myself much clearer and the people that I tend to attract. It also made see that it's okay to make the first move towards a man. I always fought with that. Thank you!!
Talk about the "and" - my opinion of Matthew just skyrocketed when he mentioned Esther Perel - she has such a different view on relationships, the fact that he even knows about her, let alone has a lot of respect for her and has clearly learned from her work... yeah that's sexy. It shows a lot of humility too, which is incredibly attractive, and hard to find in a guy. Fantastic examples - I hope there are many people out there taking note! Myself included.
Matthew Hussay, just like Lewis was telling, I've been repelled by many advices out there about relationship and what men n women want in a relationship tips. This man had some sense in his advice and they r not tricks or crooked ways, but he says what he actually thinks will help people.
I thoroughly enjoyed this. I know you hear this all the time but I truely think you are great. I love your honesty, intelligence and your vulnerability. You don't come across as being vulnerable in an obvious way but it's there, no matter how small but I find all those things incredibly attractive and I don't just mean in a sexual way but just as a human. Oh and I love the Derek reference! Kindness is key ♥️♥️♥️
FYI, Hussey starts in on the subject at 17:09.
Trevor Engman thank you!!!
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Bless you!!
Words to live by, “I only grow apart from those who do not grow.” Great talk! 😊
Nice pic
I actually ended a relationship because he was comfortable staying where he was at and I needed to grow and I had hoped we would grow together.
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Indeed! No grow, is not very appealing. People, who do not want to learn and grow and are not curious about much are not the ones, i stay attracted too.
Intelligence
Curiosity
Friendlyness
Trustworthyness
Having your back
Care
Empathy
Good strong character
Healthy loyalty
Deep bonding
This are a few important things to stay in love...
Takes too long to get to the meat of subjects bye
"It's not enough to have confidence in life-- you have to have COMPETENCE." I started clapping for that. Spot ON!
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Yes yes!! Me too!!
Give each other space to create desire.....excellent advice...and it's very effective. Married over 50 years and we went on separate one month trips with family or friends. When we got back home, we were like newlyweds with the added benefit of nobody else around to disturb spontaneous passion events. Highly recommend your advice. 💕
Appreciate you! 🙏
It is what it is. Sometimes we take family vacations, sometimes we don't. I was blessed to have a spouse who both our families were close and we came from family oriented situations. And the passion never left either. So all situations are different and people are different. And cultures are different too.
@@maryjohnson1890 Yes that's what I'm saying. Bordem is a lack of resources, and we don't have that. We are a couple that sees through new lenses naturally, although I know that time apart would naturally make us miss each other. I believe in this advice for 70% of people but then you have that 30% that are always working on seeing through new lenses every single day. My spouse says I'm naturally mysterious anyway
@@LuptonianPrince well done I’m with 27+ meet up groups that lead into Salsa Classes,Burlesque Classes, also swimming 3/4 times weekly different venues,Events,Late nights at every Museum & Art Gallery & 30+ people,Strangers bring different energies,safely,Such diversity’s,all races,creeds+ Warner Breaks, 80% none communication couples? Has brought 2!Ex’s curios,circling Thanks so much future good health HERES to 2022 ✅
@@sue-annthandy5387 This is so amazing. Thank you!
Love his three truths: (1) be kind, (2) always continue learning even when you think you have learned enough, and (3) enjoy the path you're already on and stop thinking about all the other paths you could have taken. And...His smile and charisma are so sexy like Mr. Mcdreamy!
I come here for the summary- thanks!!!
I have done 1,2,3, and it left me with nothing
I am not talking about material things
Sorry!
So glad you told me, I can't be bothered to watch.
Thank you
This video was the moment I realised that it is pretty much addiction that keeps me with my partner. FFS.
I have been married 50 years. My husband and I have the same values. Our Personalities are completely opposite. I am extroverted, he is introverted. He loves music I love books. He is into details when he is interested in something. I am into details about everything. Our priorities have been our children. We give each other space. We both respect money. We have been able to weather the storms, and support each other. Responsibility to Family was our priority.
You have learned the value..acceptance non judgemental, supportive, encouraging, supportive and open an honest with each other...I am woohoo jealous. Best love to you both...blessings.
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God Bless your mom!!!! For brining you up as a real gentleman!!!!!!!
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Yes and as he said he got mulled by women for being like that.
@@Goodfellas900 Remember... a gentleman AND _______. (If you listened to the whole thing!). His problem was not being a gentleman. It was being a gentleman without the “and-something-else” to go with it. Even today, Matthew Hussey is an absolute gentleman - but not JUST a gentleman.
@@jayney6176 hey thanks for the comment. It's been a few months since I watched this interview and I don't recall what AND _______ stands for. I don't have a hour now to rewatch it. Can you give me more tips?
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1. Create a natural, practical opportunity to get close to one another, like, ask for help when you need it and thank for it. Politely open a discussion, like, how is your day.
2. See what is to honestly appreciate in discussion and share.
3. Give space.
4. Look at how he is investing into your connection to create a relationship and if that adds to your standards.
5. Look at how can you invest to create value while keeping your standards, and how he receives them.
6. Be bold and communicate your needs in a nice, polite way.
Those values adds at any level of a relationship, not just at the beginning, to create a strong lasting bond.
Relationships are an opportunity to grow as a person and share true value, not a reason to feel a void within the self.
Wow! Guys see 30 women a day that they are attracted to?!
I am lucky if I see one man that I am attracted to.
😂😂😂 either that or u have super high standards..
Acharich Speaks or maybe she just has standards 😭
Nice pic💯
you are confusing lust with attraction. When you consider long term relationships 99,99% of the men that initialy found a woman attractive would never stay with her because it is rare to find a woman that isn't annoying
@@moonkoral1009 right lol
Very impressive how he answered each question with a clear high level of emotional intelligence. 👏🏼👏🏼
Hey,nice pic
Natalia Antonio, you look stunning 🌺🌺🌷🌷🥀🌹🌹🥀🥀
Yes, agreed!
I love MH because he’s not trying to teach women how to manipulate men. Lots of male to male influencers do this instead of teaching men how to relate to women. Mathew is authentic, smart, and kind. And very wise!
Yes!!!😃👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
He just described my husband of 37 years and I can’t agree any more. You need the whole package... the guy that’s fun, smart, driven, and kind.
The three important things at the end are very good points (which of course he makes elsewhere.) Be kind. Realize you don't know everything (be humble). Realize you have limited time so enjoy being here now rather than regretting missed choices or opportunities.
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My husband and i married 10 years ago. I was only a HS senior and him just a few years older. We have 3 children now. We have been through just about everything. We talk about so many plans for us as a couple once our kids are grown. We are constantly growing as individuals and supporting eachother on this journey. Do things get boring? Absolutely. Do we drive eachother mad sometimes. Of course. But at the end of the day he is the most important thing in my life. I cant imagine going off and celebrating ourselves independently once our kids are out. Its about growing together, creating beautiful memories. Im not claiming to be up eachothers butt everyday where you cant do anything without them, thats not healthy either. But when you are given the opportunity to "live your own life" just to have something to talk about when you get back. Thats a recipe for disaster. You put yourself into a state of temptation and disconnection. Especially after so many years of the same old. At that point someone else can walk into your life and make you feel 20 years younger and desired. Its innocent at first but that person can spiral fast into that realm. Bet you won't go home to talk about that part. lol. Best advice i can give is stop with social media. Gives you the illusion that there is always something more out there., and so many more reasons we can all see how social media affects a relationship.
Wow! Sounds insecure and co-dependent........
How refreshing that two handsome men with nice voices are discussing women in a respectful manner. No narcissistic jerks here. Videos with males or females who just criticize the other gender while acting so superior are so lame. I actually learned a few good tips here today.
Humble and confident is the most attractive combination ever.
Don't forget Matt use to train guys and I thank him for helping me find my wife. I use to watch his videos everyday and practice his teachings for 3 years. One of the best coaches for dating!
Brent Johnson wow I am happy for you. I am too late to listen to him but now I am, I hope I can create my luck like you did. Thanks 😊
Matt, you're awesome.. Thank you .your advice is gold guys.. God bless You!!
Wowzers..!
Are you still happily married? Just wondering how his advice works out and I do hope you are with kids because nothing drains your banking account like kids jk I love my kid worth more than money..... but are you married still?
I got the "how to talk to men" ebook and I kid you not, in less than a month I was dating the man I am living with right now. I totally believe you, Matt's advice really works.
I notice how humble and real Matthew is. I think that’s the reason for how successful he has been...his kindness resonates.
you have to get close , have comfort , have too much comfort , get bored , then get more distant , then miss eachother , raise the desire level , get closer , and the cycle goes on like this.
It does seem to be how relationships go. The relationship is either up or down or boring.
Angie, You just took the words out if my mouth. Kindness and Intelligence. I dont need much else.
It’s not enough to have confidence you have to have competence.
OMG Matt is so wise beyond his years! I can't believe he is only 27! That unique pairings is the most brilliant idea I've ever heard! Every time I hear him talk I am completely blown away by the wisdom that comes out of his mouth! Every effing time!!!!
I think relationships boil down to good chemistry. some people have a spark to them that is magnetic. I think that spark comes from someone that is genuinely happy on their own. It’s something that can’t be taken from them. I think relationships work if two people who are genuinely okay on their own come together and having the other person in their life just adds more to their own happiness. To keep chemistry going 10, 20, 30 or 40 years down the road I think a couple should never stop dating. Go to the movies, plan a romantic date weekly, write to each other etc...
Yes! Yes! Yes! Happy on their own first...such great advice.
So refreshing and attractive to hear an authentic man speak about his flaws. And so awesome to hear about that “unique pairing”! That is so true.
And for me that feeling of entitlement is my default/flaw.
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KINDNESS is magic. Minute 57. No matter who’s watching, be kind. ❤❤❤❤❤
I'm a women's dating coach and I LOVE Mathew's message! My audience are single, soul-searching women over 40. I encourage my younger audience to listen in. :) SO GOOD.
The golden nugget starts around the 30:00 mark!! Unique pairing.. ✊
''You need to have competence not only confidence,,-love you @Matthew Hussey for teaching me this powerful simple sentence!!
Enjoy the path we have taken. Do not waste any life obsessing avout the paths not taken. Thank you Matthew
Oh yes. A great path, but sometimes a hard one to find.
It's weird because I'm married and we spend a lot of time together. We would never intentionally take a trip without each other, and I know for a fact that we still find mystery and desire. Life on a day to day brings that for us.....I'm not sure this is the best advice for outliers but would tell the average or general person to create space for sure. I believe it takes a certain level of emotional intelligence to be able to see the mystery or the new in the day to day.
True...I find for me giving space attracts them to you
Hey Adrian God bless you guys you're in your marriage that's fantastic I'm looking for the same kind of relationship
I’m attracted to men who are intelligent. They have to have a brain and be kind.
They say that you need to connect on a spiritual level if you want it to last. Bodies change, but minds stay the same!
Make sure you’re getting the hits before the head show up on your show
@@vajmong what ?
@@marriedwithclashingopinion9089 he says his job is to do something about real life. Why isn’t he explaining.
Same here!!!
I watched this on the treadmill at the gym today & I felt so enlightened. Lewis, you do an awesome job asking the questions the viewers are wondering, not just pulling from the basic interview question bank. It really makes for an intriguing video; terrific work!!
For Matthew only being 27 in the video... That's amazing. I'm 26 & I still find it hard to find guys in my age range who "get it" or are ready to be serious. He had a very unique perspective & outlook. Im definitely going to watch more of his videos! Thanks for a great interview Lewis!!!
Matthew is brilliant! He understands human psychology so well!
He doesn’t understand anything. He only repeats the contend of books he read.
His long record of failed relationships is the prove. He is only 27yo. You are all a naive gullible sheep.
Martin Sophroniisccus just because he is a relationship guru doesn’t mean he has to find the love of his life first try to prove he knows what he is talking about. He could go about things manipulative and still get the desired affect but he is trying to help both sides understand eachother more which I myself can appreciate.
Renee Horaney,you are absolutely charming 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌺🌷🌷🥀🌹🌹🥀🌹
@@martinsophroniisccus9006 You are right. Moreover, his answers are what people want to hear not what actually works/doesn't work in a real life situation. He is well aware of what he is doing because he makes a living and a lot of money with his videos, channels, etc. It's all about being popular and likeable.
Agree with Renee
Mathew Hussey, I respect your humility, knowledge and integrity. Keep on growing!
17:09 Dating, Attraction, and Creating Desire
31:46 Reason for the break up you were boring
peacefull eagle thanks!
Who the heck wants to be tied down he’s young good looking and single what’s better then that loves for the birds
I was already 14 minutes into this infomercial that was boring me to tears and then had to to close it out and start over on two different devices to figure out why the title did not match the video. So then I read comments for 15 minutes to see if anyone else is looking for the video that pertains to this title. And I guess you're the only one that realized there would be hundreds of other comments removed because they were asking for the content relating to the title. Thank you for enabling us to get past this very long infomercial.
Not concerned about the times of different parts the whole interview was amazing and could easily watch again an again.. but thank you all the same..
I’m older… and I’m not boring …and nit looking 😂. Let’s enjoy life 😘
Mattthew's comments about not expecting men to always make the move is most enlightening! Thank you :)
The camera work for this interview is insane!! This was also a great interview in terms of content, but I'm just blown away by how great it looks.
I just turned 30 and left a seven year relationship, and although I loved him with all my heart, I am so glad we never married. I have a different view about marriage and my parents are still married.
good luck finding a guy now
Great thing about Matthew Hussey is that during his advice he gives great tips for us men too.
the only advice men need is to stop being a-holes.
hahahahah Sienna, that is oooo freakin' trueeee!!!
He literaly said in this video, only 10% of guys are assholes
The only advice women need to learn is to stop being gold diggers.
This is the second time l've listened to this interview. I'm a big fan of Matthew and always wonder how a young man can have so much wisdom! But also, he is genuine and has style. Thank you Matthew Hussey and thank you Lewis for interviewing him 😉🙏💖
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening!
Min 33: “You were boring.” Thank you for telling your story. We all have had breakups. We understand. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Just be authentic, it's as simple as that.
100%
Be unique and irreplaceable
#MatthewHussey is so good at articulating the intimacy issues of our generation. Since I've started reading his books and listening to his advise its opened my mind and my heart. I can see thru his suggestions the mistakes I have made thru the years in past relationships. He's helping me get thru my divorce by communicating and reaching out, his consciousness and passion is gonna bring my love life to the next level. Thank you God! (AND Matthew)
I said “ be kind !” Before you did !!! That’s it. Love yourself first is next . Feel gratitude every day is third .
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It is possible to appreciate Matthews great advice on relationships and also believe in the mystery of life. One doesn’t have to exclude the other. Just because we might believe in The Law of Attraction doesn’t mean we are not capable of having a down to earth approach to life and our surroundings.
i'm fairly new to watching video podcasts but i am able to spend at least 3 hours a day discovering and developing my varied interests. Lewis, i discovered you early on, you've been in my top 5 favorites, but now I'm CERTAIN you have stolen the #1 spot in my heart for podcasts. You are the best in the business, in my opinion. Thank you !! You have brought me so much joy AND knowledge during the past few months. I am committed to not only keep current on your podcasts, but i'm a little obsessed with eventually watching THEM ALL (how ever many that is). Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
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OMG!! This is one of the most enlightening pieces of relationship advice I've ever heard!!! Thank you Guys.. Mathew explains things in such a simple way... I love it!!!
+Diana Macias awesome!
Ommmmgggg I agree so fn much awesome
As a guy you know he is attractive to the opposite sex and intelligent and you probably should be jealous but he is so down to earth can’t help but like him. I also like his approach to relationships I have only just gotten into relationship advice on UA-cam and the other relationship advisers for men I am really disheartened by what they are preaching. With this guy he says you can be a good person but you can understand how the opposite sex thinks in regard to attraction and gives you practical tips on how to improve yourself to be more attractive.
Nice picc💯
Matthew , I just love how level-headed you are and how practical your content is! Keep up the good work!
"What's the biggest mistake? Is it being yourself?" This cracks me up lol
Good job you guys! Keep creating more of this!
Oh Lewis, you are SO beautiful. The way you compliment Matthew at the end and also articulate what you've chosen to learn from him during the conversation. It is humble. It is self aware. So gorgeous. Xx
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
I am blown away at how many of the answers to "What is true Greatness" last question - boils down to humility and Service to humankind. I LOVE your channel! Thank you for your Authenticity!
I really enjoyed this interview. It was nice learning what makes women more attractive to men and how men think about a connective working relationship. Women like men who communicate with them and men like women that are less insecure about themselves. They like to feel comfortable and at home with the woman they are attracted to. Fantastic interview guys!!!
He is really right.lois
I love love love the "dropping the handkerchief" example.
I told my son by being the nice guy you may be considered to be just their friend or their big brother but when you get to be older they will all come after you. When girls come to their senses in the end they want the nice guy.
Truth
@james cooper My son is grown today and married, just had his first child, good job and not on drugs . I think he did just fine ,
@james cooper I really don’t understand your point
@james cooper you have a very warped sense of reality. I married a tall dark and handsome man who is also the nice guy and treats me very well. I married after my 30’s and as you can see by my profile, no sagging here buddy... all natural I might add. I’m guessing by your comments you are a narcissist or maybe a sociopath... go target someone else. 👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽 Your cruel and insensitive behavior is why you are single. Nice guys laugh at guys like you...as they walk by with their hot wives.
@@margaretchristian7215 don’t listen to that noise...he subscribes to a Strong Successful Male Channel and a Forever Bachelor channel. He’s clueless to what real women want. I was chased my whole life by guys like him. They don’t win. Ever. 😅
It''s so cute to see the beginning of your friendship and then watch it grow! You guys have been changing lives for years now!
I was in the states as a child and I am from the UK. I found the statement from people "Have a nice day!" Quite contrived and odd. It is totally different in the UK but now I am older, I find myself saying to people "Enjoy your day!". A little more sincere but I find people respond more positively to it.
even the interviewer looks hypnotized :D so much charisma this guy has! :)
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yeah he had the hots for him .
True. I saw that.
Lewis is so real! How he simplifies things and gives expression to my thoughts through his questions to his guests.... there aren't no other occupying this space but you. God bless you for doing this.
This interview touches on so many valuable elements! Lewis, you are a great interviewer too! You chime in at the right time with clarifying questions and thoughts. This reminds me of one of my favourite quotes about love. It is from the book The Prophet by Khalil Gibran. "Give your hearts, but not into eachother's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and cypress grow not in each other's shadow." This quote speaks to the interview in keeping that spark of desire by maintaining space, creating that mystery. You two are a great team up!
Wow, love that quote
I did that, I came up to a guy who was quit introverted and afraid to approach me first when his body language was screaming that he wanted me, 4 years and a marriage later, I was heartbroken and seperated! why? because it was then me who did the first everything for the rst of our term together. including convincing him to marry me, move in together, have a home together etc. every little decision of our lives together was on my shoulder and his excuse was always " but you know I am not very forward"
I mean, they always say how you get them is how you lose them.
Sorry to hear that. You probably have done all you can and felt exhausted. Of course they said you can’t change people but sometimes I found people use “introvert” as an excuse for their laziness or indifference. EQ is so important for anyone. Now you can start a new chapter, only for the better, cheers 🙏
The more I listen to your stories and experiences, the more I feel connected to the experiences you have, simply because I have lived and had the same experiences, I feel like I relate and not the only crazy one here like my friends call me.
I love your videos. I have learned a lot from you. Keep up the great work.
I'm getting addicted to listening to these two guys! They are simply awesome! Thank you for sharing your talent and awesomeness!
I'm a dude and I listen to Matt almost religiously...really has a way of articulating elements of this relationship game in a way that's very easy to understand and the advice tends to apply to all genders.
collins mugodo I'm new to him but is this guy very ethical ? I don't want another pickup artist.
Yes, he is
0326hkim 100%. I think the pickup industry is transforming so I don't think it's necessarily unethical but I understand the spirit you're asking that question with and yes he absolutely is.
Just out of curiosity, what does 0326hkim mean when he/she asked whether he was ethical or not?
How is it unethical to be a pickup artists?
Don't have any expectations just go to have fun and be civil to kind of get to know the person you're interested in and don't divulge too much remember they're strangers
Matthew is just so unique! Wise beyond his years, perceptive, genuine and humble!
Thats what I am always saying. There are no guys that are fun and at the same time mature enough and serious. Either serious and depressed or fun in a way that doesn't make you take them seriously... They always call me picky but I don't want a depressed life, neither a guy that is like a clown. There has to be balance... You are the only guy who spotted this.
He responded immediately when I said I could really use your help with something!
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Lewis, it's unbelievable how you keep picking the right person to interview. This one was great, enjoyed every bit of it.
Genuinely enjoyed this interview. I especially loved Matthew's '3 truths'.
Wise beyond his years and highly likeable. I'll look out for more from him.
Great interview, Lewis.
@ 14min - “Be yourself”- i think this IS a valid thing to be- for me, to be “myself” means to be able to speak /act in a way that accurately displays my values- this is not something that means there is no room to grow or change, but it means to be the me that i am, and not to try appear greater or lesser than what I am.
I really like Matthew's communication style in relationships. It is so powerful yet vulnerable!
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Marriage for me is when two ppl want exclusivility to each other. Through thick and thin they will be together. If not mutual i think ppl dont get married.
@@ipage1 exactly 💯 we are always changing u are not the same person u were 5 , 4 ,3 ,2 ,1 years ago.
I'm speaking this into existence, someday we will have some great conversations! This was amazing and I really want to meet you guys! Its difficult finding people who understand psychology and relationships in the way you guys comprehend these topics. Your advice and understanding could change the world. We need to all be working to better all of our relationships with everyone around us! The potential in what you guys are bringing to the world and humans relationships is unfathomable. I love seeing you both engage together. There is a balanced chemistry in knowledge, intellect, and life experience that comes out when the both of you are collaborating. Even if I don't get to speak with you guys, you both have provided insight that has been life altering in many positive ways, and for that, thank you!
I enjoy listening to Dr Gray too. He explains the reasons men and women behave the way they do and it's dealing with biology and hormones. It's very informative.
Hi, As much as I like what he says, I heard some red flags as to the limit of his knowledge. Did you really hear everything the guest said? The reason I ask is because I notice you seem to be a very spiritual person who thinks she knows how to manifest. Well, did you hear him say “The Secret” is rubbish! Therefore, the guest is not at all “up your ally”, right? Ok, I’ll await your reply, if you care to respond?
Wow, Matthew, I've never been so touched by your words than on this video, and I have seen a quite a few. Your honesty is great.
You’re a great guy, Matthew. You have it all, intelligence, a sense of humour, charisma, humility, I could go on. Always believe in yourself.
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Your mom did such an excellent job, Matthew... thank you so much Mrs Hussey
🙄🙄🙈🙈 can anyone say cheese ?
Wow, listening to this today, 6yrs later and still so relevant. This is timeless. You asked the best questions and get the best responses because you make everyone feel relaxed. You have had some greats! Thanks. I appreciate you both. 🙏🏽❤️
'You're not owed anything with regards to finding the love of your life' is a REALLY good point. But...I have SO many friends that did NO work at all when it came to finding love. They just WERE...and fell in love.
Chilling and enthralling conversation! Matthew gets better and better each time I hear him. Thanks Lewis for shutting out pre-conceptive notions and hosting this. Great work!
My S.O. is driven to succeed. That's all he thinks about. On the phone constantly, making things happen. But he is also a man with a golden heart, loyal, steadfast, strong and patient, respectful and super handsome. I'll take all those qualities over fun or spontaneity.
Delightful and insightful interview by the two open, sensitive and responsible gentlemen. Thank you.
damn he's so right about relying too much on one part of yourself, I would over rely on my looks for validation and confidence. slowly building up my character and other qualities I have
Men would probably rather have a wife who wasn't as good looking that put up with a lot of their b.s. than a beautiful woman who didn't put up with their b.s. and disrespect.
@@jamilgotcher5456 Indeed
As always, I’m pleasantly surprised at how great your guests are on the show! Your easy interview style is a perfect play to the “experts” you have on. I love being introduced to new gurus of thought.
He does have some great points for women. Ones that I definitely used while I was in the dating season of life. I'm almost 9 years married to the love of my life now :) I do think it is interesting that all the "relationship experts" have never been married and are always single. This definitely doesn't take away from his knowledge and ability to communicate these useful tips to women. I mean, I teach the bible but have never been to seminary. ha! I'd be a bit of a hypocrite to say that you have to have a certain set of credentials to be good at something. I just find this particular fact about relationship experts interesting.
And they always blame the women for everything.
Lorie Brumfield he’s only 27 if he was in his late 30’s or early 40’s then that’s a different story
I feel like it’s because the relationship gurus know what they’re looking for and don’t settle until they get it
Its more because talk is cheap.....
I've been watching Matthew's videos for about 4 months. But this is the most powerful I've ever seen. And the questions were so different from all the others you might hear in an interview. Amazing.
I am blessed to know you and those who you interview for it gives me hope that there are those who think out of the box with a difference....not to be perfect but sincere and respectful..
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Let's bring back that handkerchief drop!😊
Ha ha yep!
Hi Lewis, Thanks for interviewing Matthew! Been following him for 2 years.. he is amazing!
the microphones are so beautiful
As Drm 😐
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Yeez, big and pretty mics
Your comment is like a rainbow in the sky :)
yeah but i’m so bothered by the way the interviewer keeps talking over the guest ughh lol
I honestly have never heard of this man, and started listening as a joke. So glad to have discovered him... this will be useful for my daughters one day. Thanks for sharing this Mr. Howes. -A new subscriber.
Kindness is Magic because it's compassionate and it has a way of spreading just like the negative results of a lie
Matt just described the guy I have been looking for forever someone who is nice but with a bit of an edge. I have only found guys who were too nice or too cocky.
havent met me :P
HOW CAN U DISLIKE THIS VIDEO??? GREAT CONVERSATION, GREAT ANSWERS!
BubbleGum the title is completely not what they're talking about they're talking about opportunities that they never took advantage of and all the rich people that they knew in Hollywood. Don't have time for garbage like that.
@@serenityoasissparetreat9357 I agree… title completely misleading and basically summed up as be a badass version of your best self. But I watched til the end. Respect. Lol
I love matthew hussey, he is amazing his advice is priceless.
Yes, yes, definitely have him on again!!
The handkerchief analogy was brilliant! And so true. Men will walk through the door, but we women have to first show them that the door is open for them to feel confident and safe doing so.
Excellent advice! I have been coming into realization about the' AND' or pairing. This video brought it together and made me see myself much clearer and the people that I tend to attract. It also made see that it's okay to make the first move towards a man. I always fought with that. Thank you!!
Talk about the "and" - my opinion of Matthew just skyrocketed when he mentioned Esther Perel - she has such a different view on relationships, the fact that he even knows about her, let alone has a lot of respect for her and has clearly learned from her work... yeah that's sexy. It shows a lot of humility too, which is incredibly attractive, and hard to find in a guy. Fantastic examples - I hope there are many people out there taking note! Myself included.
The most underrated channel on youtube
Matthew Hussay, just like Lewis was telling, I've been repelled by many advices out there about relationship and what men n women want in a relationship tips. This man had some sense in his advice and they r not tricks or crooked ways, but he says what he actually thinks will help people.
I thoroughly enjoyed this. I know you hear this all the time but I truely think you are great. I love your honesty, intelligence and your vulnerability. You don't come across as being vulnerable in an obvious way but it's there, no matter how small but I find all those things incredibly attractive and I don't just mean in a sexual way but just as a human. Oh and I love the Derek reference! Kindness is key ♥️♥️♥️