ANSWERING TRANS QUESTIONS YOU'RE TOO AFRAID TO ASK | NOAHFINNCE (FTM TRANSGENDER)
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"iM jUSt soME guY" *intense flames and glasses inserted"
I feel like that would make a good meme template
now he just looks like dave strider
Ex, dee.
y'know,
guy things
My favorite part of the video 👍
As a closed trans guy I really hope I can reach that point that Noah said when you don't think about being trans 24/7
I hope so too bc it’s annoying as sh!t having it constantly be one of my trains of thought
It takes healing but you'll get there pal
I wish you the best of luck with that lol (:
I think we are a lot in this case. Good luck and take care mate
my life goal is to feel like 2021 Noah
I recently came out as trans to my friends and lost most of them so you videos have rly been helping me thank you
Hi, sorry to hear about losing most of your friends, that happens a lot. The good news is that some of those lost friends will find their way back, and the new found friends will be better than ever, starting with Noah!
Hey as cliche as it sounds
If they don't support you for just being you they were never really good friends in the first place
ayeee ur valid and don't take what people think about you to heart because ur valid and a person just becuase they don't understand that ur trans and valid is their fault and not urs because you are very poggers
Then they weren't good friends anyway. I'm sure you will find new friends to whom you'll be very important and who won't judge you or not support you for who you are
What shitty friends... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, just remember you are valid and precious in every way you are !
The only thing I miss from being a girl is the bathrooms. Men’s bathrooms stink so much and there are only like two stalls and it’s super awkward if you have to wait.
As a guy.....I agree they do stink LOADS. Wats more awkward than waiting....standing shoulder to shoulder with another guy....whilst having a wee.....UNCOMFORTABLE
Also if you're drunk, mens bathrooms just horrible and people will drunkly push into stalls ahead of you when you're waiting and it's just kinda gross and awkward, but women's bathrooms when drunk is just everyone chatting and holding broken door for eachother, and compliments and making friends
Agree about the bathrooms. I also kind of miss not being seen as a threat or a predator by women lol. Like sometimes I want to compliment a girl's outfit or something that comes off so much worse when you're a guy. Or being able to relate to conversations about being seen as a woman or misogyny without having to out myself.
So could a transwoman go in a woman’s bathroom?
@@ky.tristan yeah, she’s only there to pee, and she’s in more danger going to the mens bathroom, so I think it’s fine. Same with trans men in mens bathrooms. From the outside it removes confusion.
That bit about how you couldn't imagine yourself as a woman later in life was extremely validating to me as someone who came out relatively late, at 30. Turning 30 in the midst of the pandemic last year was a turning point where I was like "do I want to continue the way I am now or not" and slowly that old shell of denial began to crack until my dysphoria spiked so badly during work that I had to acknowledge it for what it was. As for dreams, I didn't have a body in dreams until after I came out and started putting things in place for my transition. Now I see myself the exact way I look, though sometimes with and without a chest because I am sadly still pretty far away from top surgery. The feeling of longing and of disappointment when I wake up and that baggage is still there sucks.
Congratulations on coming out!!! You got this, wishing you all the best for your transition!!! ❤️
That's reassuring to read about a person who figured it out later than most. I am curently 27 and I know for about 1.5 year. It's not always easy to see how young most of trans people on the Internet figured it out in comparaison, and how far they are in their transition. I'm glad that you came out and started transitionning to feel more comfortable, that's really encouraging for me. Thank you to share your story in the comments. I hope you will feel better and better as long as your journey continue. Take care of yourself ;)
that's the part that actually brought tears
@I'm uncomfortable sharing my name Yeah I've heard of one on Internet, that makes perspective ! And since we didn't talk about lgbt stuff for many years and just begin to do it, it probably will be more common in the future maybe. Thanks for your encouraging words ;)
Take the positive, your finally starting to do something about it and starting to set yourself right. Things take time, but you've got that time....GOOD LUCK TO YOU DUDE✅💙
omg when he was talking about how he couldn't imagine a future being a woman, like either he's a man or he doesn't exist... i didn't know I could relate so strongly to something
we are now friends
@@SlightlyTerrified yes i desperately need trans friends
same here dude, friends?? :D
@@augustistiredasf3646 now we're all certified trans friends
I swear youtube is laughing at me now... I've been trying to send a message 3 times now and they keep getting blocked :( Anyway 4th time's the charm, eh? Friends? Yes!!! Hello. If you wanna talk my diiiiiscooo-ord (pls don't block the word this time...) is Slightly Terrified and two five three zero (written in numbers) Pls work I want friends...
“i feel like most people watching me are probably a bit gay”
noah, you and your videos literally are how i realized i’m not straight😭😂
"I like showing people my medical records"
Noah 2021
i read that as “i like showering with my medical records”
Since I was little, I always figured I'd die at 16. It wasn't because I was depressed though (I mean I was, but that's not the point), it was because, like Noah, I couldn't imagine myself becoming a woman. I thought I'd just sieze to exist even though it's pretty illogical. Even after I realized I am trans (ftm), I still didn't fully get it, but I knew I would never become a woman. Noah really put the feeling into words in this video. I just couldn't imagine myself a woman, and now at age 16, I finally get it. I don't want to die soon, I just want to transition soon. I want to become a man. Thank you Noah for always putting my thoughts into words and really helping me find myself over the years
I thought I would "un-exist" at 10. But I also imagined growing old with a wife and no kids. ( I'm FTM)
This is the same for me, in the sense that I couldn’t imagine my future self, see or expect what I’d look like as if there was a big fog and still now I have a hard time thinking I’ll live past 18 or something because I feel like my existence isn’t lasting. I’m depressed for sure and always tell myself that I want to die but as you say, I don’t really want to die I just want to transition, have the courage to do things that will bring me closer to myself. Dreams never had any real image either of who I was, which was odd but I never questioned myself on why. I’ve been in denial with myself for years because I didn’t know what being trans meant but also didn’t see it as something achievable. I have countless memories of my younger self saying I wanted to be a boy, hanging out with boys, wearing boy clothes and going full on ballistics when I wasn’t in them, wishing, projecting and creating. All of those are connected to me being trans and even though the road is arduous I’ve got to keep pushing through to finally be able to see myself and be who I am.
Sameeeeee I was never able to see my future passed the age of 16. I'm 20 now and feeling completely lost about where I'm going in life. I realized I'm non-binary but as far as medically transitioning goes, I have no idea, cuz I just don't want to be perceived as ANY gender.
dont stress to much. i came out at 16 and am now 24. and only earlier this year did i finally fully accept the trans life and how it is. i always thort it was weird that people kept saying about how they fully accepted themself as being trans. in my mind it didnt make sense coz like. you are trans and its just how you are how can you not accept that when you are the one that came out as it. it took me fully accepting it (unconciusly) to then understand it all more. you will find your path in life it just takes time
@@Charlieto to be honest i came out as trans to my close friend and to myself sort of in a mirror but I didn’t feel anything change… like I’m still me. Idk how to explain properly, I just thought it would be life changing or that I would feel wholly different. I feel normal. That’s what I can say I just have my on and off switches where I know what I want but feel as though it’s far far away and I can’t do nothing about it… or I feel like I am cis because of doubt but know I’m trans.. it’s complicated
I’m 52… I’m a closet trans. I’ve spent my life hiding … I might die hidden… I like that you don’t hide…
You won’t die hidden. I see you, right here and now. I hope that brings you a little peace, xx
I see you.
You do what feels most comfortable and safe for you, and we'll love either way. We see you, and we love you just the way you are.
We see you, we love you, we support you. Stay safe ok?
i know im just a random person on the internet but i would love to know what your pronouns and prefered name is! if you want to tell me feel free to! :)
i’m a trans guy and i do have dreams where i’m a girl, but i think that’s mainly due to the fact that i only came out like 5 months ago and i’m pre transition so i’m rarely like seen a guy by people idk
I came out like 5 yrs ago and I have dreams where I'm a woman but not myself just some different character it's so weird.
@@wanna_rar7891 I also have the same with being a random man sometimes. Our minds just roleplaying or something lol.
Me too.
Yeah that, my dreams are also heavily influenced by the past and my school uniform were dresses so it doesn't help lmao, but I do acknowledge that it's just the brain farting out baggage that I don't need but that's just me
If it helps, I'm more than a year on T and still have dreams where I'm a girl, it sucks (especially cuz I'll wake up dysphoric/questioning my identity) but brains do weird stuff and dreams never really make sense, so I guess it's pretty normal.
I'm one of the trans ppl who were fine with their body until they weren't. sometimes when all I hear are stories about trans ppl who have felt like this all their life, I feel like I'm not trans enough. But when you talk about it, I just feel amazed about how different our experiences are, at the same time as they are extremly similar. I just feel the COMMUNITY. this is a safe space experience you only get in a few places. your channel really is just that
OMG YES. I am 15 and have been thinking I may be a guy for a while. I just have trouble feeling valid as a trans guy sometimes because there were never any signs of me being trans as a child. I enjoyed « girly things » and wearing dresses until I didn’t anymore. The first signs of me being trans date back from when I was 13/14 and it made me believe that I couldn’t be trans because of that for a long time. Now I know we all have a different experience and that’s the beautiful thing about community
@@zonlalune I only realized Im trans at 25 lol I also enjoyed girly things for much of my life! I still do tbh, I'm just not comfortable wearing skirts and dresses right now with my body looking the way it does. I fully intend on dressing more feminine when I get top surgery and grow a beard though
yea I agree I used to be girly and stuff until I wasn't and then I got dysphoria I still have it I am 14 turning 15 and just bc you were girly at some point in your life doesn't mean you can't be trans you are valid I also never felt right with being called a girl It just felt wrong I never knew why until I found out I am trans
YES! This was me too! For most of my life I haven’t hated my body, because I didn’t know what it was supposed to look like nor what I wanted it to look like. And I was very emotionless during a 5-6 year time period because of severe bullying because I was overweight, I just didn’t feel anything mentally or physically. I at least don’t remember feeling much. Then I started opening up because I got a really nice teacher who saw me for who I was and treated me like a human, and everything just began flooding out.
YES YES YES, my mother is very supportive of the queer community i mean she's bi so why wouldn't she be. However she gets a bit iffy whenever i mention to her that i am a boy, i may be biologically a girl but nope i am a boy. A common argument she uses to express her views is "Are you sure i don't understand how you can know at such a young age" (I'm 14) and she is a very masculine presenting woman at times, she is a body builder and has had many tomboy phases, she also says "When you were little you knew a girl who was fully convinced she was a boy" HSGQHEKBOIWBVQEFYVBWLI, mixed feelings about that argument, but i get were she is coming from
As a cis woman with intense cptsd related to sex and my body I really relate to not undressing completely during sex. I still wear a t shirt a lot of the time. I feel more comfortable not seeing my boobs and also not being touched. Just want people to know that trans or not trans there’s nothing weird about that, and if your sex partner is making you feel weird about it then fuck them. They don’t deserve you. In whatever way you do or don’t want to have sex, you are totally valid.
well, not fuck them in that context
Or, to be precise, do NOT fuck them 😂
Thank you, finally someone said it! Love from ftm community!
@@Ieatmoisttoast574 I’m really glad that this is relatable for you 💕💕 we’re not alone and we’re all valid just the way we are
i feel like u underestimate how well u articulate ur feelings and experiences about being trans to people who arent trans! im not trans but ive learned so much from watching u (and other trans creators ofcourse) and obviously i can never truly feel/know what its like but its all very well put when u explain them like that like. wow. Maybe I Get It! thanks king 😜
feel this x
Back in the 60's when I was a kid, I had many dreams where I was a boy, and I would wake up all freaked out wondering why but afraid to ask or tell anyone. I'm bisexual as an adult and have children. I think they have been very open-minded about sexuality and are pretty secure w theirs, so I did something right. The concept of transitioning wasn't even a thing back then, but if it was as widely accepted as today, I often wonder if I would have transitioned as a young person...
@@carynmartin6053 Trans people were around in the 60s, you just weren't exposed to them, & exposure to people different from yourself is a positive thing
The question here is, would you transition today? No? Then you aren't trans. So the answer to your question would be no.
I think a lot of people have a misunderstanding of what medically transitioning actually entails, and of what being trans actually means (which isn't an insult or anything, everyone doesn't know until they learn) - like, the fact that you had dreams as a boy doesn't equate to being trans, ya know? There's a lot of fear that kids are "being influenced" to be trans, but it doesn't work like that - it's the same thing as saying that "seeing a gay couple on tv will turn my kids gay!", like...no, it won't
Plus, transitioning isn't a quick or easy process, it's not a snap decision or something you can do on an impulse - and kids aren't allowed access to hormones, surgeries, or anything for permanent medical transitioning.
I would recommend watching some more trans youtubers if you want to try to understand some more peoples' experiences
@@grimeydanny4214 Please tell me you're not saying a desire to medically transition is necessary to call yourself trans. Please. It's not true. In fact, I don't think transitioning is necessary at all. It just comes down to whether or not you fully identify as the gender you were assigned at birth.
@@AbstractQueer definitely not what im saying! medical transition is def not necessary to be trans! just felt like part of what they were mixed up about
I audibly said "YES!" out loud when you started talking about not seeing your future as a woman. I've been exploring my identity as a trans man recently, thinking about my childhood and some memories that came up that started making so much sense is looking in the mirror as a child and failing to see "a girl" in there at all, knowing she must be there because everyone sees her in me but I just couldn't see it. I always thought my deadname was more suited for some beautiful feminine girl and not me and of course I failed to ever imagine myself growing up to be a woman and doing the things my family expected of me. Idk, that whole part of the video just felt like you took the words right out of my mouth, I've been thinking about those things a lot, hearing someone else say it felt so reassuring.
@@clalolagat6872 Where did I say that in my comment? Did I say anything about other women? I was talking about the way I experienced dysphoria at an early age and got uneasy when my parents talked about me growing up to be a woman. It didn't necessarily have to be anything other than that. Women can dislike the ridiculous gender roles society puts on them and still be women but dysphoria's a completely different thing 🤷♂️
same i thought i was the only one
I sort of came out as trans today and I’m very happy!!
Good for you
Congratulations!!
Congratulation ! I hope that was well (but I think if you are happy ;) ) Take care of yourself friend
Congratulations! i hope ot went good 😁
@@username_773 I don't know who you are but I need to say that I love you just because of you pseudo lol :') Now, remember people you may not be plastic...but you are fantastic ! Never forget that.
You and Jamie helped me accept that im a trans girl
go off queen :)
ftm and mtf people have to stick together!!
- from an ftm
omg thats so sweet. hope you are well💞💞
@@sand_eater101 I’ve since realised that I’m non binary and trans femme but yeah Noah and jamie helped
I've never had a gender in my dreams. I dream in the third person, always, but I could never tell you how I look. I'm kind of just an entity.
That’s pretty much exactly how my dreams go. I’m genderfluid and rarely binary so I guess that makes sense lol
I'm super into dreams and that is so fascinating 🤩 I just experience dreams in my regular ole body
I dream the same, im questioning my gender quite a bit atm ya'll reckon thats a sign of something? idk man dreams are weird
haha wait..... now I think about it....I have never seen myself in my dreams either, I thought this was normal!?
same sometimes i guess our dreams can make us as other people or not people
I clicked faster than the “super straights” changed their pfp to yellow and black
Same
Same
I also genuinely enjoy answering uncomfortable questions. Like I can reverse uno the person as I answer their questions very, very bluntly.
30 year old AFAB here. This is a rundown of me- I grew up as a tomboy, wore my older brothers handmedowns, skated & did BMX & built things in the garage with him. I grew up not sure why boys and girls liked the opposite gender, was scared that I might like girls more. I realized I was a lesbian in high school. No one batted an eye, fam or friends, when I got a girlfriend at 21. Fast forward to last year in lockdown- thru tiktok, I found the right information and education and realized I was nonbinary. It felt so good to break away from the stereotypical social constuct of what it meant to be a "girl." But of course I never acted like a regular girl. I came out thru social media this past Jan 1st, to everyone except my mom, who I live with, but is a conservative republican. Everyone was so happy for me and super supportive. I still felt like something was missing, even though I was feeling happier than ever. Like I was hiding something from myself, or that I was just in limbo waiting for something better. Then, I realized I was trans. It all made sense. I wave of even more happiness rushed over me. I unlocked a memory of me when I was 7, when Thomas Beattie was on the cover of a popular magazine, the 'first' trans man in recent history to become pregnant. I knew at that young age I wanted to be a guy. Everything clicked. So for a few months now, I've contacted all my close friends and came out to them. They all took it so well. I decided to come out to close coworkers and they also took it very well. Then came my brother, his fiancé, and her mom. Told everyone my pronouns are they/he for now and my name is Ken. It feels so good. Bought binders, flags, and cut my hair short. I'm almost 31, and I can't wait for what the future brings, since it looks brighter than ever.
You are never too young or old to figure yourself out. It may take time, but everything will come together.
Thanks Noah, for answering these questions.
so youre a guy because you dont conform to your gender role? sounds pretty sexist to me... “if youre not feminine youre not a woman” wow
@@icedcat4021 no, he's a guy who also happened to like masculine things before he transitioned
So wholesome
When i came out as nonbinary at first my friends were really bad with the whole "casually correct yourself and just move on" thing witg pronouns and it honestly made me so uncomfortable it discouraged me from correcting people??? I straight up just stopped correcting people cos i didnt wanna make a scene. It took me months to get past that but we all good now
My friends rarely use my correct name and pronouns (I don't pass, so they just don't believe me when I say I'm whatever gender at the time ig) but they make a HUGE deal of it in front of people like "omg look at me using correct pronouns for someone aren't I so cool and supportive🥺🥺" (not literally lmao!) And it makes me so uncomfy. It actually made me uncomfy with they/them pronouns because they made me associate it with their fake support 💀 rip to me ig
The whole "not being able to picture your future because either you're a guy or your future just won't *be*" was so accurately described! I seriously couldn't picture my own future because my brain couldn't compute the possibility of just marrying a woman instead of having to marry a man and being miserable forever!
I'm trans. Have been since I was in kindergarten.
Tried to live as a girl / woman publicly for many years but secretly was living as a man. Tried to come out 18 years ago but chickened out after a year.
Have come out again this year and have had top surgery and on T. It will be permanent this time as I feel SAFER to come out nowadays.
I don't miss being a girl too because I don't feel like a girl at all.
the intro made me think
"I am the non-binary lorax, I speak for the theys!"
I'm enby and I often dream as myself as a fem presenting asigned female at birth person and sometimes as a floppy haired boy version of myself. Both feel very real and comfortable in my dreams and when looking back. I'm not gender fluid, the way I feel/see myself just fluxuates
very strongly relate to this.
I also weirdly occasionally have issues with my chest. Not in the wanting boob sense, as in feels like I want to bind despite not having stuff there. I think it is due to it internally being another reminder that I'm amab but my head says I'm not a guy.
My head cannon of the ideal end goal, would have been an afab enby person micro dosing on T with top surgery.
But likewise, sometimes I like playing into the more mascine stereotypes, e.g. really like dressing up in suits etc and the suave associated.
Though don't like how fast my hair grows
@@emilyscloset2648 I get that in a way. I have boobs as someone afab and most of the time it doesn't bother me but I have dysphoric days of wanting to bind but binders also make me very anxious so I don't.
I guess I'm lucky that I mostly don't see my body as gendered so I'm mostly happy with it but there are days I want to wear a floppy boy wig and dress masc if noone would ask any questions. Maybe my dreams are just the way I do that right now
I am also an enby (afab) and in my dreams I usually am not really a specific gender, like I don't take notice of what I am in my dream b/c it's usually irrelevant. That makes sense to me b/c my "brand" of enby is sort of the "gender is irrelevant" feeling. When I do take notice, I am usually pretty similar to how I am irl.
Although in sex dreams (which I don't have particularly often) I almost always have a dick. For me, that is the only major variance in my dream self presentation.
genderflux? it’s when you gender can be basically no existent to you feeling like 100% o a gender if that makes sense?
Ye lot need serious help
YES IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE
omg hi
@@onlyonefinger1 the way were both here so early 😂
Literally same
@@onlyonefinger1 youtube just offered me to translate your comment to german and it translated "omg hi" to "omg hi".
TURN IT UP-
Thank you for making these types of videos. My 11 year old nephew just came out as Trans and I feel like watching your videos for the last couple of years has really helped me to understand what he's going through.
That's great that your nephew has you and hopefully other people to accompagny him through his journey. I hope he, you and the rest of your family are fine :)
@@CoryBranlafatt I'm very thankful that everyone in my family has been really respectful and understanding. Even my 90 year old Christian grandma has been using the right name and pronouns.
@@jadeykg123 i am glad he has an excepting environment
@@jadeykg123 Omg that's so great ! I still need to come out to my grandma and my uncle and since I was so afraid I decided to change legaly my name first before doing it, hoping that if my papers have my correct name they would see how it's important. Hopefully with time and education, more people would have the courage to come out even as young as your nephew
@Bokuto’s *thicc* ass well amyone under 18 cant medically transition (is that how u say it??) but they can be on hormone blockers which are harmless
Kind of a tip for people who maybe get dysphoric over masturbation but still want to do it. Something that helped me (trans guy) was... well I ordered a cheap Mr Limpy with the medicine spoon/tube modification for the purpose of STP. it didn't work out that way so I removed the tubing to just use it as a packer.
If you have a smallish pill vibrator, you can slip that into the hole made from the tubing and I can actually reach in through the pee hole to turn on the vibration and it's a way to masturbate while not really touching my anatomy personally and puts me in the headspace of it being the packer that's pleasing and not so much my anatomy.
holy shit thats genius
how can someone be this smart???? istg I could never have thought about that (I mean I'm not trans so I don't have to but you know what I mean)
This is kinda along the lines of what I was thinking. I (cis female) once upon a time had a vibrator for pegging, & the base was supposed to rest on your parts to stimulate you as you stimulated your partner (it was shaped to fit comfortably & had little texture nubbins along with a bullet/pill vibe - it also had a vibe in the shaft for the receiving partner, with separate controls for each vibe). It worked very well for that purpose, & I thought it might work well for this too, insofar as you could even be stroking a shaft while stimulating yourself, if that would help. (it also, of course, could be used for its intended purpose with a partner to great success as well lol).
thats genius, smart, amazing
id probably just had put it in a box, taped it up, and sat it in a closet to never be found again tbh
noah made a really good point in this vid by saying trans isn't really relevant in his life as much anymore. to any newbies in the community, i think it's really important to know that your life won't be "controlled" by this forever. it's terrifying for some at first, but eventually it's kinda just like "oh right i'm a lesbian" or "oh yeah i'm trans." you can still live your life without feeling overwhelmed by it all, if that makes sense.
to anyone who's figuring stuff out, good luck!
As someone who recently figured out they are probably trans, this video was very helpful :)
Good exploration of your possible transiness and take care of yourself ;)
@@CoryBranlafatt thank youu :)
seeing a happy trans person makes me feel better
like im not saying most trans ppl aren't happy but noah is always like "it will get better, im so much happier than i used to be" it gives me hope
Noah, great post as always. And your “I’m Stupid” is basically the best power-pop song ever! Wished me and my husband could have been in the UK to catch one of your shows. You rock, dude!
Psst if you like Noah's music check out other pop-punk acts like Meet Me @ The Alter and All Time Low
Fatal Immortality thank you for the suggestions! I know about All Time Low, but not the other two you mentioned so I’ll be going there for sure! I’m loving on Bowling For Soup and American Hi-Fi as well. Yeah, I’m late to the party that is power-pop, but having a great time getting caught up! Thanks again!
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HELLOO just like to say this sounds super weird but I saw you at the yungblud gig last night you were basically leading the mosh pits I was with my mum and grandma holding my trans flag I almost came and said hello but I was to nervous
thats sooo cool
My sister says she "accepts" me, but is extremly transphobic. Tells me that being trans is a choice and that we are all weirdos that are just insecure. Tells me that my name is stupid and thinks my "talking like a therapist" is so pretentious. Oh, excuse we for trying to do my best to be mentally healthy. I wish I never invited her, shes currently staying at my place.
Interrupting my Spider-Man marathon for this so it better be good 🙄
bruhh mood
Was it worse it ? Enjoy your marathon !
@@CoryBranlafatt yes worth it, and I will thanks
I'm Trans Male and I got married, had a son, but since my son is an adult, I'm now free to be who I really am. I've been on Testosterone shots for 6 weeks. My husband is very supportive.
I’m a little older than your demographic at 33! I am just so happy to see younger people being able to talk about this stuff so openly these days. I just know you are inspiring younger people who may be struggling with this stuff - I wish I had this in my life 16 years ago. Thankyou!
I’m meeting with a gender affirming endocrinologist in a month. I’m 38.
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I just want to point out that what you said about everyone being racist until they are not is a bit wrong, people aren't born racist or transphobic, that is part of learned behavior. Kids are not racist unless they learn that from somewhere.
me saying that doesn’t mean that i think people are born racist. everybody will grow up around some form of racism and unconsciously learn it
@@NOAHFINNCE thank you for clearing that up!
YOUR HAIR LOOKS SO GOOD
IKR IT DOESS
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i clicked the little button and 999 turned into 1k and now my life is complete
The fact that I got a transphobic ad before watching this 💀💀💀
Like do you know what kind of videos I watch?
“Every morning I’d wake up and be like **sudden Lorax mustache** oOh whAts diFfEreNt”
Setting boundaries when it comes to sex is important in any relationship
You are just my comfortable person. And I love the way you're so honest. You're helping so many people and I'm really glad that I found you on (in? Idk) the internet. (And you really help me with my english. Just that you know🇨🇭)
Okay I have to ask you because of the "CH" at the end... Are you from Switzerland ? Cause I am and it would be very cool and unexpected hahahaha
Oh hey I am from Switzerland too
@@krispxh Small world omg xD Are you from the french / german / italien part ? I myself am from the french part. Noah and other english youtubers really helped me with my understanding of english, but I think that I would never get rid of my bloody accent hahaha
@@CoryBranlafatt haha same and I am from the french part haha
@@krispxh Le monde est VRAIMENT petit (surtout pour un tout petit pays comme le nôtre xD) J'espère que ton accent est meilleur que le mien ;) Prends soin de toi et tout de bon !
"toys for adults only"
me: Legos????
i mean if you really use your imagination
@@asloii_1749 lmao your comment is so underrated
when I was little, I never really saw myself as a girl, never liked girly things, I mean I knew that I was born a girl and that I was supposed to act like a girl, but I just never felt like I was one, just didn't think of myself as any gender (cause I was little and my parents weren't forcing gender norms on me, but puberty hit hard and when I was faced with awful dysphoria towards my body changes, I realized that I wasn't cis)
and never thought of how my future self would look like, but, when I realized that I'm trans, suddenly I could picture my future pretty clearly
Fun fact: I usually saw myself in dreams, but I wasn't really a girl, it was how I looked irl, but since I came out and started to think about coming out to my parents, suddenly all the dreams I have are about me being a guy and explaining my gender to strangers, while they accidentally/on purpose misgender me and my parents finding out that I'm trans and being angry about it
I guess it's just my paranoia is acting up, but it's funny, how I can't escape dreams like this
I had those kinds of dreams as a kid, under age ten, and I thought maybe I was just jealous of my two little brothers who my mother favored over me. But as I got older and learned about being trans, I think if I was born in a newer generation, I may have considered this option. Instead, I just identify as bisexual and fluid
pre-everything trans dude here. In my dreams one of three things happens: I'm a child (the last age that i still looked androgynous, is what conclusion i arrived at), i'm a dude as in waking life (though sometimes if i'm lucky i am a cis dude in the dream), OR i'm a person who is not me, and that can occur in any gender configuration. I get alot of book ideas from my dreams, so it's more like watching a movie in 1st person. if i dream as a girl character, it doesn't really make me dysphoric. i'm just excited to remember a dream at all, especially if it has a good story.
I have dreams where I'm a boy occasionally. I'm a cis girl. Just last night was one of those times actually. Me and my mum were on the phone to a nurse discussing my erectile dysfunction... so yeah that was weird. Also my grandfather kept interrupting asking for beer even though there were beers literally all over the floor... it was a very weird dream.
LMAOOO IMDYING YOU GOT A DREAM ON ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION ID PANIC SO MUCH IF I WOKE UP FROM THAT I want a functional pp in my dreams what the fuck
@@Gay-yi6yt Haha! I know, it was such a weird dream.
@@conlon4332 pp dysfunction dream
(kinda vent commnet?? idk u dont have to read it lol) yea samee some of them r so casual and others r so centered about me being a man and im like, where r those dreams coming from?!? i have kinda bad chest dysphoria too but i dont generally NOT feel like a girl, but i couldn't say i like being perceived as one.. idk ive thought about being non binary too but that doesnt feel right either, so im at a point where i feel super uncomfortable with myself without knowing where to start. sorry for the vent comment lol
@@fandomfeels-ye3fo - Hey, I just wanted to bring up that nonbinary is actually an umbrella term :) There's many terms such as bigender, genderfluid, genderflux, fluidflux, demigirl, and demiguy that you might want to check out.
Bigender - Feeling 2 genders at once
Genderfluid - Switching between two or more genders
Genderflux - 1 or more genders fluctuating in intensity
Fluidflux - Combination of genderfluid and genderflux
Demigirl - A partial connection to a feminine gender where you're not quite a girl.
Demiguy - A partial connection to a masculine gender where you're not quite a guy
And there's a lot more, so I recommend researching them :) You might find something that fits
I know I have times where I don't like being perceived as a girl but also don't not feel like a girl. Personally, I'm shifting into the use of the fluidflux label. Regardless, I hope this list provides you with a starting point :)
When you said that you couldn’t imagine yourself as a woman I felt that so much. When I was really young I thought I would just grow up to be a man.
same, I would say that I am not trans, but at the same time I thought I won't be a woman in the future :''D
I looked up to a lot of superheroes that were only male so I always thought that I’d grow up to fit in their roles or fill in their costumes, super muscular and have a sharp face, all that jazz
@@tikablue13 yesss and then when I started puberty and saw photos of myself I was disgusted at how feminine I looked 😖
@@bluesunshine420 when I got my period (which was pretty late) I full on cracked and I think had a huge dysphoria inducing situation without even knowing. Like I HATED it RESENTED it since it stripped away the last bit of “freedom” I had
Same i never saw myself as a woman but now I'm a adult and im supposed to be a woman
I'm a cis woman who is a tomboy. So I've always been in the mind of everyone should be who they are and like whatever they want.
I've been learning about trans people recently because I didn't understand, and it's suddenly clicked watching this video. What if some people are more than just a tomboy, further along the spectrum than me. Although I could never understand what it's exactly like to be trans, I can somewhat understand where they are coming from now.
I know what it's like to not fit in with expectations, I have few friends because of this.
Much love to you all. 😊
“i don’t get jealous of jizz anymore”
making that my yearbook quote
Well, I’m cis but I can definitely relate to the whole ‘thinking about your queerness 24/7 when closeted and it becoming super irrelevant when out’ thing… Coming out was honestly the best decision of my entire life and I don’t know why I put it off for so long. It honestly lifted a _huge_ weight off of my shoulders, and now that I’ve been out for almost a year and a half I hardly think about my queerness anymore. I was super lucky to have a supportive environment!
If you’re closeted, planning to come out and reading this comment, I really hope you can have as great a coming out experience as mine, because it’s honestly _such_ an amazing sensation that I can’t help but wish it upon everyone!
As someone who is still doubting their gender, this was an amazing video. I go back and forth all the time as to whether I am trans or not. When I look into the mirror, I cannot see a female and see a masculine person or a male instead. I'm not sure if I have dysphoria, but I hate my tits, hips and any remotely feminine part of my body, but I'm still confused as to whether that means I am trans or just a butch female, this video was extremely informative and fun😁😁
Holy crap. The thing Noah says about not ever being able to picture yourself as a women in the future is so relatable. I thought I was the only one!
Came out to my dad yesterday!!
ayyy congrats! how'd it go?
Great thank you I was really surprised
I'm so proud of you!!
Thanks so much
@@thatartyarcher that's awesome! so happy for you 💕
I’m a closeted trans boy, I just recently figured out I was trans. You’ve helped me out a lot and I just wanted to say thanks.
When you said you recognized yourself more than ever but yes and no I related so much.
I just started T and really appreciate having this video to reflect and process with you!! Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)
seeing that you uploaded made me happy,, me and my mother just had a huge fight about my gender and i needed some comfort content
My boyfriend is trans and he goes through so much with being trans. This video actually helped me understand some things about what he goes through. Thank you!
I love how affirming and validating your answers were throughout the whole video! Glad to hear someone else say things I’ve wondered out loud 😅
Noah i love your videos, no matter what they are about, they help me cheer up and the trans related ones really help me with my transition
Thanks for being there man
Your point with not being able to see yourself growing up to be a woman just resonates so much with me.
That's what ultimately cracked my egg.
I really wish there was more research on that, how the brain isn't able to see one in that gender.
2 years ago I would have been a transphobe because I couldn't understand why someone would want to be the other gender. But thanks to video's like yours covering up the topics and the questioning of my own body and Identity; I have really opened up to the idea I may actually be trans. There have been so many signs and I can't believe I've dismissed them all my whole life :)
i officially started to the process of transitioning 1,5 years ago after knowing i was trans for 10+ years so it feels amazing to finally be myself but i also feel like i've lost so much time of my life being someone who i'm not and i'm mostly trying to come to terms with that. but i am happy to say that i am at the end of my transition, i'm 2 months on T now and my birth certificate is changed and i had top surgery so i'm in a good place. watching your videos throughout the whole process has been very helpful so thank you :)
I'm so happy for your- baby trans
Thank you. Hearing some of your thoughts on these topics helps a lot. I'm still on my journey of finding out who I even am and some things seem so obvious once you understand them, but are really hard to grasp when you're not at that point yet.
The bit about not being able to see your future… that’s where I am rn I hope I can get to where you are, thanks for helping me realise who I am💖
A couple weeks ago I came out as trans and I’ve been feeling so much happier then I ever had before my parents are still not entirely cool with it but they’re getting there
Your videos have help me a lot so thank you
this is the first video ive watched since fully accepting I'm trans and coming out to most people and it just hit different. Im doing so much right now to try and be sure about myself and honestly this really helped so thank youi
I’m non binary but these videos are always interesting to watch cuz I might learn something about the trans experience that I didn’t know about before
Honestly your videos help me realize that my future won’t be miserable and there are things to look forward to in regards to me being trans. In a way they help me want the future I envision myself having. Being able to relate so heavily to somebody helps me not feel alone. :)
At the end I started crying. Because until now I kept thinking "what if I actually am not non-binary and I lied to everyone" but when you said before that you didn't view your future self, but now you do, I related to that. Until 1 year ago I didn't see how my future self could have been, but then I started seeing my Original character as my future self (my OC is non-binary) and even if it's not totally the same... I felt understood. I think all the time how I'm jelous of people who transiotion perfectly and of people that could be a gender like another, I think how much I hate my high pitched voice and how much I wish I didn't have b0obs, I think about the fact that everyone sees me like a girl. Everytime someone think I'm a boy I'm happy because it means that maybe I'm not actually so femminine. And having this realization hurt, because maybe my parents aren't homophob1c but they're pretty much transphob1c, and it hurts to know that they don't care about who I like, but they do about who I AM...
@@user-vb3go2xz8c I'm not my opposite sex, and I'm also not the one assigned at my birth, I'm agender🏳️🌈✨
I have no idea how to contact you but if you haven’t seen anyone about your thyroid, it may be something you need checking on. I’m a student nurse and have noticed a mass moving below your thyroid. I’m not trying to embarrass you or anything like that, I just want you to be happy and well :) I hope you have a great weekend. Thanks for your great video :)
I mean… since he is in relatively frequent contact with an endocrinologist due to his T treatment, wouldn't that already be the case?
Isn't that.. an Adam's apple? Surely his Dr would've picked up on it anyway
@@tylerphuoc2653 Doctors and Consultants don't always notice things outside of their specialism. If it's already been sorted, then great!
@@fatalimmortality801 No and not necessarily. If it's nothing to worry about, great. But I wouldn't be upholding my values as a health professional if I didn't mention my concern. It's just a shame I couldn't do it in privately :(
Thank you so much for this. It's so hard to have these conversations.
I'm a cis woman, and I love watching your videos. Not only are they entertaining, but they're a great way for me to learn more about the LGBTQ community!
There's a lot of kids at my school who are LGBTQ and it's nice to learn more about these things, it helps me know what should and shouldn't be said/done!
I have NEVER ever felt like a girl… now I know what that is and I know my pronouns and I’m still kind of figuring stuff out and now I understand what kindergarten me was thinking their whole life
Unrelated, but I was driving to work yesterday listening to Spotify and one of your songs came up when I was listening to their The Wonder Years playlist and I was like NOAHHHH!
Noah is my inspiration because there are so many days when I feel like I might never be happy with myself. I am a minor, and I'm not out to my family, so there's nothing I can do to change my body yet. But everytime I watch Noah's videos and see how far he's come and how well he passes, it really encourages me. When I first watched his videos I didn't even know he was trans until he said something about it. Seeing how much he has changed in only three years makes me really hopeful that whenever I am able to transition, everything will be ok in the long run.
I continue to be amazed by the people who aren't in my life and the people who stuck around since I came out
AWWWWW the clip of the concert where he called out the they/thems i wouldve cried
its rare to be with that many other ppl like you i wish i could've been there its so cool
and OBVIOUSLY the concert itself
Hi! One of the people here who is *not* in the collective of "people who watch me are a bit gay". But totally a fan because I wanted to optimize my understanding and allyship for the large majority of the people in my life who are in that collective. So thank you for being a great help in my journey to best love my love ones and provide them the best support I can give them!
(Also, most of those "a bit gay" people in my life have hypermobile [aka "bendy"] elbows, too. We all have ehlers danlos syndrome or a variety of it. It's pretty common for those with hEDS to be LGBTQ+, but just anecdotally. EDS is still "officially" considered "very rare", but the hEDS form is thought to be as common as 1 in 33 and just rarely diagnosed because it most substantially affects AFAB symptomatically)
15:20 you talking about not being able to picture yourself as a girl and in the future made me feel so incredibly relifed because I've never been able to imagine myself (while I identified as a girl) in the future in any way and It made me kind of worried because it just felt like I wouldn't exist, but hearing you say that gave me comfort knowing that its not just me. i'm so glad I found your Chanel as it showed me that it was okay being trans and helped me accept myself, so thank you very very much :)
It’s so nice to see a trans person just chilling be out and happy and not even having to think about it!
Heaven be praised for giving you to the world Noah. You keep it real and do not hold back on the truth. Thanks so much, all the awesome informative content you post is just fantastic and what everyone should know.
Having a bad day (couldn’t start hrt) but at least I get a video from you and Samantha Lux 🙏🏼
I’ve been watching your videos for years, just last year I finally broke and my dysphoria got really bad, I finally decided to be myself and because of your videos you really helped me get here. Thank you sm much.
Thank you for this video. I felt weird wondering about some of these questions. It’s basically none of anyone’s business. To me if you are a trans man or women to me you are just a man or a woman. You are doing such a service with these more educational videos
Literally why tf did this feel like an older brother sitting me down and giving me THE TALK, I've never met Noah and won't claim to "know him" or whatever through his videos because I think that's dumb. He just gave off such big brother vibes in this video lol and all these questions are ones I've definitely had myself as a trans guy
I don’t personally know anyone who’s trans, but I have literally learned more from you than any other source in the LGBT+ community about these issues. Thank you for making these videos!
Pan pre hrt trans woman. I just turned 27. Came out at just before my 26th bday. Its a hell of a struggle. I live in Kentucky. Which is known for being messed up. But i found your videos recently and you sir give me so much hope and a genuine smile every video. Love you Noah. I hope youre doing well king
When you read the dreams question it made me remember; I never pictured myself in dreams pre transition, like I never saw myself in my dreams until after transitioning. Now I see myself in my dreams. 🤷♂️
is it normal to not 'feel trans' or have trans related experiences until an older age because I never felt anything uncomfortable (in a trans related way) about myself until I was like 12 and then I realised I was trans
Yep! A lot of trans people go through this and I did too. The way I saw someone describe it once was like you were living underground your whole life and felt fine, but then you leave and see the sky and everything else, and it’s harder to go back underground because the way you grew up doesn’t feel normal anymore
You don’t start puberty and becoming a specific gender until welll… puberty starts at 12
I only realised in my 20s so thats not really an older age, thats a normal time to feel trans around puberty.
@@Kittypika4 THIS IS EXACTLY HOW ID DESCRIBE IT AH THANK YOU
@@jacksonsdisaster GLAD I COULD HELP!!
My 3 year old neice saw my screen and asked if she could listen to the video during the sponsored part so I gave her a headphone. Omg she was like "what's that thing in his mouth", "what's that word mean", and "Is he ur friend".
wow. the whole not picturing your future as a woman thing. it was explained so well, ive felt like the for ages but just havent been able to explain it so thank you for that :)
I’m right now getting over the denial of my gender and this video helped me a lot, I also connected in particular with some things like the fact that being in denial is normal, that I can’t picture the future, and most importantly the possibility of living my life without worrying about other people seeing me as something I’m not, thanks a lot❤
15:08 I just want to point out, this metaphor actually helped me understand a lot better! Thank you!
I have been watching your old videos and you have changed so much like in a good way but it's just looking at your old videos then looking at how much you have grown up since then
The most amazing thing I learned from this video is that there's a point in my future where I won't be thinking about being trans 24/7
If you come out at any age, you're still validated. I just wanted to say ghay for anyone struggling to come out. God bless, he loves you no matter what. ❤