I really admire him for trying to have a more animal cruelty free diet, but also for respecting his health as a priority and going back onto meat when he needed it. Go at your own pace and don’t feel embarrassed if you think you’re going ‘backwards’. Physical, emotional and mental health is a priority and you can always revisit vegetarian or vegan diets when your health has improved.
@@CityR28 Honestly if you feel like that’s best for you, you really should consider that your health is _always_ the priority! Good on you to try and think about animal cruelty because LORD is it an issue, but don’t ever forget that YOUR. HEALTH. COMES. FIRST!
The part about only getting diagnosed as mildly depressed because you've never done THAT hit me hard. Like yeah, I haven't done that, yes I get out of bed every day and like do hobbies but that doesn't mean I'm moderately depressed??? Like just say I'm depressed instead of assigning a label based on how you perceive the severity of my depression.
yess like i almost dropped out of high school because my anxiety was making it almost impossible to even function and they said i had “mild anxiety” like ???
@@user-hb2bw5hy7m I missed school so many times because I couldn’t get out of bed that the school nurse sent me to a therapist. But that’s mild depression/anxiety, right?
Look, it's just part of medical classification. It doesn't mean your condition isn't serious Ideally you shouldn't even know such details because it's the information for your doctors (I mean the info about severity, you should know that you have depression) to work with. They classify depending on several different factors: if you're able to sleep, walk, eat, take care of yourself and your surroundings, socialize, etc not just if you had s attempts or not As far as I know, people with depression classified as 'severe', are not eating, moving, taking baths. They are not talking, or sleeping, they just stare at one point on the wall for weeks and months, unable to do anything That doesn't mean your condition shouldn't be treated or could be taken lightly, or that you don't suffer, it's just classification Hope that clarifies this a bit
hey noah the disordered eating you are refering is called afrid (avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder) its very common among people with adhd and autsim. it is to do with textures smells and executive disfunction. i have it too, its techically classed as an eating disorder and u can get diagnosed with it, but theres not really anything they can do about it
wow I always heard this called like food rules but never knew there was a real medical name for it this is really helpful thank you. I have an anxiety disorder btw and this can also happen for people with that
I was about to comment this. I'm autistic and have this as well. It is also manageable if the other parts of your life that are stressful or overwhelming are reduced.
As someone who’s aroace in a relationship, the question “why r u guys dating if you don’t kiss” is so funny to me. I would rather just make breakfast for someone I love every morning, I hate kissing. I appreciate your opinion on pda
Wait doesn’t aroace mean not wanting to be in a romantic or sexual relationship? What kind of relationship is it then? Im not trying to be rude I’m just genuinely curious
I'm ace and I always say "oh I would date her" or smth and my friends are like "id screw them" and I'm like "ew" and one friend of mine went "sex is the best part of a relationship" and I went "but cuddles.... But painting rocks.... But picking out clothes for each other...." I will never understand people who aren't ace
@@evil_zebra4275 this is a good question! I’m dating a totally allo person, so for them I’m just their regular old partner. But for me it falls much more within the Queer-platonic definition of a relationship, which is a relationship which bends the traditional rules of friendship, i.e. like marrying your best friend. I’m also sex-favorable, so from the outside it definitely looks more conventional, but I’m still fully aroace and don’t experience those feelings!
To anyone who needs to hear this: Nobody should be ashamed for not sleeping with anybody, or sleeping with people. I’m 21 and i just lost my virginity, and im not even in a relationship with that person, and there is nothing wrong with that 🖤
true but if your not intermet with your partner the relation ship will end up hurting one or the other unless both are ace then the one whos not ace will end up looking else where to fill their needs and you cant blame them btw sorry about my spelling im dyslexic
@@brendonrookes1151 I think it's about communication. If you express your desire to wait and they accept that but proceed to cheat to fulfil their needs... They are a poopy person. No one should push anyone into accepting something they don't want. Be it to have sexy times or to wait.
@@brendonrookes1151 thats a very poor thing we were raised to believe. i used to force myself to have sex with my partner because of what i was told growing up. ive since learned better. we have gone months without sex before, and neither of us felt compelled to cheat because we actually love and care for each other. if your partner cheats on you due to a lack of sex, then they dont respect or actually love you
@@devinaghose9318 it makes more sense because the amount of people you have sex with changes nothing about your body or worth, and the amount doesn't matter regardless. I think it's a valuable thing to say you know both meanings, but the amount of people you slept with are so looked down on by society i am almost certain this idea of body count was created by misogynistic men to check a woman's "worth" for himself /gen
My issue with “cancel culture” is that the people doing the cancelling don’t give people a chance to apologize or allow for personal growth. If someone said or did something, whether it was decades ago or more recently, and they want to make a genuine apology or make amends for it, they shouldn’t have their career ruined. They just don’t seem to have any sense of forgiveness.
Yes to all of this. I agree. Plus, (while I have no evidence for this claim/theory... In part because I am NOT the type of person to purposefully go looking for people's "problematic/cancel-worthy past") it feels like the people doing the cancelling are sitting on a kind of collective high horse/have a "holier than thou" attitude as if they have never done anything wrong in their lives and had always behaved in ways that is in accordance with the current understanding of what is/should be acceptable, well-informed behaviour without ever having needed to go through a learning process themselves. And that sort of attitude... Is just so disingenuous. Additionally, they also don't seem to take into account that not everyone has the same background (socially, culturally) and the same opportunity and ability to access certain kinds of information. So that overall I often get the feeling that some people involved in what is called cancel culture lack the ability to show forgiveness, as you've stated in your comment, and lack the ability to see nuance, possibly as a result of their "holier than thou"/high horse attitudes. And that's just both sad and unfair.
It's because the people that do that don't care about forgiveness or people learning from their mistakes. They are just a pack of dogs going after people because it's the thing to do these days.
Agreed, also a lot of people will just follow the crowd and go with whatever someone said someone did. It takes away from critical thinking skills. while not supporting problematic creators and influencers can be important, it’s also important to look at the situation yourself and make your own fair judgment before cyberbullying some random person without all of the information first. (Not that cyberbullying is ever okay- but that isn’t the point)
Yeah, that sexism shit is hard to deal with when guys first start talking "locker room talk" around us trans-men. I go to a clinic for something not trans related, and this dude who knew I'm trans "joked" about wanting to basically rap3 one of the counselors. I stayed silent and then ratted him out the next day. He got kicked out thank goodness.
As a trans woman, I HATE locker room talk. it is so bad. I had to deal with all of that, and since I am uncomfortable taking my shirt off in front of people, I got bullied a bit due to refusing to wear our gym uniform
i normally can't sit through a video longer than 10 minutes and i always put videos on 1.5 speed, but i love the way and speed noah is talking. idk it doesn't make me lose interest and concentration that fast.
16:04 you're putting into words something I feel so much but couldn't explain! I'm afab nonbinary so I hate being in women's bathrooms, locker rooms etc. bc of the gender dysphoria but I miss when a random girl complements my outfit or asks me for a pad. it's just the feeling of solidarity and that we know we can depend on each other that's really special. recently tho i went to camp and was in the girl's cabin and I had a really cool experience where we were all helping each other pick outifts and doing each others hair before this fancy dinner. it was one of the first time ive done that since realizing i'm trans and what made it especially cool was that they all knew and respected my pronouns and they helped me style my binder with an open shirt 😭 ive never been in a situation like that and i was scared they would get weirded out but they were so nice. someone asked me what a binder means and when i explained they were like oh! i didn't know that was a thing, how cool. and then they were hyping me up and encouraging me to wear my binder like it was a tank top to the event like 💞
Can you talk more about being a guy in a room full of women? And how that influences what you say in terms of being able to relate? (Besides being respectful and mindful of course)
This is the only “answering questions I’ve been avoiding” type video I’ve seen that’s actually honest and not still dodging the question. It was really interesting thank you for sharing!
Noah, thank you for the trigger warning, people never put them and it sucks. It’s so easy to put a warning but they don’t. Thank you for giving us a trigger warning, I appreciate it so much.
The thing about your age is so important because i don't think people realize just how little public awareness there was even just ten years ago. I'm a few years older than you and like you've said we've come a long way
My husband and our 3rd kid has sensory processing disorder and food is one of their biggest triggers. I haven't experienced it myself, but I've watched the impact it has had on my family
Today I finally accepted that I'm trans. I have watched your videos for nearly 5 years now and I couldn't quite admit to myself why I related to you on so many levels. Thank you for being part of my journey
Mannnn 15 year old me sounded really homophobic. Self hatred for me struggling with my own sexuality definitely made me lash out and I hate that I was like that and it’s something that I regret often.
I would say the subject of decriminalizing Drugs and legalizing abortions Are a bit similar. If you make them illegal people are still going to get them just in unsafe Ways
I could listen to Noah talk forever I love listening to people talk, especially when they are passionate or knowledgeable about the subject, even if I don't understand
I completely agree with you on the depression thing. I got scrued over by the NHS and am still battling as my doctor won't prescribe me meds to help with my depression. I have anxiety and depression, and some people say their anxiety makes them want to do it. My anxiety just makes me not do it, as I can't stop thinking about family and what would happen. I hate how my doctor only tells me that im mildly depressed, even though I struggle every single day.
@shifstar Yeah. I'm just trying to book another appointment, but there is a long waiting list as it is really busy. I've been with 2 doctors who 1 said to my mother it seems I'm faking for attention and another who only talked about the experience with that doctor, saying I should trust their judgement. Hopefully i get a better doctor next time.🤞
@@hmmpink4840 maybe for you, but depression meds have different effects on everybody, especially when you are not talking about specific ones, I have adhd and autism and I took Adderall to help, it didn't help, it just made me depressed, but there are other people who also have adhd and autism that have a positive reaction from taking Adderall.
you and corry seem to have such a healthy relationship, it's so nice to see and even though i know neither of you personally, i feel like you both deserve that (everyone deserves that but y'know i'm just really happy for you both)
the food part is extremely relatable. i ate sandwiches everyday for a really long time, now i can’t eat that and only eat frozen pizzas for lunch. i genuinely eat like a toddler and i’m so embarrassed and uncomfortable about it
Umm.. Sir? You- you didn't have to like it. It's an honor though. I don't think screaming at 3am is the best thing to do but I almost did. Then I realized the time. You help me be more comfortable being me and that makes me happy. Thank you.
NOAH PLEASE ADD ANOTHER LONDON DATE PLEASE I BEG YOU I NEED TO SEE YOU LIVE AS WELL AS BEARS IN TREES BUT ALSO YOU PLEASE NOAH I MISSED TICKETS BY LIKE 10 MINUTES
It means a lot to hear you talk about being a "picky eater". I'm not diagnosed but I'm pretty much certain I'm neurodivergent and I have a lot of sensory issues with food. I could only eat a few things growing up and I thought it would get better with age but I'm a 20 year old adult now who still has an extremely limited diet. That plus me constantly forgetting to eat is not an easy thing to deal with so it was really cool to hear someone talk about it.
I’ve never heard anyone be able to put my relationship with food into words so accurately (and I’ve tried a lot). people always make fun of me for the way I don’t eat a lot of things and only eat like one thing for months at a time but then hate it for pretty much the rest of my life but I’m so glad to hear somebody else is also like that cause I literally never met anybody who is, only a few who “grew out of it” or “just got used to the textures/scents/tastes”
Well he did say the drug issues got better 😂 Meanwhile there's me from Scotland, and I'm pretty sure we have the highest drug death rate in the world...
Thank you for mentioning your disordered eating, I have ARFID (Avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) and not many people know or have heard about it, but loads of people have it without knowing and just live their lives feeling bad about it. If anyone reading this has serious anxieties around eating foods cause of sensory issues (the smell, appearance, texture, etc) then you may be interested in looking it up
Man, I'm so happy for you that you're parents were so supportive. I'm nearly fifteen and my parents, especially my mum, would always make jokes about me being a girl that wants to wear boys clothes and telling me that I'm ugly and that I should live with the fact I'm a girl and so on. I really hate them for that and the countless other things they've did to me.
The Depression comment is actually pretty right, I’ve had depression and anxiety for about a year now and I *have* tried both of the self destructive behaviors , but I haven’t told anyone so it’s all been brushed off as “mild depression and anxiety” and my parents think I can just get over it.
Good on you for actually answering what were uncomfortable questions other people ask followers for "juicy" questions just so they can can click bait just to say none of your business lol. So well done dude 👏
It’s weird you spoke on “guy talk” when by themselves- it was those kinds of things that made me feel so much “not a guy” - because I did not think like them - yet as a transman raised as a woman you saw it simply as “wrong”
I really wasn't sure if my post made sense..as someone who transitioned from male to female - I hated hearing how men behaved around other men... it made me realize i was not like them... I am in the US and even where Noah is... same thing... but Noah does not doubt his masculinity simply because other men are inappropriate ...
@@Jasminestealth1 and this is way alot of cis guys are uncomftable with trans ppl in our safe places for guys theres not many places to be masculin with a society thats pro femininity and having some one that use to be a woman in there with a female pov can distort the vibe of the place btw im sure that you have a problem with woman talking about how big there boyfriends dicks are right coz if not then ur a hypercrit i work around woman alot being a male in a female safe place i see how they talk about men its same same
@@brendonrookes1151 my comment wasn’t an opinion of right or wrong- just not a natural way to think or behave for myself… I have spent time with all kinds of people who talked about things I don’t agree with… anytime people talk about sports teams - politics - but safe space conversion- I think reveal a more intimate way to be… and it just seemed so foreign…
@@Jasminestealth1 true i think when your in an intimate space the way you talk will change its kind of like how you wouldnt talk to ur grandma if you have one the same way you would if u were with ur mates but i also think its a positive that noah has been acepted as one of the guys being able to see behind the curtian so to speak thats a privledge guys tend to be more closed off to there feelings we often deliver our feelings throught jokes guys dont have the luxury of being vonrable its funny when woman say men are toxic yet every time iv had my sexuality questioned its been from a female
@@brendonrookes1151 Alot of generalizing there in your statement... its also interesting these ideas of "norms" - What it means to be a "guy" or behave like a "guy".. how much is natural... An incredible book to read is "Wild at Heart" - it is about there is something inherent in men that only a father and son can connect to...
it actually made me so happy when you talked about sensory issues and food, I teared up a little. I have adhd and autism and I have always really struggled with food because I have such severe sensory issues - my whole life I got so much hate and judgement for being a "fussy eater" I hated myself so much for it, but how you described it as physical pain (not just food, all sensory issues) is honestly so accurate I wish neurotypical people would understand that sensory issues aren't just an over sensitivity or being easily irritable, it's literally being in so much pain, that in that moment you would rather die than continue being subject to that sensory experience
@@ferretthegremlin hmm. well my boyfriend is a trans (ftm) and he struggles with dysphoria a lot so i may be able to help. if you want to be more feminine maybe try experimenting with makeup, or feminine clothing. whatever makes you feel good! and society can be harsh but don’t listen to what anyone says. do what makes YOU happy! remember that there will always be people who support you! ik i’m a random person but i support you and i can imagine you are a beautiful woman! i hope this helps even a little bit
If I haven't expressed how much your answers to personal questions are fantastic-well they pretty much are and your honesty makes them all the more appreciative.
I really appreciate you making this video. these questions are extremely difficult to answer and the fact that you tackled them on the internet is very commendable. as someone who is non-binary and living in a homophobic, transphobic environment, I really value my education on these topics. it can be very difficult to not waver to their toxic thinking. you're videos really help crush the internalised transphobia they create in me. and for that, I am very grateful. thank you Noah! 💛
Hey Noah.I’m a big 75yo Brazilian fan of yours.And you continue to surprising me with your intelligence and experience.You’re an example for this young generation who follows you.My love and respect from Brazil.
tbh i do still feel a lil bitter about not being allowed to be myself til a year ago (i was 18) but i think its bcus i was so vocal abt being a boy & i legit 'came out' with the proper language (said im trans) several times from the ages of 12-17 so its like if they had listened or even just let me cut my hair & wear the clothes i wanted as a kid then yeah but they didnt & they r accepting now so i try so hard not to feel this way bcus i know its more society than them u know but yeah i need to work on not looking back to the past when it cant be changed
i really appreciate the trigger warnings, like a lot of times i'll click on videos and be hit in the face with topics that make me uncomfy. i loved the video too, it was so honest
At around 5 minutes is so pertinent. As a gay cis male, the way my straight male friends talked about women was quite disgusting and shocking too. Because I was still closeted at the time I guess they felt it acceptable to talk about them this way (them thinking I was one of the 'straight' lads). Its amazing the things men say around each other to other men...
I'm in my mid-30s so a good portion of my generation missed out on internet communities because they weren't nerds like me, so on behalf of the internet elders I just want to say thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience because the world can definitely use more people like you
as someone with arfid i really appreciate you talking openly about your sensory issues related to food and i'd love it if you made a whole video about it :)
100% agree with you on the sexist part, i still find it extremely upsetting how cis guys will talk about women when they're "alone" but it doesn't bother me anymore to just point out how ridiculous they sound. surprisingly many will admit they don't mean it sooo
Oh, honey. I was in the house with someone who alivent’d too. It has broken me and I’m so sorry that you had to experience it as a CHILD. I was a whole 20something and it still destroyed me. I’m so sorry but I’m so glad you’re here and looking like you have a great life.
Ok, I've always wondered why I always seemed to like feel the textures of food way more than other people. And like why 90% of the day, food will make me gag and physically shiver. I've never found anybody who also struggles with it in the way that it isn't an eating disorder, like I have certain foods that I love and would eat for every meal if I could. I just wanted to say that the way you explained it just really clicked with something in my brain and made that part of me feel incredibly validated, so thank you.
Just a few weeks ago the psychiatrist that prescribes me antidepressants mentioned how in his opinion that my anxiety and depression is very mild, and at the time I didn't understand why that irritated me. But the way you phrased your own experiences made me realize that it irritated me because even though I've never attempted to physically harm myself, depression is still something I have to actively push back against practically everyday, not to mention the constant struggle with worsening anxiety, so saying that what I'm dealing with is very mild while I'm expending this great amount of effort in combating it just immediately demoralized me.
i really dont think people understand what adhd does to your ability to have a healthy relationship with food. I remember as a kid eating tuna every single day for a month then i couldnt even look at it for 6 months lol
I had same thing with milk and cheese. I used to love those as a kid and now I just can’t stand them anymore. My mom thought yogurt drinks were the solution: now I hate those too. The only dairy products I can stand are yogurts that contain a lot of fat like greek yogurt, and softer cheeses like cream cheese, goat cheese and mozzarella. Also my relationship with butter improved a bit: I don’t gag anymore.
I didn't realize this was an adhd thing, my parents got mad at me for eating something excessively for months and then suddenly stop eating it, while we still had a lot left in the house in bulk
im ok with like tuna as in fillets i cant do caned tuna tho nope nope pass ( add ) it bugs me when i tell people im add there like oh you mean adhd im like nope just add atention deficit disorder with out the hyperactive some one once said being add is like having a radio on and it changes stations ever 3 mins
omg i feel you on the mild vs major depression stuff. like, i feel like there's a lot more to consider than just a yes or no answer to have you ever tried to "aliven't"
I had what you could call disordered eating as well. mine was due to heartburn and laziness though. In early high school I did have a problem with only eating one meal a day on purpose but eventually I no longer was trying to do so, It just kind of became all I could eat. I stopped feeling hungry and got a lil bit depressed, mostly eating liquid foods. when I got my wisdom teeth out, that's when everything went to hell, I could ONLY eat liquid foods for 3 months straight, and that changed my stomach acid drastically and made it near impossible for me to eat anything solid without feeling like the sun was burning my insides. It took a longggg time but eventually I got back into eating solids recently but still to this day my hunger rarely shows up, I have to REMEMBER to eat which is hard when im a full-time artist and a part time retail worker, I never have much time to myself to unwind and have a nom.
I'm autistic and have a lot of problems with sensory issue regarding food too. Although I know how bad it sucks and wish you didn't have to deal with it, it's nice to see someone with a platform talk about it, how it's not JUST being picky.
i have so many things to say that it’s hard to narrow down. but, i really genuinely appreciated this sit down chat. there’s so much i could relate to (being a person with sensory issues and being unable to eat most foods and then feeling guilty about making food time difficult for people around you, people who think they can tell you how much/little or mildly/severely suffer with an invisible illness, etc). just...thank you. 💜 (i seriously have so many more words, but not even sure you’ll see these ones, so i’ll stop for now)
God I relate so hard. About the eating issues and the alivent. I’m too afraid of pain and failure to try so they always said mild depression when in reality I wanted to be not alive literally every day. Its taken years and I’m only just getting listened to now. I also have my psych uk referral and I’m overwhelmed with the forms asking for specific examples 😅
Loved that video. Idk why but i think it just felt like a chat between two people or something. Anyways liked it :) also you dont have to defend your work. Probably most people here know you are working hard for your money
This is one of the most honest "ínvasive questions" vids I've seen on yt
I 100% agree
Sure...
Yes, he actually talked about the money he makes which most UA-camrs don't.
I do like how honest he is with everything
@@discoverBR not sure,, definitely!!!!
I thought "body count" was going to be how many people he's killed lol.
That’s not invasive though that’s just wanting to compare your skills
@@alexrussell4659 yeah 😂
What is body count btw
@@laskwkxkwkd how many people you’ve sexed
Ikr
“Fell” pregnant is such a weird term. Just, whoops! Tripped over and fell into being pregnant! 🤣
My guess is it is directly translated from French hahaha
“Doctor i swear i didn’t have sex, i just tripped and fell on a dick and here we are.”
@@meyu1468 this k*lled me 😂
It’s like how you can “fall ill” I guess. Not the usual way to talk about it but pretty funny if you don’t like the idea of being pregnant lol
@@meyu1468 ah dang, I fell on a dick again
“setting up a camera and a tripod is not part of our kissing routine” listen i don’t WANT to make the joke but…
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Another way to make money 🥴
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@@kellerm67000 it says translate to English goodbye
Noah: ABOR-
* condom advert *
Noah: -TION
Ye I was wondering if anyone had, had a condom ad aswell…
I had a Paypal ad... Thanks for the support, money lol
I had a google pixel ad
@@cryingeyebrows2773 so you could draw your own abortion, that's nice
i have youtube premium
I really admire him for trying to have a more animal cruelty free diet, but also for respecting his health as a priority and going back onto meat when he needed it. Go at your own pace and don’t feel embarrassed if you think you’re going ‘backwards’. Physical, emotional and mental health is a priority and you can always revisit vegetarian or vegan diets when your health has improved.
Holy shit- didn't think of this maybe I need to go back to meat for a bit
@@CityR28
Honestly if you feel like that’s best for you, you really should consider that your health is _always_ the priority! Good on you to try and think about animal cruelty because LORD is it an issue, but don’t ever forget that YOUR. HEALTH. COMES. FIRST!
“What’s your body count?”
Me: idk, lemme go down to the basement with a shovel and count ‘em
Ikr i thought it was like how many people he killed at first lmao
The part about only getting diagnosed as mildly depressed because you've never done THAT hit me hard. Like yeah, I haven't done that, yes I get out of bed every day and like do hobbies but that doesn't mean I'm moderately depressed??? Like just say I'm depressed instead of assigning a label based on how you perceive the severity of my depression.
I 100% agree
yess like i almost dropped out of high school because my anxiety was making it almost impossible to even function and they said i had “mild anxiety” like ???
@@user-hb2bw5hy7m I missed school so many times because I couldn’t get out of bed that the school nurse sent me to a therapist. But that’s mild depression/anxiety, right?
Look, it's just part of medical classification. It doesn't mean your condition isn't serious
Ideally you shouldn't even know such details because it's the information for your doctors (I mean the info about severity, you should know that you have depression) to work with. They classify depending on several different factors: if you're able to sleep, walk, eat, take care of yourself and your surroundings, socialize, etc not just if you had s attempts or not
As far as I know, people with depression classified as 'severe', are not eating, moving, taking baths. They are not talking, or sleeping, they just stare at one point on the wall for weeks and months, unable to do anything
That doesn't mean your condition shouldn't be treated or could be taken lightly, or that you don't suffer, it's just classification
Hope that clarifies this a bit
hey noah the disordered eating you are refering is called afrid (avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder) its very common among people with adhd and autsim. it is to do with textures smells and executive disfunction. i have it too, its techically classed as an eating disorder and u can get diagnosed with it, but theres not really anything they can do about it
Yes! I was looking for this comment :-)
wow I always heard this called like food rules but never knew there was a real medical name for it this is really helpful thank you. I have an anxiety disorder btw and this can also happen for people with that
Yes Noah need to see it ! Courage to all the people who have this disorder !
Omg thank you for this I just now learned it wasn't normal for the eating
I was about to comment this. I'm autistic and have this as well. It is also manageable if the other parts of your life that are stressful or overwhelming are reduced.
As someone who’s aroace in a relationship, the question “why r u guys dating if you don’t kiss” is so funny to me. I would rather just make breakfast for someone I love every morning, I hate kissing. I appreciate your opinion on pda
Wait doesn’t aroace mean not wanting to be in a romantic or sexual relationship? What kind of relationship is it then? Im not trying to be rude I’m just genuinely curious
@@evil_zebra4275 Aromantic and asexual are a spectrum, not every aroace person will have the same experience.
@@frascucco oh ok.
I'm ace and I always say "oh I would date her" or smth and my friends are like "id screw them" and I'm like "ew" and one friend of mine went "sex is the best part of a relationship" and I went "but cuddles.... But painting rocks.... But picking out clothes for each other...." I will never understand people who aren't ace
@@evil_zebra4275 this is a good question! I’m dating a totally allo person, so for them I’m just their regular old partner. But for me it falls much more within the Queer-platonic definition of a relationship, which is a relationship which bends the traditional rules of friendship, i.e. like marrying your best friend. I’m also sex-favorable, so from the outside it definitely looks more conventional, but I’m still fully aroace and don’t experience those feelings!
To anyone who needs to hear this: Nobody should be ashamed for not sleeping with anybody, or sleeping with people. I’m 21 and i just lost my virginity, and im not even in a relationship with that person, and there is nothing wrong with that 🖤
true but if your not intermet with your partner the relation ship will end up hurting one or the other unless both are ace then the one whos not ace will end up looking else where to fill their needs and you cant blame them btw sorry about my spelling im dyslexic
@@brendonrookes1151 I think it's about communication. If you express your desire to wait and they accept that but proceed to cheat to fulfil their needs... They are a poopy person. No one should push anyone into accepting something they don't want. Be it to have sexy times or to wait.
@@brendonrookes1151 thats a very poor thing we were raised to believe. i used to force myself to have sex with my partner because of what i was told growing up. ive since learned better. we have gone months without sex before, and neither of us felt compelled to cheat because we actually love and care for each other. if your partner cheats on you due to a lack of sex, then they dont respect or actually love you
Yeah
you’re absolutely right
When did “body count” stop meaning “murder victims?”
Ikr
honestly I always thought that's what it meant and I'm 15...
misogynistic incel men calling women wh0r3s and s*ts for simply existing and having sex
ikr, can we bring back the murder victims part, cuz that makes more sense -
@@devinaghose9318 it makes more sense because the amount of people you have sex with changes nothing about your body or worth, and the amount doesn't matter regardless. I think it's a valuable thing to say you know both meanings, but the amount of people you slept with are so looked down on by society i am almost certain this idea of body count was created by misogynistic men to check a woman's "worth" for himself /gen
Wow! I did not know that Noah had 2 bodies in his fridge. Fascinating!
Those are rookie numbers, you gotta amp them up!
My issue with “cancel culture” is that the people doing the cancelling don’t give people a chance to apologize or allow for personal growth. If someone said or did something, whether it was decades ago or more recently, and they want to make a genuine apology or make amends for it, they shouldn’t have their career ruined. They just don’t seem to have any sense of forgiveness.
Yes to all of this. I agree. Plus, (while I have no evidence for this claim/theory... In part because I am NOT the type of person to purposefully go looking for people's "problematic/cancel-worthy past") it feels like the people doing the cancelling are sitting on a kind of collective high horse/have a "holier than thou" attitude as if they have never done anything wrong in their lives and had always behaved in ways that is in accordance with the current understanding of what is/should be acceptable, well-informed behaviour without ever having needed to go through a learning process themselves. And that sort of attitude... Is just so disingenuous.
Additionally, they also don't seem to take into account that not everyone has the same background (socially, culturally) and the same opportunity and ability to access certain kinds of information.
So that overall I often get the feeling that some people involved in what is called cancel culture lack the ability to show forgiveness, as you've stated in your comment, and lack the ability to see nuance, possibly as a result of their "holier than thou"/high horse attitudes.
And that's just both sad and unfair.
It's because the people that do that don't care about forgiveness or people learning from their mistakes. They are just a pack of dogs going after people because it's the thing to do these days.
Agreed, also a lot of people will just follow the crowd and go with whatever someone said someone did. It takes away from critical thinking skills. while not supporting problematic creators and influencers can be important, it’s also important to look at the situation yourself and make your own fair judgment before cyberbullying some random person without all of the information first. (Not that cyberbullying is ever okay- but that isn’t the point)
@Mr. Perezident look at Shane Dawson lol (ik that is a rarer case but I feel like you made it seem like it’s never ever happened before, when it has)
Unless that particular person diddles children. If that's the case, we give em hell and hopefully a jail sentence
Yeah, that sexism shit is hard to deal with when guys first start talking "locker room talk" around us trans-men. I go to a clinic for something not trans related, and this dude who knew I'm trans "joked" about wanting to basically rap3 one of the counselors. I stayed silent and then ratted him out the next day. He got kicked out thank goodness.
As a trans woman, I HATE locker room talk. it is so bad. I had to deal with all of that, and since I am uncomfortable taking my shirt off in front of people, I got bullied a bit due to refusing to wear our gym uniform
and people like you are why cis men dont want trans men in there enviroments
@@brendonrookes1151 you're really enjoying baiting this comment section aren't you kid... Get a hobby?
brendon rookes - I’m not trans, and I’d do exactly the same thing, because that’s a fucked up thing to say or even think about doing. Fuck that guy.
@@brendonrookes1151 people who report rape jokes are why cis men don't want trans men in male spaces?
i normally can't sit through a video longer than 10 minutes and i always put videos on 1.5 speed, but i love the way and speed noah is talking. idk it doesn't make me lose interest and concentration that fast.
He talks at 1.5x speed anyway
Adhd? Because I’m usually the same way and it’s related to adhd. Besides, he has adhd himself, so he’s already a fast speaker
Same.
16:04 you're putting into words something I feel so much but couldn't explain! I'm afab nonbinary so I hate being in women's bathrooms, locker rooms etc. bc of the gender dysphoria but I miss when a random girl complements my outfit or asks me for a pad. it's just the feeling of solidarity and that we know we can depend on each other that's really special. recently tho i went to camp and was in the girl's cabin and I had a really cool experience where we were all helping each other pick outifts and doing each others hair before this fancy dinner. it was one of the first time ive done that since realizing i'm trans and what made it especially cool was that they all knew and respected my pronouns and they helped me style my binder with an open shirt 😭 ive never been in a situation like that and i was scared they would get weirded out but they were so nice. someone asked me what a binder means and when i explained they were like oh! i didn't know that was a thing, how cool. and then they were hyping me up and encouraging me to wear my binder like it was a tank top to the event like 💞
Can you talk more about being a guy in a room full of women? And how that influences what you say in terms of being able to relate? (Besides being respectful and mindful of course)
This is the only “answering questions I’ve been avoiding” type video I’ve seen that’s actually honest and not still dodging the question. It was really interesting thank you for sharing!
Jeezz I didn't expect him to talk about the amount of money he makes 👀
same! that's actually the first time i see a youtuber talking clearly about money, and it was very interesting
@@fernanda______ omg right i thought the same thing
"your not depressed bc you havent tried to...leave the planet-"
NASA rn: 😭🥀
@pedro_a_pedra oh gosh, hope ur ok
Noah, thank you for the trigger warning, people never put them and it sucks. It’s so easy to put a warning but they don’t. Thank you for giving us a trigger warning, I appreciate it so much.
It’s not part of the kissing “routine” 😂
😂
The thing about your age is so important because i don't think people realize just how little public awareness there was even just ten years ago. I'm a few years older than you and like you've said we've come a long way
My husband and our 3rd kid has sensory processing disorder and food is one of their biggest triggers. I haven't experienced it myself, but I've watched the impact it has had on my family
Yes, I totally agree with your answer to if corry and you kiss, and I also feel very uncomfortable when I see two people kissing so thanks
Today I finally accepted that I'm trans. I have watched your videos for nearly 5 years now and I couldn't quite admit to myself why I related to you on so many levels. Thank you for being part of my journey
congrats :D
Mannnn 15 year old me sounded really homophobic. Self hatred for me struggling with my own sexuality definitely made me lash out and I hate that I was like that and it’s something that I regret often.
Same
Same
I would say the subject of decriminalizing Drugs and legalizing abortions Are a bit similar. If you make them illegal people are still going to get them just in unsafe Ways
"What would you do if you ever fell pregnant"
"Abor-"
Cuts to Calvin Klein underwear commercial
"corry put a clock up" ~ this is why i wish i lived in the UK so i could go to one of his shows
I could listen to Noah talk forever
I love listening to people talk, especially when they are passionate or knowledgeable about the subject, even if I don't understand
You addressed the decriminalization/legalization of drugs so well!! Thank you!
I completely agree with you on the depression thing. I got scrued over by the NHS and am still battling as my doctor won't prescribe me meds to help with my depression. I have anxiety and depression, and some people say their anxiety makes them want to do it. My anxiety just makes me not do it, as I can't stop thinking about family and what would happen. I hate how my doctor only tells me that im mildly depressed, even though I struggle every single day.
@shifstar Yeah. I'm just trying to book another appointment, but there is a long waiting list as it is really busy. I've been with 2 doctors who 1 said to my mother it seems I'm faking for attention and another who only talked about the experience with that doctor, saying I should trust their judgement. Hopefully i get a better doctor next time.🤞
Depression meds make you feel worse not better 😂
@@hmmpink4840 maybe for you, but depression meds have different effects on everybody, especially when you are not talking about specific ones, I have adhd and autism and I took Adderall to help, it didn't help, it just made me depressed, but there are other people who also have adhd and autism that have a positive reaction from taking Adderall.
you and corry seem to have such a healthy relationship, it's so nice to see and even though i know neither of you personally, i feel like you both deserve that (everyone deserves that but y'know i'm just really happy for you both)
the food part is extremely relatable. i ate sandwiches everyday for a really long time, now i can’t eat that and only eat frozen pizzas for lunch. i genuinely eat like a toddler and i’m so embarrassed and uncomfortable about it
A Noah Finnce video always makes me feel better
Umm.. Sir? You- you didn't have to like it. It's an honor though. I don't think screaming at 3am is the best thing to do but I almost did. Then I realized the time. You help me be more comfortable being me and that makes me happy. Thank you.
NOAH PLEASE ADD ANOTHER LONDON DATE PLEASE I BEG YOU I NEED TO SEE YOU LIVE AS WELL AS BEARS IN TREES BUT ALSO YOU PLEASE NOAH I MISSED TICKETS BY LIKE 10 MINUTES
YES ME TOO
IM GOING TO THE LONDON DATE IM EXITED TO SEE YOUU
Lucky
I want to go so bad 😫😫😫
But I’m stuck in America
ayye that's so wonderful :))
good for you mate
@Rya Fitz oiiii nialler is the bestttt
i love how most youtubers are so secretive and avoid the question on how much they make on videos (understandable) but noah just shows us lol
“Corey put a clock up”
*pause*
“It’s making noises”
*wheezing noises from the other side of the screen*
It means a lot to hear you talk about being a "picky eater". I'm not diagnosed but I'm pretty much certain I'm neurodivergent and I have a lot of sensory issues with food. I could only eat a few things growing up and I thought it would get better with age but I'm a 20 year old adult now who still has an extremely limited diet. That plus me constantly forgetting to eat is not an easy thing to deal with so it was really cool to hear someone talk about it.
I’ve never heard anyone be able to put my relationship with food into words so accurately (and I’ve tried a lot).
people always make fun of me for the way I don’t eat a lot of things and only eat like one thing for months at a time but then hate it for pretty much the rest of my life but I’m so glad to hear somebody else is also like that cause I literally never met anybody who is, only a few who “grew out of it” or “just got used to the textures/scents/tastes”
Thank you for your words on decriminalization and legalizing drugs. I'm super passionate about it and makes me happy to hear others speak on it
ive never thought about how bad the sensory overload can get for people with adhd like its so eye opening to hear experiences like that
I love the way you warn your subscribers about trigger warnings so carefully is so sweet xxx
me: omg he's talking about portugal yey
noah: they had one of the biggest drug problems in europe
me: oooh.. *looks away*
Well he did say the drug issues got better 😂
Meanwhile there's me from Scotland, and I'm pretty sure we have the highest drug death rate in the world...
@@aceatlasska4343 in London we have stabby stick take it or leave it
Thank you for mentioning your disordered eating, I have ARFID (Avoidant restrictive food intake disorder) and not many people know or have heard about it, but loads of people have it without knowing and just live their lives feeling bad about it.
If anyone reading this has serious anxieties around eating foods cause of sensory issues (the smell, appearance, texture, etc) then you may be interested in looking it up
I’m really happy your videos demonstrate a very healthy and open mindset that can educate and enlighten the younger generation :)
Man, I'm so happy for you that you're parents were so supportive. I'm nearly fifteen and my parents, especially my mum, would always make jokes about me being a girl that wants to wear boys clothes and telling me that I'm ugly and that I should live with the fact I'm a girl and so on.
I really hate them for that and the countless other things they've did to me.
The Depression comment is actually pretty right, I’ve had depression and anxiety for about a year now and I *have* tried both of the self destructive behaviors , but I haven’t told anyone so it’s all been brushed off as “mild depression and anxiety” and my parents think I can just get over it.
I hope things have gotten better since this comment, I hope you're ok, I wish u the best 💙
I keep forgetting Noah’s like a year older than me… I’m scared
@I love frogs 21, 22 in November
He's only a couple months older than me 😓😓
Same for age, but why scared
He is 5 years younger then me. 🤫
How old is he?
Good on you for actually answering what were uncomfortable questions other people ask followers for "juicy" questions just so they can can click bait just to say none of your business lol. So well done dude 👏
It’s weird you spoke on “guy talk” when by themselves- it was those kinds of things that made me feel so much “not a guy” - because I did not think like them - yet as a transman raised as a woman you saw it simply as “wrong”
I really wasn't sure if my post made sense..as someone who transitioned from male to female - I hated hearing how men behaved around other men... it made me realize i was not like them... I am in the US and even where Noah is... same thing... but Noah does not doubt his masculinity simply because other men are inappropriate ...
@@Jasminestealth1 and this is way alot of cis guys are uncomftable with trans ppl in our safe places for guys theres not many places to be masculin with a society thats pro femininity and having some one that use to be a woman in there with a female pov can distort the vibe of the place btw im sure that you have a problem with woman talking about how big there boyfriends dicks are right coz if not then ur a hypercrit i work around woman alot being a male in a female safe place i see how they talk about men its same same
@@brendonrookes1151 my comment wasn’t an opinion of right or wrong- just not a natural way to think or behave for myself… I have spent time with all kinds of people who talked about things I don’t agree with… anytime people talk about sports teams - politics - but safe space conversion- I think reveal a more intimate way to be… and it just seemed so foreign…
@@Jasminestealth1 true i think when your in an intimate space the way you talk will change its kind of like how you wouldnt talk to ur grandma if you have one the same way you would if u were with ur mates but i also think its a positive that noah has been acepted as one of the guys being able to see behind the curtian so to speak thats a privledge guys tend to be more closed off to there feelings we often deliver our feelings throught jokes guys dont have the luxury of being vonrable its funny when woman say men are toxic yet every time iv had my sexuality questioned its been from a female
@@brendonrookes1151 Alot of generalizing there in your statement... its also interesting these ideas of "norms" - What it means to be a "guy" or behave like a "guy".. how much is natural... An incredible book to read is "Wild at Heart" - it is about there is something inherent in men that only a father and son can connect to...
so sad i can’t go hopefully you’ll be able to come to ireland maybe a venue in dublin i would love to come
Hello fellow dubliner
Yeah he should definitely go the other UK countries too, and Ireland
YES SAME MORE ARTISTS NEED TO COME TO IRELAND-
Everytime I am surprised by your intelligence and ability to reflect so honest and deeply.
When you talked about your sensory problems I've never related to something more
it actually made me so happy when you talked about sensory issues and food, I teared up a little. I have adhd and autism and I have always really struggled with food because I have such severe sensory issues - my whole life I got so much hate and judgement for being a "fussy eater" I hated myself so much for it, but how you described it as physical pain (not just food, all sensory issues) is honestly so accurate I wish neurotypical people would understand that sensory issues aren't just an over sensitivity or being easily irritable, it's literally being in so much pain, that in that moment you would rather die than continue being subject to that sensory experience
YAYAYA YOU POSTED! IK ITS GONNA BE THE BEST DAY EVER WHEN U POST OMG
Hey do you have any advice for a trans girl
@@ferretthegremlin hmm. well my boyfriend is a trans (ftm) and he struggles with dysphoria a lot so i may be able to help. if you want to be more feminine maybe try experimenting with makeup, or feminine clothing. whatever makes you feel good! and society can be harsh but don’t listen to what anyone says. do what makes YOU happy! remember that there will always be people who support you! ik i’m a random person but i support you and i can imagine you are a beautiful woman! i hope this helps even a little bit
@@brooklynn3914 thanks
If I haven't expressed how much your answers to personal questions are fantastic-well they pretty much are and your honesty makes them all the more appreciative.
I really appreciate you making this video. these questions are extremely difficult to answer and the fact that you tackled them on the internet is very commendable. as someone who is non-binary and living in a homophobic, transphobic environment, I really value my education on these topics. it can be very difficult to not waver to their toxic thinking. you're videos really help crush the internalised transphobia they create in me. and for that, I am very grateful. thank you Noah! 💛
The whole section about eating issues is SO SIMILAR to my experience as autistic/adhd. Even being sad at friends houses having to eat their stuff.
ugh i wished i lived in the uk i cant go😭 hopefully you tour in america someday
Hey Noah.I’m a big 75yo Brazilian fan of yours.And you continue to surprising me with your intelligence and experience.You’re an example for this young generation who follows you.My love and respect from Brazil.
Noah: seriousness talkingness
Me: f l o o f y h a i r
I choked on my spit so hard when he answered Abortion!!!! gosh I love you Noah
tbh i do still feel a lil bitter about not being allowed to be myself til a year ago (i was 18) but i think its bcus i was so vocal abt being a boy & i legit 'came out' with the proper language (said im trans) several times from the ages of 12-17 so its like if they had listened or even just let me cut my hair & wear the clothes i wanted as a kid then yeah but they didnt & they r accepting now so i try so hard not to feel this way bcus i know its more society than them u know but yeah i need to work on not looking back to the past when it cant be changed
i really appreciate the trigger warnings, like a lot of times i'll click on videos and be hit in the face with topics that make me uncomfy. i loved the video too, it was so honest
“insecurity clouding ur judgement” is gonna live in my mind every day until i die
At around 5 minutes is so pertinent. As a gay cis male, the way my straight male friends talked about women was quite disgusting and shocking too. Because I was still closeted at the time I guess they felt it acceptable to talk about them this way (them thinking I was one of the 'straight' lads). Its amazing the things men say around each other to other men...
You guys should hire two actors to do a dramatic reenactment of you and corry kissing.
PLZ 💀
no, he’s obviously uncomfortable doing it so why even bother bringing it up for ur own amusement
I didn't bring it up, he talked about it in the video. The video you literally just watched and commented on.
I'm in my mid-30s so a good portion of my generation missed out on internet communities because they weren't nerds like me, so on behalf of the internet elders I just want to say thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience because the world can definitely use more people like you
We need more amazing people like Noah in the world. Period
as someone with arfid i really appreciate you talking openly about your sensory issues related to food and i'd love it if you made a whole video about it :)
100% agree with you on the sexist part, i still find it extremely upsetting how cis guys will talk about women when they're "alone" but it doesn't bother me anymore to just point out how ridiculous they sound. surprisingly many will admit they don't mean it sooo
Oh, honey. I was in the house with someone who alivent’d too. It has broken me and I’m so sorry that you had to experience it as a CHILD. I was a whole 20something and it still destroyed me. I’m so sorry but I’m so glad you’re here and looking like you have a great life.
noah i had a dream that u came out as a huge stoner
stop this is so funny
HAHAHA
AHAHA 🤣
Ok, I've always wondered why I always seemed to like feel the textures of food way more than other people. And like why 90% of the day, food will make me gag and physically shiver. I've never found anybody who also struggles with it in the way that it isn't an eating disorder, like I have certain foods that I love and would eat for every meal if I could. I just wanted to say that the way you explained it just really clicked with something in my brain and made that part of me feel incredibly validated, so thank you.
Just a few weeks ago the psychiatrist that prescribes me antidepressants mentioned how in his opinion that my anxiety and depression is very mild, and at the time I didn't understand why that irritated me. But the way you phrased your own experiences made me realize that it irritated me because even though I've never attempted to physically harm myself, depression is still something I have to actively push back against practically everyday, not to mention the constant struggle with worsening anxiety, so saying that what I'm dealing with is very mild while I'm expending this great amount of effort in combating it just immediately demoralized me.
he is being so honest!!!!!
😚for some reason.
Great video!!
Noah is always informative entertaining and charming!
Noah is my favorite person on UA-cam!!!
Noah you are amazing. You described difficulties of your job and managed to show respect and not underestimate other jobs. Love you ❤️
i really dont think people understand what adhd does to your ability to have a healthy relationship with food. I remember as a kid eating tuna every single day for a month then i couldnt even look at it for 6 months lol
I had same thing with milk and cheese. I used to love those as a kid and now I just can’t stand them anymore. My mom thought yogurt drinks were the solution: now I hate those too. The only dairy products I can stand are yogurts that contain a lot of fat like greek yogurt, and softer cheeses like cream cheese, goat cheese and mozzarella. Also my relationship with butter improved a bit: I don’t gag anymore.
I didn't realize this was an adhd thing, my parents got mad at me for eating something excessively for months and then suddenly stop eating it, while we still had a lot left in the house in bulk
im ok with like tuna as in fillets i cant do caned tuna tho nope nope pass ( add ) it bugs me when i tell people im add there like oh you mean adhd im like nope just add atention deficit disorder with out the hyperactive some one once said being add is like having a radio on and it changes stations ever 3 mins
Exactly, and then your family doesn’t understand they get mad that it goes bad but you just can’t even look at it anymore.
You are one of the most real and honest people on the internet.
I live in Alabama, that basically speaks for itself how phobic were I live
omg i feel you on the mild vs major depression stuff. like, i feel like there's a lot more to consider than just a yes or no answer to have you ever tried to "aliven't"
so if revenue goes up in december, that's probably why so many people do "vlogmas" hey?
I love how open you can be with the audience it just makes it feel so natural 🥰
Wow u rly straight up answered every question, nice one mate
Wow Noah is the most open honest person I've literally ever seen online
i feel that way too
I had what you could call disordered eating as well. mine was due to heartburn and laziness though. In early high school I did have a problem with only eating one meal a day on purpose but eventually I no longer was trying to do so, It just kind of became all I could eat. I stopped feeling hungry and got a lil bit depressed, mostly eating liquid foods. when I got my wisdom teeth out, that's when everything went to hell, I could ONLY eat liquid foods for 3 months straight, and that changed my stomach acid drastically and made it near impossible for me to eat anything solid without feeling like the sun was burning my insides. It took a longggg time but eventually I got back into eating solids recently but still to this day my hunger rarely shows up, I have to REMEMBER to eat which is hard when im a full-time artist and a part time retail worker, I never have much time to myself to unwind and have a nom.
I love your vibe like it’s so fun and bubbly it just makes me smile
YOURE MY ROLE MODEL AND MY WORLD
I love that you are so educated and well spoken about decriminalization of substances! ❤️
Seeing you in Bristol, can’t wait. Will you be selling merch there?
yes! see u there!
I'm autistic and have a lot of problems with sensory issue regarding food too. Although I know how bad it sucks and wish you didn't have to deal with it, it's nice to see someone with a platform talk about it, how it's not JUST being picky.
Congrats on your shows selling out so quick!!
i have so many things to say that it’s hard to narrow down. but, i really genuinely appreciated this sit down chat. there’s so much i could relate to (being a person with sensory issues and being unable to eat most foods and then feeling guilty about making food time difficult for people around you, people who think they can tell you how much/little or mildly/severely suffer with an invisible illness, etc). just...thank you. 💜 (i seriously have so many more words, but not even sure you’ll see these ones, so i’ll stop for now)
God I relate so hard. About the eating issues and the alivent. I’m too afraid of pain and failure to try so they always said mild depression when in reality I wanted to be not alive literally every day. Its taken years and I’m only just getting listened to now. I also have my psych uk referral and I’m overwhelmed with the forms asking for specific examples 😅
Loved that video. Idk why but i think it just felt like a chat between two people or something. Anyways liked it :) also you dont have to defend your work. Probably most people here know you are working hard for your money