Full Episode: 8 Ways People Are Dating In 2021
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- Опубліковано 6 жов 2021
- Season 4: Episode 5
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8 "New" Dating Trends You Should Know 💔 8 At The Table
In This Episode We Discuss The 8 New Dating Trends You Need To Know:
HERE THEY ARE ⬆️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️
1. THE DATING TREND: SCROOGING
What it is: Dumping someone at Christmas. This, allegedly, is a cruel thing to do because it ‘ruins Christmas’.
What it used to be called: Being sensible.
How it used to happen: You’d approach Christmas and think, “Should I splash £100 on this person I want to break up with? Should I spend half my jolly holidays wondering when and how to ditch them? Should I forsake the chance of a New Year’s Eve bunk-up because it might make their turkey taste sour?” And you’d probably conclude: no, I shouldn’t. Also, if you’re going to get dumped, wouldn’t you rather it was followed by some time off work, surrounded by family, friends and sherry?
2. THE DATING TREND: VULTURING
What it is: Hovering on the edges of a dying relationship, hoping for scraps when it all goes tits up.
What it used to be called: On the rebound/Sloppy seconds.
How it used to happen: Again, very similar, just on a more local level - social media makes it a lot easier to scan crippled relationships on a national or even international level, before digitally swooping with a commiserate DM. What hasn’t changed is the stench of desperation emanating from anyone who indulges in this practice. Actual vultures would be ashamed.
3. THE DATING TREND: KITTENFISHING
What it is: Pretending to be someone you’re not on a date. Like catfishing, but in the flesh.
What it used to be called: Dating.
How it used to happen: You’d turn up to a date and pretend to be someone you’re not. We’re not talking fake passports and accents here, we’re talking about pretending to be more confident, exaggerating what we do at work, adding one or two countries or films to those we’ve actually visited or seen. Sometimes giving yourself a cool nickname that nobody has ever called you. Only a sociopath or religious zealot is their true self on a first date.
4. THE DATING TREND: BREADCRUMBING
What it is: This is the apparently annoying habit of people (mainly men) not immediately and comprehensively telling the other person how much they like them, and instead offering titbit compliments.
What it used to be called: Playing it cool.
How it used to happen: Treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen, goes the phrase that you rarely see on motivational tea towels. The more balanced version is that taking your time over a relationship and not declaring your undying love with fewer than 100 hours of contact time in the bank, is a sensible way to approach a relationship. Anyone who has worn his heart on his sleeve, only for that sleeve to be doused in petrol and introduced to a match, or for the cold light of normal hormonal levels to require a quick de-sleeving of said heart, could only agree.
5. THE DATING TREND: OUTSOURCING
What it is: People getting their friends to take control of their dating apps and profiles because either they think their friends will be wittier and make better decisions, or because they’re lazy.
What it used to be called: Getting your mate to tell their mate that you fancy them.
How it used to happen: It’s a humiliation cushion. Your mate tells their mate, their mate tells them, they pretend to puke in their mouth and laugh, their mate tells you that they’re not interested, you fake ignorance of the whole tragic series of events, nobody believes you.
6. THE DATING TREND: COOKIE-JARRING
What it is: While you date someone, you maintain contact with potential alternatives/fall-back options.
What it used to be called: Hedging your bets.
How it used to happen: Not only was this prevalent, it was a lot easier. No social media upon which to post photos of a suspiciously friendly encounter with an ‘other’. No way for the ‘other’ to know for sure that you’re dating someone else. Expensive texts messages making a slip of the thumb were far less likely.
7. THE DATING TREND: CUSHIONING
What it is: Breaking up with someone in a nice way. This is apparently a trend. Ok.
What it used to be called: Being kind (and probably lying).
How it used to happen: An emotional but mature conversation in which the dumper would explain to the dumpee the reasons for the dumping, and hope that, once things had healed, they could remember why they once loved each other and use this as the foundation of a lifelong friendship. There might be some resistance, some attempt to persuade the dumper onto a different course, but it would all be very civilised. Either that or the dumper would say, “It’s not you, it’s me,” thinking that anyone would actually buy that line.
8. THE DATING TREND: TALKING
What it is: According to the Huffington Post, it is “texting between two people who have a clear interest in one another in some romantic or sexual way, but who aren’t ready to make anything official”.
This is sad. Sexual promiscuity has literally ruined the meaning of relationship.
The end of this conversation just reaffirmed the fact that we don’t know how to treat people at all, and it’s a sad reality
All this sounds like playing games and with people emotion’s and not for grown mature people
That’s why I said they gon look up n they 40-50 talkin bout where the men
Initially, yes, but can you not reflect on your own personal experience and see how this played out? The next question is why?
Exactly!
This is depressing....I'm an older millennial looking for love and this is the norm?? No one is looking for serious commitment....I'm doomed.
Me too
@@bobbym1799 Stay prayed up...cuz these dating streets are mean
Find another millennial. I think we might be the last traditional generation. Somewhat.
It's why I'm still solo.
Millennial in here acting like they ain’t the ones who set the pace for all of this bullshit. “Traditional Generation” LMAO there hasn’t been one of those since before the 70s
Wow. Danny looks absolutely flawless here. Beautiful. But I hate how dating has become so damn complicated…
It's not when u know what u want
This is my favorite episode and guest… Olou, thank you for stating your position and standing on it… I feel the same way and no I’m not damaged or just haven’t met the right person… I don’t want what y’all want… it’s not good or bad it’s just different…. Stop trying to talk ppl out of what they want because it’s different than your wants 🙄
Modern Morality… Nothing serious… contemporary fulfillment…
This is the New World/Satan's World
I was just wondering when Miss Tee would be back! I really like her vibe☺️❣️
I feel old listening to this and I'm only 31, like who comes up with these terms/type of dating ?
I’m 25 and this conversation makes me feel old lmao
I'm 24 and I feel out of touch. The dating pool is a cess pool.
@@yisraelslioness4224 it’s crazy cuz I’m the same age and they way older than us and it’s like we have more sense 😂😂
@@JL-et2nh lol and then they talk about our generation being immature 🙄. Like ma'am who is doing all this high school shit. There is no way you could be having a productive life and advancing with all the time to play games.
I just wanted to commend the 20-sometings in this thread for exhibiting some sense. We slightly older folk support you and hope you never associate with these type of damaged children.
Speakng racially we see why the black community is crumbling and all other groups are thriving. We've destroyed what Marriage, Love and family means.
At the same time Huffpost claims there is no such thing as the absent father in the black household..
@@deeznutz8320 People are drugged out to believe that. Evidence in the community shows it daily. Now if they'd said not living there that would've made more sense. 72% isn't a made up number.
The decay In modern relationships is becoming more evident. How most women behaves in relationships depends on how much money they have, because most women love opportunistically
Why ppl think this is new? It has always been this way...as a man in the dating game you have to be able to separate those vultures from the real ones. If you can't do that...you're lost.
@@manoftomorrow5987 that's a mf fact. Gotta know the game
They love the way I move
Aye Rico Dat Bait Hook Bar Was Fie. Real Playa Typa Shit 💯💯
Loved the episode
Rico actually had very valid points! And Dannnnyyyy it’s always her for me!
Yea I hate that closure ish too. Nah, if I ain't feeling you ..bye . And if you ain't feeling me bye . I don't need no damn closure cause if you don't want me, that's enough for me not to want you any more
Some people still wait and waste time, thinking folks will change. Thats how must end up bitter. Then that curse trickles down.
💯 Dayz Of Summa My G🙏🏾
Dannie kept it 100, I too have done/doing the same thing!
Omg closure is where it is at! Once you really get it, the importance is understood
This was a great conversation
I would never want to even converse with someone that had the mind frame of OLU. Like what are we doing here? Who has that kind of time that they want to just waste it? That’s setting yourself up to fail messing with him and not going anywhere in the future.
I think he lying he not fucking these girls telling them the truth he lying
@@bobbym1799 I can only see him getting some if he has money or have a bunch of 4O5s because he isn’t even attractive 🥴 in my opinion. I don’t even think he is getting that much 🐱.
We waste alot of time in relationships anyway.... these days 10 year relationships will be unicorns because it is built on no foundation... majority of the time its money and clout for social media... it's not real... I understand why he doesn't want to deal with the emotional rollercoasters when he can manually cut that part out.... he is the orgasmm king so he doesn't need money or looks... most girls have a good looking dude for IG, a sugar daddy (behind the scenes) for money, and a Tyrone (Olu's Role) for diiiicckk. I know alot of girls in real relationships that approach me specifically for d*
Women can’t handle the truth
I agree no one should be responsible for someone's emotions
I didn’t even know the different categories I only heard of one but experienced different categories not even knowing
It’s very idealistic to say you don’t want to be responsible for anyone else’s emotions while you still smashin them but the only way to insure that is to not get involved at all. Once you cross that line with someone, you may not want to responsible for it but you can’t control it and now you have recklessly invited it into your life.
Every grownup is responsible for his/her own emotions period. Everybody gets hurt at some point in Life. Deal with it and move forward.
@@Meetoss76 💯 it’s true. That’s still doesn’t mean their emotions won’t interfere with your orbit
@@Meetoss76 interestingly enough I wasn’t even talking heartbreak at all
Okay olu😍😋....I'm your Nigerian dream😇😂
This was good 👍
I just don’t like when a dude doesn’t want anything serious and I start playing my part doing what I like/want and they start acting lowkey jealous or start trying to get me attached.You’re mad because I’m keeping it playa .You want one sided emotional attachment.You want me as a woman attached while you’re detached .A ego game .Go seek help.
I love full episodes
Another great episode. The honesty and transparency in these episodes are what makes it unique. Everyone is authentic and there is no judging.
It had to be great ain’t it Casanova!?
She put the definition in Kitten fishing showing that fruit on your.
LmMFao. 🤪😅😅
Great video. Amazingly well balanced despite only 2 guys representing for the other side. Tho it does defeat the purpose if your guest doesn't get to speak that much.
Rico plays a lot of games. I never did that Scrooging, outsourcing, or vulturing. Nice guys do vulturing, that's why real ones give most guys in the friend zone the side eye. Scrooging makes a lot of sense. It's playing the game at a higher level. Personally, I just disappear then reappear later. But scrooging sounds a lot smoother. Outsourcing doesn't make sense in most cases. If you aren't rich or have a ton of game, it seems like a fools errand. You gon bomb more than you will be successful. I don't recommend it.
Yo those women really hate Rico for being honest. It's extra hilarious. And some surprising honesty came from Chrissy. And also proof that cookie jarring is the way to go. And you don't need money to do the cookie jar thing. But it makes everything much much easier if you know what your doing and vet your partners well.
The rest of the topics are things most people do. Women more so than men.
Btw Danny wasn't wyling this time. Does she have a situation that's making her move different? It was an entertaining episode all the same, even if it was the Rico and friends episode.
Y'all gon need some better topics if you want to expand your channel. If y'all weren't doing it already, source questions from your fans. That promotes fan engagement and gives you an endless amount of topics to talk about. And if y'all already are doing that, hopefully the next batch of questions provide you with more interesting topics.
Olu is the G!!!
This week much easier to listen to
Last week was hard with the hard core energy from the host… felt like fighting/arguing
talking over each other
Dani got a lil work done
Hygiene and cash flow definitely plays a big role
This just seems toxic. Basically grown adults with communication, emotional, and self-esteem problems projecting themselves to be confident and self-assured. 1 good thing about Olu is at least he’s owning his & communicating where he stands with the people he’s dealing with
I lit LOVE danny 😂
I. So confused cuz I just benge watched a few of these and the same lady that said she rather be with a rich cheater than a broke faithful guy just admitted she was waiting around to be a guy's gf who didn't have money.
OlU just open box and the women start telling on themselves. Rico finishing the contracts that OLU just shutdown.
Olu seems to be on that solo polyamory. I feel him on that.
It's too many terms. Lol!
Why bring Olu on and have no input from him. Rico and Danny are so over powering… I’m only 27 and this was cringe frfr. Tee needs to be the lead because she speaks with the most wisdom. Hope to see this channel grow and bring on more people like TEE
Rico is a beast 💪😤👌
Per Amanda's point (around the 13 minute mark) asking "what are we doing if we're spending all this quality time but you aren't emotionally invested?" - that's similar to how men feel who've been Friendzoned. For women, the emotional connection is the entire point of spending alot of time with someone and it seems like women get offended when a man doesn't connect emotionally after all that. Just like how men get mad after they've pit in work, effort and money and things haven't advanced physically after a while.
Someday the cookie is going to be moldy or the the milk is going to go sour
Good morning text from women is there way showing they like you. Really indirect approach
24:17 single friends keep you single. also , outsources is what you use to do for fear of rejection.
This shit had me crying 😂
I think women should stop playing all these games because they are losing a women would let her dream guy walk right buy her and she won't say a damn word so stupid then 10 guys she don't like hit on her and because she's bored or lonely she will give one of them a chance and it will end up messed up 9 out of 10 times ladys get off your ass and go get the man you want period
Nah
I got a thing for Amanda!!!
She is fine and articulate
She's elegant and poised 🙂
She's different in so many ways
Makin me feel some type of way lol
I love her fine aasssss.... Her and Erin is 🔥🔥😍
Ask Danny about her being out on a BDay date and her inviting her ex boyfriend with her current boyfriend at the time and her getting her gifts taken and her being dumped on the spot!!!
👀👀👀👀 How you know?
Mind your business. Dont matter 🙄
@@KellW2012 mind yours 🤡
Oh damn hahahahah if true she deserved
Men say they don’t have emotional attachments with sex all the time and all the time they get attached.. it just means not all sexual encounters are emotionally based.
I love Tee. So wise
Shoutout to Chrissy!
Remember when you dated to marry?
And married for love?
Not for 'tha bag'
First!!
About to be single for the rest of my life…😢
Why is it considered control....why can't it be just a choice???
The more you listen to these females lol they will tell on they self
I never knew there were so many names for the behaviors of dating. Isn't this all behaviors?
Seriously. I've never heard none of these names for dating in my life. I think they just made most of these names up in my opinion.
@@KingJordan355 haha rite? I mean, the ones that I've heard of were not even part of their list! I've heard of ghosting. I've heard of catphishing. That's about it! And even those are behaviors people do when dating. It's like people gotta be so nitpicky these days. Just call a spade a spade. It is what it is. 🤷🏽♀️
Your going off the script he told you what it is but you want to draw up a new contract-Rico 🙏🏿
If you're waiting for the guy to say all the girl things you want 1st, Satin might be buying skies 1st.
They don't know a real relationship is. They like playing games.
Tee said, "you must be that dude." and didn't Rico bitched up. I was expecting him to be like most definitely you better ask about me. No, he tried to convince her that he's that dude. When you a boss you don't have to convince nobody everybody already know.
She said that like she was "that girl"... do she see what I see?
Does anyone else think Rico & Amanda have thing for eachother? Lol its so cute
Yes!!!!! I’ve thought about that before & especially now when she said “can we cut the cameras”
🤔💭 the ladies reveal that they (women) want a man to carry there engineer baggage.
Smart man
Everybody just needs grow up son y’all getting to old to play these games gon look up n u 45-50 talkin bout where the men at yall on a biological clock get to work
Everything is a joke to them sadddd
South Of Da Rock 815 Danny My Type Gurl I Like You. Amanda Fine Asf I Like How She Talk
Nooooo
Imagine if people were just honest...
Also, you guys wasted a great guest by doing 99% of the talking between yourselves.
So true not sure why honesty is so hard.
I’m hearing judgement on how buddy moving … it’s his life .. can’t change his mind or point of view ..
Why two out three women who do how Ulo does make that ohh face...
Men don’t know how to play their role without ego women don’t know how to play their role without emotions
Hmm 🤔💭 Modern women aren't serious huh. They're just playing the "Dating Game". Tell me More
I had to watch to understand, this is the dumbest sounding ish ever. This is about control and manipulation.
@19:29 oh she talking bout me 😅 I got all the jewelry and a really nice car always got a few bands on me too.. but I have roommates lol. I only make about 25$ an hour but all my bills are only about 600$ total a mnth so I have a surplus of spend able cash I'm using to build Capitol and one day get into real-estate when my credit is where I want it.. but in the mean time I guess I'm cappin fishing.. but its not my fault yall gold diggers ain't good at digging.. I thought yall liked me for my pretty smile not cuz u though I was rich
😆😅 love the honesty
How old is that guy cause when he is 50 he will be broken and no cookie is going to be interested cause they want a gourmet meal not a stale cookie
The big lady (I think her name is Tee).... no offense... I think she makes her relationships harder than it needs to be.... I'm 32 years old and i cant stand when grown women still play teenage games.... Looking at her she could really trick me into believing she is a mature and experienced woman.... she seems clueless and extremely picky about petty things.... not to be rude but she is not in that position overall to act the way she does.... I know a hairdresser who acts exactlyyyyyyyyyy like her.... she doesn't try to date in her lane.... she looking for the big fish and trying to lock in a guy out her league (something that isn't going to happen).... just because he smashes doesn't mean he likes u or wants a relationship. They have the nerve to look down on a regular dude as if they are superior. Smh
Well as 34 year old man getting back in the dating market. I like this show and thought i could learn something. Definitely am exposed to new age thinking wow. Growing up it wasnt this hard lol ....im kinda glad i grew up without technology and social media even though it has its benefits.. It was. Easier...i like a girl..go talk to her..call her later..go on some fun dates..hit the bedroom lol she tell me she like me..i like her..then thats was it. All this pretending..ghosting. Cookie crumbling.. Is too much
😂😂😂
Sounds like a lot of fear and not enough love and empathy
When they get older they are going all wash up nobody going to want them.
No wonder these men act like this…a lot of these women seem desperate.
Chrissy a liar. She fall in line and agree with whatever Rico says
Lol🤣🤣🤣🤦♂️... it does look like that.... but I honestly feel she is telling the truth... her stories sound real and detailed. I doubt she is lyyinn
@@AppliedPressure493" the nieve person believes every word"- the bible
@@pmb7927 cool. Not that invested into making a pointless determination. I'm sorry you care that much.
36:04 He must be attractive. If he was average looking or ugly, She'd be gone.
Rico looks so drunk omggggg😭😭😭
No he dont.... u buggin
22:05 Men can't be themselves. If we are , it's why they're lonely souls.
Rico asks so feminine
JESUS IS COMING SOON
OLU toxic AF
How can someone be your person but your not responsible for there feelings?
Remember they not his person he basically just got fuck buddies he playing with. I honestly think he lying
U cant be that slow.... even a kid understood what he meant
That's not skill
I'm really trying make this a race thing but you can see here why our community is failing in everything. Leading in failed relationships. Othere races (white, Indian, latina ect.) Follow for a little bit but realize this ish stupid.
Shout out to my Aquarius queens we do like sex especially when it's good.
This shit is so stupid
The talking shit is literally the only one I've ever heard of. Wtf this shkt is entirely too complicated. Too many games for me
There so fine 😍😍😍😍😍
Low self esteem. What's wrong with this picture. Selling yourself short so sad.
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Smh… Danny is mad annoying.