Full Episode:What Does Toxic Love & Behavior Mean?
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2021
- 8 Signs You're Too Toxic For LOVE
Season 4: Episode 7
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A Woman Had 8 Failed Relationships That Went On The Marriage After Her. After 8 Failed Relationships The Woman Realizes That It May Be Her.
8 signs you're the problem in your relationship
You're hot-headed. ...
You think your partner is inferior to you. ...
You avoid conflict. ...
You're obsessed with social media. ...
You don't take responsibility for your actions. ...
You have friends whispering in your ear. ...
You prioritize your own needs/wants first.
You want him to make you a better person.
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Can A Person Be Too Toxic For A Relationship? What Is A Toxic Relationship?
A toxic person is anyone whose behavior adds negativity and upset to your life. Many times, people who are toxic are dealing with their own stresses and traumas. ... You always have to defend yourself to this person. You never feel fully comfortable around them. You continually feel bad about yourself in their presence
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S/O to Danny for being vulnerable. Girl, there are thousands of people that need to hear someone like you voice their struggles. That took a lot of courage and humility.
😂😂 the way Danny rolled her eyes after Oliver said, "we are in this together".
CAME.HERE.to.say.this. 👏🏽… s/o to Danny….everyone KEPT it real AF in this episode
lots of folks need theropy
@@switzjon8405 exactly i was waiting for them to suggest that
Kudos to Danny for being vulnerable, she should see a therapist!
its simple, social media give Danny MORE access to guys who loved her style... When she was young the guys were immature and she was affected by the rejections.
Oliver made valid points. Even “alpha” males can be passive aggressive when it comes to expressing their romantic feelings because it can make them appear/feel vulnerable (weak)
Exactly, many times people don't operate the same way in ALL aspects of their lives.
This is my first time in 16 years being single (going on 4 months)…my toxic trait was not knowing how to heal and be by myself! Very codependent on relationships to feel valid. However , because i vibrating low , i was attracting other low vibrations. I’m single & healing! I’ll jump back out when i finish the work that needs to be had on self! Great topic
That's good you identified it. Time to work towards interdependency to create a symbiosis in your future relationships. Where you are you and you both can depend on each other....where you yourself are not purely just a giver or just a taker(enabler) in the situation. Remember everybody needs to be able to depend on someone else especially the person you lay with. Don't go from codependency to extreme independence (I don't need a man for nothing) mindset. Good luck and God bless
I’m 33 & Just NOW Learning This! I’ve Finally Taken A Step Back & Said: ‘There’s Something I’m Just NOT Getting Or Acknowledging When It Comes To Understanding Me…I’ve Completely Taken ‘’Dating & Sex’’ Off The Table Until I Learn Me!!! It Hurts Because I’ve Always Equated Sex To Love But I Now Know That It’s Not The Same Thing. 🙏🏾💯 I Hope This Makes Sense. 😩🤦🏾♀️
@@LowercaseKev But that's hard. I believe I have Extreme independence, but it's a shield of protection.
Rico was spot on. A lot of women stuck in their ways and refuse to listen and spot on with friends keeping friends single.
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This was a really good conversation and I love that Rico was talking to Danny in such a friendly and brotherly way. And how the whole set supported Danny on her journey to self healing.
The beginning I agree with Oliver about a safe place. A man can feel a way about their significant other and want to voice an opinion with the best intentions in mind, but a woman might get offended and it lead to an argument. The whole point of a healthy relationship is both being open and able to talk about anything without anyone getting hurt or feel attacked knowing it’s not to hurt one another.
I definitely agree with you! But certain things shouldn't be said if you know your partner feels a certain way about something
It's abusive to foster an environment where anyone, including a man, doesnt feel comfortable being honest and voicing their opinions. Women, whether unintentionally or purposefully, more often use the threat of emotional turmoil, arguments, or shame to stifle communication, while simultaneously bemoaning men's lack of emotional availability.
Very much agreed & how it should be & I'd love to be able to as I've often tried but finally realized I was in A Relationship with a Fuckn Narcissist & in such case there is no point as I've learned thru my research they are just demons out to destroy you after the love bombing stage and their claws are in it's a wrap as mine has definitely destroyed me Mentally, emotionally, financially, verbally etc. All the toxic points u made is him and dnt take accountability for shit damn man I use to be so strong independent and sure of myself smh i am now planning my exit
I’m definitely at the point where I’m self reflecting and doing shadow work to increase the chances of my next relationship being successful. I think when you get to the point that you are truly ready to take a relationship serious you get out of the habit of blaming the other person.
Danny needs to go on a self love journey because she is worthy of love. You have to learn to love self first. Rico was on point with everything! You can tell he has put in the work to grow to be a better man. I agree that a person has to WANT to grow and change.
This conversation was so necessary on so many levels. This si probably the best episode ever. The growth in Rico and Jordy is astounding and the vulnerability of Dani is mind blowing.
“I have so much love to give. I just don’t want to give it to the wrong people” I like Danny. Everybody has issues. She just doesn’t try to hide hers or say the “perfect” answer
Erin Literally answered Rico’s question.
Rico: “ I know I have a problem..what’s next?”
Erin: “ go to a therapist, address the root of the issue…etc”
There can only be a “what’s next” if that individual WANTS change. Erin literally said it at the beginning of her statement.
It really does start with self reflection and checking/correcting your "undesirable behaviors". You also have to understand why you're "choosing" the same type of people to be in a relationship with. You seriously need to know who you are & what you want.
What kills me the most people act like relationship is calculus & chemistry! It’s just like a job. You hire the best candidate from that position by checking their background vs their resume interviewing & then how they perform on the job. If you don’t be consistently within the boundaries of the job. You get terminated! If you don’t follow the guidelines. You get terminated. Jobs don’t accept toxic behavior. You want have a job if you don’t accept the accountable of your mistakes & the responsibilities of the job.
Rico told Oliver not to generalize men but then seconds later he said "women don't listen" He was called out on the generalizations then he said he doesn't care, okay
And the craziest thing he said “women” as if all women the same everyone have their own ways of loving and seek for different thing in a relationship
he talks about his group of friends as if every man is like that
Man proceeds to explain that women don’t listen while being interrupted by a woman who can’t listen 🤣😂
I was curious to see who notice the interruption.
I wonder why this comment doesn't have more likes 🙄. I'm glad you said it
I swear Rico just be saying words to say words. “My age group and my age bracket” WHAT?!
Danni from one Aquarius to another you need to seek therapy.
Dump all those men you sleeping with because it to many spirits running through you.
Take Rico's last advice.
Facts!
it's too late, she's a CC rider, and those feelings will never go away. She will always lust after another man searching for the next sexual high.
Danny girl I’ve been through it too from being bullied about my nose since a little girl. It has affected everything in my life from my self esteem , to relationships ( not feeling pretty enough) and being treated like I’m not valuable. Being used for intimacy only from most men( especially the ones I liked) that I turned into a savage! Now that I’m in my mid 30s I want to settle down and change but I too don’t trust but I’m working on it girl u not alone. I understand you soo much more now. Your beautiful just seek help the rest will fall in line! ❤️
Rico is maturing with his responses and thoughts. I like this Rico. Still needs work on his delivery towards Rico tho. It’s like he doesn’t respect him or his opinions.
Men avoid delicate/sensitive conversations because the fall out could possibly be weeks(if not months) of being treated indifferently and neglected. That's why emotional intelligence is the NUMBER ONE quality to look for in a potential partner.
When Rico said Oliver could never be in his friend group😒 because how he choose to deal w his women ?
Well work co workers don't have to become friends.
@@Hi-jx5oe Facts, it was just the way he said it.
It came across as arrogant and condescending. That was wack.
Honesty is best
Oliver goes where he is celebrated and not tolerated
Look at the facial reactions.. Oliver just said its not a safe space to talk for men.. soon as he started talking it wasnt safe..
Thanks for noticing that 🤦🏾♂️
Most have a past trauma and circumstances, however some don’t know how to change or care too.. some are Narcissist some are in denial and jump from relationship to relationship to feel whole.. In order to stop the cycle of hurt and toxic relationship it starts with self and for both parties to be selfless.
I really pray Danny seeks therapy because there’s something DEEP going on there for her to feel that way to that extent. Also, we really REALLY have to get out of the mindset that just because someone is single that means they’re broken or toxic. Being single is NOT disease and we as humans have to stop looking at it like that. There are MILLIONS of ppl in this world who HAPPY and CONTENT being single. Relationships really aren’t for everybody tbh
Bullshit
Very Proud of Danny for being willing to open & share about herself. That was Amazing. I hope that she goes and gets a good counselor and being learn the step & work to improve her mindset to know how to accept love & how to still protect herself from the game in the world today. Great job Danny !
Not feeling safe to express your concerns is a huge red flag problem. Especially if anytime you bring up something you think is valid, they dismiss it but if they bring it up it’s more valid then yours
This was one of y’all’s best shows in my opinion I like how y’all broke it down . Appreciate it y’all
This is the best episode I’ve seen thus far. Salute to everyone on the panel for putting together an engaging, and reflective conversation.
Absolutely some people are too toxic.
I really love this topic. A person told me that I was toxic. And that really bother me because I never felt I was toxic. Danny, keep your head up and I know how you feel. ✊🏾🖤
Self-awareness is freedom! Until you know who you are you can’t successfully have relationship.
Love should be defined by actions not the feeling, actions bring those feelings, nothing in this world is perfect
Danny has me in tears she’s so open transparent and beautiful I really hope w.e hurt she has she gets through it . And can trust again .
I love the way Danny talk! Lol I can’t believe she was bullied for that she’s so unique they probably was jealous.
This taught me to stop judging bc Danny being so open got to my heart. U do not knw what went thru and y they act the way they act... danny💯🔥💖
Many ppl don't realize certain behaviors are toxic bc they have always did it and never been called or held accountable or even taught how to hold themselves accountable. Then u have some who are aware of their toxic traits yet don't feel they need to change bc that who they are. Then you have ppl who don't have access to resources unaware of resources, some have cultural barriers to change. It can be a multitude of things. But once u are AWARE of your toxic traits , it is up to you to change!
I didn't realize I had several toxic traits until I went to therapy. While time I thought it was the guy s I dated while it might've been, it was me toooooo!
I hated that the convo turned to Dani’s situation …….. but I thank her for being open. Soooo many women straighten with that “trust” everyday. ❤ much love to her and hopefully she heals and finds love.
If you’re in several relationships and they end and all your exes are engaged and married, you have to look at the common denominator which is you. Get therapy and stop carrying baggage into the next relationship Hoping for something different.We need to let people own up to their choices, if you know that man or women is no good and you continue to deal with it, then accept what comes with the choices you made.
Thank you I had guy friend all relationship ended bad but all women were happy after leaving him. So I agree Sometimes the common denominator is the problem
Women have such high body counts it should be common for several of their exes to get married.
As a man I don't feel like I need love in a relationship with a woman, just respect me because If you respect me everything else will fall in line. If you respect me you will be loyal, you will be faithful and honest.
Great episode guys 👏🏾👏🏾
Rico you’re on point bro, I can fully relate to how personal development takes time and requires consistency.
I appreciate Danny's honesty. My advice to her is too continue becoming the best version of DANNY and not someone else's version of who they think you should be. Therapy to some degree wouldn't be a bad idea but even with that don't get lost into external forces because the TRUE POWER of an individual lies WITHIN. That little positive voice that speaks to our inner being. Salute to Danny on this one!
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Best episode yet!!! Rico is growing the hell up! It's amazing to watch him mature.
Y'all show is the example of how relationship's ain't working cause all we do is debate and it turns into opinionated truth's......I think the 80s and 90s babies we all cursed through multiple scenarios
Great conversations, nice points and I love the energy ! These conversations are so critical in every family .
Love ❤️ these talks! Keep it going! Erin & Ricco are great moderators.
Danny vulnerability is touching! I felt every word… 😢 You will experience love, joy and happiness. Keep your head up and make the necessary healing action. 😘😘
I can listen to Jordy and Oliver all day! And Danny needs therapy and there’s nothing wrong with that..There’s nothing nobody said today that will change what she has going on inside of her head and heart. Only a professional can help 🤍
Ahhh thanks a lot, I love that you enjoy the show!
I agree. She needs to learn tools and interventions
I bet you can lol
Danny was very transparent and open which is hard to do. I can empathize with her. I understand why she doesn’t trust. Thank you @Danny….. Erin comes off like everything is perfect.
Aww Danny,,, I feel you and Rico really sound genuinely concerned and want to help her,,,, okay I’m crying 😭
The struggle was real being a Haitian kid with an accent back in the days. Keep shining Danny ❤️
Danny thank for opening up because I needed that talk
Oliver is right His mindset is healthy all these women are just not receptive to the men perspective and it’s disrespectful they are showing the toxic behavior that men avoid just blame the men
Thank you for being honest Danny.
I really love this show... that was a great topic!!
Talking about the problem is definitely a start
😩 Dannyyy is breathtaking omg 🥺🙏🏾🥰 she is more than worthy 💪🏾💕
I also OD loved how y'all disagreed so passionately.... and a tad disrespectfully at times, but not personally to where any of you were offended... that was DOPE!!!
It's ok to have a difficult conversation! FACTS!!
Yes definitely journal, manifest & write affirmations & be around people better then you to learn
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Amazing episode
This episode was really thought provoking.. Dani, you deserve love just like anybody else, I think you're just disappointed or scarred by it so the idea that you have created of your self (get that head get that bread, then leave) is not deserving of love...but youre true self is a 1000% deserving of love... like Rico said, start small, learn the 5 love languages, learn your own and pay attention to who can speak it.
Women need to drop this entitlement. Everybody doesn’t “deserve” love. You only deserve the things you sacrifice for and go out here and get. Life is competition. What’s this “deserve” nonsense?
This episode definitely hit home with my current state in many ways!!
Whoa Danny baby! You are the realest and most beautiful woman! I understand why you are the way you are… blessings on your journey towards peace🥰✊🏾
Everybody can not be pleased...
Danni the people with the most love to give always feel like they don't deserve that same love back! This is an issue I'm dealing with as well. Take time to heal (therapy) baby girl & stop chasing toxic men 💜💜
Good conversation. Also, what is the brand and name of the lipstick Erin and Danny have on? Really looks nice on them, it looks really vivid.
The way Oli flung that card.... 🤭🤭🤭🙈🙈🙈🙈 I LIVE!!!! # gag
Initially, the conversation was difficult to follow because of the over talking. Also, it appears to take the panel a moment to listen, absorb what other’s are saying before responding. Few good points I align with. 1. Erin’s acknowledge the importance of self-awareness. 2. Rico’s points out the critical steps to take after self awareness. (There’s no instant oatmeal). 3. Danny’s made a good observation about living in a toxic environment. (We can change our environment. It kinda of aligns with Rico’s point of being around good role models). Finally, I agree with Amanda’s compatibility. Being compatible with a partner who can make you better and you make them a better person.
In the end we all grow old and we want to share the journey of life with someone who we trust. There’s always going to be the excepts of people who want to stay single and childless but the majority of people prefer companionship. (Personal note: when I was younger, I volunteered in an elderly home. I learned that most of toxic issues have been around forever and if you don’t address and resolve most of them then you could end you living with too many regrets and alone as opposed to feeling rejoiced and connected)
I enjoyed this video guys Great Job 👍 👌
I love Erin! She's so pretty 😍. Her makeup is excellent too! She also articulates herself well.
Dani has a toxic mindset if she thinks that if you've reached late 20s to late 30s and unmarried. People have standards and know their worth and refuse to settle. Also, just because a person is married does not make them non toxic. In fact, i know so many people who are married that are cheating and miserable.
Lovely conversation
Love love Oliver ❤
I love Oliver's energy⚡
We need more content like this. Kudos to Dany.
Fantastic video
Rico would really benefit from allowing himself the space to process more. He seems like he grew up in a place where that time and space wasn't given to him. He also says similar stuff as Oliver but uses different words. Oliver says "safe space". Rico says "she don't listen". At the core, they're both saying that they need to be heard and valued.
This was probably the best episode y'all ever had. At least it was the most balanced one that I have watched. This was a real human experience, bottled up into a 54 minute episode.
This is gonna come out messed up. The reason Danny was able to feel she was in a safe space and share her actual truths was because of how toxic and unsafe that couch was. I don't believe she can be real anywhere toxicity is not. It is a sad paradox. Also, y'all really jumped the shark with the whole safe space deal. So much judgement. So, so much judgement. That picture on the wall with the rules is supposed to mean something, correct?
I am a firm believer that help is at its best when it comes from flawed and broken people who are trying to fix themselves. And that is what everyone on this couch was. If y'all are trying to change the world and make a difference, this level of honesty is the way to go.
Rico. Great job expressing both sides of yourself. You care too much and you had to learn to change yourself up to make yourself better. I feel you. Also, the truth mic drops continue to be priceless. Continue on your journey bro, and become even more open to other peoples ways of thinking.
Erin. Great job steering the convo to something meaningful and corralling the cats that are a coherent conversation. Whatever your man does, make sure you forgive him. Keep that man because if your relationship ever fails, you will never find a better relationship that what you have now with your current level of awareness. You gon find another dude and get divorced when things don't go your way. Its ok that you kinda know what your flaws are. And also that you worked on some of them. But your current mindset will really have you messed up in these streets if you really commit to dating again.
Jordy. Helping people and saving lives doesn't give you a pass to be an awful person. I hope you continue to grow into a better person. Because the person you are now is just some cheap wallpaper that reveals the ugliness underneath. Ugliness being your real self's mindset. Never forget that your helping people doesn't make you a better person. Continue working on yourself everyday. Also your points were 50 percent nonsense and 50 percent inspired.
Oliver. In the real world, feminine energy concepts don't translate when you apply them to women. All feminine energy concepts are meant to be used for victim blaming or as a toxic defense mechanism. People just reverse engineered them to be helpful sometimes incidentally. I know you be here out here dating. Accept what you have seen time and again. Being an evolved man isn't going to be enough for a worthwhile relationship. Drop your pride and learn some manosphere truths. A lot of it is nonsense, but in there you just may find the tools to make your outcomes match what you want them to be. Unless your outcome is a reasonable, logical woman. In which case, your current approach will only continue to bring you the failure you are dealing with at the moment.
Amanda? I'm not sure what if that's your name but you had the short black hair in the 1930's hairstyle. The background in writing explains a lot about your mindset and attitude towards growth. I hope you get closer to being a person who separates fantasy from reality. If you ever become that person, you just might find an amazing relationship where you give up a lot but get so much more in return.
Danny. I guess that relationship you were in didn't work out/ is going through some trouble. Don't let these other women lie to you. All those feelings you have inside are shared by almost every single woman on the planet. And they would rather die a painful death than actually admit this as a fact. I think if you take Rico's advice and go around women in "stable" relationships, what you will find is women who have accepted men for who they are, got over the resentment, and embraced the negativity that comes with a successful relationship. But honestly, I don't believe you are ever going to change. Because you don't want to, because its too hard, too much of a hassle, plus a bunch of other reasons you will make up. So I will give a real perspective. You don't have to hold yourself to your cultures ideas of marriage and children. You may never find happiness as a woman, but you can find contentment being the best version of yourself you can be. So embrace your toxicity, get a pet and enjoy yourself while you can. Then use that animal and whatever job you choose to have to fill in the gap of a successful relationship. This way is easy, and involves the least amount of work on your part. All you gotta do is ignore every woman that tells you how happy you could be in a relationship or with kids. And make sure you don't have a kid no matter what. Easy Peasy.
Everyone doesn't deserve love. But if you work on yourself, you can find a nice partner and a nice enough life. Or you know, don't work to become better. Just keep making the same mistakes and passing them on to the next generation. It's all on you.
Oliver says good points his only flaw is he’s not receptive to hearing others opinions prime example 24:32 he’s upset that another host views on what he says is different but Shout out to Dani for being so vulnerable with her trauma
So If I'm 30 and I'm still single, there's something wrong with me? How about you say I choose to be single and I'm not looking for one where most cases, the females are looking for a relationship. At the end of the day, the men make the decision on the relationship unless she backs out.
Sign number 1: your on this show.
Sign 2: ur associated/know Dani
Taking advice from superficial ppl like this is the only real sign you need. The hosts are delusional. The male and female hosts. 🤦🏾♂️
I would love to see Love Dorsey on the panel!
The women would hate that 🤣😂
@@jimmythemuscle9612 😂🤣
She'd be theb only one needed to speak lol
They keep changing the subjects and they don’t let each other speak when it gets heated. I really wanted to hear some of the points Jordy and some wanted to say. Rico is a great speaker but he redirects the whole conversation sometimes and some want to hear the actual question being answered. JS
I felt dat Rico. Lost a lot before you got it right.
I love Danny!❤️❤️😘
I love y’all podcast
Erin is spot on.
Two things can be true at the same time.
First time watching 😩 Why are they all shadyyy like this 😂
Rico making a great point abt the certain type of males. U have to know which type u are dealing with.
Shout out to Danny for being honest ❤❤❤❤
Everything time Rico says something in accountability the women try be slick and change the direction
The funny thing about these conversations is that no one way...there are many situtations, reasons and solutions. All these spoken about can be true...in life have there are no absolutes.
I definitely felt like Dani in the past like I didn't deserve love.
Preach it rico