My Divorce Story | Living with my parents at 38 & my party phase
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- Опубліковано 25 чер 2024
- Divorce is truly a way to say goodbye to your old self, and it was beautiful to see how my girlfriends, family and team came to be by my side during the hardest moments of my life. The heartbreak I felt was undeniable but I also experienced so much love.
Here’s the second part of this series guys, sharing a bit more about how my tribe came through for me during this time and how I ended up living with my parents at 38yrs old.
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This is such a beautiful testament to parenting being a lifelong commitment and not just ending at age 18. Your parents and village (sister, team, friends, etc.) are amazing!
Beautifully said!! Our parents are part of our village- love that
Thank you ❤
They didn’t HAVE to leave their home. They chose to. That is what differentiates parental love from all other love. The Giving Tree. How beautiful this difficult situation you experienced brought you even closer and more connected and comforted by your parents. ❤
Your mums cooking is so unbelievably wholesome and I lost it at your dad playing the guitar. What a beautiful family you have 🥲
Thank you so much!
I lost it when I saw how much your parents love you and your girls. It’s the consistent love and care from your family that overflows to us.
Thanks for sharing
I shed a tear when your dad said “no worries we are family.”I’m so grateful for my family and I’m so happy for you that you have people that take care of you. Not everyone has that.
The way you connected with your parents post-divorce is such a silver lining. So precious and healing.
parents are gems
Ahh dad playing guitar for you got me in my feels😢 as an adult that had two good but unwell/unhappy parents can say I wish they had separated sooner. Sometimes apart is best for all💗🫂✌🏽
Your parents have truly taught me the definition of love
We're so fortunate to have such kind and loving parents. Not everyone has that luxury. I just suddenly lost my job right before my lease renewed and decided to move back with my parents temporarily to get my feet on the ground again. Your journey and raw candor have been inspiring. All the best, Chriselle!
Your situation is definitely very unique. Majority do not have grandparents able and willing to step in and there is no tribe of “friends” that will help one through. Unfortunately we are normally surrounded by silent haters and ppl who just don’t care.
You are very blessed!
The part where you talked about your family, your mom, dad, and sister are absolutely beautiful. I bawled when you started to talk about your dad singing you songs at night. You’re blessed in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
People only see what you show them. And when you show them the whole picture, there's no judgement or criticism, only empathy/compassion and understanding and love and care. Thank you for this video. Always be happy and live an authentic life. Wish you the best.
Chriselle - as another Korean-American woman who is also going through a rough spot in her marriage of 23 yrs, your story is one that I really follow. I love how your parents are with you all along the way. That's Korean parents for you!! I love your moms food!! You're so brave and strong. Carry on Warrior
I’m 31, just moved back to my parents’ house with my 2 little ones too. My parents and siblings really showed me how much they love and care about me as I’m going through the divorce.I relate to your story!! Thank you for sharing.
I got emotional watching your video. I was also divorced at 37. No kids. Living with parents. Praying I can still start a family in my 40s. Yes I totally agree community is so important. I am in a small group of men & women who are single/divorced. It helps so much! Praying you and everyone who have gone through divorce find healing and peace. Sending love and positive vibes. 🙏💕
I was as well at 32 years of age. Met the love of my life at 35, IVF boys at Jan 2021 and Dec 2022. Best decision ever. Thank you for my ex for being the person he is, learned that he’s not my person. Thank the Lord!!!
These emotions are so raw.
Your dad is so cute and loving for playing guitar for you.
Also, as someone that’s from a broken family. It means the world to me when I can spend time with both of my parents together.
I didn't expect myself to cry but I burst into tears when your dad sings a song to you. Your parents are amazing ❤
Same
Thank you for sharing this part of your life. I am currently living with my parents at 45 as a result of my divorce. I gave up everything for my relationship and my marriage ended and I had nothing. I lost myself and am now trying to rebuild a life and independence. It’s been such a difficult and sometimes lonely time for me and I can’t put into words how inspiring watching this video is. Helps me to put into perspective my circumstances and not feel shame or failure. I too am so blessed to have 2 wonderful parents who have given me shelter, support, comfort, and unconditional love. You are so brave and from the bottom of my heart, thank you ❤ wishing you all the best life has to offer you in this next chapter.
This really made me cry, tho I've never been married in order to even get divorced, I feel like I needed to hear that last bit "today's struggle is tomorrow's strength" bc I am struggling to figure out my life and start my career rn. Seeing you open up like this is letting me see that I need to start somewhere and open up about these struggles with my own people so that things will eventually get better ♡♥︎
Your mom saying ”힘내!“ made me so emotional. Thank you for sharing your story and for being vulnerable with us. You’re certainly paving the way for us. It’s such a gift, thank you.💙
Your parents gave not only you healing but your daughters also. The time you are all sharing together is so amazing. So glad you are all doing better❤
i love how rediscovering yourself is falling back into the arms of those who truly matter, esp parents and family... cherish them, not everyone is surrounded by this beautiful, kind and generous kind of love :) rooting for you!
This is what I love about being Asian. There’s a Chinese phrase for parents ‘we worry about our kids for 99yrs and look after them for 100yrs’. I really hope the Asian culture of how we see family can affect other cultures.
I watched this at the gym, you are making it hard not to cry. I’m not going through the exact same thing but a lot of adult life changes and feelings of how I disappointed myself. Thanks so much for sharing such a personal journey ❤ sending you love and looking forward to seeing you continue to thrive.
Oh my goodness you had me in tears when you said how your mom would cook for you and your dad would play guitar to you in the evening! Made my heart melt and I'm glad you had that support from them and they wanted to take care of their princess thru her hard time so for them to move to where you are then that's parents protection and that makes my heart melt for a parents love for their child.
I also lived with my parents including my son for a year. at first it was embarrassing.. Then I got to appreciate and thank my parents. It wouldn't have happened without umma and appa! That's exactly what I went through and I totally agree with you.
Thanks for sharing your story! ❤Lots of love to you
i'm not even a few minutes into this video and i can't hold back my tears. Chriselle - you are so loved 🥺 you are incredibly fortunate to have such an amazing family and support system. I can only see bright and beautiful things for your future.
I’ve been really enjoying watching your divorce videos because of how raw and vulnerable and real and optimistic you are. It’s not the type of video I’d watch but I love supporting you.
The drop off it so hard. 😢 I cry whenever I leave my kids and there are 16&12. You telling this journey is helpful and comforting In knowing that all I’m feeling is valid and normal. ❤ you for these videos. It’s sad to know you’ve gone through and still going but I’m comforted by it as well.
Chriselle!!! This made me cry - but happy tears on how much your parents, family, and friends love you!!! It reminded me of my parents
You were the first fashion influencer I’ve followed, back in the old UA-cam days. I noticed how fake the fashion world became, so I very much appreciate how open and honest you still are with your followers. Failure is part of life and it’s refreshing to see that.
Sending lots of love from Germany ❤
Same! Chriselle was the first fashion influencer I followed but I found her through a skincare video. Forgot what brand it was for but I think it was a Korean brand. Followed her on my old account.
“Today’s struggle it’s tomorrow strength”. Yes yes yes ❤️🔥. Thank you for sharing , so many of us go through this and your story has been an inspiration to continue the journey of separation
This made me cry. I can't imagine the pain you've gone through but there's something so incredibly precious and even more beautiful about your relationship with your parents through this!! It says something about humanity and family that brings me so much hope and faith in this life - for mine and yours!!
Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable and real w us in this chapter. Been following you for a long time and really admire you. We all know you’re gonna be okay and are so happy to see your progress, and thanks for letting us all know that no matter what happens in life, we can get back up ❤
I have watched your videos for years . Glad to see you are back as a stronger person because of life experience.Marriage isn't for everyone.
Parents have unconditional love for their kids and some parents like yours will come to the rescue. You are lucky to have them . Not all parents have the financial stability or health to help even if they wanted to in their hearts. Thank you for sharing about your personal story.
This makes me emotional watching - your parents are so sweet and I am SO glad you had them
I’m not crying….
Sorry you had to go through this but it’s good to see your family come together and do their part to be there for you ❤ I know that made a huge difference and made it a little bit easier. Your parents are the cutest! I hope that everything works out for you.
Your relationship with your parents is just amazing. Love it! This what family should look like. Thanks for sharing your journey with us.
I think that sharing your kids with your ex and their family and not being a part of their lives in that way is the hardest part.
Your parents and loved ones are just so wonderful 🙏🏼
I got broken up with just before I was supposed to move in with him and so I am now living with my parents. I am also struggling with feeling like a burden but knowing that I am lucky to have them be so supportive of me. Seeing your healing journey gives me so much hope for myself
Your parents are so sweet. So nice of them to come look after you during a difficult time.
OMG!! I cried watching how your parents supported you through all of this! God bless them!! They are the sweetest!
Oh my, I just want to send you the biggest hug! Your parents seem amazing, and you seem to have a fantastic safety net around you, I understand that it still hurt af, but from an outside perspective it's beautiful to see how they were there for you. Take care.
I wanna say that you are such a strong 한국사람 and a lady. I am a Korean who lives in America. I see your suffering, but I can not imagine how hard it is. I am a mom of 2 girls as well, and I literally cried when I was watching ur video. I really will be praying for you and thank God that you have great parents, so you can be the daughter who needs someone's love and care. Thanks for sharing ur story.
Not me bawling at the love and support shown by your parents 🥹 so touching and such a blessing!!!
😢wiping away my tears...i understand what you went through. parents are lifesavers...they saved me and my 2 sons thru my divorce...i would not have been able to make it without their constant love and support!
You are very blessed to have parents like that! Friends we can work on, but parents are just destiny we can’t change. Not all parents are faultless but yours definitely close to! The understanding on the decision you made given their Asian background, the way they act out to protect you to pull you and your kids through despite their age, you have great parents that’s what makes you a great person ❤
You have such beautiful parents...Korean moms truly show their tremendous love by feeding their kids haha. :) I couldnt help myself crying when your dad was playing guitar for you! Could feel their so much love for you through my laptop monitor! Thanks for sharing challenging moments in your life, stay strong! Sending you lots of positivity :)
The greatest love in your life already exists between you and your parents - how loved and lucky you are ❤
Cried so hard. So touched. By your strength. You being raw and real. And. Most of all. Touched by your parents. I think if anything I am in a place where I want to be a good mum. That's it. Your parents inspire me to be that parent for my son.
If there's one thing I learned throughout the years, is that parents (if you are lucky to have both, in my case it's only my mum) will always be there no matter what when everyone else is letting you down. And I learned to cherish this unconditional love that my mother gives, something I tend to take for granted before. Thanks for sharing your journey with us, you are lucky to have such amazing people in your life :)
I love that you touched on what your previous idea of “happily ever after” meant. I was the same way, I never thought I would be a divorced, single parent. I miss my kid so much when he’s not with me, it feels like a part of me is gone. It’s been 6 years and I don’t think you get used to it really, you just adapt and do what works best. My parents saved me too for the first two years, I, like you, went through a paralyzed phase where I just couldn’t do anything for myself. The one thing I am proud of though is I stayed in college full time and got my degree! ❤
God blessed you with loving parents. I totally cried when your dad played his guitar, it sounded like a beautiful Korean folk song. I am happy for your family 💗
Thank you for coming back and for sharing your story ❤ I’ve missed your videos! 🥹
I had to go through a separation recently, and my parents came through just like that. This video made me cry because I saw so much of my situation in it. Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful video.
So many wonderful things one can say about the people who’ve supported you during your healing! You are truly blessed! Thank you for being brave and sharing your divorce story for us to learn both how to support someone going through a divorce/separation and how one feels going through a divorce
At 35 I ended a 17yr relationship-married for 3, moved back into my parents place and going through breast cancer treatment…I would not be here today without my parents help. They are getting me through my darkest season with laughter and grace. Watching this through tears, you are doing amazing, thank you for sharing and to the ladies starting over, don’t be afraid, life changes like seasons and there is so much to look forward to!❤
Beautiful parents, so lucky to have them
I'm so so happy you're lucky enough to have this strong support from the people around you! Thanks for sharing
❤️ sending you a lot of love Chriselle x
as a person going through the same situation, i can totally understand how some days you feel okay, some days you get really upset. something so small would trigger your emotions.
it really isnt easy having to go through everything with a divorce 💔
you parents are amazing, it took mine a long time to understand…
take care lovely 🤍✨
I loved this. Thank you for being transparent and sharing such a personal story. You are strong, resilient, and beautiful ❤
I think its really beautiful that your kids got to witness friends and family showing up for yall. Its so good to know that they have that support system and I hope they continue to experience and enjoy that.
As someone who's parents split when I was 5 / 6 years old, it looks like you guys are doing right by your daughters. I can't imagine what you've been through, but I can say that Chloe & Colette are so, so lucky to have parents who are putting them ahead of everything else in this process. Kids are so adaptible, so long as you keep showering them with love they way we've been able to see throughout their lives so far, everything is going to be ok.
It takes a lot of courage Chriselle. I’ve been following since your old days when you were collaborating with Michelle Phan. You’ve grown so much. I’ve also gone through large life obstacles and relationships last year, watching you grow and thrive gave me a lot of courage and hope. You are doing so well! Keep going!
Thank you for sharing this. I didn't have this when I went through my divorce but as a fellow Korean I'm blessed to see you share so vulnerably.
Your parents are so selfless. You're very grateful. Having that support system and people advocate for you is essential. Really puts alot into perspective. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much!❤
This is a journey about learning love, learning how to love. Just open up and just let love take care of you. 💕 so beautiful and thank you for sharing
Your parents are so sweet. It's so nice to see that. I started tearing up and got so emotional during your video. Also one of the best things are lovely home cooked meals nothing beats that. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
*cries* parents are the best. Glad you’re in a better place now. ❤
You’re parents are SO precious. It’s hard being the one responsible, independent, caring for others. Then to go from the one receiving care, love & not being responsible ❤❤❤. You needed a break but you came back better. This experience was awful but taught you . That relying on others doesn’t mean your a burden. It just means you can ask for help xx
I’m so glad to have found your videos. I’m currently going through a hard time in my marriage and we discuss divorce. It’s heartbreaking.. and your story helps me imagine what life could be like co-parenting. Just need to find my support tribe.
Thank you for sharing your experiences. Your family’s unconditional love and support during your challenging times is a blessing 🙏 Nothing compares 🩷 Wishing you all the best on your new journey in life ✨
thank you for sharing your story! helps me think about my own relationship and come to terms with my mom's divorces. glad to see you healing :) been following since I was in middle school/hs!
You are so loved Chriselle❤️❤️❤️ No matter what. I’m happy to see you happy
This is so touching and pure… thank you for your vulnerability and sharing. I’m happy you have your tribe especially your parents who could help you in the journey of healing. I pray for your continued success peace and happiness as you continue to journey through life. Cheers XOXO💫🥳🥳🥳🥳😃
Loved this. In your oct 1 clip with your friend, it reminded me of myself and how I proccess things. I also love that your family held it DOWN for you. Pure love.
Chriselle, you are very fortunate to have a parents like them. Dont forget You are strong and brave .You are my role model.I wish you all the good wishes for your upcoming days. Sending my love and regards to your fam❤
Your parents are a blessing!! And your community too! Thank you for your vulnerability ❤
Thank you for sharing your story! I felt the EXACT same way when I got divorced ❤ you are inspiring everyone that they can move forward and get to the other side and be HAPPIER because of it
Your parent are amazing, not all parent are so welcoming and sweet, you are lucky indeed! I wish most people in a similar situation can find an emphatic safety net of some kind, the same of you, we, by ourselves, tend to trick ourselves in all the darkest places, so it’s important have someone to keep away from there, even just with some laughs. I’m sure your story and your journey will help someone out there to find the strength, be happy Chriselle!
Your dad singing to you just made me cry. To our parents we are always remain as kids.
Your parents are just precious! I literally started crying from the wholesome moments ❤️
Wow, that must have been incredibly difficult... still incredibly difficult, especially being separated from your girls. Thank for your being so vulnerable and sharing your experience with us. It's really opening up my mind and heart to not judge others.
I don’t know you but gosh this video brought me to tears. I’ve never gone through a divorce and I hope to never have to go through that.. but God bless your family and your village. Such a definition of unconditional love. Pray for your continued healing and continued support from your village. Hang in there.. I’m sure you already know but it’ll continue to get better. & as cliche as it seems.. I truly believe everything happens for a reason.
Followed you since the beginning, I remember sawing you on Michelle Phan’s channel a decade ago… I remember every video, you getting your beautiful Frenchie… you’ve been one of my examples and Role model that got me thru transition. I remember that little boy watching your style videos and now here we are: a realized woman watching her favorite realized Woman. Thank you for everything ❤️ kisses from Milan
Federica
i love this video/series. I love the support you have been getting from family and friends. its beautiful!
Thank you so much for sharing your story and letting people know its okay to feel lost and accepting help❤❤❤❤
I watched this video twice and I cried twice. 😭Thank you for sharing your journey with us.. I'm glad that you had (and accepted) so much support and love throughout it all.
Oh no.. that short section of dad's guitar+동요 got me in tears😭 I've been your subscriber since you showed up on YT. In one word, 화이팅!!!
I could watch post breakfast snack montage for hours. We're only as good as the people that love us. We love you so.
You are truly blessed to have such amazing parents and sister . When things get rough they become your rock and your hope for better days . Watching this video is inspiring to say the least. Always make sure that as your folks get older you’re there for them for all their needs . Best of luck girl , you’ll be in my prayers.
Thank you so much!
you had the most amazing parents ever and I believe you're amazing mom for your kids as well
Thank you. I had so much shame that I ended up being divorced… I married young and I felt “stuck” because of religion and unfortunately I didn’t know it was DV until a friend, just anyone, finally acknowledged it for what it was.
It means so much to see a UA-camr share the reality of life and especially when it comes to romantic relationships.
You seemed to always have your shit together and it looked “perfect”, but seeing you share this painful, human side has grown my respect and admiration for you more than the “perfection” that was previously portrayed.
I think the beauty of human connection isnt just merely for the “good, happy” moments, but more powerfully through the common experience and empathy in sharing suffering, pain, heartbreak, loss… and how resilient humans can be with a great support system.
I dont know you, I’ve never met you, yet through this series I feel fucken SEEN.
Thank you for your bravery in sharing what it means to be human and that the beauty of life lies in both the good bits and the broken, painful bits too 💕 Life is like a piano - you cant make music without the black keys too.
Stay gold Chriselle, sending love from Australia xx
Love this and can relate. Thank you for sharing. My parents and immediate family were my rock when my marriage dissolved. They fed and nourished me when I couldn’t function..
Your PARENTS! If there is a better demonstration of just abject love, I dont know what it is. How wonderful is that to see in action!
omg.i love you and sending so much love, you are so strong to share this,many need to listen to it!
I’m 25 and going through something similar…I’m learning to open up more and be more vulnerable with people so I can have a community of my own and have friends that I actually care about to go through life with me
Such a powerful story of the selfless love of your parents and you being able to heal surrounded by love and because of that decision they made to be with you and your girls. ❤
Your parents are so loving and awesome! Brought tears to my eyes
I wish your mom and dad long life and good health Chriselle. What a beautiful testament of their love
This is such a beautiful community. When women really share their stories and we strangers need the connection just as much as you. I never got married but I had a baby with an ex! My baby is only 5 mo. Can you imagine? My postpartum has been a rollercoaster. I’m seeing a psychiatrist at the end of the month. Our journeys are all different. ❤