Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. The breakthroughs, lessons, growth, self-worth epiphanies, and my strengthened relationship with God was birthed from it. It all works out. 🙏🏾✨✨
I have found that most people decide what the future partner is going to be like when they are around 14 years of age. It's part of the puberty process actually. However we decide on them from the people that are around us for most of the daylight hours. It's generally the people we have some form of contact with at this time. Though in some cases the person will then go on to marry the person they "pattern" on, that mostly does not happen. Instead we "pattern" on an aspect of the personalty of a person or persons. We might take a bit of one person and a bit of another and then more. At the time you probably won't even know you are doing it. But by the time your 30 you should be able to spot the characteristic in the persons we have relationships with and reflect that such and such a person was like that I used to know. You might not even had any kind of romantic moment with the person you patterned off. It might sound a bit confusing but it's not really. For example I myself was able to spot that women I wanted relationships would have the characteristic that they would not be able to say "I love you" to me. The reason for that was that when I was 14 a girl in school was obviously in love with me, but I didn't realise this till years later. But she was scared to say anything. It wasn't that I was nasty at that time, just very shy myself. I was bullied a lot, so her saying something might have seen her attacked for liking me. Many years later I was able to work out that I was searching for someone just like that girl. I reckon that at least five other girls characteristics my mind patterned on. It will vary from person to person, what we lock onto. It could be just on someone you liked as a person without fancying them. Or maybe someone you didn't like. In your case you should look at what you saw in your ex and see if he was like someone you knew within a year of when your periods started, or around 13 or 14. Generally speaking it happens with people you hang around with (at school) - Plus ALWAYS during daylight hours. The hormones don't work at night. I reckon it might give you answers to why you married him and maybe why it went wrong.
if my bf used to brag abt bringing in thousands of dollars with his businesses at the beginning of us dating, and now later that he knows im ahving trouble moving out frm my abusive family, he says he doesnt have enough money to help me and that im on my own. is it wrong for me to think ssomething fishy
Hi princess life, you are entitled to feel what ever you feel. If you feel something is off... then honour that. Ask your self if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in. He may have had a past relationship or experience where a gf or family member took advantage of him for money. Have a conversation with him and let him know that you are strong and will do what you can to support yourself. But to be honest, you want someone whos going to be there for you if things get rough.
Yup, always to sides to every story. It always amazes me how people choose to look the other way just to look good and not focusing on being good. Seems like they're both better off. Atleast no kids are in the mix which is always a big plus.
Right We will never hear it because she’d find him and ruin his new life worse than she ruined his old one She’s got a great little rack though A guy might say to himself she’s worth courting all that trouble in the beginning Definitely fatal attraction vibes all over her
thank you Joy! i’m so glad you’re relating to the content. if you’re interested, i can add you to my email list for more tips and content - send me an email - info@thejoytribeco.ca!
@@thejoytribeco.findyourselfhere I’m so sorry about your divorce story you know that you tried your very hardest to keep your relationship with your old husband and I’m going to be here in your heart I will try to take good care of you whenever you start to feel down or lonely and even when you cry I’ll do whatever I can to make you stay happy almost all the time I love your story and I may not know you all that well but I just wanted to let you know how bad you felt about all this
No offense but this was the most vague divorce story video ever. You explained nothing at all about what actually happened...but it's your choice to share or not share those details and I'm glad you're happy where you are now.
I really appreciate you calling me out ahaha. When I first recorded this video 4 years ago, I was in the midst of processing what had happend to me and how I felt about it. I realized I didn't want to share the details because focusing on the negative was just not what I was here to do but more so focus on the light at the end of the tunnel moment. Thank you for sharing :)
@@thejoytribeco.findyourselfhere Thank you for responding, I actually did found the joy in my marriage, I stopped sacrifing 😊 now i'am a happy selfish person and somehow my husband is liking it 🤔
Do women ever take responsibility for their role in the breakdown of relationships? I wonder? Do they have accountability for their behavior? Are they ever honest about themselves? It’s not always the man‘s fault. Men are smart, logical, patient, forgiving and loving, However, they will only tolerate bad behavior for so long.
@@juliejohnson5724 thanks for your feedback! I think there is accountability for both parties which I recognize in the later part of my video. it takes two to tango and i know that first hand.
Super frightening video Did she leave out the Fatal Attraction part where she stalks him after their divorce ? She was a hellcat, she flew to Dominican Republic and she was furious Her ex is currently in witness protection program in a little Canadian town God help him if she ever finds out where Those lips… Is that his blood on them? He’s living with eskimos to get away from her WOW
First mistake is not following the three biblical steps. 1. Love this person by getting to know him first. Put him to the test. Go on a dates with other men (not to sleep with them like today's society of dating) but get to know them their character. You probably know what I mean. 2. Now if you did not stayed or have a relationship with your ex-husband before like sleeping together and staying together as a partner. But getting to really know him. And if he really loves you and you really love him not because of sex or his good looking or whatever. Just having that character of wanting to marry this person because I love him or her that commitment which is what marriage is all about. Marriage is the second step. The final and third step is sex within marriage. This is God's way. God hates divorce and that's why so many young couples in our society today end up getting a divorce. Not following these three biblical steps which are: God's love, marriage and then sex. Like how I describe above. Again thank you for your story. All the best with your future.
Divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me. The breakthroughs, lessons, growth, self-worth epiphanies, and my strengthened relationship with God was birthed from it.
It all works out. 🙏🏾✨✨
🙌🙌🙌 well done for being honest with yourself
Watching from the State of Rhode Island-never been married-but much props for your honesty-Peace!
I love your story. Thank you for sharing.
100 percent she filed!
Welcome to your new self , thanks for your story.🙏
I feel like being through crap things makes us much more wiser and able to see the bigger picture
Exactly! It allows us to see what we may have been missing ♥️
Life is a journey and we learn some valuable lessons by the decisions we make.
I have found that most people decide what the future partner is going to be like when they are around 14 years of age. It's part of the puberty process actually. However we decide on them from the people that are around us for most of the daylight hours. It's generally the people we have some form of contact with at this time. Though in some cases the person will then go on to marry the person they "pattern" on, that mostly does not happen. Instead we "pattern" on an aspect of the personalty of a person or persons. We might take a bit of one person and a bit of another and then more. At the time you probably won't even know you are doing it. But by the time your 30 you should be able to spot the characteristic in the persons we have relationships with and reflect that such and such a person was like that I used to know. You might not even had any kind of romantic moment with the person you patterned off. It might sound a bit confusing but it's not really. For example I myself was able to spot that women I wanted relationships would have the characteristic that they would not be able to say "I love you" to me. The reason for that was that when I was 14 a girl in school was obviously in love with me, but I didn't realise this till years later. But she was scared to say anything. It wasn't that I was nasty at that time, just very shy myself. I was bullied a lot, so her saying something might have seen her attacked for liking me. Many years later I was able to work out that I was searching for someone just like that girl. I reckon that at least five other girls characteristics my mind patterned on. It will vary from person to person, what we lock onto. It could be just on someone you liked as a person without fancying them. Or maybe someone you didn't like.
In your case you should look at what you saw in your ex and see if he was like someone you knew within a year of when your periods started, or around 13 or 14. Generally speaking it happens with people you hang around with (at school) - Plus ALWAYS during daylight hours. The hormones don't work at night.
I reckon it might give you answers to why you married him and maybe why it went wrong.
I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤
He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯
Whattapps him
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في الحقيقة كلامك منطقي وصادق بالرغم من عدم فهمي الجيد للغة الإنجليزية.
Thank you for your story
You’re welcome 😊
if my bf used to brag abt bringing in thousands of dollars with his businesses at the beginning of us dating, and now later that he knows im ahving trouble moving out frm my abusive family, he says he doesnt have enough money to help me and that im on my own. is it wrong for me to think ssomething fishy
Hi princess life, you are entitled to feel what ever you feel. If you feel something is off... then honour that. Ask your self if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in. He may have had a past relationship or experience where a gf or family member took advantage of him for money. Have a conversation with him and let him know that you are strong and will do what you can to support yourself. But to be honest, you want someone whos going to be there for you if things get rough.
Lets see a video on his side of the story
Yup, always to sides to every story. It always amazes me how people choose to look the other way just to look good and not focusing on being good. Seems like they're both better off. Atleast no kids are in the mix which is always a big plus.
Right
We will never hear it because she’d find him and ruin his new life worse than she ruined his old one
She’s got a great little rack though
A guy might say to himself she’s worth courting all that trouble in the beginning
Definitely fatal attraction vibes all over her
Loved this and relating to so much of the content! Just think, now you get to have that Daddy dance again when you find that special guy
thank you Joy! i’m so glad you’re relating to the content. if you’re interested, i can add you to my email list for more tips and content - send me an email - info@thejoytribeco.ca!
@@thejoytribeco.findyourselfhere I’m so sorry about your divorce story you know that you tried your very hardest to keep your relationship with your old husband and I’m going to be here in your heart I will try to take good care of you whenever you start to feel down or lonely and even when you cry I’ll do whatever I can to make you stay happy almost all the time I love your story and I may not know you all that well but I just wanted to let you know how bad you felt about all this
I wanna hear his side of the story! I smell bullshit
No offense but this was the most vague divorce story video ever. You explained nothing at all about what actually happened...but it's your choice to share or not share those details and I'm glad you're happy where you are now.
I really appreciate you calling me out ahaha. When I first recorded this video 4 years ago, I was in the midst of processing what had happend to me and how I felt about it. I realized I didn't want to share the details because focusing on the negative was just not what I was here to do but more so focus on the light at the end of the tunnel moment. Thank you for sharing :)
She has the inclination to harm anybody at any stage of her life.
I wouldn’t hurt a fly… 😊 but thank you for your comment!
Thank you, i'am soooo unhappy in my marriage but I have two kids and no job 😭
i hope you have found some joy in your marriage. but if not know that whatever decision you make… there will always be a path that lights up for you.
@@thejoytribeco.findyourselfhere Thank you for responding, I actually did found the joy in my marriage, I stopped sacrifing 😊 now i'am a happy selfish person and somehow my husband is liking it 🤔
@@حياتش-م9ط that’s because you’re happy and it shows. ♥️ so happy for you!
Do women ever take responsibility for their role in the breakdown of relationships? I wonder? Do they have accountability for their behavior? Are they ever honest about themselves? It’s not always the man‘s fault. Men are smart, logical, patient, forgiving and loving, However, they will only tolerate bad behavior for so long.
@@juliejohnson5724 thanks for your feedback! I think there is accountability for both parties which I recognize in the later part of my video. it takes two to tango and i know that first hand.
Super frightening video
Did she leave out the Fatal Attraction part where she stalks him after their divorce ?
She was a hellcat, she flew to Dominican Republic and she was furious
Her ex is currently in witness protection program in a little Canadian town
God help him if she ever finds out where
Those lips…
Is that his blood on them?
He’s living with eskimos to get away from her
WOW
haha unfortunately, that did not happen but I appreciate your imaginative alternative ending. :)
@@thejoytribeco.findyourselfhere I apologize
I kinda got carried away
Your very pretty
Did she just say “ fighted”….
Possibly 😂 thanks for mentioning!
All nonsense aside, great video!
Thank you for sharing
who cares? get the damn message! Or are you perfect! Boy, bye!
@@shanyahilliard29clearly you do ❤️
@@shanyahilliard29 thanks for the support Shayna! 😂
First mistake is not following the three biblical steps. 1. Love this person by getting to know him first. Put him to the test. Go on a dates with other men (not to sleep with them like today's society of dating) but get to know them their character. You probably know what I mean. 2. Now if you did not stayed or have a relationship with your ex-husband before like sleeping together and staying together as a partner. But getting to really know him. And if he really loves you and you really love him not because of sex or his good looking or whatever. Just having that character of wanting to marry this person because I love him or her that commitment which is what marriage is all about. Marriage is the second step. The final and third step is sex within marriage. This is God's way. God hates divorce and that's why so many young couples in our society today end up getting a divorce. Not following these three biblical steps which are: God's love, marriage and then sex. Like how I describe above. Again thank you for your story. All the best with your future.