I feel like this is super accurate. My monkey brancher never let me into parts of her life. She always avoided when I asked to participate in some of her activities so I could also grow with her. When it ended, I felt she was living a double life.
Monkey Branchers are like undercover cops. The easiest way to spot one is the communication gaps especially if things were going good and they suddenly go silent. #1 sign of a monkey brancher
Very accurate. My ex-wife told me she wanted a divorce the day we got back from a cruise. She told me she wanted the likes to have one last good family memory, despite the fact that she avoided us the entire trip.
This video made me overwhelmed with empathy for my ex. She was abused as a child and unfortunately r*ped as an adult. I wish I could travel back and save her from all that shit. She left exactly how Paz said they leave, after the peak of the relationship and before a big commitment event. I forgive her now, and feel terrible for her at the same time. I also feel terrible for the guy she’s with. Good luck with her bro I’m sending y’all my love
exactly the same happened to me. she was abused as a child and raped at the age of 19. before commitment she just quit the relationship. it applies everything to her in this video written, also it is just exactly the same story as yours. you are not alone. i wish i could help her. she doesnt know what she`s doing neither understands she herself. and yes, she´s doing drugs and alcohole, she is also craving for peace
@@user-zr1bw1qh9e I thought I was saving her because I got her off the pills and got her obsessed with the gym. She started to look like a super model and always thanked me for saving her. Her family would occasionally pull me to the side and thank me for making her so happy, it blows my mind that she just left out of nowhere. The way she did it was cruel too but she acted sympathetic, point is we shouldn’t date damaged people. It sucks but no matter how they ended up that way they will just hurt you in the end
😮. It has been 3 years since my ex wife lied, cheated and deceived me. And I have been healing forever bc it really messed with my head BAD. This video just changed everything! Wow wow wow. I actually said “I don’t know you anymore “ 😮. You are exactly describing my x. This is so freeing. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I like the fact you describe them as identity crisis and multiple personality disorder people they don't know who they are and can't control their behaviors. Everything is programed in their subconscious mind from childhood. Everything that triggers them and their unhealthy coping mechanism switch turns on. Whether is cheating, doing substance abuse or being workaholic. My ex was avoidant did all of those things to me including cheating and pretty much traumatized me.
He didn't want to. He has gone through so much trauma, he even said he lives in the past, reliving it, without dreams. He was in pain, depression. He felt numb, empty. Jumping on into the highs of a new relationship was the only option, that he saw.
I have to disagree that they don't know what they're doing. They can choose to be honest or lie and yet they always choose the lie! I used to feel sorry for my ex but she lied the entirety of our relationship. I didn't force or coerced her to lie, she choose that path every time she did it. They know it's wrong but they need to do it to protect themselves.
Today i ve had class meeting. She was sitting with him, her friends thinks that i am the problem because probably she told them some bullshit. What shit is that. I was just trying to be the best boyfriend. I thought that she is my soulmate. He was doing some weird things like kissing her when she was asleep etc. i don t undesrtand what is going on. I feel terrible. I don t think that i was deserving that. I loved her and wanted to have only one girlfriend. She isn t going to give meeven handshake, but she betray me, not me her.
@@marek186 You're fine! Young people tend to go through s*it before they find a sane partner. Don't worry, love everyone, also those that were on your path for only a short while.
This is exactly what im going through with my ex. She just completely flipped the script on me. She tried hiding her new supply for so many months like it wasnt happening. When it finally all came out she just became a completely different person. Someone who ive never even know after 16 years together and 2 kids. She's painted this picture of me and just has extreme out bursts anytime i try having a mature intellectual conversation with her. Its like talking to a child having a tantrum no matter what you say. She met some kid at work almost 10 years younger than her and she just acts the age. Completely two faced as to how she treats me and then as soon as this kid she is seeing come around she is a completely different person. After being together 16 years you see the two sides she is playing to fit the script. It is the most mentally draining thing I have ever gone through over someone I spent my whole adult life loving. Ive lost my whole family aspect and future with my kids and there mother together. Divorce, separation, amd disorders will completely wreck someone's mental health. Ive never had to go through therapy before and now its the only thing I think I will be doing the rest of my life just to heal from how bad this whole situation has affected me.
At first I didn't believe that my person was affected by DID, but while listening to the video, specifically the part about "amnesia", a few odd memories came up. We had argued about who bought what, and she believed something that I knew was completely untrue. Crazy
Crazy mine monkey branched right after we got back on vacation out the country. I didn’t see it coming when I was discarded a week after we got back. They tried to hide the monkey branched but at that point I wanted to heal, go no contact, and never speak to them again. They even blamed me for the breakup and played victim online and acted like they were happy and living their best life without me. I never looked back and they know they can’t come back here. I don’t forgive them. I believe they knew what they where doing and wanted to hurt me
Brother I love listening to your work usually but this sounds like you're making an excuses for these clowns. My ex-wife monkey brand she knew damn well she was doing there was no split personality stuff she could blame it on. I understand this might be a certain subset of cheaters but I would reckon to think that's a small percentage with overall being normal people who know exactly what they're doing
@@LudwindSantaCruz It’s just an in-depth explanation of why hoes are hoes. He puts it in these terms to make it easy for us to forgive them so we can move on to something better
Sounds like a female dismissive avoidant. Experienced this first hand and saw the personality switches. It was like I was tom cruise I'm the movie edge of tomorrow and she was Emily blunt. Every time I saw her in person it was like I had to start again as if it was day one week one. One of the strangest experiences of my life, until the relationship hit the peak after 3-4 months (she started to fall in love with me) and then she all of a sudden went back to her ex out of nowhere. Luckily I'm very experienced with avoidant women and knew it was going to come at some point. Ya man it's a crazy world out there hahaha.
You feel like theirs no one else that will understand you no one else will love you have a laugh with you and you will never connect with someone like you did with your ex … you think your kid will be screwed and the truth is they are but you can’t blame your self for that , try everything to fix it better your self but realise it wasn’t your fault sure you might of made mistakes but if they didn’t tell you that’s on them they never wanted you to sort it out they wanted new … new is a shame on your kids but tbh new can also be fantastic for you … selfish yes your fault no, they don’t know which house to stay at they cry thinking their mum is never coming back since she left the first time for 2 months , it’s awful but somehow you need to disconnect from your kids pain iv not worked that bit out yet
@@worldrecordmethod7119 there is no such thing as quality, maybe there is value systems and beliefs and if the values match with beliefs then it is going to work out, it is bidirectional
Non-monkeybranchers have about 2-3 long term relationships during their lifetime, each one lasting 5,10 even 20-40 years. Between relationships they grow and get to know themselves. Monkeybranchers might have 1-2 guys a year. This means there are many more monkeybranchers out and about looking for a partner, compared to those ones who settle into longterm partnerships.
I feel like this is super accurate. My monkey brancher never let me into parts of her life. She always avoided when I asked to participate in some of her activities so I could also grow with her. When it ended, I felt she was living a double life.
So true!! Same here!!
Monkey Branchers are like undercover cops. The easiest way to spot one is the communication gaps especially if things were going good and they suddenly go silent. #1 sign of a monkey brancher
Very accurate. My ex-wife told me she wanted a divorce the day we got back from a cruise. She told me she wanted the likes to have one last good family memory, despite the fact that she avoided us the entire trip.
This video made me overwhelmed with empathy for my ex. She was abused as a child and unfortunately r*ped as an adult. I wish I could travel back and save her from all that shit. She left exactly how Paz said they leave, after the peak of the relationship and before a big commitment event. I forgive her now, and feel terrible for her at the same time. I also feel terrible for the guy she’s with. Good luck with her bro I’m sending y’all my love
exactly the same happened to me. she was abused as a child and raped at the age of 19. before commitment she just quit the relationship. it applies everything to her in this video written, also it is just exactly the same story as yours. you are not alone. i wish i could help her. she doesnt know what she`s doing neither understands she herself. and yes, she´s doing drugs and alcohole, she is also craving for peace
@@user-zr1bw1qh9e I thought I was saving her because I got her off the pills and got her obsessed with the gym. She started to look like a super model and always thanked me for saving her. Her family would occasionally pull me to the side and thank me for making her so happy, it blows my mind that she just left out of nowhere. The way she did it was cruel too but she acted sympathetic, point is we shouldn’t date damaged people. It sucks but no matter how they ended up that way they will just hurt you in the end
@@worldrecordmethod7119 dang man same thing with my ex that’s crazy
😮. It has been 3 years since my ex wife lied, cheated and deceived me. And I have been healing forever bc it really messed with my head BAD. This video just changed everything! Wow wow wow. I actually said “I don’t know you anymore “ 😮. You are exactly describing my x. This is so freeing. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
We all need therapy for brealthroughs
I have got to say that most people who suffer with any Cluster B Personality disorder also loves to monkey branch
I like the fact you describe them as identity crisis and multiple personality disorder people they don't know who they are and can't control their behaviors. Everything is programed in their subconscious mind from childhood. Everything that triggers them and their unhealthy coping mechanism switch turns on. Whether is cheating, doing substance abuse or being workaholic. My ex was avoidant did all of those things to me including cheating and pretty much traumatized me.
O wow, Another good insight, brother Paz! ❤ Lots of love and respect to you...
He didn't want to. He has gone through so much trauma, he even said he lives in the past, reliving it, without dreams. He was in pain, depression. He felt numb, empty. Jumping on into the highs of a new relationship was the only option, that he saw.
This is a great video ❤
I have to disagree that they don't know what they're doing. They can choose to be honest or lie and yet they always choose the lie! I used to feel sorry for my ex but she lied the entirety of our relationship. I didn't force or coerced her to lie, she choose that path every time she did it. They know it's wrong but they need to do it to protect themselves.
" Tf? " At 3:37 had me rolling 😂😂😂
Today i ve had class meeting. She was sitting with him, her friends thinks that i am the problem because probably she told them some bullshit. What shit is that. I was just trying to be the best boyfriend. I thought that she is my soulmate. He was doing some weird things like kissing her when she was asleep etc. i don t undesrtand what is going on. I feel terrible. I don t think that i was deserving that. I loved her and wanted to have only one girlfriend. She isn t going to give meeven handshake, but she betray me, not me her.
@@marek186 You're fine! Young people tend to go through s*it before they find a sane partner. Don't worry, love everyone, also those that were on your path for only a short while.
This is exactly what im going through with my ex. She just completely flipped the script on me. She tried hiding her new supply for so many months like it wasnt happening. When it finally all came out she just became a completely different person. Someone who ive never even know after 16 years together and 2 kids. She's painted this picture of me and just has extreme out bursts anytime i try having a mature intellectual conversation with her. Its like talking to a child having a tantrum no matter what you say. She met some kid at work almost 10 years younger than her and she just acts the age. Completely two faced as to how she treats me and then as soon as this kid she is seeing come around she is a completely different person. After being together 16 years you see the two sides she is playing to fit the script. It is the most mentally draining thing I have ever gone through over someone I spent my whole adult life loving. Ive lost my whole family aspect and future with my kids and there mother together. Divorce, separation, amd disorders will completely wreck someone's mental health. Ive never had to go through therapy before and now its the only thing I think I will be doing the rest of my life just to heal from how bad this whole situation has affected me.
Its been 2 weeks so far and i now realize this disorder she has, everything happens for a reason im still hurt but im stil trying with your guidance..
At first I didn't believe that my person was affected by DID, but while listening to the video, specifically the part about "amnesia", a few odd memories came up. We had argued about who bought what, and she believed something that I knew was completely untrue. Crazy
Crazy mine monkey branched right after we got back on vacation out the country. I didn’t see it coming when I was discarded a week after we got back. They tried to hide the monkey branched but at that point I wanted to heal, go no contact, and never speak to them again. They even blamed me for the breakup and played victim online and acted like they were happy and living their best life without me.
I never looked back and they know they can’t come back here. I don’t forgive them. I believe they knew what they where doing and wanted to hurt me
Brother I love listening to your work usually but this sounds like you're making an excuses for these clowns. My ex-wife monkey brand she knew damn well she was doing there was no split personality stuff she could blame it on. I understand this might be a certain subset of cheaters but I would reckon to think that's a small percentage with overall being normal people who know exactly what they're doing
@@LudwindSantaCruz It’s just an in-depth explanation of why hoes are hoes. He puts it in these terms to make it easy for us to forgive them so we can move on to something better
Bpd folks also have this.
Also, this is an excellent video. Thank you.
Fascinating
I actually have been diagnosed with DID & I never cheated on my wife…
@@TheChosen1406 having it doesn’t necessarily mean you cheat… cheating is just one form of expression of this mental disorder.
Sounds like a female dismissive avoidant. Experienced this first hand and saw the personality switches. It was like I was tom cruise I'm the movie edge of tomorrow and she was Emily blunt. Every time I saw her in person it was like I had to start again as if it was day one week one. One of the strangest experiences of my life, until the relationship hit the peak after 3-4 months (she started to fall in love with me) and then she all of a sudden went back to her ex out of nowhere. Luckily I'm very experienced with avoidant women and knew it was going to come at some point. Ya man it's a crazy world out there hahaha.
My.monkeybrancher ex girlfriend is evil
this behavior all applies to dismissive and fearful avoidance attachment disorder.
You feel like theirs no one else that will understand you no one else will love you have a laugh with you and you will never connect with someone like you did with your ex … you think your kid will be screwed and the truth is they are but you can’t blame your self for that , try everything to fix it better your self but realise it wasn’t your fault sure you might of made mistakes but if they didn’t tell you that’s on them they never wanted you to sort it out they wanted new … new is a shame on your kids but tbh new can also be fantastic for you … selfish yes your fault no, they don’t know which house to stay at they cry thinking their mum is never coming back since she left the first time for 2 months , it’s awful but somehow you need to disconnect from your kids pain iv not worked that bit out yet
why do i all the time attract this kind of women???
@@user-zr1bw1qh9e Low quality men attract low quality women. I say that as a low quality man that only had these types of girls😂
@@worldrecordmethod7119 there is no such thing as quality, maybe there is value systems and beliefs and if the values match with beliefs then it is going to work out, it is bidirectional
@@user-zr1bw1qh9e look up "anxious attachment"
Non-monkeybranchers have about 2-3 long term relationships during their lifetime, each one lasting 5,10 even 20-40 years. Between relationships they grow and get to know themselves.
Monkeybranchers might have 1-2 guys a year.
This means there are many more monkeybranchers out and about looking for a partner, compared to those ones who settle into longterm partnerships.