What God Will Do to the Narcissist When He's Had Enough
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- Опубліковано 2 тра 2024
- Does it seem like the narcissist in your life just skates by and gets away with their manipulative, destructive behavior?
Like they're somehow immune to justice....
In today's video, I'm going to give you the clarity you're craving about why God's justice might seem a little slow, and EXACTLY how God deals with issues of pride, manipulation and deceit.
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they coast for a Very short Time
Scary, sounded like me. I repent and follow Jesus’ teaching, love and peace. God has given me a 2nd chance. All glory to God!
“For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.” - John 3:17
The narcs that say they believe in Jesus are the most confusing and tricky ones. I have finally learned to watch peoples actions and not their words.
I married one. It has been a long suffering journey.
Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth does speak.
@@martygo5273 me too 😭. It’ll be our 3 month anniversary next wed, and the last 3 years have been the hardest years of my life. It’s felt like 10 years, I am exhausted from the ups and downs, back and forth, walking on eggshells because of the rage and unpredictable, yet predictable behavior.
This is why I havent processed everything from my parents all these decades. They never miss a church service, twist scripture and never change their ways. So confusing
@@martygo5273same here, 29 years. So pious, makes me sick!
Please restore my years, Lord.
Amen ‼️
Mine to jesus, because I lost a lot of years
Amen, dido
This! This is all I ask Lord, please 🙏🏻
I don’t want revenge, I want him to find God.
You are after God's own heart! That is the right attitude to have.
After all the years the sexually abusive narcissists have gotten away with hurting my mother, mother-in-law, mine and my husband's daughters, and at least one or two others, the predators still deny everything, and still claim they follow Jesus. Due to insufficient evidence for all but one victim, the two narcissistic predators have evaded prison for all but one victim. Talk about temptation to want to take matters into our own hands. But what got my attention was the day my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ told me, " It's not about what they( the predators) deserve. It's about what I ( the Lord Jesus) deserves." Anybody out there who is willing and able, please pray for me, and my family, that we remember what our God says in scripture: " Vengeance is the Lords. I will repay" says the Lord. Thanks you, and God bless. ♥ 🙏
I dont know you or who you are referring to, but I want that, too, for the person you are referring to. Wouldn't that be nice? It would be.
The only thing they'll find is new people
I pray for him every day.
On my knees, in fact
@@chrissemenko628 you're wasting your time. Forget, but don't forgive them, they don't deserve it
I used to be a narcissist but Jesus changed me and has been changing me non stop since COVID began,So many things Jesus has delivered me from, Thankyou Jesus.
Why don't you want to be a narcissist anymore? Just curious
I am so happy for you. I hope my narcissit wife of 10 years will find Jesus again. We are divorcing now, but I want her to change for the sake of our daughter, and for her because I really loved her
@@hereisayana8207 narcs don't want to be narcs in the first place, if you go deep into a narcs past your going to find a world of hurt from the past and a lil boy or girl trying to survive it no matter what it takes..
You'd do the same if you were in their shoes, exactly the same, do not kid yourself.
This is a very rare occurrence. I pray more narcs can find Jesus and repentance.
Praise God
Continue to move forward in JESUS. I’m happy for you and I thank God for saving your life.
You are going to be a mouth piece for the LORD to lead other narcissists to JESUS.
"Do not be deceived. God shall not be mocked. Whatsoever a man (person) sows so shall they reap." (KJV)
Preach the Lord will not be mocked!
Huzzah!!!
Preach!
AMEN!!
Amen!!!
Not all narcissists are loud or abusive- they can be very calm & "outwardly " nauseatingly charming..
So true. My husband is like this
NOT ALL WOMEN ARE HAPPY WITH THEMSELVES. GO GET YOUR DIVORCE AND WATCH HOW AWFUL LIFE BECOMES.
@@misfitty-vd6kv Life would become awful if you don't have a plan. It is better to put a plan in place and then move in for the divorce. You plan with a purpose that when you walk away it's no turning back.
Completely agree. My wife who says she is filing for divorce is exactly this way. She cannot admit she does anything wrong.
The covert ones are toxic 😈
I don't crave justice for narcissists! I crave that narcissistic people change and do a 180 and get saved by the power of Almighty God!
*Id settle for at least 45% of the US population acquiring anything resembling self-awareness. We're not embarrassed enough by OURSELVES. That's the object lesson of this comment section.*
God's desire is to see every one receive mercy, forgiveness and come to salvation including the narc, but there's also, justice and righteousness which are the foundations of his throne. When you endure the narcs pervasive behavior pattern that go on without a thought of God and having no remorse the natural and spiritual recourse has to come into play, its the law! Otherwise, no one would serve God if there were no justice.
@@srtbluekat6748 *CASE IN POINT*
When they destroy your life, your physical and emotional wellbeing, then you want justice. These are not just words. I know that their treatment contributed to me getting cancer in the middle of my life, at 37 as a single mom and then still being treated like garbage by them. Being almost violently robbed of my life, definitely robbed of my reproductive system and health, my time, energy, sanity and much more, almost being forced to having to leave my child behind as an orphan, being forced into premature, sudden menopause which puts me at higher risk for alzheimers, osteoporosis and heart disease, not to mention premature aging, I wonder where is their cancer at? That's the least they deserve for justice to be served. It's only by God's grace that we found it early even though this type is always discovered late and even though I have never been sick in my life and going to the doc was the furthest thing on my mind, so that I'm planning to make it out alive. These are not just words, this is real. Narcs destroy human beings and lives, except it's too late by the time you figure it out. Emotions are chemical compounds that are released into the body and they can make you sick. Yes I don't want them to go to hell, but do you think after deliberately doing that type of damage to a person, they don't deserve any repercussions? Where's the justice for the victim? God is a God of justice and the Bible says that even for every single word you speak you will have to answer for. With good reason, even a word can do something to you since words have power. There's cause and effect in everything. There must be justice or God wouldn't be who he is.
@TheHelenhunter I wish I knew what to tell you, except that it encourages me that despite the harm that has come to you, you have not given up on the Lord. Many people in your situation would have because they do not see His justice happen right then and there.
But it will. We live in a fallen world where things like this are going to happen. Wicked men and women will do wicked things to you and others. But in due time, their foot will slip.
If you have not done so, look up the sermon given by the Puritan preacher Jonathan Edwards titled, "Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God." He speaks of the same thing, that though justice hasn't come yet, it will. It may be a harsh read, but this is only because we as Christians today are so incredibly soft.
God bless you, and I wish you well.
When GOD sets you free from evil. Do NOT revisit it. That’s is your Justice.
I can’t believe how true this is. Every evil that is planned for you will be turned back on them. This very thing happened to me over the last three years. I never wanted or wished bad on the other person but trusted that God would have the final say. And let me tell you God fights for his kids.
That narcissist is God’s kid. The healthy don’t need a physician. He don’t come to heal the healthy He came to heal the sick, the poor, the needy. He came to live the unloved and to put the lonely in families. You claim you don’t wish bad on them yet you celebrate the idea that God is going to punish them while forgetting that you yourself deserve the same punishment. Grace is the reason why we don’t get what we all deserve. Might want to think about that. God is not sitting there waiting to punish broken and damaged people, those broken and damaged people are the ones he literally died for.
@@user-ty3fe8gq1f So long as the narc, or anyone else, doesn't engage in deliberate, willful sin: Hebrews 10:26-27, it says:
“For if we go on sinning willfully after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain terrifying expectation of judgment, and the fury of a fire which will consume the adversaries.”
I don’t wish any evil on my “Christian” narcissistic mother and her flying monkeys - my siblings. It feels so unjust that they can continue their unjust bullying with no consequences. My sincere concern is their eternal salvation.
God will give me justice. Be still and know that I am God. Amen.
Yes, that's exactly what gives me peace. It's his battle and I am grateful for that! 🙏
Oh ya? When would you say God finally did this?
I’m waiting…..
Wake up. His treats the narc with loving care and the victims…well we just suffer daily. Thanks alot God!!
God will not be mocked.
It's so sad because once God has had enough of their abusive, toxic, hard-hearted, cruel and wicked deeds, it's like the point of no return. The Bible speaks of and warned the Jezebel spirit (the Narcissist) in the book of Revelation, and how God gave her "space" to repent, but she WOULD NOT. Therefore, He [God] will throw her (the Narcissist) on a bed of affliction. I've seen this and it ain't pretty! They may seem to get away with mocking God, and abusing people for a LONG time, but mark this, they are storing up God's wrath. The LONG time is the "space" He has given them to repent. God sure enough, will not be mocked. Whatsoever a man (human) sows, THAT shall he also reap.
❤truth
you mean Anna biczo is narcissist? The UA-camr here promote her incoming people to subscribe her?? Thats enough!
Even though we have a child together I got to the point where I had to block him I cannot take the disrespect anymore
YOU GOT THAT RIGHT
Yep
The narcissist in our family has been tormenting people for over thirty years. God help us. I've been praying for her for soooo long. Why don't things improve? Innocent people are suffering!
At the bare minimum, please consider that the person in question may no longer even be able to be saved anymore. They may have crossed the line, and now there is nothing but judgment for them.
I'm not saying this IS the case. I'm saying that this can and has happened. Please at least consider this possibility, and if after doing so you have concluded that he/she has, then leave them be to their end.
"Every plant that has not been planted by my Father will be pulled up by the roots. Leave them, for they are blind guides..."
Take care. And remember- Sunday is coming.
Can relate! My evil grandfather died without being held accountable for incest abuse
No power of hell, No scheme of man. Can ever pluck you from His (God’s) Hands. Till He (God) returns, or calls you Home. Stand in the power of Christ, in Jesus mighty name!
Amen🙏🏼
AMEN!
Yes and sometimes He calls us to action to protect ourselves 😮😅
@@iw9338 where does the Bible say that? "I will repay says the Lord of Hosts"
In Christ Alone.
God is not mocked. Revenge belongs to him. This is why I don't worry myself about getting even. I was done so wronged by the narcissist in my life. Now she's alone with no supply. Without repentance of their actions, they will receive the penalties from the One who will give justifiably. For the measure you use will be measured to you. Thank you so much Kris for using story from the Bible to show a perfect example of a narcissist is, and how it's relatable today.
Powerful and Just revenge!
I had reason today again to be so angry at the narc when he managed to insult my little boy and call him names after he did something wrong. Usually I will be sooo upset, angry, bitter, yelling, screaming, ruminating all day if he does something wrong to my child, it's literally eating me up alive. Today the thought came into my mind that God will revenge and I was able to completely release and let it go. No more pain and hurt on the inside, I know that God will pay him back for every single word, he will take care of it, I don't have to worry or lose my sanity over how we're being treated (as single mom). I felt free as a bird. God is so good, he is the solution to everything.
Evil is rewarded in this upside down world! Those people are miserable though. They have no clue that material things will never bring happiness.
I was praying about this very thing this morning... struggling with whether God would ever bring justice, and THIS comes across my feed! Thank you, Lord.
God's timing is perfect!
This is 1000% my mother. No matter how good you are to her the meaner she gets. Always miserable, no food they eat, TV show. Sunshine or rain. I have never met a person who literally lies every breath she takes. This video was spot on pure truth.
I was talking about this subject too this morning with my friend, we have both suffered narcissistic abuse. Thank you lord for leading me to this, you have answered all my questions.
@@libbysimpson9127 my mother is just the same!
I was just having a conversation about what happens to narcs eventually. A lot of them end up miserable and alone, blaming others for their condition.
The punishment for being a narc - is being a narc.
@@nonawolf7495 You reap what you sow
Seems to me like the person had too much dealings with narcs ....
My stepmother has been a malignant narcissist for decades.if i could drscribe her- she has a phd in manipulation, Lies, & false guilt shaming. She has destroyed many relationships over the years, and she has violent tendencies also. The Last straw for me was when she got caught ruthlessly beating my Father while he was helpless on his deathbed. I recently started praying for her salvation and to help me with my anger issues towards what she has done & ive come to the realization that she dug a pit for herself over the yrs and she's buried deep in it, and its impossible for her to dig her way out- Only divine intervention (Jesus)can save her.
That's my Dad.
Our justice from God is our freedom from them. We must trust God will protect and provide.
Amen🥺
@@NicoleGVictory👏
You said it perfectly
Amen
My narc husband died a painful and miserable death and those who know what I endured all say their hair stood up all over them when they heard the news. Even my pastor said my husband resisted the Holy Spirit in anger and was turned over to his own devices. Im still healing a year later...
Can I ask what he said or saw before death?
@@hereisayana8207 I can tell you he did NOT see me! He was in ICU for 4 days, underwent 2 surgeries, and suffered a LOT of pain. My son saw him once and he said he wished I was there....nope. No contact means NO contact. I was told that when he was in extreme pain, he cussed out loud and then threw his arms up in the air and begged God to forgive him. I can also tell you that a week before his death, he told someone that he hoped he did not die and go to hell. That's all I know.
Sorry you went through that ❤
@@lisaday5876 I'm healing and doing well. The Lord was in control of it all and has taken excellent care of me through it all.
My narc husband, turned ex, after filing for divorce due to an abusive marriage also dropped dead of a massive heart attack. I forgave him and continued to pray for him, until I found out about his sudden passing which was not surprising to me because he was evil incarnate and I knew justice would be swiftly delivered.
Narcissists break your spirit. Praying for anyone that's been tormented by them. My family member was a nurse. Nice to strangers and everyone. She abused me my whole life.
I am currently stuck in the psychiatric system where narcissistic psychiatrists keep speaking down to me during my appointments as if I am a lesser human being. I have been polydrugged and now I have to deal with devastating side effects. May God heal my OCD, depression and trauma, and punish these narcissists. Psychiatric mistreatment and gaslighting are real and devastating.
Envision yourself out of that medical facility or away from the abusive situation FEEL IT REAL it will happen….God dwells within us …… make the unseen seen
Please read Neville Goddard the truths he writes and speaks about are the truth …..peace be with you ✌️🫶🏻🧘♀️
I understand Shawn; I have experienced this. I hopped from one to another. it was with hindsight that I saw their patterns of abuse, using the vulnerability and inherent trust one places in such a person. God will deal with them and He will heal You and all of use who have been doubly broken. Put your eyes and mind and heart and faith on God and never look away.
Thank you for sharing this information love and light to allAmen
Those pills are poison they are drug dealers for big pharma. Ignorant pieces of you know what.
appointments, as in plural? if you keep going back, who's fault is it?
When God finally lays a smack down on evil like that, God is not kind. God gives like it's deserved.
God's a murdering POS 😠😠
My narcissistic husband literally rotted inside.. they cut out chunks of his colon, scraped blood clots out and he died of organ failure
God is always kind because love is kind and God is love. It's just shown by eliminating evil in this case.
God allows things to become. He removes his grace and mercy and people are open to the full scale assault of satan.
Jesus said: he was a Liar and murderer from the beginning.
His goal is to steal usfrom Gods Blessings so he can kill us and destroy our souls.
There IS NO God.
Period.
My ex asked, "Don't you think I pray?" I said, "Yeah, gimme, gimme, gimme, I want, I want, I want."
I need I need I need
I've heard of them praying not to get caught!
me me me me mine.
@@Strawberry_gal tells me who they're praying to.
Certainly not to the Holy One of Israel.
@@Strawberry_gal😂 they got to be praying to their father-Satan.
This actually makes me so sad because I don’t want the narcissist in my life to suffer. It makes me sad to know that this will happen to them. I understand that God has given them many chances to turn from their ways. This just makes me sad. I want to shake them and say look look at what is going to happen to you if you don’t change your ways.
Yep
I know right, I was so sad seeing my narcissist almost ex-husband in divorce court today. He looked so frail and depressed in then when he opened his mouth it immediately reminded why we were here
Ugh 😫
@@sadiyyahicks3184 just imagine if you stayed. 😳. How would your health be. I've been enjoying peace for 2 years now. Wouldn't change it for the world.pray for him. That's all you should do.
Not always. My mother’s children have walked away. But at 86, she’s surrounded by extended family and church ladies who think she’s a saint and we are the demonic ones
could she gave been saved after all those years ?
@@kat-75 No. If she had, I wouldn’t have posted
You have described my mom! She goes to church every Sunday and tells us she prays so hard for her 3 adult kids while shaming us verbally on how she is upset and embarrassed we are all "fat" and how beautiful we used to be when we were thin. She says we are too sensitive when talking to her about our weight. On the other hand she is very over weight and in poor health but that's ok to her. All of her church lady friends think she's a Saint. Only if they knew she bad mouthed them behind their backs. I feel sorry for her because her adult kids self worth is all about their weight. It's all image to her. What ever happened to unconditional love?
@@JR-zx8ll How awful it is that Narc Moms want a relationship with an idealized version of a child who does not exist.... while her real children are starved for her acceptance. Prayers for you, dear sister. I felt every word of your story.
Please pray for me and my hubby and my elderly dad his main caregiver-my sister a,religious narc causes us SO much stress and trouble almost constantly . She has caused probs at the first assisted living care facility then this new one nor getting along with some of the staff and finding fault with the care of my dad. Now she is finding fault with this caregiver from an outside agency that we employ to send caregivers to the home to help my dad with things like showering and drinking water and walks because the home only has 2 staff members to care for 10 residents. My dad has Dementia lacks motivation to shower etc. My sister told this caregiver things that I said about her that are malicious and absolutely not true . Ugh. My hubby and I value this lady 👩 she really cares about my dad is very good with him. My sister even called the agency to complain about her . My sister is the one who found the agency set everything up. We take turns on things because I can't do it all im swamped up to my neck with my dads dental and doctor appts right now. Please pray for divine intervention. Before this gal quits or gets fired -she is very valuable to us
So tired of these evil doers. It is never going to stop. Where can you live without them all around you? Cannot take their abuse.
Me too I'm right with ya And not by me I'm in a nest of them
Read Hebrews 2:14 gods going to do away with Satan his rulership over mankind. & Undo all damage Satan has do he's given us hope to live forever in peaceful paradise where there be no wicked evil or hate anywhere. He's also going to reunite us with our loved ones by means of a Resurrection! (Revelation 21; 3, 4.) So yes it will happen where we'll be able to live without them ever again! What a wonderful future we have to look forward to God is very loving kind & merciful! (Deuteronomy 4;31).
We understand you, you have people on this side. ❤
society as a whole has normalized, accepted, and even encourages narcissism in present day society.
@@bonnieromick9397 So are we.
I gave her time to repent, but she refuses to repent..
-Rev. 2:21
THIS! 💯
You are not child of god cause you are mortal.
In a sad way, this was cathartic to hear. I feel sorry for the narc in my life, but after 55 yrs of wickedness, I have a serious disease and no support from them now. So tragic. I leave them in the hands of the One who made them and will deal with them justly.
Oh they wont deal with sickness at all
I'm so sorry you're very ill from a lifetime of this. Please spend the rest of your life continuing to place this in God's hands. In the end sadly we can't regain those lost years nor change a narcissist. They were damaged in childhood by narc exposure themselves and they morphed into a narcissist to survive. We victims also damaged by narcissist parents & relatives. The more I read posts the mire I see the patterns are generational. Narcissists hate & discard ill people who no longer are any use to their needs. God will ground him in living hell misery with no more supply, totally abandoned.
God's power surpasses all narcissists
Praying for
Trust in Jesus Christ always, He died for your sins also. You will receive not only all Gods inheritance but also a perfect body SOON! 1 Corinthians 15 is comfort for you!
If you could specify your disease perhaps we can talk about natural remedies e.g. mykotherapy medicinal mushrooms which are my favourites. God has given so much help to heal our earthly pain, see Revelation 22:2. 🙏❤️ Blessings your way, MARANATHA!
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I'm in the same boat..
It would be so nice to see survivors of long term narcissist abuse. I want to hear from people who have succeeded after the horror. It would give me hope too!
After a 21 year marriage of lies and dishonesty. It took me 4 years but I am free and finding my health and healing. He has turned our children against me because like a true bully he can’t stand alone, he must gain support. I know The Lord is working and He will restore the years the locusts have eaten. My focus is in my health and healing and being with Almighty. God will repay justly in His time. I adore Kris and her ministry it is so helpful. God bless!
Health and healing IS possible and even likely when we focus on The Lord who is the restorer of our souls.
@@sharonwisdom I too have gone through the same. Next month will be 5 years of not being with my children. But God… I stand in hope and prayer over my children. God knows the tears I’ve watered the many seeds with.
I pray for restoration of your family.
I'm a survivor of a covert narc for many years. God took me out from the narc life. I went NO contact since then I'm getting healed and delivered with the help of the Lord. We're not alone. God is there with us he sees and hear all the things the narc does to us. I gave my ex narc to the Lord in prayers. Vengeance is the Lord. GOD will take care of them.
Here I am. A Survivor. 26 years I have been with my Wife who is a covert Narcissist. She is currently using her “ways” to turn our 19 year old Son against me. It’s absolutely Evil. She literally laughs in my face after she does it. It is diabolical. She cheers him on when he disrespects me. I have had long talks with him about this. He understands she is a manipulator.
She had childhood Trauma and learned to be a Narcissist from her Mother.
Everyday I get up and literally live in relationship HELL. Passive Aggressive behavior all the time. I am becoming a Master of Greyrocking because I am dealing with cunning demons.
I am working on ME. I have lost 100 pounds and am climbing out of depression. I am trying to follow God’s command of just being Loving towards her even though I GET NOTHING in return. There has been no intimacy for over a decade. No touching at all. She declared herself off limits to me as she says she has decided to give up sex for life. She for a while would make me food and put her hair in my food, just to see my reaction. I cook for myself now. Sometimes I wonder if she will poison me. I hope not.
I have recovered from my Deep Dark Depression I have decided to not commit suicide because then Satan wins. I will not harm her because Justice is not mine to give out.
So everyday I work on me and try to figure out how I am going to escape this. I am 59, with medical body issues. I am working to advance my career as I am jobless and trapped. She knows this and tells me I am a failure. I just reject those thoughts. Satan isn’t going to win.
I just praise God.
Everyday is a gift. ❤
And me what Reese is describing seems A LOT like the failure Narcissist victims also suffer.... not succeeding at anything and serving the Narcs
God gives us peace, joy, hope and a future, life and abundance... those are things Narcs will never have. That is why they hate us.
Wow that is such a powerful statement. Peace is the one thing they will never have. Which is why they are always lurking around spiritual people. They are trying to figure out the "gimmick" in people that have peace. And it drives them crazy because there is no "gimmick" that they can imitate. Especially when they cannot impress or manipulate people that are at peace and know themselves.
If anyone is in a narcissistic marriage and in an abusive relationship. I can't imagine that our loving father in heaven wants you to be in this abuse!!! Thousands of women have been severely injured and killed because they were told to stay by the church or other Christians. I can't believe that our loving father approves of this🙏
Men are severely abused mentally in narcissistic marriages. I've known many young men that committed suicide over before my married and haven't not a child with whom men that are evil ,absolutely evil. And they lie and cry .the first thing they do is run out and get a protection order of abuse .that sets the stage for them to run with it .cause it's always the man ,right.
And men and children too.
He doesn't approve. Please search the scriptures. God instructed for husbands to love the wife like Jesus loves the church. God does not condone abuse.
If I may ask, what at are your thoughts about man in this type of situation?
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Yes men have been female narcissistic abuse victims also . Through the years, statically. Far more female murders and abuse have been from the men!
I don’t pray for justice, I pray she finds truth and healing. She was still my wife and the mother of my children, though we have nothing to do with her. Even with her constant vindictive and spiteful attempt’s at revenge, I pray she’s made whole..
God will judge us all in righteousness. Pray for her to repent and find Christ for salvation.
Yes indeed. I am praying for my husband to find salvation. I pray for God to send people that could help us, and pray for him to seek help. And pray for myself and my son to be covered by the blood of Christ. Please pray for us.
@blade...u must love her a heck of a lot..
Same
@@lollymadikiza3174 I loved my wife with the love god gave me. Sadly not many people have that in these time’s…
They are often given multiple illnesses as a means to draw them closer to God. But many times they just want all the pity, are never genuinely remorseful, and will never change (except for the worst), thinking they are ill as in God is shining in their favour. It's been an absolute mind-boggling thing to witness!
my goofy, good christian, brother in law faked cancer to swindle others out of money. you get one guess what hes dying of for real this time. no need to fake no mo.
I needed this word of encouragement, as this week has been tough. I was crying yesterday, thinking that the narcissist has gotten away with the things he has done to me and God is just silent. Really a test of my faith in God.
I Was There A Couple Of Days Ago Too
Asking Him How He Can Let This Wickedness Go On? That I Cant Even Eat The Food They Keep Trying To Feed me,..
I Speak Peace Over you And I ToDay
@@SherryONeill I totally understand and thank you for speaking peace.
Stop the tears and be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. The Bible says : The Lord will fight for you and you shall hold your peace.” Start reading all scriptures on courage, strength/strong, rtc
Oh, my dear one - I am praying for your heart to be healed, and that God walks close to you in this terrible time. 🙏
You have to believe that God is who he says he is. He’s just no one gets away that why we must all live a lifestyle of repentance
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
Be careful when she comes back..not allowing her to play with your beautiful feelings and your lovely hart ❤
That means you have made her an idol. The only solution for healing to is move your thoughts toward God and away from her. God’s words are clear: “Thou shalt have no other gods before me.” She has turned you away from God and made herself your god/idol. You played along. It’s a dance with the devil. Wishing you peace and the love of God. ❤
I went through the exact same thing. Fact: You do NOT still "love her". Rather, what your mind is going through is having to admit to itself that you were wrong. This is natural. NOBODY wants to admit to themselves that we made the wrong decision in life. However, once we realize this, it becomes decidedly easier to deal with it, get through it, and hopefully learn from it and not make the same mistake again.
Being wrong doesn't mean you're stupid or naive, or any such thing. ALL of us are imperfect. Move on and find love again. God bless.
Man I feel bad for you. That is almost impossible to get rid of...
I understand. I was where you are. The healing of a broken heart doesn't take place overnight. Time does not heal, God does. Ask God to reveal to you what you need to learn about yourself. Consider the reasons she decided to end the marriage, as God to help you to not only see the truth, but for you to accept the truth. I promise you, healing will come. Pray for her. She has decided to move on. It hurts. I'm so grateful that when I see my ex, it doesn't bother me at all. I released him years ago when he life and my life is so much better for it. Your joy will come, I promise you. Take this time to do you and God, don't seek another relationship right now, it could hurt you more and the other person. Healing is on the way.
Bless those who persecute you bless and do not curse. Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Do not take revenge My dear friends but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written It is mine to avenge I will repay says the Lord.
I was in worship and I was thinking of the insane outburst from the narc the night or two before and a Holy Spirit whisper came to me clear as day and said " I saw it, don't worry, hes not getting away with it" . I KNOW God KNOWS and I know he has a plan and justice will be served one way or another. I know this relationship is coming to an end by the strength of God's hands, and all I have to do is receive that freedom & be free indeed. Plans are in place , many doors have opened & its coming to the point of just walking through that door & living the life God intended for me to live. Definitely still the hardest thing ive ever had to do but God also showed me a vision of whats to come and my purpose in this life & I hold on to that promise knowing it is just on the other side of this. I am so incredibly weak right now but I know how strong my God is!! I can do this & I will be blessed. Spiritual warfare is so so REAL. I know God wants me to fight this battle of a lifetime and one day I WILL Share my testimony of being finally completely FREE!! He allowed this because he knows I can do it! He believes in me, I have to reach deep down and believe in myself again that I can do this!!! There are lives and souls attached to this testimony, if I can't do it for myself I have to do this for them! Ive never seen someone be given so many obvious chances and opportunities to repent and then turn right back away from truth, and goodness every single time. 🙏🏻🕊️ Pray for me in Jesus name ✝️🕯️🙏🏻
Amen🙏🏼🥺
May The Peace Of Our Messiah Flood your Soul As you Are Delivered From The Gate Of Hell
You Have OverCome By The Blood Of The Lamb And The Word Of your Testimony And you Love Not your Life Even To The Death
EL MELEKH NE'EMAN!!
when we are week the He (the Lord) is strong. He will get you out of wrong situation.
I'm on my way out too, I've been weak, I'm still am because I'm not gone yet. Then we have to deal with the people who don't know, while we are lied on.
Yes, God is here we know we can Thank him we're not like this and only hope and pray others will see and wake up to the warfare we go through.
The Body of Christ knows, not the ones who play church, but the true believers know. ❤ So be joyful in that 🥰
May our Father continue to show you love, power, and peace. ❤
@@SherryONeill Amen!!🙌🏻
LORD LORD LORD REBUKE THE UNCLEAN SPIRIT IN THE NAME OF JESUS LORD LORD LORD HEAR MY PRAYER LORD AMEN 🙏
Started in 1986. Still waiting for justice.
What did
@@Heathen________________172 my nightmare w the narcissists in my life.
Every narcissist is a jezebel they behave the way they do because they are already tornented commend them to the Lord and leave them be
My elderly mother had spent a lifetime attending church. She goes to church 3 times a week-Bible study, bell choir, ladies’ aid. I have never once seen her open her Bible at home. Never. She drove my father into an early grave with her neglect. She’s alienated all four of her daughters and sowed seeds of dissension amongst them. To the world she presents as a sweet, timid godly little old lady. But her grandchildren avoid her and her daughters frankly can’t wait until she’s gone. We can’t all be wrong about her. She professors to be a Christian, But what her family sees is a cold and distant resentful bitter negative self-absorbed covert narcissist. God has been keeping her alive, 87 years so far and despite failing health she has only gotten worse. I am not that sure about my mothers salvation anymore because I don’t see any fruits of the spirit in her at all. At times I’ve even wondered if she is demon possessed. I feel like she despises me and has my whole life. She seems to be in opposition of the spirit of love, tolerance, forgiveness, generosity… All those qualities which saved Christians are supposed to display toward other people. I don’t expect a transformation of character at this late stage and I can only give her up into God’s hands and let Him decide what to do with her. Christianity for her seems to be more of a social outlet and way to front for people about how pious she is. Only God knows if it’s genuine but by the evidence of my eyes it’s not.
Sorry for this,it's too sad and sadly happening to me.I never ever imagine I would any time disrespect my mum,but today we severed ties.
She's late 80's just like yours,a retired pastor but a gold-digger.
I'm here first born in my early 60's with two children and six grandchildren and another one on the way.
My mother used to ask for money from myself and both my children and I didn't see that good for my family because she got five sons and three daughters but is bent on destroying my family.She wanted control over all of us but I told her off though my children didn't see the danger she was posing.I got myself out of her hook and it's years since we talked.
She uses church as her cover up because she noticed I was not much into the church thing,I feared their money gimmicks and pray at home.
Believing in Jesus only, will not save us. BUT we have to obey him!!! And let him clean us from demonic possession and being born again! Get baptized and have a relationship with him! Receiving the Holy Spirit inside of us.
I know these type of „Christians“. And there will be Christians in hell! Because they didn’t obey God and weren’t born again.
@@justinamusyoka4986 No contact is best because she isn’t going to change. Feel good about your decision and just be sure to have your own end of life plans in order so that you don’t have to completely rely on your children when you can’t take care of yourself anymore. Sometimes the medical needs become more done children who are not trained nurses should be expected to take on, even when they are loving. My mother is the opposite of a gold digger. She is parsimonious. She gets some kind of self-righteous satisfaction over being as cheap as possible. Everything is a one-way street with her whereby her children have to always be the ones that call and invite her to meals and prepare food- She offers nothing. She has unfortunately become just like her mother, which is a feature that we dreaded and hoped wouldn’t happen but actually she’s always been like this. We just didn’t realize as children that all mothers weren’t this way. Despite her Christianity I think she fears death and clings onto her house and her things thinking that she is somehow going to keep on living for years and years. It’s not going to be that long, or at least I pray not. It will be a mercy to us all when she goes. She’s off to Bible study again today for her helping of virtue signaling about how much she loves the Lord.
The same song being played out in many homes. Personal experience. The Holy Rollers are the worst. And no, the one I know doesn’t really read the Bible
@marywenzel3199 This does not sound like an easy situation Mary.. sounds like she is missing The Father’s love😢. You have to forgive her-with your words to her face. How she responds is not important, what matters is that you lay it down and walk in grace/peace. I pray God gives you strength and freedom 🙏
My father was a narcissist and criticized me all the time. He was asking for more money all the time. When my mum passed away he gained control of the finances and would make me feel awful. He died from a cancer last year in about two weeks… Now I have found out that he was helped by my brother (a covert narcissist) even worst than him. He was manipulative and cruel also. Now my father has written a will against me and my brother wants to deprive me of my share of money ( after he has lied and pretended he would share equally with me). I ask God for his protection and care. What is rightfully mine under Grace can never be taken from me. It is restored or I will receive its equivalent. Amen 🙏
"God will send warnings".
Amen. He does. I was dating a woman for 6 months ( I shouldn't have been dating ) because I was seperated and NOT divorced and flipped over the handle bars of her bicycle and got a concussion. If that isn't a sign then I don't know what is?...
I've had many evil ppl try to destroy me. I've seen some of them fall in their own destruction! Oh well!! They chose their own fate!!!
Realizing my ex is a diabolical manipulator & liar has been devastating. However, God told me to be quiet & I have been. His hand is swifter than mine & His vengeance is beyond anything I could ever do to him.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Please move on!! She save your life!! You are free!! Pray!! Blessing
Is she the Voodoo priestess?
It is no longer my responsibility to change this person. God Blessings
Finally after 20 yrs of abuse, now 3 yrs divorced, my narcissistic husband ex is in prison in Rikers Island Uber solitary confinement and yet still Refuses to pay child support!!!! He rather rot in prison than give us any money. He has caught scabies and has no one! Lost his nyc penthouse, Mercedes 3 wives 3 homes and 6 children but still he is sitting in prison!!! 😳i believe and hope in Gods plan, justice and hope we don’t lose our home!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I pray for my Mother, the narcissist in my life. I also pray for my Father who has buried his head in the sand and been codependent. I turn it over to God. It's not my place to judge them. Not anymore. I still love them.
love from a distance.
I know Justice will come but the process is slow... God gives them chance to repent and comforts those who preserve. Those who trust God wins every battle.
Just stay in faith. Pray, pray, pray. Do good works regardless to others. Avoid them ..stand your ground. Do not back down.
Amen. Great reminder.
I'm gonna be honest,I don't feel bad for the narcissist,been dealing with a covert narc for 30 years,when God deals with that narc,he had it coming,without Godly sorrow there can be no repentance,they believe they can get away with hurting others but don't seem to realize they can't escape,God sees and knows everything,the narc's soul has been hijacked by the dark side.
My mother turned people agaist me. She stole from me more times than I can count and blamed my brother. She also took years & opportunities from me. Just this morning I wonder will I ever get justice? I will say, she died and was miserable the last two years of her life. Then this showed up in my feed. I guess, God is telling me not to worry. He has taken care of her. His timing is perfect. I needed this reminder. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this
This sounds a lot like my mother. I was literally JUST thinking (bitterly) about all the money she stole from me to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars, and then this comes up on my feed. She did MUCH more than that but the money was on my mind, as I'm struggling financially like so many are.
@@nkolemwaba2526 You're welcome.
@rhiannancaraway I'm so sorry. My mother stole money from me, my brother, and my dad. They take whatever they please and get mad at us for having a normal reaction.
It's scary how similar our stories all are, from around the world!😒
We met in Church. She was always saying God bless all when we were in public. But I knew better. After 22 years, I left. She won a lawsuit and was more than happy to leave me when I asked for a divorce. She bought a big beautiful house in Indiana. Im near family in Texas. It’s been constant tornadoes for her. Im in sunny El Paso. Beautiful desert breezes and a serene Desert renaissance home. She asked for it!!!
Thank you, Kris. I've seen this many times in my own life. If they don't stop, they will suffer, and some will die.
The more clearly you understand yourself and your emotions, the more you become a lover of what is.
I understood that when I witnessed it with my ex God was very patient with her but turned her over to it , and He took me out of the way to heal !
....help them Jesus, help us as well🤕🙏
He will heal them, soothe them, nourish them, teach them, restore them, console them. With utmost mercy and unspeakable care.
I HATE watching what they do to my grandchildren!!! And how they fool people.. and then you add in all of the deceit and falsifying situations and documents keep wondering when is God going to take care of the situation. So that we can have a relationship with our grandkids.
I’m telling you it’s like she’s talking about my life, because I’m going through it with my narc, I’m so happy I clicked on this video now I know I just need to let God fight him for me.
Keep praying to Jehovah God he knows what you are going through and he loves you very much and will help you I know I've been there
Yes, do your part as well get away, and get your peace. Pastor Kevin la Ewing has videos about the spiritual warfare we face. It helped me alot.
@@patriciapalmer4873 thanks so much
@@jernisharichard5032 great I going to his videos asap thanks so much for your support
My Narc Mom had a special love for my older brother, who died 37 years ago. She regularly receives "signs" from him... in the form of a statue on her refrigerator. She swears the statue moves, and is trying to tell her something. I remind Mom that her 40 year old fridge vibrates like a tank, and that is why the statue moves. I show her the scriptures that forbid communicating with the dead...and she defends her practice, saying "But it makes me feel good." She has always had the mind of a child ... I pray that God will show her mercy.
You shall know them by their fruit.
This was comforting, reassuring and timely. I was literally asking myself walking home from work this evening. Why this particular narc continues to live their best life after causing so much damage, destruction and chaos to people. I was asking God where is the justice and why does he allow them to continue to do what they do and get away with it, it’s not right. Then this video pops up. I’m glad there will be justice. I pray for justice for myself and the many many others who’ve gone and endured the abuse and toxicity before me. Every day I’m thankful for the opportunity to heal. Forever changed by the trauma of the abuse.
We understand, pastor Kevin la Ewing has videos on how the spiritual battle with these things are. ❤ May you continue to seek his knowledge and understanding ❤
I'm forced to supervise a toxic narcissist and she's taking a toll on my mental health with her constant filing of complaints, lying, weekly schedule changes, frequent sick leave, conduct issues, 0 productivity and on and on. I've had enough. I hope God takes action soon.
Do you Not Have Authority To Ask For her To Be ReMoved With Good Evidence Of Why?
Sounds Like she Is Costing The Company Money Time And The Productivity Of Others
I Pray Right Now For The ReMoval Of The Evil In your Environment And For your Health To Be ReStored And Vitality To Grow
In YaHshuahs Name 🙏😊
These people never go away ever. It never stops. Prayed for years and it doesn't stop.
It does stop just ask Jehovah God for help he loves you very much pray often and from the heart bless you
Pastor Kevin la Ewing talks about this, watch some of his videos, it helped me. Sorry for the aggravation she brings. You will get strength from it, take down the information if you can, but be cautious.
Look up deliverance, renouncation prayers for difficult coworkers and keep saying them... there is a African pastor, forgot his name on UA-cam but has very good prayers
I pray for holy Justice and Mercy, that their hearts may be softened as they turn in submission to Him
Sometimes we forget and need reminding that God is in Control. Think of Joseph, the favorite of his father Jacob and look what his brothers did to him.
God knows the way that we should take and at times, the journey isn't as sweet as we hoped.
I've learned two facts that never change, the decisions/choices we make, and the consequences of those choices. It never fails. Think thru your choices first before making them. Don't be like a pinball ball and just bounce around hither and yon and expecting everything to be as if it were well planned. Pray always about the choices you make and be patient about it.
Be purposeful about this one life you have and Trust God and get to know Him better.
What God will do to a narc once they have consistently expressed their own, demonically possessed 'free will'... Only God will judge. Walk around these sad, twisted beings, toward the Light. Always. Thank you Pastor Reese for your ministry. As someone who has suffered the life long consequences of narcisstic behaviour from a 'loved one' I feel a genuine sense of comfort hearing your messages of salvation from God. Thank you and Bless you.
God have mercy on on these people.
Thank you, thank you so much. I had reached the point where I hated God for not protecting me. I have repented and still feel bad for all I said and blamed God for. I thank Hod that he thinks that much of me to turn what Satan wanted to destroy (me) into his glorious testimony. Thank you Jesus that you will heal me from the mental and physical pain heaped on me. I will not go down in flames because Jesus died for me and actually cares about me. Praise God!!! 🙏🏼
Praying for them to turn from
Their wicked ways and turn to God in full repentance.🧎♀️🙏
Great video thank you! And so true. I have narcissistic in-laws and after 36 years of being ostracized and disregarded by them God finally chose ME as an instrument of justice. All those years I was the family scapegoat with my in-laws, and I kept praying that God would do something about their mean/cruel behavior towards me, but I had no idea that God wanted to use me. Last year God opened my eyes to their abuse and then put it on my heart to confront their abuse. I kept praying that God would use my husband since that's his family, but God chose me instead; and as an added blessing my husband stood by me against his own family. My husband could see the abuse, but he didn't know what to do. And after we informed his family that we need to "take a break" one sister-in-law, in particular, went completely ballistic and launched a smear campaign against me; she even called our adult son trying to sow seeds of doubt about me claiming that I was "holding my husband hostage" and other ridiculous lies. But that didn't work and only made things worse for *her* ...and when my husband learned what she did he cut her off. She tried to buy his love by sending him a birthday present, but that gift was returned because we can't be bought. We're praying that she will repent and apologize, but that day may never come. In the meantime we're simply staying away from her.
Yep! I had to fight for my freedom while mine sat on the couch seemingly getting away with everything…. Until I divorced him and turned him over to God…
Nonstop.. totally exhausted !! They have us surrounded, it's like they all know each other and communicate..by the way know the REAL Jezebel.
It really feels like justice and exposure won’t happen this side of heaven. It’s like a knife in your chest waiting.
Exposure... I wonder why God doesn't allow mine to be exposed for what she is. She's old, completely alone but it doesn't stop her from telling lies about me to people, for sending her flying monkeys to harass me. I just want her exposed since her reputation and public image are everything to her. Lord, just expose her lies, her tricks, let everything that was done in darkness be disclosed by Your light, Amen!
Spoiled children grow up to be narcissists. That's my theory. They were horrid as kids, and they became horrid adults. If you get involved with one, it will become a horror show, with you as the victim.
Also severely abused kids can be one too
@@hereisayana8207 Agreed. They become spoilt adults.
I’ll never give up on God, ever!
And when He has come, He will convict the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment. - John 16:8
I’m in this odd place as I am done with all the games, the lies, the manipulation etc. this relationship has been on and off for 3.5 years, this January he moved in part/time, the blessing in this is seeing him for exactly who he is and not what I wanted him to be, on the flip side I want him out, but only God can move this man, being still is so hard because I feel as though I need to do something. Of course I’ve tried to end this with him, but behind closed doors is an entirely different picture… it’s hard to not loose hope …..praying for strength and patience ❤
the very first video i watched on narcissism was ended on the note of "if anyone lives a living hell, its a narc". i always carried that with me. they are the living dead.
Many evils ppl around us sometimes or often we don’t see them , God plz help me get over 🙏
My sister in Christ you are so right thank you. Pray for me to release my hurts and pains to God.
Love this. God hates idol worship. Idols can be money, celebrities, whatever. Pride is their sin and it's a deadly one. They are insecure as hell. God exacts his justice but it may take a little while. Let the Lord handle it and get rid of toxic people in your life, even if they are family.
God dealt with narcissists in the cross. Let’s not forget grace.
Apparently you haven’t been abused by one.
Thank you lord for delivering me from gina rocco and all the evil around me in jesus mighty name amen
Amen!!! Lord I submit to you completely!
God deals with everyone individually, even the narcissist. I am not sure that every narc I've known is wallowing in a hell of discontent. Some go years without consequences. Then they have a few, and talk themselves out of any notion that they might be accountable. This way they can still be blase and sidestep regrets. They never see the full damage their actions have begotten. For some, who continually ignore his red flags, I think God deals with them in the next life more than in this life.
What do you mean by “for some who continually ignore his red flags God will deal with them in the next life”?
God wants people to repent of evil doings and turn to Him. His justice will come.
@@tiffanydean5245 God is always trying to connect with us. Sometimes I think He does this through circumstances. For example, so many narcs experience failed relationships with spouses and children. That is a wake up call, a red flag that something needs to change. But most narcs dig in. At this point no one other than God can explain it to them. I assume that in the next life God will explain things to all of us that we didn't understand in this life.
We don't see everything they go through, their great actors
Amen
Their behavior is not acceptable anywhere. So dangerous
The need to be still is a real godly way to deal with it. And to speak out the good name of Jesus upon them so that they may find salvation.
Gloating over revenge makes you no better than the person you’re plotting against. Pass.
The lies they spread will come back tenfold.
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Narcissistic abuse is gnarly to survive as a child and extremely difficult to heal from as an adult. This is especially true when the abuser is a scripture-quoting person who either is saved or just believes strongly that they are a Christian. Many survivors of narc abuse have confusion over how to set boundaries and also obey biblical commands to honor or respect. Since true honor or respect include truth, it seems that narcissists don’t actually accept what they say they insist on.
The narcissist in my life and I spoke last week and we talked about meeting the Lord after death. She quotes scriptures that I also fully believe about believers being covered in Christ and having His righteousness imputed onto us. I agreed and also spoke of the Bema seat and giving an account of what we have said and done.
She does not believe that our sin will be mentioned at all as believers, but only rewards handed out there (at the Bema judgement). She likes verses like Hebrews 9:28. I responded with Romans14:10 - 12, Matthew 12:36 & 37, 2 Corinthians 5, 1 Corinthians 3:12 - 15.
I actually do think that she is saved because I have seen an occasional, brief, change of heart or behavior, which I do not think can happen in sincerity for a narcissist unless truly saved. Narcissism, however, is the main mode of her life. She lives in a simulation, a decorated prison by which she either cannot, or will not, escape.
Though now elderly, she is ever a little girl in a pretend princess dress--perfect, always right, brilliant, beautiful, and “good.” She also can turn into a childish monster who demands that her needs are seen and heard, at the expense of others. Any other reality is too shaming and intolerable for her to face. Pointing her issues out, no matter how gently, is anathema.
And though a professional in my mid-50's, I am still growing up parts of my inner self too. This can only be understood by those who have lived through this. ua-cam.com/video/Vjz6rTG3wao/v-deo.html My failures and sins, gifts and achievements, and my identity; all were swallowed up as a reflection of her or a dumping ground for her. One cannot truly exist in the presence of a narcissist.
Though I’ve worked on boundaries for decades now, I’m in another, deeper healing mode realizing that years have been stolen as I am still finding my identity. I have my identity in Christ SOLID. I just mean as a regular person.
Are the things that I’ve always said are important to me really important? What parts of me are still a reflection of her values, pleasures? What parts of me have I shunned that are really only her peeves? Having a usurped identity is deeper than codependency. Finding yourself after narcissistic abuse is almost like being born again. Some people call this, “differentiation.” ua-cam.com/video/7hZvRf2tR2w/v-deo.html
Just as the rain falls on the saved an unsaved (Matt 5:44-46), I think that believers can have any of the mental health issues that non-believers do. Many who suffered at the hands of a narcissist have their own disorders (or traits) or emotional/behavioral issues to uncover and get support to work through. I don’t think that we can know that all narcissists are unsaved. Change for them may be so rare and difficult that the fruit of the spirit is barely perceivable.
Saved or not, growing in an observable way or not, it is neither healthy or godly for us to support them in not living in realty. I doesn’t honor God to bow to a narcissist king or queen, but only to the King of Kings. To Him be the glory. Help me Lord, to see your love accurately, to hold ground against abuse, and to grow in both grace and truth.
Thank you for content that honors our faith, intelligence, and ability to overcome.
You summed it up so beautifully: "One cannot truly exist in the presence of a narcissist." It made me cry a little... remembering the day I left home, moving far far away, and forever. Deep down I knew it was my only chance. I too was raised by a childish monster who's world is now crumbling... she is alone, and scared, and miserable. Only God knows if she is really saved. I pray for mercy.
Get the hypocrites out of church ...
No you leave the church so youre not there when it's time for the Most High to deal with our churches.
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Amen
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He never said we must go to a building. We are all saints here talking, we ARE in FELLOWSHIP. please drop that , we were TAUGHT that.
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May I further add, we all live in different places. The Church is GLOBAL, not building by building. You just fellowshiped with your global church. Spoken in love and glad I met another few members of the global church.
The churches are cults. Collecting money week after week and not helping those in need
It’s so hard to see your spouse get worse and worse as they get older and you know exactly what’s happening to them. My husband is 55 and I’m 40 and we’ve been married 10 years. It’s only this past year I’ve uncovered his “mask” and started putting up boundaries and cutting off his supply.
I still love my husband, very much, and it breaks me up inside to see this happening. I’ve tried and tried for nearly a decade to have him reach out to Jesus. I’ve warned him time and time again that God’s patience will run out. I’ve given him so many resources and opportunities for growth and change. I’ve prayed and prayed.
My heart breaks for our 19 month old daughter who will never know who he could’ve been. My heart goes out to all the wives having to see their husbands choices go down hill and their separation from God.
The hardest thing is he believes in his own lies that he’s actually close to God. But his actions tells where his heart truly lies. (Pun intended) He lies and manipulates without any hesitation. He doesn’t feel guilty and doesn’t repent. He doesn’t seem to “get it”. 😢
According to your screen, 'About Justice is near. ' Amen to this.
This video was comforting. I’m not Christian, but I thought the Christian perspective was very helpful.
Just you believing this video was comforting shows you are looking for truth… I promise if you let God in your heart you will start to heal. ❤
Yes, if you let him in you'll begin to see and heal. Through knowledge shall the JUST be delivered his word says ❤
God used you to answer my prayers.. keep doing what you doing.. thank you
Thanks for the warning not to seek my own revenge. I needed to hear that. Vengeance is mine said the Lord.