58. Re-attracting an ex!
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- Опубліковано 21 лип 2024
- In this video Rory discusses some things to think about while trying win re-attract an ex.
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A few things I wanna work on-
1. My Body
2. My communication skills
3. Controlling my anxiety
4. Reading more books
5. Creating a positive self image
Mayank Tiwari nice ! Those 5 things sound amazing. Best of luck!
@@JuanPerez-fq6wx Thanks man
Amen to that.
Me too...
How are you guys doing?
Things I can work on...
1. Work on my body, hit the gym more.
2. A more positive vibe
3. Be strong mentally and try not to think of the ex as often. Work on me 😁
No contact can be therapeutic only when your doing it to fix yourself and not attract your ex! Remember that ...I lost my sanity(still do) thinking ohhh if I do no contact I will attract them again ... and the truth is you don’t need toxic people in your life , you don’t need people who have dumped you , find someone who appreciates you
i fucked up and broke no contact and it hurt like hell. However, with a girl with abandonment issues, i had to do limited contact instead. NC now though, since I got what i needed to say out.
1. Starting my career/changing jobs 2. Driver's License 3. Emotional Wellbeing 4. Exercise 5. Saying YES to life
Olivia rodrigo is that u?
worked on myself
- new built body
- new friends
- new job at pharmacy
- graduating soon
- got a scholarship
- learned a lot of guitar
- meditation
- reading
- limited access to cell phone
- no contact
yet still no sign of my ex
Give it more time, it took me 5 years to have her back, honestly it took me 5 years and it passed as 5 days.
@@DanteGaKill I have never heard of a period like that. How did you got back in contact? This sounds amazing!!
@@chilla939 Just created another vk account and texted her back she missed me but tbh she slept with so many dudes during this period and she was single again but cuz of this I refused to be with her again so we decided to stay as friends, some guys might don't mind if their girl slept with dudes during their break up period, but I understand that no contact can work even for such long periods of time.
AGoodQudsi It’s not bad to post some of your guitar stuff on social media
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If you have new friends, new job and new hobby, you can easily find a new person to date.
I am stuck because all people at my job are women, and all of my friends are women, so I can’t find a guy anywhere except public places, which rarely works.
To be honest, I don't want him to comeback.I just want him to apologize for what he did to me.that's it
You Just need to apologize ...to yourself
Alice Mwamikazi same here ... 😏😫
If he apologizes you'll again start growing feelings towards him and that's not a good thing trust me... Best thing is just FORGET and believe that there are WAY better person in your life to look forward to
because tanishq do they never get karma for what they have done to us ? Or they never feel our love back? And I feel my ex behaviour is like a covert narcissist. 😭😢
@@priyaakshita334 of course they would but for that you have to develop your self... Trust me I've been on this situation and I felt like world was over... My ex was a textbook example of the word narcissist (so much so that I didn't understood the meaning of this word until I faced her and her BS) that much of a narcissist she was... But hey I just did the wise move and walked away and completely ignored her and started working on myself and looked out for new people, and experiences... There's a movie The Swingers... It really gave out a message: When you truly work on yourself and move on for good, the magic happens and that is probably you get a call from ya ex.. anyhu just believe in yourself and just COMPLETELY ignore and look out for people or someone who'll treat you like the way you wish for.. trust me everything gets better with time... Personal experience
He has to re-attract me, I will not move a finger for him anymore!!
Exactly
I honestly don’t want my ex back. I just want to stop caring and not attracted to them anymore, because my ex was a really beautiful girl, so it’s hard.
1. Starting my career
2. Finally getting abs (aka lots and lots of exercise)! :D
3. Being more social with my friends and family
4. Forgiving myself and my ex
5. Understanding my part in the breakup and working towards making sure those particular mistakes never happen again for the sake of my future relationships (whoever they may be with)
Ex just reached out! 3 weeks after breakup plus 5 weeks of no contact. Not sure what’s going to happen, but I’m using the skills I’ve learnt over the last 5 weeks of detaching, self soothing and self esteem work. I was anxiously attached and became needy.
The old relationship is over. This is potentially the start of something new.
I know so much more about myself and my attachment style. I don’t need my ex. I don’t need anyone. But I do want a relationship.
I’ve just sent a reply, now I’m going for my morning go run and I’ll meditate after.
Thank you love chat!
update? and if you don’t mind, what was the reason for breaking up?
I am following your path..
1-No contact.
2-Upgrade your better version.
Another great video. Understanding the logic of what is happening in my break up, is so useful. Rory, you have agreat clean and clear way of explaining. Thank you
1. Be more outgoing
2. Reignite my independent filmmaking career
3. Work on my relationship with Myself and God.
4. Take more risks.
5. Pick up drawing and guitar.
Love your work! Would love to see some content about friendship, toxic friendships versus great friendships, and also topics about how to handle those tough conversations and the psychology behind it.
I love your channel. You’re so motivating and your voice is so soothing 😍 you’re awesome Rory ♥️
This is the most perspective video I’ve watched here it does work . I’ve gone threw no contact I’ve gone from a super negative person to the optimistic and positive person I know, and weather it get me my ex back or not I’m happy with myself. Even if I can’t it made me a better person and I agree with everything said in this video
1. The way I talk and think about myself
2. The way I love my partner
3. My ideas and dreams
Had a Skype Session with Rory , very informative and helped me a lot as I was questioning myself and struggling with the breakup and NC.
Highly recommended Guys
Break up 10months
I'm waiting for my ex 10months
I decided to work on myself to improve
1)slim 5kg more
2)start a bakery class learning something new
3)traveling myself
4)read more book
5)im just bought an apartment start busy renovation
Is their lost which left us
Now start dating someone new
Wow. Mine broke up with me two months ago but I’m not willing to wait 10 months 😩. I’m sorry. You deserve better. Good luck!
How did everything go? Ex back?
Good job. My ex has been gone about the same amount of time. Have seen her with someone else. Im pushing forward. Lost weight, gained muscle and doing my best to bring myself back from the dead. Good for you! you have my support and best wishes. Rick :)
Rory, you are awesome!
1. Exercise more.
2. Read more.
3. Learn to communicate and control my emotions better.
4. Travel more.
5. Just be an overall loving and caring person.
1. loss weight and build muscles
2. new job
3. new friends hang out with
4. keep on learning new cube puzzles, i have 22 cube puzzles : )
5. stop porn and be man im calling to be
My 3 things I'm currently doing, My fitness everyday, Do something I've never done once a week, be kinder to strangers, great advice thank you :-)
It's good that you mentioned it might be hard cuz we may be really depressed..cuz I've been really sad these days and staying motivated can get so hard at times.
membering: Agreed. It's a never ending challenge to stay motivated and move in a positive, healthy direction. Not gonna lie ... some days I fail horribly at it. I'm getting slightly better at not beating myself up on those days. And on the days when I do great or even just ok? Well, I feel those are wins I deserve. Best wishes for you.
"How many times have you fell in love with someone who is already in a relationship?"
Me, a person with integrity: not even a single time ._.
1. Get fit
2. Have veneers
3. Therapy
4. Start a business up
5. Play guitar
Gyms open Monday
Booked at dentist for June
Been doing therapy for 2 months
Had a few guitar lessons
Start new company Tuesday on the 4th
And off down ex’s tonight for some fun 😂
I am trying so hard to trust the process, feeling down today after almost 6wks of no contact but your videos are helping through this wave. Hopefully it’ll pass like u say Rory. 🤞
Think about it like this: it gets easier and you get stronger at the same time!
I really like the fact that you mention how important attraction. Because whether or not people like it, it's the truth. The last time I saw my ex I literally looked like I was dying (thanks depression) and I could tell he wasn't attracted to me like he had been. The one thing I really want to change is my employment status.
Yep. My ex who is very gentle and diplomatic usually, saw me for the first time after 5 months (I was abroad). I had gained 50 pounds in our relationship (lots of drinking and partying). Plus I started smoking again while together (she is a health fanatic). During the breakup, she specifically said I looked like 'death' lol,
Just got dumped after 8 years, this is the only channel getting me through. Your voice is so soothing, ur ex is missing out. Also you sound like Seaman from Sega Dreamcast
Update
1) no contact
2) Sticking up for yourself, boundaries
3)physical stature, gym and/or self care= looks matter.... be careful who you attract.
4)social attraction, appear more attractive being seen with the opposite sex/threat partner..
5) interact positively in a crowed...noticed by ex
6) list 5 to 10 things to change for yourself....
7) trust the process
-gym, already lost 6lbs
-clearing out old energy and old things from my house
-new career goals
-healthier diet
-meditation
-more rest
-improve my painting
Spot on, Rory. Forbidden fruit always seems more tempting. 🍎
U have great advice. Thank you so much! 🙏😘
1. start running again
2. expand my social circle
3. get over the fear of being single
4. graduate from university
5. improve my relationship with my family
Was having the worst day. Major boost of confidence right here
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Its not easy at first, but when you can finally improve yourself it is absolutely worth it. Step out of your comfort zone. Push yourself and become self sufficient. You will feel stronger than you've ever felt before
1. Workout
2 New company/work
3. Solo travel
4. Learn Japanese and korean in the next 2 years...
5. Guitar
Mutually broke up 11 months on Valentines Day ;( . She is now seeing someone else.
1.Work on myself...that’s lots of fun!
2.Improving big time in the gym
3.practice not letting my insecurities get in my way
4.know who is mor important her or me
5.practice self love
6. Enjoy the moments with myself
7. Try something new everyday
8. Laugh more especially at my stupid thoughts, yes!!
10. Looks for answers within
11. Use my breakup for leverage to motivate myself for awesome changes....like yoga.
One more thing...I realized my breakup is now about her anymore, it’s about me....knowing that makes it so much easier to let her go and know I’m on my way to bigger and better things.
After 16 years together my wife left. Once i started to really work in me with fitness, new hobbies like playing guitar. I also started reading many books being really solitair after breakup i starte to go out and still working to build new social surroundings,i can honestly say It is her loss. I don't want her back my life is better and i am more me then ever. Stil, setting new goals and lots to do without having to be accountable.
Raimond Boom damn man that would’ve been so heartbreaking I hope your doing well
LoveChat, can you talk about some of these ideas: how to move on while still having hope for reconciliation, How to deal with the thoughts about your ex finding a rebound, If they are constantly thinking of their first love as they’re dating, not giving up hope when everything seems possible, how she changes the way she feels at the beginning of the end of relationship compared to being away for a while, if her parents don’t believe in divorce and still love and message you could they somewhat influence her decision later down the road, how to come back and show you’re no longer a verbal abuser. Just a few things like that.
Great video: Ex gone FOR A WHILE NOW.
My all-time favorite dog has bone cancer and I have to put him down tomorrow. I am dealing with it and doing my DAMDEST not to let it push me back down in to the emotional black pit of hell. He would not want me to be sad. he would want me to do the following:
1. Lose 40lbs. I have lost 20 so far. :) Stopped the booze and crap food. Feel so much better. Imagine that!!! lolol
2. Go out and do anything. I tend to be a hermit in the house.
3. Ride my bike. About to snow in Minnesota so this will be tough. MMM? Got it. Walk the gym track :)
4. Maybe go on a date. OR JUST DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT. EVEN IF IT IS BY MYSELF. It's A START.
5.keep myself distracted so as to keep depression under control
@Arizona Yales Thank you so much.
Can I just sign up for a coaching just to listen to your voice? You could read children’s books for all I care.
;)
Things I’ve accomplished since the breakup:
1. I actually have friends now. I’m learning that I am actually likeable and capable of making and keeping friends when I’m more authentic and don’t just focus on my ex!
2. Painting
3. Biking
4. Hiking
5. Made travel plans with friends
6. Relearning to drive (I’m 29 years old but always been scared by a past accident)
7. Hoping to go to nursing school next year
8. Learning to play an instrument
9. Learning a new language
10. Reading more books
11. I’m emotionally healthier and less anxious and less depressed due to everything mentioned above!
12. Joined a creative contest at work and won hehe
Now I just need to work on my fitness. I’m having so much fun dating myself that I’m not even sure if I want him back. Maybe I do, but I hope he doesn’t reach out for four more months at least hahaha.
What I've learned about women is that some don't become interested in you until they see you with someone else. Let that sink in.
Just like I said - we want what we can't have. However I must put emphasis on the word "some". Men also do this.
@@TheLoveChat Absolutely. keep the good advice coming. i love the channel.
Yea that's so true
I Am Chedda - it is called ‘the forbidding fruit syndrome’
@@bosschedda_ ok
You have a great voice! Thank you for your guidance ❤️
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1. my body even better
2. start flirting with other women and beat social anxiety
3. start going out alone and make new friends
4. get a job in a gym
5. start a youtube channel
You the best Rory♥️
And while we're doing all of these overhauls with ourselves, what is my ex working on changing?
I have always stood up for myself, been tough, a 'challenge' etc but after a while women DO get fed up. Not sure what happened in my first relationship (she cheated for 6 months) but in my other two relationships being 'tough' and standing up for yourself only lasts so long before you need to be nice. I guess a balance is the way forward. Just don't be a pushover and don't always be available at any stage of a relationship. Keep some mystery alive but BE NICE.
I am going to:
1) Grow my photography business and become more secure financially
2) Work through my childhood trauma with a psychologist and become more securely attached (vs. anxious now)
3) Join classes (e.g. salsa dancing) and other social hobbies where I can meet new people
4) Keep working on my physique (power & endurance)
5) Start meditating daily to help with my emotional balance
1. Worked on myself.. Successfully dated 3 girls since the ex with my newfound knowledge of the "dating game"
2. Got myself my own apartment (a huge step in the right direction for me)
3. Got a raise at work, and have been taking lots of OT work.
4. Musically, I have some of the most exciting projects that I'm ever going to be involved with going into 2019..
Clearly I've been growing, so I wonder if she's noticing.......
Its not about her noticing, its about you noticing it yourself
@@kenkham6145 I know man.. I'm doing it for myself 100%.. I'm just wondering if she's noticing..
@07 very cool DUDE.. I know how you feel... its easy to say who the fuck cares what she thinks... Hard to get our minds to that point... But that is the ideal point... You know how they say once you let go,,, women seem to know... Well it worked that way in my situation. As an aside.. I rejoined a Acoustic Guitar group lesson... So I'm growing musically also
@@matrixband12 I like that saying haha.. It's true though.. The girl before my ex was begging me to come over and have sex with her, but by that point I lost all interest.. I almost got there this summer with my ex.. July was a really fun month for me, and I definitely went a few days without thinking of her.. Gotta get to that point again! And that's cool man.. Playing a musical instrument is a GREAT distraction.
It's amazing what we get up to when we're given our freedom isn't it? Keep up the good work dudes! \m/
Items from my list
1- Communication skills
2- Mental stability
3- The ability to act without thinking on what others might say
4- Read more
5 - Start a vlog
I need to buy a guitar
I have to loose some pounds
I started reading more books
spending more time with family
Being more social in the gym
Damn i used to be all alone when i was dating my ex i forgot who i was..
"people want what they can't have." that's all good when you're in no contact and stuff, but when you do get back together do they still can want you? Given that same concept(grass is always greener syndrome). And how do you still apply that same concept when you get back together?
Hi the love chat. Thank you for your amazing work. Can you make a video about why the person who breaks up with you is super emotional? Blaming and cursing themselves, telling that she hates herself, etc? I could not find anything about that subject and I am really interested what is the reason behind those emotions. Best wishes :)
My ex reached out acall yesterday after 5months but said nothing what should I do now
1. 1.Exam in Medicine
2. Run 10km
3. Being more positive
4. Travel
5. Be there for my family
Are all of these videos also true when it's not your ex per say? It was a difficult situation and we were very intimate for about 2 months, then i got needy she pulled away i chased it ended. Couldn't go full no contact because we were working together, i did tell her however 3 times that i didn't wanna be friends and she cried all the time. She was always the one to initiate contact en touch me. I told her again i didn't wanna be friends and we havent been in contact since. Technically she is not my ex, so does all of this work for me as well?
So helpful video. Thanks a lot
Everyone's situation is a little different obviously but we all might share this issue. I am a cpl weeks into a no contact thing. Keeping avenues open between us is important naturally. Text, talk, messanger, facebook. I noticed she unfollowed me but is still friends via facebook. I last week unfollowed her also. Problem is we share about 19 friends. Some, my family to her and her family with me. Is this a form of CONTACT? If I'm playing Ghost with her, what should I do about the family of hers. For example her oldest son,Her cousin and her sister? Topics never being about her and I but what do you suggest?
What if the guy completely turn off his cellphone and its almost 1 month that he didnt send me any message until today..never said nothing he just disappear and this is unexpected thing for me..
Rory, if you could, even though this is a small percentage of time, do a video on about when a ex either lives directly across the street on how to handle that no contact, or when the ex mother is trying to remain friends after a breakup
Interesting. I'll look into this!
Please do, because i'm currently dealing with BOTH of these issues
Sounds kinda like my situation
Simple: don't shit where you eat!
I lost 15 pounds, I bought my first car, learned how to drive, got my license, then got my GED, so then I applied to college and got accepted. I want to be a firefighter so I want to study fire science, soon I want to volunteer to be a firefighter for a few days before I start school again. Also I want to rearrange my room because it's small and a good change will help a lot. And something crazy fun i want to do by September is go skydiving I'm excited about all of it. The breakup happened on February 28th but I kept working hard, I saw no light at the end of the tunnel but once summer started it was like God released me and I just went boom💥!
Great achievement brother!!!!
In no specefic order:
1. Dont care about the outcome its about having fun
2. Work out
3. Find one or more new hobby's / pasions
4. Go outside every day
5. Try something new
6. Practice DJ-ing
7. Get a drivers licence
8. Daily meditation (this one is tough for me)
9. Love myself (stop needing other people to feel whole/good/not alone)
Question. I live with her still. We're on a break and I only see her every couple days when she needs clothes or a shower. How should I handle myself around her? Everytime I see her, we can still chat about our day, smile, and laugh. Should I continue doing this or should I sort of be emotionally neutral?
I am under weight and i am going to gain healthy weight, and definitely going to read those self improvement books. Happy healing to all. 😇😇
NC works! ☺ Thank you Sir Rory..😁😁😁
Vidéo topic : what to do with with the love and desire that you have for the dumper (healthy and respectful break ups only) when you know you have to move on ?
1. New job
2. gym
3. get a car
4. be more socially active!
5. be more aware of others emotions and signals
Could you please go over something about the ex's life going downhill after the breakup? For instance I saw a picture of my ex on my friend's post and he gained weight. Someone also told my friends he's having a hard time and it's been several months since the split. He is the dumper. I'm not digging for these emotional triggers. I'm not talking or asking about him. I'd like to continue to move forward and look past little mental hurdles. Tips are appreciated!
What if I was the rebound relationship?
Is there any way you could do a video on ending a relationship. Then trying trying to contact the person maybe to talk to them because how it ended. And they just ignore you. I went into no contact. At the point keeping my dignity was more important. but could u do a video on that.
What if your not connected on social media or don’t joint friends, how do you social proof
I fell in love with guys in relationships many times, but my feelings had nothing to do with their relationship status. I was attracted, pursued and then realized they had a girlfriend - it's not something I talk about when I meet people - so by the time I find out, I'm too hooked!
Can you do a video on being dumped because she’s “emotionally unavailable “
1 get 6 packs 2 build my financial up 3 get the new job 4 paid off my student loan 5 move on with my life
1. Get fit to climb a mountain (started going to the gym)! I loved doing this in the past and I’m gonna do it again!
2. Learn some Spanish! I love language and it’s useful!
3. Already moved into my own place in an area I love!
4. Make new queer connections and nourish my current relationships so I have a solid sense of community, see who else is out there, and build my confidence
5. Already accepted a much improved job from my current one! Work life balance baby!
I’m doing great. I’m lucky to have me ❤
Thankyou so much. Blessings ❤️✨
My ex fiance blocked me on her phone and Facebook messenger but she is still following me on Facebook but she also returned her engagement ring and the keys to my apartment in the mail I need some advice on this please I want to win her back we were together for almost a year since the break up we have been in no contact
What if she moved far away what's the point now
Can you do a video on my ex left me for his ex plz n what to do about it?
My goals after she dumped me!
1. Read more books
2. Call up friends to check in on them rather than just going to them when I’m feeling down
3. Get abs by December 2020 (6months!)
4. Expand my diecast hobby page/side hustle (@dailydiecastsg)
5. Get a new job, I don’t like where I’m at but covid-19 situation makes it hard to get another job
1. Make more money
2. Get bigger
3. Be calmer
4. Learn judo
5. Focus on my purpose
Please consider preparing videos that referenced couples that are married but separated (not legally). In my case we are 22 years into marriage with 3 kids. My wife informed of her desire to get divorced and has moved in with my in-laws in her country of origin. I have been successful in stalling divorce proceedings based on my discussion with my wife. I liken this experience to an alarm clock going off and one year into her moving out I am in the best shape of life, we are better off financially but I have a long way to go based on my goals, I am doing a great job managing all household responsibilities on my own and taking care of our kids. I am a business professional and have traveled to Asia and Europe which is when my wife willing returns home to take care of our kids.My wife has seen the positive changes that are taking place. How do I get her level of enthusiasm to increase to the point she decides to stay home? I believe she is going through a bit of a mid life crisis as she was a stay home mom and is currently working in my in-laws family business. I also feel she has been pressured by my sister in-law to work in the family business as well as to spend time with my mother in-law, who I believe feels lonely when my wife is not present.
I want to be less angry- part of the reason my ex broke up with me is because he hates conflict and I tend to be argumentative.
I want to give myself respect- I felt like my ex wasn’t ever considering my feelings enough and I want to be able to stand up for myself when he doesn’t.
what do i do if they say they’ve lost feelings or like something is missing (currently in NC) he seems to have moved on after three weeks he’s going out with all these new people
Do you have an update om going through this please help
I want be physically stronger!
I want to be more successful in school!
I want to be more social!
I want to be okay with being alone!
Thanks Rory.
I fucked up. I text her after a few beers the other night telling her how much I missed her. She's in a rebound and it's been nearly 3 months. At least she knows how I feel, but maybe that's that.
Hi ! Roxy ! Dated for 2 yrs. I'm 56 he is 61 with 5 kids. All was going good. We did fall in love. I was seeing him 1x/wk and I wanted to meet his kids so I can have a full blown relationship with him. When I asked can't wait for that day to meet your kids he said I can't give you more ? You need someone who can give you more ? He broke it off ? If he loves me, why is he not working it out with me? What is the real reason he pulled away. Please help me. I'm hurting so much. I feel like I have a sliver in my heart 😢 please help
My ex actually jumped into a rebound with an orbiter that has been hanging around. See the thing is that me and my ex one day tried to rank all the people in the friend group by how attractive we find them. She placed the guy she branched to as least attractive. Other than that the dude is a complete clown. She's gonna have one hell of a realisation when puppy love wears off. I quite pity her 😂 I think she's gonna lose a lot of friends over this stunt (don't mean breaking up with me, the cheating part)
I told me ex the other day that I’ve changed so much in my life in positive ways because of him. He looked really shocked and probably thinks I’m mad but never mind 😂
Well after she said she doesn't wanna see me anymore i mopped alone for a couple of weeks and then i quit my shitty job... I wanted something higher risk/reward so i just applied and started it 😉 i wanna overcome my fears one by one now!
No contact....& Joined the gym too..💛
After listening to this, I begged. No wonder she said she didn’t love me anymore. After 4 years and many mistakes on my part. It’s time I take control of myself. Dominance.
What if my ex works in the same office as I do? And he is in a rebound relationship with someone from the same office? We were together for over 3 years, we were living together and ready to buy house together and then he left me without any specific reason. How can I do no contact with seeing him every day?
i was in that situation also,had no choice but to see them together,,,i just focused on me and work and didnt get into anything more,,,it was the hardest 2 years of my life until i got my transfer.
Only one
1= forget permanently her 🤣
Already list 25 lbs. Moved in with my kids. Now working on getting my house on the market. Hopin to out alot of money in the bank so i can seriously house shop like we were doing the week she dumped me. It's been 3 months.
It’s been 4 weeks of no contact, it was brutal..but today I’ve been finding myself kind of put off by my ex, like how he could just leave me like that (he’s dismissive avoidant, I’m fearful avoidant and became needy)..like I bloody love myself now and feel turned off by the fact he doesn’t seem to love me as much as I love myself..can’t believe my mindset is slowly shifting like this, considering how crazily addicted and heartbroken I was on the first few weeks of no contact..im hopeful for more change in mindset!
And even though right now I still wish he would come back some time in the future, I hope I will have forgotten my feelings for him, to start anew and let him be the one to obsess over and chase me instead~
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Thanks Rory: Went NC 245 days. she reached out sever times... Physical Changes: Lost about 20 LBS... training for a marathon... 18 miles last Sunday for my training run. I grew a beard and started putting Gel into it to be more stylish. Some of my female coworkers have helped with new wardrobe. I saw ex 2 weekend ago.. we hung out. Then she says she just wants to be friends. Rory how about that as topic? I said NO to friends... she knows I want more.. She got mad I said NO to friends. SO Im on day 2 of NC...
I would continue no contact and start moving on with life like dating others
you said she got mad because you refused to be just friends..that is good.. keep going stay on NC and maby at the end you will find yourself doesn't whant her back
Walk away and don't look back . Don't waste your time with her you may miss out on an opportunity!
Hey bro! Weren't you saying that you thought she'd never reach out in other vids? This is encouraging to me because I'm a little over 210 days of NC, so maybe there still is some hope that I'll get a text some day. The physical changes are commendable. You should really do that for yourself though, not her. That's why I haven't really done much in that department. I'm already fit, and have no desire to look like a juicehead lol. Anyway, yeah.. Stick to your guns and stay no contact. She's still trying to see if she has power over you, and testing to see if you've become mentally stronger over the course of all these months. Strict NC from this point on.
@KK yep... I have a date with someone new this up coming weekend
Hey Rory thx for your work.
Just one question please : what if the break up happened two weaks ago and i did not set the frame (ok, let me know.. Blabla) ? I discovered the vidéos after... And she blocked me..
I went no contact singe then but i have the bad feeling that i am not equal.. That bother me real bad...
Telling her you're going into no contact isn't important, just to go head right into it!
@@TheLoveChat thanks for your answer. I truly understand the mechanic behind this and i believe in it. Although i believe my situation is hopeless.
She is a very decisive person (not stubborn) . Very healthy relationship. I did small things that turned her off completely. Its been two months now that she felt no attraction or love anymore and be totally cold. She is seing me as a friend.
If i had seen the vids few weeks before i could have her back without difficulty... But now i feel like i dug my own grave.. This happened so fast... She is moving on.
@@TheLoveChat too weeks blocked.. Just found out that she message me 2 days ago on instagram.. To see how i am because she knows that the dump she did to me really kicked me out in the teeth.
She feels concerned after blocking.
Thats a start.
Dont know what to answer yet.
This is true, my ex treated me very well but I was not attracted to him physically.