Do we need to meet new people and make new friends? Challenges and Tips.
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- Опубліковано 25 вер 2021
- This week, Jules, Ivy and Lorna talk about how they make meaningful connections with people in their 30s, why it's a bit more difficult to make those connections now, and how they navigate this path.
Lornzie is serving the truth today! If you don't have the emotional capacity, imagine it's not a must.
Yes
Not a must thats me.
Am with Lornzie 100%, i can make professional connections without necessarily building to friendships but yet stay open to it if it's meant to be... rather than overloading my emotional capacity.
When Ivy is moderating it really gets that Money Monday vibe. More interviewish less chitchat-ish, really focused conversation and everyone gets a chance to share their side of it
Factsss✴
But chitchat is also good sometimes cause we get to learn somethings from their unplanned vulnerability
@@hope.n.wilson sure thing. I like the episodes whichever way
I like how Jules is in touch with her spiritual self '"I don't think that God can give you a desire for something and not give you the resources to do it".
When Jules said, "Your tone matters" I felt that. I may forget what you said, but never will I forget how you made me feel, so f*ck yeah tone matters.
Adulting is hard guys. Lately most of my friends have become 'people I know' I realized I have been watering dead plants. Always the one checking up and when I don't they don't.😒 So road to meaningful connections. 💁♀️
Good to "see"you here☺️
Hey you! Good to see you too.😊
This is soo me! It's exhausting
I can feel you on that
I Feel you 😭😭😭so exhausting
Ivy is serving a look for us today💅🏿
Ivy's personality is amazing !!! Ivy, Don't dim the light trying to fit in. You are dope as you are !!
my sentiments as well
I relate to Lornzie so much. Introvert struggles😭 Small talk literally kills me. What are we even talking about?
Being an introvert is such a struggle.....I always strive to meet new people but I also cant stand small talk.....but as Lorna said alcohol sometimes helps and having extroverted friends has proven to be quite crucial.....its always nice to see a fellow introvert share their life experience
I am those people who don't have friends. I am an introvert and my social battery is kidogo... I feel more energized being alone working than hanging out with people.
Ooooooooh my God! This is me! 😅
Meeeeee 😂😂.Sometimes I sit and Wonder form ni gani.I dont like people
Woooow.....same introvert gal en reqlly selective on who to hang out wit🙆
I so feel you, I enjoy my space and company most of the time. We should start an introverts group lol!
@@geewangare Hahaha we start an introvert group, then who is going to keep it engaged. 😂😂
I realized especially when you need to meet people especially people you want to learn from, you can provide a venue for them to meet and do some fun activities, be the provider because they are so used to giving either resources or advice or just anything, be the giver they will naturally gravitate towards you and ask questions and you'll have changed the game instead of you going to them they'll come to you and they'll remember you.
That's some good advice. Thanks for sharing
especially
Perfectly articulated
Lornzie's pony tail is beautiful. Infact all the ladies look amazing and beautiful😍
My current struggle tbh. Recently turned 27 and realized I barely have any networks. When ivy keeps saying that your network is your net worth on #moneymondays,it triggers me...I feel poor. I've been so snobbish of people who reach out to me, maybe coz I fear being vulnerable. But I'm actively learning to be better.
So true..
This is me, you are me #WorkingOnMe
Ivy seems different today. A good different. It seems like she is baring her soul and opening up more. Learning and unlearning is definitely something I'm constantly working on as well.
Her confidence has grown on this show! The poise with which she stirred this episode is remarkable.
I used to think I was weird until I heard Lornzie talk today...nimejikubali sasa. I really get worked up when I try to socialize with new faces.😂😭
That Jules point of tone,i had to check my mother on it and now we're best friends.Sometimes to reach the diamond you need force.
I'm learning to have zero expectations not necessarily in trying to make new friends or relationships but also in life. It not only reduces the chances of you being hurt but also it increases the chances of you being open to what the universe has to offer. Absolutely loved the episode 💯💯💯🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I am with you on this.. I got the same concept from an author and a public speaker…Wayne Dyer??
@@chelseakoveti5674 not really .... It's just from my personal experiences and some self help books like the Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz . It changed how I looked at relationships. I'll look into Wayne Dyer though 😃💯💯
I read this somewhere and it has been my mantra for this topic of friendship "I place my friends in three mental categories; (1) Best Friends (2) Good Friends (3) Acquaintances. It's important that I understand where they stand in my life because unmet expectations breed frustration. Some of you are expecting your number 3's to ack like 1's"
I'm like a fusion of Ivy n Lorna. I can easily make friends but maintaining the friendship weh 😂😂is a hustle. Yet I'm really young Amazing episode ☺️.
Such a timely conversation, this has been on my mind a lot lately.
I agree it's hard making friendships
I'm glad there are men who enjoy Over25 as much as us.😁😁
watching you feels like having 4 beautiful elder sisters who walk me through life... Such a blessing.
Officially turned over 25 yesterday (26) been a huge fan since i was 23 through.
Am glued at ivy’s outfit..that blue is serving looks❤️❤️❤️❤️
It's purple
@@lorrecco my bad,looks good either way
@@lorrecco I also see blue 😂 interesting
I also see cobalt blue 🤣
But is blue
What a coincidence?
Yesterday i was thinking how hard it is to make friends, i have serious trust issues, i question peoples intentions, been done bad in the past.
I really long for people whom we can have great conversations and not just gossip
This year i have really learnt a lot about friendships.. its good to know where your 'friends' have kept you (lack of a better word) because you may be there for them all through and one day you realize you didn't mean all that to them,,, my painful lesson this year , am now making meaningful friendships and its beautiful because most of them we are like-minded.
Ivy amesema tusema tulike before tuwatch...whoms am I to refuse?? 😆😆
I’m a lot like Julia. If you come at me the wrong way, even if I’m wrong, it shall not go very well. And my family keeps scolding me about it. They say I take things to personally and I’m burning a lot of bridges because of it. But I just feel that your tone and how to communicate to me and your energy is a BIG deal and if it’s not right, I’d rather not pretend to be okay and yet I’m not.
Really enjoyed todays conversation - Ivy is a fantastic hostess and it was lovely to have her back on the show. This conversation is really important especially in this post (?) covid space - finding your tribe and nurturing those relationships. its a daily struggle for me but I do have some takeaway lessons from the episode. It's so lovely to see Lorna blossom; I loved seeing her contribute more to todays conversation and as a fellow introvert, I identified so much with what she had to say but would encourage her to take on the counsel from Ivy to just try and get out of the shell. It's so difficult for us introverts though 😭😭😭. Jules as usual is a whole vibe on her own - she should have her own talk show. Jules is easily Kenya's Oprah. She is hilarious, relatable, wise, practical, easy to listen to .. I love her!
I totally agree with Lornzie, honestly my current friendships are like cactus. I barely communicate or meet up that much because adulting is the hood of the hoodest.
As an introvert, this episode was A LOT…. I wish it was easy to just flow! Aki people can be draining… how do you start a conversation? How do you walk away from one?! Small talks ah ah
Same sis, it is very hard. It is just too much.
I can relate . Let’s just start here and be friends lol
Yaaaas. People can be draining esp for an introvert
@@ilungasaya437 yes! 😌have us our own little introverted crew
Well 5 years back i was like on top of the social circle ....but now am like a social introvert....it exists guys...😂....
I really appreciate your topics ... I am in my 40s and learning.
The book " How to Win Friends & Influence People" by Dale Carneige is an invaluable resource
Very true ..
I'll have to check this out. Thanks for the suggestion
@@katewamuyu2465 Highly recommend
I just can’t explain how much i learn from you guys
I am turning 23 in a month,and I always feel blessed to have known your channel,a was taking notes 📝 the whole time😂,can’t wait for next Monday
❤️❤️❤️
Happy 23rd Birthday in advance Vallarie.
Ivy, you should read "The year of Yes" by Shonda Rhymes. She recalls her experiences during her yescapade.
Nice episode!!, being an introvert, i really get drained by small talk.....i would rather just sit and listen than talk... i thrive best in my own little world than in groups and i love it that way
Jules has just spoken exactly what I have been fighting within myself since USIU...am I a musician or a corporate person. It was really antagonising. I believe that people shouldn't give up but, just grow up. Every experience is part of maturing us.
Tone and words ARE everything😂😂
I'm those people who can think about someone's tone even months later
This combination of ladies with great personalities, beautiful, very informative is just what I need. I feel like you are my friends. Great work ladies...
This is such an eyeopener for me.Been struggling to relate with people.Thanks alot ladies.💗💞
You're all glowing...Thanks for making our Mondays special ❤️❤️❤️
Love this episode... this is the kind of honesty that's required for friendships to succeed! Keep it up guys!!
AUTHENTICITY!! GEMS!! I really apreciate your input to the society.
Thanks Jules for that point on alignment. Some habits and traits about us cannot be permanently fixed. We'll be triggered and resort to our comfortable defense mechanisms. It's normal. What's important is recognizing when you retreat to old ways and getting comfortable with apologizing to people and promising yourself you will try to handle similar situations much better in the future
First time listening. I am sold, this is so meaningful.
Love this topic. There is a podcast I listened to which said that if the intention is not clear it becomes manipulation.. so set the intention for the connection clear
The part where Lorna is starting to yawn🤣🤣🤣 and Jules shamelessly points it out
Ivy being self aware and conscientious has been the highlight of the recent blogs!
I am very proud of her!
Having a Friend who understands you and pushes you to be better other than seeing you as toxic is the best thing 💯, communication solves alot too. Powerful chat 🙌
Much needed, I really needed. I have learnt that I have to be intentional about making meaningful connections with like-minded people, also, I can have a tight circle of friends and still be intentional about seeking other like minded people.
I love how Ivy has grown. You facilitated this session so well. And kudos on your self-awareness
Haiya I totally related with Lorna in this episode. I fucking hate small talk😂 As an introvert it's really hard to make new connections/friends😅 I'd rather stick to my ride or dies🥂
Watched this video just when I've intentionally purposed to review my friends/social life and I got so shocked that I actually don't have friends, over the years a lot of people I called friends really hurt me and messed me up and it has really taken some time for me to want to have friends, but again I'm human and I've been feeling particularly lonely lately but I can't seem to bring myself to find friends or just people to talk to but with all this knowledge I've gathered today I feel I'm definitely at a better place to get new and meaningful connections, thanks girls for this talk, really helped.
The content is so relatable now that we're in our 30s. Content worth a watch, channel worth a subscribe! From 🇹🇿
Watched this just when yesterday I spent a whole afternoon conversing about how loyalty doesn't even exist in most friendships... people stick with other's for selfish gain....and some friends honestly are a whole emotional baggage
Welcome back Ivy..you look amazing
Lornzie😍😍😍 you and I are so much alike, small talk, socializing..... Not my cup of tea, it's haaaaard
Everything about this video 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you so much for this - it is so timely for me in my personal life. Thank you 💓💛💛💓
This is a great topic. Thank you for all the highlights and all the tips you provided. Being intentional and seeing how people are healing their traumas is my big guide when searching for a friend. When making meaningful connections, I attend events and collaborate a lot. A meaningful connection should always be beneficial, targeted and highly intentional. I am an introvert but when it comes to a business I create an agenda in my mind, or I just talk on what I know. Virtual coffee, virtual lunch or a virtual hangout is what I do mostly. I meet people in conferences, virtual conferences, the common activity groups, and through people I have done business with and I liked the experience.
Lornzie has made me feel like i am a normal human being. I struggle with my current group of friends. i cannot deal with a bigger circle
this was a great convo!! I like that every POV on this topic has come through from each one of you but Julz on spiritual alignment you got me...
Hmm! Was literally thinking about this yesterday. Feels like it's harder to make new friends as I get older.
I have made peace with the fact that am not a good friend and I can be selfish. I am working on correcting that side of me and becoming a better human.
The struggle is real
we need more of these conversations .You guys teach alot.
So refreshing!❤️
And to Jules yes please think about the art growth lessons,painting etc..😊
People like I ,would love that kind of community connection.
Loved the conversation!! Am like Lornzie introvert wise! I struggle to make small talk😅 Also i thinknthe growth is because you have now become consistent with posting and we are here for it!!!
Lorna is so me…I also feel like I have everything on my phone 😂 ..very intentional about the connections I try to make as an adult and small talk is just something I can’t keep up with.
23 and loving it here!
Hi. long time follower first time commenter. Can I just say how much I appreciate the candidness with you lot. Amazing how this talk corresponds with what am going through at the moment, Iove it.
👌👌👍👍👍I love this conversation.
Absolutely needed this!
I'm with Lornzie on these introverted struggles. A glass of wine or fabulous cocktail, really helps me loosen up to interact more with strangers and stop overthinking the situation 💯😂
I am so Lornzie at this stage of my life! From 2014 every year my resolution was no new friends and I think this will continue for sometime. Relocating twice the past 3 years has moved me to make friends but I’ve made very few but meaningful connections. I also hear Ivy because when I moved her approach now is what I used to make friends and then filtered them down.
I resonate so much Lornzie 💯💕
This talk is soo timely for me… love you gals
Wueh!!! really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you ladies
Welcome back ivy! 😍
You guys are top tier in helping the yout and everyone in between. Thank you so much for staying true to who you are and I love you guys’s friendship. The best Kenyan influencers in town aki.
Been thinking about this a lot lately..thanks for the tips
Let's just say your videography and quality are crisp!!! Would love a tour of your setup and equipment. Keep at it!
Julia it's such a delight listening to you!!!
So helpful. Thanks ladies.
yaaaaayyy I'm happy to see you guys ...hay atleast I have something to watch in the evening. Yaaayyy
i love today's discussion.I am an introvert and I have been trying to break out of my shell.Thank you for the tips1
After watching your TED talk then this....you guys are on fire....love all the way
Highlight of my day🤗🤗🤗love you guys❤
Loved this episode and really needed it, thank you ladies
Loved it ❤️. So timely 👏🏾
I understand Ivy's struggle. That's so me 😌
Me too
Me tooo😂
We need a support group!Alpha females☺️
I love Jules 💜. I relate with her on so many levels like when she starts quoting the likes of Abraham Hicks, Eckhart Tolle, and other spiritual gurus. Also when she said I'd rather have a best friend than a boyfriend..💯. I look forward to making a real life connection with you Jules 😁
Authentic conversation 💯
love love how y'all know yourselves.
Wow...
Enjoyed this!
Learnt alot
Such a cool episode!
Small talk is abit weird for me too. Lornzie +me =🤝
Loved this episode. 💯
For me, networking is tough for me cause I feel like people think I am forcing myself on them when I have always PRIDED (hahaha) myself in wanting people not to think I want them like that. Same with ordinary friendships. I'll take a number in a party and never follow up cause I'll assume they'll think I want them too bad. Crazy
I am so LORNA NOW,I always relate to Jules or Ivy, but today oh Lorna I feel u!!
Learning to learn myself....💙💙
This is one of my favourite episodes this year, I feel like I'm at counseling guys. I'm very good at making friends and meaningful connections, BUT HORRIBLE at maintaining them, especially when going through a tough time, The last 2 years have been horrible for me and I completely shut off friends that I have known over 11 years, I didn't trust anyone apart from my sisters and a cousin . I really need help with maintaining relationships. Thank you guys for this topic
Aaah completely relate with your comment especially on the last two years bit and shutting off friends completely. Mine is worse coz even family is not spared especially when on a downhill. I try but just cannot let people in when spiraling.