How Sex & Intimacy Changes in Long Term Relationships

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  • Опубліковано 8 жов 2022
  • Hey ya'll!
    Dropped something for you this public holiday. This is one of those conversations that evolve over time. It would be interesting to know your thoughts based on your personal experiences on this topic so please leave a comment sharing the same. Like, share and subscribe to our channel.
    Thank you for watching!
    Always,
    Ivy, Shikie, Lorna & Jules.
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  • @twentytwo3840
    @twentytwo3840 Рік тому +383

    Ivy is very knowledgeable,Lonzie is super rational/logical,Shikie is so intelligent and jul's is fiercely fearless. Much appreciate you over25. Keep on with the good work.

    • @sharon.towett4781
      @sharon.towett4781 Рік тому +1

      Oh, lovely ladies,all of them, Jules is bae though😅😍😍😘

  • @alliah3548
    @alliah3548 Рік тому +77

    I love how each one of you represent every woman. From a woman who has been married for a long time with kids, a single mom, a single lady with no kids and a newly married woman who is expecting. There so much to learn from each one of you, not only ont this video but on the others too. Keep them coming!

  • @misswanjiru1987
    @misswanjiru1987 Рік тому +107

    I feel like my next relationship will be top notch because of over 25 and TMI ......the knowledge these ladies spitt.......wisdom tupu❤❤

  • @mikendere
    @mikendere Рік тому +23

    Male take on "Act of service", believe me, I am overwhelmed sometimes that I had to check with a close friend if I have problems, I think it happens when the woman is young hot blood and may be due to some stress you feel it's just an act of service. Men are not always ready! And men love Over 25😊love you guys > 5 years

  • @clarissecladia6234
    @clarissecladia6234 Рік тому +62

    1:59 "Lorna's Correct.😍
    3:56 "Lorna's Over 25 Member.😍
    6:02 "Julz- I Am For The Streets And The Streets Are For Me. That Is On PERIODT!😅
    6:10 "Julz- I Can Be Snatched. Somebody Can Snatch Me.-By Mistake (putting this on a tee😂)
    7:23 "Ivy...Next Question, See Yah.😂(she couldn't be bothered)
    Take Aways From Yall's... 💯
    1. Communicate your sex styles. For the love of God let us stop assuming.
    2. Go on an orgasm hunt.
    3. If I am not in the mood, si I just have to communicate.
    4. Inject some spice.
    5. It is okay to schedule sex.
    6. It is okay not to have sex for weeks, months and years after bringing life into this world.
    7. Consent in long term relationships is vital!(thumbs up for the topic on consent)
    8. Pull our your Kiswahili for beginners books.
    Well Done Ladies.💛💛

  • @bakaribakari_
    @bakaribakari_ Рік тому +38

    You people should consider transforming this into a Podcast. #OverTwentyFivePodcast
    Think about it.

  • @makreesfamily.5769
    @makreesfamily.5769 Рік тому +16

    Jules looks soo pretty the way they zoomed her in ,her laugh and dental structure.yes we ended it on a high note.

  • @SamanthaNyakoe
    @SamanthaNyakoe Рік тому +59

    You know what I like about the over25, the fact that you admitted this was hard to do and that yall still did it ! The way you give time and listen to each other's perspective on things. May God bless your friendship honestly.🙏 I just turned 25 and I'm so happy to have watched this channel for over 3 years now :) My internet big sisters fr.❤❤

  • @nancyuhuru5627
    @nancyuhuru5627 Рік тому +11

    Two things have gotten me so excited in this episode. First, I was thinking about this literally yesterday and you talked about so I reaaaalllly am your TA! I'm getting to hear from people whose opinion I trust. My heart. Y'all are fantastic ❤️
    The second thing is THE KIJANI RING that Jules has on from Jada Marshleys...I have one too and I am so hyyyyypppppeee..
    Omg 🤗

  • @suzziekagucia5243
    @suzziekagucia5243 Рік тому +18

    I love Jules for real...' I can be snatched, somebody can snatch me by mistake' 😂😂😂😂

  • @nicolewangari
    @nicolewangari Рік тому +5

    Can't wait for the concent conversation, there's so much we need to know about it that's not addressed ❤️✨️

  • @sukumawiki
    @sukumawiki Рік тому +15

    36:29 - Ivy, you said the answer to this question 30 seconds before you asked it - 36:00 . "If they can't get it up, they can't get it up." That's basically it. You had the answer all along. A man MUST be "in the mood", and there are no ifs and buts about it. Even if you can somehow 'jumpstart' an erection like you suggested, it doesn't mean that the erection will last. There are men who want to have sex of their own accord, let alone to perform an "act of service" for their partners, but still can't because of erectile dysfunction. I think we sometimes forget or overlook our physical differences to our own detriment. It is imperative to always consider the biological underpinnings of who we are when answering these questions. We might not like them but we cannot ignore them.
    A man who has subscribed.

    • @cysheewaish
      @cysheewaish Рік тому

      I agree to this as a woman who has been in a long-term relationship. At times he really wants to because I'm in need but he always tells me to give him some time.

  • @harrietbanda9009
    @harrietbanda9009 Рік тому +7

    All looking Beautiful ❤️☺️Good to have you back. shikie and ivy I see those matching leg tattoos ☺️

  • @almasieva7092
    @almasieva7092 Рік тому +3

    I appreciate you girls and the conversation that you had. To me, you are the elder sisters I ever had. I keep learning and getting informed on new perceptives. ❤️❤️❤️Thanks for having this conversation

  • @robayohannes5331
    @robayohannes5331 Рік тому +2

    Great to hear that ladies can openly talk about this topic. I left Africa when I was young and sex was a taboo that no one talked about. Keep on keeping on ladies.

  • @mercywanyonyi7307
    @mercywanyonyi7307 Рік тому +15

    Informative topic, guys please talk about the changes that a woman experiences before pregnancy, after they conceive and after childbirth birth not just immediately but also during parenthood and in different stages of a baby as they grow and even start going to school. I think it will be great topic because your group also represents these stages.

  • @wanjah.374
    @wanjah.374 Рік тому +7

    The pioneers of Bold Conversations in Kenya❣️ receive your Flowers 💐💐💐💐🏆🏆🏆🏆🥇❤️

  • @elvismugo
    @elvismugo Рік тому +9

    JULES KNOWING KELLY CLARKSON IS ONE OF THE BEST VOCALISTS OF OUR TIME❣

  • @LizzyElly
    @LizzyElly Рік тому +15

    17yrs in a relationship and everything you’ve said is so true 😅

  • @savannahondego566
    @savannahondego566 Рік тому +10

    Hey!
    This was a really good conversation, thank you!
    Please bring Kaz to the show to talk about consent.

  • @jacquemoriah
    @jacquemoriah Рік тому +3

    Jules you are just the one for me. I honestly just loveeee you. So real, so fierce.

  • @dorcask7244
    @dorcask7244 Рік тому +98

    👍I think you guys should delve further into the topic of consent sometime in the future.
    I have also noted that Ivy has been a little more withdrawn and talks less in the last few episodes but when she talks she asks very important questions and gives really good insights.

    • @shadiahfaisal6315
      @shadiahfaisal6315 Рік тому +1

      Same thoughts 💭

    • @irenegalgalo
      @irenegalgalo Рік тому +11

      I agree and she also speaks even lower now and it's a struggle to hear what she's saying.

    • @carolinekatana9897
      @carolinekatana9897 Рік тому +11

      I know her mic 🎤 is set right, but she doesn't want to speak lately. Body language in this clip is withdrawn. She is leaning further from the gals.. my observation ✌️

    • @missmaloba
      @missmaloba Рік тому

      J

    • @suwambs8541
      @suwambs8541 Рік тому

      you just solved your own puzzle.

  • @beloncekamz2821
    @beloncekamz2821 Рік тому +8

    What is Monday without warembos💕 making my day brighter🌞😍. Leo mumeamua topic moto moto coz issa holiday😅. From the comfort of my bed😍.

  • @lizlilly3246
    @lizlilly3246 Рік тому +19

    I am for the streets and the streets are for me 😂😂don't I just love jules aha😂😂😭

  • @nancykitunga89
    @nancykitunga89 Рік тому +32

    Am with Lorna sex can be challenging when you are trying for a baby..I think I reached a point where I hated sex..Great episode as usual ladies...💖💖

  • @justteresiah
    @justteresiah Рік тому +3

    I really loved and enjoyed this conversation particularly about physical touch. I learnt something 😊

  • @geekette254
    @geekette254 Рік тому +2

    I agree with Jules on not being with someone who has walls up . Hugs are gold especially the long ones . Communication is also so important to sustaining sex long term. If there is breakdown especially in understanding your partner it looses touch.

  • @njerikinyua1835
    @njerikinyua1835 Рік тому +13

    Just liking and it changing from 999 to 1k..felt good

  • @myopinion4794
    @myopinion4794 Рік тому +1

    Waited for this long to listen to Jules....daamn!!Your ideas ....

  • @owenkariuki4438
    @owenkariuki4438 Рік тому +5

    Another Monday morning with Over25 conversations 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @LynnPinski
    @LynnPinski Рік тому +11

    Sasa am here getting ready and how I support the girls is let the adverts run cos I know my location increases the cash 💸

  • @faithmoraa4443
    @faithmoraa4443 Рік тому +97

    Hey loves...I'm really enjoying this content although I want to address the point on communication coming with age...I'm 22 and I'm at a point where if it doesn't feel comfortable I'm telling the man to get off😂😂,I communicate what I want,how I want it and all that...I feel like the communication comes with being empowered sexually and tapping into your sexuality...this is just me😂,thank you for this,lots of love ❤️

    • @lizlilly3246
      @lizlilly3246 Рік тому +3

      I am just happy for you tbh

    • @tashaalice6868
      @tashaalice6868 Рік тому +3

      I completely agree...the sexual education we also get from social platforms like tiktok and twitter have really helped to explore and understand our sexual needs ESPECIALLY as a girl

  • @winnienm
    @winnienm Рік тому +3

    From my first first days in a relationship i want the scheduling 😊 it spices things

  • @marywaigwa4448
    @marywaigwa4448 Рік тому +1

    We need part 2 of this episodes.
    Gals loved ❤❤❤

  • @ndirituchristinewangeci2885
    @ndirituchristinewangeci2885 Рік тому +3

    Always waiting for these videos 😊

  • @nemohwaweru9416
    @nemohwaweru9416 Рік тому +1

    The level at which I relate with Jules💯❤
    Love you all...

  • @kevinlemayian
    @kevinlemayian Рік тому +28

    tbh Ivy's personality screams 'dominatrix'

  • @nyaugenyaful
    @nyaugenyaful Рік тому +15

    On sex after child birth..... 6 weeks is just a guideline. There are women are stay longer and those who 2 weeks after CS are ready to keep it moving. lesson....... listen to your body

  • @brianochieng5904
    @brianochieng5904 Рік тому +1

    I sat the whole 57:51 minutes of this video and it has made me remember one Esther Perel who said that the female sexuality is massively narcissistic. What turns women on is for them to BE the turn on. This was stamped when Shiki said she felt sexy and yearning sex 3 years after giving birth.
    I am not saying it from a negative standpoint, I am now piecing the information I have been acquiring and it now makes sense. Because, having sex while you are not in the mood is like a chore; this is if both of you have always been intimate. Intimacy in this case goes beyond the act. Partners are always in sync with one another. If someone is really committed in a relationship and the situation is not a one night stand, both parties know if their partners are with them during the act.
    Thank you for this episode.

  • @donnajoe4442
    @donnajoe4442 Рік тому +4

    Ivy you're right about people's expectations. The entitlement that people have on others can be annoying. Anyway, you ladies are looking pretty. I wish we could see your outfits properly.

  • @carolkasyoka9862
    @carolkasyoka9862 Рік тому +2

    Since I stumbled upon you ladies in 2020 each episode has been uplifting and eductional. Keep up the great work ladies.

  • @cynthianaya
    @cynthianaya Рік тому +11

    I love shikie's hair😍

  • @zaramawi1256
    @zaramawi1256 Рік тому

    I was literally shouting at my screen trying to correct Jules that it's "mwashi"😂😂. That part was hilarious and so on point.

  • @clvyaswirryachieng5616
    @clvyaswirryachieng5616 Рік тому +9

    Jewels are back with consistency 🤝 good job ☺️

  • @janevelmaolela6655
    @janevelmaolela6655 Рік тому +39

    What a great conversation. It would be great to have opinions from male perspective on sex and intimacy and also consent in a relationship (INVITE shiv, bright , george ndiragu, mantalk and many other . Thank you ( OVER 25) for your content .❤💯💯💯

  • @makreesfamily.5769
    @makreesfamily.5769 Рік тому +2

    Now I look forward to Monday next week.great week ahead that episode was soo educational.

  • @doreennekesaofficial
    @doreennekesaofficial Рік тому

    Why didn't I discover this channel long ago. Amazing ladies. Over 25 is the real deal. Raw facts🤫🤫

  • @stellajillan
    @stellajillan Рік тому +1

    Everyone of you teach me different things in relationships💕💕💕☺️Always thankful for youuu🥰Hugs,💖🥂

  • @GabbyMadoka
    @GabbyMadoka Рік тому +3

    A video on consent would be amazing! It would be fantastic if you did it with Kaz Lucas! I think the conversation would be very informative

  • @tracykimani3021
    @tracykimani3021 Рік тому +7

    I admire Jules liberation😍 I want to get there😍

  • @esthermutahi2811
    @esthermutahi2811 Рік тому +27

    Noticed that Just Ivy avoids personal conversations and responses to group conversations. I like that. Good show I enjoyed

    • @user-br1mq1ue9b
      @user-br1mq1ue9b Рік тому +1

      @@judywanjiru975 Gai you have chosen Vayolence 😂😂

    • @KJ-zt9yy
      @KJ-zt9yy Рік тому +1

      @UCcW_kYdUzk15GnoinHfIbBg This was a very shameless comment from a fellow woman. Do better !

    • @esthermutahi2811
      @esthermutahi2811 Рік тому

      @@KJ-zt9yy She has removed the comment.

    • @annakamau2183
      @annakamau2183 Рік тому

      I was saying that to myself too 🙂🙂 she's a very smart lady, however she was too bored on this episode.

    • @barbraojwang8931
      @barbraojwang8931 Рік тому

      She is all about the money💰

  • @winfredchege8611
    @winfredchege8611 Рік тому +3

    You speak wisdom you guys am always having those aha moments 😍

  • @Ladyfaithke
    @Ladyfaithke Рік тому +6

    I come for information but I live for the money that’s always dashed before the talk 😂

  • @moshiriandrew5929
    @moshiriandrew5929 Рік тому +4

    I like this gal Jules sana ❤

  • @wincatenzau5769
    @wincatenzau5769 Рік тому +6

    Am yet to find a channel that I really really relate to like this one, for your info am older than you guys but I feel that you speak to me every time! Keep doing what you do best ps. do not go on those loooong pauses without posting here!

  • @empress2545
    @empress2545 Рік тому +6

    Ivy's outfit today is on 🔥🔥🔥

  • @dianamusyoki6076
    @dianamusyoki6076 Рік тому

    I love your content nowadays,good job guys 👏👏👏

  • @sharonanyango3070
    @sharonanyango3070 Рік тому +11

    Jules should always link or share the name of the podcasts.

  • @paulinewathirawanjiku8692
    @paulinewathirawanjiku8692 Рік тому +2

    i love this. i missed you guys

  • @stephanieachoki2645
    @stephanieachoki2645 Рік тому +2

    Lovely as always ladies

  • @FranEJ
    @FranEJ Рік тому +3

    Yes, part 2 required on consent in relationships. Some relationships have consent contracts and safe words. Consent in relationships needs to be normalized and not taken for granted that there is consent in all things and at all times just because you are in a sexual relationship.

  • @ndirituchristinewangeci2885
    @ndirituchristinewangeci2885 Рік тому +1

    Okey Jules had me at Moshi... Like whaaaat😂😂.. Anyway this was very informative....

  • @doreenonekalit9888
    @doreenonekalit9888 Рік тому +2

    Great conversation of revealing realities.

  • @abigaelmwangi1307
    @abigaelmwangi1307 Рік тому +3

    Loved the episode😊 as usual. There is a bit of echo or something going on with the sound. Apart from that. Lovely episode😊

  • @lucymwangi8982
    @lucymwangi8982 Рік тому

    Please do a part 2 with the men 👏👏👏..... I love this

  • @lizm7977
    @lizm7977 Рік тому +3

    This is really informative and i love how open yall are and comfortable

  • @claranorris1611
    @claranorris1611 Рік тому +2

    Yes it would be great to talk about it

  • @clintonkala7432
    @clintonkala7432 Рік тому

    Definitely enjoyed watching this podcast

  • @terrybouko8961
    @terrybouko8961 Рік тому +3

    Yeeeeees !!!!! Another episode

  • @kinyaesther60
    @kinyaesther60 Рік тому +3

    Notification gang kama Kawa💃💃💃💃💃

  • @nyawirakirori2116
    @nyawirakirori2116 Рік тому

    Jules...... You are alot like me. Ivy......weeelll....let's just say you give a whole new meaning to the term 'girl crush'

  • @annyn8937
    @annyn8937 Рік тому +3

    I love shikie's hair

  • @annlitah
    @annlitah Рік тому +1

    Always here 🥰🥰nawapenda

  • @virginiawanjiku8999
    @virginiawanjiku8999 Рік тому +6

    Lornzie had me at teesho ya sen'gen'ge😂😂😂😂

  • @FranEJ
    @FranEJ Рік тому +1

    You ladies are bussing (I only know this word because of my young nieces). Great convo!

  • @chizimwango6407
    @chizimwango6407 Рік тому +2

    Jules🙌🙌...nnakupenda bure🥰🥰

  • @wambuikihanya7169
    @wambuikihanya7169 Рік тому +1

    Hi, I'm a huge fan of Over 25. Your conversations, deliberations are out of this world. So quick one, there's phasing in your audio where the Left and Right are not perfectly aligned. That is what cause that 'echo' or 'reverby' effect to the audio. If you need help with it, please reach out to me.

  • @michellewaweru5449
    @michellewaweru5449 Рік тому

    Love love loved the episode♥️. You guys talked about what is always avoided. Wish Ivy talked a bit more cause I believe she's been in a long termish relationship and has given birth.

  • @Namarome.
    @Namarome. Рік тому +5

    Jules: I could be snatched by mistake. Me: Exaaactly !😂😂😂😂

  • @sanjayworld6622
    @sanjayworld6622 Рік тому +2

    Wow... Guys you looking gooooood😘💋👌😘😘😘

  • @kevikutwa
    @kevikutwa Рік тому

    First time and I like the vibes already… Ivy hello

  • @ItsHawawa.
    @ItsHawawa. Рік тому +3

    7.26 ivy is so cuuuuute

  • @elizabethnyabuta6130
    @elizabethnyabuta6130 Рік тому +8

    I really feel like this is an important conversation

  • @mollenkageha5747
    @mollenkageha5747 Рік тому +87

    Ivy has been looking withdrawn in the recent episodes & her voice quite low when she speaks. I hope you ladies can get back into the energy & psyche y'all had last year and before. It was so captivating. I'm a real OG fan of the fearlessly bold over 25.

    • @mimohomb3547
      @mimohomb3547 Рік тому +4

      Her voice was low,but we hope that she will be back on.

    • @wanjiku.ngotho
      @wanjiku.ngotho Рік тому +2

      Rest pls!!!!! 🙄

    • @hylandahdavid6987
      @hylandahdavid6987 Рік тому +6

      I had to go to her IG & see if there's something wrong. It seemed awkward to me that Lornzie is more considered to be in a long term relationship than Ivy who has twins who are older than the 4yr relationship Lornzie has had. It felt to me that maybe there's trouble at home,, in which case I still applaud her for being strong & showing up for over 25.

    • @sheyskitchen9960
      @sheyskitchen9960 Рік тому +9

      Kids and a relationship with a significant other are very different things.

    • @hylandahdavid6987
      @hylandahdavid6987 Рік тому +1

      @@sheyskitchen9960 True. I didn't mention her relationship because it was a moot point. Everyone knows she had her children with Lee & they seemingly had a great partnership 🤷

  • @khaled2736
    @khaled2736 Рік тому +1

    When Jules sings along to SZA's Garden (21:38) and the rest can't relate, am like DAMN!!!!!!😉🥰

  • @Mainaaaaaaaahhhhh
    @Mainaaaaaaaahhhhh Рік тому +4

    But I think money definitely makes the difference it facilities plastic surgery, tummy tucks etc so you can actually get the body you wanted even better than when you looked before kids

  • @estherkarugah9687
    @estherkarugah9687 Рік тому

    Very interesting convo❤❤

  • @monicaoliveira7608
    @monicaoliveira7608 Рік тому +6

    Consent around sex would be a great convo 🎊❤️ and also for differents ages.

  • @fondadrusie1100
    @fondadrusie1100 Рік тому +2

    🤣🤣🤣 am I a miner!!! Jules you are my spirit animal

  • @kelvinanjiiri
    @kelvinanjiiri Рік тому +1

    Notification gang 💓💓

  • @aunty.social
    @aunty.social Рік тому +5

    Beyoncé couldn’t have had surgery before Coachella, she started practicing for the performance 8 months before. How could she have gone through surgery and healed in time to practice? We also see her weight in the beginning of documentary. But I think she had a bbl after because this Renaissance body 👀👀👀

  • @Nickienysa
    @Nickienysa Рік тому +8

    When Jules insisted on moshi 😂😂😂
    I'd love a consent episode🙋🏾‍♀️

  • @winselaonanda816
    @winselaonanda816 Рік тому +5

    Been watching you guys in my early twenties❤️. I'm officially age wise to watch your awesomely educative content. Thank you so much😍

  • @learnlivelove7606
    @learnlivelove7606 Рік тому +8

    Dont come at me am just making my observations and I come in peace.....All of you ladies your energies are notably low? Are you okay ladies ?Ahuh also Ivy esp is abit low in spirits she isnt comfy and worse of th beginning she was dodgy....i mean in a circle of gals you always wanna be at per wth each other interms of life strides bt it doesnt wrk like tht...so basically when shiky and lonzie are courageously talking abt long term rship...ivy and jules aren comfy esp Ivy my gal ily so much I just hope you heal and bounce back...I love your energy so much...and whatwver it is all of you aredealing with now..may you bounce bank...hugs from me to you😚

  • @lorrecco
    @lorrecco Рік тому +33

    I miss how easy going and bold your conversations were when you started when you were more fearless 😅

    • @mercywangari5778
      @mercywangari5778 Рік тому +11

      Me too. Those episodes were amazing. I feel like they are holding back sanaa. Anyway guess with age comes with responsibilities

    • @Joanneshuma
      @Joanneshuma Рік тому +3

      Me three.....the conversations are less bold

  • @ebonyhooper1180
    @ebonyhooper1180 Рік тому

    She’s talking about Sza’s song Garden (say it like that) @21:35

  • @MsSoni-iu7gu
    @MsSoni-iu7gu Рік тому +37

    ❤️❤️❤️ Great episode as always. Had a request if you could improve Ivy's microphone. The past 2 episodes it has been misbehaving.

  • @Jojo-pv3uf
    @Jojo-pv3uf Рік тому +1

    I’m excited about this topic!

  • @denniskinuthia3261
    @denniskinuthia3261 Рік тому +3

    Kaz Lucas is the queen of the consent topic.Get her on the show

  • @mrpapy.
    @mrpapy. Рік тому +10

    this is a great show.. greetings to you all 💮💮
    Ivy you've really stepped aside in this episode

    • @didiash
      @didiash Рік тому +8

      she doesn't really engage in emotional/sexual stuff. she is all about the money and leveling up. serious convos😅😅😅😅