Dear 20-somethings- Things we wish we knew back then | The Unpopular Opinion UG
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I would tell my younger self that not making it to Makerere is not the end of the world. I failed s6 many years ago and my self esteem went from 10-0. I was so ashamed to be around people who went to university because of the fear of being asked where I went to school. I thought no one would ever want to marry me because in my head, who marries an S6 failure. I'm telling you I struggled with myself. However, God came through for me when I moved to Canada where I met so many people who had gone to college and some only high school and were doing well. Nevertheless I took some uni prerequisites and ended up going to one of the best universities in Ontario. So young self, just because you did not make it in UG does not mean you cannot make it else where.
Waaawu so interesting 🥰🥰
Touching story and too motivating.
I can really relate to this i actually lost friends many friends i must say because I wasn't talking about muk, kyu,ucu,usually, and I was just there all alone
I like your story. Keep going! Lesson from your testimony is that changing the environment is good for exposure.
Sending you 🫂🫂Am happy that all that is now in the past.
Something I wish I had learned earlier in my life is not to take criticism from people I wouldn’t take advice from
Wooooooo!!! I have never heard or thought of that. That is SO powerful! Thanks Faith 😊
I need this!
Your shouting…. 👏🏼 👏🏼
Wow
I would tell my younger self that it's okay to not know how your life will unfold as long today in this moment you are actively working to be better than yesterday. You will land in the right places
This is what I need to start telling myself now😭😭I need to relax damn it😩
Wow that's awesome
@@ndooliallen7735 you got this!
Totally agree with you because the future can never be too clear
Iam a silent follower and had never subscribed. But today, listening to you Prim, I've cried my eyes out.....it's been so touching. The way we talk to ourselves and our bodies....which have never failed us......wow. wow. Wow. Prim, at this moment and time in my life, God knew I needed to hear this.
For that matter I've immediately subscribed and commented too.
Thank you Prim
I learnt from Prim that if I love my ‘flaws’ no one will use them against me. I must say it’s a work in progress but let me tell you something, my confidence levels are off the charts. You can’t tell me nothing coz the vibe I give myself is enough.
😘❤️❤️ That's beautiful
This episode really made me emotional.Prim’s point on loving yourself was just what I needed to hear…Thank you guys 🤍🤍
Here is a 24 yr old gal,I'll be starting my year 4 in October,by the time I'll get done with law school,God knows 😂but I'm learning to live through everything,I actually didn't want to study law,but my mum,I'm sorry to say but yeah,doing the law diploma first was interested but bachelor's is hot but I'm doing this because it's what mama wanted.
And here I'm now struggling financially through everything starting with tuition,mentally...and then law school pressure,but I'm trusting God,Thank you ladies for inspiring and motivating us always ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hi Anna.
Can we kindly connect.
I strongly relate to your brief here and am heading towards the mountain you are climbing.
Some great advice would be highly appreciated.
Thanks
One thing i wish i told my younger self is, Its never too late to start over, some things aint worth the pressure that we exert on ourselves, im 22 and ive been meeting people successful at my age and yes at somepoint i felt like i have failed but ive learnt to take things slow, we all have different paths in life and we can not be on the same pace.
This is so true ❤️l can relate
The video quality on this episode is really good.
I would tell my younger self,life will shock you and surprise you but doesn't mean love it any lesser.I know that fully well now!Thank you so much for the honesty ladies and for being as real as you can be.Prim,THANK YOU.
God bless you all.
It's the " you don't have to fit in" for me. Thanks Claire.
Am a guy but the way I keep up with this channel 😭😭😭 I rewatch old episodes too
You have really given me a space to call home
Thank you so much
If I met these ladies in a restaurant, I would actually grab a sit jst to watch them talk😇
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Oh prim. This has changed my life forever. Like when has my body ever failed me? Never. And then I am wishing I was someone else. 💓. Dear me. Ever since I started watching The unpopular opinion, I am always waiting for prim's opinion because I relate to her. My life and hers are so close . I am 23 and I am lucky I watched this. 🧘🏿♀️
Min 17:10 Thank you beautiful Lady in the white t-shirt for calling out the people who think that if you tell of your experience and it has no suffering in it - you are showing off. Sometimes one is just having a beautiful season and we must be big enough to handle the happiness of others. Hugs from Accra♡
Im a Zimbabwean in the UK,discovering your channel has been a blessing to me,i can relate to most of your opinions and experiences… love you guys so much!.I would tell my younger self to value their time and guard it jealously..
Coming from a gent. TBH! PRIM there is nothing wrong with your body. You’re very beautiful & have a bubbly personality. The only problem is we live in a very harsh & judgmental country that often makes us question a lot about ourselves. One needs to be pretty thick-skinned to survive here.
Ikr
This is such a kind comment!👌🏼
Prim is a very charismatic, smart and confident woman. She is many things many women wish to be but can't.
Prim is mwaahh🥰 All 3 are terrific! Glad to see these issues are being brought to light🥰🥰🥰
Prim also has a high level of emotional intelligence.
Glad you're sharing this with a 25 year old me confused, feeling less of a person ,an underachiever all these emotions your shows are therapeutic
25 as well, I can totally relate. @Sandra Bridget
Hey its a soon to be 25 yrs old, very confused, unaware of how to go about life, failed my form6 couldn't have finances to acquire even a diploma, decided to work as a house maid and that's wea the low self esteem has kicked to the limits 💔
I wish the younger me knew that its ok to take one step at a time and be patient with what life has to offer as i work harder ofcourse because reality is far away from our fantasies
Yes to watching how you speak to yourself....Prim got me emotional there 😭
You all touched many sensitive topics. This can go even for over 20s. Mine would be, there is time honey, do not rush it: the job, the relationship etc I go with Prim though, BUY THE SHOES. It's tight up here.
As a firstborn parents can really push you with their expectations on life. Luckily, I have trained and taught myself to be kind to myself, patient and not let anyone plan my life for me.
I know right! The pressure of being a firstborn is something else!
I cried when I saw her talk about how you talk about yourself really matters. Thank you girl. You are gorgeous and this has impacted my life
21K💃🏾🎉👏🏾 What a joy to witness this growth!
Love the location and thank you for talking candidly about this, as with everything else.
When Prim touched on how we speak to ourselves😭 * Hugs *
Many young people are struggling now more than ever because of all the unrealistic beauty standards and 'life standards' really...(which change every minute😏 as if that's not enough) plus pressure in general from social media and its relatives.
I really hope the episode reassures many in their 20's (and beyond) who feel lost, inadequate or overwhelmed.
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You started with the template we are supposed to go through and I just remembered how we are warned to keep off boys only to suddenly have a husband in waiting. Like, where did he fall from dear folks?🤔
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I wish that when we were younger, we knew that we could leave, at any time.
If you feel like you are losing yourself, that is reason enough. It doesn't have to make sense to 'everyone.'
A course that isn't working out like Kemi mentioned, a bad relationship, a toxic friendship, an unhealthy work environment..
For different reasons, whether it is to fit in, make our parents happy, people pleasing, etc. We stay longer than we should in spaces which drain us when we could spend that time on people/things we actually like and grow from there
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Travel in your 20's if you get the opportunity. It teaches us a lot, even about ourselves.
It could be a job upcountry, holiday with friends, a Master's degree or fellowship abroad, a volunteer experience in a neighboring country, whether it is 3 months or two years, it will not leave you the same.
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Finally, listen to your gut. This is for every age, really, but I feel like it is something we don't pay close attention to when we are young(er). If someone's presence makes you uncomfortable and you have no other evidence other than a gut feeling - that is enough. If your gut tells you to miss that party, Sis, stay in watch a movie or even catch up on your sleep.
Keep it up team TUO!👏🏾
I can’t tell you how much I have missed you. I love the little nuggets you leave on our page. I love the kindness you come with. Thank you. Your absence is one I always feel. It’s such a joy to have you here. Thank you kalenzi
Aww@@nyonyoziprim
This is so sweet 🥺😍
Been watching 'silently' but always here. It really is my pleasure.
Thank you!
Thank you Esther. Needed this😭❤
@@Patty_k Aww, I am so glad. It's my pleasure 🤗
Love you, Esther. You're such an inspiration just like the TUO team😊❤️
Fiona is so right first borns we are unable to just be spontaneous perfection is expected of us
I can relate, you have to live your life for everyone else
Siblings to worry about
19:41 The day I spoke to an almost sixty year old woman is when I realised we have to make a conscious decision to love our bodies. At her age, she told me she has never loved her body. And yet when she looks back at her old pictures, that's when she realises, it's all in her mind. Every one needs that liberation. Forget the standards of beauty. Become your own standard of beauty even as you work towards the body and healthy goals.
Oh wow. I love this. Thanks
I'm 21 and I'm always trying so hard to manage. The pressure I exert on myself sometimes gets lethal. I hope to remember all that you ladies have said and breathe easy!🏳
Not Prim making me cry too 😢
You got a purpose and are loved gal ❤️ I'm not gonna let myself down anymore.
Prim’s story is one I relate to so much, I got emotional thinking about how I actually never appreciated how healthy I have been ALL THESE YEARS?! and all I always thought about my body were negatives. Wow. I can’t see myself the same again.
Thank you Fiona ….. for me I think the best decision I made was to drop my BIT govt scholarship after a year coz I was not feeling it and went for telecommunication coz it was my dream course. My dad got mad to a point of saying he won’t pay for my tuition but i politely said no I will manage….. and it was a huge fight at home but later I went and talked to my aunties and they promised to support me… in my second year my dad picked interest again and started paying for my tuition and he could ask me for whatever i wanted for school…. Today he respect me alot for the bold decision I made…..
Wow I can so much relate with you,I also did telecommunications Engineering without tuition coming from my dad,bt later he came around and am the Proud engineer now he looks UpTo......thnxs Ronnie
@@daphineabiro4225 nice to hear from you dear ❤️❤️
Awwww primmm🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 ur so right. We need to thank our bodies despite the imperfections.
Gal.. they aint even imperfections
Yeah Prim is right. How you speak to yourself. When I was in high school, I hated myself because I was so small. I looked at my pictures recently and realized I was actually beautiful. I always thought I needed a big size to be respected, loved, looked at etc. But I thank God have made peace with this small size. Because it has persisted 🤣
@presht I relate with this
Thank you Prim from a relatable one. People around can really make you feel ashamed of how you look like; yet you're more beautiful than you know.
Loving yourself such that no one can get at you with any of your 'shortcomings' (they're not shortcomings per say) is such a fulfilling journey.
This was a wonderful convo my darlings. Thank you ❤❤❤
You all look absolutely stunning today, loves! This episode was full of gems, thank you for sharing! ❤
As for Kemi.. honey, m glad u have taught me to accept what i want despite all the opinions from Society.. we actually needed this topic earlier
Awww Prim 🥺🥺🥺🥺 . I have learnt to be kind to myself and my body
25 working on being better person.thank you ladies for sharing your experience with us❤❤
Someone said "Comparison is violence against yourself". I see now how true it is. Work on being the best version of myself,not to be better than anyone but be more me.
Congrats on 20K ladies! Looking gorgeous as ever!!!!
Prim, you had me at the price of curtains. I've literally JUST bought curtains and "wow" is all I will say.
Great episode ♥
Prim made me so emotional. I've had so many struggles about almost the same thing. And when she said it and cried... i felt lifted up in some way. Thank you ladies.
Thank you ladies! The pressure from outside is so heavy,I would really love myself more than others because,nobody is gonna love you more!
It's never too late...I am on it!
Aww Prim, we love you! And you are amazing, I relate so much to what you said about speaking to yourself kinder because that's definitely something I've learned too, there's so much beauty that comes from being able to truly appreciate yourself.
The episode was lit 👌🏾....
I would tell my younger self that u will make mistakes n it's okay, just don't dwell on them, dust off yourself n try again. And then I would tell Myself that the only competition is with myself ( to become better) not with anyone else.
Being authentic not changing yourself for anyone being uncomfortable to make someone comfortable
Being apologetic for who you are
Love love love you Prim. I totally relate...we need to talk to our selves like people we love. It's crazy hard. I am on that journey too.
Such a beautiful episode 🥰thank you ladies
Thanks, queens, this is helpful as being on a self-love journey
My point in this is about the things we're afraid of..they came, passed and we didn't die. We're absolutely fine. So we literally go go anything we're afraid of now
So encouraging.
Awww Prim❤️🤗. You are right the way you speak to yourself matters. At first it’s something you have to do consciously but after awhile it becomes the default and you do it unconsciously. Been there.
THIS IS MY FIRST VIDEO I HAVE WATCHED AND FINISHED , MAN!!!! AM IN MY 20 SO LEARNING FROM EXPERIENCES HAS ADDED MORE FLESH TO MY KNOWING THUS TO AVOID LIFE PITFALLS, AM TOUCHED WITH WHAT WE TALK TO OUR SELVES, YOU A BLESSINGS TO US, I LOVE YOU
Not Prim warning broke people not to attack claire😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Girls u look damn beautiful. I love y’all. Prim🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹. I honestly can relate. 🥰. Anyways i loved this episode dear girlies. The video quality is lit 🔥
in my 20's I decided to leave home and go abroad because I didn't like the way people at home viewed me and it was the best decision ever.. sometimes it gets hard but am glad I left home and became independent also have own freedom without judgment
Hey Ndagire. I would like to use some tips from you if you don't mind
I love you people 💕🥇❤️thanks for the EPISODE IT'S been All I needed to hear 😊
Lol @Prim me too didn't think curtains were costly! I even had to check different shops, make phone calls to confirm with some family members!!
Thank you ladies for this advice, its really educating , some times we have to talk to ourselves better , we cheat our selves and most times we care for others and forget our selves , thanks alot
I’m loving Kemi’s makeup. I would love to see a tutorial! ❤
Great episode, ladies👏🏾👏🏾
I just thank God that I am able to watch this wen am still in my 20s. Thank you un popular opinion for this content
I'm a new member,just subscribed and I love your content today..I'm encouraged coz I'm on my 20,s now..thank you I know it's not too late to change and grow
So I have watched this episode for the second time. I'm thankful to God that I have come back to it at the end of the year and at the time when I'm planning my 2023. All your episodes are interesting but this one has extra wisdom 🥰 thanks for sharing with us ladies
Thank you for sharing this Prim, most of us have gone/are going through the same, this episode has been my favorite ,it has touched me deeply. Love you ladies ❤️
The weight issues my dears. Am a cancer patient. Was diagnosed at 31and for treatment came with weigh coz of dexamethasone but now it's like it's the only thing people around me see and talk about even after losing 10kgs in 4month. Now I just let them say what they want and mind my business
Prim that was so emotional darling, but it’s so true. It is something i would def tell my younger self. But now i know better, i am kinder to myself, i love myself more.
Pretty ladies here, you look good ladies. The light is giving, new ka background amazingggg!
Keep serving looks and wisdom❣
Loved this episode ladies❤️❤️❤️
Loved all these points!💕💕💕
It feel like you're talking to me... still in my early 20's. This is my first time here and I love it here
Ur one decision away from changing ur life....whewwwww🤗
Am from work and very tired actually But while i was still in transit, i could only think of; God wen i get 🏡 am gonna watch the unpopular opinion 😅 Thanks for being here with me
I Love The Inner Child In Prim.((flipping phone whilst saying her goodbyes)💛💛
Thank you for the episodes. And you all look good 😙
I always love everything from you pretty girls ❤,I’m so happy to hear this on my 20s,I’m a Tanzanian but I have been to Uganda for education ,so I remember the time I was at MUBS main campus(2017-2020)there was this pressure from people like u can’t be at campus with no boyfriend😀it looked so weird but I thank God that all I was doing and still doing is for myself and goal.What I have learnt from you guys is something that live and help to any 20s yr person.I always talk to myself each and everyday that all things would work as long as I live and as long as God lives🙏🏾.Especially us big fat we look so old but young and what I have realized is to accept myself for who I am😍,as long I’m health.I thank God for you guys I know all you have said is dedicated to me🙏🏾
am 22 and thing I have learnt like don't compare your with others and don't make others to be the victim of your anger....am doing business and sometimes customer comes with her angers (mostly woman 🙄)and abruptly shout on me badly for something and I just brush it off even if it's hurting 😭
Very innovative! Fell in love with your channel, thanks. Financial planning is something we really need! I have learnt a lot from you.
Thank you ladies for this segment.
It was Prim's opinion about the way we speak to ourselves. I have struggled with my body but mine is weight gain.
I'll be kinder to myself from now on.
I love the old set but the new one is 🔥🔥🔥.
This is so good. You touched things that a re so crucial to any girl growing up. I would also say, I wish I knew that there was no destination where you would feel you have reached. Like to learn to enjoy the now because its nature to always want more
Brilliant discussion. Thanks Ladies
wow,this is just for me,thank you beautiful ladies
Thanks for the show, ladies! Each generation of young people is faced with a different set of challenges; with today’s connectivity online, there’s a lot of comparing one self with others leading to pressure to compete for “success”. We forget that comparison is the thief of joy and imitation is limitation. Besides, science says a human brain fully matures at 25 years of age, so i’d tell my younger self to lessen any pressures and learn from mistakes committed. Also, i’d get myself a mentor whose life journey i admire for advise given their lived experiences and years. Childhood experiences/traumas consciously or subconsciously have an effect on how we turn out, addressing that also helps a lot. Lastly, i have a remembered a conversation i had with someone who mentioned that having his first child at 16 was due to his raging hormones! Yup, shooting fwa and aiming later has ramifications, so i’d think more through things first before acting and develop a good value system as my guiding template. Kemi, i love your voice.
I think every age has its pressures and as u grow make a decision that makes u happy and that ur willing to face a consequence good or bad n ur willing to own it...
I would tell my younger self that it's okay to be different... Have always looked at myself as a failure because I couldn't complete all the 4yrs of o'level in the same school... It's okay not to be liked by people because even when they like you, u dnt gain much, it's okay to let people go if they ain't treating you right even if they are family, u can still survive without them and it's still okay to study at whatever time in life as opposed to when i thought that i must study within a certain time frame. At whatever time u start, you still study n get there
Prim made me cry. But I can relate, speak kindly to yourself. It will reflect on the outside. Thank you ladies.
Thank you for looking gorgeous!!
Keep it up lads
a)- love the make up♥️ u ladies are looking 🔥.. and b) - thanks for the content .. ur shifting mindsets for the better, we appreciate! Younger me - don't miss ur life, time moves wayy too fast.
Thanks Big Sisters for sharing your opinion
This is just what I needed to hear right now
Thanks a lot!
All the way from Lagos, Nigeria 😊
Loved Clare's advice on the marriage part.
Thank you Prim🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻The power of decisions
Thank you so much Prim, you have talked about self love and acceptance
Yes! Self assurance is very important.
NEW SET alert👌
gundi! We are moving :)
Of all the violence I've known in my life, I have not known violence like the way I have spoken to myself. Prim,you mirror alot of our thoughts and feelings.We see you,we love you and Thank you 😘 ❤
U guys roll!!! Big ups! I so connect to your stories
Thanks for the volume on this one.Enjoying the discussion
Wow, so much wisdom here... thank you for Ladies ❤
❤️❤️ yes Prim. We need to talk to ourselves with more kindness
Woooooow... I needed to listen to you. It's very emotional but above all, God is the same & He never changes. God is in total control of your life🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Well done, ladies. 😍😍😍👌🏽
Really loved this episode.😍🥰
I love the new set up
Thanks ladies for working on the sound. We appreciate the adjustment.
I totally love this setup 😍😍🔥...lovely episode❤️
Prima I love you so much🥰🥰🥰 U're brilliant, and so humorous
Kudos guys, I love your content, you are so inspiring😍