Why men fail to attract good women

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 155

  • @callisabrown6334
    @callisabrown6334 Рік тому +80

    It's very challenging to find a healed Godly man these days.
    I'm at the point where I'm just waiting on the Lord to lead me to the man He handpicked for me. There's waaaaay too much toxic people in this world pretending to be good people when really, they are just wolves in sheep's clothing.
    😖

  • @moniquejanel
    @moniquejanel Рік тому +33

    Too many men lusting over internet models 😑😑😩

  • @drekathigpen4869
    @drekathigpen4869 Рік тому +138

    Very true. I dated a guy who seemingly had it all but I didn’t need the “things” to win me over. I wanted an emotional connection. He responded by stating “I wish the things that mattered, mattered to you”. These things that look like success and grand gestures don’t matter. Being able to sustain yourself is a basic necessity for your life. It just gets you in the door. Healthy women want to feel emotionally, mentally and spiritually safe and we can read when you’re not secure in those areas. It’s all in a man’s eyes.

    • @empress_me
      @empress_me Рік тому +22

      “Healthy Women want to feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually SAFE!!” 💯💯💯💯

    • @deadcell1
      @deadcell1 Рік тому +2

      You forgot to add financially and physically in your statement. Also, I want to ask how important is money to you in a relationship? Are you willing to date the average black guy who makes $30k-40k a year? Are you will to date a guy who earns less than you?

    • @drekathigpen4869
      @drekathigpen4869 Рік тому +12

      @@deadcell1 being responsible with the money you make is important to me. You could be with a guy who makes 80K and still not feel financially safe because of unwise choices you witness him make. No I wouldn’t date a guy who makes 30-40K because that’s 50% less than what I make. It would put me at headship by default and possibly strain the relationship. The exception would be if he’s making that while in school, a plan, etc. However, I would date a guy that makes less than me who is financially responsible. Money is not the end all be all with me but it is important. Hope that makes sense.

    • @deadcell1
      @deadcell1 Рік тому +2

      @@drekathigpen4869 If you wouldn't date a guy who makes $40k a year then IT IS the end all and be all for you. Also, how much you make is not indicative to if the person is fiscally responsibile or if they are financially educated. I understand because of a woman's hypergamous nature she needs her man to be more than her in all areas for her to respect him and see him as a leader.
      Let me ask you another question, if you make $100k and your man makes $150k and after you get married you decide to keep your career, business, etc and your income balloons to $300k while his remains the same. Are you able to continue to respect your husband and stay married to him?

    • @creating1_c1999
      @creating1_c1999 Рік тому +5

      Plenty of people get bored with unproblematic people and then complain when the problematic people they seek appear in groves.

  • @touchofgrace3217
    @touchofgrace3217 Рік тому +87

    6:12. This is so true. As a Christian woman with traditional values I expect a man to be able and willing to lead and care for me mentally, physically and spiritually.
    That’s the part the red pill community is lacking. They strip traditional values to nothing more than tossing money at a woman and maybe protecting her from physical harm. They basically boil “relationships” down to having a main hoe and side hoe. True relationships are far more than that.

    • @aletheamallory9674
      @aletheamallory9674 Рік тому +6

      Wise, sage advice for both men and women. Love and follow the Word, follow JESUS. But, will they do it?👑

    • @juliusdv6657
      @juliusdv6657 Рік тому +1

      religion is failing and traditional values are dying. You want a healthy relationship? Let that go and have a open mind. The idea that a man is supposed to take care of you is just as bad as the idea that a woman is supposed to cook and clean all day.

    • @touchofgrace3217
      @touchofgrace3217 Рік тому +3

      I disagree. A relationship is designed to be a partnership where each person uses their strengths to care for the other mentally, physically and spiritually.
      We live in a time in which both men and women have been taught to serve themselves instead of each other.

    • @juliusdv6657
      @juliusdv6657 Рік тому

      ​@@touchofgrace3217 I don't believe it's about serving yourself instead of each other. We're now realizing that an important part of relationship building, longevity, and happiness in a relationship is bringing yourself into a relationship as a whole person who knows who they are, what they want, without trauma, and with substance. You cannot serve someone else and bring happiness/joy to someone else if you can't even bring happiness into your own life.

    • @StoneAgeWarfare
      @StoneAgeWarfare Рік тому

      I follow God, but let's be real. Church men aren't attractive. We can tell you see us as less manly.

  • @ladybug3380
    @ladybug3380 Рік тому +123

    It’s crazy how your channel isn’t popular because you’re not bashing black women, you’re positive with your message and hold both sides accountable. This channel and its popularity is a testament on why the black community is the way it is.

    • @greenqueen2673
      @greenqueen2673 Рік тому +20

      He's still new; I believe his ministry will grow in time because it definitely serves a godly purpose.

    • @successfulMillennial
      @successfulMillennial Рік тому +2

      He's not popular because he doesn't bring enough personality... kinda monotone the entire time and comes off a little dry...has nothing to do with him being positive. I haven't seen him smile or laugh in his videos... PERSONALITY sells on UA-cam

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 Рік тому

      Because there more toxic people than good people.
      Those women bashing channels are exposing and showing women that they are not the problem it's the epidemic of bad men and women really need to consider if they are willing to put up with their abuse or opted out of it.

    • @sweettee051988
      @sweettee051988 Рік тому +10

      It's growing tho! I remember seeing him at like 7k when I started following him and that was less than a year ago. But he'll get there

    • @creating1_c1999
      @creating1_c1999 Рік тому +6

      ways to help this channel grow:
      _share the content_ nonstop
      I believe in his message, which is why I feature his channels content on my featured channels here on youtube as well as bump his programming on my community tab here on youtube, and also share his content on other social platforms.
      True faith produces works. JAMES 2::14-26

  • @creating1_c1999
    @creating1_c1999 Рік тому +24

    I've never seen a man loyal to a body part of a woman nor a woman loyal to a man's money. What you lead with you will be used for until the next option comes into the eyeline.

  • @tianipowell4254
    @tianipowell4254 Рік тому +40

    Thanks for making this video, it’s giving me some kinda hope. I’m a 24 year old black woman and have never been in a relationship and have always felt it was because I never presented myself how society says I should or have been interested in the social media lifestyle, I been feeling like I’ll be alone forever because men aren’t interested in women like me but that’s not true at all. I trust god has the right person out there for me that will love and honor me just for who I am

    • @ForbsieLaLa
      @ForbsieLaLa Рік тому +8

      Do not change anything about you to fit in or please anyone. Be your best perfectly imperfect you possible and everything will work out

    • @Trailblazers323
      @Trailblazers323 Рік тому +2

      Date outside of your race. Period.

    • @Jamalboseman
      @Jamalboseman Рік тому +2

      He will come I know he will just wait Miss just pray and believe because I see the signs of healing and strength from God

    • @Kim_ely
      @Kim_ely Рік тому +1

      Go outside 😂

    • @zionssoldierofwar7194
      @zionssoldierofwar7194 Рік тому +9

      Youre attracting what you NEED. This world now glorifies evil and wrong and condemns good and righteous. I always remember that in addition to The Most Highs rejection being my protection. When youre not of this world, you will always remain a 💎

  • @lyndamachero5249
    @lyndamachero5249 Рік тому +19

    This is so true. The current world has normalised things that end up ruining our lives. Just because everybody is doing it doesn't always approve that it's right. We don't have to live our lives based on what other people are doing or what's trending. May God help us not to be ignorant of the truth.

  • @wakingbeauty101
    @wakingbeauty101 Рік тому +45

    Truth. Same goes for the ladies. You work on that stuff- grab those bags- model- body- etc…you attract broken men w money who use you. Fantastic message.

    • @christianhenry4173
      @christianhenry4173 Рік тому +5

      This can only do so much. Self improvement inside or out is for your survival. However Men and women need to understand is that Simple attraction goes miles up. Jewelery and clothes is just secondary. However the advice is that people need to like you for you.
      Church people aren't mentioning this. And I'm glad he touched this

    • @wakingbeauty101
      @wakingbeauty101 Рік тому

      @@christianhenry4173 yes. A lot of church people pretend they are there for you- to listen to you- only to get close to you so they can intentionallly steal, kill, and destroy. It’s sad.

  • @donnamcintosh2109
    @donnamcintosh2109 Рік тому +15

    Amen to all that you are saying. A man having a good job, being in shape, and having a fat bank account needs to have a good character. Once the internal work is done, the man will be able to put himself in the environment where good women are.

  • @festernassociates
    @festernassociates Рік тому +11

    I stopped dating years ago because I started realizing I had a lot of issues internally and I wasn't even getting with women wanting to build a family anyway

  • @christianhenry4173
    @christianhenry4173 Рік тому +17

    Hes telling the truth.

  • @FlawlessSpit
    @FlawlessSpit Рік тому +4

    He saying something I needed to hear as 32 year old black man 👊🏾

  • @SheCanSmile
    @SheCanSmile 3 місяці тому +3

    finally someone, a man speaks on this. cz one will meet men who on the surface look and act like they got it together and in the end you realsie you're dealing with a broken boy. he got daddy, momma, siblings, god issues. he cant express himself in healthy ways. he cannot move the connection forward.

  • @patriceanderson8239
    @patriceanderson8239 Рік тому +7

    As a naturally curvy woman. My intentions are not to come off as a sex symbol. But somehow, it seems like every man I come in contact with is always after me for the wrong attention. I'd rather not deal with nobody period that includes. Men and women period just leave me alone.

  • @yolandaoliver5475
    @yolandaoliver5475 Рік тому +15

    You are so needed in these spaces!! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @dontme4132
    @dontme4132 Рік тому +19

    A woman being hypergamous is not a bad thing. Why would she hitch her wagon to a man who has less than her? It’s not wise.

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers Рік тому +5

    *While the title points out men's challenges in attracting good women, it's important to recognize that successful relationships require effort from both sides. Attraction is a multifaceted process, and qualities like kindness, empathy, and shared interests play a significant role. Let's encourage a constructive discussion on building healthy connections for everyone.*

  • @chloelageaux769
    @chloelageaux769 Рік тому +11

    Awesome! Very well said!!!

  • @gratzia
    @gratzia Рік тому +9

    do what the women do lift yourself up. Pray for confidence. An insecure man needs to get those nasty voices ringing in his head out. talk to yourself positively and forgive people who put you down, they're probably on drugs or jealous and men are VERY jealous of other attractive men. They say things like "ugh why would she like YOU?! Whats SHE doing with HIM?!" and girls do it to each other too. Its hard work being a ten.

  • @saladandcake7103
    @saladandcake7103 Рік тому +5

    Keep preaching Bro. Great video!

  • @Ruthforme
    @Ruthforme Рік тому +3

    Well spoken like a man a God and definitely a fabulous father.

  • @breewright1415
    @breewright1415 Рік тому +7

    This is the video I need to hear.

  • @itspiinkyrose4324
    @itspiinkyrose4324 Рік тому +1

    Nothing but facts!!! Preach brother !!

  • @BoujeeGrapes
    @BoujeeGrapes Рік тому +4

    Pep talk turned into a Pep Rally!!! Come on now 👏

  • @msgapeach
    @msgapeach Рік тому +5

    Thank u. I been saying this

  • @kendrawilliams5703
    @kendrawilliams5703 Рік тому +6

    True!!

  • @mz_deedy123
    @mz_deedy123 Рік тому +2

    He is speaking the truth. Bm and bw needs to do better as whole but I really needed to hear this.

  • @glenderdavis1091
    @glenderdavis1091 Рік тому +3

    Keep supporting this man he speaks for all of us to be healthy all around

  • @Anthony-kj2vl
    @Anthony-kj2vl Рік тому +6

    Soooo true

  • @heloisatavares2287
    @heloisatavares2287 Рік тому +2

    Unfortunately, these problems occur very early on and of course every problem has its consequences. They come from completely broken, disturbed homes they grow up with no reference to education, skills, moral worth, principles and so on. Their only reference is those toxic singers and sick culture.

  • @AverySimoneGlover
    @AverySimoneGlover Рік тому +1

    I keep telling my ladies , judge a man by his character and I’m sure you will see him for exactly who he is.

  • @queenkeesh8660
    @queenkeesh8660 Рік тому +2

    This is deep😮

  • @Laroc1982
    @Laroc1982 Рік тому +1

    Woman here. I am here to let all of the men know that if they want to attract a quality woman, they need to work on their reading, writing, speaking, spelling, and grammar. Quality women communicate well, and that includes written communication. There is nothing quite like meeting an adult male who still doesn’t know how to spell. The last time men didn’t know how to spell was roughly 5th grade. So you’re sitting here communicating with an adult male but when he writes to you, it’s almost like you are writing back-and-forth with a child. That is a turn off no matter what society tries to tell you. It matters even when it is on the Internet or through text message or whatever. No woman wants to feel like she’s interacting with a man of low intelligence and nothing screams low intelligence like not being literate. You don’t have to take my word for it, but I want you to think of all the women who have ever given you trouble in your life. Were they literate or illiterate? I rest my case.

  • @OrchidTingz
    @OrchidTingz 9 місяців тому

    Now this is honest quality content! 💯

  • @gradymorrrowjr37
    @gradymorrrowjr37 Рік тому +2

    Cause it ain't ANY they done joined the Sisterhood 💯

  • @marzi0574
    @marzi0574 Рік тому

    Speak that truth
    Specifically telling men the Truth . This is rarity now and days. Pertaining to us all. Thank you.

  • @queenlique1
    @queenlique1 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for your video!❤

  • @hsand8178
    @hsand8178 Рік тому +1

    Thank. You. My. Brother. For. Speaking. Truth. You're. Not. Bashing. Bw. Indulging. In. Tomfoolery. And. Infiltrating. The. Mindset. Of. Young. Men. Keep. Doing. What. You. Do. The. Most. High. Is. With. You. Not. Focusing. On. Beauty. And. Falsenes. Of. Women. Yes. The. Truth. Hurts. Keep. Calling. Bm. And. Bw
    In. The. B Community. We. Must. Do. Better. And. Stop. EntertainING. Bad. Behavior
    All. Praises

  • @tcbullock5432
    @tcbullock5432 Рік тому +1

    Had me scared in the beginning Shumake…. But well done ✅

  • @JamesAustinHall
    @JamesAustinHall Рік тому +2

    God bless everyone in the name of Jesus amen!

  • @Tx_Nay
    @Tx_Nay Рік тому +1

    Thank you 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @taragrace4656
    @taragrace4656 Рік тому

    Have changed the messaging on your channel? I subscribed a bit back and it seems different. .... On changing the world...NOT possible Lookout for yourself and just try to avoid the nonsense others are perpetrating. Thanks for the wholesome content.

  • @kimberlycapers1983
    @kimberlycapers1983 11 місяців тому

    You can't make anyone do anything. Only God can. Alot of so called believers are truly vain. Alot of lukewarm believers really need to recognize nothing you do is you. Its God. If you are a light, its not you it's God. You aren't doing nothing. Know that!!! Read The whole book of Ecclesiastes because its too many of you who are vain. Words are powerful and folks don't pray before they speak and you can tell. Because I rarely see you give glory to God. Thats what life is about. Period

  • @shaslevels6729
    @shaslevels6729 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing this

  • @yakzivz1104
    @yakzivz1104 Рік тому

    i wish more men would watch your podcast

  • @salsalee4322
    @salsalee4322 Рік тому

    Thank you ❤❤

  • @Cybershadowz
    @Cybershadowz Рік тому +3

    Young black men don’t want to hear this

    • @Jamalboseman
      @Jamalboseman Рік тому +6

      I'm 17 and I fr stopped by his channel because he was talking about godly virtues and a great head on your shoulder I respect his message." Whenever I talked about how God helped me to people my age they flee it's like the devil controls them

    • @Jamalboseman
      @Jamalboseman Рік тому +2

      I just need to get a job and into therapy I'll be a new man

    • @Cybershadowz
      @Cybershadowz Рік тому +1

      @@Jamalboseman you don’t therapy the real therapist is the most high yah

    • @Jamalboseman
      @Jamalboseman Рік тому +2

      @@Cybershadowz I believe you I was talking to someone who wasn't equally spiritually yoke I was feeling angry cuz they didn't relate to me and I realized:) the way they presented themselves I couldn't relate it all happened when we were playing. Fortnite I had her added on Instagram and what not yeah I'm still trying to find God's people Instagram ain't the place to seek tho

  • @genovasquez8361
    @genovasquez8361 Рік тому

    You should do a collaboration with Tony Gaskin and Derrick Jaxn

  • @mablem.9094
    @mablem.9094 6 місяців тому

    BINGO!!

  • @scosta87
    @scosta87 Рік тому

    I like your channel🤗🙏🏼

  • @DanielleStarr
    @DanielleStarr Рік тому +1

    What if a woman is a bathing suit model? And she's modeling her merchandise. Is that too sexy for the internet? Will men judge her?

    • @jessikajane4967
      @jessikajane4967 Рік тому +3

      I've seen women who are in that line of work present on social media in a very classy way. But yes, men will still judge you. However I think that's all in what and how you present on your account.
      Do you present videos of yourself talking about your career ambitions, goals, day in the life, health & fitness, other interests, traveling, etc.
      I think the trick is to present different facets of yourself, in a classy way, that show you have a beautiful mind as well as a beautiful body.
      Mature, real dudes will take notice.

  • @TheFadewolf
    @TheFadewolf Рік тому

    Bra ima be honest at this point idk anymore i don't even have a car but if i did i would have one

  • @monabrown101
    @monabrown101 Рік тому +1

    so..... WHERE do real healed men go to find a good woman to build a family and life with please?

    • @patriciawilliams5172
      @patriciawilliams5172 Рік тому +3

      You don't go anywhere. Be mindful of self, a person's actions, know your values and what you need and and your family to look like and then pray and observe women and their behavior then choose from the woman that have those values.

    • @deadcell1
      @deadcell1 Рік тому +4

      The real HEALED men don't go anywhere. In my last relationship I gave too much of myself away to a woman who took me and everything I did for granted. It took me a long time to heal and move on from that experience. While I was in the healing process I did everything I usually did before. I went to work, hung out with friends, spend time with family, and travel I just wasn't interested in having a relationship with a woman so I didn't go on dating sites and didn't approach a woman until I felt I was healed enough to be ready to date.
      Tho I'm not 100% and I do have emotional scars I'm learning to work through but it's nothing like it use to be.

  • @theelder4797
    @theelder4797 Рік тому +3

    Because they don't exist. Didn't watch the video, but that's the answer.

    • @Autumn-zd9nq
      @Autumn-zd9nq Рік тому +3

      We do exist, but y’all are hypocrites. Thanks for stopping by.

    • @theelder4797
      @theelder4797 Рік тому

      @@Autumn-zd9nq Too time consuming, too expensive and waaaay too dangerous to look for them. So, time for men to sit back, do our own thing - alone - while you lot step up and show us how girls get it done!
      You get the privilege men have had forever: work from 17-65, defend our soil in the army, have 40-80+ hour work weeks, have kids, invent everything, build everything, fix everything, it's TOTALLY worth it and we are super jealous and stuff.
      Ok, we're going to go relax and play games while you run Earth --- make sure you keep electricity running, it's all on your VERY STRONG AND INDEPENDENT shoulders now, you got this 👍

    • @juliusdv6657
      @juliusdv6657 Рік тому +1

      The fact that you didn't watch the video shows your inability to learn and remain ignorant; and no one wants a man who chooses to remain a fool and incapable of learning. A wise man knows he knows nothing. Perhaps you're the broken man he's referencing?

    • @juliusdv6657
      @juliusdv6657 Рік тому +7

      @@theelder4797 This comment makes no sense and reaps misogyny. Seems like what you want is a traditional relationship, however, in the western world as women have access to the same knowledge, power, and resources as man traditional relationships will fail because why stay in a oppressive relationship when you don't have to? If you want a fulfilling relationship then you need to do away with your harmful and old ideals. Those relationships only worked because women didn't have power but if they did, women would be in a much better position today.

    • @Autumn-zd9nq
      @Autumn-zd9nq Рік тому +4

      @@theelder4797 Chile please. There are women everywhere that do literally all of those and give birth to your families.

  • @deadcell1
    @deadcell1 Рік тому +5

    "Your not attractiing the ladies because they are hypergamous, they want someone who has money".
    I know you cater to a mostly female audience so you have to say what you gotta say to keep those checks coming in. However, you as well as I know that no woman want to deal with a broke man. Very very few women wants a average earning guy. Very few women is going to take a guy serious who earns less than herself. I see it and I experience it. You need to make money in order to attract a woman. That's just the way it is.
    It's not the only attribute to finding and keeping a woman but it's a major box on their checklist.

    • @adeOLUWA
      @adeOLUWA Рік тому +2

      There are many women who earn more in their marriage. You do not know about it, because they are not announcing that fact.
      We are talking about keeping non-materialistic women.
      Money will not attract them to you.
      If all a man has is his money, then women like me are not interested.
      You know why?
      Because we are not starving. And that's me trying to sound modest.
      A man with kingly and leadership qualities is who women like me need, not an ATM.
      But like you said, you're speaking from YOUR experience, but your experience is not the norm.

    • @deadcell1
      @deadcell1 Рік тому +2

      @@adeOLUWA Women are hypergamous. A woman with her own income doesn't need her man to make more than her because she is starving, she needs him to earn more than him in order to see him as a leader and to respect him.
      This is what some of you women don't understand. You said it yourself, you need to see him as a leader, this is your hypergamous nature. A soup isn't made up of one ingredient and neither is money is the only ingredients to a attracting and maintaining a relationship with a woman.
      Men who do believe that money is all their is in in for a rude awakening. On the side note, many women will not respect a man who earns less than them and many weak men will tolerate the disrespect from a woman in those types of relationships because they don't have any pride or respect for themselves to get up and be the leader.

    • @adeOLUWA
      @adeOLUWA Рік тому

      @deadcell1 If you don't elect your leaders into office based on their wealth, why do you think it's different for women? A man can have money and still lack leadership qualities.

    • @adeOLUWA
      @adeOLUWA Рік тому +2

      @deadcell1 I, the women who raised me, the women I admire, and the women I know do not consider a man who earns less as "weak."
      Many women do not see men who earn less than them as weak, especially if they've seen the weakness in some of the rich men they know.

    • @deadcell1
      @deadcell1 Рік тому +3

      @@adeOLUWA I never said a man is weak if he earns less than a woman. I said a man is weak if he tolerates being disrespected in those types of relationships.

  • @taalofaa
    @taalofaa Рік тому +3

    Because you do not meet them at churches or fast food restaurants?

    • @1dbhsa
      @1dbhsa Рік тому +2

      They are in church, unless they’re already taken.

    • @taalofaa
      @taalofaa Рік тому

      @@1dbhsa I notice people who order combo meals with milk shakes,deserts and super size get a lot of attaetion from black women. She usually does the same but loves sweet sodas along with the shake.

  • @jerryhall5759
    @jerryhall5759 Рік тому +1

    Coming from experience; the best thing a BM can do is go to southeast Asia and get a feminine.fit.filipina who will treat you like the king you are 🇵🇭

  • @hsand8178
    @hsand8178 Рік тому +1

    Thank. You. My. Brother. For. Speaking. Truth. You're. Not. Bashing. Bw. Indulging. In. Tomfoolery. And. Infiltrating. The. Mindset. Of. Young. Men. Keep. Doing. What. You. Do. The. Most. High. Is. With. You. Not. Focusing. On. Beauty. And. Falsenes. Of. Women. Yes. The. Truth. Hurts. Keep. Calling. Bm. And. Bw
    In. The. B Community. We. Must. Do. Better. And. Stop. EntertainING. Bad. Behavior
    All. Praises