Derrick Jaxn's WIFE was the PERFECT VICTIM for a NARCISSIST
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He saw low self esteem and desperation since day 1 and he played his hand.
Yup. I concur.😂
Exactly. It’s sad to see
I was with a narcissist for a year and he had stressed me out to the point that I went blind for a day. Ladies please be mindful who you choose.
Wow 😢 glad you got away 🙏🏾
Wow I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you’re ok now. I was with mine for 9 months & my hair fell out & I gained 50 lbs. I also had dark circles around eyes, looking like a zombie. Even after a few months after the break up, my health already started to decline, I was diagnosed with gallstones & fibroids. Prior to meeting my ex, I was drop dead gorgeous with no health problems whatsoever.
My Auntie has always told me, "Guard your heart" & it's true. Alot of these dudes out here are not being taught or teaching to be better men
One thing I do know Derricks videos never lied. I just didn't know he was talking about himself. But he def told the truth and was really giving his bio. I wonder if he got a secret pleasure from knowing that he was revealing himself and some of us didn't know it. Much like a serial keel ler leaving clues.
This one guy who has npd said that they do get off slightly revealing themselves
He probably did get some form of pleasure out of revealing himself in plain sight.
Ima gonna guess yes, it makes them feel wicked smart.
Of course he did narcs are completely self centered it's Lucifer in the flesh
And that there is the hook, been warning women about men like him all along, but thinks he's too clever to ever get found out
In the words of my late dad: if a guy wants to change you to fit his standard instead of accepting and loving you for who you are, cut him loose and get you a man who loves you for your character.
I absolutely agree,👍 but a narcissist pretends to accept all of you until they know you’re hooked and that’s when the mask comes off.
💯💯💯
AMEN
Amen.
Where do they make men like them at?
ONLY Cowards Awaken A Woman's Love W No Intention Of Loving Her - Bob Marley
💯
He is a narc too.they tell on themselves
She didn’t protect her abuser by suppressing what happened, she thought she was protecting herself from more trauma, like most victims do.
Yes. Or when black women speak out they are sometimes not believed.
Was looking for this comment too! Both of these are beyond true.
How 🧐🧐🧐🧐if she still stood with him. That isnt protection.
Legslikewhoa: love the name, btw!!!
I can excuse people for falling into the narcissists trap because unless you are a trained, experienced therapist, or have experienced a narcissist before, you will never see them coming. Even if there are clues, you won’t know what the clues mean and nobody is perfect besides. And of course they have studied the victim enough to know that they won’t figure it out. So when someone is coming for you and has made you their target, you are likely to get caught because you are a project to them😒. So it’s not about ignoring clues.
Right.
Shock / Survival Mode After Trauma IS A Real Thing..
This is so true. I’m still healing from a covert narcissistic relationship
Exactly, they start out the best and then turn into someone else.
@@lakeashacolemon3814 I will pray for you. It took me 5 years to heal from a 2.5 years relationship with a covert narc. Whew 😮💨
Such a scary but true statement. You are 100% right 😢. It’s hurting because I real life experience this but the difference between her story and minds I reach out to receive healing from trauma I was currently in, but that person used what I went through against me and took advantage of me. 😢 you are 100% right they spot they prey before they make them their victim smh.
Was married to a covert narcissist for 15 years. He was the "good guy" who was "always trying." I stayed because i didn't even realize what I was going through was abuse. I figured, he didn't hit me, he wasn't like my step father, so it wasn't all bad. Like you said, I didn't know what real love was, because i just knew we had something special. But it was all a lie, and not only did he never love me, he never actually liked me either. He only liked what I could do for him. 15 years of loneliness.
I was her and when my eyes opened I was discarded. The hardest part is forgiving yourself for what you didn't know.
It’s true, when you start calling them out, they discard you.
Yes !
Derrick was a wolf in sheep's clothing.
You know what, it doesn't sound like he pretended too much. She was a willing participant for alot of it according to her. 🤷🏾♀️
That’s what narcissists are.
@@queenanna1077 only to his followers his wife knew he was a Tyrone she just didn't care.
It’s embarrassing at first when you get treated like this but when you glow up like she did it becomes more embarrassing for the ex. Winning is the best revenge.
🎯🎯🎯 he will get his
She looks absolutely beautiful, I'm really happy for her. She looked so drained and small and depressed with him (understandably, he drained her life force). I'm glad she's doing better and sharing her story. My ex was a psychopath so I fully relate.
@@katec9893 yes they drain your life force! Our happiness comes from within and manifests in the physical. I tell women now if you don’t want wrinkles don’t deal with men who are users and abusers that are shallow and capable of only charming you with your words. Women like us know the truth and we wear that truth proudly. It’s very attractive. We know how to play the game better than they do. Powerful positions from being in a powerless position for way too long!
What glow up? He married the side chick and she's still making videos looking crazy.
I feel that young woman’s pain because I was her. I’m 41 and have been in therapy. The healing process is so hard. My prayers to this young lady
Exactly right coming out of a nine year relationship with one 4 months no contact now God is good 😊 happy healing beautiful
Me too at 41, seperated 3 plus yrs from a narcissist. I'm healing and thriving
I was her too🥺💔
My story too......prayers for all those effected by the narcissist.
(44yrs old now) 10yrs married, 4yrs free & 1½yrs divorced! Healing still hurts, but not as much as during the abuse!!!
I love how self aware she is. I really believe she is accountable for where she is. And Im glad she is healing 💖
When you go through something like that you become hyper aware of yourself. And the therapy she had also helped bring things to light I’m sure.
She’s not healing. She continued to worship him and blame herself throughout that interview. She needs to see a real psychiatrist.
A narcissist is incredibly skilled at manipulating and lying, manufacturing their own realities and halfway believing them as a coping mechanism. The covert ones usually initially appear as sweet, responsible, mature, thoughtful, reliable, stable, your typical embodiment of a "good guy", hopeless romantic, yet borderline obsessive.
I experienced this. I'm at the pt where I believe 3% of what men say even if they are compliments
That’s why she kept saying let’s define things. They really make you question your reality.
THIS RIGHT HERE! Unfortunately, this is the "good guy", many BM speak of. He's just the covert, as opposed to the overt, narc!
You said it well
You described my ex husband
She seems to be glowing now that he's gone from her life... I truly wish her all of the recovery from that snake DJ.
She looks beautiful. She finally can breathe
Right because he was sucking the life right out of her even her eyes seem happy now compared to the other time we seen her with the bonnet on her head!
She had to go through that experience to realise who and what she is about.
@@Moyawethu. I agree that it is somewhat a wake up call for her to fix her issues from childhood.
@@acd1168 yes indeed!! I hope that she can get some therapy and not get pulled back in while co-parenting with him.
I knew Derrick Jaxn was a narcissist, the minute he put his wife on that camera with a bonnet on & no bra. He sealed the deal when he referred to himself in the 3rd person “Derrick Jaxn stepped out of the marriage” I was like WTF? He did this to take heat off himself & put the focus on his wife. And it worked too! So many Pickmeeshas came out the woodwork taking about “I can see why he cheated on her”. These gullible silly women failed to realize why would a man in his right mind put his wife on camera looking any old kind of way. Most men would be too embarrassed to claim a wife in public who looked torn up from the floor up.
Anyway I was in a relationship with a narcissist 5 years ago & let me tell you kicking his ass to the curb was the best decision I’ve ever made. Narcissists NEVER accept accountability for their actions, someone else is always to blame. We, the black community needs to educate ourselves more about personality disorders, particularly the cluster Bs, because there was no way in hell other women should have been clowning his wife. If anything, despite her bizarre behavior at times, people should realize that her actions was direct result of narcissistic abuse. When you’re being abused & gaslit by a narcissist, your behavior will change. You will start acting out & becoming shell of your former self. Trust me I know what I’m talking about. When I was with my ex I had plenty of blackouts, doings negative things I didn’t even remember. So in other words, I developed narcissistic fleas & it took me 2 years to heal!
So true referring to himself at a 3rd person had me confused
After watching my mother 38 years married to a narcissistic man She said one heart attack 2 strokes she is a shell of herself. We're not educated as women that this type of toxic abuse affects our health and cognitive functioning.
This is such a spot on analysis! It sent chills down my spine when she was describing the love bombing she was describing from him.
A mentor of mine gave me a really wise quote that changed the way I view life and relationships.
She said “things that are real and true are just a little bit more then boring. Anything that is driven by high adrenaline is a red flag and likely not stable”
The quote is so true, narcissists and patience dont sit on the same sentence.
Perfect
Derrick ain’t the only one. Some of your favorite UA-cam relationship experts are narcissists right along with him. I was pursued by a narcissist myself for an entire 3 months and I am as sharp as a tac. In the beginning, they wear one heck of a mask! If you’re not self aware, you can and will get got! I won because I never slept with that man and eventually his mask finally slipped. Ladies, your biggest defense against these toxic men is staying out the bedroom! ❤
Absolutely
@@rummanamoledina4973 💯
BOOM💣💣💣 Now that's the word stay out if the bedroom.
Me and my ex husband waited until marriage for sex and he still was a narcissist
@@alicia2931 sorry to hear that
Great video. I wanted to add that we, as women, cannot rely on a man to rescue us from whatever we have experienced, especially trauma. Heal from the trauma and pain. Start and build a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Get into a better place in your life. Then, let true love find you.
And don’t tell a man what you have been through. EVER!
I agree,👍however, 20/20 hindsight. If you’ve never dealt with a narcissist, it’s very easy to say, what should…what if, and so forth. Narcissists can fool anyone, including those who are confident, self sufficient, etc., narcissists are chameleons. They are here on earth to destroy beautiful souls and there’s no exception. Yes, pray for protection. God bless.☮️
Well Said!
100% it’s easier to attract the right type of men when you are in a happier space 👏🏽
This!
My ex husband is a narcissist…. Textbook grandiose narcissist…. When i first heard her interview yesterday… it sent chills up my spine… because i felt what she felt…. Not on that level… but enough to where I felt it…. I hope she can find peace now and move on. I hope she doesn’t spend a lot of time talking about him…. The best thing she can do is heal, and move on. Because he’s getting supply just from this big headline. He’s loving this attention
You're so right! He's getting supply from this expose. What could have embarrassed others would give the narcissist supply!
And he will dog out the next supply anyway like, Martell Holt, Sapharrie from love and hip hop, they are narcs
My ex was a Narc & a sociopath. Knew the Bible front to back with a timid disposition. No one believed me when I said he was abusive & a stalker. People would blame me for being with someone like him but it took me Dam near a year to escape his grip. He didn’t fear authority or anyone. He was an actual walking demon on earth. I’m just happy I survived. Teeth marks in my skin until this day. ☠️☠️
🎯 ppl don’t understand that ppl can have multiple disorders going on at the same time! IMO this is NOT just narc personality disorder 🎯
⚠️ when are we going to address the large number of predators living amongst us and we are asked to choose better ⚠️
@@trisha1989 this ! Thank you! There are so many broken souls out here and feed off of the vulnerable & the impressionable young girls. I was young he was older and he tried to play me but I played harder & it angered him. Women don’t always wanna stay but sometimes they’re literally in fear of their life and family because these men are crazy af! You don’t see them coming but once you get a taste of that type of chaos your ptsd kicks in and you ghost.
@@Jennyzcool8787 I agree. I have listened to a few content creators talk about what an 18-19 year old should know 🤦🏾♀️ like wtf. My 14 year old due to a Dec bday will be 19 1/2 when she graduates from high school. I told her as an 11th grader the day after she turns 18 she will be a grown A women and whatever mistakes she make ppl will judge her and say she should’ve known better. We lack empathy and so hard on girls/women no wonder the predators have been let loose in our communities 😢
I bet he was a punk when it came to men.
@@zxcccccc1 he actually wasn’t . He had no boundaries not even for authority. When the cops separated us cause he wouldn’t let me go, they gave me a ride home in the cop car and he followed it and got arrested shortly after. He was a menace and I heard through the grape vine he has restraining orders from new abuse victims. His sister also told me he beat his mom. May she rest in peace 🥲
Love bombing is a helluva drug...
It works when you haven't received love
The man spoke of himself in 3rd person 😅 enough of a sign for me. He’s nuts
Yup. I concur.😂
lol yes, it was super weird 😂
I said the exact same thing as I was watching her interview. So sad that he did her like that even tho she refuse to play the victim. But God is winning in the end. Her story will free a lot of women from similar bondage. And she looked absolutely stunning in the interview
It’s like they read from the same script.. That’s how deep it is.. no one loves you in 3 days! NO ONE!!
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Same exact script.
"Be slow to hire and quick to fire!" 💯
This is one of the things thats so reprehensible about this situation. Some Men literally prey on vulnerable women they cherry pick them in a crowd when thwy could just as easily choose a confident woman/girl. Just one of the reasons i still subscribe to calling women that are do e wrong like Denai victims bc even though she participated his behavior was was calculated and premeditated.
So true! It's twisted and predatory.
Yes they PREY on women.
I heard a man tell my boyfriend:
"I like the damaged ones because I can do anything to them, and the sex is needy."
The fact that he could say this and have a wife and he was BUTT fucking UGLY? the fact that he could say this to my boyfriend and that my boyfriend didn't react.
Chills. FUCKING chills.
@@shakathewanderer9198 Cold world, I'm sorry that happened to you
You are 100% right... Ive dealt with a couple of Narcs it is a relation like no other. Not in a good way! And very, very very, hard to walk away from. Your in a fog when dealing with them, a completely different person than you normally are. Its the worse experience in the world!!!
There are ALWAYS signs, but many choose to ignore it
She experienced trauma prior to meeting him and she moved on physically, not mentally and emotionally. May she receive the healing and deliverance she needs. I met, married and divorced a narcissist and now I'm healing from that toxic, demonic attachment. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Narcissists need batteries so they keep certain people around to fuel their ego’s and then drain the life out of their victims
I just want to say thank you black man. For walking in your purpose and not being like the rest. You are truly a role model your wife and family is so lucky
She is absolutely gorgeous. I pray in Jesus name all the best for her ❤❤❤❤.
True….we may overlook the red flags but you must understand, the narcissist is a damn good actor, magician, hypnotist, psychotherapist among many other things. Similar to the brain washing done in most cults.
You stay waiting for them to go back to the person you met in the beginning...whole time the monster you are seeing at the end is who they were all along...STRAIGHT UP DEMONS!!!
Down in the comment section I found a comment by@TheBREEshow and completely agreed. Commentary about Narcs and women seems the blame is on the women. It's always something. " You should have seen this, you should have done that". I have too been involved with a Narc and there is no way you can possibly see them coming. Yes I grew up in a great household with my dad, I had a great life up until a few years ago when I met the master manipulator. Had the family fooled too. How about not blaming the women and put full blame on these predators!!!! Btw, as you can hear that I'm still healing and I love this channel.
There is no way to know until you have already experienced it, or had specific education on narcissism. I went to school for psych and studied narcissism, and still attracted one.
I met a narc, and dealt with him almost an entire year before i realized what he was. My birthday was the smoking gun that he was a narc. My BDAY and Valentine’s Day is in the same week. He made that week hell on earth. I broke up with him February 15th. I had so many ppl try to gaslight me. “But it’s only one day… it was only one week.” 😒 no it wasn’t the entire year there had been confusion and issues. That week sealed the deal.
But you’re right, you have to be strong minded to end it, cause family and friends will be fooled and gaslight you. I can even tell when my friends is dealing with a potential narc. My spidey senses are UP.😂
I have one question and one question only.. how as a women can we find a strong father figure when we literally have no control over who are daddies are?
Doesn’t always have to a biological father. My father took his own life when I was 18. My brother, who is 10 years younger than me was and is my spiritual covering. I was in a relationship with a man I planned to marry….my brother asked me one question….where’s his fruit??? I don’t see it. That was when the emotional abuse started. My brother told me to fast, pray, and make a decision about the relationship quickly. He was loving but direct. I ended it the next week.I felt like my heart was being ripped from my body….the soul tie was strong. I repented, and continue to heal…..it has been a process. Pray to God for Him to reveal who your father figure is. He will show you…bullet dodged. I thank God!
SEEK JAH.
@@ebonessbelin9167 my point is stop always telling women what they need to do and continue to hold men accountable..especially when it comes to father figures.. as women we can re-parent ourselves we don’t need to go searching for a “father” figure 😌
A lot of these males out were not raised by a strong father figure either. It’s why it’s important for black men to be very intentional with whom they share their seed with. Fortunate for me my father had five kids with one woman and it has remained that way. Got to experience a father who worked day in and day out and a loving mother. If brothers don’t take the initiative to not have sex with every woman they come across unless they ready to start a family then the cycle is never going to end. It’s not on the woman it’s never going to be on the woman because biblically the woman was designed to be a helpmeet so she’s only going to follow what the man does.
@@TheLalab4 Agree! I have not had strong male figures in my life from childhood on, but the Most High raised me as His daughter. I think the fact that I've been disappointed was His was of showing me I can rely on Him for what I need, and after nearly 50 years walking with Him, I can attest that He has never failed me. I want for no good thing.
I felt her when she said i was the shy girl in the corner. Being the quiet friend i am very guarded for that reason. Like, i just don’t believe it. I happy to see she is healing and moving on.❤
My parents both grew up in toxic environments, and they did their best to break the cycle! However, they were so focused on "serving others" that they forgot about needing self care & healthy personal boundaries. So I fell for a highly narcissistic individual. I endured his abuse for 10yrs before God helped me to see the right information to open my eyes. I knew my marriage was doomed before it even started, because of WHO I married. I've been free from his abuse for 4yrs. The healing is often painful, but just like a surgery to remove a cancer, it eventually doesn't hurt so much, and what was killing you, isn't there anymore! Praying for her healing as well! 💜
I just listen to the interview.. it's was really sad. I wish the brother interviewing her was more mature. There is nothing fun about her situation. Praying someone would mentor our young woman.
THANK YOU!!! I said the same thing! His whole energy was like everything was light and funny. When it was tragic, sad, and traumatic. I don't feel she got the soft comforting energy she should have.
Laterras was more sensitive and understanding when he interviewed his friend that lied cheated, beat (allegedly) his wife recently. He even threatened to delete any comments that were not nice. He needs to do better. I wonder if he was afraid because Derrick Jaxn has a larger platform? ...idk...
@@nnena3631 I don't understand why he didn't have the emotional maturity. Hopefully she meets some men that will show her the love of Christ.
@@nnena3631 sadly I like Laterras but you’re so right 😮
Agreed, the host was lacking in maturity.
Yes! His giggling was off-putting.
It’s really disgusting me that the people of our OWN community are so hellbent on seeing the WOMAN hold herself accountable and condemning Danaia for being vulnerable enough to expose what she went through in order to bring herself to this point- but y’all ain’t exposing or DEMANDING accountability or even trying to CANCEL this narcissistic a hole DERRICK JACKSON. He literally uses the same tactics that he used to keep danaia right where he wanted her to appeal to OTHER WOMEN AND MEN IN THE COMMUNITY. Stop IGNORING YOUR HB doing his woman wrong and women STOP IGNORING and making excuses for the men that put women through this. Not to mention the women suggesting that she should’ve just swept it under a rug- there’s no longer a space for women to vulnerably express their woes without another self-righteous woman being ready to downplay her experience because she’s “been there & done that”. Women like Danaia need these spaces because she has the opportunity to teach other women not to go down the same path. Do y’all GAF about girl talk anymore? What happened to the girl code? Oprah???? Like it’s really sad! Kudos to Danaia for overcoming this rough patch! She is a great example of not allowing someone to continuously abuse you just because u love them, as SO MANY WOMEN have been through the same thing !!!
And what lands women in this position? Trauma, A lack of vulnerability from other women who’ve gone through things like this, no guidance, no father, no real friends, this trash content that’s being published on YT day to day filling women’s heads up with narcissistic male dominated ways of thinking…. Let’s have a real conversation.
She had no guidance in her younger years. She had no boundaries as a result.
May she gladly accept the help she deserves❤❤❤
One thing ppl cannot control is if they get a good decent parent or childhood... So it's no surprise at how many traumatized unhealed ppl wanting to be loved.
Some ppl are just more inclined to seek more trauma through a relationship.
I've never could stick around.
I live by "when ppl show u who they are, believe them the 1st time"
It's hard to believe any of these people anymore on this internet. It's all about money and the easiest way they can get it and manipulating black women is the easiest way to get it.
black people are goose w golden eggs creativity and energy wells thats why racists are obsessed
Me personally im jus glad sis is healing coming from someone who has been with a narcissist they drains you breaks u and exhaust you there sefish mr jackal and mr Hyde wheewwww the lord brought me outttaaa that ❤
It’s crazy how every man called him a wolf in sheep clothing and they were right.. crazy !!!
Exactly! Men have been warning women about Derrick for YEARS, and all we got was hate in return. It's crazy!
The Narc I was dating came from a 2 parent blue collar home with 2 successful parents but his mother was an extreme narcissist and his dad was so kind and loving and gentle. And he was so much like his mother he didn’t like her and talked so bad about her but he was exactly the same way and would claim to be like his dad all the time but he was NOTHING like his dad.
Ex narc came from single mom, that would raise flags with me, no more dudes from single moms, yet, same thing, he talks crap about his mom to me, yet smile all up in her face
Imagine the sheer level of psychopathy when she sat beside him, watching him give advice, say hello to his female fan base on live, and knowing hes talking about himself and now cheating in front of her face....
🤯🤯🤯
Excellent commentary! I am so thankful and grateful to have had a loving Dad. He told me and my sister to never settle and I haven't.
To the guy that asked the question (2:51) here's the answer. Yes there are signs BUT if the women grew up in an environment where she had to hide and alter herself to receive acceptance and love then being with Derrick will feel normal so she will miss those signs.
The environment someone was raised in will dictate the type of environment they will recreate in the future.
Thank God my mom taught me how to be self sufficient and how to be by myself and be ok with that so I won’t allow loneliness to bring unqualified people into my life…. Loneliness is a cancer to some people and they so afraid to be alone that they consistently let the wrong people into they life and damage it
Great breakdown Shumake. This will help so many women because so many of my girlfriends & coworkers grew up with no father around. I usually say I won’t waste my energy because I prefer to use it for something else. “Stealing energy” is the perfect way to describe any exchange with a narcissist. Looking forward to part 2’s breakdown.
I am just sickened listening to all she’s been through with him…he’s a super predator. On the bright side, her courage is incredible and we’re all rooting for her continual healing. Godspeed Da’naia.
I think men like him enjoy playing in your face so he needs an all female audience. If he provided content for men, it wouldn’t offer the same gratification.
And yes, being groomed in childhood or suffering trauma in your childhood can leave you soOoo vulnerable. The worse part is your tolerance for pain and abuse becomes so high that you look dumb, but really you just learned how to cope. And it’s become your normal so it takes you years into adulthood before you realize that it’s abuse. By this time you’ve already married an abuser and/or suffered a string of abusive relationships. In short, never judge someone else’s story based on your life or what you think you would do. It’s never that simple.
You broke it down perfectly. I’m a dv survivor and advocate and it’s so refreshing to hear your perspective. God bless you for doing his work ❤
Thank you
My story is sadly almost identical to hers including the fact that I'm a Sagittarius and my narcissist name is also (Derrick) just spelled differently the problem was for me just not having anyone in my life who cared the adults were immature or older and had older mindset I didn't know what a narcissist was I never heard the term until 4 years ago but yes they do exactly everything you said and they also isolate you bully you guilt trip you make threats and in my case stalk harass will try to take you out if you move on and behind your back the entire time are telling people that you are the crazy liar cheater abuser they get you pregnant on purpose so you are stuck with them and God forbid you have disabilities It's a very demonic situation to be in and I pray that people really start checking on their loved ones even if you think they are ok or a loner or seem strong narcissist are really inhabited by demons I know because I saw one in his eyes before a very dark reptilian looking thing that will freeze you with just a stare
Yuhp, he def is…. Man like him don’t deserve any woman! I feel bad for his ex wife.
I was blind for nine years seen the potential but knew it would never happen smh 🤦♀️ January 14th I woke up blinders are off and I’m disgusted with what I put up with!!! She’s officially over his a** now because she can laugh at it
Congratulations to you! Some women never come out of it, but you did!!! Be proud of yourself for choosing to love YOU!! It's really sad that no other race of women is asked to "see potential" quite like we are!!
Well said bro. I love the fact that you are not judgemental.
Religion plays a big role in these situations as well. It’s been ingrained in us women to marry, have babies, stand by your man no matter what, and keep quiet about our abuse/trauma. I think about how our grandmothers, mothers, aunties were really out through it by men that may not have been a narcissist like Derrick, but selfish all the same!
My ex boyfriend was a product of a two parent household because of his stepfather, but he is a product of being conceived by a married man. I never knew this until later in the relationship he started unpacking his drama. I saw him in tears one day . He said he tried to reach out to his fathers mother and she rejected him . She didn’t respect his mom and said that he wasn’t her grandson. He looks just like his father but you can tell there is no emotional attachment.. just biological. At this moment I realized that’s where his infidelity traits came from, inconsistent ways, etc etc. Coming from a messed up background myself with being rejected and thrown into the foster care system at three years old.. no wonder we were so drawn to each other. We were drawn in pain not love. Two un healed humans trying to make it work. I wish him well in life. 🤷🏽♀️
We think we're attracted because of the physical but it's the spiritual. Your healing made you incompatible.
I think you become so numb to it …you start to not care anymore….as long as you have that person….I dealt with a narcissist as well and I became numb to the disrespect after a while too
It sucks the life out of you.
You basically become an empty walking shell
@@MissG_the_artist yup , It happen to me ….my baby father is a narcissist…..I had our son prematurely and he never came to the hospital to see him , he ignored me for weeks , said he wanted nothing to do with our son and I still begged him to come back …and he did but I wasn’t allowed to mention my son to him ….and he acted like nothing happened or he did nothing wrong….and I stayed by him ….I didn’t even recognize myself…..I was a different just because I felt I couldn’t be without him ☹️
@@PRINCESS2527 😥😞 Sorry you had to go through that emotional turmoil, i hope you are now in a better place mentally.
Sending love and hugs to you and your son
You and Tony Gaskin should do a podcast together
Praying her continued healing, now she is free, free indeed..God has delivered her out of the valley, hopefully she will keep moving in a positive direction not only for herself but, also her children..Thank You For Your Great Content As Always..❤❤❤
Men and women have forgotten about the sacredness of relationships ... frankly even their bodies and emotions. Fools dare where the wise fear to tread
This is such a great video. Thank you so much for bringing light to this topic. I truly feel for this beautiful young lady, our stories are similar. It saddens my heart to continually hearing women speak about what some of these men are putting them through. Thank you for shedding light on what she have been through and what so many women are struggling with daily. Ladies, please if you are experiencing these types of signs from anyone please speak up and speak out. Find a therapist, it’s a big help because it’s something so hard to identify if you never witnessed it before. This is so so important to talk about and you did a great job again explaining it. 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you
Same thing happen to me at my age, just my looking for company I found it in the wrong man, he took advantage of me and used me for his own benefits to this day.
She said he had women back in college & she was one of them on rotation. She said she was a "willing participant". She made a conscious decision knowing the red flags. No one is the victim.
this is right on, the love bombed thing is real. that is how they set you up. and when a woman is so needy for love, they put you under a spell.
I went through the same thing she went through! I’m now at the end of it and this man is begging for a chance😅 Nope‼️ I fixed my broken mind and heart through the word of God and now I can see so clear that this man is super ugly to me now. A narcissist has a repobated mind. They can’t live truthfully because they are empty inside. I went through everything she went through just without the mansion and things. 16 years later I fantasize about a divorce😅. I’m coming with those papers like a thief in the night🙌🏾 I’m ready to be released from this marriage once and for all. I now realize that I was married but he wasn’t. I was single and didn’t even know it🤦🏾♀️ Don’t feel ashamed for falling for these demonic ppl. Always remember that every god thing God has made, the devil perverts it and shame on these people that allow the devil to use them for his bidding. My soon to be ex husband, dragged me through hell yall. He can’t even love bomb me anymore because I’ve become hard and cold in my house so much so that he can’t reach me and I won’t let him😅 Glory 🙌🏾 I’m just waiting on this one thing to breakthrough for me real quick and I’m out like a bat out of hell from this man. That breakthrough is coming for me any day now. I’ll be back with a Praise Report about it. Prayer Warriors pray for me❤ It’s been real!🙏🏾
Coming from a woman thank you for being so respectful and understanding about this situation thank you ❤
This is sooo heartbreaking. I admire her strength. Healing is definitely in the process for her and alot of women. Appreciate your perspective.
Bruh.. Your background is immaculate.. Carry on with your message now. 😂😂😂😂
You did a fantastic job with explaining and breaking this down. Phenomenal 👏🏽👏🏽
I could of told she had some childhood trauma. You can see it!
Please keep doing these ... they are such a voice of sanity and clear thinking
I am turned off and disgusted by love bombing. I pray more women heal their vulnerabilities so they can not be attracted to it as well
Unfortunately when I've tried to help women see their blind spots, they try to fight you to hold onto those coping mechanisms and maintain that wool over their eyes. It's sad to see
Thank you for your words of wisdom Brother. Her story sounds a whole lot like mine. I grew a whole lot from it. And I pray she continues to grow from this❤
She is such a beautiful lady. She looks like a teenager.
Sometimes I wonder am I a narcissist. Because I've had women say the same things about me when they start talking to me that she's saying about Derrick
Only way to find out is to go to therapy
Man you have to do something
Yep. Thank God I got out of that toxic mess. Thank you Jesus
It’s crazy because I remember watching him and thinking he was such a great man and husband. Couldn’t have been farther from the truth!
I seriously love watching your channel and listening to you speak. Hearing a young man of God speaking the good word, and also giving solid life advice. I love how you advocate for women as well. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us man. God bless you and your family! ❤
This is my first time watching your page. So glad I found your page. You are speaking nothing but the truth. This man Derek is exactly like my ex. The ex wife is telling my story. Thank you for your wisdom.
There’re always red flags , but sometimes women choose to ignore them thinking that “things will get better”. Sadly that’s not what happens instead “things” get worse. My heart aches for women who think they can change men’s hearts! Unfortunately no woman can change a man’s heart if he doesn’t want to
Man has your channel grown!!!! Stay grinding and keep up the amazing work. Stay blessed and stay strong!!!! 🫡
Thank you
That man praised himself for owning up to cheating even tho he did a reaction to a video about himself and react to it like it ain't him in the video😂😂😂😂😂 his mentality is dangerous and i feel bad for his wife
Yes there was signs 😮he was cheating before they got married and she still stayed and got pregnant he probably married her because she was pregnant so sad
plus the abortions before the marriage
@@spiceboxify true
A lot is misinformation or bad info or NO info from family members, narcissism, absent parent, low self esteem, childhood trauma not dealt with, etc. So many thing cause us women to not see three flags. Cheers to healing for all of us🎉
And people still listen to that wicked devil
You are on point. 34 years with a narcissist. Rollercoster relationship.
Yes he is a demon but she also enabled his behavior a great deal, she put the battery in his back because of how thirsty she was for him, she did some unbelievable things just to be up under him. The thing about a narcissist is the don't think they are doing anything wrong they feel entitled to overpowering others.
Oh my gosh, thank u so much for explaining it after her interview. I was done by x cancer who always was in and out, roller-coaster and when he cheated, he would start an argument or fights by blaming me. Many times, he put put me out after he had asked me to visit or move in with him.. Now I see why the wand love spelled backwards is evol..
A former friend who has Narcissistic traits shared Jaxn videos to me. I followed some of his videos until I noticed a few red flags. All that hes done to his wife/family is Rubbish. Everyone who purchased his products and services should be refunded and he owes her a world of compensation including sponsoring counseling.
Wow. This was a great breakdown! It’s a textbook case of being caught in a narcissists web. I’ve never dealt with one and hopefully never will, but I will keep your observations in mind, especially the love bombing stage and the moving quickly stage. I will keep my antennas up. ❤❤
Pls do! Wise one!
Gob Bless you you are so accurate on your research on narcissist people! I am going to try to keep this short. When you are down and depressed or confused. Tge devil send an agent to do his dirty deeds to destroy your life, block your blessings, or to even kill you and that agent is a narcissist. I know because I am not trying to get out of a ling narcissistic relationship. I didn't know anything about These types of people until I started to see similarities of my exfiance character was similar to my Dad. With some heavy reading and researching on UA-cam I woke up plus I found out yhat he was cheating on me. It's not easy to get of these relationships especially if you have kids. Thank God I only have one. One more thing is they highly jealous of your achievements, dreams,and goals. Please don't get into these relationships and don't have children with them. They can't stand children or animals and they will wear a fake mask until they leave this earth. I met my narcissist after my mother past away from cancer that was brought on because of the stress and cheating from my father. After she passed away my father abandoned my brother and I. When you pray cast these demons out because the devil is also listening to your prayers to send you an agent of destruction. Thanks for the content I am sorry that this was long.
There are signs but that hope is sooooo strong that you start to contort yourself just to fix whatever is wrong cause you think it must be because of something you did or aren’t doing.
This WAS an excellent breakdown of Narcissist behavior.
He did teach on "narcissist prevention" ironically.
Life is too short to put up with people miss have I will just be bye myself I can't go for anything 🤯
Great assessment sir. I wholly agree, but don't forget the Predatory aspect of Jaxon. Men like him assess the women they meet and position themselves with these type of women that possess these weak, self-esteem issues. These men know these women will tolerate TONS of sh*t before they will leave these men. Usually, they NEVER leave these men, as it's the men who must leave them, but only after they've found another sucker. Also, we must know the women we call victim in these situations know full well what these relationships entail. They KNOW! Only when they are TOTALLY embarrassed, and the man is gone, will she then acknowledge the relationship is gone. If Jaxon STAYED, know that she would still be making excuses for him.
These men will ALWAYS make sure they have a permanent nest, (place) waiting for them, no matter what mess they commit. The women they choose are usually overweight, not attractive, or have huge self-esteem issues.
Remember, the wife of a famous Rapper, (Who shall remain nameless) once admitted in an interview, that she didn't care HOW many women her husband poked, as SHE had the wedding ring! Thanks.