What every MAN and WOMAN needs to know about BEING SINGLE

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 152

  • @N.O.W.826
    @N.O.W.826 Рік тому +140

    I would rather remain single than to enter into a toxic situation with a man who refuses to accept and appreciate my value. As a God-fearing woman, I can no longer invest in a man who doesn't share similar faith or beliefs. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @haleycamille
      @haleycamille Рік тому +3

      Same sis

    • @salsalee4322
      @salsalee4322 11 місяців тому +1

      Me too, sis ❤😢

    • @shaylamcgrady1048
      @shaylamcgrady1048 5 місяців тому

      SAME! I started my journey 6 months ago and I'm absolutely loving the growth! Last month I added to my list that I want nothing to do with s3xu@lly active SINGLE men. They are not for me, and I am not for them.

  • @Opal5674
    @Opal5674 Рік тому +126

    Single = safe for a woman

  • @winning3329
    @winning3329 Рік тому +202

    I rather be single then end up losing my life to one of these crazy men

    • @Flexboymack
      @Flexboymack Рік тому +6

      Shit same , I wrote a song lyric about it , “ rather empty my heart over losing “

    • @norlandemarc1484
      @norlandemarc1484 Рік тому +1

      Just pick wisely

    • @DeematheFashionDesigner
      @DeematheFashionDesigner Рік тому +37

      @@norlandemarc1484 ppl say that but people are out here fake playing house…. Men are faking their personalities

    • @norlandemarc1484
      @norlandemarc1484 Рік тому +15

      @@DeematheFashionDesigner you are so right. It’s a game here. That’s why I’m going ask God for discernment, pick up on red flags and shady vibes.

    • @BiancaStarksMusic
      @BiancaStarksMusic Рік тому +2

      Amen!!!!

  • @aarontobler7277
    @aarontobler7277 Рік тому +242

    As a 25 year old single man I absolutely love your content! You speak the biblical truth and it’s very helpful. I’m focused on embracing my singleness and becoming the godly man my future wife looks and prays for. I’m working on my walk with God as well as my physical body (eating healthy and exercising) and I’m also embracing who I am. I’m no longer afraid to admit I’m still a virgin and I’ve learned that it’s good to have money and other materialistic things but character, morals and values is what makes a man. Keep up the great work!💯

    • @TheShumakeWay
      @TheShumakeWay  Рік тому +32

      Wow! You’re on point bro. Just keep doing what you’re doing.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 Рік тому +25

      This comment section makes me happy 😊

    • @TheShumakeWay
      @TheShumakeWay  Рік тому +15

      @@Divine-sw7cc happy birthday

    • @TKOin2life
      @TKOin2life Рік тому +17

      This is marvelous. This gives me hope because gentlemen such as yourself are rare. Much respect to you sir and any other men that are like you.

    • @jasminealexia
      @jasminealexia Рік тому +11

      You’re going places keep up the great work! 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤️

  • @Sonyahenry268
    @Sonyahenry268 Рік тому +20

    Single and no sex is better, don’t have sex with no man if you’re single

    • @w.c.c.b.9798
      @w.c.c.b.9798 2 місяці тому

      EXAAAAAAACTLY!!!
      If you’re fornicating, you’re disrespecting yourself. You ladies are worth the wait!

  • @HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy
    @HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy Рік тому +52

    Being single is necessary bcuz it allows for a chance to develop and grow.

  • @Mavan0
    @Mavan0 9 місяців тому +12

    I’ve been single by choice since 2012, and while it’s been tough, the current headspace of people encourages me to be patient. I’ve turn down women who were interested in me not because I wasn’t ready but because their character, values and beliefs don’t align.

  • @Hilary945
    @Hilary945 Рік тому +17

    I'm too old for theses games. I'm staying single.

  • @MrsBrittanyGold
    @MrsBrittanyGold Рік тому +18

    We need more men of God like you on the internet 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

  • @mojo5149
    @mojo5149 Рік тому +23

    Wonderful. Amen! Happily married for 20 years with 3 daughters, praying for their husbands, after choosing God, the single most important decision in their life! Amen! Lord bless this channel

  • @1newwoman07
    @1newwoman07 Рік тому +14

    How old is this man? He seems so young yet so wise.

  • @startingover7217
    @startingover7217 Рік тому +13

    Being single is our only option these days. 😢

  • @jhimpcaca5718
    @jhimpcaca5718 Рік тому +9

    When guys say they r single, it means they're looking around, dating around or sleeping around without commitment with multiple girls.

  • @myguymarz4368
    @myguymarz4368 Рік тому +20

    Respect to this brother ✊🏾 I always tell people the reason why dating is so bad because they don’t put god first and everybody so quick to scroll through social media than picking up a bible.

    • @Mssweet25
      @Mssweet25 Рік тому +3

      Say it loud for people in the back. My god, and spiritually come 1st before anything 🙌🏾

  • @Sonyahenry268
    @Sonyahenry268 Рік тому +8

    Men will waste their own time on women they don’t respect

  • @sheaNERD
    @sheaNERD Рік тому +33

    I really needed this video. As a 30 year old woman who wants marriage this was the message that I needed. My parents are now starting to turn up the pressure for marriage and I have no prospects in sight. I just don’t want just choose any old thing that would be more harm than good. I want a god fearing provider husband who has an excellent character. I’m working on myself in the meantime and remaining abstinent

    • @trejordan5436
      @trejordan5436 Рік тому +10

      Amen, as a 27 year old man who wants the same in a woman, this resonates. I’ll be praying for you, Fr.

    • @sheaNERD
      @sheaNERD Рік тому +4

      @@trejordan5436 thank you so much 💗🙏🏿

    • @Mssweet25
      @Mssweet25 Рік тому +12

      ⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️⬆️
      Seem like your two can be a good match.

    • @ssonkogarvey
      @ssonkogarvey Рік тому +9

      ​@@Mssweet25 Exactly my thoughts.

    • @Mssweet25
      @Mssweet25 Рік тому +6

      @@ssonkogarvey why not encourage other to find each other . ❤❤

  • @cleovintora59
    @cleovintora59 Рік тому +7

    I was single for two years almost 3 and coming out the world i was healed, then i got super lonely decided to go on a dating site, and i was so blinded by the loneliness that i ignored all the red flags!!

  • @Nikita_848
    @Nikita_848 Рік тому +5

    Absolutely right! The world today is upside down and depleted of good values.

  • @alanalambert8914
    @alanalambert8914 Рік тому +9

    I'm so proud of you young brother. You get it completely. I'm single and working on my trauma. No more drama in my life if you got beef your problem not mine 😆😆 not about dealing with other people issues no more Narcs I'm out peace ✌️

  • @rodeorose5565
    @rodeorose5565 Рік тому +14

    I felt like I was in church sitting in the amen corner waving my fan. Preach His Word! 🙌

  • @gigijohn316
    @gigijohn316 Рік тому +6

    It is better to wait on God for the right healthy relationship than to jump into bad relationships for fear of being alone. (Seek first the Kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33)

  • @kaylabean3693
    @kaylabean3693 Рік тому +16

    I really appreciate using the scriptures! I jot them down so I can go back and read them over

  • @SelfcareForTheMind
    @SelfcareForTheMind Рік тому +5

    I know men who are 40-50, who still would risk having autistic children due to their unhealthy sperm. They’re told that they have all the time in the world whereas women lack time. Therefore he will waste your time. Don’t take him seriously unless a wedding ring is involved.

  • @m.g.1792
    @m.g.1792 Рік тому +13

    We need this Godly guidance and reminders. Thank you. Great video!

  • @kayjeffs3741
    @kayjeffs3741 Рік тому +4

    He is not lying about his theory! That has been my experience...

  • @jasminealexia
    @jasminealexia Рік тому +17

    You’ve been going in brother! 💯💯 Love the scripture reference to back up your message.. I totally agree with your theory & it really has helped me put this single season into perspective! One of the fruits of the spirit is patience!

  • @CORMEAYE
    @CORMEAYE Рік тому +4

    You really ate with the clothes analogy!!! 😂

  • @marisolvalez4719
    @marisolvalez4719 Рік тому +5

    Very wise young man..

  • @rimonique
    @rimonique Рік тому +10

    Hey Schumake.. I've been subscribed for a year now and I'm so happy I found your content and videos. Thank you so much for bringing up the men (and women) that do "nice/kind" things for others hoping to gain something from it. Men do that to me A LOT to the point where now I refuse to accept anything from any man. It's always the deception they have when they do things for me (usually unasked for) and then want to use that ish to blackmail shmex out of me. I currently live under my landlord who attempted this shit with me last year in July.. and have felt uncomfortable ever since plus when I rejected him which at first I had done so in the nicest most mindful way possible.. he still got mad anyways and has been playing them mind games ever since. After he started neglecting my rights as a tenant AFTER I rejected him.. that's when I became rude about it.. cussing him out and straight up letting him know that his personality is unattractive and his physical traits don't help. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Wouldn't have said that if he had emotional control and consideration especially since he is a landlord and sexual interactions WERE NOT apart of the rental agreement. Can you make a video talking about these types of men? Why are they so aggressively entitled to younger women (my landlord is 40+ closer in age to 50 and I'm 28) especially middle aged, Mr.Potato Head looking men who think because they spent THEIR whole youth working on their materialism that they deserve this 10/10 woman.. it's like great you have a house, you have a car, you have a pool, a good paying job/career and while it's clear to see you worked on your materialism but what have you ever done for your mentality? What are you doing for your physical health as well? Because a lot of 40+ men may have great jobs and materialistic things but a good portion of them are overweight and don't put effort into things like grooming an unkept beard.. or fixing to lost weight.. so in those senses you haven't fully worked on yourself as a whole.. you worked on your surface level shit only. I don't want that either.

  • @inyourdreams444
    @inyourdreams444 Рік тому +5

    The truth is a lot of ppl are single because they need to do the internal work. Someone who is healed or vibrating on a higher level will not connect with someone on a lower caliber so ppl end up coming across trash individuals. You have to mirror what you want. You cannot want someone who is something you are not 1st to yourself. I say this as an engaged woman. Work on yourselves first and you’ll start attracting higher quality potentials. Also, a lot of ppl project a lot based on past hurt and that is a TURN OFF to any woman/man who has worked on themselves. No one wants to tear down a wall they did not participate in building and that’s what I saw a lot of when I was single.

  • @perrykeshahwalker5321
    @perrykeshahwalker5321 Рік тому +4

    Great video, bro. This is something that a lot of young men and women need to hear.

  • @truetwinflameandspirituala8211

    The more I hear about males, the less I like them.😌🍷🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @jessicascreenwritingservices
    @jessicascreenwritingservices Рік тому +11

    Another great convo! Thanks Shumake!

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 Рік тому +15

    Alot of marriage minded people are not attracted to marriage minded people. They dont want that conversation though

    • @ninagrace-lee8323
      @ninagrace-lee8323 Рік тому +8

      Then they aren’t marriage minded then lol. 😊

    • @learningearning8385
      @learningearning8385 Рік тому

      No opportunity to meet “marriage minded” people.

    • @truetwinflameandspirituala8211
      @truetwinflameandspirituala8211 Рік тому +4

      THAT part. Marriage minded ppl want the heathens and that's why no one is married. If everyone was Marriage minded, ppl wouldn't be struggling to find their Divine Life Partner.

  • @charmurff7422
    @charmurff7422 Рік тому +2

    Man you are wise beyond your years like Solomon. This was a heavy topic. And I'm going through this process.

  • @valrio8224
    @valrio8224 Рік тому

    Preach Shumake! Thank you for that word!

  • @tcbullock5432
    @tcbullock5432 Рік тому +2

    Yes! Knowing what stage people are in is CRITICAL! Excellent video Shumake

  • @cleovintora59
    @cleovintora59 Рік тому +1

    Wow!! You nailed it!!!

  • @tamara1819
    @tamara1819 Рік тому

    didn’t know i needed this until i did 🙏🏼 Thank you

  • @morganprecious51
    @morganprecious51 Рік тому +1

    Amen thank you for your word today, i needed that. Yes I want a God fearing relationship with men who love God first. God bless you

  • @preyonce
    @preyonce Рік тому

    Wow, what a word. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

  • @mimicapri530
    @mimicapri530 Рік тому

    Great video, beginning to end 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @debbyshark1596
    @debbyshark1596 Рік тому +1

    Peace is my first priority!!🙏

  • @joybrooks564
    @joybrooks564 Рік тому +4

    Excellent advice. I was 👂👂

  • @_wald
    @_wald Рік тому +1

    Damn, I needed to hear that, wise words were said, great advices given on this one. 👌

  • @latashahumphrey769
    @latashahumphrey769 Рік тому

    Very well said and explained

  • @tlw32
    @tlw32 10 місяців тому

    This is sooooo goood!

  • @thart6205
    @thart6205 Рік тому +1

    This was some realness

  • @vladimirjermenovic2833
    @vladimirjermenovic2833 Рік тому

    Thx for the advice king

  • @uplift56
    @uplift56 Рік тому

    Be quick to fire is golden advice ☝🏽!!! I have been saved from much chaos in my life by that method- I don’t play, and will let you go while it’s going good 😅!

  • @Choose_YAH
    @Choose_YAH Рік тому

    HalleluYAH, great episode. 📖

  • @ravenwatson2826
    @ravenwatson2826 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this message!!! This was very informative!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @MrsBrittanyGold
    @MrsBrittanyGold Рік тому

    This was good!

  • @lyndamachero5249
    @lyndamachero5249 11 місяців тому

    This is so encouraging getting to hear such content from a man.

  • @marciawade9101
    @marciawade9101 Рік тому +1

    EXCELLENT commentary, Sir! 💖✨💖✨💖

  • @mgh174
    @mgh174 Рік тому

    Great video thank you

  • @jhbu6353
    @jhbu6353 9 місяців тому

    this is an amazing video ! keep doing what you doing

  • @Tru_Lyfe_Skyi
    @Tru_Lyfe_Skyi 11 місяців тому +1

    Helped me truly realize.. I'm not as ready as I thought for marriage.. I'm not content with where I'm at in life... Still focused on big goals

  • @squeaky822
    @squeaky822 Рік тому

    Fantastic video!

  • @Nonya3005
    @Nonya3005 Рік тому +1

    Thank you sooo much for this. God bless you & your family.
    And what I love about your approach no matter what the topic is… 1 it’s always ground in Godly principles. 2 when I type “red pill” in the search engine, your channel is one of the 1st to come up. This is a good way to bring people lost in that world back to God & His way. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @RetroReno
    @RetroReno Рік тому +3

    Exactly, but it’s likely more like 9 out of 10.

  • @DeeTBee
    @DeeTBee Рік тому +3

    Slow to hire, quick to fire! ❤

  • @tib1632
    @tib1632 Рік тому

    This man made this video for me.

  • @erickalucas5660
    @erickalucas5660 Рік тому +8

    Hey Shumake can you PLEASE address spiritual strongholds??! Everyone always has one sin they struggle the most with. Give advice if you can on overcoming strongholds

    • @LoveandContentment
      @LoveandContentment Рік тому +5

      Yes. We all must flee from immorality. There must not be even a hint of sexual immorality . We all must start guarding our hearts and monitoring what goes in our eyes, hearts, and comes out of our hearts.

    • @erickalucas5660
      @erickalucas5660 Рік тому +1

      @@LoveandContentment soooo true!

  • @evasccl7846
    @evasccl7846 Рік тому +5

    Thank you for making this video Shumake, I particularly love your ability to connect practical life and the Word of God, it makes it so much easier to follow, and understand what exactly needs be done! God's word really is our manual for a fruitful life indeed!!
    I pray we all read and meditate more in it, and allow God to lead us to the people that are best for us and we are best for.
    When you were talking about your male friend... it brought to mind someone dear to me, who wants to improve and change his life, but does not seem to see that having sex with other women itself, is A) hindering his progress, keeping him stuck in a vicious cycle to nowhere better, and B) he is also destroying all the women he has sex with AND ... people don't want to admit to this, but for every person one has sex with, one is also being poured on stuff from each one of those women... SO, making it incredibly worse for everyone.
    Sex is not free, is not an entertainment.... there is more than just the physical in the act itself... you don't even know what you are getting into nor what is being poured into you!
    Looking forward to your next video Shumake, until then, may God guide us, protect us and shine His light through us so that many more may be lead to the truth, to Him who created us and knows what we need and when! The one who loves us unconditionally!!

  • @Dr.DwightD
    @Dr.DwightD Рік тому

    Amen

  • @princesskinuthia8788
    @princesskinuthia8788 Рік тому +1

    💯

  • @survivorship4290
    @survivorship4290 9 місяців тому

    💯💕💕

  • @tierraherbert5454
    @tierraherbert5454 Рік тому

    And he sure was

  • @mrs.acreary5932
    @mrs.acreary5932 Рік тому

    She finds 😮

  • @devildog3799
    @devildog3799 2 місяці тому

    Some people are never ready because they never do the work on everything that needs work on. Not easy but possible. I don’t judge people but I can tell that many people don’t see themselves becoming disciples and marrying a disciple. That’s the best possible odds of a value oriented relationship. It takes discipline on every level , EVERY LEVEL. It just takes one loose nut and it all crumbles. It’s never too late, go to work! 👍

  • @jacquelineellis7136
    @jacquelineellis7136 Рік тому

    Exclude video❤

  • @MsT_ThatsMe
    @MsT_ThatsMe 11 місяців тому +1

    Women should not "find" men. Also, on both sides. When a person shows you that they are not interested in you, leave them alone. People are not playing hard to get. They're just not interested. And they're just "tolerating" you. Or using you as a placeholder.

  • @noniwilliams7029
    @noniwilliams7029 Рік тому

    🤲🏼🖤🤲🏼

  • @ForbsieLaLa
    @ForbsieLaLa Рік тому +1

    As much as I might have cared for someone I was always mindful of am I truly ready for a child, is he really safe, if anything happens to me would he step up as a father. These few men were my boyfriends at the time and even the one I was ready to commit to I still had some doubts

  • @ws4182
    @ws4182 Рік тому +1

    It seems just doing right by people or just in general is so foreign to sooo many. I'm not saying I'm the poster child for Christianity; but I still try to live my life with integrity, morals, common good. This seems to be so uncommon I'm wondering am I crazy. And this is during a big age of late 30s!

  • @prettyloubey8411
    @prettyloubey8411 Рік тому +3

    You make the best videos, a true Man of God. I’m starting to want to force myself to not be such a righteous woman of God with morals. It’s so hard for us in this world. We always finish last. I am a women of God, but it seems like it doesn’t get you anywhere in this world, especially with the opposite sex.

    • @ninagrace-lee8323
      @ninagrace-lee8323 Рік тому +8

      Rejection is God’s protection. When people’s hearts are set to do evil, they won’t be able to recognize good. As women we should be hidden in Christ, a gem that an average man won’t recognize unless the Holy Spirit reveals our true nature to him
      Being hidden is not a bad thing. The first shall be last and the last will be first. One day it’ll be our time to get married and enjoy our soulmate specially handpicked by God.

    • @significantc8478
      @significantc8478 Рік тому +2

      Be true to yourself! Isaiah 54:5 Your maker is your husband! Your body is a temple of God! focus on your relationship with God! Do your thing, travel and be productive for God, self and others!Psalm 23🥰 Genesis 2:24 🥰Nehemiah 8:10🥰Psalm 37:5❤You are blessed and highly favored!✌

    • @prettyloubey8411
      @prettyloubey8411 Рік тому

      @@ninagrace-lee8323 Thank you!!!✨✨

    • @prettyloubey8411
      @prettyloubey8411 Рік тому

      @@significantc8478 Thank you✨✨

  • @hsand8178
    @hsand8178 Рік тому +1

    Thank. You. My. Brother. You. Are. What. Young. Bm. Need. After. All. All. The. Foolery. That. Has. Been. Pushed. Keep. Pushing. God's. Word. These. Words Will. Certainly. Change. Young. Bm. Way. Of. Thinking About. Bw. Along. With. The. Disrespect. As. Well. Thank. You. For.. Common. Sense. Logic.

  • @amircollins8065
    @amircollins8065 Рік тому +1

    What age do you advice an individual in this society to start dating. Is 20 too young? I see many people saying to start at 25 and to focus on building your finances, mind, and other valuable relationships until then. Is this realistic?

    • @TKOin2life
      @TKOin2life Рік тому +4

      Commit this and all things to God. Don't let dating be your focus. If you don't have your life and house in order there is no need complicating things with relationships.

  • @deborahjevans7829
    @deborahjevans7829 Рік тому

    Read John 3 about Jesus saying we must be born again spiritually by the Holy Spirit. That happens after we call upon the Name of the Lord Jesus to forgive us of our sins and save us. GOD draws us to to Jesus. The fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22,23) grows in us as we are nourished by and submit to (through obedience to) the Word of GOD. Our flesh cannot cause the fruit of the Spirit to operate in or through our lives. GOD bless you! Keep serving the LORD!