The SPOUSE YOU WANT and THE TYPE you go after are not the same
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They expect a eye candy who's also silent and dxmb but get mad that women are human beings with thoughts and emotions and their own lives
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I am so glad I am married and don't have to deal with a lot of the stuff that people have to deal with today. I met my husband in the church and we have known each other for 23 years and married for 18 years. My advice to anyone would be to choose a Godly partner because if you both love God, your chances of a successful marriage is so much greater. This was a great video and you gave excellent advice which will help so many people. God bless you and your family.❤❤❤❤❤
Count yourself lucky because it's not the same as it was years ago . Effort is not the same .
So true! Congratulations!❤️
Same here! 😂
Thank you 🙏🏽 Jesus I’m not out here in these dating streets. It took me awhile but I got my act together and God moved on my behalf. A long lasting marriage should be the goal; not a 4-6 hour wedding day. Marriage is not about a day. It’s about a lifetime. There is a difference!
That's why I said I'm moving out the way and let God do it. Because it's scary out here .
Amen
😂 I’m glad he is speaking about men with money. I dated a man for 2 years and all he kept complaining about was money. He made 6 figures a year and maybe more and kept saying he was broke. That man was stingy and valued what he had in his pockets more than anything. I would say character should go a long way than what he can just “provide” for you.
Very true, stay away from stingy men.
💯agree because having money doesn't mean a man is nice or generous.
Absolutely! Character is one of the most important things you should be looking at but you never hear people speaking on it.
That's why I got out the way and let God be my match maker. Because what I’m seeing in these streets I CUNNNUHH
“The life you can have together is the prize” period. Love that.
I think the problem is…men feel like they can take forever to become a complete package…meanwhile want their wife/girlfriend to be ready made already. Men do better in relationships in general, because their made ready wife is already telling him how to improve life for HERSELF. NOT HIM AND THE CHILDREN. If your WIFE IS GOOD…your children will be good, your home will be good.
At this point you’re the only person I listen to for advice, not only are you wise in your words but you also hold Both men and women accountable and it’s so refreshing in this day and age of gender wars! Your take on things is truly needed in this generation, may God continue to bless you and your work 🤗
Thank you
This is so true!!
Hey@@TheShumakeWay
Thank U for this video.
I was just say'n the same thing. Whew! I also said:
Man look @ the Outer appearance, BuT God Looks @ the 💜 Heart! That Part!
Beauty sometimes fade with age.
Yessssss, I’ve almost binged all of his videos. He has a lot of common sense, which seems to be a thing of the past.
exactly my thought people are here bashing women all the time I'm glad he is different
That's my question to men that come for me, where are you taking me? Where are we going?
"When good men meet good women they work harder"
It's absolutely true. Men who are in love actually start producing the vasopressin hormone which causes their motivation and more desire to win. Women truly do inspire men to be greater. You don't need to date anyone that's struggling just go for the hard worker with ambition. Look for how well he's functioning and that's a good sign he's up leveling ... And will continue to up level
Yep & when bad men meet good women, they work less. They feel intimidated, insecure, etc. just by your presence. They actively devalue you. They assume the worst. They are prideful, weak men. Don’t mistake pity for love - those men are dangerous and will drag you to Hell. If they ever realize the error of their ways it will be years, if not decades, down the line when the damage has been done and the trauma of betrayal and confusion has already been felt.
Do not try to understand men that mistreat, actively misunderstand, or devalue you. Let go & let God lead you to a good man.
This is a good video…I will say though a man should be able to provide for his wife/family prior to asking her hand in marriage. That doesn’t necessarily mean 6 figures or a millionaire…. If he can provide the basics (shelter, transportation, food, etc) that is sufficient . A good woman knows how to live within the means of the man that she is with. Building up a man is never a good idea in my opinion. The man has to already have something going on and as a woman you should be able to see some fruits of his labor already (steady job, investments, degrees/education,etc) to prove that he is a man.
Other then that I enjoyed your video.
Yes absolutely ❤️ totally agree
Always Dropping Bangers🔥 we must protect this man at all costs!!
I love how he’s speaks up for GOD and the black community in a whole💯
I really enjoy your channel. As a fellow creator, you are one of my favorite creators. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 you spread the right message. Keep letting God lead you. You are making a huge impact even if you don’t see it yet. Keep creating great, mature and informative content.
Thank you! Will do!
Ive always heard men say women want a fairytale life and ending but now that I think about it men live in a fairytale world as well……. But they labeled it as standards or expectations for their women.
Girl, I’ve been saying the same thing for a while now. Men believe in “the one”, soulmates, love at first sight and on and on. They might say it in different words but what they expect from women is a fantasy. If a woman says these same things she will get blasted and told she has insecurity and issues she needs to work on but men get applauded for knowing what they want. The double standards is crazy.
Deep very deep
@@faithmgw6019 absolutely. Reading some of the comments on other UA-camrs pages about their requirements vs a woman's is so one sided .
Low-value men always complain about women wanting fairytale lives. We just want someone who won't turn into a pumpkin at midnight. So, let's not waste energy on these drama "kings" and focus on finding happily ever after with someone worth our time...ua-cam.com/video/CXOjDXkBAd8/v-deo.html
@@faithmgw6019 y'all come with debt and kids nobody gaf what you think‼️
the average bw ain't got what average bm got money wise that's why y'all stay talking about men's pockets
God, I LOVE your channel!!! We women can always depend on you to speak truth and WISDOM. Thank you for the free game, and thank GOD for using you! We are listening!! 🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️
I appreciate that
No lies detected
9:14 comparison is the thief of joy
I think people are having problems finding their mates because they don’t have stands/requirements and this is the main problem
social media is also very photo shopped
I always value your opinions. Thank you for speaking on this!
Nothing but truth spoken throughout this video. Great job, brother-in-Christ.
Thank you
@@TheShumakeWay No problem whatsoever.
I dated an older man with money & he’s way too old and stuck in his ways. He most likely will die alone 💯. He had real bad trust issues and led with his money. He accused me of stealing money which I didn’t. The mental stress these men bring you through is ridiculous. Never again will I attempt to care about a bastard like him again. He thought I wouldn’t leave him and played mind games with me for his own pleaser. It’s like he needed to cause chaos when there was peace. He expected me to say he’s right when he’s in the wrong for a mercedes. I declined the offer because I wasn’t willing to selling my soul for him. He wants me to be a trophy and stfu to make him look good and stroke his ego. The money is not worth it 💔. Pretty women get used too it’s not a flex to have a man with money like one way think it is. It depends if he has morals & integrity. Only then will he provide correctly.
The life you have together is the prize 🙌
Hello If you're an example of men waking up I'm with it. I feel a whole lot better about BLK men after listening to your point of view. Good luck on your journey.
You are 💯% right about men..... You spoke nothing but the true
Keep it up Shumake! Keep seeking God and serving God and God will order your steps. The Bible says …the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.
You are on the right path and it is appreciated.
Teach..... I'm listening!!!!
You are very wise and i love that your a Christian.
The caption got me. Unfortunately it took me until my thirties to recognize this.
The fact that your ultimate objective is to lead your wife to God is outstanding. Keep up the great work, sir.🙏❤
Excellent again Shumake!!!
Thank you
Appreciate this commentary for sure . You are 100% on point about working together to move to higher income levels . Just had a conversation with a woman married 30 years who said that is how she and her husband did it.
Everything you have said is absolutely true.
TRUEST VIDEO TITLE EVER🔥🔥
Exactly I learn this the hard way. Preach 👏
Shumake is that real big brother. Really appreciate you bro, a gift on social media 💯
A person characteristics are vital in relationships! These man always speaking facts!
Thank you❤. This video is golden. You give so much clarity and insight into why in the past I chose to allow toxic people into my life. It started with my mother who is a mentally abusive narcissist. I’ve been a people pleaser all of my adult life and now at 30 I don’t know how to dating, I lack boundaries, self love, and confidence. Luckily, I am starting my inner work and getting my relationship renewed with God❤🙏🏿.
When a man has unrealistic expectations, that means we really dont value nor want marriage.
Some of us just want consistent sex and thats it.
I am hard on myself and push myself very hard and unfortunately for most men that translates to them as well. I want the best for the people I care about and I care that they are the best versions of themselves and I do encourage that sort of lifestyle but some people don't want to do better or be better because it makes them look at themselves and acknowledge that they might not be all that. My thing is if I am with you I love you for you, imperfections included, you are my mess, but that doesn't mean you have t be a mess all your life. If you are not improving on you then what is your purpose, what is your reason for living? My ex didn't want to see that I would follow him wherever, I just needed to know where he was going, the today for today when you are over 30 was just not it for me and he wanted me to be okay with just getting by. I tried but I couldn't because I believe in giving your best in everything. Sure we need to take it easy, but just cruising through life and what happens happens is not a route to success and a fulfilled life. Hopefully one day he can man up and accept that, I might not be around but hope it won't be too late for him
God bless you. Great husband and father ❤.
Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it
Such a wise man! I love listening to you. Thanks for your content.
Agreed! 🎉🔥
i agree
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The Bible says that we are all guilty of breaking the Ten Commandments of God (Romans 3:23). As a result, we all deserve to go to Hell because none is righteous, no not one. (Romans 3:10). But the good news is that you do not have to go to Hell (John 3:16). Jesus Christ loves you so much that He died on the Cross for your sins and if you Repent of your sins and Accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior then you will be saved (John 3:16). Jesus is calling on all to repent and you know longer have to live in despair but in love, joy, and peace through Jesus Christ. Amen.
Your wife is so luckly to have you, i hope she appreciats you, do you sit with her and read the Bible together.