The secret to living longer may be your social life | Susan Pinker
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- Опубліковано 5 жов 2024
- The Italian island of Sardinia has more than six times as many centenarians as the mainland and ten times as many as North America. Why? According to longevity researcher Susan Pinker, it's not a sunny disposition or a low-fat, gluten-free diet that keeps the islanders alive so long -- it's their emphasis on close personal relationships and face-to-face interactions. Learn more about super longevity as Pinker explains what it takes to live to 100 and beyond.
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Due to COVID-19, I have been living with my parents and grandma and every afternoon I used to stop by her bedroom and spend sometime with her. Once I was working pretty hard and I forgot to see her 2 days in a row I guess. The other day when I stopped by her bedroom and start talking to her she was like:
- “You stoped visiting me...”
Now I totally understand her feelings and I will not forget again.
PS: she just turned 90.
Her voice is so firm, I love it!
Twenty Øne Phans really , i do agree
Yes. She gives an impression by her voice that she is a very reliable person.
I love this talk. As an introvert, I have underestimated and took for granted the people I have in my life. I need to be much more engaged with the world around me for the sake of my longevity and quality of life; regardless of having slight social anxiety and introversion. I must acknowledge that I am indeed a social being that desires love, affection, and intimacy from other human beings; everyone needs this to a considerable extent after all.
Are you aware how extroverts function? Just curious. I have a solid understanding of introverts by hanging out with some in my life too.
Well, I'm fucked.
pernus how's life
pernus sorry
me 2 but you re not alone
pernus same
go dancing
Immediately upon reading the title, I knew my life will probably end within the next days.
eastern european nihilism
I'm not all that social either :/
☝️🙏🏼
Lol try to make three friends soon!
I'm gonna send this video to my Wife and hopefully I'll be allowed out to see my friends tonight! I'm not ready to die!
Thank's TED!!
Karl Parish maybe you should get a divorce if she doesnt let you hang out with your friends.
Ha!! Maybe!!
But thanks to this educational piece... She will understand the importance, and set me free without the need for divorce! (She's cool really, I do stuff with friends regularly)!
Great advice by the way!
Karl Parish lol
Same mind.but i'm still single,i will show my future wife this helpful video
Thắng Nguyễn Hahaa!! Good thinking!!
Infinite Love and Gratitude for YOU, Susan Pinker! You make the world a richer and brighter place!
The sad part during 2020 is that because of Covid-19 we're not allowed to hace social interaction. It feels like this social isolation is killing me, suicidal thoughts returned, although I can handle them and have them only during the lowest and darkest moments. However, we will overcome this.
we will overcome this. (or not live to talk about it) either way only the good part remains
2020 was a difficult year for me mentally as well, it took me a while to recover from it, now I’m better. How about you, has it gotten better? This comment seem to be from 2021 so hopefully you are doing better.
كما جاء في حديث عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم
"لا يزيد في العمر إلا البر"
فالبر من أسباب طول العمر
و البر لا يكون الا بوجود تخالط و اندماج مع المجتمع
وفي حديثا أيضا قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم
"من أحب أن يبسط له في رزقه وأن ينسأ له في أجله فليصل رحمه"
و صلة الرحم تعني ان تتواصل و تتفاعل و تكون عونا و سندا و رفيقا و مشاركا دائما
فما أروع هذا الدين الذي جاء علي لسان نبيه كل حق و صواب و خير و حكمة جمة
دين الله الإسلام ❤🌼
I am 58 yrs old and an introvert by nature and don't like large circles of friends or groups of any kind. If I had to force myself to socialize in a situation that I wasn't really comfortable with, that would wreak havoc with me so I only do what makes me happy. I dictate what my social life will be. If you're introverted and don't have a large circle of friends, don't let this video freak you out. Volunteer work counts as socializing...church, etc.
There are so many things that contribute to living longer, and strong social relationships and connectedness really play a big part in healthy aging. The global pandemic has made social interaction more challenging due to high priority in our health and safety, which is why technology really shined in recent years as it allowed us to stay connected with the people around us. What we've learned from Reviving Mind's programs is that loneliness really takes a toll on someone, which is why it's nice to meet new people and create meaningful bonds to share memories and challenges with.
I agree that humans are social creatures, we also crave physical connections. That is not going away any time soon.
I'm here after reading Brené Browns Book: Braving the Wilderness. Which really got to me. Now I feel I really need to read the village effect too. I'm so hungry to understand the topic of loneliness deeply. Not out of pure fascination, but out of self-love. I owe it to myself to have a good long life (and to the world ). And after taking in all this, for the first time in a long time, feel motivated to explore my social side for real and implement habits to make it sustainable ( and enjoyable! ) . And this is coming from an introvert.
Good luck on your journey , and I sure as heck could need a lucky kick in my boot to...!
/Alex
I'm an introvert with no friends.. I guess I'm going to die early
amberdoe Im shy but I have friends :d
I used to have friends but now that I have a chronic illness they all have basically left my life.
What illness.
I saw your vid you look healthy.
Pro tip, get a dog : )
Troy Nguyen I have chronic Lyme disease. It's an invisible illness. I may look healthy but I spend most of my days bedridden. It's pretty debilitating. I have good days but far more flare days.
I kind of agree... first you need to build a healthy oneself first then the top two on the chart.... it plays a long part in your longevity because of not only the natural chemical lifters you produce when you meet someone socially in person... it also helps you motivate and build a long trusting relationship with your surroundings.. reducing your stress levels to a zilch and helps your brain function better...
So social interaction releases oxytocin and lowers cortisol levels? Huh. I have social anxiety, the only thing my body releases during social interaction is adrenalin, which I'm pretty sure increases cortisol and stress.
Scouski how you cope with your anxiety?
Same here ✋. I need a solution to the social anxiety. Do I need to see a therapist?
lmao social anxiety is a mental condition. It's not something human beings are programmed with. People who have anxiety developed it from experiences in their lives. The chick in the Ted Talk is talking about healthy people.
Same
The long term stress of not making and having good relationships will crush you over time.
After living a wonderful life of 101 yrs.without any major diagnosis, my mother survived Covid in Oct./Nov. Many died and the apartment building went into pandemic lockdown last April 2020. She grew increasingly depressed as all community activities were cut off. She died last month with a diagnosis of pulmonary edema. Prior to that she was popular and called the social butterfly and fashionista... Ultimately, , all that disappeared along with lung function and mobility. Just thought that might add to your data.
Ted talks always comes in at the same time I'm going over the topic in my senior year of college
It's not necessarily this simple. When I exercise, I become less depressed and far more open and chatty and I don't care so much what people think of me....if I'm depressed I often avoid people. So it could appear that the social activity was causing my improved mood (and therefore, health) and perhaps it does improve it further, but none of these things can be looked at in isolation....they all feed into each other.
Statistical testing considers these interaction effects. I don't think the study ignored that
My dad had probably around 6-10 small strokes and took 2 years off. I usually go see him every Sunday now (he's back to work and happy) and he's doing not too bad. I just moved a few days ago and was worries about visiting because I was way closer before. Thanks for this. I'm gonna try harder to keep visiting...
I got much more to know . Thanks for adding new articles to my knowledge. Thanks for this useful and very interesting video.
From my phone notifications all I could see was "The secret to living longer may be your soc..." I thought it was going to be about clean socks.
Maybe it meant soc as in SoC as in System-on-Chip, meaning that if you use a smartphone that uses the x86 architecture instead of the ARM architecture then you will live longer because x86 is alive since 1978 (beginning with the 8086) but ARM is only alive since around 1985.
It could be your soccer team
Two people were talking, and one asked the other, "why don't you give up smoking, you'll be sure to live longer", the smoker replied, "no, it will only seem that way". This is an appropriate view to nearly all human relationships.
I wouldn’t worry too much about this, if I were you. I’ve found that relationships with others can be harmful if you seek them, just for their sake.
Being alone has allowed me to determine the course of my life and find what I’m really passionate about. If you’re not fortunate enough to live around decent people, then you could go your whole life without good personal relationships. I’m much more calm and level headed than I’ve ever been, these last two or three years, because I’m not chasing some ridiculous ideal of success. One where you have loads of friends and make obscene amounts of money etc.
I’m also going to add that I have been doing yoga practices and meditation, for a while, which is what shifted me into becoming so much more at ease and comfortable being alone.
As a highly introverted person, I feel like all the stress and exhaustion from socializing outweighs the benefits.
Yeap. People are very different. But statistics helps to find the average wisdom. Individualized, personalized wisdom will be possible with the automatization soon
@@dietergrafen7560 I would LOVE to be surrounded with animals. They'd be my friends :D
@@maur8786 Im okay thanks for your care.
@@maur8786 thanks for your 'care' but I am really not interested in psychoanalysis, especially not through an YT comments, heard too much hate already, so thanks...
I think the fact that you feel such high levels of stress from human interaction is in itself a problem that should be addressed.
I have a Sardinian friend. He's super chill and mellow. He is a happy man.
Wait.
Does an ant colony
count as friends.
Hahahahaa!! Yes... Yes it does!! It's better to have an Aunt Colony though...!
Only if you are apart of the AC family lol
try to high five them
Hahahaha. I think so, as long as you can make eye contact with them!!!
I got a plant. Does that count?
I'm a person who is diagnosed with Aspergers. I love the idea of having friends, and being with friends, but I don't know how to make relationships last :(
"Social isolation is the public health risk of our time"...? :)
I'll say the quality of your social life and the way you manage your private life. You can be social and hang out with those who might not make you live that long, let's say "friends" that are there when you're ready to get drunk or use drugs.
Some friends are the designated driver, lol. I let them get drunk and safely get them home.
absolutely loved the "actually no" lol.
Happiness is the secret to long life. Period.
Happiness is not the secret to a long life. 😂 not even close.
@@guitarsoundsaround What is the secret then?
@@emexduzentos the secret is that there are no secrets!
It took me a long time to learn this personally, that life is not really just about happiness.
Happiness is a merely a goal we strive for. Love is the path to learning how to understand those secrets.
With deference to understanding how humans are, I cerebrate this finding is pretty paramount. The things that cause us to feel pain are things that are cognate to things gradually transmuting for the better over time apperceived as threats to our survival and the essence of gregarious pain is a denotement that change for the preponderant, over time has treated convivial connection like a desideratum, not an sumptuous thing/opulent and comfortable condition. It additionally transmutes our desire to do something/reason for doing something wide view of a nature scene/wide area of pulchritudinous land. We incline to surmise that people's deportment is narrowly self-intrigued, fixated on getting more material benefits for themselves and eschewing physical threats and the strenuous exertion of effort. But because of how convivial pain and pleasure are wired into our operating system, these are desire to do something/reason for doing something ends in and of themselves. We don't fixate on being connected only in order to extract mazuma and other utilizable things/valuable supplies from people - being connected needs no secret reason for doing something.
Correlation does not equal causation. Close personal relationships is not the cause for longer life expectancy. Its mostly genetics. A healthy diet helps. Lower stress levels help too, and that happens in various ways for different personality types. There's a number of factors to take into account beyond social interaction. To simplify down to that is silly.
Humans are social animals. We need to interact with one another in order to be emotionally stable and our mental health has an impact on our overall health.
14:00 Face to face contact has stunning benefits but a quarter of population says they have no one to talk to
ملخص:
الجينات مسوواة بنسبة قليلة عن التعمير(العيش لفترة طويلة) على عكس نمط الحياة
الآن *العزلة الاجتماعية* هي اكبر خطر على حياتنا
راجع مخطط العوامل الاكثر تأثيرا في العيش لمدة اطول ٧:٢٢
لاحظ ان اهم سببين هم علاقتك بالمقربين (اهلك)
والناس العامة
فالمصافحة،وجود حد بجانبك وقت المرض،التكلم يطلق سلسلة من النواقل العصبية التي
تجعلنا سعداء اكثر
تخفف وتنسينا الالم
يزودنا بالثقة
يزيد طاقة الجسم
وهذا ايضا ينطبق على الحيوانات.
I'm so glad that lady asked that question at the end, I was thinking the exact same thing
i have to admit... i am addicted to UA-cam, i been looking for an excuse to stop, honestly after watching this video, im going to switch my WIFI off.
Masha Bitar the most intelligent comment I've seen on here
Right on .. hope you can put life ahead bruh I know that feel
See you tomorrow.
Then I hope you wont see my comment
But what if trying to be social just gives you more stress?
Some people are at their best when they're solitary, that's not for me but I see the appeal and understand it.
I've always thought this to be true, I've observed it in my pets. Nice video
We did not talk about online audio video such as zoom here! Though touch or tactile sense would lack such as with hand shake or hug it would still be better than texts
I thinks it's more specifically about love, rather than just close relationships and social interaction. Those are broad terms. But if you go more specific, a close relationship with someone who loves you and who you love, I thinks is the key to longevity. So in the end I believe it is love which gives you the purpose to live.
But what do I know??
Mathematically I should be dead by now then
I think this is interesting especially because personal assistants like alexa , google home are coming. I wonder how this will impact our social life, maybe it could actually boost it, reducing the barriers of communication with tech and humans
The fact is, more people are living better right here than anyone else ever before in history. So don’t expect us to roll over and play dead when you say you’re dissatisfied. It’s not perfect, but it’s a great deal better than when we grew up: a hundred men standing in the street hoping for one job; selling apples on the street corner- that’s one of the things we were dissatisfied about; and you don’t see that much anymore. You’re taller, stronger, healthier, and you live longer than the last generation; and we don’t think that’s altogether bad. You’ve probably never seen a ‘Quarantine’ sign on a neighbor’s door. Diphtheria, scarlet fever, whooping cough-probably none of your classmates are crippled with polio. You don’t see many mastoid scars anymore.
I have seen my great grand father he was 114
My great grand father on my mother side is 96
My younger grand father is 97
Toshiro Hitsugaya Japanese?
"He plays minecraft and I hear him yelling at his friends, so they must be connecting pretty well" I'm dying xD
I used to live in the world of Socials - Instagram, Facebook, UA-cam, Vimeo, Klout, Tinder, Fart...okay, maybe Fart doesn't exist (yet!). Then after watching Westworld (S2) + Mr Robot (S3) back to back, I looked at myself and thought, "wow, you claim to not be a drone but checking your socials every minute, refresh *flick* refresh *flick* refresh..nothings changed" I realised I had to get out of that world and into the real world..the world beyond...beyond the cushty little place we call home. I was born late 80s but I remember the time (somehow?) in the early 60s when we all went shopping and waited for our items to be tallied up and put into bags. You'd wait in the queue and someone behind is purchasing the same item. You'd turn around and say, "wow, good find and now let's talk about this item for 5 minutes...oh look, how time flies...its my turn to pay for my shopping". Those were the good ol' days. Skip to 2018: Interior Shop, Day. Waiting in line. 2 people ahead, 2 people behind and what happens?
Why does the MRI picture come from Shutterstock rather than the actual study?
A very good question at the end.
Con todos los respetos, esta charla mezcla cosas ciertas con asunciones falsas y esto es porque pasa por alto "qué" es una "variable dependiente" en un estudio psicosocial. Un sencillo ejemplo: se ha visto que las personas que tienen perro, viven más como media que las que no, pero esta variable (tener perro) es dependiente, es decir , quién tiene perro, lo hace por muchos motivos propios (No independientes o experimentales) y los cuales pueden ser las verdaderas variables causantes de su longevidad . Así, no es que las personas que tienen perro sean mas longevas gracias al perro, sino gracias a las variables que las llevaron a adoptar un perro (cosas como ser generosos, ser sensibles a los sentimientos, amar el dar paseos... , estar dispuesto a pasar incomodidades para cuidar un ser querido .... etc) . Por tanto, si alguien comprara un perro “para vivir más” seguramente sus posibilidades de vivir más ... aumentarían poco pues le faltaría las variables causales previas. Así que Susan se deja un detalle clave: “si chocas los cinco con mucha gente al día... sirve, pero sirve si y solo si lo haces de corazon, porque …si lo haces para aumentar tu dopamina.... seguramente no te servirá para vivir mas años. Del mismo modo... si alguien tratara con mucha gente para tener personas “de apoyo” que de necesitarlo "le prestarían dinero" o que “le llevarían al hospital”, lo más probable es que esté haciendo un mal negocio… pues la gente no es tonta…y sabe distinguir un buen amigo de alguien que sencillamente … se hace el simpático. En resumen lo que necesitamos no es “tratar mucha gente para lograr personas que nos ayudarían a la hora de la verdad”, sino más bien “ser una persona que ayuda a los demás , pues esto es lo que hará que haya amor en tu vida, y por tanto que las personas que tratas... te quieran" y como las personas nos juntamos con seres sentimentalmente afines... lo mejor para tener “amigos buena persona”, es “ser una buena persona”. En fin, que la variable importante del estilo de vida para prolongarla es algo más que simplemente interactuar; es sencilla y simplemente buscar el bien de los demás, tenerlos en cuenta, respetarlos, y preferir que sean felices. ¿Es bueno tratarse? si, pero por amor de verdad, nada más... En fin que ¡Viva las buenas personas, y saludos a todos!
Thank you for this.
She mentions internet vs reality, but what about talking to people over Skype for example? Is that a more real interaction or closer to social media? Or even having pets, like cats?
So truth ! Thank you 😊
What has not been mentioned is the physical proximation may actually be important .For example the radiation of a human , touch , eye contact , multiple sensory confirmation of the presence all may lead to the result of increased health not currently available with digital connections.
Thanks for this great video.
13:20 at least 3 stable relationships
*"wildflowers survive where soils are harsh; avoiding alligator shoes and careless hearts"* 🌹
wait what if a two third majority of the people I interact with on a daily basis are just human dumpster fires?
do I still gain the benefit of talking to them or is it nullified by how awful they are?
Obviously, you have to live in a nice village in the hills of Sardinia. And they don't like strangers, so you have to be born there too.
Well, if you actively dislike the people (i.e. their entire being goes against all you value), then it'll only cause stress/ fight or flee reactions.
Nice motivation
11:15 Okay, but did you try a livestream? I know it feels good when the person in the stream responds to you. It's different than a pre-recorded message. How about on the phone? How about Skype? There are several layers to try between in person and a pre-recorded message.
Interesting talk, and obviously the social component is turning out to be a big factor in longevity. But this study is just that, one study, and a fairly small one. And I fear that some folks are going to take away the wrong message here - eat whatever you want, live a sedentary life, and just be social more in order to live a long life. The folks in the blue zones do more than just socialize - they walk almost everywhere, they eat very few refined carbohydrates, etc. This talk tends to gloss over those other important factors.
True but i think the social close relationship aspect in the blue zones plays a more vital role to longevity than diet. Diet for sure plays its role i dont think this is just one study there are many studies that have shown been social you will live longer
I don't get it, I never lived with lot of people around, yet all I dream is to be left alone. This seems like happiness.
obviously, it means a lot to me in my recognition for that
So what happens if you have no very close friends, although you like nodding to the 95 year old lady, waving to the cop, saying hi to the sad guy, smiling at some kids, and hold the door open for veterans etc! On top of that always talking to your family members and things of that nature, Putting yourself into crowded areas where you try to make people feel better if you have it in you that day. Is that enough or is super close friends a must because I feel like everyone just thinks that’s weird
Talking with people is often exhausting for me, trying to find things in common, merging opinions, arguing. It's all too tiresome...
Fantastic.
Wow, I love it! That's a really interesting subject! We'll all ended up dead though.... It might take 100 or 200 years, but there is no other way for us all. But what I like the most in this video was that what makes me happy, living surrounded by people, might makes me to live longer!
9:30 Digital vs face to face contact
While I hesitate to weigh in on this topic, I do believe digital vs. Face to face contact is where many people are at these days.
Social media might fill the gap (both positively and negatively) but there is some truth to having social interactions.
The speaker references people who lived, or grew up with family.
What would the study show without that denominator?
My kid wants to meet his online, stranger friends that he has built a digital relationship with.
All the modern devices and tools that connect them doesn’t replace that need for face to face interactions.
Perhaps it’s not for everyone but to each their own.
Makes sense.
New York, New Jersey, and Maryland are the 3 most densley populated states and are also the 3 states with lowest suicide rate while Alaska, Wyoming, and Montana are the 3 least densely populated and are the same 3 with highest suicide rates. Doesn't have to do with life expectancy at all but there is some correlation, I think.
What about those with social anxiety ?
Susan Pinker: Social interaction is the key for a longer life
Corona virus: I DoN't tHinK sO
so slums are densly populated. do they live longer?
Tricky if you have social anxiety. I avoid social interaction to avoid stress. Dammed if you do, Dammed if you don't
Angel Smith fix it
maybe you just haven't found your tribe yet? 🤷🏾♂️
I will live forever.
Maybe, but as an introvert I'll take quality time alone rather than more time with people.
I really want to improve my English. but really hard to find the good enviroment to communicate with native speakers in my country. I just need about 5 minutes of your time to practise. Can you help me?
Soon after 10:45 she mentions an experiment done looking at brain activity when someone is interacting with someone in person and comparing that to someone watching a video. What was the point in doing that experiment? Surely what we want to know is the difference in brain activity between someone interacting in person and interacting on the Internet?
her voice made me stay for the whole video so lovely
So, what should you do if have 0?
Fantastic
excellent news! So..... how do I make friends and stuff?
is there and if so .. how strong is the effect compared between extroverts and introverts?
10:41 Elizabeth Redcay at UMD
Thx. How make/fuse display and cam all together?
How are people only realizing this now? We're a social species that's how we've gotten to this point.
Nice presentation 👍💕
Does anyone have the 7-year study by Julianne Holt-Lunstad that is mewntioned? Can't seem to find that one - I do have the meta analysis she did in 2010 and review in 2018.
At this rate I won't make it past Tuesday.
I’m sharing this on Facebook to throw shade at my parents since they get mad when I ask to go out (which is rarely). Because of the lack of social interaction I had when I was in elementary school I had to get past social anxiety and learn how to “talk” to people on my own.
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قال رسول الله ﷺ : لا يزيد في العمر إلا البر ..
ولا يرد القدر إلا الدعاء، وإن الرجل ليحرم الرزق بالذنب يصيبه.
Maybe we should all move there...
I'm introverted , but not shy, {different things} I'm cultivating close , good, long-term friendships and making happy acquaintance with anyone i meet. I want to live to be 140.
It should certainly be noted that people in blue zones eat a plant based diet. Social life may account for part of their longevity, but the foundation is based on their whole foods, plant -based diets. Dietary factors factors were conveniently omitted and even scoffed at in this speech, which seems dishonest.
epic presentation I've been completely in her speech
I've learn a lot from it
her voice tho 👌🏻
Heres the secret to a long life:
Stay in drugs
Eat your school
Dont do vegetables
But how about things like facetime and Skype?
Is there any paper related? I want to read more about this.people always telling me what to do without any solid prove