What Women REALLY Mean by 'We're Not Compatible'
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that sounds like an awful thing to do to a woman
@@ana-maria2215 thats sound a legit thing because women do even worse.
@@fabio6170 I really don't think the answer to women hurting men is men getting revenge by hurting back women as well
@@fabio6170 because some women do worse... what makes those men who say it is wrong for women to do that but then men themselves do so as those women do??? ... Yeah, i thought so!! Much worse men!!
@@ana-maria2215 Totally agree with you!! Thank you! It just makes no sense for someone who complains about a wrong doing... to do it too!! Premeditation and treachery!
Be careful of what you ask for. Plenty of men are putting themselves through hell everyday in relationships with women who they aren't compatible with. Don't let your desire for wanting a woman or a relationship override red flags.
Totally agree!
Kind of hypocritical that it’s alright for men to not find compatibility but when a woman says it to a man she is now the devil
@@DeeznutztheOG read what I said again.
Prince Harry agrees
never again im doing that mistake
You: What dont you like about my personality?
Her: Your face
... And your wallet is empty
We men can be like that two, so...
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@@NikosM112 they most certainly do. I personally just hate how women wanted to paint the fact that they didnt have nearly as much shallow choosing strategies as men
@@NikosM112 but men are willing to take a shot and lower their standards, women can never do that unless you have the looks, money or status.
Lmao. If she is attracted to you she doesnt care if you are compatible or not. She will keep finding reasons in her head why your relationship will work.
Sexual attraction remains a mystery to both sexes. I think a lot of it has to do with developing the mental illusion that your desired mate is perfect. Personally speaking, some objectively beautiful women, the type every man is supposed to desire, did nothing for me when I was a young man. Not only is the initial attraction a mystery, but also the end of it, which seems to happen like the flipping of a switch inside a woman, is also a mystery. It's obvious, I think, that it has a lot to do with the man no longer being seen as her perfect guy, but how that silly illusion of perfection dissipates so suddenly, and what any man can do to prevent it, is the mystery I'm speaking about.
@@Yesquire0 Word.
Reminds me navy seal rule - just find an excuse to win. So when a woman is attracted to you, she will always find an excuse to make it work, rules, conditions out of the door. Women make rules for men who they have less attraction for and break rules for the ones they are attracted to or for men that just don’t care.
This is why they say about 50% of women will be childless and never married by 2030. Note the childless part. There's also going to be a whole lot of single mothers, also.
The reason is simple. Hookup culture. Think about this. If you were a guy who is a 6, but the reality you live in is a world where you get to sleep with women who are 8s to 10s, how hard would it be to "settle" for a woman who is also a 6? For over a decade, you slept with very hot women, but then a day comes when they no longer want you, and now your only options are the women who are 6s. Could you ever feel good about the relationship? Would you feel at all attracted to her when your baseline was an 8? And we wonder why so many men complain about a sexless marriage.
If women were not promiscuous, only the men who desire her for long term would deal with her. Her mind adjusts, and she compares and contrasts all the men paying attention to her. When she gets to choose the best of the bunch, she feels like she won. This is the reality your great grandmothers lived in, because they were not promiscuous. Prior to the 60s, the vast majority of women were virgins when they married. Hookup culture didn't exist. Women didn't have a triple digit notch count by the time they hit 25 or 30.
We live in a broken world. I don't see it getting fixed.
In 10 minutes, you just explained my 20s. That was amazing
Gentlemen, please press F.
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So it got better in your 30's?... Asking for a friend :)
@@camerondudley2 it usually does for men if you are working on yourself.
@@juschu or both
Not compatible = Not attractive
True but this can also mean not atttactive personality wise. I admit I've used that line in the past when I was "dating" a guy and realized over time that he wasn't intelligent or that he was arrogant or unmotivated.
I say the same thing. It is not untrue and it's more diplomatic. The difference is that women often lead men on more in order to milk attention and resources.
No no... please guys dont think like that, there are many factors the woman will not disclose... it does NOT have to be physical.
I am somehow shocked you guys say that to yourselves and believe it... it is a LIE!! Dont take it as truth.
Shocked because i normally see that interpretation coming from women whom think they are not atteactive hence man dont approach...
I am worried about this patter of thinking... please dont take it. You are great whatever the body you have, one important lesson in life is truth be told, our bodies are not WHO we are... it is what inside you that is YOU and that evolves and improves and becomes better with time... just like wine. Bodies change and deteriorate with time, it is innevitable... whereas YOU .... you only get better and better is your choice. 🌻
@@evavidal2171 You're wrong. Most often it's either the looks or the lack of shallow macho/ bad boy behavior. Improving hisself actually decreases a man's chances because most women enjoy living a shallow and easy life and don't want a partner they feel inferior to because he is a better person. Women mostly prefer shallow guys because they don't remind them of their own lack of qualities.
@@drgn2182 I appreciate your comment however I have to say that I am right in what i said as a representative and part of the group of high quality women.
I am under the impression that you are clearly describing low quality women and they don't define high quality women. There are differences.
There are low and high quality men too!
Never ever speak or accord time to someone who rejected you. If you have to say the bare minimum. Someone who rejects you, that person doesn't value you enough to know you better. Walk away never look back. Good luck fellas !
As George Orwell said: “In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.”
Lies oppress. Truth frees.
One of my favorite Terence McKenna quotes:
"The truth does not require your participation. Bullshit does!"
Not compatible = "I think your value is lower than mine". There. Saved you 10 minutes.
Yes
The truth is a lot of people are compatible with each other and have the opportunity to romantically start something great but everyone is seeking perfection and the ideal image of a partner which does not exist.
well people have a lot more riding on relationships than ever before in history, now days everyone wants to be special.
Yes, let's also pretend that this "people" you refer to is not mostly women. Let us pretend that 80% of men don't give 80% of women the time of day, too.
@@mariobros7834 we get rejected too. Especially fat and old woman.
This is true. It boils down to preferences.
The double standards are ridiculous. It’s perfectly fine if a guy doesn’t want to give someone the time of day. But if a woman doesn’t, she’s a b****, and has “too high standards”. Guys have always felt that they were entitled to whatever woman they wanted, and they need to get over it. No one owes you a date, or relationship.
Why does it feel like us guys always have to be in the mercy of woman’s decision and feelings? Honestly you don’t need a woman to validate your worthiness. A lot of Woman and a lot of the times choose wrong partners anyway cause they just aren’t good judgement of a great man..
As men we should learn to protect ourselves more..
We can start by making wise choice
at our biological core, we were designed to mate and reproduce. it follows we will feel rejected if we can't achieve that, even if we don't logically process it. in the realm of sexual relations, YES, you do actually need someone to validate your worthiness.
its not all guys... for handsome men, the roles are reversed
I tend to believe that we all need a certain amount of validation from Parents or Parent-figures as kids and if we don't get it in childhood we continue to search for it throughout life until we do get it from trusted people-- which is likely why it can take quite awhile for people to mature, nes pas?
@@RAHULTMNT100HA, I'd like to see that
It means that your hardware is not compatible with her software
Please update yourselves to the latest version
The latest version of the hardware or the software? :))))
My hard ware is usually soft. My problem.
You deserve the lottery for that one lol
Jon Jon
For that problem download a software called Viagra.exe, i think it solves the problem.
@@NemisisDL haha cheers thanks for the likes guys
A woman who says 'I don't think we're right for each other', a couple of years later, pleads to have you back.... She thought she could do better. She didn't, and now, SHE's not right for YOU.
Remember the last vid, women don't want to tell men how to improve himself either. I've seen this in action, they don't want men who they don't find attractive to find ways increase their desirability because they will feel tricked that they found a lesser partner.
Whereas the jocks in school all started lifting weights at puberty, so it isn't as if those women have ever seen them in their "raw and unimproved genetic state".
Really shallow
If a guy asks his gf what he did wrong, she can either:
1. Tell him what he did wrong, and he will try to improve in that area.
2. Not tell him and hope that he will try and improve all areas that could’ve been the issue.
This. I thought about this as well.
My observation is that those kind of women don't want to be a parent because ultimately it makes it seem like that man of hers is a baby and she is "entitled to a real man" who knows what he is and what he needs to do to be the best version of himself he can be. Why would that woman want to be a life coach for someone she's dating? She'd get everything she needs from her harem of guys anyway, so what's the trouble if that weak link is out of her harem standards?
It's hard to know who you're actually romantically compatible with. Especially since women are sometimes not so assertive with their feelings. As men we're meant to pick up on all the signs and signals but sometimes they're either incredibly subtle, or worse, simply mimic the general friendliness that we receive from women who only view us as friends.Misreading this sort of stuff can leave you seriously doubting your instincts.
@lolroflkartoffel123 A local high school football coach is a true chad. He also had a head injury and is now kind of slow. I was at a bar and a drunk woman came up and keep trying to put her hands down his pants over and over in front of everyone. He smiled and played it off like it happens all the time.
@@muskokamike127 good stuff. Lol
@@MrShysterme HS coach Was she trying to pick his pockets?
Max House no she was grabbing his meat and potatoes
@@MrShysterme Several years ago, a woman (streetwalker druggie) ran her hands through my pants pockets, but she wasn't trying to grab meat and potatoes. She was in search of money after I turned down her offer of a hot tool for $5. Another time, a female acquaintance gave my player friend a hit-and-run hug and he was involuntarily relieved of money.
That's why I was curious if the she drunk was out to hustle the coach Cardi B style.
Spare men's feelings.... Come on, man, that's not true and you know it. It's all about her and her so-called conscience, it was never about men's feelings.
Always keep them guessing and never commit to one answer.
So her being conscience of a man's feelings, isn't about a man's feelings? What? Sometimes it seems like commentors on channels like this find any possible reason to demonize women.
@@catalyst3713 Demonizing women? Sorry, man, but I'm afraid you've got me wrong.
And yes, it's mostly about justifying her actions, that she has done something "right" by "sparing" the feelings of a man who she doesn't really like. Her conscience was never about his feelings in the first place, but to justify herself that she has done something good.
Also, tell me if you've seen that before: girl, trying to spare some man's feelings and, at the same time, capable of rude (b@tchy and disrespectful) behavior toward men.... She's obviously NOT the angel you think she is. At least, I don't buy it.
Calling the things with their real names and demonizing women are NOT necessarily one and the same thing, my friend. :)
It’s more for protection because some men can’t handle the truth and will give the woman a hard time over it and will rage out. There’s no way of telling if the next guy is going to be a gentleman about the truth or immature so it’s best to do what you must for your safety.
@@laurawalker8852 going for your safety and, at the same time, capable of rude behavior (because most women are, I'm not talking about you exactly). You've got to be kiddin' me... Only the fools would believe that. :)
It is up to you to judge what's the way you can tell this to him. :) But.... it seems it's always easier to play safe. And why not, there is a little or no responsibility at all.
Actually I like these kinds of breakups. If a woman cant overcome her nature and be honest even in the end, then I'm glad I will not be with her
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My friend told me he gets the "I have a boyfriend" excuse all the time. Even from the girls he knows I've been sleeping with on several occasions.
My friend isn't ugly or anything, so I honestly told him thay he is being "too nice" with the girls, and that he needs to look and appear more like a bad boy. "Just say sh*t like you don't care about the girls' feelings and worth, and they'll love you for it". He was confused, because since childhood he has been taught that nice guys will eventually get the girl. Hahaha, that look on his face was priceless. LMAO!
GIRL'S MENTAL STATE:
Bad boys = "Boyfriend" material
Good boys = Marriage material to be cheat on with the bad boys.
The "you're not my type" excuse, as I call it, is a more insulting thing to a man, as women think men are foolish as to not to see through this facade
I suspect at least some of the time there's an element of deliberate cruelty, since they know full well how transparent the lies are.
Schizophrenia
Which is worse to say, "You're not my type" or "Not interested"?
@@muskokamike127 If she's turning you down, which one should she choose to say?
@Itnetlolor they feel entitled to being chased, although I think things are better here in my home country of Pakistan with women but still pretty bad like everywhere, but western women are a damned case
Does not apply to the Chad's, Tyrones, and other alpha types.
It's best to disqualify her first because that triggers her insecurities. Rejection breeds attraction/obsession
David Kay true that haha
David Kay Word. You’re not going to get a chance with girls way out of your league if you automatically show interest. They are too used to that.
I'm not entirely clear on what a Chad is but I imagine he's a bit of preppy guy that looks like a Ken doll and has an office job. I would much rather have a geeky guy, a musician, even an awkward guy. Someone some personality and edginess.
@@doesitmatterwhoiam8838 Chad is a good looking badboy.
@@byteresistor okay, yes, I'm very fond of Chad!
I've never actually heard the word "NO" from a woman. I've heard "I'm busy" all the time. It's insulting, especially from a woman who I honestly thought was in my league OR even if she wasn't. Ladies, it's cowardly. If I were taller, looked more like Brad Pitt, or I just threw some money at you....you'd say yes in a heartbeat.
She's not busy at all, you make time for things they want. Its b.s, keep pushing and don't allow that to discourage you from meeting better more attractive women.
You dont want the ones who respond to those things anyway, dont lose heart bro, keep trying until that special one who can genuinely accept your invitation. 👍
Well why don't you work out then
@@Renitajune dont like your own comments lol
"I'm busy" is a cheap ass with no reflexion answer. I usually shutdown immediately with a "everyone is" and walk away.. Someone who like you will make time for you, bottom line.
The I've got a "boyfriend excuse" is interesting. They usually have a boyfriend. And they do use him as an excuse when presented with a man less attractive than their boyfriend. They do not use him as an "excuse" as often when a more attractive man is after them. I've been told several times by female friends to start pursuing taken women, but I just never would.
MrShysterme This is true. I have met these women before. They are in relationships that they dislike but they are waiting for something better to come along. If you are good enough then they will happily cheat on their current boyfriend.
StaySkeptic You don’t want to be with a woman like that. But they’re out there, and it is common.
@@Anonymous-md2qp I had the same problem a few times and I didn't do that. I lose all attraction to that woman and even if I didn't what good is she for except for casual sex?!
I used to think this way. And while I prefer a woman to be single(for several reasons) I no longer rule her out if she's still with someone.
As stated, they usually have a boyfriend.
And the non-dating singleness window for an attractive girl is about 2 weeks.
Which means the odds are stacked way against you!
Often people are on the verge of ending a relationship... and just need a catalyst.
You can assist! 😄
Did anyone ever consider that this might get you killed?
The fly in your room bothers me more than a women rejecting me.
I hate flys.
Does anyone else now watch these videos of Alex's not because they want to know how to attract a woman, but because they want to be reminded of all the reasons they should stay the hell away from them?
I do it to brace myself for the culture change more so, i've never had bad luck with women just bad expieriences refining myself with these videos is key.
Lol
I'm trying to learn how to hate my wife
never put yourself in a position to be rejected, I.e. don't ever verbalize your commitment.. let her be the one to bring it up, and even when she does, never give her the straight answer.. the second you do you may as well say your goodbyes
if she won't sleep with you, walk away.. if she liked you, she would be throwing herself at you.. trust me..
Stay Fractalesque Accurate
I like this
Yup
Amen
6:13 Never be the one who pushes Exclusivity. It is women job to push exclusivity. If not that means you are more interested in her than she is in you. 48 laws of power.The chances that you will lose your frame is much higher.
A lot of men push for exclusivity because we start liking a girl and can't stand the idea of her sleeping with other men. I'd say this is a very good instinct. If you meet a woman and begin sleeping with her and she is sleeping with other men and continues to do so, then you probably should not try to convince her to stop so that you can become more serious. The problem is that if young people did that today, then they'd hardly ever enter a relationship.
Exactly, Alexander also mentioned this in his vid 'Stop asking women out'
Exactly. Never ever ever bring it up.
The time a man says that, she will loose atracción to you.
Deflection, not taking responsibility, lies, anxiety, are all symptoms of cowardice (one who serves fear). When one spends their life in hiding, serving fear, they can not know themselves, grow, or feel love.
So why would you expect honor, honesty, loyalty, love, gratitude from a coward? Can't be scared of everything, adopt a cat and passively call yourself hero, because rescued the cat.
"We're not compatible" sometimes means she is attracted to an other men or still thinks about her ex.
...another guy on deck
Without watching the video i would say that we are not compatible means i don't feel sexual attraction towards you
Not necessarily. Why sexualizing everything??!! We are more than merely physical beings! we are emotional and spiritual too and both men and women need them balances to fully enjoy everything in life, sex included! We gotta stop this "here i come here i get you" kind of attitude... its just ripping us apart and the best of what humans really are as a whole!
Eva Vidal
Not necessarily, but usually.
Looking for a partner is sexual. It's supposed to be. Romantic attraction and sexual attraction are 2 sides of the same coin.
@@jamahlrawls3520 indeed.Physical attraction is main driving force its scientifically proved you can't deny it.
@@jamahlrawls3520 From a female's perspective, you have the group of women whom look for sex based on physical attraction... and then the group of women whom get attracted to a man by a group of things not being sexual the priority.
There is a difference between physical attractiveness and chemistry.... some women look for the first as priority and othera look for the latter as priority upon which to build something with long term... how do men know which ia which?? The needs to find it out himself as he gets to know her and be clear on knowing what he is exactly looking for... do we align with one another??
Sex is only the animal part of us. It is extremely beautiful in a solid committed relationship because it is the highest physical expression of love in this kind of relationship.
I cant believe all men are only looking for aex and pretending to develop something solid on that ALONE.
@@avg_user-dd2yb it is also scientifically proven that there are more to a healthy relationship than sex. From a biological point of view it is made to procreate but since we are emotional, spiritual and physical beings (as opposed to animals) lasting relationship need to have a healthy "dance" between those three elements and it is to grow individually and as a team.
It’s means she has some much better in reserve
Oh yeah man.
Until she meet the wall
We're not compatible/I have a boyfriend = I'm holding out for chad.
Chalk this to the many examples of "thanks, but you're not the 1% of the 1% that have genetics of a God and the fortune of a certain Bezos"...
Yes, I am above average in physical appearance and mentally stable to be attractive to women, I see that everyday, but once I ask them out, I get rejected on the spot.
no one gave ma a reason or a lead to follow, so I can fix it, or at least make peace with it.
If you look a woman's reason you're wasting your time it's her feelings that drive her.
Means you're fooling yourself. And are not "above average" then. Sorry, it's the truth. I had a close lady friend tell me that I'm a 7 or 8/10. And I still have bad luck with women. LoL! Because I'm not "above average," which is what most women go for and want.
@@rgchrono I am not asking you to criticize me good sir, all I am asking is a solution, think of it as a silly math problems where Dave ate 50 bananas. Nobody asks why Dave ate 50 Bananas, and it's not about the given data, rather it's about solving the problem, and applying your knowledge in the field.
Yes, I am above average from what my female friends told me, and 7/10 counts as above avr. while 8/10 is pretty good.
In a Tom Sawyer story, Tom makes painting the fence look like so much "FUN", kids in neighbourhood pay him candies & cookies to get a chance to paint his fence. Women are like children with titties. When they see u r living the "fun life", they will chase you. U don't have to ask them out.
@@salaa23 If you are having problems attracting women, and your female friends are saying that you are above average, don't you think that maybe your female friends are "white" lying to you? You stated "From what my female friends told me," and this video is saying that female friends tend to "white" lie in order to safeguard themselves from their feelings.... I think, you've been believing them too much. And they are fooling you into eating the "50 bananas," and at the same time telling you that you don't have a stomachache. Sorry buddy, but the bananas you've been eating were spoiled. Is that! or women, have really high standards for the men they find attractive, and the ones they are open to give opportunities to.
The timing of that CHECK YOUR TESTOSTERONE LEVELS
Jealousy seems to be an extremely underrated reality. The motivational factor that is only indirectly about you
As far when a woman is not interested in you and wanting to know the actual reason? I don't think you do want to know the "truth". Because her truth doesn't matter. Her "truth" has nothing likely to do with objective reality. Hearing these "truths" every time a woman is not interested in you could be contradictory. For example, one might say you talk too much, another might say you don't say much. The reality may be you are just right as far as this is concerned. Such contradictory feedback can cause you to become too self-conscious and ruin your self-confidence as you can't do opposites at the same time. This can result in you avoiding social interactions. When she tells you that we are not compatible, leave with your head held high.
When I was 21 I was in really great shape. All the girls were on me. 3 years later I put weight on me and all the girls just disappeared .
Moral of the story = All girls are the same
You know why this is the best channel. There’s no bullshit hype about what he’s about to tell you, he get straight to the information. 👏
Really love your work , keep it up 😃
to people wondering: when a girl tells you 'we are not compatible' it basically means she noticed a flaw which she couldn't ignore, she thought it would be better to tell you sth seemingly simple, rather than try to explain and get irritated if you're too stubborn to change or accept the flaw you have.
storytime: when i friend-zoned my friend, i said that we were not compatible because i knew his narcissistic side, which i never liked, and which only showed during a discussion. i told him 'we are not compatible' simply because he would find himself offended if i told him 'you can't use a normal argument during a quarrel, you use the attack as your best form of defense, and i am good with us being just friends, meaning seeing each other every few times a year because i would never invest in a relationship with you cause we are too different in terms of rationality.' it wouldn't end well, so i used the simplest way.
another story, when a guy approached me, everything was going well, the guy was hot and seemed intelligent at first, until he mentioned how he stayed with his ex even though she was a bad person just so he could have some kind of a company, and wanted to use her. I asked him why he picked revenge and why didnt he chose to grow as a person, to work on himself, instead of being in a toxic relationship, and he said 'i wanted her to suffer' i just told him we were not compatible because from what he said, he chose to stay with a toxic girl in order not to be alone, plus he picked some kind of revenge and instead of focusing on what matters, he decided to remain in the same place. it seemed too dull and absurd to me and i didn't have the time nor the will to tell him what i really meant.
Well said, and I agree. That pretty much means you have some things that I don’t like, or our lifestyles are so different that it’s not going to work. It’s funny when tell the truth, they don’t want to listen because it’s not what they want to hear. 😂
A woman (or a man) doesn't owe an explanation of why they don't want to date someone or to continue to be in a relationship with that person unless they're married or have children together.
And we are the shallow ones ? ;)
I agree That’s correct. I should have said that both have the ability to be shallow.
Men are undoubtedly more shallow when it comes to looks than women
@Average Mo hello darkness my old friend
Why are you guys angry at women?
For me the best answer is "i'm not attracted to you". It reflects her feeling, it cannot be discussed or debated, because it's irrational and how she feels. You cannot ask "why?" to such an answer because the answer will be "i don't know, i'm just not".
Even "i have a boyfriend" is not good answer because she could leave him if she's not happy with him overall and finds someone better for her.
"We are not compatible" is a bad answer because it seems rational and so can be explained or debated. The man can take it as "i'm a bit attracted to you but from my perspective we are not compatible" and of course he will try to convince her.
Women always want men to think like them and they believe we do. Because if you tell a woman "i'm not attracted to you" she will be very offended, upset and will question herself as a whole and she can even ask you "why?" like it's something rational. If you say that to a man, of course it hurts a little bit, but he will most likely think "well, i guess we cannot be attractive to everyone" and move on.
Women have different taste in Chad and Chad Lites
Schizo?
I like artsy types with a petite frame; so, they all want the chad. The hippie chick, goth chick, artsy chick, metal chick, etc - all want the Chad-type of that clique.
Yep, most women can agree on "who's the really attractive guy just for sex?". When it comes to relationship guys, they want other qualities and also they often don't want the guy to be too hot because: 1. he'll easily cheat and 2. it will make her feel like she isn't the attractive one in the relationship with the sexual power (she can use her vagina to manipulate him).
This is why Chad lites need to play "evil beta game" to get casual sex. Basically, you act like you are out for commitment, sleep with the woman on the 3rd date, but never commit. I don't advocate it now, but it is very effective if you have your life together and are at least a 6 or 7 (not gross but not past the hot threshold of around 8). You cannot play this game within a social group where word will get out. You can be the male sex toy to a group of women. But you cannot be the guy that misrepresents himself. So, you have to cast a wide net or do this online. Women don't mind giving it up to Chads, but they feel used when a non-Chad hits it and quits it.
Andrew Kuhlmann Yes. For instance when a women says she likes nerdy type of guys she isnt talking about 90s Bill Gates or early 00s Mark Zuck. type of guys. She is talking about Henry Cavill wearing glasses.
MrShysterme thats true. I know a Chad lite and this is exactly his strategy.
Really like and appreciate your content! Happy Easter!
Yesterday I watched TV and that exact phrase was used by a woman. "I have a boyfriend"
I asked the woman I was watching with if she had used it, in what situation etc. I can summarise it as it is a phrase that is used when a man is blocking access to other men. If a woman says it in a bar it means she has her sight on someone else and you are making her seem taken. She wants you gone and is not even interested in small talk with you even if that was all you were interested in the whole time. I think the same goes for other situations as well.
That was my go to in early 20s. I turned every guy because I was scared. I had social anxiety and I had watched too many lifetime movies. I figured saying I had a boyfriend would spare their feelings.
“My needs are greater than your available resources”, hence we are not compatible.
Great video, congrats on 100k subs☝
Just mess with her next time, example:
Her: I have a boyfriend
Him: I have a boyfriend too
Her: "laughs" No you don't! Are you Gay?
Him: "laugh", maybe, are youuu gay?
Her: How dare you!
Him: "laugh" bye
“We’re not compatible” = “I don’t find you attractive”
Learn how to translate women’s speech patterns into honest dialogue.
I LOVED this video. So on point. Guys. Gotta take a step back and analyze what you may not connect on since you probably won't get an answer. And if you don't it's okay. Try and have an abundance mindset. Seriously considering subbing your patreon Alex. Good stuff!
She has lied...it's called lying by omission.
Maybe not as adults, but as teens they have no problem telling you if they dont like you. Highschool was brutal. Ill give teenagers one thing over adults, their brutal honesty lol. They dont hide whether or not they dont like you and will make it apparant almost right away. It hurts but at least they dont waste your time and you can move on.
Adults usually know tact and politeness. And it can sometimes make it harder to guage if a girl is truly not interested. Youl waste more time and money pursuing.
Honesty? High school? You sure?
@@seg162 ? What dont you get? Kids generally dont have filters. And are more likely to make it apparent that they dont like you. Theyre more likely to express it than adults who try to remain courteous/professional in most settings. Kids are sometimes more openly rude.
Just saying you generally know where you stand with someone and can move on. My experience as a teenager asking girls out, they more openly showed disgust, discontent if they didn't like you. As an adult asking women out, you're more likely to get polite but vague responses that leave you wondering if thats a no or do I still have a chance. 🤔
Hey Alexander, just want to say I appreciate all your content. It's always high quality and the discussion is pretty grounding. It's helped me see women in a more balanced way, so that I'm more decisive about crushes, more clear on who I want to date, and ultimately just more self-respecting. I recently had a woman confess to me out of the blue that she couldn't find a way to let me know she wasn't into me and felt horrible for ghosting me for about a year, however according to her she does value our communication. "I'm really not a monster, I just didn't know how to say it." We have a friendship history as well so it didn't make much sense that she dropped off communicating like that. After this candid exchange she made it a point to volunteer that even though she's currently in a relationship, she used to be very into casual sex, "hookups and flings". As of yet, however, she hasn't followed through, and this tells me she and I don't value sincerity or urgency the same way. I concluded that even if she was into me, the attachment style she's communicating isn't very desirable to me. This channel's interviews and commentary make it easier to understand and to detach. Thanks! I think I'll be back on the patreon when the economy stabilizes. For now though, just know I'm grateful man.
Stop trying to date women and let's vote on legalizing the sex work industry.
I think that it would be a game changer
Free fembot Robots now thats my kinda stimulus!! Lol
Also equally used: "You're not my type."
Chasing reasons can be daunting. A guy in a wheelchair may always think the real reason is his handicap. Know your qualities.
Insightful & underrated comment
Her, "Were not compatible."
Me, "ok."
My thought, "Thank you for not wasting my time and being honest, don't expect me to orbit you."
This is one of your best videos
Hi everyone!! I wholeheartedly trust that everyone is safe 🌻
Dear Alex and all men/women watching this video, I have to say this video made my eyebrows raise for many reasons and I don't even know where to start!!
I have decided to start by making a statement that will set the foundation upon which I will be expressing my views on the subject matter in this video. I am totally and absolutely against promiscuity.
Personally, there is an element of honesty required in any kind of relationship PLUS we need to understand that each individual has his/her own history that (although it should not), it largely determines the approach, view, interpretation, etc... of the interaction itself between a man and a woman. Another basic ingredient in any relationship is also RESPECT, meaning self-respect and respect for others. I learned that those who have self-respect are healthily able to respect others hence making it easier to allow exploration and understanding of the other person's identity, who they are genuinely, etc... and that takes time and effort that not everyone is open to put into unless something strongly strikes in the beginning...
Going back to honesty, I without a doubt prefer to be honest rather than lead anyone on to later make a huge damage. I understand men and women get into the lead on game and then... BOOM! What just happened?? ... How can anybody ask that when deep inside he/she had made the choice to lead the other on... ??!!! And let us NOT get into the many reasons why people lead others on!
I very highly value honesty and i think women do know or sense when a guy likes her or there is some interest ... or i just know... and i personally think that when that happens, either the man or the woman acknowledges it and clears it or it will build unnecessary stress and remove the joy that should always be present when we get to know people in general but specially so, i believe, when trying to get to know the object of your love.
I have only brothers and my frienda have always been males. I had two of them approaching me and at that moment in my life I was not looking into getting into that kind of relationship and i candidly expressed that I would not be happy with myself and would go against my integrity if i just engaged in the kind of relationship they were looking for besides mentioning that it would be more painful for both parties to later break up. It was a little awkward afterwards for a little while but it all went well (one even thanked me for what was a painful truth for him to swallow but treasures our friendship for that bravery on my end too!l) and each one found someone at the right time for both and they are happily married!
What I find utterly stupid is responding "we are not compatible!" It creates a coctail of feelings, none of which is good.
I remember a case wherein a woman and a man whom known each other for a couple of years as they moved in a similar circle of friends... the guy asked her out, they went out and told the woman he would like to develop something... the woman told him she was not interested in developing that kind of relationship and also acknowledged that whilst they have been around for 2 years (no dating, just out with group of common friends)... she observed that she would most likely hurt his feelings without intention and that would create a change in behaviour that then would have a knock on effect on her and she would ultimately see herself exploding... she was very thoughtful and elaborate based on observations she made during those 2 years of interaction within a safe net of friends... so, I think it take some courage and care enough to actually explain to that extent... i dont know how the man felt, hurt in the beginning perhaps?? would he not be grateful she actually took the time to express herself and be honest?? I want to think yes, but I will never know i guess!!
To me, no matter how much it hurts... it ia better to be honest and embrace that as a door that opens to a better place. And there is peace too in knowing the truth whatever it is.
On a funny note Alex... (you do make me laugh at times.... and that is a gift 😁😉) if a man comes to me with "why why?!! Why dont you like me nor want to go out with me???!!!"... the way you said it here... I'd look at him and say "This is exactly why" and leave because that man's attitude has just revealed his lack of selfrespect and therefore disrespect for others.
Human behavior is simply fascinating!
Please stay safe. 🌻🌻
Hello Eva,
I read your comment and i think that it is very true. Honesty and respect are a very Important thing. But i think what is very Important is the decision you make for your life. I came to this point and i realised, that i dont want to lie to anyone just to get what i want. Thing is, people can sense if you are the real yourself or just acting. That is the reason why most guys are getting rejected. They try to force things and because of that they fail. When i see all of these Pick-Up Artists i feel sad. Not that they are getting the girls that i probably wont "get" but more because their personality depends on that and that other men are trying to act the same to get girls.
It might work short-tern, but if there is more than just a casual hookup at a party these people are losing it.
Yes i find Alexander`s channel helpful, because he presents some new Idea and concepts to think about. But many of these Girls, that are Interviewed are not as shallow as they seem. YES, they answer like that to certain questions but the reason is NOT that they think RICH or GOOD LUCKING/TALL Guys are better. I think the reason is, that the Rich/Tall/Good Looking Guys are just better than the normals ones who fake and try to Impress Over the Top.
You dont need to be super good looking or tall or Rich if you are Real. If you are someone who has empathy, who has stories and experiences she can relate to. I had Dates, were i met a Girl and first comment was "You are smaller than i expected". But still the Date went on for 7 more hours and we talked, had breakfast (paying seperately) and the we went on with our life. If i wouldve acted to Impress and pretend to be someone else, she wouldve just walked away with some silly excuse. I am open minded, i am great in talking and keeping a conversation alive and i am Honest. If i dont know something then i dont act as i know it. What mayn Guys do on the first Date if they like the Girl is asking her directly for a relationship. If Im on a Date, and i really like her i ask for a Kiss if the Situation is right (like she is starring in my Eyes all the time or she is searching contact like poking your abs all the time or she wants to be in your arms.) Bit i still say, that it is too early to say something definite, because i dont really know her. Because that is the truth.
Btw im 5ft 7, a 7/10 by looks what others told me and im a 23 year old Student, so im not the Guy, that someone would consider Alpha Male from the Looks. But i dont need that to be successful in life.
@@Ednet34 Thank you Dominik, I very much appreciate your depth and thoughtful message, more impressed coming from a young man in early twenties. Like you said there is a way that always work and is simply being you. It is true that i can "smell" the lack of genuineness from men when they try too hard it does not come natural and that send me away at the speed of light 😄 never to come back. I guess everyone looks for different things... but either way, what is more sexy and attractive than being oneself genuinely ?? Thanks again Dominik! Have a wonderful rest of the week and month!! 😊
@@evavidal2171 Yeah you too..thank you
@Eva Vidal since you addressed everyone in this comment so I will like to express my views about your comment. I have found that all women keep their interest and self serving agendas at top. You said you don't know why someone will lead the others on but I guess you know you somehow. Women will try every men that she finds compatible for herself and she doesn't care how it ends (unless it hurts her back) or she doesn't think how it ends for that guy in long term future. She wants to be gatekeeper of relationship and she will keep the guy at the door as long as she gets the benefits. Most women know that their best guy friends will date them if given a chance with her and yet they don't clarify it when the guy catches feelings eventually (women can feel it as you mentioned). Many women also allow the men to make a fool of themselves publicly if it boosts their self esteem.
It's good that you are sharing your opinions here but let me tell you one thing, people like me don't come here to know what you think as you are not speaking for every other women as you mentioned. We rather listen to Alexander Grace and find out what caused you to behave like that. Honest and respect matter only if reciprocated. Imagine being a guy who got rejected by 12 girls eventually to find out that the reasons given were bullshit and it wasted lot of time just to realize that women are mostly intellectually dishonest. Your actions matter more to me than your words. So your intentions may be good for yourself but they end up hurting the guy badly and if the guy has been hurt too many times he will leave the dating market. So thanks to all women for creating such men. They don't care about any man unless it's their own son or husband/boyfriend or father or brother ( if you want proof just see the pattern of comments in men's videos. They a come only when those men are in trouble). You want to feel the pain then try doing it to yourself a dozen times and then speak from your experience next time. For now I think those men who read and trust your words here without knowing you in real life are foolish enough to follow them. I don't get notifications when people reply to me so don't bother to reply.
Just a small point I forgot to write in the comment above, I was talking about the 99% of women that I have seen so far. We are talking about the majority and not the 1%exception so you can give us exceptions as many as you like with the lip service that most women offer here
Leaving out details to the explicit truth is called lying by omission
When a woman says that too you “ smile and walk away because what she is really saying you’re not able too be controlled you are your own man
Got told this recently. I’m navigating my spirit from a mood of being distrust.
Thank you, AG. Good stuff here. My best to you and yours. In my opinion, there is a distinction to be made as to whether or not this compatibility question is employed before she’s had a chance to observe you over some time or you’ve just met. Clearly she’s just trying to be kind and not feel like a villain if she’s just met you, she just doesn’t fancy you and you need look no further, move on. If she’s observed you and come to this conclusion then perhaps you can press her for a clarification, but you should also be aware that you’re only going to get the soft highlights of that essay rather than the complete details with history. This compatibility method is the apple to the orange of “it’s not you, it’s me.” They are both meant to avoid confrontation and unpleasantness, saving the party employing the method from appearing callous or cruel. Let’s not mistake the fact that Men do the same thing to Women to varying degrees and that, if Women became the predominant approachers within the pairing scenario, it would in fact be much worse.
If she says you are not compatible and you’re new to each other, fair enough, just move on and don’t waste time pursuing it at the expense of pursuing other successes and your own improvement. If she says it after you have observed each other over a period of time, it’s fair to press for a reason, but she’s likely to only give you a sound byte, it’s not a situation where you want to lose frame adopting a defense, that would be coming from scarcity, whereas a leader would mount a new campaign to achieve success either in a different theater or via an alternate avenue. Perhaps, through your own self-improvement, circumstances may fall into place to put her in front of you again and now it will be you who is the decider as to whether there is compatibility. We’ve all seen that happen before.
Looking forward to your next.
One rejected me with "we're not compatible", so I moved on. Not going to keep trying with someone like that. Another came with "I'm just not ready for dating right now". She had a boyfriend 2 months later. Still wondering why she couldn't just say "It was nice to hook up once or twice, but I don't think you're boyfriend material for me" back then. I would have still been fine with it.
Impressive break down 👏
I wonder how angry she would be, how many abuse claims she'd make if all Men just acted as if she didn't exist. No one looked at her, spoke to her, held a door open for her, paid for her drinks and meals, bought her fancy material items, simply just walked right by her and gave her no more notice than they would a common homeless man? That would truly be equality.
We're not compatible = he's too smart to see through my lies and deceit.
simply put, women don't want to hurt our feelings because of how it reflects on them, they don't care about us, they're not sparing our feelings for our benefit, everything they do benefits only them at all times, if somebody else benefits from what they do it is entirely accidental.
It is for your benefit and hers she doesn't want to outright humiliate you by saying no so women tend to avoid to spare feelings and keep the peace. It's more socially embarrassing for you to get directly rejected. It's also for safety that women avoid because some men do get violent and creepy when rejected so better to avoid again.
Also women don't have the time, a hot women being asked out by any guy that talks with her isn't going to have the time to explain to everyone why she doesn't like you, move on if it's not mutual that's all you can do.
I dont like brutal rejection, but I also dont like ambiguous deflections that can be misconstrued as playing hard to get. A simple "Sorry, but I dont think we're compatible" is good enough for me. Its both polite and clearly conveys she doesnt like you.
That fly scared the life outa me
What women mean by “we’re not compatible” is “I think I can do better”. So much for honesty in a relationship.
Ive heard women say things like, "i find you cute, funny, charming, you would make a great boyfriend/husband and my parents would love you", BUTTTTT...your not my type loool. I've NEVER heard any guy (including me) give that many compliments then reject her.
I got that recently.... lots of compliments and then a "we are not on the same page"
In essence, you have the ideal personality, but not the looks/wealth
wavesbnice1. Not on the same page could mean she’s looking for LTR, marriage, kids.....and you’ve made it clear you just want to have fun (or vice versa) or never intend to go the marriage/kids route.
@@anneb889 we never spoke about what we wanted, which perplexed me to no end... I was trying to keep the conversation light and very superficial... and get to know her.... went on 3 dates... one of which she invited me into her home and I was a complete gentleman...
I've had " you're too good for me". my ego almost believed it for a sec lol not a nice one to hear, such a manipulative lie...
That's the most frustrating isn't it. I've heard similar
It's true though
Holy crap, I wish I had seen this when it came out. Cause parts of it are things I just went through.
I mean im not from a prosperous country and certainly not from Australia but is 100 dollars a fair price for a consultation?
That's why u will never see a gal rejecting a rich gigachad with the phrase: "sorry we are just not compatible" lol.
U just not good enough bruh.
Wish I was filthy rich, so I get do the same thing to them...
You have a very cool symbolic representation of the process of individuation (behind your back), I dunno if you did it consciously or unconsciously. The chakras and the ladder (like Jacob ladder, spiritual development), beggining with the Muladhara at almost floor level, and ending with the seventh chakra almost reaching the next floor.
Just like statistics what are you basing your compatibility on? Upfront its looks, money, status. Depending on her age, income etc
I've been told that by a woman back in college. She told me direct and up front: "I have no interest in you." Succinct and to the point. Eventually, I got the message and came away with hurt feelings but much wiser. I'm still learning but when a woman says "no" in more ways than one, I will not pursue any further. Just the same, I'll keep doing what I am doing into being successful in other pursuits, with or without female companionship.
The guys who have heard "We're not compatible" are lucky. At least she cared about your feelings and possibly comes from a group of empathic people. The American women I've encountered straight up tear into people as if they were doing the community a service.
Wow open my eyes up seeing this.
I feel this romantic disconnect with my best friend. Shes super sweet, really down to earth and weve been friends for years but the romance isnt there. Our parents keep joking about it.
The Lie said to the Truth, "Let's take a bath together, the well water is very nice.” The Truth, still suspicious, tested the water and found out it really was nice. So they got naked and bathed. But suddenly, the Lie leapt out of the water and fled, wearing the clothes of the Truth.
The Truth, furious, climbed out of the well to get her clothes back. But the World, upon seeing the naked Truth, looked away, with anger and contempt.
Poor Truth returned to the well and disappeared forever, hiding her shame. Since then, the Lie runs around the world, dressed as the Truth, and society is very happy...because the world has no desire to know the naked Truth.
Painting: Truth Coming Out Of The Well, Jean-Léon Gérome, 1896.
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Someone have a fight on your stairs bro?
Zoom in. The sun is shining down from a high window and causing the handrail to look missing. The camera can’t pick up the contrast very well
I thought the same, but it's the sunlight reflection. He needs to record at a different hour so the railings look like they still exist in their original form.
6:56 It happened to me today. She said she should probably let me go so I can go back to work and I said I don't have to [work], I'm rich. Conversation suddenly changed direction.
Welcome to your comedy channel. 😂😂😂
Hi Alexander, I've been looking your insight videos on this complex relationship between both genders for a couple of weeks already. The underlying message is not only the differences but also the contradiction on the verbal expressions vs actions on the female gender. Now my question is, do you have a video how a male should respond to this concluded and observed hypocrisies of the female gender? For example, should a male confront her with their lies? If yes, what would the effect be? Would the female feel more attraction if he does because he stood for himself by showing her lies to her face?
Thank you and keep up the good work.
so close to 100K
A girl once rejected me by saying that she has "trust issues"
She’s crazy thatnwas a blessing
These women who reject you early in life will be back later in life thinking you will save them or provide a retirement plan for her. It happens to me. A 27 year old woman then and now a 57 year woman. I told her "Get Lost Loser!"
It always means ”I feel like I can do better.” She just says it in 47 other ways.
Shoutout to the fly @2:40 lol
I tell women I have erectile dysfunction, there's the conversation ender...I'm not gay, I'm not insulting her or her looks or personality and because I don't want a woman at all in my life I don't mind what they think of me. lol
Whenever I say we're incompatible I mean we don't share the same core values or for some practical reasons partnership with a particular person just wouldn't work in a long-term plan.
The current state of affairs with dating and relationships will only continue to worsen with some many unrealistic expectations being manufactured by social media.
Within 2 seconds of meeting you she has already decided your fate-if she puts you in the friend zone just walk away and try your luck elsewhere-you just don't get her wet and that's not going to change.
They're never gonna tell you the truth
I think this is the perfect example of why friend zoning got started. Girls don’t want to get serious with guys they’ve had long term friendships with, because when and if the guy brings it up, she’s afraid you’ll say things like: Why Not? We have fun together. We share core beliefs. You’ve told me I’m handsome, and you’ve smacked my butt on more than one occasion.
Bottom line is she just doesn’t want tell the truth.